10 Style Mistakes That Make You Look Frumpy

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  • Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024

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  • @kathleensnow9836
    @kathleensnow9836 2 года назад +553

    My absolutely most affirming moment came 10 years ago when I was on an Air France flight to Paris and the flight attendant spoke to me, initially, in French. When I looked slightly perplexed (high school was my last spoken French), she immediately switched to English and said "Oh, madame, I thought you were French." Yay. Beige slacks, black and beige abstract printed top, brown leather belt and black cardigan. How lovely to be thought to be French!

    • @dancetheaterofnewenglandvi7757
      @dancetheaterofnewenglandvi7757 Год назад +21

      Totally one of my life goals.! Brava to you! Et oui oui, tres bien!

    • @semperfidelis2970
      @semperfidelis2970 Год назад +21

      You must have felt like a million and all your efforts were worth it. And I rejoice along with you.

    • @Lara-dfw
      @Lara-dfw Год назад +22

      I am from Belarus, and many Americans told me I am from Europe because I always dress nicely ))))

    • @edanacichanowicz1711
      @edanacichanowicz1711 10 месяцев назад +2

    • @poorthing
      @poorthing 10 месяцев назад +13

      I am glad to be an American.
      I don't want to be anything I am not.
      Tired of being typecast as loud, fat, no style....

  • @kirstenbakker839
    @kirstenbakker839 2 года назад +120

    As a 35 year old woman from the Netherlands (a.k.a. the Kingdom of Frumpy looks), I believe your styling tips are great for women of all ages - not just over 50. ❤️

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +14

      Hi Kirsten, I didn't know that the Netherlands was so frumpy now. I was there back in 1982, and everyone looked so sharp and fit. Well, the sloppy look has overtaken the world! We must fight back one pencil skirt at a time . . .

    • @alp7928
      @alp7928 Год назад +2

      Hello. I live in California now but I lived in the Nederlands for six years and was surprised to see how low effort is there, I mean I live in San Francisco, the land of frump but in the Nederlands was worse, I was in a small village in the north so maybe that's why?

    • @turnbacktime65
      @turnbacktime65 8 месяцев назад +6

      @@nataliamiles7109 BEST line ever. “One pencil skirt at a time.” I am new to MarieA. I’m binge watching. Saw your comment from a year ago.

    • @BahaiMom
      @BahaiMom 5 месяцев назад

      Yep no-one dresses up, even the bank manager wears jeans! My first New Year's Eve here at the turn of the Millennium, I was the only one in a cocktail dress (I was used to NYEs in London by then) and was so overdressed. Now I understand why when everyone is setting off fireworks and eating oily "oliebollen" you dress down on NYE. I seriously have had no other suitable occasion to wear that dress ever since!

    • @Timetravel1111
      @Timetravel1111 4 месяца назад +1

      Ha ha ohh noo I didn’t know that people were frumpy :( sloppy dresser in Netherlands. Well you keep being classy and sexy,share this lol
      Maybe you should do videos on how to look stylish and still bicycle 🚴 lol

  • @selectiveoutrage6617
    @selectiveoutrage6617 2 года назад +248

    I was at the supermarket yesterday and a man said, "You have impeccable style." I thought of you, Marie-Anne! I wore a straw fedora, an ivory cotton tee that I've had forever, Ralph Lauren linen-cotton straight leg trousers in a neutral paisley pattern (from Ebay), beige espadrilles, gold bracelet. Very comfortable on a hot day shopping. It didn't take me any longer to dress than if I had worn ripped jeans and a baggy tee.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +8

      What a great compliment! Keep at it!

    • @lynnettehardy4533
      @lynnettehardy4533 Год назад +6

      Here in Texas, I get compliments anytime I wear a FJB hat or shirt.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 Год назад +4

      @@lynnettehardy4533 I love it! My sister sent me stickers that said, "Let's go Brandon" and I put them up all over town in Utah. I've seen the "FJB" on bumper stickers here. God bless Texas. A long, long time ago, I worked as a Playboy Bunny at the Dallas Playboy Club.

    • @evelynbonner3908
      @evelynbonner3908 11 месяцев назад +11

      ​@@lynnettehardy4533Classless. Why are you even here except to troll ?

    • @evelynbonner3908
      @evelynbonner3908 11 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@nataliamiles7109Equally classless.

  • @dovebair
    @dovebair 6 месяцев назад +35

    I love how you don’t just say what NOT to wear, you’ve gone out of your way to show what a possible correct answer would be as well! How positive and thoughtful! Thank you for your work on this channel, I am really appreciating it

  • @nancy1445
    @nancy1445 Год назад +48

    What an inspiration! Years ago as I walked down the street dressed in navy head to toe, a man passed by and said "good morning sister". Shocked, I asked a friend if I dressed like a nun and she said YES! Absolutely! That evening I threw out most of my clothes and began rebuilding my wardrobe. I learn new things all the time and I found your channel a couple days ago. Thank you! I never want to be mistaken for a nun again. Avoiding frumpy is fundamental.

    • @mhtammi
      @mhtammi 8 месяцев назад +8

      I’m sorry that I chuckled when I read that. What a shock.😮

    • @b.comeau2597
      @b.comeau2597 5 месяцев назад +1

      Avoiding frumpy is fundamental! This is a great slogan!

    • @sweethearts4ever
      @sweethearts4ever 4 месяца назад +4

      One day I was dressed all in brown and someone thought I worked for UPS. That was the end of that outfit!

  • @orangesspain3623
    @orangesspain3623 Год назад +48

    Thank you, I needed this. I am 55 years old and work in a dental practice. This means I wear a uniform every day and only need clothing to go home. I am starting to feel like "why bother." Your pep talk is waking me up. Thank you again.

  • @bonnieabbzug
    @bonnieabbzug 2 года назад +164

    Hello Marie-Anne. I'm a big fan of your channel. I live in the Midwestern U.S., and today while I was shopping, a man came up behind me and said, "Ma'am, I am French. You are very classy." What a compliment! Thank you for the advice on style and elegance. It works!

    • @denisen.893
      @denisen.893 2 года назад +7

      Oh how nice. 😊

    • @esthercontreras3413
      @esthercontreras3413 2 года назад +5

      What were u wearing ?

    • @bonnieabbzug
      @bonnieabbzug 2 года назад +18

      @@esthercontreras3413 The pants are black, flowy, wide-legged. The top is a fitted button-down with short cuffed sleeves and a slight puff at the shoulder, two-toned white stripes. Black belt and black heels. Very basic.

    • @thereseclark797
      @thereseclark797 2 года назад +3

      I am a Midwestern girl too, Bonnie! It's so nice to receive compliments like that!

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 года назад +13

      My mom and her husband visited his elderly mother in Indiana every fall. She was very frumpy. She wanted to go to WalMart and my mom dutifully helped her look for clothes there. She wore ugly shirt sleeved tops with a tiny flower print, like bed sheets.
      Then on the day they took her to Indianapolis, my mom insisted on taking her to Nordstrom which had just opened. She bought a beautiful black pantsuit and some blouses with the help of my mom and a stylist. My mom asked them to do the alterations right away so she could wear the outfit to dinner in a nice restaurant that night. Also, if she took the things home she’d never get them altered. My mom also convinced her to buy two pair of good shoes which were far more then she’d ever imagined spending.
      She felt good wearing her new things and received many compliments. But in the beauty shop in her small town, the women were criticizing Nordstrom and the people who shopped there. They considered them snooty.
      She told my mom in the midst of all the compliments and women wanting to know where she got her new things, ‘I just kept my mouth shut.”

  • @SeamsLikeAGoodIdea
    @SeamsLikeAGoodIdea 2 года назад +57

    "What is a shacket, you may ask, Marianne? If you don't know, I'm delighted!" The delivery of this was 100% hilarious and awesome. Thank you for this video. It's brilliant and funny and a wonderful reminder to not give up and continue to elevate!

