I get wat u saying but sometimes we do nag, the best way to save ur marriage is to boost his ego fr instance if u want smthin... Appreciate him, boost his ego then ask for wat u want. It works all the tym.
@theemapsmash we do and this is true but if you're married to a real man and he loves you there is no need for you to have to ask him to do things several times. But, I agree everyone needs a boost and should have their ego boosted
I'm been married for over 30 years, trust he didn't leave because you were "nagging". Marriage is hard and many times men and women, leave, because they don't want to be there for the hard parts. You will be okay, take one day at a time.
Marriage isn't hard when both are team players. A team is not one. Like life, marriage will have difficult times. I chose to be single because I've seen and continue to see that marriage is work only for women. Women become worn out, and the men move on to younger and unburdened women.
@@GenXsinglefree If men move to other younger and unburdened women like you said, why can't you be one where men will move to? At least like you confirmed, men don't move to Steve or James
@Vinus739 I took myself off market at age 28. I retired at age 48. I would never have been able to avail myself of so many adventures if I had chosen to have a family. I come from a family of free spirits. My parents believed in creating and following your own path, not placating to societal norms. There are so many miserable people who made life altering decisions (education, career, marriage, children, religion, politics, house, etc.) based upon expectations of others. Misery loves company. I chose peace. I have strong family ties and a very small circle of loyal friends. Marriage and children aren't for everybody and shouldn't be propagandized as the happy ending for all. I'm so glad these younger generations of women are choosing their own paths. It's more GenX women than most think who never married or had children, particularly black women like myself. Social media opened my eyes to the numbers of women in my generation who are happily single and child free.
This makes me so emotional cuz my ex married another girl & never explained his motives all he told me was that I deserved better. I was hurt but like my brother told me “let him ruin someone else’s life” fast forward to today; that sucker did me a favor!!!
Believe the Ex...you deserve better! But your brother sounds exactly like mine. When my ex left and I was really emotional, the first thing my older brother said was, "that's his loss". Then I told my brother, but it really hurts! Then my bro asked, "Do you even know yourself"? You're a blessing, if he couldn't handle this blessing at least he left for another person to appreciate it. And my brother was not the only person who told me that. Even my friends, both males/females, said it's best that he left. Now you will finally be open to the one God actually has for you. So sis, now I'm here telling you, believe the Ex, you deserve better. God will surprise you with the best.
They always do us a favor‼️ it just take a woman who knows her worth to realize that and move on gracefully ‼️ No stress, no tears , no worries ….. you’re better off Darling 💅🏾
Nagging= Needs Not Met. Emotional Neglect, Unheard, roles/reaponsibilities not being fulfilled, no follow through, resentment, taken for granted (Some Boundary must be Set)
My husband left me years before he physically left. When he did leave I was devastated!!!!! But I refused to let him know that. I started working on my healing and filed for a divorce 6 months later and he was pissed!!!! My divorce was final two months later and from that point until now he wants to get back together. When I say I’ve never been so happy to be single. I thought it would be a struggle for me because I was never single at all. This is my first time and I don’t think I’ll even date no time soon. I’m enjoying me soooooo much! Keep doing what you doing and it’ll get better for you. Don’t rush the process because you want to completely heal. Don’t regret anything. Life is filled with lessons.
My husband has left me with a 3year and 5 months pregnant at the time.he left the whole country saying he wasn’t happy. Fast forward 2 years now he’s begging me that he wants his family back. All to say it’ll get better with time. I’m happy in my life now.
Its funny how ppl like to project their issues onto others. You have been with your man long enough so people just need to trust your judgment and respect your choice in your journey. You got this. It'll be okay
I don’t understand why women put all their trust any ANY man. I am married and l don’t trust him. I go day to day. If and when he decides to leave, l have already made my plans. I don’t treat him as if l don’t trust him. I still go along like normal, but l have mentally made myself aware. The Bible even tells you to put your trust in GOD! God bless the women who trust that their husbands won’t leave.
One man said it best: "Ladies, you think the other woman will be treated better. But trust me, she will get the SAME disrespect or worse! Let her deal with all of his dysfunctions. She just did you a favor!"
@@roses4me451how did she do you a favour? How is it her fault when your man probably told her she was single. You can’t steal a man , he chose her. Women need to quit blaming the other woman and fight with their good for nothing men instead
You deserve to be with someone who acknowledges your right to express your dissatisfaction. A person who can call you a nagger is one who does not love you enough to hear you. One who can take time to actively listen to you shows genuine love.
Here comes another foolish advise. Do you even know who deserves anything? Only the one who has worked for it just like the laborer deserves his wages. You are just preaching "entitlement". Your type keep other women single...
Sis, I'm going through the same things. He just left without even saying a word packed his stuff, and moved away. The hurt and betrayal it's deep. Stay strong beautiful 💪
@@ThreeFingersandaThumb There is closure he left. Do I need to be spelt out the reason why, nope. Most times him walking out is a whole blessing in disguise. Shana has to go through the stages of grief. She is bright and strong. She is gonna get through this.
You have a very nice home my dear; and you deserve better than your husband. I’m sure he will attempt to return at some point, so just be strong and make decisions that are best for you and your little ones. ❤
I'm so sorry you are going through this. When your husband left and told your daughter he was leaving for goo and only told her. That was so wrong, she is a child and he should have told you not her. she is a child not an adult. You are hurting now and for you to say you would stop posting about what you are going through if he asked you to would be so wrong. Please don't let him to control you since he left you and his children,. Stand strong Shana if not for yourself then do it for you daughters. You have so many followers that have your back. We no you love him very very much. Don't let your love for him do what is best for him instead of you and your daughters. God's Blessings to you and the girls.🙏🙏🙏🙏
You’re going to love the break you get when the kids are with their dad. I be counting down to the weekends and summers. I get to sleep in!!!!!!!😂😂😂 Girl find the silver lining in all situations and keep it pushing. You never know where God is leading you. I had a similar situation 8 years ago, and now I wake up every day feeling like I’m in a dream, I am so grateful for where I am in my life.
