15 Things That Weigh More the Longer You Carry Them

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  • Sometimes what drags us down isn’t a bunch of things in a closet. It’s what’s going on inside us. Feelings and worries can weigh a lot, and the longer you carry them, the heavier they get.
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Комментарии • 161

  • @micheleohmer4117
    @micheleohmer4117 7 месяцев назад +254

    15 Things that weigh more, the longer you carry them:
    1. Unforgiveness
    2. Debt
    3. Pride
    4. A negative self-image
    5. Perfectionism
    6. Fear of Failure
    7. Procrastination
    8. Regret
    9. Jealousy
    10. Social Comparisons
    11. Negativity
    12. Unfullfiling Relationships
    13. Guilt and Shame
    14. Unresolved Conflict
    15. Need to be right

  • @BethGrantDeRoos
    @BethGrantDeRoos 7 месяцев назад +160

    Joshua this was a 5⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ video. Once when I was a kid, I was holding a grudge against a girl who had been mean to me. My Dad noticed something was wrong and when I told him what was going on and he saw I was holding a grudge he told me that holding a grudge was like letting someone live rent free in my head....

  • @valerierogers9609
    @valerierogers9609 7 месяцев назад +46

    It's never too late to seek a new world for ourselves - on the inside and out.

  • @diananore1368
    @diananore1368 7 месяцев назад +11

    I’m in my 60’s and a quote I found in my 20’s has been in my psyche and a motivational phrase I recall frequently. “ Nothing is so exhausting as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task”. Not even sure the source but I had a sign on my desk for years with that quote. I no longer need the sign.

  • @dianahake1544
    @dianahake1544 7 месяцев назад +45

    Joshua I love the way God is using you to help others. Love this!

  • @sunshine3914
    @sunshine3914 7 месяцев назад +18

    I’d say that negative self image comes from social comparisons, & a lot of the time, perfectionism. Be grateful with your uniqueness & everything that serves you well.

  • @GratefulDeb270
    @GratefulDeb270 7 месяцев назад +16

    I love Jack Kornfield’s 3 way forgiveness: ways I’ve harmed others, ways I’ve harmed myself & ways others have harmed me. Such a relief to release these! Ty ❤

  • @saratahmasebi2121
    @saratahmasebi2121 7 месяцев назад +6

    There are times when you think you know what the problem is... but you just need to hear it from someone else. Just want to say, thank you🙏🏼

  • @kakylong2
    @kakylong2 7 месяцев назад +34

    Joshua, Wow! Being a perfectionist & always right are 2 really big ones I struggle with. A few yrs ago, I realized during a conversation with someone that I had to be right. My Hubby pointed it out to me later & that's when I realized it was an issue. I have strived to back down & just keep my mouth shut because at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter. My struggle to be a perfectionist I'm still working on. 🤪

    • @Hillside-Hive
      @Hillside-Hive 7 месяцев назад +6

      Often it's a need to control that shows up as being right or perfection. Stinks- I'm the same!! I find that it rears its head when my world is out of control in some way. Calling out the unsettle helps me reign it back in.

  • @user-hw9vf4pl9s
    @user-hw9vf4pl9s 7 месяцев назад +22

    Your messages every week always resonate, this one in particular as I need to let go of the anger I have toward family members who have hurt me so badly, the fact is they don't care, never will and I have to move forward and save myself. Thank you for your Friday videos they help so many people!

  • @deborahcaldwell9775
    @deborahcaldwell9775 7 месяцев назад +6

    When looking at others, the need to be right is easy to spot. However, I think it’s harder to spot this detrimental characteristic in one’s own self.

  • @malihagarden7062
    @malihagarden7062 7 месяцев назад +6

    I cannot tell you how timely your message came to me. I’ll watch this video many more times to deal with the turmoil I’m going through right now. Thank you Joshua. 🙏

  • @kimking3466
    @kimking3466 7 месяцев назад +28

    Thank you, Joshua! I needed this reminder today. I have worked through some of these things, I am making progress on others, and I do feel more freedom and peace. God bless you and your family!

  • @sillybeeful
    @sillybeeful 7 месяцев назад +3

    Me..me….me me me. Oh heavens I’ve got some work ahead of Me. Thank you for your wisdom Joshua 🙏🏼

  • @MrsBullfinch
    @MrsBullfinch 7 месяцев назад +6

    Wise words. I know that doing things that I have put off really does remove the clutter in my head. I agree with all the other points too. Thank you.

  • @michelletucker6790
    @michelletucker6790 7 месяцев назад +10

    Wow. Thank you for this message. I really needed to hear these! Sometimes, I feel like there is more to my simplifying/decluttering journey than just physical stuff - I think this video covers it.