    • @stacyjomcdermott693
      @stacyjomcdermott693 Год назад

      I did not know there was such a thing until today🤣...I will run the other direction should I encounter one!

    • @lisahansen6014
      @lisahansen6014 5 месяцев назад

      “ shaver” just another ploy as something new

  • @TheLadymolly
    @TheLadymolly 2 года назад +35

    Marie-Anne, I am 63 years young. I studied fashion for 4 years. I love clothes and now days I can't find good clothes that fit me well. After not sewing clothes for myself for over 20 years- I started making my own stylish clothes. Classic pieces, well make they way I learned to sew in fashion school. I love classic styles and that is what I am sewing for myself now and I started sewing for my little granddaughters as well. My mother dressed like you, and now I dress like my mother. Good, classic and well made clothes.

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 5 месяцев назад +5

      I don't have your talent for sewing, so I've begun shopping thrift shops. Because vintage pieces are often classic lines, and superior quality. It's like a treasure hunt! And my deciding factor has become, "Is this effortlessly chic?" If it fits like it was made for me and I feel confident and classy wearing it--yes!

    • @margaretthibideau127
      @margaretthibideau127 3 месяца назад +2

      Yes, I have started sewing again because I can't find things that are stylish and classic in the fabrics I like. Most stores are selling the cheat possible garbage for fabric and design.

  • @kellyb.1257
    @kellyb.1257 2 года назад +34

    Loose dresses are airy and perfect for the summer..They are called Boho and personally I love them. They are flattering as they do not cling to the body but are flowy!

    • @WandaWojcik
      @WandaWojcik 2 года назад +5

      I love Boho, but there are more fitted Boho dresses. Flowy but not wide.

    • @maggiefisker994
      @maggiefisker994 6 месяцев назад +2

      Love flowydresses

    • @crazymelomanka
      @crazymelomanka 6 месяцев назад +5

      They are even more beautiful when worn with a nice hat and pretty strappy sandals.

    • @lisbethjensen8291
      @lisbethjensen8291 6 месяцев назад +3

      But the thing is , why look pregnant when you are not ?

  • @thereseclark797
    @thereseclark797 2 года назад +326

    I could not agree more, Marie-Anne! I hate seeing all these frumpy clothes. I think it's good to raise our bar higher and go against the grain! Stand out! I'm not 50+ yet. I am a woman in my early 40s, but your style advice here is universal in my opinion!

    • @eleanorcrawford9978
      @eleanorcrawford9978 2 года назад +15

      I would like to see clothes for the over 30s upward every store & manufacturers are all chasing children and teens it’s crazy that why women give up it’s the fashion industry that’s destroying our interest in clothes.

    • @deborahlaird4141
      @deborahlaird4141 2 года назад +5

      @@eleanorcrawford9978 thats why women need to know or learn to make their own clothes. 🙂🌻🌞🦋🌈❤️🌹

  • @ef5686
    @ef5686 2 года назад +34

    "Is frumpy the new black?!" 🤣 You help me change, laugh and enjoy it!! Thank you Marie-Anne! What a philosophy- elevate yourself and your surroundings by being chic: mindfulness, self worth, be an example, dont give up, dont take yourself/things for granted, so many positive messages!!

  • @bethmoore-love4223
    @bethmoore-love4223 Год назад +48

    For the past few years, I've been paying attention to your style advice, and I have not only learned a lot about what suits me best, but also how to pare down my wardrobe to only the clothes I wear and love to wear! Good quality, natural materials, mostly classics, with accessories like belts, bags, and shoes which bring out the style. I no longer need so many clothes, and I look forward to dressing each day, it becomes a pleasure, both for myself and others! Thank you so much for your channel, it really helps!

  • @lindajoanbieg
    @lindajoanbieg 2 года назад +27

    What a breath of fresh air you are. I have ALWAYS tried to dress with class. Yes, over the years I’ve made some mistakes, but I’ve made a conscious effort to look decent, modest and classy- no jeans, especially ripped jeans, no leggings or jogging pants, no cargo pants !!!!!! Thank you for this channel

    • @lindajoanbieg
      @lindajoanbieg 2 года назад +3

      By the way, I’m 63 and will not give up!

  • @ImCarolB
    @ImCarolB 2 года назад +13

    I love your observations but must protest about one! I have a brown wool buffalo plaid jacket/shirt that I wear as a jacket over a shirt or turtleneck. It looks like the old Woolrich 49er jacket. I can guarantee that every single time I wear it, I will get compliments. It is very flattering to my figure and coloring. I am very tall and have never had a waistline, even at my thinnest. The boxy jacket creates the illusion that there is a waistline about my slim hips. I think we each have to know our own figures.

  • @NYEmma
    @NYEmma 2 года назад +125

    I have been interested in style since I was a little girl, and now I'm older than you. Yes, really! :D I always thought I did fairly well in the style department but, at 73, I'm still learning things from you. The biggest take away I have gotten was to always remember, "If you don't love it, it's a non." I buy mostly online, so things arrive and I find myself thinking, oh, it's good enough. And to be honest, returning things is a chore. Bit this week, two different tops arrived that I hung in my closet. But after thinking it over, I am returning them both. Life is too short not to feel stunning all the time.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +10

      If it is not a wow, it is a bow wow.

    • @allthingswavy6420
      @allthingswavy6420 2 года назад

      Agree 💯!!

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +7

      You have a brilliant outlook: "Life is too short not to feel stunning all the time." Yes, that is how I also live my life, and it drives others crazy. They are content in their frumpiness and take it as a personal afront when I show up looking elegant and polished. Let them eat cake! I will continue to dress in an elegant manner each and every day and revel in the artistry of elegance.

  • @hollydewbean3248
    @hollydewbean3248 2 года назад +235

    You are absolutely right. I am surrounded by frumpy sloppy people. I refuse to walk around looking like that. I'm almost always the one people consider to be "dressed up". I do not fit in and I don't care. I'm comfortable in my clothes and I'm not frumpy or sloppy. 👍😊

    • @alexandraeverafter1015
      @alexandraeverafter1015 2 года назад +21

      Moi aussi! Ugh! It’s depressing to see sloppily dressed people. I have decided I don’t want to look like them. I refuse to do as the people in my hometown do, so I don’t care if I don’t fit in either and stick out like a sore thumb (in a good way, of course) at my church choir, for example. (People dress too casually at my church these days! Give me a break!) Proud to look presentable.

    • @marieleemcgill5011
      @marieleemcgill5011 2 года назад +24

      Me too
      They call me miss prissy, I wear it with honor.

    • @carolalvarez3925
      @carolalvarez3925 2 года назад +8

      Me too. Love fashion and looking nice.

    • @alexandraeverafter1015
      @alexandraeverafter1015 2 года назад +11

      @@marieleemcgill5011 I will gladly take prissy but never frumpy or sloppy!

    • @marieleemcgill5011
      @marieleemcgill5011 2 года назад +3

      @@alexandraeverafter1015 me too

  • @circumquentiam
    @circumquentiam 2 года назад +9

    I’m a 22 yo guy and this is improving my confidence just listening. Thanks Marie-Anne!

  • @robinr1714
    @robinr1714 2 года назад +43

    I've been waiting for years for style to come back--I love to see the stylish clothes women wore in the 40s & 50s. Frumpy is never an option!

    • @CFinch360
      @CFinch360 2 года назад +1

      Don't wait for others Robin, be a trendsetter yourself 🙂

    • @LoveToLearn03
      @LoveToLearn03 2 года назад +3

      I’m grateful I learned to sew and have sewing patterns from the 40s and 50s that I inherited from my aunts.

    • @b.comeau2597
      @b.comeau2597 3 месяца назад

      The clothes from the 1940s-50s era were so lovely and well made.

