Dear BLACK people: We NEED to talk NOW!
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
- Dear BLACK people: We NEED to talk NOW!
Strap in, folks. It's going to be a bumpy ride. This week, prepare for a no-holds barred conversation on the state of affairs in the black community, more specifically our aversion to accountability, our constant gatekeeping of blackness and our dismissal of anyone who has a problem with our bad behaviour.
This is a long overdue conversation that I've been wanting to have on my channel.
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DEAR BLACK PEOPLE: WE NEED TO TALK
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I can't wait until she experienced racism 😅😅😅😅😅
Wow. You are on the internet hoping I experience racism. Says a lot. For the record, I already have. Right here in the good ol' US of A. Guess what? It doesn't make me hate people or move any differently. I hope you never experience it. Because....why would I want you or anyone else to. That's not something you wish on people. Take care.
I would bet that she's telling the truth about experiencing racism. However, selling out black people is lucrative.
Think back. Have you experienced rascim? I mean someone actually hating you because you're black and not someone hating you cause you're rude or stupid or whatever. I'm sure the answer to that is no
These kinds of people always grandstand and talk down to others, yet they’re so quick to wish harm on others they disagree with. She isn’t saying these things because she hasn’t experienced racism, she’s saying it because she’s reached acceptance and isn’t living in constant anger and resentment. It’s the mature thing to do, but you’ll come to understand that once you grow up.
Preach!!!!!
Remembering the past is good, living in it is bad.
Amen. Well said!
Omg thanks for saying that…some older blacks, indoctrinated their kids, now their grandkids with falsehoods that whites hate blacks, we mistreated as slaves…….then Jim Crow….it’s so wrong to that to create this in new generations.
THIS. THIS. THIS.
Remembering the past is one thing. Learning from our past mistakes and doing our best to NOT repeat them is what makes us better human beings and it will make us a better country. Our problem in this country is the Democrat Party that continually fans the flames of racial tension because that is how they get black folks to vote for them. They claim Republicans are racist but they never mention the long history of racism that the Democrat Party was founded on. The Democrat Party fought for slavery. The Democrat Party founded the KKK. The Democrat Party undermined The Reconstruction. The Democrat Party wrote and implemented the Jim Crow laws. The Democrat Party voted against Civil Rights laws. The Democrat Party was responsible for the destruction of the black family by instituting the "war on poverty" which drove the black father out of the black household. These are NOT my opinions. They are facts. Look them up.
Great life advice for EVERYONE no matter what they have been through. We all must grow ❤🌱
Wealth is Quiet, Rich is Loud, Poor is Flashy.
Well said!
Wow! I am sooooo stealing this statement!...lol 100%true
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
To add: places where wealth is quiet : the library (knowledge is wealth), wealthy neighbourhoods, even the cemetery, even God Is quiet and he allows people to gain wealth.
Creative is Quiet and Flashy.
Whenever I hear someone say "you're not black enough." I always think of Carlton saying "Being black isn't something im trying to be its who I am."
As a white guy I leaned a lot about this stuff through fresh prince as a kid. Carlton remind me of a black kid that I know that people would make comments to because he acted “to white”. That show fought off black stereotypes and showed how ridiculous it is to say someone “acts black”. Sadly most shows don’t have these great messages anymore.
They not speaking of color their speaking culture and the characteristic of that culture.
My question to you is this behavior you’re complaining about where did it came from?
When they were in Africa did they behave this way and two where was it learn.
Facts. Truth is everything
What’s the plan of action
Best statement I have heard "I would rather have $5,000 in a plastic bag than $100 in a $5,000 Birkin bag".
Mattie McDaniel of gone with the wind said she'd rather make $7,000 playing a maid than$7 a week being a maid. I admire her.
I know. A former co-worker discovered that I formerly worked in the high-end retail business. She started talking about her daughter and how much she loved designer handbags and wanted her mother to purchase one for her. The daughter was barely working part-time. My friendly advice to the mother was, "If she doesn't have the cash amount equal to the cost of the handbag on a monthly basis, then it's not a good idea to have the handbag." The mother thought for a moment and conceded that having an expensive bag in her current financial situation was not wise or practical. she said that she would have a serious discussion with her daughter. It concerns me that there are Black people who believe t by at they need designer clothes and accessories to impress someone. If you don't have money in the bank then all of the designer items you have mean nothing. How much is that handbag that you paid with your maxed out credit card? Tell me you aren't paying $7,000 for that $5,000 handbag by the end of the year. I bet a lot of people are, and it's sad.
Calling someone a racist used to mean something. Now they use it for anybody that disagrees with them. When I heard a rather famous black person say all Republicans are racist that's when I knew it had lost all meaning.
That's racist.
same as "gaslighting", thanks to those influencers who use it when people disagrees with them, my younger sister use it as well whenever I tell her she's wrong over something, she would even use it to escape doing house chores like wtf, "you have to properly clean this part of the house, it's your job", then she's like "it's not ever that dirty, stop gaslighting me" lol smh
Racism has zero to do with feelings. It's a system set in place before we're born. Racism is insidious in nature. Racism is the method of manipulating your enemy into believing they are apart of your system while in all actuality maintaining the status quo above your counterparts.
@user-xi5ru3fp4b Uhg, therapy speak. Gaslighting, toxic, DARVO, and my personal favorite, narcissist. People use all this therapy speak, usually incorrectly thanks to social media, especially short-form content. 9/10 I think using short-form media for educational content that's related to medical or mental health topics is a REALLY bad idea for this exact reason. Therapists need to stop making this kind of Tik-Toc content.
The irony of that is that Republicans were literally the party who wanted to abolish slavery; Democrats were the party of slavery and the kkk and even Biden's mentor was in KKK leadership as a "grand cyclops".
I’m black and I agree. This victim mentality is our biggest shackle. It holds us back more than the racists do.
And the biggest racist are not white.
Let's be honest, shall we?
Who needs you?
The only people who need her are those who still play the victim.
Especially since the “racists” attacks are mostly made up these days.
When other groups complain they get money. But when it comes to BLKS you wanna use the fraudulent "victim" term
That gentleman in the quote clip was pure gold. "Being late... is about being an egotistical person who thinks they are better than others"
His RUclips channel is called Ruined Leon. He is great!
I’m 51 years old. When I was in high school I was called “house n$$@a, sell out, white girl lover,” simply because of my demeanor (how dare my late beloved mother demand and ensured good manners out of me growing up), my love for classic rock ( I do like other genres),and having white friends(I had friends who were other races as well). That was over 30 years ago. This has become generational. We have to do better. When we ostracize, we divide. When we divide, we become less. I love my community. We have a deep American culture that is overshadowed by nonsense that doesn’t matter. Let’s do better!
Thank you for your post. Well said!
It keeps the status quo going. That's the only reason I can think of for the negativity in our communities highlighted day in and out
"I’m 51 years old. When I was in high school I was called “house n$$@a, sell out, white girl lover,” Yep, sounds familiar. But you did not mention WHO was saying these things. I already know: other black people. This always bothered me because everyone else in my (black upper middle class) neighborhood was like me, but black people bussed in from other areas were much different. Same school. Add in "oreo" too.
I am a Black 51 year old male and I love classic rock too. 😊
I'm black and I am so happy this is being talked about.
I agree
This issue sounds almost the same as the leftist and TQ+...
As a gay dude it feels shit being tossed in the same boat as these crazy people, feels the same for you.
What needs to be DONE more-so than talked about is: black leaders of movements, court officials, mayors, governors, and law enforcement hierarchy all need to be scrubbed and overhauled! If you travel from coast to coast you could see not one black representative has done a thing for America let alone our own people!
Youre a liar
Let the roast begin 😂 jk
Thank you very much for this!👏👏 I’m Nigerian, many of us got bullied in school by African Americans for caring about school and getting good grades.
This was shocking to me because why would wanting to be the best student and getting into the best universities be “acting white”😳
I respect Nigerians so much...particularly the value they put on education. I read Yvonne Orji's book and she had me cracking up talking about how she told her parents she wanted to be a comedian...and they responded, "so you want to be a jester!" LOLOLOL....I'm proud of you. Keep shining!
I’m Ghanaian American and many black Americans bullied me for being african (they called me African booty scratcher, would speak to me in a stereotypical African accent, and they would laugh once they heard my last name). They would also bully me for my dark skin and would call me “too black” and would insult other dark skinned black Americans by calling them African as an insult. Surprisingly, majority of the love, positivity, and compliments that I received (not just for my physical or arbitrary traits like color and culture, but for my abilities) came from white people. With the way the current black community portrays it, they make it seem like every person with white skin is the spawn of Satan himself. However, it’s imperative to know that we should not define people by their color, but instead, by the content of their character.
I had a coworker who was from Ghana, he told me his daughter experienced something similar. I felt bad, he told me that was worse than racism
If they value education and such why is ur country in shambles
That’s funny I never saw any Nigerian or Caribbean students in my school days.
A lot of you recent immigrants need to get over your complexes.
Blk America opened up the door for you. Prior to 1965 Blk immigration to America was to the right of the decimal point on a percentage basis.
If you haven’t cleaned up your houses first then how can you tell me how to clean up mine. Catch my drift.
