“Stop trying to find the right person; be the right person. Instead of being with someone who makes you happy, first be someone who makes you happy.” - Jay Shetty 💛
My parents were together for 66 years. I never saw them argue, or even disagree about anything. My father adored my mother and did everything for her until he died.
🤔 hmmm then chances are he was probably most definitely cheating on her....I ain't knocking him tho, that's straight up OG Mac Daddy status for sure! 🎉
“Are we growing together, are we thriving together, and are we learning from each other?” Love this because these are important elements to have in a relationship to me.
Remove sex, money and children..... if you can still be together, love each other and have some things in common without those, that means you have a real authentic true connection! The rest are just extra perks that makes things fun! 😉😉😉
In some things in common, do you mean like activities or can it just be ideas?? Sometimes it’s hard, in my opinion, for make and female to share favorite activity’s together..
My bf and I have conversations on every topic. We are both planners by nature and prefer full transparency. He recently shared that a few nights ago he was in the middle of his evening prayer and began crying tears of joy. He proceeded to list all the things he is receiving from me and our relationship and what warmed my heart the most is when he said peace. I give him peace. We are both faith filled and I responded that God will see us through this and everything happening within this relationship is all blessings from His plan. Obviously, it's a daily decision we make to ensure others respect our relationship. So I'm enjoying your conversation on various topics. Thank you both and keep moving forward.
when is he going to marry you? I hope you're not giving him for free the wife/girlfriend experience (companionship, sex, houseekeping, emotional support)
You can never know another person - all people help you with their strengths and hurt you with their weaknesses. True love is unconditional love. Unconditional love is real but rare. True love is self love - love from outside yourself is BONUS LOVE! You don’t find love, you create love!
Don't leave it to discussing your relationship ONCE a year! We have a weekly heart-to-heart-session - it seems like real work, which it is! But so worth it! We've only met in our early seventies, and believe in this practise so deeply. The scheme: each one gets 30 minutes to talk about what he/she feels about the relaionship over the last 7 days (the listening partner is just listening, never commenting yet). Then it's " open commenting and discussion with open end". So honest, conscious, connecting - simply so worth engaging in it regularly. Try it with commitment - and you'll be reconnecting and nourishing your relationship. It has become such an enriching habit we intend never to give up as it is so rewarding.
@sylviareck-xy3kn ••• it is so awesome that you have been able to find a partner who is open to and willing to take the time to have such a conversation! That discussion is one that I would absolutely love to sit and have with my significant other on a regular basis but how would I even approach it? How did you accomplish this?
“I’ve learned so much more being committed to one person than I think I would have being single for the last 10 years” I always had destination addiction, happiness is always in the next relationship, next job, next location and I finally decided to commit to a relationship for 3 years and the deep connection, growth and intimacy that brought even though it didn’t work out is something I will always be grateful for and we got to carry it into a beautiful friendship. Also I’m with someone now who even when it is hard or frustrating I just want to heal and repair it with him and rarely if ever find myself thinking it would be better with someone else.
This was so great. Would love to have the ladies (Rathi and Martha) included as well in the next episode to view their perspectives on topics such as this - to see how males and females look at values, relationships, etc differently/similarly. 💛
I like the high engagement, low attachment approach and checking in regularly to see if the relationship is going in a way where both people are happy or there's anything that could be improved. Super interesting and helpful. Thank you both ♥️
I was married happily for 50 years with the same person. We had to change and understand that we were different people as we grew up and had our children. We had to find each other again and fall in love all over again but with the same person. We had arguments and had difference of opinion but we worked things out. He sadly died when he was 71 and now I’m seeing a person who we love spending time together going out but nothing too heavy we are spiritually aligned but not a full relationship
It is truly amazing that two men can actually be so self aware and have this amazing conversation about their love life! I am so grateful that you have this podcast and willingness to share and be vulnerable! I so agree that being in therapy first is such a rich idea shows that you are committed to yourself about being on the right path. It’s a time saver. So many truths being said tonight such as living your own life and then sharing life. You can’t bring anything new to the table/ relationship if you are always together! Great way to make things stale and stagnant if you don’t! So important for guys to have their night out with friends!
I have dated a lot in my life and learned if a man isn’t on the path like this video I’m not even considering them. This is how a healthy relationship should look; talking about all these things. I do think if your standards are high choices will be slim and just know it’s better than being unhappy with someone who isn’t open to talks and a healthy relationship. Focus on yourself and heal and be who you want to attract. I think everyone should watch this video! Love you guys thank you! Great advice! ❤
some videos on YT say that there's only 1 sign but i definitely do not agree with them - they say only sex expereince . yes, i mean it's important but really the only sign? no! and i love those that say that and then just take their spanish fly enhancer and say it was their energy but actually wasn't as we know now after those drops
Loved listening to you both. My marriage broke up after 24 yrs with a very messy & painful ending Looking back I see my mistakes. I thought I could hold it together for both of us. Earlier we were mutually invested but for the latter years I knew my husband was not invested. It takes 2 wills. Mistake number 2 was that I didn't really hear him when he wanted out. I kept trying to convince him to stay. This destroyed my self esteem & really was not respectful to me or him. In the end he totally sabotaged & killed our relationship so repair was not possible. It really hurt & created more trauma to add too my childhood wounds of feeling unlovable & wanting my partner to heal with me. Here are my realisations 4 years later Self respect & integrity are key to everything Self love includes ALL parts of myself lovable or not lovable. I bring love & compassion to all parts but do my best to ACT from my most enlighten self Wound healing takes time Now I see that my husband was not as committed to openess & growth. He was spilling out his pain. That's where he was. I took it instead of setting boundaries so self betrayal. Now I catch this in myself & am true to myself even if I may loose someone as a result Those that stay stay because we are committed to growing together Dating I'm very fussy. If I don't see we have potential for depth & integrity it's not for me Meanwhile I have created a new & peaceful life. I'm building work that is fulfilling & heart centered helping others with their healing & spiritual journey. I hope to write a book with the keys to wellness. That's still to come My relationship with my grown up children has become healthier & deeper & I know my X & I are both commited to them. I surround myself with loving supportive friends I don't find myself fighting because there is so much more clarity & service to love. We can find our way without a fight. If a misunderstanding occurs there is quick repair so toxicity is very reduced. All in all I'm so grateful for what I've learned from challenging or beautiful experiences in life & so grateful for these enlightening podcasts Still have work to do overcoming my limited beliefs but now love & compassion leads the way not self hate
Yes. It is possible to have a long relationship with one person but it takes those two people to make it With Honor, respect, maturity, caring for the other as much as you care for yourself compassion, open-mindedness and expressing their passion to each other whenever possible.
