C.S. Lewis: Stay Quiet After Disrespect

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  • @BigVnilla
    @BigVnilla Месяц назад +388

    Just quote Mark Twain
    “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.”

    • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
      @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад +13

      I'll have to remember this quote.

    • @tamisullivan8548
      @tamisullivan8548 Месяц назад +8

      GOOD ONE SO TRUE YOU ARE SO RIGHT

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 29 дней назад +9

      Also don’t wrestle with pigs… the pig likes it but you just get dirty! Another famous quote from a Brit this time 😉

    • @Jerrynyc424
      @Jerrynyc424 28 дней назад +2

      @@KirstenLambert-nt8iy I heard that before.. 4 years before my son was born.. my mom warned me she will get more jealous and accuse me of cheating… funny thing she was hiding her husband from me 8 years ago before he died.. I deserve the idiot of the year award

    • @sobekjenkins
      @sobekjenkins 16 дней назад

      Except it worked for Trump didn’t it?

  • @lewispath
    @lewispath Месяц назад +214

    I pray for all who are stressed or in pain-may you find comfort and clarity. Let peace envelop your life, and may your doubts and fears be replaced with positivity and faith. Amen.

    • @lisaosbourne-eden4576
      @lisaosbourne-eden4576 27 дней назад +2

      Amen❤

    • @reggykiguru3080
      @reggykiguru3080 27 дней назад +2

      Amen Amen, I needed this so much

    • @kimberlymyers5551
      @kimberlymyers5551 27 дней назад +2

      @lewispath ❤ TY 4 this prayer, WELL needed for quite a while. Prayers of blessings 4 U.🙏

    • @kaliepennick8603
      @kaliepennick8603 26 дней назад +4

      In Jesus Name Amen ❤

    • @kimberlymyers5551
      @kimberlymyers5551 26 дней назад

      @kaliepennick8603 Oh, Kalie... that's SO sweet!❤ Agreed in Jesus' Name, Amen 4 U 2 🤗🙏

  • @C.S.Lewis.Inspired
    @C.S.Lewis.Inspired 28 дней назад +202

    To you, who are watching this video, I pray that God lifts every burden from your heart, grants you a life filled with joy, prosperity, and health, and blesses you abundantly.🙏🙏🙏

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  28 дней назад +11

      God bless you all

    • @highfive9835
      @highfive9835 25 дней назад +4

      God bless you. Thank you.

    • @keyliving3071
      @keyliving3071 25 дней назад +2

      in Jesus All Powerful Name Amen. Its not a prayer if Jesus name isnt in it. We ask in His name. ❤

    • @fatimahsimmons2489
      @fatimahsimmons2489 21 день назад +2

      Amen, In Jesus Name

    • @fatimahsimmons2489
      @fatimahsimmons2489 21 день назад +2

      God blessings to you too

  • @gigijohn316
    @gigijohn316 27 дней назад +134

    I've never liked confrontation. However, if someone disrespect s me, I've always felt like I had to protect myself by arguing. My sister is accusing me of something I didn't do. Today, I was going to call her and give her a piece of my mind. However, this video changed my mind. Thank you!❤

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  27 дней назад +5

      Welcome

    • @flowergarden-1
      @flowergarden-1 18 дней назад +3

      I know it's hard to be silent but your silence will make her lie very loud to her own ears

    • @pibly7784
      @pibly7784 16 дней назад

      Good for you on this ! 👍

    • @arthurdevrome8925
      @arthurdevrome8925 12 дней назад +4

      Call her????
      Cut contact!
      Don't make drama but simply don't contact her anymore/don't react.

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад +1

      “Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture. grow a spine brother!

  • @BahunR
    @BahunR Месяц назад +125

    Dear God help me to be quiet still and silent and make me humble and prayerful.Teach me to learn from my past experience and mistakes.make me wiser stronger braver healthier bolder than before.Help me embrace the power of privacy solitude isolation prayers meditation and silence.Amen

  • @brianbennett5887
    @brianbennett5887 25 дней назад +224

    God will fight your battles if you stay close to Him

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  25 дней назад +8

      💗♥️♥️♥️

    • @X7lilred81
      @X7lilred81 22 дня назад +6

      If you ask Him, he will.

    • @lesmar234
      @lesmar234 18 дней назад +1

      GOD IS NOT REAL. ASK THE MILLIONS STARVING, DYING, HOMELESS WHAT GOD HAS DONE TO HELP THEM TODAY.

    • @X7lilred81
      @X7lilred81 18 дней назад +1

      @lesmar234 Don't bet the farm.

    • @toogroovywavey136
      @toogroovywavey136 17 дней назад +4

      The Almighty Living God - yes!

  • @cslewissoulful
    @cslewissoulful 29 дней назад +302

    Silence after being insulted is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of inner strength. When you remain silent, you maintain control of your emotions and do not let others control you. Reacting immediately often leads to regret and unnecessary conflict. Controlling your emotions and responding with purpose shows maturity and self-respect. Focus on what is important, do not let the insult derail your goals and values. Self-respect is your true strength.

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 29 дней назад +7

      Ignorance may be bliss 😉 but silence is golden ✨

    • @cslewissoulful
      @cslewissoulful 27 дней назад

      I thank God for blessing me with the grace to earn $75,000 in one week, a miracle I could never have dreamed of.

    • @Faithlovehope1
      @Faithlovehope1 25 дней назад +2

      My answer is: thank you for revealing your heart.