I’m young never been married with a family and/or left but pleaseeeee hear me out, when you love yourself your life will always be evident of that self love. The people who surrounds you, the lover you choose, and the life you live… you had every right to “nag” about the things that was not working but in the same breath you took on everything in your marriage and when he felt like it, he felt you can take on everything again but ALONE this time. Throughout the video I can hear in your voice that you love HIM but it doesn’t sound like you love YOU more, May God Truly Bless You Sister🫶🏽
Sis. You are experiencing bring free! You don’t have to apologize for enjoying some time for yourself! You probably are feeling relief that you don’t have to guess about him and his moods! Be free and take care of yourself and your children! You are looking good and confident!🙏🏽
I know it's hard but I commend you on having such a positive attitude. So many women seem to think the world ends, but you are pushing through and it is so refreshing to see. Believe me you are helping so many women and men with your vulnerability. Keeping reaching to the stars love, you are very close to touching them🌠
Women feel the world is ending because we’re raised to build and maintain a world with a male centered in it. If we all start accepting and teaching a different way of life in modern times that evens out the expectations and and responsibilities then it won’t be so astronomical in some women’s minds
Yea we need to be having these discussions. And whatever E people say about airing dirty laundry I feel like I wish I had reached out to family and friends and shouted about the shot going on in our relationship much earlier. So much could have been addressed but we were acting like nothing was wrong and putting on a front. Black families are the worst for this. Pretending and then nothing ever changes
You are a stand up woman. If a man has put me through and keeps putting me through turmoil…the streets can keep him. From my viewpoint, it seems like your husband has no sense of direction for his life. No goals, no plans, no purpose. If he did, he would not behave the way he is behaving. All of that back-and-forth mess has to go. It’s either you’re in or you’re out. Don’t let him walk all over you. He may be doing it because he knows your weakness. He knows in spite of what he does. He can come back at any time. Just my opinion.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You can’t get what you need from him because he is not that person, period. Women make the mistake of thinking we can change them/ make them change. He is who he is. Let the fantasy of him go, deal with the reality. Wishing you peace.
Yes, I'm a new viewer and your video truly touched my heart. What you are going through is so common but you always feel like you're the only one going through. You have a new community of followers praying and hoping the best for you and your family. Continue enduring with the poise and grace that you have been and with God's help, in due time this too shall pass. Bless you!
Let him take those kids. They are both of y’all’s responsibility and if you can get the coparenting thing down you will be so happy. You need time for yourself too. He is a good father as far as I can tell so definitely come up with a schedule that allows for both of you to take responsibility and time for you to relax. The kids will appreciate it in the long run too.
@@ginnys9831 the sooner people realize that no one is perfect not even you the better the world will be. He will deal with the repercussions of his actions Im sure but it’s in the best interest of those kids to maintain a proper relationship with their dad. You will screw your children up if you keep those kids away from him because your relationship deteriorated. He was a stay at home dad at one point it is obvious he is more than capable of taking care of those kids. They are in good hands and she can trust him to do what’s right by them. Raising kids is hard they need as big of a tribe as possible.
YOU BETTA SET IT OFF IN HERE ,TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL ❤❤❤ im so proud of you Shana ,i hear the strength in your voice, let it flow and trust the process, i promise it gets better babe 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hi Shana. Sending you love💞 when my daughter's father and I broke up, it showed me how much I can do myself and I eneded up working on my self esteem. You are a great mom and great person in general and when someone won't communicate (like my daughter's father) it makes things so much more difficult. I think you deserve better 💞
Speaking about this on your channel is therapeutic for you. You get to vent and express your concerns openly and honestly. The comment section will help you think and reflect and know that you have emotional support. It will do wonders toward your healing journey. You got this👍🏾
Girl I feel you! And honestly your husband sounds like a covert narcissist. My husband was the same way!! Just not doing sh!t that needed to be done. Never communicating. I just felt uneasy the entire marriage. I felt so much lighter and free after we separated. Divorce is a lonnng and emotional process - stay positive!!!
I'm getting g really tired of you girls overusing the word narcissist abd painting all guys as that. Maybe you are the narc. It's funny how your husband isn't allowed to tell his side of the story but you are allowed to falsely accuse him and demonize his character. The sisterhood needs to take accountability.
Edit you said her husband. Notice that you never heard the husbands side yet you are gonna automatically be bias against him because he's a man. You are automatically gonna falsely label him a narc because you support the sister code. I'm surprised that you didn't also use the word Gaslight against him. Just face it, you have a bias against guys. You only heard her side yet you are jumping to the conclusion that he is a narc? What if you are 1000 percent wrong about him? Since you are a part of the sisterhood, I highly doubt that you would apologize to the husband.
Then you generalize bm in a negative light on a daily basis. Yet you support the likes of se*y redd and chrisean rock. Yet you wanna talk down on bm. I hope you don't have a bm in your family.
I absolutely agree,👍and I’m quite suspicious, when someone say they’re “tired” of hearing the word narcissist and asking the VICTIM to take accountability, red flag 🚩 .😳
@mrbrave29 Men come to lay you down NOT lift you UP. Self-love NOT Self-sacrifice. Her husband put himself above his wife and family. Yet men always wanting family only to eventually walk away. Be for real.
I know why the description of your marital issues resonate with me, it’s because I had the same issue in pinpointing what it was about my husband that left me feeling invisible. The nonnegotiable for me after 28 years of sitting in a marriage without it… Was lack of emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and Communication. It left me feeling like a shriveled up, empty, lifeless person going through the motions. He carried on in our marriage like it had no effect on him. Trust me when I tell you, he will never change. He will never change no matter the years, the therapy, the begging, the whining, the yelling, and crying. He did you a favor and saved you years of colluding in an empty marriage that looked good to everybody on the outside, but lacked any warmth and empathy on the inside.
I have had Sunday blues for as long as I can remember from going back to school as a kid to work lol it’s Terrible. I don’t plan anything on Sundays anymore I have to reset and mentally prepare for the week! Piggy backing off what you were saying in the video about you not getting what you want or him not being vocal about why. These are just my thoughts, but I’m thinking the reason he can’t tell you why he can’t give you said “ things” whatever they may be is because he absolutely can. He just won’t. He can’t tell you why he can’t because he likely knows there’s no excuse for it and that you deserve better. He’s just not willing to give it. And if so.. that’s unfortunate. Take care love ❤️
I love the way you love your husband and as a woman who was married 17y and divorced now 7y it was hard at first. I will sincerely tell you to pray, stop telling us on the internet because people will give you crazy advice and when he speaks listen. We tried to work out our marriage but another woman was involved so I realized I needed to move on. Thankfully now I'm with a wonderful man that has a vision who listens we show love and respect for one another and we're in a great place. Keep your head up God is able, stay in prayer!❤❤
"My stomach is touching my back at this point". I had to pause to digest that expression before it it. Such an interesting way of speaking. I like you. You are authentic, feminine, beautiful and obviously a great mother. Listen, you will be fine!!!! You will!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yea, I'm definitely not trying to be bitter and disrespectful towards someone I may have to deal with for a lot of years. The aim is peace. Being bitter and angry is a miserable feeling that I don't wish on anyone. I should know lol.
Wishing the absolute best medical care for your daughter, Cathy. I’m a chronically ill adult and love and support helps my tiny, restricted life feel meaningful and full.
