As a young child, my sister coined a phrase my family still uses to this day: “it’s better to be worn from wear, than worn from dust”. If I recall correctly, it was said in response to my mother telling her she couldn’t wear a special outfit on an ‘unimportant’ day. I say it to myself often 😂
When my father died, my brothers had to clear out all the stuff he had saved and accumulated over the years. They sold almost everything and threw away a lot because they had their own stuff, and didn't need things. But one brother wanted one thing: the old jeans jacket my father always wore when he was out on his land gardening, clearing brush, fixing cars and so on. It's the things that have been touched and used and worn in by people we love that have the most value. When I was about 8 years old, my father's family sent us a box of simple household things that had belonged to my father's mother, whom I never met. There was a mixing bowl, an old quilt - I don't remember what else. My mother didn't use the mixing bowl, didn't bake, so it became 'my' mixing bowl as the baker in the family. I used it with a wooden spoon that had belonged to my mother's grandmother ('She was the baker in the family,' my mother said). When I grew up, I used to bake cookies and make bread with my niece and nephews, and they knew the story of the bowl and the spoon - that they had belonged to a great-grandmother and a great-great grandmother who died long before they were born. When I moved abroad, I left the bowl and spoon to my niece, and she raised her son making bread and cookies with that bowl and spoon and telling him stories of how we had baked together when she was a child. Her son is now a chef, and I suppose one day he will inherit that bowl and spoon from his mother and use it with his kids. It was not the 'best' perhaps; neither item was expensive. But when you use them and share them, these items connect you in a web of love and care and shared interests and hobbies that pass from generation to generation. One day maybe Rajiv's son or grandson will play that guitar, and every time he touches it it will be like touching Rajiv's hands or feeling his hands guiding them over the strings...
A true story: A family I know had many decades of enjoying their Grandmother's Passover dinner set but eventually it was too cracked and chipped to use anymore. One of the Granddaughters is a mozaic artist so she smashed the dinner set up and used it to make a mosaic Hamsa for everyone in the family so that their grandmother, and the memory of all those wonderful family gatherings, was a part of everyone's home.
Oh wow I love that so much ❤. My grandmother had a neighbor who had lived next door since I was very young. She decided to move to the west coast with her daughter and she had to severely downsize. She gave me a set of China dessert plates that were her mothers because she simply couldn’t take it. she said she felt better that someone she knew and knew would take care of them had them because she was having a hard time letting them go. If I ever decide I can’t keep them, making a mosaic out of them is even better!
There's a flip side to this too-- I'm a barista. When I'm at work, sometimes I see hundreds of people in a day. And it brings me so much joy when people are wearing/carrying nice things. I love seeing someone in a good hat, or wearing a nice dress. I love an ornate wallet or extra-fancy purse. I've seen some really beautiful broaches, necklaces, scarves, etc. and they always brighten my day. So when you wear your best out, it's a blessing to everyone who sees you. ❤
I never thought of it this way, though now that you've said it it seems like it should have been obvious. It's also a chance to brighten someone else's day! That's lovely.
This is so true. I walk by houses with flowers and clean porches, and I feel so blessed and thankful that people took time to bring beauty to their living spaces and that those who walk by can enjoy it too.
As a child I was always afraid to commit to using a sticker because I worried it was the wrong spot and time, so I am now buying lots of silly stickers to put in my journals. Maybe not “nice” things but I’m working my way there!
Love it! I'm 51 y.o. and I STILL love stickers and use them in my journal, too. I have some Pride and Prejudice ones my daughter bought, butterflies, even just smiley faces 😅
we are on the exact same journey. i found one of my old precious sticker books recently and they all lost their stickiness so they’re useless 15 years later !
meeee, I did the same as a kid so now I've been slapping stickers all over my water bottles, planners, and car because they bring me dopamine every time I look at them, and who wouldn't want that!?
It took me 12 years to place one sticker. Now when I buy something that can hold a sticker, I start looking to see if it fits on it. I was always afraid I wouldn't have the item long enough to enjoy it despite the evidence of having the same lunchbox from elementary school. I didn't need it for college and when I found it again after I graduated, it had molded. Step-by-step.
Rajiv, my sister inherited the family dining room table. It is a beautiful spanish oak table but has years of wear on the top. I asked why she didn't have it refinished. She pointed out the circle mark for example and said that is where Mom always put a casserole dish next to Dad to serve. Though it was on a trivet, over the years heat still made a mark. It reminds her of our family dinners. I see what you are saying.
@@SisterShirley i believe i have an old soul too, i am always thinking about things like what Colleen commented. i am only 21 but i feel like in soul years, i am 65.
As a very amateur writer I used to "save" all my good ideas for when I felt I could do them justice. But trying and failing is the only way to really learn. Writing a bad story with a good idea isn't a waste of that idea, it's what it was meant for! Plus it blew my mind when I realized just how many "good" ideas you can have if you're constantly using them and forced to think of new ones.
This is a really thoughtful comment. As a fellow amateur myself (although I do art instead of writing), I'm going to keep this in mind next time I have an art idea I love and would want to 'do perfectly' instead of just freely messing around with it. If anything, just because an idea has been "made" doesn't mean I can't remake it in the future, if I'm still inclined. It'd be a great show of progress too!
@@actualfkingvoid I love this! Legit 🙌 People helping people, sharing. This is what a community looks like. It’s what it’s all about, and it’s just simply beautiful to see. Thank you both! Literally made my day a little more bright :)
The best and only way to deal with a good idea is to write it or forget it. I do say this as someone, who has started writing at age 10 and only now - 15 years later - I feel like I'm anywhere near the level of being able to jump into professional writing. And I can fully admit, I've had some great ideas. I shared some of them with others, forgot the rest, and maybe wrote down one or two. Ideas are always a thing, that stops a newbies from progressing. (The royal) you get an idea and think it's worthy a pullitzer, so you save it and rethink it and obsess over it, maybe change it a little, worldbuild around the idea, make all these characters and have this whole world and then 5 years down the lane you have done ZERO writing. I've seen a lot of people fall down that trap of 'working on an idea' instead of just writing. And you don't get better without practice. Like not all of us are Christopher Paolini, who just can drop a book at age 19 (I mean even he started writing very young and Eragon took him 4 or 5 years and then another year re-editing the Knopf version).
My mother would stow away anything she received that was "too nice", wrapping it in layers of tissue paper or bubble wrap. We would say these things had been "Mommified". When she passed away, I resolved to use all the china, silk scarves and leather bags I found untouched in her closets. What was she saving it for? Meeting the Queen? Not to mention that the friend who gave her a Coach purse probably expected her to use it and would have been sad to know she didn't! Letting these things brighten my day seems like fulfilling someone's warm sentiments toward my mom, and that makes me happy in its own way. I think it would make her happy, too.
I'm about to move into a caravan full time due to losing my home in a flood last year. I find it interesting how many people are so worried about how I could possibly live that way. "What about all your stuff?" they ask and honestly? I don't need it. If there's anything I've learned after losing my whole history; i mean yearbooks, photos, art I'd made over the years, journals from throughout different life stages, all of those things held parts of my identity in them. Losing those things and having to keep living anyway taught me how to stop holding my identity in the things around me but within myself. Now I know that wherever I am, whether I have boxes and boxes full of stuff or a laundry basket full of whatever I could grab in a few minutes before the water invaded my home, I know who I am and I know what matters to me. This is a beautiful philosophy that I will be taking forward with me as I cleanse myself of whatever useless junk I've accumulated so far and become more intentional with the things I buy for my new life on the road.
I used to keep things 'for best'. Craft stuff for when I got better, notebooks & pens that were too nice to use. Books that couldn't be opened & LP's that remained in their cellophane. Then last summer we lost everything in a fire. A rather extreme awakening to realise what you actually had, what is important and a lesson to make the most of all the beautiful things in your life, because it could all be gone an hour from now x
I went through massive flooding last year which swept through my studio and ruined all my Equipment, Books, Art, and Craftworks etc, etc. I couldn't agree with you more.
I have been homeless and moved over 10 X in 10 years. I like nice quality things but I use them and I wouldnt change my journey as the loss of things are just that . . . things.
When I retired after 40 years working in a factory, I changed a couple of things. I had a hot shower when I got up, I sat outside with a coffee, and I got into good clothes, not work clothes. Oh, and I slowed right down. Simple things which have made a big difference to me.
@@jacquelineireland2273 the other thing I enjoy now is just spending time pottering around the garden. I made an outdoor seating area too to sit with a coffee
@@anzacman5 it's nice if you are barefooted outside having your morning coffee to ground yourself too....no pun intended, it just came out that way 😄 I love my morning coffee outside too.
I had a small minimal wedding dress that was easily the most comfortable dress ever. I now use it as a nightgown when I want to feel extra comfy. Plus I get to look fabulous as well
I love how this demonstrates being materialistic in the true sense of the word: caring about the actual materials that things are made of. Taking good care of your things, intentionally curating them, and appreciating their quality and beauty can add such a richness to everyday life.
You so accurately and beautifully gave a positive definition to the term 'materialistic'! I feel the same about things that they need to be treated with care and appreciation and treasured while they last, and not just 'possess' them.
You just inspired me to pull out the blanket my grandma knitted me that I've kept put up because I was afraid I would ruin it. So silly when you think about it. I guess we sometimes forget how short life is and how *things* are only as valuable as they are useful.
This is such great advice. I saved my wedding China in a cabinet for 10 years for fancy dinner parties that never happened. One day, I took it all out and replaced my dingy everyday dishes with all of it, and it's been well-used ever since. Why save it???! Now, every meal feels a little bit fancy!
Nikki C. What a beautiful thing to do! I've never owned any inherited or pass-down items before because my uncles and aunts sold everything off in an estate sale many years ago; my great-grandfather and grandfather had, many nice things that could fill up a whole museum. I have owned gifted or thrifted stuff over the years and use the art of Kintsugi to fix up my used/cracked pieces. As for clothes, instead of throwing them away I cut them into square pieces and make them into memory blankets. It is a wonderful way to keep a piece of the past and present and keep using it. Any leftovers (cabbage) I use for stuffing padding: under door draft block, underarms support around the computer, etc. I'm enjoying this video while reading your comment. Thank you!
This is everything i believe in. I'm a soapmaker and hear often that the soaps are too pretty to use. I use natural colors and essential oils that do fade after they are about a year old so not using them is sad because they are meant to be enjoyed while they are pretty and fragrant. Life is too short to just put things we love on shelves. ❤
I got passed down some vintage 'RogeR & Gallet Paris Tea Rose Perfumed Soaps' from France that my mother had never used, she 'saved' them. Mom is still alive & well she gave them to me but I almost feel like I will be doing something wrong by her if I use them. I had a talk with myself that they are now 'mine' I own them & I can use them.
I used to buy pretty soap everywhere I went but was always too afraid to use it. Now I *only* use pretty soap! I'm nearing the end of my 20s with all this *stuff* lying around...but I'm not getting any younger! Here's to using the pretty soap!
I work with antiques and nothing is more delightful than seeing the evidence of some long ago person who used and enjoyed their item. Especially kids drawings in old books! It is so strange to me that people don't realize that our things will often outlive us, maybe by hundreds of years! Use them and enjoy them!
Yes!! I own a chain stitch sewing machine. It needs new belts and a deep-clean. But it makes me so happy to see the well-worn corners of the machine table, the spots on the trundle that feet clearly sat for hours upon hours, and to know it was USED. Someone had this machine as their workhorse. Someone used it to sew countless miles of stitches. And that's so cool! I've also got my grandma's crystal glasses and goblets. You bet I use them when I just want to. Why let them sit eternally only looking pretty?
@@Cruznick06 I’m not sure crystal is safe for constant use unless it is lead free. I’m no expert and there are different opinions on the subject, but I’d rather err on the safe side in this case. I think the worst is decanting and storing in crystal though: I always wanted to do that, but I am too worried about long-term spirits resting so long in a possibly unsafe vessel. I’m not sure the lead-free alternatives are as beautiful, either, so it is quite disappointing.
absolutely! i picked up an old treadle singer which had obviously been in storage for a while, but as i was restoring it, it was the most joyful thing see the wear pattern and when some kid had crayoned a drawer! signs of life :)
@@Cruznick06 I brought an old 1912’s sewing machine. I found all sorts in the old drawers. The original receipt, a shopping list, old cottons, scissors, etc. It felt like I was snooping into someone’s else life. I kept the previous owners stuff and now stored it in the bottom drawer.