    • @Faithlovehope1
      @Faithlovehope1 25 дней назад +3

      @@caroleminke6116 you can always say thanks for revealing your heart

    • @cslewissoulful
      @cslewissoulful 24 дня назад

      @@Faithlovehope1 Amen

  • @adanolivas6002
    @adanolivas6002 27 дней назад +161

    Im 48 and I am avoiding people cause I found out at this age peace is my priority I know that I am not alone because GOD is with me I just want to say thank you 🙏 for letting me know that I’m not the only one that needs there peace

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  27 дней назад +6

      ♥️♥️♥️💕💕

    • @NJT77
      @NJT77 23 дня назад

      ❤💕❤️

    • @fleurdmer
      @fleurdmer 22 дня назад +5

      I just want heartfelt conscious communication. My yoga teacher screamed at me, I walked away. I later wrote a letter that was thrown at me. This was 6 months ago. He then left for 6 months and now he back in our small fishing village here in Mexico, teaching yoga at our community center. He told me I was no longer welcome 6 months ago. I
      2:59 2:59 greeted him warmly when I saw him and his expression spewed anger as he quickly walked away.

    • @heatherspencer4058
      @heatherspencer4058 20 дней назад +5

      I am here too at 48. I have many disrespect me, and I'm often taken advantage of. I'm learning to control my hurt feelings and pain. I want to have self worth while being a giving person at the same time

    • @adanolivas6002
      @adanolivas6002 19 дней назад +3

      @heatherspencer4058 GOD is going to bless you for being a giving person

  • @garymahon1955
    @garymahon1955 29 дней назад +511

    Im 70 yo baby of an abusive family and was bullied in schools and at home, and on jobs, too. Always treated mean people nice, but was never respected by anyone. It is still happening now, sadly. i feel guilty all my life, when i stood up for myself. I have had terrible rage inside though. And blew a gasket many times. I try to always do good to others, but they often dont respect me at all. It hurts so much to always turn the other cheek, and do as Christ said, and doing good to the people who do not respect me.

    • @angelicavazquez6946
      @angelicavazquez6946 29 дней назад +93

      Jesús will reward you. I have had
      many similar experiences.
      Have faith that one day He will
      wipe away every tear.
      "Remember, the world hated me
      first." Jesús Christ

    • @SylviaQuarm
      @SylviaQuarm 29 дней назад +57

      Always know that in your silence and not retaliating to all those disrespects, God is always on your side and loves you more than you can even imagine. He sees all we go through and will avenge us in due time.
      Always remember that christ also went through disrespect from the very people he came to redeem.
      Let this encourage you and know he feels all your pain.
      🫂
      Stay blessed.

    • @ceceprincess4758
      @ceceprincess4758 28 дней назад +28

      Prayers for u

    • @sylviaautry1670
      @sylviaautry1670 28 дней назад +54

      I'm going through the same thing... It hurts so bad. Stay strong and know that you aren't alone ❤

    • @essess7961
      @essess7961 28 дней назад +31

      @garyma...
      It sounds as if you NEVER really respected yourself first. I had to learn that lesson which turned it all around (i.e. the 'disrespectors' disappeared over time...until I clearly awoke to the connection). I changed my focus.... As I grew in conscious self-respect/ internalized self-love, self-esteem, to this degree, the conflicts lessened & lessened until I noticed this finally happening. Funny, I too am a 70 yo who is the "baby" of my family. And, I lived through similar dynamics--and locked myself into a 'victim mode'. But, I held the key in my own mind and heart and hand all the while. And, finally 'got it', opened that door in my heart & released all the pain & anguish. At this age I can fully claim self love and that is tremendous inner strength, for which I have immense awe & gratitude for such Grace. If it happened to one-- moi-- it can happen to YOU!
      ✌🙌
      P.S.Contemplation, Meditation, Prayer were game changers. And, coming upon the work (books, website) of Alice Miller was a great gift that arrived when I was fully ready to let go of the Victim & take full responsibility for my own welfare.
      All the best for the rest, Gary!

  • @dianabraid6864
    @dianabraid6864 Месяц назад +205

    Your words are anointed indeed. When Jesus was on the cross being despised He never said a word. His strength was revealed in His quietness.

    • @adamanthony7465
      @adamanthony7465 23 дня назад +6

      Did Jesus not speak on the cross and say " Father forgive them for they know not what they do?"
      This is said to prompt our thoughts and prayers on the gift of forgiveness ☺️✨

    • @randyjsing
      @randyjsing 18 дней назад +3

      I think it’s safe to say that he didn’t say a word in his defense.

    • @Jabberwalky42
      @Jabberwalky42 18 дней назад +4

      ​@@randyjsing
      He knew the outcome; His enemies did not.

    • @syurga17
      @syurga17 8 дней назад +2

      Didn't he say at the cross "Eli eli, lama sabachthani", Lord, lord, why have you forsaken me?

    • @leodelicious865
      @leodelicious865 7 дней назад +1

      He kept calm so i can talk and fight

  • @a.zavala2355
    @a.zavala2355 29 дней назад +49

    Better to be thought a fool than to open one's mouth & remove all doubt. Self control is very empowering.

