WHEN SHOULD A WOMAN GIVE A MAN ANOTHER CHANCE? by RC Blakes
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- Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2022
- WHEN SHOULD A WOMAN GIVE A MAN ANOTHER CHANCE? by RC Blakes
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1. He will always give you space without trying to manipulate your decision.
2. When he does not have a history of the same behaviour.
3. If he can own his error without excuse.
4. When he is making himself accountable to a certain authority.
5. When he is emotionally accomodating.
6. When his words and actions line up.
Thank You Sis ♥️
- You can't make a sound relationship decision, until you're in a place where you can live without this relationship. No desperation.
- You're not obligated to give a chance, if you don't want to.
1. He gives u space without trying to manipulate your decision.
2. He doesn't have a history of the same behaviour. It was a one-off lapse of judgement.
3. Owns his mistake entirely without an excuse
4. Makes himself accountable to an authority
5. He is emotionally accomodating to your feelings/questions/needs
6. His words and actions align. Patiently watch how they're now, before you go all in again.
Thank you for the recap! ❤️🙌
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Perfectly said and sometimes you could do all that and they still see the old you... Who doesn't exist anymore but you move on no love lost
Thanks for scribing the summary (take a way)
True 👍🏽 ✔
If they've cheated, NEVER take them back.
Nail it!!!
That's the dish they don't want served. If you catch them, think about the times they weren't caught. Nope.
Exactly!! And that’s their only sorrow that they got caught.
Exactly!! And that’s their only sorrow that they got caught.
Facts!! They will do it again and again!
HEY FAM! Share this and LIKE please. 🙏🏽
HRU Bishop Blakes? I'm Grateful for this Ministry. Yourself & 1st Lady Lisa are a Blessing to so many lives. Covering You All in Prayers
We appreciate you Bishop, praying for you, Bishop Samuel, your mom, your families & to all of my Father's beautiful children 🙏🏾💙😇👍🏾
Thank you both Bishop & MS Lisa. Was my first time to watch live chat. Even better than you're videos I've already 👍, viewed & saved to my play list. I shared this one through & after your session, along with many of you're existing videos. Thank you & I hope to catch your next live presentation.
Done and I always do.....
Is this you singing? If so niceeee or is it your brother? The voice sounds familiar loves the message
“There is nothing worse than being wounded , hurt , traumatized by a person and then have this person talk sharply to you or handle you sharply “ 😢😢 Very well said Bishop 🙏
That part!
Yes! Describe precisely what happens more times than not.
Why does there have to be a second chance? Why is it that he can't have a grown up relationship the first time,?
Sometimes if you take them back- it’s repeated cycle. It starts all over again 😢
Facts
REAL TALK AMEN!!!!!
Not sometimes. Every time.
Sometimes? Most of the time!
YES YES!
“I don’t want to start over”
“You never started in the beginning” omg😂😂😂
Been there done that!!!Soul ties are real, and as a woman I don’t want to go from man to man, but I learned people change only when circumstances force them. And sometimes they get worst!!!! I’m giving myself the CHANCE and trying to LIVE MY BEST LIFE!!!! Pray for me Pastor, and I’ll listen to this message at another time as I have to get to bed for work tomorrow. Blessings to All
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@Ruth.. I’ve experienced the same thing in my past. I’m not giving any men from my past any second chances. An ex is an ex for a reason. I’ve decided to work on myself and have drawn even closer to God! Living my best life. So much peace! Praise the Lord !
"people change only when circumstances force them." 100% facts! I have seen this in my own life (Lord still kept me, amen) and in others life play out with a mixed bag of results . another EXCELLENT word1
FACTS 🙏💕
Thank you pastor together with your wife thank you for
Coming to South africa❤
Bishop Blakes, I'm a 60yo white woman with a very broken past but God has never abandoned me. Your teachings have had a HUGE impact on me. You absolutely have the heart of a father, teaching me so many truths nobody ever did. My dad was there but emotionally unavailable. I never knew he loved me and therefore sought it out wherever I could. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for these truths. I can't get enough.