  • @darrellborland119
    @darrellborland119 7 месяцев назад +4

    Just found your channel....Perfectionism....a tough one with adhd/ptsd issues...but worth the battle. Thanks and subscribed.

  • @MyVanlifeChronicles
    @MyVanlifeChronicles 7 месяцев назад +15

    Thank you Joshua. I’ve recently moved internationally and even though I thought I minimalised down, I received my shipment and realised I don’t need even half now. Thank you for your reminders here and this is part of minimalising too…our mind, heart and soul. Great points and they helped remind me I have more work to do. Love this and thanks for this video. It helped all who watch.

  • @janetfuller1900
    @janetfuller1900 7 месяцев назад +5

    A good episode. Whenever I am bothered by any one of these I pause and ask myself why is this bothering me and what can I do to make it better? Be honest with yourself and others.

    • @tinaanderson9186
      @tinaanderson9186 7 месяцев назад +2

      Love this!! Thank You!! I’m writing it down and placing it where I’ll see it everyday!!! 👍🏻❤️

  • @patriciatarallo628
    @patriciatarallo628 7 месяцев назад +11

    WOW! What a great video for this week! I definitely resonated with a few of the things you mentioned, but I have been working on bettering myself for so long. I have made some great progress and fee proud of that and feel like a better person over all, although I strive to be better every day, it's work , but worth it! I'm so glad you are on You Tube as i have stopped using Facebook , I was following your page on Facebook, but left Facebook , it just became such an unbearable place to be for me. So I look forward to the weekly videos here on You Tube!

  • @MsDoglover02
    @MsDoglover02 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you! I was looking forward to your post today, and it was powerful!

  • @littlenomadgirl
    @littlenomadgirl 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for sharing this video 💛 I feel like letting go of these things feels so much lighter than any physical decluttering! ☺️

  • @sophiaiswisdom1
    @sophiaiswisdom1 7 месяцев назад +1

    Sometimes I have struggled in my life feeling like I am not heard by others and that is where perfectionism and needing to be right was important to be. I'm working on being better by not letting that beat up my ego

  • @aleithea2715
    @aleithea2715 7 месяцев назад +2

    Joshua, I can always depend on you to produce a much needed video. I reckon that a large number of people will benefit from this one. Thanks.

  • @karenblackwell8465
    @karenblackwell8465 6 месяцев назад +1

    What a beautiful list and a life-changing strategy. Thank you Joshua!

  • @hbrws813
    @hbrws813 7 месяцев назад +5

    Powerful!! This message will free a lot of people!!

  • @maryhoyt2609
    @maryhoyt2609 6 месяцев назад +2

    Wow-you just nailed all the reasons I am so unhappy and dissatified I am with my life. Thank you for providing light and hope to all of us who battle with these feelings. May God bless you as richly as you have blessed us. ❤

    • @JoshuaBecker
      @JoshuaBecker  6 месяцев назад +2

      Glad it was helpful to you. Thank you for watching and sharing.

  • @nicoler9522
    @nicoler9522 7 месяцев назад +1

    Great video. I struggle with most of these. No wonder I'm exhausted all the time! Thank you for sharing.

  • @anitacox651
    @anitacox651 Месяц назад

    Excellent message today! Broken down and highlighted without “preaching at” and it all ade so much sense.

  • @barbaradelira6790
    @barbaradelira6790 7 месяцев назад +4

    This is powerful! I need to work on several of these things. Perfection & procrastination especially.

  • @DG-pu1lp
    @DG-pu1lp 7 месяцев назад +5

    I look forward to these thoughts each week, thank you.

  • @DianEnglish56
    @DianEnglish56 7 месяцев назад +6

    Good advice as always! Thanks for the light you shed on so many things!

  • @juliekonigskind6434
    @juliekonigskind6434 7 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you so much dear Joshua for this powerful message. It is so true and a beautiful reminder to look beyond the stuff. Living peacefully with ourselves, our neighbours and our belongings, I think that’s what most of us truly desire.

  • @catherinemacapagal1640
    @catherinemacapagal1640 7 месяцев назад +9

    Thanks a lot for this week’s vlog Joshua. All of the 15 things you mentioned indeed weigh down on us. I feel like I will view this over and over again. It’s like I am in a spiritual deepening retreat. 🙏 May God continue to bless you as you bless others. 🙏

  • @cheraybisaya
    @cheraybisaya 7 месяцев назад +1

    Indeed! I always cling to our Dear God to clear my busy mind & the best is lift everything to HIM, he never fails:) Thank you for this wonderful message!

