I sincerely wish your channel was at my fingertips during my youth. I resonated with so, so much of this video. I went to a trade school for two years, had a hustle mentality with working multiple jobs, partied away my “prime” years, etc. Fast-forward a few years after I got connected with my local church and learned of my true calling to bring glory to God and I’m now happily married, have three children, and am blessed every single day to be at home raising them while being a homemaker as my career. 🙌🏼
THANK YOU for this validation!! I went to college the fall after graduation because I felt like I didn’t have a choice even though I had no clue what I wanted to do and I didn’t want to be labeled as “dumb” or “lazy”. I met my husband the month before I left for college, made it through one semester of school before we realized that we wanted to get married as soon as possible. Left school as soon as semester ended, got married that next spring, and then found out we were pregnant a couple of months later, all at 19 years old! I’ve always had doubts if this is what I was meant to do. But your channel, the current state of the world, and trusting in the Lord has helped me realize that my purpose is to grow our family, be a homemaker, and help my husband in any way I can! Now 5 years later, our family continues to grow, we’re working on homeschooling, localism, homesteading, and getting out of debt, and I KNOW this was my purpose in life. I thank God for allowing me to find your channel and confirming my identity and my purpose in this world!💗
Thank you so much for this video..my daughter who is 12 very artist and a big homebody. She has no intention on going to College, she wants to have a family and cook for them. Im so grateful for videos like this that say yes this is ok..NOTW..Shalom
I just randomly found you guys and I’m so happy I did! It’s so good to hear other young people like me who are wanting the same type of life that my fiancé and I want. I wish I knew more people like you guys!
I went to a community college for like 3 weeks, they dropped my program and I never returned after trying to take a moment to figure things out. I ended up working as a caregiver and it made me a good woman with respect for elderly. And I dont have a single penny of student loan debt to my name. Glad I am a Youth leader for the preteens and teens in my church and also pursuing God to lead me where He wants me. My husband is great for me and has supported me through all my health struggles(Infertility). God is so good when we do what he is asking of us. Thanks for sharing this!
What a blessing, so amazing how God directed your steps. And amen, He really is so good! And we bless you all and your health and your womb. We are on this journey of desiring children and waiting upon the Lord as well.
@@ScottandKelli Much appreciated. I had a Hysterectomy recently to relieve this suffering I have been through for the last 10 years. So I can not bear my own children, but perhaps adopt or foster in the future if it Gods will.
"Preparing to be a Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl is a great Christian book that outlines so much of what Scott and Kelli are saying here and more. There truly is no other time in your life between your late teen years and marriage where you won't have the responsibility of children where you can do mission work, etc. and learn so many new skills. I highly recommend this book. There is also "Created to BE His Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl for the married ladies. There's one for the guys too. :) Lots of great ideas, all straight from God's Word.
So glad to see others appreciate a good book! My daughter has read "Preparing to be his help meet" 4 times now. She started at 13 years old. She just turned 14. We also homeschool. I LOVE my Created to be his help meet book. It reminds me of the wife and mom God wants me to be!
My husband has a degree but after graduation he was adamant not to settle down with any woman who had a degree, bound and determined to make a career outside of the home. These women also had too much masculine energy and are just not attractive, just worrying about career advancement, living independently, etc. I was ready to get married at 20 and start being a homemaker.
I’ve been praying for a RUclips video like this one for days now! Thank you both sooo much.❤️ You touched every topic I was worried about. God bless you both.
hello ☺️ i know this might be super random but are you a born again believer in Jesus? and desiring to be a wife & mother? because i know some amazing men searching for the wife God has for them so don’t hesitate to reply if you’re interested 💕 God bless you!
There should be more homemaking institutions for girls so instead of college they can attend those and learn how to be a good housewife one day and be ready when their first child is born
Kelli thank you sister, I relate to you so much, I am even on the path to getting a graphic design degree, and what you described sounds like it could be my future
Hey guys! Just wanted to tell you how much my husband and I enjoy these videos! Very encouraging. I'm 22, met my husband in highschool, and have two beautiful girls. I came to Christ almost a year ago and my mindset is being transformed!
Yes! I wasted so much time on college. Went prior to my husband & I having children then online courses during the first couple years of our oldest 2 daughters lives, I graduated. When it came time to fill out applications, I felt a huge tug. I couldn't do it. Praise God, He confirmed I was to be a stay at home mom. I am so thankful for The Almighty to intervene in my life. It wasn't always easy...we were so strapped those first few years and had to get creative. We now have 3 daughters 12, 11, and 6, who are getting the first hand lessons of homesteading, homemaking and being a help meet. All Glory to our Father! Great video! I love that you aren't afraid to make content that opposes the cultural norms!
Just previewed your video with my family. I loved it...and (to my joy), so did my wife and teenage daughter! (Kelli, I saw my wife agreeing with your experiences a lot!) You helped us get some good conversations going. Thanks for being supportive biblical voices for us! God bless.
I wish I had parents so God centered and close. My entire family is corrupt and I picked up their corrupt ways for 8 years until God saved me in November 2023 at 19. Praying that as I go into 2024 and the years beyond that I can be an amazing wife and homemaker. Ya'll's channel inspires me so much and I'm thankful that God has shown you all to me.
