You're Too Much Of A Nice Guy

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

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  • @CultOfBananas
    @CultOfBananas 9 лет назад +234

    Better Lao Tzu quote: "care about the approval of others and you will be their prisoner".

    • @personaldevelopment3541
      @personaldevelopment3541 6 лет назад +4

      The Red Wolf so modern day social media, fascinating quote!

    • @neverstopaskingwhy1934
      @neverstopaskingwhy1934 4 года назад

      Even if ur a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur hornyness
      hope that help you out see her as person with no sexual desire
      ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it and get help

  • @latent1234
    @latent1234 9 лет назад +154

    “Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.” ~ Lao Tzu

  • @ejh2323
    @ejh2323 8 лет назад +156

    Being to Nice, is not a thing. I am extremly nice and loving to all. I get complimented often for my Kindness. I have never had an issue with attracting women. We should all be nice and kind to each other. The key is to not be weak. Being a nice person does not mean you have to be a weak person. Friends, family members, and anyone else I come across know me as a very nice person. They also know though, That I will not take disrespect. I believe a women just wants to feel that you will take care of business when or if you need to. ALWAYS BE KIND!!!

    • @mulder19x95
      @mulder19x95 8 лет назад +21

      I wholeheartedly agree with your answer I know this is a late response but what you said is true. There is a series of self help workshops run by Nina Hartley who says the exact same thing. Women want a man who is assertive, dominant, and spontaneous but treats them well. Women don't want a jerk but what happens is that the so called "Bad Boy" has the assertive qualities they want he just treats them like a jerk and the relationship never really moves past sex. Being (what I call) a good guy is totally fine. I'm a good guy I don't mistreat women but i'm also dominant and I don't let anyone walk all over me. I don't change who I am for anyone especially a woman and if a chick wants me to change my interests then she better not let the door hit her on the ass when she walks out. Being a good guy is a great thing being weak is not and I think that's what the term "nice guy" really alludes to. I never viewed the term "nice guy" as really being literal and meaning a guy who is nice because if you're a total dick all the time no way you will meet any women in the long term. Nina Hartley said it best when she said if you're a dominant and assertive and confident guy who treats us well we will stay long after sex while the dominant and assertive jerk will be pushing 40 looking at a single life. Weak is the problem and that's what "nice guy" means I don't think it means you're actually too nice lol.

    • @ejh2323
      @ejh2323 8 лет назад +11

      I love the response gentlemen.

    • @hemsfeldcustardale4005
      @hemsfeldcustardale4005 7 лет назад +13

      Ethan Hooten Amen. I’m nice and kind to everyone. But have an integrity as rigid as steel. You’re only respected when people know where you stand and don’t let anyone fuck with it.

    • @FalloutStrong
      @FalloutStrong 6 лет назад +5

      Although,kindness is often mistaken for weakness.I guess thats what sorts out the wheat from the chaff.If you be kind and respectful to someone and they disrespect and abuse you,they are scum and should be flushed.

    • @bgrod3205
      @bgrod3205 6 лет назад

      Ethan Hooten here..here well said thats the key disrepect!

  • @sanduk4456
    @sanduk4456 6 лет назад +30

    Corey wayne has made me realize why my relationship broke and what all mistakes i did previously, he is so awesome, corey reading your book and i m lovin it....

  • @johnp2647
    @johnp2647 6 лет назад +55

    A wolf who is friendly is not a problem... the problem is a friendly wolf who does not possess fangs necessary to defend itself. Be nice all the time but be vicious when necessary.

  • @jonathanpenduka7420
    @jonathanpenduka7420 4 года назад +9

    Your Book is so important in keeping you in charge and on top of the relationship. Thanks Coach

  • @christopherarmstrong2710
    @christopherarmstrong2710 2 года назад +7

    9:20 She wants you to be the leader and you to be the man.
    9:40 If you won't stand up for yourself, you certainly wouldn't stand up for her - this is why it's such a turn-off, because if she was ever in any real physical danger, it would become a problem. Women want the man to be their protector, their rock, their mountain, their source of masculine strength - that nothing can diminish you. Even if you're fearful, you'll still go after the things you want in life, despite your fear. That's what's sexy and that's what's attractive. Being unsure of yourself is a feminine quality. One of the things women love about us guys is our purpose, our drive, our mission and going after the things we want in life. When a guy doesn't do that and takes verbal putdowns and abuse, and doesn't stand up for himself she loses respect for him.
    10:20 If a woman treat you well, you reward her with your time. Women have to know that if they push you too far, you'll walk and never look back. For the nice guy, his problem is, when she pushes him around he just goes along with it - because his behavior is all approval-seeking. The only reason he's going along with it and biting his tongue is because he thinks it's going to get him what he wants.
    11:30 If she was ever to mistreat you, she wants a guy who will haul ass and never look back. She wants a guy who has respect for himself. When you let her walk all over you, it communicates you have no self-respect - and if you don't have any respect for yourself, then why should she have any respect for you?
    17:40 You've got to get used to moving on to the next thing - because when you get caught up in mediocrity, it's just like getting caught up in a shitty, mediocre job, where you're stuck 15 years later. You don't want to do that. There's enough people in this world that are miserable, overweight, and can't stand being with each other - there's a lot of them in this world. Most people major in minor things, the average person tends to settle.