Shana it's mind blowing how many women has been in and still in a situation like yours, so yes this will attract more viewers. Just prepare for the supporters and the hates. God go with u sis😊
You have a beautiful voice. It's lyrical. Therapy works! However, having a good therapist is key. In the past, my therapists only scratched the surface. My current therapist really dug in. I have learned so much about myself. Men are overrated and ghetto. Lol. I just ended a very long relationship and the freedom is awesome. However, I am still forgiving myself for the years of nonsense I tolerated.
You are holding it together. And looking good while doing it. Maybe you should get a new marriage counselor. I hope he comes to his senses and fights for this marriage. You both have invested a lot in the relationship over the years. I am all for healthy marriage. Just know that we support you regardless of the outcome. ❤
@@mrbrave29 I am listening carefully to what is said and unsaid. The husband cares about the kids. The husband could be an emotional anorexic. Shawna has not shared what her role in this. But I can’t comment too much on a marriage that is not my own or offer unsolicited advice. What I can do is pray for her and send her to channels of men who are happily married to their wives. Giving sound advice to women. If she doesn’t know what to do, I would go get mentoring people who have what I want. She does not think he committed adultery. So he has emotional intelligence enough to leave rather than do that. I am here to support her and speak life to her right now because she is reaching out and not him.
@@mrbrave29 🤨 Do you comment this under ALL the manosphere channels? _"since he a man you are gonna be bias against him"_ Says the man windmilling for a ghost... 🙄 CLASSIC PROJECTION.
Shana, what always worked for me was pulling out the yellow pages and asking my guy to pick the best contractor. He, then would do the work himself!😅 Your mom's dish looked delicious. Thank God for moms! Your sister in law us sweet for her gifts. You enjoy your babies when they come home! They will have a lot to tell you about being at their dads! It does feel good to have the home to yourself! Peace and quiet!! Rest up!! 🎉🎈🎉🎁🎉🎈🎉
Hi, Sis the best time to go the laundry mat is Monday thur Thursday…I’m happy to see you smiling and keep pushing love…We here and love you Sis…We are not nagging,We hold the man accountable.🙌🏽🫶🏽🦋🥰🥰🥰
I hope my question is to too forward, but I hope he’s supporting the children financially. Is he supporting the children? And I know you believe he’s amazing but he’s not. He would not have left in the manner that he did if he was. Just my humble opinion. And we have di same bed head!!🤪 Editing to add: I’m sincerely happy to see you showering, eating, laughing and taking care of yourself and your daughters. You’re doing gggggreat!
Right. He left without warning and settling the finances with 2 minor children. I don’t think I could ever trust a man that abandoned me and made me stress financially with kids. 😢
As a distraction, you should call this your "weekly reset series" of videos. Trust me I have been where you are! But things still needs to get done. I find it a bit therapeutic to watch our "chores" being done. Thanks for all you do...hang in there!
This message really hit home. Unfortunately, many husbands start off supportive but check out when life and parenting get tough. When a woman realizes she's handling everything herself and asks for help repeatedly, she's often labeled as nagging. It's hurtful to be seen as overcritical when we're just asking for support in an unbalanced situation.
You are so brave and still have tact about the situation. Sunday is rest day .. Take a deep breath.. get some laughs in love ❤& enjoy your babies.. one day at a time .. God has you 🙏🏼
I’m praying for the best out of your situation. I could identify with so much you spoke about when going through my divorce. I didn’t know what to say so I just watched your video and left my little like 👍🏾 on the video. I totally understand you wanting to communicate and express yourself….I kept everything to myself and tried to keep it moving like nothing was happening (0 out of 10 would not recommend).
So many of us can relate to what you're going through. You can always decide to take something down or edit it, you have been respectful in speaking about everything and there is no malice in your words. Truthfully, I never got much out of therapy. I know what's right and what's wrong and when someone has done me wrong, no amount of fixing "me" will fix that. As we get older, we become more confident in ourselves, what we want for us and our children, everything. You deserve to be treated well by your partner and vice versa. When that isn't happening, things need to change. Fixing things - I've found RUclips to be so valuable--I replaced my refrigerator thermostat ALL BY MYSELF with a couple of RUclips videos from appliance repairman.
Thank you for sharing your story. Had me evaluate my own marriage. I have been binge watching Tony Gaskins because of these videos a happily married faithful husband. So I don’t want to give unsolicited advice. So I am going to keep praying for you. I want to listen to male advice regarding how men think. The only thing I can change is me. Look out for emotional or intimacy anorexia.
Sis, take care of you!! It's good to have some time for yourself when the girls are gone...this is a time for self care because you're dealing with a lot...forget the people talking mess smh
Shana I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your story and being so open and vulnerable. What you’re going through is painful and not easy yet you choose to show up for yourself regardless. You don’t owe us anything yet you are taking the time to let us in to this part of your life. ❤ so again, thank you and continue being strong because we are here to support you no matter what and on your hardest days. 🙏🏽
Men don't like being told what to do. It really gets their panties in a bunch, let me tell you. 😂 A really great writer on the sexes is John Gray ('Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' and so many other books!) He really lays out our differences and teaches both sides how best to communicate, giving, receiving and getting what we want to have the most fulfilling relationships. I personally have learned a lot from him. btw, I'm single af so I'm not over here telling you what to do. lol Just sharing what has helped me. I'm glad you are doing and feeling better. Shana, you rock! 🌸🤘🏽💖
He thinks it’s greener in the other side, let him go. You and your children will be fine. God closes a door and opens another. ❤There is someone waiting on you girl too make you happy. Do you and your children.
If I were u I would just focus on your self care and love up on yourself. Go for spar breaks read self love books really spend time with yourself and reflect on who you are now and who you want to be in the future. When you love yourself and decenter yourself from him you will feel much better and eventually you will move on. When u are being disrespected you definitely have to choose yourself no man is worth your mental health. There will always be other men who will treat you with the respect you deserve. No meck nuh man tun u inna pappy show. Luv u self.
Sis, I've been on your fragrance channel a few times, I've always admired your beauty, intellect and your love of fragrance. You can certainly be a life coach, your speak very well.I've been a single Mom for many years, my ex husband and I split up years ago and that was one of the BEST things that ever happen to our relationship, was it hard financially with 2 young boys Absolutely, Glory be to God that my kids and I are happy and thriving, Praying for you and your girls🙏🏿🙏🏿.
I remember listening to this type of music crying when my ex left me I prayed and my heart slowly healed God bless you and it gets easier . My ex leaving me and my son was a blessing in disguise. but God pulled me through be encouraged the best has yet to come.