Whenever I watch Rajiv's videos I also read mostly every comment to them, because people appreciating him feel like family and friends and often offer additional great thoughts and ideas, so thank you all, and special thanks and kudos to Rajiv. 🙏
What a lot of people also miss, is that they feel they can't afford much for nice things. But when you shift your mindset to saving up to buy ONE of something you really want, and use only that, you really do end up spending less over time. My example is, three years ago, I decided to buy an American Leather Company Purse that I LOVED (paid over $100, worth probably $200), which was the most I had ever spent on a purse. But I use it EVERY day, and if I'm ever tempted to buy another cheap purse on sale, it's easy to say no, because I already have my favourite purse. And I'm sure that I've actually saved money by not buying multiple, cheap things. Thanks for a great video.
Yes! In addition, the cost often means better quality. So you won't have to replace in a long time if ever. I like your thought on the psychological side too; You are less likely to buy something that doesn't compare with your favorite thing.
Cheers! I'm saving up for some loafers, and while I'll love and care for them very extensively, I'm not going to to tear out my hair over every crease or worn sole. They're shoes that I've always wanted, so I'll appreciate and remember them more than all the ugly cheap sneakers that I've worn over the years.
This is exactly how I’ve approached high end bedroom furniture piece that I fell in love with. Thought oh, I can’t afford that! But it is so beautiful to me. Family owned, family made, with attention to detail. I saved up and bought it and it brings me much joy. It was worth it, and I will keep it always.
I get a lot of very nice antiques cheaply from thrift shops and auctions. Getting things like teaware and copper pots second hand can save you so much money.
his energy is so pure. its 2am where i live, i was just endlessly doom scrolling as always, feeling anxious about life, and then i see this guy talking about how much he loves these simplistic, yet worn and loved items. i dont feel so bad now
I was divorced after a 30-year marriage. When my life drastically changed, I decided to take advantage of the chance to order my life however I wanted. One thing I did was to use my lovely things every day. This one change became a symbol of my ability to turn a painful time into a beautiful one. Use your lovely things everyday, rejoicing that you have them.
Amen. I didn't use my beautiful carefully collected treasures bc my spouse had no appreciation for anything. Now I have the opportunity to craft an elegant life in a tiny jewel box whereas before it was like I was stuck in a nightmare with nothing to enjoy or look forward. I wish you well on your journey.
Raj, that is what my Grandmother used to say..."Give me my flowers while I'm living." And a dear nephew, my cousin David would come to visit her during the last few years of her life and bring her flowers, chocolate and candy. But mostly flowers. And being bedridden it was hard for my Grandmother to get outside, so flowers were like bring spring inside. After she passed away, David asked my Mother what flowers did she want for her funeral/burial. And my Mother said: "Don't you dare! NOT ONE FLOWER are you to bring. You brought her flowers when she was alive and could appreciate them." My Mother never forgot how much the visits and the flowers meant to the sick and housebound. Luv yr channel btw.
My Dad has always said: "Use it. Abuse it. Set it free." with regards to the objects in our lives. And while it is a bit rough around the edges in it's delivery, I feel like it matches the spirit in which you have encouraged us to enjoy our nice things. Thank you for this.
I love this! My parents raised me with this same notion of purchasing/making items of high quality and using them, caring for them, mending them, and repurposing them. Once, my neighbor gave my father a beautiful leather bag, a vintage YSL bag. For years, my father kept it tucked away because he felt that it was special, which was unusual for him. I always wanted it, but I was too young to truly care for it. After a hurricane, the bag, which had been tucked away in a closet, gathered mold. I had forgotten that we owned it but my father pulled it out and was going to get rid of it because he thought the leather was too far gone. I saw it and took my opportunity. I grabbed my bar of saddle soap from my horseback riding days and worked at the leather, washing it and cleaning it. That was 5 years ago, and now the bag that I treasured as a child has served as my everyday bag at university. It has gathered scuffs and scars, the exposed stitching has worn away to bear holes and I have stitched it back together. I know that I will have this item for a long time to come and it will go through many cycles of use and change. So, thank you for this video, it warmed my heart! p.s. my everyday pen at university is also a treasure: my mother's red marbled waterman fountain pen that she used in her university days 30 years ago.
That's what my mon raised us like. We were lower middle class but my mom said spend money on good quality might seem costly but it's cheaper than buying 4 dresses in rhat cost which you can't wear after 4 wash. I am 28 and I still live by it. Nowadays it's all about sustainability but I never had to learn to be sustainable bcz I am already doing that. I also always spent more money on things that can be uncomfortable to body if you buy them cheap although when I lived in hostel many girls joked about why your bras or pants cost more than your top. The only reason was that cheap bras gave me back pain and pants are things that if you invest in good quality, it's good for many years even if you use them often. In tops I wanted something light and flowy to beat the heat and I wore them at home when theh git old so I bought them cheap at that time. Same goes with jackets, bags, sarees, you buy good quality ones and you can use it for many years
This made me think of how much joy children get from their favorite stuffed animals. To be the person who gives a child that special toy is the most rewarding feeling; much better than the toy that sits unloved.
I am 26 and still sleep with the stuffed animal my grandmother gave me at birth. Nothing else has been a constant in my life, and it means more than words can convey.
This is true. I gave my baby cousin a throw away stuffed duck that became her sacred best friend…something that was just another “whatever” toy to me was a treasured childhood keepsake for her ❤ I think about this all the time
Sprezzatura! I have not heard that word in 5 years since my husband passed. He had such a wonderful balance of elegance and casualness in his style and any art, craft or writing he touched. He loved working with leather and metals too. You remind me a lot of him. He trully valued beautiful craftsmanship of days gone by and learn how to create, used and care for the things he loved, but he USED them. He rarely wore blue jeans and loved his tweeds and of course a silk or cotton pocket square. He was from another lifetime! An old soul like you! I am going to post that word in prominence as a reminder. Today I am putting on my favorite tweed skirt just to walk about with my pup!
When Rajiv says, about the shoes, "you can have them resoled" I thought to myself: No, he's going to learn how to resole leather shoes and do them himself. What a beautiful essay. Thankyou.
I also became a minimalist. I started wearing my pretty dresses everyday.. not just on Sunday to church. I am very overweight and used to feel fat, but now I Love wearing dresses. I don't wear jeans anymore. I feel pretty and emotionally happy, my depression is gone now. I go out to the park everyday with my husband and daughter. I love picnics and walks in the park and feeding the ducks. Life is beautiful now. ❤
@kaydiangel2445 I also have the desire to wear dresses everyday, but am also a bit overweight. I feel so fat when I wear dresses and keep waiting until I get thinner to wear them. Your comment was very uplifting and encouraging. Maybe I'll finally lose the extra weight when I start feeling good about myself first!
i hope this will become a trend because im so sick of cheap crap everywhere, quality lasts, its satisfying it makes life a little more enjoyable everytime you use something "real"
I’ve watched many of your videos, Rajiv, and to me, you’re an apparition from an old world, placed in this world-which is a compliment. You are a “renaissance” man, a man who lives a slower-paced life than most of us do, a man who’s deliberate in his choices, someone who appreciates beauty around him and in his home. Not exactly a minimalist, but a man who has chosen to have few things, all of great quality. As a renaissance man, you try your hand at many things, all of them creative. Somehow, you fit in New York City and it’s hard to imagine you anywhere else. You’re a counterpoint to the fast pace and crowded streets of the city. I love watching your videos. They are very comforting to me.
The expression I have heard many times is,"Don't use your best things to impress people you don't like." I had some friends over and we ate a tiny jar of caviar. My father lamented that he was saving it for a special occasion. I told him that the house was paid off, all his kids graduated, one got married and he had a grandson. I asked which special occasion was he waiting for? He shrugged and told me I was right.
Agree! About 3 years ago, I started using and wearing my very nicest things every single day. It's so wonderful. Diamonds! Luxury watches! Suits! Silk scarves! Champagne! Expensive meats and seafood! Fresh flowers on the table! It's just a fabulous way to live.
This made me think about compliments. It's rare to hear compliments or to give them. We don't do that because we can be stressed about it, think it could be weird or inapropriate, we are too shy... But like the nice things : use the nices words. It make such a difference for people to hear them and for you when you get to see their smiles from what you just said to them. Be nice :)
I just love this video. I feel 100% the same way. Last winter I bought a new coat and it was/is such high quality. A coworker of mine found out I paid about a thousand dollars for it and holy cats the conversation turned into "Where are you going to wear a coat that nice?" "I'd be afraid to wear it anywhere!" "There are quality coats for a tenth of the price, you know." She told me she had a leather jacket that has been hanging up in her closet for something like 10 years that she's been afraid to wear and I'm like...why? I wore my "super expensive" shearling coat last winter everywhere I went. And do you know something? Because it's of such high quality, it shows very little wear and tear. That's what people need to understand. Buy less, save up, buy one or two quality pieces every year. You'll wind up with less cheap stuff that actually gets ruined with wear and tear and you'll feel like luxury every day.
Sad to say, but wearing expensive outerwear in this day and age - at least in the city- can be dangerous. Last week there were around 10 reported incidents of gangs of teenagers robbing people of their expensive coats. Many more incidents were likely unreported. It wasn’t because these thieves were cold. Armed robbery and carjacking is just a game. ‘Im not saying you shouldn’t enjoy your stuff, but please be careful, especially if your winter wear has obvious, recognizable branding.
my dad has/had a few leather jackets, the ones that are worn more often are in great shape and look better than when new, however the ones left to sit have cracks and have dried up and basically fall apart when put on, so i guess the lesson i learnt from that is that if i dont use something it could degrade faster than if i was using it more
Beautiful and inspiring. My life partner recently died and now all their most precious belongings that are left behind feel almost untouchable. So this video really hit home for me. Thank you Rajiv
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you've been able to approach your partner's things and even feel safe to give them life again. If not, I hope you're taking good care of yourself and giving yourself opportunities for joy where you can anyway ❤
I was just talking with coworkers yesterday about how I use all of my good stuff, and no longer save it. I try to purchase most items second hand, and it always amazes me when I find old items that were never used. I especially appreciate the artistry and craftsmanship in handmade items.
@@rae871 😢 Oh no! The last time we visited a thrift store in North Carolina, we found a whole set of Chinaware from the 1960s and a casserole piece shaped like a duck with a ladle. We were so surprised that the whole piece was heavy, and beautifully crafted and not a single scratch! The price was at $350US dollars. We paid half/half for everything and decided to bring it home and use it. It was screaming "I need life, take me home. I need to serve a family of twelve..." We take turns using all the plates, glass cups, silverware, coffee cups, and the casserole duck-ware. Things are meant to be used and people are meant to be loved. Next time you find something unused, buy it and give it life. ♥
@@hameley12 Just make sure it wasn't unused for a reason! Some older kitchenware used radioactive or toxic materials in their construction! Stay safe when using anything vintage!
@@ameliawilliams4632 Thanks. Although, we did our research ahead of time. We bought a toxic materials tester device online. We use it quite often. Amy has one and I have one. The pieces are toxicity-free and lead-free but we still wash everything [pre-2000s] in hot water and leave it outside to dry in the heat of the sun. We read that sun rays kill off bacteria better than other methods. I even wash my sheets and let them dry outside. The toxin-detector device is a bit pricy but a great investment! Once my ex-BF left the stove on without anything on it. I got home and smelled something funky. Used my little device and left the windows down for hours. After that he was history... Lol! I appreciate your advice. And I do recommend that you buy one for yourself, the toxic material tester [not a BF] 😉 Have a wonderful week! And Happy Easter! 🌻
Love this! I don't have many nice things, but my nicest thing is a pair of mittens my grandmother knit me before she passed away. I haven't worn them once, because I don't want to ruin them, but you've inspired me to wear them out next time I go for a walk - she put her energy into them and I want to wear them now in memory of her. ♥️♥️♥️
@@megan2176 yes! And her grandmother is holding hers. I have a friend who wears something of her mother’s each time she leaves the house. Sweet way to bring our loved ones with us.
This is so important for people like me who grew up materially/financially deprived. It's so hard to get out of the "save everything" mindset. So thank you for this video
I knew my mother loved beautiful porcelain teacups and teapots...so I bought them for her and even bought a dining room china cabinet that she had loved at antique store. She stored her elegant teacups and teapots there...but always said they were too nice to use for everyday. When my younger sister and I became her caregivers, we served her meals with the real linen napkins, the good china and a new beautiful teacup each day. My humble mother gleamed with pleasure. It broke my heart that she only, finally, actually used her dear "treasures" in the last year of her lifetiime. I am an avid collector, I thrift, rummage thru barn sales, go to auctions etc. I use my lovely "finds" daily, it soothes my soul, brightens my spirits...and it truly makes my home become cozy, as well as a serene place of refuge, offering little unique restorative moments...and a home filled with love and beauty.
