A few wards in the hospital I work at were depleted during Covid during ward changes ect..alot of the old toxic nurses left and there was just a whole pile of new nurses which has started a much better culture. The unchanged wards are just that, unchanged
@@daniellekaeufer981this one,,, can’t tell you how many registered nurses ask me to come by the hospital with ❄️ during their shift,, (usually nights, but theres some day ones too lol) I sure was at the hospital a lot but it wasn’t because I was sick XD 🤣 Yeahh… i don’t trust a single nurse, most of them especially the women to do cocaine all the time
I’ve met more that were certifiably psychotic. Found out my roommate was dating a janitor (that’s what they were called decades ago) who had access to the hospital pharmacy. They were stealing narcotics from the main pharmacy. She was short medicating patients & when patients were discharged or died she was pocketing drugs. I moved out reported it to the hospital. They promptly fired me for reporting. Go figure.
@@Practicalinvestmentsbro your gonna be tracked for this if you comment stuff like this 💀💀 but also then agian if you have an addiction nurse atleast yk their gonna have no difficulty with inserting mediation
Nurse here of 10 years and I have zero tolerance when I see nurses bullying other nurses. I shut that shit down right away. I love new nurses and love being a preceptor. We all were new at some point. I know they are timid and scared exactly how I felt. Makes me sad.
Also 10 years into nursing. Majority of my experience is in critical care/ ICU + cath lab. I will never forget feeling timid and afraid when I started out. If you do it right, new nurses (or nurses new to a speciality) will thrive if you teach them with enthusiasm and remind self that we've all been "the new kid on the block." Be kind. Be compassionate. Correct when needed... but do that kindly. No reason to tear an already nervous nurse down. Teach nurses to notice this or that, what to focus on, and explain the how's and why's. Set an example: no tolerance for bullying. Protect your preceptees. All in all just don't be a dick when training a nurse, ever.
This happened to me. I ultimately got dismissed because they didn’t like me. I am now in another nursing program. The first program took A LOT of money from me offed me in my last semester after a terrible COVID Zoom education.
That happened to me in nursing school. I was doing a procedure and my instructor slapped me. 😮 I was like whoa. You do realize what you just did was not all right? I took her to the office and reported her. And one of the questions I had was are your nurse instructors authorized to assault students? But guess what? Nothing happened to her. Turns out that everybody in the school were buddies and went to nursing school together.
I’ve been a nurse for 26 years. I’ve been combatting nurse bullying!! “Nurses eat their young!” WTF??? That’s is NOT okay! Destroying their confidence is not conducive to success. My friend and I spent many mornings crying in the car after a 12 hour shift. SMH! Nurses should uplift other nurses!!!!!
Florence Nightingale must be rolling in her grave. Bullying is bad enough in the corporate world. It seems horribly sad to me that nurses also end up with a toxic work attitude, bullying their co-workers. I'm so sorry that you and your friend faced so much awful stuff.
i don't understand how the nurse that reported you for tapping your foot didn't get reprimanded for wasting your boss' time, especially in a work setting where lives are at stake
Because many times the bosses and charge nurse themselves are in the bully click too. I myself have experienced it as an ED Tech oh...yea their is a massive click within my dept.
I worked registration in the ER whilst studying to be a nurse. Let me say. This was enough experience to change my career path. Those nurses were vicious
I’m in the ER so we have headsets so we can communicate, and another nurse (not any sort of charge or management of any kind) who had NO interaction with my patient in bed 12, tries to call me out over the radio saying “can you explain to me why bed 12 has their door closed?” And I was transporting a patient to the ICU so I just replied “huh” and as I was coming back to my section, I saw her leaving his room and closing the door! And he was neutropenic and wanted to sleep while waiting for his room to become available in oncology, so closing the door just made sense. That was the second to final straw that is about to break this camels back. I used to work in correctional nursing and I swear to you-the respect is so much better there I think I’m going back to
Yep I just quit my new grad job as an Trauma nurse because of bullying from my preceptor and charge nurse. They would go out of their way to humiliate me in front of everybody. I was cussed out and called stupid on a daily basis for asking questions…
Me too! I was in high intensity rehab for my final placement and my preceptor was the exact same! When i saw another student get cussed out on my last day that was the last straw and i let them have it. No one starts off knowing everything and being an expert in their job, we need to build each other up instead of tearing each other down
These nurses and the hospitals need to be reported to their state boards and then maybe change could happen. This is a National problem in critical areas and they need to talk about it in nursing school. Many nursing instructors are bullies and that is ridiculous. These issues in critical areas are where they are always in need of nurses. It’s not just because of the nature of this work. It’s the coworkers. Wonder how much this shit happens in countries outside USA. Good luck in your career it’s a great one overall. I have nurses for 30+ ❤
but please dont quit the profession...in ED I worked alongside some of the kindest and smartest nurses in my opinion...in my 6 years working as a nurse only had an Altercation with a resident and ED doctor... which I got immediate support from my charge nurse...YES bullying is real not trying to deny your experience..but thats not the reality in every department at every hospital....my suggestion is to leave a paper trail..meaning if it happens again..GO to HR address the matter..even if they dont do anything is ON record that YOU reached out and your complain felt on deaf ears..
I dont understand why majority of nurses do this?? Like we have a nationwide shortage of healthcare workers. Everyone is over worked and load of responsibility. Why not just be respectful to eachother and do your best at work? How do these people find time to even bully working 12 hours shift with 100 patients-!!???? As an RT after a 12 hour shift im ready to knock out. I dont have time gossipping, fighting, bullying, etc etc. These people need Therapy
This is because people love to bring their personal ego's and problems to the workplace and impact others to equal out the field in their mind. I am completely unemotional to anyone thinking ill of me, works like a charm.
Strange I didn’t have that experience most places I worked. Yeah certain hospitals some nurses were petty but generally we were too busy to be petty. But now days I have noticed a lot of petty and sensitive nurses in private duty. I don’t understand it.
@@MNP208 you know in my school there only student in school that was a hater cause she thought she was smarter than everyone. And some nursing teachers that were so out of touch it was sad. Instead of helping their desperate students by being good teachers and examples they were petty ( narcissistic I should say)Loved most of the students but nursing school was an unnecessary nightmare
My bullying started IN nursing school typically by people like 10 years older than me. I was almost SA’d by one of them too. Since I got away, she began to make my life hell in and out of the classroom/hospital. Luckily my classmates caught on. Why do so many evil vicious humans go into nursing?? SO weird. Has to be some kind of phenomenon. Narcissism???
I was a new nurse in 1984. My first hospital job was in a big hospital outside the Washington DC beltway. I worked on a CCU step down unit. My hiring supervisor told me “Just remember…There is no such thing as a stupid question, so don’t ever worry about asking questions.” It was a trap. I was a very confident nurse going into that job, but if I was at all unsure of something, or unsure of a policy or protocol, I’d ask rather than risk making an error. This came back to me as “seems to lack fundamental knowledge”….and “appears to lack confidence and problem-solving skills.” Worse than that, I worked night shift and loved those hours, so I went to work with a really good attitude. For that I was suspected of use of drugs “uppers/amphetamines” and had to prove I had no drugs in my system on a few occasions. My next job (after staying in the DC area only 8 months) was across the country and as a per diem nurse. I never asked questions (if I had one I’d look it up and never let on that I had), and I never let the staff see me too thrilled to be there (although my patients got the best I could give them). My hospital evaluations were stellar…..You’d think I could walk on water. One hospital even bought out my contract and hired me from my agency as their new med/surg unit manager, less than one year after leaving my first nursing job where my periodic evaluations were shit. Word to the wise: Keep your own records of disagreements (or bullying) with co-workers, especially those in supervisory roles. At that first job of mine I had a couple of serious issues with my supervisor and I started recording the details of those and filing them with my attorney. When it came to asking her for a written recommendation for my next place of employment, she tried to say she wouldn’t be able to give me a very favorable recommendation. That’s when I told her I had been keeping a record of our discussions, disagreements, and the bogus drug suspicions, and I, with my attorney who had these records, would be happy to go in front of a Board of Inquiry at the hospital and see what they had to say. She turned her tune a 180, and gave me an unbelievably glowing recommendation. Hmmmm…..🤔 I wonder what made her change her mind? Seems some things never change or may be worse, so protect yourselves…..keep records of your own, especially if there are one person’s word against another issues. Your written words will hold more weight than their spoken ones. I retired after thirty years in nursing in 2012. I’d like to think my staff, and visiting staff, found me kind, helpful, knowledgeable and respectful. I didn’t suffer bullies myself, and I tried to protect my nursing and unit staff from them as best I could…..even if they were MY superiors. If you are a nurse, be the best nurse and HUMAN you can be, but don’t be a pushover (at least not a known one!😜)
Male nurse here- suspended after 6wks on my 1st gig for an allegation of abuse, perpetuated by my trainer. I wasn't told anything except to leave the facility immediately mid-shift, pending an investigation. They called me 2wks later to come in to discuss. I told them I'm not going to remember anything after 2wks in the dark & quit over the phone. Now work in a different field. F_ them!!!
Imagine how they treat their patients. Nurses that bully need to be written up and action needs to be taken against them. My friend experience that in the hospital, when she when from a CNA to a R.N. They complain and got her fire. she didn't stop going to school, she's now a nurse Practitioner and still going to school.
In my personal experience as a consolidation student, my preceptor lied countless times- told me I had to lie or I would fail… had a questionable safety incident- I questioned the pt’s safety at the beginning of the shift - I was ignored… an incident happened, she tried to blame me🤦🏽♀️. When that didn’t work she sat over my shoulder telling me what to write regarding the incident report- imo she wanted to make sure I didn’t add that this safety concern was mentioned by the writer to her preceptor and could have been avoided. She was a horrible human being. I lodged a complaint with my school- I was removed and placed elsewhere- nothing happened to the preceptor. I have worked in the same hospital as her for years, and refuse to cover that unit when they are short. No one cares!!
I experienced the worst bullying as a student nurse, some of them were just vicious! Then I went to medical school, & had a vastly different, mostly positive experience. But I still see so much bullying amongst my nurse colleagues, and it baffles me why these women enter a supposedly ‘caring’ profession.