You’re a beautiful strong woman. I know this hasn’t been easy, but in time your heart will mend. Take it one day at a time. Sending love all the way from the shores of Hawaii 🩷
Just keep pushing through all the hard and emotional times because I know it can be hard but before you know it your girls will be all grown up and live in different place and you’ll look back and say wow what a journey but God got me and everything turned out just like God planned it!!:)🙏🏼💞😇
We watched because you are very relatable! We have all gone through it. Girl we are here for you. I love giving any advice I can to women because I don’t want them to go through what I went through. ❤
I think you should try another therapist because they can really help and help a person unpack things . We are Caribbean descent and you know how Carib. Folks don’t like therapy. 😅 I would say keep on sister . My family Member sees a trauma therapist and the therapist is a lady of color and Christian and she really helps her . I also like to watch iyanla fix my life cuz she be having some NUGGETS ❤ May the Lord continue to walk with you ❤ please continue to pray about this🙏
You’re first video popped up on my feed today. I cried when you cried and I’m so proud of you. You’re stronger than you think. Don’t stop posting god is opening new doors for you. You and your girls will thrive inshallah. Lots of love from London
Even if your husband ever does ask you to take these videos down, you’re not obligated to. You don’t need anyone else’s permission to tell your story or to talk about what they did to you.
Hey Loved One! I am a new subscriber and some of your titles caught my eye! My ex-husband walked out on me when our daughter was 4 and our son was 6!! They are young adults now and I just thank God that He brought me through all of that!! Please read the 23rd Psalm every day and just seek God for everything!! God's love and blessings to you always!! 🙏🤗💞
Shana.... you got this and will come through Stronger than imagined because GOD has you and HIS plan for you is just beginning! ❤️ Birthday Blessings to your Beautiful daughters!🎉🥳
Im here from your fragrance channel. I had no idea you had a personal page. I thought when these videos started popping up you were posting life updates on your other channel untill i watched this and you mentioned you have 2 channels. I just wanted to say i been following your fragrance page for a little over a year and i always look at you page when im wanting something for a certain occassion. You never miss in your videos and I can always count on finding what i need when i watch you! I hope you keep doing your videos cause i definantly watch them!
I thought you were very bold for telling your story which is why I subscribed. Very real and relatable… mannnyyyy women suffer in silence and your relating to a community of women that have had a tough time in marriage/relationships. So keep doing you! It’s your vlog, it’s your channel!
I'm so happy you are finding the positives in this time. And that he's actually spending time with the children instead of dropping off the face of the earth. You are a strong and amazing woman, don't let any of the haters get you. ❤
I’m just now listening to your vlog through this journey and you are so right about the importance of communication and transparency in a relationship. Lack of communication breeds an assumptions (especially for those of us that desire closeness), those assumptions breed resentments, and resentments ruin relationships. Hindsight is always 20/20 but I , like you, have been abandoned by a man who refused to open up to me. I cannot be a loving partner to a man who doesn’t allow me to do so. Communication is everything.
This is a season where the devil is attacking marriages. All the women who are experiencing this please don't give up on your marriage . It's a spirit in your spouse . Please seek GOD and pray
I agree, but after seeking God, still take both people to make the marriage work. Even when the devil is influencing your spouse, they still need to own up to their part and want to change. Both need to work. I lived this way for over 30 years. Hoping, praying, fasting, stroking his ego and his 🍆 and HE asked for the divorce out of no where.
It takes both people in the marriage to want to fight for the marriage. Both have to want to be in it...otherwise you are just fooling yourself and wasting your life and time
So true, as soon as u encourage influences to keep their personal lives out of social media, they come after u that's how you know the ones that really care and those that are just here to be entertained, the struggle is real
Thanks for sharing why you’re here. I have seen videos like these before. That didn’t make me subscribe. Shana keeps it real, vulnerable and I have been subscribed long before this issue.
True. The response from the public could possibly make it even more traumatic, stressful, and anxiety inducing. It's best to keep it in between a therapist, the court, and family and move on discreetly.
So nice to see you still taking care of yourself. I lost myself after my break up. Lost all my hair and gained so much weight. Didn’t even wear perfume anymore. Once COVID hit and I started to work from home I found myself once again. I am so glad I found myself again. My family moved away so it’s hard not having them. I am happy for you that your mother is close by you to help anyway she can. I can’t wait to see you on the other side of this journey. My girl mi give you the invite on the first video. If you are interested in meeting a new friend I am here. 🍾🥳
Nagging means he's making you repeat your needs over and over. No one "nags" about something that was handled the first time she asked.
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@mightystrong5484 A man leaves to be with another woman. I wonder why that woman doesn't nag him? Sometimes certain women are the problem.
Men call it "nagging" when they just don't want to do better..no accountability
Say it louder for the people in the back.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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I get wat u saying but sometimes we do nag, the best way to save ur marriage is to boost his ego fr instance if u want smthin... Appreciate him, boost his ego then ask for wat u want. It works all the tym.
@theemapsmash we do and this is true but if you're married to a real man and he loves you there is no need for you to have to ask him to do things several times. But, I agree everyone needs a boost and should have their ego boosted
@@Candidly_mikatravelsyou need to a lap dog not a man. Some women nag. No real man wants to be with a nag.
I'm been married for over 30 years, trust he didn't leave because you were "nagging". Marriage is hard and many times men and women, leave, because they don't want to be there for the hard parts. You will be okay, take one day at a time.
He left once he found a new toy
Giving excuses excuses again.....women keep other women single
Marriage isn't hard when both are team players. A team is not one. Like life, marriage will have difficult times. I chose to be single because I've seen and continue to see that marriage is work only for women. Women become worn out, and the men move on to younger and unburdened women.
@@GenXsinglefree If men move to other younger and unburdened women like you said, why can't you be one where men will move to? At least like you confirmed, men don't move to Steve or James
@Vinus739
I took myself off market at age 28. I retired at age 48. I would never have been able to avail myself of so many adventures if I had chosen to have a family. I come from a family of free spirits. My parents believed in creating and following your own path, not placating to societal norms. There are so many miserable people who made life altering decisions (education, career, marriage, children, religion, politics, house, etc.) based upon expectations of others. Misery loves company. I chose peace. I have strong family ties and a very small circle of loyal friends. Marriage and children aren't for everybody and shouldn't be propagandized as the happy ending for all. I'm so glad these younger generations of women are choosing their own paths. It's more GenX women than most think who never married or had children, particularly black women like myself. Social media opened my eyes to the numbers of women in my generation who are happily single and child free.
This makes me so emotional cuz my ex married another girl & never explained his motives all he told me was that I deserved better. I was hurt but like my brother told me “let him ruin someone else’s life” fast forward to today; that sucker did me a favor!!!
Anytime a man tells you that you can do better, leave immediately. They're trying to warn us!
Believe the Ex...you deserve better! But your brother sounds exactly like mine. When my ex left and I was really emotional, the first thing my older brother said was, "that's his loss". Then I told my brother, but it really hurts! Then my bro asked, "Do you even know yourself"? You're a blessing, if he couldn't handle this blessing at least he left for another person to appreciate it. And my brother was not the only person who told me that. Even my friends, both males/females, said it's best that he left. Now you will finally be open to the one God actually has for you.
