Something I did was just remind myself that I didnt want to complete my school life without conversing with my classmates, were the in the same shoes, maybe not the same struggles, or the same person, but we understand eachother and in the end of the day, are brothers. I would use to even be scared of speaking but I easily overcame it just by telling myself, "My school life cant be filled with memories of just me."
That’s a really great thought! And you’re definitely right. What makes our school life so memorable was because of the memories created with our friends, and definitely not the times that we spend all our time at home playing video games
I swear every time ive ever had the chance to step outside of my comfort zone id immediately overthink and be like "nahh maybe not, what if this or that happens"
Not gonna lie, I still feel that way sometimes too, and it’s entirely okay. It just takes practice and soon it’ll be easier for us to overcome it. The discomfort is still there, I still don’t like it, but I felt that it has become more manageable
I worked at a grocery store for three years, and a call center for two years, both with severe anxiety. It made it easier to do customer service, and maybe make phone calls, but making friends? Absolutely not. It is still just as hard as it was back then. There's a difference between talking to someone ten years older than you about their customer service issue, and talking to someone the same age as you about a card game you both like. Following a script for customer service does not teach you how to be yourself without being awkward, it teaches you how to be a good puppet.
what do i do if i don't have any close friends? i'm about 15 nearly 16 years old and for the past couple years i have been semi denying it but i finally have come to accept that i have no close friends, outside of school i hardly ever talk to any of my friends, and in school i only have a couple good friends but mostly acquaintances, occasionally i will hear about how a group of my friends did something together and I will feel a little hurt in my heart because that is what i wish to have. if anyone can offer some advice about how to make more friends I'd really appreciate it. I am starting to think that I am just a horrible person to be around, I'm not really on social media but i do occasionally text some friends but everytime it feels like i just get mostly ignored for days at a time, and even in my own family i am just feeling like i only serve to not impact someones day or just to make it a little bit worse. my brothers have moved on to uni and i am now just left at home with just my dad and I feel so sorry for him as without my brothers i feel like he doesn't enjoy my company as I don't really have any personality or plans/ stuff i want to do, with him or anyone. without my brothers and without any close friends i genuinely feel like i have nothing in my life pushing me forward. sorry for the rant I have gotten bored of talking to my ceiling at night. small edit, I've just finished the video, and i think the next video might just be for me.
Thank you for sharing your story! I can relate to your situation as I’ve been through something similar before. As much as I could give tips like sharing similar interest with your friends etc, at the end of the day, the best tip is usually when you come up with it yourself through hearing a similar story of another person as you’re the only one that’s aware of the true context of your situation. I’ll definitely be sharing more of such stories of mine in future videos, so definitely keep a look out for them! But if I really have to give a suggestion before then, it would be indulging in your own interest and growth. Often times, like how I used to, we’re too fixated on what’s happening around us, what others think, how to get them to talk to us and like us. But if we took the time to see why people are usually drawn to another, its often due to them having a life of abundance, an exciting life, a bright personality, and that’s all due to them focusing on themselves. So instead of trying to find ways we can please others, maybe we can look inwards and see what we can improve on, work on things that we can, grow as a person, experience new things, and naturally, people will be drawn to us since we have more to share. Don’t worry too much alright! You’re still young, and you’re doing fine. Keep moving forward!
I can quite relate to this video yet watching this gave me some inspiration and courage to try to make more conversations with people and to be more socialized, and yes this deserves more likes and subs ❤
this happened to me today. at an english comp where 1 person represents your school and i had a great chat for an hour and a half or so with these girls. mainly one my age, she asked if anyone had insta and even tho i do i overthinked it and said "ill come off as weird if i say i do and ask for hers" and now a few hours later i regret it, i doubt ill see her again but if i do(she wants to go to the same school as me next year) i will ask for it and remind her of this time
I can totally relate to you. Had a great chat with a few people and kind of overthink on whether I should ask for their socials. Now, I realise that if I can hit off with someone, I should definitely ask for it and well, if nothing much came out of that new friendship, at least I’ve tried. Who knows, maybe I could meet a lifelong friend. If I don’t, I lose nothing
Tousou, I can agree with you more i avoid any social interaction in my school year I am shy timid introvert weebs that find comfort in spending time alone in my room playing video game and watching anime. but when time goes by I relise deep down I want to talk but don't know how to hold a conversation , So I start to talk to people more and do a activity with my friend group or other.