I actually loved college and believe God led me there. I have always LOVED learning and got the opportunity to study and prepare to be a missionary. I got to study the Bible, culture, literature, foreign language, and teaching. I got to prepare to be a missionary and a teacher, which is my passion. I got to learn so much, meet missionaries from all over the world, and grow as a minister and a teacher! Also, the Bible teaches not only that marriage is good, but also that singleness is good, even better (1 Cor 7). Out ultimate purpose is to follow God and glorify Him in whatever we do, whether as a wife and homemaker or a teacher, doctor, businesswoman, or missionary. Every person is different- with different gifts.
I love this so much. Your videos on this topic have helped me so much & given me peace. I feel like I'm a better wife now that I realize that God wants me to focus more on my family than on a career.
What about my passions? I want to create and I also want to be successful. Staying at home and focusing on my fiance's career would not make me fulfilled. My goals are not less important than my man's goals. I also have my mission, I also have ambitions. My man supports me, he is my biggest cheerleader. And I'm his. I grew up in a Baptist church. I watched women spending all the parties serving men and men sitting comfortably and enjoying themselves. I watched my friend's mothers talking about things they were going to do before they got married and had to stop. I watched men enjoying their lives when women had to always sit back and taking care of the children, even when we were at the lake having outside parties. I was told that my ambitions are not important and encouraged to stay humble and meek. So I left. Now all of my female friends left the church as well and pursue their passions, career and just live life happily. And no, we are not lonely despite not being homemakers. I'm getting married to my beloved fiance, most of my friends are already married. Also, we have each other.
I think once people become one in Marriage than the ideas of what each person does do need to change. I haven't seen anywhere in the word where it say woman don't study ,but husband continues. No the Bible says both must make sacrifices for the family it self. Whatever that might look like in ya family life.
You guys are awesome!! I’ve been listening to your marriage videos and they are so insightful. It is SO REFRESHING to hear people actually talk about the old fashion, traditional marriage format. I mean modern people hate wives not having careers and men being in charge and that style of life is making people miserable!
About Going to college to be a nurse or even a doctor, I think those are great options for women that really aspire to be one of those. If she is truly pursuing God and not getting caught up in culture, and is in school for nursing, I think that’s ok. I have a friend that only went to nursing school for two years and is now pregnant and she and her husband are happily married.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video!! I'm in this same boat right now. My parents have always expected that I would go to college so you can imagine their shock when I told them otherwise. My family and I will work it out together with the help of the Lord! ❤
You can be a cna which is easy and work w children You can get your lpn at a trade school You can get your rn at a community college Bsn with 2 additional years of college It's ok to go to college as long as you make good choices I agree that one should live w their parents until marriage for coverage I agree w that
Although I understand many of your points and see nothing wrong with having a loving marriage with traditional roles. There is absolutely nothing wrong with girls going to college and having a passion outside of the home and having a career. You can still be a loving wife and have a career. I know in the US it’s almost like a trade off, you either have a career or you are a mother. Many EU countries it’s okay to have maternity leave sometimes even for more than 2 years, or even putting the career on hold and going back in part time when your kids start going to school. I think you both are really happy with your lifestyle and kind of translate that lifestyle to all people, but it’s incredibly naive and also ignorant to take your own personal experiences onto everyone. Many women have been highly successful both in the home sphere and professional sphere at once, I know you touch on that possibility but in a very directed small way. Many women are not happy in just being mothers and wives. They want to have careers but can also be wives and mothers at the same time. You talk about praying for your husband, that’s all great when your husband is a good and kind and responsible human being. Many times that isn’t the case, the husband is not responsible and no amount of praying and submission will get him there, he may be abusive to the wife and the children even though he comes from a good home. In these cases it’s best for women to have some kind of profession or skill to be able to leave that marriage and be able to support her children as a mother does and be able to remove herself but most importantly her children from an abusive home life. I find your view on things very one sided and very narrow minded, and I don’t think that even Jesus would be so black and white with it. Those are my 2 cents
This is good advice, but I would say it doesn't necessarily work in every situation. I didn't have the option of living with my parents, as you suggest, which put me to working a minimum wage job trying to cover rent, etc. This was hard, even though God blessed me during that time. I wished that I had some sort of training to fall back on to earn more money, because I didn't meet my husband until my late 20's. I will encourage my daughter to get some sort of training "to fall back on", because there aren't many young people getting married right out of high school. That doesn't mean lots of debt at a 4 year college, but something to make more than minimum wage.
