This came at the perfect time. Occasionally, I will catch myself falling asleep only to have a hypnic jerk to wake me up. But knowing that my brain is on sentinel duty and trying to protect me from wakefulness has lead to many mornings of wondering if I fell asleep. I would just accept that if I did or didn't fall asleep that it didn't matter one way or the other. But learning that my brain can monitor its own monitoring gives me more clarity of these bumpy nights. Thanks for the video!
So glad it was timed well Desiree 😊 and such nice insight here, about sentinel duty, will add this wording to my coaching. Thanks for sharing snd for support!
I just discovered your channel this morning after my 2nd night in a row of sleeping only 2-3 hours (after the last month of less severe insomnia). When I first woke up this morning I was at the point of despair. For some I decided to do yet another internet search for insomnia helps. I ended up on Reddit and someone mentioned you. I’ve now watched a few videos and read the reviews for your app and I am hopeful that I can sleep again! I am going to watch more of your videos and consider downloading the app. Thank you for giving me hope❤
Catie, so so glad someone mentioned our channel and that you’re here. I think there’s so much here that can really help 😊 Thanks so much for sharing, commenting and for the support!
Thanks for the videos- I’ve watched them off and on as my insomnia is also off and on. Sometimes I’ll go weeks sleeping great then it creeps back with a vengeance or comes on more slowly. Last night was one of the first where I thought I’d never fall asleep and had a panic attack. I’ve had to rely on hydroxyzine to get through it but I know this is a sleep effort. I’m hoping just continuing education and prayer will help. So odd how mine is off and on unlike most people
Hi Hannah, anytime. And you know, if you listen to the stories, many say it was just like yours, waves of insomnia with “off” periods in between. Hang in there and be in touch
I have had this for weeks now. I have always struggled with my sleep due to being autistic but the last 3/4 weeks have been hell. I take forever to fall asleep and when i finally calm down and start to feel like i am falling asleep my brains tells me you are falling asleep and all of a sudden im wide awake again. I sometimes fall asleep for a while in the early hours of the morning but my dreams are so vivid i get scared and wake up. I think all day long about sleep and keep telling myself i must have a condition such as fatal insomnia. Im driving my whole family crazy they have to keep ressuring me all day. My wife tells me she sees me falling asleep sometimes but im not sure if i have or not. Im scared when it gets to bedtime every night i think im scared not to sleep and also to sleep at the same time. Im not really sure what to do anymore.
Hi! Thanks for this video- it was very helpful. Sleep monitoring is by far the biggest hurdle for me when it comes to sleep issues. How can I stop sleep monitoring? Or will the monitoring naturally go away as my anxiety about sleep lessens over time?
Hi there! Any time :-) so glad you found it. And I definitely see it like you said, in the end, the monitoring naturally fades away, when we are no longer anxious about sleep. If we try to stop sleep monitoring, then we create this problem that our brain wants to monitor even more!
This is the main thing that keeps my insomnia going. It made me fear the actual act of falling asleep. I know it’s the anxiety that keeps trying to catch the moment I fall asleep and overthinks it. I feel like it’s the main hurdle that I need to figure out how to overcome. I don’t know how though 😢
Coming back after getting weeks of perfect sleep just within the first day of listening and reading ur techniques I’ve been sleeping a solid 9 hours everyday
Do you like our way of teaching? Would you like to unpause your life, sleep well and feel like yourself again? We can help! For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you. We look forward to seeing you on the inside!
Hey Daniel, I have a questions. I started watching your Videos around 6-7 Months ago, additionally I read your, and two other books about sleep and CBTi/ACT. It all makes sense for me and I understand sleep so much better know. You also always say that education is key but I have the feeling that your channel become kind of a safe zone for me. I think it would be time to take a sleep detox for some weeks to do the final step in recovery. So my question is, how do I know if watching videos about sleep is education or more reassurance seeking cause sometimes I think I am watching your videos to avoid my anxiety?