  • @winterblommetjie
    @winterblommetjie 29 дней назад +66

    Good morning and thank you. I've been disrespected the past two weeks by a group of women at a club intended for fellowship. This popped up this morning on my feed as I have decided to leave this group. I haven't said anything to them I've just remained quiet and quietly extracted myself.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  29 дней назад +5

      God bless you

    • @GODWorX888
      @GODWorX888 27 дней назад +14

      Well done! The fruits of the spirit must be present in those we surround ourselves with. Just walk away and wish them well. It has nothing to do with you, They are broken and insecure inside.. maybe even jealous of you…its happened to me all my life.. God says to pray for your enemies and that blessing you send out for them will come back to you!
      You handled it perfectly!God Bless You Sweetheart!

    • @adamanthony7465
      @adamanthony7465 23 дня назад +1

      Following forgiveness there can be establishment of justice to protect the future well being of others. Pray first for we are not to go beyond the wishes of the Lord in establishing justice.
      God delights in justice, and justice belongs to him.
      Pastor Tim Keller R.I.P of the Redeemer church prepared a wonderful book called Forgiveness.
      Justice is part of this book.
      To the Lord be the Glory ✨

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад

      I disagree, you could put them in there place without throwing a tantrum, show me in the bible where Jesus never did that, to remain silent allows for the purp to stigmatize you, thus hindering your preaching of the gospel,Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture, grow a spine brother!

    • @winterblommetjie
      @winterblommetjie 5 дней назад +2

      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 you may disagree but I did what is right for me. And since this happened a month ago once I commented this I am with a better group of people and I have in this short time been blessed by them financially, emotionally, in prayer and in guidance and fellowship. I refused to put those other people in their place because I've done that so much in my life! I'm 46 years old there comes a time when this things become exhausting and I chose my own peace. You tell me to grow a spine sir with all due respect you don't know how me at all. You know nothing about what I've been through

  • @pathstowholenesswithjuanit235
    @pathstowholenesswithjuanit235 Месяц назад +52

    This podcast is a tremendous blessing, packed with wisdom. Thank you!

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  28 дней назад +2

      Thanks for listening

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад

      I disagree, you could put them in there place without throwing a tantrum, show me in the bible where Jesus never did that, to remain silent allows for the purp to stigmatize you, thus hindering your preaching of the gospel,Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture, grow a spine brother!

  • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
    @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад +73

    I have a lot of work to do. Especially with the arrogant, rude ppl.

    • @lesleyM84
      @lesleyM84 27 дней назад +1

      me tooooo Kirsten‼️.. btw, i love your name.. always been one of my favs☺️

    • @blessed7015
      @blessed7015 24 дня назад

      Same!

    • @D.O.R.E.I
      @D.O.R.E.I 23 дня назад

      I also. Glory to God

    • @lindz151074
      @lindz151074 15 дней назад

      Just picture them naked :)

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад

      I disagree, you could put them in there place without throwing a tantrum, show me in the bible where Jesus never did that, to remain silent allows for the purp to stigmatize you, thus hindering your preaching of the gospel,Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture, grow a spine brother!

  • @michelleduncan9965
    @michelleduncan9965 28 дней назад +27

    This is very good advice. NOT going down to the disrespector's level is vital.

  • @warriorg2630
    @warriorg2630 28 дней назад +83

    WOW I LOVE THIS..A PASTOR DISRESPECT me in front of all my children and grandchildren after church one Sunday morning. I didn't change her a word. She came back to me 2 Sundays after and apologized. She said she felt so low, couldn't believe none of my kids responded to her either. She said this tells how I raised them. She testified, if it was her daughter she would curse me to the car and even after I left. Just a short version of what happened. I'm glad I did what I did. Hearing this give strength.

    • @Lightningbug122
      @Lightningbug122 22 дня назад +9

      If you read your Bible and believe it, a WOMAN is not to preach or be In the pulpit, sorry, look it up

    • @warriorg2630
      @warriorg2630 22 дня назад +6

      @Lightningbug122 Mary was the first woman Jesus sent out with the gospel, go tell my disciple, and Peter......... That was a command. That's preaching

    • @warriorg2630
      @warriorg2630 22 дня назад +5

      @Lightningbug122 I'VE BEEN READING MY BIBLE FOR GENESIS TO REVELATION SINCE 10 YEARS OLD STARTED TEACHING SUNDAY SCHOOL SINCE 12 YEARS OLD AND UNTIL NOW I NEVER STOP, AND I'VE NEVER SEEN THAT ANYWHERE IN THE BIBLE. IF YOU ARE REFERRING TO PAUL'S LETTERS WOMEN WERE CAUSING SOME CONFUSION IN THE CHURCH, SO PAUL INSTRUCTED THEM TO WAIT UNTIL THEY GET HOME THEY ASKED THEIR HUSBAND. Women was also a vital part in Paul's ministry.

    • @YouButter
      @YouButter 20 дней назад +2

      @@warriorg2630I am curious, you think the pastors children would have cursed? Yikes ..

    • @trishanna1118
      @trishanna1118 20 дней назад +1

      Powerful

  • @buttafly091
    @buttafly091 23 дня назад +18

    Father in Heaven, please help me in this area so that I may reflect you. In Jesus name, Amen

  • @mommageee
    @mommageee 29 дней назад +42

    These words are a gift of the Holy Spirit and are a blessing to me❤

    • @Christandnature
      @Christandnature 28 дней назад +1

      Amen.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  28 дней назад +1

      ♥️♥️♥️

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад

      I disagree, you could put them in there place without throwing a tantrum, show me in the bible where Jesus never did that, to remain silent allows for the purp to stigmatize you, thus hindering your preaching of the gospel,Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture, grow a spine brother!

