From MEN to COWARDS: The decline of MANHOOD in America

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
  • I know there's huge pushback from some folks about men being men. Things like "toxic masculinity" and such. Today, we look into the role of men in today's world, why it's a vitally important one, and why our families and our country need strong men now more than ever.
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Комментарии • 367

  • @LizM0510
    @LizM0510 2 года назад +168

    As a woman I completely agree!! We need men to be MEN! My husband retired last year after 28.5 years as A Capt.- FF/Paramedic!! He has always provided and taken care of his girls!

    • @144.72hz
      @144.72hz 2 года назад +8

      Heck yes! That's a real man you have. I have a 15 month old daughter and I do my best to be a better father to her and husband to my wife

    • @toddjohnson271
      @toddjohnson271 Год назад +1

      Then you fight other women and government to stop feminist policy and propaganda?

    • @ez-g3090
      @ez-g3090 Год назад +1

      We need to get rid of modern feminism.

    • @mindverse8972
      @mindverse8972 Год назад +1

      You say real men. Us men need real woman. We have to provide because most of you do nothing

    • @user-zn9fn2ye5w
      @user-zn9fn2ye5w Год назад +6

      ​@@144.72hz
      In the United States, about 70% of high school students have divorced mothers or fathers. That's why men in America recently lost their masculinity.

  • @robertlehnert4148
    @robertlehnert4148 Год назад +26

    "We are history's middle children...We are a generation of men raised by women".-- _Fight Club_

    • @moonlightstargem1006
      @moonlightstargem1006 Год назад +5

      Because all the fathers abandoned their children & wives

    • @jurassicthunder
      @jurassicthunder 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@moonlightstargem1006 it was fine making babies with those fathers tho wasn't it woman?

    • @Utilizador-gs3lx
      @Utilizador-gs3lx 5 месяцев назад

      And who chose to procriate with those type of men ?@@moonlightstargem1006

    • @wft15
      @wft15 5 месяцев назад

      Umm, men have never beeb involved in the family- we’re actually living in the age with most male involvement.

  • @momentocigars
    @momentocigars 2 года назад +102

    This type of content is going to make your channel blow up. Your personality, backstory, editing style and humor is going to make your channel massive.

    • @chrissanchez2152
      @chrissanchez2152 2 года назад +1

      correct - and do be careful - the internet has become a dangerous place for people like you/us

    • @PussyDevourer69
      @PussyDevourer69 Год назад

      Nobody cares about your prediction.

    • @g.h.7661
      @g.h.7661 5 месяцев назад

      @@chrissanchez2152 just desperate to experience a lil bit of that sweet, sweet oppression huh

  • @Labukh84
    @Labukh84 2 года назад +33

    Good for you. I like this pivot in the channel.

  • @talende
    @talende 2 года назад +60

    It cannot be underestimated how your behavior as a parent shapes your kids' expectations to their future partners.

    • @clownnworldorder
      @clownnworldorder Год назад

      Actually it cannot be underestimated how much more influence school and media/hollyweird has on your children than you do.

    • @talende
      @talende Год назад +1

      @@clownnworldorder from personal experience I have to disagree. I’ve consumed my fair share of weird stuff and filth in my youth, but I have always been loyal and respectful to my wife - just as my dad has been to my mom.

    • @Head-or-Dead
      @Head-or-Dead Год назад

      @@talende Yeah, you proved the OP's point. You're good to your wife just like your dad was good to your mother, which is what the OP was talking about.

    • @talende
      @talende Год назад

      ​@Agent 39 I'm, in fact, OP here, and I was responding to a comment that has been deleted. In the comment it was stated that all sorts of influences on the internet and in society would manipulate one into treating your significant other like a meat doll. And to that I must object.

    • @talende
      @talende Год назад

      ​@@Head-or-DeadI'm, in fact, OP here, and I was responding to a comment that has been deleted. In the comment it was stated that all sorts of influences on the internet and in society would manipulate one into treating your significant other like a meat doll. And to that I must object.

  • @3lluminatiii
    @3lluminatiii 2 года назад +60

    6:20 I'm a woman watching this. Yeah, I think the father/dad role is important in a females life. They're supposed to model what male figures are supposed to be like and how they treat their mothers, in front of their daughters, is super important too. The daughter sees all of this and she could end up marrying someone like her father and.... Depending on how that goes, it could be bad or good.

    • @FactsandReelsForall
      @FactsandReelsForall 11 месяцев назад

      That's not true. Many girls have wonderful fathers but they still do degenerate stuff

    • @jurassicthunder
      @jurassicthunder 6 месяцев назад +1

      and women are responsible for choosing that men.

