Modern Family’s Gloria - A New Second Wife Playbook
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On the surface, Modern Family’s Gloria Delgado-Pritchett checks off many of the boxes of the “second wife trope” - like being a stunning, suspected gold digger. But as the show progresses, we realize that Jay and Gloria are incredibly compatible and in love.
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I'd love for you guys to do a character analysis of the characters on girlfriends! Maya, joan, lynn and toni are truly fascinating.
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Stop with the
Toxic masculinity BS !
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I love how Gloria is a refreshing aversion of the "Wicked Stepmother" trope. Rather than being characterised as cartoonly evil and hating her stepchildren, Gloria is nothing but benevolent to Jay's family, plus Claire and Mitchell are roughly around her age.
One of my favorite 2nd wives in real life I'd Barbara Lewinsky, Monica's stepmom. She stuck out to ne because her aesthetic seemed more sporty 90s mom than Marcia Lewis's (Monica's mother) glamorous presentation but both moms were supportive and protective of Monica. Pictures I looked up of Barbara showed her shielding her stepdaughter from nasty paparazzi and she called out Bill Clinton as a butthead for everything.
I have a soft spot for 2nd wives who are less stereotypically glam or older (Barbara looked more like she was old enough to be Monica's mom than Marcia) or less privileged (Gloria was a single mom from a working-classneighborhood) than the first. I was surprised to find out Kamala Harris is slightly older than Doug Emhoff's first wife, especially as he was an entertainment lawyer.
Isn’t Gloria younger than Claire?
@@h193013 Yep, two years younger, which I think is hilarious.
@@Xone9 Nah I was watching an episode yesterday, it's 14 months. Mitch is about two years younger than Claire 😀
@@Xone9 she's 14 months younger
I loved that Gloria, Phil and Cam had a secret society since they all married Pritchetts haha
I loved this episode! Especially when Gloria used the russian lines she learned on the playground
My household frequently uses the phrase "I'm going out for orange juice"
Orange Juice.
Remarriage is adultery, Romans 7 teaches that first marriage spouses are married until death do them part.
Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️!
Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget!
So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen.
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Which episode is this? 😮
Also... Gloria was such a wonderful mother to Manny. She always supported him so he could express himself the way he wanted. And when Jay sometimes critzises Manny's behaviour for not being "masculine enough", Gloria immediately puts him straight.
She didn't support Manny, she did pity him. She saw him as less just because he doesn't engage in male coded hobbies. She always shits on his poems behind his back, but could never tell him in his face
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 wtf no she doesn't
@@sadpowie watch mothers day episode
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 one episode of the thousands, they made her human, u don't think your parents did the same
@@Poppin-film there are a few other episodes where she shamed his interests. She also yelled at him because he wasn't partying.
I know she's human and humans are flawed. I still enjoy her because she is so funny and entertaining. But we shouldn't praise her as a super mom
This made me think of how second husbands are portrayed. Usually the main character is the first husband but the woman takes the kids and gets with a man who is more financially stable and acts very mature and fatherly. But this is often portrayed as the second husband emasculating the first husband who is the main character and the man the audience is rooting for. Then the first husband engages in schemes to win the wife or kids back. It's like promoting toxic loser fathers.
That's why I liked how Miranda in Mrs. Doubtfire didn't end back up with Daniel. It was a really believable relationship.
Or how the second husband is killed off in the story so that the first husband can swoop in.
I hate the stereotypes of the 1st husband. It's really toxic and sexist towards men.
@@pixelpulse0755 only if he has no self respect.
My favorite depiction of the second husband is the one from Freaky Friday (2003). He reassures the mother (who is actually the daughter) that he understands he’ll never be able to replace their deceased father, but instead is allowing their daughter to warm up to him whenever she’s ready on her terms, attempting to integrate into the family properly with respect to the kid’s memory of their lost parent. We need more depictions of positive male/father roles like this.
I love Gloria so much. What I love about her is that she doesn't hid the fact that she married Jay for his money but it doesn't take away the fact that she truly love Jay.
Lol, yes
I didn’t she married Jay for that reason I thought she loved him
I don't get why people think those two are usually separate both can be true at the same time. I like that plus she is fun
Of course she married him for his money.
@@Introvertsan cuz usually people don’t like to be objectified, it’s honestly insulting
How would you feel if you had someone do that to you?
Gloria was also a great insight on Latinas in a predominately white space/family. My mom is Latina (Spanish is her second language), everyone, including my siblings and I, see how alike she is to Gloria.
Gloria's line "you don't even know how smart I am in Spanish" made me understand and see my mother in a new light
@luna Not to mention that there are white Latinos (especially Argentina, south Brasil, Honduras, etc...) Latino is a culture not a race. And Gloria is definitely a european looking woman (she actually looks a bit like the italian actress sophia loren)
Remarriage is adultery, Romans 7 teaches that first marriage spouses are married until death do them part.
Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️!
Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget!
So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen.
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If spanish is her second language, wouldn’t she be smarter in english?
@@theitgirl4471 Heck, her actress's natural hair color is blonde.
Hi! I think I can answer that. I speak 4 languages, but Mexican Spanish is my native language.Regular communication in another language is easy,but when Im in a heated argument I'll stumble to express a concept that has no direct translation (e.g. 'extrenar'-to wear clothing or use something for the first time,with anticipation) . So whole I stumble for the correct word in my argument, the listener will think I'm slow or stupid, even if my ideas are valid.The monolingual will perceive the careful polyglot as stupid even if that is not the case.
