@Unknown Soldier What separates them from any other actor? Every actor plays a persona on stage. But you have no proof that they are playing a persona here.
@Unknown Soldier That is very narrow minded and judgmental of you to say. Just because someone chose a different lifestyle than what is considered the "social norm" you call them fake and distrust them?
The conversation about strength and being strong reminded me of this from Tao Te Ching : A man is born gentle and weak. At his death he is hard and stiff. Green plants are tender and filled with sap. At their death they are withered and dry. Therefore the stiff and unbending is the disciple of death. The gentle and yielding is the disciple of life. Thus an army without flexibility never wins a battle. A tree that is unbending is easily broken. The hard and strong will fall. The soft and weak will overcome.
A universal theme with these interviews with streamers I’m sensing is just how soul crushing modern society can be. The dark side of the internet, fundamental changes in human interaction and other things that lead to anxiety, depression, etc. It’s really sad but I’m glad there’s people like Dr. K helping us through super unique issues like these.
@@futavadumnezo I was also diagnosed with depression within the last six months and am doing counseling and medication. It’s making a world of a difference for me! If streaming is therapeutic for you then do whatever it takes to get you through every day.
You have to remember that in these conversations people are trying to get help with subjets they struggle with. So in almost every interview, there is hurt etc. These people live in modern society in a particularly unnatural situation, that's bound to hurt. Remember that modern society and internet brought a ton of positive to a ton of people.
Pre-modern society was also soul crushing. Societies before that, even more soul crushing. Then there was a few less soul crushing societies, but then before that; the MOST crushingest of societies. It's almost like scapegoating the internet for the soul crushing nature of existence is more a sign of the dark side of fundamental misattribution.
@@komudiepue bro its literally this like i get people being so "doomsday" about modern times and im like looking back at the past ... where would you want to go back to? like 50 years ago when there were less opportunities for people in relation to jobs (like things like social media really has opened up a lot). and not to be "tokeny" but even for minorities its not perfect by any means but way more opportunities for us and just the treatment (again is not perfect and still a long way to go in some respects) but compare that to pre-modern society. Even things like mental health and the focus on that is much much higher. it's obs by no means perfect but when i see the whole "these times suck" rhetoric on the internet i think its such a short-sighted statement.
@@seignee easy to clutter the video with intrusive ads etc. They changed it to cards, which pop up in the ℹ️ in the top right, which is better imo. Still have outro vids etc built in
I love the way Dr. K approaches people in conversations. "Is it okay if I..." . I just love that he is always asking permission before doing and saying things.
It’s a tactic used for trust… every psychiatrist uses it… and rightfully so! Should always slide in moments of respect, trust and vulnerability towards a patient or whatever. Helps them be more comfortable.
Sasha is a fascinating interviewee. She is obviously well-known for her previous career, but this has illustrated that she is a very intelligent person. Smart, sharp, energetic, and very charismatic. The person in this interview is not just a pretty face, she has a genuine curiosity and passion for life that is very admirable to me. And her sense of humor is quite infectious as well! She is the kind of person I'd love to just talk to for an hour, I think it would be a great experience.
This might sound silly but I’ve been a fan since I saw her “Text Etc” appearance that the old machinima crew did. You gotta love how well she has reclaimed her image. If kind people can withstand all the BS they can thrive.
Her laughing is so endearing. She's like someone cool and fun to hang out with. About a few minutes in, I forgot I was watching and listening to Sasha Grey as I knew growing up. I was listening to a real person - something that we tend to forget when the industry dehumanises people like her.
This is an aexcellent interview and it genuienly demonstrates the resilence of Sasha, how she manged to stand on her feet again given all the odds that she faced is just fascinating. I strongly encourage her to make her own series to help people overcoming their pornography addiction by exposing the truth behind this industry, I mean who would be a better and more trustworthy candidate than someone who knows the industry first hand, I genuienly hope that Sasha will consider this.
The discussion of how people change when they are on camera reminds me of Jean-Paul Sartre's theory of "the gaze." Basically, the awareness that someone else is observing us is a very powerful psychological force. Being watched by others is what he was referring to when he made his famous quote, "Hell is other people."
@@is-ness I don't know if that is an argument against the gaze. There may be nothing more powerful at making us aware of our own thoughts than knowing we are being observed.
man i see myself in her so much - the overworking, the overwhelm, the feeling the pain of everyone and not being able to help crying and wanting to get away from it ❤ i'm terrible at being responsible for myself too - this video has helped a lot, thankyou
She has spoken out about this on many occasions and had to fight for way too many years because of being in porn industry. She’s such a great person and very relatable in many ways. She made a mistake and trying to change her future.
It was not a mistake. She was greedy and took the shortcut. And now she is still trying to get easy money and fame without really working. People are so gullible when a pretty woman talk, it's ridiculous.
Its so cool to see how far Sasha's come and learn about her thought process; always had a respect for her, now even more elevated through this interview. Thank you for being open about your problems, as well as Dr. K as always, being the person who through him, we learn a lot.
7:509:50 life advice, 'therapy' 11:20 19:4022:37 mask, ur actually leaving out the best part of yourself 26:40 what they need to hear, transparent, authentic 45:5047:15 what makes u feel u have to do sm? 58:50 lack of security > take as much as u can > overwhelmed 1:03:30 1:08:10 shadowban, different standards 1:09:30 1:10:17 accepting ppl 1:19:30 devaluing own 1:21:50 1:22:57 wallowing self pity, hard to be around 1:24:20 pushing down, not dealing w 1:24:50 why do you have to be so strong?.. 1:25:10 dam ur good! aw dislike pity 1:28:15 vs respect 1:31:10 u vs others, different circumstances 1:34:20 1:36:20 in becoming strong, u had to grow up 1:37:42 ur story isnt just one of triumph, its struggle 1:39:30 are we allowed to feel for u? accepting compassion 1:40:30 1:41:30 for how much longer? if not dealt w 1:43:30 perspective to stay strong.. but i dont think u need to stay strong 1:43:45 😂 1:48:50 parasocial relationship 1:50:20 understanding someone who doesnt w boundaries 1:53:47 where they expect emotional intimacy 1:56:30 1:59:00 2:02:26 on ur half, for community 2:03:50 😂2:04:55 the stronger the parasocial rel. the stronger the user engagement.. 2:05:55 check boxes 2:07:40 2:10:20 2:11:50 bpd
2:20:00 2:24:40 wind 2:26:40 O.O 2:31:50 to pass on opportunities 2:34:00 proc. bc not ready, until everything 'ideal' > fantasy of execution in head, chase for perfection > paralysed in moment 2:35:10 doing it perfectly or not at all, *' it's gonna be so great WHEN i do it' * attached to particular outcome, grieve that perfect outcome (it will suck but its ok) 2:38:00 avoidance procrastination > protective mechanism (from emotional possibility of rejection) 'bad', 'lazy' > diagnosing self w unfixable, cant be dealt w at the end of the day, driven by fear of failure, trying to control circumstances to avoid emotion 2:40:20 operational procrastination/ adhd 2:41:40 breaking down task > component parts overwhelmed, task too abstract 2:43:00 get a job > more than 1 part to it 2:44:40 procrast. =/= problem > brain for efficiency, energy investment 2:45:40 pick 3 projects & rotate, bring out interest & excitement 2:46:40 !! dont motivate when its time to stop, demotivate/restrain excitement to cram > burnout 2:48:15 u can have other ppl help/schedule for u 2:50:20 breaks 2:51:30 2:52:40 motivation of crossing off, but running out of steam, restrain ur plate 2:53:47 😂 restraint 2:55:30
First hour "my goodness this is long" 3 hours later "I can do this all day." This is such an amazing interview, really needed this. Hoping for a part 2!