  • @mariusannandale9144
    @mariusannandale9144 Год назад +15

    My Dad taught me not to be concerned with being a leader by the world's standards, but to be the leader of my home. Be a good man(A dangerous man that knows how to control himself), be a provider for those you love and most importantly be there for your kin. Not just as a provider but on a emotional level as well. Anyway with that tangent done, awesome content sir.

    • @spurkay2
      @spurkay2 Год назад +1

      You had a good Mother! She understood that raising men to be men is important to society.

    • @mariusannandale9144
      @mariusannandale9144 Год назад

      @@spurkay2 Indeed I do Ma'am, and I shamefully forgot to mention her role in my upbringing as the hand that rocked me and my sister's cradle, took care of her family and her home with great diligence and everything else in between.

  • @elmerfudd7202
    @elmerfudd7202 Год назад +5

    I am 63, I grew up in a family of 5 and poor. My old man was a Korean war F86 captain.
    My old man lost his dad when he was a kid so he was emotionally distant. My older brother
    was pissed because he felt rejected. I was raised by my older brother, he was brutal and harsh but
    in as much as a kid can be he was fair. The old man would come home late and he would bring this kind of total equality to the household. Everyone was equal, even the neighborhood kids. If I got my ass kick by the kid next door the old man would figure out what went down and if it was my fault he would bluntly ask: Did you learn your lesson? When my old man wasn't home my older brother had absolute control, he could beat my ass but he had to have a reason to give the old man. I used to feel the situation was so damn unfair and it was but now I look back and I am grateful for it.
    In Boot camp some guys ended up quitting or crying or whining or even breaking down. The drill Sargeants couldn't hit you first. So long as you kept your hands to yourself you were safe as a kitten.
    I could hardly keep from laughing, the crap the Sargeants tried I had long past a decade ago.

    • @comanchedase
      @comanchedase Год назад

      I'm 35 and was raised in a similar household, my father would be in his 70s now but Brough us up like it were 1954, despite there being some rough handedness (15 years worth of beatings will teach you something about something once i purposely let a guy land a punch i saw coming just to prove to myself i could take it) on his end I learned that life hits much much harder, he made sure I understood that.
      I'm not glad I had to endure it but am pretty glad I didn't have it as soft as others did...so I guess something good has come out of it.

  • @realCharAznable
    @realCharAznable 2 года назад +43

    Lots of good points. I also think the pop culture "macho man" caricature of what masculinity is contributes to what we have now, whether by happenstance or design. A lot of men I grew up around were uncomfortable with anything relating to art, literature, music, poetry, or any higher thought or form of expression. Those were "sissy" things. "Real men" ate plain meat and dismembered animals as a hobby. For anyone with half a brain, if that's what the ideal of masculinity is presented as, it's not going to have a lot of lasting power. But none of those things I listed are mutually exclusive. Consider for example the Samurai of ancient Japan. They were some of the most truly masculine men in human history. But they were also poets and artists, in fact it was common to meditate and write haiku by a flower garden or a waterfall before going into a lethal and brutal battle later on that day. I could go on forever about this stuff, but being masculine doesn't mean being insensitive or brutish, it means holding the balance between things and knowing what to do when push comes to shove. Knowing when survival and violence is necessary, and when it isn't. Knowing that fear is natural and normal, and courage is pushing forwards despite the fear, standing by what is important to you (i.e, your family and your principles, whatever approximates your "tribe" in today's world).
    tldr; there's a lot of misrepresentation on what masculinity really means, to all of our detriment. But the answer starts with honesty and knowing yourself, standing your ground but also being adaptive, holding the tension between principle/tradition and humility/open-mindedness, peace and violence, etc. Conquering yourself again and again, living with the belief that you have something to teach yourself, to improve on, until you die. But also loving and accepting yourself, not in a stagnant or complacent way, but in a way of constructive criticism and the desire to grow.

    • @Jason-Calhoun
      @Jason-Calhoun  2 года назад +2

      Well said. That’s a great description. Are you part of our Bettermens group by the way? Seems like you’d be a perfect fit.

    • @realCharAznable
      @realCharAznable 2 года назад

      @@Jason-Calhoun Thank you! I am not, what is it?

    • @biggibbs4678
      @biggibbs4678 Год назад

      The reason why men today are uncomfortable around artsy stuff and gay stuff is due to lack of masculinity. A shy and passive man who gets into arts is at a great risk of being considered gay. Girls thinking a man is gay desexualizes him. Masculine men can do artsy stuff because they're already masculine and their sexuality is not in question.

    • @biggibbs4678
      @biggibbs4678 Год назад +1

      What you're doing is gaslighting men. Men choose not to do theater and wear makeup because it is detrimental to their social status. But you act like they're crazy for making a rational decision.

    • @outmindbeats
      @outmindbeats Год назад

      Well said

  • @cjdeas1528
    @cjdeas1528 2 года назад +9

    Great stuff, and I really like your style, how you talk about things. Thanks for doing this!