    • @bogwoppit792
      @bogwoppit792 День назад

      Holy Spirit fill me, Holy Spirit teach me, Holy Spirit protect me, Holy Spirit renew me. Amen 🙏

  • @MelissaTierson
    @MelissaTierson 21 день назад +24

    I went to an old friends funeral, was told by an old peer that always trated me poorly in high school and beyond
    But when she said no one wants you here
    Normally I would have lashed out. But I simply got in my car and left. What a feeling of peace came over me. I'm so proud of myself. It works

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  21 день назад +2

      Welcome to back

    • @YouButter
      @YouButter 20 дней назад +1

      Kudos I’m not there yet but I know I’ve got to ! I want to make it to heaven.

    • @heather777
      @heather777 20 дней назад +3

      I've been in a similar situation. It wasn't by words but by looks (by 2 people,) even though the sister of the person who passed hugged me and thanked me for coming, and the 2 people's husbands hugged me and said it was nice to see me. Their adult kids were very polite, they sat at the table with me when we sat down to eat we all had a lovely conversation and hugged me at the end. With the rude person who approached you I would have smiled and stayed where I was, but thats just me.

    • @heatherspencer4058
      @heatherspencer4058 19 дней назад +4

      @MelissaTierson sorry for your loss and I'm glad you got peace.
      When it comes to funerals, noone should be telling anyone who can attend. It's just classless and outs the selfish for sure. Some people can't let others have a moment, it has to be about them. She showed her colors and you shone. Looks like we are all not alone as it sometimes feels, good to read everyone's comme ts here. What a beautiful group of people.

    • @whysaywhyx7100
      @whysaywhyx7100 16 дней назад +4

      If you keep running into this person, you should address this behaviour. You could have stayed if you wanted to, especially if the family had no issues with you being there.
      If ypu are a Christian, pray and ask the Lord to give you the words for any encounter. He will and the abuse will stop.

  • @cyndig1592
    @cyndig1592 24 дня назад +14

    working in customer service has been the hardest test. I went from being in a office to on the phones. I keep scriptures posted all around my computer. I place a really ( mean, disrespectful, angry, yelling,) person on hold and I even pray. Its been the hardest thing to learn how to not to react. I believe God is working on me, thru all of this. I pray I can get here!!!

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  24 дня назад

      ❤️❤️♥️♥️

    • @janets.6950
      @janets.6950 21 день назад +1

      I'm sorry that you're going through this with strangers. They are probably taking their pain out on you. Keep God in your focus.

  • @maryanncarmen2477
    @maryanncarmen2477 27 дней назад +24

    Lord, help me to stay quiet when I am determined to lash out !

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  27 дней назад +3

      God bless you always

    • @pibly7784
      @pibly7784 16 дней назад +2

      Yes ! This is a challenge for many of us-including myself.

    • @arichaG2009
      @arichaG2009 14 дней назад

      Amen. 🙏🏼
      May God answer your prayers and answer mine too, as I also need this Grace seriously in Jesus’ name. 🙏🏼 🙏🏼

  • @YvonneEast
    @YvonneEast Месяц назад +22

    Thank you for this council. Wise words. May the Lord bless you as you continue to bless us believers the way in which we are to conduct ourselves as children of God.

  • @sharoncrawford7192
    @sharoncrawford7192 25 дней назад +21

    Pray for my daughter. She really needs it.

  • @weniajordan6903
    @weniajordan6903 Месяц назад +22

    Help me God to be clear in mind, spiritual and fiscally.
    Help me in name of Jesus Christ. Amen

  • @Martin1Libom
    @Martin1Libom Месяц назад +16

    To allow wickedness to dictate
    anyone's life is not to love yourself, or your neighbor.
    There is a time to keep quiet, but also to be salt and light.
    "Do not throw your pearls to the swines" also fits this situation...

  • @Nettie4thReedSister
    @Nettie4thReedSister Месяц назад +18

    God help us to stay in Your Spirit, so You can set us all free, May Your anointing break off yokes of bondage off of us and those around us, in Jesus name Amen 🙏

  • @SuperKarineka
    @SuperKarineka 28 дней назад +19

    This is a great message, it's true, not every battle is worth fighting. However, refraining from reacting to the provocative behavior of ppl nowadays is easier said than done. As lawlessness increases the heart of many will grow cold as evident today. you must pray daily for the Holy Spirit to strengthen you, and give you discernment when and how to respond and when to walk away. You cannot rely on will power! It doesn't work. I've tried that and it will wear you out! Depends on and rely on the Holy Spirit to help you, He loves you dearly and will help you!

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  27 дней назад

      Good luck

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  27 дней назад +1

      God bless you 🙏

    • @dakaraiwilliams
      @dakaraiwilliams 21 день назад

      🙏🏽❤️✝️

    • @bullheadedoldtimer1256
      @bullheadedoldtimer1256 5 дней назад

      I disagree, you could put them in there place without throwing a tantrum, show me in the bible where Jesus never did that, to remain silent allows for the purp to stigmatize you, thus hindering your preaching of the gospel,Titus 2:15" These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:15, it amazes me how Christians put personal opinion above scripture, grow a spine brother!

