The Dirt: How I Manage BURNOUT - Building a House!
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- Опубликовано: 20 окт 2024
- A recent viewer asked if I have a strategy to manage Burnout. Do I have a strategy to cope with burnout or do I just roll with it? In this episode of The Dirt I'll talk about this as well as what advice I'd give my younger self, now that we've gone through the process of building a concrete mountain house in the middle of nowhere.
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Established in 2015 and now nestled in the foothills of North Carolina, Guildbrook Farm is a modern mountain homestead in pursuit of developing a more self-sustainable way of life. From planting, growing, canning and preserving our own food to managing our forests and land resources, our lifelong journey demonstrates preparedness, DIY projects, strategies and ideas that you can practice to help increase your own self sufficiency and balance with the land. Follow along as we continue to develop a little homestead in the mountains of Appalachia.
Nice house. Thanks for the insight. I am in the middle of this on a smaller scale alone and working and with pets but some days are so rewarding. Just so deep in now but so close yet so far. Just punching it through. Makes me feel better to see such a nice home and how you have done so much and keep working towards your goals. Lovely. Thanks for sharing.
Insightful, so insightful. And inspiring. I retire in 6mos. I had been preparing for it for the last 20 yrs. Saving. Big house maintenance chores done like new furnace, new roof, new appliances, low maintenance conversions. Build the new addition that would convert easily into aging in place, finances all debt free. Hassle-free in my old age. And realize that in sitting down at the kitchen table with a blank piece of paper in front of me, I challenged myself to write down what I wanted to do in the next ten years now that the time was mine. Year by year. I had a hard time coming up with what I wanted to do next besides "... not go to work" I realized that in the final run up to the "big event" pulling the trigger to retire, I had stopped dreaming.
Nailed it. Just stay off the couch.
I really enjoyed your feed back and honesty today I know that there were times you prob just fell in the bed but you guys are now in the home stretch and your dreams are in sight I have loved this journey with you guys watching your dreams come true I'm here waiting
You have created a beautiful home. I am impressed at the time you put into every tiny detail. You should be proud of your accomplishment.
You should be so very proud. I can't even start by saying that our journey was so very much like yours. So very many parallels that it's kinda scary! From the side of the mountain, to the frustration of subs, to the re-drawing of plans. And the subs that seem to drop from heaven to help. We built a SIP house....every sub was scared of it. Good thing, cuz we wouldn't have wanted them to work on it if they had no confidence in their skills. I truly enjoy watching your progress. It's almost like watching the journey of 25 years ago. Yep, if you knew the journey and it's sometimes overwhelming challenges, maybe would have second guessed it. BUT...in the end, you will not trade the experience for anything. I applaud you, with a standing ovation! My husband's buck list also..every man should build his own house and be accountable to himself. Bravo, bravo bravo!!
It's worth it. When I was burnt out my doctor told me to have a minimum 6 days off to recharge my sanity battery every 3 months. 6 days is just enough for you to break the burnout thought processes and breathe. 10-14 days is better but a minimum of 6 days is needed. Also taking half an hour each day for yourself helps, and a few hours each week just for you to sit, relax, have a drink watching the sunset etc. This helps you cope and manage the stress until you can recharge the batteries.
Jeremy you are hilarious! You both have done such a great job, I hope you can take a step back at what y’all have accomplished and be really proud and say “damn we did it!” Work ethic is literally priceless!!!
Thanks Steph. Your build has probably been just as crazy so I know you can relate.
@@Guildbrookfarm I’m so freaking proud of y’all! It has but we just keep pushing through. Maybe one day I’ll have cabinets and countertops and a real pantry but in the meantime I count my blessings of the plastic tables and construction shelf that thankfully does have groceries! Keep going y’all are almost there! 👊💪
I remember when only Jaimie was doing the videos and it wasn't until later Jeremy would show up once in a while, now you are 180 degrees different with Jeremy doing all the videos. Your new house is a masterpiece and should serve you guys very well.
Hi guys! Its me.. RedDevil!
