Thank You for sharing! This weekend , 1 year narc free for me! Walked away, left everything after a 34 year marriage to a narcissist! My health is returning, my joy is returning and I’m remembering who I am!
Well-known divorce attorney here. I agree that wide-spread public education about narcissistic personality disorder should be implemented. Educating high schoolers and the general public about how to identify and avoid a narcissist would create fewer bad marriages (meaning fewer divorce clients for family law attorneys), BUT we will be just fine and the public will greatly benefit. Get educated. Trust your gut. Learn to carefully vet a potential partner for a relationship or marriage. Make yourself your own mental point of origin. Do not ignore red flags. Things only get worse.
Your first sentence SIR. Damned right it should be!!!....if you haven't lived this NIGHTMARE LIKE NO OTHER, it might be worth your while consulting with folk who have lived the equivilent of having been thrown out of a plane 10,000 feet up without a parachute after first having seen their children thrown out without parachutes, before them, then had the narcissist jump out of that plane with a parachute and an evil smirk, not before steering that plane towards the sea below...and having somehow survived that fall, YOU have plummeted to the depths, weighted down by the agony of all of this only to now realise that YOU are surrounded by SHARKS, intent on devouring them and as they somehow live through that and swim to the first Island only to be greeted by no water or food..... ..THEN, suddenly you awaken three months later and realise that it was NO dream...and that your wives/husbands and children are GONE. CAN YOU, AS A LAWYER RECOGNISE THAT FACE WITH THE HORRENDOUS TRAUMA WHICH HAS BEEN THEIR WHOLE LIVES SINCE BEING DISCARDED?....because that will be a requirement to understand and take on any case in the future. I've barely scratched the surface...Jill knows. This is an AWAKENING on another level...and dealing with LOST CHILDREN to these narcissistic snakes is another chapter completely. GOOD LUCK SIR...you are facing a quest like no other...with MANY not to be trusted.
@@lorijm28 I you don't get out some how you'll loose yourself and your KIDS.. Your children loves you and if (the older ones) can see how he's abused you they will understand eventually..Save yourself first IF you can't get all of u guys out..You must reach out of help
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Going through the end stages of a relationship with a narcissist now. This is helping me to get my thoughts and actions straight.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
Most likely the narcissist consumed every waking moment of YOUR time -so it should be a well welcomed relief to finally concentrate on yourself and meet your needs during this healing process.
The 'abusive amnesia' advice was spot on .When you are having too many ''for the good times''moments remembering the dopamine caresses and the love bombing . You must not forget the red flags you ignored ,the manipulation ,the verbal and mental abuse. Brilliant video so helpful in clearing the confusion that we blame ourselves, for letting it go on for so long because we kept forgetting to remember.
Grattitude is the key. I don't know if you intentionally filmed this video with the "soft light" in the background, but it really looks good on you.....sincerely.
Final discard from narcissist last month. I’m still processing the cruelty, but don’t want to stay stuck here. I don’t want this consuming my time, energy and thoughts. Thank you for this video
Thank you Jill. This message is so helpful and on time. After 33 years married to a Narcopath, I am finally being intentional with my healing and growth. My focus must be on my healing and not on the Narco & my past. No contact and I'm finally free to be the new me. That trauma bond tries to creep in. No more Blaming myself. We are Victors not victims! I am so grateful to GOD for pulling me out of the pit of hell. Much peace, healing Blessings & true love to all.
Been in one for 5 years and I'm healing and lost all contact with him...I lost myself 2 years ago...I keep having memories and tear up and I feel some of those emotions... I'm seeing a therapist now.....thank you for this video...it has helped..
I wake up every morning missing my narcissistic abuser. I’m only in week three of being discarded and I’m in the bitter but well educated phase. I have a therapist - ever since month 8 of knowing him and his kids (flying monkeys). Therapy is helping but you couldn’t be more accurate when you say this experience is like an addiction. I made excuses for him for the last three years. My mind wants the biggest mistake of my life and it makes me sick. Mornings and bedtime are the worst for me. Thank you for this video. I just woke up thinking of him again and I got onto RUclips to find one of your videos. This video couldn’t have had better timing. Thank you so very much for this and for taking the time to bring awareness and to educate everyone on this nightmare ♥️
Found myself here after three weeks of tearing myself apart for becoming too needy as she pulled away. I'm realizing what was right in front of my nose the whole time.
I cannot begin to explain how much I am feeling relief 🥲 watching this. Yes we much educate the younger generations and I really need to book a session.
Yes, this should be taught in public education!! Social media has exacerbated this issue so it definitely needs to be exposed and presented to children in a learning environment 💯
With so many narcissists around taking a break from dating along with often changing your hairstyle and glasses and the colors you wear from day to day just for fun while meeting new people at things like choir practice, art classes or whatever while hoping to make as many friends as you can with all of them you meet during that period is such excellent advice because narcissists are often being fair weather friends and business associates to one another and so for example all it takes is one of them to seduce an underage woman under his nanny cam or a recent divorced woman around to justify the rest of them in trying to later take advantage of that woman in the same way.