So sis, now I'm here telling you, believe the Ex, you deserve better. God will surprise you with the best.
Same babe.. same happened to me. Blessing in disguise 🥸 ❤🙏🏽
They always do us a favor‼️ it just take a woman who knows her worth to realize that and move on gracefully ‼️ No stress, no tears , no worries ….. you’re better off Darling 💅🏾
@@r.e45 You’re. very kind Thank You
Nagging= Needs Not Met. Emotional Neglect, Unheard, roles/reaponsibilities not being fulfilled, no follow through, resentment, taken for granted (Some Boundary must be Set)
My husband left me years before he physically left. When he did leave I was devastated!!!!! But I refused to let him know that. I started working on my healing and filed for a divorce 6 months later and he was pissed!!!! My divorce was final two months later and from that point until now he wants to get back together. When I say I’ve never been so happy to be single. I thought it would be a struggle for me because I was never single at all. This is my first time and I don’t think I’ll even date no time soon. I’m enjoying me soooooo much! Keep doing what you doing and it’ll get better for you. Don’t rush the process because you want to completely heal. Don’t regret anything. Life is filled with lessons.
My husband has left me
with a 3year and 5 months pregnant at the time.he left the whole country saying he wasn’t happy. Fast forward 2 years now he’s begging me that he wants his family back. All to say it’ll get better with time. I’m happy in my life now.
Are y’all back together?
You left us hanging 😅
Are you taking him back ?
I don’t know your business but he doesn’t deserve you. He’ll hurt you again!
Good for you! Take care of yourself and those lovely babies!
“Oh, sh!t I could do this myself!’ Yes, Sis! Do it yourself and level up. You will expect more and receive more. God bless. ❤
Its funny how ppl like to project their issues onto others. You have been with your man long enough so people just need to trust your judgment and respect your choice in your journey. You got this. It'll be okay
God has taken you out of your comfort zone so don’t stop posting. Keep moving forward because you’re not stuck anymore 💕
I don’t understand why women put all their trust any ANY man. I am married and l don’t trust him. I go day to day. If and when he decides to leave, l have already made my plans. I don’t treat him as if l don’t trust him. I still go along like normal, but l have mentally made myself aware. The Bible even tells you to put your trust in GOD! God bless the women who trust that their husbands won’t leave.
Even if my husband did leave for someone else , they will inherit the same problem!!!!
One man said it best: "Ladies, you think the other woman will be treated better. But trust me, she will get the SAME disrespect or worse! Let her deal with all of his dysfunctions. She just did you a favor!"
@@roses4me451 Word!!!
@@roses4me451how did she do you a favour? How is it her fault when your man probably told her she was single. You can’t steal a man , he chose her. Women need to quit blaming the other woman and fight with their good for nothing men instead
You take it with the man, she’s innocent here . Not her fault
Exactly
You deserve to be with someone who acknowledges your right to express your dissatisfaction. A person who can call you a nagger is one who does not love you enough to hear you. One who can take time to actively listen to you shows genuine love.
Here comes another foolish advise. Do you even know who deserves anything? Only the one who has worked for it just like the laborer deserves his wages. You are just preaching "entitlement". Your type keep other women single...
I thought you said the comments were saying she’s nagging if I’m not wrong.
Sis, I'm going through the same things. He just left without even saying a word packed his stuff, and moved away. The hurt and betrayal it's deep. Stay strong beautiful 💪
Spineless... To deny closure is narcissistic.
Mine did the same.
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COWARDS I TELL YOU SMH
@@ThreeFingersandaThumb There is closure he left. Do I need to be spelt out the reason why, nope. Most times him walking out is a whole blessing in disguise. Shana has to go through the stages of grief. She is bright and strong. She is gonna get through this.
You have a very nice home my dear; and you deserve better than your husband. I’m sure he will attempt to return at some point, so just be strong and make decisions that are best for you and your little ones. ❤
I'm so sorry you are going through this. When your husband left and told your daughter he was leaving for goo and only told her. That was so wrong, she is a child and he should have told you not her. she is a child not an adult. You are hurting now and for you to say you would stop posting about what you are going through if he asked you to would be so wrong. Please don't let him to control you since he left you and his children,. Stand strong Shana if not for yourself then do it for you daughters. You have so many followers that have your back. We no you love him very very much. Don't let your love for him do what is best for him instead of you and your daughters. God's Blessings to you and the girls.🙏🙏🙏🙏
While I know there is always “his side, her side, and the truth”-I hope you find peace, whatever that means for you and your girls.
You’re going to love the break you get when the kids are with their dad. I be counting down to the weekends and summers. I get to sleep in!!!!!!!😂😂😂 Girl find the silver lining in all situations and keep it pushing. You never know where God is leading you. I had a similar situation 8 years ago, and now I wake up every day feeling like I’m in a dream, I am so grateful for where I am in my life.
The emotions change over time. I’m 8 months separated. I’m going to keep it moving. Praying for you
Yes. God has a beautiful plan for her.
I’m young never been married with a family and/or left but pleaseeeee hear me out, when you love yourself your life will always be evident of that self love. The people who surrounds you, the lover you choose, and the life you live… you had every right to “nag” about the things that was not working but in the same breath you took on everything in your marriage and when he felt like it, he felt you can take on everything again but ALONE this time. Throughout the video I can hear in your voice that you love HIM but it doesn’t sound like you love YOU more, May God Truly Bless You Sister🫶🏽
Truth❤
Sis. You are experiencing bring free! You don’t have to apologize for enjoying some time for yourself! You probably are feeling relief that you don’t have to guess about him and his moods! Be free and take care of yourself and your children! You are looking good and confident!🙏🏽
I know it's hard but I commend you on having such a positive attitude. So many women seem to think the world ends, but you are pushing through and it is so refreshing to see. Believe me you are helping so many women and men with your vulnerability. Keeping reaching to the stars love, you are very close to touching them🌠
Women feel the world is ending because we’re raised to build and maintain a world with a male centered in it. If we all start accepting and teaching a different way of life in modern times that evens out the expectations and and responsibilities then it won’t be so astronomical in some women’s minds
Yea we need to be having these discussions. And whatever E people say about airing dirty laundry I feel like I wish I had reached out to family and friends and shouted about the shot going on in our relationship much earlier. So much could have been addressed but we were acting like nothing was wrong and putting on a front. Black families are the worst for this. Pretending and then nothing ever changes
You are a stand up woman. If a man has put me through and keeps putting me through turmoil…the streets can keep him. From my viewpoint, it seems like your husband has no sense of direction for his life. No goals, no plans, no purpose. If he did, he would not behave the way he is behaving. All of that back-and-forth mess has to go. It’s either you’re in or you’re out. Don’t let him walk all over you. He may be doing it because he knows your weakness. He knows in spite of what he does. He can come back at any time. Just my opinion.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You can’t get what you need from him because he is not that person, period. Women make the mistake of thinking we can change them/ make them change. He is who he is. Let the fantasy of him go, deal with the reality. Wishing you peace.
