toxic best friends that must be STOPPED - REACTION
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 26 мар 2024
- toxic best friends that must be STOPPED - REACTION
SUBSCRIBE! bit.ly/2DxtJhM
INSTAGRAM: / charlaychaplin
TWITTER: / charlottedobre
TIKTOK: / charlottedobreofficial
FACEBOOK: / charlottedobreofficial
SPOTIFY: open.spotify.com/show/5F95o6W...
RECENT UPLOADS PLAYLIST: bit.ly/31RVL07
2ND CHANNEL: bit.ly/3v1ZJPV
MERCH: shop.charlottedobre.net/
🚨 HOLD ON TO YOUR HEARTS, FOLKS! 🚨 It's your girl, Charlotte Dobre, and today we're diving headfirst into the world of ultimate betrayal - the kind that could rival a Shakespearean drama, but with more emojis and less poetic soliloquies. 😱💔
🤯 Picture this: Two peas in a pod, BFFs for life, but guess what? The plot thickens, my friends! In today's rollercoaster of emotions, we're exploring the jaw-dropping phenomenon of best friend betrayals that will make your trust issues go through the roof! 🎢🤦♀️
🕵️♀️ Join me as we dissect the juicy details, the clandestine whispers, and the not-so-secret sabotage that turned these friendship fairy tales into twisted tales of treachery. Because who needs enemies when you've got a best friend with a secret agenda? 😏🔍
👀 We'll be spilling the tea on those clandestine text messages, the backstabbing brunches, and the epic betrayals that will have you questioning whether you ever truly knew your ride-or-die. Spoiler alert: Not all friendships are made to withstand the storm! ☕🐍
💅 Oh honey, we're talking drama levels that could rival a reality show. From stolen boyfriends to secret side hustles, these BFFs redefine the meaning of "frenemy." Grab your snacks, sit back, and prepare to have your jaw hit the floor! 😱🍿
👯♀️ But fear not, my darlings! In the midst of the wreckage, we'll uncover the silver linings - the lessons learned, the hilarious revenge plots, and the newfound friendships that rose from the ashes. Because nothing says "I'll show you" like success after betrayal! 💪🌈
👉 So, hit that subscribe button, grab your emotional support snacks, and join me, Charlotte Dobre, on this wild journey through the dark and twisty world of best friend betrayals. It's time to spill the tea, spill the truth, and spill some laughs along the way!
#bestfriend #betrayal #bestfrienddrama #bff #drama #betrayed #charlottedobre #reaction
Hi, I'm Charlotte Dobre. I'm an actor, reactor, singer and sometimes (not really) comedian. On this channel I do reactions, commentary and occasionally I make a joke or two. I love poking fun at social media, weddings, entitled people, tiktok and OF COURSE petty people. I upload daily, usually 7 days a week, unless life gets crazy or I get lazy. Come hang out, it's a good time.
CREDITS
/ monicagartner
/ alexpoulx
/ isaac_francis
/ jessi.lee
Edited By Kelly Paoli
kellypaoli...
Co-Executive Producer: Vanessa Peprah-Addo
vanessatoro...
Produced By: Andrew De Jesus @imandrewdejesus
Footage/Sounds/Effects provided by Storyblocks
End screen song:
Defunk - (Feat. Charlotte Dobre, Sam Klass)
open.spotify.com/track/3S6FXA... 
Развлечения
"My flabbers are gasted." Is my new favorite quote.
I just said the same.😊
Same 😂
Oh yeah, I'm absolutely using that in real life conversations! I'm the only one I know who watches Charlotte, so it'll totally seem like I came up with it 😄
Charlotte has made it a thing…
I love it but it also sounds inappropriate but that’s probably just my dirty mind 😂
Can confirm, having a "pick me " friend is utterly exhausting. And as you get older, you tend to separate from that friend. And when you do, you realize just how peaceful and fun life can be when you're not constantly trying to cater to that person. You also realize that they don't really care about you or your feelings.
Reallll
Yes! Well said!
Boy-crazy friends in general are just exhausting.
Yes
@@mobabyhomeslice OMG YESSSSS!!
A good friend of mine once said “real queens fix each others crowns” never in my life has a quote stuck with me like that one!
Beautiful sentiment!
This is priceless
I've heard a longer version that says Real Queens fix each other's crowns without letting the world know it was crooked. Both versions are very true.
I'm a reformed pick me girl and the most painful part of it is realising that while I was too busy being "not like other girls" in my teens, the other girls were building friendships and learning how to form deep connections with other women. I didn't get that opportunity because of my own pig-headedness. Now I have such girl's girl energy and I crave those deep, mutually supportive friendships, but it's difficult and scary because I'm learning now in my mid-20s what everyone else learned in their mid-late teens.
I was a people pleaser. I've always had a hard time making friends because of my social anxiety but unfortunately the friends I had in school were just using me because of my kind nature. The hardest part was realizing recently a few months ago that my bff of 17 years only cared about what I was doing for her and hardly did anything for me. Now I have no close friends except my husband. I'm friends with his friends but I just don't have a close connection with them like I thought I had with my ex bff. I'm grateful I have my husband though.
You will make those friends now in your twenties. I remember looking back in my twenties and thinking I lost opportunities. You just developed slower and had less love for yourself at that time. That's so normal for a teenage girl. It's great you're reflecting and learning. You will build those friendships. Choose the right ladies who will love you and treat you well. Be a good friend and you will attract them that's what you deserve. Your post really touched my heart. Much love and blessings to you. ✨🫶✨
@@sarahkelley9045 that is so lovely, thank you so much 🥰 if I could heart react your reply, I would ❤️
💛
Second this on every single word... reformed pick me girl+ people pleaser..... struggling to have friends at all. If I can go back on time I only will change this awful phase.
I lived in Cape Town and was about to visit my family in Europe for month. A trusted colleague asked if his 2 German friends stay there for 2 weeks. I said yes and gave him a spare set of keys before I left.
On my return, I walked into a spotless home. There were fresh flowers, boxes of chocolate, a lovely thankyou card which contained money. By bed had clean bedding and the other sets were washed and neatly stored.
I was thrilled that the visitors were so responsible and kind. After a 26 hour, on 2 flights and hours on the road, it was such a joy to have a bath and climb into bed with a box of chocolates.
That is great!
Now that's how we should treat people who offer us kindness.
That is a German for you. Like fr, they will go above and beyond to be hospitable guests.
Germans are very good house guests and hosts. It is part of their culture.
That is exactly what I was thinking I would do, all the thanks, lots of cleaning. Besides, I love cleaning my friends houses, it's like helping them, ya know? I'm glad your experience was so sweet :)
I WAS TOLD THERE WOULD BE NO MATH.
POP QUIZ HOT SHOT. bonus points if you can guess the cheesy movie that's from.
