Fixing my attention span - healing an exhausted brain
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- Опубликовано: 10 апр 2024
- In this video I wanted to talk about my attention span, and how it was affected by my internet and phone usage during my college days, often using an otherwise wonderful tool in unhealthy ways, particularly social media. I love technology, but realized I needed to cultivate balance, not addictive habits. I noticed such a big change in my ability to be without stimulation that I decided certain lifestyle changes were in order, and this led me on an interesting journey of self discovery. I ended up realizing how much these habits were affecting my brain, how I felt mentally overwhelmed by scrolling so much even though I thought I was gravitating to it. Many revelations later, I’m a very different person. This experience may not be yours, but I wanted to share, because I think we can all benefit from reflecting on how we use our limited time, and how tools can aid our growth instead of hinder our progress. Title: Fixing my attention span - healing an exhausted brain
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Hello everyone! I hope you enjoy this video - I love being here on RUclips but I find I always need to make sure I cultivate balance and unplug a lot - this little short film is inspired by those practices ❤ I have my Etsy shop open (but it will be closing in a few weeks - give or take a bit - as I prepare for our new baby boy's arrival). Sending many warm wishes.
Ooh I’m early!! :) have a nice day
What color green paint did you use?
So good to catch this video on my lunch break! So excited for you both!
You are exhibiting great wisdom through the choices that you are making in and for your life and family Paola.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You are deeply appreciated. ❤
Thank you, as always, for this lovely breather. Many blessings to the soon to be three of you, and a peaceful entry into motherhood and all the joys that entails. ❤
May your child be blessed with your love of nature, simplicity and your kind soul.
Amen! 🥰
Paola's example is treasure
Oh yes! What a lovely wish! Ditto.
Beautifully said
Amen
“I don’t have much time, but what I do have, I value deeply”. Words to live by.
“Over the years I’d been spending less and less time with me and I began to realise I’d lost a friend” ❤this. Thanks for the reminder ❤
So wonderful to see all of the green! Green grass, green walls...I love it! 💚
My favorite color ❤
@@TheCottageFairy Mine too!
Hehe I also love green as well 🥰!
@@TheCottageFairy😊 do you mind sharing the shade? ❤
@@TheCottageFairy My favorite color also! Reminds me of nature.
Information overload is a huge problem, thank you for bringing attention to it so beautifully.
Your new little baby will be so lucky to have a fairy tale mother. What a magical life you will give him! You have a beautiful soul. 🤍
I started watching your videos three years ago when i was feeling dead inside . But by the time i healed and had to run the race of life. But here i am , back to my beautiful fairy ❤❤❤
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She looks troubled?
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Many, many blessings on your birthing of this lucky little being who is about to come into this world . . . .
❤ thank you
Wow I came to the same conclusion not long ago. I never had attention span problems, and now at 41 years old I noticed that i was struggling with that. So I began forcing myself to do thing in more quiet, getting back into crafts that need my full focus and going to bed with my thoughts instead of a screen. It has definitely helped, but it’s a process.
Such a beautiful human you are. You are glowing. I love how self-reflective you are. Your baby will be fortunate to have a sensitive mother.💕
The distraction social media provides serves a valuable purpose in soothing ourselves, but, as you point out, too much prevents us from experiencing whatever we are avoiding.
For me, it was avoiding experiencing decades of unexpressed grief from many harms and losses. I have always been a "get it done" person, moving on from crises without passing through the grief part of the healing process. Now that I am doing that, in a measured way to prevent overwhelm, I am feeling more depression and anxiety, but I know this will lessen over time and I will again be feeling lighter.
Your comments on overusing technology really spoke to me. I live by myself and sometimes my phone is my "company" whether listening to a podcast or listening to music. More and more I'm trying to turn it off and just be still with my brain.
But... Is it so bad though? I mean. If you're listening to useful podcasts, or entertaining videos like this one. How is that a bad thing? I think people are different, and whatever makes you feel good while not harming anyone, shouldn't feel wrong. Just be always aware of what you're doing with your time and with yourself and everything's gonna be great :)
@@Henrique.Souza0601This! Technology isn't evil, if used properly and in moderation. I love nature, I live alone in a rural seaside community with a garden and my pet hermit crab... but I also use technology to keep update with ocean weather, learn new seafood recipes, look up information on creatures I find in tidepools, and put on soothing ambient music when I clean, cook, or just relax. Its true, everyone is different and finds their own version of meditative mindfulness and hppiness. Whatever works for you, keep doing it. Keep being happy.