Because of fluency, I sound smarter conversing in Spanish & English than with native German speakers.
What I love about Jay and Gloria's relationship is that they both aren't ashamed of the fact that Jay is rich and Gloria is beautiful. Which some people may view as gold-digging and marrying a person for beauty or whatever. Those traits are just what brought them together, but their true love for each other is what keeps them together. Gloria isn't the stereotypical second wife who marries for money usually, she's a hardworking, immigrant, single mother who doesn't use her beauty to take advantage or use people. Whereas Jay is hardworking and rich, but he's not scared to share it with Gloria, Manny, and their relatives.
Jay knows the hardships that Gloria and Manny went through in their lives, which is why Jay spoils both of them and doesn't limit them. He willingly gives, rather than the stereotype that the second family always takes. Jay gives Gloria the affection and pampering that she deserves. While Gloria gives Jay the space to open up and be vulnerable and speak about his feelings. They both bring something into the table, which is what makes them perfect for each other.
Is there a story of how they got together? Cause I assume it's not because he had money and she's beautiful but idj
@@DirtyPrancing In the first season, Jay said that they met at a wedding. But, in the season Joe was born, Jay said in his speech at the christening that they met while he was getting his car washed or something like that then he went to a cafe I think then heard Sonya talking and he sent over a pie, but it was Gloria who went to Jay and thank him. I'm not saying they got together because of those traits what I meant was that those are the main traits that attracted them to each other. But Jay's stability and Gloria's loving nature among their many traits are what made them fall in love. The money and beauty were just the initial attraction.
Yes, more Modern Family analysis! People seem to have forgotten how good the show was.
yeeees!! agreee! we need more!!
When was that? It was garbage for most of its run.
I've been rewatching, and I forgot how funny it is
@@williammccormick2802 Wrong.
@@JW-xd8up Okay, which part?
I love how Gloria never shamed her son for his non traditionally masculine or weird interests. We need more of that in our cultures (American and Latin/Hispanic).
As an introvert, I don’t seem to have a lot of common with her at first, but I still relate to her so much! ❤️
Actually she did shame him for it. She wishes for him to be more traditionally and interested in typical male hobbies. She even wanted him to party around because she is tired of his poems.
I think we can cut her some slick because there's an episode where she doesn't want to tell him this. She may not like his lifestyle but she doesn't want to hurt him or force him to change which is a kind of support
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 I've seen a lot of the show and Gloria overall supports Manny like crazy in everything. She obviously isn't perfect but even when she was annoyed at Manny's poems it was for good reason, he basically harassing the girls at his school with them. It was also just a joke for the episode, Manny is self confident despite not being typically masculine because of how much Gloria hypes him up no matter what.
@@lv4656 exactly she’s his biggest cheerleader and goes out of her way to make sure he reaches his goals like flirting with teachers or directors to get him what he wants
The flute and the Pancho scene😂😂😂🤣
19:10 As a Latina woman who married a white guy from the Midwest, I can’t express how important it was to have him actively learn Spanish. It gave me a sense that I was at home. That I didn’t have to translate what came to me naturally. It’s seriously so important. My mother had experiences of being judged as less intelligent due to her accent too.
That speech Gloria gave about how intelligent she is in Spanish really hit home for me. I speak a second language and always understood those feelings, both directions, but it really put it into words for me that helped a lot.
exactly! also if you're moving to a whole new place the least they can do is honestly try their best to learn your language. you give uo so much relocating so they better meet you halfway
Disgusting.
I like that Gloria's emotional openess is presented as a positive contribution to the family dynamic, she's not treated as the typical "fiery latina that needs to be tamed."
No shade to any second wife, but I kind of understand why adult kids can't stomach seeing their father being in a relationship with someone their age.
Age gap relationships 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩
Probably because Society tells us that a woman should be with an older man
That's a prejudice and mean to the parent. If you have a parent that actually loves you, works/ed to make your life better, and isn't abusive... the best version of you would celebrate their new found happiness. Age gaps are not inherently problematic, and it isn't right to condemn people just for finding love in a way that you (arbitrarily) don't like. As long as everyone involved is of age, it's morally perfectly fine. And if you're going to respond with anecdotes or sweeping generalizations, don't bother.
I don't think it matters people just want to hate the second husband or wife and blame them for why their parents are not together.
Yeah, it has to do with the idea that an age gap relationship is intrinsically abusive and that a young woman with an older man is always either a golddigger taking advantage of an older guy or a predatory man going for a naive innocent girl so an odler child may feel uncomfortable cause they feel like those are the options. In reality as long as they're both consenting adults there's no reason why the relationship have to be unhealthy and if they're happy with each other there really isn't a reason why they can't work together
I think more than the second wife, the trope of the boring old and bitter first wife needs a rewriting.
THIS.
YES. Why isn't she out feeling joy with life, or rediscovering her own interests, or also falling in love with a better match, or any number of things.
Even as a stepmother I agree. My husband's first wife and I get along. She went and got remarried. She lets me love her kids. I think this is some made up BS by men lol.
@@JayneNicoletti That makes sense, because from the perspective of man (or anyone after a break up) he'd want to see his ex wife miserable in life without him, as revenge. Doesn't say anything good about him, really, if you think about it.
The latest Cheaper By The Dozen did this. It's nice to see first wife and second wife get along
Gloria carried this show in heels 👠
Phil too, to be honest.
And I really hate how Jay treats him.
