Hello! I have zero issues with deleting rude comments and blocking you for doing so. So I bless you to not waste your valuable energy in trying to write a "gotcha" post- I will not argue with contentious women in the comments section. I've heard it all, we've been making videos on this topic for years and your robotic replies of what you've heard from liberal culture only encourages me to share more on this. And thank you to all who share encouraging testimonies, I pray they are a blessing to all who come to this video.
Kelli, I am a Prek teacher and just last week I asked my students what they wanted to be when they grow up. I had several girls say they wanted to be a mom!!! My heart was full!
It's only natural! That is proof.. unfortunately, the majority of those girls will change that choice in just a few years. I was an elementary school teacher and answers in 1st grade were much different than results during "career day" in 3rd grade. Sad...
GIRL. You are spitting straight FACTS 😭😭😭😭😭 and you did not take breath. Now I’m at the stage where I’m working a job I could’ve worked without a degree and paying off my debt. Pray for me when you see this 🥲🥲🥲 I need God’s guidance.
I think we are living in a time when a lot of people (men and women) are starting to question college and the value of a degree for a job that may not exist with a heaping helping of debt on the side. I have two bachelor's degrees, a master's degree, and a postgraduate degree. After years of misery and feeling like I could never be a good enough mom for my children because I had nothing left for them when I got home from work, my husband and I were convicted to make it work for me to stay home. I do have to work *very* part-time teaching private co-op classes here and there, but I am finally a SAHM who gets to homeschool my own children. God is good. Trust is not easy, but He is faithful just as you said.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It reminds me so much of mine. I met my husband in 2005 when he was 12 and I was 16. We have been good friends all this time. God told me to be very, very patient in 2019. There’s a lot more to the story, but I’m trying to keep it very short. I moved to his area and the friendship really grew. God began showing me near the end of last year that I was going to have someone around New Year’s. I had been 100% single for 35 years. My lease was coming to an end and my job was threatening to fire me. I knew him and someone else liked me. We had all been friends for a very long time and I didn’t want to ruin that. I began to wonder why I was in this area and had 3 interviews lined up in another area with the intent to move and get a better job. But on New Year’s Eve he told me how he felt. I had fasted and prayed that, if he was the one, he would speak up and tell me how he felt in a way I could respect. He didn’t because he was put on the spot. Someone pressured him to tell me in front of a lot of people. I turned him down. The next day, God showed me he was going to try again and to hear him out. What he told me brought me to tears. He wanted me to fast and pray with him. I had asked God for 3.5 years for someone who would ask me to do this. He also told me that he was witnessing my works for God before I would do them and that the light in me shone brighter than anyone else’s. I had also prayed for this for 3.5 years. For someone to say these words. He didn’t want me to take a job an hour away and he wanted to provide for me. He was willing to give me up if I felt like someone else was the one, but he didn’t want to. We started dating January 3rd, made our engagement official in February, and were married April 28th. I went from being completely single for 35 years to being married to my best friend. We were each other’s first kiss when we got engaged. There’s no way to describe the level of trust we have with each other because the foundation of: 1. God and sharing the same faith. 2. Being the ones God chose for each other. 3. Being really good friends for 19 years. 4. Sharing so much intimacy for each other. Now, I witness his works before they happen and I also see the light in him and I have seen visions fulfilled that I was shown when I fasted about him when I was single and when we fasted together. God is so good and His gifts are always perfect.
Wonderful video!! I have 4 daughters with another on the way and my oldest is in high school. The pressure to go to college is crazy. She has no desire for it and would rather learn life skills. I love what you quoted from your pastor. Thank you for these videos, Kelli. I would love any follow up videos on this topic. ❤️
So goooood!!!! I absolutely love your videos. I am a single young christian women age 22 who was not raised with biblical principles and having to unlearn and re-learn things from a biblical perspective. I actually grew up in a very broken home. Which impacted me a lot and makes my desire to be a homemaker stronger. I did end up going to college (because I didn't know or think there were any other way). I did not like college at all, but I know that the Lord is faithful and nothing is wasted. I did graduate debt-free and that is a blessing from the Lord. But I 100% agree with you sister. I desire marriage and desire to be a homemaker.
I also graduated debt free thankfully. It took me awhile to acknowledge I wanted to be a wife and mom, I was so filled with guilt at 22. Its wonderful to desire those things.
100% agree! I went to college and was encouraged to do so. Not once did anyone ever mention that I should be a homemaker or mother. When I was pregnant with my first, I knew where my role was to be. God hard wires it into us women, that is why many women get so defensive when we say women should stay home. I to receive many rude comments about encouraging other women to stay home! Keep fighting the good fight of faith, sister. Your channel is a blessing ♥️
God planned women to support their families. I believe that while women should place more importance on their home doing their business along side is good as long as it is their choice as the Lord said to Martha when she asked"Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!" "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her." This tells us that we should not force women to stay at home we should rather advice them then respect the choice they make just as they should ours. We should not use Gods words the way we want rather the way God does.
If you could can you tell me your opinion in this I am 17 year old and trying to strength my relationship with God.I do agree with what she said just not the part where it is a should as God has different print for each of his children.
You are spot on!! That is exactly what happened to me. I became a mom, a homemaker and a helper to my husband all at the same time. It was totally overwhelming and I thought that I wasn’t cut out for that. At the same time I had always assumed that being a mom and homemaking would be easy and I was ashamed for being so exhausted! In reality, I just didn’t have the skills. I had the skills for the workplace, but I had not gained any home or mom skills yet.
I have a lovely young neighbor that is experiencing exactly what you are saying. She just quit a few months ago to take care of her 2 little ones. She is often expressing how overwhelmed she is, how she is failing at everything, how she is discouraged & ready to just go back to work. I keep telling her to take things in smaller chunks - stop trying to do so much at one time, it is unnecessary, to look back & recognize how far she has come in a few months - she has gained tons of new skills, to reach out and ASK for help, specific help - Don't say, "I'm overwhelmed" say, "can you spare a few minutes to take my little boy out to play, he is begging to go out & I just can't do it right now?" or "I have run out of mayo, when you go to the store, would you mind picking me up a jar?" - this is much easier for the others in your life to help you with. I have pointed out that she lacks organization & systems & that she would be just as discouraged if she worked 8 hours a day & came home to all the same 'overwhelming' work plus 2 kids that were deprived of their mom's attention all day. I keep trying to encourage her & lift her up (&&&& take her little boy outside to play LOL), teach her all that she wants to know. We need to keep in mind that "failure" is measured differently by God, than by man & take heart in the hard times. Much love to you & hope the bumps in you journey are smoothing out. Your family will benefit the rest of their lives due to your perseverance! I feel I touched on one of the biggest problems in my comment - we don't know how to "ask for help" anymore, because we don't trust each other & don't want to impose. God wants more than that for us, we are SUPPOSED to ask for help & we are supposed to give it.
@@pattyhansen7563Yes! Failure is measured differently by God than by man. Thank you for pointing that out! It’s so hard to tell if you are imposing on someone or if they‘d actually want to asked
Great video Kelli. It’s important to share these ideas and practices. Some will hear and appreciate while others won’t. The Lord will bring those that need to be encouraged and inspired in these ideas. God Bless you for always sharing your heart. 🤗
I regret not knowing the value of being a wife and mother from a very young age. I grew up in the times of "Anything you can do, I can do better." (in reference to girls vs boys). My Christian parents, lovingly, and with the best intentions, wanted me to excel in every area a kid could excel in. My ability to excel being defined by the measures of the Public School...and then eventually the Private Christian University. I never doubted my parents desire for Christ to be #1 in my life, so to that I am grateful. But did I miss the teaching on the different roles between man and woman that God created in his perfect will and plan? How did Christians get to the point of ignoring or belittling women who desire to simply be a wife, mother, and homemaker, instead of revering them!? Why are we pushing girls to go to college? I figured it out after spending just less than a year in a reformed Baptist church where being a wife and mother were held in high regard! Thank you so much for your video! It will help me talk about this subject with others. Sincerely, a physical therapist of 7 years (operating under an artificial masculine side to be effective) who is a wife of 1.5 years (learning to love my God-given feminine side), and praying for children in His timing! My husband has graciously supported me leaving the workforce in favor of "home economy" as I love that you put it. (Not to mention he gets a more joyous, affectionate, feminine, and helpful wife out of it).
I loved this video! While I grew up in a Christian household, my mother always worked. She was constantly stressed doing both the jobs of taking care of kids, the house, and working a full time job. She was unable to spend any time nurturing and guiding her children because her time was spread so thin. Children don't only need food and shelter. They need their mother's love and teaching. My parents raised me with the mindset that I MUST go to college and get a good degree in order to get a good job and not struggle as they had. However, I would have struggled (trying to work and care for small children at the same time). If I hadn't quit graduate school to get married to my husband and then start our family, I might still have not had kids yet. However, here I am at age 34 with a loving husband, three beautiful children, and one on the way! God has blessed me so abundantly for turning my focus to loving and serving my family rather than a job. If only I had spent as much effort preparing to be a mother and wife as I did studying to get the best grades in school. It just was never even entertained as an option that I could be "just" a mom.
Yes, the same for me. My mother was so stressed that she actually developed an autoimmune disease. God bless her. I remember she would have bursts of rage. She got the help she needed and she transformed into a more calm and peaceful person.
@Sam97-oi4vc Yeah, my dad was always working 80+ hours a week and was barely home. My mom worked 40 hours a week and then did all the housework and taking care of us kids on top of it. They really struggled to make ends meet. My dad really regrets now that he missed mine and my brother's entire childhood because he often only came home to eat, watch a little sports, and sleep. It IS why my parents stopped at two kids. He wasn't lazy, but his small business took all his time and didn't make much money. He wishes he had made better choices and regrets having prioritized that business over his family. But to be fair, he was always working like a dog and felt like that was the way to love his family, by putting his all into his work.
@@leannewheeler5351 My Mom would often have bursts of rage as well (screaming, crying, slamming doors, etc...). After my children were born, I started holding my Mom to a very strict standard about what behavior I'd allow around my kids. She loves her grandbabies so much that she learned to control her temper around them and has become such a wonderful and kind grandma to them! I'm glad your Mom has become a gentler person with age as well.
Lovely video and so true. I did it all, college and career but I am so thankful the Lord has shown me the truth, and opened my eyes early on. I am giving my notice at work as I am done with the masculine, corporate and stressful work environment. I’ve been so spiritually empty and drained each day after work . Videos like these make a difference knowing we aren’t alone in wanting to follow a traditional biblical model that God has designed for us. I am so excited to serve at home. Also found out that I’m pregnant so that has definitely helped me make the decision to quit. But I agree , woman should feel comfortable becoming a homemaker even before they have children. The struggle is so real, we’ve been deceived by society to be boss babes and elevate career over family. There are obviously certain circumstances where women do need to work outside the home for various reasons. In general though there is so much joy and creativity in homemaking and I pray more woman have the conviction to go against the grain of modern culture and find great meaning in lives that embrace their femininity bring glory to God.
@Sam97-oi4vc pretty sure no one in modern western society is “forcing” women to be housewives. Actually quite the opposite. If you are in the public education system, you are pushed along the college and career path. NOT the housewife path.
@Sam97-oi4vc Respectfully, that would be a contradiction to your first statement, which said “we shouldn’t be forced”. Now you stated it’s an “option”. Those are very different things, forcing women vs giving them the option. Furthermore, I was a public school educator, I have never experienced any school that encouraged “housewife” as an option after graduation. It was highly discouraged. This is what the vast majority of girls and young women are hearing from their teachers, guidance counselors, admin, parents, and peers, because the majority of students attend public school. This may be why you are assuming “most” women want “other things”. Because our society is strongly pushing these “other things”.
@Sam97-oi4vc the whole point of these videos is to show that this “desire” is actually due to modern women being discouraged from staying home. And for women to rethink the idea for themselves. Girls and young women have been told for decades that staying home is shameful and not secure, having a career is praiseworthy. So the poll you are sharing, of course the majority of women will be saying they have this “desire” to have a career if they never hear all of the incredible benefits to staying home. What this woman is sharing in her videos is VERY rare. Because women having careers is heavily glamorized in education system and the media. And in other countries, where people are watching what we are doing here in America from the media funnel, they think they must also want a career. It appears we have it made here because we work. When that’s not the case. It comes at a very high cost: the family. And the family is the most precious commodity to a society. We forget easily, but we are seeing the repercussions.
I couldn’t agree more with the message of this video. When I was 18 years old, I went to a public university only because it was expected of me (I grew up going to public school and my parents talked very highly about getting a college education). I didn’t like the pretty liberal and immoral environment from day 1. I had a panic attack on the first day of classes because I didn’t have the desire to go to school. I just wanted to be a wife and mother, that’s all I was certain about. I finished that semester and then transferred to a catholic school because I assumed that that would fix the issues I had with college. Even though I liked the Christian morals of my Catholic school and made good friends there, it didn’t change the fact that my calling was to be a wife and mother. I couldn’t see myself finishing university and being a career woman so I dropped out. Now I’m 21 with a providing and loving husband and I’m expecting my first child. I feel weird reflecting on my college experience because I wasted so much of my time being stressed out over assignments, anxious about relationships with immature men and I was constantly questioning what I was supposed to do with my life
My daughter is 21 and lives with us still and just finished her degree online from a Christian university. We saved for the tuition through the GET Program and she now has a degree and never lived on a campus!
