My Husband Molested Our Daughter
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- Опубликовано: 20 мар 2024
- Today on unfiltered stories, Tracey Heisler shares her life story. After finding out her husband molested their daughter, she worked with law enforcement to prosecute him andtried to help her daughter recover from this horrific trauma.
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Thank you for choosing your daughter. So many moms don't. She loves you and you helped her grow into a great adult!! You rock, Mom!!!
I wish my mother had stood up for me.
@babytheNarcSlayer me too ..
She turned a blind eye for years
@@lydiamontey9194unfortunately true
All these red flags and did nothing
Let’s be honest here…this is how a REAL mother acts. They don’t turn away, they don’t hide, they protect. Blessings on this woman and her family. Victims are bred, and this woman does not breed victims.
And that she set him up together with the law enforcement to get him charged, unfortunately way too many would try to ignore the problem like it never happen. Very brave mother and daughter.
🎉❤🎉❤amen to that!
yea but that doesn’t excuse the fact she’s a weirdo 😂 12:15 in the vid she says she was trying to problem solve on how to keep both of them a good mother wouldn’t have to do that when it comes to a pedo 💀
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
@@therealfatouEXACTLY 💯💯💯💯
He taught piano, that means he has hurt other children who has not yet come forward
Most likely yes. He got off easy with only a 48 month prison sentence too.
Others might come forward yet and he will get even longer next time. @@Lil-Whiskies
I believe he did,if he molested his own daughter,he did it to others. He probably was molested as well.
Lady naive and annoying. All these self admitted red flags and did nothing
How do you know that the younger children were not in the same situation as your older daughter ???
I went through this with my 5yr old daughter. None of his family or mine believed it.But I believed my daughter, to this day she thanks me for believing in her.She is now 46yrs old and getting married.
You’re a hero and a good mother! How did you protect her after you found out?
My mother was not so loving, I think she was angry at me as thats how she treated me with anger and indifference and contempt.. I was 3 or 4 years old but her treatment was consistent untill I left home as a teen, after a man of 34 engaged with me and recked my life further and I fell pregnant, then he deserted me and the baby. I now don't want any male company and feel they are un trust worthy. I would rather have a robot friend I could turn off at night. None of my siblings give a toot infact 2 brothers tried having sex with me but got interupted one pushed me out of his window so not to get court. I felt like a dirty rag, being discarded, I felt like something was terribly wrong but didnt know what. at that time I was6 or 7 and didnt realy know what they were trying to do. Then my girlfriend over the road had a brother of about 15 came in the cubby house ,made me strip so he could see me and made me promise when I was 21 I would strip for him again. It never happend. I still remember his name. It was realy even worse but I've told you the bare minimum and have never expirianced love between a man and a woman for me I am doomed to die without love. I am now elderly and look to Jesus and his promise he I can trust.
@@user-kk2km1xw7f that’s a sad story I’m so sorry you’ve felt so used and abandoned and unprotected. Maybe you can do volunteer work or mentoring to fill the void in your heart
@@user-kk2km1xw7f " I now don't want any male company and feel they are un trust worthy." I am doomed to die without love"
Search for love within yourself my sister, don't look outside you. Love you and as you do, it will radiate through the self confidence which you will display.
Very cruel your up bringing was but use it to make yourself stronger because strong you must be to have reached this moment in life.
I wish you well!
I begged my mother not to leave me alone with my father at bath time. But as I would get in the tub, she would put nylons on, and I'd hear her high heels walking down the hall, and she'd say "I'm going to the library." My own mother might as well have handed me to him. She saw herself as the victim!!! My father was a voyeur too. One morning I opened up the back door to let my dog in, and found him doing a peeping tom number in my bedroom window. I closed the door quickly and went into a hallway, raised my shaking hands to heaven, and with tears streaming down my face I prayed "God, help!" I kid you not, 10 days later my 38 year old father died of a blood clot in his aorta.
He struck him down.
Hahahaha rip
Firstly, I'm very sorry you were put through this - i cannot imagine what it would be like as my father may he rest in peace was my protector, my rock.
One thing though, please don't jump to the conculsion a god or God's killed your dad - any decent god would never have let it go on in the first place! This was just a 'happy' coincidence.
@@dawnatkinson7704GOD answered her prayers
Hallelujah ❤ how are things today with you and your mom
Why can't a man understand that he is hurting an innocent child?