Gloria Pritchett is the stepmother I wished I had! She's very sharp, very smart and has a carefree attitude to life whilst being a proud, fierce, loving, brave mother to both Manny and Joe.
She is also very caring to Claire and Mitch and I love that so much!
@@millasuini8307 yes!!
And Jay really deserves her. It could be that she offers the sexy and he offers the money, and that's it. I really admired how committed they both were to each other, and to having a better marriage than their first
Every character in Modern Family is perfectly written. They’re multidimensional and complex.
Except Alex and Haley. Very cartoonishly archetypal of the pretty air head & the lonely nerd
@@SB-xs1pn those two suffer the most but actually all the characters are stereotypes and archetypes. But that's not a bad thing I mean it's a sitcom. It's also subverting in a way for example when they suprise the audience with character traits which no one could have guessed as Jay liking dog shows and Cam being a rugby player/teacher. But it doesn't change the fact that modern family characters are tropes you have seen earlier. Dumb funny dad? Strict mom? Lonely nerds?
@@SB-xs1pn they do grow and change not much but alex and haleys role in the show is to mirror each other
@@SB-xs1pn true but as the show progresses they become less stereotypical and are very likeable
Lukes character was so butchered at the end
I absolutely love Gloria's character! She is so dynamic and vibrant. One of my favorite moments is when Jay is talking to Joe while he's still in the womb and he says "By God, I hope you gain your mother's confidence". Their love for each other is genuine and so amazing to see. I also love the moment when Gloria confronts a snooty hostess and after they get kicked out of the restaurant, they find a taco truck and sing Jay's favorite song together with the adult kids. It is so sweet.
"Jay, kiss your son, he is a mess." Great line.
Another thing I want to point out given how Gloria is regarded as a threat: there is thing and it can appear as pearl clutching, in real life where often white Anglo women react negatively to non Anglo and poc women expressing their sexuality (Mary J Blige, J. Lo, Shakira at the Super Bowl, the Hot Girl Summer backlash) often as threatening to children, causing low self esteem in women their age, like Jennifer Weiner's essay about being a Dorothy in a world where Blanche isn't hot anymore. A commenter on Jezebel said this in regards to the article:
"Black and Brown women don’t necessarily buy into the 'I am invisible post 40 years old, woah is me' thing. Go to any backyard BBQ in the ‘hood in the summer time and you’ll see Black and Brown moms and even grandmas in short shorts and tank tops looking cute as hell. They may not look like JLo, of course, but they do have no issues with feeling sexy and sharing that with the world."
That's food for thought.
I love this comment, I wish I could give it more likes.
I'm white as goat cheese, young and afraid of becoming older a loosing my beauty, but this comment is so inspiring.
(Even though I know a lot of white women that are absolutely sensual or dressed sexy in their fourties and fifties, just maybe not after that. But it's inspiring regardless.)
@@Nina-cd6uw That's what I don't understand. The Anglo woman is well seen, like Marylin Monroe, for example..
@@vanessaguimaraes01 because that's misogyny's favorite tactic? Tell any woman behind her back why aren't you more like her? While they literally just called her(either the "Good Girl"/"Bad Girl") a bitch, infront of the other woman, while also keeping up the narrative, it's a bad idea to work with her, she'll hand you over to enemy, before your back is even turned,
@@vanessaguimaraes01 Marilyn never got old
@@jennyfab312 never got the chance 😭
Another great thing about Gloria (or their depiction of her) is that she's unashamedly who she is, she's allowed to be sexy and confident, whilst also being a great mum, whilst also appreciating money or looking good. None of these things are used to vilify her, in the way they coincide with manipulation in Meredith Blake or Fiona from A Cinderella Story.
i just love when gloria describes helicopters using the sound "takatakataka" and when she says "please come back" after sending claire a rude email lol. shes so funny yet an icon
In Latin America it's very common to use onomatopoeia whenever the moment requires it. For example, people on Hispaniola (where I'm from) like to use "kehekehek" to represent a coughing sound. It's little details like that that make me appreciate an actually Latina actress playing Gloria, as opposed to someone ethnically ambiguous who can get away with pretending. All the little nice touches of Sofia's heritage make Gloria more authentic.
You know I am glad that stepmoms are not the villain as much as they used to.
There are many blended family stories where the second wife is not the automatic villain but an integral part of the family.
I cannot think of a lot of examples right now, but a recent one is “over the moon”. The father’s new fiancé was not an antagonist or a villain. She tried making sure she get along with his daughter and show her newfound love for her. I like how it was just the daughter adjusting because she was not ready to let go of her mom and her traditions, but she warmed up to her new family members while keeping her mom in her heart.
I know there are more examples of this, but they are not coming to mind right now.
I’m thinking of Blended with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore
the stepmother in Juno is also a good one. she's supportive and does her best
@@moonchild977 oh yeah. I hate how I forgot her. She was great.
I liked how she and Juno’s dad supported her and did not judge her. They still guided and disciplined her, but that is what parenting is. She also did not favor one kid over the other which was nice too.
elon musk's first wife has said before that she actually liked his second wife (Tallulah Riley). I think she really played an important role in taking care of their 5 sons...
Just look at how Carol Brady treated her stepsons. She was seen as their mother even though she wasn't.