Yes, Yes Yes!! Absolutely love this and so agree. Even being a empty nester now, I absolutely love being home caring for things here. I recently started sewing & crocheting again too. I love seeing so many channels on RUclips where women are choosing being home & getting back to the basics God naturally gave us a desire to take care of & tend to.
I got a nursing degree right out of high school. I was pushed by my parents to get a bachelors degree. I got married during nursing school, and had my first child my senior year. I worked as a nurse for about 3 years until financially my husband and I worked it out that I got stay home with our then 2 children. I went from the main provider working full-time to staying home with a 1 year old and 2 year old. It was a really hard transition and on top of it we moved to a new state so I didn’t know anyone. At first I missed working, because it was what I was used to and I missed having adult friends. But it’s now been 10 year of marriage and I’m expecting my 5th child. I absolutely love being a homemaker. I will have 4 daughters (when this baby is born) and one son and I’m raising them with practical skills to be good wives or husband or if it’s God will a good priest or nun ( we are Catholic). I love that we homeschool so that I can teach especially my daughters how to run a home and cook. There is a huge learning curve in motherhood and homemaking and how I was raised made it even harder.
This is so accurate it hurts 😅 I’m in Canada and it’s the same here. You’re pushed into college into a male dominated industry. Expected to dress act and talk like a man. Believing that I wouldn’t do well without conforming to “my masculine side”. But all the while being an absolute miserable human being until I found God. He showed me what it’s like to use my femininity at work and how much grace and love I can instil in the workplace through Christ. ❤ God changed everything for me and helped me see the truth about feminism and new age occult practices that are taking over our society.
@Sam97-oi4vc I totally understand where you’re coming from bc I used to believe what society told me to make me contempt about men’s privilege. But the truth is women don’t want to be submissive/ lead by their husbands…but instead be submissive to a male boss who owns their time and wage/worth. 🤯 Do you (actually) feel “inferior” to men? They are the ones that have the responsibility of fighting and protecting and providing since they are larger with more muscle mass? That should make you feel SAFE (and it was society that twisted it to make it seem like it was a bad thing). 90% of divorces are initiated by women, and if women out earn the man at her job, 97% of the time the marriage fails. The odds of a marriage surviving aren’t high with feminism and women are more miserable than ever in society.
@Sam97-oi4vc A good husband is above the wife in the sense of bigger stronger and protective as she raises the family and builds their legacy (that outlives them). Consider the husband the one who holds the umbrella over the wife, while the wife works to tend to the family and show up for their kids. (The hierarchy created for the good of all mankind). “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” The only legacy we leave at work is some good ideas and spreadsheets, but we leave nothing behind at our jobs that is going to outlive us (unless you’re a medical doctor for example).
I’m so thankful I never bought into the college trap. It never appealed to me. I wanted to work and start my life not continue in school which I hated. And I did work for 14 years until god finally blessed us with kids. Now my job is my family and it’s the hardest most fulfilling job I’ve ever had!
Looking back, I really wish I had gotten married sooner and started family rather than wasting several years in college. Maybe waste is the wrong word, I accomplished my dream of becoming a nurse, but if I had to choose, I would definitely choose being a mom and a homemaker. The stress of being a nurse is taking its toll on me, (but I'll save that discussion for another time.) I'm currently in my mid-thirties and have recently been having baby fever. I don't know if it's my subconscious or if it's God giving me a hint. I've been happily married for 5 years, and I believe that whether or not I'm meant to be a mom will ultimately be God's decision.
@@HR-zj3eo yes gods in charge! It took us 14 years of marriage but now we have 3 beautiful children and cooking baby number 3. I’m 37 years old got married at 18.
Kelli, this was such a good video! I’ve never heard it put in this way but you are SO RIGHT about the rose colored glasses analogy. That was sooo me! I thought I missed my career because I was struggling being a new mom, homemaker, full time cook, etc. all at once. I so wish that I would’ve considered that I could’ve been a stay at home wife before children to practice these things before I became a mom. I will for sure be teaching my daughters this info, too. Thanks for this video💞🙏🏻
Going to college often seems like the best available option to young people that have grown up in abusive families and dangerous cities. My choice after high school basically came down to college or homelessness. Easy choice. (I still ended up homeless for a few summer breaks, but luckily I had a friend that let me couch surf in exchange for a bit of money and a lot of cooking and cleaning. I didn’t use my degree (philosophy and religious studies) at all. I could have probably just moved into student housing and gotten a full time job instead of going to college. But I was trying to do what was expected of me. I had started college to be a teacher, but I had to leave the program because my hearing problems disqualified me.
Important message for young girls! I went to college and all I thought about during college was marriage and when to start my family. I just thought college was the only way to a happy life. I listened to an author discuss a book she had written about how there is never a perfect time to start a family and you just have to take a leap of faith. That really stuck with me and I think it is so true. Children are such a blessing. When you’re a parent you make it work with what you have and let God lead your decision making.
This was such a beautifully thought out and put together video, thank you so much for sharing it. I also appreciate your humility in sharing your past struggles with cooking, haha! In my late teens, I remember accidentally leaving the gas on while attempting to cook noodles (I was sunbathing in the garden when my stepmum noticed), blowing up a microwave while attempting to use it as a timer, and setting some kitchen towels on fire 😂 I got married shortly before turning 21, and the Lord put it on my heart to learn how to cook for my husband. I'm now 31, and cooking is one of my favourite things to do. I just love having my young children in the kitchen with me, teaching them ❤ I often feel very alone in my convictions regarding Biblical womanhood/motherhood, so it's encouraging to hear other women speak on this topic. Lately, I have been pondering how God often met with women in the Bible. It was usually in their homes, or while doing simple, nurturing tasks. The Lord is truly there by our side, and sees the value in this unseen work.
Don't feel bad, twice I put a cup of ramen noodles in the microwave without adding the water first. And another time, I didn't realize my mom had left a dirty pan in the oven, I started to preheat the oven and filled the whole house with smoke. 😂
@@amylouise6387 nope😅...not just you! Once I started the oven with a pot inside - a pot with a plastic handle & melted that & smoked out our whole apt.. My new husband scratched a smiley face into the melty plastic which made us laugh. And about 2 summers ago, I put on a saucepan of green beans to heat & went into the garden "quick" to pick some lettuce. Wellll, I got sidetracked (weeding, who knows why?) and my teen came out & asked why I was frying green beans & did i mean to leave them unattended🤣🤣🤣🤣. I threw down my spade & went running until she yelled that she had turned the burner off. I had fried green beans alright & almost a fried house & this was after almost 20 years of cooking LOL. I have also served a guest a bowl of soup that she found a can lid in (it had fallen into the pot without me noticing) and I also cooked a whole lasagna with a component of my food processor that had fallen into the grated cheese & baked in the dish.
I graduated undergrad in 2013 from a very liberal UC school. I also went to a public high school in California and took all advanced classes where liberal politics and globalism were shoved down our throats. But I went to a great Christian school for elementary and jr high, had great parents, and listened to a lot of talk radio with my dad growing up. My high school friends and I were the conservative group amongst our very liberal AP and IB teachers. In college, I was definitely the most conservative person in my coastal UC school. However, I also had fairly decent knowledge of 19th and 20th century political history, and could debate academically with my peers and teachers. It wasn’t easy, but being the lone conservative in a sea of liberals definitely helped me hone my beliefs and opinions, which I still hold today. Knowing what I knew and being willing to speak about it also allowed me to find a man in college who thought and felt the same way, and now we’ve been married for 10 years and together for 14. He’s a physicist and engineer… skills he never would’ve achieved if he didn’t attend college. So while I’m now a SAHM, I’m very thankful for my college education, not only because it’s where I met my husband, but also because it really gave me that trial by fire experience where I became confident in talking about my faith in Jesus and my opinions on politics even if no one else in the room agrees with me. I very much think college is still good for people - men or women - who are solid in who they are before they leave the house. If they’re not, of course the world will sway them. Edit: I’m a millennial. My mother, grandmother and great-grandmother all attended 4-year universities as well. They’re all conservatives, and all became homemakers upon graduating and marrying their college sweethearts. I think because this was what was modeled for me, it was also easier for me to attain this as well, since this is what I expected from my college experience: to get an education but to also get my “MRS degree” with an intelligent man who would have excellent career prospects and skills to build our future on. Perhaps not so many millennials and Gen Z had the same expectations.
I’m a stay at home wife and felt SO much guilt. I felt I was letting down my husband and family by not making lots of money and having a nice job. I felt that my husband wouldn’t love me as much if I wasn’t contributing financially. People will try to scare you out of it but I’ve found that most men make different decisions when they are bearing the financial burden of the family. Living within one’s means is also a very important part of this conversation.
my husband has said that the experience has made him 'man up', grow up & stop thinking about himself all the time. He proudly shouldered the burden & YES it did make him make some 'mistakes', but also some wiser decisions. And now, we are still young (40) and our kids are mostly grown & pay for their own expenses. We are free to spend more $ on frivolous things & he doesn't need to work so much, so we have more time for each other.
I got an associates degree only and it was a complete waste. I don’t even know where my degree is. Thankfully no debt! I didn’t finish to a four year or so on because I had our first child and I wanted to be a full time mom. I’ve never worked outside the home until the last few years and that’s with my hubby on our farm.
I think this video makes a lot of generalizations about unmarried, career women. I'm in my thirties, I went to college (where I met some of my closest Christian friends), have no debt, have a job that I love that supports me financially. Even though I'm single, I would absolutely consider myself a homemaker. Having a career has in no way impeded me in gaining practical life skills and creating a lovely home for myself. Opening my home to friends and family has been one of my greatest joys. Do I hope to one day have a spouse and children to share a home with? Absolutely! I think the role of wife and mother is such a beautiful calling. In the meantime though, I'm so grateful that I can support myself and have the life that I do.
Which is great for you, but for me and other women, becoming a wife and a mother is priority, not an afterthought Currently women who would prefer to marry and start a family in their early 20s are often steered away from it or told that it’s a reckless and stupid decision. As I was. Unfortunately, I felt societally pressured to pursue a degree and a career, and now I wish I could go back and never have pursued either.. I have friends who are in their mid 30s and may never have the children or husband they desire because of this hustle based, productivity obsessed college culture. This is a very modern issue… a while ago, women were far more supported if they desired family life over career life in their 20s.
@@abbieliz396 I totally get that! Becoming a wife and mother is a priority for me as well. I want that more than anything. My main point was that you can pursue higher education and have a career and still gain essential homemaking skills and set yourself up for the life that you want. Kelli was talking about college as though it is a waste because it takes away from learning to care for a home/family. For some people that may very well be the case, but it certainly doesn't have to be. Not all young Christian women have parents that will financially support them until they are married and so a career is vital for some (like in my case). But I understand that it's not the path for everyone and I agree with you that our culture as a whole is a problem. Pursuing homemaking as a full-time career should be a viable option for women, but unfortunately we live in a culture where you are only valuable if you can make money. Hopefully going forward, we will see a shift away from this and see more and more women leading fulfilling lives doing what they feel called to.
@emilycarr2983, I think you’re stewarding what the Lord has given you right now well & I admire you for that. Creating a welcoming space for others to visit is honoring to the Lord! ❤️ Praying for you as you desire & prepare for marriage & a family one day. It will happen in His time!
Back in the day, girls could go to college, meet a young man, and major in home economics. I am not sure if colleges even offer home economics degrees anymore...😢
I cannot even see the necessity for a degree in home economics. That is a lot of money to spend for a job that will not provide an income. However I do see the need for home economic classes in middle school and high school. But I do not see the point of an expensive college degree in it.
Love this! Also water is highly resistant to temperature change, so if you put the stove on 10 a lot of that heat just gets lost and is not absorbed by the water initially. We live out of our rice cooker. But if you use the stove to boil water, start on medium high and save a bit of electricity ❤
I’ve done the exact same thing with rice. Put it on, went back out to the garden. Heard the smoke alarm (thank God for it!) and ran inside to a smoking rice pot. Just weeks ago it was a Friday night, I put popcorn on the stove (family in den watching tv) and I went to the back porch for bacon. No bacon there so I went to the barn freezer. Found bacon and re-organized fridge while out there. As I get to the back door I smell the popcorn burning. OH MY GOSH. It didn’t ruin my popcorn pot tho, thankfully. Family was still watching tv and wondered about the smell, hahahaaaa. I’ve been homemaking for 18 years, it happens to all of us. LOVE YOUR VIDEOS. I have three daughters, oldest is 15, I am encouraging her in all these things. I want homemakers to come from my home. But hubs still wants girls going to college. I’m working on him.