And why can't a woman understand it?
@@savedbygrace463statistics show males are the main abusers of the population. this video is about a man. go complain on a video about a woman abuser.
Because their concern is self gratification aka self centered
Wow because these men are not well they are depraved
Are you ok
@@cynthiastevens8302it’s because they are depraved not just about getting off
This is the most needed unfiltered story. It’s rare to hear from a women that stood up for her daughter.
What.
Still spreading a narrative that it’s RARE
FOR MOTHERS TO PROTECT THIER CHILDREN. That’s a lie.. you’re projecting!!
Not really, I am a mother that stood up for her son that was molested.
@@INDIGO.GODDESS_573 considering the stories we hear all the time, its pretty rare. My own mother sided with my father after my assault. And she even uses it manipulate me with it.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
Yes, my family would defend the predators. It's sickening but when I said boy did I get the backlash
I love this mom! She put her kids first and not her man. This is refreshing. I hope the kids, especially the victim, is okay today.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
Thank you for setting him up and protecting your children.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
I think a lot of men who killed their entire family this kind of thing happens when somebody confronted him it's very dangerous to confront them without law enforcement with you
Yep, the steps they took were brilliant!
I AGREE... THANK GOD THIS DID NOT TURN OUT THE WRONG WAY🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Exactly 💯
48 months 🤨
Thank you for being honest with yourself and choosing your daughter, no matter the emotional or financial hardship. A lot of women stay with their abusers and allow them to continue to harm their children even though they know what's happening.
Spot on!💯
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They should be in prison too
Amazing mom!!!
@@veraking8118thoroughly amazing and level headed
Thanks for believing your daughter. Most "mothers" would protect the abuser over the victim. Thanks for being a mom ❤
Most? Really?
@@jerseybred732 sadly yes I have heard so many survivors telling there mother what happened to them and not only not believe them but just didn't care
@@jerseybred732yup, the assholes no it too☠️
@@jerseybred732Sadly yes. Many do choose their husband and marriage
It has been my own experience and the experience of other victims that I've spoken intimately with, unfortunately more common then receiving support from the mother.
@jerseybred732
I'm glad you sided with your daughter.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
Im so sorry to hear this. My dad molested me too so I understand when there is sexual abuse in the family. I hope she is doing better in her recovery. You're a great mom. Thanks for sharing this. I wish you and your daughter the best.❤
I’m sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine your pain. I pray for all those who have been sexually abused, i pray for healing.
Thanks so much!. I really appreciate that. It is a very sad thing.
How could your mother have protected you from that? Before it happened twice or once?
She kicked him out of the house. She didn't get the police involved because he was a sickly diabetic but she did kick him out. It was going on for 5 Years from age 10_15
With a last name Zavala you probably were raised in our typical large Latino family; so much wicked stuff often takes place in our realities. So, sorry to hear about your truth. ANIMO!
The way she said "yeah, yes I did" when he asked if she set him up was so satisfying to hear.
❤❤❤❤ yes!
Yes! Good job, mama ❤
❤ I wish your daughter the strength and courage to tell her story.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
I have had no justice from what my step dad did to me at 10yo to 19yo....I'm almost 35yo now.....I have come to terms with what happened to me and the reason why...but I'm still angry...more so with my mother with whom I no longer speak to because she didn't believe me...and chose him....
There's counseling available and it's paid by grants. Please check into this so that it won't cause you to be angry forever. Good luck!
I am so sorry......it's her loss, and he will have done this to other kids and one day it will all come out.....your mother is deluded and living on borrowed time. I'm sure deep downs she knows, but is too weak to face the truth.
I'm so sorry, you are worthy and well done for choosing you!
Believe me, the truth always comes out in the end. 💛
Try to forgive, it’s your only hope…..I understand 🇺🇸🌹🕊
Thanks for sharing. I am so sorry to hear what you went through...It is completely understandable why you would feel the way you do...Bless you...I would like to encourage you to report what your step dad did to you. People who do the things he did, need to be held accountable for the heinous crimes of what they did. They also need to be held accountable, so they will be prevented from harming anyone else, especially a child. In recent years, several states have done away with the Statue of Limitations when it comes to the sexual abuse of a minor. As of 2021, 14 states have done away with that, which means no matter how long ago someone was abused as a child/minor, they can still report their abuse and press charges. I'm sure more states have joined in this endeavor since. I wish nothing but justice and peace for you and all others who've been through the same...I hope and wish the very best for you dear..🙏❤️
From the little girl who’s mother chose “him”, thanks for being a good mom.