THANK YOU for taking time out of your lives to share your experience and views!!! i agree with 100% of everything you said! i’ve been dealing with that common, pestering, question: “are you going to college?” for YEARS. The people who ask me that often dislike me or talk behind my back when i say i don’t want to go to college at all. Like i’m a horrible, rebellious, lazy person. this video helped me SO much!!! and i love that y’all are christian, too 😭 I trust in JESUS for everything! i started working before graduating high school and i’m still working today! building experience and reliability... learning through work!! i do not need a degree♥️ have a blessed day, y’all 💜
I love so much that you guys did this video to give these teenagers and young adults this message! ❤️. You actually also spoke to my current day situation and heart as well! I am 50 now and my kids are almost raised. I truly wish I could have heard this message when I was a teenager. I too wanted to be a mom and wife. I ended up going to college when my kids were small because I thought that I need to, to help provide for my family. I did not have Jesus in my life then. I accepted Jesus into my life 7 years ago and now I see many things differently. In retrospect I can see how terrible it was for my kids, how a stressful job in the medical field tanked my health with many issues, I ultimately got Lyme disease, which is now chronic. Praise God though!! He has given me knowledge for natural healing!! I just need to be able to have the courage to leave my stressful job to allow the healing to take place. People do not realize how toxic stress is to your mental and physical health. There is so much truth in everything you both said!! There is no greater gift that you can give your kids than to stay home and raise your children. Thank you so much for being willing to be that much needed voice!!!!!
I am newly married and recently left my job as medical doctor to be a full time homemaker. I can tell you that without exception, every woman I worked with, single or married would rather be at home (and not just working another career but at home). In fact it was like a running joke to say amongst ourselves that we wanted to be housewives, except I was dead serious.
I'm with you, all I ever wanted to do was get married and be a mom. I did enjoy working part time but never wanted a high stress career. My daughter graduated college last December and she was so brainwashed. Most colleges are liberal indoctrination camps.
Amen! And I'm sorry to hear that about your daughter, I was also pretty socialist after graduating college and God lead me to truth, so may that be a testimony for your daughter
I really don't appreciate you telling readers what they think and what experiences they will have. It is up to each person or couple to decide that for themselves. Many families are happy with two income parents and the children don't suffer at all. I grew up in a complementarian home and suffered hugely. What happens if you lost Scott? I hope you have a healthy life insurance policy as you won't be capable of looking after yourself.
I know this may sound pathetic, but I am blind, 30, and live at home. I left community college years ago and did not finish a degree. What can I do, please, to do something with my life and to later marry? I know I waited too late but the guys I dated only pretended to be Christians and they left me in less than a year. What have I done wrong?
Hi Kayla, our recommendation is to find a church with older couples who will help you with these desires in your heart. Tell them you'd like to be married and ask if they would help you. God sees you in secret and he will reward you openly. God bless.
Yes! I can back up everything said. College/University is not the place for women. Even a "Christian" college. I felt the same pressures to go to college and get a career even though I didn't want one. I should have never gone but God protected me as well. 🙏
Great advice like always guys! I only disagree with the last part about a woman can choose to be that "career" woman once the kids are grown. Biblically she would continue to have kids as long as her body could so maybe into her 40s. Plus just being a helpmate and keeper at home is enough work, not easy. Great video overall guys.
I don't understand the part about you saying women should have children as long as their bodies permit Are you Catholic Just curious, I'm Christian Protestant
@@chrisharris2367lots of Protestants I know believe this too, not just Catholic. Lots of folks believe in being totally open to life and so they don’t put a date on when they will stop having kids.
I find it interesting that you say you lost more femininity at the Christian university than at the secular one. It would seem that the issue is obviously more than just secular influence of opinion, but moreso the overall logistical environment (demands, expectations, etc) which isn’t conducive to really being able to flourish as a true woman. Really enjoying your channel. Came for the localism, stayed for the morality. Keep up the good work.
I value women. I really do. But i agree with you both! I don’t want to put my future wife down but I want to be the breadwinner(provider)/protector of the household. She could work part time if she chooses but as a man, i’d feel so much more fulfilled if I was the provider. So many women want to compete with their husbands and out earn them. Its not a competition. This feminist movement helps women out alot and completely walks over men. Men can’t be men anymore. And when they want a homemaker wife or atleast a wife who has traditional values, the guy is looked at as being sexist. As a man, im not impressed by your degrees and status. Thats what we come with. I want a girl with feminine energy. So hard to find nowadays. But i’ll tell you this. I’d gladly take that girl stocking shelves at target than date an entitled high career girl
I got my BSN best decision I've ever made in my life!!! Also I made mistakes dating but avoided the cock corral never once got drunk instead tasted alcohol probably 4 or 5 times in college and was at my peak beauty College depending on the college can be great I went to a small safe catholic college not a huge university It taught me great skills and I loved college
I am a woman I am going to collage I am Catholic I believe all people are equal I want kid if I am married my husband would not be in charge and I would have a good job.
Catholic is way different than this Catholics want everyone to excel and use their talent to better society , these people want to ruin dreams and goals for a cult like fundie Christianity I love the Catholic Faith
You make the Taliban look easy At least with the Taliban it's about getting things together for modesty, and that is for both men and women In the Quran it says " men and women seek knowledge " The highest rate of women in STEM are from the middle east , Pakistan has a high rate of women in Computer Science , they are business women , they work and this doesn't ruin their ' femininity' I'm an Accountant and so is my husband, I mean this is so weird I'm not against stay at home moms at all, but all this about masculine and feminine is so narrow minded
truth is narrow minded. There is no relatively: there is either true or false, good or bad. If your epistemology is not based in the Bible then naturally you will not have the same truth values as those who do. But don't call it weird, the rationale is there, it is essentially "thus saith the LORD", if you do not share that same presupposition then of course you will disagree with the conclusions derived from that. Call the presupposition, the root of the belief weird, not the leaf. My previous statement is my main and most important point, but in addition to that I would like to say that you really should consider the idea that work and university culture has the ability to masculinize women (and feminize men). The way men and women (psychologically and biologically speaking) handle stress, time, work partnerships, etc. is truly different and modern Corporate culture really does change how women think, act, and be. Women necessarily have to subsume their instincts towards being a mother, and even if you see that as a virtue, you have to admit that it does/has change(d) you. And if that has changed, how much more? And for what end? Anyway, I wish you well Amanda. My wife graduated with an Accounting degree and she is currently living a happy life as a homemaker and does tax volunteering and thinks that is good intellectual stimulation while also allowing her to prioritize family above 'career'. God bless you.