  • @sinelocum
    @sinelocum 2 года назад +4

    This was a good one. Thank you for sharing.

  • @mephisto86yt
    @mephisto86yt Год назад +6

    It's a worldwide decline. And the root causes are heavily promoted. During the last decade, this decline accelerated. Thank you for your videos, and best wishes!

  • @Jay_2phones
    @Jay_2phones Год назад +1

    I agree sir. I’m old school and come from a military family. Still live by it.

  • @abuOuarda
    @abuOuarda Год назад +2

    I'm from Indonesia, hi!, in my country many speakers said that Indonesia is the one country that have called fatherless country, and it's going to be worst impact that lg6t becomes spreading out of control, cause HIV etc, sad fact

  • @BackcountryTreks
    @BackcountryTreks 2 года назад +2

    Wise words. Thanks for sharing

  • @dannyd02
    @dannyd02 Год назад +7

    My dad taught me how to be a man. I wanted to teach other men how to be real men, but I've discovered I'm surrounded by a bunch of sissified men. Not a single one is willing to stand up, they all want to sit down and do what some rich guy tells them to do. What has made men sissified? Money.

  • @gozimusable1
    @gozimusable1 Год назад +1

    As a gen x single woman whos doesnt know a man who i personally respect, thank you for being honest. Honesty is a virtue of a good man ❤❤

    • @darthhooligan4382
      @darthhooligan4382 5 месяцев назад

      I apologize for all the men that have let you down kiddo

  • @pooppy87
    @pooppy87 2 года назад +3

    Great message brother

  • @zaurmahmudov1438
    @zaurmahmudov1438 2 года назад +5

    Highly recommend the book "No more mr. Nice Guy" by Robert A. Glover

  • @ukasz961
    @ukasz961 Год назад +1

    Man, I found your channel. You're doing good job. I have to see more, good speech, good shape, challenging. Greetings from Poland.

  • @Sam-tz8ou
    @Sam-tz8ou 2 года назад +17

    This is not just an american thing, its happening all around the world.

  • @JosephStealin
    @JosephStealin 2 года назад +4

    Great transition so far👍

  • @gratefulpipeandcigar3239
    @gratefulpipeandcigar3239 2 года назад +2

    Right on the money, my friend. Everything you just talked about it including all the clips you just showed, I felt like I could’ve been watching a video about myself. I try to watch all that same content yeah I am certainly trying to be mindful and strive for all those things you just talked about as a husband and as a father. Sometimes it’s difficult and I asked and get it wrong and I am not afraid to admit it. It’s very clear that you are an editor and your videos always look outstanding. Thanks for the effort. Keep it up.

  • @nasiman-tf8je
    @nasiman-tf8je 2 года назад +8

    i like this guy

  • @miraiedits
    @miraiedits Год назад +3

    I agree with everything. Except for one point; I think women often get blamed for having kids with the wrong men. That takes responsibility away from the men, who chose to pursue that woman, chose to sleep with her and now he doesn't take responsibility. The woman in question is usually young and often inexperienced when it comes to life experiences, and she hasn't yet gained the type of wisdom you gain with age. It's easy for her to be swayed by a more experienced man, who says "the right" things, who treats her "the right" way... Making her believe that he IS the right choice. That's how it will seem to her inexperienced, young eyes. Once she realises the truth, she already has a child with him. Or, she will realise all of this when she is too old to start a family. This is very, very common. This isn't ALWAYS the case of course, but it IS common. This is partly why young women are so heavily guarded and controlled in many cultures, since it's generally understood that they are easily swayed by the wrong type of man. I think it's wrong to blame a young woman for being tricked by manipulative, experienced men. Instead, we should put the blame where it should be, on those men who didn't want to grow up and take responsibility for their actions. That's my opinion anyway.

  • @mccoy1369
    @mccoy1369 2 года назад +2

    Hello. I'm 47, no kids... to my knowledge, but not having kids, probably my one regret, or maybe it was meant to be.
    My father, may he rest, passed on when I was 19.
    I idolized and loved my dad. He raised me with so many life lessons, traits, his love for cars, 50s rock and roll, knowledge and goofiness, and I am very grateful for it all. It was a bit hard in my early adult yrs, but 4 yrs in Marine Corps kept me on a pretty decent strait and narrow. I went back in at 32, as a Corporal, and this time it gave me the ability to pass on some of what my dad taught me, to younger Marines. When I picked up Sergeant, being my dad's son, and the leadership I learned in the Marines made me a pretty damn good Sgt. Understanding and fair, but don't piss me off.
    I met many young men who grew up without fathers, and some of them joined to know what manhood was, in a sense, due to growing up without one. It was jaring to see how many men grew up with no fathers, grandfathers or uncles as a positive male role model.
    This one young man asked me if I could show him how to shave, I have to admit, it almost brought a tear to my eye. Of course, I helped the young man out.
    Thanks for the video, it tugged at the heart strings a little, but was interesting with some good knowledge.
    Thank you for reading, if you made it this far, just wanted to share my story to any other men who may be in a similar circumstance.
    My respect to all honorable fathers and all military personnel.
    Semper Fi.

