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What finally broke my porn habit for good was the realization that I was being entertained by and deriving pleasure from watching people sin against God, and sending themselves to hell. Maybe I am stating the obvious with that, but it was just an extra layer of my own depravity that I became aware of and so horrified by.
I’ve never thought about it like this! Thank you for the extra insight. 👍 I’m always aware of how watching porn will affect my wife. We made a deal that if I were to relapse, I’d tell her immediately. I’ve seen how that betrayal affects her emotionally and psychologically so deeply, that it makes me realize how awful it is, and how much more awful it must be to God. I will pray for you and your walk with God, wherever you may be in your life. May the Lord bless you and keep you always.
You could apply that to pretty much everything on TV. Interesting take. I've been convicted about what we watch on tv even, hallmark and lifetime! It's become such trash!
As a Christian man who struggles with same-sex reactions, this is refreshing. I love the biblical truth that came out of this interview because I know that it is something that God sent me to listen to so that I can learn and understand more about God's view and plan on sexuality. P.S.: Becket, for whatever reason, your personal testimony is amongst the only ones that actually resonated with me in my quest to get free from this shameful struggle. After reading your book, I was amazed. Thank you for attending that church service where you got saved.
To Dr. McDowell - when I became a Christian as a teen, I read everything your father, Josh McDowell, wrote. I was so honored to meet him at a Biola chapel in the early 90's. I also met my husband at Biola, and we were both committed to following the ethics of Jesus. While dating and after we married (at Calvary Chapel on campus), God opened up doors to speak on healthy relationships in public schools both in Southern CA and Chicagoland. Thank you for bringing the message of God's good gift of sexuality to a new generation! I plan to get your book for my teens! Becket: you are a LIGHT
As a Christian I actually learned that people who live together have a higher rate of divorce in a secular university. Living together just doesn't work for anyone. God knows best!!❤
These conversations always remind me of Janis Joplin’s “Me and Bobby McGee” “Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose..” Sexual freedom isn’t free-it breaks your heart at the very least 😔
Hollywood hires sex therapists for the actors in a sex scene, but where’s the concern for the thousands sitting in the theatre being powerfully manipulated by these same scenes? They are self-serving and actually sexual abusers; in my opinion.
Great & much needed topic Becket! I was raised Catholic - I'm the youngest of nine, and my Mom's doctor told her no more kids after she had me too. Every life is appointed by God😇
I wish I could express the joy, the hope, the soul/spirit satisfaction your programs bring into my life each week. I’m so grateful to have found you. Blessings of the Heart to you.✝️💟
This video deserves so much more views!!! The church needs to address this in the best way as possible. Parents and church need to be side to side to talk to young folks about this. The "don't have sex before marriage" shouldn't be the only thing to say to a teenager. Teenagers are reckless people. I honored my parents and feared God when my mom said that to me but it won't work for everybody. We need to do better in talking about it.
I agree. Feeling much more personal freedom since following God's laws closely. There is a safe comfort zone that you can't feel when crossing spiritual boundaries.
Yes, there is so much freedom in God’s design! Reminds me of the illustration of someone jumping over the fence because they thought it was restrictive, only to find that it was in fact a guardrail protecting them from a precipice.
I’m sharing this with my Mother who has been fighting human trafficking for years and is trying to get information to school children about Porn Harms, etc. and my Godson who I love so much! Thank you both for all you do.
I wasn't the biggest ho before marriage, but I'd rather not have those memories, if I could erase them. I wish my husband of nearly 30 years were the only one. I'd never much considered whether it left a scar, but of course it did (a couple of them were not worth taking me to lunch, let alone sleeping w/them). This is just too good, I am loving this interview. XOXO I will be buying that book for ours, young 20s.
Sean McDowell’s book along with Becket’s book A Change of Affection are such a blessing and I think go hand in hand regarding sexuality. Thank you both for truthful, real life helps.
The first 27 minutes I wondered if McDowell would cite his obvious source - St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body! Thank you for referring to this rich teaching and for spreading truth.
Thank you both for your honesty and integrity in dealing with sensitive and timely topics. We all know people that are badly broken and hurt by what is deemed “not important “…it is important. Becket I stumbled upon you about a year ago, and at first I had my doubts that your conversion was real. I’m so glad I was wrong and that you have been miraculously saved. I have a few family members that are trapped in that “lifestyle “ and had pretty much given up on them ever getting free, but you are evidence that it is possible to come out from that trap. Thank you so much for speaking the real truth in love. I pray many will become free, truly free in Christ, through your ministry. God bless you and continue to guide you in sharing the good news of God’s forgiveness, mercy, and grace.
I love your testimony Becket Cook and I love you!!!! What a awesome testimony my brother in Christ❤️ May God Continually to bless you and your new journey with him
Such a great message for everyone to hear especially our youth. I’m actually finding it really difficult to watch any of the shows I used to enjoy because of how clear the lie is of sexual liberation. Such a trap for all of us. Love love love your channel becket! I always get blessed by these conversations.
I have watched a documentary on pornography, and they said an enormous degree of porn stars were molested when they were kids, especially women. A lady was interviewed who ran a nonprofit to help people get out of prostitution, and or breaking away from working in the porn industry. She too said in both of these professions, an enormous percentage of these people were molested as children, and they were broken hearted people. Also, it has been pointed out, when people watch porn or go with a prostitute, you are playing a role in reinforcing and inflicting destructive wounds of molestation over and over again. So, when people think viewing porn isn't a big deal and its harmless, that is deceptive thinking and a lie becuase you are inflicting harm on others who deserve a healthy life to be loved and live a life full of love. Most importantly live and thrive in a life surrendering to the lord God who went on the cross that a life with such darkness would be nothing but intense light and warmth!