Hi Thomas, I’m so glad you have all this education and, your question is really really nice. A very insightful question. I will review this on Friday in an episode on the channel. Hopefully many will learn from this great question!
Daniel, this is v much appropriate for the brain sleep-jerk thing!! And you know when I was a child I had this crazy-kid idea to see if I could stay awake going into my dreams & look around. Of course you can't do both and this is where my jerks started. It was fine at first till I felt slightly stressed I was getting tired at school. I left the whole thing alone (which was easier to do as a child!) & got on with life then it all returned at 24 when I was in a stressful new situation that brought up a lot of insecurities. I've struggled ever since & am in really bad patch now. It really is a monitoring of the monitoring plus v bad feelings of shame about the whole thing which doesn't help. I got pretty obsessed about exacting the approach over last few years, despite some full months of good sleep. This way of putting it softens my urges to have the exact right mindset which then somehow now fades from my grasp. I am hoping to go knowingly & gently with this latest honing of the info 🙏🏻
Hi Daniel, I only started having trouble sleeping 4 weeks ago. I felt as if my life was in a downward spiral, I was experiencing anxiety like I've never felt. Although I *only* had a couple of "zero" sleep nights, not even back to back, one of the mornings after that I found your video with Ari, and it was the first thing that calmed me down. I watched it twice. After that, I desperately continued with sleep efforts until I remembered your channel again about 2 weeks later. Since then, everyday has gotten a little better. But, I felt like I hadn't had it hard enough, everyone elses story was worse than mine, I kept thinking isn't mine going to get worse? Everyone says I have to go through the struggle for a long time before I will learn enough for it to get better. I was expecting the speedbump, anticipating it, while also thinking, "I havent been struggling that long, so maybe my fear will just go away quicker" I was scared to put too much effort into learning more about it because mine wasn't as bad as others. Alas, lastnight my anxiety was pretty high again. I thought I wouldn't get any sleep again, but after a few hours my hyper arousal actually dwindled and I fell asleep. I woke up realizing, my brain really can't predict the future. Im going to have a good day today, even though I doubted myself so much lastnight. It strangely opened me up to accepting learning more, and have finally started watching your Natto videos. Just wanted to share in case anyone else here has a similar experience 😊
Hi Christina, Thanks so much for sharing and you know, it can take some courage to do this, to look inside, learn about ourselves… I’m glad you found this. And you know, nobody knows the timeline, but when it becomes about learning in a way that can help with life in general, then it no longer feels like a race, and then there’s no struggle, then it’s easier and easier. Let us know how things go 😊
Great video as usual Daniel. This happens to me as well. Have been curious, what was the worst case of insomnia that you have seen and been able to help the person to recover? I would like to start training but I worry that It's possible I cannot be helped. I truly hope I am wrong.
Thanks so much Drew. And you know, most of our students thought they were that one hopeless case that wouldn’t find a way. And of course hope can be scary, because if we hope we can be disappointed. So you know, I can’t tell who struggled the most out of all our graduates, but I know they all felt similarly to you.
I promise you everyone thinks their insomnia is unique in some way and the truth is that it’s not. it’s all the same core fears and worry. everyone has hope.
Is hyper awareness sleep monitoring as well? I can't seem to let my mind wander, I keep catching my mind as soon as it starts to wander and then I find myself totally awake instead of drifting off. Do I just allow it to be hyper vigilant?
@@chuforeichi hi, yes often I think the hyper awareness comes from monitoring. Maybe it always is, I was about to write that it can be when we are just scared… but then are we ever scared without monitoring? I don’t think so. And yes, letting it be truly helps. You know, it is very possible to want something, and at the same time be willing to accept it if we don’t get it. It’s like Michael Jordan, he was super competitive… but didn’t criticize himself if he missed a shot.
A question Daniel if you have time. I've been doing way better still, have a speed bump every few weeks or so that knocks sleep confidence. Someone tried to recruit me earlier this week for a new job, and that Brough back a lot of stress of "what if I did that and I didn't sleep and things didn't go well etc". Made me feel a little stuck and sad. Writing this out I kind of know the answers already from your teachings but wondering if you have been asked about this before?
