In college we were at a large gathering and a couple of my friends did an experiment where they asked random people (mostly freshmen) to grab them a drink or take something to the trash or do some other favor. The people they asked were mostly college freshmen who you could tell were a little nervous about being there. Not only did they do whatever my friends asked, but they immediately brightened up at having something to do. It was pretty funny. (Also, my friends were kind of jerks, lol)
I feel like guys get jealous that their bro is in a relationship and they are sad and single but they won't admit that so instead they call him a simp and whatnot... I could be totally wrong tho of course cuz I'm not a guy. But I feel like this behavior is mostly displayed by younger guys that may or may not have had a girlfriend of their own yet or had not so much experience. If a bunch of dudes call their friend simps when they are older than 25 you know they peaked in highschool and are just immature douchenoggles that will never mature past the highschool mindset. XD
People have literally forgotten what the term “simp” means, it’s insane. Pretty sure it originally referred to guys who would go to extremes for a woman’s attention when she clearly has no interest in him? Like that whole thing where people would give female streamers thousands of dollars just to be noticed, right?
like the dude on twitter that put his cc info for belle delphine to notice him now its like "woah you like women?? simp >:( you're supposed to have no feelings :DDD"
Im pretty sure it was supposed to mean any person putting someone else on such a big pedastel that you would do anything for them (like to an unhealthy extent)
I remember when simp was used for males online being obsessively like "white knighting" for women online they were fans of then it morphed to if you are a little nice or show resect to any women (dating or not. Fan or not) you are a simp. I couldn't date someone who couldn't treat me nicely in front of their friends. I mean since I'm dating them I would be their simp why can't they also be mine?
It kind of blows my mind that this is something guys worry about. When I go out with someone I'm worried about riots, mass shootings or being mugged. I wish the most serious thing I had to worry about was 'omg what if my other dude bros think I like my gf?!.'
The way I see it: If your "single friends" insult you being in a healthy, mature relationship, then it's irrelevant! Don't listen to guys without girlfriends call you a simp when you are decent to your girlfriend!
this isnt simp. this is toxic masculinity at its finest. we've made so many leaps and bounds when it comes to the healthy mental states of women that men have kind of been left behind. there is so much work that needs to be done in the world of men as far as this ridiculous notion of "what a man is supposed to be". There is definitely a correlation between toxic masculinity and the fact that men commit suicide at such higher rates than women.
More women attempt it (3x more likely to attempt suicide than men, according to a study authored by L. Vijayakumar). More men are successful at it (2-4x more likely to succeed, according to that same study) because they tend to use more severe methods. In pointing this out, i mean only to show that suicidal thoughts and depression occur in both and tend to occur more in women while men tend to end their lives more successfully. I'm not disagreeing that toxic masculinity or teaching men that in order to be strong, they cannot express their feelings is not at the root.
@@Avoiceintheshadow Women are more likely to try 'soft' methods such as overdosing or cutting, which take time and can be reversed if either they seek help, or someone else finds them. Men tend to choose options such as guns, or jumping from buildings.
This is so far from toxic masculinity, you have no idea what you are talking about... and I don't mean that in a rude or mean way, I mean there might be some more perspectives you may need to think about before throwing this label out there, save the toxic masculinity for when it is absolutely necessary, it's not to be used just so easily
this boils down to the deeper issue of men not being "allowed" to show emotions or be nurturing without being considered weak by their peers and such. Where is the love? Love, kindness, sensitivity are not weaknesses.
Originally, a simp was a guy who was doing anything nice for a girl who would never date him. It’s getting twisted for the sake of using it as an insult. Just like how Karen use to be about entitled women who mistreated people she viewed as “less” then her. Yesterday I got called Karen for saying no to a guy.
It sucks when these terms become more popular that people take such bullsh*t liberties with them to justify their own insecure reactions to not getting what they want
@@lailavolpe9071 oh they know that they are mean. They know that we dont like them. They know that they dont learn from mistakes so they keep doing it. They also know that we would much rather be friends with people we can talk to, but guess what? They come back! Just in this year 3 panick attacks all because of these IDIOTS. One time a guy came up to me at my desk, slammed his hand on it and stared into my eyes with an unhappy look. And I was panicking because NO ONE wants to get on his bad side and I did not want to fight this kid. After I had started to wonder how I fkd up he slowly walked away. And all me and my friend who was sitting next to me could think is "What just happened? Why did he just do that?!" And to this day I am still not sure
Lol. Today I woke up and asked my boyfriend to boil some rice for breakfast for me (i have weird breakfast habits, i know). He did as asked. So. A few minutes later I went up to him, gave him a big hug and said "You know what you are? My own personal favourite simp" he laughed, called me the same back and hugged me back^^ and now youtube directs me here. Be each others simp guys.