This not only applies to women in the porn industry but many - I would even go so far as to say most - girls who are promiscuous have been abused sexually or emotionally damaged and are subconsciously trying to get back what was stolen, or fix what was broken, but the continual meaningless sexual acts only add to the devastation.
Am so excited to listen to the two of you! I had suggested to Sean to invite you Becket to his show and so am really happy to be listening to you guys! Be blessed men of the most high God! Keep reflecting God's glory in all that you do!
I've met a growing number of people who regret living with someone due to being stuck when they knew the relationship was over or wanted it to be over. This was mainly due to finances, signing a lease, buying a home, having a child together. It's been so sad to listen to.
Becket I'd love if you could do an episode for people struggling with identity, particularly coming to grips with something those people don't want to be, but God made them to be anyway. I just found your channel and I cannot get enough of it. Thank you!
As a former Catholic... on procreation...a woman's body can only conceive a few days a month. But intimacy, sex, doesn't just happen a few days a month. Married sex isn't just for procreation.
The Catholic faith does not say that sex is only for procreation. The Church simply states a scientific fact - that procreation is the main objective purpose of the sexual act - thereby making the sexual act “ordered” where it may/would lead to conception and “disordered” when the act itself bars conception (oral sex/homosexual sex etc). That is simply a distinguishing term - and, while it might be said that one act or other is a sin, the term itself does not convey judgement (despite the claims of gay activists) because the Catholic faith recognises that nearly everybody sins and that the few who remain pure and free from sin are saints - that is why they are special. The Catholic Church herself encourages the sexual act as an act that is important in relationships on a number of levels, and not only procreation- not the least of which is the giving of each to the other. This is discussed in the video and attributed to the Catholic theology of the body. The Catholic faith is nuanced and complex - it is not something that is capable of reduction into sound bites. The main, unchanging fact of the Catholic view of the sexual act is that it is a marital act - within marriage and, in short hand, that it be capable of conception. It doesn’t need to result in conception, that is, the couple can be post-menopausal, infertile etc, but the act itself must be the marital act in order to be “ordered.” There are nuances but this is not the place to discuss! The confessional is the place where a Catholic would talk this out to a priest.
Yes, and the Catholic Church teaches that Natural Family Planning (NFP) is an acceptable way to space out children. When all of the other churches caved on artificial contraception, the CC stayed true to its teaching, knowing that trying for to separate sex from its procreative purpose would lead to more sexual immorality, and would be bad for women , and the CC has been shown to be correct. Women are now expected to want sex and be available for sex all of the time. Plus, artificial contraception has a lot of negative side affects for women. Natural Family Planning respects a woman’s body and encourages sexual responsibility and morality by calling for chastity during the few days of the month of ovulation if couples would like to avoid procreating. It’s good sexual integrity.
Perfectly timely, daughter's BF says "I could never marry someone without living with them to make sure we get along" . Daughter isn't having it, said no. I need some additional ammo/insight, just in case. (I guess I just probably did a TMI there!) THANK YOU, I will be taking notes. Love you, Becket! XOXO
I bought both Sean and your book Becket - I’m also a subscriber and follower - can’t wait to slowly and gently share your Godly insights with my children and grandchildren
Your podcast is growing from strength to strength. It’s a must listen for me every week now especially to understand biblical concepts and its application in todays world. Also love that you’re bringing men of God to engage abs deepen understanding. Thanks Sean! Thanks Beckett.
Another wonderful conversation. Enjoy both of you sharing views, research and ultimately real truth !!! From 1of 7 growing up Catholic and now learning and growing living redeemed by the blood of Christ. Also trying to ease through proper teaching and Biblical living 🙏🏻✝️🙌🏻 Keep up the great work fellas !!! 🙏🏻💙💙✝️🙌🏻
My favorite line from this: "Freedom only makes sense with understanding design and purpose." Again with the paradoxes of Christ, freedom with boundaries, not without them! ...My grandfather heard me say something as a 20something, that I'd never live with someone before marriage. "Will you put that in writing? sign it?" I was like, what? he got a post it, made me write + sign it and he stuck it to the mirror. It stayed there many years. hahahaa He was my favorite person. God bless you guys, THANK YOU Sean & Becket!
Oh my goodness, what a treat! Two of my favourite giants!!! I'm awake at 3a.m. Irish time (back pain) and I see this when I look for some worship music. Can't *wait* to listen properly!! 💜💜
I'm first nations and i remember sex education classes in my pre-teens. It shell shocked me and changed my entire outlook on women and families. They showed a video of a woman giving birth and i remember the sight of the baby "crowning" and i went into shock, the next few years were a blur lol i never saw anything like that before and i never wanted kids after that and i have never had any and am now 40. I'm not resentful though, my Creator has led me to know i will be single and unmarried while i serve Him and i'm totally okay with that, i like being alone better i never felt satisfied by relationships and now that i know Jesus i am satisfied and content and ready to serve.
I don’t mind sex education showing kids the reality of sex like having a child. A lot of teens want to have babies because they look cute and have unrealistic mind frame of kids and parenthood and love.
It is too much for young pre teens to take in. I don’t agree with bombarding kids minds with content that they are simply not emotionally ready for. Let kids be kids. I’m sorry for the effect that it had on you.
This way of presenting childbirth is traumatizing. Im very sorry you suffered under this foolish way of presenting knowledge. The context is wrong to unveil the sacredness of God's gift of sexuality and life. May true healing come to your entire being, even as you serve the Lord and worship Him.
