The illness identity is the biggest challenge i have had providing therapy to kids and teens over the past 10 years. That and self diagnosis as well as so much wrong info ppl get online. I often have to spend the first few sessions just correcting bad info ppl got from tik tok or youtube. Also parents are afraid as many clincians to share their beliefs with providers on gender stuff. I had a mom meet with me and with such trepidation share beliefs on sex and gender that most ppl hold. When i shared my beliefs about it with her and my approach to treating it my phone has not stopped ringing. She told every parent she knows and they told their friends. Its not even that all of them jave children with gender issues. They just have kids who need help but dont want them in a room alone with anyone who believes the current gender nonsense
I think it's the algorithm that's doing it-maximizing clickiness 24/7/365-and the isolation of generations online. Kids have said stupid things before, but they couldn't grow for years out of sight without some adult overhearing it and going, "Uh nope, sorry. Not the case." What's lacking almost completely online is cross-generational mentorship, and the engagement algorithms are a nightmare.
"negative emotions are not a disease" In the last 10 years I've noticed a massive increase in teenagers who say that anxiety and depression are an issue. They are talking about being nervous and sad. They really think normal human emotions are a sign that something is wrong with them. And they're encouraged to ruminate by schools.
Objectively there are many real life reasons why they are experiencing higher rates of anxiousness and sadness. Gen X saw it too. They weren't sick, they were aware.
@tonyhoffman3309 No. Not objectively at all. I live in Spain, it has the second most mass graves after Cambodia. Their grandparents and great grandparents lived through far far harder times. By every objective measure going. Ppl clearly aren't aware of how we're in the easiest period of human History that has ever existed. Subjectively they're all suffering incredible pain but objectively they aren't. They are just ruminating on identity and how they feel. Then opting out of every part of life that makes ppl feel better from relationships to work. They've been told normal human experience is a major issue. Puberty needs medicating or even preventing. Meanwhile outside of the developed world these mental health issues are near unheard of. Young people in Rwanda can cope but in the Anglosphere they fall to pieces with the meerest confrontation of their false ideals. What exactly are your objective reasons for everyone feeling anxious?
@@robertmarshall2502 young people in Japan and Korea also "fall to pieces" as you put it, you should tell them that young people in Rwanda can cope so they should too, that their grandparents survived wars so they shouldn't be anxious or sad since whatever they're experiencing is nothing compared to what previous generations endured
@@robertmarshall2502 you act like ACEs or being bullied aren't objective reasons, then you should advocate that developed countries dismantle psychotherapy and just send kids to Rwanda, since previous generations lived through far far harder times
@@FruityHachi Young people in Japan and Korea fall to pieces largely due to this internet culture. Those are great examples of incredibly rich developed countries where objectively there aren't many issues but spiralling into internet echo chambers creates issues such as the famous Japanese people who never leave their home. They are usually supported by wealthy parents who enable this destructive behaviour. Meanwhile grandparents live well past their 80s. They 100% would benefit from fewer enablers like yourself and more ppl saying pull yourself together and not accepting that behaviour. Or they can continue to fail to make meaningful connections and live online. I think you think having some basic perspective is a bad thing. Learning about human strength and perseverance is a great idea for young ppl. Plenty of young ppl spent a year in a less fortunate country and learnt a lot, improving their outlook. But of course I didn't say "send them all to Rwanda". You invented that in your mind. I've no idea what you're referring to with "ACEs" (asexuals?) and if you think modern bullying is remotely like the past then I think you're off your rocker. Cyberbullying is worse than it was because it barely existed. But it's easily avoided with parental guidance. In terms of face to face then calling someone a leprechaun or saying someone smells of fish gets the police involved in the UK (look it up). Otherwise I don't think you really confronted my outlook at all. It just sounded like this hit a nerve for you and you crumbled into fragility. I'll refer you to the question I asked that went unanswered, what objective reasons are there for feeling more anxious today than in the past such as during the cold War? I also think you just invented a different approach than I have to normal human emotions and you favour hysterical over protection. Being sad is normal. Being nervous is normal. Ruminating on it is a terrible idea. Pathologizing it is a terrible idea. Kids need to learn that puberty isn't an easy time but it will pass. That these feelings are universal. That there is nothing wrong with those feelings but that you have to learn to appreciate what you have. What exactly is your problem with that approach? Because you just seemed to knee-jerk to strawmanning me as saying let's deport sad ppl to Rwanda.