  • @grandmaoldschool7011
    @grandmaoldschool7011 6 месяцев назад +10

    Love cotton clothing. Polyester fabric is so common, so cheap looking, and so sweaty.

    • @Shannon-tn2vm
      @Shannon-tn2vm 4 месяца назад +2

      I agree. I wear Cotton, linen and wool.

  • @gabrielafranze1805
    @gabrielafranze1805 2 года назад +10

    Szia, Marie-Anne from a hungarian 60-years old (young) grandma, living in cold old Germany.
    You are my inspiration for years. Let me say thank you for your time, your work, support and scale. I became another woman since I see your podcasts and I am feeling sooooooooo good with you

  • @sherrycatanese4312
    @sherrycatanese4312 2 года назад +6

    Marie-Anne…hooray! So pleased you addressed the ladies who’ve given up! I’m 70 now I have 7 grown children, I didn’t work outside the home after I had them, so I didn’t have a work wardrobe I dressed to please me & to look my role as a mother & very importantly as a wife! My dear husband often compliments me & he also works at keeping up his looks & style. Now as a grandmother of 15 , I also need to look at my role in life & dress accordingly. Being stylish is having respect for yourself first of all & as you said for those around us. People do notice. Many clothes are of nice fabric and are very comfortable these days. Let’s be feminine & look feminine & be proud of it, and feel happy!

  • @caroloshea7830
    @caroloshea7830 2 года назад +42

    Love the term "Dump the frump."
    As a resident of Queensland Australia I have to admit I am surrounded by style that is too casual. It's partly because of the warm climate but that is never an excuse. Making an effort always makes one feel more confident.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +6

      Yes, making excuses not to look elegant is too easy. I lived in Henderson, Nevada and Sun City, Arizona--well into 115 in the summer for months--and I always wore a linen blazer, high heels, and elegant skirts or pants. And don't forget your broad-brimmed elegant hat, such as Audren Hepburn's in "Breakfast at Tiffany's." I have them in black and white and tie a long ribbon around them so that it hangs down my back. I always receive compliments on my dramatic summer hats, and they protect my delicate fair skin.

    • @caroloshea7830
      @caroloshea7830 2 года назад +3

      @@nataliamiles7109 Wow Natalie. You sound amazing. I love Audrey Hepburn and have watched Breakfast at Tiffany's over and over. I think those days of elegance are gone unfortunately.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +6

      @@caroloshea7830 Hi Carol, Let's strive to keep elegance alive and represent it each day. We will channel Miss Hepburn's grace and elegance through our efforts.

    • @melilifabulosa5505
      @melilifabulosa5505 2 года назад +3

      Let's elevate Queensland together!!!

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +4

      @@melilifabulosa5505 Glad that you have a partner to help you elevate Queensland. Anyone out there who wants to help elevate Utah? The peasant/Little house on the Prairie dresses reign supreme here: the Frump Factor.

  • @shereeholland172
    @shereeholland172 2 года назад +44

    Yes Marie! I wholeheartedly agree with your recommendations. I'm 60, and I go to the shops and hardly see anything really stylish to wear. Too many cheap looking shapeless outfits or dowdy colours for older ladies. I much prefer vintage tailored jackets and vintage jeans and jewellery. Oh, and scarves ... lots of them! They can really elevate an outfit. I also like polka dots but used sparingly. Definitely not too much leopard print either!!! Hi from Australia!

    • @Ellsped10
      @Ellsped10 2 года назад +2

      I agree with you and have found that I’d rather shop at the clearance section of high end stores than elsewhere! First of all they bring better quality clothes a and their styles are much better!

    • @LindaPerry_337
      @LindaPerry_337 5 месяцев назад

      What do you think of the what do you call them? Umbrella dresses that a lit of people are wearing at the moment? The hem is on the knee or mid-thigh. Some people look so funny in them. One has to be very slim to wear these things I'm talking about.

  • @elizabethpetrie2732
    @elizabethpetrie2732 2 года назад +17

    I took early retirement nine years ago, and although I have pared down my work wardrobe, and tend to wear more casual clothes every day, I still always wear outfits that go together, along with (minimal) makeup, earrings, and perhaps another piece of jewellery or a bright scarf. Even when playing with the grandchildren, I know I’m dressed in a way that makes me ready for anything. And while it’s certainly respectful to others to look our best, I feel it’s even more a matter of self-respect. I’ve reached the moment where “je me sens bien dans la peau.” And I like it!

  • @lorilagerstrom4123
    @lorilagerstrom4123 2 года назад +22

    YES! Marie-Anne - Why should we copy “low standards”?? We want to be the BEST we can be!!!👌😁❤️. Thank you for helping us RAISE our standards!!❤️

  • @delythdavies4907
    @delythdavies4907 2 года назад +175

    It is so wonderful to have somebody speak up for style. I am rarely tempted to buy clothes these days as most of what is in the fashion stores are really awful. As you said, shapeless tiered maxi dresses, wide cropped pants, and horrid bulky sandals. I would rather wear what I have in my wardrobe. Can you imagine future generations looking back at the present fashion? They will have a real laugh. Love your videos, Marie-Anne.

    • @alexandraeverafter1015
      @alexandraeverafter1015 2 года назад +16

      I agree! I recently went to Macy’s and came home empty-handed because I didn’t like anything, including chunky shoes, shapeless dresses, and wide cropped pants. (I am petite, so they all look horrible on me.) I didn’t even find anything at my most recent trip to Nordstrom either. I like the current wardrobe on me. I agree people in future generations will have a good laugh at the current fashion trends.

    • @melaniemaloney5857
      @melaniemaloney5857 2 года назад +15

      I'm old enough to remember the 70's. I can already look back and laugh.

    • @ivanahanus5101
      @ivanahanus5101 2 года назад +9

      @@alexandraeverafter1015 I live in South Africa and here too the shops have horrible frumpy clothes at the moment. I walked out very disappointed. I am also petite and find it difficult to get nice clothes this year.

    • @sarahrosen4985
      @sarahrosen4985 2 года назад +12

      It isn't just us women over 50. My daughters, 25 & 27, are already having trouble with the current footwear. We went shopping last week for flat, black, leather, strappy sandals which can look professional enough for an office job and comfortable and low key enough for walking outside on cobblestones all day in 38C heat. In short, something they can put on in the morning and be ready for everything the day brings. They couldn't find anything. They asked, "Where are the good shoes?!" They don't want to be stuck with Havianas.

    • @daphnepearce9411
      @daphnepearce9411 2 года назад +3

      @@melaniemaloney5857 Me too! But I look back and absolutely cringe, remember disco??

  • @g.970
    @g.970 Год назад +6

    Love this video. In high school I was voted ‘best dressed’. At the time I made all my clothes myself, started at age 8. The local shoe store said his sales went down dramatically when I moved away for college. Guess I was an influencer before social media ( class of 1967!).
    I still dress up when I am leaving the house. I get compliments on my style all the time. It’s never really changed: classic clothes rule my closet. Shoes are my guilty pleasure . But I buy items that are not trendy but classic styling that is always ‘in style’.
    People I don’t know put my age at mid 50. That in itself makes me feel good. Inside I feel 35.
    I’m visiting London and Paris his year and I know I will not scream tourist. I’m even brushing up on my rusty French which will never pass for French from a local but I feel it’s respectful to try to fit in.
    Thanks for your channel.

  • @kathyntexas1350
    @kathyntexas1350 2 года назад +13

    Listening to you is so much fun! I too have now developed the “what would Marie-Anne think of this?” I have also been working on my closet. I have found that I can now see things put together differently. I actually had some nice pieces but I wasn’t putting together my overall look. Today I walked into a business meeting and an English lady next to me asked “How do you manage to look so classy in this Texas heat?” Made my day.