This really resonates! I post-poned the smart phone until two years ago and still refuse to get internet on it. i only use my computer for internet and my phone as a phone, and the occasional text. As an artist, it's difficult though, because i like to post my paintings and poetry. But the more I'm on the computer, the less joyful and alive I am.
Badass!! Inspiring
Another lovely, thought provoking video
Wow!
Can I see them?
Your videos are therapeutic ❤
Here I am, a middle-aged chap from (God's own county) Sussex. I love your videos, Puala, and (your book) if I'm right? You said it's who you are; not where you are! Take care of yourself (all of you) Luv from England. X
Her name is Paola, just a quick correction!
Hi, middle-aged chap, I is encouraging to know, there are men who appreciate the beauty, wisdom and thoughts of our Paola. I love her video too, but I'm a middle-aged Czech woman, living in Norfolk, 🇬🇧 Greetings
I love the paint colors you've chosen, it looks lovely! The internet really does become a rabbit hole and I agree completely that it's good to seek a balance. I used to read so much more than I do now and I have had to make a conscious effort to work reading back into my life because the internet is distracting and my attention span has become so much shorter!
Me too and I’m staying up later at night on iPad.
Who ever is reading this, keep calm and take one day at a time! 🌷🌿😇
I've been struggling with this myself. It truly becomes an addiction and creates a short attention span. It was making me feel anxious and frustrated. I was thinking about it this morning and then came across your video. Thank you for this, you put it perfectly into perspective! It encourages me to make some changes.
It is so very true that our time in this world is so very short. When I was young it felt endless now that I'm in my 60's I can feel the finish line coming up fast. I have great curiosity about whats next , that will have to wait.
Time moves so much faster since I became a parent all those years ago I'm doing my best just to ride the waves knowing that some day this too will end, and that's okay. My daughter will carry on in some way and I bless her.
I agree I am now 73 in birth years but (30) in my mind, however l am coming close to the finish line. I appreciate everything now even the little things in life. Being a parent was my biggest accomplishment and now being a grandmother is amazing. Life itself can be so distracting
I'm 66 and come from a family with many of us living into our 90's. I can't say I feel it "coming up fast", but I do think about it and how I want to live the remainder of my years. I never did that as a young woman. It's good to be at a place where I feel I know what's really important and what doesn't matter at all. and being able to choose how I want to spend the rest of my years.
I recently turned 69 and hopefully I make it to 2025 and become 70! Getting older I do wonder how many more years I will have to live on earth. I find it’s best to live one day at a time and enjoy each day as it comes. Like yesterday when our 25 year old granddaughter Khloe surprised us with a visit and stayed for supper. That was a very nice surprise. I like nice surprises. 🤗🥰💗💓 🌱
You’re blossoming. In a new mother’s way! Won’t be long will it? I’m so happy for you. 🌸🌸🌺🌺🌸🌸
Love that colour green. So restful. ❤
Enjoy your time before baby comes. Breathe. This era for you is clearly a prelude to yet another life-changing era. Your beautiful baby feels your calm spirit, and loves your wish to listen to your soul. May his entry onto the planet be gentle. As a mother myself, I know that "gentle" isn't quite the right word to describe the physical part. But may "gentle" be the mantra for both your souls as he makes the trip in.
Speaking of "gentle", I love the gentle green you chose for your stair walls. 💗
I went through something similar a few years ago. I noticed that constantly hearing the negativity in the news caused my empathic heart constant pain. But I was also uncomfortable with toxic positivity as I had long suppressed my emotions for the benefit of those around me. It took time, but I curated a balanced feed on both Facebook and RUclips that included real experiences without the shock value of looking at everything through a negative lens. Channels like yours fulfill exactly what I'm looking for online, connection and peace while still having room for difficult experiences we can discuss ❤
I left the very very busy world of being a bedside nurse in a busy ICU for 40 years when I retired and like so many others - moved to florida. This was a mistake! Like so many others we stayed there 14 years, but we found the lifestyle lacking something very important - family and our oldest & best friends. So we have recently fixed that by moving ourselves back to our roots. Something I had missed a lot while in Florida were kids - kids of all ages - we were rarely ever around any children. Even at our church everyone was a retiree. Very few younger people - no children. Since we've moved I've loved seeing the kids walking to & from school. Seeing babies and toddlers out walking with their parents during the day.(with so many working from home now it's nice to see Mom & Dad out walking with the kids.). Right now we are very busy trying to get our new apartment in living condition - boxes unpacked etc. but very soon I intend to be out walking about our neighborhood, enjoying the friendliness and warmth of our old familiar neighborhood.
Great to see you "taking good care of you". Sending you much love and peace.