Don't buy a $300 purse, buy a $20 purse and put $280 in it! That's the way!
These days a $280 purse is the same as $20, they're both made of plastic in China, the idiots that pay $280 are just getting ripped off!
Finally we have black people telling it like it is. Wake up people listen to these educated black people. The make sense in what they are saying.
Perhaps if we stop pretending there is a nationwide "black community", things might be understood differently. Black people who grew up in the middle or upper middle class and became successful are not a tiny number. We do not complain about being oppressed, we work hard to get things we want, and we have personal values that allow us to keep those things and our convictions.
This. And the socialist mentality of reparations and equity. Earn for yourself, get self respect. The world isnt against black people.
Nothing provides self worth like earning legit money, buying legit stuff, paying legit rent. Knowing you are self sufficient. The sooner people lose their oppression chips, regardless of what category, the sooner they will realise the only thing holding them back is themselves.
That's the big problem. Black people act like they're in a cult, and it's a serious issue because the successful ones feel like they have to carry the burden of the non successful ones and co-sign their bad behavior just because they're part of the same "community". You end up all being lumped in together whether good or bad.
You are a small minority, the vast majority are exactly what she is talking of.
@@imdinma9826 Prove that. The small minority is the number of videos which are showing the ridiculously feral behaviors of ghetto blacks. The middle class and above (blacks) do not make the news because they are either anchors on the broadcasts or living in comfort and safety in suburbs and gated communities like most Americans do who do not want to be around that nonsense.
I’m successful but still fight to correct the obvious corruption. It’s weird to me how all of u act as if that is taboo! These ppl can’t judge us. They literally aren’t in any position to judge us.
i always say, the first step to fixing a problem is admitting that we have a problem.
This is true but we've been having the same types of discussion about "problems" for 100 years. Admitting there is a problem is just a treadmill at this point. Deeper, more rigorous and uncomfortable analysis is called for.
I grew up among blk people of all walks of life, neighborhood, school, employment, army, prison.....I can safely say the must out in the open racist people I know were blk people, hey I know lots of kool blk folks but even they like to hold on to that victim card, maybe it's just for conversation, I can't say because can't read their minds. I still love anybody that holds their own no matter what color they are.
@@cavaleerwhy analyze anymore? Analysis is for looking over the data. There's nothing to analyze if blacks aren't enacting change.
@@cavaleer not really. we have been in denial and blaming others for our problems
Libral politicians have caused more harm to modern black America than the conservative anti-Black agenda
I am a migrant, Hispanic, female, arrived in 2007. No English, no guidance financially or emotionally from my parents. I hated to be broke. I started to question how does the rich people get rich in America? The day I stopped feeling sorry about my situation and took responsibility for my situation everything changed. I learned about how credit works, investments, created saving goals. Today, I don’t have student loans, no debts, assets, I actively manage my investment portfolio. The government won’t save you! The government will tell you why you “can’t” succeed. People are in awe when I don’t play along with the systemic racism narrative. It is up to you to change your reality!
It really does feel like race relations have taken a turn for the worse since social media activism became a thing. I’ve lost more than a few friendships with African Americans due to this mindset, and it deeply saddens me. I want people of all races to get along, because at the end of the day we’re all just people.
I’m an old white man. I appreciate this thoughtful position. The truth is that we really need each other. Whatever the color of the skin. We all have our failings and flaws and misconceptions…etc. Politicians and race-baiters have been working to divide us by the color of our skin. They do this for their own personal gain and there are lots of folks on all sides of the issue who don’t seem to have the ability to think this through.
Yes yes yes
I genuinely agree. I don’t like the separation of everyone through the terms black, white, etc. It can be used to describe, but to group people together into a collective? It’s become so deeply rooted globally that it’s almost impossible to get rid of the mentality now.
There’s only one race that should matter to everyone on this planet: The human race
YES! MERICA!!!
@Chief Sitting American dreams are what we live for
Yes 💯
I LOVE THIS!!! I'm a black woman in my 40's. I'm so tired of the lack of accountability and the entitlement that people have. I think the stimulus checks during Covid only compounded these issues for those looking for handouts.
Thsnk you. Woman here also.....agree 100%.
I agree too! Being honest, I thought about the stimulus checks enabling this discord when they were given out, but I forgot about it until reading this comment. I think the entitlement surfaced during COVID!
It's called WELFARE and AFFIRMATIVE ACTION.........same shit been happening for YEARS ! It is NOT new !
That is so 100% correct. I have proof. My wife works with a bunch of hairdressers and they got the unemployment stimulus checks and continued to get them when going back to work. Illegal. The government found out and did nothing. Entitlement
O Lord another house colored gal!!
Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom. Society is really a mess. We need more people like you speaking truth and common sense. It’s a bit rare today.
As a Native American, i totally agree. I say a lot of what you're saying about my people. We need to move forward and not stay in the past.
The past still must be corrected, i am not saying everything she said was wrong, i just think she forgot to mention how unfair the system is, l read all the beautiful comments and it is clear most of you don’t live in the world that exists, she sounds more like she is bashing us and not uplifting us, the past is not an excuse but the cause your now seeing the effects , it would be more helpful to encourage, I think she lost the people she is trying to help, just my opinion, caused she lost me.
@@jerryyoung7837 I am Vietnamese. I experience discrimination from multiple communities even the black. What I don't like about society is that all you remember is the Black communities past. My parents were from southern Vietnam. My mother had to eat once a month and all she got was fruit she found on the side of the rode. Sure the black community had it's hard time but other people had parents that lived in poverty not just the black community. I get the idea your trying to say but there is more than just the civil war. The crazy thing about this situation is that the Vietnam War ended AFTER the Civil War and Civil rights movement.
@@maskedshadow2458 was your family or ancestors ever enslaved?
@@mcfact1827 I mentioned that my parents lived in poverty, but did you know that if you lived in poverty you were treated as a slave. You had to work minimum wages and were forced to work any job even if you disliked it. Also a counter point, did you know that in Cambodia thousands of Vietnamese people are being executed today. I had aunts and uncles flee all over the country and I remember the hushed tones about what is happening there. Think for a second... are your people being executed for existing?
@@maskedshadow2458 you don't know me, please don't assume. Were your ancestors enslaved for over 250 years / 👉chattel slavery?
Please only answer yes or No
A lot of our people are lost, unfortunately. I too have been criticized and mocked for “talking white” and being interested in things that would be considered non black. Whatever the hell that means. When did we start embracing and promoting ignorance and nonsense? 🤦🏾♂️
"Embracing & promoting ignorance" That is a common trait in our culture today. I'm not talking about just black culture, but American culture as a whole. People just want to do whatever makes them happy & engage in any degeneracy that they feel like at any given time. So they seek out other people who promote their degeneracy & call it "an alternative lifestyle" when in reality it is just degeneracy, nothing more.
Well said
Same here..was so glad to be in a new white.jewish school where it was cool to speak proper English ..just sharing my experience 💯
That's the situation that is most heartbreaking to me, people that try their hardest to make a good life for themselves being criticized and shunned, sometimes by their own family members. That is not exclusively a problem for black people but seems to be particularly common. That is probably the most important thing that needs to stop. A lot of us, regardless of color, need to rethink our whole concept of heros and villains.
And judging each other by the colour of our skins instead of the character of our hearts.
Incredible dialogue on a subject I live with daily. My halfblack son thinks about racism constantly. Thank you for your common sense approach.
I AM SORRY YOUR SON IS EXPERIENCING THIS. IT IS IN NO WAY RIGHT. I WISH I COULD MAKE THIS TYPE OF THINGS STOP!
Hey, I've just discovered your channel and I LOVE it! I'm a white, 68 year old woman from the UK and I wish we had more people like you both in the US and the UK - because you speak common sense and have great values, which apply whether you're black or white. I really loved what you said in this vlog. Thank you!
I love how the community loves making fun of "nerdy and white" things, but then they complain about how they aren't "represented" in those spaces. We always want in on other cultures and scenes that we spent years mocking
Neil DeGrasse Tyson.
Yep, like the put downs of the British Royal family then complaints that the balcony after the coronation, featuring a family, was 'terribly white'.
Meanwhile most of them can’t read or write smh
So true.
"We want representation!"
Meets nerdy black guy who likes anime, nature and archery.
"What you tryna be WHITE for?!"
Ehh. No one wants in on anything but you're pointing to some very specific psychological syndromes that no one likes to dig into because they are bedrock habits, all derived from the superficial concepts of "black"/"white".
I’m Latina and growing up I was called a coconut- similar to Oreo. White on the inside too. It’s similar in the Mexican culture as well. It’s really a shame when cultures claim super toxic traits as parts of their culture. And if you’re not down to be vulgar and violent, and you would prefer to be civilized, then you’re a sell out and they don’t claim you. It’s a shame that being civilized and educated is not associated with colored cultures, and is instead deemed as “white”. Why is being a self respecting, educated and civilized person only a white thing?? Makes me sad
Also, it’s really wild how much people play the race card now. People will act absolutely crazy and so rude and disrespectful and then when you don’t want to engage with them, they say it’s bc you’re racist or even homophobic or transphobic now. When it absolutely has nothing to do with that and everything to do with their behavior. I think, for all the groups of people who want so badly to be respected in society, they need to act like they deserve that respect because they are respectable people. Many people would listen to someone who is well spoken and respectful and speaks with intellect. Like MLK, that’s why his speech was so impactful. Bc it was well said and delivered without vulgarity. People will listen to reason if you come with true reason.