  • @astorytoldhere
    @astorytoldhere 2 года назад +21

    This is gold! All the style "mistakes" you covered here completely describe our current American fashion culture...& I have just not been able to get on board with any of them! Thank you for calling these out & explaining why, in your characteristic professional, yet humorous, way!

  • @theauntithesis4536
    @theauntithesis4536 2 года назад +54

    Dressing in a classic yet simple style has increased my confidence and feeling of self-worth. Thank you so much Marie-Anne, for your style wisdom and inspiration! I live on a tropical, rural island in the middle of the the pacific (Kauai) where most people dress extremely causally, so I appreciate feeling unique. I actually spend 6 weeks in Spain and Portugal a couple of months ago. And on 4 separate occasions people assumed I was French because of how I was dressed! I was flattered, to be sure.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +12

      I applaud your dedication to elegance and refinement. I feel the same way and dress for elegance each and every day, right down to my beautiful, classic 3- or 4-4-inch heels. I am the only woman I have seen in Pleasant Grove, Utah in the past month--since I moved here--in suits and high heels. I refuse to lower my standards. Why look my worst when I can look my best every day?

    • @herecomesthesun21
      @herecomesthesun21 2 года назад +8

      This is wonderful! I think being assumed French is one the best style compliments you can get.

    • @renzo6490
      @renzo6490 2 года назад

      If your confidence and feelings of self worth depend on what you WEAR, and you feel like a sad loser when you take them off then you HAVE no confidence. You HAVE no real esteem for yourself.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      @@renzo6490
      Renzo,
      Elegant outfits can REINFORCE one's feelings--not VALIDATE them. There's a difference. Dressing with class and refinement reveals an extension of the mindset and attitude, conveying self-respect, as well as respect toward others.
      Numerous peer-reviewed studies in professional journals reveal that standing taller (back straight, no slumping) AND making an effort to wear a presentable outfit helps men and women during times of depression: their moods improve, and they can then recover faster.
      For those who rely on their material goods (clothing, jewelry, vehicles, houses, etc.) to VALIDATE their existence, then yes, this is pathetic. In fact, this is a very common phenomenon in America. Look at the preacher Joel Osteen with his expensive bespoke suits, his fleet of Ferraris, and multi-million dollar houses. His ostentatious display of wealth screams insecurity and low self-esteem, as well as a competitive spirt. In contrast, there is the well-known pastor of Saddleback Church in Orange County, California, Rick Warren (famous author of The Purpose Driven Life) who wears old, plain clothes and drives an old pick-up truck. He does not VALIDATE his existence and self-worth by purchasing expensive, flashy material goods. Conspicuous consumption? No, not Pastor Warren.

    • @renzo6490
      @renzo6490 2 года назад +1

      @@nataliamiles7109 I accept everything you wrote.

  • @greeneyedcat717
    @greeneyedcat717 2 года назад +28

    You are so inspirational Marie-Anne! I have been putting together a summer wardrobe (I am in Australia so it's still winter) so I can make this summer feel special & fun everyday, and enjoy the lovely things in my wardrobe rather than limit them to a small number of events or special occasions. As a 56 year old I think I can claim the right to 'elevate' my personal environment & enjoy style with freedom & joy. I LOVE your "Dump the frump" advice & your videos make me smile!!!!!! Thank you!

  • @fuzzy7766
    @fuzzy7766 2 года назад +60

    When I was working as an engineer and would go to a new program, I noticed within a few months all the other ladies in the department would be much more stylish. They were emulating me, I was so happy! Don’t copy frumpy, let frumpy copy you. Marie-Anne in the baby onesie - ROTFL!!! Just bought your two books and style journal. Can’t wait. Already I have greatly improved my retirement style, which had me baffled for a few years, just from following you on RUclips and eliminating bad examples. Thank you so much. You are very motivating.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +9

      Fuzzy, I love your mantra: "Don't copy frumpy; let frumpy copy you." I feel the same way. I love to dress in an elegant manner at age 64 and wear 3- or 4-inch heels each day, easily and with a quick step. Let others elevate their style. I am not going to shrink myself so that they feel less intimidated; this is not enlightening.

  • @yourfrenchteacher6406
    @yourfrenchteacher6406 2 года назад +13

    As my Mum used to say “never give up!” Marianne’s advice is always very clever and never complicated. Always invest in quality! That reduces our carbon print and maximizes the chic

  • @susanfakhouri1950
    @susanfakhouri1950 2 года назад +50

    Marie-Anne, I love your fashion advice for women over 50, and your wonderful sense of humour. Thank you for your great videos, and I always look forward to seeing the new ones.

  • @DJMusicPruductions
    @DJMusicPruductions 2 года назад +4

    It is always worth making the effort. During the two year lockdown I dressed up everyday as if I were going into work at my college library were I am a librarian and instructor. No baggy yoga or sweat pants but colorful well fitted clothing. I was so productive during the pandemic. I produced work dressed in style and I am 60 years old.

  • @lintej
    @lintej 2 года назад +22

    Thanks Marie-Anne! I just love how you say it like it is! No holding back! I couldn't agree with you more. So many of the so-called "fashions" I see in the stores today are anything but fashion. I'm older and I remember when going out to dinner was a dress-up occasion. When church was a dress-up occasion. I'm afraid I've reverted back to better fashion times with no apologies!

    • @ritastutler1470
      @ritastutler1470 2 года назад +3

      I agree. I still like to dress for church..it feels respectful. People say why do you wear dresses..I think they are a one and done fashion and I feel put together. Thank You.

  • @pollychurcher8362
    @pollychurcher8362 2 года назад +21

    Merci Marie-Anne - you reminded me of something my father used to say to me when I was in my early teenage years. ‘Don’t follow the fashion, set the fashion’.
    😊

  • @manonsinclairladyofblairad9675
    @manonsinclairladyofblairad9675 2 года назад +57

    My mother and I tried wide leg, cropped pants last summer. When we got out of the dressing rooms, we both laughed! It was horrible, made us look big, wide and shorter than we already are! 😂

    • @manonsinclairladyofblairad9675
      @manonsinclairladyofblairad9675 2 года назад +4

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur it definitely was not for us. 😁

    • @thereseclark797
      @thereseclark797 2 года назад +9

      They don't flatter anyone!

    • @altitudeiseverything3163
      @altitudeiseverything3163 2 года назад +1

      I loathe cropped pants! Full length has been so hard to find that, even though I’m only 4’11”, I’ve purchased several pants in regular size, rather than my usual ‘petite,’ so they’d be full length on me. 🙄 Depending on your height, ‘tall’ sizing may do the same for you.

    • @annem3354
      @annem3354 2 года назад +5

      Same. I’m 5’1” and can safely buy cropped pants in a regular size knowing they will be full length on me!

    • @eileensilverstein5819
      @eileensilverstein5819 2 года назад +3

      I don't think that wide-leg, cropped pants flatter anyone, regardless of age or body shape. It is so hideous!

  • @elfriedeschmidt4033
    @elfriedeschmidt4033 2 года назад +9

    I am loving all your “no frump” videos. I often feel conflicted about what to wear. I like to look nice but as a long time retired grandmother, there aren’t many opportunities and when there are, I struggle wanting to look nice but not overdressed around others who are always very casual. It’s a real struggle! The world just doesn’t “see” women in their 70s as needing to bother (I’ve actually heard this said) and it goes without saying that the pandemic just made things more challenging. Nonetheless, you are so inspiring - thank you for sharing so much thought-provoking information. Merci! 🇨🇦

  • @nataliamiles7109
    @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +17

    As a teen growing up in rural Northern California, I longed for the beautiful outfits that I saw in the Sears, Wards, and Spiegel catalogs, but at that time, we could not afford new outfits. As a lover of beauty, style, and aesthetics, I longed to look stylish and elegant. Now, as a grown woman earning her own living, I am able to look the way I longed to look: classic, refined with quality clothing in natural fibers, flattering, and absolutely beautiful. Every day I get to live my style dream, and it feels amazing!

