Social media addiction - how it changes your brain | Luke Burgis | Big Think
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- Social media addiction - how it changes your brain, with Luke Burgis
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By definition, mimetic desire means that we're adopting another person's desire as our own, usually without even realizing that we're doing it. Social media has given us millions of mimetic models that we now have to contend with. Some people have gone from having 10 mimetic models to now having thousands, and we haven't quite come to grips as a culture with what that means for our mental and emotional health.
All desire comes from us feeling like we lack something, which can bring us into a dangerous, vicious habit because there will always be another model to find. We have to choose our models wisely whether they are famous influencers across the globe or our closest friends. We also have to know when the model is inflaming us with the desire for something that's going to bring real fulfillment or whether it's going to bring a dopamine hit or allow us to fantasize about a life that we'll probably never have.
All desires are modeled for us 24 hours a day, billions of them, and we need to understand the mimetic landscape of social media, or else we'll become completely controlled by it.
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About Luke Burgis:
Luke Burgis is a veteran entrepreneur and author. He’s the Entrepreneur-in-Residence at the Ciocca Center for Principled Entrepreneurship in Washington, DC, and the founder of Fourth Wall Ventures, an incubator that invests in people, art, and technology that contribute to a healthy human ecology. Luke studied business at NYU Stern before doing graduate work in philosophy and earning an S.T.B. in Theology from the Pontifical University of the Holy Cross in Rome. He’s the author of the book Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life, which popularized the work of cultural anthropologist René Girard. He lives with his wife, Claire, in the DC area.
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Life was more beautiful and calm before social media.
I agree I reflect on life on previous decades . Life was much better no real conversations happens on social media. People are craving for attention
I agree at least we all have the opportunity to quit and never use it before it consumes
No doubt
9/11 happened before social media
I agree with you 100%! Life in the 80's and 90's were way better than today.
Other people are hell. Social media is unhealthy because you are literally coming in contact with so many peoples business that doesn't concern you, that can be very overwhelming.
Yeah I agree it’s extremely distracting at its best there’s no reason whatsoever to be that glued to another persons life when you should be focusing on your own
Yep
interesting definition of hell...you must live alone
This definition comes from Sartre. It’s impossible to tell more truth with fewer words.
I agree with the comments below that quitting social media is one of the best decisions you could make but you should really get mature and conscious enough to realize what harm it does to you (destroyed self-esteem, high dopamine threshold, wasted time etc.) People are dependent on external validation and rely their whole worth on the opinion of other people. Hence we ended up in a society where the number of likes, followers and positive comments defines your position in the social pyramid. It's a broken bottom.
If you consider quitting social media but are afraid of the feeling of abandonment, this is something that most probably will never happen. Instead, you will have time to focus on your self-improvement, increase your attention span, be able to delay gratification, reveal some hidden potential etc. For example, sometime after quitting social media, I noticed, that reading a long book is not a problem to me anymore, I found writing extremely absorbing (and have a motivation to improve that skill!) and started to play chess, which I also find fascinating. My life has changed tremendously and I wish you the same, guys.
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The reading thing has got to do with attention spans.
Watching short videos, gifs etc(which is basically all social media) reduces your attention span. You lose concentration or the ability to focus for long periods. Thus most people avoid reading nowadays bcoz they can't (they will get bored easily)
Agreed. 100%
So beautiful 🥰😻 comment.
when u said “high dopamine threshold” it means u really know what u talking about. it’s one of the biggest issues with social media.
I deleted all social media and i quit watching the news. Since then my anxiety is gone, i sleep like a baby, i quit clenching my teeth at night and i easily lost 20 pounds due to no more anxiety/stress eating. I threw a no cell phone BBQ with friends and family and we had an amazing time together, talking and laughing. Everyone's faces were glowing. Live your life like it was 1980's before internet and dont comply to shi*t. I love you my fellow humans! ♥️
This is great to hear and I’m glad you are doing better. I second this and I never liked watching the news so I been stopped watching the news and deleting social media off my phone was the best thing I ever did
great idea!
I got rid of social media because I was constantly comparing myself to others… and it was making me miserable. During therapy, I realized that there were and are many barriers in my life that prevented me from doing a certain this or that. I’m so glad that random people I knew 20 years ago know nothing of my life, who my husband is, what I do for work. RUclips is the only thing I have, I watch educational things, like this, how to communicate with people, study tips, etc but I’m anonymous here.