@jessicacruz2974, Bullseye. Perfectly said. As a white guy, I am old school college educated. Finished in 1986, but I never stop learning. One thing I remember from way back when I was around 13. A friend posed this silly question. Other than death and taxes, what is the thing we all HAVE to do? "Choose" Life is about choices. we can't escape making them, until the day we die. What we become as persons and as a Nation is the outcome of our choices. People may have called you a Coconut, or others Oreo, Cracker, Dego, Pollack, Jew, etc, but I would like to say, that you are NOT your race or nationality, but to me you are a beautiful HUMAN with a beautiful and insightful mind. What race am I? Human-- "hey look, we are the same!!!!"
@@mlasch1478 yes! Totally agree! I thought the whole fight against racism was to see people for who they are, not their skin color. Now it seems like all we’ve done is reversed the racism. Just strange things to observe as to where the fight against racism has lead us
I love Latinas 🥰
Excellent point, and very well stated.
Thank you for this. TIME TO TELL THE TRUTH!!! Hardship is real in ALL Communities. Time out for victim mentality. If anyone in your group can do it, then you can do it too. 🎉
I just absolutely love your content. You hit the nail on the head. I have never joined a channel on RUclips but this content is gold and you deserve it
Welcome aboard! Thank you so much for saying that. It really means a lot to me. I am so happy to see people engaging with my content and joining as members. I have so much planned for you all. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Love your channel and wanted to tell you how flawless your skin is and what a gorgeous person you were inside and out.
That’s the same problem here in Houston. They open up grocery stores in the “food desert” just for Felontavious and goons to rob it. Then they wonder why there’s no businesses in the area 🤦🏿♀️
Lmaooooo the way I just squawked at "felontavious." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You talking about big chains or the local market (Corner-Liquor) stores flourish in those areas
Girl this video is awesome, just the other day some one in my community, by the way I'm in the bahamas, like I said people are quit to judge, they will say girl you change,or you think you better than us,those kind of people I cut them off because if you run on it will blow out of control. The best thing to do is not to answer, I feel like we need to travel and explore the ways other people behave may be we can learn how to adapt to changes
@@Wideout4 No the city made a deal with HEB (a family operated well known Texas grocer) to open in 3rd ward. Additionally, an Aldi has been opened (still is thankfully) but the community isn’t taking care of any of it. It was already an HEB nearby that was ransacked smh
Glocktavious up
As a white person w natural curly hair, some black girl told me I was cultural appropriating her culture……..my hair is naturally curly, since when did cultures own a hairstyle? It’s just getting ridiculous, me being white has never given me any special treatment whatsoever and to be told that I’m the reason racism exists is upsetting
Not sure how the two incidences are connected but you've definitely received better treatment being white. Just because you don't see the favor doesn't mean it's not there.
@@Alexa-uk8ljOn the other hand, just because you think others are getting favors doesn't mean that they are. If you think that you are oppressed, your mind will find examples validating your beliefs everywhere.
It's like religious people, who see God's hand in everything. Doesn't mean it's actually there.
It’s not a hairstyle it’s a hair type
@@Alexa-uk8ljhow do you know how Shes been treated all her life? You dont know anything about her except she is white with curly hair. It makes no sense to tell someone that their life has been privileged when you know NOTHING about it. Your profiling based on the color of someone skin something that needs to stop on all sides.
@@Alexa-uk8lj What a ridiculous statement.
This is absolutely spot on, i live in a middle class suburban neighborhood and most of the black people here are professionals and proper people. We've recently had a lower class black family move in across the street and, completely inconsiderate to anyone else, honk the car horn over and over to have someone come out instead of ringing their doorbell and are loud and obnoxious yelling and playing loud ass bass music at all hours while leaving or coming home in their car. Everyone has a problem with it in our quiet community, says it's hood rat behavior, etc but no one will say anything because of fear of being called racist or something similar. I used to work in a city job where i was the only white person there and was a supervisor, based on merit and nothing else, and yet whenever i would need to write up an employee (which i hate doing) the race card immediately came out. I was the minority there! Professional victims is what i saw. Funnily enough, the one guy i supervised that actually took responsibility was an old school black man from Pittsburgh, yeah he argued his case, but he admitted when he did something wrong and took responsibility. I had an infinite amount more respect for that guy than any of my other employees that lied and made every excuse under the sun.
The community should come together and confront them about their behavior. I certainly wouldn't want my quiet community turned upside down by these clowns. I also hate the loud, booming music and excessive honking. You truly can't take the hood out some people.
This is such a well put together video. A beautiful black lady articulating every thought I have . You literally could not put it more perfectly . 😎
You are so right. My Ethiopian girlfriend always says that, most of the Blacks "by heritage", those who never lived in Africa, are so cringe.... The worst of them are the American Afro centrists, they cosplay as Africans, spend their lives talking about Africa, but none of them actually wants to go back to Africa, and 99% of them never even spend a week on the African continent.
Who cares what she thinks. She fled Ethiopia
@@mcfact1827 you don't know whether she fled or something else. You assume things without knowing and you assume others don't care. I care.
@@mcfact1827 Another racist and paternalistic comment, from an ignoramus who believes that all Africans want to flee their natives countries, and live abroad in some paradise land. As a matter of fact, she didn't flee her country, but merely spend considerable amount of time oversea for business purpose.....
@@chongtak That burnt him right.
Of corse they never spent a week on the “African” continent
White supremacy controls the ways we go over there and it’s so expensive most cannot and don’t
Stfu. Please
First time on this channel and it’s refreshing to hear someone who really cares for her community.
Thank you. I honestly do.
@@ThisBahamianGyal idk if you heard of this story, but a huge blm activist in the uk, was saying defund the police, that let us community police and etc, she gets shot at a party, her entire crew gets loud says it was a hit by the whites, and then turns out it was her community, and everyone goes quiet, no one snitching, etc, she got brain damage, that shes in a coma for, this happend like 2 yrs ago..leon covered the story. that her family is left asking the police to investigate, the ppl she and her family were against, cause no one is snitching no one want
@@ThisBahamianGyal If you really care about the community address this and it’s impact on the AA community I DARE YOU
One Million Black Families in the South Have Lost Their Farms
Black landowners in the South have lost 12 million acres of farmland over the past century-mostly from the 1950s onward. The Atlantic reports that a million Black families have been ripped from their farms in a “war waged by deed of title” and propelled by white racism and local white power.
The dispossession of 98% of Black agricultural landowners in America is part of our history of racial injustice that is hugely important but mostly overlooked
Equal Justice Initiative
@@ThisBahamianGyal If you really care about the community I DARE YOU TO speak on this
How the U.S. Government Destroyed Black Neighborhoods
Post-World War II Urban Renewal Replaced Thriving Black Hubs with Highways and Public Housing.
Boston Review
@@ThisBahamianGyal You don’t care about the community your grift is to make YT money pointing the finger at the Black community, but you will never address how it got that way, or what’s still happening
Excellent points...I was born in Congo and came to the US at the age of 8 - I"m now married to a Caribbean woman...we both had a similar experience in school being called "white" and being bullied by African Americans since we spoke English a certain way and dressed modestly...
And?
@@Loft-ny1wy if you watched the video, you'll see why my comment is relevant
PREACH!!!!! We need to wake up. It’s so exhausting hearing the constant woe is me.
Tired of seeing folks who carry gucci, LV, Jordans or some other expensive shit but complain that they don't have money and it's everybody else's fault. I have 0 shame to go buy my imitation and cheap shit because it saves money and does the same thing.
Thank you!! I have no shame either. When I say I used to get clowned hard, I MEAN I used to get clowned hard. Thank God I have a healthy self esteem. Thanks so much for watching and commenting!
*Buy the new Iphone*
"Dude, can i ask you for money?"
That kind of thing, right?
@@ThisBahamianGyal Girl I feel you. It's still rampant in the Caribbean and I just hope people wise up
@@YourFeelingsSucks While I've never had anyone ask me, it's happened to my bf in St.Vincent. For me it's more than they're flashing all these goods and then begging for handouts and complaing that the govt should be doing more. These people also have multiple kids with different people and can't even raise them properly but still choose to dress like they live in a mansion while again blaming the government for their children not having proper care
Why should you be ashamed? No one cares about brands past highschool or so. Adults who do have literally nothing else in their life.
I work as a diplomat and from my experience, this mentality and behavior are unique to black Americans. I've worked with black Africans and visited various African countries, and they were one of the most dignified, tolerant, and welcoming people I've met.
I see this all the time under comment sections that discuss similar topics and I couldn't agree more. The issue is unique to black americans and we need to call a spade a spade about it. A Jamaican lady went viral for saying that she welcomes everyone in her home BUT black americans.
