It's very basic. She's not putting out because she is not attracted to you and DOES NOT LOVE YOU. The relationship is DONE. Now face reality and leave NOW and save yourself any further humiliation
I'd rather be single and alone than married and celibate. He's doing all that work, probably has 0 time for himself and for no reward. I'd be interested to hear how those 3 encounters went down. She probably laid there with her legs open like a beached whale, with her eyes closed, waiting for him to finish already. Sad.
nobody is entitled to sex. If someone doesn’t want to it, there could be many reasons for that. If you feel like you’re not getting enough out of it, have a non confrontational conversation. If you can’t reach a consensus or feel your needs aren’t being met, you can leave
I guess it depends on your definition of "entitled". I would probably define it as something you have a right to unearned. Which I would say I agree with the sex thing. However has married people we are beholden to the needs of the other partner and spouses have a duty to fulfill those needs. Obviously within reason and boundaries established by both parties. Otherwise I don't see the purpose of marriage.
Your spouse is entitled to sex. That is part of the marital contract. "I renounce the right to sleep with any other and in return you accept the obligation to meet my needs." Sometimes it's even explicit in the vows. The Church even considers it a mortal sin to deny your spouse sex absent a good reason such as illness or infirmity. If I ever marry again my vows will state that I promise my spouse the "right of first refusal" and that when she refuses she holds me unencumbered by that vow.
The right to refuse sex but still keep all goodies is why women invented the special pleading "my body my choice." The abroshun thing is just an additional benefit, which let's them basically get away with murder.
I think it was Rich Cooper who said this: get a membership at a 24 hour gym. Have your gym bag ready to go Ask and when you’re denied, smile and say that you’re going to workout. Go workout hard and long, shower and return home. In a short time, you’ll be noticeably better looking. She’ll start wanting you or you’re ready to move on. Fortunately, my wife still takes good care of me!
This doesn’t mention how the husband is treating the wife- that could be contributing to her lack of desire. Also, if this woman works and pays 50% of the bills, then he’s not entitled to sex- only if the woman chooses it.
If she isn't happy she would have filed for divorce as women divorce 75% of the time and hadn't at the time of this spreadsheet - so she's content with the relationship.
@@rw-xf4cb women do initiate most divorces but that is after much thought, soul-searching, and attempting to solve the issue. Women are more likely to suggest therapy and seek ways to solve the issue. Men are also more likely to cheat as well as to leave their wife if the woman gets a terminal illness. men benefit more from marriage than women by all statistics. Married women with children work more and have more stress than single mothers. The happiest people, as a matter of fact, are married men and single women. Men simply aren’t beneficial for women
@@rw-xf4cbwomen file for divorce as a last resort. Reality is that married women with children work more than single mothers- the husband creates more work for the woman and is basically another child but with more demands. Men are more likely to cheat, they are more likely to abandon their wife after a terminal illness diagnosis, women do most household chores and child rearing even though they work outside the home and contribute to the home financially.
You make a good point. We don't know the details of the marriage, and don't know how this husband treats his wife and visa versa. I think there is an update to Rebecca's video, i'll check it out! Thanks for the watch and comment!
I've been with my husband for 11 years, we have 4 children, my youngest being 8 weeks old. Most days I'm too touched out physically to want to have sex. Most times I have to force myself. You know that saying, fake it til you make it? It's true lol. I find when I take the time to actually engage, I end up having a great time.
Yeah I went through this. The endless excuses. Endless emasculation I became a shell of a man where is way more to my story that doesn't involve her ultimately it brought me to where I am today
Denying sex to their husbands is a serious breach of contract even if she is not cheating and she probable is. The only acceptable excuse on the second time is she is dying. The part that really burns is you know she was probably a 304 when she was younger.
My husband is the one that's never been interested. We married as virgins in our mid and late 20s. That was just how it was done in our community, but was more by his insistence. He said he was very interested, but it never materialized. Really affected my self esteem. 18 years later I'm now used to it but it's still sad that the passion we looked forward to just couldn't be. Slowly learning that it's not what I do or don't do as nothing has made a difference and he doesn't see any problem.
if you have to make a spreadsheet about sex with your chic, it was already done along long time ago bro!.....that is insane, wouldnt even want it if she isnt willingly offering it
This is not good, but it may also mean depression or similar stuff, not only her not loving him. There are some inklings like not showering, just watching tv, etc that suggest an overall problem. Clearly something has to change for the good of both spouses, but it might not be only lack of attraction.
I'm sorry, but that is a ridiculously high expectation to expect your wife to have sex that much....if she agreed to the other 25, she basically would have agreed to sex everyday for a month straight. No one should expect their partner to have that high of a libido (unless somethings wrong with them) Womens libido usually tracks with their cycle. Both the husband and wife need to have an honest, open conversation about the real reasons for lack of intimacy and the expectation going forward EDIT: umm men do indeed turn down sex from women...especially if they are depressed or have some type of anxiety around it. Don't assume you can speak for all men
You do understand that the 25 times he asked, only happend because of the lack of it. Its like saying, OHHH he asked me 25 times a day for water. Do you know what would have happend if you actually would give him water SHERLOCK? He would maybe ask you three times a day and not 25 because his thirst is unbearable.