I wish there was more we could do on making people aware of these terrible hurtful people! I love your videos. I feel like everything you say is what I’m feeling, going through, have experienced and know or have figured out. I’m going through the trauma bond part. And trying to break from it. Especially now that I know what it is.
I absolutely love your videos! I feel so much more educated and validated! Thank you so much for taking the time to makes these videos, they've helped me so much. Whenever I start feeling anxious wanting to contact the narc I watch one of ur videos and I'm reminded what I'm doing and why I'm doing it Can't thank you enough
Axe Grinder, I just had to start over, right where I am. Never too late to start over. If prevention had been the best, I could have used this advice over three decades ago, but I wouldn’t be the same as I am. I’m a different person, now that I’ve been through it and can see the depth of evil behind it. It helps in the formation and enhancement of my new relationships, which I never would have experienced had I not gone through it. I wish you the best.
Great video, very educational, I really like how you are explaining how to recover from the toxic abuse,a lot of people just talk about the narcissist, but they do not talk a lot of the healing, take care everyone and be blessed.
You’re spot on about firing crappy therapists. And do it the first moment they cross the line into psychological abuse. Do not give them the benefit of the doubt. I learned this the hard way and had i not been as educated on the subject of narcissism as I was, they would have hurt me worse than any narcissist I was going in to complain about. Don’t forget, these so-called mental health counselors know your biggest vulnerabilities and will target them without blinking an eye if they need to.
So true, I never went to college and I was never aware that this type of person was out there, their actions don't make sense to normal people because it is a self destructive type of behavior that doesn't make sense, it makes sense once you are aware of their goals in life are not the same as a normal good person, I can now see them all around, when you look at a relationship with problems you will see a lot of times that people with relationships with problems are being exposed to narcissism from someone in their life
Jill you are a breath of fresh air! I often cry of relief when i hear your talks! 🙏🏻 when i split with my Ex. 2 of my girl pals who i supported thru their hard times with their husbands, both Screamed at me! When i was in tears & just needed a listen - they were Mean Spirited & cruel. I was ALWAYS at nice when they were down.
Your videos are the best thing that I came across, it is helping me through the process of finally breaking free of such painful relationships that have been consuming my life. Thank you so much for the effort and words you put out into the world. Much love 💕
I had a therapist i was going to, on the third session he rolled his eyes when i said my ex husband was a narcissist. I was shocked he would do that! It was so invalidating at a time when i needed validation more than anything. I cancelled our next session and never called him again, he was already irritating me in that he spent most of our time talking about himself. Not all therapist will understand the concept of narcissism if they have never experienced it themselves or have training on the matter.
Well. The word gets way over used. Secondly, unless you are a psych, you cant diagnose someone yourself. He cant diagnose them without meeting them either. So, maybe he was anoyed you were expecting him to agree with you, when he literally cant. He probablly gets that everyday. Just saying
Thank you for your strong and gentle help. I"m in a situation which feels super difficult and scary with a narcissistic brother, who I can't totally cut ties with due to our family situation, where the adult children (Including me) visit with and assist our elderly mother. I'm inspired by your spirit of overcoming and your practical wisdom, as a survivor.
I overstand the PTSD most come away with. I changed from the rage I let grow. The rage subsidised with time away from her. Most of that rage was directed inward because I weakened my boundaries because hot body and pretty face. I made this fool I am.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Florida, USA and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
You know what is a really helpful thoughts!! Is there is Help out there and as sad as this is WE AREN’T ALONE!!! So many woman I going through Narcissistic Abuse!!
Once you fully get over your narcissist, Jill; I am here for you!! I FULLY understand what you say. I had to deal with this on my own, RUclips did not exist back then
There is a lot of people not in my life anymore. My ex husband took a lot with him including my parent’s that were very toxic. It’s not easy to rise again. Over two years single with two kids.
Omg!!! Lost my Ex Narc and lost my whole immediate family because you see I woke up to my Narc! Then IT CLICKED WITH MY FAMILY!! Oh dear God I have no friends!! I can never EVER AS LONG AS LIVE! Have a woman as a friend!! I already met 2 so called Beautiful Godly men! Huh!!!! Narcissistic my gut told me when I mentioned I cry a lot at church he gave me a blank stare and said what… No empathy!! Left the church went to the next one.. the next Godly man was Married my God his wife was there.. He hung around me for about 10 min and came so close to kiss me and stared at my lips and touched my elbow.. very handsome BUT COME ON !! Married and a Christian !! They are all over the place ready to pounce on you like a roaring Lion and I will always listen and pay attention to my gut!! Because that’s what happened at the beginning of all abusive relationships I was in THOSE RED GLARING FLAGS!! Don’t IGNORE YOUR GUT!!! That’s God telling you RUN!!