Somexs i feel like im too sensitive even in this field & its like wth. I def think ppl get creative in their ways of acting out & seeking attention. But i know they need help, so, i try to over look over alot of stuff. Somexs i just gotta laugh it off. Other xs, im just entertaining their -egos. Theyre just lonely ppl... & Co workers will still make it about them. Stop percieving me. Im just trying to make it through my day, hoping that my enviornment as well, ... Is pleasant. Not that i think ppl make it any easier on me in all their conditions. but i dont think my co workers unnecessary nagging & nit picking helps either. G i wish i could overly criticize others over things not really there & have all the right answers too. Id never hafta actually interact w/ residents as much. Somexs kitchen staffs will even get into it w/ me & im like no not u too 🤦🏻♀️. I mean, granted its gotta be way harder on them w/ their whole entire 1 role 😒... Who isnt getting a big ego? wth. That when i start venting it sounds so ridiculous. I know this. Believe me. But i walk into my reality on the daily.. & u too? Who else?.. Bc shut up! Also also im not that dedicated tho. Im trying to do short courses. Liveable, sustainable wages. & Im happy
Wow that’s so funny that’s u say that! I really wanted to go to med school but I have a little son no other family just a boyfriend whose mom helps me some when she feels like it ( rightfully so she doesn’t owe me anything.) I couldn’t see myself quitting work and maybe moving across the country multiple times as essentially a broke single mom. I started to nursing school masters instead and I’m terrified of working as a nurse because as a CNA, the other aides and nurses were so toxic. I’m going to go right for the post masters ARNP certification.
It’s even more isolating if you’re neurodivergent bc then you feel like it’s a you problem when in reality it happens to literally everyone neurodivergent or not. We just happen to be easier targets for these sick individuals
"Nurses eat their young." They cry about accepting double shifts for days in a row (they can't say no to management), then bully & back-stab new hires there to help them... Honest to God, I hope they miss out on their children's childhood/ I hope their children grow up to hate them. Kharma!
Nurse bullies are *masters* of being horrendously uncivil and rude while being technically within the letter of policy. I’ve run into it several times in just a few years in this field. It really is like High School all over again, and a good number of the popular mean girls got their RN licenses.
I hate to make this a race thing. But I'm gonna be the person that makes this a race thing. & I do bottom of the barrel stuff, mind you. Still, I see the scramble of the climbing the ladders & egos & it still drives me crazy. & I don't state that bc I feel low about it. I still think it's something meaningful. Like I pretty much tuck in all my residents... like they're burritos/egg rolls just like I do my baby 🥰🤗. No I don't. Ok, somexs I do. It's just, at least I am grateful I got my foot in the door. & Maybe I should stick my foot where my mouth is... & This creates a chance for doors at escalating myself. Depending on how dedicated I am & or become. But good gah, some of these ppl. I really don't understand how co workers can create so much misery out of thin air & yet be so full of themselves. Like we work w/ each other on the daily. None of us really want to leave if we actually like our lively hood. But do u just not like peace or what. Do u just wake up & choose violence or what? Bc if there was ever a time to accurately call someone stupid... legitimately, STFU. To be some image of the kind, compassionate, nurturing, understanding, patient, yada yada, they rnt always def not that. Some r good at faking it. Some aren't even good at that. Like you'll prob get to world star quicker than u will climbing the ladder. That's not racist. I am speaking on the experienceS I've encountered... Get ppl by themselves is 1 thing. Them as a group? ....... Ehhhh! & They will gaslight everything to the max, pestering u w/ small things, blowing them up bigger than what they're not, then try to play it like it's you While coming down on u like an army & idk how the hell some ppl don't even see themselves. That really must be took some courage standing on ur complete own & everything. Must've been tough. But idkw there's so many of em.... either. Other than they're a huge population but it's questionable or it's just in my realm of things. Aside from that, ironically, it's stuff like this that makes me embarrassed to be a female in general... Why don't we get along? Idk either but I'm not the antagonizer & I'm not joining no group just so I'm not the out casted. I'd rather not make my life, work... :/ I told my gay guy co worker that he was my favoritest. & The few dudes I do come across in these things r somexs the coolest.... Preferably tho., I do want them to be gay... But I told him :/ :/ it was bc he "wasn't like the other girls." Also that we must drive him/ them absolutely crazy
As a recent medicine residency graduate, I feel blessed after watching this; I never experienced toxicity or bullying during my 3 years of training (but I certainly did hear of others experiencing this). But the one time I did experience bullying was when a nurse called my handset at 2am complaining that I was late picking up a patient. She said something like “where the f*ck are you, the patient has been waiting 15 minutes for transport”. Turns out she thought I was her MA or CNA. When I informed her that I was the doctor on call, and that I didn’t know what the hell she was talking about, she apologized profusely. It was this experience that made me realize how toxic nurses can really be behind the scenes. Sorry that you experienced it as well
I’m an icu nurse an I agree with everything you said Alex. ICU nurses can be really mean some think they are the only ones that know how to think critically and everyone else is stupid
I’m new to ICU for 5 months and they kept judging me on my critical thinking and escalation of care, with occasionally one or two time didn’t perform well, and they made it like a super big mistake 😮
@@wingsumlam8405I blamed nursing school for all of this as well. We are 90% focused on books and how to pass the exam more than the hands-on clinical and simulation. My classmates know how to memorize meds etc but couldn’t handle stressful situations like we practiced during simulation. Others were had an ok grades but hold excellence on clinical and simulation (these two aren’t even part of the grade) just pass or fail but didn’t matter that much.
I was a new grad that got run out of an ICU by a Nurse that didn’t think new grads ever should be in ICU (her words). This was at the height of Covid where hospitals were desperate. The bullying was bad enough (publicly and loudly denouncing minor mistakes, backhanded compliments, general rudeness, isolating me from the rest of the unit, shit-talking me to other RN’s where I could hear her) but when management sent out an email that tapped her as an official “rising star” of the unit I requested a transfer out to another critical care unit the same day. I had no problems at all there. Management is completely blind to bullies.
@lasvegasnevada7514 I work in the Cath Lab as a CVT and I definitely noticed a lot of new ICU nurses freezing when they come down for a code. I think you hit the nail on the head
As a former critical care (CCU/CVICU) nurse for 40 of my 50 years as an active RN, I have never looked down on nurses outside of my specialty. I often marveled at how the Med/Surg nurses managed 8 to 10 patients per shift. I had every known monitoring device available to assess my patient's status. The Med/Surg nurse had to rely on her/his eyes, ears and hands to assess their patients. I've learned many a good thing from experienced "floor" nurses.
EVERYONE BEING BULLIED. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. YES YOU CAN. TELL THEM, "Stop talking to me disrespectfully because I'm not talking disrespectfully to you. Here to take care of people." That charge nurse was threatened by you!!!!
My mom tried doing this but got in trouble because the nurse bully was all buddy buddy with upper management. She ended up just leaving that hospital entirely. Hospital name drop below 👇 Larkin in south Florida
This is why I loved being a hospice nurse. You work in the field in patient’s homes and living facilities. You are on your own but it is liberating. Even though you run into people in the office and at meetings you are not “sucked” into the toxicity. And the patients/families are great
I feel that God gave me an opportunity to make a difference - even a small one- to people at the end of life. I have been and always will be grateful to my patients and their families for allowing me to be a part of their lives. I learned so much from them. I retired 6 months before my husband passed (on hospice). I tried to go back a year after he passed but the pain was too raw. So I’m just taking it easy for now. But I still miss my patients. Thank you for being a chaplain serving these people. That’s a hard job. All the best to you!!!
Unfortunately , Bullies tended to be attracted to caring professions to cover up their ugly insides. I’m still surprised how many people are fooled by appearance.
I am not a nurse, but I am a unit clerk. I have seen so much cliquey behaviour and bullying from many of the younger nurses. It is crazy how you can watch the "in crowd" be in charge and the new hires be outcasted, and then eventually the outcasts all befriend each other due to the trauma bonding of being an outcast, and then the "in crowd" all either quit or move to another department, and then those nurses who were the outcasts who were creating their friendships with each other due to feeling excluded then become the new "in crowd" and then exclude everyone else. It's so fascinating to watch this happen over and over.
I’ve been an RN for 7 years, and have experienced bullying in every place I’ve been by at least one nurse, all of them 15-20+ years older than me. One of them mocked me in front of me (pretending I wasn’t there) over my wound care experience. I had started wound care nursing right out of nursing school when I worked in a SNF. Then I worked at a hospital in med-surg and on the wound team, and obtained my WCCN while working there. This older nurse was saying things like, “seems like they’ll just let anyone do wound care”. I was shocked, to say the least. Now I work in a hospice facility, and even the older nurses and our manager come to me for input on our patients with complex wounds. 😊 I am a preceptor and I love to teach! I feel so proud when the nurses I’ve worked with and trained blossom and flourish! If your coworkers are treating you badly, there are places where your skills will be appreciated and your colleagues will respect you. There are amazing nurses and preceptors out there! Every nurse has particular skill sets and something to contribute to the profession. Don’t give up ❤
Worse thing is when the manager encourage bad behaviors and do not take any actions. I have seen it all. Nurse and manager bullies both. Just imagine, if they can treat their colleagues like this, what they are doing to patients especially those who cannot talk and advocate for themselves. It's a shame. I believe in karma and i am sure they will get their share when they become old.
thanks for talking about this alex!! seriously hardly any nurses talk about this, they just glamorize nursing. i dont get why people make the job miserable if its already hard. the stupid highschool mentality is sooooooo annoying.
My bf is asian and we started med surg together. She said she was treated badly and bullied. She also was nonconfrontational which made it worse. She left because if racism and cultural differences, miss her ever day at work! Your experiences are valid
There are a few good ones. Yet, the ones from rehab are so bad. I am not a nurse. All of sudden they in force of a policy. Not to have their cell phone or ear buds. This was really directed at me. Because I don't want to listen to anyone conversations.
It’s crazy toxic. I wouldn’t encourage even my dog to do it. And if you want to be quiet soul and just do your job and go home, oh how you will be hated. You will face RAGE.
Exactly as an introvert I dealt with this toxic person who make comments saying some people are showing up mad and implied they have problems at home. The same messy person got called to the Office for talking about the Boss behind his back. She gossiped about other Nurses hugged them when she sees them laughing in their face.
@@Melons-vg8dqOr fire you if they prefer the bullying due to longevity. That’s been my experience. They knew them better and trusted the lies they told her over me asking for help with bullying. I was the one targeted and ultimately quit.
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My sister was a phlebotomist for many years. She frequently told me that the nurses in the various departments were very cliquish. If you didn't "fit in" where they hired you, you didn't last long. The baby floor was especially notorious for mistreating new nurses. One of the housekeepers told her that she overheard the nurses making fun of her looks, it made her cry. Such pathetic cruelty from people who went to school to be nurses is inexcusable!!!
I really want nursing schools to talk about this. I feel like this should be a mandatory topic to be discussed in nursing school as I do believe, as wheat he mentioned, that most nurses quit not because of the patients but the toxic colleagues/workplace that's causes them burnout. Like, why are theses people being mean to these student/new grad nurses/doctors? These people will be your future healthcare workers! Teach them properly, set your ego aside & be a good role model!
I encourage everyone to NOT allow it! Don’t keep accepting the excuses they make for them. Please don’t let them push you away from what you want to do in your career.. Fight back in a professional way but sometimes you literally have to check them RIGHT THEN when it happens let them know you see it and you will not stand for it.