"The worst position for a woman to be, is to be in a relationship with a man who is not accountable to any authority"......How can you be following somebody who's following nobody 🤷🤦....this video is so timely for me 🙏🏻
....WORD!!....GREAT WORD!!!...🔥🔥... YOU CAN SAY THAT AGAIN SIR 🙏🏻
GOD BLESS YOU SIR 🙏 0:35
Interesting Indeed
Sir, out of all the videos you have made, this is the one that you spoke PERSONALLY to me! I am now 51 years old and been round the same mountain with my husband for 31 years. Yes, I know that is pathetic, but it is what it is. I have watched this video countless times, allowing the message to give me the slap in the face that I should have given myself all those years ago. Message received, point taken, my bags are packed and I am out of the door!
Way to go Ma'am👍... Congratulations 🥳🎉
1. Admit wrongdoing
2. Apologize
3. Steps shown to improve
Ladies instead of praying to the Lord to change him pray that he changes you into the woman who has self-love, self-respect and doesn't tolerate any foolery!
Once a man shows you his character, BELIEVE HIM. Second chances are futile. Men do not change. .. One more time for the ladies in the back. MEN DO NOT CHANGE!
Thats a lie 🤥🤥🤥
I been waiting for my ex for 10 years but she then had two kids in those 10 years on top of the one we share... I gave her space and stepped back but now I question myself for waiting for so long now don't get me wrong I been dating and as the last two years I been single and enjoying life but she is the one I want to marry but it seems she will never forgive the young virgin of myself whom no longer exist. And learning from mistakes I've completely changed.. but now she has drama and pain she needs to heal from as I assist that I now question myself for being a good guy because women don't want good guys these days and loving her kids all my own standing by her side doing all her pregnancies but she wants to have fun. I was her first... And after me she's been having fun but two additional kids came out of it listening to friends of hers and not having the right support and thinking I'm just saying it because it's me and oh that's just you because you wanna be with me like naw I'm your friend first before anything else but what don't learn until we don't have....
@@cuzbabyjigga she has to want healing and to forgive you. Other than that she'll hang what you did to her in the past over your head, which would cause problems in your relationship.
@@asiajohnson6191 facts I agree 💯... I even try to support her with that and give her help with resources and point her in the right direction and I'm just getting to the point I'm going to have to let go wholeheartedly... Doesn't mean I don't love her because I do but I feel she's going to take it personally... Probably to the point of saying I don't care or even manipulating me basically I would say but I have to stand for something or fall for anything....
ANYONE CAN CHANGE WHEN THEY GIVE GOD CONTROL OF THEIR LIFE AMEN!!!!!
Are you speaking about all the men in the world, if so, do you know allllllll the men in the world?
You can only really speak about yourself, and not project on to others.
Never after they dry you up and. CHEATED , abused you and ruin your love for him. 💔
Yes, this is going to be interesting from the man's perspective because I have never believed in going back.
Neither do I!
You are correct. Go back for what? My male cousin warned me on that. He said “Don’t back track” ❤
Take it from me, a woman who went back multiple times for 20 years and in doing so, invested my time in him at the expense of me. But I’m free today and working on self forgiveness.
Sir, the analogy of signing the lease is spot on. I was a 14+ years Fiancé before I walked away. I lived liked a dedicated wife, ran a home liked a wife, while he implanted himself into my family who lived out of state. Interestly, his parents lived a 10 mins. drive and I've never went to there house or mingled with them. When I bring up the topic he make me feel as if I was asking too much. The worst part, he lied constantly, it was draining.
14 years is not an engagement. there was never a plan to marry
Oh My!
I went back , biggest mistake of my life but bcuz of your teachings I got up and got out after four months and I am so proud of myself for the courage. Divorce proceedings in progress for real this time around. I am worth being loved! Thank you R. C Blakes 🇿🇦
I’m right in the same place as you now! Hugs and love!!!
Yes You Do! Blessings To All Of Us!💞🌷💪🙏
Self experience the world's greatest teacher...❤
When words and actions line up. Absolutely!
YUPPA!!!!!! AMEN👐🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Maybe in years to come,I might wish to be with someone. But for now, I value my peace, and very much enjoy my own company, and it doesn't scare me, if I chose to be single all my life. Peace is more important 💜🙏
I really dislike when people say “forgive and forget” because that sounds more like “pretend like it didn’t happen and let’s resume.” Or not taking accountability. You are correct Pastor. People make you feel as though you are bitter or not forgiving because you don’t want to have a person in your life anymore. I really dislike that because it’s not true. You can wholeheartedly forgive a person but not be interested in a relationship and that goes for all types of relationships….not just romantic/significant others.