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 года назад +1

      I remember the Spiegel catalog and not being able to afford a single thing. Sadly, I’m not good at finding clothes. I gave good taste and want to look great, but have no interest or skill finding things.

    • @florichahal7668
      @florichahal7668 2 года назад

      Chic and quality clothes are way more expensive, and often not affordable in everyone's budget. And decent looking chic clothes in plus sizes are hard to find.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      @@florichahal7668 Because of the expense of designer clothing, I turned to thrift shops as a young adult; there were plenty in Northern California in the 1970s and even more now. I was able to look chic on a tiny budget. Now, I love to purchase used elegant clothing online in America. What a savings with Talbots, White House Black Market, Tahari, and other brands that I love!

    • @florichahal7668
      @florichahal7668 2 года назад

      @@nataliamiles7109 I have never checked out any thrift stores.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      @@florichahal7668 Hi Flori, there are so many thrift shops in America. Do you live here? I love using ThredUp, since the items are mailed to me, and they are wrapped in lovely white and blue tissue paper with a gold seal. Most of the items, even though they are used, look new, and I have been so happy with them. Thrift shops are fun! It's like a scavenger hunt; you never know what you will find at very low prices! If you do decide to venture into one, I would love to hear about your experience. By the way, your name, "Flori" is so lovely--very unique.

  • @carolthomas8528
    @carolthomas8528 2 года назад +149

    Marie-Anne is so right about the link between clothing style and general trends in society of behaviour, manners and even diet . In Western countries , be they American, Australian, or European one can see this dumbing down in every form of culture which will have a knock on effect with our general standing in the rest of the world . Even during WW2 women made a huge effort to maintain a smart appearance and maintain standards which, in turn kept morale higher . In these times, when easier living is taken for granted by most people, I look about me and see people who are badly dressed , overweight and rude . I strike a harsher note than Marie - Anne but it’s true .

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +20

      Hello Carol,
      Yes, I completely agree with you. Men and women in America dress in a slovenly manner and are actually offended to see people who dress elegantly. If you do dress in an upscale manner here, be prepared to hear snide comments and see rolling eyes from others. However, I refuse to dress like the masses of the Great Unwashed and maintain my elegant appearance.
      Yes, there has been a dumbing down effect in America; one great book about it is called Class, written in the 1980s. I have earned 3 MA degrees and 1 BA degree, and I have met people who are offended by these achievements: they cannot stand to be "upstaged" and pout like sullen children about it. In job interviews, I have heard insulting remarks about my higher education; they are so intimidated and jealous. Yet, they refuse to put in the hard work that it takes to be accepted at the best universities in America: the UC system in California, Stanford, etc.
      As for rudeness, I cannot stand to fly anymore, since many travelers are so pushy, obnoxious and rude--some are even violent. I would rather drive my car for days then take a shorter plane ride to my destination. As for how people dress on planes, good grief. Back in the day, we all dressed in our finest apparel and displayed our best manners.
      The overweight epidemic in America is growing (no pun intended). Ads in magazines and on the Internet attempt to depict an overweight body as beautiful, but that is dangerous: we all know that being overweight is not healthy; rather, it increases risks of cancer, stroke, heart attacks, and other terminal diseases.
      Thanks for bringing up these issues.
      Natalia
      Utah: Land of the Prairie/Peasant Dress

    • @sallyjackson6183
      @sallyjackson6183 2 года назад +16

      A person can be badly dressed and rude without being overweight just as one can be overweight, stylish, and polite.

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns 2 года назад +2

      Very true

    • @avarysse5782
      @avarysse5782 2 года назад +3

      This started happening to me in 2020 - being locked at my house, I got LAZY but over time started getting back to normal. I'd still love to wear jammies to the store but I wasn't raised that way & feel it's a siin lol

    • @misst.e.a.187
      @misst.e.a.187 2 года назад +3

      Overweight does not equal obese

  • @heatherinparis
    @heatherinparis 2 года назад +26

    Hi Marie-Anne.....as an extremely overweight over 70 woman I AM shapeless so some of the loose flowy things that look so bad on young shapely girls do look good on me. A nipped in waist on someone without a waist looks far worse than loose and flowy But even I wouldn't go with the tiered flowy dresses so comon today. And cropped pants are just a horror on anybody. Pick a length, full length or knee length or even shorts ladies. Mid-calf wide pants don't do anything for anybody IMO.

    • @americafirst9144
      @americafirst9144 2 года назад

      I think you can create an optical illusion that creates a waist. Wear a belt under a cardigan or use peplums.

  • @michellekelly2937
    @michellekelly2937 2 года назад +4

    I must admit, I'm one of those who feels as though they've "given up." Most of the time I'm just going out for groceries, so I don't feel inspired to get dressed up. I still do my makeup, but my outfit is always VERY casual. That being said, when I do make an effort to get more dressed up, I feel so much better about myself. How you dress really does affect how you feel inside and how you carry yourself. This video has inspired me to try and make more of an effort to wear outfits that will make me feel good about how I look rather than just ho-hum. Thank you so much Marie-Anne! ♥

  • @c80lan
    @c80lan 2 года назад +9

    Marie-Anne, I have to admit that I have two of those loose maxi/midi dresses, but I never wear them without a belt to give my waist shape and definition. I just like them because they are casual but look a bit nicer than wearing a pair of shorts or jeans on a hot day.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +3

      Yes, maxi dresses can look so alluring and gorgeous with a defined waist and interesting shoes, as well as a beautiful summer hat.

  • @CoffeeQueen36
    @CoffeeQueen36 2 года назад +5

    Marie-Anne, ever since I first heard you say the sentence: ‚If it‘s not a wow, it‘s a non‘, this phrase accompanies me with almost every piece of clothing that I buy and my wardrobe has improved significantly 😊 - Thank you!!

  • @nataliamiles7109
    @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +9

    Thank you, Marie-Anne, for these tips on how to avoid looking frumpy, shapeless, and unattractive. Why look our worst when we can look our best? That is my mantra. If it not a wow, it is a bow wow (dog). That is my other mantra. Looking elegant elevates our confidence, self-esteem, and moods, and it affects the way we treat others.

  • @PARoth2011
    @PARoth2011 2 года назад +2

    I have never watched a style video until today, I didn’t know they existed. As I listened to your message my eyes had tears. I always dressed nicely and put on some makeup my entire life then I became ill and was often in bed off and on for the last 10 years. I would still wear a skirt and look nice to do groceries etc but I noticed I started dumbing down my clothing choices lately. I think turning 67 and gaining a few pounds caused me to not care. I am decluttering my closet right now and will be looking at my clothing choices with a fresh eye. I am going to watch more of your videos, you shifted my perception and now I want to learn more. Merci beaucoup 😍

  • @minkyann8132
    @minkyann8132 2 года назад +17

    Anytime I want a new outfit, I always say to myself "will Marie Anne approve this outfit?". Definitely, I don't want to look frumpy. I'm 4.11 in height and I choose outfits that would flatter me. Thanks for the new video!

  • @virginiachapman3302
    @virginiachapman3302 2 года назад +2

    I so agree with you and love that you said 'Style elevates those around you!'. I feel so much better when I 'make an effort'! I am 73 years old! I have been married 50 years! My husband so appreciates my EFFORT! He feels younger and happier when I have 'tried' to look pulled together and chic! I wish I was 10 pounds thinner, but my oh, I see how 'trying' to stay a bit trim, I feel better and my clothes fit better. IT IS WORTH THE EFFORT! Encourage others with your effort! Your children and grandchildren will be proud of you also!!! I love your channel Marie Anne! Sincerely Gigi

  • @mariaceciliagoncalves4272
    @mariaceciliagoncalves4272 2 года назад +11

    Hi Marie-Anne, l agree with you except for the cropped wide pants . I confess that l really feel very well when l wear them.
    Love the way you present your ideas. 😘

    • @4MDH
      @4MDH 2 года назад +3

      I agree! I wear cropped linen wide leg pants with wedges and a tucked in fitted shirt and it looks very nice. Of course, since I'm petite, the cropped pants are not very cropped on me; more like ankle length!