My wife and I are trying to adopt this approach. The question we ask ourselves, and each other, is "What good is it if we don't use it?" The job of a nice pair of shoes isn't to sit in a box in the closet. A nice plate wants food on it every now and then. Let's see if I can stick to this!
One of the saddest things I can imagine as someone who makes handmade things is that all the time, energy, and love that I put into something, possibly made specifically for someone I care about, can end up sitting in a closet for all eternity. A tragedy!
This has really helped me confront my fear of ruining stuff through use and fear of overdressing, that some poeple may look at me weird when im wearing my favourite elegant clothes on an ordinary day. Thank you, you are very wise.
I heartily endorse this life ethos! Being someone who was widowed fairly young and works from home, I pretty quickly realized it was a little sad to save my favorite 'nice' things for some unspecified future event/occasion. I love my nice things!
My mother used to keep the good things either locked or on display with a warning for " not to use them". She's now 95 years old and all her good stuff had been either stolen by strangers or deteriorated and trashed away by relatives who never understood or valued them as she had. I had the chance to keep only a few of them. In contrast, 🎉I had always been using and sharing my stuff with everyone who appreciates it. And am glad to hear that someone thinks exactly the same. Enjoy the pretty things you have!🎉🎉🎉🎉
I have had that experience here too...My mom was very generous, but there were a few things that were "Just hers". One of them is a Honer button Accordion that is over 100 years old. I still have it. There was a curse put on it should anyone try to remove it from the rightful owner...I love the old people. The curse was placed after it was removed from the casket of the owner by his wife.
That’s funny because I’m going to inherit my grandfather (he died in 2001) accordion , but by the time it’s mine is probably already “broken” because no one uses it.
I started wearing nice things like hats when I go to school. A french hat, an army cap with a flower, long sweaters, hair pins, wonderful things that I first thought were too embarassing to wear but decided to since I wouldn't want to pass up the opportunity. And it feels nice when people notice and say it's all wonderful too
My wife and I got such a heartwarming cozy feeling from watching this. She was so inspired that she went up to the attic and is now repurposing her great grandfathers overalls into an apron! 😄 Subscribed and looking forward to watching more of your content!
When my mother passed and we cleaned out her house I found all the linen table cloths and napkins I sent her to use still in the brand new condition. Wish she would have used them to enjoy. And that I gave them to remind her of me.
I found myself collecting broaches (which are inexpensive because they are out of fashion). I think they are beautiful and so under appreciated!! At first I saved them for some special occasion that never seemed to materialize. Then it dawned on me that this was crazy thinking. So I dug them out of the drawer and started wearing them. They bring me such joy!🇨🇦
@@13hehe Love that idea! I use mine when making "altered tins". It's a current passion of mine. It just means that I can get carried away with shopping for broaches though lol.
Hi Jennifer! I hope you are still using the broaches. I have avidly bought brooches, winter/fall/summery old-fashioned hats and scarfs. I used to have it all in a box. Until I decided to minimize and keep a smaller collection that now I use every day. Rajiv's and your thoughts are very inspiring. Thank you!
My mother is in late stage's of Dementia, she had SO many things that she set aside for Special Occasions, that they rarely were used. She does not know who or what anymore so I use all of them as often as I can because she didn't, and they were made to be enjoyed. They make me think of her and my Grandmother and their ideas of what is Special!!! I think everyday should be SPECIAL!! Thanks Rajiv!!! Being a paper crafter, which my daughter's don't care about or want to continue, I use my favorites and my best everyday before it ends in a dumpster one day.
Sorry to hear about your mother having Dementia, Debbie. That can be very trying on those who are assisting dear loved one's. Glad you are putting mother's treasures to good use. When I go to thrift stores I see so many items that must have been in families for generations and somehow end up getting discarded. It's rather sad. I think Asian cultures respect and value, and even see it as a duty to keep and preserve items for future generations. Anyhow, I enjoyed your nice comment.
My dearest belonging is my patterned turquoise towel. We have family photos of me laying on it when I was a toddler/baby, and I have faint memories of using it too. It was being storaged and forgotten about for so long until I found it during my late school years. I'm still using it to this day. It is mind-blowing to me that this piece of fabric has been around for 25+ years and yet in mint condition.
Weekly can be good too, if you can't use your best things daily. I grew up going to church every Sunday morning. So I had my Sunday best clothes, which meant I wore those special outfits 52 times a year. Once a week traditions can be ...weekly family Sunday dinner using the good dishes and candles and linens, weekly church wearing best clothes, weekly wine night drinking your best wine,
This is why I love buying secondhand things. It makes it easier to "let go" of the ideal of pristine condition right away, and you get to enjoy the "patina" of love and use from day one.
My mother used to do this. She had a china cabinet that was full of things: wine glasses, the good china, etc. This was how she was raised and despite myself, I was often annoyed as a child because we were only able to use the beautiful items once a year. Oh how I wished to use the wine glasses when I had pretend 'cooking' parties with my sister. After I became an adult, her house suffered a fire and she lost all of it. What a waste I thought but I learned an important lesson: this is not the way do handle these things. Whenever I get a wine set or beautiful china as a gift, everyone, (including my children) use it. At first some of these beautiful things were broken but after a while, they all learned to handle these things with care. And the best part? When my children were small, we had the most fabulous cooking parties.
When I was a child, my parents had a "nice" set of cutlery and a "nice" set of crockery for when my dad's colleagues and business partners came to have dinner at our house. We always washed these things and packed them away in a special cupboard, in special boxes to be stored in after we had eaten off them. My mom would look after these things so well. But in our daily lives, we used beaten up crockery and cutlery that was older, well-loved and well-used and scratched and the plates were a bit chipped here and there. And I was fond of both sets of "nice" and "everyday" cutlery and crockery. I just felt it was extremely sad that these "nice" things weren't used as much. Now that my sisters and I have all left home, I know she keeps these nice things in boxes and cupboards and doesn't use them either. And still uses the same beaten up stainless steel cutlery and beaten up stoneware plates from my childhood. Nothing wrong with them, and they are extremely durable, and have developed this lovely patina on them. But she never felt "worthy" of using these nice sets of cutlery and crockery. And instead kept them stored away. Which was always a great pity for me. I have to guard against this behaviour in myself. I find myself buying lovely high-quality elegant sneakers and then not wearing them as much as I should, when I know that when I do wear them, I feel so elegant and put together. Thank you for this video, Rajiv. This is a beautiful reminder to invest in better quality pieces and then use them in our daily lives.
I love this advice! I still sometimes hear my parents voices in my head, telling me to „be careful“ with my things since I was a clumsy child… but it got me to the point where I was actually afraid to use my nice things for fear that I might break them. One day I realized this and I decided to use my belongings instead of „saving“ them. These are MY things, I‘m an adult now and even though I am still a bit clumsy sometimes, I don’t want to tiptoe around my whole live… I might not have a lot of money, but when something breaks, I always try to repair it or go to a second hand store to look for a replacement.
This is a great lesson and philosophy: work hard, only get things you love and enjoy and use them to let them "live the fullest life they can offer" and let them help you to have joys. Pulling out my best suit, usually used for interviews, to wear tomorrow. Every day is a special event. Thank you Rajiv.
I think this video came to me at the perfect time. I have this very pretty black denim jacket that I got at the thrift store a few months ago for a special occasion, and have felt like maybe it would be a disservice to wear it on normal days. But it’s denim! Even if wearing it down was a concern, denim is so durable. I thought of this just yesterday and now today this video came to me.
I donno why this video made me emotional.. we hold on to things for special occasions and those moments are very few but if we start using things everyday we are giving an opportunity to make everyday beautiful and also value yourself a little more. You deserve to use the special stuff too ❤
Everyone around me is so sick of hearing about you, Rajiv. You are truly the best part of Internet, and I look forward to each of your videos (and revisit them often).
Well I dare say that one can be forgiven for gushing about such a dear human as Rajiv😊 He is quite the Renaissance man! I think they're all just jealous 😅
use the fancy stuff every day 🎉 another argument i'd add to this is that only keeping/using things we love makes it soooo much less of a burden to clean, organise and repair them ❤ that's my initial reason for starting to do this with my dishes - because i already had one or two of almost all the essential pieces in very high quality (traditionally handmade by professionals mostly) and discovered how much more i liked washing them, because it just gave me more opportunity to handle and admire them 😅 but i had not thought of doing this with everything i own so now i'm in the perfect position of both knowing the benefits first hand and getting to pick and choose moaar favourite items for it! there are many that come to my mind immediately, especially clothes and specifically those nice dresses i keep for 'special occasions' but never wear because introversion and social anxiety mean i never actually go to those events... thinking about it, being used to wearing my fine dresses would take one of the bigger obstacles away from this challenge, hmmm 🤔 anyways. since someone described your videos as 'romantic' i can't stop seeing you as the ideal model for a caspar david friedrich painting. because you are 🌹
I still wear my best watch every day, even after my child dropped it, almost breaking the glass. My wife asked why I didn’t repair it, I told her I will inherit this to my baby one day and explained every single dent it has.
I'm currently darning a hole in my fancy blanket I got while visiting Iceland. I use it everynight, but my dog ate a hole in it one night. I was really upset about it at the time, but I think that repairing it will just give it some character and it already feels very rewarding to repair it... this video was super relatable as I stitch away!
Yeees! Love this idea! My mom gave me her "fancy dishes" because she got a new set. I ended up using them as everyday dishes, and she was sort of insulted. I didn't mean to hurt her feelings, but liked the idea of using the nice stuff every day. Of course, all those dishes have broken over the years because they weren't meant for heavy use, but I have no regrets! 😅
I have some beautiful "special" pieces glassware & plates that have become discolored & damaged from sitting on "display" in the china cabinet. These are my Beautiful pieces for "special" occasions. Now, if I can't clean or correct the damage, then they are all wasted or I might repurposed them in some way. 😔
I love this message! I’ve often wondered why people never use their nicest stuff, as if they don’t deserve that privilege! I love using my copper kettle every single day without fail! It brings me joy sitting on my range all day. I used a China gravy boat last night for a random Tuesday dinner that was passed down through 5 generations, and I still wear my grandmother’s wool coat that is probably 75 years old!
well made things get better with every use! and when they stop getting better with every use, repair them!! it really fills me with hope to see videos like these in a world where most things are made to break and to be thrown away. we are able to have much more fulfilling lives when we feel a true connection with the objects that we use and by using your nicest things everyday and seeing the wear and tear that they go though you are filling them with life and growing a connection with them. i bet that you feel such a connection with that tweed jacket that you've worn a hundred times and when the elbow gets a hole you'll add a patch, not throw the jacket away. my point is well illustrated by that leather bag, it genuinely brought a tear to my eye seeing written down every place it has been in the world, these objects carry their history in the marks that are left on them. i just know that you'll never forget that bag, you have a connection to it and maybe even your potential children and grandchildren will love that bag too (or maybe some lucky stranger who finds it in a second hand store!). things that are made to last are so important :)
When I turned 60 in July last year I got all my most loved things that I had been keeping for a special occasion out of display cupboards and such and I use them every single day and I love them even more know than when they were saved.
Rajiv, I just love you! First video of yours I’ve seen and already, you captured my heart! Because of you, I will be taking a gift out of the closet that I’ve had for 8 years now. It’s a Pendleton blanket that was gifted to me for my wedding from a dear old friend that passed on two years ago. It feels nice to know that even though she is no longer with me, I’ll still be wrapped in her love. Thank you for the push to use the good stuff in this one life. Love it!
I "was" a 1920s clothing collector. Over the year i have collected many special clothes from that era, but I have never worn them in public. After a really depressing period I have decided to try and wear them, and it fill me with joy. And now I go to work and mop the floor while wearing a tail coat and a wing starched collar shirt. I have ruined almost every suit I own but when i return home I like to rub my fingers on the repairs I've made over the years. To the bad people that always ask me "why do you dress like that?!", I say "everyone have some clothing for a special day, why can't be every day a special day".
A couple of years ago my best friend gave me a tea set (cups and a pot) of Klimt’s “The Kiss”, which he knows is one of my fave paintings. It came all the way from Europe. I’ve been afraid to use it (and break it), so it’s been sitting, still in its protective box, in my closet. Time to get it out and start using it. Thank you, Rajiv.
I totally agree as my mum always saved the nice things for special occasions. When she passed there were so many wonderful items that she never used that were over 50 years old still in original packaging. It makes me sad she had her good plates or fancy sheets and towels or nicest clothing that she never got to enjoy.
