This mom is not perfect, but wow she can tell the truth , which most of parents still struggle with . She has been able to thoroughly unpack her traumas, mistakes, downfalls acknowledge then and integrate them with the type of mom she knows she should be.
Validation, validation and more validation. I think if I were a 14 year old Nakho and had gone thru all this trauma, not only the rape , I wud have wanted validation from the woman who exposed me to these people. I wud have wanted comfort, assurance and an apology to say mntanam u didn't deserve this. Accountability to say, I take full responsibility as your sole parent and being the 1 who has allowed these men into our space. Mntanam I failed u . I wud have wanted an apology to say, I'm sorry u went thru this under my watch and I cudnt protect u. Validation to say I believe u, ur pain is valid, your anger towards us as ur parents is valid and justified. I think umama was going thru her own traumas so she wasn't able to give Nakho all this accountability, validation and support. U can't give what u don't have. She was not in a space yena kuqala emotionally and psychologicaly to give Nakho the support she needed, it seems. Hey we are learning from this, the mistakes, the experiences and the healing. Nibahle, niyathandeka and akho formula kulento ka life. We live and learn. Nakho has a forgiving heart and it stems from knowing that umamakhe uyamthanda. No wonder etefa 💓 bendizotefa mna kuqala. The love we don't get from our moms or parents we seek from amadoda, friends, alcohol etc so no matter how old Nakho is please adorne her with the best love u can give her so she finds the truest and most sincere love in the safest place, kumamakhe🙏❤️💕♥️ U have such an amazing daughter. Sanithandi maaan
I love your mom Nakho, I like how she openly communicates. This is how I want to raise my daughter, I don’t want my child hood traumas to prevent her from openly communicating with me, I want her to come to me, I want to be her go to person. She mustn’t be afraid to tell me anything that she’s feeling. I love your relationship and that you guys were able to get to were you are todau ❤️❤️❤️
I like that your mom managed to understand mental issues and health. Grooming, emotional health and took accountability. This helped with the healing process. Its rare that it is a stranger whi violates motho, so true they love bomb, groom and test boundries before they attack. I must add also females abuse boys and girls sexually not as common as men but it happens to, lets be knowledgeable on such issues 🙏. It is beautiful to see this😍😍
Its how ur mom acknowledge her own trauma. Its how she unpackes the abuse from home that made it normal for her even in the relationships..( yinyani enqabileyo leh)i think i admirer her level of introspection and that has helpd us to do one cz its clear how it affects our behaviour in our lives generally...also how she's not blaming anyone but took responsibility n did her research of where it all began (ndikothulela umnqwzi mama)..NAKHO YOU ARE A BORN GAME CHANGER .....
Thank you so much for this video🥺, I loved how you just let your mom speak and you did not interrupt her tuu.I have a 10 year old daughter,i learnt so much from you and Queen Mother🤗. We appreciate both of you for opening up,i know it can't be easy cause yhooh kunzima. UMamam umdala kakhulu (Ukwi 70's) if ndingathi masithethe ngezinto ezinje angabuza "what's wrong with you,uyagula? 😂🤣🤣.
'' Love yourself more and that will save you'' if love is no longer served then leave the table.. Let's stop being enablers and stop parenting men'' powerful words from a wise lady.. Wow she's a fountain of wisdom. You guys are such beautiful strong black women! Thank you ❤️💐🎉💋
Your mom and yourself are such strong women. You very smart you taught us so much today. Thank you for sharing and hopefully your truth will help someone out there.
Can we appreciate mommy for being so articulative. I admire both of you and the different strengths you both carry. Thank you for sharing this with us. 😍😘
You look like your mom, such beautiful women ❤️ And you seem to have a great relationship with your mom I'm glad you guys are still close to each other after everything
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I really loved how your mom touched on the impact of childhood trauma, in part 1. It really resonated with me as umntu who is currently working through mine. Also learning to forgive myself and my parents. Loved this.
