IT'S OVER! 7 Red Flags Signalling The End of a Relationship

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Комментарии • 1,4 тыс.

  • @feliciadarensbourg1097
    @feliciadarensbourg1097 3 года назад +776

    The best thing a man can do if he no longer loves you, is to have enough integrity to set you free to find the one who will.

    • @kokhotoms1620
      @kokhotoms1620 2 года назад +7

      I agree, if this was my situation I would love to be thinking about finding someone else who or just enjoying life until I do fing someone else

    • @Kristin-go6fm
      @Kristin-go6fm 2 года назад +11

      I absolutely agree. In my case he moved in with me and want just leave. He has no obligations as I do. But feels like he should be able to " get his self together". Really sir. He should have been doing that. I'm so sadddd..

    • @jenifad9959
      @jenifad9959 2 года назад +35

      Thsts the issue, some men have no integrity so women have to do it themselves.

    • @bambam6231973
      @bambam6231973 2 года назад +10

      I agree many wont it's sad

    • @debjackson3784
      @debjackson3784 2 года назад +7

      some men do try and break loose but you have the obsessive women that go the extra mile doing crazy shit to stalk the man! Smh

  • @miamonroe7435
    @miamonroe7435 3 года назад +919

    My daddy always told me if a man doesn't want you, it doesn't matter how much you sleep with him, feed him or pay him. If he don't want you he don't want you. I've always remembered that statement.

    • @tlashai9902
      @tlashai9902 3 года назад +65

      Your dad is absolutely right, the same thing also goes for women, when she no longer wants you, she doesn’t want you.

    • @miamonroe7435
      @miamonroe7435 3 года назад +10

      @@tlashai9902 absolutely 💗🦋

    • @angelamorris5271
      @angelamorris5271 2 года назад +34

      True fact i tried it all and it didn't work, so I'm learning how to value myself and know that I'm truly a Queen...

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 2 года назад +22

      Your Father was/is Correct my darling. This goes for Both sexes. 💯🌸🌸🌸🌸

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 2 года назад +9

      Your daddy is absolutely right!

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +1322

    I think we all know when a relationship is over. A lot of times we just don’t want to admit it. I stayed for so long out of not wanting to be a single mom, fear of starting over & financial insecurity. It wasn’t worth it. Don’t stay ladies! Love yourself enough to move on. Your life will go on.

    • @marycox4510
      @marycox4510 3 года назад +13

      Amen

    • @mrsamzambrano5740
      @mrsamzambrano5740 3 года назад +44

      Fear cost us so much, when peace is priceless it’s so much greater than fear & hardship. It’s worth seeking. It won’t be found in obeying fear. I agree with you Krystle anticipatory fear is a lie. Fear is a feeling that lies reality is not as bad as the picture fear creates to imprison Gods people. And worst some of these monster threaten and instill fear. God gives us the grace to do all things He calls us to do. And He calls us to peace. Fact over feelings!

    • @redeemed5654
      @redeemed5654 3 года назад +19

      Thank you. God knows I needed to hear this.

    • @micheleriley8985
      @micheleriley8985 3 года назад +24

      Yes moving forward and trusting The Most High for placement and provision.

    • @kaleema1987
      @kaleema1987 3 года назад +18

      Yes I knew too but I didn't physically go but mentally I did.

  • @zarai2547
    @zarai2547 3 года назад +1304

    I ended things with him yesterday. It was too toxic. I just couldn't take it anymore. Always be very careful of a man who says he's "a good guy" they're usually one of the worst men. They'll emotionally drain you to the point where u question your sanity. A good man won't tell you he's one. He'll show you. I have learned my lesson.

    • @Pinkpanda811
      @Pinkpanda811 3 года назад +54

      Yes! "I'm a good/nice guy" is always a 🚩

    • @WarriorQueen1962
      @WarriorQueen1962 3 года назад +14

      That part!!!

    • @kaleema1987
      @kaleema1987 3 года назад +59

      You know a man by the fruit he bares. Amen

    • @veemtshali2540
      @veemtshali2540 3 года назад +48

      I experienced the very same thing, those were exactly his words, A true narcissist I have healed and I pray that you heal as well. Love and light sis'❤🕯

    • @AshzxQuidYT
      @AshzxQuidYT 3 года назад +32

      Don’t look back

  • @michellewilliams3589
    @michellewilliams3589 2 года назад +126

    You know it's over when your happy, relieved or more comfortable when they leave the house or are sleeping.

    • @sade_8637
      @sade_8637 Год назад +5

      Facts 🙆🏾‍♀️💯

    • @edsal26
      @edsal26 Год назад +1

      You got me thinking now🧐

  • @iambirdlady65
    @iambirdlady65 3 года назад +704

    If you are in a toxic relationship, please leave and heal yourself before entering into another one. Ladies, YOU HAVE A LOT OF POWER!! 💪🏽 💪🏽💪🏽

    • @rochellecrump9432
      @rochellecrump9432 3 года назад +14

      Truth......Let it Go! So much better than that. One eye cry and keep it moving.
      Thank you God for the rescue from disappointment. God is a healer for a broken heart. All is well with my soul.