😅😂❤ especially for charlotte, who has more than once said she is really bad at math we still love her
In the immortal and much maligned words of Barbie, Math is hard!
🤣🤣🤣
I DIDN'T STUDY!!! (starts sobbing)
-Patrick Star
My friends are charismatic and hot as hell. They always get more attention than I do. And you know what. I'm glad lol. You deal with the creepos at the bar and if you need backup I'm here being your gremlin friend. I honestly love that role.
❤❤❤😂😂😂
Definitely! I'm not your wing woman, I'm wing defence! Gremlins go
Haha same! The days I'm told that people think I'm scary are so good😂
Same but those types of friends tend to get jealous if you level up and get pretty later on.
SAME HAHA plus the nigerian prince in my dm's makes me feel special. good. enough. plus i can watch the drinks.
I moved to a new village when i was 15, hated that my evil stepmother made us uproot my life. After i started the new school, a girl i hadn't met knocked on the door and said, 'hi i know you're new so i thought id come round and give you a tour of the village" I was so happy. We ended up being besties. She was outgoing, pretty and funny, everything i wasn't as an awkward 15 year old. She got all the guys, introduced me to lots of people, and my first boyfriend, She absolutely outshined me. She helped me out when i needed help and respite from my stepmother. And you know what, i was just so happy she knocked on my door that day out of the blue to be my friend. How can anyone be jealous about someone who brings so much sunshine in your life. We remained friends for years. I've moved away but she sees my sister and we both send each other love through my sis. Good friends are hard to find. Cherish the ones who go out of their way to make you feel welcome ❤❤❤❤
I love this for you glad you Where able to find support when you needed it
@@MarleneCaruth thank you 😊 🙏
The guy that gets "Happy Birthday" texts each year, but no communication otherwise. Your friend learned this from his grandma. Feel grateful that you were added to his spiral notebook. 🥰 (Great-grandma, here.)
Right. Or maybe has some sort of auto-message program that sends out birthday and Christmas greetings. Lost us us get Christmas or birthday cards from people we never hear from otherwise. It's thoughtful. The poster should accept the good wishes with thanks and then STFU. Honestly? He sounds like a bit of a jerk.
@@NancyPollyCy Maybe it is just not a thing around him ,and he just does not find it normal. I have a few people like that. I'd only hear from them in Christmass, or my birthday , in my case I know their birthdays too, so I put a reminder on facebook and I greet them when their day comes
thank you for understanding! as someone with autism (and just all around extremely introverted), I only really have full conversations (over text or messaging, anyways) with close friends and maybe family, but there may be people in my life that I'm not close to, but still acknowledge as a positive part of my life, so I just sprinkle a little time and greetings when need be. I will say I was happy with both guys when it upgraded to 'merry christmas hope the family is doing well.'
@@NancyPollyCy I think you’re right. I’ve gotten a couple of those.
This comment is wholesome as anything and I adore you for making it, my friend.
I had a cousin that always got the attention wherever we would go, like the op in the first one. It did make me feel insecure. But instead of being mad at her, I just started hanging out with other cousins that didn't make me feel like that. This was years ago and I'm finally to the point I can hang out with her again and not feel jealous. Lots of self work to get there though. The friend handled her feelings of jealousy and insecurity in a really bad way.
That is the difference between a normal individual(you) and psychotic individual(her). You backed off, went with people that you were more comfortable being around, and worked on yourself. I am so glad that you were able to do all of this. It makes you the kind of person everyone would want as a friend.
I used to be insecure about one of my.closest cousins growing up but mainly kept it to myself (I used to be a pick me but not to this severity)
Come to find out years later she felt the same way about me low-key.
We would be jealous of each other but would still hype each other up and stuff, so like there wasn't tension between us ever. But the feeling was there. I thought it was crazy she felt that way about me.
@@devyntibbs5865same! This is how I felt about my favorite cousin growing up! When we were older, we talked it out and I found out she'd felt that way about me 🥺😭 we've grown so much closer since and I'm oh so grateful 🥰❤️
Proud of you!
I used to be pretty jealous of my cousin, too. She was seemingly perfect and clearly the favorite grandchild. I never took it out on her, but I did quietly resent her. Now I am more secure in myself, so I am able to admire her. She is successful and I know she must have worked very hard for it.
“I BEG YOUR FINEST PARDON!!??!” I laughed my drink out my nose, ohhh lord! Thank you for so many laughs!
I am a srong person, but when my husband dies in his sleep 45 years old, I just stopped living, we where young and life was waiting, I got problems sleeping, but your videos makes me smile and just feel good! Thank you!!!!
Love for you, I can't imagine. Mines my other half and I know the love grows with time and were 15 yrs in. Just know he wants you happy and he's waiting always, no rush.
Sorry for your loss😢
🫂 ❤ I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
I hope you have connections with other widows. I know a woman who also lost her husband overnight at the same age. She found so much support in the local widows grief support group, and has made some really good friendships that way as well. It helps so much with any kind of trauma and grief to connect with people who've been thru similar things. People who haven't been thru loss as you have usually expect the grieving to "move on", but people who have understand that grief doesn't work that way. I'm not a widow but I've experienced my own serious losses, and I think that we have to learn how to carry our griefs. We never stop missing and thinking about any of our people. I know we're strangers but I'm sending you so much right now. It helps me to have people in my life who I can talk to about my dead loved ones, people who want to know them even tho they'll never meet my dear ones. It sounds like you and husband shared deep love ❤
That first lady was trying SO hard to be kind and gracious with her old friend. I’d’ve snapped LONG before that.
Seriously, me too. My only response to such a long ass diatribe would have been "Never contact me again." Not because I'm confident, because I'm absolutely not, but because at that point after all that effort from me, I would have seen the real her and been absolutely too drained to keep trying.
“My flabbers are gasted” and “I beg your finest pardon” I love these!
Merch ideas please !
@charlottedobre
When I was young my very best friend was amazingly beautiful. During senior pictures the photography studio even used her as the model for their city publicity. But it was hard to be jealous, even though the guy attention was constant, because she was such a legitimately nice person.
I was a doormat to a girl I thought was my friend for 10 years. My grandpa passed away last year, and when she didn't even check on me, I realized that we weren't actually friends. I found the courage and ended the friendship
Good for you!
« Male attention is the least special thing in the world » FACTSSSSSSSS
What guys are you talking about? Do you interact with them personally or even had a relationship? I'm just saying same could be said about most women.
💯.
@@moonshinershonor202 they must be referring to unwanted sexual attention. In that case they are 💯 right
@@averybadcaseoffacialobesity good point
@@moonshinershonor202friend, family, bfs and having attention from them is good n cool but it's not important to have random guys you don't know pay attention to you... I'm sure they meant the level of attention the crazy bff is talking about... She's obsessing over it as if she will die if someone doesn't say hi to her...
That long text and all I could think is responding sass-petty with, "Maybe if you stopped comparing yourself to me and be happy with yourself, those people would see it and be drawn to you instead."