  • @9391862
    @9391862 5 лет назад +40

    Wait, if she is with another guy, why the hell you want her back!?

    • @jamesm2135
      @jamesm2135 3 года назад +5

      Exactly! Good riddance! Lol

  • @victormendoza3295
    @victormendoza3295 9 лет назад +14

    Moving on to the next thing is a hard thing but I am trying it.

  • @zellcrs
    @zellcrs 9 лет назад +30

    Last girl I had a date with was like, "you're nice, tonight was nice, didn't feel anything more than friends". I'm not afraid to be like whatever and not talk to her again, but I never am able to be like, call me later if you change your mind. I think in terms of what comebacks I could think of, usually "not gonna happen" mistakes with the date were not really ever doing any compliments on her personality etc, not even the superficial you're pretty, never tried to hold her hand when making a point. I was just too caught up in conversation rather than trying to get in her pants.

    • @emregocmen9562
      @emregocmen9562 Год назад

      that's because you probably weren't attracted to her on a sexual level. Happened to me sometimes

  • @mrtruthhurts2307
    @mrtruthhurts2307 7 лет назад +30

    Basically women want wolves 🐺🐺🐺 not sheep 🐑🐑🐑 and we all know wolves eat 🍴 sheep

  • @iDiceKingkaiserzap
    @iDiceKingkaiserzap 10 лет назад +10

    THANKS YOU SAVED MY RELATIONSHIP!!!!! i found out it wasn't because of us but another guy so obsessed with my girl and he tried to break us up.

  • @jrivera8678
    @jrivera8678 6 лет назад +4

    All your children will have an awesome love life. Everything you say isn't bs and works. Keep it up!

  • @thinzki44
    @thinzki44 8 лет назад +14

    Make it an experience, that kind of girl is not compatible to you. I also experience that too.. I was in a relationship with my 3 months girlfriend at first she is so sweet caring and then boom she become distant to me, her reason she wants space blah, blah.... After days of giving her some space, my cousin told me that she saw her dating with other guy...After I know always asking her begging pleading,...I realized that its not good for a man to do that,, you know women like to be treated like trash, stop being nice..If you feel she is avoiding you give her space let her contact you first if she truly care for you if she contact first thats good if not start dating another girl that deserves your love..

  • @LiborTinka
    @LiborTinka 10 лет назад +32

    If I would tell a girl what I truly feel, she would immediately slap me in the face, call me a jerk and leave... and if I would do not tell her ... friendzoned nice guy. I feel like every move is bad when it comes to women.

    • @LiborTinka
      @LiborTinka 8 лет назад +5

      Alexander Delarge
      Sure, but you may not have fast enough reflexes to dodge her slapping hand.

    • @yannickfinesaute1521
      @yannickfinesaute1521 4 года назад

      Read the book and watch a lot of his videos

    • @michaelphilbert7288
      @michaelphilbert7288 Месяц назад

      If women have an easy psychological power over you, this is nature's way of saying you should _NOT_ breed.

  • @ronjohn862000
    @ronjohn862000 11 лет назад +22

    16:00 "I don't want to be your gay male girlfriend, we can be fu... we can hang out"
    Good save Coach! haha

  • @tommiegallegos5162
    @tommiegallegos5162 5 лет назад +2

    Yeah you have to compromise to do or try each other's thing. But yes stand up for yourself .If you have dis interest speak up .

  • @margaretbatson83
    @margaretbatson83 5 лет назад +11

    Yep I'm not going to be nice anymore. When your nice ,good and hardly complain you always get crapped on, at least from my experience.

    • @Sip28
      @Sip28 2 года назад

      I agree

  • @mananexus
    @mananexus 9 лет назад +50

    I tried your advice and stood my ground and then people told me I was being mean.