@@laurenshannon2703 Thank you and you dont have to be sorry. God works everything out for our good, I always knew i was never going to get married and have kids. When i connected to Creator He showed me why and that i would stay unmarried and childless for the kingdoms sake and showed me through the bible, why that would be. I am thankful and amazed lol
Thank you so very much for this discussion and references. My children are only 4 and 2 but I know in this culture I had better get every single tool possible alongside the Bible to teach them on the way they should go. God bless you brothers!
You always post these at the right time becket 😭😭😭. God is speaking to me through you. I’ve been having lots of lustful thoughts lately, like giving my body to a guy I like and think is cute and I have to fight those thoughts constantly. I’m trying to wait for my husband but sometimes it’s hard 💔. I prayed about it and God showed me the verse “promise me oh women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right “
Waiting til marriage gives both of you a chance to prove that you have willpower because there will be times you may have to endure separation due to traveling for a job or an illness. Remember: Lust says “What can you do for me?” Love says, “ What can I do for you?”
@@Mint-kj9kw The Song of Solomon portrays healthy Erotic Love. That isn't Lust. Getting too used to diseased examples doesn't mean we should end up condemning what is otherwise healthy.
This was so thorough and thoughtful! I heard a teacher say of promiscuity once "you can't put a condom on your heart"... Sex is so much deeper than a physical act💜 I love the Alanis M reference, I remember feeling this 'shift' in women more towards feminist values when that song came out... I appreciate you both!!🙏🏽
Thanks, this was a great interview. I bought a bunch of these books for the college age students in my Sunday school class. I’m currently halfway through the book and am loving it!
When Dr. McDowell and Becket discuss the definition of love they articulate where we are in aquandry in this this culture. One of the effects, I think, of Modernity is that 'right now' is ultimate. The word 'modern' means 'this moment'. The issue might be that we've gotten rid of the concept of eternity. Rarely, even in churches, do people think of themselves as eternal beings. As permanent beings. The wellbeing of the 'other' is to be placed in a different context if you're thinking hundred, thousands, even millions of years rather than say, 80. A young person, caught in ssa is going to feel immediate pain when told they may not act on their feelings. That this is ultimately good for them makes no sense to a modern sensibility if it means sacrificing now. It hurts to give up the idea of ever satisfying sexual desire without a compelling alternative/reason or understanding of reality. I don't know how you could get this in the post-modern west without having an experience of Jesus.
Also, on the topic of freedom, I always think of one of my favorite quotes: “Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought.” St. Pope John Paul II
It is indeed ironic that we simultaneously treat sex as supreme (to the point of idolatry) and yet something casual. You can’t have it both ways! As Christians, we must recognize sex is sacred and Divinely designed exclusively for marriage, but also recognize that it is not the ultimate good, either. Christian marriage is intended to paint a portrait of the Gospel to the world and the bonding and intimacy sex produces when used according to God’s design is part of this. But Jesus tells us that one day sex and marriage will pass away. One day, Christ will have is Bride and there will be no marriage but THE marriage. Celibacy prophetically portrays the supremacy of that ultimate marriage of Christ and the Church.
Thank you for this. I read something by Richard Rohr recently that said earthly marriage presaged divine union in a way that nothing else could. It went on and on. As an older, never married woman I felt terrible, almost bereft; where does that kind of thinking leave people like me? You've framed this in a way that seems to shine some purpose and dignity on my path. So thank you. And Becket, you're terrific. Keep going, keep reaching out to us. Thank you.
So happy to see you talk about this issue of sex outside of marriage because I personally know too many Christians who are having sex outside of marriage and looking at pornography and think it's ok😕 God bless you both.
I hate the “love is love” slogan. What does that even mean? I certainly don’t love my wife, my child, my best friend, and my favorite food in the same way! And if we are referring to sexual/erotic love, surely we don’t genuinely believe all sexual expression is equally valid.
It’s a dumb slogan. Are they trying to justify adults erotic love towards children? Should we justify love between human and animal? I’m sure my dog loves me. I think the disconnect is their definition of love.
@@annchovey2089 Usually as soon as you mention a counter-example, they specify adult and consensual. But that means that they, too, have a standard of appropriate and inappropriate sexual expression. We say that children cannot consent to sex, but why is that? We recognize there is something different about sex that makes it inappropriate even in cases where other forms of affection are wholesome. Now, I want to be very careful here because inappropriate comparisons between same-sex attraction and pedophilia and child molestation have been used in ways that are very hurtful to LGBT people, including chaste same-sex attracted Christians. Same-sex attraction is not the same as pedophilia and someone is not more likely to molest children because they are attracted to the same-sex. Still, I think the rejection of pedophilia highlights a fundamental inconsistency that refutes the “love is love” slogan. Even if it is affectionate and well-intentioned, there are cases where sexual expression is clearly inappropriate.
I am guilty; please hear my confession ; divorced abusive husband, moved in with my boyfriend with my 2 sons . Convicted by the Holy Spirit 2 years in. My boyfriend proposed to me…I accepted but lived a celibate life till we married, my idea ( I hoped) . 16 years later no marriage no intimacy, we lived as roommates, my sons moved out, just John and I till he past away by suicide this past November. I am so sad, confused and praying for Grace and healing 🙏
Oh dear one, all lives are a train wreck. Jesus came for the broken. He can restore the years lost. Throw yourself into God's ways...read the word and pray DAILY 🙏 🤲 Find a Bible believing church and go! Cry out to God, repent and walk with God.... And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.
@@marydickey3404 thank you so much for your encouraging words! God is so good, I trust Him to see me through. I joined a grief group and found a Bible believing church all in the same place!!! Less of me, more of Him!!!
Thank for addressing the “what to do when your child comes out” question. It seems to that despite seemingly good intentions, scriptural “whack-a-mole” response to a son or daughter in that first moment is deeply self-serving to parents: parents hurt and they want to stop it.
