Thank you for being brave enough to share. I am just escaping after finding my children were being hurt behind my back. My eyes are just opening. I am looking forward to being on the other side. You are so so strong!
Best of luck to you! So many parents ignore or are in denial of their children being abused and stay, good for you for taking the steps to make a better life for your children!
My mother was divorced from an abuser in 1953. And even in the United States, a single mother raising children was considered a freak. I had to learn to cook at 11 and 12 run a household. We had to help her she did everything just like you’re doing today it can be done. You are definitely an inspiration to every young woman. I am so impressed with you
Lots of kids stay home alone while their parents work, don't be ashamed of the fact that you did what it takes to provide for your family. And also it's healthy for children to be independent, we're not raising children we're raising adults.❤
Yep! And for a lot of us our parents didn’t have cameras AND we couldn’t reach our parents by phone if anything happened. No need to feel guilty or weird about what you did. ❤
@sylviemariehebert9758 Yep! Same with me. My big brother and I were basically running the household from the age of 10 onwards. Our parents worked day and night to provide a stable future for us Kids. Because of them I was able to stay home and rise my child later in life. I'll never forget what they sacrificed for us. ❤
Coming from a Muslim background and converting to Christianity, my story is long and complicated. My children and I faced significant challenges, including violence and deprivation, which had a profound impact on my life. I would love to share my story with you and hope to have the opportunity to do so soon.
Ellaf, you are a true hero! Bringing up 3 educated, lovely, generous children is a testament to you 🧡 It seems like a river that I could never have jumped over but you jumped and succeeded. You truly are the embodiment of female strength and ability 🎉 Remember to enjoy your own achievements...
When she talked about how her kids do everything for her now I cried 😭 I can only imagine how much they look up to her and how grateful they are, and it seems like despite their still young ages, they consciously realize the sacrifices she's made for them ❤ She's got such a calm strength about her, so soft-spoken but when she talks about her accomplishments her fierceness really shines through 💪
I just have to say I am not at all surprised that her children show so much respect to her. She is the most admirable guest I have ever seen/listened to on this channel. Following Everything!!!!
@@greendragon4058 Same. I hope Shelise can bring Ellaf back on in the future for more episodes. She's become one of my favorite guests on the show, along with Apostate Aladdin
❤ you both are an inspiration ( leading to much introspection)for a 70 year old lady🙏namaste from India & glad you got free before the disrespect got ingrained😍may you & those who truly love you stay blessed always🦋🕯
I totally understand the part about children having issues after ex left...my 4 girls were used to father talking down to me...after he left they talked down to me...that was a change i struggled with...finally we worked through that...
You are indeed a blessing and excellent role model for your children. Out of your pain I see you rising with a powerful voice for women oppressed by malevolent forces
This is not Patriarchy, the situation in Ellaf's story is the story of ignorance, lacking in education, living in bigotry and prejudice that is brewed in a tyrannical dictatorship of a brutal regime which caused Iraq goes into two major wars in the region.
@@fairy6126💯. I could never imagine working 3 jobs and taking care of my brother who is 16 years under me. . we moved out because my parents were alcoholics and I had enough of it.
I didn’t think I had the strength and endurance I needed until I faced a dangerous person. Survival and the responsibility to protect the safety and survival of others can help people find reservoirs of strength beyond their wildest dreams. I never fail to be in awe of those who find the strength and fortitude needed in horrifying circumstances. You never know what you can do until it becomes necessary.
Amazing journey! I had an emotionally/mentally abusive mother. Lots of anger towards her when I became a mom, but I vowed to myself to be the mother I wish I had had. And let me tell you, that was the best thing ever. My 3 kiddos (now adults) are so close to me. And I love it.
Ellaf, I am so impressed with the life you've built for yourself & your family! I'm currently a college student, working towards my degree in graphic design, and I have a hard time handling a normal "full time" schedule of about 12 credit hours, so for you to have been doing 22 credits AND still work night shifts is beyond impressive to me! I also love that your kids have grown into loving, caring individuals & they recognize the sacrifices you made to make sure they grew up in a safe, loving environment. You sound so happy now, as you should be! You dealt with everything so beautifully despite how ugly & scary it was at the time & now all your hard work has paid off! I wish you & your kids all the best going forward!
What a beautiful and amazing woman. Thank you for your bravery in sharing. Such a strong mother your children have. Nothing but proud of you and what you have done.