Add Canada to the American group and I agree
This mentality is so destructive. Please stop acting like black Americans are a monolith. There are good and bad ppl in every group. I’m sure you haven’t met all 50 million black Americans. I have had some bad experiences with immigrants does that mean all immigrants are bad? Every group has an underclass and anyone can be an a-hole. A lot of y’all have bad stereotypes attached to your name as well.
You clearly haven't been to south africa
@@damianpulsar1991 maybe because both countries are multiracial. Africans from other countries rarely interact with other cultures.
Girl, you speak truth like no other woman of color I've ever heard. Thank you!
You are a pillar of strength. At a very early age. Prob 10 I realized I was the one who had to break “the chain”. It was very easy to do through awareness. The journey may have been difficult but the prize of self reliance, dreams to reach for and results based behavior helped me realize MY potential. Not someone’s perceived potential.
Life is 10% things happening to us and 90% how we choose to react
Such a hard but necessary pill to swallow for sure.
Good, then stop crying about the opioid crisis. Y’all’s choice. 🤷🏽♀️
I was just talking to my daughter about this I'll be 48 years old and I still feel like I'm an misfit in my own race. I nearly have had black people stop talking to me at work because I choose to talk to all of my coworkers white and black I'm so grateful that I'm not a follower and I have ALWAYS danced to the beat of my own drum
I once had a coworker ask me to remove my family photo from my desk because I am white and my husband is black. She said it offended her. I didn’t remove it but I did angle it out of her view because I was tired of her saying my husband should have married a black woman.
@@ettacandy8203that's crazy whoa
@@ettacandy8203That’s horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I can't stand people like. It's the "White women are taking all the good Black men" mindset that some Black women have unfortunately. 🙄 Ridiculous.
It never seems to occur to them that it just might be their own attitude that's the problem. World views like that often make people bitter. And everyone knows you catch more bees with honey than you do vinegar.
A black woman recently told me that I’m a fool for working for the white man and helping him get rich. I told her that these white men gave me promotions, recommendations, bonus checks and networking opportunities to increase my wealth. My son is at a private school that costs $30,000 a year and I can afford to pay that with ease because those white men gave me, a black girl from the inner city, an opportunity to run a regional office and make more money than anyone in my family has ever seen. She basically called me an Uncle Tom. It’s crazy how lost black people are. I definitely feel like an outsider for sure.
@@ettacandy8203Report her to HR. Racial discrimination.
I think what’s really holding the black community back is values. They don’t value health, education, family unit, and work ethic. If the community starts uplifting matriculation, marriage, a healthy lifestyle, and exercise, it can improve.
I'm a white old guy and I have a question about being late is racist.
Suppose your black and you hire someone to fix something in your home. You agree on a appointed time. You clear your schedule and your waiting patiently for their arrival. However their late or decide not to show up. Your telling me this is acceptable?
Good talk. Great perspective.
Thank GOD for you. I'm a 47 year old white guy, and I grew up in a Montessori school with some very intelligent young black kids who were my friends. There was no drama, and we had some great conversations about our differences, but it was never hostile.
In high school, the black kids seemed to put more pressure on other black kids to stay away from white kids. And I really didn't understand it. They were hostile to me, and I wasn't used to it. I still had black friends in highs school, and they were great, but it was never like when I was in grade school.
In college it was radically different. I had many black friends again and they were some of the best people I have ever known.
The common thread was NOT race - it was culture. In Grade School and in College I was around Black kids who were from the suburbs and whose parents would kill them if they got bad grades and started acting like thugs. High school had kids from poorer neighborhoods where they didn't get the same guidance.
We really need to stop with the race BS, and start focusing on culture. It's okay to like rap music, just like it's okay to like heavy metal and punk. That doesn't make you white or black. It doesn't make you anything - just someone who likes music - and that's a good thing.
Maybe if we start calling it out? Like if someone says 'acting white' or 'acting black' - maybe a 'I'm not acting anything. I can like what I like, and so can you.' - give them something to think about.
I just hope we can see that there is no value is staying divided. Together we are better.
Its not always about being from a poor neighbor vs a rich neighborhood. There may be some correlation but I know plenty of poor people with good attitude and rich people who are pieces of shit. Your point about culture was spot on. It's just not always as easy as poor vs rich.
It's always interesting to me how people decide that their life and experiences define the whole world. Maybe the changes in your friend group had something to do with social racial harassment or even in school racial bullying at your wonderful school. As your privilege shows so brightly, you couldn't possibly digest the concept that not everyone at the party is having a good time. According to you, you're a 47 year old white guy straight out of the Montessori school, what gives you any authority on black culture? You kept preferencing neighborhoods or areas like that defines who a person is or should be. Pretty much, the same thing people did to you for enjoying hip hop. You want to consume our culture and judge it as inferior. This woman, you thanked God for, does not speak to black issues. She spews right wing talking points for click bate. The grift is real.
Thank you for sharing this, really appreciate it brother.
@@paxgamer3003 Agreed. I wasn't referring to economics, just a different geographic culture. I wouldn't consider the suburbs rich by any means either. All places have their problems - some worse that others, for sure.
The difference is the geographic culture. The kids who lived where I did had parents who loved them and wanted them to succeed. That's all.
@@lamargardner5566 Things are tough for everyone - in varied degrees. I never said I was an expert on black culture. I merely relayed my experience. But it seems like you've been fed the lie that you are a victim, and that white people have it better than you. It's not true. You have the power to make yourself whatever you can dream. My friends did, and they're just as privileged as this old white guy. ;)
Glad I never made excuses for my circumstances. Born in 1963, raised in the projects. I just dug my feet in and worked hard for everything I achieved. My mother raised me to either work or go to school. It has paid off and I achieved all that I set out for in my life. Got my BA mainly with the help of grants, so do not talk about racism, when opportunity is there. I am retired Federal who owns my three-family house, paid in full. I have a comfortable life because I worked hard and did not live above my means. I thank God I never had to collect food stamps or other benefits from the Government.
Welcome to the real world of hard work and grit to get by. Well done. Attitudes need to change
She is absolutely right.
When the residents of a community for whatever reason riot and tear apart, loot, burn and rob blind the stores within their community get what they deserve.
No where to shop locally. No jobs locally.
No tax revenue to support the community.
It's all a big domino effect that starts with the residents and their collective behavior.
ليت الكثير من السّود في مثل اجتهادك ..ليت شبابهم يبتعدون عن المخدّرات ..في أمريكا فرصا كثيرة للدًراسة او تعلّم حرفة تمنع عن الإنسان طلب المساعدة من الآخرين ..صدّق الكثير من السًود وهم تفوّق الرّجل الأبيض على باقي الأجناس .. خلقنا الله بنعمة العقل لنستخدمه فيما يفيدنا ..عنصرية الرجل الابيض و تعاليه مرض نفسي خطير اورثه لأبنائه
@@heatherbishop9260 Thank you. Sense is not common to everyone.
Shirley Sherrod
I saw the video of the Chicago Walmart she referenced. It hurts your heart to hear the poor woman talking about how she cant even buy food because the store has been wrecked. It hurts to think how many good people are being hurt by the bad behavior of some
Girl preach, I agree with everything that you've said because I've said the same thing. I live in Chicago and I'm so embarrassed now to say I live in this state because it is just horrible. All the gang violence and random shootings killing innocent people when they're trying to kill their rivals it's just so hurtful. I love the city but I don't really want to go down there cuz you just might be at the wrong place at the wrong time. And US black people are condoning this and won't speak up. I can go on and on and I'm not but thank you for saying the words you said. We have to start taking ownership of our behavior.
Precisely. When we say nothing we condone it! I absolutely agree. It's so sad what some parts of Chicago have become.
Strong black voices were silenced back in the 60s and 70s, then replaced by strong black “victims.” This never reverted back. I’m excited to see more strong black voices on the internet. Looking forward to your future videos!
Thank you so much!
So.....what makes this video and or her comments so strong to you? Is it because she has generalized black thought into this idea of victimhood through her unenlightened and uninformed view? She stands on zero facts. She tells stories of unverified social interactions and conversations and somehow can spark the same energy and power of black liberation thought of the 60's and 70's. Please miss us with your ignorance. This woman's black skin and superiority complex don't make her right about anything she said in this clip.
"Strong black voices"...like that racist Malcolm X? or the Black Panthers? or Angela Davis? RATIONAL black voices were ALWAYS welcomed.
