My son forgets habits. I have watched it happen. He will have completely lost the habit from one day to the next. He's 26. Late diagnosed ADHD. He checked off so many of the internal ADHD symptoms as a child. But they weren't talked about when he was young. And he wasn't externally hyperactive. So I had no idea.
@@jadadallas5891 this is such an important thing you bring up!! There are different types of ADHD, inattentive type doesn’t manifest as hyperactive so it’s easy to miss in a lot of people who’re still massively struggling day to day!
Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪 I was 55 when I was Diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive, or type 2) People having type 2 are not hyperactive on the outside but way more on the inside.. I really struggle to quiet my mind whenfor example, going to bed and My energy is very low all day long ( if I do something "boring", on the other hand I have loads of energy when it comes to do something that I am very passionate about....) I still forget thing from one day to another or even after 10 min if someone interrupts me😉😄 I am not perfect but I do as good as I can and that is enough..💖🤗
@remiclog Yes this! Struggled me entire life with what I was told was childhood trauma induced anxiety and depression. A "sensitive" child who felt everything. Very low, lethargic with short bouts of increased energy which could be brought on by the most simple/strangest of things. I thought I had ocd as just really perfectionist and everything is all or nothing. Fast forward to the birth of my second child. A birth injury which caused no defects..thank god..to my baby being diagnosed with a childhood cancer at six months. ( unrelated to her birth-neuroblastoma- thankfully without the high risk genetics to it !!) So my daughter is now 3 and really high energy. She is just less introvert to me,my husband and son. I just knew from work on trauma that my issues were not caused by trauma...In comes my doctor who knows my whole life story and realises that all my overwhelm and other symptoms tick all the boxes of adhd. I would never have thought. Now diagnosed with adhd with autistic tendencies. I'm struggling more now knowing to be honest 😢
I was teary eyed when you said you can’t change how the outside world would treat your children, but you can be their comfort.. plus the hugging and the kissing… 🥹 bless your heart! Thank you for uploading this beautiful video ❤
I'm a 48 yr old mom of 3 boys. They are all grown and out of the house now. I wish I had you back when I was struggling with all this. I just adore listening to you
So glad to see Part 3, Remi! Your gorgeous accent. Just sat down after my chores, and then, OH! It's Remi! Yay. 🎉 and went to get my huge pile of laundry to fold as I spent time with you.🧡🤍🤎
In case you might like some tips that helped me: - Ditch the marker /pen trays and use a clear bin instead. It's faster when putting them away and lets you see inside without dumping everything. User friendly storage and access made a world of difference for me. It has to be easy. - In my kids room, I had one spot as sorting station where things could go until they were put away. Folded laundry, books, etc., got place in piles, but the deal was everyone had to spend five minutes (or 10 or whatever) or put away five things (10...) each morning and /or each night. I would wander the room gathering things off the floor, sorting as I went, and cheered them on as we all put things away. - Having all the costumes in one bag guarantees that if anyone wants to play dress-up, the bag will be emptied and left on the floor. Wall hooks for fewer costumes that can be seen might save some mess. - Same with the teddies, if you can't find the one you want, you're going to dump them all. What about a teddy hammock in the corner? - The cars in the hamper would be easier on an open shelf, without necessarily taking up lots more space. No dumping everything out to find the one you want. - Again for books stacked in a drawer or squashed into cupboards. - Instead of books leaning on a dresser that fall over when a few are removed, I really like cubby shelves (like the Ikea Kalax) for kids books and things. - I also make lists for each member of the family each day - and it includes things like tooth brushing, which have to be checked off when they are done. - The other thing I notice with my adult daughter is that screen time is her absolute undoing for getting things done and being able to focus. Screens and technology were not a regular part of her childhood and for her the problem got much worse now that she uses them everyday. - Instead of a box of toys inside a drawer, I would put the toys in the drawer and toss the box. - Staging the kids toys like the cute little figures stuck with stick-tack is lovely, but not practical for play or for clean up. - For me, I had to skip all the extras like Easter decorations and Hallowe'en parties, etc., and stick to Christmas and birthdays only. For the rest we might do something fun, but it couldn't be a big project that put me behind again. - I always try to prioritize the chores that will get worse if left undone. Laundry and dishes, for instance, will take longer to do if they pile up. Vacuuming or scrubbing, however, take about the same amount of time no matter how bad it gets. Regarding kids sleeping alone. I had a family bed and nursed my kids beyond the average length of time. My first didn't sleep through the night until she was five and a half. My second was the complete opposite. When #1 moved into her own bed, I put #2 in with her so she wasn't alone. It worked beautifully. Toddler slept through and the big sister was comforted by her presence. There is a HUGE gap between children understanding the expectations and being capable, and them being ABLE to reliably take responsibility. The first, they can learn quite young. The second can take decades. My mom had PTSD from childhood trauma and NEEDED the house to be nearly perfect at all times. Despite that, my room was always a disaster, and I could not stay on top of my chores. I tried very hard with my kids to be tidy and to teach those habits, but it was hard. The mess was stressful and the days were busy. As adults, one is tidy and the other is messy but anxious about it. Same house, same parents, different kids. I wonder if there are any strategies to avoid burn out and avoid getting behind in chores at the same time. Hiring some help - house keeper, mother's helper, babysitter? Doing a work bee with a friend? Having a monthly sleepover for the kids with a family member? Tips from a life coach to help with accountability and brainstorming? It is SO hard to be a woman /parent /working mom! And even if you put yourself out there on social media, no one has the right to judge you. Being messy is not a moral failing. It may be frustrating, disappointing, uncomfortable, anxiety inducing, overwhelming or inconvenient, but it's nobody else's business. You are a good mom and a good human :) Beautiful job with the clean up and with Rudy 💜
I have 3 clear shoebox bins 1. Markers 2. School pencils 3. Crayons A non see thru bin meant everything was dumped out just to find the blue pencil. Lol. So annoying.
I completely agree with you on so many points. Now that I'm 61 I'm changing my priorities again due to ill-health to make keeping myself and the house clean and tidy. It takes quite a mindset shift, but the improvement in my quality of life is so worth it. And it's an ongoing process. 😊
Life is so much easier when 80% of our stuff and clothes go out the door. We only use 20% of it anyway, Neurodivergent or not. ❤ It took me over 50 years to realise this.
That's exactly what I was thinking while watching this video. I'm absolutely not picking on Remi, but watching her sort the amount of stuff reminded me that my issues with keeping my house tidy boil down to us (my husband and I) have far too much stuff. That's where I'm going to spend my energy. 😊
I am 39 and just doing major days of getting rid/donating stuff! I am finally realize why my Mom has a “simplify” sign up! Less is really more- for organizing, for our brains to function optimally in a space and all. These videos that Remi makes help, as well as the comments.
@@remiclogright guys, what helped me was hearing a dentist say this, don't wait for the right time to brush your teeth, so don't wait to do it after breakfast or after your evening meal because knowing people like us, it won't happen, just do it at random when it pops in your head, so I've just done mine at 4pm cause I thought about it, will I do them before bed, no. But at least I did them today. 😊
I’m literally tearing up hearing you talk about this. I have adhd and I think my oldest son has it too and I have really been struggling with things like this, especially recently. I want to help him, but it’s very hard to do. Hearing you talk about this has really helped me today. Thank you.