Relations are literally about being affectionate and supporting eachother and helping eachother, if someone thinks that is 'being a simp' then they shouldn't be in a relationship
This must be the root of our abusive culture. Men growing up believing that women are there to cater to their needs and that they can just mistreat her and that's ok
In early SimplyNailogical videos the only time I saw Ben was when Christine would yell "Beeeeeennnnnn!" and he would bring her tea, and I did wonder if Ben was a "simp", but in the past year or two, especially since the podcast has started, I see they have a healthy relationship and the yelling may be a little bit of mugging for the camera and eccentricity on Christine's part.
my fiance and i were the first in our friend group in high school to have a bf/gf to begin with so he was definitely the recipient of a lot of "whipped" comments -_- and i was too for doing the supposed said "whipping" even worse bc im latina so theres the "fiesty" stereotype -_- sad to see that it doesnt seem like it went away =/ funny that many do eventually grow out of it but that thats the expected beginning of men. thankfully my fiance (bf at the time) was never liked that and never cared about how he looked like in front of friends or else it would not have lasted the 13 years it has lasted thus far : )
I was thinking about that, and how women are alot more emotionally mature than men. Why is that? I don't rly think it's a biological thing. In fact, I think it's mainly a social thing. Girls were always brought up to be nice and emotionally supportive and allowed to feel emotions and therefore develop emotional maturity at a younger age. But when you tell a boy that feeling emotions and being affectionate is something bad, that inevitably blocks their emotional maturity!
I didn't hear it until my boyfriend and his friends were joking about it with each other. Thankfully when they do it, it's all razzing and not serious. They mostly just call each other that, even the single ones.
It's weird. Both my husband and I get this judgment and neither of us like it. Once, at a party, we both offered to help out the hostess. Both of us were told "how well we trained the other person" during the party, which is such a bad mindset. My husband is a respectful, kind, helpful person and would be regardless of whether he had ever met me. Suggesting that we had to mold or train each other to be nice is such a poor mindset. When did being nice equate to being subservient?
simp just seems to be the new "gay" insult among men, aka as soon as you dont meet the "dont show affection, dont care about your apperance, dont be nice to women" etc standard a lot of men seem to hold their self worth against youre just a punching bag for their jokes. i think it steams from insecurity and ones need to fit in "with the pack" so to speak. its easier to bully people to fit in than to admit youre part of a toxic community and mindset.
No. Women and girls are Not “emotionally more mature” younger. They are socialized to take care of others emotional needs, and base their self worth on their relationships. Society teaches them that the emotional work, is something they have to do. As they get older sometimes learn they don’t have to bear that responsibility. Hence why so many men who date significantly younger women will say things like “women my age are just bitter”. Boys go through the opposite learning curve. They are taught not to empathize with those who society looks at less then like women or LGBTQ people. They are taught that expressing empathy or doing emotional work for their partners makes them weak. The idea that boys mature less quickly is very beneficial to the patriarchy, (even while being harmful of boys) hence why it is going’s to be a myth that lasts forever.
Also, boys are allowed to be children while girls are shoved into responsibility the second they can string a coherent sentence together, so of course “girls mature faster”, they are forced to.
I've always heard "hen pecked" as more "beleaguered by and subservient to an overbearing or excessively demanding partner". Yeah of course the lines are grey and some will use it as "you let your partner ask for favors without compensation...and actually do them?! Gasp!" *clutch pearls/Coors Light*
Asking the guys who use the term simp- Is there really anything ACTUALLY wrong about being a simp? Legitimate question. Like, WHY do you feel that it's wrong to show affection? Side note, I get that some women are over the top. So, where do you draw the line, And why do you draw it there? Are there varying lines? Like you will get her water, but not a phone? Or something to that extent? Why? Is there a limit to how much you ARE willing to do for her? like, you can do 10 things a day but after the 10th thing, then you stop? I get we have to have boundaries, so Why do you think certain things like holding hands (in an actual relationship, not friendship.) is considered a simp?