This woman is brave and wise. This is not the norm...
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Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
I am just two minutes in and I absolutely love and respect how you took all precautions to keep your children safe. You believed your daughter and covered all bases with keeping your husband from getting to her and your other children. You must’ve been extremely distraught but you held it together.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
I wish my mother had stood up for me like this ❤
Even this mother noticed red flags over the years. That’s why I never believe when the wives say they were totally oblivious, there’s always signs. They may have not witnessed the abuse outright but there ARE signs. So glad to hear this mom took her children’s side no matter what ❤
Maybe my mind is warped, but as soon as she mentioned that the guy goes to church, teaches piano lessons, etc, already my mind has gone to that place of being very suspicious of this guy and his predilections around children.
I don’t care if I married my soulmate, if my daughter told me this story…game over. I love my daughter more.
exactly what she said at 12:15 was a major red flag you shouldn’t want to keep a sick man in your life & why is she asking her daughter why she didn’t tell her sooner? weird..
Your soulmate is never a male that's the patriarchy brainwashing talking. If you decide to live with a male and have kids around that male, you must always stay alert always. Male nature is male nature.
You’re the hero, not the other man. I’m so glad he’s good to you and your kids but you ARE the hero in your story .
Amen, you've said that well
You are an amazing mother. So many mothers. Including my mother never believed me.
Oh no I am so sorry that your mother never believed you
Same here 👍
I’m so sorry
@@SweetUniverseI’m so sorry
When someone is traumatized, the last thing they need to hear is “just get over it.” Thank you for saying that!
I’m so sorry this happened to your family. I pray for God to heal your wounds completely! 🙏🕊❤️
Yes exactly survivors have a long road to heal from their trauma sadly some never do
That is what my mother said to me, and it broke my heart.
Kids never get over abuse, whether it’s sexual, physical, or emotional
Thank you for believing her!
Amen
RIGHT! So many don't.
You are a very good mom Thanks for believing your daughter and standing up for your child.
Go back and listen 👉🏽 @8:32 " It was at that moment I KNEW SOMETHING WAS DREADFULLY WRONG. He swore up and down he never ACTED ON ANY THOUGHTS, he'd never done any of these things. It was JUST A THOUGHT IN HIS HEAD. And I was REALLY RELUCTANT to say to my daughter BTW ,has your father ever molested you " Now, as a mother would you dare let your child around a man, ANY MAN that admitted to you that he even HAD THOUGHTS about molesting her !? NO ! Also , IF that child had been around that man at ANYTIME prior..you would DEFINITELY ASK YOUR CHILD had that man ever touched them ! She ( the mom) knew "what time it was" so to speak DIDN'T WANT to ask her daughter because she already knew the answer 'an DIDN'T WANT to face THE TRUTH. So she turned a blind eye for YEARS. Until her daughter couldn't take it no more and told her and then she acted. Better late than never, BUT STILL MOM GETS NO PROPS FORM ME. 🙅🏽♀️ At THAT POINT..she could just be turning him in so she don't go down with him ! Even the way she babied him all the way to the police station was disgusting to me the police AND staying with him TWO DAYS in a motel 🤢 would have got him with that without her help feeding him to get in there 🙄 that's why she can tell the story so EMOTIONLESS & NONCHALANTLY ! Not to mention how throughout the entire story she saying "he can't COME BACK until he gets this fixed" 😧 AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER ALREADY TOLD YOU HE DID IT !!! Think about it SHE WAS WRONG TOO. 🤞🏽 Healing in the name of you Yeshua Hamashiach to that child in her siblings.🥺 I grew up in a household like that as well. BUT GOD.., IS A HEALER, A COMFORTER AND HE LOVES JUSTICE ! 🙌🏽 WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT ONE DAY !! 🤞🏽❤️🙏🏽🕊️
This woman really brought tears to my eyes 🥺 how she’s able to speak with empathy and logical at once is incredible. I’m certain her daughter came out her situation a lot stronger due to her mom putting her first without shaming.
Validation, for a victim, is everything. ❤️🩹
We need more mamas like you! You sprung right into action instead of brushing her off, dismissing her, being in denial or blaming her. YOU ROCK!
This kind of thing runs in families. It’s a generational curse.
