This couldn't have come at a better time; I've recently started a body recomp and I'm worried I will have body dysmorphia issues as I had them when I was younger, I've never tried working on my relationship with my body / viewing it more positively. This is going to help so much. Thank you thank you thank you.
The end had my crying :( I've been in ED recovery for a year now and I feel soo much better, I actually now find that my body "suits" me better, in a way, bc it looks excentric, small and funny (just like I am haha) : that's a good way to kill your ego as well, seeing your body as living and weird and funny, instead of such a serious thing. Anyways thank you for ur words ! And you do look so hot and so cool
hi keara!! i dont usually comment on these but i just wanted to say that i really appreciate the podcasts and the videos u post!!! this year ive been especially struggling with mental health and self image among other things so right now im just really trying to get out of that. watching your vids while i play video games or do chores is super relaxing and you share some really helpful advice, so once again, tysm!!!!!!!
wearing looser clothing is interesting because i feel like the worse i feel about my body, the looser clothes i wear because i don't want to be seen. so for me, becoming more comfortable with my body includes getting comfortable wearing clothes that are more fitted and allow people to see what my body looks like (to a degree)
I can definitely relate, like at the start of the school year I would always wear baggy sweaters and sweatpants because I was pretty insecure about myself, but then during the middle of the school year I got more confident and started wearing tank-tops. After my grandma died however, my confidence and happiness plummeted and I started wearing hoodies more. Recently tho, I do love myself more but I’m not fully happy with my body, I still feel just a bit uncomfortable. Sry this was long lol
thank you for this. dealing with chronic illness, CSA and emotional and religious trauma based around my sexuality, my body image and presentation really makes loving and appreciating my body hard, but I am ready to start caring for it now ❤❤
ive been struggling with my body image forever(being non binary I think made it worse) and it intensified the past year and I'm in the progress of getting better even though sometimes the thoughts come up and I even had a dream this week that I was fat and I was so upset during the dream so the thought will come back during recovery it's how u deal w it that counts love u smmm keara I don't think u understand how much ur vids mean to me I hope all the stars align for u💗💗💗💗💗 much love
Thank you so much for sharing, I completely get you. You're so right that the thoughts sometimes come up when you're ready to heal them :) Proud of you!!! (also I get the nonbinary / body image struggle... I'm making an episode about it) xxx
@@KearaGraves yess ill be waiting for it. that topic is not much talked about its easy to misplace the dissatisfaction between ur gender and ur body. I'm sooo proud of u too uve come a long way and I know it wasn't easy
Your podcasts are helping me so much on my healing journey and they are soo relaxing to watch/listen to 🥰 I want to thank you for all that you do, and this video is exactly what I needed to hear 🙏 And I'm looking forward to your healing journey podcasts that are to come 😊 Blessed be! Stay wonderful and filled with magic! 💕
I really needed that. This video made me feel so much better about my progress. Because I constantly try to make my relationship with my body better and I always think it's not enough and then I look in the mirror and hate how I look. But I try my best and that's enough. And as time goes it will just get better❤
I feel that. The journey is sooo tumultuous at times and sometimes it does feel like we’re going backward, but trust me, we’re doing soooo good❤ Proud of you xxxx
Thank you for being you. Your confidence, self love & acceptance really inspire me. I love that your spiritual too because I don't feel silly for believing in that stuff. This advice was super thoughtful and helpful. It made me sad because I know I am not very nice to myself all the time, but also happy because I feel really seen. I'm so glad I watched this.
vibing with you while you sang! as a final note today, your podcast and attitude has helped me not obsess so much about the negative and intrusive thoughts. i used to really obsess and fall into negative self-talk all the time. and now, it has literally cut in half. i just feel like you're my support team, life coach lol. but seriously.