Hi again! Hey, glad things over I’ll have been easier and you know these are common questions. I would say that when we see that our brain likes to send us little warning messages and we don’t react much to them, then there’s no struggle
Ugh yes. It's just so tiring. I haven't slept in 5 days and i keep trying to force sleep but it wont work it's making it worse. I can't seem to stop though. So much stress in my belly too. I'll start with kindness. Nothing works & the anxiety makes it worse as im already exhausted... forcing sleep isn't working but surrendering is scary.
Monitoring it doesn't help. Trying to stay in bed for hours doesn't help. I'm just so so scared because I haven't been this exhausted in years. It always takes me down the rabbit hole of should i just off myself. And I grow regretful because I'm barely functional in these states.
Daniel, thanks so much for your videos! These are the some of the best resources I've come across in my 14 year struggle and I'm feeling very hopeful Question: how do you feel about mixing aspects of Natto with CBT-I? As in, picking and choosing what works--is this possible? I feel Natto and CBTI are directly opposed in thought.
Alexander, you’re so welcome 😊! Thanks for the kind words and you know, I think whenever the intent is not to control, or to try to have control, whatever we do is fine. For example, we teach on our timeless sleep window, which can look like CBTi but the intent is the opposite! So we can say that yes, if one approach is aimed as control, and the other is aimed at letting go, then those are opposed. But in reality, there’s much in CBTi like education that is fantastic so there’s much to combine 🙂
Hi i’m new to this channel i have been having trouble sleeping for a few months now i got from hearing stories about people who have insomnia and how it affected their life i got scared of that happening to me and not sleeping and i eventually couldn’t sleep and got into that rabit hole i hoping i get the learning i need to get over it The problem with me is that if i don’t feel sleepy i question why and that leads getting little sleep and threw your videos i learned that i’m in a defensive mode and i found that searching videos and reading about people’s experiences make me more scared and see it as a threat i also want to put a set plan to overcome this See the confusion if you have any advice please do and i want to know if someone with a similar case git over it thank you for your videos
Hi Miriam, Sorry, you’ve had trouble sleeping, but I’m glad you found our channel. You know it can be scary to start learning about our thoughts and our emotions and what happens inside us. But when we understand that being afraid, it’s just an uncomfortable emotion, that can really change things Miriam. I see an invitation here for this, we all have this invitation often.
This makes sense. I think one of the main reasons I check the time when I wake up at night and can’t sleep, is because it helps me to decide what to do in the night. If it’s an hour before I need to get up, I’ll just start getting ready earlier. If it’s a couple hours before, I’ll try and just rest, does that make sense?
@thesleepschoolcoach I am curious as to why good sleepers check the time throughout the night because they have a clock by the bed, like my dad, but don’t have issues?
Hi Lisa, I’d say it’s because he isn’t afraid of not sleeping, the same information when we are frazzled can bother us a lot but when we aren’t there’s no reaction
I’m a bit confused. Are you saying the monitoring is only a “problem” for falling asleep if we treat the monitoring as a problem? If we just let the monitoring occur it shouldn’t interfere with sleep? And eventually fades away? I’ve been finding great success watching your videos and this seems to be a final hurdle for me. Which, of course, creates uncertainty around what to do with the monitoring and then creates more hyper arousal.
Hi Nathan, really glad things have gotten easier and you know, as confusing as it is, you said it here. The monitoring can become quite intense if we treat it as a problem to be solved, because the struggle IS our problem solving. But when we acknowledge it may keep us from sleeping well at this point, but that it’s just what the brain does when it’s frazzled, then the problem solving fades and the monitoring too…
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you for replying! Ah yes... another great reminder of how the problem solving itself is the "problem" and what creates the cycle. It's so easy to get pulled back into trying to "solve" a "problem" that isn't actually a problem needing solving. Funny how hard it is to "get this" when we're in the confusion/anxiety state and yet how clear it can be when we are not! I think a big part of it is impatience and not lettings things unfold in their own time. I want it to fade/go away but I can't control that.