What a great message! I wish I’d given myself permission to use my things years ago. I turn 60 this year and saved most of my things for “when this” and that never happened. It feels like the Ian Dury song What A Waste. I have gorgeous clothes and shoes that I was going to wear when I lost 5-10 pounds. Even when I was told I was in great shape in my mind I wasn’t. Now I am old and soft but I do compliment others when I appreciate their style or even a great attitude. I have loads of gorgeous vintage beads and antique bits and bobs and again I don’t trust that I have “the best” ideas so they sit in boxes and bags, for what? You have inspired me to pull out my bright mix of collected teacups, teapots and silver and use them and go from there! Thank you and bless you!
Thank you, so inspiring ❤. This video reminds me of an e-mail I saw over 20 years ago, where an older person was listing regrets. One was saving her "good" rose candle that melted in the attic. I never forgot that.
I'm so surprised that you did not mention the gold bracelets you wear. They are the epitome of nice things, used every day. Maybe the air of nonchalance you have about them made them not an obvious choice to feature, but we're all so curious who made them and how you came to wear them daily. ☺
1) Using everything you have means not having too much stuff. 2) Repairing is worthwhile if you're fixing something you love. As with the shoes, repairing often improves a garment. On the other hand, it can be hard to know when it's o.k. to let something go but important not to hold on to things that have completed their service.
Our wedding dishes came out of the boxes, got washed and used every day. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, indoors and out. When my friends came over for lunch, the dishes went out to the picnic table. It gives me joy to use my dishes. My husband has passed away, but I still use those "fancy" dishes, and remember all the wonderful times that were spent with them gracing our table. Thank you and God Bless 🙏👑✝
I was blessed by my wife with my dream watch for a wedding present. I first feared wearing it as its heirloom quality but now its an amazing timepiece and a reminder of our love and the time we have together that I carry daily. Use your nice things. They're meant to be.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown to see the value in the wear and tear that comes with using someone’s favorite guitars shoes clothes etc. there’s nothing quite like the character given to something that’s well used and taken care of.
Would so love if you could share some insight on the gold bracelets you wear! They’re so beautiful and I love that they seem to be part of you as you have them on in each video
He briefly mentions them in one of his earlier videos. If I remember correctly, they're gold bangles he bought on one of his trips to Sri Lanka/Tamizh Nad.
This philosophy can be applied to deciding what we actually buy and *if* it would actually be long-lasting or not. So many fast-fashion or poorly-made items would not do better with time. So I want to be mindful of things I use that do not do well with time and how it's probably not best to buy like that again.
This is a wonderful video. I’ve spent my life “saving” all the time. Saving my favourite outfits for better occasions, thus feeling frumpy every day, saving my best ideas, my favourite items. I even feel like I’ve “saved” by not investing on something better quality I’ve been thinking about for months that costs more because I don’t have the occasion or cant justify, only to go without or buy a cheaper stop gap alternative that I’m not happy with or will break. Recently I finally invested in a new pan that came all shiny and silver, but as it is carbon steel, I had to season it. This was such a weird process for me as I was deliberately browning and “dirtying” up a pristine pan before ever actually using it. The effort and time I put in to seasoning and the benefits of doing so has now made this my go to favourite pan and I use it all the time. I love it more and I look after it better. I’m no cook, far from it, but it makes me want to learn to cook more. It’s the little things.
This song at the beginning hit me really hard, I know this token of thanks isn't of much value,, but I still wanted to do something more than writing a few words. Keep doing the wonderful work that you do.... Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
I am unashamedly by far not a minimalist. Nor a Marie Kondo fan. I love my 'stuff'. It is all the 'good stuff' I chersh that can't easily be found, fixed or re created these days. However, I have always been one of those people to see the beauty in quality things. This is definitely from my grandparents influence. My particular love is the 40's and 50s. I am 50 and it has taken about 34 years of carefully finding beautiful and useful objects to create a homely and unique vintage style life. My dinner set is 65 years old. I use my harlequin glass and crystal glasses, 'fancy' cutlery and serving ware, and good napery. I must say I still cringe a bit when red lipstick is about to be embedded into a fine cloth napkin, but then the satisfaction of the laundry ritual can be enjoyed! I smile to myself when I see you use laundry blue and do many of the things I have done for years. We live in a world where quality and craftspersonship is diminishing or lost. Not valued or viable. People love and admire it but often can't afford it. Or even 'vintage' things in thrift stores now being out of the price range for many people. Some things are just not able to be sourced or repaired anymore. Old bikes, cars, sewing machines etc. There is either no one left who can or wants to do it. Even finding a decent cobbler to properly repair my 25 year old leather penny loafers is not easy. Clothes are thankfully easy. I knit and sew my own re creations in my style from quality vintage patterns, fabrics and yarns. Consumerism and social brainwashing to have the next new thing is a real problem. It's not about getting rid of everything. It's about preserving and enjoying the essence and processes and rituals of good living and living well. It is also about creating every day joy in how you choose to live in the now. Love your channel. And the comments! What you are presenting resonates positively with many. And not just nostalgic boomers and gen x's!
Oh I don't think that means you're far from being a minimalist at all. It just sounds like you've just made a point of only buying good quality items regardless of how old they might be. Sounds sensible to me. I agree that good things are hard to find these days. Clothes especially. What's worse is I've realised it's easier to find good quality men's clothes than women's!!! So from now on I'm buying men's t-shirts and jumpers (which I hope I won't have to buy as often as a result of them being better quality).
I also can't stand Marie Kondo myself. I borrowed her book from the library and the only useful thing I got out of it was how to fold clothes nicely. I couldn't believe she wrote stupid things like "don't keep old buttons because you'll never mend your clothes." As soon as I got rid of things I didn't need I was a lot more motivated to replace missing buttons on clothes that were still otherwise decent looking and fit me. I also think her idea of how many books people should keep suggests she doesn't read much. Not to mention her lumping cameras into a general "electronic things" category horrified me.
@@SzilviaVirag I don't understand people just throwing things out if they don't wear or use something for 6 months. I've kept things for decades that still look great and have purpose. I always get comments on my vintage accessories. I can tell you where in the world I bought something, or how something in my possession came to be. In my experience, these people are quite beige and uninteresting. I feel uncomfortable in their sterile houses that are usually as energetically dead as the moon. No, they don't read. They're more concerned with keeping a show home than one which is exhaled in and lived in. They're the people who may scan some old photos to digitally store and throw out cherished family albums that you see in the thrift stores full of once cherished memories. Sad. They don't seem to feel the history or energy in the things/objects of life. They can't see the point. Big deal, Marie Condo can fold clothes and organise. It took me years to accept that I am an artistic soul with my own organsed 'chaos'. I know where everything is that I have. I love everything I have. I have an order orfthings. I look after everything. When things can't be fixed, yes, I dispose of them thoughfully. And I take my own collected things in and out of storage when I want to re decorate. I guess I just no longer feel like I should be living how everyone else thinks is proper. My husband feels the same. We are seen as being quite eccentric. We think we are perfectly normal. We have our cats lounging on furniture, projects in various stages of completion, books on the coffee table that we actually read. Nothing is a prop. Everything is clean. It is also ever evolving. That is also why I resonate with Rajiv. He gets all those points. I like that he's showing these elements of respectful and fine living to a younger generation.
I reached the age when stoneware and Le Creuset had to be replaced with something light weight. I pulled out my Royal Albert and Villeroy-Boch and enjoy them. Also got much lighter cooking pots.
How old are you? I have Le Creuset cast iron cookware and still use it most days. I’m now wondering how long it will be before it is too heavy for me to handle.
Ohh, I feel this! I have a back disability and I just can't do cast iron in general, although I did have a dutch oven.... but I left it on the stovetop! Gave that to my daughter, so now none.
WOW. A life lesson. I´ll never forget this, ever. Thank you soooooo much! After watching, I got up, went to a trunk I have of 'saved' things not seen for a long time and found my baroque wooden flute..... I think it smiled 😊 I know I did. You are a wonderful person, Rajiv.
Something about you & also your personality reminds me a little of Steven Tyler {Aerosmith}. What you said is very relevant. After loosing family members, pets {pets are also family members}, & friends drives home realization life on this earth is fleeting. I grew up in a home where nice clothing, & items were 'saved' not used, saved for what? I don't know. In my own life I've decided to use everything, wear everything, and do things I've dreamed of because no one is guaranteed tomorrow.
I actually did the exact opposite. I Tucked up almost everything(cloths, kitchen tools, shoses, books, sheets, paper) for almost 6 months. I only kept thing that I really use day to day: two plates, two pans, one fork, one knife, one spoon. same thing for cloths. I was stunned how little objects I needed to live comfortably and how much "stuff" I could easily give up knowing nothing would really change. Now I will try your advice and use those very nice things I almost forget I have until I see them when decluttering.
As a young child, my sister coined a phrase my family still uses to this day: “it’s better to be worn from wear, than worn from dust”. If I recall correctly, it was said in response to my mother telling her she couldn’t wear a special outfit on an ‘unimportant’ day. I say it to myself often 😂
Exactly
That’s great- I’m going to use that!
I’m using this. This phrase needs to live on.
It’s better to burn out, than fade away - Neil Young
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When my father died, my brothers had to clear out all the stuff he had saved and accumulated over the years. They sold almost everything and threw away a lot because they had their own stuff, and didn't need things. But one brother wanted one thing: the old jeans jacket my father always wore when he was out on his land gardening, clearing brush, fixing cars and so on. It's the things that have been touched and used and worn in by people we love that have the most value. When I was about 8 years old, my father's family sent us a box of simple household things that had belonged to my father's mother, whom I never met. There was a mixing bowl, an old quilt - I don't remember what else. My mother didn't use the mixing bowl, didn't bake, so it became 'my' mixing bowl as the baker in the family. I used it with a wooden spoon that had belonged to my mother's grandmother ('She was the baker in the family,' my mother said). When I grew up, I used to bake cookies and make bread with my niece and nephews, and they knew the story of the bowl and the spoon - that they had belonged to a great-grandmother and a great-great grandmother who died long before they were born. When I moved abroad, I left the bowl and spoon to my niece, and she raised her son making bread and cookies with that bowl and spoon and telling him stories of how we had baked together when she was a child. Her son is now a chef, and I suppose one day he will inherit that bowl and spoon from his mother and use it with his kids. It was not the 'best' perhaps; neither item was expensive. But when you use them and share them, these items connect you in a web of love and care and shared interests and hobbies that pass from generation to generation. One day maybe Rajiv's son or grandson will play that guitar, and every time he touches it it will be like touching Rajiv's hands or feeling his hands guiding them over the strings...
A true story: A family I know had many decades of enjoying their Grandmother's Passover dinner set but eventually it was too cracked and chipped to use anymore. One of the Granddaughters is a mozaic artist so she smashed the dinner set up and used it to make a mosaic Hamsa for everyone in the family so that their grandmother, and the memory of all those wonderful family gatherings, was a part of everyone's home.
Now, THAT, my friend is love…
thats beautiful!
Oh wow I love that so much ❤. My grandmother had a neighbor who had lived next door since I was very young. She decided to move to the west coast with her daughter and she had to severely downsize. She gave me a set of China dessert plates that were her mothers because she simply couldn’t take it. she said she felt better that someone she knew and knew would take care of them had them because she was having a hard time letting them go. If I ever decide I can’t keep them, making a mosaic out of them is even better!
That is amazing!! Made my eyes tear up thinking about that
I love this
"I use fancy stuff everyday." New goal to be written in my journal.
There's a flip side to this too--
I'm a barista. When I'm at work, sometimes I see hundreds of people in a day. And it brings me so much joy when people are wearing/carrying nice things. I love seeing someone in a good hat, or wearing a nice dress. I love an ornate wallet or extra-fancy purse. I've seen some really beautiful broaches, necklaces, scarves, etc. and they always brighten my day.
So when you wear your best out, it's a blessing to everyone who sees you. ❤
Aww. What a nice observation and comment. Pay them a compliment. That works too. Thank you. Enjoy your day.
I never thought of it this way, though now that you've said it it seems like it should have been obvious. It's also a chance to brighten someone else's day! That's lovely.
This is so true. I walk by houses with flowers and clean porches, and I feel so blessed and thankful that people took time to bring beauty to their living spaces and that those who walk by can enjoy it too.
Yes!! I so agree. Everyone smiles when they see someone well-dressed.
❤😊❤ I never really thought of it like that, but then realized instantly well, yes! That is so true!!!! Thank you
As a child I was always afraid to commit to using a sticker because I worried it was the wrong spot and time, so I am now buying lots of silly stickers to put in my journals. Maybe not “nice” things but I’m working my way there!
Love it! I'm 51 y.o. and I STILL love stickers and use them in my journal, too. I have some Pride and Prejudice ones my daughter bought, butterflies, even just smiley faces 😅
we are on the exact same journey. i found one of my old precious sticker books recently and they all lost their stickiness so they’re useless 15 years later !