It’s hard to believe it’s been five years since you moved there. I started watching when Jaimie did her “Canning 101” video series. She is the reason I started canning and I’m forever grateful for that. I’m not even sure how long ago that was but, I’ve been watching ever since. Watched you do all you could to build a small homestead in the ‘burbs, watched as your brought chickens and goats to your home, watched you basically lift a barn to shore it up and make pens for the goats and then, sadly watched them leave. Watched as you made your first garden there and watched you move the chicken tractor all around… and I’ve enjoyed every moment, and cried at a few. I cheered you on as you looked for land, found it and put your dreams on paper and made the commitment to ‘just do it”! Incredible!
What you’ve built there is awe inspiring! I can only imagine how difficult it’s been on all of you, but I know, when it’s all said and done, you won’t have a moments regret. You’ve done it! I raise my glass to you both 🥂🍻 and wish you nothing but smooth sailing ahead. You’re an inspirational pair!! God love ya both! Thanks for taking us along! 💕✌🏼 ~Lisa
Jeremy, what you’ve accomplished is outstanding. You have made a beautiful home for your family. Congratulations.
Absolutely fantastic. I’ve always found you guys to be such an inspiration. Say hi to Jamie for me.❤️
Thank you! Will do!
You are such a natural, hard to believe you don't have a background in construction. So glad you are doing this yourself... you know everything is done right, you can be proud of what you've accomplished, and we all get to watch the journey. This house is going to last forever with little maintenance.
Well, this is probably the BEST Dirt I have ever watched happen. You made me think while you were talking because I am old and I'm just looking for my forever home in the country in a free state that hopefully remain that way. I think if you weren't a die-hard perfectionist, you may not have pulled this it off but look at you. You did! I've been watching you and Jamie since 2016 and while I may not have watched all of the house building videos (guy stuff), I have been stopping by and watching awe how you have made this house happen. Best wishes and an early congratulations to you both!
Great words of wisdom. You could read all the books in the library and not glean the the information you just shared.
That was a brilliant presentation, hands down one of the best videos you've put out and I believe I've seen them all. I can relate to you, I have the same traits especially the maniacal perfectionist trait You have built a beautiful fortress on the hill and should be very proud of yourself. I envy your ability to pull this off. Bravo.
Wow, thank you!
As someone who is on the cusp of beginning our own self-build; this video was real, and it was awesome!
Great video! Retired and have jumped off many cliffs without a parachute. Regrets? A few, but not many. Personal motto : Life's an adventure, but hedge your bets. 😜 Stay safe and SO looking forward to move-in day video! So admire you both! 🤗❤
Well said!
You've done great so far, and you've also met several great folks in the trades. It's been an exciting ride so far, with a finish line in site now. It has been a Marathon !!
I rarely comment, but I am watching. Much respect to you, sir. You have done good. Real good.
It is easy for us to watch and enjoy, but I can see all the hard work. It is a beautiful build
You've been on quite a journey and I feel like I've been sitting behind you on the rollercoaster the entire way. The house is really stunning, Jeremy, a true forever home. You did a great job.
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Ah! You’re getting mighty good at editing, this video was really well put together and your humor made it even better.
Well i am damn proud of you !!! It is all worth it !!! A beautiful home ! Bravo !
It can't be 5 years!!! I've been along for the entire ride. Seems like only a year ago. Building a house, even with a contractor is very stressful on a marriage. We survived it...just barely. But now looking back on it all...being so happy and satisfied. It was worth it. Thanks for the comic look at what y'all have gone through. Laughter is the best medicine. It will be complete and you can look back with a pride most can't do with a new home. Just hang in there. It is worth it. Plus ya gotta be a tad crazy to do it anyway which I think may help!
First, love the diplomatically cautionary advice for those leaving a comment. More importantly, great video. When I first started watching your channel it was periodic and not that long ago. I didn't sense any enthusiasm for the project and nothing was compelling me to tune in and see what was happening. But overtime your commitment and dedication to doing this well became much more apparent - you have a low key presence, and I had to be reminded that should not be confused with lack of enthusiasm. I now really appreciate the calm nature of your channel. You are doing something huge without all the drama that we have become accustomed to and almost think is the norm. Wise words and skilled work .. thanks for sharing your journey.