    • @WarriorQueen1962
      @WarriorQueen1962 3 года назад +2

      Amen!!! 🙏

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 3 года назад +12

      I'm good I dont even wanna be with no man cause most men cheat a man go do them I been single 4 years and I happy

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 2 года назад +3

      Darling that’s right🌸

    • @van182
      @van182 2 года назад +6

      @@blessedchildofgod9112 Most men do not cheat. Both men and women can become unfaithful and toxic. We need to fix the black family first. Babies raising babies wont necessarily produce great men and women.

  • @redeemed5654
    @redeemed5654 3 года назад +243

    "I LOVE ME MORE THAN I LOVE THE IDEA OF US" , thats Powerful!!!

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 Год назад +2

      True, it should be every Queens mindset

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 3 года назад +541

    2. You Have To Beg Them To Love You.
    3. You Act Out Of Character Because They Have Betrayed Your Trust.
    4. Constantly Exchange Your Dignity For Unfulfilled Promises.

    • @patriciawilliams2622
      @patriciawilliams2622 2 года назад +7

      Thank you..RC. Starting my day with you. Fortifying words.

    • @believer2010ful
      @believer2010ful 2 года назад +9

      Some never even started. Red flag from day one

    • @bre4101
      @bre4101 2 года назад +15

      Ended my 10 year relationship october 10.10.2021
      I just can't do it anymore all the lies and betrayal, he use to tell me,to promise him I'll never hurt him,tables turn he hurted me emotionally & mentally

    • @Victoria-tc5cm
      @Victoria-tc5cm Год назад +1

      My life story since I was 31 years old...so much damage and thank God for counseling many years ago that I believe the Lord Jesus needs me to realize I'm better than that. Thank God for his favor on my life. AMEN 🙏

    • @princessgigiking
      @princessgigiking Год назад +1

      @@Victoria-tc5cm Amen 🙏

  • @Wall0fCatz
    @Wall0fCatz 3 года назад +1127

    I’ve always known when a man wasn’t going to last long term. YOU CAN FEEL IT but ignore it because of the companionship. I’m not ignoring it anymore!!!

  • @Mspuddin67
    @Mspuddin67 3 года назад +412

    I stayed in a 3.5 year relationship 3 years and 5 months too long.
    Lesson: when you are crying in bed and your partner is lying next to you, ask you why you're crying ,you answer it's they are the cause and your partner didn't do anything to comfort you....it's over.
    Lesson: I don't care how bad you want a relationship; if the other person don't want the relationship, you have nothing!
    Lesson: It's hard to admit that you chose wrong, moved too fast, or ignored red flags.

  • @keneshawilliamson1574
    @keneshawilliamson1574 3 года назад +352

    That’s right!!! Move on and get close to God!!! It’s over for a reason. I Thank God for removing me from my last relationship. God is Awesome!!!❤️🙏🏽❤️

  • @cresha80
    @cresha80 3 года назад +391

    1. You both have said some things to demean or humiliate each other.
    2. You’ve begged and the other person has not responded to you favorably.
    3. When the other person has triggered your distrust to a point that you are now out of character.
    4. You are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises.
    5. You sit down and begin plotting how to get even.
    6. When your friends, family, co-workers can tell you the cycle you’re in or the cycle you’re about to go thru with this person.
    7. When you don’t want the relationship anymore.

    • @cresha80
      @cresha80 3 года назад +4

      @@LeafsIn2024 No problem 😉

    • @mw7882
      @mw7882 3 года назад +8

      Thank you so much. This is so helpful. God bless you. 🙏🏽

    • @nichellenunya
      @nichellenunya 3 года назад +5

      Thank you 🙏

    • @tamzar2440
      @tamzar2440 3 года назад +2

      I agree thank you 😇

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 года назад +2

      Thank❤You

  • @rox7900
    @rox7900 2 года назад +208

    My ex gas lighted me for years, but when he slowly started cursing at me and trying to be verbally abusive, I cut him out!!! My mother was married to my father and he was verbally and physically abusive towards her and I vowed that I would ever allow a man to treat me that way!! And I've been working on healing and being a better woman. Been single now for 3 years and I'm ok with it. I finally realized that it's ok to be single and living a great, happy life, than being in a relationship unhappy.

    • @rox7900
      @rox7900 2 года назад +5

      Yess! At first it's hard, but stay strong and have your mind set on moving on 🤍 You got this!

    • @traceyjennings1769
      @traceyjennings1769 2 года назад +2

      Thats for sure im a testimate to y I u can be very happy by urself

    • @ludenafoy9455
      @ludenafoy9455 2 года назад

      Ppppñññ

    • @annemariecrawford6473
      @annemariecrawford6473 2 года назад +3

      Like i say i enjoy my single life ,I would rather be alone than unhappy.

    • @marystewart6379
      @marystewart6379 2 года назад +2

      Amen

  • @Wall0fCatz
    @Wall0fCatz 3 года назад +544

    I emotionally detached when he hurt my feelings and I began to cry and he said I was “fake crying”. It was over for me. Because I knew it would get worst over time. If you can’t try to resolve the issue and comfort me then I don’t need that type of energy around me. That wasn’t the only issue but it was big enough to walk away.

    • @louisedemers9314
      @louisedemers9314 3 года назад +32

      Smart woman you are

    • @empresserica
      @empresserica 3 года назад +38

      Yes Sister ! Say that ! I had a similar experience. If you dont care that you hurt me and made me cry...ITS OVA !