the word simp has changed meaning over time, it was first being used for men spending so much money and shit on women they don’t know or don’t really give the same back, now people are using it for basic respect and kindness towards women. There’s nothing wrong their just dumb lol
Simp was actually such an important term and I am so bummed to see it be adopted in this way. The best true definition I can come up with for the word is doing something for a woman specifically because you believe they need to be protected or that you will gain something from it, like sex, a relationship, something they asked to see on a webstream, etc. So the idea of "a woman should never have to change her tire if a man is there" or "if I open doors for her she will think I am a good man and then I can sleep with her" etc. Especially because it primarily refers to a situation where the people involved are not together, and generally there is a significant distance between them in real life (wishing you could be a famous person's boyfriend). It's also often driven by insecurity and desire to have ownership or control of the other person to some capacity. There needs to be a way to describe that type of behavior especially because it so often comes from guys who claim to be "one of the good ones" So more often than not "simp" doesn't describe two people who are in a consensual relationship, but also as they pointed out, there's a difference between someone controlling your life all the time and just doing things because you're a considerate person, and the actions taken don't make the other person uncomfortable. Reminds me of the song "After Everything I've done For You (That You Didn't Ask For)!" from Crazy Ex-GF
Classic example of a word getting misused after being overused online. "Simp" is supposed to refer to someone who idolizes a *stranger* and would do any deed they wanted done. You are not a simp for simply taking care of your gf's needs lmaooo
In our language there's a word 'ran mureed' ran means 'woman' and 'mureed' is a word normally used for the devotee of a spiritual leader. A mureed believes their spiritual leader is connected to God and hence obeys their every command. Pairing the word mureed with ran implies that this man treats his woman like she's his spiritual leader. It's mostly used by mother-in-law's when they start to feel unimportant as compared to daughter-in-law. Hehe I hate (some parts) of my culture.
Whipped was certainly used by grown men and it's still a thing. I have found this to be true across all ages. I have read about it, heard about it, and seen it first hand from adult males--with or without naming it.
In case anybody is wondering, OP and her bf broke up some unknown time after this post (which was deleted). She made a few posts about how she struggled shortly after the breakup, but I think she safely moved on. This past year, however, she was diagnosed with a blood cancer, but she got treated for it, and seems to be doing alright now!
This sadly isn’t rare, and it’s sad that boys think they have to worry about this. There are so many things that women have to worry about by just going into public, while men think about this?
I think both men and women are told some version of this when they care for their partner. Men are told they are "simping" or "whipped" or whatever the term is now. Women are told they are being too traditional or accused of upholding the patriarchy, or something like that. In reality it is a partnership and you want to take care of the needs and wants of your SO. This will look different for each couple. The key is that it isn't a one-sided relationship. One partner may have an "acts of service" love language and their partner getting them tea makes them feel loved. OTOH, the other partner may really like gifts and their partner buying them bananas makes them feel loved... the thing is that you aren't doing it because you have to, you are doing it because its part of your relationship and you care about your partner.
So being a simp started as being an extreme. For example, a guy who donates tons of money to a cam girl, and buys her expensive things, even though she is never going to be interested in them romantically. OR a person who treats someone who isn't their significant other like they are dating, while the other person is actually treating them like trash and also has no interest in the other person. It was basically a (not very nice) way of describing a person who was diluted by their interest in someone and not seeing how they were being used. That's what being a simp is/what it started as. The fact that people are now using it as a way to demoralize a person in a relationship just because they are doing what you should do for your significant other isn't really what the word means and people need to stop calling everything remotely romantic simping.
Someone gave me a ptsd panic attack. Because they were being abusive. Me and my bf bailed out that gc. And to this day they call him "pussy whipped" and simp. Keep in mind theyre 20 year olds trying to start shit with a 16 year olds relationship. And bring shit up from now 4 months ago. 💀
this is coming from a couple that put "drink slave" on some merch back in the day... not to say the whole relationship is unhealthy but boyfriend tags created a weird culture on the internet...
“Whipped” was what idiots used to refer to my husband because he treats women properly. These guys who are afraid to be called a simp need therapy. Clearly they have mommy issues poor things
I simp for my husband (cook, give him extra servings, make more money than him, buy him a ps5, bake for him) and fr he simps back (like he will bring me water, choccy, does the laundry, works hard) if anyone ever says oh you must have him whipped when he brings flowers to my work I'm like no he just loves me
Decent POV, great message and I like your content here but you guys are living in a decent, normal world, on a mentality side... Heard of 20-80 principle? You guys are smack bang discussing things from approximately from the 45-55 range.. a very small portion, almost anecdotal on the range scale of the possibilities of different dating scenarios... would love to explain more will leave it at that for now..