Thank you.
I know that home renovations are one of the greatest stresses on a marriage. I can't imagine the stresses of building a house during this global situation. I hope you and Jamie are doing well and holding together through this! Rooting for you, Jamie and your girls!!!
You did not make a mistake I also did my home on my terms took a while about 5 years but now 22 years later my wife and I have no regrets Thanks for what you have done Jim
OMG this is the best video ever. LOL We have those feelings too. What were we thinking. But we are building ours as we live here. LOL I am 58 and hubby is 65 yes building from the ground up on the mountain side in VA. Working on kitchen cupboards now as we didn't like anything from lowes or anyplace else. Still have so much more to do but we are loving it and sometimes think the same, what the hell were we thinking.
Well Done. You nailed everything right on the head. I've been in your shoes and doing it all over again at 68. You just keep puttin' one foot in front of the other and eventually you turn a hole in the ground into a home. Most folks dream of owning a home like yours but they never put in the time and effort that it takes to stand back and say to themselves "I Did That". You can't tell me that doesn't bring peace to your hearts.
** The thing I found about life is, it is never done. There is always something else to accomplish.. And the good news is, that is evidence we are alive.. That is what living is.. Doing things and experiencing things. It's just that simple. If you weren't experiencing building this beautiful home on the mountain, and all the ups and downs that have come with it, then you would be doing something else and experience the ups and downs that come with that.. You picked a good one for sure, and the benefits when you can sleep in your own bed at night in this beautiful home, will be your prize. You did not just build a home.. you built a lifestyle.. a way to live that suits your passions about what living means to you. You guys did good and I am so happy that you chose 'this' experience and also that you chose to share it with us. .. Thank you for that!!
Unending admiration for your ability to start this project and see it through to the end. Your view over the valley, the house, and your vision for your family are lovely.
Thanks for that!
Well, shoot. lol Thank you, Jeremy. We're definitely listening. It's been a hard winter, and we're having strategy conversations as well.
Great video. Not sure why but I must be a late bloomer. We just retired and although we are not building from scratch like you guys…we are turning a old country church into a home. We live quite remotely so trying to get contractors is nil. So here we are…64 and 70 and living our dream. We are 80% there and I dream of the day that we get to do only fun projects. Hang in there, you guys are doing a awesome job. I have been following your channel for a few years now and still love it. And yup….being prepared it definitely the way to go. Cheers
I admire you! I'm so proud to see the results of your effort.
Mad props to you guys. While I have some carpentry skills learned over the years, I have a hard time imagining taking on a project that large. We have our land, but are planning to have the home built by a contractor. Our major obstacle is going to be road building/improvement to make the site more easily accessible. That gives me sleepless nights all by itself!
I have to say it again, watching you guys has helped us save time on our build. Thank you, thank you.
Great to hear!
This is one of the best videos you've done in a long time. Calling it like it is, as people who GC their own homes are indeed insane masochists...yet I'm tempted to do it one day myself, ha!
Do it. Doing it. Did it. The ebb and flow of effort vs willingness go in cycles. The journey is the point. What you finish is the reward. The upside is you are your own boss. It takes a lot and I appreciate you sharing the trying adventure with us. You rock.
Thanks for watching this circus 😎
@@Guildbrookfarm my wife and I have learned a lot from you two. Thank you. Breathe and carry on. ❤️
Just goes to show how far determination and grit will take you. Well done my friend.
I knew this day would come. Built a farm over 10 years. Burnout is very real.
Life/truth-one of your best videos! 100% agree!
Great questions and a great video. It's been a long journey for you & Jaime and I've been following before you began all this and it's been wild. I still wish you the best and look forward to what comes next for you both, sending hugs and groovy vibes.
You’ve been with us a long time Ms Adela and we really appreciate you. ❤️
Heroic, inspirational, educational and even entertaining. Have you ever considered you were meant to do this? I mean, not just for yourself and your family ... but for us as well! You have given much. Far more than you can imagine. Thank you Jeremy & Jamie.