  • @joybilledo5185
    @joybilledo5185 7 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you so much for your inspirational videos Joshua. This video hits the nail on the head. I often watch & listen to you & often times on repeat bc it resonates so much with my life. Sometimes all the unnecessary distractions keep us from focusing on what really matters the most in life.

  • @mireillem6203
    @mireillem6203 7 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you, a great video. I will rewatch this one again for sure. I love the succinctness of the descriptions ... simple but effective.

  • @bobbijonichols6786
    @bobbijonichols6786 7 месяцев назад +6

    Needed this video today. Thank you for sharing these 15 weigh-down things. ❤your vlogs

  • @mc5366
    @mc5366 7 месяцев назад +3

    Timely message Joshua, thank you for this!

  • @01Paulsgirl
    @01Paulsgirl 7 месяцев назад +1

    Wise, as usual. I most appreciated the solution to jealousy about focusing our energies on what we already have. I don't see myself as jealous, usually, but when you said that, I realized I have areas of coveting that I need to address. And the unresolved conflict? Prayers for wisdom, courage, and God-led opportunity are appreciated. Thanks, as always!

  • @mathiaskielholz
    @mathiaskielholz 7 месяцев назад +1

    An uplifting morning prayer (here in Switzerland) and a beautifully broadening conception of minimalism

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey9853 7 месяцев назад +5

    Love Your Teachings !!!❤

    • @JoshuaBecker
      @JoshuaBecker  7 месяцев назад +1

      You are very kind, thank you.

  • @lilylee5924
    @lilylee5924 3 месяца назад

    Thank you , you have stated most of what we have currently or have experienced .The only problem is resolving it.People have to want to change depending on each individual's personality or set mindset.

  • @marywhyte8484
    @marywhyte8484 7 месяцев назад +1

    Great video! Lots of things to let go of, but communicated in a peaceful, encouraging way. Thanks!
    One request: could you turn your audio up louder in your videos? Thanks!

  • @SteveTTTT
    @SteveTTTT 7 месяцев назад +4

    You always have good, common sense advice. Thank you

  • @juliabond7764
    @juliabond7764 7 месяцев назад

    Perfect reminders!! Thank you 💙

  • @life.re-defined
    @life.re-defined 7 месяцев назад +2

    Lovely message Joshua.

  • @undiagnosticonotedefine1125
    @undiagnosticonotedefine1125 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for this video, Joshua!

  • @janicesanders8631
    @janicesanders8631 3 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for this wonderful video. My burden is regret and debt. Hopefully this year I can turn this around!

  • @bonniehafeman9757
    @bonniehafeman9757 7 месяцев назад

    Good message Joshua. Thanks. Amen.

  • @CatladyActionFigure
    @CatladyActionFigure 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Joshua

  • @user-gu9ym5xo7m
    @user-gu9ym5xo7m 7 месяцев назад

    Great message that we all need to hear! Thank you!

  • @rebeccamapes1157
    @rebeccamapes1157 7 месяцев назад +3

    Great message.

  • @suzannehaag4899
    @suzannehaag4899 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you! I needed every one of these.

  • @marjoriehall9984
    @marjoriehall9984 7 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you! Truly enjoy your videos.

  • @francescam.e.1884
    @francescam.e.1884 7 месяцев назад

    Great list! Thank you for sharing this video.

  • @rosali_ilovestamping
    @rosali_ilovestamping 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for all of your videos, Joshua!

  • @kimprice1864
    @kimprice1864 7 месяцев назад

    Brilliant! Shared with most of my friends and family. 💓 Thank you.😘

  • @andrewellis7656
    @andrewellis7656 7 месяцев назад +2

    WOW - you hit the nail on every item. Thanks.

  • @minimalistsmanaged
    @minimalistsmanaged 7 месяцев назад +8

    Wonderful message ❤ Forgiveness is so important for a happy, fullfilled life ❤ This video couldn't have come at a better time for me actually - thank you for sharing your wisdom Joshua :) It's deeply appreciated ❤️

  • @user-hi5ph8pb1x
    @user-hi5ph8pb1x 7 месяцев назад +1

    Your videos always are timed perfectly with certain situations of my life. Thank you!

  • @paula3031
    @paula3031 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you! I will be listening to this again!

  • @user-xx6hs2qv3s
    @user-xx6hs2qv3s 7 месяцев назад

    Excellent video !! Thank you !!

  • @jocelynrose7911
    @jocelynrose7911 7 месяцев назад

    Good stuff!! Thank you! May God bless you as you bless others.