Beautiful point re: porn. 👏 I also remember reading research that suggested that those that watch it are more likely to agree with extremely lenient penalties for perpetrators of rape - e.g. short & suspended sentences. 🥺💔😥
The Alanis Morissette song is a perfect example! How this act outside of marriage, completely had her in firstly obsession of the guy, and the angst of emotional torture in remembrance of how “ they were” and how she hopes he is in the same mindset about her!! The song is truly a picture of the consequences that our loving Father wants us to avoid, and protect us from! I have to say she was and is quite the storyteller in her lyrics! Love you, Becket!
Hello Mr. Cook. Huge fan of your show, and I always learn so much watching. My question concerns the comment at the beginning of the discussion about if everyone in a relationship lived by the biblical rules of monogamy, thereby eliminating STD's, promiscuity, adultery, etc...I don't necessarily believe that's true because by nature we are sinners and essentially want to have our desires met that are in opposition of God. The reason for Christ is that we were unable to follow God's law of obedience so if most of us chose to live by Christ's standards of marriage, we as sinners would still sin. Thank you again for your show.
I love how you tackle issues that are now never brought up in church. For years the purity culture just made it popular to say "no", there was little to no discussions about the biblical view of sex and what it all really meant and of course that movement didn't last. Thank you for these videos.
Please pray for our South African schools. Up until now our country and schools (just like America) was built upon Christian values and principals. But in the last few months there has been a lot of pressure to change our sex Ed (including gender types etc) in schools from young grades as well as a lot of noise about the gay movement. Yesterday I also saw an article to change the religious bill to not allow Christian (or religious) schools to live out or teach what the Bible says (mostly because of not supporting gay lifestyle). Where on earth will we be able to send our kids?! if not even a school you hope aligns with your values, now looks like any other school. Why not focus on parents parenting well, why not focus on fathers that's missing (or who do not know how to be a father) in the household, why not focus on affirming a boy's identity and a girl's identity so that they don't need to wonder about their gender. why not focus on getting porn and sex films/ads out of our media so that sex is not the biggest issue in your life. We need God, not sex or any other non sense thing we try to think up to make up our identity.
Sometimes our culture gets it right and sometimes we get it wrong. I think it is just as important to recognize it when our culture gets it right. It can be tempting to become contrarian and condemn the good with the bad. But consider how Paul seeks to find a positive point of connection in his sermon on Mars hill.
Wise words!... As allways, thanks you! Love and sex are powerfull things, and young kids not allways understands it. Our pop culture doesn't help too. As I was listening I remember a movie with Michael Fassbender, called " Shame", because in it his sex addiction was a simpton of something very bad that traumatised him. Beneath that addiction was a seak for help, for love that he never accomplish. His road to perdition, in the end will teach him he was wrong, but at what cost...
Your comment about not realising that you had so many emotional scars is so relevant to all of us who are post sexual revolution. in my youth I thought my hurts were my particular failures. My daughters generation sees young girls (under age) having sex before they are emotionally ready and coping with hurt and rejection by young boys who are not emotionally mature enough to handle a complex act - the giving of one’s body to another. That act requires circumstances of trust and respect - a trust and respect that is for life. That is, marriage. BTW your Dad is the best! Nailing the windows shut!
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What finally broke my porn habit for good was the realization that I was being entertained by and deriving pleasure from watching people sin against God, and sending themselves to hell. Maybe I am stating the obvious with that, but it was just an extra layer of my own depravity that I became aware of and so horrified by.
I’ve never thought about it like this! Thank you for the extra insight. 👍
I’m always aware of how watching porn will affect my wife. We made a deal that if I were to relapse, I’d tell her immediately. I’ve seen how that betrayal affects her emotionally and psychologically so deeply, that it makes me realize how awful it is, and how much more awful it must be to God.
I will pray for you and your walk with God, wherever you may be in your life.
May the Lord bless you and keep you always.
You could apply that to pretty much everything on TV. Interesting take. I've been convicted about what we watch on tv even, hallmark and lifetime! It's become such trash!
Keep fighting the good fight brother Becket. You are a testimony to what God can do with a person. Praise God alone!!!
As a Christian man who struggles with same-sex reactions, this is refreshing. I love the biblical truth that came out of this interview because I know that it is something that God sent me to listen to so that I can learn and understand more about God's view and plan on sexuality. P.S.: Becket, for whatever reason, your personal testimony is amongst the only ones that actually resonated with me in my quest to get free from this shameful struggle. After reading your book, I was amazed. Thank you for attending that church service where you got saved.
To Dr. McDowell - when I became a Christian as a teen, I read everything your father, Josh McDowell, wrote. I was so honored to meet him at a Biola chapel in the early 90's. I also met my husband at Biola, and we were both committed to following the ethics of Jesus. While dating and after we married (at Calvary Chapel on campus), God opened up doors to speak on healthy relationships in public schools both in Southern CA and Chicagoland. Thank you for bringing the message of God's good gift of sexuality to a new generation! I plan to get your book for my teens!
Becket: you are a LIGHT
I'm so grateful for your channel. Our generation is starving for this! Thank God you're here. 😃
Thank you. God Bless
As a Christian I actually learned that people who live together have a higher rate of divorce in a secular university. Living together just doesn't work for anyone. God knows best!!❤
It's the same in a Christian context too. Unfortunately divorce rates are also almost the same for Christians and non Christians. Sad, but true.
These conversations always remind me of Janis Joplin’s “Me and Bobby McGee”
“Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose..”
Sexual freedom isn’t free-it breaks your heart at the very least 😔
The problem with deception is that people don't know that they are deceived!!!