Thats not sass that's the truth. People like the first friend are too delusional to handle it
OP said that girl crush asked them to play together and she said No ,its not the OP that is more popular ,she is just more outgoing and that girl is insecure and childish
Best response would have been to just text back "don't hate me because I'm Beautiful"
I told my bf that I had a crush on her boyfriend back in middle school and her response was: "I can see why. He's cute." She brushed it off and I love her for not getting mad.
Edit: It was 10 - 11 years ago that I had a crush on him. BTW, I now have a boyfriend.
Girl what the? Why could you tell her that
Did*
@@watermilk717 they were in middle school lol still the friend didnt go batshit crazy when they were told that
It sounds like you both trusted each other quite a lot, and she trusted her bf. I'm guessing you moved on to someone else
I've had friends tell me my husband was hot, thanks, I know.
I couldn’t agree more, I always say, “I’m not nice because of who you are, I’m nice because of who I am”. Let’s build each other up and not tear each other down, all hail the Queens ❤ x
The girl having a random dude living in her house without her knowledge or consent has my deepest sympathies.
I had my own home and safety violated due to horrible neighbours, and it is now years later and it is still very much in my mind daily. I own this house, it is in my family for generations, and I really do not want to move, but I do not feel safe, I took off the door bell completely because it gave me panic attacks (that's how they got me to open the door), and even a repair man coming in requires a good two weeks of emotional preparations for me. It is traumatic to have something like that happen to your safe space, and I feel for her. I hope she can live with the fact better than I can, it is truly horrible to not feel safe in your own house anymore.
I hope she checked for cameras In the outlets
@@marinasplaylist2251 Yes! I'd probably take my house apart looking for cameras and mics. 😣
Man I’m so sorry that happened to you. It isn’t fair to feel unsafe in your own place.
I was staying at a bf’s place for a couple days and found out that his friends had gone into his room, dumped out my overnight bag, got my underwear and started sniffing them. I was livid. Who DOES THAT? I was so uncomfortable for so long after that. And that was just a bag. Can’t imagine someone going through my whole home.
@@sunnyandthechlo Dude, what the hell? I'd either be calling the police or calling my brothers to kick those friends ass'.
Keep your friends close and enemies closer 🤠🐴
I had a friend like the first woman. For years. We stopped talking when I got pregnant. Looking back with the clarity of adulthood, she was a negative and toxic person. She was a pick me and very two faced.
I wonder if the girl in the first video ever thought that it was her personality repellening guys
They are exhausting
@@SimplyNani7they never do. They find every excuse for why it’s your fault & not theirs.
You need to call the police regaeding the stalker, they could be using space in the attic, sometimes apartments are connected. We had to put a lock on the crawl space door ceiling access, when we figured out the neighbors next door was using it to enter our apartment. Things keep disappearing and we found that the door was left open. I guess we come home early and they flipped out and forgot it. We called the cops but couldn't proof anything. We called the complex and warned our neighbors in the row. They moved to a different building and we warned the people in that building too. They eventually moved.
That first girl's friend was insane!! How can she be yelling at someone for something they have zero control over!
Being "second best" is likely because you behave as though you are second best. There is no "second best" unless you compare yourself to someone you are not.
Facts
But I feel like she kept saying that just to get that girl to tell her how sexy, amazing, gorgeous and better than anyone else she is. That friend never believed she was #2, she was just an emotional sponge.
I have the benefit of looking like a shriveled up potato.
The first girl (Monica) has a very successful RUclips channel with her husband Sam with almost 2M subscribers. I've been following their channel for a couple years now and I also watch their videos. So, when a saw her in a Charlotte video thumbnail, my first thought was. "Oh, we got a crossover today." lol
That's really cool. I've never seen her before. I like being introduced to new RUclips channels. Her "friend" was HORRIBLE.
I used to watch their videos sometimes, not so much anymore though so I did not recognize Monica in the thumbnail! then I saw your comment and went “OH MY GOD!”
She deserves better he is an unfortunate looking wimpy brit. (I am british) it won't last
I got so excited when I saw Christal Luster on here too 😂
did Monica also get featured on a snapchat series?? i swear she was on there with sam lol
I used to be really jealous of my best friend in junior high and some of high school. I thought she had an easy life with a rich family and popularity for all the right reasons because she's a genuinely good and beautiful person. I fought to work on myself and stop comparing myself over some years. We are still close friends and I told her recently (lightheartedly) how I used to be jealous of her. I was shocked to hear that from her perspective the "popularity" was not fun or even as existent like it seemed to be from the outside. Very humbling. We are all just people.
That first girl is just so crazy.. she probably missed any chances she had by being consumed with jealousy of her friend!
You cannot be friends those who are jealous of you, want your life, or want to be you.
And it's dangerous too because they're obsessive
I keep telling my granddaughter this. She has a friend who is very jealous of her. The girl is overweight and every time my granddaughter was staying the weekend with her, she wouldn't let my granddaughter eat. My granddaughter is very athletic and happens to have a good figure because of it. She'd make herself a sandwich and bring my granddaughter 1 slice of lunch meat or split the sandwich with her, which usually meant part of the crust. She'd tell her mother that they had already eaten so they weren't hungry for dinner. It's only because of another girl being there and told on her, that the mother found out that her daughter wouldn't let my granddaughter eat. My granddaughter didn't speak up for herself because she didn't want her friend getting in trouble. The mother called and apologized when she found out. Every time my granddaughter changes anything with her appearance, the girl gets the same thing done. The girl will act like her friend, but once she goes over to her house, she'll start pulling little stuff or saying things about my granddaughter's appearance that makes her feel a little bad about herself, but she is finally seeing that this girl is just trying to hurt her.
My ex best friend hacked my fb account and sent nasty disturbing messages to all of my friends in middle school and high school 💀 dangerous behavior she honestly scares me still
@@kimmyB9203 You sound like an amazing grandmother and she's lucky to have you! It sounds like you and her mother are doing something right. She'll get there soon and knowing she has your support is helping her. Being a teenager is so hard and I certainly wouldn't want to go back to those days.
I learned this the hard way, if someone is jealous & obsessive over you get away now! My best friend was like this and she drugged me ,I overdosed & had to be brought back . She did it bcuz she always thought I was prettier & she said she was in love with me but in reality she was an obsessed junkie & I had no idea. Watch who your kids hang with . It could mean life or death.
I actually had a pick me friend...
I was a seen as a "dude with long hair" by my guy friends. I was literally one of the guys to them. Didn’t really have girl friends. The only times girls would befriend me, was to get closer to one of my friends through me. Granted, I was an amazing wing girl...
But this one girl would always go for the guy I was into... If it just seemed that I showed interest, she'd be all over him and tell me all about how he couldn't stay away from her.
The last straw was when we were at a party and I had the hugest crush on my best friend.