I wholeheartedly agree with you!!! 💯
Mr. RC!! I literally broke down in tears at minute 35.30!! So many times I was told I'm sorry I cheated - again- but you were always tired from work, sorry I cheated again but you were not emotionally available, sorry I cheated again but that one time when my feelings were hurt from a joke, you pushed me away and made me cheat.. every time a new affair was discovered, it was always a reason it was my fault..
I didn't know what it was I needed to hear, until I heard those words at minute 35.30 - I'm sorry I hurt you, and you did not DESERVE IT..
Me and the narcissist ex have been separated 3 months, and I now have one week with no contact.. I was afraid I would get weak, but I have now vowed to come back to this video and listen to it each time I consider giving another chance to someone who could NEVER once say, "I'm sorry I hurt you and you did NOT DESERVE it.".
Thank you for allowing GOD to speak to me this evening, through your words.. I did not know how to process all these fake apologies, and you have helped to make it evident none of them were indicative of true repentance or regret..
Please pray for me Mr. And Mrs. Blake! And anyone else in the community
Never, never give a man another chance. Let him go and act foolish alone.
Exactly. My mom used to guilt trip me for not accepting my step father back into the father role in my eyes. I used to feel bad but I could not give him another chance with no apology.
"You ain't started nothing in the beginning,but lies and deceit" Love the message
I can honestly say I need to listen to this three more times 🙏🏾
Well Done Pastor
I’m a men, I’m learning so much from you
Keep up the great work
WHAT A BLESSING HEARING FROM A BROTHER WHO LISTENS TO BISHOP BLAKES TEACHINGS!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU SIR!!!!!
Pastor Blakes, you have sowed so much into my spirit and I’ve learned, been educated and going through a healing. I was in a toxic relationship with a narcissist for 4 years. I started sowing back into your ministry this past month every payday now and wow, God has placed someone in my path and it’s baby steps. Please keep me in your prayers as I go through this new relationship journey now.
🙏 May you have peace, happiness, kindness, nurturing, love and and above all GOD In your new relationship ❤️. Many blessing 🙏
I’m with u in this you’re not alone, for I’m going through a very similar situation ❤️🩹🤞🏼
That is beautiful! Also a survivor of narcissitic abuse! I pray to meet someone in the future I have been single 3 years patiently, I am just waiting on Gods BEST for me 🙏🏽❤️ May God bless you through your journey
Congrats on your relationship! May your new union be full of love, compassion, and prosperity ❤.
I wish I would've stood my ground and not given that second chance 14yrs ago! Thank you Bishop for another remarkable message 🙏🏼. Helping me find strength .
YES LORD!!! SEE ACTION BEFORE THE WORDS ARE SPOKEN
As a woman in her 50’s your message resonates with me profoundly. If only…
Now that I’m older and wiser, you are helping me move thru this season of my life with God as His Queen. Thank you!
Same here
WOW… “What makes you think He will change someone for your love interest when He doesn’t change anyone for HIS OWN INTEREST!” OMG!! PASTOR… YOU DROPPED THE MIC ON THAT ONE!!! 🎤 🔥 💥 👏🏽 ✨
If I had this information years ago, I wouldn't have given so many second and third and fourth chances. 🤦🏾♀️ Thank God I've grown! 🙌🏾 And I continue to grow with messages like yours Bishop Blakes. ☺️🙏🏾
It’s such a relief to leave people alone. 😂 once I go my way I don’t speak to that person again… and I mean that. I’ve always done this though its my way of letting people go and wishing them well. ❤
This video was so refreshing. The forgive and forget and accept all abuse in the name of looking like a good person is harmful rhetoric. People need to be held accountable for their actions and no one is owed space in our lives when they bring harm.
Absolutely 💯👍
Watch people show you who they are. My ex accused me if cheating. I told him the cheater accuses the non cheater because he is guilty. Then a year later he wanted me back mo way.