Hahah this made me laugh because it's so relatable! How our minds work with moving from one thing to the next! And that's wonderful you're raising your daughters with that vision. God bless you guys!
Agreed about college. However, what do young women do if they cannot meet a man who is able to marry them? How do they become economically self sufficient? It seems as though many young men in the church are not mature enough to take care of a house, yet alone buy a house. Many of them do not care about what they eat or how they live. They work all day and come home to microwave their meals and sit in front of a TV. They do not want to change and live in a biblical homestead either. How do women find solid Christian men, who want their spouses to be homemakers?
Women in biblical times were to live at home with her parents until she was married. It’s normal for women to stay at home until she is married. What is common-but not normal, is women are to leave the house at 18 and become independent, become masculine. This is the opposite of what God says to do for women
Amen amen amen! You are so spot on with this. In South Africa stay home moms are RARE and so growing up that was never an option even though my heart was to be a wife and mom. When I was done with high school I came to America and my eyes were opened to another world where women stayed home and it was more culturally acceptable. I started college in the US but left after a year to follow my true passion of being a wife and mom. My family and entire town back in SA were so shocked and upset that I was disowned. Disowned!!!!!! For wanting to be a wife and mom. I was told I was too young and didn’t know what I wanted. I was told my marriage wouldn’t last. So 11 years later when my husband just up and left me with 4 kids (4 children was also a shock to everyone who thought I was extremely irresponsible!) I got a lot of “I told you so” and “what are you going to do now” and “well “now you’ll have to be a working mom and give up your dream of being a stay at home mom”. So I looked at which career will still allow me to be home the most with my children and picked nursing. 3 days on 3 days off. At least I got some time at home. So I went to school, got my degree and still felt like I wasn’t completely abandoning my real passion. But God in His loving kindness has now given me a “work from home” job as an RN. Everyday I clock in I just smile because when you surrender your life to Jesus He just works it out in the most unusual and beautiful ways. So now I can provide for my family while being home with my children. Granted I would love to not have to work but perhaps God will work that one out for us later. Thank you so much for speaking out about this and planting beautiful seeds!!!!! I pray God waters them and beautiful fruit springs forth! ❤❤
AMEN AMEN AMEN! LIKE LIKE LIKE! LOVE LOVE LOVE! I am so refreshed and encouraged by your courage and faithful testimony and guidance for women who FEAR GOD, not the future, not man, not the culture…. Your passion and consistent testimony is such a refreshing drink of deep waters! Thank you for your courage, your encouragement, and your ministry to women.
Agreed. For several decades, there has been so much pressure and emphasis on young women to go to college and start a career. However, society still expects women to do the lion's share of the cooking, cleaning, and raising children. Girls are taught from the time they hit puberty that their career will be the most important thing in their life and to put their career before having children. But on the same token, once she has her career established, then it seems the world won't stop pestering her about when she's going to have kids. So which one is it? You can't have it both ways society. (And the same can be said for young men.)
Amen to very single word in this video!! This should be spread everywhere! 🙌🏻 thanks for sharing this important wisdom for young girls and women generally ❤️
9:11 Wow. I definitely also did the whole “I’ll be a missionary” thing! I’m so thankful I’ve been married for 12 years! Praying for children now. I have PCOS and it hasn’t happened yet, but, Lord willing, the time will come!
Wow! This is one of your best videos. Yes, I came home after my second child and I went through what you described. I have told others that it takes two years to settle in to being a full time homemaker.
Love listing to your videos an you always give me a sound mind/ peacefulness about this life style which I really appreciate, you are one of the first ppl I found on this topic an very inspiring an God is truly shaping an changing my mind an view in all of these things an using YOU in a big way for many I am sure! Thank you ❤
What about older women like myself who are in their 50s? My children are all grown and my husband has passed. I'm wondering what calling the Lord has on my life at this point in my life.
You’re probably getting a lot of flack for this video but I just want to say that I LOVE this so much. It’s unbelievable how much I am still unlearning 6 years and 4 children into homemaking and biblical womanhood 💜 the deception & hurt we can save our girls from by training them up in a biblical worldview
I look back on how much time was wasted on college for me… and for WHAT?! Nothing! LOL I could have spent all that time learning what I actually wanted to learn… sewing. I even withdrew from a summer class at one point to completely walk away and quit college to pursue what I wanted to pursue (sewing), but then I got an email that I received a scholarship for the rest of my BA degree, so I thought it was a sign that I should go back. I wish I just kept walking away! But I am thankful now to be home with my son and now expecting another sweet baby ❤. God is good and he has provided in so many ways ever since I came home. I was able to take my son to work with me till he was almost 2, and even then, I feel guilty for working and not being fully present for my son and for my home so that the burden of the home was not on my husband. We ate out aaalll the time because we didn’t have time to cook. The house was always a wreck because no one was home to clean it! The expectation on me, even if it was a silent expectation, was that I was to get a degree and be “successful” in a nice paying job. And of course my parents would have supported me in any decision, but that was the general expectation. The pressure to go to college just because you have the opportunity… so why wouldn’t you? That’s how I felt. Please girls! Just trust the Lord, get married, and have children!
Ever since I had to quit my 'college' (it isn't called that in my country, but it's similar, it's being educated for a job) due to mental/emotional/physical issues what has come up again and again is my desire to be at home, to have a life centered around the home (it's literally to stay centered, in fact I can't be any other way). I was far far away from the truth (not a practicing christian), but I had this vision of a world in 'human scale'. Things just have to be in our reach, practical, doable, while this whole world is teaching us all to be leaders over groups and countries, but being hopelessly inefficient and failing, while being at home is the perfect place to have the perfect amount and quality of impact. Everyone wants to be an 'influencer', but all that's happening is people being led astray. We need to influence where we can actually be influential, and the home is the perfect place! (Not to say that what you're doing has no value, I just mean in general.) I strayed a bit from your point about college, but I think it's clear. Hearing your world view makes me realize how incredibly much I still have to learn, and I'm relatively old too, but not too late, and it's so so clear the way you paint the picture. It makes so much sense. It does now. I've become a christian december 2023. God saved me from this fallen world. And my desire for home and human measurement finds its place in the biblical world view (as I'm googling this while writing this I happen to come across Revelation 21:17, would that have something to do with this vision of mine? I haven't got the discernment for that yet). Well, just had to share. Blessings!
Totally agree with some people not choosing this life but rather care too much about society norms and being "boss babes" . I mean it's worth a laugh to want to aspire to boss babes rather then wife and mom. The value, even in the words are very clear in the latter. The part about postpartum is so true i went through it for all the reasons you mentioned and then some. Got married then 8 months later got pregnant then year and a half got pregnant again all while working and right around the time we were building a house which took my husband away most of the time and came in sooo late so i was by myself with 2 babies and no village, family support... it was DEPRESSING. I didn't go back to work after maternity leave and that was always our plan but when the reality kicked in i didnt want to stay alone with them but because of my submission to God's will i cried and prayed and turned more to scripture and He faithfully led me to another homemaker's channel and i was amazed the content was just what i needed like i found a village. Now He has led me to your channel and i discern primarily re being my husband's help and not solely the children really. I do not know your age but you are very wise.. that's our Father's wisdom.
I just LOVE your testimony and continuing to learn more about you and your story, Kelli. You've come so far in your homemaking skills - and in a truly short period of time! It's hard to imagine how you described yourself early on! I fully agree the Holy Spirit and God were (are!) at work in you, but you certainly leaned into (and continue to!) educate yourself and gain new and continue to refine your skills. It's so encouraging and inspiring! And fuels my joy and honor to be my husband's helper full-time now too (mid-40s, no children). I just adore you and your willingness to share these (much-challenged) truths I also fully support. That's encouraging me to do so more as well (especially within my Baptist church that can so often still look so much like the rest of the world in many respects). May God continue to bless and keep you Scott, dear sister! ❤🙏
Beautiful talk! Just a thought: You should acquire an electric rice pot. Sometimes, you can even find them at thrift shops. Not only will it switch to warm when cooking is finished, but you can also steam vegetables in it.
I have a newly turned 18yo daughter. She is almost done with her homeschool education, and I believe she could easily run a home well! The question is…what next? She has nannied and did not like it, and now works 3-4 days a week at a coffee stand with a really great group of ladies. One option was to stay with that, and become a barista, or do a nine month paid medical assistant certification apprenticeship. You do have to commit to 2 years of working after completing the the program. It’s a skill/trade certification without the community college nonsense. We are praying about it, and trusting/knowing that the Lord will provide for her. Interesting topic !
I love you!! You’re so relatable. Out of a pure heart of wanting to serve God I did 2 degrees and got the university medal and everyone thought I was going to be a top lawyer or politician or judge one day. I just got married this year at 23 and have given it all up to serve my husband and God and it’s the most beautiful freeing thing!!! All the pressure is off of ‘making it’. Though I am also learning homemaking and have burnt things also 😂
Well praise God, what a beautiful testimony of God directing your steps and congratulations on your marriage!! You have an exciting adventure ahead, all the joys of learning homemaking. Including cooking, haha I had many burnt things (and still do sometimes), it's fun to learn! God bless you guys!
What about those of us in our mid thirties who have no opportunities to meet a Christian man? Do we work expecting it to be temporary or do we accept our circumstances and the possibility we won’t find anyone at our age?
As a guy, I would like to have a SAHW. She can have a degree in case something were to happen to me, but i’d want to be the main provider/protector of the household.
How do we encourage our daughters.? My 17 year old is graduating high school next year and she doesn’t know what she wants to after. I’m not pushing the university route I told her it’s valid to want to be home Maker. What are some options for the young ladies that don’t want to pursue college and want a family.
Hi! I did a follow up video to this one and gave some examples and things you can do with your daughter to help her as she is making these decisions. It's a huge blessing that she has you involved and willing to help her! God bless you! Here's the video: ruclips.net/video/AM84Wgz0EGU/видео.htmlsi=qktN9mTdHBdVWLo_
Thank you for being so brave to talk about this! I have been so blessed by this video! I can remember when I was newly married and the woman’s group at my church did a survey asking what we wanted to get out of the group. I wrote all the things of desiring a mentor to be a good wife & mom someday. Unfortunately it was not something that was thought to be of value. Now here I am almost 20 years later wife & mom of 5 precious children! So grateful for woman like you who share on being a wife & keeper of the home. Thank you so much for this affirmation & encouragement 😊
I've been hearing both sides for a while now and the one thing I've learned from feminism is that the genuine feminists want all women to have fulfilled and happy lives, whether they are mothers, wives, or single. While I agree that college is not a good path, all women need a backup plan. There are women right now who have been married 20+ years who are homeless, unemployed, left struggling to find even retail jobs while supporting themselves and their children because men have walked out on them or their husbands suddenly passed away. It's hard enough for young people to find work and it's much harder to find work when you're 40+ and have little to no work experience. Sadly you cannot rely on the church or others to help you either. All women need to have a backup plan and not put all their eggs into homemaking. If homemaking is what women want to do then they should go for it, but we shouldn't expect women to just be wives and mothers who are financially dependent on their partners.
Hi! Thank you for the video. I get what you are sharing, however I know a lot of women in their 30s and 40s who long for a husband yet they are not pursued by anyone. How should we explain this? And most of those women actually work in kindergarten, because they love children. And my heart aches for people who are single and lots of churches don't provide anything for them (I am from Slovakia and what is my experience is the main focus is only on young families - so the opposite of what you shared in your story) and lots of those women ask what is their role because they are just not pursued. And from the other side I have guy friends who asked someone out multiple times and just got "no". Also would like to know how would you explain the passages where Paul wrote about "it's better for someone to be alone for they can serve God". And my last question is about same sex attracted people. You say that someone who is called to celibacy knows they are called to celibacy and don't seek out relationship, yet SSA people long for having a relationship but basically they have to choose celibacy. What is the good news for them? I see the Church as family - a place for everyone and where everyone is welcomed - families, young, old, singles, widowed, divorced,... What I experienced with God is that mostly if we don't feel up to something, we are called to that because God wants us to learn something from that (as you shared about your experiences with cooking and learning new things as you got married) - could that also mean that God wants someone to be single even though someone is falling in love with people?
A family member of me is a preacher. He has 3 daughters, 27, 24, and 17. He keep on telling them to stay single, for they may end up in a bad marriage. They have to stay with their parents. No one of them go out on a date. It sounds so religious, but I don't think it is the right way to go.
sounds more like a parental control issue, not a religious one. What about multiple & be fruitful? Sounds like someone who is using religion as an excuse to not let go of the reigns. why wouldn't he encourage them to raise a Biblically minded man so that he didn't have to be 'responsible' for the upkeep of 3 women for the rest of their lives????
