A dialogue to kill the fear of public speaking | Animesh Gupta | TEDxNITCalicut
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- Опубликовано: 9 май 2024
- Here's a talk to bid adieu to the fear of not just public speaking, but of any cause of fear and anxiety in life.
Animesh Gupta is an International Corporate Trainer and Personality Coach with a special expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a trainer, Animesh has been recognized for creating and modifying the belief systems to stimulate the trainees’ long-term efficiency and motivation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Anyone else having a presentation tomorrow?
please like. it makes me feel good about myself
Eichel Käse we've all got a presentation everyday in some ways...
More like an hour and some minutes lol
Yup, and English presentation in front of a class that don’t like me :(
Yes i cant go to sleep
I have a presentation tomorrow. That's why I'm watching this. :)
This speech made me a bit emotional. I really related to it. I've struggled with extreme shyness my whole life. Any social situation makes me want to hide or cry. Talking to anyone including my own family members can make me so nervous that my voice shakes and all the thoughts fall out of my head. Public speaking is almost impossible for me. I've had to give 5-10 minute speeches in college and I start shaking so much it's hard for others to understand what I'm saying. I feel like I'm the version of this man who is scared and wanted to stay at his covert zone but my comfort zone means not leaving the house. I'm not okay with that. I don't want that to be my future. I have to change because my life depends on it. I'm going to rewatch this speech as many times as I need to until I can gain some confidence. This man really does put things into perspective. I'm still nervous and my heart is pounding about all the speaking that I'll be doing tonight but after listening to this I can say that I'm embracing the challenge! I'm scared but I'm not giving up.
Glad you could relate to this! I would recommend taking small steps, before a full public speech.
Sometimes the physiological reactions are too strong; I would suggest trying medication along with self-motivation - as a last resort.
LIMITLESS - Confidence, Soft-skills, Personality, and EI thank you 🙏 I want to go to therapy about my social anxiety eventually.
Me too in same kind of situation till my childhood. Escaping and crying all the time. Waisted half of my life. This video gave a kind of motivation nd technique to manage.
Thanks Man.
Right there along with you. You're not alone! Praying for you (:
All the best . try to attend Toastmaster meetings 🙂
“What are you afraid of?” Passing out cold on stage, voice shaking, trembling like a drug addict, forgetting everything I had to say, dying of total humiliation... yeah, that sums up the small problems.
I feel exactly the same!! My fear is all of that plus saying half way “I’m sorry, I can’t do this and just walking out”
uh hey how is it going now?
Last week all of a sudden I had to present on stage a poem that I wrote on my own . I literally shivered on stage. The judges asked me why am I so tensed.. the whole crowd laughed including the camera man...I couldn't sleep the whole night...I really want to improve myself and give a better performance next time. This video is really inspiring.
@@divya5967 I know the feel
Well said, I have experienced each of them.
The thing is, I KNOW there is no rational reason to be frightened and yet Im still very nervous
You'll just have to put yourself in the situation repeatedly, until your nervousness adapts and changes the habit!
Ik it's like you're brain knows there's nothing to be afraid of but you're body just goes into panic mode
Me too
Limitless EQ I’ve been doing that for like over 10 years, but I’m still panicking a lot...hopeless
Exactly,no. That's the point.
All students Who have stage fear should watch this .. best speech 😃😃
Ruksar Sofi True this changed me
I will have an oral presentation tomorrow, I’m watching a bunch of this videos
I do. Evrytime my hand sweat and filling blur
as a stutterer, i had to force myself into a public speaking course. my goal was not to speak fluently but to stand in front of the audience and simply let all the fear, shame, embarrassment and vulnerability drain out. and i succeeded in that
congrats, but irrelevant unfortunately
+beja hadid +MrTherber2 is wrong, fear of public speaking is difficult for many but having an extra challenge, like stuttering just pushes the fear to a different level. you did it and you should be proud and it is relevant.