@nathant2601 anytime, so glad it made sense. And it’s so clear it do because you contextualized super nicely, and 100% agree, we all will want anything that troubles us to stop asap and wonder how long it will take. It’s so human, but yes, it’s letting time pass that ironically leads to what we want sooner than doing anything to speed it up. Seeing this helps much 🙂
I have insomnia from 10 months and had 3 months learning from you and going well and I have set back and gone every hope of me can I go for psychologist for my emotional support I know I am getting better how to not have control on it but that appearence insomnia and headache and eyes pain feeling 🙂but now I know to non resist it but sometimes their is resistance is i am progressing my pain fear is that how I look tired 🙂 but I already seen your videos on appearance insomnia but also its pressure their please give me any advise
Hang in there Alin, I’m so happy things got easier and you know, when you have experienced this, it helps because we truly see that letting go and education leads where we want to be. I would say check out our speed, bumps playlist, that can help a lot. And be in touch!
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 I am also so happy to find your channel and I has less interest now for seeing videos and knowing more because I think that it my brain knows their is nothing to do and also I have fear on wakening on night and this gives a wierd feeling that I am getting better or not but I know their is nothing to get better in this 😂 still I have anxiety on my looks can give any advise for this look based anxiety and I also have one doubt is my body get only less hours of sleep previously I sleep more just a doubt any way I believe my body and happy on their work 😌
I’d say more that monitoring is common for all the inner struggles, in OCD maybe we monitor our thoughts, with insomnia it’s sleep, with anxiety it’s anxiety etc
Hi Mark, If you head over to our website (link in the description) and scroll down to the lower part where it talks about becoming a sleep coach, follow the prompts there and it will take you to a few videos I made about becoming a coach. Thanks for the interest!
What if your brain dies this subconsciously? I understand this concept and know it consciously, but despite this, my subconscious mind still checks for sleep and therefore sleep jerks/hyperarousal happens even though I tell myself it’s “ok”.
I dot think this is definitely subconsciously, we don’t decide to wonder… and the same is true when we wonder less, it’s something that happens subconsciously thanks to our conscious education
@audrinaxoxo033 anytime Audrina, and I’m thankful on my end for you pointing out something that didn’t make sense. Hopefully I can learn and teach in a more helpful way. Rooting for you
I really like this channel and it has helped a lot when, as I am now, I get one of my infrequent bouts of insomnia. BUT an article on CNBC quotes Dr. Michael Breus saying that your methods are a disaster and give false hope to people. I desperately want to believe that it is possible to recover from insomnia but this has filled me with doubt. I know that you are a qualified sleep doctor with many years of experience but if mainstream sleep medicine is so critical of your work that worries me.
I’m so glad it’s been helpful, and you know I remember the article and what Dr. Breus said. Now, I think there may be more than one path to peaceful sleep. Some may find what he teaches more helpful, others may find our way a nice fit. And you know, I think we can feel what makes Most sense to us 🙂
This guy is brilliant!
This cured my insomnia thank you from the bottom of my heart, I can finally sleep 8+ hrs and stay asleep through the night.you are amazing!
So very glad to hear this 😊!! Thank YOU for the support and for letting us know 🙏 Be in touch!
This came at the perfect time. Occasionally, I will catch myself falling asleep only to have a hypnic jerk to wake me up. But knowing that my brain is on sentinel duty and trying to protect me from wakefulness has lead to many mornings of wondering if I fell asleep. I would just accept that if I did or didn't fall asleep that it didn't matter one way or the other. But learning that my brain can monitor its own monitoring gives me more clarity of these bumpy nights. Thanks for the video!
So glad it was timed well Desiree 😊 and such nice insight here, about sentinel duty, will add this wording to my coaching. Thanks for sharing snd for support!
