Yep! I guess I would have the Disorganized/Fearful Avoidant attachment style. But, I resonated more with the astrological interpretation. I've realized this since I started my awakening journey and began to get more into astrology. I realized I have a lot of difficult placements, particularly around my love nature. My natal Venus is in it's fall in Virgo, in my 12th house, and also in a square to Neptune. This explained my years of idealizing guys and romance. It also explained why I was not every comfortable showing my love nature outwardly (or even fully understanding it), and why I wanted love (the idealized version) but also stayed away from it because it was better and safer to have it in my fantasies than to actually have it in reality. This is where the limerance I struggle with came into play. Added to this that my natal Venus in Virgo squares my natal Mars in Sagittarius - adding to the confusion. I want stability and reliability in love but also get bored and want freedom. So I want you close, but when you get close, I feel stifled and want to run away. I do believe that our experiences shape how these natal traits form, and that is why I absolutely know I chose my mom and the environment precisely to activate these wounds so I could heal them. I was told by a healer that I am here to heal my female family line and the way they related to men, which I knew on some level. So the pieces all aligned to highlight all of this wounding in an unmistakable way to make me start seeing myself and the women in my family clearly so I could heal this wound around men and love in general.
This is an interesting thing to consider. Like many things 'psychological, it is probably some level of combination of 'nature' (natal chart design) and nurture (how your caregivers when young didn't meet your core needs). Would love to see an astrological analysis of the avoidant attachment types natal chart as well (dismissive vs disorganized/fearful). Seems to be a lot more of those around these days too... I would argue that not everything involved with being anything other than 100% self-dependence is the dreaded "co-dependence". Healthy human relationships does have some level of "inter-dependence" on other humans. More along the lines of "United We Stand, Divided We Fall"
Interesting. I personally have a 2nd house Taurus Moon, and I have a BAD anxious attachment style. But I like the idea of various things like attachment style, love language, and even things like ADD being caused by astrology. I often look for these kinds of patterns. I’m also a Sagittarius, BUT… I have a lot of Scorpio, including Mars in Scorpio, which might actually be the cause of the anxious attachment. Water signs in general could be a strong contributor. Anyway, thanks for the video and intriguing info.
Yep! I guess I would have the Disorganized/Fearful Avoidant attachment style. But, I resonated more with the astrological interpretation. I've realized this since I started my awakening journey and began to get more into astrology. I realized I have a lot of difficult placements, particularly around my love nature. My natal Venus is in it's fall in Virgo, in my 12th house, and also in a square to Neptune. This explained my years of idealizing guys and romance. It also explained why I was not every comfortable showing my love nature outwardly (or even fully understanding it), and why I wanted love (the idealized version) but also stayed away from it because it was better and safer to have it in my fantasies than to actually have it in reality. This is where the limerance I struggle with came into play. Added to this that my natal Venus in Virgo squares my natal Mars in Sagittarius - adding to the confusion. I want stability and reliability in love but also get bored and want freedom. So I want you close, but when you get close, I feel stifled and want to run away.
I do believe that our experiences shape how these natal traits form, and that is why I absolutely know I chose my mom and the environment precisely to activate these wounds so I could heal them. I was told by a healer that I am here to heal my female family line and the way they related to men, which I knew on some level. So the pieces all aligned to highlight all of this wounding in an unmistakable way to make me start seeing myself and the women in my family clearly so I could heal this wound around men and love in general.
This is an interesting thing to consider. Like many things 'psychological, it is probably some level of combination of 'nature' (natal chart design) and nurture (how your caregivers when young didn't meet your core needs). Would love to see an astrological analysis of the avoidant attachment types natal chart as well (dismissive vs disorganized/fearful). Seems to be a lot more of those around these days too... I would argue that not everything involved with being anything other than 100% self-dependence is the dreaded "co-dependence". Healthy human relationships does have some level of "inter-dependence" on other humans. More along the lines of "United We Stand, Divided We Fall"
Interesting. I personally have a 2nd house Taurus Moon, and I have a BAD anxious attachment style. But I like the idea of various things like attachment style, love language, and even things like ADD being caused by astrology. I often look for these kinds of patterns.
I’m also a Sagittarius, BUT… I have a lot of Scorpio, including Mars in Scorpio, which might actually be the cause of the anxious attachment. Water signs in general could be a strong contributor. Anyway, thanks for the video and intriguing info.
Aries sun cancer moon in 7th house .what is your rising ?