Nothing has changed. When I graduated in 2001, I went through the same bullying. I promised myself that I would never treat another human being the way I was treated. I have been a preceptor many times and I have kept that promise. New nurses need positive support and room to expand their own skills. 12 hour shift can be easy if the staff works together.
It's terrible when you're working with a nurse who doesn't like you, and she'll go out of her way to hurt your Patient in order to get to you. I have seen so many of them do this. It's it just boggles the mind. You can't believe that they're in this profession if they're willing to hurt patients just to get to you.
I'm going to be the new nurse to *professionally* clap back at the rude RNs that try to talk down to me. There really should be no place for nurse bullying.
Agree with you but remember those bullies had many years of experience while you are just beginning with little experience as a nurse. Sometimes the bullying not only you may get from those *season nurses but also from *assistant nurses as well. Yes, I get bullied from them too that it demoralized and crippled ALL. MY. INSPIRATIONS. *NOT all of them though, many of them were nice and friendly too.
I can only assume those kinds of nurses are like that outside of work too. Maybe more subtle but still there. I loved having students and new grads/young nurses. My biggest thrill was watching them bloom with my help. Who doesn’t ❤ that?
One of the reasons I would never return to mental health nursing. I know I am generalising, but bullying really broke my heart and passion for this field.
Been a nurse 25 yrs. Returning to my field of speciality. Have a young nurse who is TOXIC. Her duties include scheduling and training. I need to be trained on the computer only. She left me short multiple times alone without training. I trained myself, and figured it out at my age I can DO. I have the foundation to figure it out. This young woman who I am old enough to be her mother, has repeatedly and habitually called out, yelled at me, scolded me over the computer and in pts charts. Using enter office text to scold and I have gotten vocal over the last 3 weeks. I decided to ask a couple of people to help me figure out 3 items of documentation I need to nail down. She lost her mind, screamed and yelled again at me infront of all the staff and docs. Then called the clinical manager and removed me and sent me to another assignment. While she was yelling at me, making the entire office ( meant to be my retirement job) uncomfortable. I apologized to the other nurses and staff for her behavior. She is immature, unreliable with chronic abscesses, now proving to be volatile. However the behavior is tolerated so I spent this week/weekend peppering my CV all over. Phone interviews etc. It is horrific. She is TOXIC.
The worst bullying is when you are experienced and competent and a new manager sees you as a threat. They dig through your file searching for dirt then begin filling your file with negative feedback in preparation for a manufactured disciplinary action. Nurses can be the worst bosses.
I was helping a patient and right out in the open I was told by the charge nurse, "now would be a time to use your outdoor voice". I just looked at her like wtf is your problem. I never knew a career where I wanted to help people could be so nasty. I also got called out in a board room full of nurses. I got called "Ms. Assertive ". The passive aggressiveness is disgusting. The manager was too immature to give me constructive feedback, to this day I still have no idea what she was referring to or what was up her butt.
Don't quit, just become indifferent towards anyone thinking negatively of you or verbalizing things of that nature. They feed off of impacting you and the only way anything negative stops is if you keep your head straight, be a good team player and make that paycheck with a goal (you MUST have a goal to be there!) At some point other good nurses will value you and love to work with you, and the b**ches will ween off because their efforts do not phase you. Bullies love to pick on those that look like they can be bullied. Got to look like you dgaf and there for your personal goal (whatever that may be).
Im planning to study nursing. After watching this video i realise nursing is not for me. I dont like bullies and i really fight back. So i might study for 3 years and get fired on my first day.
Nursing is toxic. I was bullied and harassed by group of nurses who did not like me. They went as far as falsifying information about me to HR. I am still fighting it.
Im a new nurse at this hospital and is still on training. It was my first time doing the hand over and my senior nurse yelled and insulted at me instead of teaching me how to do the right thing. Now im afraid to do hand overs and im even more anxious to go to work.
Hi Alex and all nurses, never be afraid to walk away from a nursing job. Do your year and then self promote yourself to a less toxic environment. Many times if you switch hospitals, you can negotiate more money. But get that job before you quit. We can’t control the actions of those around us, but we can control ours. Thanks for making this video and being a positive light for those around you! ❤
I asked a guy I work with about this as I hear it a lot and as someone who is always interested in the nursing field, I like to pick the brains of nurses in my own career field , and since he was a registered nurse of many many years I brought up this topic to him to get his real life perspective. When I tell you he got so defensive, I immediately thought hmmm, I probably struck a nerve. I'm sure it's real and very true.
Or someone is gathering info on what they may face going into the healthcare field. I'm wanting to go into nursing to get experience to become a doctor, so im more empathetic about the nurses under my charge( former Marine here).
Some things never change 😐 When I became an RN in 2000, there were clicks and no one helped. I had one nurse from night shift who told me, “get your skills down,so you don’t have to depend on anyone.” He was a night shift nurse and I worked days. I am so thankful to him because he taught me so much. He stayed one hour extra in the morning to help me out ❤
to be honest THIS is the only true reason I haven't started nursing school, because I am afraid of the bullying (I was bullied in my school wehre I was a "pretty" girl and never learned how to deal with them)😭😭😭
Interesting you would say that because I worked with an ER nurse in Alaska same deal she was really pretty, ran marathons, and was bullied because of her positive attitude and outward appearance. She did well, I met up with her in California again. You will be fine just be particular where you work and who you choose to trust at work. Ask for shifts with the ones you work well with.
I almost left in my 1st year of nursing. Alot of toxic nurse's in the profession. Appreciate your honesty. It's good to know I am not alone. Really hope the bullies can change.
I was straight abused while working in LTC and subacute- screamed at so badly that spit was hitting my face, being called inept, being guilt tripped, being physically threatened. It can be a disgusting work environment
I'm an ICU nurse (25 years old), have a Bachelor of Science degree (this is not mandatory in Germany unlike other countries), I am also a mentor for new nurses. I keep getting bullied, screamed at and false things are being spread about me. I am always interested about learning more, I never sit still and always work hard but these witches keep bullying me and now I'm about to quit and transfer to NICU. I've had enough! One year of dealing with this and I go to work crying all the time, feeling sick and like absolute shit!
@Carnationblue77 I know that because I work there too. However if I react badly to others I apologize and try to improve my behavior. Screaming at others DAILY, spreading misinformation and bullying is not okay and there is no excuse for that. If stress makes someone act that way, they aren't suitable for ICU
When the nurse suddenly throws you down suddenly and yells at you, then all of a sudden starts to call you sweetie, that tells a nan, "RUN!". Sign the waiver, no future treatment desired, and get out! Taxi cab driver pick up completely understood. Still in hospital gown driver took me home. All is well. My home is way better than the hospital. Have everr everything meaning everything here at home. Never ever will go back, ever, no matter what.
I’m an RRT (registered respiratory therapist) and will retire soon. The thing I’ll enjoy most about retirement is that I’ll never have to work around nurses again! It’s just high school all over again!
@@rahkeembattiste5854 For real. Honestly the only job where I was actually appreciated and treated well was at a fast food place. Even when I was slow, they encouraged me and had my back. Managers were cool and Supervisor was too. Once I started working at different places, literally started getting harassed by either coworkers or managers. Mainly because I can’t learn the same as others and I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety. I’ve had this issue since elementary school til now…
I left nursing school when the clinical instructors bullied the students. There were students crying in the parking lot at the end of the day. I used to wake up in the morning for clinical with a sense of dread that made me sick to my stomach. High school was an absolute cake walk by comparison.
As a nursing student, I made a med error. I felt ashamed and it was reported. My clinical instructor pulled me aside to talk to me and made me feel worse for making a mistake. I asked her if she ever made a med error? her reply? "no, never" LOL what the fuck....bitch was lying.
People who are so insecure, inferior and so low and unhappy, and very jealous are these bullies, how to succeed in this kind of environment is by been the best of you .
Going into my last semester as a nursing student in Australia and wow I can definitely confirm it’s like high school. It’s so refreshing to hear some down to earth advice about nursing. Love your vids!!
This shit is one of the many reasons I could ever be a nurse, but have the utmost respect for what they do. Especially ones like you, who call the bad shit out. Even when I was in high school or just a kid/teen in general, I genuinely couldn't have even begun to care less about "fitting in" and being popular/seen as cool or any of that. Hell, I wasn't even bullied in high school.. It sucks so many deeply immature, shallow, mean spirited people get into that field, because it is such a respectable field of work, despite many people not thinking so (for some ridiculous reason) Like, it was lame /immature back in high school trying so hard to fit and be cool.. especially bullies.. we all know now, it comes from a place of deep insecurity and immaturity.. which is fine for you know, children and teenagers, but grown ass adults?
Healthcare in general. I had to stand up for myself couple of times after crying. Once I cried, it was up from there, I stopped being bullied and give them a taste of their own medicine
I talked about this in one of my videos! This is the main reason why I dropped nursing school, I strongly disliked most of the students and the professors. I knew how they were acting, being mean and condescending was a precursor of what I’d be dealing with in the field! As I’m already a medical assistant and I get a little taste of it now. People were tearing me apart in the comments, I’m glad more people are talking about this now!!
As crazy as it sounds, this is all true and it's sad. I have been a nurse now for 3 years, all of which have been ICU. Luckily, I have not been bullied but I have seen it and I do not get it. Work as nurse is already stressful, so I do not get why people feel the need to make it more stressful. It fosters a place for bullying and tattling. I come in treating everyone kindly and with open arms to the newer nurses. I want to come in, have fun, lift the mood of the unit, take care of my patients and go home. All that extra stuff from negative and miserable nurses can stay away from me. I had to get someone in check for trying to speak down to a new nurse once. We have all been new at some point and didn't know what we know now, give people some slack. Thank you for making this video and speaking on this, Alex :)!
I quit hospital nursing because of this very issue. I thought "If this is what nursing is like, I want no part of it." I decided to try home health nursing and love it. Other than the amazing patients, the best part of the job is not having to work in close contact with other nurses. Sad.
I agree 100% with you Julie! I was bullied all the time by nurses my age but also younger nurses. In hindsight, I wish I'd never gone into nursing but home health has been rewarding.
I work in home health, it really is a gem. Also the medical professionals that are in home health are always chill and genuinely want what’s best for the patient.