This is what we're getting and that's fine. :) An unhealthy relationship with the mirror is what you've described and more. When the self-hatred gets even a second of breath, it spirals. Every time. I've gotten better. I eat whatever the fuck I want. I wear whatever brings comfort. I keep the most toxic platforms severed from my internet routine. Most of all I avoid mirror checks. Choosing who you socialize with in life makes a difference too. The current problem I face is that in many social circles, there are certain people who don't let the others choose. They gatekeep, they slander and they divide ... how people feel about themselves becomes irrelevant in their eyes and when they wield authority, everyone suffers. If you disengage, you're painted as scum and they harness social media to do it. And they are relentless in monopolizing conversation time so no one can adequately counter them with a positive message. You can of course move to a different town to make new friends, but that costs money. Words mean things, when we say them to other people and when we say them to ourselves. I just wish more people could see that.
this episode is beautiful and so raw. i struggled with body image and do at times because my waistline is different on my right side than my left side. i had scoliosis, so my back straightened out, but that difference in my curves has made me insecure at times. also, my bottom, my goodness. i stopped exercising because i've been so busy studying and my butt is so flat and is something i frown upon now lmao (basically nonexistent), back when i was an athlete, it had a little voom to it lol. but anyways, that was awkward but yeah, love ya Keara. hope you're healing well!
Men can definitely suffer from body image issues, too, but I think it’s much worse for women. It’s great that Lavren supports you in your quest to move beyond such self-inflicted unhappiness.
Whenever my friends trauma dump with each other or I watch these types of videos, I realize how much us girls have all lived the same lives 😭 it’s sad but comforting and validating to know that we are not alone in our trauma. This is also why it’s important to talk about these things !! I was raised to be a people pleaser and value appearances/fitting in especially coming from an immigrant family. I developed an ED by age 12. I was extremely anorexic and then a few years passed and being curvy was in. I wish I could go back and give myself a hug lol
Many thanks Keara , your tips are very complète and easy to understand, but yes, from a long time i hate my body, i don't know how to respect myself more, because some People are more important than me, thanks again, i really love you deep❤❤❤❤❤
You inspired me to start a body image tik tok page! Thank you so much, I already had a page on mental health and a poem I wrote on body image, but this seems like a new beginning! Ive been subcribed for 5 years now and at first it was because I was figuring out my sexuality, but now im out and so much more myself, its crazy how things change! ❤❤
When I buy clothes, I buy ladies skinny jeans, one size bigger for comfort Keara❤ Feminine textures and colours are more pleasant then men’s clothes ❤ I love lilac colours❤ Lol&c from Petra
Hey Keara. I just wanted to say thank you for all your videos. Yes they are lighthearted and fun but I really learn a lot from you. I’m still closeted but your videos help me. Once my grade went on a 2 night excursion and my best friend and I were sharing a bed. Btw I go to an all girls school. She touched me in ways I didn’t want her to touch me and she kissed me. I didn’t like it. I thought about you and everything you said to tell someone your sexual preferences and I told her I didn’t want that. I still see her a a friend . I always have. I didn’t tell any of my family because they’re homophobic and she would never accept that I like girls. I have told some of my close friends and since then they’ve always been there or me in all the uncomfortable situations I’ve been in. All you tell us about also helps me. Thank you so much. I’ll always cherish you. ❤
Hey love, I’m sorry that uncomfortable experience happened but I’m so proud of you for speaking up!💛 I’m honoured to help you along your journey in any way possible. Take care of yourself. xxx
First of all….you don’t “need” makeup, your skin is flawless, creamy and you have the sweetest beauty marks perfectly positioned on that beautiful face (actually your beautiful body) of yours. Second. What ?? No AC. Girl. And 3rd…does Ren speak Celsius or Fahrenheit?? 🤣🤣😘
When i was younger I had realllly bad body issues, and they got better, but recently I've gained more weight and now there back. Ive felt so much shame talking about it, but this video helped out a lot with that. Also if you have experience with it, do you think you could talk about how to be yourself and feel condfident with who you are?
