I MET MY NEW OB AND I'M PISSED | TTC BABY #2 AFTER PREECLAMPSIA & INFERTILITY
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- Опубликовано: 21 янв 2022
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In today's vlog I'm bringing you guys along for my first appointment with my new OB! As you all know we're trying to #getpregnant with baby number 2 after previous complications so I get a bit emotional. I hope you enjoy, and as always Thank you for supporting our family!
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Questions to ask you OB pre-pregnancy
If you have any questions about your previous pregnancy/delivery/placenta, now is a good time to ask them.
How might previous PE, placental abruption, c-section, or other complication affect a future pregnancy?
What are the chances of PE/GH/HELLP happening to me again?
Are there any genetic or other tests I should do before pregnancy that might help with identifying and treating underlying conditions?
Do you recommend I start low dose aspirin, and if so, how much, and when should I start?
Do you recommend any other vitamins or supplements to optimize my or my baby’s health?
Are there any medications I need to change before pregnancy or in early pregnancy?
At which hospital should I plan to deliver?
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Yes please change your doctor. The way that doctor treated you brought back memories of me having a nonchalant doctor with my pregnancy. I had severe preeclampsia that escalated to eclampsia all because my doctor disregarded by concerns and missed the warning signs. Thank God me and my baby boy survived. If I were to try again I’m definitely being careful with my doctor choice and advocating for myself. You got this and prayerfully you’ll find a doctor that sincerely cares.
I live in Cordova TN and I went to a specialist in Germantown. I refuse to see a male doctor after what happen to me when I had my daughter. That man almost killed me. He had no compassion or bed side manners. I found my Obgyn through reference and I love her. I’m very straight forward and she answered all my questions and made me feel important! I pray and hope that you find the right doctor for you on this new journey to baby number 2!
Wow that’s terrible! Like how do they think it’s ok to have no compassion working in healthcare! I don’t get it! I’m glad you have someone you love and feel comfortable with now.
Remember to breath Queen. I'm afraid to change my doctor for the same reasons. My last pregnancy was a miracle to me because I faced a "hormonal imbalance" for most of my life before I was finally diagnosed with PCOS at age 33. (As if that condition doesn't affect thin women too smh). Then like 5 mths later I got pregnant without any treatment 🙌🏽. I did developed gestational diabetes and my son was born nearly a mth early. Now I'll be 36 yrs old this year when trying for baby number 2. It took soo long to get pregnant before and I'm just fearful of what could happen if I don't get started right now.
I'm praying for a peaceful journey for you and that you'll get the right OB who will make you and your baby their priority. 🙏🏼❤
Hey babes! As much as I hate to say this, welcome to Memphis’ healthcare, where black women are in a CONSTANT fight for our lives and health. Continue to pray and advocate for yourself. Don’t give up. Trust your instincts. If he’s not for you, he’s just not for you. Perhaps he is better suited for perfect health patients. Keep going! ♥️❤️
Your frustrations are VALID! You are the expert of your health and health experience and you deserve to be listened to by your medical team. Do not tolerate anything less than attentive and responsive care from anyone seeing/treating you
Thank you so much for that!! I have a list of doctors to call on today so I can get away from this doctor and the whole practice.
@@LoveTaunya rooting for you!!
I’m new to your channel I’m a seer with Spiritual Vision, but I 1st noticed a cross shadow on your shoulder do know that God is with you every step of the way DON’T WORRY God is the GOAT physician. I pray for your healthy journey.😇💕🙏🏽
No need to apologize sweetheart. Yes, everything is going to be alright. If you don't feel comfortable with that doctor and you got bad vibes, there is a reason why so yes, you should switch providers. Blessings to you and your hubby on conceiving a healthy baby number two! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💙💙💙
Thank you so much for the support! I am so happy he showed me who he was early so I could move on and I've already found a new provider so hopefully I'll be seeing her soon.
So sorry you had to experience this. I hate it when they rush you. I pray I find the best option for you. ❤️❤️
This is a clear sign… change doctors. You should not trust him with your dog. Assessments go both ways.
Yes a very clear sign that he won't be my doctor lol I'm on the hunt for a new one.
Hello I’m so sorry u had to go through that unnecessary nonsense with that doctor. Please switch if you can and also try not to stress about it too much or look I to getting a surrogate. Thanks for sharing this will help lots of ppl in the future.
Hugs….I had that experience with one OB like that for two years and had a hard time switching due to Covid. But thankfully was able to find one who listens. You’re not alone and I pray the angel of a doctor you need comes along quickly!