Thanks for sticking with us all this time. You always leave such helpful and supportive comments. :-)
Beautifully explained. Thanks.
My pleasure
Kudos to Jeremy. How admirable of you to have put yourself out to this extent for you and your family. Your home is beautiful of course and i've watched you perfect every detail, not quitting until it was right. I'm so looking forward to the day you're sitting in a recliner chair on your porch sipping a cool brew and admiring the beautiful scenery. You deserve an even bigger reward than you'll feel. You're amazing, what a wonderful husband and father. !!!!!
That was a great answer to Dave. The whole house build as been illuminating and amazing. At this point, you could become a home designer and contractor and hire your own people and supervise it all.
Great Dirt session!
As you know I've been here since before the move so I've seen the struggles first hand. Well, at least the parts y'all have shared. You've done a very good job of keeping your head above water. My great grandfather built their retirement home from the ground up. He had never built a house before either. He had done a myriad of different projects just like you. I was a very little girl when they built their house so I don't know what it was like for them. But, I do know that I spent many happy years in that home for holidays and weekend visits. I never saw a time in which they regretted building their own home either. I fully believe in the end when the project of building your home is complete you will feel that it was worth every bit of blood, sweat and tears that it took getting there and one day your grandchildren and great grandchildren will build happy memories there as well.
You are the MAN!! I have enjoyed the whole process.
Thank you for the honest deep dive. Boy time flies. Chanced upon you 5 years ago looking at prepping and organic gardening. Back when you were a long-haired hippie. Been following your journey since. Fellow NCer.
We appreciate you dude
Wow! ...... That has got to be the best, most comprehensive answer to a question yet! Thank you!
Love the amusing intro too!
BTW it is a Black Coffee and a kneeling stool in front of my lappy. My chances of hoofing our staffie off the couch to make room for me are low to non-existent! ;o)
Thanks for the great question Dave. It was a fun video to make.
@@Guildbrookfarm Everyone needs a bit of fun on occasion!
We are getting ready to start our "forever home", after 41 years and 17 moves we are ready! Have learned a lot from your videos
Awesome!
Working toward that cliff as i type this. Starting a business for the first time, at 46 years old. Been watching y’all for a few years now, and glad you’re still putting things like this out.
This is your best video yet…excellent!
You've done well. I'm inspired, almost every time. Keep rolling...
I've followed you all from the early days, while waiting to exit South Africa. I'm 3.5 years in Auckland, NZ. Punching a clock and all that stuff. Finally we're about to get Permanent Residency. Life's about to restart for real. It's my turn now...
Well that was very interesting. Thank you for your insight, honesty and the way you explain what you're up to. A worthy challenge is often life changing. I very much enjoy watching your updates, thank you and your family for sharing.
🙂Really enjoyed your monolog. Very well done!
This is a truly awesome video. Thanks for sharing all this with us. Wishing you a super week. God Bless your family in all you do.
Thank you! You too!
Brutal honesty right there. Love it. I feel like I need a bourbon now. 😬
Jeremy I have the utmost respect for you both you're an inspiration to all of us❤
I'm so thankful to you and your family!!
As always i thank you so much for sharing with me !!
There is so much i have learned along your way!! I know words don't say enough but thank you guys so much!!
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I like the different format here. Kinda cool! Living vicariously through you guys. Definitely have enjoyed watching from the start. Proud of y'all
Glad you enjoyed it!
Congrats you have just completed your 1st real Documentary, the history of which were your previous parachuting events. WELL DONE
You two have built a beautiful house. Burnout is real and it is hard to find good help that is reliable. I actually got more done and was more motivated when I had inspections that had to get done on a regular basis (every 3 months something had to get checked off) or we would have to pay for a building permit extension, only $55 but money I didn't want to spend. Now that we have our occupancy signed off on our house and I have no more deadlines to make my motivation seems to have gone but I still have an unfinished master bathroom, no carpet upstairs, cabinet doors to make, stair treads to make, and a house worth of blue pine to mill out, sand down, and install. I'm still determined to get it all done, just having a hard time getting motivation in the winter months. So I'll wait for it to warm up a bit more so I can get on my mill and mill out all the blue pine I need.