I think it's important for people to express their feelings towards the other even if it is more than just a hug or kiss or the words I love you or any positive words that uplift your partner. Or giving them a thoughtful type of gift that is personal to them that you know that they like like, if it's mountain biking , a weekend at a crazy which they could do that. Or a new bike or something that's for their bike or clothing for them to wear while they're biking excetera but something thoughtful and personal for them that shows that you pay attention, that their needs are important to you. When you love someone you encourage the things that make them happy because when they're happy you are also happy what is that phrase their happiness is your happiness
This conversation made me and my big sister had a 5 hours discussion. I think I learnt the whole wrong thing about relationships. And, this is a stepping stone for me. I am very grateful for this episode.
Thanks guys, brilliant conversation. I have been single for many years now, and only recently, did my best friend ask....are you lonely? My response was so easily answered, "no". I love my life, although the current conditions are extremely challenging. Regardless of all that I have lost, I absolutely love my life. In saying this, because I love all that I have(internally) sharing it with the right person would be blissful. Lewis, you hit it on the head.....each individual should have their own lives, passions, goals,and then come home to share. I would say that my current value is simple it's love. Love, compassion, and all aspects of health. Mind, body and spirit. ❤
Loved this! I value: accountability, kindness, growth, loyalty and dun. I'm happily single and embody those traits and will remind single until I meet someone who shares those values ❤
It is all about dealing with expectations. I love the "high engagement and low attachment". It encourages you to enjoy the moment and start loving yourself more. It is about learning to be true to yourself and have your own space. This creates more desire. I've been blessed to be in love twice. I do believe you are in a reason for a reason, a season, or forever and if you feel you can't grow more with each other... move on. Doing this it makes you try more and give your relationship the energy you need! Love is worth the time...Daily Affection, appreciation and appreciation ...Yes it works!
Connection on a spiritual level is important and working on your relationship together. Both of you will not be happy all the time or at the same time but being with each other is just wholesome.
Wonderful conversation . I think women fall in love from admiration and if we fall in love we will want more and more from that person. I prefer an exclusive relationship with commitment and loyalty.
This was me this morning on a text while listening: “I just listened to this podcast in the sauna and was like I have to pause my sauna…I HAVE TO SEND IT TO ALL MY FRIENDS". We are 20 years into our marriage with hubby thinking all we went through almost calling it quits. But after all our marriage is growing, learning and thriving! We are now helping other marriages. I texted to all my friends and posted on all my social media. I loved it all…well done guys! More please!
I lost the love of my life 5 years ago and I have been learning ways to move forward. Yesterday, I learned from a friend about the Chinese philosophy that we have several soul mates in our life. This discussion about friendship and commitment is intriguing to me. I'm good at long-term relationships. I've led a life of synchronicity, but I am looking more at knowing what the "Me" wants in my life. Love the discussion!
Hands down one of my favorite podcasts / vidoes on right now. I’ve gotten so much out of it, I’ve watched a couple times in pieces and shared with everyone. I love how natural it is and the advice is amazing. It’s nice to get both ends of opinions / life experience too - he’s married for 10 years and you’re newly in a relationship so it’s cool to see the pros and “ cons “ of each. Love love love love love this podcast with him in it!!!!!!! Fav ever
I wish all men could have such a valuable conversation, your women must be super happy with you and you with them! AlI the best!! I am super amazed with you both!!!
It's simple, just be true to yourself, less talking and more actions. It's funny listening to chat shows us such. Seems like everyone are trying to convince themselves and validate eachothers thoughts, with much flagornerie going on. When we started walking eating and drinking for ourselves, it came naturally. However we give praise for the naturalisation that is talking place. The only validation is what we believe for ourselves to be in accordance with living our lives to the best of our abilities. Love to all, love is everything, so all to love
Being with one person for all your life is a beautiful thing as you grow and learn with all the imperfections which ultimately help the love to be unconditional. Also the alone time for each partner is a big part of keeping the bond and the love together. I totally enjoyed your podcast. It was filling and real. Thank you
That someone is Myself to grow thrive learn consciously joyfully and peacefully I am a 79 year old widow for the past 10 years make a daily inventory of how I live with self compassion towards myself and others. I have shared your podcast gentlemen with my children and many others. Bravo to both of you and your partners ✌️😍🙏🏻
Yes!!! Growing together and growing alone is key! My bf and I are both doing this. Your videos have helped me look at life and relationships differently with perspectives I didn’t think of. Thank you!
My ex-husband and I are very different. We divorced and never stayed apart. After 18 months, we are back together and have the plan to get married again. For sure, we are the love of each others lives, but we have had difficulties and hope we can learn techniques to address differences in a better way. I work hard on myself and meditate a lot, which I find extremely helpful
This was great, not awkward, people especially men need to feel more comfortable to talk about these things... thankyou for sharing your experiences openly!
These podcasts are really helping me. I've really wanted a long term relationship for the past few years but it just never seems to happen. I've changed my dating style and have just started dating someone new. I really needed to hear this today ❤
Yes It did just got dumped from a 2 and a half year relationship and realizing how much we both have to grow and focus on each other’s personal and career paths before we are able to really give each other the attention we both wanted. She was a little needy and needed a lot of affection and love but I truly gave her my all. I know it’s not about the could’ve it’s about me being able to learn from it and truly understand myself.
I loved this so much. I particularly loved what Jay said about it not being about promises, but the ability and choice to continue checking in with and sharing what is present and alive within each other throughout time. So much can change in a short period of time (a month, a week, even a day or moment), so the ability to continue to grow together by having real authentic conversations is what keeps relationships strong. I have to speak to the importance of having HARD conversations being a culprit to the strength of a relationship (the harder the workout, the more the muscle is worked, the stronger it becomes). What I value most in my relationships right now is authenticity, transparency, intimacy and light-heartedness. I also like it deep. I don't prefer shallow with those I choose to be close with. I find shallow conversations to be boring. I think sharing in depth with each other builds trust and a container in which to solidly build on and from.
To many people jump into something thinking its the person they love and want to spend their life with. If you marry you should bhe doing it for life, I am in my 40s and I have never married yet. Not because I don't want to but because when I do I want it to be for life
So grateful to have watched it, I’ve been going through a bout of loneliness and before I went out with the same mindset I watched this. I’m still going out but now I won’t be looking for a “saving grace in every face” for self validation. Instead I’m going to enjoy being in my company and validate myself.