Recently discovered this channel and its videos. I gotta say this is something we need more of! Really cool to see this guy doing such a good job and taking it very seriously. He seems like he has a lot of experience with this and knows what he is doing. This is very helpful and I hope to see this channel grow to big numbers in the future. I wish Dr. K all the best and that he may help a lot of people 💜
biggest takeaway - if you struggle with procrastination and are prone to burnouts, take more frequent breaks, long before you become tired at all (among other things, you will get more and more comfortable/familiar/smooth/strong with the act of starting work)
I just love this interview, I don't think Sasha nor Dr k is going to read my comment but I just wanna say, as a 33yo man, I got a bunch of laughs and almost teared up myself when Sasha got emotional. And also, I think Sasha would've succeded with streaming even if she wasn't famous prior. She got that carisma and genuinity that you so rarely see people have. Thank you so much for this.
This one was particularly relevant to me, with uni assignments to do, feeling overwhelmed not just by work that needs to be done but the state of the world, being motivated but procrastinating, being a vata etc. Thanks Doc
This has to be one of the most emotional interviews for me personally. I completely understand her feeling of being overwhelmed by a sense of empathy. I feel like I can fit myself into the lessons being discussed in this video more than any other interview I've seen yet. One of my favorite moments, exactly 1 hour into the video, I see Dr. K starts to get an interesting and understanding expression as Sasha continues talking about the fear of not having a 9-to-5 job or the security or 1000 people working for her, but she's starting to phrase it in such a wild way, almost like she's always chasing the bleeding edge of her career and could never trade it for being "chained to a desk" (my words, not hers), but also that she's a bit covetous of the security that something like that would provide. More than a "cult leader" though, she's a leader. Like, a real leader that seems to bear the weight of her team and her success and failures. Honestly, I hope Sasha does have a thousand people working for her one day. And I hope she puts good out into the world with it.
I can relate so much to her, I picked up her vibe instantly and already knew this would be gold! Thank you for this interview, it leaves me a bit less feeling I’m battling certain fights alone when it comes down about being a girl and getting a bit more treated as a boy, or as I always look at it, I had the luxury of expressing myself organically without the idea I was a girl, but could just be me in a sense. Now I see a lot of other women around me that seem like they don’t know who they really are, and making friends this way is sometimes hard, but in a way I also carry a lot of guilt, as it felt like I "survived" the system in my own way and they didn’t seem to have that opportunity…
That Vata stuff was so on point it was crazy. Dr.K just explaining everything I struggle with in terms of procrastination. The hardest part though is setting yourself up/personal projects for the "crisis/deadlines" thing.
I had no idea Sasha was the person i would relate most to. We seem exactly the same, we even have the same allergic problems. Very interesting talk Dr. K! Thanks!
Same here! There have been a few talks recently where I related to them, and sort of expected that I might share commonalities. Then she gets on the stream and I relate much more to almost everything she talked about dealing with. Learned so much about myself, this was super helpful! Especially about my Vata dosha and parasocial relationships, having been sort of on both ends of it now (though in a very different role from Sasha).
This comment appears in most of Dr. K's videos. I feel like we relate with almost everyone because almost everyone of us deal with the same issues. (Not exactly the same issues, but you know what I mean...) And the fact that some of these people are "Famous" makes them seem "Different", but they're still people living in the same society as us.
No Offence but I really didn't expect her to come over this intelligent after clicking on this, she's great. For some reason I link "THE" industry is/was in, with... less smart people... Kinda funny... I'm actually the dumb one for making that assumption
Yeah, but even though it's not right, and we should try to fight these stereotypes we form, it's understandable because when you watch porn they always act stupid right? Like "oh stepbrother, I'm stuck in the laundry machine". Your brain can't help but make a connection that what you see on the screen is their real personality and all the depth it has, because that's all you have to base it on. There is probably a lot of other situations you do this in if you think about it, whether it's a youtuber you watch a lot or a movie character.
Asa Akira, AFAIK, programmed her own website back in the day, and quite a few pornstars run businesses. Not saying they're all geniuses, but it's definitely the kind of industry that rewards savvyness.
I think it's because the industry itself is seen as an overall foolish and potentially life destructive decision. A lot of savvier women are going to fare a lot better navigating those challenges but the target recruiting pool is get them while they're young, susceptible to drugs, and unable to recognize a bad film contract.
This video helped me a lot. I have some similarities with Sasha's personality and things like procrastination and the search of perfection in everything I do, so this felt really personal. Great one!
Her popularity definitely carries over from profession to profession, I have also noticed this in my life, in short it doesn't matter what you do in life, if you give it your all you will be at least consistent from job to job(if you like the job more than usually better). So don't be afraid to change professions if you have had enough or don't like you old one, the most cliché but relevant quotes I have ever heard is "change is as good as a holiday" and this is very true.
I really identify with what she was saying about the problems in society right now. It feels like we're falling behind or humanity is going backwards sometimes and it's really hard to care about getting shit done when you're worried about the stability of society and angry about things that can cause you and people you love a lot of harm.
20:58 Dr. K asks Sasha if she is special 22:40 Dr. K suggests that Sasha is not showing the best part of herself 35:43 Dr. K continues the cult jokes 53:45 Sasha shares why she feels overwhelmed 1:01:24 Sasha makes a joke about making her own rules 1:03:45 Dr. K suggests that Sasha is bad at being responsible towards herself 1:23:23 Dr. K asks Sasha when she stopped wallowing in her self-pity 1:29:26 Sasha recalls an important lesson from her dad 1:32:00 Dr. K asks what happened to 14-year-old Sasha 1:38:03 Dr. K talks about the importance of regret 1:58:53 Dr. K explains why some people cross boundaries 1:59:50 Calculated authenticity
Thinking about procrastination as a case of not enough restraint was good to hear. It's something I've personally struggled with for years and I've always thought the motivation was what would make me get things done when I've always been the type to only respond to deadlines set by others to get anything done.