I just discovered your channel this morning after my 2nd night in a row of sleeping only 2-3 hours (after the last month of less severe insomnia). When I first woke up this morning I was at the point of despair. For some I decided to do yet another internet search for insomnia helps. I ended up on Reddit and someone mentioned you. I’ve now watched a few videos and read the reviews for your app and I am hopeful that I can sleep again! I am going to watch more of your videos and consider downloading the app. Thank you for giving me hope❤
Catie, so so glad someone mentioned our channel and that you’re here. I think there’s so much here that can really help 😊 Thanks so much for sharing, commenting and for the support!
Thanks for the videos- I’ve watched them off and on as my insomnia is also off and on. Sometimes I’ll go weeks sleeping great then it creeps back with a vengeance or comes on more slowly. Last night was one of the first where I thought I’d never fall asleep and had a panic attack. I’ve had to rely on hydroxyzine to get through it but I know this is a sleep effort. I’m hoping just continuing education and prayer will help. So odd how mine is off and on unlike most people
Hi Hannah, anytime. And you know, if you listen to the stories, many say it was just like yours, waves of insomnia with “off” periods in between. Hang in there and be in touch
I have had this for weeks now. I have always struggled with my sleep due to being autistic but the last 3/4 weeks have been hell. I take forever to fall asleep and when i finally calm down and start to feel like i am falling asleep my brains tells me you are falling asleep and all of a sudden im wide awake again. I sometimes fall asleep for a while in the early hours of the morning but my dreams are so vivid i get scared and wake up. I think all day long about sleep and keep telling myself i must have a condition such as fatal insomnia. Im driving my whole family crazy they have to keep ressuring me all day. My wife tells me she sees me falling asleep sometimes but im not sure if i have or not. Im scared when it gets to bedtime every night i think im scared not to sleep and also to sleep at the same time. Im not really sure what to do anymore.
This is really something to understand. It's what has been happening to me, very disheartening. Will listen again and ponder. Thank you Daniel
Nice to know there is a term for sleeping monitoring
Hi! Thanks for this video- it was very helpful. Sleep monitoring is by far the biggest hurdle for me when it comes to sleep issues. How can I stop sleep monitoring? Or will the monitoring naturally go away as my anxiety about sleep lessens over time?
Hi there! Any time :-) so glad you found it. And I definitely see it like you said, in the end, the monitoring naturally fades away, when we are no longer anxious about sleep. If we try to stop sleep monitoring, then we create this problem that our brain wants to monitor even more!
This is the main thing that keeps my insomnia going. It made me fear the actual act of falling asleep. I know it’s the anxiety that keeps trying to catch the moment I fall asleep and overthinks it. I feel like it’s the main hurdle that I need to figure out how to overcome. I don’t know how though 😢
Coming back after getting weeks of perfect sleep just within the first day of listening and reading ur techniques I’ve been sleeping a solid 9 hours everyday
Incredible Miguel, so so glad to read these lines. Thanks for letting me know 😊🙏
Do you like our way of teaching? Would you like to unpause your life, sleep well and feel like yourself again?
We can help!
For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you.
We look forward to seeing you on the inside!
Hey Daniel, I have a questions. I started watching your Videos around 6-7 Months ago, additionally I read your, and two other books about sleep and CBTi/ACT. It all makes sense for me and I understand sleep so much better know. You also always say that education is key but I have the feeling that your channel become kind of a safe zone for me. I think it would be time to take a sleep detox for some weeks to do the final step in recovery.
So my question is, how do I know if watching videos about sleep is education or more reassurance seeking cause sometimes I think I am watching your videos to avoid my anxiety?
Hi Thomas,
I’m so glad you have all this education and, your question is really really nice. A very insightful question. I will review this on Friday in an episode on the channel. Hopefully many will learn from this great question!