Being a new youtuber i would love to say you both are really creating bright and responsible future generations through both your podcast Spreading positivity love and happiness
This was so refreshing to listen too!! Good or bad experiences, can shape us. But learning, developing on one’s self is a profound process. There is individuals out there, that do it, implement it and live it. Thank the lord.
Love the idea of thinking about if we want to do another year and not for the rest of our life ! Takes so much pressure of when trying to meet the ‘right’ person
I was the serial surface level dater and then took a couple years to just heal trauma and I totally believe you can commit to one person as long as there is shared values and goals and independence and trust. I loved the part of the podcast where you talked about “ serving” , as someone who works in community services I think I’m realizing how important it is to me that I find someone who’s also compassionate and community focused- I never really considered that prior to todsy
Right message at the right time. I called a friend to share my frustration about a great relationship of mine, however we have misaligned values. Even though I know what to do, I always end up feeling like a nagging girlfriend according to him whenever I want us to talk about where we are going and what my future plan are. He doesn't want to talk about his plans and so on. I know I can't sacrifice my values anymore, it's been 13 years of shame and worrying about how I will be perceive or judge by others if I leave. oh wow, when the student is ready, the teacher appear❤. Thank you Jay and Lewis
Great talk - the part where Jay delineates sharing what you’re interested in cultivating with a potential partner vs. telling them what they need to be for you. That’s how I roll. Love to hear it. Can you love someone for the rest of your life? -Yes, love is eternal and fluid. Can you be WITH a partner for the rest of your life? -That depends on the person. How will they develop over the years? How will their preferences change? Will you counter-develop in a harmonious way? We can select people with promising potential for this, but ultimately we have to release the idea of “until death” from our focal point. The quality of the engagement, bolstered by profound respect and authenticity, is the metric we should be most concerned with. It keeps us accountable to the present moment, empowered daily by our agency to nourish soil as it requires, right here, right now.
Communication is the key.. talking and telling your intentions and knowing the other person about the same on a regular basis. And both trying to align with each other. Growing together learning together.Having absurd and awkward conversations including conscious conversation. Keeping curiosity open to know and grow more.
Understanding that my unique intrinsic character qualities are beautiful enough and hold value enough in themselves. Having assets, unique gifts, skills or talents to bring to the table are great, but they are not essential. These “extras” do not dictate or demonstrate my value to others or how loveable I am. It’s important to find and connect with others who have eyes to see those truly crucial and valuable qualities I hold, regardless of age, environment or circumstance. These types of relationships, be they friendships, romantic or professional, hold the test of time 🙏🏼
Your conversations are so rich, I always get a lot from them, but I sometimes wish that someone would add would address the developmental issues of people over 70. There are many of us who are single by intention or by accident of life.. and our perspectives are unique. Certainly our timelines are unique! Also, I would love to know.. if you believe that you may not be best suited to this topic, when you haven't yet lived it yourselves . do you think I could learn to share about it? I am turning 75, my partner of a year and a half is 80. We are each in great health, but aware that things can change in a moment... and maybe for that, especially interested in thriving.
Well the reality is set your values And purpose is important to your souls,so keep your values paramount,enjoy all the moments,thats most important,Enjoy🎉 Add same joy to others as you do yourselves
High engagement low attachment…I actually finally stepped into a relationship with that mindset and wondered if I was off, yet it feels so right. Great confirmation!
How I wish both Jay Shetty and Lewis Howes were around when I was engaged! I most certainly would have seen, dealt with many issues…seeing the light and realizing I was simply with the wrong person. -I’m now happily divorced after 27 year marriage and extremely blessed with two incredible sons. Anne
Too many people are quick to settle into comfort or attraction when in reality alignment grows attraction and the partner makes you want to improve yourself and the relationship. You grow naturally. Nothing is forced. Finding your right partner takes time, personal growth, and commitment to that personal development first and foremost because otherwise you are just bringing all of your damaged baggage to another person. Relationships teach us a lot, even the imperfect temporary ones. ✌🏼
Two of my favourite people making a video together, I hope one day they'llhavea video with "diary of a CEO" especially since they're good friends. I'm there for it❣️❣️❣️🍿
Relationships are not easy! We all have our lessons to learn. The best advice I would give is just focus on yourself, the more you understand who you are, What your values and beliefs are, It’s difficult to know what you want in a relationship if you haven’t healed from past wounds and moved on. It took me years to really understand who I am. What’s meant for you will align. Trust in the universe. There’s someone out there for everyone, Be good to yourself any others. Happiness is something everybody should have,
yesss !! my value in relationships in this time is to explore, grow, nourish , and embody weather that be in love for ourselves for eachother and or in community !! its cultivating this peace and serenity in love for everything that we get to experience ! individually and in unity !!
YES it is Possible!! I can't imagine myself with anyone else....only been with ONE man for 31 years. Relationships have their own challenges but during my marriage I have had no desire to be sexual with anyone else. I know...kind of weird but TRUE.❤️
The struggles of marriage and kids is not an excuse you’ll never understand until you live it. I love the idea of renewing your relationship regularly the scary part is what happens when you reach that point where you don’t feel like it’s going to go any further but now you have a family together in a life together that’s the advice I want
I reached that point at 15yrs and 2 beautiful children but the relationship was going nowhere with nothing in common. Now we're divorced and I'm happier.
My parents had two kids and split when I was 4 years old. My dad wasn’t really in my life. I’m 28 now and my mom and I always talk about this subject. Our thoughts are that we think a broken unhappy and dysfunctional marriage is more harmful to the kids then splitting and co-parenting in a healthy way. The reality is that most relationships and marriages don’t work out 🤷🏽♂️. Your kids will understand when they get older. Splitting up is not then end of the world, and anyone can adapt to anything… life is all about change
Thank you both for your commitment to helping people expand their competence in relationship! I ALWAYS learn so much from you both and I loved the back and forth. My biggest take homes today: check ins (is this relationship working for you?), you have to be growing yourself to bring something back to the relationship, sex gives you a false sense of closeness/try getting to know someone without it first. Thank you!!
It would be great to have a discussion about blended families since divorce and single parenting (and dating) is so common, but not talked about in society much. Thanks guys! You are both such wonderful role models!!