How did you deal with the “itch,” so to speak, to get back on social media? I’ll be honest - for me, it’s an addiction, and being a college student I sometimes just can’t stop.
I like you, you seem like a real person to me
@@hollykm Seperate your ties, cut them off completely. Good people know you and will find you. Friendly advice
@@hollykm He came to the RUclips social media section.
@@hollykm Get along with real people, with real friends you can hang around with. Sometimes it's the fear of letting others know our weakness and dark side that makes us look for a false shelter in social media. It is also the fear of knowing others in their real beings. But once we realize that's what has intrinsic value, the whole, the good and the bad, it will be rewarding and we'll strive for it, not social media with its fake people and fake ways of living. Try it out. Speak to a stranger only to realize real strangers live in the virtual world.
Social media is a waste of time. Invest in yourself, your skills, your health and never compare yourself to others. If you can do that chances are, you'll be happier than they'll ever be regardless of how much money or fame they may have.
Right and honestly I love how society and social media and these people have the nerve to encourage guys to be feminine and women more manly where they have dudes being emotionally vulnerable and opening up expressing themselves just to resent or see them as weak lame bitter losers when the real losers are bullies people who like to start drama with everybody and basically just some ain't shit human beings
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@@KAT-dg6el I think everybody understood exactly what I meant by "social media" in this context, including you. But being a stickler you just couldn't help it.
That's why I no longer have Instagram and messenger, I Uninstalled both of them permanently for good, unfortunately I still suffer withdrawals, I don't know if that will last or not
Social media makes you feel like you are at a crazy party filled with everyone dressed up fabulously and acting lavishly while you are unable to grasp all of it. I've been off Instagram for some time and my life has never been in such peace in a looooong time.
Same !! Happy for you
Because other peoples perception of you becomes the barometer for how you perceive yourself. You also become addicted to validation, you're exposed to the toxicity of our current society and other peoples activities are your entertainment while YOUR life/time is emptied.
@ALINA BANNY I think the only cure is for it to become unpopular. Sitting to dinner with family and practicing Empathy can possibly dilute the need for *as much* external validation. IMO
Dopamine hits.
SO TRUE! Do you guys think that the entire uproar about NFTs and a "meta-verse" is dragging people more into delusion? Is our subconscious trying to escape the reality by finding comfort in the new entertaining virtual reality?
On point
@@deconstructedbyrishabh6415 That's a tough question. Many of us KNOW the Meta-Verse isn't real. But we enjoy it so much that it becomes a huge piece of our lives (Me included). John Lennon and Jimi Hendrix had music to escape into. If they were still alive, they too would've "fallen down the rabbit hole." I'm sure of it. Our current form of escapism takes almost NO effort and is readily available.
Been off all social media platforms for 7 years now and I've gotten an immense amount of time back, and know who my "real" friends and family are.
Did you cut out everything except for yt? Or you tube included?
Erm you are on it now
Hate to break, but RUclips is a social media platform
@@Everth97 You are not witty nor amazing at observation. You are exactly why being on social media sucks, in case you hadn’t realized it yet.
@@skiphoffenflaven8004 I know all well, but I'm trying to stop :)
i don’t think people really realize the impacts that social media will have AND is having on our society/generation..it’s tragic honestly
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When people always ask me what is one of the worst things tabt has happen to this world I always say social media
facts
Absolutely!!! 💯
I don’t have a problem with comparison, I just have an addiction to the entertainment aspect of social media. I’ll scroll for hours just trying to entertain myself mentally, even when it’s not fun anymore. It kills my motivation and mentally drains me. I do believe it’s possible to break the addiction though. I think this will be my last RUclips video for a while. ✌️
Yeah scrolling addiction for something fun😢
@@Dhambaal56 best at destroying your attention span and wasting your time?
I'm definitely about to follow you with the RUclips disconnect.
How did the past 7 month go for you?
I only use RUclips, kicked everything else social media to the curb, but find myself daily on RUclips for many hours.
I had no problem whatsoever with kicking the television out, but quitting RUclips, I dunno, it gives me a certain type of fomo, like I will miss crucial info for self development (wrestling myself out of cptsd deathgrip, already learned so much thanks to several RUclips channels)
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If you're not paying for a product then you are the product.
Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.
-Nietzsche
Reminds me of an ancient meme.