Nice to see you in a different room. May want to adjust the back lighting for your next video. As always, I always enjoy and learn from your videos...... back-lit or not.
this is so true about practising gratitude, when your healing starts to come together you ( well i did ) find yourself thinking intermittent thoughts of ie ; " thank god i got away from the years of torture and misery, not to mention confusion ", or thank heaven i googled " personality disorders " that day because you know something is very wrong. and at just 5 months since the discard and NC i know there will be other levels to work through yet but i have not felt such inner peace for most of the time since before i married him 10 years ago. It is a new freedom and rediscovering of ourselves and how strong we'd forgotten we are. i expect the odd wave of excruciating loss crashing over me and taking my breath away but you have to feel it, it doesn't last long, not like losing a beloved pet when they die, hell no, nothing like that at all,,, it's fleeting in comparison so just feel it and then let it go. we know how far we've come and there's no going back to that. I fill my life up with writing, reading, making music and helping people ( not pleasing them ) because i'm finally valuable. The future can take care of itself for now because this is " my time ", and i think or i hope i'm doing it well
You are amazing! I totally understand why you are helping other people. Currently going through a divorce from a narcissist. I am not feeling victimized. I am powerful and I am fighting him. Fortunately for me I was able to totally understand who I am dealing with before we even filed for divorce. Grateful for the work you are doing I hope I will be able to fill in your steps when my deal is over. I have so much to give!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
(thank you for beating RUclips at their game...) The higher volume on this video is soooo helpful! -youtube has the commercials 2-3x as loud as many Uploads... Ouch! -So, again thanks!... And I Love your channel and videos very much. :)) I can see why you have nearly fifty thousand subscribers in such a short time... -Cheers and Blessings, Jill!!!
1:49 ... this is a great point. Over the past many years it seems npd is growing exponentially. A plague of our days. More education, especially at the critical pre-teen and early teen years is so important.
I just had to block my best friend whom I have known since I was 19 because she was talking to the married narcissist behind my back and just told me. He contacted her on Facebook and she has been talking to him supposedly about me. She called me and told me that he said I was his Fatima (from the Alchemist) and that he believed that God was going to bring us back together. (HE is a pastor, by the way). She was acting all giddy about it and did not seem to understand that talking to this married man who had been emotionally abusive was hurtful to me. When I asked her why she would be talking to him knowing all that he had done, she said she didn't owe me an explanation. I was so shocked. Couldn't believe it. It was clear to me that she was not the friend that I believed her to be, she did not honor marriage, and that she had no boundaries as she even told him what to send me for Mother's Day while he was married. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ It hurt at first but now I have so much peace. Any married woman who is comfortable with talking to her friend's married narcissist ex when she knows everything he did is not a friend at all.
Kellie Alston it's hard but they know not what they do, code for not evolved emotionally as you. That really hurts big time and you have made the right decision and now you grieve. There are people that love you deeply even when you feel alone . Onward and upward as they say 'it to will pass' :)
Oh Jill, this is an excellent excellent video!! I must listen again, take notes, memorize every point. I'm wondering - what would you consider the end point in the healing process, if there is one? I'm thinking it will always be with me. I don't want to be over the awareness, education and knowledge of NPD and I don't believe it's possible to go back to little miss innocent in her rose garden, nor would I want to. Of course it's a process, but after 3 years NC, there are still times of ruminating, hence my need to watch more excellent videos like this one! What do you think we can say, "I've made it?" What would "healed" look like?
Thanks to all these coaches, I finally knew what I was dealing with. Once I knew, it was his down fall. This May 8th, I read him the riot act of all the laws that were being broken. I gave him one chance to rectify & of course, his answer was no answer. We literally broke up two days before Mother's Day, but it doesn't even bother me. Our family & friends know what happened, but they rather enable or ignore & I don't need/want that in my life. I'm slowly packing up any of their belongings & taking it to our eldest. There is financial abuse & right now, my case is almost finishes with tons of proof. Do I want any of them back, no way in Hell. They want constant disruption in their life, be my guest, but keep me out of it. I'm a legal & abuse advocate & ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! STOP THE MADNESS. Family court SUCKS!!
Oh and I found a FWB right after. She announced to me that she is diagnosed sociopath with other issues but didn't try to harm me but acted funny when I cut my ex off. Kind of like she wanted me to maintain some level of drama or issues in my life for whatever reason she had. That relationship ended when I established boundaries with her.
KEEP watching these videos. I know how you feel. The longer you stay away the easier it gets, read up on this disorder and keep educating yourself. I never thought I'd get to the other side either. I'm telling you it does get better. Like she said your brain is tricking you because of the trauma bond. Stay no contact, including their friends and family. It's the only way, sending you a hug!
THANK YOU JILL, YOUR WORD'S ARE SO TRUE THIS IS TRUE MY FATHER AND EX-WIFE ARE NAR'C MY STOP MOM GETS OFF TELLING ME ARE YNE NEGATIVE THINGS MY DAD SAID ABOUT ME AND BELIEVES EVER WORD (FLYING MONKEY)MY DAD PASSED AWAY YEARS AGO I WILL TAKE YOUR ADVICE AND LITTLE CONTACT WITH HER .I WILL WORK ON MY HEALING THX JEFF
I don't ever want to go back, but I do have bad days where I believe I deserved what happened & how I was treated. I know it's wrong, but it still happens anyway.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
Holly Magsig I relate to that and acknowledge that I did deserve it not because I'm shit but quite the opposite. Your amazing just use the healing process to get to your core and rebuild with stronger boundaries. It's ok to say no and when we are whole we will be discerning about who we choose to love. It's ok we are all human even your ex. There will come a day when you will feel safe to acknowledge that also. Take care :)
I have a very hard time with ruminating thoughts of the trauma episodes. How can I get beyond this. I left in November and it’s not a single day that goes by that I’m not replaying the abuse in my mind. Please help!