I enjoy watching the two of you together more than any other podcasts you put together. You two remind me of spiritual brothers and you two understand each other on a different level. Sending hugs 🧡🧡
This was soooo good ✨✨✨ such an amazingggggg amazing conversation feel like I’ll be watching this one a few times to digest the gems. Thankkkkkk youu both for letting us sit in on this conversation 💫
It’s a waste of time running around searching for the ideal, there is no ideal, one and forever simple life. It’s not whom you marry but how you live with them. Someone/ something doesn’t give you happiness, it’s your choice to be happy or unhappy.
I believe life is a give and take. A relationship is a journey where you give support to one another as one moves through life with countability and growth. Not only with self but the fun with shared experiences! My simple pleasures
Love this so much. I'm excited for more podcasts like this. This has definitely made me think more and want to work on my relationship more than ever. Thank you guys, you are both amazing.
So true about the ability to self validate. I’ve seen ppl gg ard to get validation from everyone especially when the partner want the person to self validate. But when one is relunctant, it’s really tough to self validate. But that’s how it must work..
Less expecting to someone because you will hurts eventually, if will not happening to you the less much better and cherish everything when you both together; do whatever you want that's makes you feel happy. I've realize that you've stay to someone that brings the best in you, appreciate everything about yourself and not judging you the way you are and not giving you a mixed signal about his feeling for you. It makes sense, when you know that person is really attached to you or his feeling is very genuine or his intention to you is real; I'm not looking for perfect partner or someone because nobody's perfect but I want to make feel that his feeling for me his genuine. 😊❤
Yesssss!!! Such a powerful conversation!!! It's always a pleasure to hear you guys share your thoughts and experiences. Look forward to more versions of this "awkward conversations"! Love the way you unpack each and every emotion/thought and move towards the ultimate goal! I have always been a firm believer of falling in love with the same person over and over again, sharing experiences together and most of my friends make fun of that(they call me old school!). It's so refreshing to hear you guys speak!!! Thank you so so much!!! Kudos to you!!!!😊😊😊😊
Powerful, soulful .." what are the things you like to do together. And in which way i chose to learn things" !!! Bull's eye!! Loved it. I also wish to know from where should i get that monk training!
Not awkward 🤣 as u've phrased it, it's actually very inspiring. What has caught my attention is that we should always not only focus on issues like intimacy, peace etc in a relationship but look at it beyond the two partners. Great 😃
Everything that was shared by both of you was a powerful insight within self and how we think successful relationships can last.. all by honoring self, giving your best and accepting your partner for who they are and bring to the relationship. I’ve heard it said many times that a couple are TWO individuals coming together as ONE. Listening to this podcast from two well known male individuals made it easier for me to understand how important that concept can jumpstart and continue a loving successful relationship for the long term. I even felt comfort in hearing that as time passes and your not in alignment and the relationship ends, that’s ok too because having self love is what keeps you going and the love you carry within yourself will attract the right person❤️. Thank you both. Great podcast!
Great awkward, insightful, funny conversation! 💞 I’m a little, a lot, further down the road and on the journey but would love for you guys to have this conversation again in a decade or two to hear what wisdom you’ve gained along the way!! 🤗
I loved the way this conversation had progressed. This year infact has been the year where I had happened to have a similar conversation with my mother and dearest friend on our dining table over a cup of tea. And I had happend to mention (being single for a while and having experienced a fair share of my romantic relationships) that I would want the relationship to be reviewed, renewed constantly, atleast in a span of 2-3 years to assess if its living up to the two people's expectations. If its helping me and the other( whoever's it's going to be with) grow and evolve. Are we still able to maintain a certain bandwidth of curiosity about each other.? Do we still desire each other intimately emotionally, mentally and physically? Are we able to be create a shared space for vulnerability where nothing gets pushed under the carpet? Are we still in track to renew the contract or we take some steps to rejuvenate the contract or even rewrite it for ME and You and We? My core values as of now are Peace, Good enough Curiosity and Awe, Learning, Growth and a sense of adventure in sharing my life with someone who shares similar values, even a sense of adventure in exploring them, myself and our relationship.
i enjoyed how real and vulnerable that you both are and you both know what you want in your life that serves you and what doesn't and you are not afraid to speak up and speak out. High engagement and low attachment was huge!
For sure it’s possible to love 1 person for the rest of our lives!! I’ve met many people who have done this, it was a lot of work bit they did it. My grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles.
To me validation is about feeling supported . Should we not look to our loved ones or partners for support/validation. Maybe a short video on this? @Jay Shetty @ Lewis Howes
“Stop trying to find the right person; be the right person. Instead of being with someone who makes you happy, first be someone who makes you happy.” - Jay Shetty 💛
Beautiful
My values are connection and Peace
and then you run the risk of realizing you don't WANT anyone else....gasp
My values are spiritual connection, peace, and service.
ah huh
"If they're always with you, then they cant bring anything to you." this just changed a perception, thank you.
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Mine too
My parents were together for 66 years. I never saw them argue, or even disagree about anything. My father adored my mother and did everything for her until he died.
That's awesome
Beautiful 💙
how beautiful wow
🤔 hmmm then chances are he was probably most definitely cheating on her....I ain't knocking him tho, that's straight up OG Mac Daddy status for sure! 🎉
Make my day to read it.
“Are we growing together, are we thriving together, and are we learning from each other?” Love this because these are important elements to have in a relationship to me.
Remove sex, money and children..... if you can still be together, love each other and have some things in common without those, that means you have a real authentic true connection! The rest are just extra perks that makes things fun! 😉😉😉
True true true
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So basically a friend
In some things in common, do you mean like activities or can it just be ideas?? Sometimes it’s hard, in my opinion, for make and female to share favorite activity’s together..
That's a Platonic relationship not romantic one. Personally I don't see sex, kids or money as a perk.
My bf and I have conversations on every topic. We are both planners by nature and prefer full transparency. He recently shared that a few nights ago he was in the middle of his evening prayer and began crying tears of joy. He proceeded to list all the things he is receiving from me and our relationship and what warmed my heart the most is when he said peace. I give him peace. We are both faith filled and I responded that God will see us through this and everything happening within this relationship is all blessings from His plan. Obviously, it's a daily decision we make to ensure others respect our relationship. So I'm enjoying your conversation on various topics. Thank you both and keep moving forward.
I like that Peace given to a spouse is more important than anything.
when is he going to marry you?