Hollywood hires sex therapists for the actors in a sex scene, but where’s the concern for the thousands sitting in the theatre being powerfully manipulated by these same scenes? They are self-serving and actually sexual abusers; in my opinion.
I love being a Christian ❤️.
I’m free ! No more guilt no more sorrow .
Amen. God Bless
Amen 🙏
Great & much needed topic Becket! I was raised Catholic - I'm the youngest of nine, and my Mom's doctor told her no more kids after she had me too. Every life is appointed by God😇
I wish I could express the joy, the hope, the soul/spirit satisfaction your programs bring into my life each week. I’m so grateful to have found you. Blessings of the Heart to you.✝️💟
You are so welcome!
Ditto! 💟✝️💜
This video deserves so much more views!!!
The church needs to address this in the best way as possible. Parents and church need to be side to side to talk to young folks about this.
The "don't have sex before marriage" shouldn't be the only thing to say to a teenager. Teenagers are reckless people.
I honored my parents and feared God when my mom said that to me but it won't work for everybody. We need to do better in talking about it.
God Bless
Amen Friend 🙏
I agree. Feeling much more personal freedom since following God's laws closely. There is a safe comfort zone that you can't feel when crossing spiritual boundaries.
Yes, there is so much freedom in God’s design!
Reminds me of the illustration of someone jumping over the fence because they thought it was restrictive, only to find that it was in fact a guardrail protecting them from a precipice.
I’m sharing this with my Mother who has been fighting human trafficking for years and is trying to get information to school children about Porn Harms, etc. and my Godson who I love so much! Thank you both for all you do.
Thank you. God Bless
I wasn't the biggest ho before marriage, but I'd rather not have those memories, if I could erase them. I wish my husband of nearly 30 years were the only one. I'd never much considered whether it left a scar, but of course it did (a couple of them were not worth taking me to lunch, let alone sleeping w/them). This is just too good, I am loving this interview. XOXO I will be buying that book for ours, young 20s.
I love CS Lewis. I found his reasoning in Mere Christianity very compelling.
I always think for those who say, “Christians leave their brains at the door”-oh, really???” READ C. S. LEWIS & THEN get back to me!!”👍🏼✝️💟
Sean McDowell’s book along with Becket’s book A Change of Affection are such a blessing and I think go hand in hand regarding sexuality. Thank you both for truthful, real life helps.
The first 27 minutes I wondered if McDowell would cite his obvious source - St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body! Thank you for referring to this rich teaching and for spreading truth.
Thank you both for your honesty and integrity in dealing with sensitive and timely topics. We all know people that are badly broken and hurt by what is deemed “not important “…it is important. Becket I stumbled upon you about a year ago, and at first I had my doubts that your conversion was real. I’m so glad I was wrong and that you have been miraculously saved. I have a few family members that are trapped in that “lifestyle “ and had pretty much given up on them ever getting free, but you are evidence that it is possible to come out from that trap. Thank you so much for speaking the real truth in love. I pray many will become free, truly free in Christ, through your ministry. God bless you and continue to guide you in sharing the good news of God’s forgiveness, mercy, and grace.
Thank you! God Bless
Hang in there. Keep praying for your family members.
I love your testimony Becket Cook and I love you!!!! What a awesome testimony my brother in Christ❤️ May God Continually to bless you and your new journey with him
Thank you. God Bless
Very good, clean and concise, easy to listen to and understand for younger generations.
Thank you. God Bless
Such a great message for everyone to hear especially our youth. I’m actually finding it really difficult to watch any of the shows I used to enjoy because of how clear the lie is of sexual liberation. Such a trap for all of us. Love love love your channel becket! I always get blessed by these conversations.
I have watched a documentary on pornography, and they said an enormous degree of porn stars were molested when they were kids, especially women. A lady was interviewed who ran a nonprofit to help people get out of prostitution, and or breaking away from working in the porn industry. She too said in both of these professions, an enormous percentage of these people were molested as children, and they were broken hearted people. Also, it has been pointed out, when people watch porn or go with a prostitute, you are playing a role in reinforcing and inflicting destructive wounds of molestation over and over again. So, when people think viewing porn isn't a big deal and its harmless, that is deceptive thinking and a lie becuase you are inflicting harm on others who deserve a healthy life to be loved and live a life full of love. Most importantly live and thrive in a life surrendering to the lord God who went on the cross that a life with such darkness would be nothing but intense light and warmth!
This not only applies to women in the porn industry but many - I would even go so far as to say most - girls who are promiscuous have been abused sexually or emotionally damaged and are subconsciously trying to get back what was stolen, or fix what was broken, but the continual meaningless sexual acts only add to the devastation.
Am so excited to listen to the two of you! I had suggested to Sean to invite you Becket to his show and so am really happy to be listening to you guys!
Be blessed men of the most high God! Keep reflecting God's glory in all that you do!
Thank you. God Bless
I've met a growing number of people who regret living with someone due to being stuck when they knew the relationship was over or wanted it to be over. This was mainly due to finances, signing a lease, buying a home, having a child together. It's been so sad to listen to.
Becket I'd love if you could do an episode for people struggling with identity, particularly coming to grips with something those people don't want to be, but God made them to be anyway. I just found your channel and I cannot get enough of it. Thank you!
Another excellent guest, Beckett! Dr. McDowell is a wise man of God.
Agreed Friend 👍
I love that response, the first and most important thing to say when someone comes out to you is to affirm they are loved.
As a former Catholic... on procreation...a woman's body can only conceive a few days a month. But intimacy, sex, doesn't just happen a few days a month. Married sex isn't just for procreation.