That’s like my husband lacrosse team they always make fun of him for bring me a jacket wile I’m outside or something nice. Last time they said he was wiped I was like he does that and then when he is gaming I’ll make him a drink it goes both ways 🙄
@@aspannas they are uneducated toxic masculinity men. Unfortunately that part of being part of a team you can’t control who is on it. They are surface friends you have a drink after a game and that’s about it.
@@Lifeinlumos Yeah I can imagine. Men’s sport teams seems to be the root of this kind of thinking a lot of times, “locker room” talk and overall macho-act. These men might be athletic and strong physically but they have a really fragile masculinity in reality and are probably insecure. There are so many men like this. I find it so funny how nail polish, for example, can make these kind of men so insecure about their own masculinity so they feel the need to harass guys who use or wear typically feminine articles. Or can’t say another man is attractive, men who aren’t afraid of femininity or feelings are truly the ones who are comfortable with their masculinity. I find this so interesting, sorry for the long comment.
Wasn't this a joke that PewDiePie made? about the whole whipped thing idk lol I don't think PewDiePie believes its just ment to be funny but yer we shouldn't be making fun of each other for helping eachother that sounds like it would really slow the world down
If you don't simp for your significant other you're doing it wrong
Exactly. If you can’t be a good partner then you don’t deserve a good partner.
YOU LEFT NO CRUMBS GIRLL😙👌🔥
@@morningmorgan6341 SAID ITTTTT
I’d literally get water for a stranger, if they asked.
In college we were at a large gathering and a couple of my friends did an experiment where they asked random people (mostly freshmen) to grab them a drink or take something to the trash or do some other favor. The people they asked were mostly college freshmen who you could tell were a little nervous about being there. Not only did they do whatever my friends asked, but they immediately brightened up at having something to do. It was pretty funny. (Also, my friends were kind of jerks, lol)
This sucks so much. I hate when the partner acts completely different in front of their friends.
Adults don’t. Just hang in there, it will get better.
@@uribheidi As an adult, a lot of men still suck and do that.
I hate that old school macho man BS. There's nothing wrong with showing love, affection and care to your partner, man or woman.
I feel like guys get jealous that their bro is in a relationship and they are sad and single but they won't admit that so instead they call him a simp and whatnot... I could be totally wrong tho of course cuz I'm not a guy. But I feel like this behavior is mostly displayed by younger guys that may or may not have had a girlfriend of their own yet or had not so much experience. If a bunch of dudes call their friend simps when they are older than 25 you know they peaked in highschool and are just immature douchenoggles that will never mature past the highschool mindset. XD
People have literally forgotten what the term “simp” means, it’s insane. Pretty sure it originally referred to guys who would go to extremes for a woman’s attention when she clearly has no interest in him? Like that whole thing where people would give female streamers thousands of dollars just to be noticed, right?
like the dude on twitter that put his cc info for belle delphine to notice him
now its like "woah you like women?? simp >:( you're supposed to have no feelings :DDD"
Im pretty sure it was supposed to mean any person putting someone else on such a big pedastel that you would do anything for them (like to an unhealthy extent)
I remember when simp was used for males online being obsessively like "white knighting" for women online they were fans of then it morphed to if you are a little nice or show resect to any women (dating or not. Fan or not) you are a simp. I couldn't date someone who couldn't treat me nicely in front of their friends. I mean since I'm dating them I would be their simp why can't they also be mine?
I blame Pewdiepie
Obv I'm joking but you're right
It kind of blows my mind that this is something guys worry about. When I go out with someone I'm worried about riots, mass shootings or being mugged. I wish the most serious thing I had to worry about was 'omg what if my other dude bros think I like my gf?!.'
Yeah it doesn't make sense, if you're afraid to be a simp maybe you are not ready for relationship
I am now wondering whether you're living in the US or the 3rd world...
@@Freaky0Nina the way the US had been for the past few years, are you sure there's a difference
@M W Neither side is law abiding. They both break laws for different reasons.
@M W saying “this problem comes from one side” is the problem
The way I see it: If your "single friends" insult you being in a healthy, mature relationship, then it's irrelevant!