I hope you're not giving him for free the wife/girlfriend experience (companionship, sex, houseekeping, emotional support)
You can never know another person - all people help you with their strengths and hurt you with their weaknesses.
True love is unconditional love. Unconditional love is real but rare. True love is self love - love from outside yourself is BONUS LOVE! You don’t find love, you create love!
Don't leave it to discussing your relationship ONCE a year! We have a weekly heart-to-heart-session - it seems like real work, which it is! But so worth it! We've only met in our early seventies, and believe in this practise so deeply.
The scheme: each one gets 30 minutes to talk about what he/she feels about the relaionship over the last 7 days (the listening partner is just listening, never commenting yet). Then it's " open commenting and discussion with open end".
So honest, conscious, connecting - simply so worth engaging in it regularly.
Try it with commitment - and you'll be reconnecting and nourishing your relationship.
It has become such an enriching habit we intend never to give up as it is so rewarding.
So wonderful to read your commitment practice to getting right what works for you both. Esp given youre in the mature end of life. Inspiring. Thank u.
@sylviareck-xy3kn ••• it is so awesome that you have been able to find a partner who is open to and willing to take the time to have such a conversation! That discussion is one that I would absolutely love to sit and have with my significant other on a regular basis but how would I even approach it? How did you accomplish this?
love this. will put this into practice too
“I’ve learned so much more being committed to one person than I think I would have being single for the last 10 years” I always had destination addiction, happiness is always in the next relationship, next job, next location and I finally decided to commit to a relationship for 3 years and the deep connection, growth and intimacy that brought even though it didn’t work out is something I will always be grateful for and we got to carry it into a beautiful friendship. Also I’m with someone now who even when it is hard or frustrating I just want to heal and repair it with him and rarely if ever find myself thinking it would be better with someone else.
This was so great. Would love to have the ladies (Rathi and Martha) included as well in the next episode to view their perspectives on topics such as this - to see how males and females look at values, relationships, etc differently/similarly. 💛
Yes!!!
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Such a great idea !!!
I like the high engagement, low attachment approach and checking in regularly to see if the relationship is going in a way where both people are happy or there's anything that could be improved. Super interesting and helpful. Thank you both ♥️
I was married happily for 50 years with the same person. We had to change and understand that we were different people as we grew up and had our children. We had to find each other again and fall in love all over again but with the same person. We had arguments and had difference of opinion but we worked things out.
He sadly died when he was 71 and now I’m seeing a person who we love spending time together going out but nothing too heavy we are spiritually aligned but not a full relationship
Thank you for sharing this
'I need to think about it' is many people's way to not talk about a subject and ignore it completely.
It is truly amazing that two men can actually be so self aware and have this amazing conversation about their love life! I am so grateful that you have this podcast and willingness to share and be vulnerable! I so agree that being in therapy first is such a rich idea shows that you are committed to yourself about being on the right path. It’s a time saver. So many truths being said tonight such as living your own life and then sharing life. You can’t bring anything new to the table/ relationship if you are always together! Great way to make things stale and stagnant if you don’t! So important for guys to have their night out with friends!
I have dated a lot in my life and learned if a man isn’t on the path like this video I’m not even considering them. This is how a healthy relationship should look; talking about all these things.
I do think if your standards are high choices will be slim and just know it’s better than being unhappy with someone who isn’t open to talks and a healthy relationship. Focus on yourself and heal and be who you want to attract. I think everyone should watch this video! Love you guys thank you! Great advice! ❤
some videos on YT say that there's only 1 sign but i definitely do not agree with them - they say only sex expereince . yes, i mean it's important but really the only sign? no! and i love those that say that and then just take their spanish fly enhancer and say it was their energy but actually wasn't as we know now after those drops
Loved listening to you both. My marriage broke up after 24 yrs with a very messy & painful ending
Looking back I see my mistakes. I thought I could hold it together for both of us. Earlier we were mutually invested but for the latter years I knew my husband was not invested. It takes 2 wills. Mistake number 2 was that I didn't really hear him when he wanted out. I kept trying to convince him to stay. This destroyed my self esteem & really was not respectful to me or him.
In the end he totally sabotaged & killed our relationship so repair was not possible.
It really hurt & created more trauma to add too my childhood wounds of feeling unlovable & wanting my partner to heal with me. Here are my realisations 4 years later
Self respect & integrity are key to everything
Self love includes ALL parts of myself lovable or not lovable. I bring love & compassion to all parts but do my best to ACT from my most enlighten self
Wound healing takes time
Now I see that my husband was not as committed to openess & growth. He was spilling out his pain. That's where he was. I took it instead of setting boundaries so self betrayal.
Now I catch this in myself & am true to myself even if I may loose someone as a result
Those that stay stay because we are committed to growing together
Dating I'm very fussy. If I don't see we have potential for depth & integrity it's not for me
Meanwhile I have created a new & peaceful life. I'm building work that is fulfilling & heart centered helping others with their healing & spiritual journey.
I hope to write a book with the keys to wellness. That's still to come
My relationship with my grown up children has become healthier & deeper & I know my X & I are both commited to them.
I surround myself with loving supportive friends
I don't find myself fighting because there is so much more clarity & service to love. We can find our way without a fight. If a misunderstanding occurs there is quick repair so toxicity is very reduced.
All in all I'm so grateful for what I've learned from challenging or beautiful experiences in life & so grateful for these enlightening podcasts
Still have work to do overcoming my limited beliefs but now love & compassion leads the way not self hate
Yes. It is possible to have a long relationship with one person but it takes those two people to make it With Honor, respect, maturity, caring for the other as much as you care for yourself compassion, open-mindedness and expressing their passion to each other whenever possible.