Profound and deeply insightful Dr K.. Yay for Sasha too for being open to such fab support, wisdom and challenge and opening the door to create a new soft spot for her to get relief. I relate to her perspective and to Dr. K's guidance 100%
I love this!! The struggles Sasha has are very very similar to my own. Self enquiry is my thing and I’m very analytical probably being in survival mode a lot but this helped me ask myself the questions asked so understand myself more
What she says about TOS is so true. Literally every streamer I watch spends some noticeable amount of time each stream talking "around" the written rules of twitch and the unwritten rules of cancel culture. This is not normal or healthy.
dude the pandemic practically didn't happen from my perspective. I already didn't go outside or have any friends, it's so fucking alien to me to hear people talk about how isolated they feel and shit cause that's just how I've always felt
I am late to the party the fact this is from a year ago but, this is the very first long duration video I've watched on yt ever, and that I am really enjoying it and definitely learn something from it. She is very smart and a strong-willed individual.
Sasha needs a podcast! Like a legit podcast. Not on RUclips. Old school podcasts are just websites with audio files on them, RUclips cannot fuck with you, Twitter cannot fuck with you, Facebook cannot fuck with you. It’s so valuable when all the major platforms are pandering to religious prudes to go somewhere they can’t mess with you. Discoverability is different, but her brand is huge and Twitter does give you *something* when it comes to promoting this stuff
It’s funny how we forget that we are all human. Though our lives can be completely different paths, I so relate to her issues with many things she had brought up.
What a fascinating personnality. That was a very interesting and warming talk. I'm also a big procrastinator, and have read and searched about it, and tried to manage it more or less fine for a long time now. ANd I still learned smthing new. (I think mine is a mix of operational and avoidant prorcrastiantor, and a Vatha too !) Thanks a lot for making us understand ourselves better, and especially for always giving practical solutions, or ways to cope ... BTW, Sacha, you have beautiful hands (nothing sexual intended here to be clear) ... I'm sure you've been already told that, It doesn't hurt to say it more :)
First time I see procrastination been broken down so well. Precise and transparent description. 100% relatable examples. This is priceless and so far unique. Thank you!
@NolanEP mate its just peds (occams razor)... anyone can overcome their natural biochemistry limits with synthetic help... he (like many others) just layers his psycho bs on top of it [because it feels great to still get gains you would not normally get] while interested parties (i.e. young and mature athletic adults) continue to buy into thinking "oh is that how its done? i'ma copy that person then" until they realise he was full of it (esp. if said party turns to taking peds and ironically become the person they more recently loathed). it would be great to see ol' doc bring this up more than general analysis
@Blaize - H1Z1/CS if you have tried peds you would know... pretty night and day difference since the biochemistry is amplified significantly (esp. in the case of endurance, recovery and strength)... people believe this guy (girl?) more since he is not the stereotypical 'big' roids dude and preaches bs that flanks your typical response (which is always more appealing to defend since 'inversion' is used--look it up)... case in point, no one outside of le tour de france suspected the string bean armstrong [he too wrote a lovely auto bs book that i initially thought 'wow this guy is amazing man he must have been quite mentally strong to withstand the competitive cycling culture (which was extremely political btw; probably still is), he trained his ass off so yeah no surprise he won blah blah blah' to be taking a ridiculous cocktail of peds on a regular basis--dumbass got greedy and paid the price with having to nick off a nut... but in regards to his unprecedented performances there had to be something different 'input' wise going on (same thing in olympic athlete performances [movie: bigger, stronger, faster]; it just MUST be used to even have the possibility of claiming a medal or doing all the bs googins does)--its safe to say that these athletes are doing more harm than good to not only themselves, but to naive young aspirants when they deny taking peds (they have to though to keep their job; its like an engineer denying what most people believe happened to the twin towers and committing to the narrative that the steel beams melted away at the speed of sound lmao), this is in addition to saying that "all you need is a more 'superior' mindset" smdh if only young people were not so gullible [not really going to happen] so its up to the users to come clean, and as a collective to keep their jobs--furthermore, all the bs can stop and more competitive athletes can do their shit guilt free... it will be a case however of who has the 'best chemist' in the darker sense and turn into Formula 1 in terms of who would win stuff... but for the more unsuspecting viewers this would be an exciting prospect (i.e. increase the livelihood of athletes which is a win for everyone involved).
The one thing I find fascinating with all the different conversations about parasocial relationships is that it seems like the streamers talk about this phenomenon like its a relatively new thing in the past couple of years. Speaking as someone who was really into internet/fandom (specifically youtube and content creators) culture as a young teenager back in 2007-2012ish, parasocial relationships were kind of the default on youtube for anyone who was more than a casual viewer. The most popular creators back then (until around 2009-2010ish) were at most around 1-2 million subscribers (and those were very rare), and a ton of them were hovering at much lower sub counts, and a video going "viral" meant more than 10k people saw it. So if you were a regular viewer and commenter who went to a convention/meetup to meet the creator, they'd be able to remember you. I didn't even realize the unevenness of these relationships (even the ones whom actually recognized my username) until I was a young adult in college (2014ish was probably the first time I recognized it). Right around this time, a lot of the stupid big youtubers started breaking sub records, and twitch (rip justin.tv) started really taking off, and since I had kinda fallen off the bandwagon of youtube/internet culture I really started to recognize the signs of parasocial relationships. Even as a no-longer young adult I still struggle a bit with the parasocial relationship with some of the creators I've watched since that time that I still keep up with. Its just fascinating that modern day creators who got big after 2012-2013 just completely don't recognize that us youngins who were some of the first adaptors (and creators too!) of the user-driven content like youtube and later streaming had to really figure this concept out on our own. And I'm glad that these lessons are starting to be spread a lot more widely, so that the newer viewers and fans can learn to set and respect boundaries.
This is why everyone has to be more open to different cultures, especially ancient cultures. I just realized that I am a Vata and Dr. K basically just described me to a T when he spoke about Sasha being Vata. For this insight alone I would have paid thousands 15 years ago and I would not have made so many mistakes in life.
I had no idea who Sasha was, I haven't gone digging to find out who she was, but who she is now seems incredible. What an intelligent, motivated young woman. Fabulous interview, so insightful
I never thought I would be so touched and empathetic with her. And I know this would be pretty alienating to if it reaches you and it won’t probably but this was very insightful and interesting and I hope she get the love and understanding that she deserves and learn to be vulnerable again cause even when she is she’s beautiful and it’s good to have her here. I think her opening up was more valuable and interesting to me than all on her adult videos tbh and made me appreciate her as a person, not as an object for sexual desire or compassion.
Relate so much to the kind of procrastination she described. Worked in retail for most of my adult life and was content in mediocrity, now I work as a case worker for addicts and feel a lot of pressure to meet my job requirements and exceed them due to my past performance.
That neuro-scientific perspective on friend-zoning between the genders was absolutely illuminating. This is the benefit of seeing a counsellor/psychologist/psychiatrist - you get challenged to look at a situation in a completely different way that blows the glass out of your preconceived judgments. This was a great talk. Thank you Sasha for putting yourself out there and Dr. K for your sharing this with us.