Daniel, this is v much appropriate for the brain sleep-jerk thing!! And you know when I was a child I had this crazy-kid idea to see if I could stay awake going into my dreams & look around. Of course you can't do both and this is where my jerks started. It was fine at first till I felt slightly stressed I was getting tired at school. I left the whole thing alone (which was easier to do as a child!) & got on with life then it all returned at 24 when I was in a stressful new situation that brought up a lot of insecurities. I've struggled ever since & am in really bad patch now. It really is a monitoring of the monitoring plus v bad feelings of shame about the whole thing which doesn't help. I got pretty obsessed about exacting the approach over last few years, despite some full months of good sleep. This way of putting it softens my urges to have the exact right mindset which then somehow now fades from my grasp. I am hoping to go knowingly & gently with this latest honing of the info 🙏🏻
Lucy! So glad it made sense, and yes, very similar to what you shared here 🙂
Hi Daniel,
I only started having trouble sleeping 4 weeks ago. I felt as if my life was in a downward spiral, I was experiencing anxiety like I've never felt. Although I *only* had a couple of "zero" sleep nights, not even back to back, one of the mornings after that I found your video with Ari, and it was the first thing that calmed me down. I watched it twice. After that, I desperately continued with sleep efforts until I remembered your channel again about 2 weeks later. Since then, everyday has gotten a little better. But, I felt like I hadn't had it hard enough, everyone elses story was worse than mine, I kept thinking isn't mine going to get worse? Everyone says I have to go through the struggle for a long time before I will learn enough for it to get better. I was expecting the speedbump, anticipating it, while also thinking, "I havent been struggling that long, so maybe my fear will just go away quicker" I was scared to put too much effort into learning more about it because mine wasn't as bad as others. Alas, lastnight my anxiety was pretty high again. I thought I wouldn't get any sleep again, but after a few hours my hyper arousal actually dwindled and I fell asleep. I woke up realizing, my brain really can't predict the future. Im going to have a good day today, even though I doubted myself so much lastnight. It strangely opened me up to accepting learning more, and have finally started watching your Natto videos. Just wanted to share in case anyone else here has a similar experience 😊
Hi Christina,
Thanks so much for sharing and you know, it can take some courage to do this, to look inside, learn about ourselves… I’m glad you found this. And you know, nobody knows the timeline, but when it becomes about learning in a way that can help with life in general, then it no longer feels like a race, and then there’s no struggle, then it’s easier and easier. Let us know how things go 😊
Great video as usual Daniel. This happens to me as well. Have been curious, what was the worst case of insomnia that you have seen and been able to help the person to recover? I would like to start training but I worry that It's possible I cannot be helped. I truly hope I am wrong.
Thanks so much Drew. And you know, most of our students thought they were that one hopeless case that wouldn’t find a way. And of course hope can be scary, because if we hope we can be disappointed. So you know, I can’t tell who struggled the most out of all our graduates, but I know they all felt similarly to you.
I promise you everyone thinks their insomnia is unique in some way and the truth is that it’s not. it’s all the same core fears and worry. everyone has hope.
@dodgdurango6128 this is so true… and it can really help to see this
@dodgdurango6128 this is so true… and it can really help to see this
It almost seems like my brain is afraid to allow me to sleep or afraid of sleep. Can you explain this?
Hi, we call this somniphobia, it’s pretty common and you can learn by watching the Talking insomnia episodes with Marina and Kreuza
Is hyper awareness sleep monitoring as well? I can't seem to let my mind wander, I keep catching my mind as soon as it starts to wander and then I find myself totally awake instead of drifting off. Do I just allow it to be hyper vigilant?
How can I crave sleep and be okay with wakefulness at the same time?
@@chuforeichi hi, yes often I think the hyper awareness comes from monitoring. Maybe it always is, I was about to write that it can be when we are just scared… but then are we ever scared without monitoring? I don’t think so. And yes, letting it be truly helps.
You know, it is very possible to want something, and at the same time be willing to accept it if we don’t get it. It’s like Michael Jordan, he was super competitive… but didn’t criticize himself if he missed a shot.