I have learnt a lot from this video..I am happy that your mom was willing to unlearn and is now willing to listen to you.. I am so sorry that you both had to go through such a hard time but I am glad that you were able to forgive each other..♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much you guys for sharing such an intimate part of your life with us, we are honestly undeserving. Wishing you guys all the love and happiness in the world, you truly, truly deserve it!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing Nakho. There’s so many things I wish I could talk to my mother about. Unfortunately now that I’m grown and I have the words & courage to express my feelings and deal with it, she’s no more. So I have to do it all by myself. Your stories are triggering yet healing ♥️ We love you. Your mother is gorgeous Omg 😍 I liked the part where she says when you are humble, you will attract narcissists that will confuse you even further 💯
Nakho you and uMamaB need to write a book hey your story is truly heartfelt and amazing, there's so much growth that can help so many other parents with their children
Nako I am so sorry for what you went through..you have been through so much and you always manage to tell stories and smile..how do you even cope.. I really hope you get healing and prosper in all aspects of your life because wow…you really didn’t enjoy childhood at all at all…I wish I could hug you and really tell you that it’s over now..showers of blessings upon your life baby…
At the end of the first video I was like Haibo!!!! What happened I even had to rewind and say is this the end 🤣🤣🤣. Thank you so much for these 3 videos. Your mom is sooooo beautiful and so articulate, you look just like her. I'm so glad she agreed to do the 2 Q/A videos, she should definitely have her own channel 🤩💋 May you both heal forever 🙏
Firstly I’m so proud of y’all for how far you have come together❤️❤️ I’m so sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience🥺I hope you continue healing and being better version of yourselves Thank you mama for the profound advices. I love y’all so much, articulated so well❤️❤️ Thank you Nakho for sharing-your mama with us💙🤩 She is such a sweetheart , and Shem no offense she look so younger than you, such a strong beautiful in and out woman❤️❤️😁 Warm hugs❤️❤️❤️❤️☺️
Uncumo luka Mama, so warm, so gorgeous. I LURVE how u found each other after the pain. U both deserve the best love ever, the mother and daughter bond. I have been wondering how usis Busi feels abiut your story time cause baby u r truthful👏🙆😀😂❤️❤️❤️
Nakho is blessed to have a mother who is young, Morden and understanding, you see now ingathi ningamawele from where i am standing it looks like a solidified relationship you got. ufana noKamo Mphela on this video too much, especially with the weight gain, very cute uyathandeka
Thank you Subbies, am taking note of all your responses, thank you for the love. I wish to acknowledge, one by one, unfortunately have been on the road and very busy at home, we busy with Umsebenzi for our late father. You are acknowledged and am very greatful guys, for the support you give to my daughter.❤️❤️ If it werent for her channel, i would still be in the dark, i learnt a lot of her struggles through this channel. Nako is an introvert, njeeee. Her channel has been eye opening Thank you so much❤️❤️
This was such a raw conversation, thank you so much for this Nakho and Mama, I can feel Nakho's pain as uMama retells the trauma of the period when they were just not getting along. I can only hope that one day I will be able to have a conversation with this level of honesty with my own mother.