New Me, I had the same problem until I got SO tired of it that in my head I said,"NO MORE!!!". And it felt so good, I kept doing that every single time his stupid mean voice came in my head. It really worked wonders for me. We've already endured the abuse. Now that they're gone, kick em out for good! Dirty bastards!
I felt like my ruminating on the abuse was self protection. When I started remembering the good times, the best friend, lover, her sense of humor, her kids and how lucky I was to have found her then my ruminating turned to self punishment. I ruined the best thing I ever had. Not really being able to figure out what I did that was so wrong made me feel like I must be a narcissist. That caused me to go to some pretty dark corners inside my head. Ruminating on the abuse. The rudeness. The meanness. The lack of respect for my feelings. Being disposable. That seemed so much healthier than the self loathing. Being caught somewhere in between is emotionally exhausting. My advice; focus on the abuse and surviving.
Mountain Scribbler focusing on the abuse makes matters worse. That’s the last thing I want or need to focus on. I need to move forward and not stay in the past. I’m seeking positive reinforcement that will help me heal.
I agree with and appreciate everything you have to say. But I have to just listen to the audio because you bear such a striking resemblance to me narcissistic ex. ( Not a dig, just a fact ) That said, I wish I knew this stuff six years ago.
Thank you for providing very clear and relatable examples of narcissist behavior. I have a question, how or what examples would you suggest in educating my four tennaged children of this disorder? We have a close family member who is a narcissist..
1 year & about 4 months of it were actually good. The rest a horror rollercoaster. Haven't seen him since August 1, 2020. He is trying to get me to contact him. Found texts in my blocked messages with him apologizing writing sorry in all Capitol letters. That was a week ago, I'm just thinking if I don't respond he might show up at my house. I'll deal with if the time comes.
I've relapsed (again) recently. We were never in a "relationship." He's been in and out of my life for years and he needs to stay out. He always comes back around, or if he doesn't... I'm the one that contacts him. I've been taking a break from dating for awhile. I've been single for a very long time. My mother is a narcissist. I have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like.
Thank You for sharing! This weekend , 1 year narc free for me! Walked away, left everything after a 34 year marriage to a narcissist! My health is returning, my joy is returning and I’m remembering who I am!
can't wait till I can get were you are..
What kind of health issues?
mreloo knee ,back and joint pain! Headache and trembling gone ! All around I feel better!
Well-known divorce attorney here. I agree that wide-spread public education about narcissistic personality disorder should be implemented. Educating high schoolers and the general public about how to identify and avoid a narcissist would create fewer bad marriages (meaning fewer divorce clients for family law attorneys), BUT we will be just fine and the public will greatly benefit. Get educated. Trust your gut. Learn to carefully vet a potential partner for a relationship or marriage. Make yourself your own mental point of origin. Do not ignore red flags. Things only get worse.
Your first sentence SIR.
Damned right it should be!!!....if you haven't lived this NIGHTMARE LIKE NO OTHER, it might be worth your while consulting with folk who have lived the equivilent of having been thrown out of a plane 10,000 feet up without a parachute after first having seen their children thrown out without parachutes, before them, then had the narcissist jump out of that plane with a parachute and an evil smirk, not before steering that plane towards the sea below...and having somehow survived that fall, YOU have plummeted to the depths, weighted down by the agony of all of this only to now realise that YOU are surrounded by SHARKS, intent on devouring them and as they somehow live through that and swim to the first Island only to be greeted by no water or food.....
..THEN, suddenly you awaken three months later and realise that it was NO dream...and that your wives/husbands and children are GONE.
CAN YOU, AS A LAWYER RECOGNISE THAT FACE WITH THE HORRENDOUS TRAUMA WHICH HAS BEEN THEIR WHOLE LIVES SINCE BEING DISCARDED?....because that will be a requirement to understand and take on any case in the future.
I've barely scratched the surface...Jill knows.
This is an AWAKENING on another level...and dealing with LOST CHILDREN to these narcissistic snakes is another chapter completely.
GOOD LUCK SIR...you are facing a quest like no other...with MANY not to be trusted.
....DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS 🚩
@@lorijm28 I you don't get out some how you'll loose yourself and your KIDS.. Your children loves you and if (the older ones) can see how he's abused you they will understand eventually..Save yourself first IF you can't get all of u guys out..You must reach out of help
Amen
Trauma bond is not love it's an addiction . I'm through with the trauma bond !
No contact breaks the trauma bond...
I hear ya! Trauma bond has to go.
That is what it is.. this is all making so much sense the more I learn!!