I do that now 😭🤣
meeee, I did the same as a kid so now I've been slapping stickers all over my water bottles, planners, and car because they bring me dopamine every time I look at them, and who wouldn't want that!?
It took me 12 years to place one sticker. Now when I buy something that can hold a sticker, I start looking to see if it fits on it. I was always afraid I wouldn't have the item long enough to enjoy it despite the evidence of having the same lunchbox from elementary school. I didn't need it for college and when I found it again after I graduated, it had molded. Step-by-step.
Rajiv, my sister inherited the family dining room table. It is a beautiful spanish oak table but has years of wear on the top. I asked why she didn't have it refinished. She pointed out the circle mark for example and said that is where Mom always put a casserole dish next to Dad to serve. Though it was on a trivet, over the years heat still made a mark. It reminds her of our family dinners. I see what you are saying.
Colleen Braun, I love that your sister wanted to leave it as is. She must have an old soul. I do. I am 63 but in soul years I am 163.
@@SisterShirley i believe i have an old soul too, i am always thinking about things like what Colleen commented. i am only 21 but i feel like in soul years, i am 65.
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Greetings from the USA 🇺🇸
This made me cry 💙💙❤️❤️
I teared up with this… so loving
As a very amateur writer I used to "save" all my good ideas for when I felt I could do them justice. But trying and failing is the only way to really learn. Writing a bad story with a good idea isn't a waste of that idea, it's what it was meant for! Plus it blew my mind when I realized just how many "good" ideas you can have if you're constantly using them and forced to think of new ones.
This is a really thoughtful comment. As a fellow amateur myself (although I do art instead of writing), I'm going to keep this in mind next time I have an art idea I love and would want to 'do perfectly' instead of just freely messing around with it. If anything, just because an idea has been "made" doesn't mean I can't remake it in the future, if I'm still inclined. It'd be a great show of progress too!
@@actualfkingvoid I love this! Legit 🙌 People helping people, sharing. This is what a community looks like. It’s what it’s all about, and it’s just simply beautiful to see. Thank you both! Literally made my day a little more bright :)
Hey that's really good to hear. Thank you for sharing. You helped me.
The best and only way to deal with a good idea is to write it or forget it. I do say this as someone, who has started writing at age 10 and only now - 15 years later - I feel like I'm anywhere near the level of being able to jump into professional writing. And I can fully admit, I've had some great ideas. I shared some of them with others, forgot the rest, and maybe wrote down one or two. Ideas are always a thing, that stops a newbies from progressing. (The royal) you get an idea and think it's worthy a pullitzer, so you save it and rethink it and obsess over it, maybe change it a little, worldbuild around the idea, make all these characters and have this whole world and then 5 years down the lane you have done ZERO writing. I've seen a lot of people fall down that trap of 'working on an idea' instead of just writing. And you don't get better without practice. Like not all of us are Christopher Paolini, who just can drop a book at age 19 (I mean even he started writing very young and Eragon took him 4 or 5 years and then another year re-editing the Knopf version).
This was really encouraging thanks for sharing!
My mother would stow away anything she received that was "too nice", wrapping it in layers of tissue paper or bubble wrap. We would say these things had been "Mommified". When she passed away, I resolved to use all the china, silk scarves and leather bags I found untouched in her closets. What was she saving it for? Meeting the Queen? Not to mention that the friend who gave her a Coach purse probably expected her to use it and would have been sad to know she didn't! Letting these things brighten my day seems like fulfilling someone's warm sentiments toward my mom, and that makes me happy in its own way. I think it would make her happy, too.
I'm about to move into a caravan full time due to losing my home in a flood last year. I find it interesting how many people are so worried about how I could possibly live that way. "What about all your stuff?" they ask and honestly? I don't need it. If there's anything I've learned after losing my whole history; i mean yearbooks, photos, art I'd made over the years, journals from throughout different life stages, all of those things held parts of my identity in them. Losing those things and having to keep living anyway taught me how to stop holding my identity in the things around me but within myself. Now I know that wherever I am, whether I have boxes and boxes full of stuff or a laundry basket full of whatever I could grab in a few minutes before the water invaded my home, I know who I am and I know what matters to me. This is a beautiful philosophy that I will be taking forward with me as I cleanse myself of whatever useless junk I've accumulated so far and become more intentional with the things I buy for my new life on the road.
I used to keep things 'for best'. Craft stuff for when I got better, notebooks & pens that were too nice to use. Books that couldn't be opened & LP's that remained in their cellophane. Then last summer we lost everything in a fire. A rather extreme awakening to realise what you actually had, what is important and a lesson to make the most of all the beautiful things in your life, because it could all be gone an hour from now x
I went through massive flooding last year which swept through my studio and ruined all my Equipment, Books, Art, and Craftworks
etc, etc. I couldn't agree with you more.
@@Muffy.from-Oz I'm so sorry for everything that you have lost, it is devastating x
I have been homeless and moved over 10 X in 10 years. I like nice quality things but I use them and I wouldnt change my journey as the loss of things are just that . . . things.
Awww my heart feels all the pain from everyone's comment in this thread
Thank you for inspiring me to use my good things. Life should be celebrated by using the things we love.
When I retired after 40 years working in a factory, I changed a couple of things.
I had a hot shower when I got up, I sat outside with a coffee, and I got into good clothes, not work clothes.
Oh, and I slowed right down.
Simple things which have made a big difference to me.
That sounds beautiful :) thank you for sharing!
Thats how retirement should be. Good for you 👍🙏
@@jacquelineireland2273 the other thing I enjoy now is just spending time pottering around the garden. I made an outdoor seating area too to sit with a coffee
@@anzacman5 it's nice if you are barefooted outside having your morning coffee to ground yourself too....no pun intended, it just came out that way 😄 I love my morning coffee outside too.
@@jacquelineireland2273 it's the simple things, eh.
I had a small minimal wedding dress that was easily the most comfortable dress ever. I now use it as a nightgown when I want to feel extra comfy. Plus I get to look fabulous as well
Genius! ❤
If the fabric allows, you could dye it a more "non-wedding" colour and then get to wear that most comfortable dress ever outside in the sunshine!
@@francookie9353 My dress was Royal Blue, but thank you for the fantastic idea! Maybe another wedding dress bedtime wearer can use this! 😂❤️
@@Timefortiner , yours was a great idea, wish other women acted the same 👏👏👏. Keep on being fabulous. 🌹😊
My mother did this with her dress too! Her wedding gown was black though and most would not ever think it was a bridal gown.
I love how this demonstrates being materialistic in the true sense of the word: caring about the actual materials that things are made of. Taking good care of your things, intentionally curating them, and appreciating their quality and beauty can add such a richness to everyday life.
You so accurately and beautifully gave a positive definition to the term 'materialistic'! I feel the same about things that they need to be treated with care and appreciation and treasured while they last, and not just 'possess' them.
@taylorevansen6008 I loved your response. Too often I think being materialistic is so bad but it actually can be done the correct way.
You just inspired me to pull out the blanket my grandma knitted me that I've kept put up because I was afraid I would ruin it. So silly when you think about it. I guess we sometimes forget how short life is and how *things* are only as valuable as they are useful.
I'm sure she'd be glad you're using it since she probably made it to keep you warm! It's like a grandma hug!
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And I stupidly allowed my husband to throw mine in front of the door as a draft stopper & it got ruined 😒
@@lolgriffin3243 I do think that too, that is such a sweet thought ^^
This is such great advice. I saved my wedding China in a cabinet for 10 years for fancy dinner parties that never happened. One day, I took it all out and replaced my dingy everyday dishes with all of it, and it's been well-used ever since. Why save it???! Now, every meal feels a little bit fancy!
Nice!
Yes! I love it! Every day is a special occasion because we're alive. ❤
Beautiful
Yes 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Nikki C. What a beautiful thing to do! I've never owned any inherited or pass-down items before because my uncles and aunts sold everything off in an estate sale many years ago; my great-grandfather and grandfather had, many nice things that could fill up a whole museum. I have owned gifted or thrifted stuff over the years and use the art of Kintsugi to fix up my used/cracked pieces. As for clothes, instead of throwing them away I cut them into square pieces and make them into memory blankets. It is a wonderful way to keep a piece of the past and present and keep using it. Any leftovers (cabbage) I use for stuffing padding: under door draft block, underarms support around the computer, etc. I'm enjoying this video while reading your comment. Thank you!
This is everything i believe in. I'm a soapmaker and hear often that the soaps are too pretty to use. I use natural colors and essential oils that do fade after they are about a year old so not using them is sad because they are meant to be enjoyed while they are pretty and fragrant. Life is too short to just put things we love on shelves. ❤
I got passed down some vintage 'RogeR & Gallet Paris Tea Rose Perfumed Soaps' from France that my mother had never used, she 'saved' them. Mom is still alive & well she gave them to me but I almost feel like I will be doing something wrong by her if I use them. I had a talk with myself that they are now 'mine' I own them & I can use them.
You just reminded me of a beautiful soap I have that looks like a colorful geode. It’s been sitting in a bathroom for 4 years. Time to use it!
@@soccermommyNPC Enjoy your soap! 😊
Going to use nice soap I was gifted for Christmas today because of this comment
I used to buy pretty soap everywhere I went but was always too afraid to use it. Now I *only* use pretty soap! I'm nearing the end of my 20s with all this *stuff* lying around...but I'm not getting any younger! Here's to using the pretty soap!
I work with antiques and nothing is more delightful than seeing the evidence of some long ago person who used and enjoyed their item. Especially kids drawings in old books! It is so strange to me that people don't realize that our things will often outlive us, maybe by hundreds of years! Use them and enjoy them!
Yes!! I own a chain stitch sewing machine. It needs new belts and a deep-clean. But it makes me so happy to see the well-worn corners of the machine table, the spots on the trundle that feet clearly sat for hours upon hours, and to know it was USED. Someone had this machine as their workhorse. Someone used it to sew countless miles of stitches. And that's so cool!
I've also got my grandma's crystal glasses and goblets. You bet I use them when I just want to. Why let them sit eternally only looking pretty?
@@Cruznick06 I’m not sure crystal is safe for constant use unless it is lead free. I’m no expert and there are different opinions on the subject, but I’d rather err on the safe side in this case. I think the worst is decanting and storing in crystal though: I always wanted to do that, but I am too worried about long-term spirits resting so long in a possibly unsafe vessel. I’m not sure the lead-free alternatives are as beautiful, either, so it is quite disappointing.
absolutely! i picked up an old treadle singer which had obviously been in storage for a while, but as i was restoring it, it was the most joyful thing see the wear pattern and when some kid had crayoned a drawer! signs of life :)
@@Cruznick06 I brought an old 1912’s sewing machine. I found all sorts in the old drawers. The original receipt, a shopping list, old cottons, scissors, etc. It felt like I was snooping into someone’s else life. I kept the previous owners stuff and now stored it in the bottom drawer.
Yes! I work in antiques too and it is a joy to see people have used an item and taken care of it ❤
Whenever I watch Rajiv's videos I also read mostly every comment to them, because people appreciating him feel like family and friends and often offer additional great thoughts and ideas, so thank you all, and special thanks and kudos to Rajiv. 🙏
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Yes! I completely agree with your comment, I do the same. It brings me joy to read what everyone shares. ❤
Yes, completely agree with you. Very difficult to find such people in the real world , but the comment section makes me feel I'm in my own community❤
The hair, the penmanship, the decor, the kindness, the hokey song, the nice things…you are just perfect!
Is it weird that Rajiv reminds me of Dolly Parton here?
@@MoutinhoNuno except that he doesn't have those huge fake tits.
What a lot of people also miss, is that they feel they can't afford much for nice things. But when you shift your mindset to saving up to buy ONE of something you really want, and use only that, you really do end up spending less over time. My example is, three years ago, I decided to buy an American Leather Company Purse that I LOVED (paid over $100, worth probably $200), which was the most I had ever spent on a purse. But I use it EVERY day, and if I'm ever tempted to buy another cheap purse on sale, it's easy to say no, because I already have my favourite purse. And I'm sure that I've actually saved money by not buying multiple, cheap things. Thanks for a great video.
Yes! In addition, the cost often means better quality. So you won't have to replace in a long time if ever.
I like your thought on the psychological side too; You are less likely to buy something that doesn't compare with your favorite thing.
Cheers! I'm saving up for some loafers, and while I'll love and care for them very extensively, I'm not going to to tear out my hair over every crease or worn sole. They're shoes that I've always wanted, so I'll appreciate and remember them more than all the ugly cheap sneakers that I've worn over the years.
This is exactly how I’ve approached high end bedroom furniture piece that I fell in love with. Thought oh, I can’t afford that! But it is so beautiful to me. Family owned, family made, with attention to detail. I saved up and bought it and it brings me much joy. It was worth it, and I will keep it always.