I have followed you for some time now and I´m so impressed with you being so young and yet so very wise. I´m more than dubble your age and I wish I had been this wise when my child was young. Your children are indeed blessed with you as their mother. Greetings from Sweden.
Starting therapy next week, thanks to you. In a good way! 😂 Struggled so long to explain what I need help with, until I found you and you explained executive dysfunction. Lifesaver! I don't have ADHD nor ASD, so most therapists assume I am depressed or traumatized. I did have a burnout, and survived cancer, but that was two years ago and I never lost my smile and the capacity to enjoy things. I could also get stuff done if I really had to. 😅 But with every day stuff I just got.. stuck. Hopefully therapy can support me while I build up new routines, develop triggers to get off my ass, rewards to keep it fun, and a goal to work forwards to. Your videos got me started, hopefully therapy gets me the rest of the way! ❤ So thank you, Remi.
Wow you’ve been through so much!!! I’m so excited for you to start your therapy journey! It sounds like you’ve got a brilliant, positive attitude. Sending you all the luck and love in the world ❤️
I would take all of those pens out of those cases and have them all in one big box so they are far easier for the kids to put away themselves and if they can't get in to the routine just now, or ever, it'll make it easier for you as well. I struggle to clean my teeth as well. It takes so much effort to motivate myaelf and remember. I do it every night without fail but the first clean of the day is where I trip up. Largely because I have chronic illness with crippling fatigue and throw in autism executive disfunction and it's not as easy for people like us. You are such a bloody incredible mum! I've said it many times! I see it so much in your videos! There is no such thing as perfection and all the skills you do have and all that you give to your boys gives them some skills that a lot of kids of our generation didn't have. You're doing so much good and deserve to be so proud! I'm currently studying my 2nd undergraduate degree, this one is Psychology, because I'm also fascinated by the way brains work! I spotted the "My Body" books in the boys' room and it made me smile because I loved those books growing up!
Being a loving mom is way more important than being a spotless housekeeper, and you are a wonderful mom. Also, your house has limited storage, which makes it even harder to keep things put away. Give yourself the credit you deserve!
Thank u, Remi, for being my body double in helping me clean my mess of a flat and giving me the motivation on what I needed many years ago. You are the best, and your videos help me in so many ways. I can't complain and thank u enough sending u much appreciation, and love ❤❤❤❤your the best thank u for your videos it really does help in so many ways ❤❤❤❤❤
i appreciate you being vulnerable with your dental hygiene habits. That is something that I have also been struggling with for a long time and I feel really shameful about it but it feels comforting to know Im not alone.
I'm the same. When we went in to COVID lockdown I was happy not to leave the house and didn't look in a mirror. When we ran out of food I went shopping in the car and noticed a thing on my tooth. I checked it in the mirror and it was brown plaque! I was horrified! After this really started to work on this and I am much better at it now but it certainly doesn't come naturally. (57, AuDhd)
Admitting responsibility and feeling like you failed is very much a huge step. You will continue to improve! I know because I, too, have had to learn to do the same. You have come so far... remember until you die you are still growing and improving.
My daughter-in-law deals with the same issues by refusing to have more than her clutter threshold. It’s one of Dana K White’s things. I love your videos. You and Mac are really good at explaining how these things happen. It helps me understand when I do my free cleanings. It helps it all make sense. Love ya ❤ 😘
I am so glad you posted. 🎉🎉🎉 You have been my body double for a weeks now. But I am that point where I have been though your Facebook shorts and your RUclips channel. Now I can fold the laundry while listening to you.
Your depth of care and gift at communicating brings tears to my eyes most videos. I am so glad you are raising your voice and using your platform to bring awareness and understanding to others. Thank you Remi
My father was an army drill Sergeant. Our house had to be spotless and be able to eat off the bathroom floor! So like you my house always looks like a tornado went through it. Love your videos!
I literally was crying when you were talking about dental sensory issues and remembering to brush because I have dealt with this shame I felt my whole life(48years). I was diagnosed with adhd in my early 20’s, but it wasn’t like you get this handbook along with it. You have helped me so much to understand why I do or don’t do the things I do. Made me feel more “normal” and that I am far from alone in my struggles and that is so extremely comforting. I will never be able to thank you enough on how you’ve helped me. Ms. Remi you have a great gift and thank you for sharing💛
Another fab motivational and honest video, thank you for keeping me going, I have 3 adhd and asd kids and your videos make me feel so less rubbish about my home thank you ❤
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you are wise beyond your years. I wish that there would’ve been someone like you that would’ve explained my kids world in this way to me. So I could understand what was happening. And WHY! I think I was probably a parent who did more harm than good when it came to this. And I regret it so much!
@ but i do regret it. I know my daughter especially has suffered because of being made to feel lazy all her life when she wasnt. And our relationship has also suffered because of it. And believe me, I’ve apologized to both of my kids. And I think on some level that apology has helped. But it didn’t undo all those years of us shaming her. And I hate that.
The damage is done, there is no use for regret, as these thoughts only keep you in the past, instead of arriving in the present to heal and repair! Most likely, when you tell your kids today how sorry you are, and get a little emotional, that puts additional pressure on them- they will tell you it wasn’t that bad and override their own feelings again, as most children go very far to keep their parents happy and content. Or they get angry everytime, and that is not the feeling they want to have when they see you. Instead, try to create a loving and inviting environment for them today. Make them feel good around you and want to come and see you. Be a reason for joy! And most important: ask and listen. Don’t make it about you, make it about them. Ask what they need, what you can’t do or help or change to make them more comfortable. Be prepared that the feedback will hurt you, and take your time to respond. Don’t become defensive. This is not easy, but if you want a lasting relationship with your children, this is the only way to give them the safe space they needed as children, and that they can let out all the pain. I had a similar constellation with my parents, and after I says all I had to say (it took some months) I was able to forgive them, as nothing they did to me was meant to hurt me or intentional, but just as you they simply lacked knowledge. From that moment on our relationship had a chance and started growing, and still is many years later. No pills or therapy had such a grave impact to my healing as these talks with my parents had. And you have that chance too- but ask and listen.
Remi I cried listening to you talk about Rudi. What a fantastic mother he has with you by his side. I'm sitting in my 14 year old daughters room giving it a clean while she's out with her friends. I tell my kids every day of their lives how much I love them as I didn't have that growing up. My parents fed and clothed us but I never felt truly loved by my mother. You are AMAZING. You have two very lucky children X😊
Just talking about my own experience here, when my kids were young because of the toys they had, it was always messy! All I could do was do my best with the mess. Once they get older they have different intrests and there's no messy toys around anymore. Sometimes it's just living that paticular season of life, and before you know it they're not little kids playing with toys anymore. I did the best I could with my house back then, it was never perfect and I had hard days but before you know it they're teenagers. And then it's a different kind of mess! When we try our best thats all we can do. You're an amazing, loving, nuturing mum Remi and that really shines through. Your kids will remember all the good times you had together and that's the most important thing. You put things into words so well, I wish I was that articulate! Thanks for another great video, hope you and yours are all well. 🙂👍
i've got a burnout house right now and it's very overwhelming. watching your videos helps remind me that i'm not alone, and i can in fact tidy my own house. so thank you.