She is a testimony that you get your children's (and spouse's) respect by earning it, not forcing it. Her father and her husband were lousy parents and spouses that didn't earn such a respect with their bad behaviours. I am so happy she has good connection to her siblings. Good for them.
Her story and your interviews with all these people have gave me so much hope! There is a way out!!! Reach out if you are in a bad spot. There are so many ppl who are willing to help you!!!
Ellaf, you're a true inspiration. People constantly underestimate how hard it is to leave these kinds of abusive, controlling relationships and how much you have to sacrifice to do so. There's a reason that we call it generational trauma, because for most families the first person who decides to break the cycle has to make some really hard decisions like depending on their children to do adult things such as cook and provide safety to the younger kids. And those things are hard. But these are the real life kinds of decisions that many people have to make when they flee these kinds of relationships and its really wonderful for you to share your experience with that so people can really see how difficult these things really are. You and your kids' safety was the #1 most important thing and you did a very courageous thing in prioritizing it.
And I also work night/weekends at the hospital so I can go to school to become a nurse, during the week and be present with my 13 yr old daughter. She’s had to stay home alone too, I understand the mom guilt but you’re doing amazing!! And your children have the best example of being kind, strong, perseverant and resourceful! Slay queen!!! So proud of you!! ❤
I watched both interviews with Ellaf. Thank you for sharing your story, You are strong and determined beyond belief and still have joy reflected in your beautiful face and spirit even through all you have endured and conquered!.
Ellaf, your resilience and strategy are so inspiring. Your accomplishments, also. Were you aware that you had so much inner strength? Beautiful story that hopefully will be in print. Your story is so valuable and helps so many, especially those who've experienced DV. Thank you for bringing your inspirational story to light.
Ellaf, you have inspired me. Here I was, feeling sorry for myself because I am struggling financially, and then I hear your story. I also escaped an abusive marriage at 19 years old, but at least I knew I had the law on my side when I ran. I also had supportive parents and a father who would have killed my ex if I had let him. Seeing how far you have come makes me want to do better. I've been putting off starting a business, but now I am going to change my mindset and do it. I think most Americans don't realize how priviledged we are to live in a country that is relatively safe, and where women have equal rights. I saw your other video, and I cried as I listened to you speak about the abuse. It brought back a lot, but it also gave me the kick in the butt to do something more with my life. I am here for a reason. Thank you!
I was very young mom and my husband died before I had my third baby so I raised three by myself and I tell you what it's hard and your guest there she's gone some strength you will never know how much have to deprogram and program I had no babysitters because I had three girls so I know what that feels like and I just I'm so happy for her to get out of that situation to do is doing. It's amazing having a disconnect from family that you love especially your mom I could never do that it's hard and you did it and you worked your way through school and you you are a very good example of what a good human being and you have such strength I can't even imagine what it took for you how to escape another country to get here and you had to deal with abuse and try to get you and your kids here that's unbelievable I'm so glad that you're doing well just you have all my blessings I'm glad that your siblings support you in all this that is wonderful plus you even had to learn a new language Family doesn't always mean Flesh and Blood I my parents disowned me but I found some people that I just took me in like I was family treated me no different and very kind and I always call them mom and dad so it's not always flesh and blood
I recommended your initial interview to a friend of mine who works with young adults at a university. Your pitch for higher education is what prompted me to share. Great insight
Hello, I am impressed by how Ellaf overcame this nightmare and found her way into a self-determined life. Unfortunately, it still happens that young women and girls are secretly exposed to such archaic views. no person, or rather no girl or young woman, should have to face such a fate, at least in a western country in the 21st century. Greetings from Germany
What a wonderful and inspiring interview! The inhumanity of Ellaf's father and ex-husband is difficult to understand. Even animals have instinctual behavior that puts these supposed people to shame. Perhaps they are drawing inspiration from pathogenic microorganisms. It's a beautiful thing to hear of her kind and thoughtful children and to know that the cycle of violence has been broken.
Human beings are truly evil and terrible at times. It's important that we are aware of that, so we can identify, combat, and hopefully prevent it when possible.
@@Aelffwynn Absolutely true. I realized that long ago because my late mother met Mengele when she was in Auschwitz and described him to me. Luckily he didn't find her interesting and she survived the place as it was right at the end of the war.