Actually worldly studies (university), (because it is under a non-TRUTH-conform believe system), it forms your thinking and feeling in a way that is in many ways total contrary to how we as christians are to think and feel according to Gods WORD. For example: -it doesn't consideres God, that he is the ruler over everything, what his will is for the earth and for your life and what he is able to do if we let him and pray to him > instead they view God as irrelevant, bad, unable or every other than how he really is, because the world doesnt know God -it doesnt recognizes evil, sin, sinfulness as is -it tells you to trust in everything and everybody but in God (in methods, systems, seemingly smart people, your own abilities and accomplishments etc) -it wants you to adore/worship anything but God -they have other life goals and priorities than believing christians -etc etc >>Gods word, made real in Jesus, is the way, the truth and the life!
I made this experience as a naive unsustpecting young christian woman. I found myself studying very antibiblical topics at a very antibiblical university and it disturbed, confused and destroyed my realationship with god, my beliefs and strivings (and damaged aspects of my "feminine traits"). It made me mistrusting him and I became depressed and nearly unable to find a way out of this circumstances. After too many horrible months I finally got to (step by step) stop it all, move to another place, flee into a bible teaching church and find a little "woman-friendly" job in an christian invironment. Thank God for protecting my salvation and leading me into his ways! At least due to the pandemic i luckily never got wrapped up in the sinful life style of my fellow students. During this time I watched all your videos and it encouraged and inspired me. Thank you :) It took me at least the same amount of time to restore my life and to recover spiritually and emotionally from this. So I really warn other young christians, especially women against making the same mistakes.
You should definitely make sure to highlight the fact that this applies to white women in the USA. Other groups of women have always worked even if they didn’t have careers plus there was community so yes children spent time away from their (poor) parents whilst they worked. Anyways I think it’s best to honor the fact that other women’s experiences wildly differ from your own.
How do young woman go about finding a husband? If I am ready to be married and have children and be a keeper of the home, but I haven’t found anyone even in larger young Christian communities. I’m not sure what to do.
Thank you for making this videos❤ I live in a country that is very focused on collegr education and very shaped by feminist ideas, and every thing is shaped after two income households. All prizes is set with expectation that every household is a two-income house hold. And women who prioritize being a homemaker and mom is called privileged for being able to afford it - and told they are not contributing to society when they dont earn an income and pay taxes. Even thou most people I know who lives like that, make it work by living very simple lives, sometimes below the poverty line according to our countries statistics. There is this idea, that you can only choose to live of one income if you are rich, selfish and privileged. But we live by the grace of God, on one income, and the amount we have learned to live on is considerede half of the amount you earn if you are below the poverty line. And we prioritise to learn to live on very little and need almost nothing, because we want the freedom and option to prioritise family, our kids and the local community. We are rich in freedom, and maybe its selfish to pay less taxes. But we contribute with our peace and abundance of freedom to serve. We are not to stressed and anxious to help others, in a society where stress and anxiety is skyrocketing. I often feel like I need to defend myself and our way of life , but the Holy spirit always shows up and give me the right words, which is a blessing. It comforts me to watch your videos and know we are not the only ones that have our eyes opened to the homemaker life. I also went to college, and was raised with the idea that the only way to be educated is to learn something that leads to working for someone who doesnt love you outside the home - and that education that leads to working for the family and local community that loves you, is worth nothing compared to earning money. And its not true. Everybody I know, including myself, that believed those ideas, deeply wish they had used there 20s another way. Prioritised family in their 20s, and then maybe in our 40s we could go to college 👍Not the other way around. Society is in an ideological war against homemaking, kids, marriage and Gods design. And society is losing, because we are designed to thrive in Gods ways, will and design. And many women I know is starting to realize this, even if they dont know Jesus yet - they agree with Gods design in their hearts and longing. And they are being called selfish and privileged, for learning to live a simple life on one income and create a nurturing home and healthy family. Thank you so much for making these videos, and making us feel less alone ❤❤❤
It's even harder to honor and obey the Lord in his calling for me to be a housewife and mom when my husband insists that I 'pull my weight' and work. Now I'm almost 40 and highly doubt I'll ever be able to have children. Pro tip: If your boyfriend or fiance exhibits liberal traits in any capacity.... RUN! Run fast and hard.
This advice is not good. There’s nothing wrong with having a career and being married. If you wanna stay at home fine, but stop writing this off as biblical advice. Don’t twist scripture to fit your agenda. To all the young women, yes go to college and get a career, if your husband ever got injured or there’s a period where he can’t work, you need to be able to step up. There’s nothing wrong with having a career/education. But only study something that’s worth the investment. Also, being a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t work outside the home. If you can manage your home and work, then there’s freedom in Christ to choose. Also, this doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t help You around the home……
Amen!! I have raised 3 daughters to be wives and mothers. The first married at 27. She was afraid she would never marry and the world's view and lies were creeping in and causing her doubt and fear. It turns out her husband has only become a Christian two years ago. He wasn't ready to marry and this whole time she was worrying God was growing and preparing him! My other two daughters are younger and still waiting. I keeping reminding them that it is God's revealed will for them to be wives and mothers and to trust in His timing! Thank you for this message!!
Hi kelli this is my first video by you I am not a libral;I wanted to ask "can I not go to college and be a godly women as well" currently I am a 17 year old and I am trying to be a godly women; I still want to go to college and work,be a wifi and a mom can I not do that,is it agenist Gods word.Please I am not tryhing to attack or anyting by saying this I want your acvice that is all
Hi Lara, I would just keep that as your first priority to be a wife and a mom, no matter the decision you can make. A lot of times when girls go to college, they get into promiscuous situations that is promoted with the college lifestyle and then finding a good guy to marry ends up being hard. And/or they end up prioritizing their career above being a wife and a mom. And/or they end up with a huge amount of student loan debt that could prevent them from being a homemaker because they have to work to pay off their student loans. These are dynamics that are often not talked about when sending girls off to college.
Great topic, I am a single mom and in healthcare industry, I work 3 days a week so I can be present in the home and teach my child a biblical world view. I am the provider in our home but God is the ultimate provider and I am so grateful for the job I have which will allow me to do this, in a perfect world I would love to stay home full time ❤.
Collage should be bypassed unless the student is 99% committed to a degree program equivalent with their capability. Just go to work or take a training school program. Collage is feeding students with usless and damaging skills. The only goal of all collages is financial as well as attracting endowments. Parents... wake up and spend your money wisely and not just to impress your friends, you may be sending your child on the wrong educational path.
I think I agree and disagree. I don’t know if college is “bad” more than we have to educate our children on what’s important and then let them decide. I think the real issue is the household and parents instilling values into their children
So much wisdom. My mother worked and went to night school when I was a child. I spent 8yrs in college (struggling) only to work in a field that didn't require a degree. Money Money Money in the 🚽. I'm a homemaker now but the encouragement to pursue a Godly path would have been helpful
This is a rich discussion. First of all, you need a rice cooker. 😂 I do agree with everything you said, however, I did send my daughter to college. Yep, she's a socialist now. Staying at home with your family and learning home skills until a young woman gets married is very difficult, because it, as you say, is just crazy and they would be dependent (we don't like dependence in our culture). As a Baby Boomer, the reason we women went to college is because men showed that they were not trustworthy in our parent's generation. Women would stay home and be moms, then the husband would divorce them for a younger woman and the woman would get the kids, but no house nor money. So it was a horrible situation for many women. That's the reason we were determined to get careers for ourselves and our kids. Nowadays, a Christian woman could even get a college education at home, online. They could even get great part time jobs pursuing some of their interests and passions that they could use at home; (such as having a RUclips channel). I think Christians are going to be more and more counter culture as time goes on; we just believe so much different than non Christians.
I am in shocked over this video. What in the world are we doing encouraging women to not go to college. Do you really believe that women cannot gain a lot of “educational” experience from going to college. Knowledge is one of the things that no one can take away from you. You have a job….You are on youtube. You probably use your education in your youtube chanel . If you really believe that girls should only be encouraged to be homemakers, mothers. Then how do you justify your time that you are taking away from being with your children. From a 77 year old Christian Mother of 6 who had a career as a trauma nurse. You my dear are well meaning but very naive. Husbands die , Husbands leave . Tragedy’s happen. A well educated, college degreed woman is far more able to care for her family .
* this first - I don't think you should shy away from talking about the terrible social stuff at college with the thought that people are 'aware' because I don't think parents really ARE. even 20 years ago when I attended, I don't think my parents were FULLY aware of the dorm situations. & things have gotten so much worse. I mean we had dorm floors where the rooms were set up girl/boy/girl/boy all down the hall. You literally were living with men, walking to the showers in towels with men around, people sleeping around, etc.. no privacy. & I was raised by ultra conservative, strict parents. I cannot understand why in the world they LEFT me there !!!! * MY husband and I decided a long time ago that we will NOT fund college for our two daughters. We have actively discouraged them from wanting to go. Our older daughter did go to trade school to be a hair dresser, but she has desires to be a wife & mom & use that as a part time thing to fit around home life once she gets married. There is so much to comment to in this video, Kelli, that is 100% accurate, that my response would be an essay. But I will say that growing up in a traditional Irish Catholic family, I was NOT prepared for the college life at all. We never even heard so much as an off colored joke and never talked about sex. Everything was very, very private. & my parents really sent mixed messages about their goals for us concerning college. My mother was very forceful that we girls go to college, but by her comments it always seemed like it was a place she thought we would meet a 'rich husband'. That was always her line of questioning on breaks; if I had met any eligible, wealthy boy that would get me out of the boring, rural, poverty stricken life she thought SHE was stuck in. (I will mention that due to poor judgement, my mother got pregnant with me out of wedlock during her 1st semester of college and dropped out to marry a man that she didn't love & has taken that out on us ever since). She pushed so hard & I had no desire to go to college. I dressed up for pep rally 'career day' as a housewife. I tried several times (clandestinely) to get married to get out of going to college 🤣. College literally ruined my life for years after. It left me with $26K of debt that I could not pay back for almost 20 years.(this left me with a frozen bank account, unable to have my name on my husband's bank acct for YEARS, no name on a loan, car, house, nada... I didn't exist on paper. My husband could not even get our whole tax return Talk about plan B's - college stole all of my plan B's) It left me with a terrible reputation - I turned into a HORRIBLE & immoral person. It left me with debilitating anxiety & depression. And all the while, I didn't really pay attention to my studies, cuz I had no desire for a career and I just kept looking for a man that would just marry me to solve the whole issue. So therefore, I just kept picking any ol' guy & having my heart broken over & over. My 2 sisters followed the exact same trajectory. The only upside for me is, I hung in there & did graduate (& i also did end up with a good husband) Neither sister did and both ended up with horrible marriage situations. And on top of not really excelling at college & leaving a broken person, I knew nothing of running household. So sure, was my mother, that we would be career women (the goal she was 'cheated' out of) that she did not teach us anything of household skills. Her sole focus was for us to do well in school, so we had no chores, never learned to cook or clean. She would do it all & tell us, "I just want you to focus on your school work so you can get scholarships to college so you can make something of yourself". But then once I got there, she wanted me to find a rich husband LOL. Most of the women I know work because they 'want' to, not because they 'have' to. They spend way beyond their budget for things that they could do for themselves if they didn't have that paycheck. They are only exchanging money for time. I will not be duped by that. Anytime that my husband has felt desperate enough (early on in marriage) to ask me to do something for work, he always regretted it & I ended up back home. Babysitting, house cleaning, elder care...all of it has interfered with our home life & he quickly realized it.
Hello! I have zero issues with deleting rude comments and blocking you for doing so. So I bless you to not waste your valuable energy in trying to write a "gotcha" post- I will not argue with contentious women in the comments section. I've heard it all, we've been making videos on this topic for years and your robotic replies of what you've heard from liberal culture only encourages me to share more on this. And thank you to all who share encouraging testimonies, I pray they are a blessing to all who come to this video.
Love this!!
Kelli, I am a Prek teacher and just last week I asked my students what they wanted to be when they grow up. I had several girls say they wanted to be a mom!!! My heart was full!
It's only natural! That is proof.. unfortunately, the majority of those girls will change that choice in just a few years. I was an elementary school teacher and answers in 1st grade were much different than results during "career day" in 3rd grade. Sad...
This is so sweet and pure
GIRL. You are spitting straight FACTS 😭😭😭😭😭 and you did not take breath. Now I’m at the stage where I’m working a job I could’ve worked without a degree and paying off my debt. Pray for me when you see this 🥲🥲🥲 I need God’s guidance.
I am praying for you❤❤ Gods grace is always working.