Im serious when I say you are my mini me. I’m very fond of you and enjoy your content. I’m a mom of 2 boys. I sure miss them being small. I love your tips. THANK YOU. 🤍🤗
*I’m really impressed with how you approached cleaning, focusing on a simple yet effective system. It reduces the overwhelm and makes the cleaning process so much easier.* 💯💯💯❤❤❤
Thank you, Remi. the things you said in this video resonated with me. In fact, all of your videos resonate with me. Thank you for being a voice for those of us that can’t put this into words.
I'm mostly neurotypical (As far as I know) but I grew up in a VERY dirty house and I'm still struggling to find routines that work for me at 40. But I have gotten much better over the years and I am able to keep a generally tidy house, which I'm grateful for for sure. Thank you for sharing with us!
I’m so glad you talk so openly about neurodivergence, my daughter who is just 6 has ASD and there is so much ignorance around it , and peoples criticism and lack of understanding is a much bigger challenge than ASD itself. Love your bedding ❤
Remi, you are a wonderful Mom and don't Ever let anybody tell you otherwise. You are the mom your boys are meant to have because you understand what they are going through and can help them. I loved you and your son hugging when you got through folding the clothes.
I empathise totally. Every morning repeating the same simple instructions over and over again, only to turn round and have to do it again. It’s so overwhelming. ❤️
Two happy thing s I saw...the not water bottle. I have one too! I saw how great Rudy can fold clothes.Please tell him how good of a job he is doing! You are a great mom and little step can be made each day. Allow grace, and forgiveness to enter your home. Can't wait for the next episode. Thanks again.
I love your videos and I love how you are a mom! So considerate and loving to your children, they are so lucky to have you ❤ thank you for making these videos! You are a great inspiration 😊
Mi biggest problem is I’m so slow…I have to mentally program every action and try to do things in a certain order and end up loosing time and getting very tired. I started noticing this things about myself thanks to your videos, you’re an endless source of insight about neurodivergence, thanks a lot for what you do ❤
Ooh, interesting insight. Me too. I've spent most of my life wondering why I can't keep up with everyone else. I think for me I loose a lot of time transitioning from one thing to the next. I can't just switch from one thing to another like so many other people seem to be able to. I've decided this winter to try to do less. Embrace my inner cave-person!! 😄 Instead of pushing through, and getting exhausted, I'm going to try to pair down my commitments and have more cosy evenings in. That's the plan anyway - so far I've not managed very well and am still shattered!! 😅
I get easily overwhelmed, so I need a written plan - a to do list, sometimes even with timeslots filled in. I have to stick to routines, and mostly do things in the same order so I can focus. If I start trying to 'decide' what to do, I get lost in decision paralysis.
I think everyone is different and hats off to you for prioritizing your children's childhood above everything else. There will always be chores but they won't always be little ❤
Your boys are going to remember you and Charlie always being there, always being loved and always standing up for them. Those (things to me anyway) are the most important things. I think you both are doing a wonderful job!! Much love from Kentucky, United States 😘
Anytime I watch or just listen to your videos, it feels like giving my childhood self a big hug and telling her it's going to be ok. Thank you for that Remi, you are a blessing to see many. Your kind voice soothes me when I'm beating myself up for the state of my home and how I'm raising my kids. I can't thank you enough. I hope your little family had a lovely Halloween!
I can only suggest: BINS 😂❤ It changes my life! No, it's not perfectly organized. But it takes away the barriers! It's super easy to throw stuff into them and: • the floors are free • you find what you're looking for So just bought Ikea Kalax boxes and put them on the floor against a wall. NO NOT A KALAX! Only the boxes, next to each other ❤😊
I totally agree. Lids and drawers are my nemesis. My mother used to get so frustrated with me that I didn't "just clean". But even at 40+ I still struggle with anything that has a lid or a drawer. 😢
You are the most amazing loving mother I've met .I have learnt so much about myself and relised this is how I to think and act ,thank you so very much for being so very kind and supportive to us all here we all here love snd appreciate you .I'm watching from New Zealand and I'm now motivated to clean my autstic sons room again
You are a great mom Remy. It made me cry when you said that you sometimes think your children deserve better. You are doing your best and that's really the most anyone can do. No such thing as a perfect parent!
Quickly came to see your video Remi great job on the room. I just love your videos keep them coming. ❤❤small town Butler,MO USA love listening to your calming voice. Have great rest of your day
just starting the video now but just wanted to say how thoroughly appreciative i am to see your upload!! i’ve been in a really bad spot yesterday and today - i took one bad interaction way out of proportion and have been frozen and spiraling because of it. i’m going to take this video as a sign to get up and make some small progress wherever i can. ❤ cannot say enough how much your videos help me, i watch them over and over and over again to get through my daily tasks. sending love to you ❤
also just want to say - hearing you speak about your struggles with dental hygiene is soo relatable. you are NOT the only one who has a tough time remembering. i set alarms for AM and PM to brush and floss and tbh, some days i still forget to brush, and it’s even rarer that i actually do floss. it’s hard. it’s still worth making the effort. it doesn’t mean that you or I or anyone else is unworthy of love and care and respect. we will keep trying!!
one last comment - i am a single woman in my mid-twenties with no kids, living alone in an apartment and i find it incredibly difficult just to maintain my own living space and daily habits. i can’t even make more than one meal a day. ANY person who sends you hate is off their fucking nut, you are working incredibly hard and are doing a great job raising two sweet young boys to be confident, kind, and happy. just making it through a day of parenting is an accomplishment in my mind, and i give you so much credit for battling all these negative comments while clearly putting so much love and thought into your parenting and childcare. i love these videos, and would happily watch you clean the same room every day just to have the company and chatter from a likeminded soul. while watching your video, i cleaned up some of my kitchen table, stacked up my dirty dishes, got dressed, made coffee, and fed my pet shrimps ❤ thank you for the company and motivation and i hope you’re having a happy halloween!! sending love ❤
Great job on all fronts, including parent and partner. You videos are inspirational for me. They so help me understand myself and help me get my own house in order. Thanks so much!
I love your videos and the topics are so relevant (even though I'm not a parent). People get so judgy with parents as though it's a one-size-fits-all deal and it's not. I love that you're so supportive of your kids and I think you're a great mum. I'm so looking forward to your book.
I love your videos, I’m expecting my 2nd child and lost my job 1 month ago so I am feeling very hormonal and overwhelmed, your video brought tears to my eyes 🥹💜 you are a gift! Keep staying strong and loving your children! Someday your children will be able to watch these videos and see how much they are truly loved! Now, onto the cleaning 🙌🏼 kitchen first!
Not all families are the same; your children are great with donation and my children will go to battle to keep a ripped sticker from the bottom of a soccer shoe. You're leading magnificently ❤
You're a great mum, nice to see you and Rudi working together on the laundry 😊 I have 3 grown sons and 2 grandchildren now, I relate to the struggles but when I was a young mum I had to muddle through. I find your chats so relatable and comforting ❤
I love that you are working on making sure your babies have good self-talk. I am coming up on 53 and still struggle with negative self-talk. Though not officially diagnosed yet, I am, without a doubt, ADHD and grew up being criticized for messiness, fidgeting and inattention. My older sister called me space case if that says anything. I too struggle with things like consistently brushing my teeth, sensitive gums along with not being able to form habits, so definitely don't feel bad about that. You are amazing and are doing fantastic. I did notice that your son's pens are in a box with multiple trays. I was thinking, it might be easier for him, and you, to just get rid of the trays and put the pens in the box. I have some pens that I have in their original packaging, and it's driving me crazy not having them at easy access. I'm looking into stackable drawers for mine, but I have a full adult desk. So, just thought maybe it would help keep putting the pens away easier if they were just stored in the box without the trays. Looking forward to the next video.