This is my major concern as within the education system continuing emotional evaluation is promoted in SEL programs. This likely has the effect of giving a spade to a child in a hole. Abigail Shrier has a point. It also gives bad therapists access to emotionally vunerable minds
It's interesting how, now that the first results of studies like 'What is a Woman?' and the Trans issue is emerging, voices from Celebrities and other radical feminists have gone silent. They were so loud on every platform, spreading confusion, but now they've disappeared. I hope they're held accountable and face justice.
@@tonyhoffman3309 Exactly, I was looking for this comment. Mainstream media, Hollywood and the music industry has been pushing gay/queer lifestyles/ideology for decades, going back to the 1960's.
Parents have a moral obligation to protect and guide their children against things like broadcast television, advertising, social media, Popular Culture, and Internet access to certain websites. That Popular Culture includes trends like that spoke of in this video. If there is no viable market deliberately targeting children, then it simply will not be successful. This is Logic 101.
The terms paralysis and fatigue are different names for the same (normally post-viral) condition: people are not expressing differently but are labeled differently. Often so that a “professional” can build a career
Yes it is & people know that but everywhere I go I see toddlers barely big enough to hold a phone on their parent's devices. That's on parents. Squarely on their parents. These kids are addicted before they're out of diapers.
The illness identity is the biggest challenge i have had providing therapy to kids and teens over the past 10 years. That and self diagnosis as well as so much wrong info ppl get online. I often have to spend the first few sessions just correcting bad info ppl got from tik tok or youtube.
Also parents are afraid as many clincians to share their beliefs with providers on gender stuff. I had a mom meet with me and with such trepidation share beliefs on sex and gender that most ppl hold. When i shared my beliefs about it with her and my approach to treating it my phone has not stopped ringing. She told every parent she knows and they told their friends. Its not even that all of them jave children with gender issues. They just have kids who need help but dont want them in a room alone with anyone who believes the current gender nonsense
It’s an agenda against reality. Keep up the fight.
I think it's the algorithm that's doing it-maximizing clickiness 24/7/365-and the isolation of generations online. Kids have said stupid things before, but they couldn't grow for years out of sight without some adult overhearing it and going, "Uh nope, sorry. Not the case." What's lacking almost completely online is cross-generational mentorship, and the engagement algorithms are a nightmare.
Parents also feel disempowered so they dont just say “no.”
I'll take a full day seminar from this guy pls
"negative emotions are not a disease"
In the last 10 years I've noticed a massive increase in teenagers who say that anxiety and depression are an issue. They are talking about being nervous and sad. They really think normal human emotions are a sign that something is wrong with them. And they're encouraged to ruminate by schools.
Objectively there are many real life reasons why they are experiencing higher rates of anxiousness and sadness. Gen X saw it too. They weren't sick, they were aware.
@tonyhoffman3309 No. Not objectively at all. I live in Spain, it has the second most mass graves after Cambodia. Their grandparents and great grandparents lived through far far harder times. By every objective measure going.
Ppl clearly aren't aware of how we're in the easiest period of human History that has ever existed. Subjectively they're all suffering incredible pain but objectively they aren't. They are just ruminating on identity and how they feel. Then opting out of every part of life that makes ppl feel better from relationships to work.
They've been told normal human experience is a major issue. Puberty needs medicating or even preventing. Meanwhile outside of the developed world these mental health issues are near unheard of. Young people in Rwanda can cope but in the Anglosphere they fall to pieces with the meerest confrontation of their false ideals.
What exactly are your objective reasons for everyone feeling anxious?