I think we are living in a time when a lot of people (men and women) are starting to question college and the value of a degree for a job that may not exist with a heaping helping of debt on the side. I have two bachelor's degrees, a master's degree, and a postgraduate degree. After years of misery and feeling like I could never be a good enough mom for my children because I had nothing left for them when I got home from work, my husband and I were convicted to make it work for me to stay home. I do have to work *very* part-time teaching private co-op classes here and there, but I am finally a SAHM who gets to homeschool my own children. God is good. Trust is not easy, but He is faithful just as you said.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It reminds me so much of mine. I met my husband in 2005 when he was 12 and I was 16. We have been good friends all this time. God told me to be very, very patient in 2019. There’s a lot more to the story, but I’m trying to keep it very short. I moved to his area and the friendship really grew. God began showing me near the end of last year that I was going to have someone around New Year’s. I had been 100% single for 35 years. My lease was coming to an end and my job was threatening to fire me. I knew him and someone else liked me. We had all been friends for a very long time and I didn’t want to ruin that. I began to wonder why I was in this area and had 3 interviews lined up in another area with the intent to move and get a better job. But on New Year’s Eve he told me how he felt. I had fasted and prayed that, if he was the one, he would speak up and tell me how he felt in a way I could respect. He didn’t because he was put on the spot. Someone pressured him to tell me in front of a lot of people. I turned him down. The next day, God showed me he was going to try again and to hear him out. What he told me brought me to tears. He wanted me to fast and pray with him. I had asked God for 3.5 years for someone who would ask me to do this. He also told me that he was witnessing my works for God before I would do them and that the light in me shone brighter than anyone else’s. I had also prayed for this for 3.5 years. For someone to say these words. He didn’t want me to take a job an hour away and he wanted to provide for me. He was willing to give me up if I felt like someone else was the one, but he didn’t want to. We started dating January 3rd, made our engagement official in February, and were married April 28th. I went from being completely single for 35 years to being married to my best friend. We were each other’s first kiss when we got engaged. There’s no way to describe the level of trust we have with each other because the foundation of: 1. God and sharing the same faith. 2. Being the ones God chose for each other. 3. Being really good friends for 19 years. 4. Sharing so much intimacy for each other. Now, I witness his works before they happen and I also see the light in him and I have seen visions fulfilled that I was shown when I fasted about him when I was single and when we fasted together. God is so good and His gifts are always perfect.
Wonderful video!! I have 4 daughters with another on the way and my oldest is in high school. The pressure to go to college is crazy. She has no desire for it and would rather learn life skills. I love what you quoted from your pastor. Thank you for these videos, Kelli. I would love any follow up videos on this topic. ❤️
So goooood!!!! I absolutely love your videos. I am a single young christian women age 22 who was not raised with biblical principles and having to unlearn and re-learn things from a biblical perspective. I actually grew up in a very broken home. Which impacted me a lot and makes my desire to be a homemaker stronger. I did end up going to college (because I didn't know or think there were any other way). I did not like college at all, but I know that the Lord is faithful and nothing is wasted. I did graduate debt-free and that is a blessing from the Lord. But I 100% agree with you sister. I desire marriage and desire to be a homemaker.
I am praying for you! God is an on time God ❤ praying for you! You will be a Godly wife one day!
I also graduated debt free thankfully. It took me awhile to acknowledge I wanted to be a wife and mom, I was so filled with guilt at 22. Its wonderful to desire those things.
100% agree! I went to college and was encouraged to do so. Not once did anyone ever mention that I should be a homemaker or mother. When I was pregnant with my first, I knew where my role was to be. God hard wires it into us women, that is why many women get so defensive when we say women should stay home. I to receive many rude comments about encouraging other women to stay home! Keep fighting the good fight of faith, sister. Your channel is a blessing ♥️
God planned women to support their families. I believe that while women should place more importance on their home doing their business along side is good as long as it is their choice as the Lord said to Martha when she asked"Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!" "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her."
This tells us that we should not force women to stay at home we should rather advice them then respect the choice they make just as they should ours.
We should not use Gods words the way we want rather the way God does.
If you could can you tell me your opinion in this I am 17 year old and trying to strength my relationship with God.I do agree with what she said just not the part where it is a should as God has different print for each of his children.
Pediatric OT, who has since started reducing my time in the workplace to be a SAHM (I now only work Mondays) I can’t agree with this more
You are spot on!! That is exactly what happened to me. I became a mom, a homemaker and a helper to my husband all at the same time.
It was totally overwhelming and I thought that I wasn’t cut out for that. At the same time I had always assumed that being a mom and homemaking would be easy and I was ashamed for being so exhausted!
In reality, I just didn’t have the skills. I had the skills for the workplace, but I had not gained any home or mom skills yet.
I have a lovely young neighbor that is experiencing exactly what you are saying. She just quit a few months ago to take care of her 2 little ones. She is often expressing how overwhelmed she is, how she is failing at everything, how she is discouraged & ready to just go back to work. I keep telling her to take things in smaller chunks - stop trying to do so much at one time, it is unnecessary, to look back & recognize how far she has come in a few months - she has gained tons of new skills, to reach out and ASK for help, specific help - Don't say, "I'm overwhelmed" say, "can you spare a few minutes to take my little boy out to play, he is begging to go out & I just can't do it right now?" or "I have run out of mayo, when you go to the store, would you mind picking me up a jar?" - this is much easier for the others in your life to help you with. I have pointed out that she lacks organization & systems & that she would be just as discouraged if she worked 8 hours a day & came home to all the same 'overwhelming' work plus 2 kids that were deprived of their mom's attention all day. I keep trying to encourage her & lift her up (&&&& take her little boy outside to play LOL), teach her all that she wants to know. We need to keep in mind that "failure" is measured differently by God, than by man & take heart in the hard times. Much love to you & hope the bumps in you journey are smoothing out. Your family will benefit the rest of their lives due to your perseverance! I feel I touched on one of the biggest problems in my comment - we don't know how to "ask for help" anymore, because we don't trust each other & don't want to impose. God wants more than that for us, we are SUPPOSED to ask for help & we are supposed to give it.
@@pattyhansen7563Yes! Failure is measured differently by God than by man. Thank you for pointing that out!
It’s so hard to tell if you are imposing on someone or if they‘d actually want to asked
Great video Kelli. It’s important to share these ideas and practices. Some will hear and appreciate while others won’t. The Lord will bring those that need to be encouraged and inspired in these ideas. God Bless you for always sharing your heart. 🤗
I regret not knowing the value of being a wife and mother from a very young age. I grew up in the times of "Anything you can do, I can do better." (in reference to girls vs boys). My Christian parents, lovingly, and with the best intentions, wanted me to excel in every area a kid could excel in. My ability to excel being defined by the measures of the Public School...and then eventually the Private Christian University. I never doubted my parents desire for Christ to be #1 in my life, so to that I am grateful. But did I miss the teaching on the different roles between man and woman that God created in his perfect will and plan? How did Christians get to the point of ignoring or belittling women who desire to simply be a wife, mother, and homemaker, instead of revering them!? Why are we pushing girls to go to college? I figured it out after spending just less than a year in a reformed Baptist church where being a wife and mother were held in high regard! Thank you so much for your video! It will help me talk about this subject with others.
Sincerely, a physical therapist of 7 years (operating under an artificial masculine side to be effective) who is a wife of 1.5 years (learning to love my God-given feminine side), and praying for children in His timing! My husband has graciously supported me leaving the workforce in favor of "home economy" as I love that you put it. (Not to mention he gets a more joyous, affectionate, feminine, and helpful wife out of it).
I loved this video! While I grew up in a Christian household, my mother always worked. She was constantly stressed doing both the jobs of taking care of kids, the house, and working a full time job. She was unable to spend any time nurturing and guiding her children because her time was spread so thin. Children don't only need food and shelter. They need their mother's love and teaching.
My parents raised me with the mindset that I MUST go to college and get a good degree in order to get a good job and not struggle as they had. However, I would have struggled (trying to work and care for small children at the same time). If I hadn't quit graduate school to get married to my husband and then start our family, I might still have not had kids yet. However, here I am at age 34 with a loving husband, three beautiful children, and one on the way! God has blessed me so abundantly for turning my focus to loving and serving my family rather than a job.
If only I had spent as much effort preparing to be a mother and wife as I did studying to get the best grades in school. It just was never even entertained as an option that I could be "just" a mom.
Yes, the same for me. My mother was so stressed that she actually developed an autoimmune disease. God bless her. I remember she would have bursts of rage. She got the help she needed and she transformed into a more calm and peaceful person.
@Sam97-oi4vc Yeah, my dad was always working 80+ hours a week and was barely home. My mom worked 40 hours a week and then did all the housework and taking care of us kids on top of it. They really struggled to make ends meet. My dad really regrets now that he missed mine and my brother's entire childhood because he often only came home to eat, watch a little sports, and sleep. It IS why my parents stopped at two kids. He wasn't lazy, but his small business took all his time and didn't make much money. He wishes he had made better choices and regrets having prioritized that business over his family. But to be fair, he was always working like a dog and felt like that was the way to love his family, by putting his all into his work.
@@leannewheeler5351 My Mom would often have bursts of rage as well (screaming, crying, slamming doors, etc...). After my children were born, I started holding my Mom to a very strict standard about what behavior I'd allow around my kids. She loves her grandbabies so much that she learned to control her temper around them and has become such a wonderful and kind grandma to them!
I'm glad your Mom has become a gentler person with age as well.
Quitting your job after marriage was the norm before the 1970’s. My grandmother taught for two years then married and quit her job.
Lovely video and so true. I did it all, college and career but I am so thankful the Lord has shown me the truth, and opened my eyes early on. I am giving my notice at work as I am done with the masculine, corporate and stressful work environment. I’ve been so spiritually empty and drained each day after work . Videos like these make a difference knowing we aren’t alone in wanting to follow a traditional biblical model that God has designed for us. I am so excited to serve at home. Also found out that I’m pregnant so that has definitely helped me make the decision to quit. But I agree , woman should feel comfortable becoming a homemaker even before they have children. The struggle is so real, we’ve been deceived by society to be boss babes and elevate career over family. There are obviously certain circumstances where women do need to work outside the home for various reasons. In general though there is so much joy and creativity in homemaking and I pray more woman have the conviction to go against the grain of modern culture and find great meaning in lives that embrace their femininity bring glory to God.
Love this comment!
@Sam97-oi4vc pretty sure no one in modern western society is “forcing” women to be housewives. Actually quite the opposite. If you are in the public education system, you are pushed along the college and career path. NOT the housewife path.
@Sam97-oi4vc Respectfully, that would be a contradiction to your first statement, which said “we shouldn’t be forced”. Now you stated it’s an “option”. Those are very different things, forcing women vs giving them the option. Furthermore, I was a public school educator, I have never experienced any school that encouraged “housewife” as an option after graduation. It was highly discouraged. This is what the vast majority of girls and young women are hearing from their teachers, guidance counselors, admin, parents, and peers, because the majority of students attend public school. This may be why you are assuming “most” women want “other things”. Because our society is strongly pushing these “other things”.
@Sam97-oi4vc the whole point of these videos is to show that this “desire” is actually due to modern women being discouraged from staying home. And for women to rethink the idea for themselves. Girls and young women have been told for decades that staying home is shameful and not secure, having a career is praiseworthy. So the poll you are sharing, of course the majority of women will be saying they have this “desire” to have a career if they never hear all of the incredible benefits to staying home. What this woman is sharing in her videos is VERY rare. Because women having careers is heavily glamorized in education system and the media. And in other countries, where people are watching what we are doing here in America from the media funnel, they think they must also want a career. It appears we have it made here because we work. When that’s not the case. It comes at a very high cost: the family. And the family is the most precious commodity to a society. We forget easily, but we are seeing the repercussions.
I couldn’t agree more with the message of this video. When I was 18 years old, I went to a public university only because it was expected of me (I grew up going to public school and my parents talked very highly about getting a college education). I didn’t like the pretty liberal and immoral environment from day 1. I had a panic attack on the first day of classes because I didn’t have the desire to go to school. I just wanted to be a wife and mother, that’s all I was certain about. I finished that semester and then transferred to a catholic school because I assumed that that would fix the issues I had with college. Even though I liked the Christian morals of my Catholic school and made good friends there, it didn’t change the fact that my calling was to be a wife and mother. I couldn’t see myself finishing university and being a career woman so I dropped out. Now I’m 21 with a providing and loving husband and I’m expecting my first child. I feel weird reflecting on my college experience because I wasted so much of my time being stressed out over assignments, anxious about relationships with immature men and I was constantly questioning what I was supposed to do with my life
My daughter is 21 and lives with us still and just finished her degree online from a Christian university. We saved for the tuition through the GET Program and she now has a degree and never lived on a campus!
That's awesome
I love to hear your boldness about touchy subjects. You, Go!😊
Yes, Yes Yes!! Absolutely love this and so agree. Even being a empty nester now, I absolutely love being home caring for things here. I recently started sewing & crocheting again too. I love seeing so many channels on RUclips where women are choosing being home & getting back to the basics God naturally gave us a desire to take care of & tend to.
I got a nursing degree right out of high school. I was pushed by my parents to get a bachelors degree. I got married during nursing school, and had my first child my senior year. I worked as a nurse for about 3 years until financially my husband and I worked it out that I got stay home with our then 2 children. I went from the main provider working full-time to staying home with a 1 year old and 2 year old. It was a really hard transition and on top of it we moved to a new state so I didn’t know anyone. At first I missed working, because it was what I was used to and I missed having adult friends. But it’s now been 10 year of marriage and I’m expecting my 5th child. I absolutely love being a homemaker. I will have 4 daughters (when this baby is born) and one son and I’m raising them with practical skills to be good wives or husband or if it’s God will a good priest or nun ( we are Catholic). I love that we homeschool so that I can teach especially my daughters how to run a home and cook. There is a huge learning curve in motherhood and homemaking and how I was raised made it even harder.