Yesss plss do a video on your gender journey, please and also how your relationship is with your gender as someone who loves women and nonbinary people!!? Because I'm also non-binary and I also love women and non-binary people, but sometimes I get confused if I consider myself or even a lesbian. But yeah, sometimes it's crazy for me to see masc androgynous lesbian women know that their women and not non-binary. Get me? Like how do some masc ppl & androgynous women feel good about identifying as a women and how do they know they are not non-binary. I'm asking this because like I want to experience a sapphic lesbian relationship but I also don't think I'm a woman like I don't feel like a woman or man. I'm wondering how other people who are masc still feel comfortable and good and comfortable identifying as a woman, but it feels so wrong to me or weird and uncomfty you know? Even though sometimes in my expression, I am feminine, I guess. Yeah like really curious on how some people still feel like women idek how to explain its anymore lol. But please give advice.
I feel like this podcast is litarally a safe space! I just came out as gender fluid! And im using she-they pronouns now! So when I come to this podcast I feel like I can finally feel seen! Luv ya n stuff 💕❤️💕
Hey Keara me and my partner just got together but it's long distance. They live like 14 hours away. How do we make it work? Could you make a video about it? I'm 15 btw
Our body relationships heals also when we feed our bodies well/healthy for example how are you gonna convince u love your body when u don't take care good care of it and just feed it trash and poison??, our subsconcious mind is smart, it's not Gonna believe it😁
I am a 44 year old lesbian introvert who is single. I live in San Francisco. I will never be able to get a date if I cannot get the courage to talk to a woman in the first place. When approaching females you are interested in what are you supposed to say? Give me some good lines. The last time I was in a relationship was over 10 years ago. I tried internet dating but I get all the toxic girls who only want money or sex.
I am a little sissy girl transgender and a bisexual un👭🧑🤝🧑🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈💜💙🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸♀️♀️⚧️♂️♂️🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🌸
So weird: as a trans girl I have the body to which many might aspire (5'9", thin, androgynous; like many models), but I would dearly love to be short and curvy; even plump, but cannot gain weight. Great video, as I have come to expect! 🖤🤍💜
This couldn't have come at a better time; I've recently started a body recomp and I'm worried I will have body dysmorphia issues as I had them when I was younger, I've never tried working on my relationship with my body / viewing it more positively. This is going to help so much. Thank you thank you thank you.
You're sooo welcome ❤ Sending you so much love!!!
The end had my crying :( I've been in ED recovery for a year now and I feel soo much better, I actually now find that my body "suits" me better, in a way, bc it looks excentric, small and funny (just like I am haha) : that's a good way to kill your ego as well, seeing your body as living and weird and funny, instead of such a serious thing. Anyways thank you for ur words ! And you do look so hot and so cool
Awww i’m so proud of the work you’re doing!❤ xxx
Thank you so much keara, a video from you was the thing i needed today, hope you are having a good day
Aw so sweet. Tbh i just woke up bc i was up all night w/ anxiety😢 Feeling better now though. Sending love❤
hi keara!! i dont usually comment on these but i just wanted to say that i really appreciate the podcasts and the videos u post!!! this year ive been especially struggling with mental health and self image among other things so right now im just really trying to get out of that. watching your vids while i play video games or do chores is super relaxing and you share some really helpful advice, so once again, tysm!!!!!!!
Ahh love that you just have my voice in the background while doing your tasks💕 Thx for listening & I’m rooting for you on your recovery journey! :)
wearing looser clothing is interesting because i feel like the worse i feel about my body, the looser clothes i wear because i don't want to be seen. so for me, becoming more comfortable with my body includes getting comfortable wearing clothes that are more fitted and allow people to see what my body looks like (to a degree)
That totally makes sense and recovery is different for everyone! Thanks for sharing 🥰
I can definitely relate, like at the start of the school year I would always wear baggy sweaters and sweatpants because I was pretty insecure about myself, but then during the middle of the school year I got more confident and started wearing tank-tops. After my grandma died however, my confidence and happiness plummeted and I started wearing hoodies more. Recently tho, I do love myself more but I’m not fully happy with my body, I still feel just a bit uncomfortable.