@@SayfumaniMyG I am well aware. I don't think he actually wanted sex everyday; more likely, he's building a case against his wife about how she denies him sex at every request...which is why I said they BOTH need to discuss the real reasons behind this. No need for some silly spreadsheet, just go talk to your wife
@@ptlovelight2971 No need for talk. You cant talk attraction to existence. He just should learn how to trigger her sexual desire, so that she even starts to initiate the intimacy.
@@ptlovelight2971 You cant talk attraction in to existence. If she is unwilling to give it, there is nothing else left than becoming more competent, so that she reaches also her org...
The only problem here is that y’all can’t get that she just doesn’t want to have swx and you’re too childish to accept it. By the way, y’all need to know SEX IS NOT AB EXPRESSION OF LOVE. Bc if it is, brotherly love won’t exist. Mother-child love won’t be the strongest of all, sisterly love don’t exist. Family love won’t exist. Friendship love won’t exist.
am sure the husband doesn't want to do stuff either, call it a chore its duty in a locked relationship. She will be the first to file divorce if he wandered off course - seen it from a colleague. Might even assist the marriage if she does put out bit more often he will be more accommodating to her requests.
Why is it childish? Sex is a pretty big part of marriage. I wouldn't say its childish if the man stopped working because he doesn't want to and she had a problem with that.
@@joshuadalton6063 no actually swx is NOT a big part of marriage bc marriage between men and women is immoral and unnatural. Just bc men want sex doesn’t mean humans are made that way and women need to be doing that. By all the counts of your own formulas swx is failing in 80-99% of marriages.
@@SayfumaniMyG wrong actually we do accept it. We do. It’s just he’s not owed sex. So he needs to find someone who will cease over their body entirely to him to abuse. His wife doesn’t.
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It's very basic. She's not putting out because she is not attracted to you and DOES NOT LOVE YOU. The relationship is DONE. Now face reality and leave NOW and save yourself any further humiliation
she love what he give aka walking wallet marriage
My worst nightmare is a sexless marriage. Uuugghhh… NO!!NO!! NOOOOOOO
This is triggering flashbacks to my marriage, now long over.
5-6 times in the last almost 16 years, nothing in over 8 - not even a kiss. She won't accept any responsibility for the destruction of our marriage.
I'd rather be single and alone than married and celibate. He's doing all that work, probably has 0 time for himself and for no reward. I'd be interested to hear how those 3 encounters went down. She probably laid there with her legs open like a beached whale, with her eyes closed, waiting for him to finish already. Sad.
nobody is entitled to sex. If someone doesn’t want to it, there could be many reasons for that. If you feel like you’re not getting enough out of it, have a non confrontational conversation. If you can’t reach a consensus or feel your needs aren’t being met, you can leave
She obviously wants him to leave, and probably has a boyfriend.
I guess it depends on your definition of "entitled". I would probably define it as something you have a right to unearned. Which I would say I agree with the sex thing. However has married people we are beholden to the needs of the other partner and spouses have a duty to fulfill those needs. Obviously within reason and boundaries established by both parties. Otherwise I don't see the purpose of marriage.
Your spouse is entitled to sex. That is part of the marital contract. "I renounce the right to sleep with any other and in return you accept the obligation to meet my needs." Sometimes it's even explicit in the vows. The Church even considers it a mortal sin to deny your spouse sex absent a good reason such as illness or infirmity. If I ever marry again my vows will state that I promise my spouse the "right of first refusal" and that when she refuses she holds me unencumbered by that vow.
The right to refuse sex but still keep all goodies is why women invented the special pleading "my body my choice." The abroshun thing is just an additional benefit, which let's them basically get away with murder.
In some states you can sue for that. It’s called widtholding spousal affection or something
Divorce
I think it was Rich Cooper who said this: get a membership at a 24 hour gym.
Have your gym bag ready to go
Ask and when you’re denied, smile and say that you’re going to workout.
Go workout hard and long, shower and return home.
In a short time, you’ll be noticeably better looking.
She’ll start wanting you or you’re ready to move on.
Fortunately, my wife still takes good care of me!
This doesn’t mention how the husband is treating the wife- that could be contributing to her lack of desire.
Also, if this woman works and pays 50% of the bills, then he’s not entitled to sex- only if the woman chooses it.
If she isn't happy she would have filed for divorce as women divorce 75% of the time and hadn't at the time of this spreadsheet - so she's content with the relationship.
@@rw-xf4cb women do initiate most divorces but that is after much thought, soul-searching, and attempting to solve the issue. Women are more likely to suggest therapy and seek ways to solve the issue. Men are also more likely to cheat as well as to leave their wife if the woman gets a terminal illness.
men benefit more from marriage than women by all statistics. Married women with children work more and have more stress than single mothers. The happiest people, as a matter of fact, are married men and single women.
Men simply aren’t beneficial for women
@@rw-xf4cbwomen file for divorce as a last resort.
Reality is that married women with children work more than single mothers- the husband creates more work for the woman and is basically another child but with more demands.