@@lamargardner5566Well it make her more right then you. You want facts. 77% of Black women have children out of wedlock. Since the 1970's the rate of black children living is single parent home have gone up 48%. For white women 25% have children out of wedlock. The rate of white children being raise in single parent has gone up 10% since the 70's and overall 35% less then black families. Crime has gone down in every community by at least 15% since the 1970's except for the black community where crime is 200% higher then the 70's and much higher then even poorer white communities, especially with shootings. The sad thing is if those slaves were alive today, they would be crying over how the black community is just ruining themselves by alway playing the victim. When you are a victim you never look at your part and thus you never make anything better. Those slaves still had some pride and did not want to be seen as victims. In fact I think many black slaves are rolling in there graves today. Former slaves were the ones who helped themselves by building communities and investing in themselves, and did thing like start black colleges ect. But instead today wealthy black do not even want to help poorer blacks because the black community morals are so bad. It must be hard to actually see some resposible black people who have some morals and speak out the truth. It ruins you from playing poor me game of my great ( ×6) grandmother was a slave and that was why I did not finish HS, got pregnant at 15 years old and then decided to find a drug dealer in a gang to support me. 59% of black women have children by multiple men. For white women the number is 22%. The black community supports this behavior because none of you are willing to stand up as a community. You would rather play the victim role. Instead you think if saying nothing is safer when a crime happens and then it happens to you and you wonder why no one helps. 90% of what happens to you in life is by your choices. If you are always going to blame others, instead of looking at what is my part in the situation or what can I do better, then you deserve to get stuck in a crappy life. Meanwhile there is a reason why middle class black people move to white communities. They do not want there kids in your toxic poor me victim hood atmosphere. They want children raised as not victim, but kids who have hope and dream and want there kids to make it even if it mean leaving home. . As far as restitution maybe we should add up all the housing assistance cost, food stamp,medicaid and the $55k to support someone in jail for one year that the black community cost this country since black are on benefits at a higher percent then white people are. The fact that the majority of the taxes are paid by wealthy white people, blacks have been getting restitution since the 1970's.
Meanwhile what happen to all that money Black Lives matter got. They did not give one dime to the small business own by people of color as they encourage protester to destroy. In Minneapolis 90% of the business ruined were from people of color. The first night a brand new apartment complex for those on very limited income was burn down. But instead of allowing the fire dept to save the building all those protesters threw rocks at the firefights and the police could not protect them, so they left for there safety. None of those so called righteous protester cared that 450 low income 70% of them black now lost a home. Nope to busy defending drug addict that was to high to comply. Yes the cop was wrong and killed him, but those protest cost lot more then Mr Floyd life. It basically ruined entire poor community in Minneapolis by people who do not even live there but think they know what is best as they destroyed the local grogery store and pharmacy. One black women was crying because she had no way to get to another pharmacy and hers was closed because of riots and she needed heart medication and insulin. Yep those burning and distruction sure made that poor women life better. Then you wonder why all these store are closing in black communities. Well no one is going to hang around if there lives and business is in danger. Now the gangs have taken over the area even worse where Mr Floyd died and you can not even drive in the area once it gets dark. Of course the black community scream to defund the police and now whining where is the police as gun fire rings out every other night. The black community cries for the death of there children but not willing as a community to say enough is enough and we want cameras everywhere and the police arrest these people even if it is my child screwing and endangering other. Insteasd it my child is so innocent. Yea right. Just because you are poor does not mean you cannot respect what you have either. But my very rich great ( x12) uncle was the brother of some royality in France 400 years ago. Well guess what. I am not rich and what happened 400 year ago have nothing to do with where I am in my life. Wish I could get a duel citzenship out of it though.
This women know exactly what is going on and I gave you just a few fact to show the moral decay of the family unit in the black community is in, and it is only getting worse. Many have no desire to improve either. Well if you have no interest in doing better then you think you are perfect and no one is perfect. Learning is life long pursuit.
@@ThisBahamianGyal in the last 2 decades the black community has ruined everything MLK Jr was killed for! he wanted all people to be judged by character not color of skin... now modern blacks only care about skin color and what they can get! the ones who speak out like this? often get silenced its sad really! look at the black Trump Supporter BLM killed... BLM was cheering it!
I know your target for this message is black people but it’s honestly universally good advice. Everyone should hear and heed your wisdom.
Target would be yt and black conservatives…. Or are you unfamiliar with business and how all that works?
I sent this to my kids and grandkids - its important for us to understand this common sense message for any race
That is very true. Especially the victim hood part. Being 50 and still blaming the lack of a parenti on your current state is no bueno.
Was coming here to say the same thing. ❤
Absolutely! I’m gay and Latino!!! 👏👏👏
This is the the first time I viewed your channel and after listening to what you’ve said I subscribed. You are a beautiful, intelligent, wise, and articulate about your topic. You seem to come across as very down to earth, humble and a realist. You made so many good and relevant points that echoed my thoughts. I’m a 63 year old naturalized citizen of America. When I came here 53 years ago at the age of 10 years old I was so happy, grateful, and saw the possibilities for my future. With hard working parents who loved and supported me to succeed in life by guiding and instilling the core values of family, education, kindness and sacrifice that the only option I had was to make good decisions. Of course I made mistakes but I didn’t make big ones and I learned from them. One of the things I learn a few decades ago was self reflection. Whenever there was problem at work or in personal life I first look at myself and question “why am I feeling this, having these thoughts, etc.”. I then process the problem in my head and then own my action in the problem. I can tell you I resolved so many problems that could have resulted into bigger problems if I let my temper to take over. In all the years I have lived in America the worst racism I have witnessed is now. Human rights have turn into entitlement and abuse of ideology. I was a moderate democrat for over 40 years but I finally been pushed too far within last couple of years. When I found Dr. Thomas Sowell I found my wake up call. I felt so betrayed by the democrats and I a fool who blindly believed them.
We have a criminality problem in the black community in this country these days and nobody feels like having THAT conversation!!
So, lead the charge and have that conversation. No need to wait for someone else to say it. RUclips is open to almost everyone. So is TikTok and Instagram. Start the conversation. I find that people always want to wait for someone else to discuss a difficult subject. Just do it.
We have an atrocity unaccountability problem in the white community. What about the over 200 Black prosperous independent towns burned to the ground?
@@piyesankara890 Tulsa was rebuilt within 2-3 years all by our own dollars 🤦🏿♂️ victimhood Pookie
@@kaymillerfromTX Non Black Troll Alert
@@kaymillerfromTX Lies it was never rebuild nor was the 200 other towns
I'm white and I have had some odd comments from my black friends. The weirdest one was when I put my seatbelt on in my friend's car- he rolled his eyes and said "you're sooo white". I put his seatbelt on for him and said "Black Lives Matter too"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 THAT WAS FUNNY!!!!! Good job! I hope he laughed and is wearing his seatbelt now. Since when is protecting yourself in a moving vehicle a white thing. Sheesh #MyPeople You sound like a really good friend.
It's GREAT to see another Young Black Woman who is able to speak TRUTH!! Keep up the Good Work!!
Absolutely! As a Black gay Woman, I’m 1000% on board with taking personal responsibility and accountability. We’ve gotta do better. Thanks for this jewel Gyal!
As a Black Bi man, I'm tired of Black and LGBTQIACDCHVACXYZ people making me look bad. I have my faults, but they ain't got SCHEIẞE to do with systematic oppression. My choices at this point are my own; my upbringing may have had rough spots, but every Rags To Riches story will tell you, that's not an excuse. Especially not for Black people, who owned slaves and property back in Them Days. Generational wealth doesn't discriminate except against those who decide not to build it in the first place.
You ain't no black woman. Stop this race baiting
Then invest in the black community, black people have to be close.. we are not close.. we do not look out for each other,
all we have, are black people who are victims,
and then we have black people who are like the one in the video and the people who are commenting,
pointing fingers and complaining about other black people. Nobody invest in this group. And what does you being gay have to do with anything.
@@bobbyschannel349I wish I could give you a thousand thumbs up. 100 % Truth!!
@nelg3334who attacked her what now? He was just saying it has nothing to do with it. Come on man… life really could be more chill if people didn’t think everything is an attack.
Exactly! I know people who think that every interaction with someone from a different background is "racism" until they get older and realize that in reality, they're the prejudiced one. That's not to say they never experienced racism. Still no excuse.
OMG! Such a breath of fresh air. I've been called an Oreo and still experience Black gatekeeping to this day because I've always been nerdy. But you know what I 'm proud of who I am. At the end of the day we as a people have stop trying to play a role that isn't ours to play and instead work on improving our self worth and discipline.
I HATE the black gatekeeping!!! Thanks for watching.
Man this lady is so on point with her facts, she is amazing.
I used to rent a house in a predominantly black lower income neighborhood. The neighborhood was half restored, half still pretty run down. When I came in, I was prepared to be non judgemental but a lot of my friends said oh no... Don't live there. I thought they were just being closed minded about it being low income and black. I. was. Wrong.
I went away for a weekend and I came home to bullet holes in my wall. I cannot tell you how horrible I would have felt if I or my dogs were home when it happened. After that I started listening more to the homicide and gun violence reports in my neighborhood. Only a week or two after I found the holes in my wall, there was a shootout a couple miles away where the perpetrators emptied over 90 rounds at each other. Memorial Day there were dozens of shootings, including a few fatalities. Many of the victims were young black people, even children.
Black people are killing each other way more than police officers... By orders of magnitude. I'm sorry but white supremacy has nothing to do with it. White people didn't psyop these two men into firing 90 bullets in a span of a minute. It is a CHOICE to have such disregard for other people to fire guns into strangers houses, or to be willing to have a gunfight when bystanders are present.