    • @oritseweyinmjjoy5366
      @oritseweyinmjjoy5366 3 года назад +19

      I can't lie I went through the same thing that shows how much of a weakling the man is

    • @comentadoraification
      @comentadoraification 3 года назад +18

      That wasn’t that big an issue BUT that was the visible part of an iceberg.

    • @mrsamzambrano5740
      @mrsamzambrano5740 3 года назад +20

      Mine comforted me but he didn’t change so even the wonderful motions & feelings are not the facts.

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 3 года назад +83

    1. Intentionally Said Things To Humiliate or Demeaning Each Other.

  • @carlissable
    @carlissable 3 года назад +177

    Our spirit knows. We know. Most don't want to accept that it's over. You disrespect me in any manner and it's over. Periodt!!🤣🤣

  • @sapphireraven6043
    @sapphireraven6043 3 года назад +338

    Mr Blakes has helped me to restore and place up my well needed boundaries. I'm a QUEEN.

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 года назад +3

      Love your name. A blessed stone. God's Throne made of Sapphire Stone

    • @sapphireraven6043
      @sapphireraven6043 3 года назад +1

      @@ladyzinada5341 Thank you my beautiful sister.xxxxx

    • @ulyssesibiam4411
      @ulyssesibiam4411 3 года назад +2

      Most times we don't really understand the meaning of the signs revealed in the beginning. Wonder why a saphire can't be loved by someone & regarded? Lack of understanding it means.

    • @sapphireraven6043
      @sapphireraven6043 3 года назад +2

      @@ulyssesibiam4411 That's deep. Thank you. All my life I never believed or knew that I was worth being loved and respected. Now I'm learning that I can establish boundaries from Mr RC Blakes.

    • @ulyssesibiam4411
      @ulyssesibiam4411 3 года назад +2

      @@sapphireraven6043 Saphire May the blessings be. I believe God will see we through the moment for God knew before we understood what we got into, right?

  • @beverlyorlando8040
    @beverlyorlando8040 3 года назад +387

    100% accuracy! Each failed attempt to leave my dysfunctional marriage I believe my now ex-husband had more disrespect for me for staying. Yes to the concept you mentioned, I started to lose myself & didn't like who I was becoming! I was putting all my energy into a relationship that died at least a decade ago! My biggest regret is staying longer than I should've.

    • @ysmithriley
      @ysmithriley 3 года назад +19

      @Beverly Orlando Another way of looking at this. More disrespect for you for staying in a toxic relationship? Or, for himself for not leaving you? He could have been a man and left too, but he left it up to YOU to do the heavy lifting.

    • @staceylozano9578
      @staceylozano9578 3 года назад +16

      I left a toxic relationship 3 year's ago and I still am healing and growing for myself it was pure hell being with him very cruel and manipulative and crazy.. I wish I never met george... He was evil

    • @TiffanyBTV
      @TiffanyBTV 3 года назад +1

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 preachhh

    • @cresha80
      @cresha80 3 года назад +17

      @@staceylozano9578 We have somewhat similar stories. I was in a toxic marriage with an evil man for five years and have been divorced for a little over two years. He was a gaslighter, cheater, manipulator, predator, and there were red flags that I ignored in the beginning and it ended almost costing me everything but I thank God for opening my eyes and getting me out of that marriage. I am still healing and growing everyday.

    • @shegotstandards
      @shegotstandards 3 года назад +11

      Exactly, that was my biggest regret also that I stayed longer than I should have. Realized I didn't want to waste more years.

  • @joennjala1666
    @joennjala1666 3 года назад +199

    One way you know a relationship is over is when He or She looks better going than coming.

  • @endtimeservant8531
    @endtimeservant8531 2 года назад +11

    Never EVER beg anyone to LOVE YOU. Once you are putting in more than you receive, it's time to MOVE ON with your life.

  • @LaTashala1080
    @LaTashala1080 3 года назад +358

    THIS MAN IS THE TRUTH!! HEAVEN SENT!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @just_es8369
      @just_es8369 3 года назад +10

      God is the Truth, all men are liars. Bishop Blake’s is referring to scripture which is the Word of God

    • @vanillahudson8402
      @vanillahudson8402 3 года назад +1

      He is!!

    • @van182
      @van182 2 года назад +3

      @@just_es8369 Both male and female are capable of lying: don't get it twisted.

    • @just_es8369
      @just_es8369 2 года назад +7

      “All men” mean men, women and child , thought you knew

    • @tabithabrock6406
      @tabithabrock6406 2 года назад +1

      Yes he is a absolutely God sent! May God continue to bless his life in GREAT abundance.

  • @empowered3206
    @empowered3206 3 года назад +79

    I don't need 7 red flags i just need one and it's over. I just don't have the patience to wait for all those red flags

    • @Morningportrait
      @Morningportrait 3 года назад +5

      Hauluja!!!!!!

    • @VANESSA-rs1lm
      @VANESSA-rs1lm 2 года назад +4

      Amen!🙌

    • @patthomas4229
      @patthomas4229 2 года назад

      Thank God Fr your messages Pastor. I needed those words truly from God Thur you. My life back on track AMAN AMAN

    • @sharoneh8929
      @sharoneh8929 2 года назад +3

      Come on here...Just give me one reason: It's Over!!!