MrTherber2 y3
i can relate, will be forcing myself to public speaking course soon
beja hadid I can relate. I can't hide forever
The key for this fear is practice, when you do this pretty often you are not shy anymore
Not for many people. I could learn something super fluently but still forget when I go up in front of the crowd.
Rizvi Am He means to practice public speaking
Exactly! Practice, practice, practice.
absolutely right, it's small but when you start practice it's really work amazingly
When I am speaking in front of public I scared and I don't speak well but one day I will speak confidently in front of public
Advance congratulations
quick tip if you are reading this and have a presentation soon.
do you remember the first presentation you did years ago?
no. and probably no one does either.
so everything we do will be fortgoten so dont worry about it!!!
And also nice speech sir that was really nice :)
Dude this is so true
Thank you so much animesh..really made me encouraged
Carlos Ed I remember. It was 7th grade & it was about a community. I spoke gibberish and it was horrible.
It’s not that easy.
It’s really frustrating when you’re going through it
What if you want your speech to be remembered?
The speech was great - but the crowd was so dead ... mehhh ~ They are not at a funeral, I believe.
Thank you!
MrLusec exactly ,he demonstrated so well and the audience were in dilemma whether even to clap or not .well said
+Abhishek Chintu ,Congo bro
MrLusec exactly
you are misunderstood, actually they are just hypnotized, spellbound. they are focusing way too much.
My comment section gave me hope. So I’m not the only one who is having social anxiety
same here
Me too
Same here
I have a presentation tomorrow. More like a group discussion. But every time I present, my voice shakes, my heart pounds so hard, I forget how to breathe, and I I start to sweat, etc. But I'm going to try and do it not for my mark but for myself. Thanks
Ken H how did it go? I just did a presentation and I had the same experience as you :/
Hope you applied some of it!! You're welcome!
Ken H me too
Same thing happens to me
Happens to me as well
I'm just speechless. A big thank you, sir.
Brijesh Kumar do you have a fear of being speechless :D?
You're welcome, Brijesh!
Hubert cumberdale lolz
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thank you for this talk... i am 58..still have dreams.....thank's
You're welcome, Michel. Age shouldn't come in your way, if you want to go after your dreams.
It’s never too late 😊😊
I just can't believe how a man can bring this emotions out of himself and narrate it this way... Respect Sir!
Thank you so much!
Really your speech is awesome Sir🔥🔥🔥👌👌👌
Kill that short term anxiety and let out yourself from a long term fear. Golden words sir.
I have social anxiety and I feel so much better after watching this ! So inspiring ! Thank you Mr. Animesh Gupta !
Wow, great to hear! You're welcome, Laure!
Laure, do you feel good enough to actually do what you used to fear?
Laure Ran really?
how?
I also have social anxiety and I have to make presentation soon. I hope that it will be fine.
Imagine: How would you feel at end of the presentation, appluads for you and everyone cheering!!
Remember the feeling and now start the presentation !!! Easy ;)
thanks! i'll take a shot!
I watched this video two years ago before an internship presentation and it seriously gave me so much confidence! Now I can’t sleep because I have a big presentation tomorrow and my first thought was to come back to this video. Glad I did!
Wow, so good to hear, Emily! Thank you
How did the presentation go?
I watched this before I had to go speak in front of my church, so about 100 people. as I walked up, I felt relaxed and my voice was a little shaky but I did it and I know I could’ve done better. the thing is though, people aren’t judging you on the small things. even though my voice shaked, a dozen people told me I sis so well and I have such confidence and poise. what we sound like in our heads is not always what other people are hearing and noticing . if you have a speech coming up or presentation , respond to this comment and i’ll try to give you advice relating to your situation! remember to believe in yourself and focus on success, not failure.
Need advice
Well, I have a public speaking session tomorrow. Your talk has inspired me to go and speak at the event, instead of faking an illness that I was planning to before watching this talk. Thanks, Animesh. Keep up the good work.