@@alephnaught8343 My Mom raised four kids and working never ruined her ability to be a mother. Everyone is an individual handles stress differently, people are individuals not gender clones, women are not all the same. There are men that get stressed out and can't handle it and women that get through the toughest times because of individual differences. My husband and I now have our own business after working for someone else, this is the way accounting works. Women are over protected within some Christian circles, not allowed to experience life or toughing it. The women go from home to their husband , babied and protected from life. There is nothing anti Christian about women working , plus the students don't automatically sin at college , some of us were only interested in studying. And what about broken hearts of young men ? There were many young men who had horrible relationships in college , it's not only girls , in fact some girls are not so innocent or naive. I went to SJSU years ago before this woke craziness, we had mainly accounting classes and not brainwashed. Some people are never brainwashed we have our values too strong for college to change them. Work is just work not masculine or feminine,
You seem like very nice people but you have a seriously skewed point of view. I cant believe in this day and age you are sending this sort of message to our young girls today! Shame on you!!!😡
What is being a good citizen and why is that of primary importance? I find it interest you take issue with a woman hypothetically not putting 'the state' (of whom she is a citizen) first? Should it not be the case that a woman but her family (either parental or marriage) first?
This is a bunch of judgmental junk. Why are you lumping everyone together? Not everyone has the same calling. Why would I worry about my debt when God called me to college? Have you never read when Jesus said that no one can accept this except the one to whom it is called? My worth and identity are neither in college nor not college, married or not married, mother or not a mother; my identity is in Christ! For me, God led me to let go of the very things you are telling me to hold onto (marriage, motherhood), because He had other plans for my life, and those plans very clearly started with college.
If you are the exception you do not need to tell people that you are the exception. If you are called by God, you do not need to justify yourself to man. Have compassion for the majority of girls who were not called to college, who were not called to singleness but were pressured into exchanging their smv & fertility on the lie that they could have it later. Instead of being angry at the liars, many older ladies pressure the younger girls to take the same bad deal as they did, to ensure that they are not the only ones who got duped. Pure Evil.
Galatians 5:24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Mark 10:43-45 Jesus stated, “Whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave (servant) of all. For even the Son of Man (Jesus) did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Jesus had an unselfish mindset, as he taught his disciples to follow his ways and prepared them for the Coming Kingdom of God. One definition for being a faithful servant, according to the Bible, is to be a devoted and helpful follower, to be humble before God, to be ready to act as God nudges and inspires us, to help meet the needs of other people, and to remember that it is not about money or reward. I leave you with these words, found in 1 Peter 4:10-11: “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. “If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.” It's not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less. The true gospel Jesus preached Mark1:14-15
I can’t imagine the shame your parents must feel about both of you. Both of you are a disappointment to humankind! The way you’ve both just missed the boat is remarkable! Keep these videos up- all you’re doing is showing others how to never be in life!
I sincerely wish your channel was at my fingertips during my youth. I resonated with so, so much of this video. I went to a trade school for two years, had a hustle mentality with working multiple jobs, partied away my “prime” years, etc. Fast-forward a few years after I got connected with my local church and learned of my true calling to bring glory to God and I’m now happily married, have three children, and am blessed every single day to be at home raising them while being a homemaker as my career. 🙌🏼
Amen Brittany! What an amazing testimony, you encourage us so much!
You two are a breath of fresh air! Thank you for encouraging young people to follow God and honor Him with all their choices.
Thanks for the encouragment! God Bless you!
THANK YOU for this validation!! I went to college the fall after graduation because I felt like I didn’t have a choice even though I had no clue what I wanted to do and I didn’t want to be labeled as “dumb” or “lazy”. I met my husband the month before I left for college, made it through one semester of school before we realized that we wanted to get married as soon as possible. Left school as soon as semester ended, got married that next spring, and then found out we were pregnant a couple of months later, all at 19 years old! I’ve always had doubts if this is what I was meant to do. But your channel, the current state of the world, and trusting in the Lord has helped me realize that my purpose is to grow our family, be a homemaker, and help my husband in any way I can! Now 5 years later, our family continues to grow, we’re working on homeschooling, localism, homesteading, and getting out of debt, and I KNOW this was my purpose in life. I thank God for allowing me to find your channel and confirming my identity and my purpose in this world!💗
this is fantastic
Wow what a wonderful testimony!!!