You are a great Mom. All those people who criticize you have their own major problems. They just choose to project their inadequacies onto you rather than deal with them. In the end if you and your family are happy that is what matter most.
What a lovely chat we just had with you! I was happy to let you take the floor and run with it! Your lovely voice is soothing and calming in nature. You have developed a beautiful outlook on your situation! Luckily, you have done your homework and have much knowledge and wisdom to impart on your kiddos and how important it is to be, 1st of all, a loving parent! Kindness, patience and guidance go so much further than being a drill instructor. Thanks for sharing your life with us! Love your channel! See you again soon! Hugs from Michigan in the USA!
You keep me trying to overcome this. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and so, so discouraging, depressing. Anxious and crippling anxiety. Therapy, medication and still overwhelmed and mentally beating myself up. Best thing my therapist ever told me is pick my battles with my kids. Our relationship was great, i was able to get them the help for their own mental challenges. Including with the school. I picked my battles and cared for the most important things in their lives. Thank you, Remi they are in their 30's now and it is my time to take care of myself and improve my life.
I have really enjoyed watching your videos. I like how you talk to us while we watch you clean. From an outside perspective, it looks like you and your family probably have too much inventory (things) to take care of. It really does make a huge difference when you get rid of a lot of things. There isn’t so much to get out of hand so quickly and it makes your house seem larger. Laundry doesn’t pile up because you are forced to stay on top of it or you won’t have clean clothes to wear. That was the game changer for me and led to us decluttering so much of our things. Again, I love your videos; keep up the good work!
Beautiful, Remi.❤ Feeling that pep-talk and those sentiments there at the end deeply, both in my own heart and my parent heart. ❤❤❤ just diagnosed with ADHD two months ago, And learning to be easier on myself and my family. I listen to all you said twice .
Thank you for continuously shedding light on adhd ❤❤ i wish i woudlve had an understanding and supportive mum as you growing up. Its not just a quirky character trait it really messes with your brain and people should be more empathetic and kind to each other in general 🥰
You are not failing...you are learning, adapting and doing ! You are the best person I have seen on this internet and I love your video's and family and I get inspired every time I see you. Thank you.
My son, now 22, has ADHD but I always feel that is just the label given to him. His anxiety can be through the roof and so can his abundance of kindness! As parents all we want for our children is for them to be accepted. Thank you Remi for putting words to what so many parents struggle with while trying to raise happy, healthy productive humans!
Yes!! Totally agree with all the positive self-talk in this video! Being emotionally available and supportive of your children is the most important job anyone can have! And you’re doing that. ❤
I needed to hear your words today more than ever ❤ thank you! I am so grateful for you ❣️ you have truly blessed me. By sharing your story and being vulnerable to spread this awareness, you have significantly improved my healing & overall mental wellbeing. I can never thank you enough! Learning how to finally love and care about my own self had much of your assistance with your videos! You’ve changed my life ❤
Hi Remi, I deeply admire your mindset, your patience, your wisdom and your resilience. For me and so many others you are really an amazing and inspiring person. Greets and hugs from an older lady 😊❤
All so articulatedly explained Remi regarding your family dynamics. Your house is full of love and you have learnt your own techniques for coping which you are now passing on to others 💕
I found this video on my recommended and will be sticking around! It is so heartening to hear about your parenting, avoiding shame and working to find strategies that work for you and your kids. I have a very similar problem with toothbrushing, sensory issues, and daily habits, and I know just how hard it gets to convince yourself. Lots of love to you on this journey!
Hi Remi your such a beautiful person. Your boys and Charlie are great as a family. You instil in them good values, respect, love acceptance. It looks so tidy ❤love hearing your voice. Never feel alone, many are rooting for you. My prayers are for you to find more peace with how you were are made. I struggle with adhd, Autism. You are brave, don't listen to judgemental comments, try not to its hard. Parenting is the hardest thing ever. You are a good mum 😊all my love Jess
I found with my kids there was just too much stuff , overwhelmed them and me. I would dread Christmas and birthdays . I asked family and friends if they wished to buy the kids stuff was to buy experiences. BEST idea ever. Also banned stuffies. Less clutter less mind clutter 🐨☺️
My son forgets habits. I have watched it happen. He will have completely lost the habit from one day to the next. He's 26. Late diagnosed ADHD. He checked off so many of the internal ADHD symptoms as a child. But they weren't talked about when he was young. And he wasn't externally hyperactive. So I had no idea.
@@jadadallas5891 this is such an important thing you bring up!! There are different types of ADHD, inattentive type doesn’t manifest as hyperactive so it’s easy to miss in a lot of people who’re still massively struggling day to day!
Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪
I was 55 when I was Diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive, or type 2)
People having type 2 are not hyperactive on the outside but way more on the inside..
I really struggle to quiet my mind whenfor example, going to bed and
My energy is very low all day long ( if I do something "boring", on the other hand I have loads of energy when it comes to do something that I am very passionate about....)
I still forget thing from one day to another or even after 10 min if someone interrupts me😉😄 I am not perfect but I do as good as I can and that is enough..💖🤗
Me too!!!!
I have the exact same son.
@remiclog Yes this! Struggled me entire life with what I was told was childhood trauma induced anxiety and depression. A "sensitive" child who felt everything. Very low, lethargic with short bouts of increased energy which could be brought on by the most simple/strangest of things. I thought I had ocd as just really perfectionist and everything is all or nothing. Fast forward to the birth of my second child. A birth injury which caused no defects..thank god..to my baby being diagnosed with a childhood cancer at six months. ( unrelated to her birth-neuroblastoma- thankfully without the high risk genetics to it !!) So my daughter is now 3 and really high energy. She is just less introvert to me,my husband and son. I just knew from work on trauma that my issues were not caused by trauma...In comes my doctor who knows my whole life story and realises that all my overwhelm and other symptoms tick all the boxes of adhd. I would never have thought. Now diagnosed with adhd with autistic tendencies. I'm struggling more now knowing to be honest 😢
I was teary eyed when you said you can’t change how the outside world would treat your children, but you can be their comfort.. plus the hugging and the kissing… 🥹 bless your heart! Thank you for uploading this beautiful video ❤
@@rodezadelacruz5606 I'm teary eyed also. This was a very moving video for me.
I'm a 48 yr old mom of 3 boys. They are all grown and out of the house now. I wish I had you back when I was struggling with all this. I just adore listening to you
I totally agree with you. My house looks like this after 30 seconds.
And I wished that I spent my time doing more playing and not cleaning so much 😢..
And they don’t get any easier when they are teens! In fact I find they make more mess!