Don't listen to guys without girlfriends call you a simp when you are decent to your girlfriend!
this isnt simp. this is toxic masculinity at its finest. we've made so many leaps and bounds when it comes to the healthy mental states of women that men have kind of been left behind. there is so much work that needs to be done in the world of men as far as this ridiculous notion of "what a man is supposed to be". There is definitely a correlation between toxic masculinity and the fact that men commit suicide at such higher rates than women.
More women attempt it (3x more likely to attempt suicide than men, according to a study authored by L. Vijayakumar). More men are successful at it (2-4x more likely to succeed, according to that same study) because they tend to use more severe methods. In pointing this out, i mean only to show that suicidal thoughts and depression occur in both and tend to occur more in women while men tend to end their lives more successfully. I'm not disagreeing that toxic masculinity or teaching men that in order to be strong, they cannot express their feelings is not at the root.
@@Avoiceintheshadow Women are more likely to try 'soft' methods such as overdosing or cutting, which take time and can be reversed if either they seek help, or someone else finds them. Men tend to choose options such as guns, or jumping from buildings.
This is so far from toxic masculinity, you have no idea what you are talking about... and I don't mean that in a rude or mean way, I mean there might be some more perspectives you may need to think about before throwing this label out there, save the toxic masculinity for when it is absolutely necessary, it's not to be used just so easily
Simply Simplogical 😂 would be amazing merch
Simpy Nailogical
😂😂😂 yas
Agree!
Ben is the best and Simply is so grounded.
Power couple.
this boils down to the deeper issue of men not being "allowed" to show emotions or be nurturing without being considered weak by their peers and such. Where is the love? Love, kindness, sensitivity are not weaknesses.
After watching Addams Family Values, I learned that the important thing isn’t about whether you being a simp or not, but about who you’re simping for
I hate the simp thing. Like I’ve been called “whipped” for hanging out with my girlfriend. You should like and me nice to your partner
Amen to that! 😊
I really feel for this person, this behavior in a relationship can be so damaging emotionally and for self-esteem in the long term.
Originally, a simp was a guy who was doing anything nice for a girl who would never date him. It’s getting twisted for the sake of using it as an insult. Just like how Karen use to be about entitled women who mistreated people she viewed as “less” then her. Yesterday I got called Karen for saying no to a guy.
It sucks when these terms become more popular that people take such bullsh*t liberties with them to justify their own insecure reactions to not getting what they want
Pretty much all the boys in my class are mean to me and I'm pretty sure its bcs of this since the others that are nice are called simps
solution: Get the girls in your class to talk about how much they like/want to date the nice ones are and how gross the mean ones are in front of them
@@lailavolpe9071 oh they know that they are mean. They know that we dont like them. They know that they dont learn from mistakes so they keep doing it. They also know that we would much rather be friends with people we can talk to, but guess what? They come back! Just in this year 3 panick attacks all because of these IDIOTS. One time a guy came up to me at my desk, slammed his hand on it and stared into my eyes with an unhappy look. And I was panicking because NO ONE wants to get on his bad side and I did not want to fight this kid. After I had started to wonder how I fkd up he slowly walked away. And all me and my friend who was sitting next to me could think is "What just happened? Why did he just do that?!" And to this day I am still not sure
Margarita Mikalauskaitė thats absolutely terrible, do any of the teachers know? He should be expelled for acting aggressive unprovoked like that
"Hey babe can you get me a glass of water?" No babe I can't be a simp
Lol. Today I woke up and asked my boyfriend to boil some rice for breakfast for me (i have weird breakfast habits, i know). He did as asked. So. A few minutes later I went up to him, gave him a big hug and said "You know what you are? My own personal favourite simp" he laughed, called me the same back and hugged me back^^ and now youtube directs me here. Be each others simp guys.
Relations are literally about being affectionate and supporting eachother and helping eachother, if someone thinks that is 'being a simp' then they shouldn't be in a relationship
This must be the root of our abusive culture. Men growing up believing that women are there to cater to their needs and that they can just mistreat her and that's ok
omg being whipped or cuffed was the "worst" thing ever for a guy to be growing up
In early SimplyNailogical videos the only time I saw Ben was when Christine would yell "Beeeeeennnnnn!" and he would bring her tea, and I did wonder if Ben was a "simp", but in the past year or two, especially since the podcast has started, I see they have a healthy relationship and the yelling may be a little bit of mugging for the camera and eccentricity on Christine's part.