School is handy for job skills , something to fall back on. Women are needed in the medical & mental health field
Thank you so much for this video..my daughter who is 12 very artist and a big homebody. She has no intention on going to College, she wants to have a family and cook for them. Im so grateful for videos like this that say yes this is ok..NOTW..Shalom
She can do both.
I never thought I would ever say this but what a blessing that I didn't go to college 🙏🏼
Praise God!!
thank God I saw this video! Praise God! Thank u Kelli
I just randomly found you guys and I’m so happy I did! It’s so good to hear other young people like me who are wanting the same type of life that my fiancé and I want. I wish I knew more people like you guys!
Thank you guys for what you do. Your content is amazing. I couldn’t agree more.
Great wisdom 🕊️😊💕🙏 my university education was so useless! Been a homemaker for more than 20 years and never ever used any of my education.
Thank you! And I'm sure all that you learned in the 20 years of homemaking has been of far more value than the 4 years of university!
I went to a community college for like 3 weeks, they dropped my program and I never returned after trying to take a moment to figure things out. I ended up working as a caregiver and it made me a good woman with respect for elderly. And I dont have a single penny of student loan debt to my name. Glad I am a Youth leader for the preteens and teens in my church and also pursuing God to lead me where He wants me. My husband is great for me and has supported me through all my health struggles(Infertility). God is so good when we do what he is asking of us. Thanks for sharing this!
What a blessing, so amazing how God directed your steps. And amen, He really is so good! And we bless you all and your health and your womb. We are on this journey of desiring children and waiting upon the Lord as well.
@@ScottandKelli Much appreciated. I had a Hysterectomy recently to relieve this suffering I have been through for the last 10 years. So I can not bear my own children, but perhaps adopt or foster in the future if it Gods will.
"Preparing to be a Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl is a great Christian book that outlines so much of what Scott and Kelli are saying here and more. There truly is no other time in your life between your late teen years and marriage where you won't have the responsibility of children where you can do mission work, etc. and learn so many new skills. I highly recommend this book. There is also "Created to BE His Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl for the married ladies. There's one for the guys too. :) Lots of great ideas, all straight from God's Word.
So glad to see others appreciate a good book! My daughter has read "Preparing to be his help meet" 4 times now. She started at 13 years old. She just turned 14. We also homeschool. I LOVE my Created to be his help meet book. It reminds me of the wife and mom God wants me to be!
Some skills learned in college can be used for family
My husband has a degree but after graduation he was adamant not to settle down with any woman who had a degree, bound and determined to make a career outside of the home. These women also had too much masculine energy and are just not attractive, just worrying about career advancement, living independently, etc. I was ready to get married at 20 and start being a homemaker.
This is such a great testimony!! Hoping many young ladies see this, God bless you and your family and thanks for sharing!
Yes a thousand times!!!!
I’ve been praying for a RUclips video like this one for days now! Thank you both sooo much.❤️
You touched every topic I was worried about. God bless you both.
hello ☺️ i know this might be super random but are you a born again believer in Jesus? and desiring to be a wife & mother? because i know some amazing men searching for the wife God has for them so don’t hesitate to reply if you’re interested 💕 God bless you!
Your content is priceless! Thank you so much for these videos.
Thank you so much Leandra! That is such a blessing to hear!
There should be more homemaking institutions for girls so instead of college they can attend those and learn how to be a good housewife one day and be ready when their first child is born
There used to be finishing schools for girls/ young women after high school.
you are a beautiful couple ❤️you brought tears to my eyes.
Kelli thank you sister, I relate to you so much, I am even on the path to getting a graphic design degree, and what you described sounds like it could be my future
Hey guys! Just wanted to tell you how much my husband and I enjoy these videos! Very encouraging. I'm 22, met my husband in highschool, and have two beautiful girls. I came to Christ almost a year ago and my mindset is being transformed!
Ah praise God, what a wonderful testimony and so glad that you enjoy the videos. God bless you and your family!!
Yes! I wasted so much time on college. Went prior to my husband & I having children then online courses during the first couple years of our oldest 2 daughters lives, I graduated. When it came time to fill out applications, I felt a huge tug. I couldn't do it. Praise God, He confirmed I was to be a stay at home mom. I am so thankful for The Almighty to intervene in my life. It wasn't always easy...we were so strapped those first few years and had to get creative. We now have 3 daughters 12, 11, and 6, who are getting the first hand lessons of homesteading, homemaking and being a help meet. All Glory to our Father!
Great video! I love that you aren't afraid to make content that opposes the cultural norms!
Thanks so much for sharing your story! And I love how God directed your steps. God bless you and your family!
Just previewed your video with my family. I loved it...and (to my joy), so did my wife and teenage daughter! (Kelli, I saw my wife agreeing with your experiences a lot!) You helped us get some good conversations going. Thanks for being supportive biblical voices for us! God bless.
Ah praise God, so thankful and thank you for the encouraging feedback, God bless you and your family!
I wish I had parents so God centered and close. My entire family is corrupt and I picked up their corrupt ways for 8 years until God saved me in November 2023 at 19. Praying that as I go into 2024 and the years beyond that I can be an amazing wife and homemaker. Ya'll's channel inspires me so much and I'm thankful that God has shown you all to me.
