THIS Is The BIGGEST Mistake MEN Make Approaching WOMEN... | The Dating Dr Orion Taraban

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  • @JacquiHughes-lq6ih
    @JacquiHughes-lq6ih 17 дней назад +57

    I’d rather be single …..

    • @danguee1
      @danguee1 16 дней назад

      Get a cat or dog known for good nature = muuuuch more rewarding/satisfying. Why waste precious human psychic energy and autonomy to bend over backwards for acceptance from over-self-valuing women just in order to end up being parasitised?

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 14 дней назад +3

      That’s fine but then don’t come back in a year and complain about being lonely

    • @filiptravnicek4791
      @filiptravnicek4791 14 дней назад

      ​@@brianmeen2158exactly

    • @filiptravnicek4791
      @filiptravnicek4791 14 дней назад

      ​@@brianmeen2158Its a sentence which Is in my head before i do aproach. I Always tell myself in my head.
      If you dont aproach her dont complain that you are alone.
      Or high risk high reward, or if you dont aproach her a dont deserve her😅. This Is the way how i motivate myself 😅.

    • @nweeezy
      @nweeezy 13 дней назад

      @@filiptravnicek4791 its not that crucial, believe me...make sure you hype yourself up for the things that serve you also

  • @rafael55
    @rafael55 13 дней назад +5

    My experience is; just let them see you and wait to see who is interested in you. When you know, then you approach acting like yourself. No games. No stress or fear of rejection. Be well dressed and clean. Someone will like you.

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 12 дней назад +1

      ...still waiting...

    • @robertstone9988
      @robertstone9988 10 дней назад

      When did you learn to read minds? How about this. If your tall good looking confident and have success in every thing you try. Cold approaching is perfect. If your any one else just accept its fat girls or the rope.

    • @rafael55
      @rafael55 10 дней назад

      @@robertstone9988 what have you got against fat girls? You don’t need to read minds, just notice who is interested in getting to know you.

  • @betagombar9022
    @betagombar9022 17 дней назад +26

    Why is dating so complicated 🤔 I'm so glad I gave up on it many years ago 😳

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      It's not complicated they just told you to go talk to the girls that give you eye contact. It sounds like you're one of those people that would rather just believe that it's out of control.

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 12 дней назад

      ppl are just crazy

    • @murphsviews
      @murphsviews 11 дней назад

      Because in nature, the strong survive and pass on their genes and the weak, don’t.
      Nature doesn’t want those who “find it all too hard and give up” passing on their genes.

  • @robertpearce7795
    @robertpearce7795 17 дней назад +25

    I came here with questions... And honestly, I'm only leaving with even more questions. Listening to this has only highlighted just how painfully little of a clue I have about this stuff.
    And what the heck is this "come hither stare"? - All my life, almost every woman without exception has made every effort to never make eye contact with me at all... I know, I'm no George Clooney... but really?
    Thankfully this is all academic, as I have been married now for 17 years. Somehow. God help me if she ever leaves!

    • @malimal4972
      @malimal4972 16 дней назад +3

      Go read the Rationale Male volume 1 and 2 and you will know more than most men out here about female nature .

    • @M-iy4tf
      @M-iy4tf 15 дней назад +1

      Rational male is good
      But don’t worry about it women don’t even know what they want.
      If you see one go and talk to her like you already know her. If she rejects, you simply turn your head and talk to the next one, don’t even miss a beat.
      Women are ridiculous ignore them and they’ll chase you, a while back. I had sciatica and was walking around a great deal of pain had a pissed off look on my face. I was amazed at how many women were attracted to that.
      Unbelievable

    • @secretagent4610
      @secretagent4610 14 дней назад

      ​@@M-iy4tfYou must have a good looking face and body because i have a serious face most of the time even when i have straight face and all it does is scare them off.

    • @M-iy4tf
      @M-iy4tf 14 дней назад

      @@secretagent4610 I’ve been told I’m average 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @jobicek
      @jobicek 2 часа назад

      Really. It's when you catch woman's gaze, she holds it just long enough so that it's clear it's not accidental and then looks away. Typically, she wouldn't be facing you straight up. She would move her eyes to look at you and then move them away. It's difficult to put it into words but there is a sensual quality to the look. Warm, inviting. Slight smile. Potentially intensity, focus. And after she looks away, she might smile to herself or play with her hair. Indications that she is having pleasant thoughts. The longer she holds your gaze, the more intense it is. And women in general want to use as little as possible. Where I come from, we literally say that she is throwing a fishing line. It's an invitation. Very effective and very feminine way of doing things.