  • @imtherapycat
    @imtherapycat 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you so much for this video. Some of these definitely resonate with me, and I am inspired to lessen the burden moving forward!

  • @ashleylitebrite6971
    @ashleylitebrite6971 7 месяцев назад +3

    Great reminders. Thanks

  • @jessicamast5352
    @jessicamast5352 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this helpful video!!

  • @joidavis5210
    @joidavis5210 6 месяцев назад

    This is such a good list, thanks for sharing Joshua!

  • @EllaHablaSpanglish
    @EllaHablaSpanglish 7 месяцев назад

    All of these are so true! Thank you!

  • @ritagoedecke6574
    @ritagoedecke6574 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you Joshua, I love your channel.

  • @chryslmrs
    @chryslmrs 7 месяцев назад +2

    Merci Joshua 🙏🏻, chacune de vos vidéos est un rayon de soleil dans ma semaine.

  • @georgiaturner8210
    @georgiaturner8210 7 месяцев назад +2

    Such a good reminder thank you

  • @florestelarendon3175
    @florestelarendon3175 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you.

  • @kathleensheeks8440
    @kathleensheeks8440 5 месяцев назад

    Yes, I needed this conversation. Thank you

  • @honorbailey4713
    @honorbailey4713 7 месяцев назад

    Just great 💪🏻keep the great advice coming….what a happier better world we would live in if everybody took that advice.

  • @LorreneRomanic
    @LorreneRomanic 7 месяцев назад

    Such great points! Thanks Joshua

  • @rebekahrauschenberger7295
    @rebekahrauschenberger7295 5 месяцев назад

    Wow. Life has just felt so heavy lately. It's hard to put one foot in front of the other to make headway in any direction. Although the big situational things aren't even in this list, having a few of the things I have carried for decades pointed out makes it logical that when the big stuff was piled on top, I feel immobilized. Thank you as always, Joshua, for illuminating what is right in front of us and shining a light on the pathway out.

  • @theresacurrin6395
    @theresacurrin6395 7 месяцев назад

    Powerful message! Thanks so much for sharing ❤. I have some work to do!

  • @ginatheng9506
    @ginatheng9506 7 месяцев назад

    Ordering yr book now. Thank you ❤

  • @amyhilger2919
    @amyhilger2919 7 месяцев назад

    Wonderful & wise video; thank you! ❤

  • @sallycroft2191
    @sallycroft2191 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you! This had given me 4 things to work on in 2024. It was most helpful to list what these things were and how to work on them. 😂

  • @claricethomas-hasty7402
    @claricethomas-hasty7402 6 месяцев назад

    Amen and Thank You so much for this Video

  • @sonkey1
    @sonkey1 5 месяцев назад

    What a wonderful message. Thank you Joshua!

  • @curri76_00
    @curri76_00 7 месяцев назад +1

    Great advice!

  • @Granefran
    @Granefran 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks

  • @michelleg1905
    @michelleg1905 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for the great video! Clutter is not just physical 🤓

  • @christinegameel4285
    @christinegameel4285 9 дней назад

    Thank you so much Joshua for this video

  • @kikisiegers
    @kikisiegers 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your message kind sir 😊

  • @tanyajohnston8262
    @tanyajohnston8262 7 месяцев назад

    I so enjoy our videos and insight. Thank you

  • @shirleygeorge6351
    @shirleygeorge6351 7 месяцев назад

    Absolutely priceless! Thank you Joshua😊

  • @audreycasassa1683
    @audreycasassa1683 7 месяцев назад

    I will save this and listen to it over and over!!❤

  • @kimberlyg.3820
    @kimberlyg.3820 7 месяцев назад

    What a great video- thank you ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @eliseninesling6913
    @eliseninesling6913 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing this wisdom.

  • @laurasganga2671
    @laurasganga2671 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you

  • @brendasparks6234
    @brendasparks6234 7 месяцев назад

    Amazing truth. Thank you for sharing

  • @chezelleconroy2951
    @chezelleconroy2951 7 месяцев назад

    I absolutely always appreciate your wisdom.

  • @daniellecarney1487
    @daniellecarney1487 7 месяцев назад

    Spot on, Joshua. Mic 🎤 drop!

  • @Lmarshall04
    @Lmarshall04 6 месяцев назад

    I believe these areas of letting go are way more valuable than decluttering physical objects (however, I love doing that also). I love that your videos are to the point and concise. Thank you for all that you do!❤️

  • @mariabastante4253
    @mariabastante4253 7 месяцев назад

    thank you!

  • @donnawiseman9311
    @donnawiseman9311 7 месяцев назад

    Wow! You are so right! In every one! Thanks!