Men are more likely to cheat, they are more likely to abandon their wife after a terminal illness diagnosis, women do most household chores and child rearing even though they work outside the home and contribute to the home financially.
You make a good point. We don't know the details of the marriage, and don't know how this husband treats his wife and visa versa. I think there is an update to Rebecca's video, i'll check it out! Thanks for the watch and comment!
How many kids do they have?
Yea no kids then get they hell out of there.
I've been with my husband for 11 years, we have 4 children, my youngest being 8 weeks old. Most days I'm too touched out physically to want to have sex. Most times I have to force myself. You know that saying, fake it til you make it? It's true lol. I find when I take the time to actually engage, I end up having a great time.
thats most man marriage past year 3 😁
Yeah I went through this. The endless excuses. Endless emasculation I became a shell of a man where is way more to my story that doesn't involve her ultimately it brought me to where I am today
You’re a shell of yourself bc an autonomous human being won’t allow you to attach yourself to her? That makes you a leech
Watching "Friends"? Subhuman detected
Too much work. You say “either WE’re fuckin’ or I’M fuckin’… the choice is yours”
i literally cannot imagine being married and the wife denying her husband the bedroom. that is just insane
Never underestimate CELIBACY.
Denying sex to their husbands is a serious breach of contract even if she is not cheating and she probable is. The only acceptable excuse on the second time is she is dying. The part that really burns is you know she was probably a 304 when she was younger.
My husband is the one that's never been interested. We married as virgins in our mid and late 20s. That was just how it was done in our community, but was more by his insistence. He said he was very interested, but it never materialized. Really affected my self esteem. 18 years later I'm now used to it but it's still sad that the passion we looked forward to just couldn't be. Slowly learning that it's not what I do or don't do as nothing has made a difference and he doesn't see any problem.
if you have to make a spreadsheet about sex with your chic, it was already done along long time ago bro!.....that is insane, wouldnt even want it if she isnt willingly offering it
Your wife has as much right to say NO as you have to say get the hell out of my house.
your best bet is no wife. no wife=no problems.
Honey want to go to brunch, sisters baby shower say you don’t feel like it then go watch the game with a beer 😂
This is not good, but it may also mean depression or similar stuff, not only her not loving him. There are some inklings like not showering, just watching tv, etc that suggest an overall problem. Clearly something has to change for the good of both spouses, but it might not be only lack of attraction.
I'm sorry, but that is a ridiculously high expectation to expect your wife to have sex that much....if she agreed to the other 25, she basically would have agreed to sex everyday for a month straight. No one should expect their partner to have that high of a libido (unless somethings wrong with them) Womens libido usually tracks with their cycle. Both the husband and wife need to have an honest, open conversation about the real reasons for lack of intimacy and the expectation going forward
EDIT: umm men do indeed turn down sex from women...especially if they are depressed or have some type of anxiety around it. Don't assume you can speak for all men
You do understand that the 25 times he asked, only happend because of the lack of it. Its like saying, OHHH he asked me 25 times a day for water. Do you know what would have happend if you actually would give him water SHERLOCK? He would maybe ask you three times a day and not 25 because his thirst is unbearable.
@@SayfumaniMyG I am well aware. I don't think he actually wanted sex everyday; more likely, he's building a case against his wife about how she denies him sex at every request...which is why I said they BOTH need to discuss the real reasons behind this. No need for some silly spreadsheet, just go talk to your wife
@@ptlovelight2971 No need for talk. You cant talk attraction to existence. He just should learn how to trigger her sexual desire, so that she even starts to initiate the intimacy.
@@ptlovelight2971 No need to talk. Just know how to trigger her desire and learn how to satisfy her. She will start to come to you.
@@ptlovelight2971 You cant talk attraction in to existence. If she is unwilling to give it, there is nothing else left than becoming more competent, so that she reaches also her org...
The only problem here is that y’all can’t get that she just doesn’t want to have swx and you’re too childish to accept it.
By the way, y’all need to know SEX IS NOT AB EXPRESSION OF LOVE. Bc if it is, brotherly love won’t exist. Mother-child love won’t be the strongest of all, sisterly love don’t exist. Family love won’t exist. Friendship love won’t exist.
am sure the husband doesn't want to do stuff either, call it a chore its duty in a locked relationship. She will be the first to file divorce if he wandered off course - seen it from a colleague. Might even assist the marriage if she does put out bit more often he will be more accommodating to her requests.
Why is it childish? Sex is a pretty big part of marriage. I wouldn't say its childish if the man stopped working because he doesn't want to and she had a problem with that.
@@joshuadalton6063 no actually swx is NOT a big part of marriage bc marriage between men and women is immoral and unnatural. Just bc men want sex doesn’t mean humans are made that way and women need to be doing that. By all the counts of your own formulas swx is failing in 80-99% of marriages.
The only problem is than y'all can't get it that he just doesn't want to not have swx and you're too childish to accept it.
@@SayfumaniMyG wrong actually we do accept it. We do. It’s just he’s not owed sex. So he needs to find someone who will cease over their body entirely to him to abuse. His wife doesn’t.