How did your husband feel about you being the breadwinner?
This is so accurate it hurts 😅
I’m in Canada and it’s the same here. You’re pushed into college into a male dominated industry. Expected to dress act and talk like a man. Believing that I wouldn’t do well without conforming to “my masculine side”.
But all the while being an absolute miserable human being until I found God.
He showed me what it’s like to use my femininity at work and how much grace and love I can instil in the workplace through Christ. ❤ God changed everything for me and helped me see the truth about feminism and new age occult practices that are taking over our society.
@Sam97-oi4vc I totally understand where you’re coming from bc I used to believe what society told me to make me contempt about men’s privilege.
But the truth is women don’t want to be submissive/ lead by their husbands…but instead be submissive to a male boss who owns their time and wage/worth. 🤯
Do you (actually) feel “inferior” to men? They are the ones that have the responsibility of fighting and protecting and providing since they are larger with more muscle mass? That should make you feel SAFE (and it was society that twisted it to make it seem like it was a bad thing).
90% of divorces are initiated by women, and if women out earn the man at her job, 97% of the time the marriage fails. The odds of a marriage surviving aren’t high with feminism and women are more miserable than ever in society.
@Sam97-oi4vc it’s not comparable to marriage it’s that people are choosing being under someone else like a boss instead of a loving husband.
@Sam97-oi4vc you sound like someone who would marry their boss because you seem to respect and value him waaay more than your husband..🙄
@Sam97-oi4vc A good husband is above the wife in the sense of bigger stronger and protective as she raises the family and builds their legacy (that outlives them). Consider the husband the one who holds the umbrella over the wife, while the wife works to tend to the family and show up for their kids. (The hierarchy created for the good of all mankind).
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”
The only legacy we leave at work is some good ideas and spreadsheets, but we leave nothing behind at our jobs that is going to outlive us (unless you’re a medical doctor for example).
I’m so thankful I never bought into the college trap. It never appealed to me. I wanted to work and start my life not continue in school which I hated. And I did work for 14 years until god finally blessed us with kids. Now my job is my family and it’s the hardest most fulfilling job I’ve ever had!
Looking back, I really wish I had gotten married sooner and started family rather than wasting several years in college. Maybe waste is the wrong word, I accomplished my dream of becoming a nurse, but if I had to choose, I would definitely choose being a mom and a homemaker. The stress of being a nurse is taking its toll on me, (but I'll save that discussion for another time.) I'm currently in my mid-thirties and have recently been having baby fever. I don't know if it's my subconscious or if it's God giving me a hint. I've been happily married for 5 years, and I believe that whether or not I'm meant to be a mom will ultimately be God's decision.
@@HR-zj3eo yes gods in charge! It took us 14 years of marriage but now we have 3 beautiful children and cooking baby number 3. I’m 37 years old got married at 18.
@@Commonmomhomeschooler❤❤❤
Amen! Thank you for speaking on this subject! I had my first baby at 18 and here we are 14 years later still married raising our babies.
Kelli, this was such a good video! I’ve never heard it put in this way but you are SO RIGHT about the rose colored glasses analogy. That was sooo me! I thought I missed my career because I was struggling being a new mom, homemaker, full time cook, etc. all at once. I so wish that I would’ve considered that I could’ve been a stay at home wife before children to practice these things before I became a mom. I will for sure be teaching my daughters this info, too. Thanks for this video💞🙏🏻
Solid wisdom. Loving your content. 🙌🏼
Absolutely fantastic video! Such valid points, and so well spoken!
Going to college often seems like the best available option to young people that have grown up in abusive families and dangerous cities.
My choice after high school basically came down to college or homelessness. Easy choice. (I still ended up homeless for a few summer breaks, but luckily I had a friend that let me couch surf in exchange for a bit of money and a lot of cooking and cleaning.
I didn’t use my degree (philosophy and religious studies) at all. I could have probably just moved into student housing and gotten a full time job instead of going to college. But I was trying to do what was expected of me. I had started college to be a teacher, but I had to leave the program because my hearing problems disqualified me.
Kelli,
I have been saying this for years. This was excellent. The topics discussed were well done. This is so powerful!
Thank you ❤ you bring me joy and hope 😊
Dear Kelli, I can resonate with that so much. I think your message is a game changer and I hope that many many women see it!
Yes, completely agree with Patty's response. This isn't a good or healthy vision.
Another WONDERFUL video!🩷
As Christians, we have to be countercultural, especially in times like these.
Thank you for this video!
Important message for young girls! I went to college and all I thought about during college was marriage and when to start my family. I just thought college was the only way to a happy life. I listened to an author discuss a book she had written about how there is never a perfect time to start a family and you just have to take a leap of faith. That really stuck with me and I think it is so true. Children are such a blessing. When you’re a parent you make it work with what you have and let God lead your decision making.
This was such a beautifully thought out and put together video, thank you so much for sharing it.
I also appreciate your humility in sharing your past struggles with cooking, haha! In my late teens, I remember accidentally leaving the gas on while attempting to cook noodles (I was sunbathing in the garden when my stepmum noticed), blowing up a microwave while attempting to use it as a timer, and setting some kitchen towels on fire 😂 I got married shortly before turning 21, and the Lord put it on my heart to learn how to cook for my husband. I'm now 31, and cooking is one of my favourite things to do. I just love having my young children in the kitchen with me, teaching them ❤
I often feel very alone in my convictions regarding Biblical womanhood/motherhood, so it's encouraging to hear other women speak on this topic. Lately, I have been pondering how God often met with women in the Bible. It was usually in their homes, or while doing simple, nurturing tasks. The Lord is truly there by our side, and sees the value in this unseen work.
Don't feel bad, twice I put a cup of ramen noodles in the microwave without adding the water first. And another time, I didn't realize my mom had left a dirty pan in the oven, I started to preheat the oven and filled the whole house with smoke. 😂
@@HR-zj3eo it's not just me then 😂
@@amylouise6387 nope😅...not just you! Once I started the oven with a pot inside - a pot with a plastic handle & melted that & smoked out our whole apt.. My new husband scratched a smiley face into the melty plastic which made us laugh. And about 2 summers ago, I put on a saucepan of green beans to heat & went into the garden "quick" to pick some lettuce. Wellll, I got sidetracked (weeding, who knows why?) and my teen came out & asked why I was frying green beans & did i mean to leave them unattended🤣🤣🤣🤣. I threw down my spade & went running until she yelled that she had turned the burner off. I had fried green beans alright & almost a fried house & this was after almost 20 years of cooking LOL. I have also served a guest a bowl of soup that she found a can lid in (it had fallen into the pot without me noticing) and I also cooked a whole lasagna with a component of my food processor that had fallen into the grated cheese & baked in the dish.
@@pattyhansen7563 hahaha, you have given me a good laugh there!!
I graduated undergrad in 2013 from a very liberal UC school. I also went to a public high school in California and took all advanced classes where liberal politics and globalism were shoved down our throats. But I went to a great Christian school for elementary and jr high, had great parents, and listened to a lot of talk radio with my dad growing up. My high school friends and I were the conservative group amongst our very liberal AP and IB teachers. In college, I was definitely the most conservative person in my coastal UC school. However, I also had fairly decent knowledge of 19th and 20th century political history, and could debate academically with my peers and teachers. It wasn’t easy, but being the lone conservative in a sea of liberals definitely helped me hone my beliefs and opinions, which I still hold today. Knowing what I knew and being willing to speak about it also allowed me to find a man in college who thought and felt the same way, and now we’ve been married for 10 years and together for 14. He’s a physicist and engineer… skills he never would’ve achieved if he didn’t attend college. So while I’m now a SAHM, I’m very thankful for my college education, not only because it’s where I met my husband, but also because it really gave me that trial by fire experience where I became confident in talking about my faith in Jesus and my opinions on politics even if no one else in the room agrees with me. I very much think college is still good for people - men or women - who are solid in who they are before they leave the house. If they’re not, of course the world will sway them.
Edit: I’m a millennial. My mother, grandmother and great-grandmother all attended 4-year universities as well. They’re all conservatives, and all became homemakers upon graduating and marrying their college sweethearts. I think because this was what was modeled for me, it was also easier for me to attain this as well, since this is what I expected from my college experience: to get an education but to also get my “MRS degree” with an intelligent man who would have excellent career prospects and skills to build our future on. Perhaps not so many millennials and Gen Z had the same expectations.
YES. I just finished a very similar thing. lol!
I’m a stay at home wife and felt SO much guilt. I felt I was letting down my husband and family by not making lots of money and having a nice job. I felt that my husband wouldn’t love me as much if I wasn’t contributing financially. People will try to scare you out of it but I’ve found that most men make different decisions when they are bearing the financial burden of the family. Living within one’s means is also a very important part of this conversation.
my husband has said that the experience has made him 'man up', grow up & stop thinking about himself all the time. He proudly shouldered the burden & YES it did make him make some 'mistakes', but also some wiser decisions. And now, we are still young (40) and our kids are mostly grown & pay for their own expenses. We are free to spend more $ on frivolous things & he doesn't need to work so much, so we have more time for each other.
I got an associates degree only and it was a complete waste. I don’t even know where my degree is. Thankfully no debt! I didn’t finish to a four year or so on because I had our first child and I wanted to be a full time mom. I’ve never worked outside the home until the last few years and that’s with my hubby on our farm.
Outstanding video - thank you. ✝
I think this video makes a lot of generalizations about unmarried, career women. I'm in my thirties, I went to college (where I met some of my closest Christian friends), have no debt, have a job that I love that supports me financially. Even though I'm single, I would absolutely consider myself a homemaker. Having a career has in no way impeded me in gaining practical life skills and creating a lovely home for myself. Opening my home to friends and family has been one of my greatest joys. Do I hope to one day have a spouse and children to share a home with? Absolutely! I think the role of wife and mother is such a beautiful calling. In the meantime though, I'm so grateful that I can support myself and have the life that I do.
Which is great for you, but for me and other women, becoming a wife and a mother is priority, not an afterthought
Currently women who would prefer to marry and start a family in their early 20s are often steered away from it or told that it’s a reckless and stupid decision. As I was.
Unfortunately, I felt societally pressured to pursue a degree and a career, and now I wish I could go back and never have pursued either.. I have friends who are in their mid 30s and may never have the children or husband they desire because of this hustle based, productivity obsessed college culture. This is a very modern issue… a while ago, women were far more supported if they desired family life over career life in their 20s.
@@abbieliz396Be say on her. She is financially independent because she is single and supporting herself.
@@abbieliz396 I totally get that! Becoming a wife and mother is a priority for me as well. I want that more than anything. My main point was that you can pursue higher education and have a career and still gain essential homemaking skills and set yourself up for the life that you want. Kelli was talking about college as though it is a waste because it takes away from learning to care for a home/family. For some people that may very well be the case, but it certainly doesn't have to be. Not all young Christian women have parents that will financially support them until they are married and so a career is vital for some (like in my case). But I understand that it's not the path for everyone and I agree with you that our culture as a whole is a problem. Pursuing homemaking as a full-time career should be a viable option for women, but unfortunately we live in a culture where you are only valuable if you can make money. Hopefully going forward, we will see a shift away from this and see more and more women leading fulfilling lives doing what they feel called to.
@emilycarr2983, I think you’re stewarding what the Lord has given you right now well & I admire you for that. Creating a welcoming space for others to visit is honoring to the Lord! ❤️ Praying for you as you desire & prepare for marriage & a family one day. It will happen in His time!
Back in the day, girls could go to college, meet a young man, and major in home economics. I am not sure if colleges even offer home economics degrees anymore...😢
I cannot even see the necessity for a degree in home economics. That is a lot of money to spend for a job that will not provide an income. However I do see the need for home economic classes in middle school and high school. But I do not see the point of an expensive college degree in it.
Love this! Also water is highly resistant to temperature change, so if you put the stove on 10 a lot of that heat just gets lost and is not absorbed by the water initially. We live out of our rice cooker. But if you use the stove to boil water, start on medium high and save a bit of electricity ❤
Absolutely! Great video
This was an amazing encouragement and I now feel confident to answer my parents next time they ask if I plan on going back to work. Thank you!
I’ve done the exact same thing with rice. Put it on, went back out to the garden. Heard the smoke alarm (thank God for it!) and ran inside to a smoking rice pot. Just weeks ago it was a Friday night, I put popcorn on the stove (family in den watching tv) and I went to the back porch for bacon. No bacon there so I went to the barn freezer. Found bacon and re-organized fridge while out there. As I get to the back door I smell the popcorn burning. OH MY GOSH. It didn’t ruin my popcorn pot tho, thankfully. Family was still watching tv and wondered about the smell, hahahaaaa. I’ve been homemaking for 18 years, it happens to all of us. LOVE YOUR VIDEOS. I have three daughters, oldest is 15, I am encouraging her in all these things. I want homemakers to come from my home. But hubs still wants girls going to college. I’m working on him.