A question Daniel if you have time. I've been doing way better still, have a speed bump every few weeks or so that knocks sleep confidence. Someone tried to recruit me earlier this week for a new job, and that Brough back a lot of stress of "what if I did that and I didn't sleep and things didn't go well etc". Made me feel a little stuck and sad. Writing this out I kind of know the answers already from your teachings but wondering if you have been asked about this before?
Hi again!
Hey, glad things over I’ll have been easier and you know these are common questions. I would say that when we see that our brain likes to send us little warning messages and we don’t react much to them, then there’s no struggle
Ugh yes. It's just so tiring. I haven't slept in 5 days and i keep trying to force sleep but it wont work it's making it worse. I can't seem to stop though. So much stress in my belly too. I'll start with kindness. Nothing works & the anxiety makes it worse as im already exhausted... forcing sleep isn't working but surrendering is scary.
Monitoring it doesn't help. Trying to stay in bed for hours doesn't help. I'm just so so scared because I haven't been this exhausted in years. It always takes me down the rabbit hole of should i just off myself. And I grow regretful because I'm barely functional in these states.
Hang in there Aya, you’re learning and this helps so much
Daniel, thanks so much for your videos! These are the some of the best resources I've come across in my 14 year struggle and I'm feeling very hopeful
Question: how do you feel about mixing aspects of Natto with CBT-I? As in, picking and choosing what works--is this possible? I feel Natto and CBTI are directly opposed in thought.
Alexander, you’re so welcome 😊! Thanks for the kind words and you know, I think whenever the intent is not to control, or to try to have control, whatever we do is fine.
For example, we teach on our timeless sleep window, which can look like CBTi but the intent is the opposite! So we can say that yes, if one approach is aimed as control, and the other is aimed at letting go, then those are opposed.
But in reality, there’s much in CBTi like education that is fantastic so there’s much to combine 🙂
Hi i’m new to this channel i have been having trouble sleeping for a few months now i got from hearing stories about people who have insomnia and how it affected their life i got scared of that happening to me and not sleeping and i eventually couldn’t sleep and got into that rabit hole i hoping i get the learning i need to get over it
The problem with me is that if i don’t feel sleepy i question why and that leads getting little sleep and threw your videos i learned that i’m in a defensive mode and i found that searching videos and reading about people’s experiences make me more scared and see it as a threat i also want to put a set plan to overcome this
See the confusion if you have any advice please do and i want to know if someone with a similar case git over it thank you for your videos
Hi Miriam,
Sorry, you’ve had trouble sleeping, but I’m glad you found our channel. You know it can be scary to start learning about our thoughts and our emotions and what happens inside us. But when we understand that being afraid, it’s just an uncomfortable emotion, that can really change things Miriam. I see an invitation here for this, we all have this invitation often.
Would this relate to checking the time at night and calculating how many hours I’m sleeping?
Yes, this Id say is part of the monitoring indeed
This makes sense. I think one of the main reasons I check the time when I wake up at night and can’t sleep, is because it helps me to decide what to do in the night. If it’s an hour before I need to get up, I’ll just start getting ready earlier. If it’s a couple hours before, I’ll try and just rest, does that make sense?
It makes sense Lisa, and I think anything that feels nice is a nice way 🙂
@thesleepschoolcoach I am curious as to why good sleepers check the time throughout the night because they have a clock by the bed, like my dad, but don’t have issues?
Hi Lisa,
I’d say it’s because he isn’t afraid of not sleeping, the same information when we are frazzled can bother us a lot but when we aren’t there’s no reaction
Wow thank you so much for this!
Anytime, so glad it made sense 😊
I’m a bit confused. Are you saying the monitoring is only a “problem” for falling asleep if we treat the monitoring as a problem? If we just let the monitoring occur it shouldn’t interfere with sleep? And eventually fades away? I’ve been finding great success watching your videos and this seems to be a final hurdle for me. Which, of course, creates uncertainty around what to do with the monitoring and then creates more hyper arousal.