1:24:52 ''Why do you have to be so strong?'' WOW. Amazing question. I'm speechless because of how PERFECTLY that question fit the situation. It even hit me right in the guts and made me realize that for me, I have to be strong in order to be weak. But I also have to be weak in order to be strong. A similarity is building muscle. In order for it to grow stronger or even only maintain its strength it needs the be broken down and be temporarily weak for it to grow stronger. You need a dynamic, a roaming/changing balance of strength and weakness. If you're weak for too long or receive an extreme blow you'll get hurt. You can't always be strong since weakness is what causes strength.
The super Varta (is that how it is spelled?) ending was awesome. Perfect way to show a real world example. Sasha seems like a really cool person too, this is one of the best interviews I seen this far for sure. Maybe because I can relate to many of the topics.
Even tho dr K is really giving advice that's suited Sasha, it really helps most of us. I know advice should be taken a grain of salt, but helplessly I feel like it's close to what I've experienced. Is personal advice better than general advice. 'cause personal advice will sure solve your exact problem But general advice would avoid the problem in the first place. Dr K give us a framework to do decide medical, financial advice. Especially from internet because I'm a 20yr old who only search internet for answers and won't talk much about my problems.
I just randomly let this video play without taking a look on the title and I didn't realize until the very end that Dr. K was interviewing Sasha Grey XD
I know EXACTLY the Essential Oil Cult she is talking about because my sister is obsessed with them and got me to sign up and just on the founders wiki page alone you can see how weird and messed up things are. I am very interested in seeing the documentary coming out about it.
2:19:55 - her response to what Dr.K. is saying (although to me his context and statement was pretty obvious) - is just like saying "I've seen a lot of really bad sh*t in this life". I mean she told that explicicly before in the interview, but in that "clarification" I've just thought of the reasons she was asking about it and got shivers. ... and she is visibly relaxed after he confirms "... from consumers perspective"
In college I took an "Abnormal Psychology" class and we went pretty in depth into Ayurvedic principles and honestly learning my Prakriti has helped me so much in balancing my strong Pitta tendencies.
" this is a good time to bring up parasocial relationships " Dr k. *Smiles* because he knows she's avoiding him telling her she doesn't have to be strong
3 hours, who’d have thought Dr.K would last that long with Sasha Grey?
Noice
My mans is a total Chad. No one was surprised by this.
@@Mohammed-um9jp Toit
bravo
Yah you win the comments
That intro snippet with the balls-joke was a perfect selection.
@Unknown Soldier Why do you think she had a horrible lifestyle?
@Unknown Soldier What separates them from any other actor? Every actor plays a persona on stage. But you have no proof that they are playing a persona here.
@Unknown Soldier She was not in the Underworld movie series.
@Unknown Soldier That is very narrow minded and judgmental of you to say. Just because someone chose a different lifestyle than what is considered the "social norm" you call them fake and distrust them?
I'm dying lol
The conversation about strength and being strong reminded me of this from Tao Te Ching :
A man is born gentle and weak.
At his death he is hard and stiff.
Green plants are tender and filled with sap.
At their death they are withered and dry.
Therefore the stiff and unbending is the disciple of death.
The gentle and yielding is the disciple of life.
Thus an army without flexibility never wins a battle.
A tree that is unbending is easily broken.
The hard and strong will fall.
The soft and weak will overcome.
dude
That was beautiful, thank you
Never heard it before and I love it. Thank you
Gg man. Beautiful.
To all who have not heared about his passage before I very fondly recommend you read the Tao Te King. It provides much more wisdom for you to find.
A universal theme with these interviews with streamers I’m sensing is just how soul crushing modern society can be. The dark side of the internet, fundamental changes in human interaction and other things that lead to anxiety, depression, etc. It’s really sad but I’m glad there’s people like Dr. K helping us through super unique issues like these.
I have depression and anxiety and I want to stream hoping it could potentially help
@@futavadumnezo I was also diagnosed with depression within the last six months and am doing counseling and medication. It’s making a world of a difference for me! If streaming is therapeutic for you then do whatever it takes to get you through every day.
You have to remember that in these conversations people are trying to get help with subjets they struggle with.
So in almost every interview, there is hurt etc. These people live in modern society in a particularly unnatural situation, that's bound to hurt.
Remember that modern society and internet brought a ton of positive to a ton of people.
Pre-modern society was also soul crushing. Societies before that, even more soul crushing. Then there was a few less soul crushing societies, but then before that; the MOST crushingest of societies. It's almost like scapegoating the internet for the soul crushing nature of existence is more a sign of the dark side of fundamental misattribution.
@@komudiepue bro its literally this like i get people being so "doomsday" about modern times and im like looking back at the past ... where would you want to go back to? like 50 years ago when there were less opportunities for people in relation to jobs (like things like social media really has opened up a lot). and not to be "tokeny" but even for minorities its not perfect by any means but way more opportunities for us and just the treatment (again is not perfect and still a long way to go in some respects) but compare that to pre-modern society. Even things like mental health and the focus on that is much much higher. it's obs by no means perfect but when i see the whole "these times suck" rhetoric on the internet i think its such a short-sighted statement.
Dude... This guy comes out of NOWHERE and within 2-3 years; he's suddenly making connections with celebs, athletes etc... Very impressive.
or very suspicious... you know ppl get put on right?
@@erichardnett9394 huh?
Well he's got over a million subscribers. It's easier to attract them with those kind of numbers.
@@erichardnett9394 sure Joe Rogan and Dr K are CIA agents right?
@@erichardnett9394 Dude's a licensed psychiatrist who's alma mater is Harvard. Nothing suspicious about it, he found a genuine need and filled the gap
Shoutout to the person who makes the little chapters in the playbar. Whoever you are, you're the best.
underrated feature
literally the best feature youtube has added so far
(though they removed community captions, which still piss me off ://)
@@seignee easy to clutter the video with intrusive ads etc. They changed it to cards, which pop up in the ℹ️ in the top right, which is better imo. Still have outro vids etc built in
@@kepagu they're talking about captions (subtitles) not annotations
@@akalion213 oh. Is that where the watchers contributed to translating/captioning the video?
I love the way Dr. K approaches people in conversations. "Is it okay if I..." . I just love that he is always asking permission before doing and saying things.
It’s a tactic used for trust… every psychiatrist uses it… and rightfully so! Should always slide in moments of respect, trust and vulnerability towards a patient or whatever. Helps them be more comfortable.
@@sg_onefly good to know
Sasha is a fascinating interviewee. She is obviously well-known for her previous career, but this has illustrated that she is a very intelligent person. Smart, sharp, energetic, and very charismatic. The person in this interview is not just a pretty face, she has a genuine curiosity and passion for life that is very admirable to me. And her sense of humor is quite infectious as well! She is the kind of person I'd love to just talk to for an hour, I think it would be a great experience.
she looks better with three dudes ramming their phalluses down to her vocal chords on camera
She's a g for sure
This might sound silly but I’ve been a fan since I saw her “Text Etc” appearance that the old machinima crew did. You gotta love how well she has reclaimed her image. If kind people can withstand all the BS they can thrive.