The "simp" mentality in teens and early 20s guys is just them not letting go of the "no girls allowed" rule when they were little kids
Doing something nice is one of the languages of love, that’s how some people show their love
I still personally get called whipped but there’s a difference between friends making fun of you when you’re not with anyone
my fiance and i were the first in our friend group in high school to have a bf/gf to begin with so he was definitely the recipient of a lot of "whipped" comments -_- and i was too for doing the supposed said "whipping" even worse bc im latina so theres the "fiesty" stereotype -_- sad to see that it doesnt seem like it went away =/ funny that many do eventually grow out of it but that thats the expected beginning of men. thankfully my fiance (bf at the time) was never liked that and never cared about how he looked like in front of friends or else it would not have lasted the 13 years it has lasted thus far : )
So happy my boyfriend is a "simp" i guess......
I was thinking about that, and how women are alot more emotionally mature than men. Why is that? I don't rly think it's a biological thing. In fact, I think it's mainly a social thing. Girls were always brought up to be nice and emotionally supportive and allowed to feel emotions and therefore develop emotional maturity at a younger age. But when you tell a boy that feeling emotions and being affectionate is something bad, that inevitably blocks their emotional maturity!
Good lord I don’t miss young love. It’s torture.
Leave him 🤷🤷🤷
It's not worth it. Why put up with this? Plenty of fish in the sea, some of whom aren't this pathetic.
@@xBloodGarnetx I agree, if you're afraid of being affectionate with your significant other then maybe you're not ready for relationship
I guess that'd make my husband a "simp." He likes to do nice things for me all the time. Is that such a bad thing? 🤔
Its not bad, I think people with that mentality are immature.
This is just another example of toxic masculinity
Never heard the phrase 'simp' 🤷🏻♀️ Im getting old 😂
SAME. Like I've heard it before and am like "Wtf is this?". When I see the word Simp I think "Damn I love the SImpsons."
I didn't hear it until my boyfriend and his friends were joking about it with each other. Thankfully when they do it, it's all razzing and not serious. They mostly just call each other that, even the single ones.
Even just being nice you would get called being a simp
Bruh simp is becoming so exaggerated now :/
It's weird. Both my husband and I get this judgment and neither of us like it. Once, at a party, we both offered to help out the hostess. Both of us were told "how well we trained the other person" during the party, which is such a bad mindset. My husband is a respectful, kind, helpful person and would be regardless of whether he had ever met me. Suggesting that we had to mold or train each other to be nice is such a poor mindset. When did being nice equate to being subservient?
Thats toxic masculinity 🎵
simp just seems to be the new "gay" insult among men, aka as soon as you dont meet the "dont show affection, dont care about your apperance, dont be nice to women" etc standard a lot of men seem to hold their self worth against youre just a punching bag for their jokes. i think it steams from insecurity and ones need to fit in "with the pack" so to speak. its easier to bully people to fit in than to admit youre part of a toxic community and mindset.
I remember when this used to be called, being whipped.
Oh, Ben just said that. Lol. Guess I need just got ahead.
“Super simp, super simp, he’s super simpy”
It made me laugh so hard to hear "whipped" not being used anymore. In Australia we drop that word all the time lol
“None, I put them all in the soup!” 😂😂😂💓💓💓
The irony that Christine’s tag is SIMPlynailogical is not lost on me
No. Women and girls are Not “emotionally more mature” younger. They are socialized to take care of others emotional needs, and base their self worth on their relationships. Society teaches them that the emotional work, is something they have to do. As they get older sometimes learn they don’t have to bear that responsibility. Hence why so many men who date significantly younger women will say things like “women my age are just bitter”. Boys go through the opposite learning curve. They are taught not to empathize with those who society looks at less then like women or LGBTQ people. They are taught that expressing empathy or doing emotional work for their partners makes them weak. The idea that boys mature less quickly is very beneficial to the patriarchy, (even while being harmful of boys) hence why it is going’s to be a myth that lasts forever.
ditto
Also, boys are allowed to be children while girls are shoved into responsibility the second they can string a coherent sentence together, so of course “girls mature faster”, they are forced to.
Wow this is very insightful
Interesting! Do you have a scientific article with more info?
I'm a waitress, I didn't realise getting someone water made me a simp. I must simp for everyone in England at this point using that logic.