I feel for you!!! From your past experience you know how to now advocate for yourself . Keep doing that and you will find the right doctor for you!
I am so big on advocating for myself and I've already let the next office know what I'm not dealing with but they seem so much more supportive already so I cannot wait for my next visit.
Awe sorry u didn't like this doctor. I pray you find the right obgyn. Stay positive
Thank you girl! I’m going to try to stay as positive as possible!
@@LoveTaunya i prefer a female or male doctor anyday.
Sorry you found the wrong doctor I feel you girl my doctor to blew me off and just says every month we do a progesterone test knowing I have irregular cycles and just told me last week i.am not ovatating and to stop all medicine and come back in 2 months never did a hsg test or anything now I am turning 44 next month and I already have 6 live children all normal devivery and this is my second doctor the first one delivered my children so I felt that doctor knew about me and just after 6 years won't see me for infertility issues so now I feel this new doctor is doing the same besides telling me just give up they just say come back in 2 months no other test was done so I feel how you feel
Stay positive stay focus and everything will be okay I hope everything goes well ❤❤❤
Thank you for the encouragement 🥰❤️
Sorry you had such a negative first experience friend. I’m so proud of how you advocate for yourself. Continue to be your own advocate and fight for the things to need
You know if I don't do nothing I'll advocate for myself for sure lol I have a new OBGYN now though and I feel good about her.
It’s ok to shed a few tears but continue advocating for yourself and honestly if you feel like it’s not a fit start finding someone else . And get your therapist . We know what’s best for our bodies . You got this 🙏🏼🍍🙏🏼🍍🙏🏼💜💜💜
Thank you for the encouragement! I know it will all fall into place soon but I was just so disappointed yesterday
Follow your gut sis! New doctor! I understand your feelings HEAVY! I’m a prior milspouse and I wish I had followed my gut bc I probably could’ve avoided having to have an emergency hysterectomy. Follow your gut sis!
Your doctor and medical team is out there and I believe they will encourage and listen to you in the way your heart desires.
I hope you find one. Someone who looks like us . This happened to me I had to settle for a doc because he was the only one that would take me at 25 weeks. He wanted to give me a c- section because he was off the next few days. As soon ad I had my baby I switch to a doctor 👩🏾⚕️. Everyone said he was good I’m like how sway.
Hey hun,
Don’t get too frustrated, try to find the positive in every situation. Praying for you and your family. God is still able!
Thank you so much! You are right I need to focus on the positive!
🥺 hugs boo I'm so sorry he treated you that way. Sending 💗
Thanks so much I appreciate the love!
Be encouraged Mama. I love your spirit. I am glad you are standing your ground. You know your body and your history, have confidence and faith and make whatever move that you are led to. I would recommend, if you're able to, to try an actual fertility clinic as opposed to a regular OB/Gyn. They would likely be more proactive and supportive regarding your history. I will be praying for you. My husband and I have 4 children and we are ttc via iui next month. If God says 4 is enough then we will also still be grateful. God bless your journey.
My heart ❤️ is breaking for you sis! I hope you find the right healthcare provider that will see and listen to you and your concerns
Thank you so much!! I've found someone so hopefully she'll be much better.
Sending you ❤️ and prayers going up for you on your new TTC journey🤎🤎
BTW Lux is adorbs time fly by so fast I remember when you had him😍😍
I’m sorry you had this experience, please follow your gut. So many black women have terrible experiences with the medical system. Following your gut now can help you have a safe, healthy pregnancy later. Sending love and light. 💛
I feel for you mama. I have 2 daughters and after giving birth to my last daughter I developed PCOS, Ovarian Cysts and 1 fibroid. I had it for over 10 years. It caused infertility. My cycle was very irregular and I would go 6 months without a cycle. Then by surprise I found out I was pregnant June 2021. At 6 weeks of pregnancy I kept having dreams of a baby boy. I always wanted my first born to be a little boy so I was excited and started buying baby boy clothes super early based off my dreams. I went for ultrasound at 16 weeks of pregnant and found out I was definitely having a boy. I also developed pre-eclampsia at 28 weeks of pregnancy and I was hospitalized at 30 weeks. I gave birth at 32 weeks 12/4/21 and my son remained in NICU for 5 weeks. He is now home and healthy.
Sad! Make sure you leave your review. I hope the journey this time is much easier for you
Its so frustrating and I will be leaving a review for sure! Thank you so much girl I hope this one is much easier and faster too!