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      Hi Maria, I would think that the wide, cropped pants allow air to circulate--very welcoming on a sweltering hot day!
      I love to wear body-conscious, fitted capri pants, just below the knees with high-heeled shoes (3 to 4-inches).

    • @kathleenhall6346
      @kathleenhall6346 2 года назад

      I have never seen cropped pants that flatter any woman. Looks like you’re standing in a hole. Excellent advice Marie-Anne

  • @TheJenniferhope
    @TheJenniferhope Месяц назад +2

    I'm an over fifty frump but still enjoy your videos, in my drawstring pants of course. 🐖🐷🐽

  • @catherinelai30
    @catherinelai30 2 года назад +12

    Hello Marie-Anne, I am from Hong Kong. I turn 71 today. Thank you for all your advice on do's and don'ts for women over 50. We need to look our best even we are aging. It help to lift your spirit and give you a sense of purpose.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 года назад

      Elders uphold standards.

  • @Watsurq12
    @Watsurq12 2 года назад +1

    Marie-Anne, I so respect that you are always candid and stick to what you believe. I think dressing causally results in behaving causally that I don’t care about. I value classy and elegant behaviors and standards. I refuse to be dumb down in this causal society and have been dressed in a way I like and don’t care how others look at me. I want to be feminine and classy and he way I dress shows it. Thank you for sharing your tips and advice with us.

  • @clairewillow6475
    @clairewillow6475 2 года назад +10

    I agree about the tiered dresses. It was a big trend last summer and seems to still be in fashion this summer but I doubt it will look fresh for much longer

  • @lisaseverino5114
    @lisaseverino5114 2 года назад +22

    Marie-Anne, you lift me up every time! I just turned 54 on ‘Bastille Day’ and I went out and bought a nice pair of jeans and a basic top with a beautiful neckline. It’s good to look modern and fresh no matter your age. Thank you for this video, you keep me positive and happy with my age and help me keep pride in my appearance. 🌸💖

    • @lisaseverino5114
      @lisaseverino5114 2 года назад

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur Thank you so much 😊🌸

  • @FavoritesPersonal
    @FavoritesPersonal 2 года назад +14

    Wonderful advice! Thank you for reminding us that we not only dress for ourselves, but for those around us.

  • @allthingswavy6420
    @allthingswavy6420 2 года назад +5

    This was one of my favorite videos of yours ❤️ Thank you for the humor and the strong message of "You are WORTH IT!" At age 61 I am excited to finally be expressing my authentic (stylish!) self. I am so excited to dress every day and I finally love my closet-of-tailored -and- mostly-neutrals Thank you for what you do Marie Anne--you help a LOT of women with your videos!!

  • @designlady1732
    @designlady1732 2 года назад +24

    Love this!! The ladies at my old job used to stop me every morning to tell me it wasn't necessary to "dress up" for work. I was wearing the SAME wash-n-wear black boot cuts, a blouse and flats at least 3x a week. It was all I owned! They wore jeans, sneakers and tees. I finally told them that I wasn't going to spend money for jeans and tees just to wear them to the office. That shut them up.
    BTW- Love your blouse! Is it available?

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +11

      I love your retort, Design Lady! I cannot stand it when people ask me why I am so dressed up and then sneer. Why look our worst when we can look our best? Let them elevate their style; I am not going to shrink myself so that they feel less intimidated.

    • @weebizzom1495
      @weebizzom1495 2 года назад +13

      Yes, this! I worked as a secretary in offices where I had to wear a suit, then I moved to a job where everyone wore more casual clothes. They spent more on their sports-style trousers and t-shirts than I could afford, so I went on wearing my suits, and I was “accused” of being too posh. Like you, it was all I had! I would rather be too well-dressed than not well-dressed enough.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +8

      @@weebizzom1495 Yes, let us not shrink ourselves so that others do not feel as intimidated; this is not enlightening. Let them elevate themselves.

    • @designlady1732
      @designlady1732 2 года назад +2

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur It looks great on you! Appreciate the tips!

    • @aprilgrant1957
      @aprilgrant1957 2 года назад +4

      @@nataliamiles7109, those comments are definitely "a thing." When I was in my 30s, I would get asked why I always looked like I was going "out?" Boot cut jeans, button down white shirt, white keds and light make up??? Boy, did I get the side-eye from some Moms.

  • @jenn8179
    @jenn8179 2 года назад +7

    I feel like it's easier than it's ever been to stay away from frumpy. So much information online about body types, styles and flattering colors. So much good information out there, Ladies! Don't give up! 🤩

  • @musicmom614
    @musicmom614 2 года назад +13

    Wonderful video. I remember that my mother and grandmother, as they got to a certain age, stopped trying to look their best. Consequently, they would turn down offers for family gatherings because it was too much work. They lost how to get ready for an event. I vowed that I would do my best to look my best everyday and not lose practice. Cultivate a wardrobe that would be well quality and classic. Sometimes a little fun thrown in. I can't tell you how many women in the area where I live in the US, don't even try. Sometimes I feel overdressed just because they don't. I like your advice on who do I follow in fashion, YOU. By doing so my outfits are elevated and not frumpy. Have a wonderful weekend Marie-Anne

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +2

      Cyndi, How sad. I am more energetic, vibrant, and healthy at 64 than my younger years! Getting older does not mean that we slow down and stop pursuing interests. I just earned my third MA degree at age 64. I will be embarking on a brand new career at age 64! I run and speed-walk 5 MILES (1.5 HOURS) each and every night, no excuses, no pain, no swelling, complete flexibility and high energy.
      Being older means I am wiser, more compassionate, kinder, and make far better decisions. Life can get better as you age!! I am living proof.

  • @antoniaz
    @antoniaz 2 года назад +2

    I bought a beautiful white tiered midi dress, fine organic cotton, delicate print. I added a wide belt. Bam. It's spectacular.

    • @daCubanaqt
      @daCubanaqt 6 месяцев назад +1

      Definitely feel the belt gives that dress some shape. A lot of people don’t even bother with a belt!

  • @tonyadevos9189
    @tonyadevos9189 2 года назад +61

    This was great. Thanks Marie-Anne. You’re such an inspiration for us over 50 women to put in the effort to be our best without going for perfection. You’re a breath of fresh air.