    • @clarissegomez9275
      @clarissegomez9275 2 года назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣 I love this comment 😍

  • @slimtmedia
    @slimtmedia 3 года назад +86

    When the feeling of missing them hit. You gatta be strong to not chase and beg...I think we is just want thatt hurt feeling to go away and want to feel love. Especially if you have been together for a longtime

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 3 года назад +10

      Even if you’re not with them for a long time, it’s still painful when you love them to walk away, when you MUST.

    • @slimtmedia
      @slimtmedia 3 года назад +2

      @@amerokeewiya1320 yes

    • @orangegoldenhoney4899
      @orangegoldenhoney4899 2 года назад

      @@amerokeewiya1320 W

    • @orangegoldenhoney4899
      @orangegoldenhoney4899 2 года назад

      @@amerokeewiya1320 !aaaaaaa!aaqqqqqqqq+aaq+qq

    • @rukyade3730
      @rukyade3730 2 года назад +1

      Thank goodness xxxxxxxxx

  • @janicechristner2924
    @janicechristner2924 3 года назад +36

    the names he chooses to call you when he is mad is exactly how he summed you up before there was a relationship

  • @kaylabryson1932
    @kaylabryson1932 3 года назад +159

    After 40 yrs I’m finally out. Tried everything thru the years. My kids are 100% behind me. It’s time to enjoy my kids and grandkids, and my new good life of freedom! You are right on with this list and examples. I’ve listened twice now and it’s making me more and more happy, relieved and peaceful . Thank you

    • @rubysparklerodriguez3647
      @rubysparklerodriguez3647 2 года назад +5

      In the name of Jesus amen

    • @debbylee6329
      @debbylee6329 2 года назад +6

      Congrats!! I stayed for 45 years and I have been out for almost 3 years. Yes, it's time to enjoy your family. Live life on your terms. I just wished I had done it years ago.

    • @gwendolynthompson2127
      @gwendolynthompson2127 2 года назад +3

      Im THEIR RIGHT NOW

    • @kaylabryson1932
      @kaylabryson1932 2 года назад +2

      @@debbylee6329 Thank you ! All the best to you !

    • @kaylabryson1932
      @kaylabryson1932 2 года назад +1

      @@gwendolynthompson2127 May God bless you to break free !!!

  • @annemariecrawford6473
    @annemariecrawford6473 2 года назад +13

    I'd Rather be alone than be Unhappy.

  • @catrinan.b.9923
    @catrinan.b.9923 3 года назад +56

    Help us, dear Lord..to discern, such a person, such a spirit, such a soul, such a false relationship, such a false love, and from such deception, my God..In Jesus precious dear Holy name…🙏🏽

  • @sarahbyrd9832
    @sarahbyrd9832 3 года назад +135

    No matter what they take from me they can't take away my dignity. The greatest Love of all learning to love myself is the greatest Love of all.

  • @beauty4ashes453
    @beauty4ashes453 3 года назад +83

    I know mines is over praying for direction moving forward. 23 yrs of bondage and break downs.

    • @Whatthemess
      @Whatthemess 3 года назад +4

      24 years and it’s hard

    • @SL-xf5re
      @SL-xf5re 2 года назад

      I see that you have a channel, just thought I’d send some encouragement your way. Keep going, someone need your message! God bless!

  • @HapiGutHapiLife19
    @HapiGutHapiLife19 2 года назад +42

    Relationships need to grow and reinvent themselves TOGETHER. It's about memories... good or bad! It's about genuine friendship! It's about learning how to love the person; embracing the authentic person. The grass isn't greener on the other side. Many times the person we leave is usually the person we spend our lives searching for; only realizing it's far too late!

  • @yolandam611
    @yolandam611 3 года назад +151

    I squandered my dignity and he never even gave me promises. I just kept telling him what I wanted and needed from him, and I knew he would not deliver but I was lonely and wanted companionship, but mostly all I got was sex.

    • @lorrainedavis945
      @lorrainedavis945 3 года назад +16

      This whole comment is me right now 😒😥

    • @MyMelcar
      @MyMelcar 3 года назад +5

      @@lorrainedavis945 say it again . 👏 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @22chick4
      @22chick4 3 года назад +17

      This is exactly how i feel right now except he would play with my head telling me i was going to be his wife one day and that he loved me knowing good and well he didn't want to get married nor be in a committed relationship.This man got me pregnant twice within one year pressured me into having 2 abortions made me feel like it was my fault i came up pregnant and tried to make me feel guilty about possibly making him a daddy at 53 years old had i continued the pregnancy. As if that wasn't bad enough he also threatened to ditch me and the baby if i gave birth to his child. I can't stand that man i wasted my time dating an older man😔

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 2 года назад +19

      @@22chick4 Some older men date younger women to manipulate them. So sorry, you went through this.
      🙏🙏🙏

    • @gloriousjohnson1807
      @gloriousjohnson1807 2 года назад +3

      @@22chick4 : All this birth control around! Stupid is as stupid does.

  • @tantepris
    @tantepris Год назад +9

    "I love me more than the idea of us"
    Before you finished that sentence I raised both hands high up in the air 🙌🏼 shouted AMEN and a Woohoo!!
    Thank you pastor Blakes! That was fire.