He forgot his jacket at home and this "friend" offered to drive him to get his stuff.
When they came back, both of them avoided me and I cornered her asking what the deal was. She told me that he cornered her in his house and passionately kissed her and it almost went further, but she didn’t want to hurt me, so she stopped him.
I was broken. Like really shattered. Me and the guy worked together and I was his carpool too. He asked me what she told me, and after I told him, he was fuming. He told me that she actually forced him into a corner and tried to kiss him, but she disgusted him and he pushed her away.
Me and the guy didn't work out romantically, but he is an amazing friend after more than a decade.
I broke all ties with that girl...
You’re a pick me girl, or I’m not like other girls.
@@nottycm5010 I came here to say the same thing . She doesn't realize she is the pick me 😂 At first I thought it was a joke until I kept reading.
you’re 34??? i genuinely thought you were 25
Your alone on this one. Definitely super good looking but looks mid 30s either you are young/old asf or being a kiss ass .
My best friend and I have known each other since 1972! After high school we were roommates in two different homes, sometimes worked together at the same businesses even. Life took us on different paths through the intervening years but we never lost touch . Fast forward to present day, we are both widows, recently retired 65 year olds sharing a home once again. There has never been jealousy or animosity between us. We have had our disagreements certainly, but I can’t remember a single real fight! It’s the greatest feeling knowing she’s just upstairs if I need her and I’m here if she needs me. We respect each other’s privacy and have company when we want to talk or help each other or cook together or whatever! We know each other so well and get along really well. Women shouldn’t feel like we have to outshine others. Support one another. Commiserate. Celebrate accomplishments large and small! This friendship has lasted 51 years, and we wouldn’t trade it for the world!
That’s so awesome glad you have a good friend! I always think the best of friends can not talk for ages and pick right up where they left off and the bond is still there 💕
"It's okay and healthy to get jealous. When you act up on and put down others because of your insecurities and jealousy is when it's wrong."
The reason "pick me" girls are so common is because every girl thinks they are different than the other girls at one point in time. It's ingrained in young women to compare ourselves to stereotypes seen on TV. We all relate to the quirky main character girl because that's the point. The movies made for young women know their target audience, which is... young women. All of them. Maturity is knowing that, yes... We girls are just like the other girls. Maybe some of us grow up to embody certain stereotypes, but we're still not that different from each other no matter which path we choose. It really depends on how we act and how we treat others that defines us as people.
I am a basic bitch and I'm proud. I have some weird interests according to others, but I put my mascara on as clumpy as anyone else. Life becomes so much more peaceful and eye opening when you find the many similarities you share with people and not the differences.
@@jessjess23brooks89 Yes!! ❤Pumpkin spice lattes, love of sweater weather, and autumn color pallet vibes type basic?
@@dezia398 Oh yeah! All the way in! I love oversized sweaters so much I wear them in Florida 💀. I want to live in Bath and Body works. I take holiday themed photos with my little family in matching outfits. I like everything pink and glittery and I don't care if at all makes me seem like a stereotype.
And many don't have confidence in themselves even though they may to portray themselves as being confident. They may not have the best home life and could also have mental health issues, especially as teenagers. Some never grow up past that point. I hope those girls find a way to like who they are and become comfortable in their skin and find their self worth. It can be quite a journey to get there which I know first hand. Yes, like Charlotte said, women and girls should build each other up, not tear them down.
As a teenager most of my friends were guys as I was a tomboy and liked doing the guys activities. Some of my friends/acquaintances (girls) got jealous that I was accepted as one of the guys, but they never wanted to join us in doing activities. As someone who isn't that attractive and I was always the friend to those guys, it did bother me. But as I grew up, I figured out how to be comfortable with who I am. As an adult, I'm still weird but I like who I am. I have wonderful support system and my family and friends are amazing, which is part of why I'm comfortable with myself.
I completely agree. There are some circumstances where you grow up and feel completely isolated from family and sometimes friends and you are treated different. Then you grow up and realise you was neurodivergent the whole time, and then you grow up kore and realise a lot of people are neurodivergent and you aren't alone.
“I beg your finest pardon?!” Is the hardest I’ve laughed in a while lol it was a sneaky one wasn’t expecting it to send me 🤣🤣
looking for dad's hugs you never got in all the wrong places
I was always overlooked when I went out with my two friends. Oh well, one was super cute, the other could talk to anyone. I sat at the table and watched our drinks. I never complained to them or anyone about it. It also didn't prevent me from going out with them.
Same here! I'm a bit of a tomboy and not very attractive due to my disabilities. It was hard emotionally when I was younger. But as I got older, I learned how to be comfortable with who I am and like myself. I was usually "the friend" when it came to guys, which bothered me more back then. Whenever I was in a relationship, I knew they liked me for who I am me even though I have disabilities. My friends are wonderful and they never make me feel different or less than.
The first clip, the friend was voicing the shit you're supposed to think but *never* say out loud.
I'm really overweight after two years of Prednisone and I understand her insecurities soo much. People treat me wayyyyy different than when I was thin and pretty. Before this, they talked to me. Now, I don't exist and guys want to date my friends. I'm always third wheel and it sucks so I started working out and chilling on junk food. I don't want to be like this anymore. That being said, I just protect my friends when we go out & it's absolutely never their fault. We used to all have fun and I make it a point to still be that way. I'm not staying this way. 202 is an area code, not a weight! Man! The pain, the lethargy. The treatment is worse than the disease, I swear.
The editor with the sliding in the hairy arm pit and eyes and nose, LOL! I cannot even! LOL! Bravo editor! You and Charlotte are a match made in heaven! Love it! LOL!
I once had a friend who got mad because I lost weight and became the "cute friend," so she started kind of passively-aggressively bullying me. I told her the last time that she tried to add me on Instagram that (this is what she said to me once), "No, you're too dramatic". And she came in with some stupidity about "that's really a shame. I hope you reconsider. I miss all the good times." This is after I regained my weight. Some women are just downright nasty when they're jealous, but they want to see you fall
i'd lose it and work out to look like a vs model lol
@@OSR-go5cg my boobs don't work like that. When I lost weight, they were size B lol
😅 my friend and I were on the dance floor and some random guy came up and told her he loves her confidence to come out there and dance by herself. I wasn't mad. She's beautiful.
Yh I love it when people dance by themselves at places. Not so much in a shop or restaurant but somewhere like a bar or party. I could never
@@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049 she wasn't alone lol I was dancing with her
I was out with my best friend one night and a random stepped between us to hit on her, she is engaged so even funnier. She stops him mid sentence and I'm not alone but you should leave US alone. I love her so much!
Hilarious, and relatable - my best friend and I have a mutual friend who looks like a friggin angel, we don’t even exist next to her 😂
I’ve been subscribed to you for so long now and I just have to say - going from first starting to watch you and thinking you did funny edits in your video to now knowing that they’re edited for you and are jokingly taking the piss out of you is just the BEST. I just live for your videos, waiting every day.