I think it's important for people to express their feelings towards the other even if it is more than just a hug or kiss or the words I love you or any positive words that uplift your partner. Or giving them a thoughtful type of gift that is personal to them that you know that they like like, if it's mountain biking , a weekend at a crazy which they could do that. Or a new bike or something that's for their bike or clothing for them to wear while they're biking excetera but something thoughtful and personal for them that shows that you pay attention, that their needs are important to you. When you love someone you encourage the things that make them happy because when they're happy you are also happy what is that phrase their happiness is your happiness
This conversation made me and my big sister had a 5 hours discussion. I think I learnt the whole wrong thing about relationships. And, this is a stepping stone for me. I am very grateful for this episode.
ok just try not to bl.ow up anything today : )
Thanks guys, brilliant conversation. I have been single for many years now, and only recently, did my best friend ask....are you lonely? My response was so easily answered, "no". I love my life, although the current conditions are extremely challenging. Regardless of all that I have lost, I absolutely love my life. In saying this, because I love all that I have(internally) sharing it with the right person would be blissful. Lewis, you hit it on the head.....each individual should have their own lives, passions, goals,and then come home to share. I would say that my current value is simple it's love. Love, compassion, and all aspects of health. Mind, body and spirit. ❤
I'm not lonely. I just want to have a lovely husband that i can hug and kiss
Damn...you must have one hell of a sex toy collection 🤭🫣🤯
Loved this! I value: accountability, kindness, growth, loyalty and dun. I'm happily single and embody those traits and will remind single until I meet someone who shares those values ❤
It is all about dealing with expectations. I love the "high engagement and low attachment". It encourages you to enjoy the moment and start loving yourself more. It is about learning to be true to yourself and have your own space. This creates more desire. I've been blessed to be in love twice. I do believe you are in a reason for a reason, a season, or forever and if you feel you can't grow more with each other... move on. Doing this it makes you try more and give your relationship the energy you need! Love is worth the time...Daily Affection, appreciation and appreciation ...Yes it works!
Connection on a spiritual level is important and working on your relationship together. Both of you will not be happy all the time or at the same time but being with each other is just wholesome.
So many men that needs to listen to this and learn
Wonderful conversation . I think women fall in love from admiration and if we fall in love we will want more and more from that person. I prefer an exclusive relationship with commitment and loyalty.
This was me this morning on a text while listening: “I just listened to this podcast in the sauna and was like I have to pause my sauna…I HAVE TO SEND IT TO ALL MY FRIENDS". We are 20 years into our marriage with hubby thinking all we went through almost calling it quits. But after all our marriage is growing, learning and thriving! We are now helping other marriages.
I texted to all my friends and posted on all my social media. I loved it all…well done guys! More please!
I lost the love of my life 5 years ago and I have been learning ways to move forward. Yesterday, I learned from a friend about the Chinese philosophy that we have several soul mates in our life. This discussion about friendship and commitment is intriguing to me. I'm good at long-term relationships. I've led a life of synchronicity, but I am looking more at knowing what the "Me" wants in my life. Love the discussion!
How awesome to have two insightful men speaking on relationships and going deep! More men need to hear this! Love this! Namaste! 💕🙏💕
Hands down one of my favorite podcasts / vidoes on right now. I’ve gotten so much out of it, I’ve watched a couple times in pieces and shared with everyone. I love how natural it is and the advice is amazing.
It’s nice to get both ends of opinions / life experience too - he’s married for 10 years and you’re newly in a relationship so it’s cool to see the pros and “ cons “ of each.
Love love love love love this podcast with him in it!!!!!!! Fav ever
I wish all men could have such a valuable conversation, your women must be super happy with you and you with them! AlI the best!! I am super amazed with you both!!!
It's simple, just be true to yourself, less talking and more actions. It's funny listening to chat shows us such. Seems like everyone are trying to convince themselves and validate eachothers thoughts, with much flagornerie going on. When we started walking eating and drinking for ourselves, it came naturally. However we give praise for the naturalisation that is talking place. The only validation is what we believe for ourselves to be in accordance with living our lives to the best of our abilities. Love to all, love is everything, so all to love
Very true. When you away by chance when ger back together you will more appreciate. We all need our own space, need a break from each other.
Being with one person for all your life is a beautiful thing as you grow and learn with all the imperfections which ultimately help the love to be unconditional. Also the alone time for each partner is a big part of keeping the bond and the love together. I totally enjoyed your podcast. It was filling and real. Thank you
That someone is Myself to grow thrive learn consciously joyfully and peacefully I am a 79 year old widow for the past 10 years make a daily inventory of how I live with self compassion towards myself and others. I have shared your podcast gentlemen with my children and many others. Bravo to both of you and your partners ✌️😍🙏🏻
God bless you.
Yes!!! Growing together and growing alone is key! My bf and I are both doing this. Your videos have helped me look at life and relationships differently with perspectives I didn’t think of. Thank you!
My ex-husband and I are very different. We divorced and never stayed apart. After 18 months, we are back together and have the plan to get married again. For sure, we are the love of each others lives, but we have had difficulties and hope we can learn techniques to address differences in a better way. I work hard on myself and meditate a lot, which I find extremely helpful
This was great, not awkward, people especially men need to feel more comfortable to talk about these things... thankyou for sharing your experiences openly!
Even at 57 gentlemen.... even at 57. Incredible conversation and after 32 1/2 years of marriage this stuff is scary... but so worth pursuing.
These podcasts are really helping me. I've really wanted a long term relationship for the past few years but it just never seems to happen. I've changed my dating style and have just started dating someone new. I really needed to hear this today ❤
Don't let anyone press you to change your boundaries or disrespect you. Hold onto these.
Yes It did just got dumped from a 2 and a half year relationship and realizing how much we both have to grow and focus on each other’s personal and career paths before we are able to really give each other the attention we both wanted. She was a little needy and needed a lot of affection and love but I truly gave her my all. I know it’s not about the could’ve it’s about me being able to learn from it and truly understand myself.
I loved this so much. I particularly loved what Jay said about it not being about promises, but the ability and choice to continue checking in with and sharing what is present and alive within each other throughout time. So much can change in a short period of time (a month, a week, even a day or moment), so the ability to continue to grow together by having real authentic conversations is what keeps relationships strong. I have to speak to the importance of having HARD conversations being a culprit to the strength of a relationship (the harder the workout, the more the muscle is worked, the stronger it becomes).
What I value most in my relationships right now is authenticity, transparency, intimacy and light-heartedness. I also like it deep. I don't prefer shallow with those I choose to be close with. I find shallow conversations to be boring. I think sharing in depth with each other builds trust and a container in which to solidly build on and from.
Values are everything. Peace, soothing peace, respect, history, connection that’s me.
Getting such a wonderful person as our partner who loves without any expectations shedding tears for us we are the most blessed in our lives.
I think you can spend the rest of your life with someone as long as your compatible and your a hundred percent honest with each other and communicate
To many people jump into something thinking its the person they love and want to spend their life with. If you marry you should bhe doing it for life, I am in my 40s and I have never married yet. Not because I don't want to but because when I do I want it to be for life
So grateful to have watched it, I’ve been going through a bout of loneliness and before I went out with the same mindset I watched this. I’m still going out but now I won’t be looking for a “saving grace in every face” for self validation. Instead I’m going to enjoy being in my company and validate myself.