  • @Christiana11-11
    @Christiana11-11 25 дней назад +7

    I do this often but once in a while I will say, " what kind of resoonse are you hoping for in saying something like that ?" Then I just walk away. That always stuns them. Sometimes complete silence is agreement, so it's a fine line. Thank you for this wonderful talk 🙏 God bless 🙏💝

  • @AlexGonzalez-g5d
    @AlexGonzalez-g5d 28 дней назад +9

    This is confirmation to me that I know that I am glad that I didn't react so I learned to bring it to my lord. It's a victory for me

  • @adambeauchamp970
    @adambeauchamp970 2 дня назад +1

    I'm so glad we are giving this man so much credit for sharing about the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ
    Just read Matthew. Thats all!!!

  • @tammyrichardson4337
    @tammyrichardson4337 Месяц назад +13

    I love these messages. It helps you to grow. It's like dessert after a meal when you read scriptures. I look forward each day to see what i need to work on within myself. ❤

  • @1984Musicforever
    @1984Musicforever 3 дня назад +2

    I figured this out in my early 20's. Just staring people down after disrespect is one of the most truly intimating things you can do.

  • @jillmccarty1227
    @jillmccarty1227 29 дней назад +14

    HELP ME HOLY SPIRIT TO HOLD MY PEACE IN JESUS CHRIST NAME!💥💥💥

  • @Lightningbug122
    @Lightningbug122 Месяц назад +43

    Proverbs says to answer not a fool according to his folly

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  Месяц назад +1

      ♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @Garden366
      @Garden366 29 дней назад +2

      Yes, in that verse, it calls on us to practice what is being stated here and to rightly discern each situation.
      “Answer not a fool according to his folly, less you be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, less he be wise in his own eyes.” Prov 26:4-5
      This proverb requires us to judge with right judgment the situation because there are times we are to answer back to correct a fool, and other times we are not to answer back at all because we will join him in his foolishness.

    • @Lightningbug122
      @Lightningbug122 28 дней назад +2

      @@Garden366 we are also not to cast our pearls before swine, we should know who to speak to, and to watch what we give them, Thanks for your awesome and right comeback

    • @Tom-b4u
      @Tom-b4u 27 дней назад +2

      Speak not into the ears of a fool for they will despise the wisdom of your words Proverbs 23:9 if I remember right

    • @ipt3000
      @ipt3000 2 дня назад

      @@Garden366 what’s interesting is that these two verses seem to contradict because one says answer not a fool. The other one says to answer a fool so maybe it’s just a misprint. lol

  • @AndreaM77
    @AndreaM77 Месяц назад +12

    I wish l had seen this, this past weekend. Massive breakup with someone l loved so much, even though he was a broken, wounded person. 😢

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  29 дней назад +2

      God bless you

    • @marlenering2620
      @marlenering2620 29 дней назад +2

      Yes I needed to hear this last week in a disagreement with my landlord.

  • @missmiller5637
    @missmiller5637 22 дня назад +3

    This is exactly what i did last night and it was truly self rewarding, that i made the right choice, the disrespect was so real and i held my composure, thank you for this inner validation , affirmation that God is pleased and answer my prayers, Thank you Jesus

  • @gailmarie5093
    @gailmarie5093 23 дня назад +6

    I always REMIND MYSELF that the battle is SPIRITUAL...Eph 6:12...remaining composed and praying and letting The LORD fight our battles...that confuses the devil, when he doesn't see us react. We just be detached and polite. Let FATHER GOD handle that person. They will not continue if you stay calm & smiling...but you MUST be praying in the Spirit so you don't become bitter. FOCUS ON JESUS ALWAYS!!

  • @souldelight8495
    @souldelight8495 19 дней назад +8

    Well, I've been staying calm and quiet trying to understand the root of why a leader kept being disrespectful to me publicly, literally belittling me among my peers and subordinates.
    However, the unwarranted behavior continued and even influenced other team members, triggering a disrespectful attitude from them as well.
    It all came to a head recently and I literally erupted. Everyone appeared shocked and to summarize, the leader is now seeking conflict resolution, acting ignorant about the disrespect, and apologizing profusely🙄.
    But honestly, I'm done.
    I believe keeping quiet can sometimes be enabling a toxic behavior towards you. In addition not responding immediately left me feeling so unsure about myself and feeling distracted and frustrated.
    In some cases, I feel it's necessary to nip some abusive behavior (like public disrespect) in the bud, IMMEDIATELY and PUBLICLY, to avoid a repetition from the culprit and others, especially in the workplace environment.
    People and environments/ situations are different and so a one size fit all response may not always apply.
    Wisdom is profitable to direct. (Ecclesiastes 10:10)

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your perspective is valuable!

    • @aquamarine0023
      @aquamarine0023 7 дней назад +1

      Souldelight - thank you for sharing this. I wholeheartedly agree. Very well said! I had a recent experience at work like this and I agree it's a situation where we must speak up and stand up for ourselves.

  • @MatthewSmith-kd3mu
    @MatthewSmith-kd3mu 25 дней назад +6

    Went through the loss of family that took me to a dark place out of it came a total different mindset that thus far has been unshakable. For a while I thought the difference was due to not caring about anything anymore but as time went on I realized that once I had hit an all time low there wasn’t anything above that that could move me. I say less and feel less attached to things that I once made matter. Having a peace of mind where the mind being silent is something I hope all get to experience. I truly believe you can make things happen with just the thought.