Trying to do that now Jill I'm sick & tired of the lies & the manipulation and drama they start they just want an upper hand on me .
“Anyone who isn’t kind, supportive and empathetic to what you have gone through, needs to go.”
I needed this badly. Wise words to live by!!!
🤞🙏
We absolutely have to make everyone aware that narcissists exist
Our entire society is ran by these Cluster B monsters. They have a vested interest in keeping this information from the general public.
I had no idea they existed I always thought that if I could do this for her.. maybe she will change guess what they never chage
@M. C. they are lurking everywhere...
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Going through the end stages of a relationship with a narcissist now. This is helping me to get my thoughts and actions straight.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
Yes...MANDATORY EDUCATION ABOUT NARCS!! 👏 👏 👏
Most likely the narcissist consumed every waking moment of YOUR time -so it should be a well welcomed relief to finally concentrate on yourself and meet your needs during this healing process.
@turquoisewaters absolutely true
The 'abusive amnesia' advice was spot on .When you are having too many ''for the good times''moments
remembering the dopamine caresses and the love bombing .
You must not forget the red flags you ignored ,the manipulation ,the verbal and mental abuse.
Brilliant video so helpful in clearing the confusion that we blame ourselves, for letting it go on for so long because we kept forgetting to remember.
Grattitude is the key. I don't know if you intentionally filmed this video with the "soft light" in the background, but it really looks good on you.....sincerely.
Final discard from narcissist last month. I’m still processing the cruelty, but don’t want to stay stuck here.
I don’t want this consuming my time, energy and thoughts.
Thank you for this video
Thank you Jill. This message is so helpful and on time. After 33 years married to a Narcopath, I am finally being intentional with my healing and growth.
My focus must be on my healing and not on the Narco & my past.
No contact and I'm finally free to be the new me. That trauma bond tries to creep in.
No more Blaming myself. We are Victors not victims!
I am so grateful to GOD for pulling me out of the pit of hell. Much peace, healing Blessings & true love to all.
Been in one for 5 years and I'm healing and lost all contact with him...I lost myself 2 years ago...I keep having memories and tear up and I feel some of those emotions...
I'm seeing a therapist now.....thank you for this video...it has helped..
You, darling girl, are an absolute God send.. Thanx Jill 👍💯👍❤️💯🇦🇺✌️
I wake up every morning missing my narcissistic abuser. I’m only in week three of being discarded and I’m in the bitter but well educated phase. I have a therapist - ever since month 8 of knowing him and his kids (flying monkeys). Therapy is helping but you couldn’t be more accurate when you say this experience is like an addiction. I made excuses for him for the last three years. My mind wants the biggest mistake of my life and it makes me sick. Mornings and bedtime are the worst for me. Thank you for this video. I just woke up thinking of him again and I got onto RUclips to find one of your videos. This video couldn’t have had better timing. Thank you so very much for this and for taking the time to bring awareness and to educate everyone on this nightmare ♥️
I been through it all it's not easy
Do everything you can to heal for the memories reside in every cell of
your body and can't always totally be absolved through intellect alone.
You deserve better 💕
Found myself here after three weeks of tearing myself apart for becoming too needy as she pulled away. I'm realizing what was right in front of my nose the whole time.
And actually I hadn't initially blocked him ...watched your video about what trama bonding is and immediately blocked him thank you so much again
Same over here
This was a fantastic and empowering video. Thank you
You’re a Soul in the Machine. It’s all around you and they’re all part of it
I cannot begin to explain how much I am feeling relief 🥲 watching this. Yes we much educate the younger generations and I really need to book a session.
Yes, this should be taught in public education!! Social media has exacerbated this issue so it definitely needs to be exposed and presented to children in a learning environment 💯
With so many narcissists around taking a break from dating along with often changing your hairstyle and glasses and the colors you wear from day to day just for fun while meeting new people at things like choir practice, art classes or whatever while hoping to make as many friends as you can with all of them you meet during that period is such excellent advice because narcissists are often being fair weather friends and business associates to one another and so for example all it takes is one of them to seduce an underage woman under his nanny cam or a recent divorced woman around to justify the rest of them in trying to later take advantage of that woman in the same way.
This is BY FAR the BEST VIDEO you have E V E R done. Thank you! I saved to watch over and over and even watched it a second time before bed.
I wish there was more we could do on making people aware of these terrible hurtful people! I love your videos. I feel like everything you say is what I’m feeling, going through, have experienced and know or have figured out. I’m going through the trauma bond part. And trying to break from it. Especially now that I know what it is.
I absolutely love your videos! I feel so much more educated and validated! Thank you so much for taking the time to makes these videos, they've helped me so much. Whenever I start feeling anxious wanting to contact the narc I watch one of ur videos and I'm reminded what I'm doing and why I'm doing it
Can't thank you enough
Thanks Jill for your great work 👍
Thank you for these no nonsense straight forward words. These are what I need to recover from my Narcissistic Ex after ending it with him, 🍒
thank you Aunt Jill; Preach it!
Enosh Kazem Aw, Enosh!! ❤️
I just love the cool style of this video. You've helped me so much. Thank you a million times
Great advice, and perfect timing. Thank you so much.