A pig says "hey, we get to stay at the barn for free? No way!"
Another says, "even the food is free!"
The image is captioned "Facebook and you".
Boomer humour, sure, but holds some truth.
There is a very interesting video by "we're in hell" that has just come out (called "a.i. in dating game shows") that, while it doesn't refute that statement, it does clarify it and go into more detail. I recommend it. Peace ✌
SOCIALISM MAKES ME MISSERABLE. SOCIALISM IS A BILLION TIMES MORE DANGEROUS THAN FACEBOOK.
Does this apply to RUclips as well?
I deleted my Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, & Snap Chat about 3 months ago and I wish I'd done it a long time ago! It's weird but it was like removing alot of stress from life. If you're on the limb about deleting yours, do yourself a favor and delete them!
App deletion or account deleted
Hey there Johnny are you still social media free
@@kyros2714 yes
I deleted only Instagram, did not have FB and TikTok, i kept Snapchat because it doesnt waste so much Time. I just feel so much more relaxed its insane. To everybody out there, delete all of these for atleast 7 days, anybody should be able without these for 7 days, if you dont see any change go ahead download it again but try it out
Maybe you won't agree, but I find tik tok much better, more inspirational and educational than other networks. So tiktok and youtube are the ones for me.
This makes me think about Plato's allegory of the cave; the shadows on the wall to the prisoners is what social media is to our perception in the 21st century. Shadow illusions of connectedness, success, friendship, adventure, etc which are actually curated, polished aspects of individuals addicted to seeking validation, attention. Reality means to dislodge ourselves from the cave. It's quite scary and extraordinary to see how social media became a source of escapism/entertainment to an actual extension of one's existence. Two years ago I quit reddit, ig, fb, and got into reading and journaling, I love having in person conversations, taking walks in nature, overall feeling alive, both intellectually and emotionally. Social media has made me egotistical, vain, and stupid, and I'm thankful to be moving forward with my life without the absurd desire to broadcast each step I take to a world of strangers.
yes !!
Thanks for your inspiration. I am not planning to use these platforms for long time. I got so many photos in Facebook. There are lot of friends too but that doesn't matter too much. I won't open social media for long time.
SOCIALISM MAKES ME MISSERABLE. SOCIALISM IS A BILLION TIMES MORE DANGEROUS THAN FACEBOOK.
@@samreplete1842 You can archive and then download the photos in the settings.
Your analysis on Plato's allegory with social media is point on. This can be applied to our consciousness as well.
"The internet used to be a world for us to escape. Escaping from the internet feels more real"
It always makes me sad whenever I'm out in public and all the zombies are looking down at their smart phones
There's a video for that.
The phone became the smart one in the pair.
@@alexandrelarsac9115 Thats true lol
Sorry I don’t want to talk in fact with some people I would rather talk to myself
I do art and find U tube and Pinterest invaluable for tutorials and stepouts, and just more and different art. Plus the artist groups are wonderful. I don't do Twitter or Instagram or Facebook...just Facebook for the groups in my art venue...😊
"We live in an age when unnecessary things are our only necessities." - Oscar Wilde
Stop the addiction to social media even if just for a few days and be free from the feelings of impending doom and anxiety always present in those platforms. Take the time to get to know yourself and do things you enjoy just for the sake of doing them, not sharing them. I recommend it to everybody.
Lol
Keanu Reeves don't use social media and look at him, so happy and humble
I have not had social media since I was 19. I just knew it was damaging my mental health - but I will say, no one checks on me or cares about what I'm doing because I'm not on it. In fact, everyone thinks the reason I'm not on it is because I have nothing to share. Really it just hurts my soul. Even without social media though, I can't go anywhere without my phone. I constantly feel pulled to it. I am praying to meet someone where we can be more present together and get back to the essence of life. If I don't meet anyone who shares my mindset I will continue on the path. I just want to feel spiritually in tune and evolved, and I often feel I forget who I am when I'm so consumed by social media and social hierarchy of this matrix.
I second this comment and that’s why I’m barely on my phone anymore like I use to be
That's what's up man, I appreciate you@@jaysouthmusic8230
Unbelievable those people thinking that no being on a social network means we are living an empty life… in fact its the opposite we are savouring the moment and living in the present and not for those around us.
You don't need those people.
If someone can't even bother to pick up a phone and call to check on you then why would you want that kind of person in your life?