As a second wife with an age gap with my partner, I consider Gloria one of the few (if not the only) fictional characters in media I can actually relate to in that aspect. I love my stepkids SO MUCH and they love me back, and we always talk about how we’re still unfairly portrayed in fiction, even though divorces are a super common thing nowadays and getting remarried or living together with someone else after having kids is no longer atypical. Disney is responsible for like 75% of that damage, and I’m still waiting for them to make a movie with a healthy stepmom-stepkid relationship. THEY OWE US THAT.
Im too lazy to search - but I have faint memory of a old movie with Julia Robets being a cool step mom in a movie. If you wanna look for it :)
@@alexforce9 its called Stepmom (1998)
the new cheaper by the dozen
Though I am really happy for you that you have an amazing relationship with your step kids unfortunately evil step parents do exist. My mom had a terrible stepmom and it sucks that her stepmom was the reason I never got to meet my grandpa.
Disney didn’t make up most of their movies but, are a retelling from past fairytales that have evil stepmoms. Though they are sanitized. Still I would love to see more shows and movies with a great stepmom. I think Disney’s enchanted sort of counts. I grew up watching the Nanny and that one main character becomes a great stepmom to her kids.
@@moondivine2288 of course they do. And evil PARENTS exist too! but those will never be represented in media made for kids. Because patents are usually the ones who pay for them to see those movies.
As a latina, god it warms my heart that he's learning Spanish, I really hope that my eventual husband does that for me
I'm not a Latina and I don't live in America, but I'm also an immigrant and I agree. It'd mean so much to me, especially since he wouldn't have a reason to learn it other than to make me happy or to communicate with me better.
@@ahumanistpotato ikr!!! (I also don't live in the U.S. btw, I live in Canada😅)
My partner and I are both Latino, but I was raised speaking Spanish and he wasn't. Hes finally been learning (he was scared for a long time bc he had that identity struggle of looking brown but being shamed for not knowing Spanish) and I'm so excited he can speak to my Papi more and I'm really happy he's going out of his comfort zone to connect to his roots and connect to my family better too like it's so meaningful man
@@alim.9801 That's great!!!! Honestly, congrats on finding a great one!!!!
@@alim.9801 i’m happy for you both! I think latino people born in the us can have it rough a lot of the time. Anglo white people aren’t gonna see you as white, and latin americans born/raised in latin america don’t see you as latino. We need more acceptance and less shaming for people in the situation like your husband.
deedee isn't an example of "the crazy ex-wife" tho, her kids couldn't stand her because she was a toxic mom
Mitchell can stand her, but you're right
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 Yeah Claire was the daddy's girl and Mitch was the mama's boy.
Even though what we see is for comedic effect, and I don't take away both Deedee's and Jay's toxic behaviour during their marriage, most of their problems seemed to be related to how much they struggled financially. I got the impression that Deedee didn't so much hate Gloria for being the second sexy wife, but more like she was living the life she hoped to live with Jay, without money issues.
You can see those things come up in metions like how Deedee had to make due in the house and the most special thing she could do for Jay was buying the nice bread to make him a sandwich, or when Jay had to cut short a vacation, take a second job to pay his workers at Prichett's Closets. It's hard to admit, but financial problems can tear a couple down really hard.
These are also things that Claire and Mitchell wouldn't pick up and by the time they were adults, wouldn't go thru those situations. Jay made the down payment for both their houses, for example.
@@lstarsabb not really Mitch was more the one Mama easily manipulated
Yo… Gloria made Jay learnt Spanish so she can feel more comfortable in the home .. that’s pure true love
She didn't "make" him do it, he decided to do it on his own exactly because he saw her need and loved her enough to put in the effort
I think it's a pity that they villainized DeDe that much by making her such a bad mother to Mitch and especially Claire. Because her perspective is actually pretty valid. It is pointed out many times that her and Jays marriage was very unhappy and they made each other miserable. But the point is, she was once a young wife, too, very in love with her husband and with the best intentions to make the marriage work. But it is also made clear that one reason she turned so bitter was that Jay was unable and unwilling to really care about her needs. One reason is of course that he worked is a** off to get finacial stability for his family and therefore wasn't around much, but he also never learned and never saw the need to learn to validate her feelings. She spent her best years in an unhappy marriage. And then, while she still struggles to find a new perspective on life, he happily moves on and becomes the husband and father she probably always wished him to be, but to someone else. I think they did a good job to show how her resentment towards Gloria was fueled by this complicated feelings and it was not so much Gloria, but her having to come to terms with her own life choices.
Why are you the only one making a valid argument. This is it.
Also as a child with a horrible parent, the least they can do is die and leave you some fvcking money, what does Jay do? Make a new family and a kid so now his old kids don't get anything, they got a crappy childhood and now nothing because it'll all go to the new shiny family
I hated that she wasn't able to come to Mitch and Cam's wedding.
She's literally a narcissist 😂
Jay and Dede talk things out, recognize their problems and make a point to apologize to their kids for their behaviors in an episode in the later seasons. Also after we see Dede's last husband its revealed how she was problematic in that marriage too. just human things...
Elaine Hendrix who played Meredith Blake in 1998’s “The Parent Trap” was slaying it ❤️🔥 ! That scene in the hotel elevator, wearing classic cocktail dress, cross strap in the back, perfectly coiffed hair, her toned body… I saw that at 10yrs old and would fantasize about being all grown up sophisticated looking like that 🤣😂🙌🏽🙌🏽 Sis was killing it!
@Rainbow Rose Princess Mishti
Seriously glowing and it’s inspirational, I’m 34 and thinking goals. I think 90s cocktail attire was my favorite decade.