Time to celebrate when there's a new Remi video!! ❤ Thank you for keeping me going x
Oh bless you!! I really hope you enjoy this one! ❤️
Yes, time to celebrate!! 🎉🎉
So glad to see Part 3, Remi! Your gorgeous accent. Just sat down after my chores, and then, OH! It's Remi! Yay. 🎉 and went to get my huge pile of laundry to fold as I spent time with you.🧡🤍🤎
@@Elizagrace9Me too! 😄💕
100 percent. Such joy to see Remi upload
In case you might like some tips that helped me:
- Ditch the marker /pen trays and use a clear bin instead. It's faster when putting them away and lets you see inside without dumping everything. User friendly storage and access made a world of difference for me. It has to be easy.
- In my kids room, I had one spot as sorting station where things could go until they were put away. Folded laundry, books, etc., got place in piles, but the deal was everyone had to spend five minutes (or 10 or whatever) or put away five things (10...) each morning and /or each night. I would wander the room gathering things off the floor, sorting as I went, and cheered them on as we all put things away.
- Having all the costumes in one bag guarantees that if anyone wants to play dress-up, the bag will be emptied and left on the floor. Wall hooks for fewer costumes that can be seen might save some mess.
- Same with the teddies, if you can't find the one you want, you're going to dump them all. What about a teddy hammock in the corner?
- The cars in the hamper would be easier on an open shelf, without necessarily taking up lots more space. No dumping everything out to find the one you want.
- Again for books stacked in a drawer or squashed into cupboards.
- Instead of books leaning on a dresser that fall over when a few are removed, I really like cubby shelves (like the Ikea Kalax) for kids books and things.
- I also make lists for each member of the family each day - and it includes things like tooth brushing, which have to be checked off when they are done.
- The other thing I notice with my adult daughter is that screen time is her absolute undoing for getting things done and being able to focus. Screens and technology were not a regular part of her childhood and for her the problem got much worse now that she uses them everyday.
- Instead of a box of toys inside a drawer, I would put the toys in the drawer and toss the box.
- Staging the kids toys like the cute little figures stuck with stick-tack is lovely, but not practical for play or for clean up.
- For me, I had to skip all the extras like Easter decorations and Hallowe'en parties, etc., and stick to Christmas and birthdays only. For the rest we might do something fun, but it couldn't be a big project that put me behind again.
- I always try to prioritize the chores that will get worse if left undone. Laundry and dishes, for instance, will take longer to do if they pile up. Vacuuming or scrubbing, however, take about the same amount of time no matter how bad it gets.
Regarding kids sleeping alone. I had a family bed and nursed my kids beyond the average length of time. My first didn't sleep through the night until she was five and a half. My second was the complete opposite. When #1 moved into her own bed, I put #2 in with her so she wasn't alone. It worked beautifully. Toddler slept through and the big sister was comforted by her presence.
There is a HUGE gap between children understanding the expectations and being capable, and them being ABLE to reliably take responsibility. The first, they can learn quite young. The second can take decades.
My mom had PTSD from childhood trauma and NEEDED the house to be nearly perfect at all times. Despite that, my room was always a disaster, and I could not stay on top of my chores. I tried very hard with my kids to be tidy and to teach those habits, but it was hard. The mess was stressful and the days were busy. As adults, one is tidy and the other is messy but anxious about it. Same house, same parents, different kids.
I wonder if there are any strategies to avoid burn out and avoid getting behind in chores at the same time. Hiring some help - house keeper, mother's helper, babysitter? Doing a work bee with a friend? Having a monthly sleepover for the kids with a family member? Tips from a life coach to help with accountability and brainstorming?
It is SO hard to be a woman /parent /working mom! And even if you put yourself out there on social media, no one has the right to judge you. Being messy is not a moral failing. It may be frustrating, disappointing, uncomfortable, anxiety inducing, overwhelming or inconvenient, but it's nobody else's business. You are a good mom and a good human :)
Beautiful job with the clean up and with Rudy 💜
I have 3 clear shoebox bins
1. Markers
2. School pencils
3. Crayons
A non see thru bin meant everything was dumped out just to find the blue pencil. Lol. So annoying.
I completely agree with you on so many points. Now that I'm 61 I'm changing my priorities again due to ill-health to make keeping myself and the house clean and tidy. It takes quite a mindset shift, but the improvement in my quality of life is so worth it. And it's an ongoing process. 😊
LOVE YOUR VIDEOS HOW YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK WITH US I PREFER THIS OVER LOUD MUSIC AND YOU KEEP THINGS REAL 🤗
@@yolas123 thank you so much!! Glad you enjoy them 😊
Me too! 💕🎃🤗
Right?? I prefer this to music because it keeps me on track with the ADHD lol ❤
I LOVE IT! I’ll choose voice overs and conversations before music, it makes me feel like I have a friend chatting to me. Thanks Remi ❤
Life is so much easier when 80% of our stuff and clothes go out the door. We only use 20% of it anyway, Neurodivergent or not. ❤ It took me over 50 years to realise this.
That's exactly what I was thinking while watching this video. I'm absolutely not picking on Remi, but watching her sort the amount of stuff reminded me that my issues with keeping my house tidy boil down to us (my husband and I) have far too much stuff. That's where I'm going to spend my energy. 😊
I am 39 and just doing major days of getting rid/donating stuff! I am finally realize why my Mom has a “simplify” sign up! Less is really more- for organizing, for our brains to function optimally in a space and all. These videos that Remi makes help, as well as the comments.
Great job, Remi 👍 I think you're an awesome mother to those adorable, precious sons of yours. ❤ ❤ ❤
The brushing your teeth thing is soo true. I struggle with it too. Love your videos!!!
It’s comforting to know it’s not just me!
@@remiclogright guys, what helped me was hearing a dentist say this, don't wait for the right time to brush your teeth, so don't wait to do it after breakfast or after your evening meal because knowing people like us, it won't happen, just do it at random when it pops in your head, so I've just done mine at 4pm cause I thought about it, will I do them before bed, no. But at least I did them today. 😊
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@@remiclogI hope it helps, I still forget but I'm better than before. ❤
I’m literally tearing up hearing you talk about this. I have adhd and I think my oldest son has it too and I have really been struggling with things like this, especially recently. I want to help him, but it’s very hard to do. Hearing you talk about this has really helped me today. Thank you.
I have followed you for some time now and I´m so impressed with you being so young and yet so very wise. I´m more than dubble your age and I wish I had been this wise when my child was young. Your children are indeed blessed with you as their mother. Greetings from Sweden.
Starting therapy next week, thanks to you. In a good way! 😂 Struggled so long to explain what I need help with, until I found you and you explained executive dysfunction. Lifesaver!
I don't have ADHD nor ASD, so most therapists assume I am depressed or traumatized. I did have a burnout, and survived cancer, but that was two years ago and I never lost my smile and the capacity to enjoy things. I could also get stuff done if I really had to. 😅 But with every day stuff I just got.. stuck.
Hopefully therapy can support me while I build up new routines, develop triggers to get off my ass, rewards to keep it fun, and a goal to work forwards to. Your videos got me started, hopefully therapy gets me the rest of the way! ❤ So thank you, Remi.