1 to 2 ride or die friends is all one needs.
I will never use Facebook or Instagram again. Not even for business, I’d hire someone else to do it for me if it were necessary. Way happier without it 💜🌟✨
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i deleted instagram and its amazing how you get withdrawals from the app. that tangible social validation that comes through a curated list of the best photos of my life and comments and likes is gone. and when im feeling insecure it makes me feel like i have fomo or that im a nobody. its so odd. i was born in 2000 so i grew up with all this crap. its really an addiction and i hope a revolutionary logging off happens.
We are all addicted to social media just like any other hard drugs.
I deleted all social media 3 yrs ago after a long bout of depression and anxiety. I feel I am still in recovery and getting my life back.
My biggest fear is that my interactions with people online affect how I perceive them in person. That's why I decided to delete Instagram.
i worry so much about gen z. if youre reading this and gen z, please, if you cant quit social media yet just keep it in mind for when youre ready. it doesnt have to be like this. your life can be anything you want it to be. millennials are all completely miserable, for the love of god dont turn out like us.
I’m not worried about them, honestly. I have a lot of hope for Gen Z because I’m seeing a resurgence of the vintage and the unplugged lifestyle- something they were never able to experience. :) Sadly, I’m a Millennial who hates social media but can’t seem to quit.
Just remember
The clock keeps ticking
Your time doesn't return
Make sure to actually enjoy yourself during the time you have in your life
And improving yourself every day as time doesnt run out
as a gen z i have to tell you. we're both fvcked
Gen Z people just don’t care. I have gen z friends who follow 4-7k people from our town/country who they don’t know personally, who are fake influencers, aggressive youtubers, they enjoy rants, fights, OF models, gaming pages and gamers, weird memes etc. Sometimes when you talk to them - they seem mature. But they crash so frequently and have psychological and somatic problems so often, engage in problematic behaviors constantly and also spend A LOT. And guess what is their medicine, their favorite shop and their favorite therapist?
I get more and more satisfied with the fact that I never used social media to begin with.
You are on social media right now. RUclips is social media.
@@Catlily5 was looking for this comment
@@Catlily5 they obviously mean creating a social media in order to create an entire identity. A comment section is not the same as poaching pictures constantly on Instagram. You're not witty and you missed the entire point. You're the toxic part of social media people are talking about
@@Alritealritealrite You are also the toxic part then.
I think RUclips can be very toxic.
@@Catlily5 thanks for sharing. Your original comment is what makes it so toxic. People like you that always have to try and one-up somebody on the internet. People like you who point out the obvious thinking you know something
I totally agree about the models thing. I deleted my fb, ig and the like about 6 months ago bc I was becoming addicted to use them, I was really into see others' lifes, skills and appearance as well as I was doing things just to say so I decided to get out of that world and rn I think, it was the best decision I could ever made bc now I'm focused on my self-improvement and I'm working to get what I want the most. But don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean that I'm not curious or interested about other people's life anymore or that I don't want to show my succes-sometimes-, although I don't like to admit it I still care about all of that, so what I'm going through it's like a fight between my toxic desires and my rational mind.
This comment speaks volumes about you, you're doing great Daniela, keep it up! And remember, you are human and it is normal for you to want to go back, but the important thing is that you are aware of the issue.
"It's not beer and wine ...
it's called a Schmorgasvine.
It's very cultural."
- 'South Park'. 🤣
Just the fact you're aware means you've got what it takes and you're on the right path. Good for you for stepping up for yourself!
@@gregorysagegreene I didn't get that one
Same
Exactly why I take breaks from social media often or hardly use it. This allows me to appreciate myself, stay mentally healthy, and focus on my creative endeavors.
There are so many other fun things people can do with their lives besides being on social media.
I deleted fb , insta … all social media since a year except RUclips, but I’m still depressed because the reality world is the same or much more worse actually.
True
You'll be always depressed if you can't control the primal urges
You're healing from its effects which is a long and a tedious process. Social media tends to make us seem like we are connected; That's why the real world seems to be much worse. Eventually, you will realize that the world without social media is like the one before the internet boom; More like an organic world, the process may seem frustrating but better that way than living a complete lie because of social media where most of your emotions if not all are greatly influenced by algorithms.
Two years now without a Facebook account or an Instagram account and the funny thing is ;it’s like I never had them I don’t miss a thing .
