@@seignee easy to clutter the video with intrusive ads etc. They changed it to cards, which pop up in the ℹ️ in the top right, which is better imo. Still have outro vids etc built in
You are not lonely at that moment. You are missing something that you wish you had at that time along with them. It can be anything or a person or sometimes you just feel having something which doesn't even exist.
@@sushilsharma4202 You're in no place to tell anyone else if they're feeling lonely or not. Actualy the second part of your comment is a reasonable description of loneliness.
@@shoelacedonkey I don't think I ever said how one should feel. I'm just pointing out what actually being lonely means. I'm looking at it from the rational side rather than the emotional.
@Unknown Soldier What separates them from any other actor? Every actor plays a persona on stage. But you have no proof that they are playing a persona here.
@Unknown Soldier That is very narrow minded and judgmental of you to say. Just because someone chose a different lifestyle than what is considered the "social norm" you call them fake and distrust them?
The conversation about strength and being strong reminded me of this from Tao Te Ching : A man is born gentle and weak. At his death he is hard and stiff. Green plants are tender and filled with sap. At their death they are withered and dry. Therefore the stiff and unbending is the disciple of death. The gentle and yielding is the disciple of life. Thus an army without flexibility never wins a battle. A tree that is unbending is easily broken. The hard and strong will fall. The soft and weak will overcome.
Holy shit, Did you guys notice how Dr K felt sad/concerned for making her cry and then just came up with the balls joke to make her laugh all while playing innocent..damn.. what a 5head.
I don't think he was playing innocent, I'm not sure why people keep saying that. Dr. K is always transparent whenever he purposefully makes any inappropriate jokes for levity. If he did it purposefully he would've said so. You need to remember that Dr. K's mind is working at twice or thrice the speed that our minds do when he's doing in these interviews. In a few minutes he made a connection, a hypothesis, and a possible solution to Sasha's problem and is trying to get a point across; he could easily miss an innuendo when his mind is already 10 steps ahead of you.
A universal theme with these interviews with streamers I’m sensing is just how soul crushing modern society can be. The dark side of the internet, fundamental changes in human interaction and other things that lead to anxiety, depression, etc. It’s really sad but I’m glad there’s people like Dr. K helping us through super unique issues like these.
@@futavadumnezo I was also diagnosed with depression within the last six months and am doing counseling and medication. It’s making a world of a difference for me! If streaming is therapeutic for you then do whatever it takes to get you through every day.
You have to remember that in these conversations people are trying to get help with subjets they struggle with. So in almost every interview, there is hurt etc. These people live in modern society in a particularly unnatural situation, that's bound to hurt. Remember that modern society and internet brought a ton of positive to a ton of people.
Pre-modern society was also soul crushing. Societies before that, even more soul crushing. Then there was a few less soul crushing societies, but then before that; the MOST crushingest of societies. It's almost like scapegoating the internet for the soul crushing nature of existence is more a sign of the dark side of fundamental misattribution.
@@komudiepue bro its literally this like i get people being so "doomsday" about modern times and im like looking back at the past ... where would you want to go back to? like 50 years ago when there were less opportunities for people in relation to jobs (like things like social media really has opened up a lot). and not to be "tokeny" but even for minorities its not perfect by any means but way more opportunities for us and just the treatment (again is not perfect and still a long way to go in some respects) but compare that to pre-modern society. Even things like mental health and the focus on that is much much higher. it's obs by no means perfect but when i see the whole "these times suck" rhetoric on the internet i think its such a short-sighted statement.
I love the way Dr. K approaches people in conversations. "Is it okay if I..." . I just love that he is always asking permission before doing and saying things.
It’s a tactic used for trust… every psychiatrist uses it… and rightfully so! Should always slide in moments of respect, trust and vulnerability towards a patient or whatever. Helps them be more comfortable.
Idealistic procrastination. Thats exactly what happened to me at university. I always was an A student, even in university until i had to write my bachelors thesis. I created this idea during my studies, of it being this huge thing, where everything has to be perfect. I need to cite everything perfectly, find the best sources, etc. Then i failed my last semester with only As and Bs, but an F on my bachelor paper. And it shattered my ego because "being good at school" was what i associated with during all of those years in school. It took me a few years to get over it and work through what happened. And the idea of idealsitic procrastion helped me understand it even better. Thanks Dr. K :)
It's interesting the more you watch these, you start to pick up on things - like how quickly Sasha is to completely delegitimize her own feelings and disqualify them by focusing on other people's feelings.
Yeah! And with time you start to notice that you are doing these things yourself too! And, I believe, that's where the real value of these streams shows!
Came for the curiosity of seeing how Sasha Grey is doing after all those years. Stayed because of the very insightful and interesting conversation! Really great stream!
Sasha is a fascinating interviewee. She is obviously well-known for her previous career, but this has illustrated that she is a very intelligent person. Smart, sharp, energetic, and very charismatic. The person in this interview is not just a pretty face, she has a genuine curiosity and passion for life that is very admirable to me. And her sense of humor is quite infectious as well! She is the kind of person I'd love to just talk to for an hour, I think it would be a great experience.
This might sound silly but I’ve been a fan since I saw her “Text Etc” appearance that the old machinima crew did. You gotta love how well she has reclaimed her image. If kind people can withstand all the BS they can thrive.
53:20 This is the main problem with todays society, 100 years ago you didn't know what happened in your village 2 miles away, today we know in a second what happens 2000 miles away, is that information relevant to me?, we carry the world problems on our shoulders today and i think it's a key factor to being overwhelmed and depression overall.
Yessir, the more we do to save time (aka technology, phones etc which are all awesome), the more we are also losing time (maybe not as much but it definitely affects us in different ways). Most things have an equal and opposite backfire, just not in the way we think I guess. I learned this from my friend too, and I agree
Not a lot of people care about what happens outside their bubble though lol. I’d say it’s a minority that actually do. But yes technology has developed super fast we still have a lot to catch up on with the mental health side. But over all I feel like the trade off to having endless information in the palm of your hands is worth
it feels amazing to get to know a person who is only ever associated with something a little... taboo, and to find out she is such a smart, insightful, analytical, but also empathetic, emotional and strong individual.
Her laughing is so endearing. She's like someone cool and fun to hang out with. About a few minutes in, I forgot I was watching and listening to Sasha Grey as I knew growing up. I was listening to a real person - something that we tend to forget when the industry dehumanises people like her.
"I don't know what you're doing, but it's not therapy...But people seem to like it!" I think of this every day I watch one of these interviews, and I can't wait to see the mental health landscape to evolve to be even MORE help to more people.
Just starting the video, but i must say that we NEED this kind of content. We need to see examples of mental health talk, because we have spent years and years as a society hiding this subject. We need to talk about it, we need to bring it up, show people how it looks or works. Also what can be done and what can't be done, the boundaries between patient and therapist and so on. This talk is long overdue in all of human society, specially after so many wars, economic instability, natural disasters. For years we struggled to understand or talk about mental health, so yeah...now I think this is a good time to face it. I went through Hell, I want to be better and i specially want others to know that they can feel better to. Keep up with this work, sir...even a tiny grain would help. Love from Argentina 🇦🇷
This is probably one of the most important interviews I've watched for me. They touch on all the big beats that I've suffered with. Hearing about the "cult leader" effect was a refreshing take on it, and added a lot of perspective.
@@randomname1152 I appreciate how you're coming from a place of empathy since you are also a member of the ADHD family. But please don't. I didn't ask. (Mostly because I've already asked experts who have ruled out ADHD as well as many other things.) I hope you are welcome in the HG community though. Many others are looking for help and could use a kind friend who has their life circumstances 😊
@@glumreaper8885 I only found HG less than a month ago and this was my first toe-dip into commenting on any videos. Thank you for replying with compassion especially in the face of my over-stepping a boundary. It means a lot. I wish you well :)
The shadowban section was eye opening. I just thought she was an "alternate media actor" who dropped off the face of the earth. Didn't even know she was on twitch until she did this interview. I now know why.
I tried it out out of curiosity. She doesn't come up through auto fill but when you search her up on Google all of her social media profiles are there. Or did she mean something else?
@@Nemalp Yup thats one of the ways she is shadow banned by these platforms, it depends what website you are searching on, but almost all of them will ban "sasha grey" from being suggested or "auto - filled"
I've never seen Dr. K sit like that, looks like he was modelling it for her and she eventually sits in a more relaxed manner as well, even though she said she wouldn't do that because of her presenting and mask.
A good therapist can lead people where they need them to be without ever saying anything. If you ever go to a therapist, then try and take a mental note of how often his/her posture shifts in accordance to yours. You think you're there to play a simple game of mental checkers, but a good therapist is playing some next level chess on a plane beyond our perception.
26:15 I want to thank Dr K for giving me a people-handling skill I've now been using at work for months. Too often people just ask me something and want an answer on the spot. They demand immediate answers, and it forces me to umm and aaahh. A lot of the time it's something that actually needs me to do research, or think about. Now I just ask them to leave it with me to find the best answer, or whatever it is that I need to give the person. Some people still don't really like the wait. They don't like to give me time to think it over, even though it's never urgent. But it gives me time to sit down and think about the best approach, instead of just slapping a band-aid answer down. If I stay with them I can blurt out 5 ways to do something. But if I have time to mull those options over, I can come up with the best one to proceed with. Noticed a massive difference with how I provide solutions now at work.
yes that is really a masterpiece of a life hack. you nailed it, usually i went way to fast and to emotional with my answers that the follow up of the discussion lead in a way that i never wanted to go. and afterwards i was always thinking: why did i just not answer "this and this" - it would have been so much clearer and objective. if i feel overwhelmed even with the most simple question, i will take my time, because i know exactly how to respond but i need time to form the answer so everything comes together
yes that is very important. I am doing it for about 6 years now and it was a real game changer in my business life - although it was only one of some thing to do. the only problem i still have is, that sometimes i feel emotionaly overwhelmed and then i tend to give the fast answer or reaction. 5 minutes later i hate myself for acting like that. it's in my blood i guess. i really like, that you pointed it out again for me and others!
I find myself surprised by being so interested in this conversation. I was gonna check a couple of minutes, and nom I'm at 2h30 and hope it would last much longer. Kuddos to Sacha Grey for delivering so much, being so honest and open. This must be quite a difficult exercice and she did great. She does seem like a very interesting person. Plus it feels so good so find your own thoughts in other people's mind.... Needless to say Dr K is very impressively effective.
First hour "my goodness this is long" 3 hours later "I can do this all day." This is such an amazing interview, really needed this. Hoping for a part 2!