I watch your channel for multiple reasons but the big reason is for the motivation of seeing someone else do it. I know if you can do it I can too. Thank you for sharing your journey and all the knowledge you have learned along the way. :)
That’s one of the best things about a platform like this. I do the same thing. “These guys are doing it. They’re human. I can figure this out too.” Just keep going. Every day check at least one thing off the list. Also teaches you to make lists of easy things to check off! 😂
@@Guildbrookfarm I need to get back to making lists. It works. :)
Loved the intro!!!!! Hahaha!!!
Very good advice throughout this video plus you just crack me up. Thank you for my 2am laughs! Lol
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks for your soul-searching, insightful, timely, and self-reflective video. I watched every one of your videos contemplating what you guys are dealing with in the background. Thanks for confirming the level of difficulty of your project and respective challenges. And thanks for bringing us along as you expose another layer of the onion to us. SUPER VIDEO.
Cool. :-)
I’ve been watching long before you purchased this land and I’ve enjoyed it ALL. Thank you for taking the time to make & edit every single video. I can’t help but think that one day your future grandchildren are going to have these videos to remember you by. Leaving a legacy.
Your house is wonderful! Take 1 day at a time, 1 project at a time. You guys are doing great, you need days and/or few hours just to take a step back to breathe and evaluate the work you have done. One day all you will have to do is go out and inspect your property to make sure everything is ok and make plans for any fixes, projects…..
Learned that few years ago when I was trying to get chickens going and a garden in Florida summer, while it’s mid 90’s plus humidity. You sit down plan and do 1 project at a time, setting it up to run on its own, as much as possible, so one day all you have to do is come out check on your chickens while you feed them, and do a quick inspection of the coop and run for any fixes. As far as the garden, we grow what grows best in the season: summer tropical fruit; winter everything els.
LOVED the beginning! Made me absolutely laugh/chuckle outloud. So informative - thanks so much for the personal insights - what an excellent video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
You’re doing a great job on the house build, I just hope to see you return to gardening this spring. It could have wonderful benefits for a change of pace in daily routines. 😃🐶👍🏾
I started watching your channel before y’all moved to the homestead. Jamie’s preppier videos really helped me to prepare us for the pandemic! It is hard for to realize y’all have been working on this house for 5 years, but I’m sure it’s not hard for you to realize how long it’s taking! You and Jamie are one fantastic team! Y’all’s home will be quite the show place! And y’all will have such pride in it knowing you built it yourself! Sending ♥️and 🙏
Very insightful and encouraging video Jeremy. Big respect, admiration and hat's off to you, Jamie and the girls. Take care, and thanks for sharing your journey.
Thanks for bringing us along on this journey....the lessons learnt watching the content on your channel is invaluable... especially for us in the third world countries....the "I can do" attitude you have taught me has caused be to believe in myself and try to build something for me and my family also....thanks again and God bless you and your family.... watching from Ndola Zambia 🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲
My pleasure!
@@Guildbrookfarm I can share some pictures with you if you don't mind of our homestead
Another great video. We’re transitioning from one lifestyle to another here, getting ready to get into our place, and this was filled with reminders on why we do what we do and the way we do it.
Thanks Jeremy. Again.
You can do it!
Your House is Beautiful. It's nice to have the freedom to build your home.😊👍🏼👍🏼🙂
Well done! Excellent video! Thank you for all your work!
Thank you too!
Awesome video Jeremy 😎, thanks for keeping it real.
After doing it myself n spending a couple of years doing it you couldn’t of said it better! There is so much detail that goes into house building, it’s truly a mental insanity at times, and dealing with contractors is very hard!
I really liked the format of this video where you are walking around working and telling a good story. Well done.
Wow what an amazing philosophy. I love your attitude it’s the difficult things in life that make us that much stronger.
I love what you said about finishing your to do list becomes optional rather than mandatory. “Carry-on my way word son.”