Discovering your channel has been a blessing. As someone who deals with similar internal struggles, your videos soothe and resonate with me deeply. I find it truly beautiful to see someone just “be.” I hope to be able to live as well as you do. Thank you. And congratulations on welcoming your first child!
I love the Spring Beauties, Dutchman's breeches and other wildflowers in your valley. Thank you for sharing. I also love that you are nesting! My mother had six children and painted a room before each one was born, according to my father. Blessings!
You are an amazing young lady. Take care and enjoy your time once you have your baby. God bless you all.
Today must be the day for long overdue haircuts. I rather impulsively decided while at work today that immediately after work I would go straight to a walk-in salon and cut off a lot of damaged hair. She ended up taking 4.5” off so it’s now shoulder length (my hair is very fine and straight). It feels liberating. Cheers to letting go of the old and unhealthy. ♥️
I live completely immersed in nature. Living on a wild and Scenic River in southern Oregon. Off grid.
I have been noticing these last few weeks when I venture into town which is a good 45 minutes away, my head and the energy in my head becomes so discombobulated because of all that's going on right now with the shifting unconsciousness and the immense influx of light that is coming onto the planet right now. We need this time to be still and quiet for our bodies to integrate these new higher frequencies of light, so I am always grateful when I can get back to the land and be in the Stillness of nature. I know that I am truly blessed
Hairdresser is correct. My wife's hair twists like twine used to bail hay 🙂 She tried short, shorter and even shorter over the years, but has settled back into a longer style now. She just reminds me from time to time how much of a pain the maintenance of it becomes. 🙂
Wonderful paint job - so pretty. You look beautiful and your hair length is perfect. Wishing you calm and peaceful days as you get closer to your due date.
Only a few seconds in and I'm transported to paradise. Thanks sweetie!
Yay! I love early spring, always so fun to share. Warm wishes
@@TheCottageFairy right back atcha girlfriend! Pennsylvania is getting there! April showers galore, which I believe will make for a magical May! ❤️
This came right when I need it! I have been struggling so hard with an attention span that lasts seconds. The universe really showed the path on here💗
Thanks Paola, for a delightful chat. It's fun to see some of the details in your house. I'm curious about the rooting glass tubes and I really liked you including your mom's call. Spring flowers were great. I'm thinking that was a shooting star flower you ended with. Thanks again.
Oh ya, your hair cut looks great! 😀
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Paola - Your thoughts resonate so much with my soul! Exhausted brain, healing, distraction, too much information, too much progress...can't we just be sometimes? Oh how you make that look so wonderful and peaceful! Thank you! By the way, your hair looks perfect and I'm glad you didn't cut it too short as it's sooooo beautiful! I keep you and your family in my prayers! Sending you blessings for your special day that's coming soon for you and Luke! I am so truly happy for you all! Take care my dear sweet Paola!
I was having a challenging emotional day when your new video notification popped up. I can't tell you how healing watching your videos are for me. I'm working to create a new life creative, peaceful, quiet. It was after discovering your channel in 2021 that I began to realize where I live, how I am working wasn't conducive to the real creative being that I am - who God created me to be. Living in falsity for so long I fell into autopilot. This is me waking up and taking bold steps to being... Me. I am so thankful to find your channel. Thank you for such quality, sincere and positive content. 🌻
Thank you, you inspired me to distance myself from the Internet and try and heal my overstimulated brain. Let's see if I can do it.
Enjoy your time with your baby and husband. Time flues and it's such a true statement. Treasure your baby every day...he'll be big before you know it!!❤
I am always looking forward to your next video. Thank you so much for changing how I perceive the world. Through your videos I started my own journey of self discovery and have learnt to be kind to myself. I used to take for granted the things I have in my life and watching your channel taught me how to be grateful for everything.
Sending love and light from South Africa ❤
Randi Lynn Reed, Isabel Paige and you are my life saviours and real inspiration in this chaotic world. I love your channels. Thank you much, beautiful souls.
I watch these as well. Check out Morgan Long. She and Randi Lynn Reed are friends and have appeared together on one of Morgan's RUclips videos. 🙂
Interesting... One I don't know, another one I followed for a while, but stopped, as I felt her videos were dishonest. I started following The Cottage Fairy around this time, and I find Paola and her videos refreshingly down to earth and not made to primarily garner RUclips clicks.
@@amberhawkeagreed
@@amberhawke you feel RLR is dishonest? Cos I wondered about that too
Baby belly 💜 Prayers for a healthy, happy delivery and wonderful life with your little miracle.