  • @lindseykipp9175
    @lindseykipp9175 2 года назад +5

    I am 5'10" and cropped pants make me look like I outgrew my clothing! Thanks for your perfect advice.🌞🙏

  • @janetlindley4465
    @janetlindley4465 2 года назад +31

    Dear Marie-Anne you are inspirational and always look fabulous. There are many lessons I can learn from this video and I thank you most sincerely. I will definitely be watching this video again and again as a reminder of your advice. God bless you 🥰🥰

  • @urszulaniebo5807
    @urszulaniebo5807 2 месяца назад +1

    Marie-Anne, Today I’ve just found your channel on YT, and I am amazed! I ‘ve watched several vídeos one by one:) and decided to declutter my wardrobe as soon as possible. But there is one thing I don’t know. My legs aren’t nice, I have bold ankles and clumsy legs - what length of skirts I shoul wear. For the very long time I didn’t wear skirts at all.
    Your advices for women over 60 are priceless. Thank you very much! Greetings from Poland😊

    • @MarieAnneLecoeur
      @MarieAnneLecoeur  2 месяца назад

      Bonjour Urszula and welcome 🤗 decluttering will really boost your style 😃👍 and has so many benefits. I have a video here that could help ruclips.net/video/3N03fnuIQyw/видео.html 😘

  • @gorgo1945
    @gorgo1945 2 года назад +23

    Every word of advice you gave us today is a true gem! Holding ourselves to a higher standard - daily - yes please! xx

  • @roxannesteed4675
    @roxannesteed4675 2 года назад +6

    wow- so true!!! I'm trying to find a dress that suits my wider middle, so difficult! I never used to have to worry about fit and size...but menopause middle has really hit and made that aspect difficult for me. It's like the holy grail to find a fitted dress (with a waist-line) that I can wear. I'd love a video with more of this for those of us that have wider middles. Thanks for your humor and advice! 😀

    • @roxannesteed4675
      @roxannesteed4675 2 года назад

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur ah yes!!! I'll try to find it! Merci!! 😀

  • @kathyhartsell4383
    @kathyhartsell4383 2 года назад +20

    Good afternoon Marie-Anne! Good to see you today! You are never disappointing in your videos! I agree with every point. It just amazes me that we have choices yet women make all these frumpy (among others) clothing choices. I think just because they make doesn’t mean I have to buy it! I’ve always tried to dress the best I could even before I lost weight. Now, it’s even more important for me. I call it self respect. Thank you for your wise advice! 💕

    • @amiedamish542
      @amiedamish542 2 года назад +1

      Oui, je retiens cette formule!

  • @irenehaugen6143
    @irenehaugen6143 2 года назад +2

    Merci beaucoup Marie-Anne! At 75 I still make the effort to look as good as I can when leaving the house. I simply never buy frumpy clothes, that way it makes it easy to reach for an outfit and know it will suit me. When alone at home, I don't dress up nor do I wear makeup. But if an unexpected guest knocks at the door, at least I know I am presentable in my "at home" style.

  • @lisayerace5578
    @lisayerace5578 2 года назад +10

    The “shacket” reminds me of what deer hunters wear on a cool day in the woods. 😂 And that’s where they belong! Great video! LOVE your option for wide leg trousers. I need a pair! SO flattering!

    • @lisayerace5578
      @lisayerace5578 2 года назад

      😂 Right? Ordered the linen blend wide leg trousers in white! Can’t wait to try!

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur Too funny!

  • @sueclayton564
    @sueclayton564 2 года назад +1

    Ohh all so agree. I have not bought a summer dress this year principally because I have not seen anything I like, so many are a throw back to the 1970’s and my bohemian phase OK when I was in my late teens and early twenties.

  • @wannabe41
    @wannabe41 2 года назад +12

    Your video was both humorous and helpful! I think the pandemic has contributed to so many women (and men) looking like they’ve given up. Staying home, even working from home has relaxed the standards of dress and appearance to the point that there seems to be no standards left. I’ve even see articles saying that workwear has changed because people want to be “comfortable” and work so we’re seeing much less tailoring in workwear. I use how I dress to elevate my mood and tell the world that I have not given up!

  • @acustomer7216
    @acustomer7216 2 года назад +2

    Agree with her words and examples 100%. Deduct 25% for the 1990s Thrift store outfit she's wearing in the video.

  • @kimberlyperrotis8962
    @kimberlyperrotis8962 2 года назад +5

    Why not give up? Because feeling beautiful and stylish is one of the best gifts a woman can give herself. Nothing boosts seem-esteem more! My simple tip to look long longer, leaner, better-proportioned, and younger: tuck in those tops! Don’t buy any more long ones, ending below the hip bone, I had to give up on all those mature brands for this reason. About 20 years ago, I analyzed why I never felt good in most of my outfits, the one thing they had in common was the long tops, they make legs look stumpy. Don’t worry about a round tummy, we al, have those, tuck tops in anyway. Tops hanging over a tummy only emphasize the tummy.

    • @herecomesthesun21
      @herecomesthesun21 2 года назад +1

      I agree! I Have come to same conclusion. Even if you have a round tummy, the overall look still usually looks better tucked in. Lately I've accepted my tummy more and done that & felt much better. We are women and very few women have a flat tummy from their 40's onwards. 😊

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      I have accepted that at age 64, I have control over my body, and I got rid of my tummy by daily 5-mile runs/speed-walks and 30 minutes of floor exercises including 100 push-ups. No more tummy. Is the two hours of working out worth it? Yes! Cutting down on abdominal fat also decreases our risk of heart attack. Plus, I love looking trim and fit. I don't miss the gut.

  • @he2548
    @he2548 Год назад +2

    Oh, Marie-Anne! There are SO many RUclips channels out there... yet stick with you for your solid advice I respect your views as they are timeless and they make sense! You are a voice of reason in a jungle of social media.

  • @laurahuddleston6285
    @laurahuddleston6285 2 года назад +10

    "If it's not a wow, it's a non!" has helped me so much with decluttering my closet. It is still a work in progress, but thanks to your videos and your Tidy Closet book, I am getting there much faster than I would have on my own! Thanks so much!

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +2

      If it's not a wow, then it's a bow wow. That's my mantra!

  • @turnbacktime65
    @turnbacktime65 8 месяцев назад +3

    Marie-Anne, I have now watched 20, yes!, 20 of your videos. Thank you for the education, the reminder not to give up and for reinforcing fashion sense. I feel more like myself when I indulge my lifelong love of fashion.

    • @MarieAnneLecoeur
      @MarieAnneLecoeur  8 месяцев назад

      You are very welcome 🤗 I am vary happy my channel resonates with you - your passion will keep your style journey alive and well 😘

  • @joan8178
    @joan8178 Год назад +17

    Years ago my male friend told me about meeting an old girlfriend. He was disappointed & described her as "50, fat & frumpy". Those words ring in my head when I look in the mirror. I'm 70 but love fashion, have a waist! and try to dress edgy. Not dead yet--or frumpy, I pray!

  • @mandycowan1927
    @mandycowan1927 5 месяцев назад

    I think you have no idea what an impact you have had on my life. I started following you and I can hear your comments in my head when I'm dressing. I have also lost quite a bit of weight. You are the one who helped me on that journey. Thank you so much xx

  • @jfvk9916
    @jfvk9916 2 года назад +3

    My style role model? Carol Burnett. She's never shabby. She is always chic and fabulous.

  • @marialively9673
    @marialively9673 2 года назад

    I'm in my late 30's and my style role models were a few popular French ladies (I prefer not to name them). However I soon realized that most of them have very different body type than me and also show a bit more skin than what I am comfortable with for myself, which doesn't necessarily look cheap for a lady that is thin but with my hourglass body doesn't look modest at all. So, I'm trying to find the right balance between effortless yet stylish and classy/ modest at the same time. Your videos have helped me so much dear Marie-Anne! Thank you! ❤️

  • @Venus77x
    @Venus77x 2 года назад +3

    I really enjoyed this video Marie Anne. I feel very sorry for people who 'give up' it's one of two things, very low self esteem which I do think needs addressing or which may be seen as laziness, but is in fact a different issue closely linked to habit formed negative views of oneself, or even health issues at certain times in life, which also needs addressing as usually there are underlying psychological reasons or even physical causes, where if we don't 'feel' good we don't make the best of ourselves. I do think you make a very good mentor, because you motivate people to get up, get going and show up by making the best of themselves. We should always make an effort because it lifts our spirits and lifts those around us too and you're a great example of this Xx

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +2

      Hi Venus,
      You bring up a great point: our emotions can dictate our style decisions. Depression robs us of any joy in dressing. It is hard enough getting out of bed, let alone trying to figure out an elegant outfit. With depression, too, comes the belief that we do not deserve to wear attractive outfits. And yes, health problems can bring on depression.
      Natalia
      Utah

  • @judyshallstrom415
    @judyshallstrom415 2 года назад +1

    This is so great. I'm 72, I still make an effort and really dislike what I think of as feed sack clothes. As to why you should make an effort...it makes you feel better, smile more and have more fun.