I get a lot of very nice antiques cheaply from thrift shops and auctions. Getting things like teaware and copper pots second hand can save you so much money.
his energy is so pure. its 2am where i live, i was just endlessly doom scrolling as always, feeling anxious about life, and then i see this guy talking about how much he loves these simplistic, yet worn and loved items. i dont feel so bad now
me too
this was me tonight. hope you're both able to capture that soothing feeling again soon ❤
He is a beautiful pure soul - we all are if we just let go of issues that cloud our sight
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Beautiful non satura ❤ 🎉 and the modeling, beautiful flowers 💐 💐 in the background
I was divorced after a 30-year marriage. When my life drastically changed, I decided to take advantage of the chance to order my life however I wanted. One thing I did was to use my lovely things every day. This one change became a symbol of my ability to turn a painful time into a beautiful one. Use your lovely things everyday, rejoicing that you have them.
Amen. I didn't use my beautiful carefully collected treasures bc my spouse had no appreciation for anything. Now I have the opportunity to craft an elegant life in a tiny jewel box whereas before it was like I was stuck in a nightmare with nothing to enjoy or look forward. I wish you well on your journey.
happy for youuu. i hope you have a great day. youre pricious
beautiful words. I hope you are doing better, Holly.
Raj, that is what my Grandmother used to say..."Give me my flowers while I'm living." And a dear nephew, my cousin David would come to visit her during the last few years of her life and bring her flowers, chocolate and candy. But mostly flowers. And being bedridden it was hard for my Grandmother to get outside, so flowers were like bring spring inside. After she passed away, David asked my Mother what flowers did she want for her funeral/burial. And my Mother said: "Don't you dare! NOT ONE FLOWER are you to bring. You brought her flowers when she was alive and could appreciate them." My Mother never forgot how much the visits and the flowers meant to the sick and housebound.
Luv yr channel btw.
This kid has magic about him. He walks around our world with agency.
yes!!
Perfectly said. Yes!
My Dad has always said: "Use it. Abuse it. Set it free." with regards to the objects in our lives. And while it is a bit rough around the edges in it's delivery, I feel like it matches the spirit in which you have encouraged us to enjoy our nice things. Thank you for this.
I’m old, weathered and worn, too. I hope it makes me beautiful. 😄
I believe it does
100% ❤
I love this! My parents raised me with this same notion of purchasing/making items of high quality and using them, caring for them, mending them, and repurposing them. Once, my neighbor gave my father a beautiful leather bag, a vintage YSL bag. For years, my father kept it tucked away because he felt that it was special, which was unusual for him. I always wanted it, but I was too young to truly care for it. After a hurricane, the bag, which had been tucked away in a closet, gathered mold. I had forgotten that we owned it but my father pulled it out and was going to get rid of it because he thought the leather was too far gone. I saw it and took my opportunity. I grabbed my bar of saddle soap from my horseback riding days and worked at the leather, washing it and cleaning it. That was 5 years ago, and now the bag that I treasured as a child has served as my everyday bag at university. It has gathered scuffs and scars, the exposed stitching has worn away to bear holes and I have stitched it back together. I know that I will have this item for a long time to come and it will go through many cycles of use and change. So, thank you for this video, it warmed my heart!
p.s. my everyday pen at university is also a treasure: my mother's red marbled waterman fountain pen that she used in her university days 30 years ago.
YESSSSSSSS!!!!
I wanna see what this bag looks like now, you should make a video on it.
@@omgstoptakingnames perhaps one day I'll do it!
what a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing! ❤
That's what my mon raised us like. We were lower middle class but my mom said spend money on good quality might seem costly but it's cheaper than buying 4 dresses in rhat cost which you can't wear after 4 wash. I am 28 and I still live by it. Nowadays it's all about sustainability but I never had to learn to be sustainable bcz I am already doing that. I also always spent more money on things that can be uncomfortable to body if you buy them cheap although when I lived in hostel many girls joked about why your bras or pants cost more than your top. The only reason was that cheap bras gave me back pain and pants are things that if you invest in good quality, it's good for many years even if you use them often. In tops I wanted something light and flowy to beat the heat and I wore them at home when theh git old so I bought them cheap at that time. Same goes with jackets, bags, sarees, you buy good quality ones and you can use it for many years
“It’s beautiful because it’s loved”.
Such a a thoughtful and impactful statement.
This made me think of how much joy children get from their favorite stuffed animals. To be the person who gives a child that special toy is the most rewarding feeling; much better than the toy that sits unloved.
I am 26 and still sleep with the stuffed animal my grandmother gave me at birth. Nothing else has been a constant in my life, and it means more than words can convey.
This is true. I gave my baby cousin a throw away stuffed duck that became her sacred best friend…something that was just another “whatever” toy to me was a treasured childhood keepsake for her ❤ I think about this all the time
Sprezzatura! I have not heard that word in 5 years since my husband passed. He had such a wonderful balance of elegance and casualness in his style and any art, craft or writing he touched. He loved working with leather and metals too. You remind me a lot of him. He trully valued beautiful craftsmanship of days gone by and learn how to create, used and care for the things he loved, but he USED them. He rarely wore blue jeans and loved his tweeds and of course a silk or cotton pocket square. He was from another lifetime! An old soul like you! I am going to post that word in prominence as a reminder. Today I am putting on my favorite tweed skirt just to walk about with my pup!
I adore tweed! Timeless class and simple elegance.
Have a lovely walk with your dog in tweed.
When Rajiv says, about the shoes, "you can have them resoled" I thought to myself: No, he's going to learn how to resole leather shoes and do them himself. What a beautiful essay. Thankyou.
you know we all want him to do that now, right? ha
My Dad resoled his leather brogues for years-he wasn’t a shoe maker , he was a Cabinet maker!
...I thought the same thing...looking forward to all future tutorials!
And then upload a video about it which I will definitely watch
Yesss
I also became a minimalist. I started wearing my pretty dresses everyday.. not just on Sunday to church. I am very overweight and used to feel fat, but now I Love wearing dresses. I don't wear jeans anymore. I feel pretty and emotionally happy, my depression is gone now. I go out to the park everyday with my husband and daughter. I love picnics and walks in the park and feeding the ducks. Life is beautiful now. ❤
@kaydiangel2445 I also have the desire to wear dresses everyday, but am also a bit overweight. I feel so fat when I wear dresses and keep waiting until I get thinner to wear them. Your comment was very uplifting and encouraging. Maybe I'll finally lose the extra weight when I start feeling good about myself first!
i hope this will become a trend because im so sick of cheap crap everywhere, quality lasts, its satisfying it makes life a little more enjoyable everytime you use something "real"
I’ve watched many of your videos, Rajiv, and to me, you’re an apparition from an old world, placed in this world-which is a compliment. You are a “renaissance” man, a man who lives a slower-paced life than most of us do, a man who’s deliberate in his choices, someone who appreciates beauty around him and in his home. Not exactly a minimalist, but a man who has chosen to have few things, all of great quality. As a renaissance man, you try your hand at many things, all of them creative. Somehow, you fit in New York City and it’s hard to imagine you anywhere else. You’re a counterpoint to the fast pace and crowded streets of the city. I love watching your videos. They are very comforting to me.
I agree wholeheartedly.
The expression I have heard many times is,"Don't use your best things to impress people you don't like."
I had some friends over and we ate a tiny jar of caviar. My father lamented that he was saving it for a special occasion. I told him that the house was paid off, all his kids graduated, one got married and he had a grandson. I asked which special occasion was he waiting for? He shrugged and told me I was right.
Agreed!! I've been telling my husband the same thing about special bottles of collected whiskey.
Agree! About 3 years ago, I started using and wearing my very nicest things every single day. It's so wonderful. Diamonds! Luxury watches! Suits! Silk scarves! Champagne! Expensive meats and seafood! Fresh flowers on the table! It's just a fabulous way to live.
"Facing the reality of your time here being limited, helps you to understand what's important for your every day." Now THOSE are words to live by! 🙂
This made me think about compliments. It's rare to hear compliments or to give them. We don't do that because we can be stressed about it, think it could be weird or inapropriate, we are too shy... But like the nice things : use the nices words. It make such a difference for people to hear them and for you when you get to see their smiles from what you just said to them. Be nice :)
I just love this video. I feel 100% the same way. Last winter I bought a new coat and it was/is such high quality. A coworker of mine found out I paid about a thousand dollars for it and holy cats the conversation turned into "Where are you going to wear a coat that nice?" "I'd be afraid to wear it anywhere!" "There are quality coats for a tenth of the price, you know." She told me she had a leather jacket that has been hanging up in her closet for something like 10 years that she's been afraid to wear and I'm like...why? I wore my "super expensive" shearling coat last winter everywhere I went. And do you know something? Because it's of such high quality, it shows very little wear and tear. That's what people need to understand. Buy less, save up, buy one or two quality pieces every year. You'll wind up with less cheap stuff that actually gets ruined with wear and tear and you'll feel like luxury every day.
Sad to say, but wearing expensive outerwear in this day and age - at least in the city- can be dangerous. Last week there were around 10 reported incidents of gangs of teenagers robbing people of their expensive coats. Many more incidents were likely unreported. It wasn’t because these thieves were cold. Armed robbery and carjacking is just a game. ‘Im not saying you shouldn’t enjoy your stuff, but please be careful, especially if your winter wear has obvious, recognizable branding.
my dad has/had a few leather jackets, the ones that are worn more often are in great shape and look better than when new, however the ones left to sit have cracks and have dried up and basically fall apart when put on, so i guess the lesson i learnt from that is that if i dont use something it could degrade faster than if i was using it more
Beautiful and inspiring. My life partner recently died and now all their most precious belongings that are left behind feel almost untouchable. So this video really hit home for me. Thank you Rajiv
I'm sorry for your loss
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you've been able to approach your partner's things and even feel safe to give them life again. If not, I hope you're taking good care of yourself and giving yourself opportunities for joy where you can anyway ❤
I was just talking with coworkers yesterday about how I use all of my good stuff, and no longer save it. I try to purchase most items second hand, and it always amazes me when I find old items that were never used. I especially appreciate the artistry and craftsmanship in handmade items.
i found a whole china dinner set and it didn't have a scratch its a bit sad
@@rae871 😢 Oh no! The last time we visited a thrift store in North Carolina, we found a whole set of Chinaware from the 1960s and a casserole piece shaped like a duck with a ladle. We were so surprised that the whole piece was heavy, and beautifully crafted and not a single scratch! The price was at $350US dollars. We paid half/half for everything and decided to bring it home and use it. It was screaming "I need life, take me home. I need to serve a family of twelve..." We take turns using all the plates, glass cups, silverware, coffee cups, and the casserole duck-ware. Things are meant to be used and people are meant to be loved. Next time you find something unused, buy it and give it life. ♥
@@hameley12 Just make sure it wasn't unused for a reason! Some older kitchenware used radioactive or toxic materials in their construction!
Stay safe when using anything vintage!
@@ameliawilliams4632 Thanks. Although, we did our research ahead of time. We bought a toxic materials tester device online. We use it quite often. Amy has one and I have one. The pieces are toxicity-free and lead-free but we still wash everything [pre-2000s] in hot water and leave it outside to dry in the heat of the sun. We read that sun rays kill off bacteria better than other methods. I even wash my sheets and let them dry outside. The toxin-detector device is a bit pricy but a great investment! Once my ex-BF left the stove on without anything on it. I got home and smelled something funky. Used my little device and left the windows down for hours. After that he was history... Lol! I appreciate your advice. And I do recommend that you buy one for yourself, the toxic material tester [not a BF] 😉 Have a wonderful week! And Happy Easter! 🌻
@@hameley12 Toxic material tester definitely sounds like something I'll look into.
Happy easter to you as well :D
Love this! I don't have many nice things, but my nicest thing is a pair of mittens my grandmother knit me before she passed away. I haven't worn them once, because I don't want to ruin them, but you've inspired me to wear them out next time I go for a walk - she put her energy into them and I want to wear them now in memory of her. ♥️♥️♥️
How sweet that you will be taking your grandmother out with you when you go walking.
She’d want you to wear them xx
@@kathycooper8449 You could even go so far as to say she's holding her grandmothers hands. 🥲😊💕
@@megan2176 yes! And her grandmother is holding hers. I have a friend who wears something of her mother’s each time she leaves the house. Sweet way to bring our loved ones with us.