And then we talk about the prison system being full of black men as if the justice system is inherently racist. Sure, racism happens in the justice system, but as a white person I can tell you that I have never experienced the level of gun violence as I have witnessed living where I was even when adjusting for socioeconomic status. Behavior like this is normalized in black lower income neighborhoods, and it has a multitude of effects. It creates a low trust society. It drives down property values. It creates a stereotype that black people are dangerous, which leads to white flight. And, most importantly, it puts people in the hospital if not body bags.
i am so glad you weren't there and thank God your dogs weren't there, too. I am such an animal lover. So, I understand your sentiment. When it comes to my safety, I am very discerning. I would rather live paycheck to paycheck to afford a home in a safer area. I get into heated debates with folks all the time about imprisoned blacks. My thing is...if you do the crime what do you expect? There are dirty cops out there for sure, but there are also a lot of decent cops. I hate that they have to second guess everything they do now because of optics.
I’m not condoning the behaviour but You are mixing black gangs and regular black people. If you moved to a different country in another gang infested neighbourhood, you would have the same experience.
It’s funny how you guys never mention the over 200 Black prosperous towns such as Black Wall Street, Rosewood, Florida, Wilmington, N.C. That were destroyed
@@ThisBahamianGyal Why has no mentioned as the critique the Black community the over 12 million acres of farmland stolen from 1 million Black families
@@ruckusbeblack White men account for nearly 70% of suicide deaths.
“You can’t see the future, with tears in your eyes.” -native American proverb-
Another valuable message. About the young lady at 11:11 speaking to being black in the suburbs. I was a child of the 80's and grew up in the suburbs of Chicago and went to a school that was overwhelmingly white. We did have some black classmates mostly because of some subsidized apartments that were built in our school district, though I was aware of a few black families that bought houses and moved in as well. Anyway, I remember sitting in a classroom in 8th grade and witnessing a brief interaction from across the room between two classmates that I never forgot. Our teacher had just passed out results of a big test and called out a handful of the top performers. One of them was a black girl who always performed well. When the focus in the room went elsewhere, the black boy sitting in front of her turned around and, with a nasty look said these EXACT four words: "You think you white." It wasn't somehow a joke or good-natured ribbing - he really hissed at her. I didn't know either very well but he was generally loud and stupid, whereas she was generally soft-spoken, and well-spoken. As a 14 year old I found that interaction so strange - that he was berating her for doing well and why that could have possibly made him so angry at her - and why success was somehow bad and a 'white' characteristic? I recall also that the comment kind of rolled off her in a way that suggested she had heard it before. It's strange the little things that stick with us.
One thing I would bet: wherever she is today, she is probably far-removed from living in a subsidized apartment.
I’ve been feeling this all my life! Being black can be difficult when the ideologies that plague black consciousness are so normalized. If you don’t conform or live your life the same way you get ostracized. This needs to be worldwide discussion amongst more black people. I’m so sick of it! The violence, the violence, I’m so sick!
I know exactly how you feel. And God forbid I'd you date outside your race. You get called all types of nasty names. Bed Wench, traitor, in love with a racist( even tho they don't know him). Colonizer lover. All types of stuff. I should know I married a Ukrainian man and I've been racially abused by my own people. I'm so sick of this mentality black people have and I'll admit I'm a little bitter towards them. I've been called an oreo and trying to act white let me tell you. There's nothing like your own people to tear you down harder than any other. And I've met racist white people too but not even them come close to your own people being racist towards you...
Omg!! Finally!!! I am so tired of us not being accountable for our behavior. We always play the victim role and enough is enough.
Okay, I understand what you are saying, On a scale ⚖️ from (1 to 100), what percentage of us is play the (Victim Role) & what percentage is (Practicing ) what they have been taught & supposed to?
Explain.
One of my black friends gets constantly teased “lovingly “ for being white and acting white. That is so insulting to me, what does that mean? That being normally black is classless and ghetto? And the worst part is that he laughs about it. It’s not funny!
Exactly!! If me being proper makes me white, then I'll be that.
I'm so grateful to hear someone talk about issues and not end with racism! How are we ever going to make it if we don't stop the blame/hate game?? 😢
I’m an Asian woman and this is a sentiment I’ve felt for a while. I want to support the black community but I’ve found it very hard over the years to be sympathetic towards some of the black activists out there. When you’re constantly being told during BLM seminars that “it’s (collective) your fault that we’re down” when many people like me haven’t treated black people any different than we would anyone else really doesn’t help the cause. When you lump people all into one box and yell and scream at them that they’re automatically part of the problem doesn’t makes it terribly hard to want to help you. I still want to be an ally anyway so you can imagine what it’s like for someone who already has deep seeded prejudices towards black people that it would just affirm their preconceived notions.
I also feel like since many black people are on edge all the time due to what’s going on in the world from police shootings of their fellow black folks and the years of oppression that both their ancestors and some of them still today do face, they can be quick to anger and assuming that even the smallest honest mistake is a targeted racial attack. This is not okay and only causes discord between people when someone is making heavy accusations and coming in with words flying and fists swinging, and at worst for the people who are actually rac*st, it feeds into the stereotypes that black people are violent. Both of which are not good.
Another issue is the fact that because of black anger, rightfully so at the things at the injustices and prejudices your group has faced, some in turn direct racist comments towards white people to express their dissatisfaction. This is not cool. And for anyone who doesn’t think that they can be racist because they’re a minority, that’s certainly not true. If you say something that generalizes a behaviour about a group in a negative way based on nothing but their skin colour, then that’s racist. Being racist back towards White people gains nothing. It only continues to make a void between the two groups. It’s also part of the reason why I dislike how separate each group is in their activism. While each community, black, latina, Asian etc. all have unique issues based on their situations, I find that more often than not it tends to cause strong in grouping which leads to animosity with members not part of that group as people argue about who’s issues should be brought up first. This isn’t going to get anyone the change they need and the equality we strive for. If we’re too busy tearing each other down we’re spending a lot less time working towards actual change that helps out everyone.
I’m glad that you made this video addressing this topic. I’ve found that this type of entitled behaviour and overuse of powerful words has been seen in many historically marginalized groups. Ex: LGBTQ+, Black, women etc. and I’m glad that you’re a person willing to sit down and tell people regardless of who they are that their actions are not cool and need to change because you genuinely care about them. Keep up the great work!
The only people to avoid are the FBA and B1 types. Most Blacks are cool and have no issue with the AAPI community. Collective allyship is dead so choose who you align with carefully as there's too many grifters out here.
They want to be victims so they can cash in on it.
You are so right.thanks
Black people can be racist, too.
It's called equality of opportunity. Everyone gets to be a piece of shit.
I cannot disagree with anything you said on here I would add one more thing the lack of fathers in the black community is also a major problem when I say this is a bigger problem than racism I have black people call me and Uncle Tom, Uncle Ruckus, the white man's dog or coon!
MSGT Harris USMC RET
I hear you when you say that it's about class and exposure. I'm a French teacher and what you speak of reminds me of when I taught my language in the north of England, in a poor working class white part. Many kids rejected French simply on the basis that it was "posh" and that it was not meant for them. Their parents made fun of them if they heard them speak French. The kids in class did the same. Once, I was telling them that, when I was a child, I used to eat roasted chetsnuts. And they said "Miss, chestnuts are posh, we are not posh". I replied: "What do you mean posh? I picked those chestnuts off of the ground in the forest and put them on a fire, how is this posh?" I could see on their face that it made them think when I said that. I'm from a village in France that could be considered white trash by American standards. I didn't grow up posh, and yet they associated me with that image purely because of the exposure they had from their environment. It was sad to see young children already limiting themselves by thinking that a lot of very simple things were not for them.
My partner grew up in a poor small trailer park community. His parents urged him to go to college and finish but they simultaneously taught him to despise anything associated with wealth or being posh/fancy. So he hated nice restaurants, nice homes, nice cars, lucrative careers and wealthy people. I grew up in a poor predominantly black neighborhood but my idea of wealth was vastly different from his. When I came into his life, I basically explained to him that he can literally do anything now that he has a degree. He had a hard time wrapping his mind around that. It was like he thought of himself so lowly, that even with a college degree from a great university he didn’t think nice things were for him and it discussed it like a preference too. I introduced him to wealthy people and mentors and he was surprised at how nice and welcoming they were. I showed him how much we all have in common. I also took him to nice places too. He really assumed that all wealthy people were mean and uncaring and that he should never associate himself with them. In contrast, many of them were more helpful than the people he grew up with. Luckily he took my advice and slowly became more ambitious and more interested in improving his lifestyle. Now he is thriving in life and his career and is so happy and confident now. It’s amazing how a little exposure can go such a long way.
I grew up in London and went to school with middle class people. I was taught French for 4 years and barely learnt anything. It’s not to do with class. It’s to do with foreign teachers struggling to teach spoilt British kids. Also, we don’t have the desire to learn languages as kids as so many countries already speak English.
@@MrsTruthTeller Happy to hear your story and that you could have a positive impact on your husband. Nothing feels like breaking the cycle, right? All the best for your future.
@@cmdjk1 Your experience in a middle class environment in London does not negate that working class environment from the north. Both can be true at the same time. I taught in two schools in the UK before getting the hell out. ^^
One was very privileged, in the top 10 of British middle schools. There, I dealt with a few "spoilt British kids" you speak of. For context, one of my worst students threw a fit because he was punished after having done absolutely no work in class, insulted me and disrupted the class. His punishment was to sit for 30 minutes with me (during my lunch break), having to complete a French game on an ipad provided by the school. He complained as if he was sentenced to a North Korean labor camp the whole time.