    • @MattyB7
      @MattyB7 2 года назад +1

      Why dont you have kids today?

    • @Simpy553
      @Simpy553 Год назад

      I want kids and i want em orange with black stripes and bigger than me. They would protect me and the house too and if anyone tries to break in my cats would fuck them up you know why coz they are tigers

  • @talende
    @talende 2 года назад +18

    'if your daughter's future husband treated your daughter the way that you treat your wife every day, is that what you want?' Words of wisdom right there. Not because it sounds good but because it's true.

  • @jeffano3833
    @jeffano3833 Год назад +1

    63% percent of youth suicides come from single mother households, 90% of homeless and runaway are from single mother households, 80% of rapists come from single mother households, 71% of highschool dropouts are from single mother households, having experience with SJW friends(that already annoy me) jumping into conclusions when I state something like this, I am not diminishing a woman's parent role, but simply emphasizing the importance of a Man in the picture,so don't read into something that isn't in this statement

    • @anonymousanonymous870
      @anonymousanonymous870 Год назад

      It's should be said missing fathers homes, if men really wants to be in their children's lives no one can stop them . Unless they are harming their children and their mothers

  • @289kyle
    @289kyle 2 года назад +45

    It’s time for men to lead their homes and families with honor. There’s a book out there, sort of an instruction manual to life. If a man can pick up that book and read it and apply it, the change begins with him.. after that it spreads. This book is the most printed book in human history, it’s worth a read. Five stars.

  • @Florida_Pipe_Smoker
    @Florida_Pipe_Smoker 2 года назад +3

    Great video!

  • @JamesReborn2023
    @JamesReborn2023 2 года назад +3

    I’m ready

    • @yellowoctopus4729
      @yellowoctopus4729 2 года назад

      With a name like Isaiah you should have no problem, Godspeed brother

  • @moniquemyers2770
    @moniquemyers2770 2 года назад +2

    Can't wait to see what you have to say❤♥💙

  • @deankuettel8669
    @deankuettel8669 2 года назад +2

    Maturity is measured by the 4 cardinal virtues. These used to be integrated and valued in the culture, but now most men of the younger (my) generation don't even know what they are.

  • @samfletcher1617
    @samfletcher1617 2 года назад +1

    Awesome job and yes, keep this kind of content coming! 👍

  • @uscm9191
    @uscm9191 2 года назад +1

    Excellent video brother! Absolute truth bomb.

  • @MarkLinton-ik1zt
    @MarkLinton-ik1zt Год назад +1

    In order to take ownership and be the man your supposed to be. You need to have the option to do so. If you were raised by a single mother who thinks your problems stem from you and not societies harmful system. You then are at chance of being put on ssdi. If your on ssdi you cannot get off if a psychiatrist claims "you will never work" if you do so your at a risk of federal fraud investigation because you dared to question there divining. As well a man in his mother's care is a men who is doomed to be emasculated not just by his mother but also drugs pushed by BiG pharma. Indeed men are at the bottom.

  • @mooseruncoffee9754
    @mooseruncoffee9754 2 года назад +3

    good job man..

  • @craigcolbourn8351
    @craigcolbourn8351 Год назад +2

    You nailed it bro! NOW, here’s the next thing to really ponder:
    WHY IS THERE A FATHER CRISIS?
    What exactly caused our Dads to stop being good Dads? What is causing us to fall as Dads as well? What dominoes fell that are causing the current dominos to fall? What is the root of the Dad crisis?

    • @maxgucciardi4507
      @maxgucciardi4507 Год назад

      Hippies probably. The whole free love, live life for pleasure, screw all the responsibilities Im expected to have idea. The hedonistic ideology is all about putting yourself before anyone else.
      That's not to say the Veitnam War wasn't a criminal act against Americans. Drafting kids off to die in a war or have the rest of thier life ruined over stuff that has nothing to do with them. But the rebellion against authority and responsibility swung to far in the other direction.

  • @pedarsagg
    @pedarsagg Год назад +1

    I'm the most "toxic" looking man where I work, and I don't even do tattoos😂😂
    All the so-called anti toxic masculinity folks adore me!! Deep down inside, everyone loves a man who's built like a statue and gets the job done!!
    “It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.”

  • @esteban1487
    @esteban1487 Год назад +1

    We've gone from Clint Eastwood and Charles Bronson to Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt.