  • @beverlyorlando8040
    @beverlyorlando8040 3 года назад +203

    Bless you for your message Pastor. Sadly, I recently had to make the difficult decision to walk away from a 33 year marriage due to verbal, emotional and financial abuse. I continue to suffer with frequent nightmares 6 mths later, along with other symptoms of C-PTSD. I pray I will one day heal completely from the pain this relationship has caused. I know I wasn't perfect in this relationship either and I need to forgive both myself and my ex husband. 🙏

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 года назад +6

      Good for you darling

    • @kimberlyarnold5531
      @kimberlyarnold5531 3 года назад +4

      Bless you

    • @coffeebitt1
      @coffeebitt1 3 года назад +11

      It’s such a difficult decision GOD be with you honey

    • @rachelbeal8475
      @rachelbeal8475 3 года назад +9

      May God continue to comfort you. It’s going to take some time. I stayed 19 yrs and it’s been 5 yrs and he still try’s to verbally and emotionally abuse me which in turn sends me back to depression and PSTD. Am happy you are free now continue to heal. 🙏🏽❤️

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk 3 года назад +16

      Sister, stop claiming C-PTSD and start claiming radiant health, peace, love, joy and personal and financial security by and through the blood of Jesus and in Jesus's mighty name!! AMEN!!

  • @comentadoraification
    @comentadoraification 3 года назад +150

    Yep relationships are like a blanket whenever you see the other person trying to pull the blanket towards himself or herself leaving you naked or feeling cold, it’s over.

    • @barbarabanks5823
      @barbarabanks5823 2 года назад +2

      I like this analogy. Makes such good sense. Amen. Thank you.

  • @daisyobrown
    @daisyobrown 3 года назад +63

    I’ve listened to so many messages on “it’s over” … but this surpasses all… nothing but the truth!

  • @nooranarnold258
    @nooranarnold258 3 года назад +61

    HIS WORDS ALMOST DESTROYED ME... A MAN THAT LOVES YOU.. DNT BREAK YOU DOWN WITH WORDS.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING YOU DAY AFTER DAY.. THATS ABNORMAL.. FOR A FUNCTIONAL AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP... ITS UTTER INSANITY... ON TOP I BEGGED.. 😔😔, LOVING HIM TOO MUCH.. HIM GIVING ME JUST CHAOS,... TEARS.. NO MORE... LOVE DOESN'T HURT, LADIES.. EVERYTHING YOU SAY PASTOR IS SO TRUE.. NO MORE BEGGING FOR LOVE, RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. I CANNOT THROW MY DIGNITY OUT OF THE WINDOW, FOR A MAN... WE'RE THERE'S TOO MUCH CONFUSION IN A, RELATIONSHIP.. ITS OVER... MOVE ON, DNT GET USED UP... WE ARE QUEENS.. CHIN UP LADIES AND MOVE ON... 👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 3 года назад +1

      Love doesn’t hurt? So why is it so painful to walk away from someone you love?

    • @louiseboyd8896
      @louiseboyd8896 3 года назад +1

      It gets to a point when it's not so painful if you can discover your zen feeliing......I feel at peace just not trying to please him over and over....that is done......he calls to talk to try to rekindle, but I cannot be moved because I can see through him......God gives us the wisdom of discernment after the trials.......🌌🙏

    • @nooranarnold258
      @nooranarnold258 2 года назад

      @@louiseboyd8896 HE CALLED ME.. BUT WITH GOD'S INTERVENTION, I DIDN'T HEAR MY PHONE RINGING... THEN HE PHNED TO MY WORK.. SORRY I GAVE HIM A FARE CHANCE.. WHAT DID I GET,.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING ME.. SORRY.. WE ARE GOOD AND DECENT WOMEN.. WE JUST WANT RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. GOD IS GOOD, WHEN YOUR INTENTIONS ARE PURE AND GOOD.. GOD WILL ALWAYS BE AT YOUR SIDE.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @marepalmer
      @marepalmer 2 года назад

      Aa

    • @butterflyqueen9727
      @butterflyqueen9727 2 года назад

      Yessssssssss!!!! Amen🙌❤👑

  • @ngoziforeman5565
    @ngoziforeman5565 3 года назад +34

    I dont think u understand how much you and your wife have changed so many lives. I'm so blessed to find you. You are truly a blessing to so many. I am so happy I found your channel. Thank you for your gift.

  • @TheStyleedi
    @TheStyleedi 2 года назад +46

    "I love me, more then the reality of us" I love this line Pastor ❤.

  • @morganrosalyn
    @morganrosalyn 2 года назад +14

    This hit home, I dont regret my child but I regret who I had my child with. I had NO business making a child with this individual. But you live and you learn.

    • @Diyanibeats
      @Diyanibeats Год назад

      Girl same

    • @denisebarnes5092
      @denisebarnes5092 Год назад

      Help mi, Pupa Jesus, mi in the same boat!!! Thank you, Bishop!!!🙏

  • @thalitarabb155
    @thalitarabb155 3 года назад +102

    God Bless you after 18 years of marriage I had to leave a toxic, harsh, destructive, trauma bond relationship. I left the state of Alabama & relocated to Fayetteville, NC with my baby girl which is in the Army. I’m at such peace ☮️. Thank you so much for your videos very educational & enlightening.