This makes me so upset! I’ve been in this position as well and it doesn’t feel good at all. Trust your gut love! Your doctor works for you not the other way around and you deserve the best care. Excited to follow your journey to baby #2. I had my rainbow baby boy in Feb 2020 and just had my second baby boy in December. My fingers are crossed for you!! ❤️🤞🏻
Sending you lots of hugs.. I am dealing with the same issue. Myself and my family just moved to a different state last year, and it's been a struggle finding an obgyn. I've started to look for universities teaching hospitals obgyn. I hope you find one soon. Good luck! Taunya
Thank you! I hope you find a good doctor soon too. This is crazy and very frustrating
I’m here with you hunni and praying you get your bfp soon I just had baby 2 after my rainbow 🌈 baby Israel and it was a girl I named Egypt that I found out at 38 weeks after they told me it was another boy lol I’m definitely praying for you and claiming baby number 2
Thank you so much for being here!! And wow! Were you mad?! Omg lol I would love two boys though
Love those names ❣️
@@stillstonie thanks hunni
@@LoveTaunya I was pissed not because I didn’t want a girl but because I had washed and purchased so much and it was all boy stuff also I thought I could use a lot of Israel’s things and I was huge and hurting so having a week to shop last minute was frustrating because I’m a planner also I don’t know if I want anymore because I’m 37 so I would have did a photoshoot for her and planed a baby shower so I feel like I missed out but I’m forever grateful she was truly a blessing in the midst of my storm my father passed 2 days before she was born so she was my peace ….
Praying for you 🙏 ❤
Thank you for the prayers!
Hey beautiful Taunya! Happy New Year to you and your family! So sorry to hear about your experience with the medical "UNCARE" there, you know how I feel about Memphis😓...I told you all about that before you guys relocated and this confirms why I'm glad we left that place 4 years ago! I'm glad you got settled in and I have enjoyed watching Lux grow up when I can catch a glimpse of him on IG! He is so handsome! I laughed so hard at the wearing a smooth 4T and not a little 18-24months because my son was thick and healthy like him at that age 😆 and now he's 14 and wearing a size 9 men's shoe so I get it! It's been almost 5 years my husband and I have been on this TTC journey and trying to conceive is already so very hard and tedious these days and to hear that you went through this with someone who really has no care for anything about your background and medical history is very upsetting and daunting. I knew you had to be very upset yes to definitely hear you curse and to see the tears for this reason just breaks my heart. I dealt with the same emotions and experiences before relocating from there and it use to drain me of my TTC energy to the point I just gave up. You know a little about my history with having PCOS and trying to conceive, so again I found hope and went through a deep search after going through some of the similar things you talk about in this vlog with doctors there not caring about helping particularly in my experience "Black women" to conceive & it's really a stigma there that I can't stomach. I'm so glad to still be out of that city due to this being an issue in itself and many other personal things. I promise I've had the exact same feelings and experience that you are having in your car right now of leaving an appointment that is so very important to us with no answers is the utmost upsetting, empty feeling and it hurts. Please drop him now and tell him thank you but no thank you and leave your review because it's needed! And the nurses that usually work for them don't care anyway, because they are just there for a check, no understanding or moral support at all. They didn't take your history seriously at all and that is definitely not the type of doctor you want responsible for you and your child's life. I am definitely praying for you on your journey and BIG congratulations again on everything, especially the courage on trying to conceive for baby number two with your history! You're one strong beautiful black woman and this is so exciting to hear and I'm praying for your beautiful bouncing babygirl! I did want to chime in and help you out to let you know about the doctor that I had before we relocated to South Carolina and he was so patient and so amazing and I miss him honestly although I do now have an outstanding doctor here. Before finding him I never had a doctor to care for my medical history and TTC journey like he did before relocating! His name is Dr Stinson W David MD 315 S Walnut Bend Rd, Cordova, TN 38018, I'm not sure if he's in your network but I hope this helps and I pray that you can switch to him and try him out! If I didn't think he was the BEST I definitely wouldn't refer you to him. I seriously wanted to pack him up and bring him to Myrtle Beach with me and my husband 😂 I pray that you can contact him and get the much information you need my love! Blessings on top of blessings on your journey.🙏🏼❤️
Thank you so much for referring your old doctor and for all of the encouragement! I remember you saying that you didn't like Memphis and how happy you were since moving. I like everything else here that experience was just crazy. I have found a female doctor that is supposed to be very compassionate and knowledgable on PCOS so fingers crossed. I'm hoping to see her soon so we can get things moving along. Blessings and baby dust to you Mama!! And I like how you slipped that baby girl in there lol
@@LoveTaunya you're so welcome 🤗 Glad to help and praying you find a doctor you love!! Loads of prayers and baby dust mama 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✨✨✨💖💖💖
It's sad to say physician's don't respect black women. I would love to see the ethnicity of the women that gave him such high scores. Praying for your peace.