Twitch is built on hypocracy, double-standards and favoritism. She can't *talk* about what she wants and sees as important issues, but other girls can sit half-naked in a bathtub or show their privates with barely any repercussions. Its mind-blowing how twisted this platform has become and anyone who says they're not treating streamers differently is blind or refuse to see the obvious.
She is a very good streamer tho, she is very real and honest with her personality or it seems so, like you can feel how genuine the stream is and atleast for me i value it a lot. Is not the platform that is twisted is the world that is twisted and people just got to the platform as it got popular, you know?
Why would twitch treat her worse than other streamers?? Wouldnt it make sense for twitch to promote her and earn more viewership because she alr famour or at the very least treat her the same as others?? U need some logic man
@@apexpredator.9770 Because Twitch is built on sponsors and ad revenue and she has a history as a very famous pornstar. So her name will forever be linked to photos of sexual content. Having her name in their promotion will always be a stigma for promoters and therefore they don't want her in the limelight. She said it herself, her name can't even be googled. If a non-famous person shows nudity on stream, their name isn't even remotely big enough to draw the attention of popular media. If Sasha Grey did bikini baths on stream, it would connect the dots of Twitch's real "moral codes" immediately.
Omg women have bodies!!! What a crime!!! Such a strange phenomenon with this (feigned) new form of modesty - almost "Lutheran" style of judging content . But it's just same ol mysogony . OH NO SHE SHOWS AN ANKLE , WHAT A WH*RE . you guys make me laugh. "All these poor men that gets fooled into giving all of their money to these "sluts" online bohooo. I'm such a victim". Grow up
I’m so glad that I’m seeing this now, in the middle of changing careers to work independently, feeling a lot of the same things, and having always been a procrastinator. Really insightful. Thank you both for sharing! :)
The discussion of how people change when they are on camera reminds me of Jean-Paul Sartre's theory of "the gaze." Basically, the awareness that someone else is observing us is a very powerful psychological force. Being watched by others is what he was referring to when he made his famous quote, "Hell is other people."
@@is-ness I don't know if that is an argument against the gaze. There may be nothing more powerful at making us aware of our own thoughts than knowing we are being observed.
One thing I realize is every person has some sort of ego problem. No matter how rich, poor, humble you are, there will be moments where in order to protect our egos we will not address the problem. Ego really does blind a person, doesn't it?
You'll need to care about yourselves to survive that does indeed mean that we are inherently egocentric. Luckily we have the ability to kind of break through that. All though that takes alot of effort.
Quoting Alan Watts "Ego doesn't exist,ego is a concept". So you keep following,chasing or fighting against something that doesn't exist...GL with that LOL. My ego meaning years ago I think its really close how Dr K described, ego is either a defense mechanism or insecurity disguised as arrogance,but again those words are concepts we imaginate in our minds to translate the reality in symbols or are just useful to comuncate with other people. Don't fight with yourself or others,surrender and just watch what happens,don't get obsesed with that little word because you can miss a lot of things,Im saying this because I fell into that trap,maybe you not.You are not by any means wrong ,but I want to share this little tip just in case, don't overvalue or overate a concept.❤
i think ego is a self-protection mechanism of our animal brain. It's like those instincts that'll wake you up if a predator is approaching you at night while you're out camping in the open. At the same time it can be irrational and limiting as well if developed out of extreme anomalous experiences that do not reflect everyday life. In which case it might become a model in our brain developed from faulty, inaccurate data. So it's supposed to be a good thing but we gotta watch out that it doesn't become detached from reality, and if it does we gotta reprogram it. Reprogramming i think is the tricky part, since it requires *identifying* which knobs and variables to tweak.
After watching all his interviews, hes honestly given me such a different, more healthy view of the world he has good philosophy and I think thats what makes him such a good therapist.
i don`t find him very empathic, yes, he makes sure he`s saying the right words to be perceived but i don`t think he is really empathic, he is a bit of narcissist and likes to hear himself talk therapist stuff.
@@bishopoftroy why do you say that? Do you remember times where he acted narcissistically? Legit curious, unless you think it's something more of his personal life, because if that's the case I see what you mean, but I think he's pretty good at hiding this on the interviews, he does listen to people
@@henritaas9997 No, i don`t know anything about his personal life. In videos he gives fairly good advice in general but putting myself in his guests` place i imagine i wouldn`t choose him as my therapist. He listenes to people sure but he seems always eager to show his professional prowess and expertise when i as a pacient with severe depression i don`t need my therapist to be so quick...i don`t know how to really put this, so eager to show me that he knows what`s wrong. I need someone to just listen and i need to see he`s taking his time to process my pain. He seems to assertive and it`s like he`s waiting for the pacient to finish talking so he can talk. I understand this is a youtube video and he needs the content but still, i wouldn`t feel any chemistry with this guy. But that`s just me. Maybe someone else needs this.
7:509:50 life advice, 'therapy' 11:20 19:4022:37 mask, ur actually leaving out the best part of yourself 26:40 what they need to hear, transparent, authentic 45:5047:15 what makes u feel u have to do sm? 58:50 lack of security > take as much as u can > overwhelmed 1:03:30 1:08:10 shadowban, different standards 1:09:30 1:10:17 accepting ppl 1:19:30 devaluing own 1:21:50 1:22:57 wallowing self pity, hard to be around 1:24:20 pushing down, not dealing w 1:24:50 why do you have to be so strong?.. 1:25:10 dam ur good! aw dislike pity 1:28:15 vs respect 1:31:10 u vs others, different circumstances 1:34:20 1:36:20 in becoming strong, u had to grow up 1:37:42 ur story isnt just one of triumph, its struggle 1:39:30 are we allowed to feel for u? accepting compassion 1:40:30 1:41:30 for how much longer? if not dealt w 1:43:30 perspective to stay strong.. but i dont think u need to stay strong 1:43:45 😂 1:48:50 parasocial relationship 1:50:20 understanding someone who doesnt w boundaries 1:53:47 where they expect emotional intimacy 1:56:30 1:59:00 2:02:26 on ur half, for community 2:03:50 😂2:04:55 the stronger the parasocial rel. the stronger the user engagement.. 2:05:55 check boxes 2:07:40 2:10:20 2:11:50 bpd
2:20:00 2:24:40 wind 2:26:40 O.O 2:31:50 to pass on opportunities 2:34:00 proc. bc not ready, until everything 'ideal' > fantasy of execution in head, chase for perfection > paralysed in moment 2:35:10 doing it perfectly or not at all, *' it's gonna be so great WHEN i do it' * attached to particular outcome, grieve that perfect outcome (it will suck but its ok) 2:38:00 avoidance procrastination > protective mechanism (from emotional possibility of rejection) 'bad', 'lazy' > diagnosing self w unfixable, cant be dealt w at the end of the day, driven by fear of failure, trying to control circumstances to avoid emotion 2:40:20 operational procrastination/ adhd 2:41:40 breaking down task > component parts overwhelmed, task too abstract 2:43:00 get a job > more than 1 part to it 2:44:40 procrast. =/= problem > brain for efficiency, energy investment 2:45:40 pick 3 projects & rotate, bring out interest & excitement 2:46:40 !! dont motivate when its time to stop, demotivate/restrain excitement to cram > burnout 2:48:15 u can have other ppl help/schedule for u 2:50:20 breaks 2:51:30 2:52:40 motivation of crossing off, but running out of steam, restrain ur plate 2:53:47 😂 restraint 2:55:30
man i see myself in her so much - the overworking, the overwhelm, the feeling the pain of everyone and not being able to help crying and wanting to get away from it ❤ i'm terrible at being responsible for myself too - this video has helped a lot, thankyou
She has spoken out about this on many occasions and had to fight for way too many years because of being in porn industry. She’s such a great person and very relatable in many ways. She made a mistake and trying to change her future.
It was not a mistake. She was greedy and took the shortcut. And now she is still trying to get easy money and fame without really working. People are so gullible when a pretty woman talk, it's ridiculous.
Its so cool to see how far Sasha's come and learn about her thought process; always had a respect for her, now even more elevated through this interview. Thank you for being open about your problems, as well as Dr. K as always, being the person who through him, we learn a lot.
I relate SO MUCH to the whole "the more qualified you are, the less you're allowed to help people" angle that Dr. K had about streaming. Although they're talking about twitch, I find it to be true in my professional life as well. I work in the mental health field, mostly with teens, and I genuinely feel like I'm less able to make an impact because of all the rules, proper protocol, and even pretty arbitrary corporate decisions that are made. I genuinely feel like when I'm "just some guy" giving free advice online, I can sometimes actually help a person A LOT more. We're sort of forced to "sugarcoat" things (or at least be far less honest and authentic than would be truly impactful) due to our policies. Since what I do is technically part of a business, there are things that get in the way of genuine and authentic human connection-the very thing needed to help people with mental health the most. Its gotten to the point where I often feel more passionate about my discussions and comments on various forums like reddit or youtube anonymously with other anonymous people than I am about my actual job where I'm supposed to be helping people. When you make mental health an industry, they really nerf your potential in the name of safety, security, and liability. You can't be as frank and real as you NEED to be in order to help as much as you could. Now, I understand why there's so much bureaucracy and seemingly endless regulation. It's the threat of legal liability as well as a certain level of responsibility for the client. However, there are also severe limitations that can come with such regulation. I get it. In some respects, I represent a program and a corporation. I can't just go saying a bunch of "real shit" to teenagers no matter how much it could help them because I'm representing more than just my own personal point of view and experience. We aren't allowed to relay too much personal information or experiences, or even imply either in so many ways. So, even if I struggled with the EXACT same thing that someone's going through at the moment and feel I have some good advice that worked for me that I could further tailor to their personal situation, while I'm still in a better position than most to be equipped to help them with it, I really can't get too specific or be too real with someone in a way that will convince them that I actually know what I'm talking about. I have to do all this workaround speaking in coded riddles and essentially have to convey a "just trust me" sort of vibe that isn't always successful. Anonymously online, I could say something very straightforward, it would only take a few seconds, and it would likely be taken more seriously and potentially have a better positive impact than something I was permitted to convey in a more professional manner at my job that's inline with company policy. I have a very specific role at my job that isn't necessarily that of therapist. I'm more of a counselor within a specific program, but it's all still to do with kids who are struggling with behavioral and mental health. So, its almost like even though I'm there to help, I'm tasked with a particular goal when I'm with clients. I'm not expected, or even really encouraged or allowed, to help with the problems kids will come to me with looking for help, or with issues that I just notice and would like to take the initiative to help them with. Going "above and beyond" the specific goal isn't always welcomed or allowed. There's also the added pressure of, if I said something that wasn't helpful or that even hurt someone somehow, I'm more responsible because I'm supposed to be a hired professional, and the company and program I represent is also liable. There's even certain governmental departments and regulations we're beholden to. As a random, anonymous person on the internet, there's no backlash. There's no real responsibility. That's where the dangers and the benefits potentially lie. However, despite any potential danger of being unhelpful, misleading, or wrong, there's no real accountability anyway, nor should any have been expected. It was organic and casual, free, and uncoerced, whether it helped or hurt. I think we need to see a lot more of that and more emphasis needs to be placed on that when it comes to mental health. People should do it for each other more if they feel called to. Unfortunately, I don't really see a viable or ethical way to make money doing this if you're any good at it. Perhaps being an "influencer" of some kind is one of the only ways to do it without the liability and still make money. I do it in my spare time because I need to scratch that itch that I got into this "industry" to try and do. It isn't work for me.