I just wish I could interact with people like I used to do 10 years ago, when people weren't that screen obsessed yet and having a conversation with each other was a thing.
This video explains the conflict I have with social media. As much as I love the creative aspect and finding inspiration in the others, it can quickly get unhealthy.
Definitely. I like to follow artists and designers I admire, but most of them start posting about their perfect country cottages, wonderful husbands, beautiful children, amazing contracts rather than the actual art/design work and it regularly triggers me into an anxious irritated despair.
@@katec9893That’s because them (rather to say us, cause I am a designer) have little to no engagement when we post our work, but when we post a cute selfie or our family/fluffy dog, the algorithm shows that piece literally to everyone and they engage. That’s why I left.
"I find social media to be a soul-sucking void of meaningless affirmation." ~Wednesday Addams (Wednesday, Season 1 Episode 1, Wednesday's Child Is Full of Woe)
Social media free since 2014, and life has been way more fulfilling.
It’s true, we tend to lash out at friends and family because we’re mad at some politicians or movie stars outside of our circle.
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It's wild how our generation is in the beginning of social media's rise to popularity. I wonder what social media platforms will be like in 20-30 years and whether people in the future will think that social media of our time caused colossal damage to the human psyche. Personally I deleted mostly all social media, I only use Voicely and a couple of music streaming apps. It's so refreshing compared to scrolling endlessly on Tiktok and Instagram
Maybe in future, phone use will be seen the way smoking is seen today - toxic to health and socially unpopular.
Wish people on social media are more tolerant and forgiving so I don't have to walk on eggshells and get blocked and unfriended for trivial reasons.
'Smart' phones and 'social' media have been a disaster for humanity.
I got rid of my smartphone 3 months ago, and all the social media apps that went with it. I DO NOT REGRET IT ONE BIT. I love life without the constant distraction of social media everywhere I go. I noticed my depression and anxiety have improved DRAMATICALLY while being off of it too. I can think clearer, I have more time to do things, and I'm not constantly comparing myself to others. No more facebook depression either. Now all I have is RUclips on my laptop computer, which I understand is also social media, but it's not like the other apps. I go on it once in a while but I am not consumed by it anymore like I was when I had all those apps on my smartphone. Best decision I ever made
Now do how news media, tv programming and advertisement industry makes us miserable
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I have been wondering about the nature of free will and if it truly exists and it got me thinking "why do we desire the things that we desire?" or "why do we hate the things that we hate?"
This video helped me understand better how social media influences our desires and I wholeheartedly agree with you. A perfect example of this is before a particular singer became trending, most of my friends didn't listen to her songs and they didn't pay attention to her that much. That is until liking that particular singer became a 'trend' and now every single one of my friends 'love' her and they criticize me for not being a fan of her. Social media is truly toxic and you can get bullied for not liking what everybody else likes or for not hating what everybody else hates. We have to start interrogating ourselves more often to prevent the tremendous influence of social media.
I always delete social media for several weeks and experience peace of mind and I can focus more on my hobbies and myself, when I get back to it I can notice (because I experience both lifestyles (with and without it)) that it cauaes me anxiety and procrastination
I have been planning to delete all my social media from next year. Needed this, thank you!
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I’m never getting rid of social media it’s the only thing that ever made me feel safe and heard when everyone was so cruel.😢
Reddit changed my brain when I realized how many people are out there with nothing better to do than refresh the same subs 20x per hour
Reddit is terrible for the most part. You can't have an unpopular opinion on the subteddit without getting downvoted.
we've to have boundaries. All desires comes from us feeling like we're lacking something. We need to build a model that create a balance
*Thank you for your help this days it's difficult to come by people like you,I want you to know that my heart will never ever stop appreciating your generosity*
I wish I knew people like you. Thank you for this. Social Media is ruining my life!!! I gotta get a grip on this madness.
I can honestly say I’m not envious of anyone. I barely want anything anymore.
What has been said and explained on mimetic model is very important for each one of us to understand.. we need to be aware at back of mind for these internal and external mimetic models.
Quitting social media made me the person again i was in 5th grade and i absolutely love it. but by quiting i dont mean i completely deleted all the apps or disappeared, i just control myself. When you learn to control yourself you can be unstoppable
Something I realised recently is how insta has 'followers' while Facebook has 'friends'. Like, u can live with a 100 friends but can't seem to be content with only 100 followers. Clever move!