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Wow you’ve been through so much!!! I’m so excited for you to start your therapy journey! It sounds like you’ve got a brilliant, positive attitude. Sending you all the luck and love in the world ❤️
Such a great and healthy approach! All the best :)
I would take all of those pens out of those cases and have them all in one big box so they are far easier for the kids to put away themselves and if they can't get in to the routine just now, or ever, it'll make it easier for you as well.
I struggle to clean my teeth as well. It takes so much effort to motivate myaelf and remember. I do it every night without fail but the first clean of the day is where I trip up. Largely because I have chronic illness with crippling fatigue and throw in autism executive disfunction and it's not as easy for people like us.
You are such a bloody incredible mum! I've said it many times! I see it so much in your videos! There is no such thing as perfection and all the skills you do have and all that you give to your boys gives them some skills that a lot of kids of our generation didn't have. You're doing so much good and deserve to be so proud!
I'm currently studying my 2nd undergraduate degree, this one is Psychology, because I'm also fascinated by the way brains work! I spotted the "My Body" books in the boys' room and it made me smile because I loved those books growing up!
Being a loving mom is way more important than being a spotless housekeeper, and you are a wonderful mom. Also, your house has limited storage, which makes it even harder to keep things put away. Give yourself the credit you deserve!
Thank u, Remi, for being my body double in helping me clean my mess of a flat and giving me the motivation on what I needed many years ago. You are the best, and your videos help me in so many ways. I can't complain and thank u enough sending u much appreciation, and love ❤❤❤❤your the best thank u for your videos it really does help in so many ways ❤❤❤❤❤
Yay! You're back!! Love listening to you Remi xx
Thank you so much ☺️ x
i appreciate you being vulnerable with your dental hygiene habits. That is something that I have also been struggling with for a long time and I feel really shameful about it but it feels comforting to know Im not alone.
I'm the same. When we went in to COVID lockdown I was happy not to leave the house and didn't look in a mirror. When we ran out of food I went shopping in the car and noticed a thing on my tooth. I checked it in the mirror and it was brown plaque! I was horrified! After this really started to work on this and I am much better at it now but it certainly doesn't come naturally. (57, AuDhd)
Admitting responsibility and feeling like you failed is very much a huge step. You will continue to improve!
I know because I, too, have had to learn to do the same.
You have come so far... remember until you die you are still growing and improving.
Thank you! Absolutely ❤️
My daughter-in-law deals with the same issues by refusing to have more than her clutter threshold. It’s one of Dana K White’s things. I love your videos. You and Mac are really good at explaining how these things happen. It helps me understand when I do my free cleanings. It helps it all make sense. Love ya ❤ 😘
I am so glad you posted. 🎉🎉🎉 You have been my body double for a weeks now. But I am that point where I have been though your Facebook shorts and your RUclips channel. Now I can fold the laundry while listening to you.
As soon as I got the notification for this, I yelled, "YUUUUUSSS!!!!" and had to wait til my babe was asleep so I can fully enjoy it 😅💖
Your depth of care and gift at communicating brings tears to my eyes most videos. I am so glad you are raising your voice and using your platform to bring awareness and understanding to others. Thank you Remi
My father was an army drill Sergeant. Our house had to be spotless and be able to eat off the bathroom floor! So like you my house always looks like a tornado went through it. Love your videos!
I literally was crying when you were talking about dental sensory issues and remembering to brush because I have dealt with this shame I felt my whole life(48years). I was diagnosed with adhd in my early 20’s, but it wasn’t like you get this handbook along with it. You have helped me so much to understand why I do or don’t do the things I do. Made me feel more “normal” and that I am far from alone in my struggles and that is so extremely comforting. I will never be able to thank you enough on how you’ve helped me. Ms. Remi you have a great gift and thank you for sharing💛
@@danigirl1318 sending you so much love! ❤️
Another fab motivational and honest video, thank you for keeping me going, I have 3 adhd and asd kids and your videos make me feel so less rubbish about my home thank you ❤
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you are wise beyond your years. I wish that there would’ve been someone like you that would’ve explained my kids world in this way to me. So I could understand what was happening. And WHY! I think I was probably a parent who did more harm than good when it came to this. And I regret it so much!
You can't regret it, we all do the best we can at the time.
@ but i do regret it. I know my daughter especially has suffered because of being made to feel lazy all her life when she wasnt. And our relationship has also suffered because of it. And believe me, I’ve apologized to both of my kids. And I think on some level that apology has helped. But it didn’t undo all those years of us shaming her. And I hate that.
@CaliAnimalLover sorry to hear that 😔. But great you talked to her
The damage is done, there is no use for regret, as these thoughts only keep you in the past, instead of arriving in the present to heal and repair!
Most likely, when you tell your kids today how sorry you are, and get a little emotional, that puts additional pressure on them- they will tell you it wasn’t that bad and override their own feelings again, as most children go very far to keep their parents happy and content. Or they get angry everytime, and that is not the feeling they want to have when they see you.
Instead, try to create a loving and inviting environment for them today. Make them feel good around you and want to come and see you. Be a reason for joy!
And most important: ask and listen. Don’t make it about you, make it about them. Ask what they need, what you can’t do or help or change to make them more comfortable. Be prepared that the feedback will hurt you, and take your time to respond. Don’t become defensive.
This is not easy, but if you want a lasting relationship with your children, this is the only way to give them the safe space they needed as children, and that they can let out all the pain.
I had a similar constellation with my parents, and after I says all I had to say (it took some months) I was able to forgive them, as nothing they did to me was meant to hurt me or intentional, but just as you they simply lacked knowledge. From that moment on our relationship had a chance and started growing, and still is many years later.
No pills or therapy had such a grave impact to my healing as these talks with my parents had.
And you have that chance too- but ask and listen.
Your children are incredibly lucky to have such a caring, supportive and understanding Mum. Thank you for always being so real xx
Remi I cried listening to you talk about Rudi. What a fantastic mother he has with you by his side. I'm sitting in my 14 year old daughters room giving it a clean while she's out with her friends. I tell my kids every day of their lives how much I love them as I didn't have that growing up. My parents fed and clothed us but I never felt truly loved by my mother. You are AMAZING. You have two very lucky children X😊
Love you! Thank you for your videos. 💕
Just talking about my own experience here, when my kids were young because of the toys they had, it was always messy! All I could do was do my best with the mess. Once they get older they have different intrests and there's no messy toys around anymore. Sometimes it's just living that paticular season of life, and before you know it they're not little kids playing with toys anymore. I did the best I could with my house back then, it was never perfect and I had hard days but before you know it they're teenagers. And then it's a different kind of mess! When we try our best thats all we can do. You're an amazing, loving, nuturing mum Remi and that really shines through. Your kids will remember all the good times you had together and that's the most important thing. You put things into words so well, I wish I was that articulate! Thanks for another great video, hope you and yours are all well. 🙂👍
i've got a burnout house right now and it's very overwhelming. watching your videos helps remind me that i'm not alone, and i can in fact tidy my own house. so thank you.
You and your partner are truly the best parents ever. So much love and encouragement-the rest will sort itself out.
Im serious when I say you are my mini me. I’m very fond of you and enjoy your content. I’m a mom of 2 boys. I sure miss them being small. I love your tips. THANK YOU. 🤍🤗
Thank you so much 🥰❤️
@@remiclogyou’re so very welcome. ♥️
Just had a chance to finish the video.