I actually loved college and believe God led me there. I have always LOVED learning and got the opportunity to study and prepare to be a missionary. I got to study the Bible, culture, literature, foreign language, and teaching. I got to prepare to be a missionary and a teacher, which is my passion. I got to learn so much, meet missionaries from all over the world, and grow as a minister and a teacher! Also, the Bible teaches not only that marriage is good, but also that singleness is good, even better (1 Cor 7). Out ultimate purpose is to follow God and glorify Him in whatever we do, whether as a wife and homemaker or a teacher, doctor, businesswoman, or missionary. Every person is different- with different gifts.
I love this so much. Your videos on this topic have helped me so much & given me peace. I feel like I'm a better wife now that I realize that God wants me to focus more on my family than on a career.
Amen! So grateful this encourages you, God bless!!
What about my passions? I want to create and I also want to be successful. Staying at home and focusing on my fiance's career would not make me fulfilled. My goals are not less important than my man's goals. I also have my mission, I also have ambitions. My man supports me, he is my biggest cheerleader. And I'm his.
I grew up in a Baptist church. I watched women spending all the parties serving men and men sitting comfortably and enjoying themselves. I watched my friend's mothers talking about things they were going to do before they got married and had to stop. I watched men enjoying their lives when women had to always sit back and taking care of the children, even when we were at the lake having outside parties. I was told that my ambitions are not important and encouraged to stay humble and meek. So I left.
Now all of my female friends left the church as well and pursue their passions, career and just live life happily.
And no, we are not lonely despite not being homemakers. I'm getting married to my beloved fiance, most of my friends are already married. Also, we have each other.
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I think once people become one in Marriage than the ideas of what each person does do need to change. I haven't seen anywhere in the word where it say woman don't study ,but husband continues. No the Bible says both must make sacrifices for the family it self. Whatever that might look like in ya family life.
🙌. Love this. Thank you so much
You guys are awesome!! I’ve been listening to your marriage videos and they are so insightful. It is SO REFRESHING to hear people actually talk about the old fashion, traditional marriage format. I mean modern people hate wives not having careers and men being in charge and that style of life is making people miserable!
I'm so thankful you've been enjoying them! God bless you!
Good stuff guys! :) Many blessings.
About Going to college to be a nurse or even a doctor, I think those are great options for women that really aspire to be one of those. If she is truly pursuing God and not getting caught up in culture, and is in school for nursing, I think that’s ok. I have a friend that only went to nursing school for two years and is now pregnant and she and her husband are happily married.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video!! I'm in this same boat right now. My parents have always expected that I would go to college so you can imagine their shock when I told them otherwise. My family and I will work it out together with the help of the Lord! ❤
You can be a cna which is easy and work w children
You can get your lpn at a trade school
You can get your rn at a community college
Bsn with 2 additional years of college
It's ok to go to college as long as you make good choices
I agree that one should live w their parents until marriage for coverage
I agree w that
Although I understand many of your points and see nothing wrong with having a loving marriage with traditional roles. There is absolutely nothing wrong with girls going to college and having a passion outside of the home and having a career. You can still be a loving wife and have a career. I know in the US it’s almost like a trade off, you either have a career or you are a mother. Many EU countries it’s okay to have maternity leave sometimes even for more than 2 years, or even putting the career on hold and going back in part time when your kids start going to school. I think you both are really happy with your lifestyle and kind of translate that lifestyle to all people, but it’s incredibly naive and also ignorant to take your own personal experiences onto everyone. Many women have been highly successful both in the home sphere and professional sphere at once, I know you touch on that possibility but in a very directed small way. Many women are not happy in just being mothers and wives. They want to have careers but can also be wives and mothers at the same time. You talk about praying for your husband, that’s all great when your husband is a good and kind and responsible human being. Many times that isn’t the case, the husband is not responsible and no amount of praying and submission will get him there, he may be abusive to the wife and the children even though he comes from a good home. In these cases it’s best for women to have some kind of profession or skill to be able to leave that marriage and be able to support her children as a mother does and be able to remove herself but most importantly her children from an abusive home life. I find your view on things very one sided and very narrow minded, and I don’t think that even Jesus would be so black and white with it. Those are my 2 cents
Thank you for the beautiful video ❤️
You are living this out so well, sister! What a beautiful example you are!
This is good advice, but I would say it doesn't necessarily work in every situation. I didn't have the option of living with my parents, as you suggest, which put me to working a minimum wage job trying to cover rent, etc. This was hard, even though God blessed me during that time. I wished that I had some sort of training to fall back on to earn more money, because I didn't meet my husband until my late 20's. I will encourage my daughter to get some sort of training "to fall back on", because there aren't many young people getting married right out of high school. That doesn't mean lots of debt at a 4 year college, but something to make more than minimum wage.
I wish I saw this before six years of college
THANK YOU for taking time out of your lives to share your experience and views!!! i agree with 100% of everything you said! i’ve been dealing with that common, pestering, question: “are you going to college?” for YEARS.