Couldn't agree more ❤ Smartphones were designed to addict us, but we absolutely have the power to reclaim our attention span and appreciate the sinple beauty again. Bravissima!
This is one of the few channels that brings a feeling of peace and acceptance for exactly where I am. You are making such a difference in this world. Thank you.
Your outside visits are so peaceful! Inside, I love your choice of colors and your decretive style! You brighten my day!
I've gotten behind in your videos but they do bring me peace.I too had a wondering mind as a child now ar 61 I'm focusing on the rest of whats left being happy
Dear Paola, I love every video you bring out these days and love seeing your pregnancy progress. I respect your decision to not share your family life online, but I wonder if you could touch on pregnancy, your preparations for birth and the time after. I had a child not too long ago and I was blown away by the magic of experiencing the wonderful natural processes. You will never get this time back and it would be fantastic to see how you, as the cottage fairy, experiences these processes and changes. Your take on pregnancy, birth and the changes as a young mom might help people in your audience and make the ones that have experienced it already relive the magic.
Everytime I watch your videos, I feel like breathing with ease, peacefully and calm. That's how you make me feel!
You are the person who has built that hope of me enjoying a slow life where the world around me is constantly asking me to run, hustle, have a good career, make money, have a husband, have kids and die.
You taught me to slow down, enjoy every moments,
Thank you
God bless you, your child, and your family. May he keep all of you happy and healthy ❤❤
I am in agreement with you on the entrapment of technology. BALANCE -
I've been missing your videos and was really hoping for one this morning!❤ You've played such a large part in bringing peace and joy to my life the last few years. A video from you is like a visit with an old friend.
All my best wishes to you, Luke, and your sweet baby boy to be!❤❤❤
I love the new door color with the added look of the stained glass motifs on the glass! The upstairs hallway really brings the lush green outside of the world inside.
Sending you much love for the days and weeks ahead! Try to stay in the moment and experience the wonder of all the ways your body has been working and changing to bring a new life into the world!!
How interesting that this is your your theme this week! It has been everywhere around me in the last 2 days - on the radio, in conversations with a couple of different friends, in books, and now in your video! I am SO glad you brought it up, because it is very apparent that we are losing ourselves in our devices and in social media, and everyone I speak to talks of how easy it is to lose 2 hours of their lives and then wonder where those 2 hours went. We are no longer able to pay attention for significant periods of time, and it has great impact on how we feel about ourselves and the world, and how we interact with each other. Personally, I have committed to being much more conscious about it, and I have very much enjoyed the past couple of weeks of focusing on doing the things I love and paying very little attention to social media other than where I am consciously choosing to spent my limited time. Your home is really looking welcoming for baby, and I wish you great joy in these last weeks as you prepare for his arrival!
When someone walks away from you saying that you’re doing good alone, know that he has trouble too. If he ever walks in again, just say it again. We all have our lives to live. I give this thought to you.
Just needed your video at this time...your videos, your voice and peaceful surroundings always help me in healing from whatever trouble im going through and did the same right now...Thanks a lot and my best wishes to you❤
So so beautiful as always Paola! You have such a healing energy around you that gets easily transported through the screen ❤
Hi Paola, I so enjoy your videos. They are so calming and relaxing to watch. Love the colors you are painting with. I needed to hear your message today. TY! 🫂
Thank you Paola for your wonderful videos! Thank you for your good mood and smile, for your joy! I look forward to each of your videos as if it were a small holiday. God bless you Paola. And if we want to see a miracle, let's become such a miracle! I love you all very much!
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and all of the beauty❤
Your home looks so pretty and peaceful. Love the colors you chose and the art you hung on the walls. Thanks for another quiet peaceful post full of enrichment and love. God bless you and yours and your coming delivery.
Loving the colors of paint you’ve chosen to create a warm and peaceful home. The window appliqués are pretty, also.
Thank you for another beautiful moment 💚🧡
As always, I love your videos and the messages they bring. Thank you!
This is the life i dream of ,yearn for ans see myself in. Thank you for helping me to continue dreaming
I love the colors you chose. Green feels like the most freeing color
Very insightful video. I love this. Thank you! I used to think multitasking was great but now I've realized it's also robbed me of being able to focus.
Your hair looks beautiful ❤sending love and best wishes to you and all your family ❤
From day one I have no regrets subscribing your channel. When I tend to have insomnia your soothing voice really helps me to sleep in peace. Thank you for being a wonderful person❤
Thank you so much for calming my mind during the crazy final exam season that I'm preparing for ❤❤❤
Your authenticity is a gift to all . Thank you Paola ❤
Thank you!❤ I needed this.