Hi Nathan, really glad things have gotten easier and you know, as confusing as it is, you said it here. The monitoring can become quite intense if we treat it as a problem to be solved, because the struggle IS our problem solving. But when we acknowledge it may keep us from sleeping well at this point, but that it’s just what the brain does when it’s frazzled, then the problem solving fades and the monitoring too…
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you for replying! Ah yes... another great reminder of how the problem solving itself is the "problem" and what creates the cycle. It's so easy to get pulled back into trying to "solve" a "problem" that isn't actually a problem needing solving. Funny how hard it is to "get this" when we're in the confusion/anxiety state and yet how clear it can be when we are not! I think a big part of it is impatience and not lettings things unfold in their own time. I want it to fade/go away but I can't control that.
@nathant2601 anytime, so glad it made sense. And it’s so clear it do because you contextualized super nicely, and 100% agree, we all will want anything that troubles us to stop asap and wonder how long it will take. It’s so human, but yes, it’s letting time pass that ironically leads to what we want sooner than doing anything to speed it up. Seeing this helps much 🙂
I have insomnia from 10 months and had 3 months learning from you and going well and I have set back and gone every hope of me can I go for psychologist for my emotional support I know I am getting better how to not have control on it but that appearence insomnia and headache and eyes pain feeling 🙂but now I know to non resist it but sometimes their is resistance is i am progressing my pain fear is that how I look tired 🙂 but I already seen your videos on appearance insomnia but also its pressure their please give me any advise
Hang in there Alin,
I’m so happy things got easier and you know, when you have experienced this, it helps because we truly see that letting go and education leads where we want to be. I would say check out our speed, bumps playlist, that can help a lot. And be in touch!
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 I am also so happy to find your channel and I has less interest now for seeing videos and knowing more because I think that it my brain knows their is nothing to do and also I have fear on wakening on night and this gives a wierd feeling that I am getting better or not but I know their is nothing to get better in this 😂 still I have anxiety on my looks can give any advise for this look based anxiety and I also have one doubt is my body get only less hours of sleep previously I sleep more just a doubt any way I believe my body and happy on their work 😌
So glad you did! And someone said “doubt your doubts!” 🙂
So sleep monitoring is different from insomnia? aka it’s more like ocd?
I’d say more that monitoring is common for all the inner struggles, in OCD maybe we monitor our thoughts, with insomnia it’s sleep, with anxiety it’s anxiety etc
Basically just letting it be? Coz forcing kindness may also become effort i guess or what is the best way to approach this?
Yes, I think this is the way. Because exactly what you say is so true, anything we try to force becomes a struggle.
Daniel, where is the link to learn about becoming a coach?
Hi Mark,
If you head over to our website (link in the description) and scroll down to the lower part where it talks about becoming a sleep coach, follow the prompts there and it will take you to a few videos I made about becoming a coach. Thanks for the interest!
What if your brain dies this subconsciously? I understand this concept and know it consciously, but despite this, my subconscious mind still checks for sleep and therefore sleep jerks/hyperarousal happens even though I tell myself it’s “ok”.
I dot think this is definitely subconsciously, we don’t decide to wonder… and the same is true when we wonder less, it’s something that happens subconsciously thanks to our conscious education
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 yeah I completely disagree but thanks...
@audrinaxoxo033 anytime Audrina, and I’m thankful on my end for you pointing out something that didn’t make sense. Hopefully I can learn and teach in a more helpful way. Rooting for you
I really like this channel and it has helped a lot when, as I am now, I get one of my infrequent bouts of insomnia. BUT an article on CNBC quotes Dr. Michael Breus saying that your methods are a disaster and give false hope to people. I desperately want to believe that it is possible to recover from insomnia but this has filled me with doubt. I know that you are a qualified sleep doctor with many years of experience but if mainstream sleep medicine is so critical of your work that worries me.
I’m so glad it’s been helpful, and you know I remember the article and what Dr. Breus said. Now, I think there may be more than one path to peaceful sleep. Some may find what he teaches more helpful, others may find our way a nice fit. And you know, I think we can feel what makes Most sense to us 🙂