Hahah this made me laugh because it's so relatable! How our minds work with moving from one thing to the next! And that's wonderful you're raising your daughters with that vision. God bless you guys!
Amazing video. So true and you are so inspiring ❤ young women need to be taught God’s way.
Agreed about college. However, what do young women do if they cannot meet a man who is able to marry them? How do they become economically self sufficient?
It seems as though many young men in the church are not mature enough to take care of a house, yet alone buy a house. Many of them do not care about what they eat or how they live. They work all day and come home to microwave their meals and sit in front of a TV. They do not want to change and live in a biblical homestead either.
How do women find solid Christian men, who want their spouses to be homemakers?
Women in biblical times were to live at home with her parents until she was married. It’s normal for women to stay at home until she is married. What is common-but not normal, is women are to leave the house at 18 and become independent, become masculine. This is the opposite of what God says to do for women
this is what I wonder about as well!!!!
@@narrowpathfarm that doesnt address her question of how do single men and women mix and mingle to get married
Amen amen amen! You are so spot on with this. In South Africa stay home moms are RARE and so growing up that was never an option even though my heart was to be a wife and mom. When I was done with high school I came to America and my eyes were opened to another world where women stayed home and it was more culturally acceptable. I started college in the US but left after a year to follow my true passion of being a wife and mom. My family and entire town back in SA were so shocked and upset that I was disowned. Disowned!!!!!! For wanting to be a wife and mom. I was told I was too young and didn’t know what I wanted. I was told my marriage wouldn’t last. So 11 years later when my husband just up and left me with 4 kids (4 children was also a shock to everyone who thought I was extremely irresponsible!) I got a lot of “I told you so” and “what are you going to do now” and “well “now you’ll have to be a working mom and give up your dream of being a stay at home mom”. So I looked at which career will still allow me to be home the most with my children and picked nursing. 3 days on 3 days off. At least I got some time at home. So I went to school, got my degree and still felt like I wasn’t completely abandoning my real passion. But God in His loving kindness has now given me a “work from home” job as an RN. Everyday I clock in I just smile because when you surrender your life to Jesus He just works it out in the most unusual and beautiful ways. So now I can provide for my family while being home with my children. Granted I would love to not have to work but perhaps God will work that one out for us later.
Thank you so much for speaking out about this and planting beautiful seeds!!!!! I pray God waters them and beautiful fruit springs forth! ❤❤
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I am so refreshed and encouraged by your courage and faithful testimony and guidance for women who FEAR GOD, not the future, not man, not the culture….
Your passion and consistent testimony is such a refreshing drink of deep waters! Thank you for your courage, your encouragement, and your ministry to women.
Agreed. For several decades, there has been so much pressure and emphasis on young women to go to college and start a career. However, society still expects women to do the lion's share of the cooking, cleaning, and raising children. Girls are taught from the time they hit puberty that their career will be the most important thing in their life and to put their career before having children. But on the same token, once she has her career established, then it seems the world won't stop pestering her about when she's going to have kids. So which one is it? You can't have it both ways society. (And the same can be said for young men.)
Amen to very single word in this video!! This should be spread everywhere! 🙌🏻 thanks for sharing this important wisdom for young girls and women generally ❤️
9:11 Wow. I definitely also did the whole “I’ll be a missionary” thing! I’m so thankful I’ve been married for 12 years! Praying for children now. I have PCOS and it hasn’t happened yet, but, Lord willing, the time will come!
Excellent video! This needs to be spread like wildfire.
Wow! This is one of your best videos. Yes, I came home after my second child and I went through what you described. I have told others that it takes two years to settle in to being a full time homemaker.
How fun would it be to have an interview with your mom!!
Love listing to your videos an you always give me a sound mind/ peacefulness about this life style which I really appreciate, you are one of the first ppl I found on this topic an very inspiring an God is truly shaping an changing my mind an view in all of these things an using YOU in a big way for many I am sure! Thank you ❤
What about older women like myself who are in their 50s? My children are all grown and my husband has passed. I'm wondering what calling the Lord has on my life at this point in my life.
CONTINUE SPEAKING ON THESE POINTS. DO NOT BE DISCOURAGED. HEAVEN SUPPORTS YOU.
You’re probably getting a lot of flack for this video but I just want to say that I LOVE this so much. It’s unbelievable how much I am still unlearning 6 years and 4 children into homemaking and biblical womanhood 💜 the deception & hurt we can save our girls from by training them up in a biblical worldview
I look back on how much time was wasted on college for me… and for WHAT?! Nothing! LOL I could have spent all that time learning what I actually wanted to learn… sewing. I even withdrew from a summer class at one point to completely walk away and quit college to pursue what I wanted to pursue (sewing), but then I got an email that I received a scholarship for the rest of my BA degree, so I thought it was a sign that I should go back. I wish I just kept walking away! But I am thankful now to be home with my son and now expecting another sweet baby ❤. God is good and he has provided in so many ways ever since I came home. I was able to take my son to work with me till he was almost 2, and even then, I feel guilty for working and not being fully present for my son and for my home so that the burden of the home was not on my husband. We ate out aaalll the time because we didn’t have time to cook. The house was always a wreck because no one was home to clean it! The expectation on me, even if it was a silent expectation, was that I was to get a degree and be “successful” in a nice paying job. And of course my parents would have supported me in any decision, but that was the general expectation. The pressure to go to college just because you have the opportunity… so why wouldn’t you? That’s how I felt. Please girls! Just trust the Lord, get married, and have children!
Ever since I had to quit my 'college' (it isn't called that in my country, but it's similar, it's being educated for a job) due to mental/emotional/physical issues what has come up again and again is my desire to be at home, to have a life centered around the home (it's literally to stay centered, in fact I can't be any other way). I was far far away from the truth (not a practicing christian), but I had this vision of a world in 'human scale'. Things just have to be in our reach, practical, doable, while this whole world is teaching us all to be leaders over groups and countries, but being hopelessly inefficient and failing, while being at home is the perfect place to have the perfect amount and quality of impact. Everyone wants to be an 'influencer', but all that's happening is people being led astray. We need to influence where we can actually be influential, and the home is the perfect place! (Not to say that what you're doing has no value, I just mean in general.)
I strayed a bit from your point about college, but I think it's clear.
Hearing your world view makes me realize how incredibly much I still have to learn, and I'm relatively old too, but not too late, and it's so so clear the way you paint the picture. It makes so much sense. It does now. I've become a christian december 2023. God saved me from this fallen world. And my desire for home and human measurement finds its place in the biblical world view (as I'm googling this while writing this I happen to come across Revelation 21:17, would that have something to do with this vision of mine? I haven't got the discernment for that yet).
Well, just had to share. Blessings!
Totally agree with some people not choosing this life but rather care too much about society norms and being "boss babes" . I mean it's worth a laugh to want to aspire to boss babes rather then wife and mom. The value, even in the words are very clear in the latter. The part about postpartum is so true i went through it for all the reasons you mentioned and then some. Got married then 8 months later got pregnant then year and a half got pregnant again all while working and right around the time we were building a house which took my husband away most of the time and came in sooo late so i was by myself with 2 babies and no village, family support... it was DEPRESSING. I didn't go back to work after maternity leave and that was always our plan but when the reality kicked in i didnt want to stay alone with them but because of my submission to God's will i cried and prayed and turned more to scripture and He faithfully led me to another homemaker's channel and i was amazed the content was just what i needed like i found a village. Now He has led me to your channel and i discern primarily re being my husband's help and not solely the children really. I do not know your age but you are very wise.. that's our Father's wisdom.
I just LOVE your testimony and continuing to learn more about you and your story, Kelli. You've come so far in your homemaking skills - and in a truly short period of time! It's hard to imagine how you described yourself early on! I fully agree the Holy Spirit and God were (are!) at work in you, but you certainly leaned into (and continue to!) educate yourself and gain new and continue to refine your skills. It's so encouraging and inspiring! And fuels my joy and honor to be my husband's helper full-time now too (mid-40s, no children).
I just adore you and your willingness to share these (much-challenged) truths I also fully support. That's encouraging me to do so more as well (especially within my Baptist church that can so often still look so much like the rest of the world in many respects). May God continue to bless and keep you Scott, dear sister! ❤🙏
Beautiful talk! Just a thought: You should acquire an electric rice pot. Sometimes, you can even find them at thrift shops. Not only will it switch to warm when cooking is finished, but you can also steam vegetables in it.
Hi Kelli, I really like your earrings. They are so unique. Thank you for sharing as well.
Thank you so much, I got them from South Africa!
@@homewithkelli You're welcome! That is really cool! 😊
I have a newly turned 18yo daughter. She is almost done with her homeschool education, and I believe she could easily run a home well! The question is…what next? She has nannied and did not like it, and now works 3-4 days a week at a coffee stand with a really great group of ladies. One option was to stay with that, and become a barista, or do a nine month paid medical assistant certification apprenticeship. You do have to commit to 2 years of working after completing the the program. It’s a skill/trade certification without the community college nonsense. We are praying about it, and trusting/knowing that the Lord will provide for her. Interesting topic !
Just want to add I can attest that Christian University is no different. My Baptist University was very Feminist and Socialist
I love you!! You’re so relatable. Out of a pure heart of wanting to serve God I did 2 degrees and got the university medal and everyone thought I was going to be a top lawyer or politician or judge one day. I just got married this year at 23 and have given it all up to serve my husband and God and it’s the most beautiful freeing thing!!! All the pressure is off of ‘making it’. Though I am also learning homemaking and have burnt things also 😂
Well praise God, what a beautiful testimony of God directing your steps and congratulations on your marriage!! You have an exciting adventure ahead, all the joys of learning homemaking. Including cooking, haha I had many burnt things (and still do sometimes), it's fun to learn! God bless you guys!
How do you cover healthcare ( insurance) needs? How would you consider this in the future ( when husband retires.)
What about those of us in our mid thirties who have no opportunities to meet a Christian man? Do we work expecting it to be temporary or do we accept our circumstances and the possibility we won’t find anyone at our age?
The Proverbs 31 wife is competent. Excellent video. Thanks for sharing cooking history mishaps. 😂
Bravo! ❤
As a guy, I would like to have a SAHW. She can have a degree in case something were to happen to me, but i’d want to be the main provider/protector of the household.
How do we encourage our daughters.? My 17 year old is graduating high school next year and she doesn’t know what she wants to after. I’m not pushing the university route I told her it’s valid to want to be home Maker. What are some options for the young ladies that don’t want to pursue college and want a family.
Hi! I did a follow up video to this one and gave some examples and things you can do with your daughter to help her as she is making these decisions. It's a huge blessing that she has you involved and willing to help her! God bless you!
Here's the video: ruclips.net/video/AM84Wgz0EGU/видео.htmlsi=qktN9mTdHBdVWLo_
Thank you for being so brave to talk about this! I have been so blessed by this video! I can remember when I was newly married and the woman’s group at my church did a survey asking what we wanted to get out of the group. I wrote all the things of desiring a mentor to be a good wife & mom someday. Unfortunately it was not something that was thought to be of value. Now here I am almost 20 years later wife & mom of 5 precious children! So grateful for woman like you who share on being a wife & keeper of the home. Thank you so much for this affirmation & encouragement 😊
God gives us the desires of our heart and then He GIVES us the desire of our hearts.
Love your rant about cooking and burning things 😂
I've been hearing both sides for a while now and the one thing I've learned from feminism is that the genuine feminists want all women to have fulfilled and happy lives, whether they are mothers, wives, or single. While I agree that college is not a good path, all women need a backup plan. There are women right now who have been married 20+ years who are homeless, unemployed, left struggling to find even retail jobs while supporting themselves and their children because men have walked out on them or their husbands suddenly passed away. It's hard enough for young people to find work and it's much harder to find work when you're 40+ and have little to no work experience. Sadly you cannot rely on the church or others to help you either.
All women need to have a backup plan and not put all their eggs into homemaking. If homemaking is what women want to do then they should go for it, but we shouldn't expect women to just be wives and mothers who are financially dependent on their partners.
So you mean to tell me women that work aren’t women of god? What if god doesn’t bless every woman with marriage how am I suppose to sustain?
Hi! Thank you for the video. I get what you are sharing, however I know a lot of women in their 30s and 40s who long for a husband yet they are not pursued by anyone. How should we explain this? And most of those women actually work in kindergarten, because they love children. And my heart aches for people who are single and lots of churches don't provide anything for them (I am from Slovakia and what is my experience is the main focus is only on young families - so the opposite of what you shared in your story) and lots of those women ask what is their role because they are just not pursued. And from the other side I have guy friends who asked someone out multiple times and just got "no". Also would like to know how would you explain the passages where Paul wrote about "it's better for someone to be alone for they can serve God". And my last question is about same sex attracted people. You say that someone who is called to celibacy knows they are called to celibacy and don't seek out relationship, yet SSA people long for having a relationship but basically they have to choose celibacy. What is the good news for them? I see the Church as family - a place for everyone and where everyone is welcomed - families, young, old, singles, widowed, divorced,... What I experienced with God is that mostly if we don't feel up to something, we are called to that because God wants us to learn something from that (as you shared about your experiences with cooking and learning new things as you got married) - could that also mean that God wants someone to be single even though someone is falling in love with people?