Such an AMAZING and COURAGEOUS woman!! So strong and smart, a WONDERFUL mother who has shown her children what’s most important in life, they can be nothing but supportive and proud of her🙏❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. People need to realize that it is incredibly difficult to leave abusive situations, but it is possible. You are brave, you are strong and you are worth the sacrifices to get your life back.
Shelise, you and Kendall Rae are my favorite youtube channels, and you're both heroes - speaking up for the vulnerable, you're changing lives. I'm so grateful for your channel ❤
Me tooo! Didn't expect to see another Kendall Rae fan on here but it makes sense, they've got the genuine compassion and advocacy in common for sure ❤😊
Glad you've been showcasing some Iraqi/Iranian etc, and Islamic cult survivors. They have been through a lot and it is heart-breaking, and sadly, not uncommon. It is sad that so many more out there are suffering like this. They are incredible to endure and get out. I wish more could also make that move. I'm at a loss as to how help, given my financial status.
Re: wanting something different from your parents than what you have. My husband has always told me that I can't make my parents be the kind of parents I want. The only thing I can do is become the type of parent that I wish I had. I have always thought this was such great advice. Break the cycle, show up for my kids in ways that my parents didn't or couldn't, focus on what is within my control and let the rest go. ❤
This podcast has been so wonderful I love it this is my favorite one only because I have been able to untangle some of my religious drama and it's wonderful so thank you chalice that is part of the your doing. With your wonderful guests and your patience
I’m domestic abuse survivor also my kids,😢😢we went through all abuse physical,emotional whatever just name it thanks god I escaped with my kids came another country which we are living in now they’re 12 ,11 we don’t discuss anything regarding dad’s stuff but my mom and my siblings filled that position I’m so grateful to have them 🥰❤️
I’ve been going through a lot of grief lately after breaking up with someone I’ve fully depended on in almost every aspect of my life. Part of me feels like theres no way for me to make it through, and like I’m not strong enough. However, seeing her resilience in a situation that seems much harder than mine; not only being able to leave it but also being able to recreate a life for herself and her kids, is so incredibly inspiring. Such a strong woman ❤
You are just sooooooo amazing ! And u have obviously done such an awesome job raising your kids right ! Keep at it n hopefully more poor suffering women will get out of their bad situation.
A brave and smart lady who.has endured so much hardship May Allah bless Ilaf richly What an example of strength of character and a truly remarkable lady - wonderful endurance of a loving mother. May God Bless her and give her all the strength she needs Xxx
Codependency is a shaming word that does not acknowledge the power and control that the abuser/perpetrator has over the victim. Stop blaming her for what the two males in her life did. Especially since she was raised since birth to believe that women need to have a submissive attitude.
You're amazing & exemplary lady & you should run for office - America needs such a positive atitude people in congress! Thank you for sharing your story.
US military officer lourdes loyola, a great example & a role model for woman is a must show cased inspirational story. A brave woman out of mental strength & conviction.
For not having a good role model in your life, someone to encouraged you, you were able to build yourself a good road map. That’s the best gift you could have given your children.
Don't ever feel shame for teaching young kids basic independence. That's actually good parenting. Kids love learning to cook simple stuff & they should learn basic life skills. It builds them up & builds confidence. I was making grilled cheese, eggs & canned biscuits by age 9. By my teens everybody wanted my grilled cheeses 😂 Now as a Mom, my kids friends beg for them. Everyone says I make them special, best words ever 😊
I am envious but encouraged of her tenacity Ive been abused all my life fromvmy father to my ex husband, and i dont feel like im doing enough for my 6 kids. Im happy she found her way, just hopefully i can get mine on track.
Thank you for being brave enough to share. I am just escaping after finding my children were being hurt behind my back. My eyes are just opening. I am looking forward to being on the other side. You are so so strong!
Best of luck to you! So many parents ignore or are in denial of their children being abused and stay, good for you for taking the steps to make a better life for your children!
Oh my, best of luck on your own journey as well ❤❤
I send you good luck, and I hope you and your kids have better days ahead!
Proud of you!!! You got this love!
I'm crossing all my fingers for you and wishing you a speedy and safe journey to the other side of this ♥️♥️
My mother was divorced from an abuser in 1953. And even in the United States, a single mother raising children was considered a freak. I had to learn to cook at 11 and 12 run a household. We had to help her she did everything just like you’re doing today it can be done. You are definitely an inspiration to every young woman. I am so impressed with you
Definition of Strong woman . Determination and brains. GOD Bless her.