My husband left me with intentions of leading a double life but I’m grateful to God for revealing his true self to me,, God opened doors that lead me to a life in paradise,, I left and never looked back,,I believe God sent me here to heal and I am forever grateful ,, once the trust has been betrayed,, I can not go back 😢
I’m really sorry Ava.
I’m ready for a word tonight Bishop! I’ve got my snacks ready too 🙌🏾
Definitely loved this message and I needed to hear it. My ex husband always apologizing while finger pointing and expecting me to get back with him. It's unending toxic cycle that's exhausting with heavy manipulation too. Now stuck with coparenting our 3 year old but now I feel more comfortable to raise my child enjoying motherhood for who I truly am while single.
Need a love message button ❤️ Biblical teaching 🙏🏾 thank you 🙏🏾
It depends on what was done if giving another chance is coming from a toxic dark back and forth place Then no keep it moving. work on self and heal. Or else the cycle of toxic won’t heal it self.
I’m so ready, let me grab my blanket and snacks 🥰
I’m doing the same thing now watching the video.
This was good 👍🏾. Just confirmed my decision NOT to re-engage with my ex
Great message, even for the men. A lot of times we as men mess up big with a good woman and don't know how to make atonement. It is very important for both parties to know and understand what and who is best. Thanks Pastor for more insight. 🔥👑💪🙏
I don't go back to ex boyfriends .When its over accept it and move on
This song goes soooo HARD!!
I love this song sooooo much! My God, it always brings me to tears 😢!
What’s the name of the song and artist?
I believe the song is "she". Uncertain of the artist
This man is such a huge blessing I pray that we all appreciate him while he's here
What makes you think God will change a person for you when he won't insist change for Himself.
Thank You, Jesus and thank you, Bishop you have really been a blessing in my life helping to make a big to decision a year ago to divorce my ex-husband of 20 years together and a total of 15 years married and l feel so,free today and l will never return back to bandage again so, the Bible say who son set free is free indeed Glory to God!!
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes,I came across your videos during the start of the pandemic in 2020.I was with a narcisstic partner for 4 years who kept coming back up to 2019.Even when I broke the soul ties. But I am fully free of him for 3 years. I shared your videos with my sister who was married to a narcississt for 25 years and bore him 2 daughters. He cheated on her and the divorce settlement is only now in the final stage after tying her up for over 4 years.Seeing your videos with
biblical validation has helped me see clearly what I allowed to happen and missed in the initial stages of the relationship. Never Again! You speak with wisdom,clarity and knowledge. Thank you for your great ministry and have a wonderful 2023
I saw who he was and immediately left!!!! I spoke about the issue twice and when I realized it goes nowhere through the door I went. Now he's trying to make me know he is in regret and guess what, I love him but I don't care. Fix yourself for the next woman
Where I’ve found the most peace? I give children and pets that are still learning multiple chances at certain things. Adults? Especially my age, I do not. A very sage person told me, “By your accepting poor behavior, they will never learn and think another chance might be had. Nothing states the lesson more than being left alone to dwell upon one’s transgressions.” I finally put this to use.. with everyone. You will never go to bed questioning your value. They won’t question it either.
I’m going through a complicated relationship myself I don’t even know if I should call it a relationship anymore.. so I “feel” like I lost a person that makes sure I’m comfortable & safe, makes me laugh, calls me all the time & considerate of the things I like to now nothing .. he’s older I’m younger I did something childish he would say & he doesn’t even look up at me no more when talking to me & pay no attention when I walk past & definitely don’t call & txt me anymore.. I’m learning how to move on but that one hurt
Emotionally accommodating like that!
The blind is leading the blind 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you Pastor! Your words have been absolutely life changing. I’m separated now from my narcissistic husband and I can’t believe how deeply I was set in the fog. I had relationships all wrong growing up, and now I can see things in a completely different light with the help of all of your content. Being with a man that grieves you, yet tried to treat you like a queen in the beginning, is one of the most exhausting and devastating experiences one can go through. But I’m going to come out on top!