@@robertmarshall2502 young people in Japan and Korea also "fall to pieces" as you put it, you should tell them that young people in Rwanda can cope so they should too, that their grandparents survived wars so they shouldn't be anxious or sad since whatever they're experiencing is nothing compared to what previous generations endured
@@robertmarshall2502 you act like ACEs or being bullied aren't objective reasons, then you should advocate that developed countries dismantle psychotherapy and just send kids to Rwanda, since previous generations lived through far far harder times
@@FruityHachi Young people in Japan and Korea fall to pieces largely due to this internet culture. Those are great examples of incredibly rich developed countries where objectively there aren't many issues but spiralling into internet echo chambers creates issues such as the famous Japanese people who never leave their home. They are usually supported by wealthy parents who enable this destructive behaviour. Meanwhile grandparents live well past their 80s. They 100% would benefit from fewer enablers like yourself and more ppl saying pull yourself together and not accepting that behaviour. Or they can continue to fail to make meaningful connections and live online.
I think you think having some basic perspective is a bad thing. Learning about human strength and perseverance is a great idea for young ppl. Plenty of young ppl spent a year in a less fortunate country and learnt a lot, improving their outlook. But of course I didn't say "send them all to Rwanda". You invented that in your mind.
I've no idea what you're referring to with "ACEs" (asexuals?) and if you think modern bullying is remotely like the past then I think you're off your rocker. Cyberbullying is worse than it was because it barely existed. But it's easily avoided with parental guidance. In terms of face to face then calling someone a leprechaun or saying someone smells of fish gets the police involved in the UK (look it up).
Otherwise I don't think you really confronted my outlook at all. It just sounded like this hit a nerve for you and you crumbled into fragility.
I'll refer you to the question I asked that went unanswered, what objective reasons are there for feeling more anxious today than in the past such as during the cold War?
I also think you just invented a different approach than I have to normal human emotions and you favour hysterical over protection. Being sad is normal. Being nervous is normal. Ruminating on it is a terrible idea. Pathologizing it is a terrible idea. Kids need to learn that puberty isn't an easy time but it will pass. That these feelings are universal. That there is nothing wrong with those feelings but that you have to learn to appreciate what you have.
What exactly is your problem with that approach? Because you just seemed to knee-jerk to strawmanning me as saying let's deport sad ppl to Rwanda.
This is my major concern as within the education system continuing emotional evaluation is promoted in SEL programs. This likely has the effect of giving a spade to a child in a hole. Abigail Shrier has a point. It also gives bad therapists access to emotionally vunerable minds
What are SEL programs?
It's interesting how, now that the first results of studies like 'What is a Woman?' and the Trans issue is emerging, voices from Celebrities and other radical feminists have gone silent. They were so loud on every platform, spreading confusion, but now they've disappeared. I hope they're held accountable and face justice.
It was mostly just a way to win "virtue points" with the left by signaling support for a complex issue that very few people actually understand.
This has been snowballing for years.
Decades, and well before "social media"
@tonyhoffman3309 SM just exacerbated it. Someone needs to figure out how to use SM to turn it all around.
@@tonyhoffman3309 Exactly, I was looking for this comment. Mainstream media, Hollywood and the music industry has been pushing gay/queer lifestyles/ideology for decades, going back to the 1960's.
@@tubester4567 LGB has nothing to do with T, if you're against anything that isn't straight then that says about you
Parents have a moral obligation to protect and guide their children against things like broadcast television, advertising, social media, Popular Culture, and Internet access to certain websites. That Popular Culture includes trends like that spoke of in this video. If there is no viable market deliberately targeting children, then it simply will not be successful. This is Logic 101.
Why didn't the techie team give him a clicker to forward through the slides?
The terms paralysis and fatigue are different names for the same (normally post-viral) condition: people are not expressing differently but are labeled differently. Often so that a “professional” can build a career
Yes it is & people know that but everywhere I go I see toddlers barely big enough to hold a phone on their parent's devices. That's on parents. Squarely on their parents. These kids are addicted before they're out of diapers.
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