Thanks for the video. I really appreciate you exposing the truth. I am an RN and I was bullied too. WhenI reported it, nothing was ever done about it. Management always sided with the bullies. I was talked down too, made too feel like i was less than. My confidence took a big hit. I suffered anxiety and depression because of it. Bullying should never be tolerated and those who bully should be punished. I could never forget what happened to me. It is something that sticks with me till this day. Keep exposing the truth. Maybe things will change.
i love you alex!! to be honest i wasn’t even shocked by your stories because i’ve experienced it myself. in my experience i notice the generational bias that exists in nursing. i’ve come to find that older nurses are NOT fond of us younger new grads. i understand we have our differences but it’s really sad that they choose to repeat history and generational patterns such as shaming you for your lack of knowledge rather than lending a hand and providing education. gossiping behind your back (or sometimes in front of your face) rather than realizing they were once in your shoes and making you feel welcomed. and trying to sabotage you for whatever reason… jealousy? who knows. but for all the new nurses out there, don’t let their lousy attitude tear down yours. they can choose to be bitter and tear others down to make themselves feel better but i will never stoop to that level.
I experienced all of it for being a male new hire, and so did my brother. They sent back to Day 1 to redo training. How ridiculously degrading! They tried that on me and I didn't show the nxt day.
The crazy thing is, none of this bullying is actually about whether or not they like you- it’s about ACCOUNTABILITY!! It’s about simple respect and professionalism that they lack due to pride and being self-absorbed. People with INTEGRITY can dislike someone AND STILL treat them with dignity and RESPECT!!! Nursing, like any profession with power, will attract arrogant self-serving, power-tripping, status-climbing reputation-seekers- IF NOT people who genuinely just want to help people and survive.
Nursing has been known for decades, "Nurses eat their young." As an experienced RN I recall starting a new job and in front of me 2 nurses were fighting about not wanting to orient me... first day. Another first day memory, the young bright nurse orienting me took me into the supply storage room and listed 17 nurses previously that had left the unit that was only 2 years old at that point! What a way to start a new job. She told me out of care, like watch your back. After that I didn't talk much to the others, trying to gauge, by stepping back, what exactly was going on - favoritism, abuses, and trust issues which started with the supervisor keeping it chaotic like a dysfunctional family. By the way you could write a comedy act because nurses would laugh at the dark comedy. OMgoodness you just said that exact thing! Tip - don't believe Magnent Hospital recognition is any better.
Almost two decades later I still haven't let my guard down. I would never tell any of my Colleagues anything they can use against me I am with you trust no one.
Toxicity and bullying in Nursing is very real! Behaviour influences behaviour which is why it keeps happening. Thank you for being brave enough to approach this subject
I really appreciate you speaking about this. I am in my second semester of an accelerated nursing program, and today I encountered the worst nurse I’ve had to deal with yet. The condescending tone, sharp responses, and disdain she appeared to have for me was very difficult to work through. I’m nervous about entering the world of nursing and having to deal with more nurses like this. I have had really good experiences up until now, but like you said I feel I will carry today with me for a long time and not quickly forget how I felt during this clinical. I hope as new nurses coming into the field we can work to change this and show each other more compassion and patience.
Hell hath no fury and hostility than a nurse who is "off the clock" after work. My mother and sister were nurses, they come home and are hostile to every one in their family. My mother would say horrible things when she was tired. Complaining and "all those patients are just lazy". Nurses are nice to the patients but as soon as they punch the card "out".... watch out!
I witness a nurse refuse to cover her new grad’s lunch because that’s “what real nursing is like, she needs to find someone else” like omg let her eat!
I'm so sorry and feel for all the health professionals that have been bullied by a preceptor, charge nurse, etc. I am an RN for 20 yrs and 15 of those years as a preceptor and enjoyed every bit. It was so awesome to see these nurses bloom and develop. No one deserves that coming into the nursing world. If it's your passion, don't let that stop you. Your drive should always surpass the negative, believe in yourself, and succeed. Stay strong and confident. Inform your residency or manager that you want to change preceptors. Everyone deserves fairness and respect.
The reason I appreciate these healthcare worker accounts and the comedy skits is because I had no idea what went on behind the scenes, as someone who has been abused in hospitals as a patient. It helps put things in perspective and maintain my empathy for the people who are trying to do the right thing in the most corrupt environments.
I'm not sure why this popped up on my feed 9 months later after the video was initially posted, but yes, I definitely experienced terrible bullying as a new grad nurse in the ICU at a regional hospital in LA. First day, my "preceptor" scanned me from top to bottom and spoke in her own native language to her colleague and rolled her eyes at me. For 12 hours, she did not speak a single word to me, and I had to ask her a question for her to acknowledge that I existed. I have been told that I was too stupid to be in the ICU, got yelled at for bringing in most up-to-date evidence based practice because I was a new grad and not their ethnicity. I quit when my director ignored my plea for addressing nurse bullying in the unit (honestly the culture is toxic because the director doesn't give a shit). I am now at a much reputable hospital with better culture now (and happier), but nowhere is perfect. Like what you shared, I have my 4-5 nurses I trust and have my back and it has helped me even though my current workplace is not perfect either. Thank you for sharing! I am VERY passionate about raising awareness about this bullying issue.
A toxic work environment will attract toxic people who have nowhere else to work. I left bedside nursing after 6 months and realized the “happiest Nurses and Doctors” work in other settings OUTSIDE the hospital
As a potential future patient it is terrifying to know that so many nurses who may oversee my care are so narcisdistic and insecure that they need to inflate their ego by putting down a captive audience. They are cold, cruel, and petty. They need to be exposed so people know to stay away from those hospitals even in an emergency.
Just dropping by to let you know that you’re an amazing person, you don’t deserve to be bullied, and I’m wishing you much continued success. Thanks for putting this video out and teaching the world that bullying is not okay.
I was so blessed to get a job at a behavioral health hospital, night shift. They have so much empathy and so much patience. I was terrified because I didn’t know where I was going to work. I didn’t know anything, but I found something I loved and it’s working out so far. Don’t settle for less!!
As a patient I’ve dealt with nurse bullying specifically when I thought I was going to die after a car wreck that left me with two broken ankles hairline fractures and a broken wrist. I told them ahead of time I’m clinically diagnosed with a genetic anxiety disorder and that I take lexapro and have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. But besides that any normal person would have been anxious in a car wreck thinking they had internal bleeding of some sort and were going to die at the hospital. I was only 21 and the wreck wasn’t my fault I was a passenger. They shoved Xanax down my throat and got annoyed with me and bullied me. I’ve always wondered why they go into fields that are supposed to be for empathetic people. I’m thankful for the nurses that care but I’ll never understand the ones that bully others. It’s even more difficult going to the hospital for mental issues such as psychosis, mental disorders, or self harm related issues cause they’ll make your life a living hell and blame you for something out of your control. These kinds of nurses should stay far away from health care. I’m so sorry you had this experience
As a STUDENT, I had the nurse, who was ASSIGNED AND IN CHARGE, of a patient, try to make major deal out of the fact my patient went in bathroom AFTER I had been there, changed their gown and the patient left it lay in the bathroom. She tried to paint as I was a terrible nurse for not cleaning up the room. That happen around 45 yrs ago and I still remember the absurdity.
I work in an Law Office and adult coworker bullies are a true mess 😮💨 but it’s always better to be kind, respectful, positive and keep your head up while wishing the best!!
What's unfortunate is some nurse bullies will watch this....and not believe they're the bully
Exactly....
Narcissism 🌈
Seen it...
You’re probably that nurse bully 😳
I was bullied by a teacher when I was at nursing school
It should be mandatory that nurses have an annual exorcism.
A few wards in the hospital I work at were depleted during Covid during ward changes ect..alot of the old toxic nurses left and there was just a whole pile of new nurses which has started a much better culture. The unchanged wards are just that, unchanged
Haha
Yes!!
True
Haha
Nurses are either angels or literal mean girls, no in between. It's crazy and such a gamble.
Or addicts
@@daniellekaeufer981this one,,, can’t tell you how many registered nurses ask me to come by the hospital with ❄️ during their shift,, (usually nights, but theres some day ones too lol)
I sure was at the hospital a lot but it wasn’t because I was sick XD 🤣
Yeahh… i don’t trust a single nurse, most of them especially the women to do cocaine all the time
I’ve met more that were certifiably psychotic. Found out my roommate was dating a janitor (that’s what they were called decades ago) who had access to the hospital pharmacy. They were stealing narcotics from the main pharmacy. She was short medicating patients & when patients were discharged or died she was pocketing drugs. I moved out reported it to the hospital. They promptly fired me for reporting. Go figure.
@@Practicalinvestments*doesn’t trust nurses*
*talks about dealing cocaine online*
Get your priorities straight my dude 😂
@@Practicalinvestmentsbro your gonna be tracked for this if you comment stuff like this 💀💀 but also then agian if you have an addiction nurse atleast yk their gonna have no difficulty with inserting mediation
Nurse here of 10 years and I have zero tolerance when I see nurses bullying other nurses. I shut that shit down right away. I love new nurses and love being a preceptor. We all were new at some point. I know they are timid and scared exactly how I felt. Makes me sad.
The nursing field needs people like you! You're appreciated!
Love this 👏👏👏
So...are you the problem...Or the solution?
Justice is always violence to the party accused, everyman is innocent in their own eyes
Daniel Defoe
Also 10 years into nursing. Majority of my experience is in critical care/ ICU + cath lab. I will never forget feeling timid and afraid when I started out. If you do it right, new nurses (or nurses new to a speciality) will thrive if you teach them with enthusiasm and remind self that we've all been "the new kid on the block." Be kind. Be compassionate. Correct when needed... but do that kindly. No reason to tear an already nervous nurse down. Teach nurses to notice this or that, what to focus on, and explain the how's and why's. Set an example: no tolerance for bullying. Protect your preceptees. All in all just don't be a dick when training a nurse, ever.
Thank you! ❤❤❤
Nursing school doesn't talk about bullying because some instructors are bullies too
This happened to me. I ultimately got dismissed because they didn’t like me. I am now in another nursing program. The first program took A LOT of money from me offed me in my last semester after a terrible COVID Zoom education.
🎯🎯🎯🎯
That happened to me in nursing school.
I was doing a procedure and my instructor slapped me. 😮
I was like whoa. You do realize what you just did was not all right?
I took her to the office and reported her.
And one of the questions I had was are your nurse instructors authorized to assault students?
But guess what? Nothing happened to her. Turns out that everybody in the school were buddies and went to nursing school together.
@@officespace7777 what the fuck?! Did you sue?
@@officespace7777 Did you take legal action?
I’ve been a nurse for 26 years. I’ve been combatting nurse bullying!! “Nurses eat their young!” WTF??? That’s is NOT okay! Destroying their confidence is not conducive to success. My friend and I spent many mornings crying in the car after a 12 hour shift. SMH! Nurses should uplift other nurses!!!!!
Florence Nightingale must be rolling in her grave. Bullying is bad enough in the corporate world. It seems horribly sad to me that nurses also end up with a toxic work attitude, bullying their co-workers. I'm so sorry that you and your friend faced so much awful stuff.
i don't understand how the nurse that reported you for tapping your foot didn't get reprimanded for wasting your boss' time, especially in a work setting where lives are at stake
Right like why would you as a boss even bring that to his attention. I wouldn’t even bother my staff member with something so minimal. Like wtf
@@yonursecoko5229it worst a nurse lied on me 3 times knowing she was just trying to get me fired
@@yonursecoko5229 by exaggerating the tapping. when you are unwelcomed there bullies can go to the extreme.