True
I was stationed with a woman that was molested by her father and none of her family believed her. Just said she was promiscuous and she was lying to get out of trouble. She graduated high school and went in the military. She didn't have a close relationship at all with her parents. Fast forward about five years in, her younger siblings calls her and tells her that her father was caught at church messing with some young girls because he was a minister. Plus he had also touched the younger sister too and she didn't come forward because she saw how they treated the oldest and she didn't want to get treated like that. He did time in prison got out and their mother stayed married to him and never left his side. Until he got caught again then she finally left him. He is still working in the church and her mother finally met her daughter husband and grandchildren. It's really sad people don't believe the victims.
Thank you for being a great mom I hope your daughter is striving in spite of
You are an amazing mom. May you continue to have a lovely life.
I would've called the cops and had him arrested. He taught piano lessons who knows how many victims he had. Good for you mom. You got a predator locked up.
Thank you MOTHER ❤
This is one of my worse nightmares and fear as a parent…I believe that I might go crazy like into some kind of manic state and black out I afraid I might harm someone behind hurting my only child
Same... I'm not afraid though. That's why I stay to myself. Just my son and I. Tooo many demons lurking around, seeking vulnerable people to prey on.
I have this same fear. I get really extremely worked up listening to stories like this so I could only imagine what I’d do if it happened to my child…
If you want to know how to feel your feelings and let them come to a natural end, there are two books that helped tremendously.
Like when a kid falls and hurts his knee. He cries for a while, and then he rubs his knee, wipes the tears from his face, takes a deep breath, shudders a little, and gets back up to carry on.
Unfortunately, too many times, that process is stopped, and emotions are surpressed.
The two books that helped me are The Primal Scream by Arthur Janov and Focusing by Eugene T Glendin PhD.
It is hard work, but it's so rewarding. There's nothing like the truth and feeling your feelings instead of stuffing them. We tend to forget that emotions are energy in motion.
I hate hunting, but maybe you've heard of a deer having a close call. The poor creature will shake for a while and release all of those terrifying emotions. Then it gets up and walks off to go back to their family and live out their God-given life.
A baseball coach will tell you to walk off a pain. It allows that energy to clear out of your body.
I heard someone say that cancer comes because your energy is stagnant and you're not doing what you're supposed to. Your energy needs the cancer to get you going again. It comes when you should be moving forward, but you're not.
I hope this information is of help to anyone who needs it.
Also check out Dr Royal Rife.
Gregg Braden also talks about 3 monks walking around a cancer patient and chanting and believing that tumour would shrink. And it did ! ❤
Well, it DID happen to my child. It was horrible. But I believed my son, told the police and all my kids and myself left him. Unfortunately he was never charged because my son was 5.
@@debihester7284 😢😭 then what happened? Did your son have to go back with his dad?
I know someone whos child went through the same thing with her Father and explained how He always tried to manipulate Situations by playing her Mother against her when it was Him that was causing certain Actions that she displayed as far as Rebellion. The Victim finally ran away to some other Relatives house in another State and thats when she Finally revealed that her own Father had been Molesting her for 4-5 years starting around the age of 9. Of course her Father never admitted it but her Tesimony was enough for him to get sentenced for a Few years. His ultimate punishment was that he never saw the rest of his Children grow up because he died in a Freak Accident a few years after release. Stay Diligent Mothers when it comes to your little ones and do NOT hesitate to ask Questions. Nomatter what
You are a HERO for choosing your daughter over him. Wish I could hug you for that. Because most mothers do the opposite. God bless you and thank you for sharing! 💜💜💜
Wow! You were so amazing through all of this. Rational, emotionally mature, and did the absolute BEST things you could've possibly done to protect ALL of your children! So many mothers are NOT quick to react/act, and others still just choose not to believe it. Way to go. Amazing mom.
Looking in the windows at his own daughter. He should be locked up in an insane asylum permanently.
Yet it took her own Mom to raise the red flag of him napping in the kids bedroom "because it was the quietest room in the house". What adult takes their naps in a childs bedroom & not their own adult bedroom? ( I dont count falling asleep together after rying to settle them or reading them bedtime stories). I would bet the piano lessons were used to be abusive toward his pupils too.
What do you think would have happened if she called the police on her own husband for this?
@@2021noname She set him up with the police and got him arrested. I just wish he got locked up for the rest of his stinking life.