Catholics don’t think sex is only for procreation
@Peggy Good point
The Catholic faith does not say that sex is only for procreation. The Church simply states a scientific fact - that procreation is the main objective purpose of the sexual act - thereby making the sexual act “ordered” where it may/would lead to conception and “disordered” when the act itself bars conception (oral sex/homosexual sex etc). That is simply a distinguishing term - and, while it might be said that one act or other is a sin, the term itself does not convey judgement (despite the claims of gay activists) because the Catholic faith recognises that nearly everybody sins and that the few who remain pure and free from sin are saints - that is why they are special. The Catholic Church herself encourages the sexual act as an act that is important in relationships on a number of levels, and not only procreation- not the least of which is the giving of each to the other. This is discussed in the video and attributed to the Catholic theology of the body. The Catholic faith is nuanced and complex - it is not something that is capable of reduction into sound bites. The main, unchanging fact of the Catholic view of the sexual act is that it is a marital act - within marriage and, in short hand, that it be capable of conception. It doesn’t need to result in conception, that is, the couple can be post-menopausal, infertile etc, but the act itself must be the marital act in order to be “ordered.” There are nuances but this is not the place to discuss! The confessional is the place where a Catholic would talk this out to a priest.
Yes, and the Catholic Church teaches that Natural Family Planning (NFP) is an acceptable way to space out children. When all of the other churches caved on artificial contraception, the CC stayed true to its teaching, knowing that trying for to separate sex from its procreative purpose would lead to more sexual immorality, and would be bad for women , and the CC has been shown to be correct. Women are now expected to want sex and be available for sex all of the time. Plus, artificial contraception has a lot of negative side affects for women. Natural Family Planning respects a woman’s body and encourages sexual responsibility and morality by calling for chastity during the few days of the month of ovulation if couples would like to avoid procreating. It’s good sexual integrity.
Perfectly timely, daughter's BF says "I could never marry someone without living with them to make sure we get along" . Daughter isn't having it, said no. I need some additional ammo/insight, just in case. (I guess I just probably did a TMI there!) THANK YOU, I will be taking notes. Love you, Becket! XOXO
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Good for your daughter!!! 👏🏽 And God bless you for how you’ve raised her. 👏🏽
I bought both Sean and your book Becket - I’m also a subscriber and follower - can’t wait to slowly and gently share your Godly insights with my children and grandchildren
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Your podcast is growing from strength to strength. It’s a must listen for me every week now especially to understand biblical concepts and its application in todays world. Also love that you’re bringing men of God to engage abs deepen understanding. Thanks Sean! Thanks Beckett.
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Another wonderful conversation. Enjoy both of you sharing views, research and ultimately real truth !!! From 1of 7 growing up Catholic and now learning and growing living redeemed by the blood of Christ. Also trying to ease through proper teaching and Biblical living 🙏🏻✝️🙌🏻 Keep up the great work fellas !!! 🙏🏻💙💙✝️🙌🏻
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This is an amazing discussion! God bless you both!
God Bless Thank you Brothers for speaking God's truth Amen
Amen!
Two of my favorite people!! 🙌🏽
My favorite line from this: "Freedom only makes sense with understanding design and purpose." Again with the paradoxes of Christ, freedom with boundaries, not without them! ...My grandfather heard me say something as a 20something, that I'd never live with someone before marriage. "Will you put that in writing? sign it?" I was like, what? he got a post it, made me write + sign it and he stuck it to the mirror. It stayed there many years. hahahaa He was my favorite person. God bless you guys, THANK YOU Sean & Becket!
As always, I love the interview Becket! Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🏻
Oh my goodness, what a treat! Two of my favourite giants!!! I'm awake at 3a.m. Irish time (back pain) and I see this when I look for some worship music. Can't *wait* to listen properly!! 💜💜
Enjoy!
@@BecketCook I did!! I couldn't wait! 😁😉🤗
Back to sleep 😴 💤 now 🙏🙏
@@elizabethryan2217 I hope your back feels better soon!
@@courtr1588 thank you *so* much! 💜 It's gone into complete spasm 😣 so I hope it just settles within the next day or two 🙏🙏🙏
Excellent pod cast!! Thanks for posting.
I'm first nations and i remember sex education classes in my pre-teens. It shell shocked me and changed my entire outlook on women and families. They showed a video of a woman giving birth and i remember the sight of the baby "crowning" and i went into shock, the next few years were a blur lol i never saw anything like that before and i never wanted kids after that and i have never had any and am now 40. I'm not resentful though, my Creator has led me to know i will be single and unmarried while i serve Him and i'm totally okay with that, i like being alone better i never felt satisfied by relationships and now that i know Jesus i am satisfied and content and ready to serve.
I don’t mind sex education showing kids the reality of sex like having a child. A lot of teens want to have babies because they look cute and have unrealistic mind frame of kids and parenthood and love.
It is too much for young pre teens to take in. I don’t agree with bombarding kids minds with content that they are simply not emotionally ready for. Let kids be kids. I’m sorry for the effect that it had on you.
This way of presenting childbirth is traumatizing. Im very sorry you suffered under this foolish way of presenting knowledge. The context is wrong to unveil the sacredness of God's gift of sexuality and life. May true healing come to your entire being, even as you serve the Lord and worship Him.
@@laurenshannon2703 Thank you and you dont have to be sorry. God works everything out for our good, I always knew i was never going to get married and have kids. When i connected to Creator He showed me why and that i would stay unmarried and childless for the kingdoms sake and showed me through the bible, why that would be. I am thankful and amazed lol
There are so many great things in this episode! Thank you Sean and Becket!