    • @doctorHOUSE
      @doctorHOUSE 9 лет назад +77

      Better to be called mean than a needy bitch

    • @mananexus
      @mananexus 8 лет назад +1

      David Lomax will do

    • @heyitsablackguy9553
      @heyitsablackguy9553 8 лет назад +13

      You're doing the right thing.

    • @johnmarrinez5932
      @johnmarrinez5932 7 лет назад +10

      Xavier Triggs so what you want and what you feel. those who mind, dont matter. And, those who matter, dont mind.

    • @gbone1812
      @gbone1812 7 лет назад +8

      that's because people don't like to be told no. They feel their needs trumps yours.

  • @CapAnson12345
    @CapAnson12345 9 лет назад +11

    I can't count how many times I was told I was "nice". The problem is that they always leave out the "...and I don't like nice guys". Hence.. years of celibacy. Thanks ladies.

    • @fantaclaus7053
      @fantaclaus7053 5 лет назад +1

      CapAnson12345 ... A lot of chicks go for the losers and bad boys.

  • @Eggsplozive
    @Eggsplozive 11 лет назад +1

    Corey,just want to say that you're doing a great job,i appreciate your advices and tips,as soon as i get a job i'm going to donate money for your research..
    keep up the great work!

  • @pietro160775
    @pietro160775 7 лет назад +4

    I love you man, you have been my master Yoda.... Peace man

  • @blaineshower6426
    @blaineshower6426 2 года назад

    Wow! What a combo!! Cory and Dr. Zuess!!

  • @DailyWorkoutDiscipline
    @DailyWorkoutDiscipline 2 года назад

    "You saved the best for last, obviously" LOL love it

  • @gamermasta525
    @gamermasta525 3 года назад +2

    After failing for many years in my relationships I have come to realize that sticking to one person's advice is never good especially coach Corey Wayne's book. It has a lot of good tips and helpful things but I feel like that is only one piece of the puzzle in order to find true success you must seek advice from many people not just 1. It's about balance and as Bruce Lee said be like water my friend. Adaptable.

    • @Rage-_-Quit
      @Rage-_-Quit 2 года назад

      Goes for everything really, take what works for you from many different sources and mold those pieces into your own personalized thing once you understand the basic idea behind it well enough.

  • @briansukhu4392
    @briansukhu4392 3 года назад +4

    There is a fine line between being charming/caring gentleman and a walk over subsequently women treating you like a door mat

    • @Rage-_-Quit
      @Rage-_-Quit 2 года назад +1

      Like someone else said, she always has to respect you a little more than she loves you.

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Год назад

      @@Rage-_-Quithow you do that

  • @victorward2049
    @victorward2049 Год назад

    Love is unconditional and I guess I spread too much that around

  • @KenRuan
    @KenRuan 7 лет назад +5

    "So you're stalking her on FB" LMFAOOO

  • @funnyegg
    @funnyegg 3 года назад

    Fantastic video!! Thank you!

  • @vinnithegreat
    @vinnithegreat 5 лет назад +1

    I wish i had the wisdom i have now when i was in my 20s. Thanx corey.

  • @LulaRoberts
    @LulaRoberts 3 года назад +2

    Great vedio.

  • @marcosirsav3860
    @marcosirsav3860 2 года назад

    Such knowledge at 7:05! Chef kisses!

  • @edsalazar4590
    @edsalazar4590 11 лет назад +5

    Awesome!!

  • @dereksappington8965
    @dereksappington8965 8 лет назад +8

    If you tell a girl that you're not into being friends, do you also unfriends them on facebook and completely drop them on social media, or is that too much?

    • @tyler7992
      @tyler7992 8 лет назад +15

      I would say just stop contacting her. Anything more would just be excessive

    • @fantaclaus7053
      @fantaclaus7053 5 лет назад +4

      Derek Sappington .....great question. Answer? Yep. Full nuclear, erase all evidence and channels. You're too good to be jerked around by these self centered shots.

    • @iElena8
      @iElena8 5 лет назад +2

      way too much.

    • @nateroberts6489
      @nateroberts6489 5 лет назад +4

      Too much. Before I found Corey, I unfriended a girl. She said I was so immature. She cut me off. I found Corey’s work and fast forward 7 months later and we have a date planned. She called me and said she misses me and she thinks of me all the time

  • @zig8925
    @zig8925 2 года назад

    What made me realise it's best to hang out, have fun and hook up were the thoughts; "why would you want your ex back? there's a reason it ended." Followed by "nearly all relationships end at some point...but that doesn't make them pointless"

  • @Fullrusher
    @Fullrusher 7 лет назад +3

    Which do you think is better phone calls, texts , or trying to get women to meet up face to face (regardless of which you like ) ?