@@kathycooper8449 aw, thank you both for the sweet comments, I love that - it's like we're holding hands ♥️
This is so important for people like me who grew up materially/financially deprived. It's so hard to get out of the "save everything" mindset. So thank you for this video
I knew my mother loved beautiful porcelain teacups and teapots...so I bought them for her and even bought a dining room china cabinet that she had loved at antique store. She stored her elegant teacups and teapots there...but always said they were too nice to use for everyday. When my younger sister and I became her caregivers, we served her meals with the real linen napkins, the good china and a new beautiful teacup each day. My humble mother gleamed with pleasure. It broke my heart that she only, finally, actually used her dear "treasures" in the last year of her lifetiime. I am an avid collector, I thrift, rummage thru barn sales, go to auctions etc. I use my lovely "finds" daily, it soothes my soul, brightens my spirits...and it truly makes my home become cozy, as well as a serene place of refuge, offering little unique restorative moments...and a home filled with love and beauty.
My wife and I are trying to adopt this approach. The question we ask ourselves, and each other, is "What good is it if we don't use it?" The job of a nice pair of shoes isn't to sit in a box in the closet. A nice plate wants food on it every now and then. Let's see if I can stick to this!
One of the saddest things I can imagine as someone who makes handmade things is that all the time, energy, and love that I put into something, possibly made specifically for someone I care about, can end up sitting in a closet for all eternity. A tragedy!
Hope this won't happen and they'll be thinking about you while using or seeing it. But just in case do tell them about it! :-)
I’m getting my bespoke Moccs’ on now!
I feel that way about quilts I make for girts- use them!
As a professional conservator, I could not agree more. I love when the things show their value throught their use.
As a de-cluttering coach, I am CONSTANTLY telling people this! It's so lovely to hear if from someone else. So beautifully spoken
This has really helped me confront my fear of ruining stuff through use and fear of overdressing, that some poeple may look at me weird when im wearing my favourite elegant clothes on an ordinary day. Thank you, you are very wise.
I heartily endorse this life ethos! Being someone who was widowed fairly young and works from home, I pretty quickly realized it was a little sad to save my favorite 'nice' things for some unspecified future event/occasion. I love my nice things!
I am in the same position - if not now when?
@@SaraMaurnoRealtor and out will soon come dad's stuff. Needed to hear this. If not now, when?😊💕
My mother used to keep the good things either locked or on display with a warning for " not to use them". She's now 95 years old and all her good stuff had been either stolen by strangers or deteriorated and trashed away by relatives who never understood or valued them as she had. I had the chance to keep only a few of them. In contrast, 🎉I had always been using and sharing my stuff with everyone who appreciates it. And am glad to hear that someone thinks exactly the same. Enjoy the pretty things you have!🎉🎉🎉🎉
I have had that experience here too...My mom was very generous, but there were a few things that were "Just hers". One of them is a Honer button Accordion that is over 100 years old. I still have it. There was a curse put on it should anyone try to remove it from the rightful owner...I love the old people. The curse was placed after it was removed from the casket of the owner by his wife.
That’s funny because I’m going to inherit my grandfather (he died in 2001) accordion , but by the time it’s mine is probably already “broken” because no one uses it.
I started wearing nice things like hats when I go to school. A french hat, an army cap with a flower, long sweaters, hair pins, wonderful things that I first thought were too embarassing to wear but decided to since I wouldn't want to pass up the opportunity. And it feels nice when people notice and say it's all wonderful too
My wife and I got such a heartwarming cozy feeling from watching this. She was so inspired that she went up to the attic and is now repurposing her great grandfathers overalls into an apron! 😄 Subscribed and looking forward to watching more of your content!
My grandfather was a farmer, and I initially thought of putting his overalls in a special box, but instead, I wear them. 😊
When my mother passed and we cleaned out her house I found all the linen table cloths and napkins I sent her to use still in the brand new condition. Wish she would have used them to enjoy. And that I gave them to remind her of me.
I found myself collecting broaches (which are inexpensive because they are out of fashion). I think they are beautiful and so under appreciated!! At first I saved them for some special occasion that never seemed to materialize. Then it dawned on me that this was crazy thinking. So I dug them out of the drawer and started wearing them. They bring me such joy!🇨🇦
You could also make a display so you can see them. Art is better appreciated than stored
I'm often on the lookout for those beautiful old broaches -- they are so inexpensive. I enjoy using them reusing them in art projects!
I have a small collection too! My favourite ones are those with a hook at the top that could be converted into a necklace with a nice gold chain.
@@13hehe Love that idea! I use mine when making "altered tins". It's a current passion of mine. It just means that I can get carried away with shopping for broaches though lol.
Hi Jennifer! I hope you are still using the broaches. I have avidly bought brooches, winter/fall/summery old-fashioned hats and scarfs. I used to have it all in a box. Until I decided to minimize and keep a smaller collection that now I use every day. Rajiv's and your thoughts are very inspiring. Thank you!
My mother is in late stage's of Dementia, she had SO many things that she set aside for Special Occasions, that they rarely were used. She does not know who or what anymore so I use all of them as often as I can because she didn't, and they were made to be enjoyed. They make me think of her and my Grandmother and their ideas of what is Special!!! I think everyday should be SPECIAL!! Thanks Rajiv!!! Being a paper crafter, which my daughter's don't care about or want to continue, I use my favorites and my best everyday before it ends in a dumpster one day.
Debbie, this really touched me. Thank you.
@@taliaa2122 Thank you, they are things that meant a lot to her so I am trying to honor her every day by using what she was saving!
Sorry to hear about your mother having Dementia, Debbie. That can be very trying on those who are assisting dear loved one's. Glad you are putting mother's treasures to good use. When I go to thrift stores I see so many items that must have been in families for generations and somehow end up getting discarded. It's rather sad. I think Asian cultures respect and value, and even see it as a duty to keep and preserve items for future generations. Anyhow, I enjoyed your nice comment.
@@time4clocks Thank you!
Debbie, I am a paper crafter as well and just realized that my fancy paper is perfect for any project. I have stopped saving it.
I can say, as a 71 year old, use your stuff!!! Enjoy the beauty and function of the things you love…that is why we bought it!!!
My dearest belonging is my patterned turquoise towel. We have family photos of me laying on it when I was a toddler/baby, and I have faint memories of using it too. It was being storaged and forgotten about for so long until I found it during my late school years. I'm still using it to this day. It is mind-blowing to me that this piece of fabric has been around for 25+ years and yet in mint condition.
"You make the special days"
That is still changes me so much and i'm unlearning to keep the precious things to me unused
Weekly can be good too, if you can't use your best things daily. I grew up going to church every Sunday morning. So I had my Sunday best clothes, which meant I wore those special outfits 52 times a year. Once a week traditions can be ...weekly family Sunday dinner using the good dishes and candles and linens, weekly church wearing best clothes, weekly wine night drinking your best wine,
Ooh, I like this idea too. Maybe be more practical since I travel A LOT.
This is why I love buying secondhand things. It makes it easier to "let go" of the ideal of pristine condition right away, and you get to enjoy the "patina" of love and use from day one.
I so agree with this!!
Totally agree !
This is so beautifully written
My mother used to do this. She had a china cabinet that was full of things: wine glasses, the good china, etc. This was how she was raised and despite myself, I was often annoyed as a child because we were only able to use the beautiful items once a year. Oh how I wished to use the wine glasses when I had pretend 'cooking' parties with my sister. After I became an adult, her house suffered a fire and she lost all of it. What a waste I thought but I learned an important lesson: this is not the way do handle these things. Whenever I get a wine set or beautiful china as a gift, everyone, (including my children) use it. At first some of these beautiful things were broken but after a while, they all learned to handle these things with care. And the best part? When my children were small, we had the most fabulous cooking parties.
When I was a child, my parents had a "nice" set of cutlery and a "nice" set of crockery for when my dad's colleagues and business partners came to have dinner at our house. We always washed these things and packed them away in a special cupboard, in special boxes to be stored in after we had eaten off them. My mom would look after these things so well. But in our daily lives, we used beaten up crockery and cutlery that was older, well-loved and well-used and scratched and the plates were a bit chipped here and there. And I was fond of both sets of "nice" and "everyday" cutlery and crockery. I just felt it was extremely sad that these "nice" things weren't used as much.
Now that my sisters and I have all left home, I know she keeps these nice things in boxes and cupboards and doesn't use them either. And still uses the same beaten up stainless steel cutlery and beaten up stoneware plates from my childhood. Nothing wrong with them, and they are extremely durable, and have developed this lovely patina on them. But she never felt "worthy" of using these nice sets of cutlery and crockery. And instead kept them stored away. Which was always a great pity for me.
I have to guard against this behaviour in myself. I find myself buying lovely high-quality elegant sneakers and then not wearing them as much as I should, when I know that when I do wear them, I feel so elegant and put together. Thank you for this video, Rajiv. This is a beautiful reminder to invest in better quality pieces and then use them in our daily lives.
I love this advice!
I still sometimes hear my parents voices in my head, telling me to „be careful“ with my things since I was a clumsy child… but it got me to the point where I was actually afraid to use my nice things for fear that I might break them. One day I realized this and I decided to use my belongings instead of „saving“ them. These are MY things, I‘m an adult now and even though I am still a bit clumsy sometimes, I don’t want to tiptoe around my whole live… I might not have a lot of money, but when something breaks, I always try to repair it or go to a second hand store to look for a replacement.
This is a great lesson and philosophy: work hard, only get things you love and enjoy and use them to let them "live the fullest life they can offer" and let them help you to have joys.
Pulling out my best suit, usually used for interviews, to wear tomorrow. Every day is a special event. Thank you Rajiv.
I think this video came to me at the perfect time. I have this very pretty black denim jacket that I got at the thrift store a few months ago for a special occasion, and have felt like maybe it would be a disservice to wear it on normal days. But it’s denim! Even if wearing it down was a concern, denim is so durable. I thought of this just yesterday and now today this video came to me.
"Every day is a special event." I really like that.
I donno why this video made me emotional.. we hold on to things for special occasions and those moments are very few but if we start using things everyday we are giving an opportunity to make everyday beautiful and also value yourself a little more. You deserve to use the special stuff too ❤
Everyone around me is so sick of hearing about you, Rajiv. You are truly the best part of Internet, and I look forward to each of your videos (and revisit them often).
Haha, me too! I can't say "Rajiv" to my friends without a bunch of eye rolls. I love him and wish him nothing but success and love.
Well I dare say that one can be forgiven for gushing about such a dear human as Rajiv😊 He is quite the Renaissance man! I think they're all just jealous 😅
Oh man, I’m sick of hearing about this guy - cut it out man.
@@becca4684 🙄
use the fancy stuff every day 🎉
another argument i'd add to this is that only keeping/using things we love makes it soooo much less of a burden to clean, organise and repair them ❤
that's my initial reason for starting to do this with my dishes - because i already had one or two of almost all the essential pieces in very high quality (traditionally handmade by professionals mostly) and discovered how much more i liked washing them, because it just gave me more opportunity to handle and admire them 😅
but i had not thought of doing this with everything i own so now i'm in the perfect position of both knowing the benefits first hand and getting to pick and choose moaar favourite items for it! there are many that come to my mind immediately, especially clothes and specifically those nice dresses i keep for 'special occasions' but never wear because introversion and social anxiety mean i never actually go to those events... thinking about it, being used to wearing my fine dresses would take one of the bigger obstacles away from this challenge, hmmm 🤔
anyways. since someone described your videos as 'romantic' i can't stop seeing you as the ideal model for a caspar david friedrich painting. because you are 🌹
I still wear my best watch every day, even after my child dropped it, almost breaking the glass. My wife asked why I didn’t repair it, I told her I will inherit this to my baby one day and explained every single dent it has.
I'm currently darning a hole in my fancy blanket I got while visiting Iceland. I use it everynight, but my dog ate a hole in it one night.
I was really upset about it at the time, but I think that repairing it will just give it some character and it already feels very rewarding to repair it... this video was super relatable as I stitch away!
Well, the dog is very happy that you had your special blanket available to chew on ;-)
Yeees! Love this idea! My mom gave me her "fancy dishes" because she got a new set. I ended up using them as everyday dishes, and she was sort of insulted. I didn't mean to hurt her feelings, but liked the idea of using the nice stuff every day. Of course, all those dishes have broken over the years because they weren't meant for heavy use, but I have no regrets! 😅
Yes... Well If I have to wash dishes I want them to be pretty!!
I’m with you. Why not use them? If you don’t, they will be used and enjoyed when you’re gone, by someone else.
@@carolinebaranczyk1131 me too!
I have some beautiful "special" pieces glassware & plates that have become discolored & damaged from sitting on "display" in the china cabinet. These are my Beautiful pieces for "special" occasions. Now, if I can't clean or correct the damage, then they are all wasted or I might repurposed them in some way. 😔
@@DDJones-yi1pm a good question. There must be a natural way to revive glassware.