Being a new youtuber i would love to say you both are really creating bright and responsible future generations through both your podcast
Spreading positivity love and happiness
This was so refreshing to listen too!! Good or bad experiences, can shape us. But learning, developing on one’s self is a profound process. There is individuals out there, that do it, implement it and live it. Thank the lord.
Love the idea of thinking about if we want to do another year and not for the rest of our life !
Takes so much pressure of when trying to meet the ‘right’ person
I was the serial surface level dater and then took a couple years to just heal trauma and I totally believe you can commit to one person as long as there is shared values and goals and independence and trust. I loved the part of the podcast where you talked about “ serving” , as someone who works in community services I think I’m realizing how important it is to me that I find someone who’s also compassionate and community focused- I never really considered that prior to todsy
My values right now for relationship: peace, expansion, growth
Right message at the right time. I called a friend to share my frustration about a great relationship of mine, however we have misaligned values. Even though I know what to do, I always end up feeling like a nagging girlfriend according to him whenever I want us to talk about where we are going and what my future plan are. He doesn't want to talk about his plans and so on. I know I can't sacrifice my values anymore, it's been 13 years of shame and worrying about how I will be perceive or judge by others if I leave. oh wow, when the student is ready, the teacher appear❤. Thank you Jay and Lewis
Jay, you authentic share was amazing; # forced to self validate; # acknowledge the subtle contribution! “ # she had a gift that helped me grow !!!!
'Growing with, Thriving with and learning from each other' is my take home !!!
Great talk - the part where Jay delineates sharing what you’re interested in cultivating with a potential partner vs. telling them what they need to be for you. That’s how I roll. Love to hear it.
Can you love someone for the rest of your life? -Yes, love is eternal and fluid.
Can you be WITH a partner for the rest of your life? -That depends on the person. How will they develop over the years? How will their preferences change? Will you counter-develop in a harmonious way? We can select people with promising potential for this, but ultimately we have to release the idea of “until death” from our focal point. The quality of the engagement, bolstered by profound respect and authenticity, is the metric we should be most concerned with. It keeps us accountable to the present moment, empowered daily by our agency to nourish soil as it requires, right here, right now.
Communication is the key.. talking and telling your intentions and knowing the other person about the same on a regular basis. And both trying to align with each other.
Growing together learning together.Having absurd and awkward conversations including conscious conversation. Keeping curiosity open to know and grow more.
Understanding that my unique intrinsic character qualities are beautiful enough and hold value enough in themselves. Having assets, unique gifts, skills or talents to bring to the table are great, but they are not essential. These “extras” do not dictate or demonstrate my value to others or how loveable I am. It’s important to find and connect with others who have eyes to see those truly crucial and valuable qualities I hold, regardless of age, environment or circumstance. These types of relationships, be they friendships, romantic or professional, hold the test of time 🙏🏼
Thank you guys… I am just healing from a breakup and I really learnt a lot from the conversation
Please talk about jealousy in relationships, how to manage that and what’s normal and what’s not
Your conversations are so rich, I always get a lot from them, but I sometimes wish that someone would add would address the developmental issues of people over 70. There are many of us who are single by intention or by accident of life.. and our perspectives are unique. Certainly our timelines are unique! Also, I would love to know.. if you believe that you may not be best suited to this topic, when you haven't yet lived it yourselves . do you think I could learn to share about it? I am turning 75, my partner of a year and a half is 80. We are each in great health, but aware that things can change in a moment... and maybe for that, especially interested in thriving.
Well the reality is set your values And purpose is important to your souls,so keep your values paramount,enjoy all the moments,thats most important,Enjoy🎉 Add same joy to others as you do yourselves
High engagement low attachment…I actually finally stepped into a relationship with that mindset and wondered if I was off, yet it feels so right. Great confirmation!
How I wish both Jay Shetty and Lewis Howes were around when I was engaged! I most certainly would have seen, dealt with many issues…seeing the light and realizing I was simply with the wrong person.
-I’m now happily divorced after 27 year marriage and extremely blessed with two incredible sons.
Anne
Too many people are quick to settle into comfort or attraction when in reality alignment grows attraction and the partner makes you want to improve yourself and the relationship. You grow naturally. Nothing is forced. Finding your right partner takes time, personal growth, and commitment to that personal development first and foremost because otherwise you are just bringing all of your damaged baggage to another person. Relationships teach us a lot, even the imperfect temporary ones. ✌🏼
Two of my favourite people making a video together, I hope one day they'llhavea video with "diary of a CEO" especially since they're good friends. I'm there for it❣️❣️❣️🍿
"Take myself out on a date!! Love that!☀️🦋🌿and "self-validate" thank you both ☺️👍🥰🙏
Top 3 things I'm looking for now after multiple heartbreaks: stability, intimacy, and reciprocity
Can you please start a podcast together? The combo of you together is amazing! ❤ Thank you :)
I agree with you...Lewis and Jay should have a weekly podcast.
Yes! I wish I’d had something like this to learn from when I was much younger. Now in my 70’s I finally am valuing myself
Relationships are not easy! We all have our lessons to learn. The best advice I would give is just focus on yourself, the more you understand who you are, What your values and beliefs are, It’s difficult to know what you want in a relationship if you haven’t healed from past wounds and moved on.
It took me years to really understand who I am. What’s meant for you will align. Trust in the universe. There’s someone out there for everyone, Be good to yourself any others. Happiness is something everybody should have,
yesss !! my value in relationships in this time is to explore, grow, nourish , and embody weather that be in love for ourselves for eachother and or in community !!
its cultivating this peace and serenity in love for everything that we get to experience ! individually and in unity !!
YES it is Possible!! I can't imagine myself with anyone else....only been with ONE man for 31 years.
Relationships have their own challenges but during my marriage I have had no desire to be sexual with anyone else. I know...kind of weird but TRUE.❤️
Easier for women
Not weird but morally great ! This world lives wickedly so you'll see a lot of people live different then you . Don't ever sway from who you are ❤
Yesssss... figuring out your purpose... knowing what you value... foundation to a great relationship for yourself and for your partner. ✌️
The struggles of marriage and kids is not an excuse you’ll never understand until you live it. I love the idea of renewing your relationship regularly the scary part is what happens when you reach that point where you don’t feel like it’s going to go any further but now you have a family together in a life together that’s the advice I want
I reached that point at 15yrs and 2 beautiful children but the relationship was going nowhere with nothing in common. Now we're divorced and I'm happier.