Never thought I’d genuinely cackle at a person in my phone all the time 🫶🏻
Oh hell no🤣 that last one would have caught some hands from me😅
I had a friend, who got mad at me for singing along as her crush played a song on guitar. It was a group of us just hanging, her crush pulls out a guitar and starts playing “I’m Yours” by Jason Mraz and we all started singing and she got so mad all of sudden and storms off. I walk over to her and ask her what was wrong and she said “can you NOT sing?!” I’m sitting there confused and asked her why she was mad that I was singing. We both had great singing abilities so I didn’t understand her frustrations until she told me that she felt like me singing with him was like I was trying to get his attention even though he clearly had feelings for her from conversations they have had up until that point. I didn’t even like him like that, I started singing because I loved the song he was playing and we were just chilling and everyone was singing along. I told her that I had no ill intentions but she wasn’t having it. She gave me the cold shoulder for the rest of the day. And I felt bad because I made her upset even though I wasn’t meaning to. We are no longer friends for multiple reasons and haven’t spoken to each other for many years.
Omg yess! I love that song too!! I don’t blame you I would have sang a long too😅 but not a lot or loud really if it were their crush I’d just plays round with my friend and encourage her to vibe to the song❤ edit: ooh no im sorry it ended by losing a friend:(
But also the whole group was singing a long so I don’t understand why she got mad but oh well🤷♀️
The Isaac and Jack convo is exactly how my youngest brother and I text. He will send me a text, I’ll respond, and then I ask how he’s doing…6 months later he’ll respond. 😂 10+ years later the conversation continues like clockwork.
I email my sister. She doesn't respond. I'll email again, because .... family. Eventually she'll respond but not answer any question I've already put to her. Occasionally she'll email me after about 12 months of total silence, but somehow makes out I'm the one ignoring her. I've given up. We're going on 6 months radio silence again, and the weird thing is, I strongly suspect her hubby won't tell me if she's A. very ill B. hospitalized or C. Passed away. I'll have to somehow guess....because the last random email I got from her (over 12 months ago) mentioned she was in pain. But from what? No answer. Nothing. Oh well. I'm on her "do not call" list because I'm not some variant of Christian based cult that she's in, anyway. Doubtless she doesn't wish to associate with a family member who has a seat reserved in hell.
Totally right bestie!!!! Queens should be fixing each other's crowns, NOT breaking them
I had a roommate for a while who would borrow my clothes. She'd ask initially, and if I said "yes" she'd take that as blanket permission for that item. It was weird. She wouldn't borrow any particular item without asking the first time, but after that it was open season on whatever it was. DROVE ME NUTS! I never could get her to understand that it was per instance, not per item lol
Watching ladies apply makeup while telling a story is mind-boggling to me. My makeup application technique hasn't changed in over 20 years. I'm always focusing on them flawlessly transforming their looks without any focus or concentration. ❤
Practice
@@phastinemoon seriously! First however, I need to learn what all the different new products do. We're talking waaaaay back in Mary Kay days when I learned to apply makeup. Now, as a working wife and mother, I rarely apply ANY makeup. Eyeliner and mascara on a good day. That's about it.
Wow. What a goal to have in life. Wishing you success.
@@deborahking5610 ha! I'd hardly call anything that has to do with makeup or fashion a goal of mine. I'm a 45yo wife and mom who works. My goals are happy and well raised capable children and a loving and successful marriage. Could not care less about makeup...I'm just fascinated at others who are so talented with it.
@@SaidiLouisemmm, okaaay, and your point is what! No one is talking about you or ragging on women who don’t wear makeup. Be confident in your priorities and keep up the good work
My best “friend” in high school told the guy I liked that I was into him in a way that made me sound creepy, so then he never spoke to me the same way again. Kept my enemies closer than I meant to 😂
In 7th grade my best friend dated my crush
Same
@@dhf161
Damn, that’s rough
She Regina George’d you.
My 'best friend' in school liked the same guy as me. I found out from him years later that one time he had wanted to ask me out, he knew she was my bestfriend and asked her if he should... she said no, she likes your best friend.... what makes it worse is that he actually asked me if he should ask her out towards the end of school. I said yes, she really likes you.
I have no regrets telling him the truth, I take pride in that I actually acted on my so-called friend's best interests even though it hurt me. I'd do it again.
When Charlotte said "Britney...We hate Britney" I was on my phone and dude I almost cried 😭 I was like WHAT DID I DO WAIT before I realized it was just the name of the girl in the story
LOL all the text threads I have from one of my cousins from the last 5 years or so. (her) "Happy birthday, Cousin" (me) "Thanks". (her) "I'll give you a call and we can go out for supper." (me) "That sounds great". Then another 12 months until it all repeats.
I thought that one was hilarious. Dude is probably doing it bc its funny to him
Truly, your editors deserve awards.
They might need to go back to math class though. LOL
@@Mewse1203 hahahaha, yes, that part was hilarious.
With the first one- I'm ugly and it does hurt being the only single one and being ignored. It hurts a lot. But that's absolutely not my friends faults. It's mine. I would never ever ever be angry. They didn't do anything wrong and honestly I'm happy they feel good.
It's not your fault either though. You didn't have control of that.
It sucks when they pay NO attention to you, they literally just wanna get inside someone else's pants 😅 meanwhile, they'll get rejected by the pretty girl only to start complaining online about why they're single 😅 men 💀
Maybe you could change your hair or style, feel better about yourself.
It's definitely not your fault either. It will probably come across like not sincere if I've never seen your face. But you are most definitely not ugly. It's society and the beauty companies that tell us that one thing is pretty and the other thing is not. So they can make money of off us. Don't believe them. I know it's easy to say that, while we live in a world that is so appearance based. But it's still a choice you make on your own. We are so much more than the way we look.
And even unique appearances are pretty receiving the right kind of love. I hope you give yourself that love. If you don't yet, please start❤. I promise you the rest will follow!
It's not your fault either. I've also always been an ugly duckling, was bullied mercilessly in school for being ugly and yet I've found true love. Someone who is actually physically attracted to me and thinks I'm physically beautiful. It's not just because he's in love with me either. You can find someone physically beautiful without being in love with them but you can only fall in love if they're beautiful on the inside. My love will see plenty of physically attractive people but still be disgusted by them because of personality. He actually likes the way I look even without his love for me. My point being that even if you truly are conventionally unattractive I'm sure it is not nearly as bad as you think it is and one day there will be someone who thinks you are physically attractive. Everybody is SOMEBODY'S type. But when that happens don't immediately throw yourself into that person's arms until A. You know they are genuinely physically attracted to you and not lying and B. Also like who you are as a person. Real love will have both of those things. In the mean time don't try to make yourself beautiful per se but just make sure everything is HEALTHY. Take good care of your skin, if you have acne or even any problems with dry skin or oily skin but no acne, make sure you're washing your face regularly and using THE RIGHT PRODUCTS. Use a face mask every now and then give your skin some love; really clear out your pores the best you can and give your face a good amount of moisture. Take good care of your hair, using all the right products and washing it as often as is necessary, and most of all getting your dry split ends trimmed away regularly so you have a healthy scalp and healthy hair. Exercise at least a little bit and eat well so you have a decent weight and overall feel good and energized and so you don't have heart problems later. Then to top it all off, put on a nice outfit and spritz on some cologne or perfume for a nice scent. Have a healthy body from head to toe and make sure you smell okay and I guarantee you'll feel attractive and BE attractive to someone.