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This is wonderful brother Cook!!!!Amen, luv u in Christ my brother♥️✝️
Thank you so very much for this discussion and references. My children are only 4 and 2 but I know in this culture I had better get every single tool possible alongside the Bible to teach them on the way they should go. God bless you brothers!
You always post these at the right time becket 😭😭😭. God is speaking to me through you. I’ve been having lots of lustful thoughts lately, like giving my body to a guy I like and think is cute and I have to fight those thoughts constantly. I’m trying to wait for my husband but sometimes it’s hard 💔. I prayed about it and God showed me the verse “promise me oh women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right “
Lust isn't even good when you are married. We are to love our partners...not lust after them.
Waiting til marriage gives both of you a chance to prove that you have willpower because there will be times you may have to endure separation due to traveling for a job or an illness. Remember: Lust says “What can you do for me?” Love says, “ What can I do for you?”
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The Song of Solomon portrays healthy Erotic Love. That isn't Lust. Getting too used to diseased examples doesn't mean we should end up condemning what is otherwise healthy.
Another great show! I sent it to my husband! Happy Valentines Day!
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This was so thorough and thoughtful! I heard a teacher say of promiscuity once "you can't put a condom on your heart"... Sex is so much deeper than a physical act💜 I love the Alanis M reference, I remember feeling this 'shift' in women more towards feminist values when that song came out... I appreciate you both!!🙏🏽
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Thanks, this was a great interview. I bought a bunch of these books for the college age students in my Sunday school class. I’m currently halfway through the book and am loving it!
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When Dr. McDowell and Becket discuss the definition of love they articulate where we are in aquandry in this this culture. One of the effects, I think, of Modernity is that 'right now' is ultimate. The word 'modern' means 'this moment'. The issue might be that we've gotten rid of the concept of eternity. Rarely, even in churches, do people think of themselves as eternal beings. As permanent beings. The wellbeing of the 'other' is to be placed in a different context if you're thinking hundred, thousands, even millions of years rather than say, 80. A young person, caught in ssa is going to feel immediate pain when told they may not act on their feelings. That this is ultimately good for them makes no sense to a modern sensibility if it means sacrificing now. It hurts to give up the idea of ever satisfying sexual desire without a compelling alternative/reason or understanding of reality. I don't know how you could get this in the post-modern west without having an experience of Jesus.
Also, on the topic of freedom, I always think of one of my favorite quotes: “Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought.” St. Pope John Paul II
Thank you for this . I learned a lot and enjoyed the interaction. Really liked this guest.
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I’m an Alanis fan as a 90s child! So true on the cultural reference. Thanks Becket
Thank you 70 x 7 times Becket. We love you in the Lord. Keep up the good work ❤ 🙏
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Becket, thank you for being an live testimony of Jesus on line. I heard you in Salt Lake over two years ago. Wow!
Two of my faves!!!!!
Mr Becket, you are so inspiring!! Love your show!
Super good video/podcast episode Becket! Keep up the great work!
Glad you enjoyed it!
It is indeed ironic that we simultaneously treat sex as supreme (to the point of idolatry) and yet something casual. You can’t have it both ways!
As Christians, we must recognize sex is sacred and Divinely designed exclusively for marriage, but also recognize that it is not the ultimate good, either. Christian marriage is intended to paint a portrait of the Gospel to the world and the bonding and intimacy sex produces when used according to God’s design is part of this. But Jesus tells us that one day sex and marriage will pass away. One day, Christ will have is Bride and there will be no marriage but THE marriage. Celibacy prophetically portrays the supremacy of that ultimate marriage of Christ and the Church.
Our culture is almost schizophrenic when it comes to sex!!!😒
Thank you for this. I read something by Richard Rohr recently that said earthly marriage presaged divine union in a way that nothing else could. It went on and on. As an older, never married woman I felt terrible, almost bereft; where does that kind of thinking leave people like me? You've framed this in a way that seems to shine some purpose and dignity on my path. So thank you. And Becket, you're terrific. Keep going, keep reaching out to us. Thank you.
Wow, excellent topics covered well in a short amount of time! Thank you both!
So happy to see you talk about this issue of sex outside of marriage because I personally know too many Christians who are having sex outside of marriage and looking at pornography and think it's ok😕
God bless you both.
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Thanks again Becket this was so great!!❤️❤️
Love Sean’s channel. Great video! Also been meaning to tell you Becket that I love your intro music. Always look forward to your videos.
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I hate the “love is love” slogan. What does that even mean? I certainly don’t love my wife, my child, my best friend, and my favorite food in the same way! And if we are referring to sexual/erotic love, surely we don’t genuinely believe all sexual expression is equally valid.
It’s a dumb slogan. Are they trying to justify adults erotic love towards children? Should we justify love between human and animal? I’m sure my dog loves me. I think the disconnect is their definition of love.
@@annchovey2089 Usually as soon as you mention a counter-example, they specify adult and consensual. But that means that they, too, have a standard of appropriate and inappropriate sexual expression. We say that children cannot consent to sex, but why is that? We recognize there is something different about sex that makes it inappropriate even in cases where other forms of affection are wholesome.
Now, I want to be very careful here because inappropriate comparisons between same-sex attraction and pedophilia and child molestation have been used in ways that are very hurtful to LGBT people, including chaste same-sex attracted Christians. Same-sex attraction is not the same as pedophilia and someone is not more likely to molest children because they are attracted to the same-sex. Still, I think the rejection of pedophilia highlights a fundamental inconsistency that refutes the “love is love” slogan. Even if it is affectionate and well-intentioned, there are cases where sexual expression is clearly inappropriate.
I always refute that slogan with this truth: God is love.
Never clicked on a video so fast! Love both of y’all!
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Great interview. Thanks to the both of you.
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Hi Becket, great show as usual. God bless you!