  • @JayVincentFitness
    @JayVincentFitness 4 года назад +1

    Corey, why is it that many people say relationships are “hard work”? It makes sense that being with someone should be effortless. But why do so many suggest the opposite?

  • @juzzblaze9116
    @juzzblaze9116 5 лет назад +2

    Im either too nice or they will tel me im just not having sex if im mean but they friend zone me, im lost.

  • @MoveInSilence23
    @MoveInSilence23 9 лет назад +10

    M.O.B.

  • @barbe00brune
    @barbe00brune 8 лет назад +12

    Ive been on 3 dates with a girl and thing were going good (or I thought). Then she said that she would prefer to stay friend because she had too much work with school and everything. I asked myself why, and it suck! But now I guess I know why. I really fall in that "nice guy" category. I really need to change that.. Thanks, the video helped

    • @fearfactz1
      @fearfactz1 8 лет назад +5

      +barbe00brune By your message, it seems like youre the one who pushed/rushed her into a relationship. She would never bring that up if you would only Hang out, Have fun and Hook up and not focused on a relation.

    • @pzg2008
      @pzg2008 7 лет назад +2

      barbe00brune you dont know the material at all bro.

    • @irina3609
      @irina3609 4 года назад +1

      She was just not into you. Women love nice guys, but it takes more to build a relationship. You just need to find the right girl that will love
      you for who you are 🙃😉

  • @AYYYEEEEYOOO
    @AYYYEEEEYOOO Год назад

    This video!! I kill it with women but when I meet one’s I want I turn to mush…. This is the last year and relationship I do this in! You all read it here

  • @rjmurphyo0
    @rjmurphyo0 11 лет назад +4

    he does have great points. this has happened to me on 2 occasions. one time because I didn't show enough interest, another time when I didn't make a move! of course one thing this guy doesn't go into is women throwing mixed messages! if ever a woman invites you over to spend the night on the first date you know what she wants even if earlier she say the opposite. women are a confusing gender. it took a while but I know what women are all about

  • @carlthomas4041
    @carlthomas4041 11 лет назад +7

    Dude your a god lol

  • @AvatarEnd777
    @AvatarEnd777 7 лет назад +1

    Top video ever...

  • @georgepenton6023
    @georgepenton6023 7 лет назад +22

    Being a nice guy requires humility,and there is nothing women hate more than humility.
    "Susie, why do you have a black eye?"
    "My boyfriend beat me up last night."
    "Why don't you leave him?"
    "Because he is so sexy and confident."

    • @Sip28
      @Sip28 2 года назад

      Right smh 🤦🏽‍♂️ women love that type of stuff

  • @siulong1394
    @siulong1394 Год назад

    How do you take the nice guy out of yourself?

  • @simongatt9044
    @simongatt9044 2 года назад

    Corey is the man!

  • @bluerabbit1236
    @bluerabbit1236 2 года назад +2

    Treat the friendzone like a never ending drivethru with drivers constantly cutting you off. Once a girl puts you into friendzone, she’ll keep you in the back of the line while she keeps trying other dudes that she thinks she might have a chance with. So there will be a flow of other dudes taking your place one after another until she doesn’t even need your attention and validation anymore.
    That will be the day you’ll be ghosted wondering what the hell happened to her. Never let anyone do that to you.
    Your self respect is one of the most valuable attributes you can ever have. Without that, you’ll be a door mat for the rest of your life because if you don’t respect yourself, nobody else will.

  • @mysticz3r0
    @mysticz3r0 11 лет назад +3

    coach...can you make an article or a video about dealing with women who possibly go by the book called "the rules"...i know you've mentioned the book several times in your videos and might/somewhat know about it...one of the rules being "Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls" lol bogus

  • @anthonygauntt962
    @anthonygauntt962 5 лет назад +1

    In my teen age years. I talked to a girl that had just broke up with a butt hole. She broke up with a free a few weeks and said you are too nice

  • @aaronbarzel464
    @aaronbarzel464 6 лет назад

    Origin
    nice (adj.)
    late 13c., "foolish, stupid, senseless," from Old French nice (12c.) "careless, clumsy; weak; poor, needy; simple, stupid, silly, foolish," from Latin nescius "ignorant, unaware," literally "not-knowing," from ne- "not" (from PIE root *ne- "not") + stem of scire "to know" (see science). "The sense development has been extraordinary, even for an adj." [Weekley] -- from "timid" (pre-1300); to "fussy, fastidious" (late 14c.); to "dainty, delicate" (c. 1400); to "precise, careful" (1500s, preserved in such terms as a nice distinction and nice and early); to "agreeable, delightful" (1769); to "kind, thoughtful" (1830).Middle English (in the sense ‘stupid’): from Old French, from Latin nescius ‘ignorant,’ from nescire ‘not know.’ Other early senses included ‘coy, reserved,’ giving rise to ‘fastidious, scrupulous’: this led both to the sense ‘fine, subtle’ (regarded by some as the “correct” sense), and to the main current senses.