Gosh I feel all this so much. I work in an addiction and mental health treatment program and I have a very specific role and I want to help some clients with things that I notice that others may not. and I also struggle with LOTS of mental health issues and can relate to them on many levels but I am constantly dancing around it and I feel like I am not hitting my full potential to help and connect with people. Ugh it sucks
@@taylorgoodenough3872 Absolutely. This is my experience as well. I've struggled with addiction and mental health for years, but god forbid I give honest, rational, and realistic advice! It might actually be HELPFUL!!! Yet, incriminating and potentially damaging to my company's image...
biggest takeaway - if you struggle with procrastination and are prone to burnouts, take more frequent breaks, long before you become tired at all (among other things, you will get more and more comfortable/familiar/smooth/strong with the act of starting work)
I didn't really know much about Sasha before this, other than her previous career and seeing her on Entourage. Had no idea she was a gamer and streamed, and how chill and down to earth she is. Respect.
I suddenly got her after the insight that she grew up in a tough neighbourhood. She had no choice but to pull herself up with her bootstraps and she always has that anxiety that if she does not keep working she winds up back where she started. She does not have the privaledge of being weak or having a breakdown. Failure is not an option. So I totally get why being shadow banned is frustrating because she is still being looked at as other and having disadvantage thrown in to keep her down. She can mask it with humour, but it's anger. No wonder she was upset about seing other peoples struggles on social media and how society is rigged against you if you don't fit the mold.
Also explains why she's so stuck on following a passion project, if she ain't got somewhere safe to fall back on she runs the risk of losing it all. She's been trained to prioritise survival over fulfilment. She's also been trained to be self reliant. Literally, her main asset in her career has always been herself.
She took the easy route without thinking. I grew up in a world much worse than her. I was offered to collect money for shylocks and refused. There are consequences for our actions.
I did not expect stumbling upon this but wow, this woman is beautiful through and through. I wish her the best and appreciate her wonderfully relatable glow and "aura".
I just love this interview, I don't think Sasha nor Dr k is going to read my comment but I just wanna say, as a 33yo man, I got a bunch of laughs and almost teared up myself when Sasha got emotional. And also, I think Sasha would've succeded with streaming even if she wasn't famous prior. She got that carisma and genuinity that you so rarely see people have. Thank you so much for this.
This one was particularly relevant to me, with uni assignments to do, feeling overwhelmed not just by work that needs to be done but the state of the world, being motivated but procrastinating, being a vata etc. Thanks Doc
I have to say, the section where she said that she doesn't like it at all when people offer sympathy (unless they were in a similar situation) is heartbreaking to hear. Especially having spent over an hour listening to how empathetic she is as an individual. It's like that song by City and Color - "Hope for Now", on the line "how can I instill such hope, but be left with none of my own?". God speed, I hope that aspect of her life gets easier. To allow the same level of empathy to reach her as the one that she exudes to others.
Recently discovered this channel and its videos. I gotta say this is something we need more of! Really cool to see this guy doing such a good job and taking it very seriously. He seems like he has a lot of experience with this and knows what he is doing. This is very helpful and I hope to see this channel grow to big numbers in the future. I wish Dr. K all the best and that he may help a lot of people 💜
This is an aexcellent interview and it genuienly demonstrates the resilence of Sasha, how she manged to stand on her feet again given all the odds that she faced is just fascinating. I strongly encourage her to make her own series to help people overcoming their pornography addiction by exposing the truth behind this industry, I mean who would be a better and more trustworthy candidate than someone who knows the industry first hand, I genuienly hope that Sasha will consider this.
something i feel when she said " i struggle knowing how to prioritize things" in the frame of procrastination, i would thing most people dont actually struggle with knowing a priority of tasks but the actual desire to do them. (this isn't advice directed at sasha or anything just a view from my situation) i know the priority of things i need to do but i struggle with motivation to do them. right now i know my highest priority should always be school, but in practice ive been putting it almost the lowest on priority because im so exhausted of it.
I think though this is a warped way to view priority. School is someone else's priority but often not the procrastinators and trying too understand why we struggle to deprioritize other things that are keeping the higher priority spots for us or getting more motivated and convinced to prioritize school can be really difficult.
this may be a late reaction, but if you are exhausted, then fixing the causes of you exhaustion would be the highest priority - not school or your priority list. but thats just my thought. I know what you mean and i often have the same problem, or similar.
This was such an interesting video. I've never seen Sasha open up like this.. especially emotionally. I always liked her but I'm definitely drawn to her more than ever. The way she presents herself on her platforms versus her being vulnerable about her struggles and mental complexities here with you was so refreshing and relatable. Loved this Dr K!
@@ice2seeU I don't know if YT is removing my comments- it isn't letting me use a particular word while replying to your comment, but I hope you get the idea. Dude, you wouldn't like being minimised in such a way- ever and especially during moments of vulnerability.
This has to be one of the most emotional interviews for me personally. I completely understand her feeling of being overwhelmed by a sense of empathy. I feel like I can fit myself into the lessons being discussed in this video more than any other interview I've seen yet. One of my favorite moments, exactly 1 hour into the video, I see Dr. K starts to get an interesting and understanding expression as Sasha continues talking about the fear of not having a 9-to-5 job or the security or 1000 people working for her, but she's starting to phrase it in such a wild way, almost like she's always chasing the bleeding edge of her career and could never trade it for being "chained to a desk" (my words, not hers), but also that she's a bit covetous of the security that something like that would provide. More than a "cult leader" though, she's a leader. Like, a real leader that seems to bear the weight of her team and her success and failures. Honestly, I hope Sasha does have a thousand people working for her one day. And I hope she puts good out into the world with it.
This comment appears in most of Dr. K's videos. I feel like we relate with almost everyone because almost everyone of us deal with the same issues. (Not exactly the same issues, but you know what I mean...) And the fact that some of these people are "Famous" makes them seem "Different", but they're still people living in the same society as us.
This video helped me a lot. I have some similarities with Sasha's personality and things like procrastination and the search of perfection in everything I do, so this felt really personal. Great one!
Thinking about procrastination as a case of not enough restraint was good to hear. It's something I've personally struggled with for years and I've always thought the motivation was what would make me get things done when I've always been the type to only respond to deadlines set by others to get anything done.
I had no idea Sasha was the person i would relate most to. We seem exactly the same, we even have the same allergic problems. Very interesting talk Dr. K! Thanks!
Same here! There have been a few talks recently where I related to them, and sort of expected that I might share commonalities. Then she gets on the stream and I relate much more to almost everything she talked about dealing with. Learned so much about myself, this was super helpful! Especially about my Vata dosha and parasocial relationships, having been sort of on both ends of it now (though in a very different role from Sasha).
No Offence but I really didn't expect her to come over this intelligent after clicking on this, she's great. For some reason I link "THE" industry is/was in, with... less smart people... Kinda funny... I'm actually the dumb one for making that assumption
Yeah, but even though it's not right, and we should try to fight these stereotypes we form, it's understandable because when you watch porn they always act stupid right? Like "oh stepbrother, I'm stuck in the laundry machine". Your brain can't help but make a connection that what you see on the screen is their real personality and all the depth it has, because that's all you have to base it on. There is probably a lot of other situations you do this in if you think about it, whether it's a youtuber you watch a lot or a movie character.
Asa Akira, AFAIK, programmed her own website back in the day, and quite a few pornstars run businesses. Not saying they're all geniuses, but it's definitely the kind of industry that rewards savvyness.
I think it's because the industry itself is seen as an overall foolish and potentially life destructive decision. A lot of savvier women are going to fare a lot better navigating those challenges but the target recruiting pool is get them while they're young, susceptible to drugs, and unable to recognize a bad film contract.
That Vata stuff was so on point it was crazy. Dr.K just explaining everything I struggle with in terms of procrastination. The hardest part though is setting yourself up/personal projects for the "crisis/deadlines" thing.
Dr. K, this video was so INCREDIBLY helpful for me - just in learning about the concept of "Vata". I've always felt like it was a problem with ME that I couldn't stay interested in one thing and I'm being crushed by my job which always seems to leave me an empty husk. I tried streaming but have never been able to stick to a single game for long periods of time like all of my friends are able to do. I've learned more about myself in these 3 hours than the last 30 years. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
i almost never view the stream on twitch, mostly i view the yt vid after. But he's still the only twitch streamer i have a Subscription for because i think his content is hugely important.
I can relate so much to her, I picked up her vibe instantly and already knew this would be gold! Thank you for this interview, it leaves me a bit less feeling I’m battling certain fights alone when it comes down about being a girl and getting a bit more treated as a boy, or as I always look at it, I had the luxury of expressing myself organically without the idea I was a girl, but could just be me in a sense. Now I see a lot of other women around me that seem like they don’t know who they really are, and making friends this way is sometimes hard, but in a way I also carry a lot of guilt, as it felt like I "survived" the system in my own way and they didn’t seem to have that opportunity…
Thank you for this great talk, I just recently found this channel and was intrigued by the context of mental health/psychology and gaming, which heavly resonates with me. I think a format like this is really beneficial for a lot of people and it definetly was to me. Thanks again, for this open debate Dr.K and Sasha. I would love to see another talk with you both, in like a half year or later.
This video was a huge revelation for me. I've been watching Dr.K for quite a while now and heard about the different types of minds, etc. However I always thought the types are associated mostly with the way you think/how well you can focus and that I'm probably vataand didn't think much of it. Only in this particular podcast it struck me when Dr.K was talking about the two doctors coming up with this dasha system and was hurling out symptoms. HOLY SHIT. Every single vata related thing he said resonated so much with me.I had no idea you can be prone to different diseases for example. Last year I had cold for 3 months straight, I also dream of flying, I'm skinny, I focus hard on different things but abandon them after 2-3 weeks etc etc.. This gives me hope now that I'll perhaps learn to steer myself better to greater success.