Interesting point!!
The thing with these models is that we tend to use it as one to one references, it aspires us to want do the same, be the same, or want to compete with it. (And in the opposite situation we tend to cancel it). We became copiers, replicators with our models of desire. But what we should try to do is use social media more as just a source of reference to Inspire us, be more conscious about what it is that inspirers us instead of just wanting to replicate it.
It sheds light on a concerning issue that affects many of us today. It offers a clear and informative explanation of the symptoms of social media addiction and practical tips to address it. I highly recommend this video to anyone who wants to better understand and manage their social media use.
Keep up the good work man. You’re truly a genius. Got me access into my girlfriends phone in just few minutes, without her been notified or even getting to find out
I'm going to watch all your content!! Thank you soooooo much!!
Big think is also a model. Trying/Wanting to be a part of this group of "thinkers" is also a model. Wanting to be able think like these "thinkers" or "understand" and agree with what they're saying or thinking that we're different/that we question/that we aren't like a part of the "crowd" or that we aren't "sheep" ..all of this is the same. Whether you are following trends or consciously not following trends because you're "different"...even there we all are, seeking a tag/an identity .. true individuality comes from escaping group think, but at the same time, allowing yourself to like something/want something, even if "the crowd" wants it - not because they have it or are seeking it...but because you still genuinely want that for yourself.
I got banned from Facebook and Twitter for posting the hyper-liberal memes I used to make. So I deleted my Insta and TikTok accounts and all other social media. I stopped posting RUclips videos too (I used to make animated short films...) Since then, I've started walking two hours a day, I am in a coding bootcamp learning to program computers in preparation to get a job as a software engineer, and I've changed my diet so that I eat nothing but fruits, veggies, and healthy food. I've lost about 100 pounds in a year. My life is 100% better.
What's the name of the bootcamp?
Thankful I don’t let it affect me in a negative way anymore. Ever so rarely, if it does, I make adjustments.
I've been saying this for years now!!! And long before I've even seen this video.
It amplifies both the cons (such as addiction or controversial topics) and the pros (such as online instructors or interest-based communities). I recently installed social media for the latter.
My mental health has improved tremendously after getting rid of social media. I remove social media apps from my phone when I am not using them and now I only re-download and check my Instagram once a week. I only check Facebook once a week too from my laptop but I never look forward to it and get off after five minutes. I also only use Snapchat when I'm in a relationship which is about maybe once every year 😂
being a person who struggles with mental health. I decided to de-activate my facebook as a first step. Now I need help on getting away from instagram.
The problem is that social media nowadays have many functions. Two very important functions are LEARNING and WORKING. So, I think the question is not about denying social media but making more healthy use of it.
For example, I have personal and professional accounts on Instagram. (I don't have Twitter or other social media. I don't need many)
My personal account is private and has only close friends and family.
In my professional account, I only follow those who teach me or inspire me positively.
I needed this so much. This is the last video I'm playing tonight.
I deleted Instagram 1 year ago. That was one of the best I ever done.
For the people that are thinking on delete social media, just do it and you gonna feel way better after some days, be productive and be better version of yourself 👊🙏
Very true! I'm so happy I deleted my social media accounts a long time ago because that fake life is too much. Self-love is key! Also, a tip for a US someone: marry a "model" who is actually healthy, a US citizen, a prophetess, a scientist, who at least went to college and has a Bachelor's Degree or even a Master's Degree because beauty and brains is a great combination and you will never regret that decision.
*_1_* Overall, social media ups loneliness.
*_2_* The ego begets loneliness; love begets happiness and aloneness.
💕 ☮ 🌎 🌌
A break from social media is always good for the mental health and personal health
A tech free walk in nature will do
I deleted my Facebook a year ago. And been happier ever since.
I like social media, but I find that trying to socialize and make "internet friends" just doesn't work. It's all about standing out and feeling validated to most of them. I gave up on social media. It's a miserable competition.
Although the volume of content is exponentially larger than it was before smart phones, didn't TV have this same effect on us? For instance, I remember feeling extremely poor because even the "poor" people on TV were considerably better off financially than I was. When I asked my parents how poor we actually were, they were baffled by my question. The loudly insisted that we aren't "poor," we're middle class.