  • @omarleal6688
    @omarleal6688 2 года назад +1

    Great content, keep it up!! Greetings from monterrey, mx.

  • @piobmhor8529
    @piobmhor8529 2 года назад +5

    When I was in school in the 60s and 70s, we had teachers and neighbours who went through the Great Depression and WW2. They just oozed testosterone. Broken families were rare; most single mothers were widows. Kids were in Boy Scouts and Girl Guides instead of gangs. We used to leave our doors unlocked as crime was so low it was almost non-existent. Fast forward a few decades and you can see that quotation “hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times” is very true.

    • @denkikaminari7887
      @denkikaminari7887 Год назад

      well, I guess our generation is screwed

    • @biggibbs4678
      @biggibbs4678 Год назад

      Lol there was plenty of crime in the 60s and 70s

  • @2006chame
    @2006chame 2 года назад +2

    thank you, brilliant

  • @timfehn4637
    @timfehn4637 6 месяцев назад

    Im glad you didn't get political with this subject. I see so many bring politics into these kind of discussions as if thats the only thing affecting it. I also agree with your definition as of what a man should be or least what that role plays in a family regardless of gender or sexuality. Your vids have helped me realize more about myself from an outside perspective and how i appear to my family and to go about changing it for both their sake and my own.

  • @agenttex7831
    @agenttex7831 2 года назад +2

    Good stuff man… keep it up.

  • @claymaynard4207
    @claymaynard4207 2 года назад +8

    Well I'm definitely gonna share this right now. This kind of falls right in line with I'm working on in myself right now. As a young man getting struck down with a disabling disease It becomes very easy to Just go with the flow and accept a disability paycheck. But right now I am working on creating other sources of possible income so that I am a burden to no system and nobody.

    • @kentaromasudmizoguchi
      @kentaromasudmizoguchi 2 года назад +2

      I pray for your success... may your health improves to..

    • @claymaynard4207
      @claymaynard4207 2 года назад +1

      @@kentaromasudmizoguchi Thank you very much.

    • @Okello_kev
      @Okello_kev 2 года назад +1

      Just Imagine the tradition of getting married and having a family is all gone.

  • @JDSilverTobaccoPipes
    @JDSilverTobaccoPipes 2 года назад

    Good thoughts, man. Thanks.

  • @onceblind6319
    @onceblind6319 2 года назад +6

    There are very few (like 10 😆) people I follow on youtube, and you are one. Very excited for today's episode. I started a podcast last year and would really love to have you as a guest on it. If you are interested please let me know my contact info is on the description of any of my videos

  • @lostfound34
    @lostfound34 Год назад

    Salute to you sir! Great video!

  • @TheToddFather1969
    @TheToddFather1969 2 года назад +2

    We need more of this

  • @paulmoney6907
    @paulmoney6907 2 года назад +1

    I am over 50 and I had tried to be a stepdad, a husband, a boss, a leader, and minister. I have fallen greatly short in all of them. Right now, I am 400lbs and have an illness. No one sees me as a man. I want to die.

    • @vikingrogaland2844
      @vikingrogaland2844 2 года назад

      Wow, so sad brother. I have been through some terrible years, suicidal, after my wife decided to kick me out. She took my kids, the house, killed my self esteem, threw me in prison when I got mad at her for destroying also my personal economy. I feel with u. Reading the Bible and being on my knees, saying:Father, I am a lousy sinner. But you are merciful and kind to the brokenhearted. Forgive me all my sins, in Jesus Name.
      So even if, due to past events, I isolated myself from both church and friends, and grew more and more into a state of drinking and also had extramarital relations (I only wanted to be with my wife and kids!), I still feel that God is for me. He knows me, for. good - for bad - and yet He loves me! And if God is for us, when we humble ourselves and seek Him, then who can be against us? Oh yes, they are plentyful, but nothing can separate us from the love of Christ.
      Open the Bible, immerse yourself into the Gospels and the teachings of the Apostles. All sins shall be forgiven men, but not blasphemy against the holy spirit.
      Fight against those forces who attack you, push u down and judge you. Love your enemies, but most of all: Love yourself. Do not care about what they say. God bless men like us.

    • @Shekupe_k
      @Shekupe_k Год назад

      Ur a grown man. Stop looking for people to feel sorry for u

    • @Cormac-jd2kx
      @Cormac-jd2kx 5 месяцев назад

      Be proud dude. It all starts with PRIDE.

  • @sirsleepy2472
    @sirsleepy2472 Год назад

    Love this content!

  • @DestinyAlready
    @DestinyAlready 11 месяцев назад +1

    Since men are supposed to raise men to be men and there is a pandemic of absentee fathers, how would there enough choices for women? That dude was trying to blame women. Talking about choose better men when most of these men had absentee fathers and so don’t know how to be men, which would mean there is not much to choose from.