Yes, I'm a new viewer and your video truly touched my heart. What you are going through is so common but you always feel like you're the only one going through. You have a new community of followers praying and hoping the best for you and your family. Continue enduring with the poise and grace that you have been and with God's help, in due time this too shall pass. Bless you!
Let him take those kids. They are both of y’all’s responsibility and if you can get the coparenting thing down you will be so happy. You need time for yourself too. He is a good father as far as I can tell so definitely come up with a schedule that allows for both of you to take responsibility and time for you to relax. The kids will appreciate it in the long run too.
Good fathers don't walk out on their family!
@@ginnys9831 the sooner people realize that no one is perfect not even you the better the world will be. He will deal with the repercussions of his actions Im sure but it’s in the best interest of those kids to maintain a proper relationship with their dad. You will screw your children up if you keep those kids away from him because your relationship deteriorated. He was a stay at home dad at one point it is obvious he is more than capable of taking care of those kids. They are in good hands and she can trust him to do what’s right by them. Raising kids is hard they need as big of a tribe as possible.
@@ginnys9831facts
YOU BETTA SET IT OFF IN HERE ,TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL ❤❤❤ im so proud of you Shana ,i hear the strength in your voice, let it flow and trust the process, i promise it gets better babe 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Exactly! About to blow up
@@anjietiamiyu1175 💣💣💣💣💣💣💣
You came across so genuine. I am not surprised that you gained many more supporters.
Yeah I was going to say at least being separated you'll get a break! Definitely not a horrible thing, I would be having a blast every weekend 😂
Hi Shana. Sending you love💞 when my daughter's father and I broke up, it showed me how much I can do myself and I eneded up working on my self esteem. You are a great mom and great person in general and when someone won't communicate (like my daughter's father) it makes things so much more difficult. I think you deserve better 💞
Speaking about this on your channel is therapeutic for you. You get to vent and express your concerns openly and honestly. The comment section will help you think and reflect and know that you have emotional support. It will do wonders toward your healing journey. You got this👍🏾
Girl I feel you! And honestly your husband sounds like a covert narcissist. My husband was the same way!! Just not doing sh!t that needed to be done. Never communicating. I just felt uneasy the entire marriage. I felt so much lighter and free after we separated. Divorce is a lonnng and emotional process - stay positive!!!
I'm getting g really tired of you girls overusing the word narcissist abd painting all guys as that. Maybe you are the narc. It's funny how your husband isn't allowed to tell his side of the story but you are allowed to falsely accuse him and demonize his character. The sisterhood needs to take accountability.
Edit you said her husband. Notice that you never heard the husbands side yet you are gonna automatically be bias against him because he's a man. You are automatically gonna falsely label him a narc because you support the sister code. I'm surprised that you didn't also use the word Gaslight against him. Just face it, you have a bias against guys. You only heard her side yet you are jumping to the conclusion that he is a narc? What if you are 1000 percent wrong about him? Since you are a part of the sisterhood, I highly doubt that you would apologize to the husband.
Then you generalize bm in a negative light on a daily basis. Yet you support the likes of se*y redd and chrisean rock. Yet you wanna talk down on bm. I hope you don't have a bm in your family.
I absolutely agree,👍and I’m quite suspicious, when someone say they’re “tired” of hearing the word narcissist and asking the VICTIM to take accountability, red flag 🚩 .😳
@mrbrave29
Men come to lay you down NOT lift you UP. Self-love NOT Self-sacrifice. Her husband put himself above his wife and family. Yet men always wanting family only to eventually walk away. Be for real.
I know why the description of your marital issues resonate with me, it’s because I had the same issue in pinpointing what it was about my husband that left me feeling invisible. The nonnegotiable for me after 28 years of sitting in a marriage without it… Was lack of emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and Communication. It left me feeling like a shriveled up, empty, lifeless person going through the motions. He carried on in our marriage like it had no effect on him. Trust me when I tell you, he will never change. He will never change no matter the years, the therapy, the begging, the whining, the yelling, and crying. He did you a favor and saved you years of colluding in an empty marriage that looked good to everybody on the outside, but lacked any warmth and empathy on the inside.
You got this, KEEP FOCUS STAY STRONG WE PRAYING for you sister.
I have had Sunday blues for as long as I can remember from going back to school as a kid to work lol it’s Terrible. I don’t plan anything on Sundays anymore I have to reset and mentally prepare for the week!
Piggy backing off what you were saying in the video about you not getting what you want or him not being vocal about why. These are just my thoughts, but I’m thinking the reason he can’t tell you why he can’t give you said “ things” whatever they may be is because he absolutely can. He just won’t. He can’t tell you why he can’t because he likely knows there’s no excuse for it and that you deserve better. He’s just not willing to give it. And if so.. that’s unfortunate. Take care love ❤️
Turn to Christ!
I love the way you love your husband and as a woman who was married 17y and divorced now 7y it was hard at first. I will sincerely tell you to pray, stop telling us on the internet because people will give you crazy advice and when he speaks listen. We tried to work out our marriage but another woman was involved so I realized I needed to move on. Thankfully now I'm with a wonderful man that has a vision who listens we show love and respect for one another and we're in a great place. Keep your head up God is able, stay in prayer!❤❤
Amen 💞
"My stomach is touching my back at this point". I had to pause to digest that expression before it it. Such an interesting way of speaking. I like you. You are authentic, feminine, beautiful and obviously a great mother. Listen, you will be fine!!!! You will!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Respect who don’t respect you? You putting yourself and kids first is all the respect you need to do.
Yea, I'm definitely not trying to be bitter and disrespectful towards someone I may have to deal with for a lot of years. The aim is peace. Being bitter and angry is a miserable feeling that I don't wish on anyone. I should know lol.
We’ve got you! Just keep vlogging and we got your support!🥰
Your relatable , there’s no fluffy … keep the videos coming we luv them 💫💪🏾
♥️ sending you love. You’ll get through this and come out of it stronger than you were.
Our daughter has a genetic disorder as well. We found out at age 7. Its on her second chromosome. I am rooting for you❤
Wishing the absolute best medical care for your daughter, Cathy. I’m a chronically ill adult and love and support helps my tiny, restricted life feel meaningful and full.
Shana it's mind blowing how many women has been in and still in a situation like yours, so yes this will attract more viewers. Just prepare for the supporters and the hates. God go with u sis😊
You have a beautiful voice. It's lyrical.