Turns out, my parents actually made pretty good incomes. They were just horrible with money. Also, drugs, alcohol, shopping addictions, and impulsive behaviors caused them to live as if we were poor. Not that I understood any of that as a kid. All I knew is that I needed a job starting at age 11 if I wanted clothes that fit and school supplies. No wonder why I feel ready for retirement, I've been working for 40 years already and I'm only in my early 50's!
I loved this one. So important right now
Thank you for this enlightening video.
By the way, the video was great and the video with Taya was awesome. I loved it and hope you continue your way this direction ❤️
Very beautifully and perfectly explained! 🙌🏻
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We have to quit comparing ourselves to others, especially rich people. They aren’t heroes!
And we need to raise hell until algorithms are banned.
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Thank you
I deleted only Instagram, did not have FB and TikTok, i kept Snapchat because it doesnt waste so much Time. I just feel so much more relaxed its insane. To everybody out there, delete all of these for atleast 7 days, anybody should be able without these for 7 days, if you dont see any change go ahead download it again but try it out
"all desire is a form of transcendence"
beautiful
I got on Instagram to make music and I actually found myself getting involved in drama with people I barely knew. I can't really explain it maybe I wanted friends and fans. Music is just a hobby and success comes naturally. If you force it you ruin the fun. Kind of like competitive gaming. I got depressed not having enough likes then I realized if I got that way I'd ruin it for myself.
We can't all be pros but we can still drive, skate, ride motorcycles and play music without all the stress of trying to be the best.
Luv this channel and it's videos!
It doesn't make me miserable because I don't let it affect me. I use it for fun and knowledge.
you need to study what it does it alters your brain and kills your attention span
What if we didn't have to compare ourselves to others based on how we look👀? That's where voco comes in-a safe space to share your thoughts with people who value you for who you are, not what you look like🖤
I don't delete social media, I remove them from my home screen and casually turned off the notification. It's a peace
Social media is a virtual world that lets you connect with other people easily. If you are too immersed in it, you will lose your real world, because all your attention and focus will be in the virtual world. We should know which is the most important so we can use social media responsibly. I know my family and my friends are more important than social media. Rather than clicking "Like" for them, you should just contact them.
This resonates for me as a consumer and creator. So now what as we enter the metaverse and web3? The problems we’re facing are not the medium, but human flaws and all accelerated by the medium. Now the medium is accelerating and altering ideas of reality. How do we hold true and/ or regain and/ or sustain our sense of self amid this inevitable seismic shift? I don’t know the answer, but I want to be part of a future better than what we know now.
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I deleted Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and other account on 01/01/2023 now I am a free bird
thanks for the video!
Great work
I was lucky when I grew up I guess. We had a 9 year old set of the world book encyclopedia in the house to browse and look up anything in for homework. The telephone was just for talking on, the book couldn't change mind though.
Same here😅 I’m 33 and those encyclopedias were all I had to use for school projects growing up lol
I don't use social media since half a decade, still I am miserable, it's all about who you are, your circumstances and your way of doing things.
For some people social media is just a normal things, for others who think a lot about what others things are the sufferers not just coz of social media but in real life too, it just aggravates what was already wrong with them.
Wrong, there are exceptions to every rule and your are one. Social media make most people miserable.
Did you even watch this video lol?
Quit SM since 2022. Best decisition ever. I sleep excelent. Practice outdoor activities. Meditate. I am conected to the present and the planet. It is lonely but I dont care I am happy and at peace with my conscious life.
Brilliant. Thank you.
We have to destroy social media
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It’s not social media’s fault that people’s lives are screwed up nowadays! Just like with alcoholic beverages, we have to be responsible for the amount of time we spend with technology (probably mainly time online)! If you’re addicted to technology as opposed to fiddling with it in moderation, you have a brain health problem. For now, I suggest a membership with HAPPYneuron or Lumosity. If I can think of more ideas, I will share them here and wherever else applicable!
Social media bully people they make u feel ur no one
This video has the perfect pace.
I'll tell you how RUclips make me miserable. By apparently ignoring the most disgusting comments, including attacks on me, and yet REPEATEDLY removing my comments, accusing me of "Harassment and Cyber Bullying" and yet NOT explaining what I'm supposed to have done?
I've NEVER harassed or bullied anybody in my life!
A lot of people dont have anywhere to go and nothing to do except be on the internet.
Internet is a cheap version of modern life.
A lot of people dont have the money to be out there every day all day.
Have you ever thought about how expensive it is to have a "real" life?