I feel like alot of these girls create these fake conversations to tell everyone how pretty and amazing they are
Hey Charlotte, I am sending loads of love from Australia. Your comment on about toxic girls don't change hit a note with me. I was one of those toxic girls and treated my best friend like s**t. Saying that, I did grow up and my best friend (who I met my first day in kindergarten) and I are still going strong 38 years later.
toxic girlie in the last clip is definitely capable of change. everyone is capable of change. for toxic folks like that, change usually comes in the form of the rudest awakening, like devastating life events that happen to them that end up upending everything they ever knew or believed about life. something that would no doubt alter their core beliefs about themselves, the people around them, and their worldview entirely.
it’s still change. it’s just the most awful route that someone’s own stupid decisions would end up forcing themselves towards, to undergo that process. bless their souls.
I was able to grow out of being that kind of toxic. You're right, though - took a massive upending, had to go NC with my entire family that was just churning out toxic people, and then a solid 15 years of therapy that I'm still undergoing. And it's the kind of work that'll be lifelong. There's no endpoint that is "I am better, I am a good person now" - it's "I am always trying to be the best I can" (and frankly I think that is the case for almost everyone, whether or not they're that degree of toxic). The real question is whether the person wants to change and grow, and, yeah, a not insignificant number of folks like that simply don't see any reason to.
@@yulebones It's really brave to admit this. And it takes strength, vulnerability, tenacity and willingness to do so. much work in therapy. Well-done.
Yes but it's rare ins one extreme cases. I know someone who is 40 and just horrible to be around. He has no friends and all his ex girlfriends has several low self esteem and hate/hated themselves enough to be with him. No matter how much you call him out on his constantly abusive behaviour he finds himself the victim... its shocking and worrying. Idk if he will ever change. It would be nice
@@yulebones sometimes people behave badly because that's the way they've been treated elsewhere. So when they find themselves in better situations, they gradually become better, too.
You're so right about having no time to be around women that don't lift you up! Living for that ❤️
For sure. I have a friend who is always picking out things about my appearance and constantly asking me whether I'd had any longing to change. Like my height, I'm 5.0 and I've never ever been insecure about it. A day couldn't go by without her mentioning my height and putting me down for it. There was a time that she even started listing all the tall girlies, including herself and saying that they all looked better than short ones. I honestly remember feeling so low then but also conflicted because I knew that that was not a fact. I've seen so many gorgeous short ladies and I know that we're not any less than others. So I really wondered why someone would go to extra lengths to specifically put me down for this reason.
The only wanting to be with women that uplift you, absolutely touched my soul. I’m just about to turn 30 and I’m alllll about leaving that negativity in my 20s and giving myself a decade of just good vibes 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I had a toxic friend not long ago, my friends and I were a group of 6 (including her) and we all had different classes after spending lessons together the whole of secondary school, so would meet up for lunch and gossip and catch up and just enjoy each other company. This mini break from toxic friend made us realise her behaviour was actually bringing a lot of negativity (saying things like I dyed my hair blond because I needed an excuse to be dumb, constantly telling my underweight friend she was a stick, trying to force my other friend with an ED to eat bread which was a trigger for her etc) and the thing that tipped it over the edge for us was when she’d detailed the intimate stuff she did with her boyfriend at the time, I was uncomfortable with that topic at the time so asked her if she could stop and we were all eating so it made us all just loose our appetite. The day she was ill and didn’t eat with us was a real moment of clarity and we decided to wait for exams to be over before telling her we wanted a break. I was a bit of a pleaser and accepted to be the one to tell her. After that, she would side eye us and ignore us and became such a pick me always saying “girls were too much drama” and she could “never wear as much makeup as normal girls” and suddenly the guy friends she was hanging out with who were also our friends were distancing themselves. Apparently she had been telling them we just cut her off out of the blue and we were always making comments about her trying to censor her (we just told her we didn’t like the stuff she had been saying or the nicknames she had given us when were friends) anyway, we have matured now and are civil when our big group of like 30 people meet up.
I remember going out with my best friend one night. It was a somber evening. I had called off my engagement and this was the day we were supposed to get married. No one was talking to me..I asked her "What is going on?" She said "Well, you look REAL unhappy" 😆😆😆 Thanks, bestie...you're right. We are still best friends 28 years later!
I love the "merry Christmas, happy birthday" story. That's just.... too cute.
Outdoor cat socializing.
Probably a bot
I’m sending ALL POSITIVE VIBES you way girl! You get that makeup and hair team QUEEN! 🫶🏻❤️
Jacks been unalived😂😂😂😂 they’re trying to convince family and friends that he’s still out there! Just for Jack 🤣
I'm glad I get to watch something that makes me laugh because I just got done digging out a mother dog and a puppies 7 survived from a ditch that caved in. I heard the mother dog yelping and crying when I went over I realized it was more than just her where she was and I started digging found two puppies I dug some more for about 2 hours and found all seven of them only six of the puppies are alive though it made me ball my eyes out but I have the mother dog and the other six here and I'm going to finish taking care of them until the pups are old enough they're approximately one week old! So thank you Charlotte for brightening up my day!🎉🎊😊🤗🍻 OUR PETTY QUEEN 💅💅
You are an angel! Thank you.
What a day! Being a badass saving momma and puppies AND getting a new potato queen video! Do you have any idea how they were buried? I hope it was an accident and no one buried them purposefully. Hoping they all find glorious forever homes.
@@dawnchesbro4189 I think somebody threw the mother dog out knowing that she was pregnant, she dug the den from what I could tell...but apparently it had caved in. I went for a walk on the trail by my dad's house and I heard her yelping and I went over and looked and that's when I noticed she was halfway buried I turn around and I ran back up to my dad's house I grabbed a shovel and a spade and I started digging her out and as I started digging by the side of her where her legs were buried she got a little Snappy with me and I realized something was up and that's when I heard the little pups crying they were up under her, like where tree roots were and I just kept digging and digging and digging until I got them all out only one didn't make it!
Hero ❤
@@BrianAndresScott Thankyou! I just did what I would want somebody to do for me.💞💞
My flabbers are ghasted is my new favorite saying.