Sry this was long lol
thank you for this. dealing with chronic illness, CSA and emotional and religious trauma based around my sexuality, my body image and presentation really makes loving and appreciating my body hard, but I am ready to start caring for it now ❤❤
I honestly don't care if I'm four months late but note that you do NOT have to be skinny to be pretty! you are you and that makes you special
AGH! you're back! best day ever.
ive been struggling with my body image forever(being non binary I think made it worse) and it intensified the past year and I'm in the progress of getting better even though sometimes the thoughts come up and I even had a dream this week that I was fat and I was so upset during the dream so the thought will come back during recovery it's how u deal w it that counts
love u smmm keara I don't think u understand how much ur vids mean to me I hope all the stars align for u💗💗💗💗💗 much love
Thank you so much for sharing, I completely get you. You're so right that the thoughts sometimes come up when you're ready to heal them :) Proud of you!!! (also I get the nonbinary / body image struggle... I'm making an episode about it) xxx
@@KearaGraves yess ill be waiting for it. that topic is not much talked about its easy to misplace the dissatisfaction between ur gender and ur body. I'm sooo proud of u too uve come a long way and I know it wasn't easy
Your podcasts are helping me so much on my healing journey and they are soo relaxing to watch/listen to 🥰 I want to thank you for all that you do, and this video is exactly what I needed to hear 🙏 And I'm looking forward to your healing journey podcasts that are to come 😊 Blessed be! Stay wonderful and filled with magic! 💕
Thank you for this lovely message! You’re a shining light and I can tell through the screen! Sending tons of love right back at you 😘❤️
@@KearaGraves 🥰❤
I really needed that. This video made me feel so much better about my progress. Because I constantly try to make my relationship with my body better and I always think it's not enough and then I look in the mirror and hate how I look. But I try my best and that's enough. And as time goes it will just get better❤
I feel that. The journey is sooo tumultuous at times and sometimes it does feel like we’re going backward, but trust me, we’re doing soooo good❤ Proud of you xxxx
Thank you for being you. Your confidence, self love & acceptance really inspire me. I love that your spiritual too because I don't feel silly for believing in that stuff. This advice was super thoughtful and helpful. It made me sad because I know I am not very nice to myself all the time, but also happy because I feel really seen. I'm so glad I watched this.
Thank you for this sweet sweet message 💕 I’m super glad to hear you feel less alone after watching this. xxx
vibing with you while you sang! as a final note today, your podcast and attitude has helped me not obsess so much about the negative and intrusive thoughts. i used to really obsess and fall into negative self-talk all the time. and now, it has literally cut in half. i just feel like you're my support team, life coach lol. but seriously.
This is what we're getting and that's fine. :)
An unhealthy relationship with the mirror is what you've described and more. When the self-hatred gets even a second of breath, it spirals. Every time.
I've gotten better. I eat whatever the fuck I want. I wear whatever brings comfort. I keep the most toxic platforms severed from my internet routine. Most of all I avoid mirror checks.
Choosing who you socialize with in life makes a difference too. The current problem I face is that in many social circles, there are certain people who don't let the others choose. They gatekeep, they slander and they divide ... how people feel about themselves becomes irrelevant in their eyes and when they wield authority, everyone suffers. If you disengage, you're painted as scum and they harness social media to do it. And they are relentless in monopolizing conversation time so no one can adequately counter them with a positive message. You can of course move to a different town to make new friends, but that costs money.
Words mean things, when we say them to other people and when we say them to ourselves. I just wish more people could see that.
this episode is beautiful and so raw. i struggled with body image and do at times because my waistline is different on my right side than my left side. i had scoliosis, so my back straightened out, but that difference in my curves has made me insecure at times. also, my bottom, my goodness. i stopped exercising because i've been so busy studying and my butt is so flat and is something i frown upon now lmao (basically nonexistent), back when i was an athlete, it had a little voom to it lol. but anyways, that was awkward but yeah, love ya Keara. hope you're healing well!