Her laughing is so endearing. She's like someone cool and fun to hang out with. About a few minutes in, I forgot I was watching and listening to Sasha Grey as I knew growing up. I was listening to a real person - something that we tend to forget when the industry dehumanises people like her.
you put what I felt much more eloquently than I could have. I completely agree with you :)
Seems exactly like the Sasha I grew up with, tbh. You could always see that about her
"as I knew growing up."
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@@mgmchenry Idk about that bro.
Well, I mean, it wasn't just the industry. She willingly did that to herself in exchange for money
57:29 highlight timestamp
real mvp
thank you 🤣
that was already at the intro
This is an aexcellent interview and it genuienly demonstrates the resilence of Sasha, how she manged to stand on her feet again given all the odds that she faced is just fascinating. I strongly encourage her to make her own series to help people overcoming their pornography addiction by exposing the truth behind this industry, I mean who would be a better and more trustworthy candidate than someone who knows the industry first hand, I genuienly hope that Sasha will consider this.
The discussion of how people change when they are on camera reminds me of Jean-Paul Sartre's theory of "the gaze." Basically, the awareness that someone else is observing us is a very powerful psychological force. Being watched by others is what he was referring to when he made his famous quote, "Hell is other people."
Unless you don't care for a mask
Hell is identified thoughts. He was wrong. We cause our suffering.
@@is-ness I don't know if that is an argument against the gaze. There may be nothing more powerful at making us aware of our own thoughts than knowing we are being observed.
Observation changes the behavior of atoms.
man i see myself in her so much - the overworking, the overwhelm, the feeling the pain of everyone and not being able to help crying and wanting to get away from it ❤
i'm terrible at being responsible for myself too - this video has helped a lot, thankyou
I don't think the overworking was on the same level thow. But I see what you mean.
She has spoken out about this on many occasions and had to fight for way too many years because of being in porn industry. She’s such a great person and very relatable in many ways. She made a mistake and trying to change her future.
It was not a mistake. She was greedy and took the shortcut.
And now she is still trying to get easy money and fame without really working.
People are so gullible when a pretty woman talk, it's ridiculous.
aww you gotta bring her back to finish the conversation!!!
The irony is that they procrastinated on beginning the topic of procrastination
Damn, the analogy of the little kid that can't clean their room made me cry, I'm 31 and still feel like that all the time
Im 27 and its really annoying
@@PhillipAmthor
It's this feeling of complete overwhelmedness..
@@Yang-ob4lk For me its more like. I dont wanna do it. Im not good at it. And this world is fucked up anyway why cant i enjoy myself till im done?
@@PhillipAmthor ur lazy bro
Its so cool to see how far Sasha's come and learn about her thought process; always had a respect for her, now even more elevated through this interview. Thank you for being open about your problems, as well as Dr. K as always, being the person who through him, we learn a lot.
7:50 9:50 life advice, 'therapy' 11:20
19:40 22:37 mask, ur actually leaving out the best part of yourself
26:40 what they need to hear, transparent, authentic
45:50 47:15 what makes u feel u have to do sm?
58:50 lack of security > take as much as u can > overwhelmed 1:03:30
1:08:10 shadowban, different standards
1:09:30 1:10:17 accepting ppl 1:19:30 devaluing own 1:21:50 1:22:57 wallowing self pity, hard to be around
1:24:20 pushing down, not dealing w
1:24:50 why do you have to be so strong?.. 1:25:10 dam ur good! aw
dislike pity 1:28:15 vs respect
1:31:10 u vs others, different circumstances 1:34:20
1:36:20 in becoming strong, u had to grow up 1:37:42 ur story isnt just one of triumph, its struggle
1:39:30 are we allowed to feel for u? accepting compassion 1:40:30 1:41:30 for how much longer? if not dealt w
1:43:30 perspective to stay strong.. but i dont think u need to stay strong 1:43:45 😂
1:48:50 parasocial relationship 1:50:20 understanding someone who doesnt w boundaries
1:53:47 where they expect emotional intimacy 1:56:30 1:59:00 2:02:26 on ur half, for community
2:03:50 😂2:04:55 the stronger the parasocial rel. the stronger the user engagement.. 2:05:55 check boxes 2:07:40 2:10:20 2:11:50 bpd
2:20:00 2:24:40 wind 2:26:40 O.O 2:31:50 to pass on opportunities 2:34:00 proc. bc not ready, until everything 'ideal' > fantasy of execution in head, chase for perfection > paralysed in moment
2:35:10 doing it perfectly or not at all, *' it's gonna be so great WHEN i do it' *
attached to particular outcome, grieve that perfect outcome (it will suck but its ok)
2:38:00 avoidance procrastination > protective mechanism (from emotional possibility of rejection)
'bad', 'lazy' > diagnosing self w unfixable, cant be dealt w
at the end of the day, driven by fear of failure, trying to control circumstances to avoid emotion
2:40:20 operational procrastination/ adhd
2:41:40 breaking down task > component parts
overwhelmed, task too abstract
2:43:00 get a job > more than 1 part to it
2:44:40 procrast. =/= problem > brain for efficiency, energy investment
2:45:40 pick 3 projects & rotate, bring out interest & excitement
2:46:40 !! dont motivate when its time to stop,
demotivate/restrain excitement to cram > burnout
2:48:15 u can have other ppl help/schedule for u
2:50:20 breaks 2:51:30
2:52:40 motivation of crossing off, but running out of steam, restrain ur plate
2:53:47 😂 restraint 2:55:30
hero
Wheres the juggle many balls part?
I came for the procrastinating part a little after 2:29:00
I like the part where he lets us unwind after 2:46:10, because I need that too, just in moderation compared to how much time I waste today
First hour "my goodness this is long"
3 hours later "I can do this all day."
This is such an amazing interview, really needed this.
Hoping for a part 2!
Has there ever been?
This comment is the reason why I now am going to keep watching 1:06:41 …🙌🏼😂✌🏼
that's what she said
Recently discovered this channel and its videos. I gotta say this is something we need more of! Really cool to see this guy doing such a good job and taking it very seriously. He seems like he has a lot of experience with this and knows what he is doing. This is very helpful and I hope to see this channel grow to big numbers in the future. I wish Dr. K all the best and that he may help a lot of people 💜
biggest takeaway - if you struggle with procrastination and are prone to burnouts, take more frequent breaks, long before you become tired at all (among other things, you will get more and more comfortable/familiar/smooth/strong with the act of starting work)
I just love this interview, I don't think Sasha nor Dr k is going to read my comment but I just wanna say, as a 33yo man, I got a bunch of laughs and almost teared up myself when Sasha got emotional. And also, I think Sasha would've succeded with streaming even if she wasn't famous prior. She got that carisma and genuinity that you so rarely see people have.