Gloria was a good stepmom and Granny.
Agreed, she was nothing but supportive and kind, and a better match for Jay than Dede.
@@trinaq I can also argue she did more to support Mitchell and pushing Jay to be more progressive while Dede stirred the pot and insulted Cam.
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 she was so supportive towards Mitchell! Also she was the first one in the pilot to congratulate him for becoming a father while Jay and Claire were shitting on him
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 I never really got Claire, so passive aggressive and wound up, like see a therapist you don't have to become your Dad.
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 I like Claire as a fictional character but as a real person she must be horrible. Her life is so unfulfilled that she has to put others down
I love Gloria not only because she’s an amazing character but also because usually step moms are portrayed very negatively. My own step-mom is the sweetest kindest person ever and I love her. Gloria makes me feel represented.
can you do the overprotective parent trope ? these are the types that go to extreme measures to interfere with their son or daughter's dating choices .
And the Mother In Law trope.
Yes! Hopefully it will sympathize with the children though and not just bash the kids like most videos that talk about overprotective parents on RUclips.
You mean Oscar from Proud Family? That’s one
Kid: I'm leaving, I'm getting out of here!
Parent: Okay, bye.
Kid: You'll miss me!
Parent: Won't know till you're gone.
Kid: I'm really gonna do it!
Parent: There's the door.
Kid: I'll be good.
So true. And its younger cousins the overprotective brother trope.
While Gloria played into some tropes she also averted plenty of them. Very refreshing
i loved how she also portrayed being an immigrant and in a blended family. like when her son was born and grew up to look just caucasian and she felt like she was loosing her cultural heritage. i think these are real issues that are not discussed often
I remember watching Nanny McPhee for the first time at cinema and being struck by Evangeline in general and the talk she had with the children about only fairytale stepmothers being evil (and of course ending up their non evil stepmother herself).
Glad the trope subversion is still going strong, Gloria too became an absolute icon of a second wife.
Yes but what is overlooked it that in a lot of cases a second wife is a result of cheating (which wrecks the first marriage) and then the acceptance of the second wife into the family gets a lot harder.
I had a stepmother that i loved. And i was a teenager (very angsty and annoyed with the world) my dad didnt end up staying with her, but in many ways we ended up being more alike than my mother and i and because she wasnt as closely related i was able to be more open with her. I am definitely glad modern family ended up showing a different angle on the trope because it really concerned me as a kid that on tv girlfriends/ second wives were so generally hated. I thought something was wrong with me. But in reality, something is wrong with a media that keeps perpetuating the stereotype.
Gloria is a such an icon.
She's not only out of his league, it's like a whole different sport altogether. Same thing on "married with children," no offense to the actor, but it just undermines any kind of "suspension of disbelief."
I LOVE Gloria. Just when you think she's a stereotype, she shows you she's also a clever, funny, wise, loving badass. I also like how she became close to the family more like in a sister and aunt sort of way. I actually really enjoyed her relationships with the other family members.
The older husband with a younger second wife is a pretty tired trope. Kind of a sexist double standard also
I hate that the younger wife always has to be a bombshell while it’s okay for the guy to be fat and old while contributing only slightly to the relationship. Gloria deserves a much better man as he was also racist to her heritage sometimes.
@@vhilofaye1618 they were compatible in many ways, including how they often teased each other, and when he takes it too far she corrects him. People make mistakes, people mess up. Good people recognize this and are open to criticism when they're in the wrong, which Jay usually does.
Not just older husband. You got all kinds of "average" men on tv, while wives are still hot. Take your pick: The Simpsons, The King of Queens, According to Jim... The Take even has a video that kind of tries to justify it.
At least in Modern Family there's a point to it. She is in it for the money, she is a foreigner. It's believable and it's discussed within the show. But in a show like The Simpsons, you are kind of asking what Marge gets out of this marriage really and the answer is: not much.
I don't think it's tired tropes exist because they happen in real life at times just like how there are older women with younger partners
@@Introvertsan It's tired because it is overdone. WAY overdone. And very rarely is it (in TV or movies) that the woman is the older one.
Gloria and Jay have always been my favorite characters. I'm touched by their love and respect for one another and how Gloria is not only enhancing the family's life but how they are enhancing hers. Before it was she and Manny against the world. Now she has a family that has her back. She likes and respect who she is and that self esteem lets her be more open to other people. She doesn't try to change Jay but instead shows him that he was the guy all along. He just needed someone to give him a nudge. Gloria's looks may be what attracted him in the first place but he saw that her beauty was the least of her wonderful traits. Love how the show took an ancient trope and breathe new life in it by turning it on it's head.
I know a second marriage can work. My late uncle married his second wife (both them were divorced) and she is a loving mom, stepmom, grandma, and step-grandma. My uncle's first wife was a horrible person, even to their daughters, and my aunt's first husband was a violent drunk.
Honestly, people need to spend less time worried about other people's love life. Unless a relationship is abusive and someone needs genuine help... Butt out! It's none of your business. I had a bad break up a couple of years ago and I watched as our friends picked "sides", passing judgment when in fact, no one knows what goes on between two people. Do what makes you happy!
Kids also don't get to decide their parent's love life, especially as adults. I hate the second wife trope and I'm glad it's starting to change.
Gloria and Phil made Modern Family.
Watch a sunrise at least once a day.
Don't forget Cam His overreactions helped make the show 😁😁😁
They were the best duo!