The people who ask me that often dislike me or talk behind my back when i say i don’t want to go to college at all. Like i’m a horrible, rebellious, lazy person. this video helped me SO much!!! and i love that y’all are christian, too 😭 I trust in JESUS for everything! i started working before graduating high school and i’m still working today! building experience and reliability... learning through work!! i do not need a degree♥️ have a blessed day, y’all 💜
I love so much that you guys did this video to give these teenagers and young adults this message! ❤️. You actually also spoke to my current day situation and heart as well! I am 50 now and my kids are almost raised. I truly wish I could have heard this message when I was a teenager. I too wanted to be a mom and wife. I ended up going to college when my kids were small because I thought that I need to, to help provide for my family. I did not have Jesus in my life then. I accepted Jesus into my life 7 years ago and now I see many things differently. In retrospect I can see how terrible it was for my kids, how a stressful job in the medical field tanked my health with many issues, I ultimately got Lyme disease, which is now chronic. Praise God though!! He has given me knowledge for natural healing!! I just need to be able to have the courage to leave my stressful job to allow the healing to take place. People do not realize how toxic stress is to your mental and physical health. There is so much truth in everything you both said!! There is no greater gift that you can give your kids than to stay home and raise your children. Thank you so much for being willing to be that much needed voice!!!!!
I am newly married and recently left my job as medical doctor to be a full time homemaker. I can tell you that without exception, every woman I worked with, single or married would rather be at home (and not just working another career but at home). In fact it was like a running joke to say amongst ourselves that we wanted to be housewives, except I was dead serious.
Hi! How exciting you made the decision to be home full time, what a blessing and a beautiful example and testimony!!!
I'm with you, all I ever wanted to do was get married and be a mom. I did enjoy working part time but never wanted a high stress career. My daughter graduated college last December and she was so brainwashed. Most colleges are liberal indoctrination camps.
Amen! And I'm sorry to hear that about your daughter, I was also pretty socialist after graduating college and God lead me to truth, so may that be a testimony for your daughter
I really don't appreciate you telling readers what they think and what experiences they will have. It is up to each person or couple to decide that for themselves. Many families are happy with two income parents and the children don't suffer at all. I grew up in a complementarian home and suffered hugely.
What happens if you lost Scott? I hope you have a healthy life insurance policy as you won't be capable of looking after yourself.
I know this may sound pathetic, but I am blind, 30, and live at home. I left community college years ago and did not finish a degree. What can I do, please, to do something with my life and to later marry? I know I waited too late but the guys I dated only pretended to be Christians and they left me in less than a year.
What have I done wrong?
Hi Kayla, our recommendation is to find a church with older couples who will help you with these desires in your heart. Tell them you'd like to be married and ask if they would help you. God sees you in secret and he will reward you openly. God bless.
@@ScottandKelli lol. I am but it is small. I will keep telling people.
Yes! I can back up everything said. College/University is not the place for women. Even a "Christian" college. I felt the same pressures to go to college and get a career even though I didn't want one. I should have never gone but God protected me as well. 🙏
Amen Loren!
Great advice like always guys! I only disagree with the last part about a woman can choose to be that "career" woman once the kids are grown. Biblically she would continue to have kids as long as her body could so maybe into her 40s. Plus just being a helpmate and keeper at home is enough work, not easy. Great video overall guys.
Thanks Kevin!!
I don't understand the part about you saying women should have children as long as their bodies permit
Are you Catholic
Just curious, I'm Christian Protestant
@@chrisharris2367 I'm just a christian who follows the bible :). I don't believe in birth control, let God be in control.
@@chrisharris2367lots of Protestants I know believe this too, not just Catholic. Lots of folks believe in being totally open to life and so they don’t put a date on when they will stop having kids.
I find it interesting that you say you lost more femininity at the Christian university than at the secular one. It would seem that the issue is obviously more than just secular influence of opinion, but moreso the overall logistical environment (demands, expectations, etc) which isn’t conducive to really being able to flourish as a true woman. Really enjoying your channel. Came for the localism, stayed for the morality. Keep up the good work.
Yes, that's exactly it!! And thanks so much for the encouragement, God bless you!
the way he kept saying bossbabe 💀 yeah I think I'll go to college
I value women. I really do. But i agree with you both! I don’t want to put my future wife down but I want to be the breadwinner(provider)/protector of the household. She could work part time if she chooses but as a man, i’d feel so much more fulfilled if I was the provider. So many women want to compete with their husbands and out earn them. Its not a competition. This feminist movement helps women out alot and completely walks over men. Men can’t be men anymore. And when they want a homemaker wife or atleast a wife who has traditional values, the guy is looked at as being sexist. As a man, im not impressed by your degrees and status. Thats what we come with. I want a girl with feminine energy. So hard to find nowadays. But i’ll tell you this. I’d gladly take that girl stocking shelves at target than date an entitled high career girl
I got my BSN best decision I've ever made in my life!!!
Also I made mistakes dating but avoided the cock corral never once got drunk instead tasted alcohol probably 4 or 5 times in college and was at my peak beauty
College depending on the college can be great
I went to a small safe catholic college not a huge university
It taught me great skills and I loved college
I am a woman I am going to collage I am Catholic I believe all people are equal I want kid if I am married my husband would not be in charge and I would have a good job.