May God continue to bless you and your family 😊
I think you have done a fantastic job. It’s clear that you have spent a tremendous amount of time in researching your design and materials, plus execution of your building phases, procurement of subcontractors along the way. Truly you have epitomized the “Carry on” attitude. Your place looks fantastic! This video is awesome for those who especially would like to build and those of us who dream of doing so but are beyond that open window of time. You have gained tremendous knowledge and to our great advantage as viewers, have documented along the way, explaining and demonstrating the why’s, how-tos , should-haves and happy with the way it’s turned outs . All I can add is Bravo! You have persevered ( and continue to do
so! ) Well done so far! Can’t wait to see you and your family finally get to move in and enjoy……rest…….begin new but smaller projects. 🙌🏻👏
Love you guys. This installation of The Dirt can be helpful for many. Just. Keep. Going.
Love the house. You did and still do a great job. Thanks for the inside.
Being ones own GC seems a logical decision to us owner-builder types. NOT doing it seems like an equally obvious route to people who like to buy a finished house from a home builder. To each his own.
Nicely done! You put into perspective the very issues I am dealing with building our home. 👍
The house is looking fabulous. I've so enjoyed watching it happen. We decided to build in 2009, but made the dubious decision of employing a builder. He abandoned us when the summer holidays arrived (December in our part of the world), and we moved into a house with missing windows, unfinished floors, no plumbing, no electricity. Rainbow toilet hire became my best friends. We're not nearly as capable as you and some things are still not done.
The peace, the view, the peace, the view coffee in the morning, cocktails in the evening. I see your future and I am so jealous! :) We all hit the occasional wall, once we expend enough energy bashing up against it, we reason our way around it, through it, over it. Which you and your wife have done countless times. I remember the frozen pipes, the small cottage and the kids. My imagination is filled with the difficulties you did not show!! Continued best wishes for good health, smooth sailing projects, and happiness!
I've enjoyed my popcorn while watching you do amazing work. Thanks for taking us along.
Jeremy, you are so driven, and the detail you have doing a great job! and With Jaime, she is a strong person as well and very much detail like you Jeremy! the house is beautiful and once it is finished it will be nice to have your down time.
great video. very impressed with how the whole family has dealt with this huge project. hope the kids are well
They are!
No matter the feelings, you have done an amazing job. As a construction contractor you have put quality materials into a beautiful home. Ya you might be a little crazy but the pride in building your own home should out weigh all the negativity.
Bravo on the video! House looks fantastic! Love ❤ the comment guidelines!
Hi from Australia, I found your channel some months ago when I was looking for practical info on using mylar bags and preserving of all things (thank you Jaime). Since then I have been working thru your videos of your family's journey over these last few years. As a viewer I have seen you and Jaime evolving, but all the way thru, you both have remained solid and remarkable human beings. Its a tough thing admitting to be human but your advice is well timed and necessary. Thank you for that. Congratulations to you both. I love your house. Looking forward to seeing it finished and you both sitting on that porch enjoying the views.
Thanks, as always. Love the view - and the house looks amazing. Thanks for sharing and taking us along for the journey....
This is such a positive wholesome video. Thanks for the straight forward honest talk!
Thanks for taking time to watch it. 😊
Great advice!
Thanks for watching!
Oh my god you are doing what ever was in your imagination with patient i am really apreciat your honesty and sharing your thought in this i am in the procec to do change my life stay safe.
This project would’ve sent me to the loony bin! I’ve watched in awe the whole way. I love that you went with ICF as a base.
Awesome video! I love the way you laid it out and covered the questions.
great vid,, good to get some of Jeremy's wisdom and humour to boot. Been following since your previous property,, you've come a long way baby!
Thanks 👍
Dont let the trim get you down! humor, sort of, seems like its that last little fiddly stuff that drives one over the cliff! Ah Ha! I'm finished with all the trim, um what about inside this closet? what closet? BEEEEEEEP! I have faith in you guys! definitely employ white board lists on that last bit its so satisfying to cross off every little thing til its done!