Thank you so much for this.
This one was particularly relevant to me, with uni assignments to do, feeling overwhelmed not just by work that needs to be done but the state of the world, being motivated but procrastinating, being a vata etc. Thanks Doc
We love to see two cult leaders propping each other up 🙏
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@@shreyasprabhu3673 they discuss how they have qualities that draw people aka cult leaders
Dr. K should join forces with her and sell aoe essential oils
@@hansonel we can rule this city Dr K, or we can just fight to the death
@@TheMortalKomic we can rule this city mortalkomic, or we can just fight to the death
Procrastination was a topic and y’all put it off for over 40 minutes lol. Beautiful
I'm really having a hard time thinking of a better interview Dr. K has had than this one
Sasha has appeared in over 300 pornos, written books, appeared in movies and games (at 32) and SHE'S procrastinating??
doing a job you are paid to do, to make a living, you don't really get to procrastinate. writing on the other hand i can see.
How does one...appear...in...written books?
@@ex0stasis72 Re-read lol
@@doctapeppur1900 lol, I’m just a fan of word play, so I like joking around when I see ambiguity.
@@formatme I beg to differ, I procrastinate at work all the time lmao
This has to be one of the most emotional interviews for me personally. I completely understand her feeling of being overwhelmed by a sense of empathy. I feel like I can fit myself into the lessons being discussed in this video more than any other interview I've seen yet.
One of my favorite moments, exactly 1 hour into the video, I see Dr. K starts to get an interesting and understanding expression as Sasha continues talking about the fear of not having a 9-to-5 job or the security or 1000 people working for her, but she's starting to phrase it in such a wild way, almost like she's always chasing the bleeding edge of her career and could never trade it for being "chained to a desk" (my words, not hers), but also that she's a bit covetous of the security that something like that would provide. More than a "cult leader" though, she's a leader. Like, a real leader that seems to bear the weight of her team and her success and failures. Honestly, I hope Sasha does have a thousand people working for her one day. And I hope she puts good out into the world with it.
I can relate so much to her, I picked up her vibe instantly and already knew this would be gold! Thank you for this interview, it leaves me a bit less feeling I’m battling certain fights alone when it comes down about being a girl and getting a bit more treated as a boy, or as I always look at it, I had the luxury of expressing myself organically without the idea I was a girl, but could just be me in a sense. Now I see a lot of other women around me that seem like they don’t know who they really are, and making friends this way is sometimes hard, but in a way I also carry a lot of guilt, as it felt like I "survived" the system in my own way and they didn’t seem to have that opportunity…
What system? Like home system or like female society
That Vata stuff was so on point it was crazy. Dr.K just explaining everything I struggle with in terms of procrastination. The hardest part though is setting yourself up/personal projects for the "crisis/deadlines" thing.
If you had told me 10 years ago that I would some day listen to a 3h interview of Sasha Grey in its entirety, I wouldn't have believed you.
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Facts
I wonder what you were up to 10 years ago regarding streamer and award winning actress Sasha Grey.
@@teocantsleep4611ah to be 13 again. I'd buy so much gamestop
I had no idea Sasha was the person i would relate most to. We seem exactly the same, we even have the same allergic problems. Very interesting talk Dr. K! Thanks!
Same here! There have been a few talks recently where I related to them, and sort of expected that I might share commonalities. Then she gets on the stream and I relate much more to almost everything she talked about dealing with. Learned so much about myself, this was super helpful! Especially about my Vata dosha and parasocial relationships, having been sort of on both ends of it now (though in a very different role from Sasha).
I really wanna know about the herbal solutions she found. I'm halfway through the video, I hope it's brought up.
@Gabriel Ismyname and the great "you" is such an exemplary figure oh wait.. nobody knows or cares who you are.
@Gabriel Ismyname Nah, she seems pretty chill and hardworking
@Gabriel Ismyname yikes
Best three hours of my week! Thank you for having this conversation and sharing with us. I really appreciated the parasocial discussion.
My two favorite people come together to talk about ball juggling. What a time to be alive.
I just finished this interview, and I am genuinely shocked at how much I completely relate with Sasha grey.
This comment appears in most of Dr. K's videos. I feel like we relate with almost everyone because almost everyone of us deal with the same issues.
(Not exactly the same issues, but you know what I mean...)
And the fact that some of these people are "Famous" makes them seem "Different", but they're still people living in the same society as us.
Truth kings.
I respect Sasha Grey at a upper level. Role model for sure.
@@Huizarrole model now or before lol
Full circle. Last time I seen Sasha was in high school. Now 10 years later I find a Dr. K interview with her. Time marches on.
I never thought I'd have so much in common with Sasha Grey. We share a lot of qualities and struggles. This was interesting!
A couple of years ago I would've never believed that I would some day think of SG as my spirit animal.
2021 is wild.
When you want to see more of sasha grey and you dont even mean her body. Wyld times buddy!
@@PhillipAmthor faccs
Not the interview I was expecting. But the interview I needed.
No Offence but I really didn't expect her to come over this intelligent after clicking on this, she's great. For some reason I link "THE" industry is/was in, with... less smart people... Kinda funny... I'm actually the dumb one for making that assumption
Yeah, but even though it's not right, and we should try to fight these stereotypes we form, it's understandable because when you watch porn they always act stupid right? Like "oh stepbrother, I'm stuck in the laundry machine". Your brain can't help but make a connection that what you see on the screen is their real personality and all the depth it has, because that's all you have to base it on. There is probably a lot of other situations you do this in if you think about it, whether it's a youtuber you watch a lot or a movie character.
Asa Akira, AFAIK, programmed her own website back in the day, and quite a few pornstars run businesses. Not saying they're all geniuses, but it's definitely the kind of industry that rewards savvyness.
I think it's because the industry itself is seen as an overall foolish and potentially life destructive decision. A lot of savvier women are going to fare a lot better navigating those challenges but the target recruiting pool is get them while they're young, susceptible to drugs, and unable to recognize a bad film contract.
@@Bananajawzzz you are this close to understanding how harmful porn is to the way men view women 👌
there are a few porn stars who are really intelligent, belle delphine and riley reid are good ones
This video helped me a lot. I have some similarities with Sasha's personality and things like procrastination and the search of perfection in everything I do, so this felt really personal. Great one!
Her popularity definitely carries over from profession to profession, I have also noticed this in my life, in short it doesn't matter what you do in life, if you give it your all you will be at least consistent from job to job(if you like the job more than usually better). So don't be afraid to change professions if you have had enough or don't like you old one, the most cliché but relevant quotes I have ever heard is "change is as good as a holiday" and this is very true.
I didn't know Sasha Grey was a twitch streamer now. She seems very altruistic and insightful and also really fun. Def gonna follow
she makes good content. Decent gamer, has great cooking streams and actually interacts with chat.
easy money. Speacially with covid and having to be inside the house. Her name brings thousands of people.
idk i would never watch her twitch, but on ponrhub she the bomb
@@paulgotik She is legit fun to watch
That was the goal of this. To advertise her. And you fell right into it.