The second school I worked at was in the national bottom 10. No privilege there, believe me. Some kids had parents in prison. I had Year 9 kids making babies with Year 8 kids. Violence and drugs at home. The kids in that school didn't have the mentality of "Well, people from other countries already speak English". They had the mindset of "I'll never leave this area, why bother?"
@@Raphanne But that’s my point. You’re saying it’s about class and I’m saying it’s not as I went to a school with middle class people and the foreign teachers struggled to teach us. So it’s not just about working class schools. It’s schools in the U.K. as a whole. Language teachers have always struggled to teach British kids. That’s like a universal thing here.
"800 years ago my ancestors were slaves". That hit hard. People often forget that even white people were slaves at some point. Don't make that your identity.
Because they don't teach truth about racism in public schools
If a business loses money through theft it is not going to survive.
I'm black and I couldn't agree more the constant blame everyone but yourself has made us look really bad as a people. Thank you for expressing so well whats going on
So happy your channel popped up on my recommended, we need more people in our community addressing this topic, keep going sis!
Thank you so much, babes! Thanks for tuning in!
@@ThisBahamianGyal Notice who is always calling Blacks names like "0reo" etc; it's nearly always another black person making this accusation against them (*which kinda shows where the actual problem is coming from). Self-segreg@tion.
@@ThisBahamianGyalAlso, I just subscribed to your channel; thanks!
Quickly starting to love the content! It's pretty rare to see moderate perspectives, since left and right tend to try and scream louder than the other, leaving moderates cowering under the table going "What the hell is wrong with all of you?"
Appreciate you and your perspectives. 🤗
Why, thank ya! I appreciate your kind sentiments. Thanks for watching!
1st off to YT…who is censuring me out of bias towards my truth…to you Gyrl…your wisdom and insight will be the saving of your culture…too bad it will fall on deaf ears…if there were more of you your culture will have a chance at succeeding in this world…you are just wonderful!…stay safe…
Thank you so much!!
As a music lover, I don't understand how loving "strange" music can be turned into something bad. It's a glorious experience.
It sure is. I agree with you!
I was recently told my music choice was dad rock...I'm a woman. But yes, music is universal and subjective, everyone gets to like whatever they want. No one owns it, there are greats in every category that everyone agrees with, who cares what they look like, you're appreciating with your ears, are ears now racist? If that's the case, then we're pretty much doomed at that point. Humans are weird creatures.
All music is strange. Music as a whole is so subjective that the phrase, "strange music" doesn't mean anything to me. I do understand what you're saying though, and I love it and totally agree. But if your black and your being told by other black people that you're listening to strange music or white music because you don't listen to what they do, have them pull out their playlist and point to them how strange the music they listen to is. Rapping about money, sex and violence, bragging and show boating constantly.... pretty strange to me.
I love outkast, earth wind and fire, and so many more groups I don't have the time to list here. But I love so much music, from so many different backgrounds, made by every different type of person, skin color etc. And I have gotten a little bit of backlash from white people, but not hate. Moreso just thinking it's kind of weird. But there's this thing in the black community I've noticed where if you're black and you listen to music made by anyone who isn't also black, then you're a race traitor. It's so ignorant and disgusting.
@@isaiakrozell2409I agree. I grew up on "black" (American) music and it's deep in my bones, but as I mature...I do tire of the endless showboating we hear in rap music. It's just so juvenile.
This is why traveling is so important, you get exposed and humbled by what you see and learn. Excellent video, on point.
Where do you travel? All over the world black people are subjective to racism. This is why I say, white people stay out of black people business
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Norway had 28 homicides in 2022 as a nation.
It was one of the safest and cleanest County I visited. Health and school system's are one of best in the world. Folks need to travel and observe other cultures.
@@bondwin7025 What would that do for this racist country? I don't think Norway is as racist as this country.
Why compare Norway to this racist country?
@@bondwin7025 True, but also, they only got like only 5 million people. And it's cold, and dark lol. Nobody got time for that.
Unfortunately many people cannot afford the expense and time to travel internationally but I 100% agree with you that traveling and talking to regular people instead of some taxi drivers and management people in hotels is not going to give you an accurate sense of the world. Thanks for pointing that out.
I started following you a couple days ago and won’t regret it. Well said.
May he rests in piece. I can tell from your voice that you still haven’t moved on completely from his death. It must’ve been extremely hard losing a brother.💔 just the thought of losing one of my brothers makes me teary eyed. 12:27
I haven't gotten over it. I loved my brother and miss him very much. Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean a lot! ❤️
As someone who has travelled to the African continent, and also from the Caribbean, I find the policing of 'blackness' and whther or not a person is black enough is definitely something that African Americans tend to do. They bring that chip on their shoulder anywhere they go. Seen it on IG too.
I agree with you. In this comments section alone some of them have questioned where I'm from...mind you...the name of my channel is This Bahamian Gyal. Then, they quickly point out that I don't get to comment on black people's issues because I'm not from the US. Excuse me? I'm black, just like them. Soooooo...I'm not black enough because I'm not American???. It's absolutely ridiculous. Then they bring up slavery as if Caribbean people aren't descended from slaves. Reading is fundamental. Sadly, it's too much of a chore for some of them to engage in.
@@ThisBahamianGyal coming from Jamaica we didn’t have this issue. Whereas colourism was a problem which is slowly changing. But Africans and Caribbeans do not throw up the race card every-time they face a challenge. Sometimes people are just crappy people and sometimes, due to poor attitude people would rather avoid them than deal with their issues. If a person is black and their personality stinks I would rather stay away and the same goes for anyone else of a different skin tone. It’s equity, one doesn’t get a free pass because of history. Accountability is a must.
Yeah I’m first Gen American, one side from Caribbean, the other Indian. And it’s spoken about quietly but we see how it is and what’s up
Interestingly, my 1st experience with being called an "Oreo" was also in middle school. In my case, it wasn't about music, it was about girls! I found it funny because I was talking to a white girl that I knew from elementary school and we were catching up. I was later confronted by a group of black girls who usually never spoke to me. When they were done talking I asked them why they cared . I didn't tell them that the girl was just a classmate, and let them think whatever they wanted.
Ok, first, subscribed! Second, you asked for people of other races to weigh in, so, as a white guy, I just want to share something that I experienced connected to this issue
My family attends a church that provides after-school assistance to kids living in poverty. One thing my mom told me was that a lot of the black kids who came there would try to sneak their way in and out because they didn't want to get bullied by other black kids who saw them getting help with their education. Some of these bullies would stand outside of the facility (it was up in a strip mall) taunting any black kids they saw going there, calling them all kinds of names and saying things like, "They're not going to think you're white just because you act like them!" and stuff like that.
When my mom told me about this, it made my blood _BOIL_ because I was thinking about how many of those kids may have given up trying to get the most out of their education because of those bullies. It fills me with nothing short of _RAGE_ when I consider all the black boys and girls who may have grown up to be brilliant men and women who enriched the world with their work. As a writer, the thought of the world being deprived of a black author who could be on par with the likes of Tolkien, Doyle, Christie, Austin, and so forth in terms of skill and nuance sickens me.
What's more, when I was growing up, I was an outcast because I was so passionate about storytelling. If I had met a black kid who shared that passion, someone I could have as a friend, someone to bounce ideas off of and to help with their stories, I would have cherished that friend like no other because I was so _LONELY_ from not having anyone who shared my interests. It would not have mattered to me that they were black. Simply having a kindred spirit would have been enough.
And when I consider that there may be black boys and girls out there who are in the exact same situation I was as a child, but how they have the added burden of being told that their interests are "too white" and they're somehow less of a black person because of them, it angers me in a way I struggle to put into words.
The attitudes you've described don't just hurt the black community. They deprive people of other races of incredible friendships that could enrich the world with what they produce. Iron sharpens iron, yet it seems like there are a lot of people in the black community who do not want to become stronger by opening themselves up to new experiences and relationships.
I'm giving you a standing ovation for this post. I agree with everything you said. You are so right...the world is being deprived of some brilliant talent because we're too busy making people feel insecure about their gifts and potential. The truth is, sometimes people can see someone else's potential and because they have no belief in themselves, they will do everything to get that person with potential off course. It's hard to push past it when you don't have the right support system. Thank you for everything you said. You are a gifted writer.
@@ThisBahamianGyal Thank you very much! Fortunately, I have been able to connect with some black writers and artists who are not letting this kind of thing stop them. I've enjoyed some wonderful and enriching (not mot mention incredibly nerdy) conversations with them as we've "talked shop." Best of all, we've helped each other refine our ideas for our stories and characters. It's amazing what people can do when they work together and don't allow superficial differences to divide them! (Also, a LOT of fun.)
@@patrickleighpresents749 thank you so much for sharing your story and what you learned when you were young (I have never really heard about such things 😥)
Sending you a standing ovation as well -- your words resonate so strongly with my passion for people and storytelling, and also gives me hope for the future. Keep on keeping on and God bless! ❤️
@@Jessica_Jones Thank you very much!