  • @michellefullen2091
    @michellefullen2091 Месяц назад +11

    Also I’ve learned if you choose to walk away in those moments, the “way” you walk away matters; ie body tone, facial expressions, head up or down, the pace you use to walk away. That’s a LEARNED behavior as well.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  Месяц назад +1

      ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @LloydM-oh4uk
      @LloydM-oh4uk 25 дней назад

      Also maybe dont get yourself into situations where you cannot physically walk away for instance i was on a interstate bus ride recently and i was disrespected but i could not simply leave i had to sit there all day and night.

  • @alanparmenter
    @alanparmenter 13 дней назад +5

    "We cannot remain silent or concede everything away" - C.S. Lewis

  • @mariw1298
    @mariw1298 28 дней назад +2

    Such a timely word for me! Would to GOD I had learned this forty years ago when a person who constantly taunted me was in my life! Oh, the suffering including a breakdown that I could have avoided! Any pastor who is reading this, please teach this wonderful message to your congregation!

  • @sharoncrawford7192
    @sharoncrawford7192 25 дней назад +6

    Dont give the devil any ground. Remember, we battle not with flesh and blood. Remember that the person is not your enemy, the devil is.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  24 дня назад

      💓💓

    • @Strawman333
      @Strawman333 19 дней назад

      Perfect. That is exactly true. The devil will slide in if any opening is available. Always be with God… every minute.

  • @bonniemackey2829
    @bonniemackey2829 Месяц назад +9

    Amen🙏🕊️Thank you for this powerful message Jesus said to turn the other cheek God Bless you 🙏

    • @BruceHawkey
      @BruceHawkey 29 дней назад +1

      I tried that approach of "turning the other cheek." I did and just got smacked down on the other cheek. I had to dig deep within myself and look to my ancestors grief and stories. I feel some of them with me especially my beautiful daughter who passed away in her sleep on Christmas. I went to the dark night of the soul and coming out of that is just scary. Thanks to all of you who help us cope. We all need each other.

  • @helendanieludosen1204
    @helendanieludosen1204 Месяц назад +8

    Very encouraging, thanks 🙏

  • @johnmckeron3663
    @johnmckeron3663 13 дней назад +3

    Any time I reacted in a negative way to being disrespected’ I felt that the other person won’ they had control’ and with time I became better in those situations ‘ it does take discipline’ but you will be the better person for it

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  13 дней назад +1

      appreciate your feedback! Stay tuned for more content like this.

  • @pookiroo
    @pookiroo 27 дней назад +4

    I was struggling with this & then I got your vid coming down my RUclips feed. Ty for teaching me.

  • @Min-utiae
    @Min-utiae 20 дней назад +1

    When I thought my loved ones thought the worst of me, it surprised me to realize that it was me thinking the worst of them.
    Every real wrong done to me plus the perceived wrongs born of my imagination, piled up on top of me, each new hurt another brick weighing down deeper and deeper until all was so dark and lonely around me.
    The light began to filter through as I remembered Christs love for each and every one of us is equally doled out.
    I then began to dole out faith in others, choosing to believe that they are not thinking the worst of me. If there is solid evidence, from the words they say to me, I can know that I am ok and can lose nothing of myself, because I am equal in value to everyone. Jesus tells me so, and His love sets me free.
    I see through my eyes differently.
    I have been learning to look at others through a lens of light. The darkness is falling away.
    I read His words and keep His words upon my heart.

  • @josegonsales4110
    @josegonsales4110 26 дней назад +5

    Amazing that I have this mind set now from experience. This excellent exceptional advice. ❤

  • @dot_t
    @dot_t 11 дней назад +2

    No response is a response. ❤️✨

  • @DanielBekibele-wz9oz
    @DanielBekibele-wz9oz 29 дней назад +4

    This is the word I needed. I really need it physically and spiritually in my life especially my calling and ministry in Jesus name amen ❤

  • @laurac5021
    @laurac5021 20 дней назад +1

    I've never heard this before. Ever. I listened three times and I will listen to it more. Thank you for this.lesson. praying it helps me change. I dont want to be easily upset. I need peace desperately.

  • @dawnemile7499
    @dawnemile7499 Месяц назад +10

    Our reactions are our own not theirs. They may expect a certain reaction because of past experience or because of stereotyping but if our reaction is different, they are hardly in control of it.

  • @mandyschick1976
    @mandyschick1976 19 дней назад +2

    It helps me this Morning, After the sleepless Night. Thank you!

  • @FB.RocksannROUW
    @FB.RocksannROUW 29 дней назад +4

    Limerance...childhood trauma.. heal the hurt before placing value on another.

  • @BronwynneBessette-v7s
    @BronwynneBessette-v7s 16 дней назад +1

    I can’t express how much I enjoy & appreciate this lecture. I am new to knowing that Lewis was a cleric. I knew only of the fiction. This & other of his lectures on YT are so worthwhile & this is some civilized, sensible & sensitive advice that so grounds me and keeps me sane & civil. Thank you. 🇺🇸🙏

  • @sharondelano9667
    @sharondelano9667 Месяц назад +12

    YES. Absolutely yes.

  • @Katherinebestemer
    @Katherinebestemer 12 дней назад +1

    Thank you for showing up in my life today. The synchronicity of this message is welcomed and a nice reminder of where I’ve been to where I’m going. Thank you. 🙏

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  12 дней назад

      Thank you for watching! Feel free to share more thoughts anytime.