  • @robertledo5717
    @robertledo5717 2 года назад +1

    Brother, I truly think you should write a book; and I’m sure a lot of people believe the same. I would love to read it! God bless you.

  • @ccarello1
    @ccarello1 2 года назад +3

    This is sorely needed. The only other livestream I've ever put a reminder on was the Launch of a SpaceX rocket. My only hope is you don't become embittered. It might be too late for me.

  • @ashtonloomis9169
    @ashtonloomis9169 Год назад

    I knew you were going to use that quote. I love that one

  • @RevivingRealFoods
    @RevivingRealFoods 2 года назад +1

    Cheers. fun watch

  • @Cormac-jd2kx
    @Cormac-jd2kx 5 месяцев назад

    Smoking a cigar is cool and relaxing and makes you look like a real man….but after surviving a tough day, battle (real one), sparring boxing MMA etc
    The convictions ideas family etc is something you take from granted. You aren’t a real man unless you risk your integrity, losing it or not.
    You need to lose fights before you become a man.
    Being a successful entrepreneur coming from a rich family means little

  • @stephenmitchell2881
    @stephenmitchell2881 2 года назад +1

    Amen. Taking a similar path myself.

  • @primaltone
    @primaltone 2 года назад +1

    As others have said: no, you're not weak. I just think you're a bit like in that you're not as strong as you want to be. I'm trying to remember who it was that recently said: in order to achieve the ideal version of you, start acting like you are that ideal. I need to work on that too.

  • @janvyachaslav5903
    @janvyachaslav5903 Год назад

    Great content. Keep it up.

  • @liborvesely2331
    @liborvesely2331 2 года назад

    Thanks. Great content, keep it up. But it is much more demanding and sophisticated topic, than your paralell ones ;-) So I hope you can keep it on good level :-)

  • @JLBorges2803
    @JLBorges2803 2 года назад +2

    Not keen on the ideas of absent fathers being blamed on women's choices or seeing gay or transgender people as weak. It's not my experience as all.
    All for owning you responsibility to be the best person you can be morally, buts let's not idealise the past too much. Men still abandoned their wives and children, domestic abuse was more prevalent and women were deliberately excluded from having economic, political or cultural influence. A good man is a good person and good people respect each other and don't exclude people through prejudice.

    • @g.h.7661
      @g.h.7661 5 месяцев назад

      thank you for displaying some kindness & human decency. it’s hilarious how many of these comments are from guys convinced that they’re being oppressed because they’re men watching a RUclips video explaining to them…. how to be a man? 🤡 you have to at least hand it to this guy 🤝 he’s putting a lot of sincere & honest work into these videos as a way to advertise his scam school that teaches men to be manly, menly, and masculine. I mean im sure clown college will give them a fine education. just… fine.

  • @don_ayash
    @don_ayash Год назад

    Ibn Khaldon was the one that said the saying of Weak men create weak times... He was a Muslim man that lived in the Golden Era of Islam

  • @CertifyC3
    @CertifyC3 Год назад

    Thank you, MAN!

  • @88keysLA
    @88keysLA 2 года назад +5

    Another strong voice on RUclips.

  • @almollitor
    @almollitor 2 года назад +2

    Here's my question: In this day and age, what's the difference between a good man and a good person? Work life has changed so much that work is not that much different for men and women. Physical strength is not as important for most of us as it once was. Many of us men help out around the house in ways that men didn't in the past. We hire others to do stuff the man used to do. Just where is the line drawn today in modern western society?

    • @liborvesely2331
      @liborvesely2331 2 года назад +4

      It is up to everybody to find his way and border lines. Maybe it is about taking back a man's role even if this day and age does not need it from you? You can call somebody to fix broken door, to change a bulb in a light or to do some plumbing stuff. But are you than a good example for your kids? Does it give to wife feeling that she has a man and if anyting goes wrong he is there to fix it and to keep stuff together? Or that she has a money earning phone support ordering stuff that is needed to be done.
      In my opinion, that is that difference. You can hire somebody or you can take responsibility for your household and do it yourself. It requires from you to study sth, to understand how things work and to have strenght to do what is needed. As a bonus you can teach your kids how to do it. So than you are good example for your kids and you are assuring your wife that her man is a Man. In the process you are getting better man because you are learning new stuff.
      Or anytime you can create enviroment where you can be a man in his role. To take a family for a hike, make shelter, find and prepare food. Teach kids how to make a fire, how to use knife and so on... Everybody can find his way. You find your line.
      You describe it as you are defined by enviroment surrounding you, but we need to change to be creators of our enviroment.

    • @user-bi4lp4gc2r
      @user-bi4lp4gc2r 2 года назад

      Are you a men?