Nakho I wish I could be like you mna I sitting and wondering how can I forgive my mother for hiding me I'm 28 years and yes it was teenage pregnancy ndayobekwa kulo tata ndaziwa yifamily encinci yakhe kwa kula mdantsane ndandbuyela pha coz zange ndfumane res eskolweni but kwakho isigqibo soba if I am going to stay with her maka ziwe as my sister even ne extended family abayaz I remember utatakhe eswelekile ndandingaziwa so waziwa ingulomntu nam I would forgive forgive my mother atleast akaziwa engenamntana andkwaz nokhumsha what's worse ke kum I am the only child ndimcaphukela gqita ngokhohlakala la kholeka
Man ohw man I applaud 👏 the both of you 🥺🤗 and being a victim myself I'm gaining a lot more especially healing from you sharing. I also have a burning desire to share but I'm not gonna lie there's a lot of parties involved and that's including my kids so it's a difficult one as I'm trying to mend my relationship with them. Eyona inzima is the loss of their father whom we just burried a week ago and whom they love dearly and don't understand or somehow blame me for having left him😖 it's tough kwa parenting mntase
Thank you so much for sharing this, it made a lot of sense especially when Mom spoke about childhood trauma ❤ You both looked breathtakingly beautiful 😍 ❤
Besides just being a storytime, this was so edicational🤗 thank you so much for your presence queen mother ❤ I love your relationship and your intelligence🤗
Yhooo sisBusi indlela esikhuliswe ngayo thina bo early and late 80s okwakungxoliswa for no reason or thethelwe phezulu sasingaboni nto I wrong, Ndim lo kowam umntana and uthule veske angaphenduli
I loved this and just subscribed mother daughter relationships are not the easiest and hope I improve mine with my mom I was daddy's girl and since he passed I've felt so alone so I have learned a lot here
I’m glad your relationship with mom is currently healthy 💕 Mom is right, grooming is real. Most rapists are good at it, especially paedophiles. May both of you find healing 🌸🌸🌸
Thank you Nakos and Subbies, it means a lot, sharing pieces of my life with you❤️🙏🙏
Thank you mother ♥️♥️♥️
So much wisdom sana when I'm in Plett I need a drop for my cup❣🤌..You both come a long way maan
Thank you for your openness and your wisdom. ❤
We love you Mother. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks mummy for opening up to us. May God bless you with more wisdom and honour.
This mom is not perfect, but wow she can tell the truth , which most of parents still struggle with . She has been able to thoroughly unpack her traumas, mistakes, downfalls acknowledge then and integrate them with the type of mom she knows she should be.
She is a very young mom, very young. I'm glad she loves Nakho enough to do better as a parent. Many parents have failed their kids in this area
Validation, validation and more validation. I think if I were a 14 year old Nakho and had gone thru all this trauma, not only the rape , I wud have wanted validation from the woman who exposed me to these people. I wud have wanted comfort, assurance and an apology to say mntanam u didn't deserve this. Accountability to say, I take full responsibility as your sole parent and being the 1 who has allowed these men into our space. Mntanam I failed u . I wud have wanted an apology to say, I'm sorry u went thru this under my watch and I cudnt protect u. Validation to say I believe u, ur pain is valid, your anger towards us as ur parents is valid and justified. I think umama was going thru her own traumas so she wasn't able to give Nakho all this accountability, validation and support. U can't give what u don't have. She was not in a space yena kuqala emotionally and psychologicaly to give Nakho the support she needed, it seems. Hey we are learning from this, the mistakes, the experiences and the healing.
Nibahle, niyathandeka and akho formula kulento ka life. We live and learn. Nakho has a forgiving heart and it stems from knowing that umamakhe uyamthanda. No wonder etefa 💓 bendizotefa mna kuqala. The love we don't get from our moms or parents we seek from amadoda, friends, alcohol etc so no matter how old Nakho is please adorne her with the best love u can give her so she finds the truest and most sincere love in the safest place, kumamakhe🙏❤️💕♥️ U have such an amazing daughter. Sanithandi maaan
Beautifully said 👌🏾❤
deep
As a teenage mother myself it's heart warming to see how close you guys are now
Your mom is so articulate ♥️🌸 I’ve learnt so much from you guys.
I love mama B I hope we see her again soon. Maybe start a "ask mama B" session
When mama held you I couldn’t stop crying 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
I truly love how your relationship with our Mom improved its heart warming, thank you for sharing your story with us
Mother's last words are very profound...let us allow men to work on themselves and not parent them.