  • @patriotgirl3784
    @patriotgirl3784 29 дней назад +12

    I needed this yesterday!🙏🙏🙏🙌

  • @kimberlymyers5551
    @kimberlymyers5551 27 дней назад +2

    TY ❤ This is great advice. I ❤ words of CS Lewis. 🙏

  • @edwardkitchens6650
    @edwardkitchens6650 26 дней назад +2

    Amen I pray everyone received this information and instructions from the most high once we learned this principle this world will be in a better place To God Be the Glory 🙏

  • @doreathaannhighsmith2808
    @doreathaannhighsmith2808 27 дней назад +3

    Excellent words of wisdom ❤❤❤

  • @WilL-sp1qw
    @WilL-sp1qw 5 дней назад +1

    I’m in my 40’s it used to be easier to stay quiet but I’m loosing patience. I’m praying about it!

  • @isaacphotoane1738
    @isaacphotoane1738 26 дней назад +3

    This message is a timely blessing. I Thank You 🙏

  • @kj1227icecap
    @kj1227icecap 18 дней назад +1

    I felt a heaviness that I believe is from this level of maturity and even with prayer it was just sitting there on me. I know we don't need white candles to pray but I put two on the floor and prayed harder on the ground and it helped. God is a chain breaker. Still being pruned to release the ego, hurt, and anger. But God is teaching me to separate people's physical self from their spirit and that people are often speaking and acting from ego. I fear and respect God above all and He sees all. We're maturing as God's children.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  18 дней назад

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your perspective is valuable!

  • @jermainejones1560
    @jermainejones1560 28 дней назад +4

    Silence is power, it dismantle a person's mental thinking, it confuses them but when you reacted they know what your next move is....🤔

  • @backroads82
    @backroads82 19 дней назад +2

    The universe is bigger than anyone's disrespect. Their disrespect fails by comparison.

  • @foreveryoung5
    @foreveryoung5 Месяц назад +43

    Oh I have to have this come up on my feed 6 hours after I responded to a comment made against me.. oops

    • @tina-mariecrocker5687
      @tina-mariecrocker5687 Месяц назад +4

      ❤❤❤well learn❤

    • @foreveryoung5
      @foreveryoung5 Месяц назад +4

      @tina-mariecrocker5687 someone said they were losing their faith. I suggested they read the bible cover to cover before you make the decision to quit. Someone else commented that I had assumed they hadn't already done that. I said "what's your problem with me suggesting for someone to read the WORD before giving up." This other person said that he had read the b8ble 2 times already my next comment would have been. "Maybe your not hearing his voice. But this video came up and I thought better of it.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  Месяц назад +3

      Welcome

    • @VickyNicoll-r2m
      @VickyNicoll-r2m Месяц назад +2

      @@foreveryoung5Bless you 😇

    • @jjjonathanjoanne4hisglory409
      @jjjonathanjoanne4hisglory409 29 дней назад +3

      Same here! Believing it's never too late to learn.

  • @emmahurd4218
    @emmahurd4218 29 дней назад +2

    👌 excellent teaching! Thank you

  • @adorable_anarchy2
    @adorable_anarchy2 18 дней назад +4

    I totally agree with this, but in all honesty when I needed it, the most -when I was younger-I would not have listened to it because I was young and still trying to fight battles that weren’t worth fighting.

  • @skryvazena6548
    @skryvazena6548 20 часов назад +1

    I am 44, have been in siruation like this several times. I initially assumed that they did not meant that. I was thinking they're just joking. But,,it's really hard to differentiate, and it's hard when I felt hurting. Was it wrong to feel hurt? I couldn't force my feeling not to feel that. Was I too fragile? It's not that I've never conftont the person who called me names. But, the confrontation did not end up well as I thought it would. So, when it happened again, I reacted back, or staying quiet, or taking it into a joking realm, one of these things. I tried not to feel it so much. I was thinking, I did not want to have a fragile ego. It doesn't feel hurt anymore when I feel they're joking or laughing about me. At other times it's still hurt a lot. I try not to think about it that much now, and just try to brush it off.

    • @bupnstuff1818
      @bupnstuff1818 3 часа назад

      If I'm reading this correctly it doesn't seem like you are wrong to feel hurt and you shouldn't ignore it.

  • @GenevieveGutierrez-e3m
    @GenevieveGutierrez-e3m Месяц назад +3

    Thank you very much!
    These words are so important and helpful for me.

  • @mojamurphy4905
    @mojamurphy4905 7 дней назад +1

    To those who think responding shows strength.....
    Only what is weak needs defending.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  7 дней назад

      God bless you always love ♥️♥️♥️

  • @deecogroup2504
    @deecogroup2504 28 дней назад +3

    This is a very powerful yet challenging teaching. This is JESUS

  • @bethbath5128
    @bethbath5128 7 дней назад +1

    I perfectly understand. I've gone through some of this as well. When I didn't react to disrespectful people things were much better for me. Try not to react, or just let them know that you are not going to engage in their foolishness. There are people who will respect you. Spend more time with them. Praying for you. 😊 God loves you very much. Always know that. ❤❤❤

  • @sunraemouton2400
    @sunraemouton2400 26 дней назад +4

    I believe this is truly good advice. Just a caution that you don't want to internalize the pain the disrespect caused tho, silently hold a grudge. This is very toxic, so what to do with the hurt if you are a sensitive person? You can walk away but how do you let it go from the inside?