My mom had severe preeclampsia( aka Toxemia) with my sister back in 1979. She advocated for herself going into her other 3 deliveries…We all had to be born by c-section. I being there worst one. I often think what if she didn’t try to have us…After that. Stay strong hun! ❤️
Preeclampsia is no joke! I’m glad she survived it and went on to have success. It’s all so stressful!
@@LoveTaunya ikr!
Taunya, I hate that this happened to you and I'm so sorry that you had this experience. Especially during an important phase of your life TTC'ing baby 2. I really wish people who aren't passionate about working in the medical field wouldn't do it. It really affects people's trust they have in a doctor just from one encounter. I really hope you are able to find a provider that will take your every concern seriously like you deserve! Keep your head up, I believe in you and your journey! 💜
I was just so over him and I felt like I was in the twilight zone. I wish doctors like him could just quit if it isn't their passion anymore. I have found a new doctor and I'll be making an appointment as soon as possible. Thank you for being here!
Hugs my friend!!! Olivia said you must be REALLY mad, Mrs. T used a bad word, lol. ONLY if you knew Olivia!!!
Oh no!! No thanks. This is why I prefer female doctor. There is an understanding w/out speaking, etc. Sorry chicka you are feeling this kinda of way!!! Hugs!!!
"fucking pissed" sis. 🤗 Sending some baby hugs and love cus I felt all them tears! I hate the Drs that are so passive. That generic of "oh try for a year then come back." Naw a year is alot of wasted time.
Yes girl I was MAD MAD lol I couldn't believe that he just wanted me to wait around instead of being proactive
So sorry you had to experience that! Unacceptable! I did a ton of research for my OBGYN and I still wasn’t 100% pleased.
It is so unacceptable! I've reported him to Tricare and had them change my doctor to someone highly recommended in the area so hopefully ill see her soon.
I hate doctors like that I had a GYN that said I was having a “ bad cycle” when my cycle lasted for almost 3months she would do anything to help me I had to go to the ER cause I was passing out due to loss of blood my new Doctor found out I got adenomyosis and he helped me you need to find a doctor you are comfortable with.
See that’s what I’m afraid of a doctor doing the bare minimum and missing something serious. I can’t deal with that!
Yes I am praying you find the doctor you need
Thank you for sharing this, sometimes I forget to advocate for myself. These doctors will treat you like a # if you let them. Thanks for the reminder✨✨🤰🏽❤️😊
Yes girl we have to advocate for ourselves because they work for us and sometimes they forget that.
@@LoveTaunya that’s right!!! ❤️❤️
The ovulation strips definitely work and I have PCOS. I ordered them off of Amazon very cheap.
Sorry that you had this experience.
It was my first and last visit I am so done with him
Omg!! I hate this happened. You pretty much left the appt unfulfilled. I can agree that I would most definitely find someone else because he is not equipped to work with you. I’m sorry this happened with you. I hope you find a better dr that can handle your history and execute plans better. ♥️
Thank you! I'm on the hunt because he was the worst I cannot start off the journey with this man.
This is not the doctor for you… Fire & move on to the next one! Always go with your gut/intuition ✨
So true! I have moved on and found a new OBGYN already because that was crazy
I hate doctors like that. As I told you before we kinda went through the same thing in the past and like this appt. My first fertility doctor was like yours brushing me of and just telling me to lose 50lbs and not until then I could come back... I was so shocked the next fertility doctor I really loved he took him time with me I told him that my endocrinologist said my prolactin levels were finally normal. And he did more testing and etc. He got a game plan lined up for us as we had unexplained fertility. The next month we got pregnant on our own. I'm like you after im suppose to have my baby next month. We do want to have a good game plan when we want to try again. I would have had the same reaction as you. I would suggest waiting on your results and looking for another dr because you will find a dr out there that will actually take their time with you and consider your past medical history. I wish you good luck hunny. I pray you find a amazing doctor there, get pregnant, have a safe and healthy pregnancy, and get you baby.❤️
Send you baby dust💕
I’m definitely on the hunt for a new doctor and I’ll be asking for the change next week because I can’t do a careless doctor. So happy everything worked out for you and you’ll be meeting you baby soon! 🥰❤️❤️ thank you for the encouragement!