  • @catherinekiio4272
    @catherinekiio4272 17 дней назад +6

    DOC, enjoy listening to these videos. Like a cheat sheet to life. May you always have great content 🙏 ✨️ 😊

  • @dbib9754
    @dbib9754 16 дней назад +9

    What ever happened to "my that's a lovely dress you have on, may i have this dance?!"

    • @orangesolivesitaly
      @orangesolivesitaly 15 дней назад

      Exactly. I just wrote something similar.

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 14 дней назад +1

      Yeah I know right? We have overanalyzed and complicated this stuff to an absurd degree at this point

    • @tyarnold4088
      @tyarnold4088 10 дней назад

      Women don't trust men anymore and are creeped out nowadays if they don't know you. Because of social media and perceived danger, things changed.

  • @Bizzy-Bumble1131
    @Bizzy-Bumble1131 16 дней назад +2

    A regular conversation and getting to know someone is appreciated. Pick up lines are weird and awkward.

  • @urbantart68
    @urbantart68 17 дней назад +23

    What happened to good old Barn dances in the Village Hall! 😂

    • @benjaminvolant2469
      @benjaminvolant2469 17 дней назад +5

      Barns have been converted into AirBnb's

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 12 дней назад

      the animals are long since out of the barn...

  • @selyemperzsa1
    @selyemperzsa1 17 дней назад +1

    Loved this conversation about dating and this guy, reincarnation of a salesman as a psychologist....using lots of intellectual professional words but still somehow wrapped in humour! :-)

  • @Milchi7
    @Milchi7 15 дней назад +7

    Am I the only one tired of words like "Vibe" and "Energy"? In most cases it just describes the body language, demeanor or responsiveness of the other person. How about we give back "Energy" to physicists to use.

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 12 дней назад +1

      YES and SYNERGY

    • @ianditwin7443
      @ianditwin7443 10 дней назад

      One of my favorite word is " vibe"

    • @rg8438
      @rg8438 5 дней назад +1

      I can't stand it. Makes my skin crawl. It sounds so stupid and childish.

  • @TacoBella25
    @TacoBella25 17 дней назад +69

    The mistake is not picking up on social cues and cold approaching women who’ve shown no interest.

    • @BrayoTintsAndWraps
      @BrayoTintsAndWraps 17 дней назад +19

      More and more men have stopped cold approaching, its a complete waste of time.
      The average female wants to be in a relationship with a top 10-20% of man. The average man is satisfied to be in a relationship with an average woman. Women are naturally more picky and not as satisfied in current relationships due to hypergamy. The mistake is men are pursuing women who naturally have more options (young women) compared to most men 80-90%. Men need to stop pursuing females and focus on being a top 20% male all around and the options will be endless. The issue is, this comes back to haunt women since most top 20% of men have multiple options thus will most likely not be faithful in a standard monogamous relationship.

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      ​@@BrayoTintsAndWrapsit sounds like you watched like a hundred red pill videos. That negative shit is not going to get you anywhere how about you improve yourself! Also news flash you can date girls on your level of attractiveness! As long as you have confidence in your fun to be around then they're going to want to hang out with but if you're a negative sourpuss who thinks women are all evil because you dated a couple girls with personality disorders which made you find the red pill cult and turn in this negative Nancy.

    • @woodjunkjrjr2689
      @woodjunkjrjr2689 17 дней назад

      White men need to be marrying black women.​@@BrayoTintsAndWraps

    • @rainerminusunfug
      @rainerminusunfug 17 дней назад +9

      @@BrayoTintsAndWraps
      _""Men need to stop pursuing females and focus on being a top 20% male all around and the options will be endless."_
      Well, this will work for the individual, but it's obviously not a valid solution for the whole society since anybody can work their way up to be a "winner", but not everybody. Especially not everybody at the same time. That's in the nature of things. If everybody is the winner, nobody is...
      Or to use another exaggerated metaphor: just switching sides from slave to slavemaster won't abolish slavery.
      The biggest problem that I see in this whole current dating dynamic is, that even the "winners" get their soul eaten up in the long run and end up disenchanted and cynical. That's because they experience with how ridiculously much antisocial behaviour and downright abuse they can get away with (and have even MORE success with it). This will make them lose respect for their hookups, then for the other sex in general and eventually for themselves.
      All that doesn't invalidate your points though. The observations are still spot on, just the direction we are headed as a society is scary and grim.

    • @rainerminusunfug
      @rainerminusunfug 17 дней назад

      @TacoBella25
      By that logic cold approaching is a dead end from the start, since 90% of men are functionally invisible to women. Combine this with the female tendency to not approach the men they are actually interested in, respectively NOT giving such clues/invitations like discussed in the video and it becomes virtually impossible for people to meet each other in the real world.
      You could limit yourself to dating apps of course. But even the mainstream is slowly realizing, that it made dating worse not better.