Therapy works! However, having a good therapist is key. In the past, my therapists only scratched the surface. My current therapist really dug in. I have learned so much about myself.
Men are overrated and ghetto. Lol. I just ended a very long relationship and the freedom is awesome. However, I am still forgiving myself for the years of nonsense I tolerated.
You are holding it together. And looking good while doing it. Maybe you should get a new marriage counselor. I hope he comes to his senses and fights for this marriage. You both have invested a lot in the relationship over the years. I am all for healthy marriage. Just know that we support you regardless of the outcome. ❤
Nagging because he’s not doing enough for his family. Let him go be someone else’s headache
You didn't even hear his side yet since he a man you are gonna be bias against him. Let him tell his side first. The sisterhood is too 1 sided.
@@mrbrave29The hubby don’t got a channel so this is all we can go off on.
@@nuyorkina1 this is why many husbands are falsely demonized. Hear both sides first.
@@mrbrave29 I am listening carefully to what is said and unsaid. The husband cares about the kids. The husband could be an emotional anorexic. Shawna has not shared what her role in this. But I can’t comment too much on a marriage that is not my own or offer unsolicited advice. What I can do is pray for her and send her to channels of men who are happily married to their wives. Giving sound advice to women. If she doesn’t know what to do, I would go get mentoring people who have what I want. She does not think he committed adultery. So he has emotional intelligence enough to leave rather than do that. I am here to support her and speak life to her right now because she is reaching out and not him.
@@mrbrave29 🤨 Do you comment this under ALL the manosphere channels? _"since he a man you are gonna be bias against him"_ Says the man windmilling for a ghost... 🙄 CLASSIC PROJECTION.
Shana, what always worked for me was pulling out the yellow pages and asking my guy to pick the best contractor. He, then would do the work himself!😅
Your mom's dish looked delicious. Thank God for moms! Your sister in law us sweet for her gifts. You enjoy your babies when they come home! They will have a lot to tell you about being at their dads! It does feel good to have the home to yourself! Peace and quiet!! Rest up!! 🎉🎈🎉🎁🎉🎈🎉
Hi, Sis the best time to go the laundry mat is Monday thur Thursday…I’m happy to see you smiling and keep pushing love…We here and love you Sis…We are not nagging,We hold the man accountable.🙌🏽🫶🏽🦋🥰🥰🥰
Yes girl, break up content is very popular. I knew u were going to get nuff views on it
I hope my question is to too forward, but I hope he’s supporting the children financially. Is he supporting the children? And I know you believe he’s amazing but he’s not. He would not have left in the manner that he did if he was. Just my humble opinion. And we have di same bed head!!🤪
Editing to add:
I’m sincerely happy to see you showering, eating, laughing and taking care of yourself and your daughters. You’re doing gggggreat!
Right. He left without warning and settling the finances with 2 minor children. I don’t think I could ever trust a man that abandoned me and made me stress financially with kids. 😢
@@amyV10844 NEV-VER!!!!
Also my opinion 💯💗
As a distraction, you should call this your "weekly reset series" of videos. Trust me I have been where you are! But things still needs to get done. I find it a bit therapeutic to watch our "chores" being done. Thanks for all you do...hang in there!
A lot of men get married to have a mom and no adult responsibilities 🤔
This message really hit home. Unfortunately, many husbands start off supportive but check out when life and parenting get tough. When a woman realizes she's handling everything herself and asks for help repeatedly, she's often labeled as nagging. It's hurtful to be seen as overcritical when we're just asking for support in an unbalanced situation.
He is showing you who he is, you just want to see the good sides that you experienced and sort of block the negativity. God Bless!!
It's easier for people to judge than to think. I could never voice my opinion on a marriage I wasn't in.
You are so brave and still have tact about the situation. Sunday is rest day .. Take a deep breath.. get some laughs in love ❤& enjoy your babies.. one day at a time .. God has you 🙏🏼
I’m praying for the best out of your situation. I could identify with so much you spoke about when going through my divorce. I didn’t know what to say so I just watched your video and left my little like 👍🏾 on the video. I totally understand you wanting to communicate and express yourself….I kept everything to myself and tried to keep it moving like nothing was happening (0 out of 10 would not recommend).
So many of us can relate to what you're going through. You can always decide to take something down or edit it, you have been respectful in speaking about everything and there is no malice in your words. Truthfully, I never got much out of therapy. I know what's right and what's wrong and when someone has done me wrong, no amount of fixing "me" will fix that. As we get older, we become more confident in ourselves, what we want for us and our children, everything. You deserve to be treated well by your partner and vice versa. When that isn't happening, things need to change.
Fixing things - I've found RUclips to be so valuable--I replaced my refrigerator thermostat ALL BY MYSELF with a couple of RUclips videos from appliance repairman.
Men use that term to gaslight. Nagging is code for shut up and endure in silence.
It’s absolutely okay to speak your truth. We’re here to love on you and support you. Keep shining and lean on us when you need to. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. Had me evaluate my own marriage. I have been binge watching Tony Gaskins because of these videos a happily married faithful husband. So I don’t want to give unsolicited advice. So I am going to keep praying for you. I want to listen to male advice regarding how men think. The only thing I can change is me. Look out for emotional or intimacy anorexia.
Having a little time to yourself is a good thing ❤️
Sis, take care of you!! It's good to have some time for yourself when the girls are gone...this is a time for self care because you're dealing with a lot...forget the people talking mess smh
Shana I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your story and being so open and vulnerable. What you’re going through is painful and not easy yet you choose to show up for yourself regardless. You don’t owe us anything yet you are taking the time to let us in to this part of your life. ❤ so again, thank you and continue being strong because we are here to support you no matter what and on your hardest days. 🙏🏽
Love you Shana ❤ you’re amazing and stronger than you think
Men don't like being told what to do. It really gets their panties in a bunch, let me tell you. 😂
A really great writer on the sexes is John Gray ('Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' and so many other books!) He really lays out our differences and teaches both sides how best to communicate, giving, receiving and getting what we want to have the most fulfilling relationships. I personally have learned a lot from him. btw, I'm single af so I'm not over here telling you what to do. lol Just sharing what has helped me.
I'm glad you are doing and feeling better. Shana, you rock! 🌸🤘🏽💖
It gets their panties in a bunch? Dang!!!
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT...YOUR HUSBAND DID NOT LEAVE BECAUSE OF SOMETHING YOU DID!!!!!!!
He thinks it’s greener in the other side, let him go. You and your children will be fine. God closes a door and opens another. ❤There is someone waiting on you girl too make you happy. Do you and your children.
A Husband who doesnt want to be needed is NOT a Husband. We all give and take.