Rudy, NiNi is so proud of how you helped your Mum. You folded clothes really well. 🤗♥️
*I’m really impressed with how you approached cleaning, focusing on a simple yet effective system. It reduces the overwhelm and makes the cleaning process so much easier.* 💯💯💯❤❤❤
Thank you, Remi. the things you said in this video resonated with me. In fact, all of your videos resonate with me. Thank you for being a voice for those of us that can’t put this into words.
I'm mostly neurotypical (As far as I know) but I grew up in a VERY dirty house and I'm still struggling to find routines that work for me at 40. But I have gotten much better over the years and I am able to keep a generally tidy house, which I'm grateful for for sure. Thank you for sharing with us!
I’m so glad you talk so openly about neurodivergence, my daughter who is just 6 has ASD and there is so much ignorance around it , and peoples criticism and lack of understanding is a much bigger challenge than ASD itself. Love your bedding ❤
Absolutely!! ❤️
Wow! What a fabulous topic for this video. You’ve done a great job again! Kudos! 👏
Remi, you are a wonderful Mom and don't Ever let anybody tell you otherwise. You are the mom your boys are meant to have because you understand what they are going through and can help them. I loved you and your son hugging when you got through folding the clothes.
The most important job anyone ever can have is to be a parent and you are doing an amazing job at it. You are my biggest row model for parenting❤
Hello remi my son had ADHD ,it can get overwhelming constantly repeating basics things of life, Your video make me cry ..Thanks for your story 😢
I empathise totally. Every morning repeating the same simple instructions over and over again, only to turn round and have to do it again. It’s so overwhelming. ❤️
Two happy thing s I saw...the not water bottle. I have one too! I saw how great Rudy can fold clothes.Please tell him how good of a job he is doing! You are a great mom and little step can be made each day. Allow grace, and forgiveness to enter your home. Can't wait for the next episode. Thanks again.
I love your videos and I love how you are a mom! So considerate and loving to your children, they are so lucky to have you ❤ thank you for making these videos! You are a great inspiration 😊
Mi biggest problem is I’m so slow…I have to mentally program every action and try to do things in a certain order and end up loosing time and getting very tired. I started noticing this things about myself thanks to your videos, you’re an endless source of insight about neurodivergence, thanks a lot for what you do ❤
Ooh, interesting insight. Me too. I've spent most of my life wondering why I can't keep up with everyone else. I think for me I loose a lot of time transitioning from one thing to the next. I can't just switch from one thing to another like so many other people seem to be able to.
I've decided this winter to try to do less. Embrace my inner cave-person!! 😄 Instead of pushing through, and getting exhausted, I'm going to try to pair down my commitments and have more cosy evenings in. That's the plan anyway - so far I've not managed very well and am still shattered!! 😅
I get easily overwhelmed, so I need a written plan - a to do list, sometimes even with timeslots filled in. I have to stick to routines, and mostly do things in the same order so I can focus. If I start trying to 'decide' what to do, I get lost in decision paralysis.
I think everyone is different and hats off to you for prioritizing your children's childhood above everything else. There will always be chores but they won't always be little ❤
Well said!❤👍🤗
Your boys are going to remember you and Charlie always being there, always being loved and always standing up for them. Those (things to me anyway) are the most important things. I think you both are doing a wonderful job!! Much love from Kentucky, United States 😘
Anytime I watch or just listen to your videos, it feels like giving my childhood self a big hug and telling her it's going to be ok. Thank you for that Remi, you are a blessing to see many. Your kind voice soothes me when I'm beating myself up for the state of my home and how I'm raising my kids. I can't thank you enough. I hope your little family had a lovely Halloween!
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Yay. I’ve missed you good morning from North Carolina
Good morning! It’s just coming towards the evening here 😊
I can only suggest: BINS 😂❤
It changes my life! No, it's not perfectly organized. But it takes away the barriers! It's super easy to throw stuff into them and:
• the floors are free
• you find what you're looking for
So just bought Ikea Kalax boxes and put them on the floor against a wall. NO NOT A KALAX! Only the boxes, next to each other ❤😊
I totally agree. Lids and drawers are my nemesis. My mother used to get so frustrated with me that I didn't "just clean". But even at 40+ I still struggle with anything that has a lid or a drawer. 😢
You are the most amazing loving mother I've met .I have learnt so much about myself and relised this is how I to think and act ,thank you so very much for being so very kind and supportive to us all here we all here love snd appreciate you .I'm watching from New Zealand and I'm now motivated to clean my autstic sons room again
You are a great mom Remy. It made me cry when you said that you sometimes think your children deserve better. You are doing your best and that's really the most anyone can do. No such thing as a perfect parent!
Quickly came to see your video Remi great job on the room. I just love your videos keep them coming. ❤❤small town Butler,MO USA love listening to your calming voice. Have great rest of your day
just starting the video now but just wanted to say how thoroughly appreciative i am to see your upload!! i’ve been in a really bad spot yesterday and today - i took one bad interaction way out of proportion and have been frozen and spiraling because of it. i’m going to take this video as a sign to get up and make some small progress wherever i can. ❤ cannot say enough how much your videos help me, i watch them over and over and over again to get through my daily tasks. sending love to you ❤
also just want to say - hearing you speak about your struggles with dental hygiene is soo relatable. you are NOT the only one who has a tough time remembering. i set alarms for AM and PM to brush and floss and tbh, some days i still forget to brush, and it’s even rarer that i actually do floss. it’s hard. it’s still worth making the effort. it doesn’t mean that you or I or anyone else is unworthy of love and care and respect. we will keep trying!!
one last comment - i am a single woman in my mid-twenties with no kids, living alone in an apartment and i find it incredibly difficult just to maintain my own living space and daily habits. i can’t even make more than one meal a day. ANY person who sends you hate is off their fucking nut, you are working incredibly hard and are doing a great job raising two sweet young boys to be confident, kind, and happy. just making it through a day of parenting is an accomplishment in my mind, and i give you so much credit for battling all these negative comments while clearly putting so much love and thought into your parenting and childcare. i love these videos, and would happily watch you clean the same room every day just to have the company and chatter from a likeminded soul. while watching your video, i cleaned up some of my kitchen table, stacked up my dirty dishes, got dressed, made coffee, and fed my pet shrimps ❤ thank you for the company and motivation and i hope you’re having a happy halloween!! sending love ❤
You are just precious and wonderful. I wish people would lay off the mom guilt and shaming people for not being perfect. You are a great mom.
Great job on all fronts, including parent and partner. You videos are inspirational for me. They so help me understand myself and help me get my own house in order. Thanks so much!
I love your videos and the topics are so relevant (even though I'm not a parent). People get so judgy with parents as though it's a one-size-fits-all deal and it's not. I love that you're so supportive of your kids and I think you're a great mum. I'm so looking forward to your book.
Thank you. Remi love watching your videos. You are a star x
I love your videos, I’m expecting my 2nd child and lost my job 1 month ago so I am feeling very hormonal and overwhelmed, your video brought tears to my eyes 🥹💜 you are a gift! Keep staying strong and loving your children! Someday your children will be able to watch these videos and see how much they are truly loved! Now, onto the cleaning 🙌🏼 kitchen first!