Hi abby!!!💕 Thanks for sharing all that. I’m so proud of you for being so vulnerable & real. I love you and hope you’re doing soooo well 🤗
i really needed this heading into this summer ❤
I have literally never heard some of this stuff before, but it really really helped. Thank you so much.
LOVE all of these. thank you for your wisdom baby
ILY🥰🥰🥰
Keara, you're the prettiest angel in the world!😀😙💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷💖🎇💖🎇💖🎇💖🎇💖🎇💖🎇😊⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍
13:42 please we need a cover of Bye🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Men can definitely suffer from body image issues, too, but I think it’s much worse for women. It’s great that Lavren supports you in your quest to move beyond such self-inflicted unhappiness.
Whenever my friends trauma dump with each other or I watch these types of videos, I realize how much us girls have all lived the same lives 😭 it’s sad but comforting and validating to know that we are not alone in our trauma. This is also why it’s important to talk about these things !! I was raised to be a people pleaser and value appearances/fitting in especially coming from an immigrant family. I developed an ED by age 12. I was extremely anorexic and then a few years passed and being curvy was in. I wish I could go back and give myself a hug lol
We all deserve to give our younger selves a BIIIIIG hug🤗💛
amazing video so far!
thank you!💕🥹 hope it’s helpful xx
Many thanks Keara , your tips are very complète and easy to understand, but yes, from a long time i hate my body, i don't know how to respect myself more, because some People are more important than me, thanks again, i really love you deep❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks Keara this was so helpful for me
You inspired me to start a body image tik tok page! Thank you so much, I already had a page on mental health and a poem I wrote on body image, but this seems like a new beginning! Ive been subcribed for 5 years now and at first it was because I was figuring out my sexuality, but now im out and so much more myself, its crazy how things change! ❤❤
AHH SO HAPPY TO HEAR YOURE ALSO MAKING BODY IMAGE CONTENT❤ what’s your @??? Everyone go follow!🥳
This is beautiful 🥹
so ready for the new season of safe space!! i love and missed you so so much
Honestly eat what makes you happy!!!!❤❤❤ I’m glad the episode helped. Love you!
This was so inspiring thank you so much ❤
Keara, this is Gold
When I buy clothes, I buy ladies skinny jeans, one size bigger for comfort Keara❤ Feminine textures and colours are more pleasant then men’s clothes ❤ I love lilac colours❤ Lol&c from Petra
Hey Keara. I just wanted to say thank you for all your videos. Yes they are lighthearted and fun but I really learn a lot from you. I’m still closeted but your videos help me. Once my grade went on a 2 night excursion and my best friend and I were sharing a bed. Btw I go to an all girls school. She touched me in ways I didn’t want her to touch me and she kissed me. I didn’t like it. I thought about you and everything you said to tell someone your sexual preferences and I told her I didn’t want that. I still see her a a friend . I always have. I didn’t tell any of my family because they’re homophobic and she would never accept that I like girls. I have told some of my close friends and since then they’ve always been there or me in all the uncomfortable situations I’ve been in. All you tell us about also helps me. Thank you so much. I’ll always cherish you. ❤
Hey love, I’m sorry that uncomfortable experience happened but I’m so proud of you for speaking up!💛 I’m honoured to help you along your journey in any way possible. Take care of yourself. xxx
Great work as always
Thank you :) I’m proud of you too 🎉❤
when you started sing bye by ariana grande - that’s so me!!!!!
