Venting Makes It Worse

Welcome back to the channel! I'm Jesse Coomer, and in today's video, we're diving into some surprising research about venting. You know, that thing we all do when we're upset and need to unload on a friend? Well, it turns out, venting might be causing more harm than good. We'll explore why this is and how to approach these aspects of life more constructively.
While it might feel good in the moment, research shows that constantly rehashing negative emotions reinforces them, making us more prone to negativity. Instead of venting, we should aim for conscious reappraisal, reframing situations in a more positive light.
We'll cover three constructive alternatives to venting:
Cognitive Reappraisal: Learn to frame situations in a way that reduces suffering and fosters a positive outlook.
Mindfulness and Journaling: Use structured thinking to get your thoughts out without falling into negative feedback loops.
Constructive Conversations: Seek out friends who can help you reframe your thinking and avoid reinforcing negativity.
Bonus Tip: Get to Know Yourself Better: Understanding your unconscious processes and using techniques like breath work can help interrupt negative feedback loops.
Join us as we explore these strategies and improve our emotional well-being. Thanks to Magic Mind for sponsoring this video, and a shoutout to our Patreon community, The Breath Club. Don't forget to check out the links below for more information.
How do you feel about venting? Is it something you struggle with? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you next week!
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Expressing positive emotions fosters connection and well-being, while suppressing them can result in missed opportunities for deeper relationships. Suppressing negative emotions, however, can sometimes prevent unnecessary conflict and support relationship building. Research supports that expressing positivity enhances well-being and relationships, while suppressing negativity might not significantly impact satisfaction.
Fernandes, M. A., & Tone, E. B. (2021). A systematic review and meta-analysis of the association between expressive suppression and positive affect. Clinical Psychology Review, 88, 102068. doi.org/10.101...
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Jesse Coomer stands as a leading authority in the realm of breathwork, renowned for his contributions to the field. As the founder of the Breathwork//Tactics program, he provides first responders with scientifically validated techniques for regulating the nervous system. Coomer is the esteemed author of "A Practical Guide to Breathwork" and "The Language of Breath." Additionally, he serves as the lead faculty at The Language of Breath Breathworker School, where he imparts world-class training to aspiring breath coaches. His expertise extends to being a Human Performance Specialist and a sought-after speaker, further solidifying his reputation as a breathwork expert.
Coomer has been a leading professional int he world of breathwork and cold exposure training since 2016 and is a voice of practicality in the world of health and mental fitness on his RUclips Channel.
He now leads workshops, lectures, and training sessions around the USA while training athletes, CEOs, first responders, military, and people from every walk of life who seek to optimize their performance, reduce their anxiety levels, and live a healthier life.
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[@Mooseman2]

Thanks for this. It especially helped to connect venting to positivity vs negativity, journaling/planning, and getting to know yourself more fully.

[@ELDogStar]

This was very interesting.
I can apply it so fully to my life.

[@JesseCoomer]

Yes!

[@PerformanceThroughHealth]

I very much agree here Jesse. I see lots of men's workshops doing this believe we need to go back to our 'Primal' urges but that's not going to work since it doesn't allow us to relate to how Modern day society works. Another thing I see people doing 'Shadow work' believing and inferring that the shadow is a negative aspect to the psyche. Which just means that someone is going to look inside for their flaws and guess what will pop up?? Some kind of image of themselve being negative regardless of if its true. You find what you're seeking for.
Your preferred options are a much better approach. Especially number 3. Since most of the time we are anger is because a need is not being met, whether thats because of our own lack of action or because of not feeling seen or heard. We really need to learn how to relate to each other much better and to be able to have these honest and true conversations.

[@JesseCoomer]

Thank you for your thoughts here, Martin! I always appreciate your insights