@@2021nonamehe hopefully would have been arrested
@@debihester7284 hopefully but in my town I think he wouldn’t have been prosecuted because they would have said there’s no proof sans confession, and he could’ve filed for divorce and gotten custody of the children
My loser ex- brother -in-law served 8 years , and not long enough 😡
Right? The victim gets a life sentence
what did he do? did he abused you? tell us the whole story please i'm just curious (if you want i'm not forcing anyone)
@@user-wc6sg7lh7zDon’t be weird, get therapy
@@user-wc6sg7lh7z I think it's pretty obvious that he committed some sort of crime against a child. Why so eager to know the whole story ?
It's a life sentence for the victim. It should be for the perpetrator.
What an absolute amazing mother and exactly how a mum should be ❤
I wish her daughter happiness and love in her life xx
memories, horrible memories, stepdad, and his boyfriend, my cousins I have horrible memories😢
🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🫶🏽sending love and light
I am soooo sorry. I hope you get the healing you need
God bless you Yvonne ❤🙏
God bless you pour them out to Jesus give all your burdens to Jesus. My God help you heal
Jesus loves you and wants to save you
Tracey, that whole situation is so heavy and heartbreaking, but it means so much that you believed your daughter and chose to do whatever it took to protect her and her siblings. You are a brave and beautiful person. Blessings and continued healing to you and your family.💜
Thank you for sharing. NEVER ask a child victim, "why didn't you say something sooner?" Awful accusation!!!!!
are you slow? the only reason why she asked her that because she told her kids whenever someone touches them no matter who it is to tell her so she was curious why she didn’t come to her, how is that making a accusation?
By the sounds of it, she wasn't saying it in an accusatory way but years later as a curious way, asking her daughter what her reasons were . If she'd said that as her reaction at the time I agree but just asking when discussing it years down the road it can be done
Thank you for showing us what it means to be a loving and supportive mother when faced with a predatory husband. I applaud your courage and love for your children!❤
No child should see any grown people naked. It is not normal. No showers. No walking around naked. Keep children innocent. Don’t even swear or drink around them.
That's absurd
@Jeff-sp7bg Why you trolling? Bored?
Tru but impossible. They gonna hear it at school
@@ceceprincess4758that's true but what we do as parents in secret/at home, our kids will do in abundance.
@@Jeff-sp7bgWhy is it absurd? Is it because it's something u do? 🤨
You are an amazing woman. Thank you for believing your daughter and taking swift action and protecting your children.
What a sensible strong woman. Thank you for your action.
Penalty is nothing but death
One-way trip to Snake Island..
💯💯💯
Or make sure he drop the soap in prison
@@ThorsSnorresonthen falls down the stairs….☠️
Exactly 💯
You are a lioness! the way you handle the situation makes you larger than life, you saved your children’s future. I wish y’all lifetime of freedom and happiness.
My Mom not only turned a blind eye but went on to have 5 girls with him. Unbelievable.
This is the best truth I’ve heard in a long time. Thank you for sharing.❤
People do not grow out of BEING A SICKO
Thank you for sharing your story. This helps me to understand what another Mother and her little girl might've went through and why she might've not spoken up before it was too late.
Thank you for her service as a Marine. She is very BRAVE. We salute her.
I love the way you handled that God bless you and your family.❤❤❤❤
What a absolute wonderful momma and mother you are and have been 🩷
My aunt and uncle took my siblings and I in after my mom died. My aunts husband Joe molested my sister and I. My aunt disowned us and separated us. He is now in jail but they are working on releasing him early. I've mentally detached since. They can do whatever they want with him.
Thank you for looking out for your daughter. That's great parenting. You should get an award.
I must comment on your post for being a great and serious mum,and you didn't sweep it under the carpet 🙂💪💯🇬🇾
This happened in my family too, and like you we have all been so busy healing. My youngest daughter was molested by her stepfather, my second husband. The wreckage is beyond fathoming still. But I have learned to not let the anger and anxiety paralyze me, and my children are whole and well. Me, I'm still struggling. Sometimes I still want to hit myself on the head, "What?! HIM? You didn't see it!??" Like you, I had family history reasons to have done the right things educating my little children. It's so, so hard to forgive myself and find joy in living. And sometimes so, so, so hard to let him continue living.
🫂 You can do it. She will need you over and over when things flare up for her. Your love is vital to making her feel worthy. Show that this isnt the end of the world. This is just part of the lessons we often go through down here in this school. Everything is about learning to love ourselves and others the best we can.