+shruti singh Excellent! You're welcome, Shruti!
shruti singh may be i am a bit late but how did it go ?
i'm not confident in public speaking.. but i'll push myself from now onward
thanks for the great motivational speech :)
Hi
Thank u Animesh u r truly an Inspiration really motivate me....
Thank you so much sir, today i gave presentation in front 140 people. Ur video insired me to do that ...
Wow that's amazing to hear, Kalyan!! You're welcome!
he covered all the thoughts which come into my mind, whenever i have to speak in front of many people.. its great.
Thank you!
Best Ted talk.. thank you so much.. you are an amazing guy..
Thank you so much; hope it helped!! :)
Isha Gujral
suriya balamurugan kgjk
I laughed so much during this speech and mainly because I can relate to what he's saying. The crowd was just dead... What a guy he is I really want ti meet him in real life and have a converstion with him! Awesome JOB!
they probably did react but hes wearing a mic, you won’t hear them
Thanks, Animesh! Great presentation and message.
You're welcome! Glad you found this useful.
❤️❤️ both
@@AnimeshGupta01 it is really really helpful
@@AnimeshGupta01just because you made this video, I'm going to never speak in public. Not only this, but I'll also try to convince others never to speak in public. Thanks 💩
When you type "public speaking anxiety" you get a lot of this "motivational" discourses where people of all types are giving pieces of advices on how to overcome this anxiety, how to fight it and be successful.I think that what everyone forgets is that for most of those people dealing with this the problem is deeply rooted and it's not something that you can overcome by seeing this speeches or by practicing.I have been trying in the last 10 years to overcome the anxiety with no success, I've been doing cognitive therapy, I attended public speaking trainings, I gave 5-10 presentations and every single time I had huge anxiety and a big depression afterwards.Even today I have big problems when it comes to delivering a presentation and i have to consume large quantities of energy just for another failure and depression.The problem is not with the anxiety, some people are born this way or they "get ill" during their first years of life, thus the problem will never be solved. The only solution is to change the environment with a new one that is not worsening your anxiety...
Wow..really..hang in there..but yes it's so hard..
Have you tried joining Toastmasters (they even have online clubs)? Or perhaps some VR speaking simulators that you can practice in the comfort of your own home?
Relatable these videos doesn't help me.
I know its too late to ask, but are you alright bro?
Be brave and keep trying👍
@@kalak9034 Hey! thanks for asking! I'm alright, I changed the "environment" and now I'm not being confronted with presentations of any type. They secret is not to try to adapt to something you don't fit, the secret is to choose in life what suits you best.
dudeee I have a presentation tomorrow for finals and this makes me feel so confident
Wow I honestly needed this Video, I've been running for years away from public speaking bc of my anxiety. It's not easy I go through this everyday in my head, thinking that life would be amazing once I get rid of my anxiety & this video has opened my mind to a new leval of confidence & hope & now there's no going back.
Glad you found it useful! Good luck!!
senor Raul me too
I have to give a speech in my public speaking class (forced to take it) in a couple weeks and i'm so scared. I know i'm gonna screw up because i had to give a presentation in my English class earlier in the year and it was terrible. What gets me is when everybody in the class starts looking at me and its all quiet, and I don't why but I my heart just started pumping insanely fast and hard (never felt something like that up until that point, it freaked me out), I began to sweat all over and get hot, and I almost began crying in front of everyone. Luckily I was able to get through because I had a paper to look to and read during the presentation. But now what makes this next speech worse is that I have to memorize it, and I'm getting graded for HOW I give the speech, its a public speaking class after all. I honestly think I may pass out during the speech in front of the whole class, no joke..... just thinking about it makes my stomach hurt :(
How did it go? x
How was it?
I think he passed away..
RIP for those who are reading this and dont want to pass out , open your mouth
How was it?
@@Turplemaple6318 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂This killed me
I can completely relate to this situation
Last month I had a presentation in my college and I couldn't speak because of the nervousness but I need to change ,change for my future for my career because without this I won't be able to do anything
Thank you for this video!!