@@ayuanabradford3206 how did you handle the situation?
Because many times the bosses and charge nurse themselves are in the bully click too.
I myself have experienced it as an ED Tech oh...yea their is a massive click within my dept.
I worked registration in the ER whilst studying to be a nurse. Let me say. This was enough experience to change my career path. Those nurses were vicious
Oh no!!! Don’t change your career path. Our profession needs good kind people. 😌💚 older RN here
DOnt let those cows deter your dreams. Be a Nurse and work in a school or private practice.
I’m in the ER so we have headsets so we can communicate, and another nurse (not any sort of charge or management of any kind) who had NO interaction with my patient in bed 12, tries to call me out over the radio saying “can you explain to me why bed 12 has their door closed?” And I was transporting a patient to the ICU so I just replied “huh” and as I was coming back to my section, I saw her leaving his room and closing the door! And he was neutropenic and wanted to sleep while waiting for his room to become available in oncology, so closing the door just made sense. That was the second to final straw that is about to break this camels back. I used to work in correctional nursing and I swear to you-the respect is so much better there I think I’m going back to
@@CaptainSpalding72 Cows are nice. The right word for them would be miserable monsters . Or evil witch
What are you doing now?
Yep I just quit my new grad job as an Trauma nurse because of bullying from my preceptor and charge nurse. They would go out of their way to humiliate me in front of everybody. I was cussed out and called stupid on a daily basis for asking questions…
That is terrible. Sorry you had to experience that.
Me too! I was in high intensity rehab for my final placement and my preceptor was the exact same! When i saw another student get cussed out on my last day that was the last straw and i let them have it.
No one starts off knowing everything and being an expert in their job, we need to build each other up instead of tearing each other down
I’m so sorry. So very wrong !!!
These nurses and the hospitals need to be reported to their state boards and then maybe change could happen. This is a National problem in critical areas and they need to talk about it in nursing school. Many nursing instructors are bullies and that is ridiculous. These issues in critical areas are where they are always in need of nurses. It’s not just because of the nature of this work. It’s the coworkers. Wonder how much this shit happens in countries outside USA. Good luck in your career it’s a great one overall. I have nurses for 30+ ❤
but please dont quit the profession...in ED I worked alongside some of the kindest and smartest nurses in my opinion...in my 6 years working as a nurse only had an Altercation with a resident and ED doctor... which I got immediate support from my charge nurse...YES bullying is real not trying to deny your experience..but thats not the reality in every department at every hospital....my suggestion is to leave a paper trail..meaning if it happens again..GO to HR address the matter..even if they dont do anything is ON record that YOU reached out and your complain felt on deaf ears..
I dont understand why majority of nurses do this?? Like we have a nationwide shortage of healthcare workers. Everyone is over worked and load of responsibility. Why not just be respectful to eachother and do your best at work? How do these people find time to even bully working 12 hours shift with 100 patients-!!???? As an RT after a 12 hour shift im ready to knock out. I dont have time gossipping, fighting, bullying, etc etc. These people need Therapy
I’m sorry you work in an environment in which this is the norm. I’d change my work place if able. To stay Sounds horrible.
This is because people love to bring their personal ego's and problems to the workplace and impact others to equal out the field in their mind. I am completely unemotional to anyone thinking ill of me, works like a charm.
Strange I didn’t have that experience most places I worked. Yeah certain hospitals some nurses were petty but generally we were too busy to be petty. But now days I have noticed a lot of petty and sensitive nurses in private duty. I don’t understand it.
It starts in nursing school as part of the culture.
@@MNP208 you know in my school there only student in school that was a hater cause she thought she was smarter than everyone. And some nursing teachers that were so out of touch it was sad. Instead of helping their desperate students by being good teachers and examples they were petty ( narcissistic I should say)Loved most of the students but nursing school was an unnecessary nightmare
My bullying started IN nursing school typically by people like 10 years older than me. I was almost SA’d by one of them too. Since I got away, she began to make my life hell in and out of the classroom/hospital. Luckily my classmates caught on. Why do so many evil vicious humans go into nursing?? SO weird. Has to be some kind of phenomenon. Narcissism???
Time to leave
Power and control!
It exists in most areas of healthcare.
Facts
@inusocials6295That’s a whole other level of creepy.
Those senior nurses acting as if they weren't a baby nurse before. Karma is on their way.
Not just the senior nurses, trust me.
I was a new nurse in 1984. My first hospital job was in a big hospital outside the Washington DC beltway. I worked on a CCU step down unit. My hiring supervisor told me “Just remember…There is no such thing as a stupid question, so don’t ever worry about asking questions.” It was a trap. I was a very confident nurse going into that job, but if I was at all unsure of something, or unsure of a policy or protocol, I’d ask rather than risk making an error. This came back to me as “seems to lack fundamental knowledge”….and “appears to lack confidence and problem-solving skills.” Worse than that, I worked night shift and loved those hours, so I went to work with a really good attitude. For that I was suspected of use of drugs “uppers/amphetamines” and had to prove I had no drugs in my system on a few occasions.
My next job (after staying in the DC area only 8 months) was across the country and as a per diem nurse. I never asked questions (if I had one I’d look it up and never let on that I had), and I never let the staff see me too thrilled to be there (although my patients got the best I could give them). My hospital evaluations were stellar…..You’d think I could walk on water. One hospital even bought out my contract and hired me from my agency as their new med/surg unit manager, less than one year after leaving my first nursing job where my periodic evaluations were shit.
Word to the wise: Keep your own records of disagreements (or bullying) with co-workers, especially those in supervisory roles. At that first job of mine I had a couple of serious issues with my supervisor and I started recording the details of those and filing them with my attorney. When it came to asking her for a written recommendation for my next place of employment, she tried to say she wouldn’t be able to give me a very favorable recommendation. That’s when I told her I had been keeping a record of our discussions, disagreements, and the bogus drug suspicions, and I, with my attorney who had these records, would be happy to go in front of a Board of Inquiry at the hospital and see what they had to say. She turned her tune a 180, and gave me an unbelievably glowing recommendation. Hmmmm…..🤔 I wonder what made her change her mind? Seems some things never change or may be worse, so protect yourselves…..keep records of your own, especially if there are one person’s word against another issues. Your written words will hold more weight than their spoken ones.
I retired after thirty years in nursing in 2012. I’d like to think my staff, and visiting staff, found me kind, helpful, knowledgeable and respectful. I didn’t suffer bullies myself, and I tried to protect my nursing and unit staff from them as best I could…..even if they were MY superiors. If you are a nurse, be the best nurse and HUMAN you can be, but don’t be a pushover (at least not a known one!😜)
You learned to swim real quick thrown to the sharks like that. Respect!
Male nurse here- suspended after 6wks on my 1st gig for an allegation of abuse, perpetuated by my trainer. I wasn't told anything except to leave the facility immediately mid-shift, pending an investigation. They called me 2wks later to come in to discuss. I told them I'm not going to remember anything after 2wks in the dark & quit over the phone. Now work in a different field. F_ them!!!
So true. Most complaints are frivolous but it goes on your record, anyway
You spent all that time in school for only 6 weeks? Damn man, im a 30 year old dude….no way am I going into nursing…best of luck dude
Ridiculous
@@user-ht8by4yg5m Can't put a $amount on spirit, soul, or mental health.
I am so sorry.
Imagine how they treat their patients. Nurses that bully need to be written up and action needs to be taken against them. My friend experience that in the hospital, when she when from a CNA to a R.N. They complain and got her fire. she didn't stop going to school, she's now a nurse Practitioner and still going to school.
In my personal experience as a consolidation student, my preceptor lied countless times- told me I had to lie or I would fail… had a questionable safety incident- I questioned the pt’s safety at the beginning of the shift - I was ignored… an incident happened, she tried to blame me🤦🏽♀️. When that didn’t work she sat over my shoulder telling
me what to write regarding the incident report- imo she wanted to make sure I didn’t add that this safety concern was mentioned by the writer to her preceptor and could have been avoided. She was a horrible human being. I lodged a complaint with my school- I was removed and placed elsewhere- nothing happened to the preceptor. I have worked in the same hospital as her for years, and refuse to cover that unit when they are short.
No one cares!!
I have observed nurses be the absolute kindest and most helpful people to their patients only to turn around and treat their coworkers like dirt.
@@kardiojunkee what unit?
Just happened to me on Sept 10
I got bullied by pcts and CNA’s my first nursing job
I experienced the worst bullying as a student nurse, some of them were just vicious! Then I went to medical school, & had a vastly different, mostly positive experience. But I still see so much bullying amongst my nurse colleagues, and it baffles me why these women enter a supposedly ‘caring’ profession.
Somexs i feel like im too sensitive even in this field & its like wth. I def think ppl get creative in their ways of acting out & seeking attention. But i know they need help, so, i try to over look over alot of stuff. Somexs i just gotta laugh it off. Other xs, im just entertaining their -egos. Theyre just lonely ppl... & Co workers will still make it about them. Stop percieving me. Im just trying to make it through my day, hoping that my enviornment as well, ... Is pleasant. Not that i think ppl make it any easier on me in all their conditions. but i dont think my co workers unnecessary nagging & nit picking helps either. G i wish i could overly criticize others over things not really there & have all the right answers too. Id never hafta actually interact w/ residents as much. Somexs kitchen staffs will even get into it w/ me & im like no not u too 🤦🏻♀️. I mean, granted its gotta be way harder on them w/ their whole entire 1 role 😒...
Who isnt getting a big ego? wth. That when i start venting it sounds so ridiculous. I know this. Believe me. But i walk into my reality on the daily.. & u too? Who else?.. Bc shut up! Also also im not that dedicated tho. Im trying to do short courses. Liveable, sustainable wages. & Im happy
Wow that’s so funny that’s u say that! I really wanted to go to med school but I have a little son no other family just a boyfriend whose mom helps me some when she feels like it ( rightfully so she doesn’t owe me anything.) I couldn’t see myself quitting work and maybe moving across the country multiple times as essentially a broke single mom. I started to nursing school masters instead and I’m terrified of working as a nurse because as a CNA, the other aides and nurses were so toxic. I’m going to go right for the post masters ARNP certification.
Thanks for talking about this. A person can feel so alone when they're bullied, but in reality it happens to so many people.
Yep it's happening to me but I'm not a nurse. Any job has the potential to have bullies.
You are not alone
@@sixteen.candles.4644 I'm sorry it's happening to you. I hate them so much.
@jeanettemills8646 thank you.