I can relate to you 100%. It's really enjoyable just being alone in our own space and doing the things that we enjoy. But as time goes by, a part of us knows that memories were made when we're with others, but our lack of social skills made us afraid to put ourselves out there. I'm going to be very candid here. I made many mistakes during my journey to break out of my social anxiety phase, and was in so many awkward situations that I cringed as I thought about them. But that's exactly what brought me to where I am right now - not being afraid to talk to others and knowing how to hold a decent normal conversation. It's really all about not being afraid to make mistakes, and one day, you'll be where you want to be. Keep pushing my friend!
Thank you so much bro! Glad you've enjoyed it! Checked out your channel out of curiosity, and wow, your creation is amazing. Definitely don't stop alright! It'll be a waste if you do
I get to experience this a lot, but nowadays I’m just very frightened from the thought of writing to my old friends, I really can’t get to do it, but maybe I’ll eventually find myself in a situation to do it, thanks for the videos, they’re different and a great advice, you’ve won a subscriber, keep it up man. P.D. What’s the background song called? I really loved it
Glad you found the video helpful, and thank you for the support! I’ve put the link of the music in the description. You can check it out! Hopefully it suits the chill vibe I’m hoping to go for
He's still giving useful advice. Besides, social anxiety is something many have to overcome throughout their whole lives. With people like u and the other guy who replied I don't blame him for having it. But he's still taking steps to try and overcome his fear, like talking to people instead of avoiding them. That takes real character.
@@muscular777manwouldn't exactly call him taking steps to improve himself being a coward. If anything the real cowards are people who give up trying to improve after setbacks, but he kept trying to improve and face his fear.
Something I did was just remind myself that I didnt want to complete my school life without conversing with my classmates, were the in the same shoes, maybe not the same struggles, or the same person, but we understand eachother and in the end of the day, are brothers. I would use to even be scared of speaking but I easily overcame it just by telling myself, "My school life cant be filled with memories of just me."
That’s a really great thought! And you’re definitely right. What makes our school life so memorable was because of the memories created with our friends, and definitely not the times that we spend all our time at home playing video games
I swear every time ive ever had the chance to step outside of my comfort zone id immediately overthink and be like "nahh maybe not, what if this or that happens"
Not gonna lie, I still feel that way sometimes too, and it’s entirely okay. It just takes practice and soon it’ll be easier for us to overcome it. The discomfort is still there, I still don’t like it, but I felt that it has become more manageable
5:19 MASHLE REFERENCED! YOU HAVE EARNED A NEW SUBSCRIBER
Ok but fr, great video :)
Aye thanks! Glad you love the mashle reference! Not gonna hide my inner weeb
Just get a job where you have to deal with people or get fired. Fixes the issue very quick. Really not complicated.
That’s an interesting way that could work 😂
It will either fix you, or make your anxiety worse, thats how i see it, at the end of the day, it still depends on the person.
I worked at a grocery store for three years, and a call center for two years, both with severe anxiety. It made it easier to do customer service, and maybe make phone calls, but making friends? Absolutely not. It is still just as hard as it was back then.
There's a difference between talking to someone ten years older than you about their customer service issue, and talking to someone the same age as you about a card game you both like. Following a script for customer service does not teach you how to be yourself without being awkward, it teaches you how to be a good puppet.
I'm neither socially awkward, nor an introvert, but this gave great perspective
what do i do if i don't have any close friends? i'm about 15 nearly 16 years old and for the past couple years i have been semi denying it but i finally have come to accept that i have no close friends, outside of school i hardly ever talk to any of my friends, and in school i only have a couple good friends but mostly acquaintances, occasionally i will hear about how a group of my friends did something together and I will feel a little hurt in my heart because that is what i wish to have. if anyone can offer some advice about how to make more friends I'd really appreciate it. I am starting to think that I am just a horrible person to be around, I'm not really on social media but i do occasionally text some friends but everytime it feels like i just get mostly ignored for days at a time, and even in my own family i am just feeling like i only serve to not impact someones day or just to make it a little bit worse. my brothers have moved on to uni and i am now just left at home with just my dad and I feel so sorry for him as without my brothers i feel like he doesn't enjoy my company as I don't really have any personality or plans/ stuff i want to do, with him or anyone. without my brothers and without any close friends i genuinely feel like i have nothing in my life pushing me forward. sorry for the rant I have gotten bored of talking to my ceiling at night.
small edit, I've just finished the video, and i think the next video might just be for me.