    • @colleendaniels6884
      @colleendaniels6884 3 года назад +9

      Congratulations you are a strong woman!

    • @melinatedvessel6840
      @melinatedvessel6840 3 года назад +5

      Congratulations..Your willingness to put peace for you and her a priority took bravery..

    • @gloriousjohnson1807
      @gloriousjohnson1807 2 года назад +2

      GOD bless you!

    • @andreapuryear9648
      @andreapuryear9648 2 года назад

      I'm blessed and proud of you as you choose peace. I've been married for 12 years but the lasts 3 years to6 years he has been difiting away with him putting his friend over me. I've been in a toxic, verbal, tramanu ,, and eventually physical abusive . My poor children had to endure us arguing all the time. Lord Jesus, I pray for forgiveness

    • @francesbass6767
      @francesbass6767 2 года назад

      I'm from this area..Great place

  • @magicgemmaster566
    @magicgemmaster566 3 года назад +93

    Oh! You ARE a counselor. You're inspirational, rational, Christian, and so very wise in your eloquant sermons. I've taken so much from them. My life patterns have changed...my life path has changed. You break it DOWN. Thank you.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  3 года назад +15

      Thank you. You must be a poet. Your words are vivid. 😊🙏🏽

  • @mz.sophisticatedlady8398
    @mz.sophisticatedlady8398 3 года назад +78

    When I say my spiritual growth and level of thinking has heighten by listening to the wisdom and knowledgePastor Blakes gives it doesn't get any better than this.

  • @Canaday291
    @Canaday291 3 года назад +46

    I regretfully wasted so many years, comprised , sacrificed, and lost my identity,authentic self,self respect, dignity, values, standards, and principles being submissive, subservient…trying to tolerate and co exist with an abusive cheating negligent ex husband I finally divorced.

  • @antionettelawrence191
    @antionettelawrence191 2 года назад +22

    This is awesome. Never allow a person to take you out your character. Vengeance is mine says the lord. Thank God for his peace.🙏

  • @atlantasfaithsmom
    @atlantasfaithsmom 2 года назад +12

    "I love the REALITY of ME more than I love the IDEA of US." R.C. Blakes
    Amen! 🙌🏽

  • @janedunlap3518
    @janedunlap3518 3 года назад +53

    Love addiction and codependency are what drive this crazy. We want to be loved so we hang in there..sometimes too long. Appreciate your advice with scripture to back it up. Thanks 🙏😊

  • @caraainsley78
    @caraainsley78 2 года назад +14

    “I love me more than I love the idea of us.” WORD!!!!!

  • @KANDYGIRL2U
    @KANDYGIRL2U 3 года назад +75

    My extended and spiritual familes have always put a major emphasis on self sacrifiice as the path to relationship success & continuety. And... after 30+years of putting myself last and accepting all sorts of spiritual attacks, I put the puzzle together and figured out I was catering to two selfish toxic families! I am now on the right road to healing for two years and my self esteem is finally blooming for the first time in my life! 💕 Thank you RC! 😍

    • @sandraeason1554
      @sandraeason1554 2 года назад +2

      We have to learn to love ourselves first before we let a man or women put us in this situation and destroy.
      Yes "its over then"

  • @judeenblair9619
    @judeenblair9619 2 года назад +44

    I found my worth through this ministry, now I'm the leading lady in my life.

  • @sampsonlittle7368
    @sampsonlittle7368 Год назад +6

    Two signs that a relationship is over is you can only see your peace on the other side them. And the closure you need is the closure you give yourself over there on the other side of them, when your peace returns because you ended it.

  • @alanalambert1178
    @alanalambert1178 3 года назад +21

    Pastor cracks me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣
    It's over when they stop making an effort

  • @jueileen4599
    @jueileen4599 3 года назад +82

    This really brings light to how many ppl have been in broken or toxic relationships.. I pray that everybody finds their way out and God heals your heart..May you find clarity..peace and self love 💜💜

  • @trinaj.2427
    @trinaj.2427 3 года назад +68

    Facts Pastor!... “triggered to where you are now out of character.” Run my sisters.
    I have been there and done that until I remembered who I was.
    Thank you for your commitment to helping us live up to the queens the creator designed us to be!

  • @angelbwinfrey8694
    @angelbwinfrey8694 3 года назад +45

    You are by far one of the most spiritually intellectual people I know. I haven't seen this level of wisdom in any man before.. You're definitely anointed and appointed for this. Thank you for your contribution to all of us Queens out here trying to navigate alone. You make us feel covered. Salute🙏🏾

  • @brendafrancis8200
    @brendafrancis8200 3 года назад +60

    This was a very powerful message!!!! We know when its over we hang in there because of time invested. The time invested was wasted years and tears!!!😪 Pastor Blakes thank you for this message.