It’s even more isolating if you’re neurodivergent bc then you feel like it’s a you problem when in reality it happens to literally everyone neurodivergent or not. We just happen to be easier targets for these sick individuals
"Nurses eat their young."
They cry about accepting double shifts for days in a row (they can't say no to management), then bully & back-stab new hires there to help them... Honest to God, I hope they miss out on their children's childhood/ I hope their children grow up to hate them. Kharma!
lmfao i love this
If you wish that how does karma affect you?
i repeated this sentiment 11mos after you .. nice to see i wasnt just being to sensitive or a insecure .. thanks
💯 agree with this statement! I’m not a nurse, but first responder and have seen this crap for 16 years now!! Makes my blood boil!!!
It’s baffling how an ICU nurse even has the time to report a complain about something so insignificant.
Karens be crazy
Crazy KaReN😂
It’s not just Karens
Who the hell would want to work in the nursing field. This bullying should be grounds for reprimand and or penalties. I have heard this for years.
Nurse bullies are *masters* of being horrendously uncivil and rude while being technically within the letter of policy. I’ve run into it several times in just a few years in this field. It really is like High School all over again, and a good number of the popular mean girls got their RN licenses.
Unfortunately some of the administration support the bullies
@@maamebroni6142 why?
I hate to make this a race thing. But I'm gonna be the person that makes this a race thing. & I do bottom of the barrel stuff, mind you. Still, I see the scramble of the climbing the ladders & egos & it still drives me crazy. & I don't state that bc I feel low about it. I still think it's something meaningful. Like I pretty much tuck in all my residents... like they're burritos/egg rolls just like I do my baby 🥰🤗. No I don't. Ok, somexs I do. It's just, at least I am grateful I got my foot in the door. & Maybe I should stick my foot where my mouth is... & This creates a chance for doors at escalating myself. Depending on how dedicated I am & or become. But good gah, some of these ppl. I really don't understand how co workers can create so much misery out of thin air & yet be so full of themselves. Like we work w/ each other on the daily. None of us really want to leave if we actually like our lively hood. But do u just not like peace or what. Do u just wake up & choose violence or what? Bc if there was ever a time to accurately call someone stupid... legitimately, STFU. To be some image of the kind, compassionate, nurturing, understanding, patient, yada yada, they rnt always def not that. Some r good at faking it. Some aren't even good at that. Like you'll prob get to world star quicker than u will climbing the ladder.
That's not racist. I am speaking on the experienceS I've encountered... Get ppl by themselves is 1 thing. Them as a group? ....... Ehhhh! & They will gaslight everything to the max, pestering u w/ small things, blowing them up bigger than what they're not, then try to play it like it's you
While coming down on u like an army & idk how the hell some ppl don't even see themselves. That really must be took some courage standing on ur complete own & everything. Must've been tough. But idkw there's so many of em.... either. Other than they're a huge population but it's questionable or it's just in my realm of things. Aside from that, ironically, it's stuff like this that makes me embarrassed to be a female in general... Why don't we get along? Idk either but I'm not the antagonizer & I'm not joining no group just so I'm not the out casted. I'd rather not make my life, work... :/ I told my gay guy co worker that he was my favoritest. & The few dudes I do come across in these things r somexs the coolest.... Preferably tho., I do want them to be gay... But I told him :/ :/ it was bc he "wasn't like the other girls." Also that we must drive him/ them absolutely crazy
We're here because we choose to be....you might need one, one day.
As a recent medicine residency graduate, I feel blessed after watching this; I never experienced toxicity or bullying during my 3 years of training (but I certainly did hear of others experiencing this). But the one time I did experience bullying was when a nurse called my handset at 2am complaining that I was late picking up a patient. She said something like “where the f*ck are you, the patient has been waiting 15 minutes for transport”. Turns out she thought I was her MA or CNA. When I informed her that I was the doctor on call, and that I didn’t know what the hell she was talking about, she apologized profusely. It was this experience that made me realize how toxic nurses can really be behind the scenes. Sorry that you experienced it as well
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I’m an icu nurse an I agree with everything you said Alex. ICU nurses can be really mean some think they are the only ones that know how to think critically and everyone else is stupid
I’m new to ICU for 5 months and they kept judging me on my critical thinking and escalation of care, with occasionally one or two time didn’t perform well, and they made it like a super big mistake 😮
@@wingsumlam8405I blamed nursing school for all of this as well. We are 90% focused on books and how to pass the exam more than the hands-on clinical and simulation. My classmates know how to memorize meds etc but couldn’t handle stressful situations like we practiced during simulation. Others were had an ok grades but hold excellence on clinical and simulation (these two aren’t even part of the grade) just pass or fail but didn’t matter that much.
I was a new grad that got run out of an ICU by a Nurse that didn’t think new grads ever should be in ICU (her words). This was at the height of Covid where hospitals were desperate. The bullying was bad enough (publicly and loudly denouncing minor mistakes, backhanded compliments, general rudeness, isolating me from the rest of the unit, shit-talking me to other RN’s where I could hear her) but when management sent out an email that tapped her as an official “rising star” of the unit I requested a transfer out to another critical care unit the same day. I had no problems at all there. Management is completely blind to bullies.
@lasvegasnevada7514 I work in the Cath Lab as a CVT and I definitely noticed a lot of new ICU nurses freezing when they come down for a code. I think you hit the nail on the head
As a former critical care (CCU/CVICU) nurse for 40 of my 50 years as an active RN, I have never looked down on nurses outside of my specialty. I often marveled at how the Med/Surg nurses managed 8 to 10 patients per shift. I had every known monitoring device available to assess my patient's status. The Med/Surg nurse had to rely on her/his eyes, ears and hands to assess their patients. I've learned many a good thing from experienced "floor" nurses.
EVERYONE BEING BULLIED. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. YES YOU CAN. TELL THEM, "Stop talking to me disrespectfully because I'm not talking disrespectfully to you. Here to take care of people."
That charge nurse was threatened by you!!!!
You are assuming these people will be respectful of boundaries. That is not always the case.
I stand up for myself cause I noticed they only do it if they can, and I’m not even a nurse I’m just an aide.
My mom tried doing this but got in trouble because the nurse bully was all buddy buddy with upper management. She ended up just leaving that hospital entirely.
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This is why I loved being a hospice nurse. You work in the field in patient’s homes and living facilities. You are on your own but it is liberating. Even though you run into people in the office and at meetings you are not “sucked” into the toxicity. And the patients/families are great
Hospice nurses are angels !!
Hospice yes😊
Same. Home health RN here
Yes!! I’m in community health too and it is soooo liberating
I feel that God gave me an opportunity to make a difference - even a small one- to people at the end of life. I have been and always will be grateful to my patients and their families for allowing me to be a part of their lives. I learned so much from them.
I retired 6 months before my husband passed (on hospice). I tried to go back a year after he passed but the pain was too raw. So I’m just taking it easy for now. But I still miss my patients.
Thank you for being a chaplain serving these people. That’s a hard job. All the best to you!!!
Figures. All of the most vicious female bullies at my school became "oh so caring and kind" nurses.
Unfortunately , Bullies tended to be attracted to caring professions to cover up their ugly insides. I’m still surprised how many people are fooled by appearance.
a lot of prostitutes end up in nursing too
Omg that's so true
One of my bullies went to nursing.
She had a money and like being narcissistic.
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I am not a nurse, but I am a unit clerk. I have seen so much cliquey behaviour and bullying from many of the younger nurses. It is crazy how you can watch the "in crowd" be in charge and the new hires be outcasted, and then eventually the outcasts all befriend each other due to the trauma bonding of being an outcast, and then the "in crowd" all either quit or move to another department, and then those nurses who were the outcasts who were creating their friendships with each other due to feeling excluded then become the new "in crowd" and then exclude everyone else. It's so fascinating to watch this happen over and over.
Sounds like a vicious cycle right there.
They are the vast majority women, right?
Wow. That’s a toxic cycle
I'm bored just reading this
It's all part of stupid people's to tendency to create problems and then bond over them
I’ve been an RN for 7 years, and have experienced bullying in every place I’ve been by at least one nurse, all of them 15-20+ years older than me. One of them mocked me in front of me (pretending I wasn’t there) over my wound care experience. I had started wound care nursing right out of nursing school when I worked in a SNF. Then I worked at a hospital in med-surg and on the wound team, and obtained my WCCN while working there. This older nurse was saying things like, “seems like they’ll just let anyone do wound care”. I was shocked, to say the least.
Now I work in a hospice facility, and even the older nurses and our manager come to me for input on our patients with complex wounds. 😊 I am a preceptor and I love to teach! I feel so proud when the nurses I’ve worked with and trained blossom and flourish!
If your coworkers are treating you badly, there are places where your skills will be appreciated and your colleagues will respect you. There are amazing nurses and preceptors out there! Every nurse has particular skill sets and something to contribute to the profession. Don’t give up ❤
Worse thing is when the manager encourage bad behaviors and do not take any actions. I have seen it all. Nurse and manager bullies both. Just imagine, if they can treat their colleagues like this, what they are doing to patients especially those who cannot talk and advocate for themselves. It's a shame. I believe in karma and i am sure they will get their share when they become old.
thanks for talking about this alex!! seriously hardly any nurses talk about this, they just glamorize nursing. i dont get why people make the job miserable if its already hard. the stupid highschool mentality is sooooooo annoying.
Very true...!! Healthcare is not an easy job and I dont understand how these people even have time?
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You are correct. Some nurses make a mountain out of the molehill to get you into trouble. I am a black RN and face lots of bullying.
My bf is asian and we started med surg together. She said she was treated badly and bullied. She also was nonconfrontational which made it worse. She left because if racism and cultural differences, miss her ever day at work! Your experiences are valid
There are a few good ones. Yet, the ones from rehab are so bad. I am not a nurse. All of sudden they in force of a policy. Not to have their cell phone or ear buds. This was really directed at me. Because I don't want to listen to anyone conversations.
I faced a lot of bullying from black manager RN, black RT, etc. I am not that white , but considered white.
It’s sad. They forgot where they came from and how they started as a nurse.
It’s crazy toxic. I wouldn’t encourage even my dog to do it.
And if you want to be quiet soul and just do your job and go home, oh how you will be hated. You will face RAGE.
Exactly as an introvert I dealt with this toxic person who make comments saying some people are showing up mad and implied they have problems at home. The same messy person got called to the Office for talking about the Boss behind his back. She gossiped about other Nurses hugged them when she sees them laughing in their face.
I don’t get bullied. I bully the bully. #MaleNurse
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how? how do you make sure they wont mess with your job? them bullies can be dangerous.
@@voceeeuuu True. Just find another job. Management will figure it out and fire them.
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@@Melons-vg8dqOr fire you if they prefer the bullying due to longevity. That’s been my experience. They knew them better and trusted the lies they told her over me asking for help with bullying. I was the one targeted and ultimately quit.