A family member of me is a preacher. He has 3 daughters, 27, 24, and 17. He keep on telling them to stay single, for they may end up in a bad marriage. They have to stay with their parents. No one of them go out on a date. It sounds so religious, but I don't think it is the right way to go.
sounds more like a parental control issue, not a religious one. What about multiple & be fruitful? Sounds like someone who is using religion as an excuse to not let go of the reigns. why wouldn't he encourage them to raise a Biblically minded man so that he didn't have to be 'responsible' for the upkeep of 3 women for the rest of their lives????
He seems to let fear (Satan) control his emotions
Actually worldly studies (university), (because it is under a non-TRUTH-conform believe system), it forms your thinking and feeling in a way that is in many ways total contrary to how we as christians are to think and feel according to Gods WORD.
For example:
-it doesn't consideres God, that he is the ruler over everything, what his will is for the earth and for your life and what he is able to do if we let him and pray to him > instead they view God as irrelevant, bad, unable or every other than how he really is, because the world doesnt know God
-it doesnt recognizes evil, sin, sinfulness as is
-it tells you to trust in everything and everybody but in God (in methods, systems, seemingly smart people, your own abilities and accomplishments etc)
-it wants you to adore/worship anything but God
-they have other life goals and priorities than believing christians
-etc etc
>>Gods word, made real in Jesus, is the way, the truth and the life!
I made this experience as a naive unsustpecting young christian woman. I found myself studying very antibiblical topics at a very antibiblical university and it disturbed, confused and destroyed my realationship with god, my beliefs and strivings (and damaged aspects of my "feminine traits"). It made me mistrusting him and I became depressed and nearly unable to find a way out of this circumstances. After too many horrible months I finally got to (step by step) stop it all, move to another place, flee into a bible teaching church and find a little "woman-friendly" job in an christian invironment.
Thank God for protecting my salvation and leading me into his ways! At least due to the pandemic i luckily never got wrapped up in the sinful life style of my fellow students.
During this time I watched all your videos and it encouraged and inspired me. Thank you :)
It took me at least the same amount of time to restore my life and to recover spiritually and emotionally from this.
So I really warn other young christians, especially women against making the same mistakes.
You should definitely make sure to highlight the fact that this applies to white women in the USA. Other groups of women have always worked even if they didn’t have careers plus there was community so yes children spent time away from their (poor) parents whilst they worked. Anyways I think it’s best to honor the fact that other women’s experiences wildly differ from your own.
How do young woman go about finding a husband? If I am ready to be married and have children and be a keeper of the home, but I haven’t found anyone even in larger young Christian communities. I’m not sure what to do.
Where did you find the picture of the woman with the kids going for a walk as your thumbnail photo?
Thank you for making this videos❤ I live in a country that is very focused on collegr education and very shaped by feminist ideas, and every thing is shaped after two income households. All prizes is set with expectation that every household is a two-income house hold. And women who prioritize being a homemaker and mom is called privileged for being able to afford it - and told they are not contributing to society when they dont earn an income and pay taxes. Even thou most people I know who lives like that, make it work by living very simple lives, sometimes below the poverty line according to our countries statistics. There is this idea, that you can only choose to live of one income if you are rich, selfish and privileged. But we live by the grace of God, on one income, and the amount we have learned to live on is considerede half of the amount you earn if you are below the poverty line. And we prioritise to learn to live on very little and need almost nothing, because we want the freedom and option to prioritise family, our kids and the local community. We are rich in freedom, and maybe its selfish to pay less taxes. But we contribute with our peace and abundance of freedom to serve. We are not to stressed and anxious to help others, in a society where stress and anxiety is skyrocketing. I often feel like I need to defend myself and our way of life , but the Holy spirit always shows up and give me the right words, which is a blessing. It comforts me to watch your videos and know we are not the only ones that have our eyes opened to the homemaker life. I also went to college, and was raised with the idea that the only way to be educated is to learn something that leads to working for someone who doesnt love you outside the home - and that education that leads to working for the family and local community that loves you, is worth nothing compared to earning money. And its not true. Everybody I know, including myself, that believed those ideas, deeply wish they had used there 20s another way. Prioritised family in their 20s, and then maybe in our 40s we could go to college 👍Not the other way around. Society is in an ideological war against homemaking, kids, marriage and Gods design. And society is losing, because we are designed to thrive in Gods ways, will and design. And many women I know is starting to realize this, even if they dont know Jesus yet - they agree with Gods design in their hearts and longing. And they are being called selfish and privileged, for learning to live a simple life on one income and create a nurturing home and healthy family. Thank you so much for making these videos, and making us feel less alone ❤❤❤
It's even harder to honor and obey the Lord in his calling for me to be a housewife and mom when my husband insists that I 'pull my weight' and work. Now I'm almost 40 and highly doubt I'll ever be able to have children. Pro tip: If your boyfriend or fiance exhibits liberal traits in any capacity.... RUN! Run fast and hard.
This advice is not good. There’s nothing wrong with having a career and being married. If you wanna stay at home fine, but stop writing this off as biblical advice. Don’t twist scripture to fit your agenda.
To all the young women, yes go to college and get a career, if your husband ever got injured or there’s a period where he can’t work, you need to be able to step up. There’s nothing wrong with having a career/education. But only study something that’s worth the investment.
Also, being a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t work outside the home. If you can manage your home and work, then there’s freedom in Christ to choose.
Also, this doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t help
You around the home……
Lana, Amen.. Some sage advice.
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Amen!! I have raised 3 daughters to be wives and mothers. The first married at 27. She was afraid she would never marry and the world's view and lies were creeping in and causing her doubt and fear. It turns out her husband has only become a Christian two years ago. He wasn't ready to marry and this whole time she was worrying God was growing and preparing him! My other two daughters are younger and still waiting. I keeping reminding them that it is God's revealed will for them to be wives and mothers and to trust in His timing! Thank you for this message!!
Hi kelli this is my first video by you I am not a libral;I wanted to ask "can I not go to college and be a godly women as well" currently I am a 17 year old and I am trying to be a godly women; I still want to go to college and work,be a wifi and a mom can I not do that,is it agenist Gods word.Please I am not tryhing to attack or anyting by saying this I want your acvice that is all
Hi Lara, I would just keep that as your first priority to be a wife and a mom, no matter the decision you can make. A lot of times when girls go to college, they get into promiscuous situations that is promoted with the college lifestyle and then finding a good guy to marry ends up being hard. And/or they end up prioritizing their career above being a wife and a mom. And/or they end up with a huge amount of student loan debt that could prevent them from being a homemaker because they have to work to pay off their student loans. These are dynamics that are often not talked about when sending girls off to college.
@@homewithkelli Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.I have a clearer understanding of what you were talking about know.
Great topic, I am a single mom and in healthcare industry, I work 3 days a week so I can be present in the home and teach my child a biblical world view. I am the provider in our home but God is the ultimate provider and I am so grateful for the job I have which will allow me to do this, in a perfect world I would love to stay home full time ❤.
Collage should be bypassed unless the student is 99% committed to a degree program equivalent with their capability. Just go to work or take a training school program. Collage is feeding students with usless and damaging skills. The only goal of all collages is financial as well as attracting endowments. Parents... wake up and spend your money wisely and not just to impress your friends, you may be sending your child on the wrong educational path.
I think I agree and disagree. I don’t know if college is “bad” more than we have to educate our children on what’s important and then let them decide. I think the real issue is the household and parents instilling values into their children
It is overwhelming to become all 3 at once. But worth it.
You're going to be the new Joyce Meyers of the 21 century
So much wisdom. My mother worked and went to night school when I was a child. I spent 8yrs in college (struggling) only to work in a field that didn't require a degree. Money Money Money in the 🚽.
I'm a homemaker now but the encouragement to pursue a Godly path would have been helpful
Totally 👍 agree.
This is a rich discussion. First of all, you need a rice cooker. 😂 I do agree with everything you said, however, I did send my daughter to college. Yep, she's a socialist now. Staying at home with your family and learning home skills until a young woman gets married is very difficult, because it, as you say, is just crazy and they would be dependent (we don't like dependence in our culture). As a Baby Boomer, the reason we women went to college is because men showed that they were not trustworthy in our parent's generation. Women would stay home and be moms, then the husband would divorce them for a younger woman and the woman would get the kids, but no house nor money. So it was a horrible situation for many women. That's the reason we were determined to get careers for ourselves and our kids. Nowadays, a Christian woman could even get a college education at home, online. They could even get great part time jobs pursuing some of their interests and passions that they could use at home; (such as having a RUclips channel). I think Christians are going to be more and more counter culture as time goes on; we just believe so much different than non Christians.
I am in shocked over this video. What in the world are we doing encouraging women to not go to college. Do you really believe that women cannot gain a lot of “educational” experience from going to college. Knowledge is one of the things that no one can take away from you. You have a job….You are on youtube. You probably use your education in your youtube chanel . If you really believe that girls should only be encouraged to be homemakers, mothers. Then how do you justify your time that you are taking away from being with your children. From a 77 year old Christian Mother of 6 who had a career as a trauma nurse. You my dear are well meaning but very naive. Husbands die , Husbands leave . Tragedy’s happen. A well educated, college degreed woman is far more able to care for her family .
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* this first - I don't think you should shy away from talking about the terrible social stuff at college with the thought that people are 'aware' because I don't think parents really ARE. even 20 years ago when I attended, I don't think my parents were FULLY aware of the dorm situations. & things have gotten so much worse. I mean we had dorm floors where the rooms were set up girl/boy/girl/boy all down the hall. You literally were living with men, walking to the showers in towels with men around, people sleeping around, etc.. no privacy. & I was raised by ultra conservative, strict parents. I cannot understand why in the world they LEFT me there !!!! *
MY husband and I decided a long time ago that we will NOT fund college for our two daughters. We have actively discouraged them from wanting to go. Our older daughter did go to trade school to be a hair dresser, but she has desires to be a wife & mom & use that as a part time thing to fit around home life once she gets married. There is so much to comment to in this video, Kelli, that is 100% accurate, that my response would be an essay. But I will say that growing up in a traditional Irish Catholic family, I was NOT prepared for the college life at all. We never even heard so much as an off colored joke and never talked about sex. Everything was very, very private. & my parents really sent mixed messages about their goals for us concerning college. My mother was very forceful that we girls go to college, but by her comments it always seemed like it was a place she thought we would meet a 'rich husband'. That was always her line of questioning on breaks; if I had met any eligible, wealthy boy that would get me out of the boring, rural, poverty stricken life she thought SHE was stuck in. (I will mention that due to poor judgement, my mother got pregnant with me out of wedlock during her 1st semester of college and dropped out to marry a man that she didn't love & has taken that out on us ever since). She pushed so hard & I had no desire to go to college. I dressed up for pep rally 'career day' as a housewife. I tried several times (clandestinely) to get married to get out of going to college 🤣.
College literally ruined my life for years after. It left me with $26K of debt that I could not pay back for almost 20 years.(this left me with a frozen bank account, unable to have my name on my husband's bank acct for YEARS, no name on a loan, car, house, nada... I didn't exist on paper. My husband could not even get our whole tax return Talk about plan B's - college stole all of my plan B's) It left me with a terrible reputation - I turned into a HORRIBLE & immoral person. It left me with debilitating anxiety & depression. And all the while, I didn't really pay attention to my studies, cuz I had no desire for a career and I just kept looking for a man that would just marry me to solve the whole issue. So therefore, I just kept picking any ol' guy & having my heart broken over & over. My 2 sisters followed the exact same trajectory. The only upside for me is, I hung in there & did graduate (& i also did end up with a good husband) Neither sister did and both ended up with horrible marriage situations. And on top of not really excelling at college & leaving a broken person, I knew nothing of running household. So sure, was my mother, that we would be career women (the goal she was 'cheated' out of) that she did not teach us anything of household skills. Her sole focus was for us to do well in school, so we had no chores, never learned to cook or clean. She would do it all & tell us, "I just want you to focus on your school work so you can get scholarships to college so you can make something of yourself". But then once I got there, she wanted me to find a rich husband LOL. Most of the women I know work because they 'want' to, not because they 'have' to. They spend way beyond their budget for things that they could do for themselves if they didn't have that paycheck. They are only exchanging money for time. I will not be duped by that. Anytime that my husband has felt desperate enough (early on in marriage) to ask me to do something for work, he always regretted it & I ended up back home. Babysitting, house cleaning, elder care...all of it has interfered with our home life & he quickly realized it.