  • @lindariddle2276
    @lindariddle2276 2 года назад +10

    I am 69 and always enjoy looking stylish and put together when I go out anywhere. I do not wear “ frumpy grandma” clothes. I do dress in a classic updated style that is age appropriate. I love beautiful clothes and dressing up. Even in jeans it’s hard for me to dress casual. I wear a lot of blazers and lightweight jackets in summer. To cover my old arms and because of air conditioning that is too cold in places. A third piece or a light jacket over a dress adds a hint of elegance. It is very sad that everyone dresses so sloppily. In restaurants or at special events people look like they have been doing yard work. A person must look like they have respect for themselves.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +1

      Dear Linda,
      I love your style; keep doing it! Yes, I agree, people in the US dress like they are going to the beach, a strip club to work, or to do yard work. How about showing some respect toward others with the way we dress?
      I had a job interview recently, and the interviewer--an older woman in her 60s, mind you--was clad in a sundress with the tops of her breasts all exposed. Good grief. This made me so uncomfortable--so disrespectful to me and others in the office. It was a school, so it's awful for the kids to see that at their school. No, I did not want the job after that!

    • @lindariddle2276
      @lindariddle2276 2 года назад +1

      @@nataliamiles7109 Yes I agree, I feel as you. It seems most everyone in the US dresses this way. It is very sad. The styles of clothing we see in stores is disgusting. There also no etiquette for behavior. My husband and I were trying enjoying a nice dinner out while the man sitting at the table behind us was speaking very loudly using vulgar language the whole time we were there. People let their children run and play during the meal and people are laughing and talking so loud we can't enjoy our meal. I could go on forever. The world has changed but not for the better. We do all we can personally.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +2

      @@lindariddle2276
      HI Linda,
      I hear you about the behavior, too, in America. It seems that bad manner/no manners are the norm now. It's so horrible that I have stopped flying; the airports are a cesspool of sketchy types who look like they have escaped from prison and act like it. I used to teach for a living, but not anymore: the children are too ill-mannered, and their parents are even worse. I earned an MA in Library Science in December--probably the oldest student ever at San Jose State University at age 64!--and am embarking on an adult librarian career in an upscale area of Utah.
      I recently moved to Utah, partly because the people here are more wholesome, law-abiding; it is much safer than most of California, my home state. So far, so good!
      Natalia

  • @1whitkat
    @1whitkat Год назад +1

    As a woman in my early 50's I am working on rebuilding a good capsule wardrobe. For the last several years I was stuck in a cycle of health issues and don't give a care. I kept telling myself I would wait until I was healthier, until I lost the excess weight. Then I moved to a completely new area, new climate, new people. It switched something in my head. You have to dress the body you have, not the one you would like to have. I sit in a wheelchair, I am decidedly overweight, yet I never leave the house without looking my best. I owe it to myself and those around me to put my best me out there. Be kind to yourself. ♥

  • @vassilikiyiannou728
    @vassilikiyiannou728 2 года назад +3

    Excellent pieces of advice, Marie Anne! I hardly understand why our society has given up chic and elegant way of looking and accepts too much casualty! We, who follow you, should keep the effort of "elevate our surroundings" by being classy!

  • @laurenclark5734
    @laurenclark5734 Год назад +1

    Everything said in this video resonates with me. After my husband died eight years ago, I stopped caring. I realized recently that I own nothing but sweatpants and T-shirts. I live in a small town in rural area but that’s no excuse. So I am starting to wear make up every day and I will have to slowly add new clothes to my wardrobe. I’m 64 years old and extremely obese. I’m starting to control what I eat and drink. I may not look like an elegant French woman, but I know that I can do better. I would never sink to the lowest common denominator in terms of behavior or education, so why should I do so with fashion? I can’t wear heels or anything like that, but I can wear something stylish on my feet. I will not wear Capri pants ever again. Thank you so much for this and all of your videos. They are an inspiration to me. You are an inspiration to me. God bless.

    • @laurenclark5734
      @laurenclark5734 Год назад +1

      @@MarieAnneLecoeur Thank you. You are so kind.

  • @beanieduchet2928
    @beanieduchet2928 2 года назад +4

    Marie-Anne, you asked who our style role models are, for me, Coco Chanel, Catherine Deneuve, Emmanuelle Alt, and now Marie-Anne Lecouer! 💕

  • @Lavenderrose73
    @Lavenderrose73 2 года назад +2

    I'm turning 50 in february, so this looks really helpful. I do prefer dresses, though. I haven't worn trousers in years, and I don't miss them! My father had told me years ago that he likes his women to "look like women," but he never had to talk me into it. I've always had a natural preference for precisely that. Every time I wore trousers, I couldn't wait to get back into a dress.

  • @yvonnesibbald848
    @yvonnesibbald848 2 года назад +12

    Ah, this made me laugh. Great advice delivered with humour and sparkle. I could have done with seeing this last year. I bought one of those layered shapeless dresses and only wore it once. All that fabric overwhelmed me. I also have the cropped trousers and realised they were a mistake. Many thanks, as always.

    • @nataliamiles7109
      @nataliamiles7109 2 года назад +4

      With clothes that had beautiful fabric but looked awful on me, I cut them up and made beautiful decorative pillows!

  • @patricialscalzo8483
    @patricialscalzo8483 2 года назад +2

    What a wonderful video Marie-Anne! Exceptional style and life advice. How sad it is when women want to give up as Jo said. I too am over sixty, been married to my husband more than 40 years and have two adorable little grandsons. But I want my husband, my children, and my grandchildren to always think of me as a classic and stylish woman! As well as a loving wife, mother and grandmere.

  • @crystalthomas3139
    @crystalthomas3139 2 года назад +5

    Marie-Anne I am not 50 just 40 but I found you about a year ago and love your videos and advice! My style journey is still that a journey but videos like this are so encouraging and motivating! Thank you for your time and effort.

  • @amandakirk273
    @amandakirk273 2 года назад +1

    I am a 53-year-old disabled woman, I find it hard to even shower in the morning but I always take the time and make the effect to look good. It makes me feel a bit better and I often get complimented when out and about. Never give up on you,x

  • @jackiec9285
    @jackiec9285 2 года назад +14

    You made me laugh out loud 😃. Very good information given with a dose of humor!! I love my wardrobe after following your tips for a while. I pretty much have something for every occasion without looking overdone. I add a few things each season

  • @valada1893
    @valada1893 Год назад +1

    When you’re put together it makes you feel good.

  • @poochie_connie5200
    @poochie_connie5200 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much marie-anne! Everytime I'm in a crisis how to dress up, I just keep going back to watch your videos! You're my Hero! 😍

  • @susannpatton2893
    @susannpatton2893 7 месяцев назад +2

    I so agree with you. I'm 54 and still dress to go to the grocery store. I do it for myself and how I look in them. Plus, someone needs to show these young girls how to dress. No leggings here. No t shirts in public No matter who or what is on them. Too many cute clothes to dress like a frumpy girl

    • @MarieAnneLecoeur
      @MarieAnneLecoeur  7 месяцев назад

      Indeed there are too many nice clothes to go frumpy Susan - you will love my new video out tonight 😃

  • @susanforet2117
    @susanforet2117 2 года назад +5

    I agree. Frumpy designs are so unflattering. I love the blouse you are wearing! Great colors and print.

  • @allykatharvey
    @allykatharvey 2 года назад +2

    I agree entirely about being influenced by the fashions you keep looking at. I find it difficult at the moment because the fashion magazines and most fashionable catalogues have become “bo-ho” (bohemian), or “shabby chic” (and over-sized) and are overwhelmingly full of models I can’t identify with. Please keep us sane Marie-Anne!