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My sister was a phlebotomist for many years. She frequently told me that the nurses in the various departments were very cliquish. If you didn't "fit in" where they hired you, you didn't last long. The baby floor was especially notorious for mistreating new nurses. One of the housekeepers told her that she overheard the nurses making fun of her looks, it made her cry. Such pathetic cruelty from people who went to school to be nurses is inexcusable!!!
I really want nursing schools to talk about this. I feel like this should be a mandatory topic to be discussed in nursing school as I do believe, as wheat he mentioned, that most nurses quit not because of the patients but the toxic colleagues/workplace that's causes them burnout. Like, why are theses people being mean to these student/new grad nurses/doctors? These people will be your future healthcare workers! Teach them properly, set your ego aside & be a good role model!
My nursing school director and coordinator were bullies and besties.
I encourage everyone to NOT allow it! Don’t keep accepting the excuses they make for them. Please don’t let them push you away from what you want to do in your career.. Fight back in a professional way but sometimes you literally have to check them RIGHT THEN when it happens let them know you see it and you will not stand for it.
Yep.. bullies can't handle being called out, they're emotional snowflakes and they melt easy.
Nothing has changed. When I graduated in 2001, I went through the same bullying. I promised myself that I would never treat another human being the way I was treated.
I have been a preceptor many times and I have kept that promise.
New nurses need positive support and room to expand their own skills. 12 hour shift can be easy if the staff works together.
It's terrible when you're working with a nurse who doesn't like you, and she'll go out of her way to hurt your Patient in order to get to you. I have seen so many of them do this. It's it just boggles the mind. You can't believe that they're in this profession if they're willing to hurt patients just to get to you.
I'm going to be the new nurse to *professionally* clap back at the rude RNs that try to talk down to me. There really should be no place for nurse bullying.
Agree with you but remember those bullies had many years of experience while you are just beginning with little experience as a nurse.
Sometimes the bullying not only you may get from those *season nurses but also from *assistant nurses as well.
Yes, I get bullied from them too that it demoralized and crippled ALL. MY. INSPIRATIONS.
*NOT all of them though, many of them were nice and friendly too.
Exactly. It's unhealthy
@@Melons-vg8dqit is. I need to work on my clap back.
@nekesa6429 Nobody is saying it's ok, but you better know what you are doing.
I can only assume those kinds of nurses are like that outside of work too. Maybe more subtle but still there. I loved having students and new grads/young nurses. My biggest thrill was watching them bloom with my help. Who doesn’t ❤ that?
One of the reasons I would never return to mental health nursing. I know I am generalising, but bullying really broke my heart and passion for this field.
It took me time. I worked 5 years in mental health too. I RELIZE that co workers are the issue. Not the patients and their issues
Been a nurse 25 yrs. Returning to my field of speciality. Have a young nurse who is TOXIC. Her duties include scheduling and training. I need to be trained on the computer only. She left me short multiple times alone without training. I trained myself, and figured it out at my age I can DO. I have the foundation to figure it out.
This young woman who I am old enough to be her mother, has repeatedly and habitually called out, yelled at me, scolded me over the computer and in pts charts. Using enter office text to scold and I have gotten vocal over the last 3 weeks.
I decided to ask a couple of people to help me figure out 3 items of documentation I need to nail down. She lost her mind, screamed and yelled again at me infront of all the staff and docs. Then called the clinical manager and removed me and sent me to another assignment. While she was yelling at me, making the entire office ( meant to be my retirement job) uncomfortable. I apologized to the other nurses and staff for her behavior. She is immature, unreliable with chronic abscesses, now proving to be volatile. However the behavior is tolerated so I spent this week/weekend peppering my CV all over. Phone interviews etc. It is horrific. She is TOXIC.
The worst bullying is when you are experienced and competent and a new manager sees you as a threat.
They dig through your file searching for dirt then begin filling your file with negative feedback in preparation for a manufactured disciplinary action.
Nurses can be the worst bosses.
It's worse if you engage in Union Activities.
I was helping a patient and right out in the open I was told by the charge nurse, "now would be a time to use your outdoor voice". I just looked at her like wtf is your problem. I never knew a career where I wanted to help people could be so nasty. I also got called out in a board room full of nurses. I got called "Ms. Assertive ". The passive aggressiveness is disgusting. The manager was too immature to give me constructive feedback, to this day I still have no idea what she was referring to or what was up her butt.
It literally makes me want to quit nursing 3 years in. 🙃 But I am really thankful for kind nurses that take time to educate.
Don't quit, just become indifferent towards anyone thinking negatively of you or verbalizing things of that nature. They feed off of impacting you and the only way anything negative stops is if you keep your head straight, be a good team player and make that paycheck with a goal (you MUST have a goal to be there!) At some point other good nurses will value you and love to work with you, and the b**ches will ween off because their efforts do not phase you. Bullies love to pick on those that look like they can be bullied. Got to look like you dgaf and there for your personal goal (whatever that may be).
Im planning to study nursing. After watching this video i realise nursing is not for me. I dont like bullies and i really fight back. So i might study for 3 years and get fired on my first day.
Healthcare is sooo toxic the bullying is insane !
I was eaten alive when I first started ...it was hell on earth...terrible vicious people
Nursing is toxic. I was bullied and harassed by group of nurses who did not like me. They went as far as falsifying information about me to HR. I am still fighting it.
Health care is like high school all over again
He is telling the truth, so sad. One reason why I display patience and welcome questions while training new nurses.
Im a new nurse at this hospital and is still on training. It was my first time doing the hand over and my senior nurse yelled and insulted at me instead of teaching me how to do the right thing. Now im afraid to do hand overs and im even more anxious to go to work.
I'm sorry that is happening to you. Same has happened to me during report. Makes me anxious, too.
That just means you are doing it right. She’s jealous
Quit or change preceptors
@@yonursecoko5229 how can you change preceptors?
I’m glad people are coming out sharing their stories! I pray for people getting bullied at their jobs
just don't be that nurse. You scar ppl for life. I hope this changes. Hang in there if you can. Love you all!
Hi Alex and all nurses, never be afraid to walk away from a nursing job. Do your year and then self promote yourself to a less toxic environment. Many times if you switch hospitals, you can negotiate more money. But get that job before you quit.
We can’t control the actions of those around us, but we can control ours. Thanks for making this video and being a positive light for those around you! ❤
Whoever ignores this video, that toxic person is a nurse bully in disguise
I asked a guy I work with about this as I hear it a lot and as someone who is always interested in the nursing field, I like to pick the brains of nurses in my own career field , and since he was a registered nurse of many many years I brought up this topic to him to get his real life perspective. When I tell you he got so defensive, I immediately thought hmmm, I probably struck a nerve. I'm sure it's real and very true.
Or someone is gathering info on what they may face going into the healthcare field. I'm wanting to go into nursing to get experience to become a doctor, so im more empathetic about the nurses under my charge( former Marine here).
Some things never change 😐
When I became an RN in 2000, there were clicks and no one helped. I had one nurse from night shift who told me, “get your skills down,so you don’t have to depend on anyone.” He was a night shift nurse and I worked days. I am so thankful to him because he taught me so much. He stayed one hour extra in the morning to help me out ❤
I just want to send a huge shoutout to all of the good nurses out there! Thank you for ALL you do!!!
to be honest THIS is the only true reason I haven't started nursing school, because I am afraid of the bullying (I was bullied in my school wehre I was a "pretty" girl and never learned how to deal with them)😭😭😭
Interesting you would say that because I worked with an ER nurse in Alaska same deal she was really pretty, ran marathons, and was bullied because of her positive attitude and outward appearance. She did well, I met up with her in California again. You will be fine just be particular where you work and who you choose to trust at work. Ask for shifts with the ones you work well with.
I almost left in my 1st year of nursing. Alot of toxic nurse's in the profession. Appreciate your honesty. It's good to know I am not alone. Really hope the bullies can change.
I was straight abused while working in LTC and subacute- screamed at so badly that spit was hitting my face, being called inept, being guilt tripped, being physically threatened. It can be a disgusting work environment
I'm an ICU nurse (25 years old), have a Bachelor of Science degree (this is not mandatory in Germany unlike other countries), I am also a mentor for new nurses. I keep getting bullied, screamed at and false things are being spread about me. I am always interested about learning more, I never sit still and always work hard but these witches keep bullying me and now I'm about to quit and transfer to NICU. I've had enough! One year of dealing with this and I go to work crying all the time, feeling sick and like absolute shit!
Perhaps it is more the nature of the work that you are doing. High stress , high stakes job where lives are being looked after . ❤❤❤
Unfortunately when people are under stress these things will happen.
@Carnationblue77 not an excuse. Everyone has bad days but it's not normal and ok to act like this on a daily basis without apologizing.
@Carnationblue77 I know that because I work there too. However if I react badly to others I apologize and try to improve my behavior. Screaming at others DAILY, spreading misinformation and bullying is not okay and there is no excuse for that. If stress makes someone act that way, they aren't suitable for ICU
I feel like you’ve told me about myself. I dont understand bullies
When the nurse suddenly throws you down suddenly and yells at you, then all of a sudden starts to call you sweetie, that tells a nan, "RUN!". Sign the waiver, no future treatment desired, and get out! Taxi cab driver pick up completely understood. Still in hospital gown driver took me home. All is well. My home is way better than the hospital. Have everr everything meaning everything here at home. Never ever will go back, ever, no matter what.
I’m an RRT (registered respiratory therapist) and will retire soon. The thing I’ll enjoy most about retirement is that I’ll never have to work around nurses again! It’s just high school all over again!
Simply, those monsters have a wrong job. They don't belong there and mostly, they are narcissists. There are tons of narcissists in health care.
Every job u go to. The world is filled with them u can move no were. All Facts
@@rahkeembattiste5854 For real.
Honestly the only job where I was actually appreciated and treated well was at a fast food place. Even when I was slow, they encouraged me and had my back. Managers were cool and Supervisor was too. Once I started working at different places, literally started getting harassed by either coworkers or managers. Mainly because I can’t learn the same as others and I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety.
I’ve had this issue since elementary school til now…
@rahkeembattiste5854 but they are talking about Healthcare specifically
I left nursing school when the clinical instructors bullied the students. There were students crying in the parking lot at the end of the day. I used to wake up in the morning for clinical with a sense of dread that made me sick to my stomach. High school was an absolute cake walk by comparison.
As a nursing student, I made a med error. I felt ashamed and it was reported. My clinical instructor pulled me aside to talk to me and made me feel worse for making a mistake. I asked her if she ever made a med error? her reply? "no, never" LOL what the fuck....bitch was lying.
People who are so insecure, inferior and so low and unhappy, and very jealous are these bullies, how to succeed in this kind of environment is by been the best of you .