I think I need to watch this every few weeks; I resonate with a lot of things discussed here and it's helping me realize a lot of my shortcoming and (surprisingly) strengths. I tend to pile on work projects because I have nothing to fall back on, which results in me procrastinating too many things, leading to feeling overwhelmed, and then trying to push through everything because I'm "strong" and can't afford to look weak after making it this far. While I always knew I worked best after procrastinating and with a time crunch, I never thought of it as a strength. And I always thought the overwhelmed feeling was a lack of motivation, not a lack of restraint but lack of restraint really does turn on a lightbulb in my head.
It would be cool if we could hear you talk to some combat sport athletes who stream, like Max Holloway. I think they have an interesting perspective on life and a lot of them are gamers too!
If he interviews Max dr. K would become one of my all time fave youtubers tbh Max got an interesting perspective of "it is what it is" and is generally positive but he also got some skeletons in his closet (as we all do) and it would be cool getting his insight esp. as a local boy
That would actually be pretty fantastic content. Sports psychology and particularly fight psychology is downright fascinating at times and usually speaks on a deeply human level.
what I thought was extremely nice and cute to witness was how Sasha pointed out that it's dangerous / risky to engage in ways with viewers like saying "I love you" but yet Dr. K ended the whole stream with an "love you guys". And .. I dunno, but it feels wholesome to me. Like he really wants to be there for all of his viewers. It's really heart-warming.
Same. I could literally see him diagnosing her in his head early on lol. This was just randomly recommended to me tonight, never seen either person's twitch before. I clicked on it and just kept watching completely unplanned. I never could've guessed how much I'd be able to relate to both of these people. I have a degree in psychology, work professionally with a lot of teens with mental health issues who tend to love twitch, and I've been "collecting strays" as people come to me and open up about their lives and their problems for a long time. I'm also ADHD af, play video games, and know all about procrastination...if only that knowledge helped me much.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 the RUclips algorithm is kinda scary but that's good even for it. I've watched his stream with Contrapoints before and decided to I'd let this one run in the background but soon check boxes just started ticking in my head and the more I watched the more I saw myself. Seems like she and I could both be poster children for inattentive type ADHD. Also, is the "collecting strays" an ADHD thing? Because I have done that all my life too. And I'm not a psychologist, I'm an engineer. So it doesn't seem like it has that much to do with "charisma" because I'm pretty well lacking in that department 😅
@@arielheining8635 You're right about the algorithm, freaks me out sometimes lol. I think "collecting strays" has to do with a certain kind of authenticity and vulnerability (not to try and gas myself or anyone else up). Something that I personally don't really feel I have much control over in the first place, it's just how I am. I've always been fairly "real", for lack of a better term, whether I want to project that or not. I think some of us have the ability to put others at ease without even trying. Add a heightened amount of empathy and sense of compassion, and you have a recipe for the type of person who'll start collecting strays from a young age. It used to confuse me. I didn't know why so many random (and often flawed, to use the term as nonjudgmentally as possible) people seemed to be attracted to me and feel able to unload their story onto me. It certainly set the stage for me being exposed to and able to consider a lot of different facets of humanity from an early age. Now that I'm able to identify and set healthy boundaries, I consider it a real gift.
I really identify with what she was saying about the problems in society right now. It feels like we're falling behind or humanity is going backwards sometimes and it's really hard to care about getting shit done when you're worried about the stability of society and angry about things that can cause you and people you love a lot of harm.
3 hours, who’d have thought Dr.K would last that long with Sasha Grey?
Noice
My mans is a total Chad. No one was surprised by this.
@@Mohammed-um9jp Toit
bravo
Yah you win the comments
Dr.K’s bucket list:
Film a video with Sasha Grey✅
Used the wrong formula but got the right answer
@@spatel8344 She's missing out on the Chad Thundercock 😂
Brácho pěkně si pofarmil liky, cenim XD
@@endr7u7 My man down real bad
3 hours long, damn!
Shoutout to the person who makes the little chapters in the playbar. Whoever you are, you're the best.
underrated feature
literally the best feature youtube has added so far
(though they removed community captions, which still piss me off ://)
@@seignee easy to clutter the video with intrusive ads etc. They changed it to cards, which pop up in the ℹ️ in the top right, which is better imo. Still have outro vids etc built in
@@kepagu they're talking about captions (subtitles) not annotations
@@akalion213 oh. Is that where the watchers contributed to translating/captioning the video?
'' We all may feel lonely at some point, despite having a family, a support system."
Sasha is actually so right here.
You are not lonely at that moment. You are missing something that you wish you had at that time along with them. It can be anything or a person or sometimes you just feel having something which doesn't even exist.
Try to research about self love, theres a hole in ur heart because you need to love yourself. Instead of going to other people to fill your hole
@@sushilsharma4202 You're in no place to tell anyone else if they're feeling lonely or not. Actualy the second part of your comment is a reasonable description of loneliness.
@@shoelacedonkey I don't think I ever said how one should feel. I'm just pointing out what actually being lonely means.
I'm looking at it from the rational side rather than the emotional.
We all go to the grave alone unfortunately 😪 ❤
Dude... This guy comes out of NOWHERE and within 2-3 years; he's suddenly making connections with celebs, athletes etc... Very impressive.
or very suspicious... you know ppl get put on right?
@@erichardnett9394 huh?
Well he's got over a million subscribers. It's easier to attract them with those kind of numbers.
@@erichardnett9394 sure Joe Rogan and Dr K are CIA agents right?
@@erichardnett9394 Dude's a licensed psychiatrist who's alma mater is Harvard. Nothing suspicious about it, he found a genuine need and filled the gap
That intro snippet with the balls-joke was a perfect selection.
@Unknown Soldier Why do you think she had a horrible lifestyle?
@Unknown Soldier What separates them from any other actor? Every actor plays a persona on stage. But you have no proof that they are playing a persona here.
@Unknown Soldier She was not in the Underworld movie series.
@Unknown Soldier That is very narrow minded and judgmental of you to say. Just because someone chose a different lifestyle than what is considered the "social norm" you call them fake and distrust them?
I'm dying lol
The conversation about strength and being strong reminded me of this from Tao Te Ching :
A man is born gentle and weak.
At his death he is hard and stiff.
Green plants are tender and filled with sap.
At their death they are withered and dry.
Therefore the stiff and unbending is the disciple of death.
The gentle and yielding is the disciple of life.
Thus an army without flexibility never wins a battle.
A tree that is unbending is easily broken.
The hard and strong will fall.
The soft and weak will overcome.
dude
That was beautiful, thank you
Never heard it before and I love it. Thank you
Gg man. Beautiful.
To all who have not heared about his passage before I very fondly recommend you read the Tao Te King. It provides much more wisdom for you to find.
Holy shit, Did you guys notice how Dr K felt sad/concerned for making her cry and then just came up with the balls joke to make her laugh all while playing innocent..damn.. what a 5head.
Everyone keeps saying it was intentional but damn he fooled me.
@@WarsWorth I don’t think it was intentional
@@bargaingoldandsilver it wasnt haha
@@bargaingoldandsilver and that's exactly what makes it so much funnier lol
I don't think he was playing innocent, I'm not sure why people keep saying that. Dr. K is always transparent whenever he purposefully makes any inappropriate jokes for levity. If he did it purposefully he would've said so. You need to remember that Dr. K's mind is working at twice or thrice the speed that our minds do when he's doing in these interviews. In a few minutes he made a connection, a hypothesis, and a possible solution to Sasha's problem and is trying to get a point across; he could easily miss an innuendo when his mind is already 10 steps ahead of you.
A universal theme with these interviews with streamers I’m sensing is just how soul crushing modern society can be. The dark side of the internet, fundamental changes in human interaction and other things that lead to anxiety, depression, etc. It’s really sad but I’m glad there’s people like Dr. K helping us through super unique issues like these.
I have depression and anxiety and I want to stream hoping it could potentially help
@@futavadumnezo I was also diagnosed with depression within the last six months and am doing counseling and medication. It’s making a world of a difference for me! If streaming is therapeutic for you then do whatever it takes to get you through every day.
You have to remember that in these conversations people are trying to get help with subjets they struggle with.
So in almost every interview, there is hurt etc. These people live in modern society in a particularly unnatural situation, that's bound to hurt.
Remember that modern society and internet brought a ton of positive to a ton of people.
Pre-modern society was also soul crushing. Societies before that, even more soul crushing. Then there was a few less soul crushing societies, but then before that; the MOST crushingest of societies. It's almost like scapegoating the internet for the soul crushing nature of existence is more a sign of the dark side of fundamental misattribution.
@@komudiepue bro its literally this like i get people being so "doomsday" about modern times and im like looking back at the past ... where would you want to go back to? like 50 years ago when there were less opportunities for people in relation to jobs (like things like social media really has opened up a lot). and not to be "tokeny" but even for minorities its not perfect by any means but way more opportunities for us and just the treatment (again is not perfect and still a long way to go in some respects) but compare that to pre-modern society. Even things like mental health and the focus on that is much much higher. it's obs by no means perfect but when i see the whole "these times suck" rhetoric on the internet i think its such a short-sighted statement.
I love the way Dr. K approaches people in conversations. "Is it okay if I..." . I just love that he is always asking permission before doing and saying things.
It’s a tactic used for trust… every psychiatrist uses it… and rightfully so! Should always slide in moments of respect, trust and vulnerability towards a patient or whatever. Helps them be more comfortable.
@@sg_onefly good to know
tHIS IS TRULY AN INSANE TIMELINE
You just wait till you see what happens in 2034...you will lose your fucking mind!
@@Maestroxxx1 you guys are hilarious. This timeline is awesome
@@Maestroxxx1 wild
Dr k and a woman who would scream the n word over and over while drinking piss. Truly an insane timeline.
We haven't even reached Ice Poseidon yet...
Idealistic procrastination. Thats exactly what happened to me at university. I always was an A student, even in university until i had to write my bachelors thesis. I created this idea during my studies, of it being this huge thing, where everything has to be perfect. I need to cite everything perfectly, find the best sources, etc.
Then i failed my last semester with only As and Bs, but an F on my bachelor paper. And it shattered my ego because "being good at school" was what i associated with during all of those years in school.