  • @tinahelena9863
    @tinahelena9863 17 дней назад +7

    Key is to find women/men that actually want to be picked up don’t forget lots of women/men are just out with friends for a few drinks or a dance and find it annoying to be constantly approached. This is NOT a rejection to the person itself but rather to the act as it isn’t wanted, not all are out to pick up, some of us are just having a good time not wanting to make an acquaintance. Eye contact is usually a dead giveaway if someone looks at you for a few seconds you know they’re interested.

    • @BrayoTintsAndWraps
      @BrayoTintsAndWraps 17 дней назад +5

      The solution is for men to quit cold approaching in any way. More and more men are giving up on dating and seeking relationships and I don't blame them. Men, especially young men are better off being single, they will accomplish more and be happier.

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      ​@@BrayoTintsAndWrapsPlease leave the red pill cult. Rather than giving up on talking to women why don't you learn how to read their signals and approach women that are open and if you do talk to a girl that rejects you just tell her have a good night. Also you can meet women while you do things. You don't have to make it a special event. Just go out and be social and talk to him around you.

    • @onecompass7290
      @onecompass7290 16 дней назад

      Picked up? For what? That insinuates just for a bang.

    • @WorldlyAuras-ze9yf
      @WorldlyAuras-ze9yf 13 дней назад

      Eye contact means nothing. That being said God forbid approaching someone at a SOCIAL event lol.

  • @steve3131
    @steve3131 12 дней назад +2

    The biggest mistake is approaching them at all. 95% of them should be sent to Coventry- permanently.

  • @Ja50nkAt
    @Ja50nkAt 13 дней назад +1

    What? Be vulnerable? Share your present emotional experience? Major turnoff for women.

  • @orangesolivesitaly
    @orangesolivesitaly 15 дней назад +1

    I think a simple compliment works. " i hope you dont mind me complimenting you on your style/ hair/ smile/dress/ bag/ heels/ beautiful eyes/ perfume. What is it? / . And leave it there! She'll be super flattered and talk to you if interesyed. If not step back and just throw a smile now and then.

    • @stonedbombingklan
      @stonedbombingklan 15 дней назад

      She's going to think you've got queer eye if you go around asking about anything fashion related. Most men don't give a shit about fashion and women know this. She's going to think you're gay, dude. 😂😂 "I love your bag." If you can say that sentence as a straight man, you're not a straight man.

  • @jewulo
    @jewulo 17 дней назад +8

    This whole thing is a crock. Play stupid games. Win silly prices.

  • @MessengerGabriel
    @MessengerGabriel 16 дней назад +11

    9’s and 10’s are insufferable, non-wife material. Long-term, loyal women are below that.

    • @noneofyobusiness7099
      @noneofyobusiness7099 16 дней назад +4

      Only if you’re not a 9 or 10 yourself

    • @classicslayer456
      @classicslayer456 12 дней назад +4

      ​@@noneofyobusiness7099 not even johnny Depp and Brad Pitt could keep their women in check

  • @ΝικοςΨαρρας-ρ4π
    @ΝικοςΨαρρας-ρ4π 17 дней назад +2

    Know your value

    • @gary6754
      @gary6754 13 дней назад

      the only value any of us has in the eyes of Yahweh so your man made value assignments are nonsense

  • @ALJ_1981
    @ALJ_1981 14 дней назад +1

    Damn he hit it right on the 👃

  • @chrisvanbuggenum871
    @chrisvanbuggenum871 17 дней назад

    OMG i was going to say the dropping of the handkerchief because i remembered pride and prejudice.

  • @FloridaManConstruction
    @FloridaManConstruction 17 дней назад +14

    I used to approach with my platinum card on my forehead. Worked every time. Now I couldn’t care less. They are just not worth the effort. MGTOW

    • @user-cz1gu8nl9o
      @user-cz1gu8nl9o 17 дней назад

      Ya. That tactic attracted all the people who want to use you.

    • @BrayoTintsAndWraps
      @BrayoTintsAndWraps 17 дней назад +1

      MGTOW is the best option for young men. Some of the most stressed men Ive encountered were all in relationships. Every married man I’ve ever met advised me never to marry.

    • @christoph3187
      @christoph3187 17 дней назад

      Don’t lead with money, they will just milk you and quickly move on. Instead go for humor and physical attraction, something that’s more substantial and longer lasting.