Going into my last semester as a nursing student in Australia and wow I can definitely confirm it’s like high school. It’s so refreshing to hear some down to earth advice about nursing. Love your vids!!
This shit is one of the many reasons I could ever be a nurse, but have the utmost respect for what they do. Especially ones like you, who call the bad shit out. Even when I was in high school or just a kid/teen in general, I genuinely couldn't have even begun to care less about "fitting in" and being popular/seen as cool or any of that. Hell, I wasn't even bullied in high school.. It sucks so many deeply immature, shallow, mean spirited people get into that field, because it is such a respectable field of work, despite many people not thinking so (for some ridiculous reason) Like, it was lame /immature back in high school trying so hard to fit and be cool.. especially bullies.. we all know now, it comes from a place of deep insecurity and immaturity.. which is fine for you know, children and teenagers, but grown ass adults?
Some of these nurses should NEVER be allowed to teach and should be over seen by a facility nurse Educator
Healthcare in general. I had to stand up for myself couple of times after crying. Once I cried, it was up from there, I stopped being bullied and give them a taste of their own medicine
I talked about this in one of my videos! This is the main reason why I dropped nursing school, I strongly disliked most of the students and the professors. I knew how they were acting, being mean and condescending was a precursor of what I’d be dealing with in the field! As I’m already a medical assistant and I get a little taste of it now. People were tearing me apart in the comments, I’m glad more people are talking about this now!!
As crazy as it sounds, this is all true and it's sad. I have been a nurse now for 3 years, all of which have been ICU. Luckily, I have not been bullied but I have seen it and I do not get it. Work as nurse is already stressful, so I do not get why people feel the need to make it more stressful. It fosters a place for bullying and tattling. I come in treating everyone kindly and with open arms to the newer nurses. I want to come in, have fun, lift the mood of the unit, take care of my patients and go home. All that extra stuff from negative and miserable nurses can stay away from me. I had to get someone in check for trying to speak down to a new nurse once. We have all been new at some point and didn't know what we know now, give people some slack. Thank you for making this video and speaking on this, Alex :)!
I'd work for you
I quit hospital nursing because of this very issue. I thought "If this is what nursing is like, I want no part of it." I decided to try home health nursing and love it. Other than the amazing patients, the best part of the job is not having to work in close contact with other nurses. Sad.
I agree 100% with you Julie!
I was bullied all the time by nurses my age but also younger nurses.
In hindsight, I wish I'd never gone into nursing but home health has been rewarding.
I work in home health, it really is a gem. Also the medical professionals that are in home health are always chill and genuinely want what’s best for the patient.
Thanks for the video. I really appreciate you exposing the truth. I am an RN and I was bullied too. WhenI reported it, nothing was ever done about it. Management always sided with the bullies. I was talked down too, made too feel like i was less than. My confidence took a big hit. I suffered anxiety and depression because of it. Bullying should never be tolerated and those who bully should be punished. I could never forget what happened to me. It is something that sticks with me till this day. Keep exposing the truth. Maybe things will change.
i love you alex!! to be honest i wasn’t even shocked by your stories because i’ve experienced it myself. in my experience i notice the generational bias that exists in nursing. i’ve come to find that older nurses are NOT fond of us younger new grads. i understand we have our differences but it’s really sad that they choose to repeat history and generational patterns such as shaming you for your lack of knowledge rather than lending a hand and providing education. gossiping behind your back (or sometimes in front of your face) rather than realizing they were once in your shoes and making you feel welcomed. and trying to sabotage you for whatever reason… jealousy? who knows. but for all the new nurses out there, don’t let their lousy attitude tear down yours. they can choose to be bitter and tear others down to make themselves feel better but i will never stoop to that level.
I experienced all of it for being a male new hire, and so did my brother. They sent back to Day 1 to redo training. How ridiculously degrading! They tried that on me and I didn't show the nxt day.
The crazy thing is, none of this bullying is actually about whether or not they like you- it’s about ACCOUNTABILITY!! It’s about simple respect and professionalism that they lack due to pride and being self-absorbed. People with INTEGRITY can dislike someone AND STILL treat them with dignity and RESPECT!!!
Nursing, like any profession with power, will attract arrogant self-serving, power-tripping, status-climbing reputation-seekers- IF NOT people who genuinely just want to help people and survive.
HOW DARE YOU TAP YOUR FOOT!!!! I am so shocked that a trusted healthcare worker would do such a normal thing and am clutching my pearls.
I believe you. They're afraid of being exposed.
Nursing has been known for decades, "Nurses eat their young." As an experienced RN I recall starting a new job and in front of me 2 nurses were fighting about not wanting to orient me... first day. Another first day memory, the young bright nurse orienting me took me into the supply storage room and listed 17 nurses previously that had left the unit that was only 2 years old at that point! What a way to start a new job. She told me out of care, like watch your back. After that I didn't talk much to the others, trying to gauge, by stepping back, what exactly was going on - favoritism, abuses, and trust issues which started with the supervisor keeping it chaotic like a dysfunctional family. By the way you could write a comedy act because nurses would laugh at the dark comedy. OMgoodness you just said that exact thing! Tip - don't believe Magnent Hospital recognition is any better.
Almost two decades later I still haven't let my guard down. I would never tell any of my Colleagues anything they can use against me I am with you trust no one.
Toxicity and bullying in Nursing is very real! Behaviour influences behaviour which is why it keeps happening. Thank you for being brave enough to approach this subject
I really appreciate you speaking about this. I am in my second semester of an accelerated nursing program, and today I encountered the worst nurse I’ve had to deal with yet. The condescending tone, sharp responses, and disdain she appeared to have for me was very difficult to work through. I’m nervous about entering the world of nursing and having to deal with more nurses like this. I have had really good experiences up until now, but like you said I feel I will carry today with me for a long time and not quickly forget how I felt during this clinical. I hope as new nurses coming into the field we can work to change this and show each other more compassion and patience.
I want to give the biggest virtual hugs to those who have been bullied. Nursing is so hard, its a lot easier when we support each out!!
Hell hath no fury and hostility than a nurse who is "off the clock" after work. My mother and sister were nurses, they come home and are hostile to every one in their family. My mother would say horrible things when she was tired. Complaining and "all those patients are just lazy". Nurses are nice to the patients but as soon as they punch the card "out".... watch out!
I had a friend whose mother was a nurse and she was Mean to her kids, even physically abusive. It's like she had two distinct personalities.
I witness a nurse refuse to cover her new grad’s lunch because that’s “what real nursing is like, she needs to find someone else” like omg let her eat!
I'm so sorry and feel for all the health professionals that have been bullied by a preceptor, charge nurse, etc. I am an RN for 20 yrs and 15 of those years as a preceptor and enjoyed every bit. It was so awesome to see these nurses bloom and develop. No one deserves that coming into the nursing world. If it's your passion, don't let that stop you. Your drive should always surpass the negative, believe in yourself, and succeed. Stay strong and confident. Inform your residency or manager that you want to change preceptors. Everyone deserves fairness and respect.
Remember to put a workers compensation claim if you suffer mental or physical trauma at work.. never resign.
The reason I appreciate these healthcare worker accounts and the comedy skits is because I had no idea what went on behind the scenes, as someone who has been abused in hospitals as a patient. It helps put things in perspective and maintain my empathy for the people who are trying to do the right thing in the most corrupt environments.
I'm not sure why this popped up on my feed 9 months later after the video was initially posted, but yes, I definitely experienced terrible bullying as a new grad nurse in the ICU at a regional hospital in LA. First day, my "preceptor" scanned me from top to bottom and spoke in her own native language to her colleague and rolled her eyes at me. For 12 hours, she did not speak a single word to me, and I had to ask her a question for her to acknowledge that I existed. I have been told that I was too stupid to be in the ICU, got yelled at for bringing in most up-to-date evidence based practice because I was a new grad and not their ethnicity. I quit when my director ignored my plea for addressing nurse bullying in the unit (honestly the culture is toxic because the director doesn't give a shit). I am now at a much reputable hospital with better culture now (and happier), but nowhere is perfect. Like what you shared, I have my 4-5 nurses I trust and have my back and it has helped me even though my current workplace is not perfect either. Thank you for sharing! I am VERY passionate about raising awareness about this bullying issue.
Let me guess . Was the native language Tagalog by any chance 😂
A toxic work environment will attract toxic people who have nowhere else to work. I left bedside nursing after 6 months and realized the “happiest Nurses and Doctors” work in other settings OUTSIDE the hospital
As a potential future patient it is terrifying to know that so many nurses who may oversee my care are so narcisdistic and insecure that they need to inflate their ego by putting down a captive audience. They are cold, cruel, and petty. They need to be exposed so people know to stay away from those hospitals even in an emergency.
The rise of bullying is usually the general barometer for the decline of an organization / civilization. The writing’s on the wall, people.
How very true this is!
sometimes I really question my life choices but then again, if I could survive high school bullying, this should be a piece of cake. maybe. we’ll see.
Just dropping by to let you know that you’re an amazing person, you don’t deserve to be bullied, and I’m wishing you much continued success. Thanks for putting this video out and teaching the world that bullying is not okay.
I was so blessed to get a job at a behavioral health hospital, night shift. They have so much empathy and so much patience. I was terrified because I didn’t know where I was going to work. I didn’t know anything, but I found something I loved and it’s working out so far. Don’t settle for less!!
As a patient I’ve dealt with nurse bullying specifically when I thought I was going to die after a car wreck that left me with two broken ankles hairline fractures and a broken wrist. I told them ahead of time I’m clinically diagnosed with a genetic anxiety disorder and that I take lexapro and have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. But besides that any normal person would have been anxious in a car wreck thinking they had internal bleeding of some sort and were going to die at the hospital. I was only 21 and the wreck wasn’t my fault I was a passenger. They shoved Xanax down my throat and got annoyed with me and bullied me. I’ve always wondered why they go into fields that are supposed to be for empathetic people. I’m thankful for the nurses that care but I’ll never understand the ones that bully others. It’s even more difficult going to the hospital for mental issues such as psychosis, mental disorders, or self harm related issues cause they’ll make your life a living hell and blame you for something out of your control. These kinds of nurses should stay far away from health care. I’m so sorry you had this experience
As a STUDENT, I had the nurse, who was ASSIGNED AND IN CHARGE, of a patient, try to make major deal out of the fact my patient went in bathroom AFTER I had been there, changed their gown and the patient left it lay in the bathroom. She tried to paint as I was a terrible nurse for not cleaning up the room. That happen around 45 yrs ago and I still remember the absurdity.
Yes, all this abuse can be traumatizing. I hope you had good memories too. Patients can be so thankful.
For me as a patient, emergency room visits and hospital stays are very scary these days due to some of the nursing staff attitudes.
I work in an Law Office and adult coworker bullies are a true mess 😮💨 but it’s always better to be kind, respectful, positive and keep your head up while wishing the best!!