Axe Grinder, I just had to start over, right where I am. Never too late to start over. If prevention had been the best, I could have used this advice over three decades ago, but I wouldn’t be the same as I am. I’m a different person, now that I’ve been through it and can see the depth of evil behind it. It helps in the formation and enhancement of my new relationships, which I never would have experienced had I not gone through it. I wish you the best.
Yes Jill, you are gorgeous and really appreciate your professional advice. God Bless and take care..
It's very nice to hear all your experience about this subject ,it's very healing for my mind to know I'm not stupid ..thanks
Great video, very educational, I really like how you are explaining how to recover from the toxic abuse,a lot of people just talk about the narcissist, but they do not talk a lot of the healing, take care everyone and be blessed.
WONDERFUL VIDEO. You get it. Words cannot express.
You’re spot on about firing crappy therapists. And do it the first moment they cross the line into psychological abuse. Do not give them the benefit of the doubt. I learned this the hard way and had i not been as educated on the subject of narcissism as I was, they would have hurt me worse than any narcissist I was going in to complain about. Don’t forget, these so-called mental health counselors know your biggest vulnerabilities and will target them without blinking an eye if they need to.
Thank you very much, these tips are excellent 👏. So helpful. Thank you 😊
So true, I never went to college and I was never aware that this type of person was out there, their actions don't make sense to normal people because it is a self destructive type of behavior that doesn't make sense, it makes sense once you are aware of their goals in life are not the same as a normal good person, I can now see them all around, when you look at a relationship with problems you will see a lot of times that people with relationships with problems are being exposed to narcissism from someone in their life
Jill you are a breath of fresh air! I often cry of relief when i hear your talks! 🙏🏻 when i split with my Ex. 2 of my girl pals who i supported thru their hard times with their husbands, both Screamed at me! When i was in tears & just needed a listen - they were Mean Spirited & cruel. I was ALWAYS at nice when they were down.
Thank you, very pragmatic and super helpful advice. Learning about trauma bonds is key!
This is phenomenal! I’ll send it to all my friends. And yes! Stay alone, there is nothing healthy out there
I am grateful to you for posting this video ❤️ Thank you for sharing this to us newly going through the beginning stages of this process.
You are so soothing and comforting. 💞
Love your videos Jill!
Thank you for sharing your
experience and knowledge.
Much love 🌸🌸
Thank you and big hugs to you. your soft voice and healing words mean so much to me .
Your videos are the best thing that I came across, it is helping me through the process of finally breaking free of such painful relationships that have been consuming my life. Thank you so much for the effort and words you put out into the world. Much love 💕
Thank you , Amazing video,love you, you are healing angel
I had a therapist i was going to, on the third session he rolled his eyes when i said my ex husband was a narcissist. I was shocked he would do that! It was so invalidating at a time when i needed validation more than anything. I cancelled our next session and never called him again, he was already irritating me in that he spent most of our time talking about himself. Not all therapist will understand the concept of narcissism if they have never experienced it themselves or have training on the matter.
kept trying to find one that specializes in Narcissistim
your therapist was a narcissist that’s why he rolled his eyes and only talked about himself
Well. The word gets way over used. Secondly, unless you are a psych, you cant diagnose someone yourself. He cant diagnose them without meeting them either. So, maybe he was anoyed you were expecting him to agree with you, when he literally cant.
He probablly gets that everyday.
Just saying
Some therapists can be narcissists too.
Thank you for your strong and gentle help. I"m in a situation which feels super difficult and scary with a narcissistic brother, who I can't totally cut ties with due to our family situation, where the adult children (Including me) visit with and assist our elderly mother. I'm inspired by your spirit of overcoming and your practical wisdom, as a survivor.
How I love your wonderful videos, they are so encouraging. Thank you.
I overstand the PTSD most come away with. I changed from the rage I let grow. The rage subsidised with time away from her. Most of that rage was directed inward because I weakened my boundaries because hot body and pretty face. I made this fool I am.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Florida, USA and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
It’s so helpful and empowering video. Thanks for sharing these tips!
You are helping me so much. I am going through the beginning of healing right now. Trauma from family of origin.
You know what is a really helpful thoughts!! Is there is Help out there and as sad as this is WE AREN’T
ALONE!!! So many woman I going through Narcissistic Abuse!!
Once you fully get over your narcissist, Jill; I am here for you!! I FULLY understand what you say. I had to deal with this on my own, RUclips did not exist back then
This has become my favorite recovery channel. Thank you.
Great material
Thank you for sharing your experience and insight.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you i was needing so much to listen to this speech ❤️🇩🇰👍
There is a lot of people not in my life anymore. My ex husband took a lot with him including my parent’s that were very toxic. It’s not easy to rise again. Over two years single with two kids.