It took me a few years to get over it and work through what happened. And the idea of idealsitic procrastion helped me understand it even better. Thanks Dr. K :)
Are you future me? Writing my thesis now, let's hope it doesn't end badly
Omg this is exactly me
Man, I suffer alternating the 3 types of procrastination. We humans are curious auto saboteurs
@@juliusgreen9179 How was the thesis?
how did you save yourself
It's interesting the more you watch these, you start to pick up on things - like how quickly Sasha is to completely delegitimize her own feelings and disqualify them by focusing on other people's feelings.
Yeah! And with time you start to notice that you are doing these things yourself too! And, I believe, that's where the real value of these streams shows!
i do this a lot...
Yeah I found that so relatable. Something I have struggled with myself unfortunately
What a humble brag
@@fourmargaritas1063 spirituality is a good way my friend if you wish to learn more about what you're saying research gabor matte and Dr.Arthur Janov.
Came for the curiosity of seeing how Sasha Grey is doing after all those years.
Stayed because of the very insightful and interesting conversation! Really great stream!
Sasha is a fascinating interviewee. She is obviously well-known for her previous career, but this has illustrated that she is a very intelligent person. Smart, sharp, energetic, and very charismatic. The person in this interview is not just a pretty face, she has a genuine curiosity and passion for life that is very admirable to me. And her sense of humor is quite infectious as well! She is the kind of person I'd love to just talk to for an hour, I think it would be a great experience.
she looks better with three dudes ramming their phalluses down to her vocal chords on camera
She's a g for sure
This might sound silly but I’ve been a fan since I saw her “Text Etc” appearance that the old machinima crew did. You gotta love how well she has reclaimed her image. If kind people can withstand all the BS they can thrive.
53:20 This is the main problem with todays society, 100 years ago you didn't know what happened in your village 2 miles away, today we know in a second what happens 2000 miles away, is that information relevant to me?, we carry the world problems on our shoulders today and i think it's a key factor to being overwhelmed and depression overall.
Neil Postman is that you?
U nailed it.
Yessir, the more we do to save time (aka technology, phones etc which are all awesome), the more we are also losing time (maybe not as much but it definitely affects us in different ways). Most things have an equal and opposite backfire, just not in the way we think I guess. I learned this from my friend too, and I agree
Not a lot of people care about what happens outside their bubble though lol. I’d say it’s a minority that actually do. But yes technology has developed super fast we still have a lot to catch up on with the mental health side. But over all I feel like the trade off to having endless information in the palm of your hands is worth
Social media gives people high levels of anxiety too
Wow never thought I'd see this crossover
Lol straight up is this what i gotta do to get on stream? Lmao
Not far off tbh. He's done no fap talks.
@Tango Crunch
People still today don't realize porn stars are people too.
@Tango Crunch it's surprising....
people who fap to porn stars the most look down on them the most as well huh
it feels amazing to get to know a person who is only ever associated with something a little... taboo, and to find out she is such a smart, insightful, analytical, but also empathetic, emotional and strong individual.
right, it's almost as if people are people no matter what their occupation is
Truly mindblowing
@@SuperDynaZty
God damn it
The ones who make it taboo are also the ones consuming it.. This society makes no sense, foolish and judgemental..
Its funny like she is hot, but the most attractive thing about her is her intelligence and the way she carries herself.
Her laughing is so endearing. She's like someone cool and fun to hang out with. About a few minutes in, I forgot I was watching and listening to Sasha Grey as I knew growing up. I was listening to a real person - something that we tend to forget when the industry dehumanises people like her.
you put what I felt much more eloquently than I could have. I completely agree with you :)
Seems exactly like the Sasha I grew up with, tbh. You could always see that about her
"as I knew growing up."
dead
@@mgmchenry Idk about that bro.
Well, I mean, it wasn't just the industry. She willingly did that to herself in exchange for money
"I don't know what you're doing, but it's not therapy...But people seem to like it!" I think of this every day I watch one of these interviews, and I can't wait to see the mental health landscape to evolve to be even MORE help to more people.
Just starting the video, but i must say that we NEED this kind of content. We need to see examples of mental health talk, because we have spent years and years as a society hiding this subject.
We need to talk about it, we need to bring it up, show people how it looks or works. Also what can be done and what can't be done, the boundaries between patient and therapist and so on.
This talk is long overdue in all of human society, specially after so many wars, economic instability, natural disasters. For years we struggled to understand or talk about mental health, so yeah...now I think this is a good time to face it.
I went through Hell, I want to be better and i specially want others to know that they can feel better to.
Keep up with this work, sir...even a tiny grain would help.
Love from Argentina 🇦🇷
Aguante el diegote viejaaaa papahh
Yeah we know. The guy has been doing interviews for a number of years now.
@@jeffphillips1832 to help the masses, dr k needs to start a cult
Nosotros por lo menos podemos entender ingles y hay bastante contenido sobre psicologia. Lo que no hay es en español y hace falta
This is probably one of the most important interviews I've watched for me. They touch on all the big beats that I've suffered with. Hearing about the "cult leader" effect was a refreshing take on it, and added a lot of perspective.
I am second guessing myself writing this but as someone who was diagnosed a year ago, I would recommend looking at the diagnostic test for ADHD.
@@randomname1152 I appreciate how you're coming from a place of empathy since you are also a member of the ADHD family. But please don't. I didn't ask. (Mostly because I've already asked experts who have ruled out ADHD as well as many other things.) I hope you are welcome in the HG community though. Many others are looking for help and could use a kind friend who has their life circumstances 😊
@@glumreaper8885 I only found HG less than a month ago and this was my first toe-dip into commenting on any videos. Thank you for replying with compassion especially in the face of my over-stepping a boundary. It means a lot. I wish you well :)
better not watch Dr.K's video with Athene the cult leader of fallen internet warriors LOL
@@randomname1152 sorrym whats HG?
The shadowban section was eye opening. I just thought she was an "alternate media actor" who dropped off the face of the earth. Didn't even know she was on twitch until she did this interview. I now know why.
I tried it out out of curiosity. She doesn't come up through auto fill but when you search her up on Google all of her social media profiles are there. Or did she mean something else?
@@Nemalp I think that was just an example, and what she meant is that her content isn't being promoted by the algorithm as much.
obviously dont play at a pro levell
@@Nemalp That's what a shadowban is, yea.
@@Nemalp Yup thats one of the ways she is shadow banned by these platforms, it depends what website you are searching on, but almost all of them will ban "sasha grey" from being suggested or "auto - filled"
YAY! We all went to therapy together on stream...that was really nice...the invention of "Not a cult"...
Doctor has immense patience. It’s inspiring.
Also how lovely this woman is. She also is inspiring.
I've never seen Dr. K sit like that, looks like he was modelling it for her and she eventually sits in a more relaxed manner as well, even though she said she wouldn't do that because of her presenting and mask.
A good therapist can lead people where they need them to be without ever saying anything. If you ever go to a therapist, then try and take a mental note of how often his/her posture shifts in accordance to yours. You think you're there to play a simple game of mental checkers, but a good therapist is playing some next level chess on a plane beyond our perception.
@@SomethingScotty playing posture chess with a therapist instead of actually therapising. Thats the way to go
I didn't notice that, pretty cool, thanks!
26:15 I want to thank Dr K for giving me a people-handling skill I've now been using at work for months. Too often people just ask me something and want an answer on the spot. They demand immediate answers, and it forces me to umm and aaahh. A lot of the time it's something that actually needs me to do research, or think about. Now I just ask them to leave it with me to find the best answer, or whatever it is that I need to give the person. Some people still don't really like the wait. They don't like to give me time to think it over, even though it's never urgent. But it gives me time to sit down and think about the best approach, instead of just slapping a band-aid answer down. If I stay with them I can blurt out 5 ways to do something. But if I have time to mull those options over, I can come up with the best one to proceed with. Noticed a massive difference with how I provide solutions now at work.
yes that is really a masterpiece of a life hack. you nailed it, usually i went way to fast and to emotional with my answers that the follow up of the discussion lead in a way that i never wanted to go. and afterwards i was always thinking: why did i just not answer "this and this" - it would have been so much clearer and objective. if i feel overwhelmed even with the most simple question, i will take my time, because i know exactly how to respond but i need time to form the answer so everything comes together
Excellent!
@@mortalkomment8028 cc . Bt6
yes that is very important. I am doing it for about 6 years now and it was a real game changer in my business life - although it was only one of some thing to do. the only problem i still have is, that sometimes i feel emotionaly overwhelmed and then i tend to give the fast answer or reaction. 5 minutes later i hate myself for acting like that. it's in my blood i guess. i really like, that you pointed it out again for me and others!
The irony is that they procrastinated on beginning the topic of procrastination
I find myself surprised by being so interested in this conversation. I was gonna check a couple of minutes, and nom I'm at 2h30 and hope it would last much longer. Kuddos to Sacha Grey for delivering so much, being so honest and open. This must be quite a difficult exercice and she did great. She does seem like a very interesting person. Plus it feels so good so find your own thoughts in other people's mind.... Needless to say Dr K is very impressively effective.
First hour "my goodness this is long"
3 hours later "I can do this all day."
This is such an amazing interview, really needed this.
Hoping for a part 2!
Has there ever been?
This comment is the reason why I now am going to keep watching 1:06:41 …🙌🏼😂✌🏼
that's what she said
Twitch is built on hypocracy, double-standards and favoritism. She can't *talk* about what she wants and sees as important issues, but other girls can sit half-naked in a bathtub or show their privates with barely any repercussions. Its mind-blowing how twisted this platform has become and anyone who says they're not treating streamers differently is blind or refuse to see the obvious.
She is a very good streamer tho, she is very real and honest with her personality or it seems so, like you can feel how genuine the stream is and atleast for me i value it a lot.
Is not the platform that is twisted is the world that is twisted and people just got to the platform as it got popular, you know?
And now imagine that the whole world was like this before twitch. This is why we need to change at least the western asap
Why would twitch treat her worse than other streamers?? Wouldnt it make sense for twitch to promote her and earn more viewership because she alr famour or at the very least treat her the same as others?? U need some logic man
@@apexpredator.9770 Because Twitch is built on sponsors and ad revenue and she has a history as a very famous pornstar. So her name will forever be linked to photos of sexual content. Having her name in their promotion will always be a stigma for promoters and therefore they don't want her in the limelight. She said it herself, her name can't even be googled. If a non-famous person shows nudity on stream, their name isn't even remotely big enough to draw the attention of popular media. If Sasha Grey did bikini baths on stream, it would connect the dots of Twitch's real "moral codes" immediately.