In Ranking of Kings, Queen Hiling initially comes off as your typical evil stepmother. However, they subvert expectations as she’s just overprotective since the main character is deaf.
Ranking of the kings is so good
The antithesis of Gloria in ‘Modern Family’ is Godmother of ‘Fleabag’. Could we have a video on that?
Oh id love that
We have similiar taste in videos is my conclusion because i see you everywhere haha. Loved the idea tho, stan gloria
@@ishanee1d941 Omg it’s great news indeed! 👏🏽
Talking about second wives and new families, the Disney+ Cheaper by the dozen really deserves a Take. I had no expectation, but in many regards the remake managed to match and/or surpass the original. This movies was funny, heartwarming, modern and have important conversations. I strongly recommend.
Thanks Take team for showing some love to La Gloria the glorious! I'm from a family that had this same dynamic with a difficult but loving mother but also an amazing stepmom who is 2 years younger than me. This show was refreshing because of the standard trope of 2nd wives being awful or greedy being shown in a very different way.
Jay doesn’t deserve her love at all. Not because he is old but because he was racist to her heritage so many times and barely put any effort for the relationship. Gloria worked 90% for the marriage while Jay only worked just 10%.
I agree
and as a latina, it is indeed hard enough to distinguish whos truly accepting and embracing of your background and whos actually fetishizating you, exoticizing you, thus allinating you.
@@beremeansdancing7 I thought the same and felt that in the beginning of the show that's what the writers actually did. Luckily it got better in later seasons.
@@beremeansdancing7 The whole show was about Jay fetishizing Gloria. He just started respecting her as a human in the very last ep of the show. His character development is nearly nonexistent and I’m not even start talking about how he treats Phil and Mitchell poorly throughout the show.
@@jdmmg4904 the modern family is one of the very few shows that got better over the seasons. I love all the characters growth.
Another example of a second wife being a great person, and actually being a good mother to the children, Nanny Fran Fine
..but you also slammed Gloria for perpetuating the Latina "Spitfire" trope...
Nice to see her be appreciated this time around
Elements of Gloria's personality do follow the stereotypical Spitfire but that doesn't mean that's all she's is but they are times in the show were that part is exaggerated a little to much making it seem like that's all that she is. Especially considering that unfortunately most Latin women are portrayed as that in the media but that's just my opinion.
Did they really slam her or just say she applies to the stereotype?
She's not a real person
@@thandondlovu5392 omg Latin. It’s Latin.
It's the "Spicy "Latina" trope and The Take has done a vid about it.
Elaine Hendrix who played Nick’s girlfriend in the parent trap made an excellent video a few years ago, also re-imagining the ‘second wife/younger girlfriend trope’. She argued that she in fact was good for Nick. As a business woman she could have revitalised his entire wine business and bring into the 21st century. And was entirely justified in her anger towards the twins. They literally tried to get rid of without even trying to get to know her. So what if she wanted to send them to boarding school, she wanted to start a new life with her husband😂😂😂😂😂It’s a really good watch and hilarious.
That sounds pretty dumb, honestly.
I enjoy Meredith alot but the twins were eleven she could have reassured Haley that she wasent after Dad money and try to bond with her and all that. I don't think she and Nick would have work because she doesn't like kids. She just needed a rich guy who didn't want kids or didn't have any lol
She is justified in being upset with them but, she’s an adult. They’re kids. They don’t know how to maturely react to this situation, it’s the parents job to be understanding, help them through the process, and teach them how to react. She is becoming a part of the family. He has to parent his kids and help them accept the changes. If she wants to be a part of the family so does she.
😳... The way she treated "Halley" right of the gate was un-selfaware at best, and sociopathic at worse! As a fellow 27 year old (Meredith was 26 btw) id never antagonize an 11 year old child like that much less one whose family im gonna be sharing wtf
I lost count on how many times I've rewatched the show. I just recently finished binging 2 seasons. The comedy still slaps and Gloria is an absolute gem. I'm not Latina but some of her customs/cultures are still relatable and it's so refreshing to see it on screen. Love that she's all the tropes and proves them wrong at the same time.
I love Gloria, but I never felt the show convinced me that she and Jay were "in love", just like buddies always arguing. Jay just never seemed the right guy for her and the writers were never able to bridge that gap for me, as they seemed more interested in the comedy of their differences than ahowing where they connected! I kept waiting for the last season to fix that, but nope. Gloria does a lot for him and his family, but other than providing "stability", what does Jay really offer her? 🤷♀️
He accepts her, her family and her culture with an open heart, and an open mind. He makes her laugh, challenges her, showers her with affection. When she needs something done or someone to support him (even if he and Manny don't think she's very gifted) he always comes through even if he doesn't feel like doing anything. He understands she had a hard life and a rough upbringing, so he tries to not show how scared he is of her sometimes and showers her with gifts and love.
@@susiem.2068 Yeah, I know that's how it was presented. I just always felt she cpuld do better. Lol.
@@etherealtb6021 That's interesting. What would be "better" according to you?
@@susiem.2068 Someone emotionally responsive to her, where she doesn't have to constantly pull it out. She did all the heavy lifting in that relationship. Of course, I realize most of that was for comic effect.
@@etherealtb6021 but it's realistic in the fact that men in Jay's generation weren't raised by emotionally available fathers to show affection. He's learning and growing being with Gloria even if he's bad at it at first
I LOVE Gloria! She is very strong and at the same time very loving and generous! My favorite character in the show.