This woman has changed the trajectory of her and her children’s lives all for the better ❤❤
Lots of kids stay home alone while their parents work, don't be ashamed of the fact that you did what it takes to provide for your family. And also it's healthy for children to be independent, we're not raising children we're raising adults.❤
Yup! I turned out just fine! ❤
Yep! And for a lot of us our parents didn’t have cameras AND we couldn’t reach our parents by phone if anything happened. No need to feel guilty or weird about what you did. ❤
@sylviemariehebert9758 Yep! Same with me. My big brother and I were basically running the household from the age of 10 onwards. Our parents worked day and night to provide a stable future for us Kids.
Because of them I was able to stay home and rise my child later in life.
I'll never forget what they sacrificed for us. ❤
@@natahliak7691your big bride?? or brother?
@@mrsTraveller64 I've edited . Thanks for that 🤣
What an amazing/strong/intelligent/beautiful woman.........truly inspiring.
Coming from a Muslim background and converting to Christianity, my story is long and complicated. My children and I faced significant challenges, including violence and deprivation, which had a profound impact on my life. I would love to share my story with you and hope to have the opportunity to do so soon.
Amen!
Praise God for your conversion!
Somebody wrote hadith to slander the prophet and stupid people actually practice it
Could you contact me please ? I am an attorney , a domestic violence advocate and human trafficking victim activist. I have a channel on you tube .
Sounds like a powerful testimony 🙏🏼
I hope to hear your story. I am so glad that you escaped and are thriving. 🙏🙏💕
Ellaf, you are a true hero! Bringing up 3 educated, lovely, generous children is a testament to you 🧡 It seems like a river that I could never have jumped over but you jumped and succeeded. You truly are the embodiment of female strength and ability 🎉
Remember to enjoy your own achievements...
When she talked about how her kids do everything for her now I cried 😭 I can only imagine how much they look up to her and how grateful they are, and it seems like despite their still young ages, they consciously realize the sacrifices she's made for them ❤ She's got such a calm strength about her, so soft-spoken but when she talks about her accomplishments her fierceness really shines through 💪
Yes, I cried as well - that is maybe her greatest accomplishment... raising wonderful, caring children. What a wonderful story!!! My new hero!!!
I just have to say I am not at all surprised that her children show so much respect to her. She is the most admirable guest I have ever seen/listened to on this channel. Following Everything!!!!
This young lady should have a movie out of her life. Her story is just heartfelt and to hear how she’s an overcomer.. just WOW…tears 😭 ❤
Thank you for bringing Ellaf back for this Live. Her story reads like a movie!
I love her she's got such a great attitude after everything she's been through wow strong lady
@@greendragon4058 Same. I hope Shelise can bring Ellaf back on in the future for more episodes. She's become one of my favorite guests on the show, along with Apostate Aladdin
Hat off for you Eliaf.
I am Iraqi woman and I am proud of you.
❤ you both are an inspiration ( leading to much introspection)for a 70 year old lady🙏namaste from India & glad you got free before the disrespect got ingrained😍may you & those who truly love you stay blessed always🦋🕯
this is one of my favorite interviews she inspires me so much to work hard and sacrifice to leave my negative environment
I cannot even put into words how I admire your spirit and love for your children!
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I totally understand the part about children having issues after ex left...my 4 girls were used to father talking down to me...after he left they talked down to me...that was a change i struggled with...finally we worked through that...
You are indeed a blessing and excellent role model for your children. Out of your pain I see you rising with a powerful voice for women oppressed by malevolent forces
Appreciate the bravery going on here exposing the terrors of patriarchy.
This is not Patriarchy, the situation in Ellaf's story is the story of ignorance, lacking in education, living in bigotry and prejudice that is brewed in a tyrannical dictatorship of a brutal regime which caused Iraq goes into two major wars in the region.
@@nargesgovahi6629look up the definition of patriarchy
Sending love to Ellaf and her family - Sending love to her brother too
Great interview! I don't think I could find the strength and endurance she has!
tbh you don't know what you can endure until life puts us in one of those situations, the human condition and will to survive is incredible
@@fairy6126💯. I could never imagine working 3 jobs and taking care of my brother who is 16 years under me. . we moved out because my parents were alcoholics and I had enough of it.