  • @chsp500
    @chsp500 7 лет назад

    thank you.

  • @nickb3001
    @nickb3001 4 года назад +1

    16:13 I've tried this before with an ex and few girls I dated, but they tell me something along the lines of, "oh, you're just trying to have sex with me". Any advice on how to respond? Obviously my intention is to hangout have fun and hook up.

    • @avve9001
      @avve9001 Год назад

      That's a shittest. Unless you are asexual of course you want to have sex with a girl you are attracted to. Call out her silly comment, say something like "yes, i am not asexual and you are hot" or "yes, you don't like sex?" in a playful and confident manner. Whatever you do don't say "no that's not true" or "sorry i didn't mean to be too eager" or "no, i am looking for a serious relationship", that's how you get friendzoned.

  • @damianflutey4463
    @damianflutey4463 6 лет назад

    Corey Dude.you are a fucking LEGEND

  • @ProjectShinkai
    @ProjectShinkai 9 лет назад +7

    your a genious

  • @godfreytomlinson2282
    @godfreytomlinson2282 7 лет назад

    nice vid

  • @RWaB7
    @RWaB7 4 года назад +1

    Forget all the psycho bullshit guys and find a woman that doesn't have all.tje crap in her head and that starts with hot or good looking women get approached alot and are spoiled in many ways, give an average looking woman a try some and only some are level headed and just want a decent guy . It doesn't always work cause it didnt this time for me
    She was average and over weight but she was bisexual and come to find out a whore but most average women are not. JUST REMEMBER MOST WOMEN ARE NEVER REALLY SINGLE. Merry Christmas gentleman my gift to you.

  • @drakecharles5108
    @drakecharles5108 10 лет назад +3

    How many wives do you have?.
    Could you make Beyonce dump Jay z, and go out with her?.

    • @westernnationalist1507
      @westernnationalist1507 9 лет назад +2

      He had a wife if you read his book.

    • @Crimsonh43
      @Crimsonh43 7 лет назад

      Western Nationalist I remember that part.

    • @MrLeonardino
      @MrLeonardino 6 лет назад

      Drake charles I do not think Beyonce is to his appealing.

  • @midwest_trucker8638
    @midwest_trucker8638 4 года назад +1

    "most people major in minor things"

  • @gabriele4267
    @gabriele4267 5 лет назад +1

    You look too nice and sounds too nice when you talk Corey, how do you change that, to not look too nice??

  • @kathleen1685
    @kathleen1685 8 лет назад +7

    This video is just a bit depressing.

    • @theredsea9126
      @theredsea9126 8 лет назад +4

      Kathleen Stallings nope not really!hehehehe!!

  • @Josephcmiro731
    @Josephcmiro731 8 месяцев назад

    So funny man

  • @Mindbender55
    @Mindbender55 Год назад

    Why would a man want his ex back? Lol

  • @amandanewbury7041
    @amandanewbury7041 8 лет назад +1

    I consider myself a feminist. I've lost most of you guys already, but I don't buy this "How a man is supposed to act." It's one of the things that stands in the way of true equality between men and women. If men can't act like women comfortably, it also means that women are forever expected to act "girly" in the stereotypical sense.

    • @humorheros9360
      @humorheros9360 8 лет назад +24

      You just have to understand that men and women are built differently, thus they act differently. It's science and has nothing to do with your feminazi psycho babble bullshit. All species, the males rely on masculinity and dominance, whether you like it or not... It's natural.

    • @noodleman1964
      @noodleman1964 8 лет назад +11

      Why would men want to act like women ?

    • @johnnysavvy4190
      @johnnysavvy4190 7 лет назад +4

      Action Jaxon well said sir.

    • @johnmartin650
      @johnmartin650 5 лет назад +3

      There isn't supposed to be "true equality between men and women" We are not equal and never will be.

    • @quantumgateway
      @quantumgateway 4 года назад +3

      Women all want equality, but when the boat is sinking, it’s all about let’s save women first and let men sink with the boat.

  • @Mysteryman-h4o
    @Mysteryman-h4o Год назад

    I know for a fact i been with more women than you