Thank you, I really appreciate this video. A part of my mind has been telling me that I’m overwhelming myself with information by escaping into RUclips videos - even those self-help ones that I thought I could rationalize watching! - way too much. My mind has been swirling constantly with everyone else’s opinions and advice and I can’t seem to find my own truth amongst it all. Ironically, I think this video struck the chord inside of me that’s been trying to tell me what I actually need. I think I’ll listen to it more closely now.
What a wonderful video, with lots of great advice. We all need to seek out our inner child and our quiet mind…as this world is sometimes way too busy. Your haircut looks fabulous- when the fairy prince arrives, you will find it so much easier to look after. Have a beautiful week and thank you for shipping my Etsy order - I’m so excited xx
I want to thank you for sharing these wonderful, soothing, healing videos that you've created and for sharing so much of your own journey. I'm not sure how long I've been following you, maybe two years. Your videos take me into a different world, one of beauty, artistry contentment. Wishing you all the best for a safe, smooth, delivery of baby boy. I hope you can find a way to let us know of his arrival and how you're both doing. I realize you have many followers who probably feel the same as I do, that I know you. I care about you. I want all the best for you, as if you were one of my nieces.
I've been having this relationship with my phone and noticed it being a problem a while ago. I've been trying to remedy that problem and changing my lifestyle. Despite how challenging it turned out to be, I've noticed very positive changes and I'm glad to hear you've noticed positive changes as well and makes me look forward to the rest of this changing journey
This video came to me at the right time, thank you so much! May God bless you and your family. ❤
Thankyou, beautiful scenery and pace of life. ❤😊
I aspire to be more like you in some ways. ❤ You are my most favorite RUclipsr. May your child have many of your qualities. Thank you for being you.❤
I love the paint colors you chose. Your home is just lovely and reflects peace.
One of the healthiest channels in the world.
Watch you since you started.
❤❤❤❤❤love it still so happy that your channel is doing well.
We don’t need all the busy or the electric devices to live.
Excellent reminder Paola. I needed to hear your message. Thank you.
Thank you for such a peaceful video. It has helped me a lot today.
Dearest Paola, firstly thank you for all your efforts you have put in to make yet another gorgeous video for us at a time when you must be feeling rather tired and 'quite pregnant ' lol, all while taking on a big painting job. Your amazing sweetheart ❤. Your colour transformation is so calming and completely draws the outside world in. Very cleverly done. You may I say, are absolutely glowing. I am truly so very excited for you both. Please remember to rest. Love to you and your precious family from Australia ❤
I absolutely love your energy and personality and your home and you as a person! You're the type of human I'd want as a friend :') Thank you for making the content you're making and being so wonderfully wholesome. I appreciate all your hard work and artistry and I hope your journey as a parent is calm and joyful, full of laughter and good times!
Wishing you all the best! You are bringing so much joy to my life!
It’s always a great reminder to live in the moment and enjoy the present. I’m happy to see you in nesting mode.
Wow.... Excellent content.
Balance with our electronic devices is key! I too, have been/still are guilty of this. I Love that you put this into words.
I can't wait for your sweet baby boy to arrive ❤❤❤❤
Thank you. You have expressed what I have been feeling so for long.
I have been feeling this way too for a long time and just decided the other day to start making changes. Incorprate meditation or mindfulness moments with no stimulation and to use my phone less. Thanks for this video! :) Drives me to keep going.
The whole wide world needs to listen to you and your wise, wise words Paola ❤
thank you from the bottom of my heart Paola
Thank you so much for sharing this!
Definitely a relevant topic for far too many of us. Thank you for this 😊
Beautiful message on distractions and decreasing attention span. I am guilty of it and am looking to improve my concentration, so what a wonderful timely message.
Your videos are always the ones that help me ease out of the internet and into my own quiet, simple life
Paola, this is a beautiful time in your life becoming a parent, this will always be a time with a balance in attention. I love the peace and joy you bring me in your videos. I wish you so much peace and love until next time.❤
This video resonated with me so much. I've been feeling a lot of that mental exhaustion and I know I need to spend more time with silence or contemplation instead of turning to a screen automatically. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Thank you for reminding us of what is important… sending love and goodwill from Texas💕
Your videos have made me more mindful and just... love my life more. Thank you dearly🥰
Thank you for your sweet videos. Watching your videos is not a loss of time because you show how to live simple but important little moments of the day in nature and with ourselves. Thank you and kisses from Italy.
Watching a new upload of yours is like meditation: just sitting quietly and focusing my attention on the beautiful landscapes and artwork and lessons unfolding on the screen. Looking forward to the next one!