Loved this video Charlotte❣️ Being your best you and lifting up other women not tearing them down is the best motto to live by ❤
Charlotte’s advice here is excellent. Listen ladies. True wisdom here.
My home is my safe place, especially my bedroom. The idea of having a stranger living in there without my knowledge would absolutely kill me. I would never be able to stay there. I would have to move. Changing locks would not ease my anxiety.
I think the chick that let this dude live in her house I'd have to have some serious deep cleaning done and throw away the bed because God only knows what went on there. I would have to sue this friend for subletting my house.
Same!❤ Strata council members often come over to "talk" (I'm not even on the strata council). I say sure... and then step out into the hall. They give me a look like... "You're not going to invite me in???" NOPE!!! It's the only space I have that is mine, private, safe, that I can control.
I had a "pick me" friend. I was always one of the guys & hung out with more dudes than females. This "friend" pushed me into the deep end of a pool because the guy she liked was talking to me. I couldn't swim & she knew I was terrified of water. Woke up to paramedics. Sadly, I believed it was an accident for 4 more years 🤦🏼♀️
Holy f .... I imagine realising it wasn't an accident was extremely traumatic :/
Yikes! She's got half the screws loose😮
Two traumas from one terrible friend. I hope you are doing better all round now.
I love you Charlotte!!! Thank you for brightening my really sucky day ♥️💜🫶🏻♥️💜
I was that ugly friend that hung out with the popular girls. My friends were great towards me and always wanted me to come, but it was obvious to me that others, especially the guys did not want me there. My first high school crush had his friends give me his number and they texted me and strung me along for a while until they then blew up in my face that they were just fucking with me, cause who was I to crush on this guy!.... yeah.. but never once did I ever blame my girls for that! It gave me a solid lesson about not falling for looks, but I never held it against my friends that they were waaaay prettier than me! I admired them for their beauty, their kindness and their abilities to not be super awkward around other people. We eventually grew apart later in life and I have different friends now, but I still remember those girls fondly. They were my best friends for the first 11 years of school life. We were split up in year 11, and by year 12 we all had new friend groups. But those girls are still drop dead gorgeous and so kind people. I see their mothers every now and then as they both moved away to different cities after high school, but I always make sure to be kind to their mothers who were also amazing to me.
I got the slight bit of pick me/im not like the other girls later on while trying to figure out who post-highschool me was, but it thankfully only lasted a short while! And I still never degraded any friends of mine for my own issues!!
The one thing I'll never do is call myself ugly. I may not be pretty to others, but I'll be damn if I'm not pretty to myself. It took me years to build my confidence to feel the way I feel and no one can take that from me now. You should compare yourself to others you are awesome in your own right.
Yes hunny❤❤❤ genuinely I hope everybody knows they are pretty,beautiful, gorgeous, cute, handsome, fine etc because there’s someone for everyone out there, I just feel like we set our sights on certain people that never reciprocate but we need to remember!!! Not everybody is gonna feel the same about you but you ALWAYS will be right there for yourself so give yourself a break! We are all ourselves and that’s beautiful in itself.
if that's your pic, I think you're beautiful!
@7:56 "I BEG YOUR FINEST PARDON?" 😂😅😂😅😂 I'M DYING!! 😂❤😅
"My flabbers are gasted" lol I heard Beyond Beautiful say that the other day and about lost it. So funny. Sooo gasted lol the flabbers. 😂😂😂
I LOVEEEE THESES types of videoooosss
PLEASE KEEP DOING MORE OF TOXIC FRIENDDDSSS
Have only watched first story but here goes - A long time ago I had a friend who was a literal pagent queen (6' 2", blonde, blue eyes think southern Belle beautiful). I was and still am a pretty good looking lady (pretty tall, light brown hair, brown eyes and a bit ethnic looking i.e. Italian). I absolutely loved going out with pagent queen!! Guys would line up by the dozen to get to her. She could only talk to so many at one time. I'd just sit there and smile and before I knew it I had plenty of guys to talk to. LOL
It always worked out and I was never jealous of her and it never effected our friendship. Being comfortable with who you are and how you look is always a game changer! Know your worth ladies and don't let anybody else decide it for you. ❤
It maybe looks that attracts the attention but the personality keeps the friendship.
This. There's a lot of people who have good looks and somehow think that's enough. It's not. Some of the prettiest or most handsome people I've met had the worst personalities. Most of them genuinely didn't understand why no one wanted to be around them. Some of most truly beautiful people I've met didn't necessarily have outstanding exterior beauty. It was their incredible inner beauty that shone so brightly you couldn't help but find them beautiful.
When I was younger my best friend would give me these slight nasty comments that I didn’t realize were so bad til years later.
When I had a guy I liked who said he liked me back she told me “Your looks got the guy, now you actually have to have the personality to keep him” 💀 I’ve always had my own interests and personality so it was such an off comment.
I was besties with a pick me girl all throughout high school and for a few years after. We would go to the mall and she would comment on every guy and how annoyed she was with them staring at her. Then whenever one of these guys would approach us, she’d get so mad at me because they always ended up talking to me. I’m a complete introvert and never demanded the attention but she would make me feel so guilty. Safe to say, we are no longer friends
Babies love Charlotte. Me and the grandson watched together and every time he is just soooo captivated. It speaks volumes of how amazing Charlotte (is)*.
Agreed. My son loves watching her too. 😂
@@QueenRavanna13 il a quel âge ton fils tata 😊
Tatie Charlotte je t'aimes très fort 😊😊❤
Je veux un cœur aussi tatie Charlotte 😊😊
Il est 18h00 heurs dans mon pays actuellement qu'elle heure est au États-Unis je me demande 😊😊
I had a pick me friend. Her way of beating me down was to bring up the only 2 boys who ever chose her over me every time I spoke to her for years. Needless to say, I don’t talk to her anymore. Who needs that annoyance?
I'm so glad me and my friend got through our middle school drama before it got to a point where we cut each other out for good. Life is so much better as teammates!
What you said at the end of your show is so true I am 66 years old and they don’t change. It best not to waste your time and energy on them and live your best lives.
The pick me people I've known have actually been guys. A guy I dated was so insecure and toxic that he tore down me and everyone around me to try to keep & control me. I still refer to that ex as The Little Bitch when I think/ talk about him (which is not often). 😂🙄
I had an ex who told me 'You're getting old' as a control thing, like I couldn't do any better and should move him into my place. I was 28! I had to get him out of my life.
It's interesting how so many guys think treating or saying terrible things to a girl to keep her around is a good strategy. Acting like you hate me or everything about me is the number one way to repel me, not bring me closer. Dumb, dumb, dumb.
@@nekk-ra7080 I agree, it's a dumb strategy. It may work for a while but eventually, it will be the exact thing that drives the person away. I'm sure there are women who do it too, unfortunately.