Omg women have bodies!!! What a crime!!!
Such a strange phenomenon with this (feigned) new form of modesty - almost "Lutheran" style of judging content . But it's just same ol mysogony . OH NO SHE SHOWS AN ANKLE , WHAT A WH*RE .
you guys make me laugh. "All these poor men that gets fooled into giving all of their money to these "sluts" online bohooo. I'm such a victim". Grow up
aww you gotta bring her back to finish the conversation!!!
57:29 highlight timestamp
real mvp
thank you 🤣
that was already at the intro
I’m so glad that I’m seeing this now, in the middle of changing careers to work independently, feeling a lot of the same things, and having always been a procrastinator. Really insightful. Thank you both for sharing! :)
The discussion of how people change when they are on camera reminds me of Jean-Paul Sartre's theory of "the gaze." Basically, the awareness that someone else is observing us is a very powerful psychological force. Being watched by others is what he was referring to when he made his famous quote, "Hell is other people."
Unless you don't care for a mask
Hell is identified thoughts. He was wrong. We cause our suffering.
@@is-ness I don't know if that is an argument against the gaze. There may be nothing more powerful at making us aware of our own thoughts than knowing we are being observed.
Observation changes the behavior of atoms.
One thing I realize is every person has some sort of ego problem. No matter how rich, poor, humble you are, there will be moments where in order to protect our egos we will not address the problem. Ego really does blind a person, doesn't it?
That's our core problem/function as humans with self-awareness, we attach our"selves" onto anything we can.
You'll need to care about yourselves to survive that does indeed mean that we are inherently egocentric. Luckily we have the ability to kind of break through that. All though that takes alot of effort.
Quoting Alan Watts "Ego doesn't exist,ego is a concept". So you keep following,chasing or fighting against something that doesn't exist...GL with that LOL. My ego meaning years ago I think its really close how Dr K described, ego is either a defense mechanism or insecurity disguised as arrogance,but again those words are concepts we imaginate in our minds to translate the reality in symbols or are just useful to comuncate with other people. Don't fight with yourself or others,surrender and just watch what happens,don't get obsesed with that little word because you can miss a lot of things,Im saying this because I fell into that trap,maybe you not.You are not by any means wrong ,but I want to share this little tip just in case, don't overvalue or overate a concept.❤
i think ego is a self-protection mechanism of our animal brain. It's like those instincts that'll wake you up if a predator is approaching you at night while you're out camping in the open. At the same time it can be irrational and limiting as well if developed out of extreme anomalous experiences that do not reflect everyday life. In which case it might become a model in our brain developed from faulty, inaccurate data. So it's supposed to be a good thing but we gotta watch out that it doesn't become detached from reality, and if it does we gotta reprogram it. Reprogramming i think is the tricky part, since it requires *identifying* which knobs and variables to tweak.
@@zlg1388 Could you reiterate the last part? About "not fighting with yourself"? I got kind of lost there
We love to see two cult leaders propping each other up 🙏
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@@shreyasprabhu3673 they discuss how they have qualities that draw people aka cult leaders
Dr. K should join forces with her and sell aoe essential oils
@@hansonel we can rule this city Dr K, or we can just fight to the death
@@TheMortalKomic we can rule this city mortalkomic, or we can just fight to the death
I've done therapy but you're way better than all the therapists I've been through
After watching all his interviews, hes honestly given me such a different, more healthy view of the world he has good philosophy and I think thats what makes him such a good therapist.
i don`t find him very empathic, yes, he makes sure he`s saying the right words to be perceived but i don`t think he is really empathic, he is a bit of narcissist and likes to hear himself talk therapist stuff.
@@bishopoftroy it's better not to be empathetic, because it allows you to be objective and rational
@@bishopoftroy why do you say that? Do you remember times where he acted narcissistically? Legit curious, unless you think it's something more of his personal life, because if that's the case I see what you mean, but I think he's pretty good at hiding this on the interviews, he does listen to people
@@henritaas9997 No, i don`t know anything about his personal life. In videos he gives fairly good advice in general but putting myself in his guests` place i imagine i wouldn`t choose him as my therapist. He listenes to people sure but he seems always eager to show his professional prowess and expertise when i as a pacient with severe depression i don`t need my therapist to be so quick...i don`t know how to really put this, so eager to show me that he knows what`s wrong. I need someone to just listen and i need to see he`s taking his time to process my pain. He seems to assertive and it`s like he`s waiting for the pacient to finish talking so he can talk. I understand this is a youtube video and he needs the content but still, i wouldn`t feel any chemistry with this guy. But that`s just me. Maybe someone else needs this.
7:50 9:50 life advice, 'therapy' 11:20
19:40 22:37 mask, ur actually leaving out the best part of yourself
26:40 what they need to hear, transparent, authentic
45:50 47:15 what makes u feel u have to do sm?
58:50 lack of security > take as much as u can > overwhelmed 1:03:30
1:08:10 shadowban, different standards
1:09:30 1:10:17 accepting ppl 1:19:30 devaluing own 1:21:50 1:22:57 wallowing self pity, hard to be around
1:24:20 pushing down, not dealing w
1:24:50 why do you have to be so strong?.. 1:25:10 dam ur good! aw
dislike pity 1:28:15 vs respect
1:31:10 u vs others, different circumstances 1:34:20
1:36:20 in becoming strong, u had to grow up 1:37:42 ur story isnt just one of triumph, its struggle
1:39:30 are we allowed to feel for u? accepting compassion 1:40:30 1:41:30 for how much longer? if not dealt w
1:43:30 perspective to stay strong.. but i dont think u need to stay strong 1:43:45 😂
1:48:50 parasocial relationship 1:50:20 understanding someone who doesnt w boundaries
1:53:47 where they expect emotional intimacy 1:56:30 1:59:00 2:02:26 on ur half, for community
2:03:50 😂2:04:55 the stronger the parasocial rel. the stronger the user engagement.. 2:05:55 check boxes 2:07:40 2:10:20 2:11:50 bpd
2:20:00 2:24:40 wind 2:26:40 O.O 2:31:50 to pass on opportunities 2:34:00 proc. bc not ready, until everything 'ideal' > fantasy of execution in head, chase for perfection > paralysed in moment
2:35:10 doing it perfectly or not at all, *' it's gonna be so great WHEN i do it' *
attached to particular outcome, grieve that perfect outcome (it will suck but its ok)
2:38:00 avoidance procrastination > protective mechanism (from emotional possibility of rejection)
'bad', 'lazy' > diagnosing self w unfixable, cant be dealt w
at the end of the day, driven by fear of failure, trying to control circumstances to avoid emotion
2:40:20 operational procrastination/ adhd
2:41:40 breaking down task > component parts
overwhelmed, task too abstract
2:43:00 get a job > more than 1 part to it
2:44:40 procrast. =/= problem > brain for efficiency, energy investment
2:45:40 pick 3 projects & rotate, bring out interest & excitement
2:46:40 !! dont motivate when its time to stop,
demotivate/restrain excitement to cram > burnout
2:48:15 u can have other ppl help/schedule for u
2:50:20 breaks 2:51:30
2:52:40 motivation of crossing off, but running out of steam, restrain ur plate
2:53:47 😂 restraint 2:55:30
hero
Wheres the juggle many balls part?
I came for the procrastinating part a little after 2:29:00
I like the part where he lets us unwind after 2:46:10, because I need that too, just in moderation compared to how much time I waste today
Damn, the analogy of the little kid that can't clean their room made me cry, I'm 31 and still feel like that all the time
Im 27 and its really annoying
@@PhillipAmthor
It's this feeling of complete overwhelmedness..
@@Yang-ob4lk For me its more like. I dont wanna do it. Im not good at it. And this world is fucked up anyway why cant i enjoy myself till im done?
@@PhillipAmthor ur lazy bro
man i see myself in her so much - the overworking, the overwhelm, the feeling the pain of everyone and not being able to help crying and wanting to get away from it ❤
i'm terrible at being responsible for myself too - this video has helped a lot, thankyou
I don't think the overworking was on the same level thow. But I see what you mean.
She has spoken out about this on many occasions and had to fight for way too many years because of being in porn industry. She’s such a great person and very relatable in many ways. She made a mistake and trying to change her future.
It was not a mistake. She was greedy and took the shortcut.
And now she is still trying to get easy money and fame without really working.
People are so gullible when a pretty woman talk, it's ridiculous.
I'm totally not procrastinating by watching this. Definitely not.
Lmao
No. You're watching this to learn to better handle procrastionation. That's what i am doing. Definitely not procrastinating
@@mojolotz I believe you, though I think in my case it really is just that, lol.
@@NoblesseOblige-17 Sorry forgot to add /s
@@mojolotz Ah, thought it might be that based on the last sentence, but wasn't sure.
Its so cool to see how far Sasha's come and learn about her thought process; always had a respect for her, now even more elevated through this interview. Thank you for being open about your problems, as well as Dr. K as always, being the person who through him, we learn a lot.
I relate SO MUCH to the whole "the more qualified you are, the less you're allowed to help people" angle that Dr. K had about streaming. Although they're talking about twitch, I find it to be true in my professional life as well. I work in the mental health field, mostly with teens, and I genuinely feel like I'm less able to make an impact because of all the rules, proper protocol, and even pretty arbitrary corporate decisions that are made. I genuinely feel like when I'm "just some guy" giving free advice online, I can sometimes actually help a person A LOT more. We're sort of forced to "sugarcoat" things (or at least be far less honest and authentic than would be truly impactful) due to our policies.
Since what I do is technically part of a business, there are things that get in the way of genuine and authentic human connection-the very thing needed to help people with mental health the most. Its gotten to the point where I often feel more passionate about my discussions and comments on various forums like reddit or youtube anonymously with other anonymous people than I am about my actual job where I'm supposed to be helping people. When you make mental health an industry, they really nerf your potential in the name of safety, security, and liability. You can't be as frank and real as you NEED to be in order to help as much as you could. Now, I understand why there's so much bureaucracy and seemingly endless regulation. It's the threat of legal liability as well as a certain level of responsibility for the client. However, there are also severe limitations that can come with such regulation.
I get it. In some respects, I represent a program and a corporation. I can't just go saying a bunch of "real shit" to teenagers no matter how much it could help them because I'm representing more than just my own personal point of view and experience. We aren't allowed to relay too much personal information or experiences, or even imply either in so many ways. So, even if I struggled with the EXACT same thing that someone's going through at the moment and feel I have some good advice that worked for me that I could further tailor to their personal situation, while I'm still in a better position than most to be equipped to help them with it, I really can't get too specific or be too real with someone in a way that will convince them that I actually know what I'm talking about. I have to do all this workaround speaking in coded riddles and essentially have to convey a "just trust me" sort of vibe that isn't always successful.