As much as I love Gloria, she is an absolutely BEST CASE scenario. Most men Jay's Age even with the success and money, will simply not find a woman that is well rounded and put together that will be into an older man in the most sincere and genuine sense. When it does happen though, she is a GOOD example of it going right.
FINALLY people are acknowledging how great the character writing in this show was! people my age love to sh*t on this show but its so good
I love the show ! It showed how blended families working together
Jay’s rugged Vietnam stone face and Gloria’s Colombian abrasive mess perfectly compliment each other and add two sided conflicts which reinforce the love they have. Neither of them are “soft”. Also, manny really brings the couple into a good light to the audience
Yes they both tough people she loves his toughness
Imma write a book where the first wife moves on and finds happiness on her own without being shrewd or bitter.
Meh, they still made the First Wife look bad. She doesn't move on, she's bitter. As long as the First Wife is made to look like the wrong choice, I don't care what the Second Wife does. Modern Family went out of their way to make the First Wife crazy and a stereotype, so it doesn't matter how "progressive" they made the Second Wife when the First is still treated like shit. You say that First Wives don't have to look good at the expense of Second Wives, but In Modern Family Second Wife is made to look good at the expense of the First.
You said the same thing 7 times
If the first wife wasn’t the wrong choice, why would they be divorced? Come on now. People divorce because they don’t fit. And that’s the case here. I appreciate that in Modern Family they show that dede and jay struggled financially a lot and that this was one of the reasons why their marriage wasn’t that happy. They were both frustrated with each other and that’s okay. In the beginning dede seemed like the crazy first wife but you get to know her and her struggles a bit more later on in the show. And I mean this is still a sitcom. There will always be traces of stereotype writing..
PLEASE do a Take on The First Wives Club i saw the clip included at the end, and believe they truly need their own take, how they’ve inspired portrayals of marriage sincd!
Gloria is my favorite character. She's so kind, lovely, and smart. She turned the trope of the evil 2nd wife/stepmom on it's head. She's got street smarts, and brains. I also love that she had to work hard in various jobs before marrying Jay. She's awesome.
What about second husbands? When women go for younger men it’s scoffed at or reduced to being a cougar or cradle robber.
Modern family broke this trope too with one of Lukes later girlfriends who's a friend of his mother. Too bad she didn't get fleshed out
I LOVE this show. I cracked up every episode. The characters are great, the setups clever, and the family dynamics so fun. Please do more vids!
Sofia Vergara is unstoppable.
This really makes me want to rewatch Modern Family.
Again.
I say this as someone who loves Phil, but I think him so openly drooling over Gloria for years made it much harder for Claire to accept her
One of the best shows I've ever watched and I've seen it many times. Never gets old. Makes me laugh every single time.
Netflix never should have taken it off.
Skyler worst character
As the second wife with no children of my own, thank you for making this. BTW: I am 4 years older than my husband and 2 years older than his 1st wife. I also had more money when we met so....that usual movie/TV StepMom is just some made up crap. There are so many different situations. Some women are just mean, some are not. I get along with my husband's first wife and every time I was with my husband at a game or a pick up at a friend's, the Moms completely ignored me. One time I was sitting in the passengers seat and the Mom came up and completely made like I was not in the car and just talking to my husband. I will never forget that feeling. Again, she KNEW I got along with the ex but it was HER fear.
I like Gloria. Sofia Vergara is hilarious. But i don't like the fact that nowadays it became normal to replace the mother of your children by a young trophy wife. Jay was an absent husband building his little empire and as soon as he became rich he dumped his wife for the kind of woman he could never had if he has been poorer. And of course the previous wife is depicted as a old bitter shrew. I love the way she said in their marriage that the Jay's wallet matches perfectly the boobs of Gloria. It was hilarious! And to be honest, Gloria is not easy going, she wraps him around her finger. I think her most perk for Jay is her look.
Deedee left him first. He was in rut, she left him to find herself and that's why she hates gloria so much. She thought she would find herself and make a better life than Jay's. It's in 2nd season, Lily's birthday last scene.
@@Svengali764 Also Jay wanted to leave her for a while but stayed for the kids
@@zerothefool2437 as it was revealed in the Disneyland episode.
I usually dislike the line "stay together for the kids!" because I suffered from it growing up, but Jay made the right choice. His children needed stability
Great job with a great character. The second wife we did not know we needed.
We can’t forget that how motherly she is she has that mother feeling for all the children in the show.
When Jay worries about where he’s buried and if Gloria is going to be buried with them and he’s like I know you’re going to remarry and she goes no I’m not you’re it and it’s just so sweet
Gloria gave me Nanny Fine vibes since day one. Both are great characters, very unique and refreshing. Always telling their truth, open about how they feel and very charismatic with a strange voice, I really enjoy to hear, since they are both very entertaining characters with so much love to give
There's an SNL sketch where Sofía does a parody of none other than _The Nanny_ herself: *Fran Drescher!*
"you need to come back with more reSPECT and a pizza!" Hahahaha
Congratulations @The Take for your partnership with Amazon! 🎉👍🏾❤️ I teach some of your content in my communication classes. It’s great to see you go from Screen Prism to The Take to Amazon. Keep going!
Great show but in real life id be personally weirded out by the idea of the replacement partner being younger than your child. not saying its wrong but it personally weirds me out and Claire has the right to feel the same
Nah I’m with you there. While stereotypes aren’t by necessity true, they do exist for a reason.
Can a bombshell in her 30s fall in love with a guy in his 60s? Sofía's lovable character makes you believe it is.
if you have money? sure lol. most women dont do that much of an age gap though.