  • @LaVern57
    @LaVern57 24 дня назад +1

    I am listening a lot today on these type of encouraging messages, but I realize I have been a people pleaser all of my life and I do mean all of my life. I was bullied in school as someone commented. I was told by a older girl when I was little that God created people like me for other people to bully, and I believed her, so therefore, I walked in the shadows of her lie seems the nicer. I am to people the more they take advantage of me and I stand in the mirror and I ask God Lord what do I look like? What am I doing? I see other people that they don’t treat them like. What am I looking like, I asked the Lord to please help me. This is my heart speaking because it hurts.

  • @jessicap5010
    @jessicap5010 14 дней назад +3

    My adult siblings are strange and think when you are quiet, they have won the battle and the quiet one has “realised” they were wrong 😂😂

  • @ShariApel
    @ShariApel 15 дней назад +2

    I'm having a talk tomorrow with my 90 year old mil
    Tomorrow, face to face . Her behavior since I married her son 1.5 years ago has done a 180.
    I know host both holidays since Dad died.
    I'm almost 50 and seem to have less patience . She needs to hear what in my heart.
    She is 90, as i recognize this. We do so much for her, but yet her control issues are out of control lol.
    Wish me luck. 😢

  • @cheryldonaldson1274
    @cheryldonaldson1274 Месяц назад +5

    A most incredible insight into the human condition!! Sadly.

  • @jannieschluter9670
    @jannieschluter9670 20 дней назад +2

    Well, sometimes you have to defend boundaries. Staying silent at all times won’t cut it.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  20 дней назад

      God bless you always 💕❤️❤️

    • @OrkydOrygynalsTV
      @OrkydOrygynalsTV 9 дней назад

      And even then you can do so, kindly, firmly and without meeting them at their level

  • @barbaracampbell7747
    @barbaracampbell7747 Месяц назад +14

    Jesus was a silent lamb before his shearers

  • @EmmaStovall-kv3zy
    @EmmaStovall-kv3zy 14 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this message, I needed this I was disrespected ,but I stayed quite, thank you lord.

  • @showtime4956
    @showtime4956 18 дней назад +3

    It is Okay to Stand up for ourselves, Not everyone subscribes to the Golden Rule, and you have to address it with wisdom. At times, if need, have these Bullies (family or Foe) arrested for any offence, abuse, file a grievance (job). However, do Not subject ourselves to anyone abusiveness, which we were taught by our parents.

  • @wilsonburgos1327
    @wilsonburgos1327 24 дня назад +2

    Without the Holy Spirit our fallen nature can not practice self control it is the Holy Spirit who gives us such a beautiful gift ❤️

  • @JudiethKuhn
    @JudiethKuhn 28 дней назад +9

    Jesus says he still and know I am God he will fight for you

  • @lesleyM84
    @lesleyM84 27 дней назад +1

    goodness.. this!!!! i need it on loop for a week.. completely absorb it into my SOUL🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @Gmerete2048
    @Gmerete2048 18 дней назад +4

    Please stand up for yourself for your childrens sake.
    Please do not let them watch you accepting mistreatment and bullying from others, letting other people destroy you.

  • @milumav
    @milumav 3 дня назад +2

    "Qui tacet consentire videtur". He/she who is silent is understood to concede.
    Silence is interpreted as defeat, NEVER allow yourself to be bullied or forced into submission. Always put those that have stepped out of line back in their place, calmly, and confidently. You're not doing anyone any favors by allowing abusive a-holes to mistreat others with impunity.

  • @ninat4869
    @ninat4869 14 дней назад +3

    I’ve been disrespected all my life. I’ve come to understand that it’s bc of the Jesus in me. If they hated Him. They’ll hate me too. It hurts. But when I understand that the person sowing discord is in need of prayer, I can lift them up and heal.

    • @wisdomofwinns
      @wisdomofwinns  14 дней назад +2

      Thanks for commenting! I’m happy this video resonated with you.

  • @matthewsimons7658
    @matthewsimons7658 2 часа назад

    Wow! Thank you for this!

  • @rail_bender5205
    @rail_bender5205 19 дней назад +3

    Enlightening video. May God have mercy on my soul.

  • @le5848
    @le5848 24 дня назад +1

    Well said. I needed to hear that. One thing that helped me over the years is, "It's only an insult if you value their opinion".

  • @RoseG779
    @RoseG779 16 дней назад +3

    “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭15‬:‭1‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
    ✝️
    “Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.”
    ‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭17‬-‭19‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

  • @sabrinalongmire206
    @sabrinalongmire206 22 дня назад +2

    This was right on time... I needed to hear this... God is good 😊

  • @reneeb6411
    @reneeb6411 23 дня назад +5

    I needed this today. Dealing with idiots at work who bully everyone.
    I wanted to tell them off this morning in a managers meeting- obviously in a professional way… but I know they are trying to get under my skin.
    I won’t do it!!
    Thank you!!

  • @colleenwint1
    @colleenwint1 21 день назад +2

    Conflicts or offenses are inevitable,however, how you respond is key to your peace of mind and maturity.

  • @sharoncoyle7199
    @sharoncoyle7199 Месяц назад +4

    God bless.

  • @nancyh9125
    @nancyh9125 23 дня назад +1

    Boy did I ever need to hear this! I deal with the public and many times they are rude, demanding and unreasonable. It's so hard to bite my tongue.

  • @Earthtime3978
    @Earthtime3978 27 дней назад +4

    Nah, You can’t always do that. Even Jesus lashed out after his house was disrespected. You should try to temper your reactions but people need to be set straight sometimes.