Think with tbe upper brain, not the lower brain. 🤣
I really identify with what she was saying about the problems in society right now. It feels like we're falling behind or humanity is going backwards sometimes and it's really hard to care about getting shit done when you're worried about the stability of society and angry about things that can cause you and people you love a lot of harm.
20:58 Dr. K asks Sasha if she is special
22:40 Dr. K suggests that Sasha is not showing the best part of herself
35:43 Dr. K continues the cult jokes
53:45 Sasha shares why she feels overwhelmed
1:01:24 Sasha makes a joke about making her own rules
1:03:45 Dr. K suggests that Sasha is bad at being responsible towards herself
1:23:23 Dr. K asks Sasha when she stopped wallowing in her self-pity
1:29:26 Sasha recalls an important lesson from her dad
1:32:00 Dr. K asks what happened to 14-year-old Sasha
1:38:03 Dr. K talks about the importance of regret
1:58:53 Dr. K explains why some people cross boundaries
1:59:50 Calculated authenticity
literally did a double take when i saw this on my feed
Questioned what website you were on for a second?
@@TheConvectuoso youtube in dark mode got me fooled for a hot sec
Same
@@kash5736 Gold
Thinking about procrastination as a case of not enough restraint was good to hear. It's something I've personally struggled with for years and I've always thought the motivation was what would make me get things done when I've always been the type to only respond to deadlines set by others to get anything done.
Ledgend says that when you enter one of Dr. K's doors, you emerge from the other one feeling a little bit better.
she needs to feel better. Porn misses her
Shit, I think I identify as Uncle Grey too.
XD hi Gemik
same here my dude
Profound and deeply insightful Dr K.. Yay for Sasha too for being open to such fab support, wisdom and challenge and opening the door to create a new soft spot for her to get relief. I relate to her perspective and to Dr. K's guidance 100%
This is incredibly valuable, thank you both for making this possible.
This is going to be a popular upload
Dr. K Is my favorite person that makes me laugh and cry. He points out how broken I am and it does help.
Wow, so happy i found this. Definitely a conversation i needed to hear, and im only a third of the way through. I can relate to so much she's saying.
I thought i wouldn't get much out of this interview, but it was just so stupidly helpful. Thanks DrK and Sasha, both.
You're interviewing the responsible for my procrastination
I love this!! The struggles Sasha has are very very similar to my own. Self enquiry is my thing and I’m very analytical probably being in survival mode a lot but this helped me ask myself the questions asked so understand myself more
Is the first time I have seen a 3 hour interview, damn this was a truly good interview, and I learned many things, thanks
What she says about TOS is so true. Literally every streamer I watch spends some noticeable amount of time each stream talking "around" the written rules of twitch and the unwritten rules of cancel culture. This is not normal or healthy.
Could you go into detail?
dude the pandemic practically didn't happen from my perspective. I already didn't go outside or have any friends, it's so fucking alien to me to hear people talk about how isolated they feel and shit cause that's just how I've always felt
That's exactly my case too
Same thing here
Same
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!
My nephew “I haven’t seen my friends in a week”
Bro quit whining 😂 just chill and Netflix
I am late to the party the fact this is from a year ago but, this is the very first long duration video I've watched on yt ever, and that I am really enjoying it and definitely learn something from it. She is very smart and a strong-willed individual.
One Love!
Always forward, never ever backward!!
☀️☀️☀️
💚💛❤️
🙏🏿🙏🙏🏼
This was the day when Sasha found out that a psychologists job is to ask questions and hope you answer your own questions.
So they're procrastinating on the procrastination topic lol
And I procrastinated by watching them procrastinate on the topic of procrastination.
@@JohnSmith-ox3gy I procrastinated by reading your comment about you procrastinating by watching them procrastinating on the topic of procrastination.
I used the stones to destroy the stones
Sasha needs a podcast!
Like a legit podcast. Not on RUclips. Old school podcasts are just websites with audio files on them, RUclips cannot fuck with you, Twitter cannot fuck with you, Facebook cannot fuck with you. It’s so valuable when all the major platforms are pandering to religious prudes to go somewhere they can’t mess with you.
Discoverability is different, but her brand is huge and Twitter does give you *something* when it comes to promoting this stuff
Wym ? What your saying is quite but profoundly interesting. 🤔
It’s funny how we forget that we are all human. Though our lives can be completely different paths, I so relate to her issues with many things she had brought up.
What a fascinating personnality. That was a very interesting and warming talk.
I'm also a big procrastinator, and have read and searched about it, and tried to manage it more or less fine for a long time now. ANd I still learned smthing new. (I think mine is a mix of operational and avoidant prorcrastiantor, and a Vatha too !)
Thanks a lot for making us understand ourselves better, and especially for always giving practical solutions, or ways to cope ...
BTW, Sacha, you have beautiful hands (nothing sexual intended here to be clear) ... I'm sure you've been already told that, It doesn't hurt to say it more :)
The Ayurveda discussion starting on 2:21:31 is great
Yah know I never thought in my life I'd say out loud "Wow, Sasha Grey is just like me" but here we are
First time I see procrastination been broken down so well. Precise and transparent description. 100% relatable examples. This is priceless and so far unique. Thank you!
Please invite David Goggins once :D that be so hillarious that guy breaks every rule of psychology
@NolanEP mate its just peds (occams razor)... anyone can overcome their natural biochemistry limits with synthetic help... he (like many others) just layers his psycho bs on top of it [because it feels great to still get gains you would not normally get] while interested parties (i.e. young and mature athletic adults) continue to buy into thinking "oh is that how its done? i'ma copy that person then" until they realise he was full of it (esp. if said party turns to taking peds and ironically become the person they more recently loathed). it would be great to see ol' doc bring this up more than general analysis
@Blaize - H1Z1/CS if you have tried peds you would know... pretty night and day difference since the biochemistry is amplified significantly (esp. in the case of endurance, recovery and strength)... people believe this guy (girl?) more since he is not the stereotypical 'big' roids dude and preaches bs that flanks your typical response (which is always more appealing to defend since 'inversion' is used--look it up)... case in point, no one outside of le tour de france suspected the string bean armstrong [he too wrote a lovely auto bs book that i initially thought 'wow this guy is amazing man he must have been quite mentally strong to withstand the competitive cycling culture (which was extremely political btw; probably still is), he trained his ass off so yeah no surprise he won blah blah blah' to be taking a ridiculous cocktail of peds on a regular basis--dumbass got greedy and paid the price with having to nick off a nut... but in regards to his unprecedented performances there had to be something different 'input' wise going on (same thing in olympic athlete performances [movie: bigger, stronger, faster]; it just MUST be used to even have the possibility of claiming a medal or doing all the bs googins does)--its safe to say that these athletes are doing more harm than good to not only themselves, but to naive young aspirants when they deny taking peds (they have to though to keep their job; its like an engineer denying what most people believe happened to the twin towers and committing to the narrative that the steel beams melted away at the speed of sound lmao), this is in addition to saying that "all you need is a more 'superior' mindset" smdh if only young people were not so gullible [not really going to happen] so its up to the users to come clean, and as a collective to keep their jobs--furthermore, all the bs can stop and more competitive athletes can do their shit guilt free... it will be a case however of who has the 'best chemist' in the darker sense and turn into Formula 1 in terms of who would win stuff... but for the more unsuspecting viewers this would be an exciting prospect (i.e. increase the livelihood of athletes which is a win for everyone involved).