I'm so glad umamakho esemtsha and how she understands better now hayi kunzima kwaba bethu badala ba anivani anivani ke💔
I love your mom Nakho, I like how she openly communicates. This is how I want to raise my daughter, I don’t want my child hood traumas to prevent her from openly communicating with me, I want her to come to me, I want to be her go to person. She mustn’t be afraid to tell me anything that she’s feeling. I love your relationship and that you guys were able to get to were you are todau ❤️❤️❤️
I like that your mom managed to understand mental issues and health. Grooming, emotional health and took accountability. This helped with the healing process.
Its rare that it is a stranger whi violates motho, so true they love bomb, groom and test boundries before they attack. I must add also females abuse boys and girls sexually not as common as men but it happens to, lets be knowledgeable on such issues 🙏.
It is beautiful to see this😍😍
Its how ur mom acknowledge her own trauma. Its how she unpackes the abuse from home that made it normal for her even in the relationships..( yinyani enqabileyo leh)i think i admirer her level of introspection and that has helpd us to do one cz its clear how it affects our behaviour in our lives generally...also how she's not blaming anyone but took responsibility n did her research of where it all began (ndikothulela umnqwzi mama)..NAKHO YOU ARE A BORN GAME CHANGER .....
bay🐝, your first lady is wise for decades👌🔥🔥, I love💓
Thank you so much for this video🥺, I loved how you just let your mom speak and you did not interrupt her tuu.I have a 10 year old daughter,i learnt so much from you and Queen Mother🤗. We appreciate both of you for opening up,i know it can't be easy cause yhooh kunzima. UMamam umdala kakhulu (Ukwi 70's) if ndingathi masithethe ngezinto ezinje angabuza "what's wrong with you,uyagula? 😂🤣🤣.
'' Love yourself more and that will save you'' if love is no longer served then leave the table.. Let's stop being enablers and stop parenting men'' powerful words from a wise lady.. Wow she's a fountain of wisdom. You guys are such beautiful strong black women! Thank you ❤️💐🎉💋
Your mom and yourself are such strong women. You very smart you taught us so much today. Thank you for sharing and hopefully your truth will help someone out there.
Can we appreciate mommy for being so articulative. I admire both of you and the different strengths you both carry. Thank you for sharing this with us. 😍😘
You look like your mom, such beautiful women ❤️
And you seem to have a great relationship with your mom
I'm glad you guys are still close to each other after everything
Mommy is such a beaut😍😍 so full of wisdom and warmth🥺🥺🥺 oh u Bawo amgcine❤️❤️❤️
This woman is soo self aware 💜💜💜💜
Wow I really love how your mom answered those questions, This will help us to raise our kids as teenage moms, Thank you so much guys ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I really loved how your mom touched on the impact of childhood trauma, in part 1. It really resonated with me as umntu who is currently working through mine. Also learning to forgive myself and my parents. Loved this.
I have learnt a lot from this video..I am happy that your mom was willing to unlearn and is now willing to listen to you..
I am so sorry that you both had to go through such a hard time but I am glad that you were able to forgive each other..♥️♥️♥️
I like Nakho's mom sooo much I really hope we're going to see more of her on the channel she's a sweetheart 🥺❤❤
Her gorgeous smile pethuna. Hope to see her again indeed
"Your abuser will grown you so that he will gain trust" yuuu 🥺
Such transparency from the both of you ❤much appreciated ladies. May God continue to bring healing to the both of you.
I'm here crying over the story.....I'm so sorry to you and umama.....akhonto ingadluliyo❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I think you got the speaking gift from momma😊May we see her more often🙏Love from Namibia🤗
When you spoke about men who are always around kids and the questions you ask yourself. I also have those thoughts.