Not all families are the same; your children are great with donation and my children will go to battle to keep a ripped sticker from the bottom of a soccer shoe. You're leading magnificently ❤
You're a great mum, nice to see you and Rudi working together on the laundry 😊 I have 3 grown sons and 2 grandchildren now, I relate to the struggles but when I was a young mum I had to muddle through. I find your chats so relatable and comforting ❤
Thank you so much, Remi! People who don't have neurodivergence just don't get it. You've created such a safe and understanding environment here!
Wow! Rudy has grown SO MUCH!
And look at how beautifully he folds clothes!! He’s doing fantastically! Good for you Rudy and Mom!!
You are such an inspiration! Love the fact you are sharing your growth!
I love that you are working on making sure your babies have good self-talk. I am coming up on 53 and still struggle with negative self-talk. Though not officially diagnosed yet, I am, without a doubt, ADHD and grew up being criticized for messiness, fidgeting and inattention. My older sister called me space case if that says anything. I too struggle with things like consistently brushing my teeth, sensitive gums along with not being able to form habits, so definitely don't feel bad about that. You are amazing and are doing fantastic.
I did notice that your son's pens are in a box with multiple trays. I was thinking, it might be easier for him, and you, to just get rid of the trays and put the pens in the box. I have some pens that I have in their original packaging, and it's driving me crazy not having them at easy access. I'm looking into stackable drawers for mine, but I have a full adult desk. So, just thought maybe it would help keep putting the pens away easier if they were just stored in the box without the trays. Looking forward to the next video.
You are a great Mom. All those people who criticize you have their own major problems. They just choose to project their inadequacies onto you rather than deal with them. In the end if you and your family are happy that is what matter most.
What a lovely chat we just had with you! I was happy to let you take the floor and run with it! Your lovely voice is soothing and calming in nature. You have developed a beautiful outlook on your situation! Luckily, you have done your homework and have much knowledge and wisdom to impart on your kiddos and how important it is to be, 1st of all, a loving parent! Kindness, patience and guidance go so much further than being a drill instructor. Thanks for sharing your life with us! Love your channel! See you again soon! Hugs from Michigan in the USA!
You keep me trying to overcome this. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and so, so discouraging, depressing. Anxious and crippling anxiety. Therapy, medication and still overwhelmed and mentally beating myself up. Best thing my therapist ever told me is pick my battles with my kids. Our relationship was great, i was able to get them the help for their own mental challenges. Including with the school. I picked my battles and cared for the most important things in their lives. Thank you, Remi they are in their 30's now and it is my time to take care of myself and improve my life.
You do have such a lovely home. You are doing a wonderful job being a mom 💕
I have really enjoyed watching your videos. I like how you talk to us while we watch you clean. From an outside perspective, it looks like you and your family probably have too much inventory (things) to take care of. It really does make a huge difference when you get rid of a lot of things. There isn’t so much to get out of hand so quickly and it makes your house seem larger. Laundry doesn’t pile up because you are forced to stay on top of it or you won’t have clean clothes to wear. That was the game changer for me and led to us decluttering so much of our things. Again, I love your videos; keep up the good work!
Nonsense Remi! You're an awesome Mother. Don't be so hard on yourself 🙏
Thank you Remi for teaching me to be compassionate and more patient with myself ❤
Beautiful, Remi.❤ Feeling that pep-talk and those sentiments there at the end deeply, both in my own heart and my parent heart. ❤❤❤ just diagnosed with ADHD two months ago, And learning to be easier on myself and my family.
I listen to all you said twice .
Remi, I love your videos and think you’re an amazing Mum. Cheers to you 🎉
Thank you for posting this because I go through the same thing with emotions. Being disabled while having disabled kids is a marathon
Thank you for continuously shedding light on adhd ❤❤ i wish i woudlve had an understanding and supportive mum as you growing up. Its not just a quirky character trait it really messes with your brain and people should be more empathetic and kind to each other in general 🥰
Outstanding job,Remi! I love how you are raising your boys! ❤❤❤
You are not failing...you are learning, adapting and doing ! You are the best person I have seen on this internet and I love your video's and family and I get inspired every time I see you. Thank you.
My son, now 22, has ADHD but I always feel that is just the label given to him. His anxiety can be through the roof and so can his abundance of kindness! As parents all we want for our children is for them to be accepted. Thank you Remi for putting words to what so many parents struggle with while trying to raise happy, healthy productive humans!
I'm OBSESSED with your channel and genuine message you always gift us with.
Yes!! Totally agree with all the positive self-talk in this video! Being emotionally available and supportive of your children is the most important job anyone can have! And you’re doing that. ❤
You are an AMAZING Mom and an even more AMAZING human being!! Your family is SO fortunate to have you!! Such an inspiration!! 💐
Little Rudi helping to fold the clothes melts my heart ❤
YEAY! A new video! Can't wait to find a little time to myself today so I can watch and listen to Remi!❤
Thank you for your honesty. This video brought back memories of tidying up my son’s room!!! ❤
I needed to hear your words today more than ever ❤ thank you! I am so grateful for you ❣️ you have truly blessed me. By sharing your story and being vulnerable to spread this awareness, you have significantly improved my healing & overall mental wellbeing. I can never thank you enough! Learning how to finally love and care about my own self had much of your assistance with your videos! You’ve changed my life ❤
Hi Remi, I deeply admire your mindset, your patience, your wisdom and your resilience. For me and so many others you are really an amazing and inspiring person. Greets and hugs from an older lady 😊❤
Your voiceovers ❤. You always safe when I feel bad and Not enough. Thank you
What a beautiful humane human being you are, and with a lot of wisdom from inside your heart
Hi remi great vlog so lovely seeing your son help love your bedding ❤
All so articulatedly explained Remi regarding your family dynamics. Your house is full of love and you have learnt your own techniques for coping which you are now passing on to others 💕
Your videos and so inspiration and motivation thank you for helps us out 🫶
I found this video on my recommended and will be sticking around! It is so heartening to hear about your parenting, avoiding shame and working to find strategies that work for you and your kids. I have a very similar problem with toothbrushing, sensory issues, and daily habits, and I know just how hard it gets to convince yourself. Lots of love to you on this journey!
Thank you!!!❤❤❤❤ Your words really resonate with my heart ❤
Beautiful family xxxx
I needed these words today. Really, thank you ❤
Hi Remi your such a beautiful person. Your boys and Charlie are great as a family. You instil in them good values, respect, love acceptance. It looks so tidy ❤love hearing your voice. Never feel alone, many are rooting for you. My prayers are for you to find more peace with how you were are made.
I struggle with adhd, Autism. You are brave, don't listen to judgemental comments, try not to its hard. Parenting is the hardest thing ever. You are a good mum 😊all my love Jess
My grandson has adhd and you have helped me to understand him and why he doesn’t tidy up etc. thank you for for your videos
I found with my kids there was just too much stuff , overwhelmed them and me. I would dread Christmas and birthdays . I asked family and friends if they wished to buy the kids stuff was to buy experiences. BEST idea ever. Also banned stuffies. Less clutter less mind clutter 🐨☺️
I check everyday RUclips just for your video! I love watching your video and it helps me to clean my burnout home!! Love you remi❤
I needed this motivation, your amazing and a wonderful mum xx