Catholic is way different than this Catholics want everyone to excel and use their talent to better society , these people want to ruin dreams and goals for a cult like fundie Christianity I love the Catholic Faith
Me at 13 seconds in: "Uh...Based."
You make the Taliban look easy At least with the Taliban it's about getting things together for modesty, and that is for both men and women In the Quran it says " men and women seek knowledge " The highest rate of women in STEM are from the middle east , Pakistan has a high rate of women in Computer Science , they are business women , they work and this doesn't ruin their ' femininity' I'm an Accountant and so is my husband, I mean this is so weird I'm not against stay at home moms at all, but all this about masculine and feminine is so narrow minded
truth is narrow minded. There is no relatively: there is either true or false, good or bad. If your epistemology is not based in the Bible then naturally you will not have the same truth values as those who do. But don't call it weird, the rationale is there, it is essentially "thus saith the LORD", if you do not share that same presupposition then of course you will disagree with the conclusions derived from that. Call the presupposition, the root of the belief weird, not the leaf.
My previous statement is my main and most important point, but in addition to that I would like to say that you really should consider the idea that work and university culture has the ability to masculinize women (and feminize men). The way men and women (psychologically and biologically speaking) handle stress, time, work partnerships, etc. is truly different and modern Corporate culture really does change how women think, act, and be. Women necessarily have to subsume their instincts towards being a mother, and even if you see that as a virtue, you have to admit that it does/has change(d) you. And if that has changed, how much more? And for what end?
Anyway, I wish you well Amanda. My wife graduated with an Accounting degree and she is currently living a happy life as a homemaker and does tax volunteering and thinks that is good intellectual stimulation while also allowing her to prioritize family above 'career'. God bless you.
@@alephnaught8343 My Mom raised four kids and working never ruined her ability to be a mother. Everyone is an individual handles stress differently, people are individuals not gender clones, women are not all the same. There are men that get stressed out and can't handle it and women that get through the toughest times because of individual differences. My husband and I now have our own business after working for someone else, this is the way accounting works. Women are over protected within some Christian circles, not allowed to experience life or toughing it. The women go from home to their husband , babied and protected from life. There is nothing anti Christian about women working , plus the students don't automatically sin at college , some of us were only interested in studying. And what about broken hearts of young men ? There were many young men who had horrible relationships in college , it's not only girls , in fact some girls are not so innocent or naive. I went to SJSU years ago before this woke craziness, we had mainly accounting classes and not brainwashed. Some people are never brainwashed we have our values too strong for college to change them. Work is just work not masculine or feminine,
@@alephnaught8343 Boys are taught to keep all their emotional pain inside , no one to talk to when a relationship goes bad , especially in the US.
You seem like very nice people but you have a seriously skewed point of view. I cant believe in this day and age you are sending this sort of message to our young girls today! Shame on you!!!😡
Why on earth would you discourage young women from going to college?
I'm so disappointed and thought this was a great channel.
Non of the job options you give are well paying or have medical insurance. Part of being a good citizen is not to be a burden on society. Just saying
What is being a good citizen and why is that of primary importance? I find it interest you take issue with a woman hypothetically not putting 'the state' (of whom she is a citizen) first? Should it not be the case that a woman but her family (either parental or marriage) first?
This is a bunch of judgmental junk. Why are you lumping everyone together? Not everyone has the same calling. Why would I worry about my debt when God called me to college? Have you never read when Jesus said that no one can accept this except the one to whom it is called? My worth and identity are neither in college nor not college, married or not married, mother or not a mother; my identity is in Christ! For me, God led me to let go of the very things you are telling me to hold onto (marriage, motherhood), because He had other plans for my life, and those plans very clearly started with college.
If you are the exception you do not need to tell people that you are the exception. If you are called by God, you do not need to justify yourself to man. Have compassion for the majority of girls who were not called to college, who were not called to singleness but were pressured into exchanging their smv & fertility on the lie that they could have it later.
Instead of being angry at the liars, many older ladies pressure the younger girls to take the same bad deal as they did, to ensure that they are not the only ones who got duped. Pure Evil.
Galatians 5:24
Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Mark 10:43-45
Jesus stated, “Whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave (servant) of all. For even the Son of Man (Jesus) did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Matthew 20:28
just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Jesus had an unselfish mindset, as he taught his disciples to follow his ways and prepared them for the Coming Kingdom of God.
One definition for being a faithful servant, according to the Bible, is to be a devoted and helpful follower, to be humble before God, to be ready to act as God nudges and inspires us, to help meet the needs of other people, and to remember that it is not about money or reward.
I leave you with these words, found in 1 Peter 4:10-11: “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.
“If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.”
It's not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.
The true gospel Jesus preached Mark1:14-15
I can’t imagine the shame your parents must feel about both of you. Both of you are a disappointment to humankind! The way you’ve both just missed the boat is remarkable! Keep these videos up- all you’re doing is showing others how to never be in life!
Thanks so much for watching. God bless you!
They equate femininity to not thinking They don't want women to think! The Christian cult
I couldn't DISAGREE more. In the world, but not of us. You are doing something right Scott and Kelli!
Well this was pretty gross. I feel sorry for their kids.
Soo, this teaching is dangerous.