First of all….you don’t “need” makeup, your skin is flawless, creamy and you have the sweetest beauty marks perfectly positioned on that beautiful face (actually your beautiful body) of yours. Second. What ?? No AC. Girl. And 3rd…does Ren speak Celsius or Fahrenheit?? 🤣🤣😘
Hahaha this comment made me laugh. Thank you❤️ Btw… we just installed an A/C unit in our bedroom THANK GOODNESS😅 And Lauren can speak both F & C 😂
When i was younger I had realllly bad body issues, and they got better, but recently I've gained more weight and now there back. Ive felt so much shame talking about it, but this video helped out a lot with that. Also if you have experience with it, do you think you could talk about how to be yourself and feel condfident with who you are?
the singing !!!!!!!!!
RIGHT
Gender journey plesse!!! We love you Keara❤❤❤❤
Yesss plss do a video on your gender journey, please and also how your relationship is with your gender as someone who loves women and nonbinary people!!? Because I'm also non-binary and I also love women and non-binary people, but sometimes I get confused if I consider myself or even a lesbian. But yeah, sometimes it's crazy for me to see masc androgynous lesbian women know that their women and not non-binary. Get me? Like how do some masc ppl & androgynous women feel good about identifying as a women and how do they know they are not non-binary. I'm asking this because like I want to experience a sapphic lesbian relationship but I also don't think I'm a woman like I don't feel like a woman or man. I'm wondering how other people who are masc still feel comfortable and good and comfortable identifying as a woman, but it feels so wrong to me or weird and uncomfty you know? Even though sometimes in my expression, I am feminine, I guess. Yeah like really curious on how some people still feel like women idek how to explain its anymore lol. But please give advice.
I feel like this podcast is litarally a safe space! I just came out as gender fluid! And im using she-they pronouns now! So when I come to this podcast I feel like I can finally feel seen! Luv ya n stuff 💕❤️💕
Awww I’m soooo happy to hear you feel safe here 💕 That’s the goal of this podcast/all my social channels. love you 🤗
Hey Keara me and my partner just got together but it's long distance. They live like 14 hours away. How do we make it work? Could you make a video about it? I'm 15 btw
uhm 13:43 KEARA I MISSED U SINGING you need to start posting covers again and embrace ur inner leia ;(
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keara it’s been two weeks the gays need u 😭
Our body relationships heals also when we feed our bodies well/healthy for example how are you gonna convince u love your body when u don't take care good care of it and just feed it trash and poison??, our subsconcious mind is smart, it's not Gonna believe it😁
Thanks for sharing these thoughts Keara they are actually legitimately helpful in my life ❤🏳️🌈🌈
So happy to hear that❤
@@KearaGraves ❤️
You know what you should say to the Cyber bullies and the bullies latest stuff in your head ahead go into your head adapted
When is the new video
Incredible video keep doing a amazing job.❤
I have a problem with the fact that I am so hairy.
Morning from Hawaii nice tip on 15 ways to heal your negative body
I am a Süssmaus at heart
When I used to watch you on television Keir you used to give me hot flush
I am a 44 year old lesbian introvert who is single. I live in San Francisco. I will never be able to get a date if I cannot get the courage to talk to a woman in the first place. When approaching females you are interested in what are you supposed to say? Give me some good lines. The last time I was in a relationship was over 10 years ago. I tried internet dating but I get all the toxic girls who only want money or sex.
🥺 / 😍
I am a little sissy girl transgender and a bisexual un👭🧑🤝🧑🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈💜💙🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸♀️♀️⚧️♂️♂️🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌈🌸🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🌈🌸🌸🏳️⚧️🌸
Your eyes totally look like you’re wearing makeup- you must have naturally thick eyelashes 👁️🫦👁️
I am a girl sexy girl TG
Do you like chicken yet?
I am a little sissy girl TG
That is not a good thing on yourself too much so it's not pressure sugar levels and salt levels and vitamins can go down
So weird: as a trans girl I have the body to which many might aspire (5'9", thin, androgynous; like many models), but I would dearly love to be short and curvy; even plump, but cannot gain weight. Great video, as I have come to expect! 🖤🤍💜