Money
With regards to Gloria's first husband and Manny's father, Javier (played by Law and Order's Benjamin Bratt), when you see him, you can see why Gloria would have fallen for him when she was younger--AND why she ultimately left him in the end...
And it also helps, IMO, that Gloria didn't break up Jay's first marriage to Claire and Mitchell's mother, Dede--Jay and Dede had been divorced for years before Jay met Gloria...
did everyone hate Megan Draper though? Maybe they were disappointed when the relationship didn't work out but I thought people felt that she was refreshing and hip
I thought people rooted for her, atleast at first
I like her
I felt sorry for both Megan and Betty... Don was horrible!
I’m part of a family where my dad remarried! She’s older than my dad, incomparably better and more caring than my birth mother and is the one I call Mom 🥰
As a younger wife and step mom with step...children? peers? older than myself, having Not always had an easy time of it and deeply hurt by the jokes and mean stereotypes--I greatly appreciate this video.
It comes a bit late for me. Now I'm a relatively young (53) widow of 6 years now, in a new union with a slightly *younger* man.
It was never about age or money.
For me it was always about love and the pursuit of happiness...
I died with the “Gloria is less judgemental than Jay” immediately followed by the what if brothers and sisters want to make babies
I really love these videos. Y'all cover a lot of subjects I can't find any where else
Gloria s character is well written, she is a woman of substance she is empathetic , kind , relatable not to mention extremely hot. Loved this series so much
Glória is by far my favorite character (plus we're both from south America, so it might be an influence as well haha)
The Second Wife is such a weird trope if you think that in the past second marriages were frowned upon because they were seen as "man getting tired of the first wife and abandoning her without any support". The issue should have been on men taking the best years of their wives only to replace them with a "younger, bouncier" version, instead of the second woman who has nothing to do with that. That said, Gloria is the heart of Modern Family and I love her ❤️
In Jane Eyre, the first wife is... not deceased for most of the novel. Just by the way.
honestly? yeah, the second wife shouldnt get that much hate... but people also need to understand the first wife, that commited most of her youth, had children with someone only to grow old alone... thats wrong...
I cannot STAND how claire treats Gloria. claire is SO JEALOUS of Gloria to the point of making it unwatchable.
Gloria is funny and sweet and FUN to be around. claire is an entitled karen
Claire is such a hater!!! Lol
How would you like if your dad married someone your age? I wouldn't speak to my dad again if he did.
@@iheartdelrey also, she's never seeing any inheritance. None.
You are forgetting that it was Gloria’s second marriage as well. I never liked the usual second wife trope. Glad modern family broke that trope
They actually did mention it by talking about how her first husband wasn't supportive of her
Gloria and jay are relationship goals. They challenge each other, care for each other and so compatible. Gloria helps him connect with his family and he helps her to adapt in someway however it seems like jay learned more from gloria than she ever did from jay, i find that beautiful
Gloria is one of my favourite characters in the show. She's such a fun person, she's someone I'd love to have in my life! She's the definition of "don't judge a book by its cover" as she shows that a woman can be both hot and nice at the same time - something we don't see often portrayed in media. Her looks are also to a big extend deriving from her culture where it is normal for women to put effort to look good and that doesn't necessarily make them shallow. The actress Sofia Vergara isn't too different from her character in that regard and is a very fun person and comedian as well. A stereotype breaker and true example to look up to!
This was excellent. I am loving your videos more and more lately. The subject matters aren't just essays, entertainment or educational. They are NEEDED and Crucial. Thank you for that!!!
My brother is a step dad to 2 kids, and when he and his now wife were still unmarried, I made a comment in front of my then 8 yr old niece about her mum and my bro one day getting married, to which she voiced her disapproval. I found that odd, because she had a very good relationship with my brother. When I asked her why she didn't like that, she said so seriously, 'because then Matt will be my step-dad, and step dads are mean....'
I know that this is about step mothers specifically, and as a woman, I know that it is because the first vs second wife narrative is essentially a continuation of the Madonna/Whore Complex. But I think its important to also understand that any step parent, no matter their gender, isn't automatically a villian. And more importantly, its time to change the narrative if it is the only idea kids have in their heads about step parents.
PS, my brother and his wife have been married now for 5 years and my niece still has a great relationship with him, while also still loving her bio dad 😊💖💖💖
This was so wholesome. It makes me wonder now if I should watch the show … I didn't give it a thought before.
you should!!! it’s so worth it, 11 seasons and i wanted more 🥺
The situation with Don Draper, Betty Francis and Megan Draper of "Mad Men" is odd. One, Betty also became a second wife. Two, Don ended up cheating on second wife Megan with first wife Betty in a Season Six episode. And three, Megan was in danger of becoming like Betty, due to being married to a difficult man like Don. In fact, she ended up divorcing him. The real problem regarding Don's two marriages . . . was him. And both women realized it before the series ended.
There is a manhwa where a person of modern world wakes up in body of Cinderella's stepmother and is nice to Cinderella. Drama ensues but it's kind of addictive and fun
love gloria . one of my favorite characters. more modern family analysis please!
Gloria is actually such a well adjusted person. Eventhough Claire was a little difficult with her initially, with time, she saw that Gloria genuinely loved her father and her father loved her as well. And that she wasn't trying to dominate anyone. Just wanted to be accepted and loved and gave everyone the space to love her back. That's why this family dynamic was successful