You're welcome! Glad you found it useful.
Wow, he was completely spot on. My struggle mimics this exactly, and not just with speaking in front of groups but with a lot of things in life.
Thanks! Hope you're making progress every day!
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my listening improve a lot, i can listen to his speech 100% without missing out a word :)))
I have anxiety but I push myself everyday to confront my fears. You have to realize that it's your journey not others. I am realizing that the only one way to overcome any kind of fears is by confronting it. If you try to run from fear, it will get more worst.
This actually gave me goosebumps, i felt like i am the inconfident guy scared of public speaking, even my hands are shaking while writing this. All i can say is, trust me guys, it gets easier by the time and in case it doesnt your personality becomes tougher. So, choose to act strong and overcome what you have been afraid of and you will set an example not for others but atleast yourself. Cuz, you are great and you want to end up great.
Salute to you sir!It is one of the most needed thing for us!
Nailed it man!
I have a stage performance to do,shortly. And after this refreshing and motivating speech of yours I ended up saying "I Want this".
Thank you! : )
This almost brought tears to my eyes... thank you so much!
This is a really excellent speech. He had pointed out all possible fear coming ways. Also, he gave an escape plan from all scares.
Loved this video, I was in a play today and was able to perform much better!
Glad you found it useful!!
Came across this amazing TED Talk today, and I must say, it couldn't get more tremendous. Kudos Animesh and thank you so much. I am a hardcore Introvert and face this issue of public speaking almost all the time. And hell, the only thought which surrounds my head is "oh god, what exactly will people think of me?".
Nonetheless, all thanks to you, I think I have finally able to overcome this fear and will do much better from now onward.
Thank you Sir. It was such a great pleasure and a wonderful experience seeing you speaking about exactly the same problems which is there in my head all the time.
-An Introvert, soon going to be a conqueror, Shiva
Shiva Sharma I can totally relate to 'what will people think of me?'!! Hopefully, it ll get better.
You're welcome, Shiva! And you're enthusiasm is great!
So how it's going now???
In ancient Greece Demosthenes would go to the ocean and attempt to recite orations louder than the waves. Still would be good way for practicing public speaking
With a pebble in his mouth
My self talk... For last 40 year's This guy presented in finest way.. Thanks for helping me to understand issue.
Great presentation. I went through the process in my mind, and I was shivering just thinking about it. I left my last school year, the year i have to pass to go to university. I had a weak time because of some stuff, but the thing that made me left was because of a few presentations in front of my class, but mainly because of the end-year exam presentation. Allthough i still think that it is an ugly thing to put a student through this in the most important year, where you have so much to do, so many lifechanging things, it is so important to not hide, not give up, because of a fear of public speaking. I had moments when i could barely talk, my heart pumping so much that i felt a ridiculous pressure in my neck and my head, i heard my heart. Uncontrollable shaking and stutering, disgusting. But as he says, you should NOT run away from this, for me, it almost cost me my life, socially, my partner and many other things. This year i get my second chance at the age of 26, do my last year and finally go study. I realize how big of a chance i've got here instead of beeing miserable. I train myself to look at problems as opportunities to grow, oppuortunities to grow. Don't hide, don't waste your life! I hope somebody feels a motivated. I'm sure i'm not the only one in this situation. Don't throw you life away, it is worth fighting for. I wish you guys reading this and watching these kinds of videos all the best! You'll do it!
wow that's amazing! I have a speech to do tomorrow. I'm kinda nervous but I know it'll be okay. I'm so glad you got through your problems. even though I don't know you, I feel proud of you!!
today I have my interview and this video entirely changed my perspective ,let's see what's going to happen
Abhishek Chintu what happened bro?
when people say ,this video will change your life i was like..lol ! but what can i say is today this video made my day and i was selected for my job interview
Wow, this message made me happy. You're welcome! (Y)
Abhishek Chintu I am more inspired by you then the video
thank you , keep going buddy!