  • @shawndiller4550
    @shawndiller4550 2 года назад +1

    New to the channel. Love the content.

  • @C82929
    @C82929 Год назад +2

    I’m a married woman and I watched this and I agree with what this man says.

  • @ChicoAzevedo
    @ChicoAzevedo Год назад

    As a father os a 7 years old boy i can relate to this part:
    "to be the best father you can be you have to be the best person you can be personally that's your mind that's your body that's your spirits your ideals. it's your confidence it's the things you care about standing up and protecting those things to raise your boys right you have to be the best you can possibly be and be that every day.

  • @cc-iq2bs
    @cc-iq2bs 4 месяца назад

    MEN AND WOMEN ONLY.
    I DO NOT RECOGNISE ANYTHING ELSE AND I NEVER WILL.
    NEVER

  • @brianaustin2135
    @brianaustin2135 2 года назад

    Great video keep it up

  • @KBSINN
    @KBSINN Год назад

    You have a great voice brother i am subscribing just to listen your voice .

  • @BrokenTatsu
    @BrokenTatsu 2 года назад +1

    A woman becomes pregnant, she becomes a mother. A man becomes a father when he sees his child for the first time.

  • @oliedjubaer402
    @oliedjubaer402 Год назад

    This man deserve million subscribers

  • @ryanmcmuffi6137
    @ryanmcmuffi6137 2 года назад +1

    I'm sure af not one of those cowardly men I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and im definitely not afraid to be an absolute beast when I need to be but I was also raised to be a gentleman

  • @recoveringknowitall1534
    @recoveringknowitall1534 2 года назад +2

    wisdom, brother. I'm 55, 56 in June. how old are you?

    • @Jason-Calhoun
      @Jason-Calhoun  2 года назад +1

      Thank you sir. I’ll be 40 later this year.

  • @nealdavis350
    @nealdavis350 2 года назад

    I agree with you, Jason. Important video with important thoughts. As a non-father, I won't try to add anything. As a son I can say that I am my father's son. I wanted to be different, and I am, but I also am very similar. I guess that I bear out your point. Happy Easter!

  • @mariusbaltazarrozenberg-ho9367

    I had a Polish Mama - that'll make a man of ANYONE.

  • @volgantifriebus9549
    @volgantifriebus9549 Год назад

    Yep good conversation I'm here

  • @djkaliope9837
    @djkaliope9837 Год назад

    All strong Men die...all weak men die.....all good men die. All bad men die. Do you while you're here.

  • @danielyustas5267
    @danielyustas5267 Год назад

    All really smart but the part of smoking. Smoking is the most selfess controlled, passive and dependent activity a human can have. Masculinity is about being strong, independent, doing good for yourself and others and active. Smoking and showing that to your child is not what I understand as a masculine characteristic.

  • @lovecat4everxxx401
    @lovecat4everxxx401 2 года назад

    My dad raised me and my sister when my mother was blind from a surgery mistake, and then died. But Im from Europe. Good luck USA, good luck!

  • @kylemonkiewicz2803
    @kylemonkiewicz2803 Год назад

    I was watching the scots and thought man there hard core the Vikings the Germans the Japanese and then I look at us an disappointed in my nation because I know we can be better

  • @lexlow5101
    @lexlow5101 2 года назад +1

    Truth

  • @babriggs9427
    @babriggs9427 Год назад

    Brutal truth matters - thanks

  • @childwaters
    @childwaters Год назад +1

    "Weak, soft, and timid" ain the problem. The problem is SELFISHNESS. Primarily in the sense of thinking somehow they are entitled to use women sexually and emotionally and don't have to treat them as equal partners and human beings. Women do NOT have to put up with that crap anymore. They don't need breadwinners; they need PARTNERS, emotional, parental, economic. Men who won't fill those roles will die out. Want a life? Grow up, gain education and employment, get socialized, learn how to treat ALL people with respect.

  • @bobloblaw9362
    @bobloblaw9362 2 года назад +10

    I watched the two most recent videos. The message overall about being the best version of yourself, being a strong role model, and not making excuses is good. I’m not crazy about the other message of absent fathers causing homosexuality, I’d like actual research backing up a claim like that. It sounds anecdotal and stupid. Being a man, to me, is also about being able to think critically. The white male victim card in the last video is a form of excuse, albeit an increasingly popular and convenient one. I’m a white male and have never felt like a victim or that it held me back in anyway. Anyway. Wish you the best. I’m on the deck with my cigar and wanted to give you honest feedback.
    Edit: I really liked the quote about difficult times creating strong men. I’ve thought about this a lot lately. People seem to take democracy for granted. It’s been so long since WWII.