*I am so grateful for this message. I learned to let sleeping dogs lie. I got EFFECTIVE COUNSELING, Strengthened my relationship with God universe and started doing the inner work. My Life is great and getting better everyday. Thank you.💰🙏💍*
Effective Counseling for me much needed I have been with one man all my life 37 Years From 14 - 50 now!! Him cheating devastated me at this point in my life having a relationship with God is more important pray for me and I pray for you 🙏
This message was on point and exactly what I needed. I’ve been “waiting” on a message like this. Thank you Pastor Blakes
I just ended a long-term substitute teaching at a school that is very dysfunctional. I found myself constantly being disrespected by the parents and the principal who repeatedly brushed it off with the response," parents disrespected me when I was a teacher." I kept dismissing my need for standards and boundaries with immature/irresponsible/misinformed parents and unprofessionalism of several people on his staff until I realized and had to accept that not only is he I experienced but the standards and expectations he has for how adults, educators (including teachers) does not align with who I am as a person or professional. The longer I stayed the list more and more HE started to devalue me. It was very strange to experience it happening. Just by being physically present sent a (subliminal)message to people that I was OK with being mistreated. Leaving was the ONLY way to preserve the respect I had for myself.
You are talking right!!!! Speak the truth!!! Saved me from making one of the worse decisions of my life! I'm so grateful for your videos and ministry!! Thank you and your beautiful wife Lisa.
This video is SO powerful. My goodness. WOW. I felt like I just got a free therapy session. I'm really glad I let go a relationship going now where... OUTSTANDING!!❤️❤️👋👋
Glad I caught this live!!
I told him I needed time to myself! He tried to hurt me by saying well I won't call you anymore! My rejection means God's Protection!
Cant wait to hear this message
Right on time!
Excited for you!
Ohh…most definitely a needed message!
Thank Pastor RC, these steps are so clear and logical. Sad part is for many of us, these standards were never met getting into the relationship to begin with so it’s better to walk away, heal and start afresh the right way. There is hope! YES YES to Queenology Africa🙌🏿🇿🇼
Need to replay this and take notes. Wow Thank you SO MUCH. 🙏🙏
Always a great listen.
Thank you for all that you do! I listen almost every day current and old Messages
Thank you 🙏🏻 I needed to hear this & needed the prayer ❤️
Thank you, Shared and Liked! Happy Thanksgiving to you and Lisa and the family!
i really want to hear this, so excited
Thank you Sir. Ppl's lives are literally being transformed as they receive much needed clarity one message at a time.
I’ve been following for a month or so now. So grateful for your ministry.
This is SO good and on time...just confirmation all over the place!!
I love all your videos! May they reach many more!
Thank you for your teachings Mr. RC Blakes. 🙏🏾
Sasha from Brooklyn New York❤️
The grandmother example really hit home 😢 I miss that woman every day I have also never met a person in my life whos unconditional love was felt besides God. I miss her everyday and it felt like a message was sent today from her thru you. I appreciate the long talks they are much needed and very therapeutic. Thank you sir. 😊
Things I wish I learnt way earlier, then I could have made better decisions, but we learn every day. Thanks Pastor Blakes
Once again thank you for always sharing knowledge and the tools we can use to have a healthy relationship👍🏽💯🙏🏽☮️
Thank you so much Pastor Blakes!!! That song in the beginning puts me in a particular place, and it opens my heart to receive teaching!
I’m excited for this discussion!!!😇
Super excited to hear Bishops perspective
Thank you for this message. For me this message applies to toxic family members, co-workere, employees, and former friends.
Loved it ❤
Thank u for this, for it came right on time ♥️
I'm so glad I find you on RUclips I learn so much thank you I was so weak but you helped me in finding my inner strength.
Thanks Pastor RC Blakes. It is refreshing to know that I am not obligated to give anyone a second chance. Thanks for this message.
This is so solid! Great advice regarding men but really for ANY and ALL relationships. Thank you Pastor Blakes.
I needed to hear this! Thank you!
Good Evening Pastor Blakes! Dianna Parker - Tampa, FL
Thank you Pastor. I needed this message a decade ago but I'm listening now and moving forward in grace and with God. Still healing and praying
Amen! South Africans would be immensely blessed by your visit Pastor Blakes.
Good word!
Thank you for taking time to teach RC. I wish you could do more interviews and go on different platforms to reach more people
This is a wonderful topic! Thank you for sharing 😊 much needed in my life right now. Please keep me in your prayers 🙏
Powerful and Outstanding Message on tonight! Be Blessed!