We are strong game players and come here to play against our very best, ourselves. We want the challenge of success. We believe in ourselves but to really see if we can do it we agree to forget who we really are. We agree to come here and have a life as if we know nothing about being an eternal orb of light energy.
Like in a dream we suspend reality and accept what we see and go through. It's not until we wake up that we realize that it wasnt real, it was just a dream.
Life is just like that. We will wake up right after we pass and realize that we didnt come to an end. That that life wasnt even exactly real. Our real life is before and after this life. We go Home because that's where we come from, it's where our soul stays in between these dream like lives. We wake up and know that no matter what happens in one of these "lives" to our body it never harms our soul. Just like something in a dream may feel very real but it can't hurt you once you're awake.
You are safe, and so is your daughter. You are strong eternal beings who agreed to having a life because you know how much you will learn and grow from the contrast.
You know that no matter what you will be alright. You've got this !
Maybe check out Abraham-Hicks? They have a group for kids but i cant recall the name of it. It could be helpful ? I feel very strongly to tell you you can do this. Sending a warm hug to your soul. 🤗👍🩷💪🏆
Man that’s rough.
I hope you eventually deal with it. After experiencing the ruthlessness in childhood I wouldn’t be able to
Co exist knowing I brought that pain to my child.
@@seadragon1456that’s a terrible thing to say! What’s wrong with you?!
Jesus knows your heart and that you’re truly sorry. Ask Jesus to forgive all your sins and come live in your heart and save you. You must forgive yourself, or God won’t forgive you. I struggled with the same feelings. My ex husband molested our son. I feel guilty for not leaving sooner. But I did leave, told the police and the whole 9 yards. We did the best we could with the information we had at that time. Forgive yourself, and if it’s appropriate, ask your child to forgive you, and God to forgive you. Then move on, I know it’s hard, but don’t stay stuck.
this is an example of putting your happiness first & getting with a man that then causes your kids to be in danger, this is why it is important to stay single or keep men out the home when your children are around that is just horrible & it’s crazy you went through the same thing yet couldn’t take precautions because you put your happiness first instead of your kids safety. I wish your daughter healing ❤
Such a great mom
What an amazing mother you are.
My "father" sexually abused me from ages 4-12.
I told my mom when I was 12. Her response was "get out of here you liar". That was 51 years ago.
She apologized for the abuse 3 weeks ago, but denied that she knew, which is not true. I told her when I was 12.
My heart goes out to you. I wish you were cared for and believed
I’m so sorry honey. God cares. Pour out your heart to Jesus
My mother acted the same way. She can't understand why I won't talk to her at all. It's been 31 years, and she still tries. I WONT forgive her, she knew.
@@paulalewis5179 She's in denial. I told my mom 51 years ago when I was 12.
To this day, she says she didn't know. She knew. I told her. But I truly believe she's in denial
@@paulalewis5179 😭 it’s like you have no mother so sad
thank you for actually believing your daughter when she said she's getting abused by her father most of moms whould rather believe their boyfriends/husbands than their own daughter and sadly my mom is that type of mom she litterally doesn't trust anything i say , One night, I stayed up late because I couldn't sleep. Suddenly, out of nowhere, I heard a loud noise like a "boom." Someone had jumped over our house from the top, and because the top of our house is partially made of glass, I could see his boots , The lights were turned off (I didn't want my mom to know that I wasn't asleep), and it was 2 AM. So, that noise scared the hell out of me. Without thinking twice, I immediately ran to the people who should protect me (my parents) in these situations. And guess what happened? They said that I was lying and just imagining things because I was tired and it was late. They focused more on why I wasn't in my bed than the fact that someone had jumped on top of our house.💀 (Don't worry, they didn't get into the house; they were just jumping over houses, and I don't know why💀🤷♀)
I agree.Always always believe your child,whether it's a girl or boy.
Thank you for sharing. Going through this now myself. The betrayal is real and my heart breaks for my kids. Needed to hear another mom's story.
This is a great how to video…love it🇺🇸🌹❤️
It happened to me and my son too, if you want to talk.
Thank you and your daughters for being open about this trauma, and for your honesty in describing the conflicted emotions you were forced to deal with as well. How soul-shaking when someone you love and trust as family is revealed as a manipulator and abuser. Peace to you all. xx
Some of these comments are rude, shes taking responsibility for her part and fixed it
Not
@chick-fil-agal2264 you should finish maturing before watching adult content.