Grace Kelly I love the name Grace, big hugs
Omg!!! Lost my Ex Narc and lost my whole immediate family because you see I woke up to my Narc! Then IT CLICKED WITH MY FAMILY!! Oh dear God I have no friends!! I can never EVER AS LONG AS LIVE! Have a woman as a friend!! I already met 2 so called Beautiful Godly men! Huh!!!! Narcissistic my gut told me when I mentioned I cry a lot at church he gave me a blank stare and said what… No empathy!! Left the church went to the next one.. the next Godly man was Married my God his wife was there.. He hung around me for about 10 min and came so close to kiss me and stared at my lips and touched my elbow.. very handsome BUT COME ON !! Married and a Christian !! They are all over the place ready to pounce on you like a roaring Lion and I will always listen and pay attention to my gut!! Because that’s what happened at the beginning of all abusive relationships I was in THOSE RED
GLARING FLAGS!! Don’t IGNORE YOUR GUT!!! That’s God telling you RUN!!
Nice one Jill spread the light! 💫
I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS VIDEO! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! ❤❤❤
Great stuff, thank you. You hit alot of topics and this will help
Oh dear - kind Jill! I have too! I now live in moderate income apt. Used to have a home at the coast of del mar SD
Thank you for great information!
Nice to see you in a different room.
May want to adjust the back lighting for your next video.
As always, I always enjoy and learn from your videos...... back-lit or not.
I listen to your videos everyday. Thank you for your work
I'm very grateful for your help and advice. Love you😎🤙
Excellent !
Great stuff as usual Jill! So appreciate you!
Good advice, thanks
this is so true about practising gratitude, when your healing starts to come together you ( well i did ) find yourself thinking intermittent thoughts of ie ; " thank god i got away from the years of torture and misery, not to mention confusion ", or thank heaven i googled " personality disorders " that day because you know something is very wrong. and at just 5 months since the discard and NC i know there will be other levels to work through yet but i have not felt such inner peace for most of the time since before i married him 10 years ago. It is a new freedom and rediscovering of ourselves and how strong we'd forgotten we are. i expect the odd wave of excruciating loss crashing over me and taking my breath away but you have to feel it, it doesn't last long, not like losing a beloved pet when they die, hell no, nothing like that at all,,, it's fleeting in comparison so just feel it and then let it go. we know how far we've come and there's no going back to that. I fill my life up with writing, reading, making music and helping people ( not pleasing them ) because i'm finally valuable. The future can take care of itself for now because this is " my time ", and i think or i hope i'm doing it well
Excellent content !
You are amazing! I totally understand why you are helping other people.
Currently going through a divorce from a narcissist. I am not feeling victimized. I am powerful and I am fighting him. Fortunately for me I was able to totally understand who I am dealing with before we even filed for divorce.
Grateful for the work you are doing
I hope I will be able to fill in your steps when my deal is over. I have so much to give!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
(thank you for beating RUclips at their game...) The higher volume on this video is soooo helpful!
-youtube has the commercials 2-3x as loud as many Uploads... Ouch!
-So, again thanks!... And I Love your channel and videos very much. :))
I can see why you have nearly fifty thousand subscribers in such a short time...
-Cheers and Blessings, Jill!!!
Thank you!
Thank you for this...
Me , Myself and I ..
I wish I could, thank you, and will keep listening
Excellent video as always thank you
1:49 ... this is a great point. Over the past many years it seems npd is growing exponentially. A plague of our days. More education, especially at the critical pre-teen and early teen years is so important.
I agree, the youth need to be educated about cluster B personality disorders in school.
I just had to block my best friend whom I have known since I was 19 because she was talking to the married narcissist behind my back and just told me. He contacted her on Facebook and she has been talking to him supposedly about me. She called me and told me that he said I was his Fatima (from the Alchemist) and that he believed that God was going to bring us back together. (HE is a pastor, by the way). She was acting all giddy about it and did not seem to understand that talking to this married man who had been emotionally abusive was hurtful to me. When I asked her why she would be talking to him knowing all that he had done, she said she didn't owe me an explanation. I was so shocked. Couldn't believe it. It was clear to me that she was not the friend that I believed her to be, she did not honor marriage, and that she had no boundaries as she even told him what to send me for Mother's Day while he was married. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ It hurt at first but now I have so much peace. Any married woman who is comfortable with talking to her friend's married narcissist ex when she knows everything he did is not a friend at all.
Kellie Alston it's hard but they know not what they do, code for not evolved emotionally as you. That really hurts big time and you have made the right decision and now you grieve. There are people that love you deeply even when you feel alone . Onward and upward as they say 'it to will pass' :)
your EX-best friend ( remember that) if she betrayed you once she will do it again
Yes!!!
Oh Jill, this is an excellent excellent video!! I must listen again, take notes, memorize every point.
I'm wondering - what would you consider the end point in the healing process, if there is one? I'm thinking it will always be with me. I don't want to be over the awareness, education and knowledge of NPD and I don't believe it's possible to go back to little miss innocent in her rose garden, nor would I want to. Of course it's a process, but after 3 years NC, there are still times of ruminating, hence my need to watch more excellent videos like this one! What do you think we can say, "I've made it?" What would "healed" look like?