Right they already get paid alot. So have some compassion for your patients. Yes I can't wait til meet her it has been 5plus years in the making. I thank God for allowing us for this blessing. Np for the encouragement it's go to know there are other women going through what you are. Helps to know your not alone. It's good to have someone you can talk with.
I hate that they don’t take your journey seriously until after you’ve been trying for 6 months 😠😠 like NO! Let’s be proactive. I experienced the same thing with my OB so I switched to a fertility clinic when TTC and stayed with them for my first trimester. BABY DUST TO YOU!!!! It will be ok 😘😘🙏🏾🙏🏾
Pray you find the right doctor🙏🏾❤
Thank you❤️
Hey hun, so sorry you had this experience. I hate doctors like this. He sounds awful 😞 Like mannnn. We already go through enough and then to not get the care and attention we need really sucks . Your feelings are definitely valid and I wouldn’t return to him if you don’t have to. I hope you find a new doctor who listens and cares soon.
Hey Auntie Tell! He was terrible and I was just blown away. I won't be going back
That sucks. I think a MFM or maternal fetal medicine would be better to see with your history, they are high risk doctor and they tend to be more sensitive and understanding.
It did suck! I've found a new doctor already though so hopefully she'll be better and she does work with a mfm
You need a another doctor I hate when doctors to that and I don’t blame you I’ll feel the same way about doctors too
I have been searching since last night and I'm making a list of doctor to call around to on today before I call and make my switch.
@@LoveTaunya hope you find a good doctor looking forward to your journey good luck with everything
Find another doctor. Ridiculous business and medical practices. He didn't pay attention to you or your needs. And...I'm going to say it..see if you can find a woman doctor of color. Are you near Vanderbilt?
I’m already on it girl that was crazy yesterday. I thought I was in the twilight zone
@@LoveTaunya so very sorry you had to go through that hon. I am so glad you are getting it done. Thanks for sharing. Also...Black women are treated this badly all the time in the medical profession. Love that you are standing up to that nonsense.
I totally agree. Find you a woman doctor. Make sure you can get a telephone or zoom appointment for an interview with the doctor. That will cut down on travel time and all you would need to do is come in for a pap and lab work if you like them. I know some women don’t mind having a male doctor but personally don’t feel like a man really understands what it’s like to physically and mentally struggle with infertility or pregnancy loss from a woman’s perspective.
Also. Men can be total butt holes as well. I work in women’s health/ OBGYN=Labor & Delivery
N-O! Unacceptable behavior from that doctor, four months before fertility treatment, no. Is there another doctor to go to. Time is of the essence after 30 with additional health concerns.
Doctors who think they know everything under the sun simply because they’re doctors are very dangerous. I hope you find a more compassionate doctor who is willing to listen to you about your body. I wonder if if treatment of you was influenced by his front desk staff since you had a hard time getting them to schedule the type of appointment you needed.
You hit the nail right on the head! Know it all doctors are so dangerous because they can miss so much not listening to their patients. I don't know if the front desk staff had anything to do with his treatment but I won't see or talk to any of them again. The new doctors front desk staff was already hands on with helping me get what I need so I hope that's a good sign.
Ummmmm no!!! I can’t even get through the whole video without getting pissed! He is not a doctor I would want and I have been going through infertility for 5 years. I have seen a lot of doctors. He didn’t even listen to your concerns. Im so sorry. I don’t know anything about tri care but I really want you to switch to a different clinic altogether. They are too all over the place, too laxed on your health and I for see problems down the road with time wasted. Ughhhhhh!!! I want to call and give them a piece of my mind for you!!!! Ok I’m going ti finish watching but I think you know what to do🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I got angry with you. I've seen so many reproductive specialists and the only time I hated my doctor was when it was a male doctor. The generalized rushed care pissed me off too.
Some doctors think African American women are super fertile and push you aside 😡
That generalized care plan is the pits I cannot stand it! I was so mad at feeling brushed off, dismissed, and disregarded. I've found a female doctor that comes highly recommended so hopefully I can get an appointment soon.
Just listening to your experience is upsetting me 💔 what a horrible doctor smh
He was the absolute worst!
With what you went through with your first pregnancy would u be seeing a high risk obgyn?