    • @johnadventure1483
      @johnadventure1483 2 года назад +2

      Respectfuly I would challenge your interpretation of what Jason is saying. Because like you I think a strong man is also one that thinks critical and it seams that is the direction he is going with these videos,Time will tell. I think a strong man is strong in many ways including mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Also there are statistics for how much the family benefits from having a strong father at home,better for moms and children.

  • @TimeWanderingDad
    @TimeWanderingDad Год назад

    Good day Sir, New subscriber and also new pipe smoker, heres a little story: A few nights ago i had a dream, now i have many dreams of coarse, but in this dream i was out in the wilderness with a friend of whom ive havent met yet, but i was talking to this gentleman, and by all means this man was not a 'gentle' man as he seemed rough around the edges, more Viking like. We were talking around a nice camp fire, perhaps talking about life, a battle we had just fought, or maybe the secrets of the Univerese who knows as i cannot recall the conversation but he hands me a pipe with a delicious Tobacco that even when i woke up i had the taste still lingering in my mind and palate. So i looked up pipe smoking on youtube, i guess as any other curious man would and i found you, Your channel. The next day I was at work, I currently work in retail, and i was looking for pipes online, some Savinelli's peaked my interest, i saw a Lorenzetti that i thought was beautiful, but they were too pricey for this new hobby so i went with a rustic Dr. Grabow, which I may say is not bad at all. A customer (Gentleman) approached me to buy a computer so i say "Good day Sir", how may i be of assistance, the older man said "oh, well good day to you Sir". As we were concluding the sale i opened the tab where i was purchasing my new pipe, and he says "Oh pipes!" with a smile, We had a good long conversation and i told him that i am the kind of man who still believes in Old good American values, to teach my children how to be good humans, to themselves but also to others, to be strong but have Humility, to work hard for what you want and what you believe in, to respect and be respected, to face hardships and not run from them, to know that its okay to lose but always aim to be a winner, that its okay to come in second place but by the God's aim for 1st! to face bullies and beat there ass if need be but not be a bully themselves and the list hoes on, the Gentleman looked at me and smiled, he said wow you are one of the few in these strange times -a Last of the Mohicans, i said "Sir, i had an abusive mother, a father that never had time, and a family that was broken, and i swore that i would never make my Children go through that, so here i am, a loving father, a hard worker, battered and broken, but i am strong with life experience, and wiser as the days pass" he shook my hand and with a smile he said, "It was a pleasure meeting you". Thank you for your videos and this type of content, i look forward to them, I hope the Universe sends many great things to you and your Family, have a great day Sir.

  • @scottowl75
    @scottowl75 2 года назад +1

    This video has really surprised me , glad your onboard .

  • @ahrendt80
    @ahrendt80 Год назад

    Thanks 👍

  • @kristerwikman3433
    @kristerwikman3433 Год назад

    my grandpa weighed 110 kilos , my dad 70 , and me 55

  • @SomeRandomOldFatGuy
    @SomeRandomOldFatGuy Год назад

    The same thing happens every couple hundred years and it always turns out fine in the end. My history is getting a bit rusty but I think the last time was the "dandy's" of the 1600s. Same exact thing and same exact reactions to it. This too shall pass.

  • @robwilliams239
    @robwilliams239 Год назад

    Men need to be men and women need to be women. But to say this would imply that there is some sort of standard by which we can measure this. What’s the the standard? God or society? Men were men when we were a Christian society. Ungodly women still desire a godly man. And ungodly men still desire a godly woman.

  • @lustrousmetal3677
    @lustrousmetal3677 2 года назад

    Good luck!

  • @QKvox
    @QKvox 2 года назад +1

    Im glad this isnt as bad in australia (at least what I see, and i live in a pretty progressive part of the country)

  • @j.b.4340
    @j.b.4340 2 года назад

    And, good video. 👍🏻

  • @Everydaygentleman
    @Everydaygentleman 2 года назад +3

    Excellent video, completely agree. We have definitely come to a time where good times made soft men and are entering hard times. Hard times make... 👍🏼👍🏼

  • @Oohshtmfgtdmn
    @Oohshtmfgtdmn Год назад

    Men are more interested in being liked or accepted by other men than standing up for what he believes..todays man have a bad case of group think..if they're friends feel a certain way about a subject then they are sure to adopt the exact same beliefs.

    • @g.h.7661
      @g.h.7661 5 месяцев назад

      you’ve summed up the target audience for this video quite perfectly 👏 congrats, 10 man points to you lad, now go on, back out to the battlefield with ya, don’t wanna see you get all soft and girly spending all day fiddling with your phone now do we 🫡

  • @kentaromasudmizoguchi
    @kentaromasudmizoguchi 2 года назад +1

    This video will be watched from generation to generation, creating many strong family and great father, you sir, are the father of the world for teaching us a very valuable lesson...