The one thing I find fascinating with all the different conversations about parasocial relationships is that it seems like the streamers talk about this phenomenon like its a relatively new thing in the past couple of years. Speaking as someone who was really into internet/fandom (specifically youtube and content creators) culture as a young teenager back in 2007-2012ish, parasocial relationships were kind of the default on youtube for anyone who was more than a casual viewer. The most popular creators back then (until around 2009-2010ish) were at most around 1-2 million subscribers (and those were very rare), and a ton of them were hovering at much lower sub counts, and a video going "viral" meant more than 10k people saw it. So if you were a regular viewer and commenter who went to a convention/meetup to meet the creator, they'd be able to remember you.
I didn't even realize the unevenness of these relationships (even the ones whom actually recognized my username) until I was a young adult in college (2014ish was probably the first time I recognized it). Right around this time, a lot of the stupid big youtubers started breaking sub records, and twitch (rip justin.tv) started really taking off, and since I had kinda fallen off the bandwagon of youtube/internet culture I really started to recognize the signs of parasocial relationships.
Even as a no-longer young adult I still struggle a bit with the parasocial relationship with some of the creators I've watched since that time that I still keep up with. Its just fascinating that modern day creators who got big after 2012-2013 just completely don't recognize that us youngins who were some of the first adaptors (and creators too!) of the user-driven content like youtube and later streaming had to really figure this concept out on our own. And I'm glad that these lessons are starting to be spread a lot more widely, so that the newer viewers and fans can learn to set and respect boundaries.
This is why everyone has to be more open to different cultures, especially ancient cultures. I just realized that I am a Vata and Dr. K basically just described me to a T when he spoke about Sasha being Vata. For this insight alone I would have paid thousands 15 years ago and I would not have made so many mistakes in life.
I can't believe this and almost 3 hours long, wow
Amazin
thats what she said
So bad
0:03 Phrasing!!!
Love her. Love Dr. K. How great it is to see all of these unspoken parts of how we live and see ourselves brought to air!
I had no idea who Sasha was, I haven't gone digging to find out who she was, but who she is now seems incredible. What an intelligent, motivated young woman. Fabulous interview, so insightful
I never thought I would be so touched and empathetic with her. And I know this would be pretty alienating to if it reaches you and it won’t probably but this was very insightful and interesting and I hope she get the love and understanding that she deserves and learn to be vulnerable again cause even when she is she’s beautiful and it’s good to have her here. I think her opening up was more valuable and interesting to me than all on her adult videos tbh and made me appreciate her as a person, not as an object for sexual desire or compassion.
Relate so much to the kind of procrastination she described. Worked in retail for most of my adult life and was content in mediocrity, now I work as a case worker for addicts and feel a lot of pressure to meet my job requirements and exceed them due to my past performance.
That neuro-scientific perspective on friend-zoning between the genders was absolutely illuminating. This is the benefit of seeing a counsellor/psychologist/psychiatrist - you get challenged to look at a situation in a completely different way that blows the glass out of your preconceived judgments. This was a great talk. Thank you Sasha for putting yourself out there and Dr. K for your sharing this with us.
Honestly, what a beautiful person.
1:24:52 ''Why do you have to be so strong?'' WOW. Amazing question. I'm speechless because of how PERFECTLY that question fit the situation. It even hit me right in the guts and made me realize that for me, I have to be strong in order to be weak. But I also have to be weak in order to be strong. A similarity is building muscle. In order for it to grow stronger or even only maintain its strength it needs the be broken down and be temporarily weak for it to grow stronger. You need a dynamic, a roaming/changing balance of strength and weakness. If you're weak for too long or receive an extreme blow you'll get hurt. You can't always be strong since weakness is what causes strength.
The super Varta (is that how it is spelled?) ending was awesome. Perfect way to show a real world example. Sasha seems like a really cool person too, this is one of the best interviews I seen this far for sure. Maybe because I can relate to many of the topics.
Vata Ayurveda Type in case you are interested :)
i feel that if Dr. K was my therapist i would have kept going to therapy.
I’m so late to the party…thank you so much for sharing this. Respect, all over town for both of you. Thank you!
All sex jokes aside, I really, GENUINELY, appreciated the adult conversation and mutual respect between Sasha and the doc. It really is wholesome
Never heard of this lady so I googled Sasha Grey. Not what I expected. 😂
Damn, well my sir was it a good experience ? 😂
love this format
Dr.K is so chill in his videos ! :)
Even tho dr K is really giving advice that's suited Sasha, it really helps most of us. I know advice should be taken a grain of salt, but helplessly I feel like it's close to what I've experienced.
Is personal advice better than general advice.
'cause personal advice will sure solve your exact problem
But general advice would avoid the problem in the first place.
Dr K give us a framework to do decide medical, financial advice. Especially from internet because I'm a 20yr old who only search internet for answers and won't talk much about my problems.
Part (in-depth) about procrastination starts at 2:21:54
For the people that procrastinated watching the important part like me :D
This is an avengers endgame level crossover right here.
I just randomly let this video play without taking a look on the title and I didn't realize until the very end that Dr. K was interviewing Sasha Grey XD
Calculated authenticity. What a useful term!
I know EXACTLY the Essential Oil Cult she is talking about because my sister is obsessed with them and got me to sign up and just on the founders wiki page alone you can see how weird and messed up things are. I am very interested in seeing the documentary coming out about it.
"young living" ?
@@ichay888 that's the one
When I see Sasha Grey I'm always quick to come.
2:19:55 - her response to what Dr.K. is saying (although to me his context and statement was pretty obvious) - is just like saying "I've seen a lot of really bad sh*t in this life". I mean she told that explicicly before in the interview, but in that "clarification" I've just thought of the reasons she was asking about it and got shivers.
... and she is visibly relaxed after he confirms "... from consumers perspective"
In college I took an "Abnormal Psychology" class and we went pretty in depth into Ayurvedic principles and honestly learning my Prakriti has helped me so much in balancing my strong Pitta tendencies.
" this is a good time to bring up parasocial relationships "
Dr k. *Smiles* because he knows she's avoiding him telling her she doesn't have to be strong
Can you elaborate a bit. Sounds like a reoccurring theme on this channel.
This was a movie, also the greatest ending to a movie I've seen
I find sasha grey such a great person. Shes adorable asf