If I were u I would just focus on your self care and love up on yourself. Go for spar breaks read self love books really spend time with yourself and reflect on who you are now and who you want to be in the future. When you love yourself and decenter yourself from him you will feel much better and eventually you will move on. When u are being disrespected you definitely have to choose yourself no man is worth your mental health. There will always be other men who will treat you with the respect you deserve. No meck nuh man tun u inna pappy show. Luv u self.
Sis, I've been on your fragrance channel a few times, I've always admired your beauty, intellect and your love of fragrance. You can certainly be a life coach, your speak very well.I've been a single Mom for many years, my ex husband and I split up years ago and that was one of the BEST things that ever happen to our relationship, was it hard financially with 2 young boys Absolutely, Glory be to God that my kids and I are happy and thriving, Praying for you and your girls🙏🏿🙏🏿.
I remember listening to this type of music crying when my ex left me I prayed and my heart slowly healed God bless you and it gets easier .
My ex leaving me and my son was a blessing in disguise. but God pulled me through be encouraged the best has yet to come.
You’re a beautiful strong woman. I know this hasn’t been easy, but in time your heart will mend. Take it one day at a time. Sending love all the way from the shores of Hawaii 🩷
Just keep pushing through all the hard and emotional times because I know it can be hard but before you know it your girls will be all grown up and live in different place and you’ll look back and say wow what a journey but God got me and everything turned out just like God planned it!!:)🙏🏼💞😇
I don't know what went wrong but don't even think of taking him back I am talking from experience.
We watched because you are very relatable! We have all gone through it. Girl we are here for you. I love giving any advice I can to women because I don’t want them to go through what I went through. ❤
I think you should try another therapist because they can really help and help a person unpack things . We are Caribbean descent and you know how Carib. Folks don’t like therapy. 😅
I would say keep on sister . My family
Member sees a trauma therapist and the therapist is a lady of color and Christian and she really helps her .
I also like to watch iyanla fix my life cuz she be having some NUGGETS ❤
May the Lord continue to walk with you ❤ please continue to pray about this🙏
You’re first video popped up on my feed today. I cried when you cried and I’m so proud of you. You’re stronger than you think. Don’t stop posting god is opening new doors for you. You and your girls will thrive inshallah. Lots of love from London
Even if your husband ever does ask you to take these videos down, you’re not obligated to. You don’t need anyone else’s permission to tell your story or to talk about what they did to you.
Hey Loved One! I am a new subscriber and some of your titles caught my eye! My ex-husband walked out on me when our daughter was 4 and our son was 6!! They are young adults now and I just thank God that He brought me through all of that!! Please read the 23rd Psalm every day and just seek God for everything!! God's love and blessings to you always!! 🙏🤗💞
New subbie! You got this girl! I left a narcissist after 28 years, and 6 divorce is awful, but I'm better off without him.
Shana.... you got this and will come through Stronger than imagined because GOD has you and HIS plan for you is just beginning! ❤️
Birthday Blessings to your Beautiful daughters!🎉🥳
Im here from your fragrance channel. I had no idea you had a personal page. I thought when these videos started popping up you were posting life updates on your other channel untill i watched this and you mentioned you have 2 channels.
I just wanted to say i been following your fragrance page for a little over a year and i always look at you page when im wanting something for a certain occassion. You never miss in your videos and I can always count on finding what i need when i watch you! I hope you keep doing your videos cause i definantly watch them!
Congrats on 6k Shana, I always appreciate your transparency with us. Hope that you’re taking care of yourself.
I thought you were very bold for telling your story which is why I subscribed. Very real and relatable… mannnyyyy women suffer in silence and your relating to a community of women that have had a tough time in marriage/relationships. So keep doing you! It’s your vlog, it’s your channel!
Yes I understand yes sometimes you need quiet time as a mother I will keep you in my prayers beautiful lady you got this
I was one of those that subd. Ur vid just came across my feed. I'm really sorry that ur going through what ur going through. I hope it gets easier.
Girl don’t feel guilty love on yourself you need that I remember feeling the same way and always remember God got you ❤🙏🏿
Reminds me of my NYC days when the washers and dryers were never working and I was just wasting my money 😂
I'm so happy you are finding the positives in this time. And that he's actually spending time with the children instead of dropping off the face of the earth. You are a strong and amazing woman, don't let any of the haters get you. ❤
Girl we're here for you!
You are strong Hun I promise you.... it will get better ❤✨
Shana, you are doing okay! Keeping moving forward. You got this moment by moment, day by day!
I’m just now listening to your vlog through this journey and you are so right about the importance of communication and transparency in a relationship.
Lack of communication breeds an assumptions (especially for those of us that desire closeness), those assumptions breed resentments, and resentments ruin relationships.
Hindsight is always 20/20 but I , like you, have been abandoned by a man who refused to open up to me. I cannot be a loving partner to a man who doesn’t allow me to do so.
Communication is everything.
This is a season where the devil is attacking marriages. All the women who are experiencing this please don't give up on your marriage . It's a spirit in your spouse . Please seek GOD and pray
Tell that to her husband.
I agree, but after seeking God, still take both people to make the marriage work. Even when the devil is influencing your spouse, they still need to own up to their part and want to change. Both need to work. I lived this way for over 30 years. Hoping, praying, fasting, stroking his ego and his 🍆 and HE asked for the divorce out of no where.
It takes both people in the marriage to want to fight for the marriage. Both have to want to be in it...otherwise you are just fooling yourself and wasting your life and time
@@jaybaptiste1999 I’m going through this now.
@jaybaptiste1999 girl i know exactly what you mean.😢
God bless you.. im an OG from your perfume review channel. My the Good Lord be with you🙏🏽
Please don’t, People don’t really care they only like the drama.
So true, as soon as u encourage influences to keep their personal lives out of social media, they come after u that's how you know the ones that really care and those that are just here to be entertained, the struggle is real
Thanks for sharing why you’re here. I have seen videos like these before. That didn’t make me subscribe. Shana keeps it real, vulnerable and I have been subscribed long before this issue.
The only comment I’ve seen so far with some damn common sense.
True. The response from the public could possibly make it even more traumatic, stressful, and anxiety inducing. It's best to keep it in between a therapist, the court, and family and move on discreetly.
So nice to see you still taking care of yourself. I lost myself after my break up. Lost all my hair and gained so much weight. Didn’t even wear perfume anymore. Once COVID hit and I started to work from home I found myself once again. I am so glad I found myself again. My family moved away so it’s hard not having them. I am happy for you that your mother is close by you to help anyway she can. I can’t wait to see you on the other side of this journey. My girl mi give you the invite on the first video. If you are interested in meeting a new friend I am here. 🍾🥳
Just subscribed to your fragrance channel, love it!💖💖
9:00 I saw your videos in RUclips and the titles grab my attention.
You got this especially when you find out you can do it on your own babeee nothing can stop!!! Stay strong prayed up and love up on them babies❤