Thank you so much you guys for sharing such an intimate part of your life with us, we are honestly undeserving. Wishing you guys all the love and happiness in the world, you truly, truly deserve it!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Akamhle umzali bethuna😩😍😍
A Mzali 😍👌
I love how you both are so transparent and owning your truths. This definitely helped me as a person as well ❤️❤️
❤ to continuous healing and self confidence ✨
Thank you for sharing Nakho. There’s so many things I wish I could talk to my mother about. Unfortunately now that I’m grown and I have the words & courage to express my feelings and deal with it, she’s no more. So I have to do it all by myself.
Your stories are triggering yet healing ♥️
We love you.
Your mother is gorgeous Omg 😍
I liked the part where she says when you are humble, you will attract narcissists that will confuse you even further 💯
Siyakuthanda mama, thank you so much for sharing your life and stories with us😍🥰❤️
Thank you so much for this,could watch it all day.I so wish there was part 3
Your mom is amazing 😍😍
I learned a lot
Nakho you and uMamaB need to write a book hey your story is truly heartfelt and amazing, there's so much growth that can help so many other parents with their children
Raw stories 🙏 Lovely Nakho & mom ❤️
The content I needed on the internet today! So much healing and self introspection in this. May we have more of this
I honestly loved this episodes. I understand how important having a positive relationship with family.
Thank you so much laddies ❤️
Nako I am so sorry for what you went through..you have been through so much and you always manage to tell stories and smile..how do you even cope.. I really hope you get healing and prosper in all aspects of your life because wow…you really didn’t enjoy childhood at all at all…I wish I could hug you and really tell you that it’s over now..showers of blessings upon your life baby…
At the end of the first video I was like Haibo!!!! What happened I even had to rewind and say is this the end 🤣🤣🤣. Thank you so much for these 3 videos. Your mom is sooooo beautiful and so articulate, you look just like her. I'm so glad she agreed to do the 2 Q/A videos, she should definitely have her own channel 🤩💋
May you both heal forever 🙏
Yhey I was shocked nami like what happened 🤣
Okay, I'm not alone 😂😂😂
So this is where you get your beauty. Tjo nibahle Nakho nino mama
"You must be in control of your 🧠". You really are a wise woman Mama Bee
Restoration❤ I love you so much Nakho and Mom B. Ntando is surrounded by great women.
Firstly I’m so proud of y’all for how far you have come together❤️❤️
I’m so sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience🥺I hope you continue healing and being better version of yourselves
Thank you mama for the profound advices. I love y’all so much, articulated so well❤️❤️
Thank you Nakho for sharing-your mama with us💙🤩
She is such a sweetheart , and Shem no offense she look so younger than you, such a strong beautiful in and out woman❤️❤️😁
Warm hugs❤️❤️❤️❤️☺️
I love this. May your relationship grow even stronger❤❤
Uncumo luka Mama, so warm, so gorgeous. I LURVE how u found each other after the pain. U both deserve the best love ever, the mother and daughter bond.
I have been wondering how usis Busi feels abiut your story time cause baby u r truthful👏🙆😀😂❤️❤️❤️
We live for these...so proud of you and mom!
Nakho is blessed to have a mother who is young, Morden and understanding, you see now ingathi ningamawele from where i am standing it looks like a solidified relationship you got.
ufana noKamo Mphela on this video too much, especially with the weight gain, very cute uyathandeka
Anibahle. This was such a beautiful eye opening video❤
Thank you Subbies, am taking note of all your responses, thank you for the love. I wish to acknowledge, one by one, unfortunately have been on the road and very busy at home, we busy with Umsebenzi for our late father.
You are acknowledged and am very greatful guys, for the support you give to my daughter.❤️❤️
If it werent for her channel, i would still be in the dark, i learnt a lot of her struggles through this channel. Nako is an introvert, njeeee. Her channel has been eye opening
Thank you so much❤️❤️
You are blessed with a wise mother, woke and self-aware
I love your relationship with umother🥺💕💕
thank you for opening up to us. 😊
🔥🔥🔥 haven't watched but nibahle yoh
Your mom is so pretty and full of wisdom.