This guy doesn't have kids ..... But has a lot to say
You stfu and be a good wife and good mother. Why did you even marry in the first place? Dam
My parents had two kids and split when I was 4 years old. My dad wasn’t really in my life. I’m 28 now and my mom and I always talk about this subject. Our thoughts are that we think a broken unhappy and dysfunctional marriage is more harmful to the kids then splitting and co-parenting in a healthy way. The reality is that most relationships and marriages don’t work out 🤷🏽♂️. Your kids will understand when they get older. Splitting up is not then end of the world, and anyone can adapt to anything… life is all about change
Jay, can you please summarize the 3 Key signs as the title reads. I listened, but was not able to pinpoint these main ideas. Much appreciated.
Growing, Thriving and Learning
Awesome episode! Loved the ‘more engagement less attachment’ and ‘life story versus love story’ bit!
Jay’s comment on polyamory as coping with co-dependence, not being accurate, is spot on!
Thank you both for your commitment to helping people expand their competence in relationship! I ALWAYS learn so much from you both and I loved the back and forth. My biggest take homes today: check ins (is this relationship working for you?), you have to be growing yourself to bring something back to the relationship, sex gives you a false sense of closeness/try getting to know someone without it first. Thank you!!
It would be great to have a discussion about blended families since divorce and single parenting (and dating) is so common, but not talked about in society much. Thanks guys! You are both such wonderful role models!!
Love the way Jay explains with so much detail. Thank u guys for another great conversation.❤️❤️❤️
I enjoy watching the two of you together more than any other podcasts you put together.
You two remind me of spiritual brothers and you two understand each other on a different level. Sending hugs 🧡🧡
This was soooo good ✨✨✨ such an amazingggggg amazing conversation feel like I’ll be watching this one a few times to digest the gems. Thankkkkkk youu both for letting us sit in on this conversation 💫
The values are: growth, kindness, purpose, and joy! 🍀
It’s a waste of time running around searching for the ideal, there is no ideal, one and forever simple life. It’s not whom you marry but how you live with them. Someone/ something doesn’t give you happiness, it’s your choice to be happy or unhappy.
I believe life is a give and take. A relationship is a journey where you give support to one another as one moves through life with countability and growth. Not only with self but the fun with shared experiences! My simple pleasures
Love this so much. I'm excited for more podcasts like this. This has definitely made me think more and want to work on my relationship more than ever. Thank you guys, you are both amazing.
So true about the ability to self validate. I’ve seen ppl gg ard to get validation from everyone especially when the partner want the person to self validate. But when one is relunctant, it’s really tough to self validate. But that’s how it must work..
Less expecting to someone because you will hurts eventually, if will not happening to you the less much better and cherish everything when you both together; do whatever you want that's makes you feel happy. I've realize that you've stay to someone that brings the best in you, appreciate everything about yourself and not judging you the way you are and not giving you a mixed signal about his feeling for you. It makes sense, when you know that person is really attached to you or his feeling is very genuine or his intention to you is real; I'm not looking for perfect partner or someone because nobody's perfect but I want to make feel that his feeling for me his genuine.
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Yesssss!!! Such a powerful conversation!!! It's always a pleasure to hear you guys share your thoughts and experiences. Look forward to more versions of this "awkward conversations"! Love the way you unpack each and every emotion/thought and move towards the ultimate goal! I have always been a firm believer of falling in love with the same person over and over again, sharing experiences together and most of my friends make fun of that(they call me old school!). It's so refreshing to hear you guys speak!!! Thank you so so much!!! Kudos to you!!!!😊😊😊😊
Powerful, soulful .." what are the things you like to do together. And in which way i chose to learn things" !!! Bull's eye!! Loved it. I also wish to know from where should i get that monk training!
Not awkward 🤣 as u've phrased it, it's actually very inspiring. What has caught my attention is that we should always not only focus on issues like intimacy, peace etc in a relationship but look at it beyond the two partners. Great 😃
Everything that was shared by both of you was a powerful insight within self and how we think successful relationships can last.. all by honoring self, giving your best and accepting your partner for who they are and bring to the relationship. I’ve heard it said many times that a couple are TWO individuals coming together as ONE. Listening to this podcast from two well known male individuals made it easier for me to understand how important that concept can jumpstart and continue a loving successful relationship for the long term. I even felt comfort in hearing that as time passes and your not in alignment and the relationship ends, that’s ok too because having self love is what keeps you going and the love you carry within yourself will attract the right person❤️. Thank you both. Great podcast!
Great awkward, insightful, funny conversation! 💞 I’m a little, a lot, further down the road and on the journey but would love for you guys to have this conversation again in a decade or two to hear what wisdom you’ve gained along the way!! 🤗
I value to go deep with one person and he is going to be my friend first. We will make love with our minds first.
I loved the way this conversation had progressed. This year infact has been the year where I had happened to have a similar conversation with my mother and dearest friend on our dining table over a cup of tea. And I had happend to mention (being single for a while and having experienced a fair share of my romantic relationships) that I would want the relationship to be reviewed, renewed constantly, atleast in a span of 2-3 years to assess if its living up to the two people's expectations. If its helping me and the other( whoever's it's going to be with) grow and evolve. Are we still able to maintain a certain bandwidth of curiosity about each other.? Do we still desire each other intimately emotionally, mentally and physically? Are we able to be create a shared space for vulnerability where nothing gets pushed under the carpet? Are we still in track to renew the contract or we take some steps to rejuvenate the contract or even rewrite it for ME and You and We?
My core values as of now are Peace, Good enough Curiosity and Awe, Learning, Growth and a sense of adventure in sharing my life with someone who shares similar values, even a sense of adventure in exploring them, myself and our relationship.
A lot of People want to feel Valadation and Love where You need to find it in U. Haleluia Praise God.
i enjoyed how real and vulnerable that you both are and you both know what you want in your life that serves you and what doesn't and you are not afraid to speak up and speak out. High engagement and low attachment was huge!
For sure it’s possible to love 1 person for the rest of our lives!! I’ve met many people who have done this, it was a lot of work bit they did it. My grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles.
Love yourself first before making/wanting someone else to do it!!!
To me validation is about feeling supported . Should we not look to our loved ones or partners for support/validation. Maybe a short video on this? @Jay Shetty @ Lewis Howes