Anonymously online, I could say something very straightforward, it would only take a few seconds, and it would likely be taken more seriously and potentially have a better positive impact than something I was permitted to convey in a more professional manner at my job that's inline with company policy. I have a very specific role at my job that isn't necessarily that of therapist. I'm more of a counselor within a specific program, but it's all still to do with kids who are struggling with behavioral and mental health. So, its almost like even though I'm there to help, I'm tasked with a particular goal when I'm with clients. I'm not expected, or even really encouraged or allowed, to help with the problems kids will come to me with looking for help, or with issues that I just notice and would like to take the initiative to help them with. Going "above and beyond" the specific goal isn't always welcomed or allowed.
There's also the added pressure of, if I said something that wasn't helpful or that even hurt someone somehow, I'm more responsible because I'm supposed to be a hired professional, and the company and program I represent is also liable. There's even certain governmental departments and regulations we're beholden to. As a random, anonymous person on the internet, there's no backlash. There's no real responsibility. That's where the dangers and the benefits potentially lie. However, despite any potential danger of being unhelpful, misleading, or wrong, there's no real accountability anyway, nor should any have been expected. It was organic and casual, free, and uncoerced, whether it helped or hurt. I think we need to see a lot more of that and more emphasis needs to be placed on that when it comes to mental health. People should do it for each other more if they feel called to. Unfortunately, I don't really see a viable or ethical way to make money doing this if you're any good at it. Perhaps being an "influencer" of some kind is one of the only ways to do it without the liability and still make money. I do it in my spare time because I need to scratch that itch that I got into this "industry" to try and do. It isn't work for me.
Gosh I feel all this so much. I work in an addiction and mental health treatment program and I have a very specific role and I want to help some clients with things that I notice that others may not. and I also struggle with LOTS of mental health issues and can relate to them on many levels but I am constantly dancing around it and I feel like I am not hitting my full potential to help and connect with people. Ugh it sucks
@@taylorgoodenough3872 Absolutely. This is my experience as well. I've struggled with addiction and mental health for years, but god forbid I give honest, rational, and realistic advice! It might actually be HELPFUL!!! Yet, incriminating and potentially damaging to my company's image...
biggest takeaway - if you struggle with procrastination and are prone to burnouts, take more frequent breaks, long before you become tired at all (among other things, you will get more and more comfortable/familiar/smooth/strong with the act of starting work)
I didn't really know much about Sasha before this, other than her previous career and seeing her on Entourage. Had no idea she was a gamer and streamed, and how chill and down to earth she is. Respect.
I suddenly got her after the insight that she grew up in a tough neighbourhood. She had no choice but to pull herself up with her bootstraps and she always has that anxiety that if she does not keep working she winds up back where she started. She does not have the privaledge of being weak or having a breakdown. Failure is not an option. So I totally get why being shadow banned is frustrating because she is still being looked at as other and having disadvantage thrown in to keep her down. She can mask it with humour, but it's anger. No wonder she was upset about seing other peoples struggles on social media and how society is rigged against you if you don't fit the mold.
Also explains why she's so stuck on following a passion project, if she ain't got somewhere safe to fall back on she runs the risk of losing it all. She's been trained to prioritise survival over fulfilment. She's also been trained to be self reliant. Literally, her main asset in her career has always been herself.
I can relate to this so much it's not even funny. Show too much of yourself and you'll have to run for the hills, it's a merciless world.
She took the easy route without thinking.
I grew up in a world much worse than her. I was offered to collect money for shylocks and refused.
There are consequences for our actions.
@@DamesanglanteHow is her route easier? Are you in her head?
I did not expect stumbling upon this but wow, this woman is beautiful through and through. I wish her the best and appreciate her wonderfully relatable glow and "aura".
I just love this interview, I don't think Sasha nor Dr k is going to read my comment but I just wanna say, as a 33yo man, I got a bunch of laughs and almost teared up myself when Sasha got emotional. And also, I think Sasha would've succeded with streaming even if she wasn't famous prior. She got that carisma and genuinity that you so rarely see people have.
Thank you so much for this.
This was a GREAT conversation !
Lots of lights went on for me 💡
Thank u Dr. K & beloved guest for the wonderful sharing 🙏🏼🙏🏼
This one was particularly relevant to me, with uni assignments to do, feeling overwhelmed not just by work that needs to be done but the state of the world, being motivated but procrastinating, being a vata etc. Thanks Doc
I'm really having a hard time thinking of a better interview Dr. K has had than this one
I have to say, the section where she said that she doesn't like it at all when people offer sympathy (unless they were in a similar situation) is heartbreaking to hear. Especially having spent over an hour listening to how empathetic she is as an individual. It's like that song by City and Color - "Hope for Now", on the line "how can I instill such hope, but be left with none of my own?". God speed, I hope that aspect of her life gets easier. To allow the same level of empathy to reach her as the one that she exudes to others.
Procrastination was a topic and y’all put it off for over 40 minutes lol. Beautiful
His mic looks like it is sitting on a chair :D I just cant help it.
It's basking in the sunlight :D
The people need to know!
His mic is chilling lmao
His mic RECLINES
Haha I thought this too!
Recently discovered this channel and its videos. I gotta say this is something we need more of! Really cool to see this guy doing such a good job and taking it very seriously. He seems like he has a lot of experience with this and knows what he is doing. This is very helpful and I hope to see this channel grow to big numbers in the future. I wish Dr. K all the best and that he may help a lot of people 💜
This is an aexcellent interview and it genuienly demonstrates the resilence of Sasha, how she manged to stand on her feet again given all the odds that she faced is just fascinating. I strongly encourage her to make her own series to help people overcoming their pornography addiction by exposing the truth behind this industry, I mean who would be a better and more trustworthy candidate than someone who knows the industry first hand, I genuienly hope that Sasha will consider this.
something i feel when she said " i struggle knowing how to prioritize things" in the frame of procrastination, i would thing most people dont actually struggle with knowing a priority of tasks but the actual desire to do them. (this isn't advice directed at sasha or anything just a view from my situation) i know the priority of things i need to do but i struggle with motivation to do them. right now i know my highest priority should always be school, but in practice ive been putting it almost the lowest on priority because im so exhausted of it.
I think though this is a warped way to view priority. School is someone else's priority but often not the procrastinators and trying too understand why we struggle to deprioritize other things that are keeping the higher priority spots for us or getting more motivated and convinced to prioritize school can be really difficult.
this may be a late reaction, but if you are exhausted, then fixing the causes of you exhaustion would be the highest priority - not school or your priority list. but thats just my thought. I know what you mean and i often have the same problem, or similar.
This was such an interesting video. I've never seen Sasha open up like this.. especially emotionally. I always liked her but I'm definitely drawn to her more than ever. The way she presents herself on her platforms versus her being vulnerable about her struggles and mental complexities here with you was so refreshing and relatable. Loved this Dr K!
I've seen her open up.
@@rohanking12able Low.
@@ice2seeU Low*. Let's see how much you enjoy being objectified- in general and in moments of vulnerability in particular.
@@ice2seeU Low*. Let's see how much you enjoy being objectified- in general and in moments of vulnerability in particular.
@@ice2seeU I don't know if YT is removing my comments- it isn't letting me use a particular word while replying to your comment, but I hope you get the idea. Dude, you wouldn't like being minimised in such a way- ever and especially during moments of vulnerability.
This has to be one of the most emotional interviews for me personally. I completely understand her feeling of being overwhelmed by a sense of empathy. I feel like I can fit myself into the lessons being discussed in this video more than any other interview I've seen yet.
One of my favorite moments, exactly 1 hour into the video, I see Dr. K starts to get an interesting and understanding expression as Sasha continues talking about the fear of not having a 9-to-5 job or the security or 1000 people working for her, but she's starting to phrase it in such a wild way, almost like she's always chasing the bleeding edge of her career and could never trade it for being "chained to a desk" (my words, not hers), but also that she's a bit covetous of the security that something like that would provide. More than a "cult leader" though, she's a leader. Like, a real leader that seems to bear the weight of her team and her success and failures. Honestly, I hope Sasha does have a thousand people working for her one day. And I hope she puts good out into the world with it.
I didn't know Sasha Grey was a twitch streamer now. She seems very altruistic and insightful and also really fun. Def gonna follow
she makes good content. Decent gamer, has great cooking streams and actually interacts with chat.
easy money. Speacially with covid and having to be inside the house. Her name brings thousands of people.
idk i would never watch her twitch, but on ponrhub she the bomb
@@paulgotik She is legit fun to watch
That was the goal of this. To advertise her. And you fell right into it.
Think with tbe upper brain, not the lower brain. 🤣
I just finished this interview, and I am genuinely shocked at how much I completely relate with Sasha grey.
This comment appears in most of Dr. K's videos. I feel like we relate with almost everyone because almost everyone of us deal with the same issues.
(Not exactly the same issues, but you know what I mean...)
And the fact that some of these people are "Famous" makes them seem "Different", but they're still people living in the same society as us.
Truth kings.
I respect Sasha Grey at a upper level. Role model for sure.
@@Huizarrole model now or before lol
Not the interview I was expecting. But the interview I needed.
This video helped me a lot. I have some similarities with Sasha's personality and things like procrastination and the search of perfection in everything I do, so this felt really personal. Great one!
Thinking about procrastination as a case of not enough restraint was good to hear. It's something I've personally struggled with for years and I've always thought the motivation was what would make me get things done when I've always been the type to only respond to deadlines set by others to get anything done.
Dr. K opened up alot to her aswell, she is probably a healer
oh yassss she definitely is a healer
What I got from the video she is a cult leader.
@@ivofena83 cult healer
@@hemis21112 aoe healing cult
She cured a lot of blue balls.
I had no idea Sasha was the person i would relate most to. We seem exactly the same, we even have the same allergic problems. Very interesting talk Dr. K! Thanks!
Same here! There have been a few talks recently where I related to them, and sort of expected that I might share commonalities. Then she gets on the stream and I relate much more to almost everything she talked about dealing with. Learned so much about myself, this was super helpful! Especially about my Vata dosha and parasocial relationships, having been sort of on both ends of it now (though in a very different role from Sasha).
I really wanna know about the herbal solutions she found. I'm halfway through the video, I hope it's brought up.