  • @lanitakelley1279
    @lanitakelley1279 3 года назад +13

    "I love me more than I like the idea of us"

  • @kw3036
    @kw3036 2 года назад +14

    Sooo true, I always say nobodies relationship is my goal! You NEVER know what a couple has been through! You could only pray some day you meet an individual who is perfect for you and you BOTH are working to keep the relationship together! 💜

  • @cassandraelliott1611
    @cassandraelliott1611 2 года назад +13

    Wow this was SPOT ON!
    I’ve connected with all 7 points. Sadly, I knew it was over but decided to stay. That relationship turned into 7 years of torment, heartache and abuse (emotionally / verbally and physically). I finally woke up and decided to cut all ends.
    THANK YOU 🙏🏾

  • @camuyana
    @camuyana 3 года назад +20

    Not hanging on. Definitely moving on. Just want to hear the message. I made my decision and it is final in November.

  • @erinjohnson4273
    @erinjohnson4273 2 года назад +17

    When I put my ex out of my house, yes it hurt but I left him for me and my daughter. I loved him , but I love me more. I'm waiting for my real king to find me

  • @janetmoore5145
    @janetmoore5145 3 года назад +27

    Whewwwwww Chile!!!! Omgoodness!!!! This is on point. I truly thank God for the man of God. Once you wake up, they don’t have a chance, I know my ex narc who was a compulsive cheater didn’t get any more chances. Thank you Jesus

  • @camuyana
    @camuyana 3 года назад +53

    All I have watched have been educational but this hits really on a personal basis.

  • @valencialundy8857
    @valencialundy8857 3 года назад +63

    It seems that this lesson applies to the unmarried also

    • @annogbeni4506
      @annogbeni4506 2 года назад +4

      For me it applies. Not married but in relationship that I need to let go. Or rather I'm in relationship by myself his mind is elsewhere.

  • @kimmurrell5811
    @kimmurrell5811 3 года назад +37

    These videos helped me get mentally stronger. Thank you.

  • @kelleywood4498
    @kelleywood4498 2 года назад +16

    Out of literally hundreds of resources I’ve sought out trying to identify what is the matter with my marriage, this was the one that has been eye opening! Thank you so much!

  • @2B-Steele
    @2B-Steele 3 года назад +49

    Struggle Love is not where it’s at…….

  • @kimbrellyn
    @kimbrellyn 2 года назад +15

    I love ME more than I love the idea of US!!!!! Powerful words. 🙌🏾💜 I receive all of that.

  • @keneshawilliamson1574
    @keneshawilliamson1574 3 года назад +38

    Oh wow! Very Profound!!! I love the reality of me more than I love the idea of us. You better say it, RC Blakes !!!❤️🙏🏽❤️

  • @CoachLove
    @CoachLove 3 года назад +35

    Women must raise their standards and move forward. Stop hoping it will get better. He'd leave in a snap...

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 3 года назад +3

      You got that right ✅

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 3 года назад +3

      There are men who won’t leave in a snap tho. It’s not always the women.

  • @tondabrown953
    @tondabrown953 3 года назад +50

    Evening everyone! Can’t wait to hear the word! Pastor be on point.

  • @astarisborn9820
    @astarisborn9820 3 года назад +23

    I found this advice applies to work/jobs/ career situations as well! 🙌🏾💯

  • @blessedchildofgod9112
    @blessedchildofgod9112 3 года назад +5

    Praying for anyone that has a broken 😢💔 heart ...you have to guard your heart and mind because people will control your mind and kill steal destroy you ...give it to god keep your faith God got you 🙏 amen

  • @blessedchildofgod9112
    @blessedchildofgod9112 3 года назад +7

    Hurt people hurt people

  • @staceywelch5919
    @staceywelch5919 3 года назад +23

    I love me more than than the ideality for us. I exchanged my dignity for unfulfilled promises.

  • @rachaelbempomaaapenteng4888
    @rachaelbempomaaapenteng4888 2 года назад +5

    A godly marriage in these times is actually a great blessing and a gift from God and nobody else.

  • @vanillahudson8402
    @vanillahudson8402 3 года назад +20

    This Pastor is a life changer speaks pure FACTS!!!!

  • @homeworkloungect
    @homeworkloungect 3 года назад +13

    Some people are triggered by anything! Even when there is nothing but loyalty. They are so insecure and refuse to deal with the lies in their head.,its time to walk away when your getting wrongly accused!

  • @azekiaelise9338
    @azekiaelise9338 3 года назад +29

    Leave the vengeance to the Lord.

  • @jcjcramble
    @jcjcramble 2 года назад +21

    Thank you RC Blakes
    Your videos have helped me to restore my dignity and self respect! I have been in a situation-ship for almost 2 years, and in that time, the frustration was so bad that I lost connection to myself and my kids! I became aggressive towards my children at times even . It was awful.. that man had no true Intentions of vision and direction for us. I'm now a solo mum again, and no more train wrecks 🙏🙏🙌

    • @Niqua10023
      @Niqua10023 2 года назад +2

      I been there. I had one ruin my family. He was wrong one then the girl. He allow it. I had one that try to hurt and kill me. The other one thought I wanted the other back from my past and listen to everyone else and left.

  • @racio79
    @racio79 3 года назад +23

    I've been receiving your notifications for months. But exactly when I needed guidance, I had to leave work early because of stomach pains, your show notifications popped up and I was finally able to listen. I needed to hear this. Thank you.