Thank you for sharing your story! I can relate to your situation as I’ve been through something similar before. As much as I could give tips like sharing similar interest with your friends etc, at the end of the day, the best tip is usually when you come up with it yourself through hearing a similar story of another person as you’re the only one that’s aware of the true context of your situation. I’ll definitely be sharing more of such stories of mine in future videos, so definitely keep a look out for them!
But if I really have to give a suggestion before then, it would be indulging in your own interest and growth. Often times, like how I used to, we’re too fixated on what’s happening around us, what others think, how to get them to talk to us and like us. But if we took the time to see why people are usually drawn to another, its often due to them having a life of abundance, an exciting life, a bright personality, and that’s all due to them focusing on themselves. So instead of trying to find ways we can please others, maybe we can look inwards and see what we can improve on, work on things that we can, grow as a person, experience new things, and naturally, people will be drawn to us since we have more to share.
Don’t worry too much alright! You’re still young, and you’re doing fine. Keep moving forward!
I can quite relate to this video yet watching this gave me some inspiration and courage to try to make more conversations with people and to be more socialized, and yes this deserves more likes and subs ❤
this happened to me today. at an english comp where 1 person represents your school and i had a great chat for an hour and a half or so with these girls. mainly one my age, she asked if anyone had insta and even tho i do i overthinked it and said "ill come off as weird if i say i do and ask for hers" and now a few hours later i regret it, i doubt ill see her again but if i do(she wants to go to the same school as me next year) i will ask for it and remind her of this time
I can totally relate to you. Had a great chat with a few people and kind of overthink on whether I should ask for their socials. Now, I realise that if I can hit off with someone, I should definitely ask for it and well, if nothing much came out of that new friendship, at least I’ve tried. Who knows, maybe I could meet a lifelong friend. If I don’t, I lose nothing
@@TousouCaveman exactly i agree so much!
Tousou, I can agree with you more i avoid any social interaction in my school year I am shy timid introvert weebs that find comfort in spending time alone in my room playing video game and watching anime. but when time goes by I relise deep down I want to talk but don't know how to hold a conversation , So I start to talk to people more and do a activity with my friend group or other.
I can relate to you 100%. It's really enjoyable just being alone in our own space and doing the things that we enjoy. But as time goes by, a part of us knows that memories were made when we're with others, but our lack of social skills made us afraid to put ourselves out there.
I'm going to be very candid here. I made many mistakes during my journey to break out of my social anxiety phase, and was in so many awkward situations that I cringed as I thought about them. But that's exactly what brought me to where I am right now - not being afraid to talk to others and knowing how to hold a decent normal conversation.
It's really all about not being afraid to make mistakes, and one day, you'll be where you want to be. Keep pushing my friend!
This is why I hate school. If nobody was there, I would love school...
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Only 400 views. could not believe only 400 introverts in this world
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cant believe you replied
@@supercoo1243 believe it 😉
Relate ❤❤ glad to have found your channel bro!!
Thank you so much bro! Glad you've enjoyed it! Checked out your channel out of curiosity, and wow, your creation is amazing. Definitely don't stop alright! It'll be a waste if you do
thank you
Glad you enjoyed the video!
I get to experience this a lot, but nowadays I’m just very frightened from the thought of writing to my old friends, I really can’t get to do it, but maybe I’ll eventually find myself in a situation to do it, thanks for the videos, they’re different and a great advice, you’ve won a subscriber, keep it up man.
P.D. What’s the background song called? I really loved it
Glad you found the video helpful, and thank you for the support! I’ve put the link of the music in the description. You can check it out! Hopefully it suits the chill vibe I’m hoping to go for
@ Thank you very much. You deserve it.
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you dont even show your face and give advice to introverts wtf
Yes he is still a coward without knowing what he is 🫥.
What about you mate how are you doing in life?
@@muscular777man what...?
He's still giving useful advice. Besides, social anxiety is something many have to overcome throughout their whole lives. With people like u and the other guy who replied I don't blame him for having it. But he's still taking steps to try and overcome his fear, like talking to people instead of avoiding them. That takes real character.
@@muscular777manwouldn't exactly call him taking steps to improve himself being a coward. If anything the real cowards are people who give up trying to improve after setbacks, but he kept trying to improve and face his fear.
@@aquashuriken1634 you shouldnt give advice on something you dont do youself, are you delusional?