    • @dasein9980
      @dasein9980 16 дней назад

      @@BrayoTintsAndWraps what's that, men sent their own way? You don't sound very smart.

    • @pauls1ngh
      @pauls1ngh 13 дней назад

      If you truly were GYOW, why click on this video & comment?

  • @autoclearanceuk7191
    @autoclearanceuk7191 15 дней назад +1

    i never knew that the women looking into your eyes as a come hither signal until I was in my thirties.

  • @devilsadvocacy
    @devilsadvocacy 15 дней назад +2

    0:08 Approaching while not being at least 6’2 with a chiseled jawline, and not worth at least mid-seven figures

  • @JO-iv7tl
    @JO-iv7tl 10 дней назад

    Being an invisible man, how would i be noticed to even see social cues in the first place?

    • @DavidMatias79
      @DavidMatias79 9 дней назад +1

      Be excellent in her presence. Your odds are better if you're in some sort of environment where you will encounter the same women repeatedly and you are there because of shared interest i.e. some kind of class, church, volunteering, etc.

  • @cricket12ish
    @cricket12ish 16 дней назад +11

    this guy said everything and nothing at the same time

    • @amarimuiz
      @amarimuiz 15 дней назад

      😂😂😂

    • @eztyson
      @eztyson 14 дней назад

      Exactly… seduction is all about how you say it, not what you say 😉😂

  • @MD-S282
    @MD-S282 17 дней назад +24

    They often fantasise about someone they don’t even know, and then get angry when she’s not interested. Just treat women like humans and talk to them to get to know them, then you’ll know if they’re interested. Don’t fantasise about someone you don’t even know.

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      That's what's so called nice guys do that try to befriend a girl to date her. That's shity game.

  • @ZootSuitSanta
    @ZootSuitSanta 14 дней назад +1

    Stop trying. Just be. It really doesn’t mean anything unless you decide it does. People come and go.
    Work on a goal outside of yourself. That is where fulfillment lies. People are attracted to fulfilled people. It doesn’t have to be monetary in nature either.

  • @animal79thecat
    @animal79thecat 17 дней назад +4

    I wait for women to show interest or approach me.Simple

    • @angie-dm3bo
      @angie-dm3bo 17 дней назад

      Need your advice...Other than the "stare" mentioned in this video what are other signs/cues women subtlety let you know they are interested?

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      But he sang sometimes women will show interest with eye contact or being around you. You kind of have to look for that and go for it.

    • @femiakins3132
      @femiakins3132 15 дней назад

      Good luck with that. You better be above average or an 8-10 out of ten for results

    • @secretagent4610
      @secretagent4610 14 дней назад +1

      ​@@angie-dm3boThey'll tell a friend or family member to tell you or they'll show a great deal of interest and extra warmth towards you. Listen to your intuition very closely. You'll feel it. If you feel nothing or especially cold energy radiating from her, don't do it.
      Also, don't even bother cold approaching unless you're above an 8 in the looks department. You'll just waste your time (not always, but I'm generalizing here).

    • @WorldlyAuras-ze9yf
      @WorldlyAuras-ze9yf 13 дней назад +1

      Smart move. Choose women who choose you. Life is 100000x easier that way

  • @DTreatz
    @DTreatz 17 дней назад +9

    Biggest mistake: Not being *chad.*
    Step 1: Be attractive.
    Step 2: Don,t be unattractive.

  • @untouchable360x
    @untouchable360x 11 дней назад +1

    Biggest mistake is making decisions on an empty stomach or full sack.

  • @Yo_Soy_Alex_o_Ale
    @Yo_Soy_Alex_o_Ale 17 дней назад +1

    Good...
    No entiendo but good...

    • @andanssas
      @andanssas 17 дней назад

      Resumen: no dudes en hablar, no pienses demasiado, hazle pequeñas peticiones o pídele favores, el contacto visual directo significa interés por parte de ella pero por parte tuya puede ser intrusivo. Suerte! 🎉

  • @philaman1972
    @philaman1972 10 дней назад

    Doc Taraban is in his early 40s, not interested in marriage/family and is just seeking to score as much as he can and that's what his messages cover. Nothing wrong with this, but it needs to be stated.

  • @deportedsouls3165
    @deportedsouls3165 14 дней назад +1

    NOOOOO! Today shall absolutely NOT approach at all!!! There are a nr of women, that in best case ruin your life on social media, just because you approached, and in worst case, call the cops on you!!!

  • @MrSmithie25
    @MrSmithie25 9 дней назад

    Why i should approach a woman and give her Validation which she constantly gets from tons of alpha guys ?