I didn’t think I had the strength and endurance I needed until I faced a dangerous person. Survival and the responsibility to protect the safety and survival of others can help people find reservoirs of strength beyond their wildest dreams. I never fail to be in awe of those who find the strength and fortitude needed in horrifying circumstances. You never know what you can do until it becomes necessary.
Most soulful, heartfelt entertainment (education) and I love this lady to pieces. She has so much to teach and inspire. Thank you.
Amazing journey!
I had an emotionally/mentally abusive mother. Lots of anger towards her when I became a mom, but I vowed to myself to be the mother I wish I had had. And let me tell you, that was the best thing ever. My 3 kiddos (now adults) are so close to me. And I love it.
Ellaf, I am so impressed with the life you've built for yourself & your family! I'm currently a college student, working towards my degree in graphic design, and I have a hard time handling a normal "full time" schedule of about 12 credit hours, so for you to have been doing 22 credits AND still work night shifts is beyond impressive to me! I also love that your kids have grown into loving, caring individuals & they recognize the sacrifices you made to make sure they grew up in a safe, loving environment. You sound so happy now, as you should be! You dealt with everything so beautifully despite how ugly & scary it was at the time & now all your hard work has paid off! I wish you & your kids all the best going forward!
Eleif you definitely need to write a book. Probably a couple of books actually! 😮😊
Thank you for your work in raising awareness.
She’s Amazing. She’s been through so much and was able to turn a tragic situation into a great Success ♥️
So extremely proud of her! Starting from the bottom with 3 kids is NOT EASY.
What a beautiful and amazing woman. Thank you for your bravery in sharing. Such a strong mother your children have. Nothing but proud of you and what you have done.
She is a testimony that you get your children's (and spouse's) respect by earning it, not forcing it. Her father and her husband were lousy parents and spouses that didn't earn such a respect with their bad behaviours. I am so happy she has good connection to her siblings. Good for them.
Her story and your interviews with all these people have gave me so much hope! There is a way out!!! Reach out if you are in a bad spot. There are so many ppl who are willing to help you!!!
Ellaf, you're a true inspiration. People constantly underestimate how hard it is to leave these kinds of abusive, controlling relationships and how much you have to sacrifice to do so. There's a reason that we call it generational trauma, because for most families the first person who decides to break the cycle has to make some really hard decisions like depending on their children to do adult things such as cook and provide safety to the younger kids. And those things are hard. But these are the real life kinds of decisions that many people have to make when they flee these kinds of relationships and its really wonderful for you to share your experience with that so people can really see how difficult these things really are. You and your kids' safety was the #1 most important thing and you did a very courageous thing in prioritizing it.
I really appreciate seeing ellaf again. Her story is inspiring, exited to hear more from her in this interview
Her story is incredible and so inspirational. Such strength and determination!
I absolutely love Ellaf! What an absolute Boss Queen! Such an inspiration!
And I also work night/weekends at the hospital so I can go to school to become a nurse, during the week and be present with my 13 yr old daughter. She’s had to stay home alone too, I understand the mom guilt but you’re doing amazing!! And your children have the best example of being kind, strong, perseverant and resourceful! Slay queen!!! So proud of you!! ❤
I watched both interviews with Ellaf. Thank you for sharing your story, You are strong and determined beyond belief and still have joy reflected in your beautiful face and spirit even through all you have endured and conquered!.
Ellaf, your resilience and strategy are so inspiring. Your accomplishments, also. Were you aware that you had so much inner strength? Beautiful story that hopefully will be in print. Your story is so valuable and helps so many, especially those who've experienced DV. Thank you for bringing your inspirational story to light.
What an amazing woman! Blessings to Eliaf and her children as they continue... onward and upward! 🙏🌟💞☮
Ellaf, you have inspired me. Here I was, feeling sorry for myself because I am struggling financially, and then I hear your story. I also escaped an abusive marriage at 19 years old, but at least I knew I had the law on my side when I ran. I also had supportive parents and a father who would have killed my ex if I had let him.
Seeing how far you have come makes me want to do better. I've been putting off starting a business, but now I am going to change my mindset and do it. I think most Americans don't realize how priviledged we are to live in a country that is relatively safe, and where women have equal rights.