* when
Thanks to all these coaches, I finally knew what I was dealing with. Once I knew, it was his down fall. This May 8th, I read him the riot act of all the laws that were being broken. I gave him one chance to rectify & of course, his answer was no answer. We literally broke up two days before Mother's Day, but it doesn't even bother me. Our family & friends know what happened, but they rather enable or ignore & I don't need/want that in my life. I'm slowly packing up any of their belongings & taking it to our eldest. There is financial abuse & right now, my case is almost finishes with tons of proof. Do I want any of them back, no way in Hell. They want constant disruption in their life, be my guest, but keep me out of it. I'm a legal & abuse advocate & ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! STOP THE MADNESS. Family court SUCKS!!
Oh and I found a FWB right after. She announced to me that she is diagnosed sociopath with other issues but didn't try to harm me but acted funny when I cut my ex off. Kind of like she wanted me to maintain some level of drama or issues in my life for whatever reason she had. That relationship ended when I established boundaries with her.
I'm struggling so much to stay away after a few weeks it's unbearable 😪 x
KEEP watching these videos. I know how you feel. The longer you stay away the easier it gets, read up on this disorder and keep educating yourself. I never thought I'd get to the other side either. I'm telling you it does get better. Like she said your brain is tricking you because of the trauma bond. Stay no contact, including their friends and family. It's the only way, sending you a hug!
Thanks!
THANK YOU JILL, YOUR WORD'S ARE SO TRUE
THIS IS TRUE MY FATHER AND EX-WIFE ARE NAR'C
MY STOP MOM GETS OFF TELLING ME ARE YNE NEGATIVE THINGS MY DAD SAID ABOUT ME AND BELIEVES EVER WORD (FLYING MONKEY)MY DAD PASSED AWAY YEARS AGO
I WILL TAKE YOUR ADVICE AND LITTLE CONTACT WITH HER .I WILL WORK ON MY HEALING
THX JEFF
I don't ever want to go back, but I do have bad days where I believe I deserved what happened & how I was treated. I know it's wrong, but it still happens anyway.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
Holly Magsig I relate to that and acknowledge that I did deserve it not because I'm shit but quite the opposite. Your amazing just use the healing process to get to your core and rebuild with stronger boundaries. It's ok to say no and when we are whole we will be discerning about who we choose to love. It's ok we are all human even your ex. There will come a day when you will feel safe to acknowledge that also. Take care :)
@@periperi966 no one deserves this. No one❤
Nobody deserves to be abused like this.
@@bobbiwilliam6811 STOP TROLLING
I have a very hard time with ruminating thoughts of the trauma episodes. How can I get beyond this. I left in November and it’s not a single day that goes by that I’m not replaying the abuse in my mind. Please help!
New Me, I had the same problem until I got SO tired of it that in my head I said,"NO MORE!!!". And it felt so good, I kept doing that every single time his stupid mean voice came in my head. It really worked wonders for me. We've already endured the abuse. Now that they're gone, kick em out for good! Dirty bastards!
I felt like my ruminating on the abuse was self protection. When I started remembering the good times, the best friend, lover, her sense of humor, her kids and how lucky I was to have found her then my ruminating turned to self punishment. I ruined the best thing I ever had. Not really being able to figure out what I did that was so wrong made me feel like I must be a narcissist. That caused me to go to some pretty dark corners inside my head. Ruminating on the abuse. The rudeness. The meanness. The lack of respect for my feelings. Being disposable. That seemed so much healthier than the self loathing. Being caught somewhere in between is emotionally exhausting. My advice; focus on the abuse and surviving.
Mountain Scribbler focusing on the abuse makes matters worse. That’s the last thing I want or need to focus on. I need to move forward and not stay in the past. I’m seeking positive reinforcement that will help me heal.
Maureen O'Neill thank you for the suggestion.
Mountain scribbler your spot on
Thank you. 👍❤🙏
I have been all my life with narcs starting with mom
great video, thk you SLDD Self Love Deficit Disorder Dr Ross Rosenberg, another great narc... expert, has youtube channel
I agree with and appreciate everything you have to say. But I have to just listen to the audio because you bear such a striking resemblance to me narcissistic ex. ( Not a dig, just a fact ) That said, I wish I knew this stuff six years ago.
Greg Crouse love your honesty and glad you got good ears
Thank you for providing very clear and relatable examples of narcissist behavior. I have a question, how or what examples would you suggest in educating my four tennaged children of this disorder? We have a close family member who is a narcissist..
1 year & about 4 months of it were actually good. The rest a horror rollercoaster. Haven't seen him since August 1, 2020. He is trying to get me to contact him. Found texts in my blocked messages with him apologizing writing sorry in all Capitol letters. That was a week ago, I'm just thinking if I don't respond he might show up at my house. I'll deal with if the time comes.
Pls make a PSA video for the Teenager
& young adult ⚖️🗽
I've relapsed (again) recently. We were never in a "relationship." He's been in and out of my life for years and he needs to stay out. He always comes back around, or if he doesn't... I'm the one that contacts him. I've been taking a break from dating for awhile. I've been single for a very long time. My mother is a narcissist. I have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like.
Hi Jill. Love you❤😊