😭😭😂😂
The whipping sound gives me war flashbacks. Thanks Ben for that trauma 😂 jkjk ❤️❤️❤️
Yup we used to say whipped too 10 years ago in New Zealand, I think some people still reference that term
My friends and I agreed that a simp is the bare minimum expected from a boyfriend
Before that it was called “hen pecked”
I've always heard "hen pecked" as more "beleaguered by and subservient to an overbearing or excessively demanding partner". Yeah of course the lines are grey and some will use it as "you let your partner ask for favors without compensation...and actually do them?! Gasp!" *clutch pearls/Coors Light*
It's become that? I thought simps were obsessed male fans 😂🤣
"I put them on the soup" 😂😂😂😂😂
people ruined the meaning of “simp” and people over using it are annoying as well
Asking the guys who use the term simp- Is there really anything ACTUALLY wrong about being a simp? Legitimate question.
Like, WHY do you feel that it's wrong to show affection?
Side note, I get that some women are over the top. So, where do you draw the line, And why do you draw it there? Are there varying lines? Like you will get her water, but not a phone? Or something to that extent? Why?
Is there a limit to how much you ARE willing to do for her? like, you can do 10 things a day but after the 10th thing, then you stop?
I get we have to have boundaries, so Why do you think certain things like holding hands (in an actual relationship, not friendship.) is considered a simp?
the word simp has changed meaning over time, it was first being used for men spending so much money and shit on women they don’t know or don’t really give the same back, now people are using it for basic respect and kindness towards women. There’s nothing wrong their just dumb lol
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Simp was actually such an important term and I am so bummed to see it be adopted in this way. The best true definition I can come up with for the word is doing something for a woman specifically because you believe they need to be protected or that you will gain something from it, like sex, a relationship, something they asked to see on a webstream, etc. So the idea of "a woman should never have to change her tire if a man is there" or "if I open doors for her she will think I am a good man and then I can sleep with her" etc. Especially because it primarily refers to a situation where the people involved are not together, and generally there is a significant distance between them in real life (wishing you could be a famous person's boyfriend). It's also often driven by insecurity and desire to have ownership or control of the other person to some capacity. There needs to be a way to describe that type of behavior especially because it so often comes from guys who claim to be "one of the good ones" So more often than not "simp" doesn't describe two people who are in a consensual relationship, but also as they pointed out, there's a difference between someone controlling your life all the time and just doing things because you're a considerate person, and the actions taken don't make the other person uncomfortable. Reminds me of the song "After Everything I've done For You (That You Didn't Ask For)!" from Crazy Ex-GF
And this is why we always date up in age ladies
Classic example of a word getting misused after being overused online.
"Simp" is supposed to refer to someone who idolizes a *stranger* and would do any deed they wanted done. You are not a simp for simply taking care of your gf's needs lmaooo
How many good guys do you know? **concerned expression** hahaha
Well if I’m a simp, at least I’m getting the simp tax benefits. Dual-filing babyyyyyy
This is why I'm grateful to be Pan/Bi - I got my girls girls girls
Whipped is still commonly used in Ireland
I learned about healthy relationships from cris and ben more than I learned from my whole Community
In the UK we would say "under the thumb".
As sad as this persons Reddit post is, I gotta know, where did Cristine get that hoodie?? I love it
In our language there's a word 'ran mureed' ran means 'woman' and 'mureed' is a word normally used for the devotee of a spiritual leader. A mureed believes their spiritual leader is connected to God and hence obeys their every command. Pairing the word mureed with ran implies that this man treats his woman like she's his spiritual leader. It's mostly used by mother-in-law's when they start to feel unimportant as compared to daughter-in-law. Hehe I hate (some parts) of my culture.
The phrase is Urdu, right?
That's so interesting, thanks for sharing!
Whipped & sprung lol
Whipped was certainly used by grown men and it's still a thing. I have found this to be true across all ages. I have read about it, heard about it, and seen it first hand from adult males--with or without naming it.
In case anybody is wondering, OP and her bf broke up some unknown time after this post (which was deleted). She made a few posts about how she struggled shortly after the breakup, but I think she safely moved on. This past year, however, she was diagnosed with a blood cancer, but she got treated for it, and seems to be doing alright now!
This sadly isn’t rare, and it’s sad that boys think they have to worry about this. There are so many things that women have to worry about by just going into public, while men think about this?