I love this message! I’ve often wondered why people never use their nicest stuff, as if they don’t deserve that privilege! I love using my copper kettle every single day without fail! It brings me joy sitting on my range all day. I used a China gravy boat last night for a random Tuesday dinner that was passed down through 5 generations, and I still wear my grandmother’s wool coat that is probably 75 years old!
I LOVE vintage wool coats, I bet it's beautiful!
although sometimes “just saving an item” is part of the beauty… looking at it on a shelf, on a rack… admiring it for years to come!
well made things get better with every use! and when they stop getting better with every use, repair them!! it really fills me with hope to see videos like these in a world where most things are made to break and to be thrown away. we are able to have much more fulfilling lives when we feel a true connection with the objects that we use and by using your nicest things everyday and seeing the wear and tear that they go though you are filling them with life and growing a connection with them. i bet that you feel such a connection with that tweed jacket that you've worn a hundred times and when the elbow gets a hole you'll add a patch, not throw the jacket away. my point is well illustrated by that leather bag, it genuinely brought a tear to my eye seeing written down every place it has been in the world, these objects carry their history in the marks that are left on them. i just know that you'll never forget that bag, you have a connection to it and maybe even your potential children and grandchildren will love that bag too (or maybe some lucky stranger who finds it in a second hand store!). things that are made to last are so important :)
When I turned 60 in July last year I got all my most loved things that I had been keeping for a special occasion out of display cupboards and such and I use them every single day and I love them even more know than when they were saved.
Rajiv, I just love you! First video of yours I’ve seen and already, you captured my heart! Because of you, I will be taking a gift out of the closet that I’ve had for 8 years now. It’s a Pendleton blanket that was gifted to me for my wedding from a dear old friend that passed on two years ago. It feels nice to know that even though she is no longer with me, I’ll still be wrapped in her love. Thank you for the push to use the good stuff in this one life. Love it!
Oh and subscribed and loved, there should be more of you out there encouraging us to embrace this life!
Is it just me or do Rajiv's things look happy? I'm learning that objects that are used and taken care of seem to give off a radiance :) thanks Rajiv!
Patina. 🥰
I "was" a 1920s clothing collector.
Over the year i have collected many special clothes from that era, but I have never worn them in public.
After a really depressing period I have decided to try and wear them, and it fill me with joy.
And now I go to work and mop the floor while wearing a tail coat and a wing starched collar shirt.
I have ruined almost every suit I own but when i return home I like to rub my fingers on the repairs I've made over the years.
To the bad people that always ask me "why do you dress like that?!", I say "everyone have some clothing for a special day, why can't be every day a special day".
A couple of years ago my best friend gave me a tea set (cups and a pot) of Klimt’s “The Kiss”, which he knows is one of my fave paintings. It came all the way from Europe. I’ve been afraid to use it (and break it), so it’s been sitting, still in its protective box, in my closet. Time to get it out and start using it. Thank you, Rajiv.
I totally agree as my mum always saved the nice things for special occasions. When she passed there were so many wonderful items that she never used that were over 50 years old still in original packaging. It makes me sad she had her good plates or fancy sheets and towels or nicest clothing that she never got to enjoy.
My 12 year old daughter, Rose, and I both love your style. We think you are amazing, Rajiv!!💜
I think he's an amazing person too!
Your daughters future is bright with a role model like Rajiv at 12 😊
What a great message! I wish I’d given myself permission to use my things years ago. I turn 60 this year and saved most of my things for “when this” and that never happened. It feels like the Ian Dury song What A Waste. I have gorgeous clothes and shoes that I was going to wear when I lost 5-10 pounds. Even when I was told I was in great shape in my mind I wasn’t. Now I am old and soft but I do compliment others when I appreciate their style or even a great attitude. I have loads of gorgeous vintage beads and antique bits and bobs and again I don’t trust that I have “the best” ideas so they sit in boxes and bags, for what? You have inspired me to pull out my bright mix of collected teacups, teapots and silver and use them and go from there! Thank you and bless you!
Thank you, so inspiring ❤. This video reminds me of an e-mail I saw over 20 years ago, where an older person was listing regrets. One was saving her "good" rose candle that melted in the attic. I never forgot that.
I love that, "It's beautiful because it's loved."
I'm so surprised that you did not mention the gold bracelets you wear. They are the epitome of nice things, used every day. Maybe the air of nonchalance you have about them made them not an obvious choice to feature, but we're all so curious who made them and how you came to wear them daily. ☺
1) Using everything you have means not having too much stuff. 2) Repairing is worthwhile if you're fixing something you love. As with the shoes, repairing often improves a garment. On the other hand, it can be hard to know when it's o.k. to let something go but important not to hold on to things that have completed their service.
Our wedding dishes came out of the boxes, got washed and used every day. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, indoors and out. When my friends came over for lunch, the dishes went out to the picnic table. It gives me joy to use my dishes. My husband has passed away, but I still use those "fancy" dishes, and remember all the wonderful times that were spent with them gracing our table. Thank you and God Bless 🙏👑✝
I was blessed by my wife with my dream watch for a wedding present. I first feared wearing it as its heirloom quality but now its an amazing timepiece and a reminder of our love and the time we have together that I carry daily. Use your nice things. They're meant to be.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown to see the value in the wear and tear that comes with using someone’s favorite guitars shoes clothes etc. there’s nothing quite like the character given to something that’s well used and taken care of.
Would so love if you could share some insight on the gold bracelets you wear! They’re so beautiful and I love that they seem to be part of you as you have them on in each video
omg i thought the same thing! would love to hear the story behind them
He briefly mentions them in one of his earlier videos. If I remember correctly, they're gold bangles he bought on one of his trips to Sri Lanka/Tamizh Nad.
@@kevinfernandes9930 ahhh i see, thank you!
Yes , they are beautiful and I’ve wondered about them too . I’d love to see a close up shot of them
“... people think it’s damaged, but I think it’s used ‘n loved ... “ aah Rajiv, I love the way you see things ❤
This philosophy can be applied to deciding what we actually buy and *if* it would actually be long-lasting or not. So many fast-fashion or poorly-made items would not do better with time. So I want to be mindful of things I use that do not do well with time and how it's probably not best to buy like that again.
i agree!!
This is a wonderful video. I’ve spent my life “saving” all the time. Saving my favourite outfits for better occasions, thus feeling frumpy every day, saving my best ideas, my favourite items. I even feel like I’ve “saved” by not investing on something better quality I’ve been thinking about for months that costs more because I don’t have the occasion or cant justify, only to go without or buy a cheaper stop gap alternative that I’m not happy with or will break. Recently I finally invested in a new pan that came all shiny and silver, but as it is carbon steel, I had to season it. This was such a weird process for me as I was deliberately browning and “dirtying” up a pristine pan before ever actually using it. The effort and time I put in to seasoning and the benefits of doing so has now made this my go to favourite pan and I use it all the time. I love it more and I look after it better. I’m no cook, far from it, but it makes me want to learn to cook more. It’s the little things.
This song at the beginning hit me really hard, I know this token of thanks isn't of much value,, but I still wanted to do something more than writing a few words. Keep doing the wonderful work that you do.... Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
I am unashamedly by far not a minimalist. Nor a Marie Kondo fan. I love my 'stuff'. It is all the 'good stuff' I chersh that can't easily be found, fixed or re created these days. However, I have always been one of those people to see the beauty in quality things. This is definitely from my grandparents influence. My particular love is the 40's and 50s. I am 50 and it has taken about 34 years of carefully finding beautiful and useful objects to create a homely and unique vintage style life. My dinner set is 65 years old. I use my harlequin glass and crystal glasses, 'fancy' cutlery and serving ware, and good napery. I must say I still cringe a bit when red lipstick is about to be embedded into a fine cloth napkin, but then the satisfaction of the laundry ritual can be enjoyed! I smile to myself when I see you use laundry blue and do many of the things I have done for years.
We live in a world where quality and craftspersonship is diminishing or lost. Not valued or viable. People love and admire it but often can't afford it. Or even 'vintage' things in thrift stores now being out of the price range for many people. Some things are just not able to be sourced or repaired anymore. Old bikes, cars, sewing machines etc. There is either no one left who can or wants to do it. Even finding a decent cobbler to properly repair my 25 year old leather penny loafers is not easy. Clothes are thankfully easy. I knit and sew my own re creations in my style from quality vintage patterns, fabrics and yarns.
Consumerism and social brainwashing to have the next new thing is a real problem. It's not about getting rid of everything. It's about preserving and enjoying the essence and processes and rituals of good living and living well. It is also about creating every day joy in how you choose to live in the now.
Love your channel. And the comments! What you are presenting resonates positively with many. And not just nostalgic boomers and gen x's!
I found this to be as inspiring as Rajiv! Thank you x
Oh I don't think that means you're far from being a minimalist at all. It just sounds like you've just made a point of only buying good quality items regardless of how old they might be. Sounds sensible to me. I agree that good things are hard to find these days. Clothes especially. What's worse is I've realised it's easier to find good quality men's clothes than women's!!! So from now on I'm buying men's t-shirts and jumpers (which I hope I won't have to buy as often as a result of them being better quality).
I also can't stand Marie Kondo myself. I borrowed her book from the library and the only useful thing I got out of it was how to fold clothes nicely. I couldn't believe she wrote stupid things like "don't keep old buttons because you'll never mend your clothes." As soon as I got rid of things I didn't need I was a lot more motivated to replace missing buttons on clothes that were still otherwise decent looking and fit me.
I also think her idea of how many books people should keep suggests she doesn't read much. Not to mention her lumping cameras into a general "electronic things" category horrified me.
@@SzilviaVirag I don't understand people just throwing things out if they don't wear or use something for 6 months. I've kept things for decades that still look great and have purpose. I always get comments on my vintage accessories. I can tell you where in the world I bought something, or how something in my possession came to be. In my experience, these people are quite beige and uninteresting. I feel uncomfortable in their sterile houses that are usually as energetically dead as the moon. No, they don't read. They're more concerned with keeping a show home than one which is exhaled in and lived in. They're the people who may scan some old photos to digitally store and throw out cherished family albums that you see in the thrift stores full of once cherished memories. Sad. They don't seem to feel the history or energy in the things/objects of life. They can't see the point. Big deal, Marie Condo can fold clothes and organise. It took me years to accept that I am an artistic soul with my own organsed 'chaos'. I know where everything is that I have. I love everything I have. I have an order orfthings. I look after everything. When things can't be fixed, yes, I dispose of them thoughfully. And I take my own collected things in and out of storage when I want to re decorate.
I guess I just no longer feel like I should be living how everyone else thinks is proper. My husband feels the same. We are seen as being quite eccentric. We think we are perfectly normal. We have our cats lounging on furniture, projects in various stages of completion, books on the coffee table that we actually read. Nothing is a prop. Everything is clean. It is also ever evolving. That is also why I resonate with Rajiv. He gets all those points. I like that he's showing these elements of respectful and fine living to a younger generation.
María is this you?! LOL
I reached the age when stoneware and Le Creuset had to be replaced with something light weight. I pulled out my Royal Albert and Villeroy-Boch and enjoy them. Also got much lighter cooking pots.
How old are you? I have Le Creuset cast iron cookware and still use it most days. I’m now wondering how long it will be before it is too heavy for me to handle.
I’m 74 years old.
I still have a few years to enjoy them 😅
@@looloo4029 for me, the 7 qt Le Creuset dutch oven is a challenge especially when full
Ohh, I feel this! I have a back disability and I just can't do cast iron in general, although I did have a dutch oven.... but I left it on the stovetop! Gave that to my daughter, so now none.
WOW. A life lesson. I´ll never forget this, ever. Thank you soooooo much! After watching, I got up, went to a trunk I have of 'saved' things not seen for a long time and found my baroque wooden flute..... I think it smiled 😊 I know I did. You are a wonderful person, Rajiv.
Something about you & also your personality reminds me a little of Steven Tyler {Aerosmith}. What you said is very relevant. After loosing family members, pets {pets are also family members}, & friends drives home realization life on this earth is fleeting. I grew up in a home where nice clothing, & items were 'saved' not used, saved for what? I don't know. In my own life I've decided to use everything, wear everything, and do things I've dreamed of because no one is guaranteed tomorrow.
I actually did the exact opposite. I Tucked up almost everything(cloths, kitchen tools, shoses, books, sheets, paper) for almost 6 months. I only kept thing that I really use day to day: two plates, two pans, one fork, one knife, one spoon. same thing for cloths. I was stunned how little objects I needed to live comfortably and how much "stuff" I could easily give up knowing nothing would really change. Now I will try your advice and use those very nice things I almost forget I have until I see them when decluttering.
If you can live with few things, why not make them the best things? 😊
You missed the whole point of the video!
@@claremiller9979you’re absolutely right!