I saw your other video, and I cried as I listened to you speak about the abuse. It brought back a lot, but it also gave me the kick in the butt to do something more with my life. I am here for a reason. Thank you!
I was very young mom and my husband died before I had my third baby so I raised three by myself and I tell you what it's hard and your guest there she's gone some strength you will never know how much have to deprogram and program I had no babysitters because I had three girls so I know what that feels like and I just I'm so happy for her to get out of that situation to do is doing. It's amazing having a disconnect from family that you love especially your mom I could never do that it's hard and you did it and you worked your way through school and you you are a very good example of what a good human being and you have such strength I can't even imagine what it took for you how to escape another country to get here and you had to deal with abuse and try to get you and your kids here that's unbelievable I'm so glad that you're doing well just you have all my blessings I'm glad that your siblings support you in all this that is wonderful plus you even had to learn a new language
Family doesn't always mean Flesh and Blood I my parents disowned me but I found some people that I just took me in like I was family treated me no different and very kind and I always call them mom and dad so it's not always flesh and blood
I recommended your initial interview to a friend of mine who works with young adults at a university. Your pitch for higher education is what prompted me to share. Great insight
Hello, I am impressed by how Ellaf overcame this nightmare and found her way into a self-determined life. Unfortunately, it still happens that young women and girls are secretly exposed to such archaic views. no person, or rather no girl or young woman, should have to face such a fate, at least in a western country in the 21st century.
Greetings from Germany
Congratulations on 200k.
This channel is doing great work!
I love her strength and thank goodness she has her children because they are going to change the world just like their mother.
What a wonderful and inspiring interview! The inhumanity of Ellaf's father and ex-husband is difficult to understand. Even animals have instinctual behavior that puts these supposed people to shame. Perhaps they are drawing inspiration from pathogenic microorganisms. It's a beautiful thing to hear of her kind and thoughtful children and to know that the cycle of violence has been broken.
Human beings are truly evil and terrible at times. It's important that we are aware of that, so we can identify, combat, and hopefully prevent it when possible.
@@Aelffwynn Absolutely true. I realized that long ago because my late mother met Mengele when she was in Auschwitz and described him to me. Luckily he didn't find her interesting and she survived the place as it was right at the end of the war.
Such an AMAZING and COURAGEOUS woman!! So strong and smart, a WONDERFUL mother who has shown her children what’s most important in life, they can be nothing but supportive and proud of her🙏❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. People need to realize that it is incredibly difficult to leave abusive situations, but it is possible. You are brave, you are strong and you are worth the sacrifices to get your life back.
She’s amazing. ❤ what an inspirational story.
This is one of the most inspiring and empowering stories I’ve ever heard ❤
You did a great job, Mama! You teaching your kids to be independent at a young age is actually a blessing. They will grow up strong and confident.
Thank you for coming back! Strong lady!
I do the same thing! Research until I find a resource and always have a plan B! Trauma is horrible but it made us stronger and smarter!!
Such an amazing and inspiring story. I hope your life keeps on getting even better.
You are an incredible woman. I'm 50 and needed to hear this 30 years ago.
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Shelise, you and Kendall Rae are my favorite youtube channels, and you're both heroes - speaking up for the vulnerable, you're changing lives. I'm so grateful for your channel ❤
Me tooo! Didn't expect to see another Kendall Rae fan on here but it makes sense, they've got the genuine compassion and advocacy in common for sure ❤😊
Ellaf, you are an amazing woman! Sending you so much love and support❤️
Elaf, you inspire me to keep pushing. Thanks for not giving up and for being a shining example for the rest of us to follow! ❤️
Glad you've been showcasing some Iraqi/Iranian etc, and Islamic cult survivors. They have been through a lot and it is heart-breaking, and sadly, not uncommon. It is sad that so many more out there are suffering like this. They are incredible to endure and get out. I wish more could also make that move. I'm at a loss as to how help, given my financial status.
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This has been a favorite guest.
My grandfather had four girls, and he said, it takes a real man to knock the balls off
Re: wanting something different from your parents than what you have. My husband has always told me that I can't make my parents be the kind of parents I want. The only thing I can do is become the type of parent that I wish I had. I have always thought this was such great advice. Break the cycle, show up for my kids in ways that my parents didn't or couldn't, focus on what is within my control and let the rest go. ❤
Thank you for sharing your journey. Wishing you all kindness and joy in your future.