This is so relatable, even i was unable to speak in presentations in my class, but now i am so confidence, because i started believeing in myself.
Seriously one of the best videos on public speaking I have watched so far and have saved it so that I can watch it before presentations and interviews! Thank you so much, it is life or death!
Got the best video on how to tackle nervousness during speech after watching hundreds of videos
I could feel the confidence building up while watching this video! Thank you so much!
So glad to hear, Shruti! Thanks!
I've never spoke in front of a crowd but if I did I would start crying, messing up easy words, and shaking. Same with reading out loud but my voice starts getting shaky and I start getting quieter. This speech made me so emotional.
One of the all time best Ted talks. I just love this guy.
I am suffered this stage phobia from childhood and today i am preparing for my tomorrow presentation and prepared myself for being overcome this phobia .... It's not about presentation it's all about this fear of stage and now I am fighting with myself to overcome this ....guys plz wish me all the best ❤️ if i could not do my presentation tomorrow then i can't win from this fear 😨
Don't worry 😄...u will do well in u r presentation 😊❣️
How did it go Sakshi?
Animesh, I don't know if you'd go through my comment however I wish to mention that this is one of the best videos on Public speaking I've ever seen. I can't tell you how many people don't dare telling the great the stories because they lack in this skill. This video is a great help for the people who are scared of public speaking. Congrats! Keep going!
Thank you so much, Mamta!!
You know it’s a good speech when the crowd is 100% engaged and silent. Great Job! I’ve had social anxiety for many years but the last few years it has had crippling effects. This was wonderful! Thanks for sharing
The method he used to explain his talk made the whole situation easily understanble, very unique way of delivering in a Ted talk, a must watch video
Mr. Gupta you nailed it....... it's really help us.......
I get chills every time I’m watching this because I had a very similar story . Thank you. Your challenge impacted millions of people trough out the world!
Thank you!! Glad you found it useful.
It takes guts. Yes, we keep facing our fears and keep going. Applaud you friend.
I really could relate with the dialogue.
What a great orator this man is.
Brilliant video
Excellent one ...reminds me of my struggle and one day taking a decision whatever it takes i will come out of it ... ofcourse i had much bigger problem than in the mind .. but as he said anything is better than hiding and escaping ...
That was a great way of opening a speech. Really caught my attention.
Glad to hear that!!
@@AnimeshGupta01 Awesome work ..
"anything but that" is the part that got me. Bring it on.
the way he presented a double personality in us, that is commendable! hopefully it will be helpfull for those who really feel scared when they have to just meet their eyes with audience on stage. I would say speech was motivational and full of energy
Excellent. I can relate myself to the man who never wants to speak up publically, though there are always lots of ideas in my mind, they die there itself. I am trying to overcome the fear of public speaking and I am sure one year down the line I'll be a better speaker , a better person than I am today. I don't regret living a life of mediocrity so far , but I'll try to change it. Thank you sharing the video.
today i just lost my interview because of my fear like what if i do mistake finally it took me that way.but from now i don't give up anymore and im not ready to loose one more.thanq you sir such a nice reality u gave to all. from the core of my heart.
So glad to hear that! Good luck!!
This is the best Ted talk. So inspirational. Thank you so much Sir!
I get goosebumps when I watch this one, inspired speech thank you.
my trick: smile. have fun. and I say to myself: "knock it out of the park!" (baseball analogy)
hahaha
Btw, thanks for watching the video!
This is the most Passionate speech I’ve ever heard !!! WOW DUDE that’s just beautiful man !! I’ll never forget what you said thankyou !!
Yeah the crowd was pretty lifeless but he was amazing !!
I got so teary eyed listening to this ..!!! Great Work !!!
thank you soo much.i had problem with public speaking coz of social anxiety.coudnt do PPTs in my classroom but one day i was asked to do MC for a national conference in my college.i was beyond scared but wanted to not back out.i listened to this ,prepped myself and i did well. i did not shiver too! thank you!! just believe you can,and you will.