@Gabriel Ismyname and the great "you" is such an exemplary figure oh wait.. nobody knows or cares who you are.
@Gabriel Ismyname Nah, she seems pretty chill and hardworking
@Gabriel Ismyname yikes
What a beautiful finale to an awesome conversation! They do say "show, don't tell." x)))
She’s so wonderful. The world needs her.
No Offence but I really didn't expect her to come over this intelligent after clicking on this, she's great. For some reason I link "THE" industry is/was in, with... less smart people... Kinda funny... I'm actually the dumb one for making that assumption
Yeah, but even though it's not right, and we should try to fight these stereotypes we form, it's understandable because when you watch porn they always act stupid right? Like "oh stepbrother, I'm stuck in the laundry machine". Your brain can't help but make a connection that what you see on the screen is their real personality and all the depth it has, because that's all you have to base it on. There is probably a lot of other situations you do this in if you think about it, whether it's a youtuber you watch a lot or a movie character.
Asa Akira, AFAIK, programmed her own website back in the day, and quite a few pornstars run businesses. Not saying they're all geniuses, but it's definitely the kind of industry that rewards savvyness.
I think it's because the industry itself is seen as an overall foolish and potentially life destructive decision. A lot of savvier women are going to fare a lot better navigating those challenges but the target recruiting pool is get them while they're young, susceptible to drugs, and unable to recognize a bad film contract.
@@Bananajawzzz you are this close to understanding how harmful porn is to the way men view women 👌
there are a few porn stars who are really intelligent, belle delphine and riley reid are good ones
That Vata stuff was so on point it was crazy. Dr.K just explaining everything I struggle with in terms of procrastination. The hardest part though is setting yourself up/personal projects for the "crisis/deadlines" thing.
Sasha has appeared in over 300 pornos, written books, appeared in movies and games (at 32) and SHE'S procrastinating??
doing a job you are paid to do, to make a living, you don't really get to procrastinate. writing on the other hand i can see.
How does one...appear...in...written books?
@@ex0stasis72 Re-read lol
@@doctapeppur1900 lol, I’m just a fan of word play, so I like joking around when I see ambiguity.
@@formatme I beg to differ, I procrastinate at work all the time lmao
Best three hours of my week! Thank you for having this conversation and sharing with us. I really appreciated the parasocial discussion.
Dr. K, this video was so INCREDIBLY helpful for me - just in learning about the concept of "Vata".
I've always felt like it was a problem with ME that I couldn't stay interested in one thing and I'm being crushed by my job which always seems to leave me an empty husk. I tried streaming but have never been able to stick to a single game for long periods of time like all of my friends are able to do. I've learned more about myself in these 3 hours than the last 30 years. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
My two favorite people come together to talk about ball juggling. What a time to be alive.
watching a video about procrastination as I procrastinate what I should be doing. love it.
seems like a valid reason to procrastinate
i almost never view the stream on twitch, mostly i view the yt vid after. But he's still the only twitch streamer i have a Subscription for because i think his content is hugely important.
I can relate so much to her, I picked up her vibe instantly and already knew this would be gold! Thank you for this interview, it leaves me a bit less feeling I’m battling certain fights alone when it comes down about being a girl and getting a bit more treated as a boy, or as I always look at it, I had the luxury of expressing myself organically without the idea I was a girl, but could just be me in a sense. Now I see a lot of other women around me that seem like they don’t know who they really are, and making friends this way is sometimes hard, but in a way I also carry a lot of guilt, as it felt like I "survived" the system in my own way and they didn’t seem to have that opportunity…
What system? Like home system or like female society
Absolutely phenomenal interview. Thank you both so much ❤
literally did a double take when i saw this on my feed
Questioned what website you were on for a second?
@@TheConvectuoso youtube in dark mode got me fooled for a hot sec
Same
@@kash5736 Gold
If you had told me 10 years ago that I would some day listen to a 3h interview of Sasha Grey in its entirety, I wouldn't have believed you.
word
Facts
I wonder what you were up to 10 years ago regarding streamer and award winning actress Sasha Grey.
@@teocantsleep4611ah to be 13 again. I'd buy so much gamestop
Shit, I think I identify as Uncle Grey too.
XD hi Gemik
same here my dude
I never thought I'd have so much in common with Sasha Grey. We share a lot of qualities and struggles. This was interesting!
Thank you for this great talk, I just recently found this channel and was intrigued by the context of mental health/psychology and gaming, which heavly resonates with me. I think a format like this is really beneficial for a lot of people and it definetly was to me. Thanks again, for this open debate Dr.K and Sasha. I would love to see another talk with you both, in like a half year or later.
A couple of years ago I would've never believed that I would some day think of SG as my spirit animal.
2021 is wild.
When you want to see more of sasha grey and you dont even mean her body. Wyld times buddy!
@@PhillipAmthor faccs
This video was a huge revelation for me. I've been watching Dr.K for quite a while now and heard about the different types of minds, etc. However I always thought the types are associated mostly with the way you think/how well you can focus and that I'm probably vataand didn't think much of it. Only in this particular podcast it struck me when Dr.K was talking about the two doctors coming up with this dasha system and was hurling out symptoms. HOLY SHIT. Every single vata related thing he said resonated so much with me.I had no idea you can be prone to different diseases for example. Last year I had cold for 3 months straight, I also dream of flying, I'm skinny, I focus hard on different things but abandon them after 2-3 weeks etc etc.. This gives me hope now that I'll perhaps learn to steer myself better to greater success.
Ledgend says that when you enter one of Dr. K's doors, you emerge from the other one feeling a little bit better.
she needs to feel better. Porn misses her
Dr. K Is my favorite person that makes me laugh and cry. He points out how broken I am and it does help.
I think I need to watch this every few weeks; I resonate with a lot of things discussed here and it's helping me realize a lot of my shortcoming and (surprisingly) strengths.
I tend to pile on work projects because I have nothing to fall back on, which results in me procrastinating too many things, leading to feeling overwhelmed, and then trying to push through everything because I'm "strong" and can't afford to look weak after making it this far.
While I always knew I worked best after procrastinating and with a time crunch, I never thought of it as a strength. And I always thought the overwhelmed feeling was a lack of motivation, not a lack of restraint but lack of restraint really does turn on a lightbulb in my head.
It would be cool if we could hear you talk to some combat sport athletes who stream, like Max Holloway. I think they have an interesting perspective on life and a lot of them are gamers too!
If he interviews Max dr. K would become one of my all time fave youtubers tbh
Max got an interesting perspective of "it is what it is" and is generally positive but he also got some skeletons in his closet (as we all do) and it would be cool getting his insight esp. as a local boy
Rob Whitaker too!
That would be dope, O'Malley and Whittaker stream as well would be cool to have em on.
That would actually be pretty fantastic content. Sports psychology and particularly fight psychology is downright fascinating at times and usually speaks on a deeply human level.
@@tylermcnamara8794 on your latter line... yeah, the truth lies in the heat of (an authentic) battle i believe.
what I thought was extremely nice and cute to witness was how Sasha pointed out that it's dangerous / risky to engage in ways with viewers like saying "I love you" but yet Dr. K ended the whole stream with an "love you guys". And .. I dunno, but it feels wholesome to me. Like he really wants to be there for all of his viewers. It's really heart-warming.
Oh, she wasn't kidding, she's actually shadow banned on Google lmao.
wouldn't put lmao at the end. it's fucked up
@@JulijanBone666 lmao lmao
@@JulijanBone666 You are right, I should have put lmao wtf.
@@dgan2304 at least xD
This is when we use Bing
As someone with ADHD I laughed so hard through all this. He knows that's what's up so fast, I could absolutely tell 😂
Same. I could literally see him diagnosing her in his head early on lol. This was just randomly recommended to me tonight, never seen either person's twitch before. I clicked on it and just kept watching completely unplanned. I never could've guessed how much I'd be able to relate to both of these people. I have a degree in psychology, work professionally with a lot of teens with mental health issues who tend to love twitch, and I've been "collecting strays" as people come to me and open up about their lives and their problems for a long time. I'm also ADHD af, play video games, and know all about procrastination...if only that knowledge helped me much.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 the RUclips algorithm is kinda scary but that's good even for it. I've watched his stream with Contrapoints before and decided to I'd let this one run in the background but soon check boxes just started ticking in my head and the more I watched the more I saw myself. Seems like she and I could both be poster children for inattentive type ADHD.
Also, is the "collecting strays" an ADHD thing? Because I have done that all my life too. And I'm not a psychologist, I'm an engineer. So it doesn't seem like it has that much to do with "charisma" because I'm pretty well lacking in that department 😅
@@arielheining8635 You're right about the algorithm, freaks me out sometimes lol.
I think "collecting strays" has to do with a certain kind of authenticity and vulnerability (not to try and gas myself or anyone else up). Something that I personally don't really feel I have much control over in the first place, it's just how I am. I've always been fairly "real", for lack of a better term, whether I want to project that or not.
I think some of us have the ability to put others at ease without even trying. Add a heightened amount of empathy and sense of compassion, and you have a recipe for the type of person who'll start collecting strays from a young age. It used to confuse me. I didn't know why so many random (and often flawed, to use the term as nonjudgmentally as possible) people seemed to be attracted to me and feel able to unload their story onto me. It certainly set the stage for me being exposed to and able to consider a lot of different facets of humanity from an early age. Now that I'm able to identify and set healthy boundaries, I consider it a real gift.
I was looking for this comment 😅
@@arielheining8635 with Contrapoints? omg thank you I'm looking for that now, thanks for alerting me of that rather than the algorithm lol
This is incredibly valuable, thank you both for making this possible.
My introduction to Sasha Grey was through the Infected Mushroom song Fields of Grey. TIL what her actual background/career is!
Same but the remix Au5 did!
IM rocks
The cult she's talking about is The Purple People, I believe. Did not know they made essential oils 😳
Cult coumpound prices are trough the roof!
I actually think she may have been talking about Young Living. Just look at the founders wiki, it's wild!
The purple people sounds like a cute cult. They better have donuts!
@@PhillipAmthor Thanos did nothing wrong!
I really identify with what she was saying about the problems in society right now. It feels like we're falling behind or humanity is going backwards sometimes and it's really hard to care about getting shit done when you're worried about the stability of society and angry about things that can cause you and people you love a lot of harm.
Wow, so happy i found this. Definitely a conversation i needed to hear, and im only a third of the way through. I can relate to so much she's saying.
whenever Dr. K talks about Ayurveda I think "I'm all of them, but just the bad parts of them all."
I love these streams, man. Some of the best stuff to come out of livestreaming.