Thank you! You too!
I am guilty; please hear my confession ; divorced abusive husband, moved in with my boyfriend with my 2 sons . Convicted by the Holy Spirit 2 years in. My boyfriend proposed to me…I accepted but lived a celibate life till we married, my idea ( I hoped) . 16 years later no marriage no intimacy, we lived as roommates, my sons moved out, just John and I till he past away by suicide this past November. I am so sad, confused and praying for Grace and healing 🙏
Oh dear one, all lives are a train wreck. Jesus came for the broken. He can restore the years lost. Throw yourself into God's ways...read the word and pray DAILY 🙏 🤲 Find a Bible believing church and go! Cry out to God, repent and walk with God.... And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.
@@marydickey3404 thank you so much for your encouraging words! God is so good, I trust Him to see me through. I joined a grief group and found a Bible believing church all in the same place!!! Less of me, more of Him!!!
I will Pray for You Friend 🙏
@@D.W.C935 thank you very much, God bless you 🙏❤️
Epic crossover, I'll definitely watch this later
Thank for addressing the “what to do when your child comes out” question. It seems to that despite seemingly good intentions, scriptural “whack-a-mole” response to a son or daughter in that first moment is deeply self-serving to parents: parents hurt and they want to stop it.
Outstanding podcast - thank you, Sean and Becket, for your godly and thoughtful insights!
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Great interview! Sean gi es such clear arguments and makes the Biblical point of view so easy to grasp
Love the way you explain LOVE!! Worldly love and God Love not the same ❤️
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Good show 👏 Thank you to you both!
Thank you too!
Love "Reframe . . . how we understand freedom."
That is super insightful about the whole "excitement" element of cohabitating that Beckett bring up!
I learn a lot through both of you!
Beautiful point re: porn. 👏 I also remember reading research that suggested that those that watch it are more likely to agree with extremely lenient penalties for perpetrators of rape - e.g. short & suspended sentences. 🥺💔😥
Thank you so very much😊💛!
going to use some of these definition with young families outreach at our church thanks for the interview
So beautifully explained!
Love both of you ! Subscribed to both your channels! 💕
The Alanis Morissette song is a perfect example! How this act outside of marriage, completely had her in firstly obsession of the guy, and the angst of emotional torture in remembrance of how “ they were” and how she hopes he is in the same mindset about her!! The song is truly a picture of the consequences that our loving Father wants us to avoid, and protect us from! I have to say she was and is quite the storyteller in her lyrics! Love you, Becket!
I LOVE ❤️ this.🙌🏼
So important!
Hello Mr. Cook. Huge fan of your show, and I always learn so much watching. My question concerns the comment at the beginning of the discussion about if everyone in a relationship lived by the biblical rules of monogamy, thereby eliminating STD's, promiscuity, adultery, etc...I don't necessarily believe that's true because by nature we are sinners and essentially want to have our desires met that are in opposition of God. The reason for Christ is that we were unable to follow God's law of obedience so if most of us chose to live by Christ's standards of marriage, we as sinners would still sin. Thank you again for your show.
What a GREAT EPISODE!
I love how you tackle issues that are now never brought up in church. For years the purity culture just made it popular to say "no", there was little to no discussions about the biblical view of sex and what it all really meant and of course that movement didn't last. Thank you for these videos.
Please pray for our South African schools.
Up until now our country and schools (just like America) was built upon Christian values and principals. But in the last few months there has been a lot of pressure to change our sex Ed (including gender types etc) in schools from young grades as well as a lot of noise about the gay movement. Yesterday I also saw an article to change the religious bill to not allow Christian (or religious) schools to live out or teach what the Bible says (mostly because of not supporting gay lifestyle). Where on earth will we be able to send our kids?! if not even a school you hope aligns with your values, now looks like any other school.
Why not focus on parents parenting well, why not focus on fathers that's missing (or who do not know how to be a father) in the household, why not focus on affirming a boy's identity and a girl's identity so that they don't need to wonder about their gender. why not focus on getting porn and sex films/ads out of our media so that sex is not the biggest issue in your life.
We need God, not sex or any other non sense thing we try to think up to make up our identity.
One of the primary reasons we decided to homeschool. Praying for all the kids in the SA school system.
You will have to form a private school.
Love pertains to how things are said as well as what is said ('speaking the truth in love').
Sometimes our culture gets it right and sometimes we get it wrong. I think it is just as important to recognize it when our culture gets it right. It can be tempting to become contrarian and condemn the good with the bad. But consider how Paul seeks to find a positive point of connection in his sermon on Mars hill.
Sean. You are amazing.
I like you too Becket.
One of my favorite books of all time...More than a Carpenter....Josh McDowell..
The definition is Ephesians is 'as Christ loved the church - laying down his life'. This is way more than protect and provide.
Wise words!... As allways, thanks you!
Love and sex are powerfull things, and young kids not allways understands it.
Our pop culture doesn't help too.
As I was listening I remember a movie with Michael Fassbender, called " Shame", because in it his sex addiction was a simpton of something very bad that traumatised him. Beneath that addiction was a seak for help, for love that he never accomplish.
His road to perdition, in the end will teach him he was wrong, but at what cost...
Excellent
Awesome Talk! 😊
Your comment about not realising that you had so many emotional scars is so relevant to all of us who are post sexual revolution. in my youth I thought my hurts were my particular failures. My daughters generation sees young girls (under age) having sex before they are emotionally ready and coping with hurt and rejection by young boys who are not emotionally mature enough to handle a complex act - the giving of one’s body to another. That act requires circumstances of trust and respect - a trust and respect that is for life. That is, marriage. BTW your Dad is the best! Nailing the windows shut!