I'M late... but At least now I've learnt lot.. it's emotional, motivational n amazing...
thank you very much.. sir
Thank you for this , this touched my heart ❣
Thank u so much for this! I'm aspiring to be a teacher but my fear of public speaking has been making me doubt everything. I feel like now I face it full force!!
u just played my role.....i was struggling since ages to become a public speaker....but i was nervous all the time...but still i try addressing a small crowd... and atleast a team....u r amazing ..... i will implement ......all ur tips ....
thank you.. now I am eagerly waiting for my next presentation.
victorJ2050
You're welcome!
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I wish I could say the same for myself
Ok
I had run away so many times from my college and still I am struggling but have figured it out a lot.When I was 10 years old I was given the opportunity to present a poem in large audience. I got nervous, shaky and couldn’t finish that off. From that moment of life to 2017 April, I always escaped the presentations or speeches. I met Sadhguru on 2017 April at Excel London and learned Shambhavi from him and doing it regularly. Now I feel much better and much confidence. I have spoken few times in group meeting and I have no fear or less fear of anything including death. 🙏🙏🙏😍 My life is owe to Sadhguru.
I am training for public speaking and i keep listening to this Talk. It can be done with practice slowly one gets confidence through repetition
I felt like a spark within myself after watching this...Great job
This guy is changing my life. I watch this video every time before I speak on the stage... I had my first public speaking experience a few days after I watched this video. I aspire to speak as confidently as he does.
Wow! That's so good to hear! :)
@@AnimeshGupta01 hi sir, how are you?? 🙂you're supercalifragilisticexpialidocious.
OMG ! This video was just too amazing
I can soo relate to it
Thank you Animesh for speaking and giving me the courage to speak up !
Salute to you !!
Feels like my fear is talking to me personally the way you are doing it, thank you I needed to hear it, been struggling with this fear for a while 🙏
I can't believe on it this person who were actually what he show himself at the beginning whatever presents reason of fear, anxiety, butterflies in stomach etc are such things which I also facing off but I'm really gonna try this for me ..thank you so much
wow I wanna meet this guy! so amazing
thank you for this wonderful video. It really helps and i love the last part of the story especially "you have always been a fighter, why are you giving this up now?" Thank you!
I've to say, you are just brilliant. Really loved the way you demonstrate.
Thank you!!!! I love this. Life is nothing without fear motivating us to move.
I'M late... At least now I've learnt lot.. it's emotional, motivational n amazing...
thank you very much sir. speechless.. really.
I've never seen this kind of video for overcoming stage fear. You nailed it man🔥
Thank you! Glad you found it useful!
This is the best speech I have ever seen!!!
Very powerful!!Thank you Sir
seriously you motivate in a excellent manner.i don't have words to appreciate your confidence.
very inspirational, I hope going forward it will help me a lot to git rid of shyness nd fear of public speaking.
Thank you! Great to hear!
Omg I have to present tomorrow and just the thought makes it hard for me to breath(choking feeling)! Helps...
it really touched the core of my heart, the point that you mentioned, gunpoint at your head...now this thought will always give me strength to face up the crowd and speak irrespective of ending up making mistakes, fumbling sentences and trembling hands, inspite of all these i was able to save my parents life from that gunshot...because i spoke😊 Thankyou
This eight year old video is the best fear of public speaking presentation I've ever seen. They should show this to every level of student, elementary age to college students.
I I am always faces such type of anixety When I face audience .I think your video help me to give up my fear of public speaking
This is beyond amazing. Amazing and creative presentation. He covered each and every aspect of the fears that we face while speaking. I just don't have enough words to describe this presentation.
Thank you so much, Hameed!
Who is this man he just taught me what I gone a do in my life I will love to appreciate his method and will always admire his effort
He spoke so well.. Amazing!