The whole “pick me” toxicity is so draining. You feel like you’re constantly having to feed their ego, to make them feel good about themselves. I’ve also had bfriends that had that narcissistic “lead character syndrome”. If there isn’t any drama happening around them, they make the drama, and if you are the closest one, you get the crap. A long time ago I decided that any “friend” that felt like they had to “one-up” me every time I said something about my life, then I was to get out of that conversation and potential friendship as quickly as possible. Because that is usually your first red flag.
I HAD a pick me friend. When we were in HS, she made a move on a guy that she knew I had serious feelings for. She then worked her way into a friend group where she complained to me and the others girls that the guys in the group only saw her as a "friend." She THEN went after the guy my BFF was dating and wormed herself into a "special friendship" with him. Then I got married. She did not come to the wedding, though invited. She couldn't believe that I was getting married before her. After 10 years I got a divorce. A mutual friend was getting married and I asked the bride if I could bring a plus one. The bride said yes, but this chick went off the deep end. She said things like, "why does SHE get all the male attention?" "She's been married, divorced, and now she has a boyfriend?" The bride told me that this girl lost her sh*t. To the point, I did not bring my BF as to make life easier for the bride. How insecure do you have to be to find glee in someone's down times and pure anger in their up times?
Oh, Ms Charlotte- You have absolutely no idea just how much I love you & your videos. I’m so sick- stuck at home waiting to go back into hospital, you have made me laugh & kept me sane. Thank you my beautiful potato Queen, love from England ❤🥔👸
I had a “best friend” just like that first one in high school. She was extremely self conscious about her weight and appearance and would get mad at me when the guys she liked, didn’t like her back and instead liked me (her words to me, not speculation). And because I was on the thinner side, she spread a huge rumor that I was anorexic and caught me doing anorexic “activities” (I absolutely wasn’t btw. I was just eating healthy and watching my weight, and working out more to prepare for basic training because I joined the National Guard Junior year). The rumor got so out of control, the school counselor pulled me out of class to talk to me about it. The whole thing was so frustrating and embarrassing because everyone in the school was talking about it, and people would shove food in my face and expect me to “prove” I wasn’t anorexic by eating. So if I turned down random food people gave me they thought that was the proof I was…
I stopped being friends with her after that.
this video just made me realize the my ex bff was a toxic pick me girl, i pulled away and cut the friendship because i didnt have the mental or emotional bandwidth to keep it going, there were times i felt like i carried the whole relationship myself, now i understand why.
i kept telling myself that "last charlotte dobre video, then i be productive" but i kept coming back. this is a huuuge safe place, where i feel all of my stress just evaporate.
Charlotte, I just love how boss babe wholesome you choose to he ❤
The girl with the appartment problem, needs to go over the appartment with a fine tooth comb. Not just for cameras, but for microphones. Has she checked the vents, and the shower drain for cameras? Also, if she has a computer, check the ENTIRE computer for "stuff that dont belong there". WIPE IT AS MUCH AS SHE CAN. Change the passwords for the router. If her phone is connected to the computer, reset the phone. Just, change EVERYTHING that has a code. I dont know what she can do if he has "cloned" any of her tech. Can she check if he has a criminal record ??? That can be a good thing to do. Check her "friends" criminal record too. She might have things "on" her, that you dont know. I dont think shes gonna keep being friends with that girl, so she might as well know.
I don’t attend group events when I know that someone who I don’t care to be around will be there. I’m not wasting a moment of my time with someone who I don’t like. Took me many years to realize that some people are just energy vampires. Life is short, spend time with people who bring good energy.
Energy is highly contagious as well, we are the sum of the 5 people we hang around the most. This is exactly how everyone should move, keep your energy safe.
Tbh, I think most of my friends are a lot better than me in more ways than one. And ofc I feel jealous, but never ugly jealous. Like, "oh wow friend X is really gorg in that dress while I'd probably look like a suffocated burrito with that" then . But just to that extent, and then forget about it while I have fun with them. I've never really thought bad about them, nor do I feel very bad about myself. I feel like it's just normal that other people would be better than you. And, at the end of the day, the thought of "man, I'm friends with such a pretty/well-connected/smart/nice person" would ring louder than any self-hate or envy.
Also, props to my friends too for they never made me feel ugly, or unwanted. 👌
I think the first young woman was actually a sweetheart for NOT taking her “friend’s” envy as an opportunity to flex. Her instincts were kind. And while her “friend” was being ridiculous, I know what that sort of envy feels like and it is painful. My choice was to redefine my feelings as MY problem, never to share those feelings with their object, and getting therapy to gain control over my self-image. I hope the insecure friend can ultimately do the same.
I had 'friends' like this when I was younger, one hated that I had boobs, one hated that I did better in exams, it's ridiculous. One used to bad mouth me in advance to people because she was scared they might like me. There will always be people who are different to you, that have things you don't (that they might not even want themselves). The jealous types will hate you even if your life is in turmoil, for the ONE thing you might have that they want, cut those fuckers out.
Friends only want good for you and would not begrudge you anything good. Being jealous of friends is madness, those are meant to be the people you care about, and if they're good to you appreciate that!
On the first one, I too can sympathize with her friend. It sucks being the one who always sees someone close to you having lots of friends or people who gravitate to them, but not you. I have autism and for me it has always been hard to make friends or be in a social setting. I have had very few people I've clicked with in my life and for some reason, they always had everyone loving them and saying how great they were, whilst I was just there feeling like I'd never account for anything or no one ever bothered to see my way. It's a horrible feeling. You feel like the other persons shadow.
Still. It won't help being mad at someone they get all that love and attention, but you don't ...so I think that was WAY too much, but I can understand where they both are coming from 😭
The most upsetting thing about that first one is that she had 284 UNREAD MESSAGES!!! I can’t cope! How can she see that number in red on her phone & just be like ‘yeah………maybe I’ll look at that later……..’😳😳😳 I have a panic attack if there’s more than 1! 🤣🤣🤣
It’s very distressing. I completely get it. 😂😂I’m the same!
I get if it's from someone you know is a drama queen, but still, what if there was an emergency? That would bother me.
😂 I didn't realize that was a thing. I have 100s too. I thought everyone did.
I used to feel that way too, but I’m totally flipped, now. You get a message for 2-factor authentication. You get a message you used your credit card. You get a message from rewards programs, carryouts, host stands. Prescriptions, deliveries, spam, utilities. They all text you now. You can read these w/o “opening” them & they add up fast. It’s not even worth the energy to open them all. It doesn’t mean you don’t message your friends back or anything. There’s just no point! Have a mass delete session every once in a while & it’s good 😊👌🏼
Personally that's part of my social anxiety, I look and reply to my messages once every two weeks. 😂❤
Charlotte, your dress you chose was absolutely gorgeous. I LOVE the color!!! I like blue and greens a lot. I hope you had a wonderful time. You looked so beautiful ❤