This podcast has been so wonderful I love it this is my favorite one only because I have been able to untangle some of my religious drama and it's wonderful so thank you chalice that is part of the your doing. With your wonderful guests and your patience
Wow, this is powerful Ellaf. Blessings to you and your family.
Super glad Ellaf is still alive to share her story. This could've ended up so much worse. I hate to think how much worse this could've ended.🙏🙏🙏
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Thank you so much for sharing your heroic story you are an inspiration and I wish you all the happiness and joy ❤❤❤❤
I’m domestic abuse survivor also my kids,😢😢we went through all abuse physical,emotional whatever just name it thanks god I escaped with my kids came another country which we are living in now they’re 12 ,11 we don’t discuss anything regarding dad’s stuff but my mom and my siblings filled that position I’m so grateful to have them 🥰❤️
Thanks! All the best!
Thank you for sharing to give others hope.
I’ve been going through a lot of grief lately after breaking up with someone I’ve fully depended on in almost every aspect of my life. Part of me feels like theres no way for me to make it through, and like I’m not strong enough. However, seeing her resilience in a situation that seems much harder than mine; not only being able to leave it but also being able to recreate a life for herself and her kids, is so incredibly inspiring. Such a strong woman ❤
What a legend. Such amazing strength and determination. ❤
if only we could all be strong and brave as ellaf !! super proud girl .
What a brave brother, sorry you had to go through this and well done for taking back control of your life
You are so strong!!! Sending you Love!!!
I'm so glad your brother stood up for you. Even though it maybe opposite to what he had been taught about women. I'm so glad you gt out x
"too far with the abuse". Sad! Any amount of abuse is too far! Ellaf you are an amazing woman!
Thanks for sharing your story. God wants strong and intelligent women like you.
I love this woman- such clear focus
You are just sooooooo amazing ! And u have obviously done such an awesome job raising your kids right ! Keep at it n hopefully more poor suffering women will get out of their bad situation.
Sorry I missed the live 👏 great followup interview 🙏
She is such an inspiration. ❤
A brave and smart lady who.has endured so much hardship
May Allah bless Ilaf richly
What an example of strength of character and a truly remarkable lady - wonderful endurance of a loving mother.
May God Bless her and give her all the strength she needs
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Codependency is a shaming word that does not acknowledge the power and control that the abuser/perpetrator has over the victim. Stop blaming her for what the two males in her life did. Especially since she was raised since birth to believe that women need to have a submissive attitude.
You are such an inspiration
You're amazing & exemplary lady & you should run for office - America needs such a positive atitude people in congress!
Thank you for sharing your story.
Hi Ellaf sister your such a strong women and keep up the good work supporting your kids.
US military officer lourdes loyola, a great example & a role model for woman is a must show cased inspirational story. A brave woman out of mental strength & conviction.
Such a powerful amazing woman!
Before I forget, look into Wells “Church” in Texas. Weird stuff!
Girl, I approve of your life because you are doing the absolute best you can do. You are awesome. All women approve of your life!
Amazing woman ! True inspiration to all
A book. This is an inspiring story. ❤❤❤❤
For not having a good role model in your life, someone to encouraged you, you were able to
build yourself a good road map. That’s the best gift you could have given your children.
I just read A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khalid Hosseini so this is a perfect time to listen to this interview.
Ellaf, can you make some suggestions on a non-Muslim woman helping a Muslim woman out of an a bad situation?
I wonder if Ellaf’s father and ex-husband saw her inner strength and potential and were threatened by it?
Don't ever feel shame for teaching young kids basic independence. That's actually good parenting. Kids love learning to cook simple stuff & they should learn basic life skills. It builds them up & builds confidence. I was making grilled cheese, eggs & canned biscuits by age 9. By my teens everybody wanted my grilled cheeses 😂 Now as a Mom, my kids friends beg for them. Everyone says I make them special, best words ever 😊
I am envious but encouraged of her tenacity
Ive been abused all my life fromvmy father to my ex husband, and i dont feel like im doing enough for my 6 kids. Im happy she found her way, just hopefully i can get mine on track.
Omg! God bless you. You I’ll get there. If you re doing the best you can with what you have, then that’s all you can do. 😊
Keeping six children safe is a huge job. Stay strong, and take it one day at a time. Your best is enough. ❤