  • @abrin5508
    @abrin5508 14 дней назад

    I'd consider myself pretty high level at this but with the knowledge I ain't some male model and quite average. What works is conversation and you don't want to hear this - but average or below. No way some average guy with average finances is dating a supermodel - despite how charming you are. And yes I've pulled a few but they were probably having an off day so you got lucky.

  • @DeutscherPatrick
    @DeutscherPatrick 17 дней назад +5

    My name is McLovin😏

  • @mmd3336
    @mmd3336 17 дней назад +2

    I am Casanova

    • @deleted01
      @deleted01 16 дней назад +1

      I am Adonis

    • @mmd3336
      @mmd3336 16 дней назад

      @@deleted01 I get every woman to bed 😀

  • @joshmetz9192
    @joshmetz9192 17 дней назад +21

    Just take $10,000 out and whack it on the table. Works every time 😂

    • @missylks1239
      @missylks1239 17 дней назад

      Yep. Men and women have been doing that for centuries. It’s called prostitution.

    • @user-cz1gu8nl9o
      @user-cz1gu8nl9o 17 дней назад +4

      You'll attract the wrong people that way! 😂😂

    • @janwilson9485
      @janwilson9485 17 дней назад +1

      Sad little man

    • @Royalbliss206
      @Royalbliss206 17 дней назад

      I can NOT be bought Mr

    • @MentalDeviant
      @MentalDeviant 17 дней назад

      If you think money gets you laid then you don't have game

  • @sreedevi3652
    @sreedevi3652 17 дней назад +2

    ❤❤

  • @longshorts7148
    @longshorts7148 9 дней назад

    BS. you could approach wrong but if she's physically attracted to you it wont matter(for initial appr) and vice versa you could approach the correct way from the side or up front being present in the moment and if she dont like what she sees it'll be rejection mostly soft rejection but nonetheless rejection. Seen it to many times.

  • @Harveygregorxotwod
    @Harveygregorxotwod 17 дней назад +3

    This guy looks insanely similar to Rory Jennings

  • @456456459
    @456456459 16 дней назад

    After many years of working on myself i gave in and started a match account after 6 months 0 interaction. I am not ugly have my own house have hobbies and intersts. No one replies to my conversation starters. Whoch are not agressive more inquisitive. Dammed annoying let me tell you.

  • @Ste2023
    @Ste2023 17 дней назад +1

    Ben Affleck never Cared

  • @mr.mayhem7402
    @mr.mayhem7402 10 дней назад

    Lot of work, isn't it?

  • @revefamilyvideos3018
    @revefamilyvideos3018 7 дней назад

    Not being six foot and rich

  • @gary6754
    @gary6754 13 дней назад

    um, why bother

  • @mmd3336
    @mmd3336 16 дней назад +1

    I get every woman to bed 😀

  • @dc5046
    @dc5046 17 дней назад +5

    "Flexively adaptive" ha ha ha ha.... Using a parallel to a car salesman ha ha ha ha.... Translation: Learn how to manipulate women.

    • @user-cz1gu8nl9o
      @user-cz1gu8nl9o 17 дней назад +2

      No. It's lesrning how to listen to your customer and find out what they want to buy.

    • @dc5046
      @dc5046 17 дней назад +2

      @@user-cz1gu8nl9o No, it's doing a quick superficial read on a human being to know what they will buy if the right buttons are pushed. That is not the way to a long-term relationship...but I assume the type of guys who do this are not looking for that, so sure.

  • @michaelehlert9
    @michaelehlert9 11 дней назад

    Golden tip: don’t care so much, just know there are many women on the planet.

  • @4787fhjjk
    @4787fhjjk 17 дней назад +1

    I had to turn it off. I’m very familiar with this material. Referring to people as numbers. Gag. Negging. Gag. You have game when you’re confident and you don’t rush it. Not a fan of this guest.

  • @DTreatz
    @DTreatz 17 дней назад +5

    Take your *red pills* instead fellas. 💊
    And get your passport, trust me, _it's worth it._ ✈🌍

  • @acquiesce100
    @acquiesce100 14 дней назад +1

    More American nonsense.

  • @DohertyT2319
    @DohertyT2319 15 дней назад

    You guys are losing the plot why the fuck would we do any of this? We can get anything we want online. Or you can go to the bar find a girl for the night and move on with like it’s cheaper simpler and life is better

    • @autoclearanceuk7191
      @autoclearanceuk7191 15 дней назад

      You keep writing this but it has never happened to most men.

  • @contracthit9839
    @contracthit9839 16 дней назад

    2 male bashing feminists.This Dr. Is out of ouch with the youth...