I think both men and women are told some version of this when they care for their partner. Men are told they are "simping" or "whipped" or whatever the term is now. Women are told they are being too traditional or accused of upholding the patriarchy, or something like that. In reality it is a partnership and you want to take care of the needs and wants of your SO. This will look different for each couple. The key is that it isn't a one-sided relationship. One partner may have an "acts of service" love language and their partner getting them tea makes them feel loved. OTOH, the other partner may really like gifts and their partner buying them bananas makes them feel loved... the thing is that you aren't doing it because you have to, you are doing it because its part of your relationship and you care about your partner.
Super simply 😂 genius
I personally only date simps so
So being a simp started as being an extreme. For example, a guy who donates tons of money to a cam girl, and buys her expensive things, even though she is never going to be interested in them romantically. OR a person who treats someone who isn't their significant other like they are dating, while the other person is actually treating them like trash and also has no interest in the other person.
It was basically a (not very nice) way of describing a person who was diluted by their interest in someone and not seeing how they were being used.
That's what being a simp is/what it started as. The fact that people are now using it as a way to demoralize a person in a relationship just because they are doing what you should do for your significant other isn't really what the word means and people need to stop calling everything remotely romantic simping.
Love you cris
I thought simping was a bad thing only cuz ppl did it to ppl who weren't their s/o. PLEASE SIMP FOR YOUR S/O. Love them!!
we STANN beYnnNN man
7 simps didn't like this video
Someone in a group called my fiancee for saying how excited he was to get married.
Someone gave me a ptsd panic attack. Because they were being abusive. Me and my bf bailed out that gc. And to this day they call him "pussy whipped" and simp. Keep in mind theyre 20 year olds trying to start shit with a 16 year olds relationship. And bring shit up from now 4 months ago. 💀
this is coming from a couple that put "drink slave" on some merch back in the day... not to say the whole relationship is unhealthy but boyfriend tags created a weird culture on the internet...
It’s a joke
“Whipped” was what idiots used to refer to my husband because he treats women properly. These guys who are afraid to be called a simp need therapy. Clearly they have mommy issues poor things
Is there a way to just watch all the podcast put together instead of short little burts?
I am a super simp, and I like that about me
So glad I'm not 18... jeeebus what has the world become
I simp for my husband (cook, give him extra servings, make more money than him, buy him a ps5, bake for him) and fr he simps back (like he will bring me water, choccy, does the laundry, works hard) if anyone ever says oh you must have him whipped when he brings flowers to my work I'm like no he just loves me
Decent POV, great message and I like your content here but you guys are living in a decent, normal world, on a mentality side... Heard of 20-80 principle? You guys are smack bang discussing things from approximately from the 45-55 range.. a very small portion, almost anecdotal on the range scale of the possibilities of different dating scenarios... would love to explain more will leave it at that for now..
As a non-native speaker: what is a "simp"? It must be an abbreviation of something?
i am also non-native, but "simp" is apparently an abbreviation for "simpleton". hope this helps : D
People are so dumb I swear. They think treating people right is bad?
That’s like my husband lacrosse team they always make fun of him for bring me a jacket wile I’m outside or something nice. Last time they said he was wiped I was like he does that and then when he is gaming I’ll make him a drink it goes both ways 🙄
They sound like literal 12 year olds boys, how can grown men act like that? They must be very unhappy or jealous to make fun of your relationship.
@@aspannas they are uneducated toxic masculinity men. Unfortunately that part of being part of a team you can’t control who is on it. They are surface friends you have a drink after a game and that’s about it.
@@Lifeinlumos Yeah I can imagine. Men’s sport teams seems to be the root of this kind of thinking a lot of times, “locker room” talk and overall macho-act. These men might be athletic and strong physically but they have a really fragile masculinity in reality and are probably insecure.
There are so many men like this.
I find it so funny how nail polish, for example, can make these kind of men so insecure about their own masculinity so they feel the need to harass guys who use or wear typically feminine articles. Or can’t say another man is attractive, men who aren’t afraid of femininity or feelings are truly the ones who are comfortable with their masculinity.
I find this so interesting, sorry for the long comment.
yes
simping is bad tho
Fragile masculinity.
Its because the boys are jelly of the boy with a gf lol
Nice
"How did we get here?"
Incels
Wasn't this a joke that PewDiePie made? about the whole whipped thing idk lol I don't think PewDiePie believes its just ment to be funny but yer we shouldn't be making fun of each other for helping eachother that sounds like it would really slow the world down
The one dislike lol 😂
Get a new boyfriend. 😎
Was is a Simp?