Took responsibility after ignoring 3 red flags. She's just as bad
@@chick-fil-agal2264that’s a weird thing to say……☠️
the comments are rude for a reason, she saw red flags & ignored it instead of asking her daughter if anything was happening & had the audacity to ask her daughter why she didn’t tell her sooner & what she said at 12:15 was a major red flag because you shouldn’t want to keep both of them in your life that is just nasty what she said
You’re a good Momma for speaking up for your child and being there for her. Some women are a disgrace and just dismiss it. ❤
This is one of the most raw, honest, and heartwrenching stories of generational SA I've ever heard. But, it sounds as though you've broken the cycle. ❤️ It's all because you believed your daughter, and took steps to protect your vulnerable child. Your daughter sounds like a badass, but, so are you, mama. 🤗
Thank goodness that you listened to your child and took immediate action. Your children are blessed to have you. To often do we hear stories about mothers- shunning their children for speaking up, or even inviting a monster into their home to abuse their kiddo.
This woman is a treasure. If every mother was like her, the world would be a better place.
48 months!?! unreal…sick sick sick…a thought in his head?!?! he basically confessed. 🤮😵💫😵
" you set me up", "You violated my babies".
You did what you are supposed to do. I applaud you mama
I love the honesty, and I’m proud of both you and your daughter
Thank you for believing your child and keeping them all safe. Great mother!
What an absolutely brilliant mother. Hope your daughter is able to heal from her trauma. 🙏
Oh yes you case sounds like mine . My daughter was 4 years and 2 months when he touch her. Yes her own father but of course I choose my daughter over everything. Today she is almost 21 years old . Was painful and hard to digest but by the Grace of God we made it 🙌♥️. Thank you for sharing your story . Blessings!
Im so very happy to hear that you protected your daughter but even more than that you believed your precious child.thats what will heal your daughter.you are a wonderful blessed mother!.positvity peace and love ♥️
That's a STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL MOTHER AND WOMAN ❤❤❤
I was abused over 50 yrs ago and still can’t be in the same room as a man I don’t know or have a man physically near me. I rely on carers and a few weeks ago they tried to send in a male carer, i went through the roof and asked would you send in a male carer to a woman who had been raped or abused? Well don’t send one in to me then. It still affects you, even when your 65..
This woman is the definition of courage and responsibility. Her daughter must feel so much love her mother for believing her and taking any and all steps to protect her. Mother put her ego aside and protected the victim instead of the criminal. God bless her and her daughter.
She never had a ego in the first place
You are an amazing woman. You chose your daughter over her father. May God continue to heal your daughter.
I hope you're either teaching or mentoring in the field, your daughter survived because of your integrity and intelligence...
This was unbelievably moving!! You are so brave and honest!!! Thank you for sharing ❤
You chose to protect your daughter over your husband. Great mom! Your daughter will forever remember.
I'm glad you did the right thing and protected your children. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽🍀🍼
Moms and daughters love you for this . Kids first !
Wow you did the right thing. That’s amazing. I’m so sorry that happened
Bravo to this mom for listening to her daughter & doing what she need to protect her kids & getting the best justice she could for her daughter 👏
You're a very strong lady, you did the right thing. My boyfriend was sexually abused starting at 3, by an aunt and men alike. He tried telling his mother but she never protected him, as ot turned out he had a sexual addiction. He's in his 70s and has calmed down. But he's a wonderful man, and very forgiving.
sorry but what? why would you pursue a relationship with a man that has a sexual addiction he has a lot of healing to do that is disgusting
I salute the mom for doing what needed to be done so many people drop the ball you stepped up to the plate may God heal your children and you
@1:30 God Bless you for choosing your daughter and believing her.
Your an amazing Mother and a strong woman, and your daughter is amazing at what she’s achieved in life. You and your daughter really are an inspiration ❤
It's terrifying when somebody you trusted has abused you, it is a very high responsibility. It was crushing. It took me till I was 52 to bring this out. It stopped in my teens, I left home.
Thanks for sharing I'm also just healing only now and I'm 57 years
God Bless daughter for moving forward with a positive Life and God Bless mom for being a mature woman and not blaming there daughter🤲✝️🌈.
A 'good parent' story for a change! Well done on being a great example.