This is deep joo. Nakho you went through a lot.
This was such a raw conversation, thank you so much for this Nakho and Mama, I can feel Nakho's pain as uMama retells the trauma of the period when they were just not getting along. I can only hope that one day I will be able to have a conversation with this level of honesty with my own mother.
Nakho I wish I could be like you mna I sitting and wondering how can I forgive my mother for hiding me I'm 28 years and yes it was teenage pregnancy ndayobekwa kulo tata ndaziwa yifamily encinci yakhe kwa kula mdantsane ndandbuyela pha coz zange ndfumane res eskolweni but kwakho isigqibo soba if I am going to stay with her maka ziwe as my sister even ne extended family abayaz I remember utatakhe eswelekile ndandingaziwa so waziwa ingulomntu nam I would forgive forgive my mother atleast akaziwa engenamntana andkwaz nokhumsha what's worse ke kum I am the only child ndimcaphukela gqita ngokhohlakala la kholeka
Thank you for sharing I will keep you and your mom in our prayers, God has already restored all that needs to be restored
Chile your mom is so pretty ❤❤❤
Umama ne wisdom 🤞
Ohhh man I love.... Love this🥺❤️🌹
Man ohw man I applaud 👏 the both of you 🥺🤗 and being a victim myself I'm gaining a lot more especially healing from you sharing. I also have a burning desire to share but I'm not gonna lie there's a lot of parties involved and that's including my kids so it's a difficult one as I'm trying to mend my relationship with them. Eyona inzima is the loss of their father whom we just burried a week ago and whom they love dearly and don't understand or somehow blame me for having left him😖 it's tough kwa parenting mntase
Thank you So Much Nakho and Busi you're both beautiful, strong and wise women ♥️♥️♥️
lovely to watch and honest
Love and strength to the both of you❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Nako and Mommy for sharing such intimate experiences with us, we would love more sessions with Mommy, there's so much knowledge and light ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this, it made a lot of sense especially when Mom spoke about childhood trauma ❤
You both looked breathtakingly beautiful 😍 ❤
This was very touching. Thank you for sharing 💕
You were meant for so much greatness, and you are great, may you run to God good and bad times ❤️Goodluck and God bless you and your family
Besides just being a storytime, this was so edicational🤗 thank you so much for your presence queen mother ❤ I love your relationship and your intelligence🤗
Oh my word , your mother is such a wise woman
I *REALLY* enjoyed this video and learnt so much! Thanks Nakho and Mama❤
This was an important discussion to have.
Thank you baybee and mom for this episode definitely learnt a lot from it.much love❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing 🥺❤️
Yhooo sisBusi indlela esikhuliswe ngayo thina bo early and late 80s okwakungxoliswa for no reason or thethelwe phezulu sasingaboni nto I wrong, Ndim lo kowam umntana and uthule veske angaphenduli
Gang gang 🥳🥳
Mommy umuhle bakithi
😭😭oh man🫂❤
We like b4 even watching
I love this for you two. May God bless you both abundantly.
A consistent hun 😉
Your moms voice sounds lime sis Pinky
Mommy is just as beautiful as you. The heart too.
I enjoyed this video so much wow
I loved this and just subscribed mother daughter relationships are not the easiest and hope I improve mine with my mom I was daddy's girl and since he passed I've felt so alone so I have learned a lot here
loved this
Oooh man❤️❤️❤️
Yaz' lana dzoll you look like Ntokozo M 😍😍😍Haymrn look at you Nakho, Hewethu look at your mom looking like a teen 🤣🙃🥰 Bayb🐝🐝🥰
Baybee🐝♥️
Your mom is so beautiful🔥🔥🔥
Notification gang🐝💕💕💕
Register ✅
I’m glad your relationship with mom is currently healthy 💕
Mom is right, grooming is real. Most rapists are good at it, especially paedophiles. May both of you find healing 🌸🌸🌸
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