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet 2 года назад +17

    You’re fantastic, Pastor. Every time I hear you, I wonder where this information has been all this time! You remain the father I never had🙏👍

  • @maidenmarian1
    @maidenmarian1 2 года назад +14

    Most ladies need to learn how to let something end. I know I do.
    I have been alone for years now. I'm going to listen now.... thank you Bishop RC Bkakes.

  • @chidinmaagada6338
    @chidinmaagada6338 2 года назад +25

    If you feel irritated when someone you don't love is stalking you, that's how it feels when you're all over him. Accept it's over! It's good to have a little dignity! Virtue.

  • @summerwalker5140
    @summerwalker5140 2 года назад +11

    Lesson: not a good fit when a person bring you out of character. That’s bad energy.

  • @andrear6550
    @andrear6550 2 года назад +7

    My ex and I had an argument he told me to leave him alone and go about my life, I begged by calling to talk to him and talk to him about it 2 days 3 days 4 days go by nothing from him 12 days he calls and wants to come back and work it out, this is not the first time he has pushed me away he said was even embarrassed how many times he's made this same mistake over and over everytime we argue. I've accepted im no longer staying with an unhealthy immature boy

  • @JT-fv7ex
    @JT-fv7ex 3 года назад +41

    It’s lack of self respect, low self esteem, devaluing ones self worth…
    Lowering your standards because you do not want to be alone.
    Never settle for less, only aim for the best.
    💜You Are Royal, God’s Unique Creation💜

  • @felicitygrace5113
    @felicitygrace5113 2 года назад +3

    Have been repeating and doubting myself with that sentence in my head for some time now "i dont want this relationship, not like this" and this video answered me. Thank you

  • @francesseazard-owens9408
    @francesseazard-owens9408 2 года назад +5

    “I love me more than I love the idea of us” RC Blakes, Jr

  • @ed000
    @ed000 3 года назад +20

    "Jealousy is the rage of a man, therefore, he will not pay on the day of vengeance"
    Amen to the prayer!!

  • @mariasantiago7259
    @mariasantiago7259 3 года назад +21

    I would love to know why the watchers didn't like this very informative podcast...this was excellent and I wish I could give the Rev 2 thumbs up and move!

  • @taiwoal
    @taiwoal 3 года назад +7

    The end of any relationship which doesn't fit my life goals is better than the beginning.

  • @brother.chirchir
    @brother.chirchir 3 года назад +12

    This is the painful part, I ended it only to turn back and realize, that I had made a huge mistake, broke both our hearts 💔💔, but Lord has kept me strong.

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 3 года назад +14

    5. You're Plotting On How To Get Even
    6. Your Family, Friends and Coworkers Can Tell What Cycle You Are In With This Person.
    7. You Don't Want The Relationship No More.

  • @stacygreen9861
    @stacygreen9861 3 года назад +26

    Definitely waiting on this!!. I need this message.

  • @abigailbridgettemaynard-ho2259
    @abigailbridgettemaynard-ho2259 3 года назад +37

    Blessings Greetings And Loads Of Love Bishop/Daddy R C.Blakes And Lady Lisa I Just Cannot Stop Sharing You All Over And Got Everybody Hooked Although Never Had A Relationship I Am Being Formed And Shaped For That Time I'm Just Always In AWE Listening To Bishop/Daddy Thank You For Taking Up Where My Deceased Daddy Left Off I Am Forever Grateful
    Regards
    Lady Abigail God's Virtuous Woman
    (Fourty Three (43) Year Old Virgin Prosecutor Who Don't Mind Waiting To Do It God's Way) You Are Helping Me Tremendously THANK YOU

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  3 года назад +3

      I’m honored 😊🙏🏽♥️

  • @Victoria-tc5cm
    @Victoria-tc5cm Год назад +4

    All the signs...You just read my whole foolish life before I became truly saved from myself 💞 Thank you Bishop Blakes Jr. Such a wonderful teaching 🙏 from beginning to end. After 26 years I'm truly done and not looking to be in anymore relationships until I'm healed and divorced...

  • @blessedchildofgod9112
    @blessedchildofgod9112 3 года назад +10

    That's why you gotta protect your heart

  • @kelliecordova4463
    @kelliecordova4463 3 года назад +7

    Darn it! I missed your live teaching!! I personally have not dealt with this issue but I work with young ladies and teens in the church and I am excited to learn from the wisdom God has given you, Bishop!! Blessings God bless you!!

  • @clare3791
    @clare3791 2 года назад +15

    Your channel is so helpful to me during this transitional phase from jumping from relationship to relationship for the last decade + of my life to living life for God and for myself. Thank you :)

  • @eileensanchez2841
    @eileensanchez2841 3 года назад +7

    WOW THIS HIT ME.IVE HAD TO SEPARATE FROM MY HUSBAND OF 13 YEARS.IVE BEEN CALLED EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK INFRONT OF FAMILY KIDS ECT...AND IM ALWAYS BEING TOLD I JUST SAY THOSE THINGS WHEN IM MAD.BUT WHEN MR BLAKES SAID YOU SAID THOSE THINGS BECAUSE YOU FELT IT IN YOUR HEART. I BROKE BECAUSE I CANT BELEAVE THAT HE REALLY FELT LIKE THAT ABOUT ME...WOW ITS OVER

    • @louloring5306
      @louloring5306 2 года назад

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️