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I appreciate your forwardness and honestly. I sometimes use the crutch my mental disorder as a crutch and self pity . I am happy to hear you speak. You are a postive person and a light to people around you.
Thank you for not being afraid to speak the truth, and
hopefully it will be well received.
The biggest flex we could ever do as a community is be the most well-behaved, well-educated and the most valuable members of society to show that despite the great hardships of the past we can not only endure but thrive
This would be amazing but black Americans only want to be victims
Thank youuu!!! That would be the biggest flex. I love stories over overcomers - people who made it despite the odds!!
Somwone literally told me in the comments section, "I am oppressed!" And they said that with pride.
@@ThisBahamianGyal Oppression points are the new social currency today, but the crazy part about that is that's where lowest disparity is! We're all getting fucked over by the elite, and I always wonder what would happen if people directed the energy they're putting toward claiming their oppression, toward overcoming it and/or going after their true oppressors.
Oddly enough, BEFORE the civil rights act, most Black people WERE like this! Something happened between mid 60s and now. There are lots of theories, but the results are exactly what this wise woman has said: entitlement and lack of accountability.
I randomly stumbled across your video. Keep talking. You attitude/message needs to spread.
I am SO glad that your generation is speaking up about this problem. You are so right that falling back on Slavery, a condition that was abolished in 1864 has no reference to Black people in the 21st Century. And pulling the "Race Card" because something doesn't go one's way is a form of adult tantrums. After so many of our ancestors fought and died for inclusion to be seen as Americans and not as 'Black" separated from main stream America, they wanted future generations to be included.And they did it patiently, eloquently, and with dignity. Instead, all of the complaining about the past is only bringing back segregation due to a lot of uncouth, and anti-social behavior, much of which can be seen in various court videos on RUclips. Acting in an obnoxious, rude, argumentative, defensive, and angry manner is not to anyone's advantage. It is repelling, and creates a far more negative stereotype of Black people than was ever know in years past. And the most offensive in this manner as I have seen is largely displayed in the attitudes of Black women who perform in a "manner" labeled, "Ghetto." This is most repelling and an assault on basic social decorum. They question is, WHY must Black people act in this manner? Is it because it is easier to cry victim than just try to get along with everyone? But that takes work, especially when there is an attitude that is totally inappropriate for general acceptance.
My dad is black and my mom is white, and I’ve never felt connected to my African American heritage like my European heritage. My dad grew up with drug addict parents in the hood and still won’t talk about some of crap he went through, but one thing he does talk about is how the people around him would tell him that white people would hold him back in life and treat him like crap. Those people were other black people. He said that even as a kid he didn’t understand why they said that because the people who treated him cruelly and mocked him for his lighter tone were those same black people, who were supposed to be HIS people. His mother called him slurs for being lighter than her and his sister (we don’t know who his father is but he’s possibly a white guy judging by my DNA test). People called him Oreo for working hard in school. He eventually got out of that place and went to school, got married, had me and my siblings, and despite many sufferings he’s had since then, never once has he EVER blamed white people for those issues. He’s a well trained analyst, incredibly smart, and loves his kids dearly. He made it far despite being told he was gonna be held down. Now, he avoids “black” culture, and whenever he occasionally goes to his old hometown to visit he hates how fast he slips back into the “hood talk” as he calls it. He actively rejects what people consider “blackness”, and I don’t even know what those same people from his childhood would call him now. Most of them are dead or in jail though.
Long ramblings aside, he’s never shared “black” culture with us. He loves us, encourages us to think for ourselves, and leans more into us exploring the other side of our heritage. It makes me a little sad, not because he’s any less of a black man for it, but because I know there’s probably beauty in that community that he never got to see and that I don’t know how to reach. By trying to brainwash him, they instead caused him to reject the culture for his own safety and betterment, and the saddest part is that he was completely right to do so.
I do hope to one day make a connection with it, but when all I’m told and shown it is rap ONLY (why don’t they ever talk about jazz?! Or gospel?!) not taking responsibility for your actions, entitlement, and superficial things, how am I supposed to want to connect to that????
This isn't the first time I've heard of black people being harassed by other black people for doing well in school.
Your dad sounds like an amazing person. Give him lots of hugs.
@@denisedevoto5703 I do, and I will!! X) I love him very much
I sat down to read this comment. Your dad sounds like a lovely, amazing person! ❤ I have the same feelings, being half Native American. My Native grandparents are extremely Christian and didn’t teach me about that part of my culture at all. It’s sad, really.
Wow so you know nothing about ur black culture tho?? Not rap and that bull crap
I somehow had this video on my homepage tonight. I am so happy I listened (subscribed too). Although not black, I found your message gave me my own gut check. I needed to hear this. One saying I learned through a personal struggle, “Victims focus on their past while survivors focus on their future”.
I’m a 65 year old white man who subscribed to you today after listening to you speak for a couple of minutes, you are down to earth honest speaking from the heart.
Love your intellect on so many subjects you touched on today.
Totally agree with your outlook and perspective on things, have seen many friends men and woman experiencing what you speak about.
Looking forward to seeing more from you.
Thank you so much, sir. I truly appreciate you saying that. 💜💜💜
Thank you so much for sharing this information! I love it, well put together concise. Brilliant delivery. Thank you so much
Black American Born and raised in one of the roughest areas of Peoria, IL but somehow I was drawn to skateboarding, bmx biking, punk rock, drawing/painting & heavy metal. I got teased and picked on by other black students in school for being “alternative.” They called me coon, sell out, white guy trapped in a black guys body 😒 the list goes on. Some odd years later…or present times; a lot of my childhood friends are either dead or in prison for living that “lifestyle” considered to be cool in America’s inner cities. I wanted something better in life than to be a public nuisance….but I’ve seen it all growing up in the hood. Prostitution, gang violence, shootings, robberies….seen it and told myself at a young age that I want NO parts in that “lifestyle.”
I am soooo proud of you! Look at you today. You're here to tell the story!
I am proud of you. You are free.
Sounds like me. I was born on the south side of Chicago and raised in south central LA. Been in the "hood" most of my life but inside my home I was raised differently. So I got made fun of for being an "Oreo". I was never friends with the other black kids, but over the years I'd seen some of my tormentors grow up to be walking stereotypes. It makes me all the more glad that I was brought up the way I was and moved about in my own way.
Love that 💯
Welcome fellow punk rocker -im a latina goth
Reality man as a white guy who grew up in Prince George's county Md I've seen the black white issue from every angle all my life You my lady deserve the utmost praise for telling it like it is!
Oh, I know you're seeing some things in PG. LOL. Thank you for weighing in, John.
I grew up in Charles County, right next to PG (I live in Dallas now). As a black girl with both parents in the military, having lived in Europe for several years before we moved to MD, I was called an Oreo constantly. I was never quite black enough for my black peers.
@DeLainna Batoon that's disgusting that they call you that
@@delainnabatoon grow up
@@garygnu8775 ???
Black people who come to America from Africa, the Islands and other countries seem to do pretty well.
Many American born black people do pretty well also.
A significant percentage of American born blacks do have this mental image of Ametica as hostile to black folks.
In the past, thatbwas true.
Today?
If you are a good person, nobody cares what you look like.
Beautifully said. Thank you for being so cool and being so honest. I respect you more with each one of your videos I see.
Thank you so much for that!
She speaks a language most black people don't understand: Accountability
And this coming from a so called white man who community never takes responsibility we still waiting for your people to take responsibility for all the evil shit you people have done. Oh i forgot it's in the past right GTFOH devil 🖕🏿
Are white people accountable? How about the fact that when we talk about black people, it's every once but when we speak of whites, they are individuals and not responsible for the sins of forefathers, race or even nation. Hunting black Australians fir sports, the king of Belgium's massacre, the massacre of America's original nations, dispossessed Palestinians, prison camps in Africa, the slave trade, disproportionate imprisonment of black men in white majority countries. The obliteration of originsl nations in the Caribbean. The transatlantic slave trade, hanging and burning of black men in the USA and other countries. The killing of South Pacific Nations and stealing their land. The killing of ever Tansmanian. The extinction of thousands of animals for sport. Pollution of the earth's rivers sea and land. Killing leaders of black and brown countries who don't do the West's bidding. Need I go on? You have the dam cheek of speaking of black accountability
Black people don't want to hear the truth
Neither white people.
@@UnKnown-fi7gf honestly, I agree with both statements. Taking accountability is the hardest thing to do for us humans.
I don't understand why the black community in Chicago don't see Walmart closing as an opportunity to open their own shops.
They won't, because they know they will get robbed the same as Walmart did. I'm pretty sure the thieves will just drive farther to steal now 😂
But that would mean they have to work to earn their money.
@@jcdenton23 They would probably open a shop and rob their own merch.
Anyone who would be willing to open a store normally, wouldn't want to deal with being robbed and run out of the business you put all your money into.
Right on! Want to start a revolution? Start a business!
I grew up in a socialist country ,seen Russian tanks rolling the streets ,had a passport which could get me nowhere and 5 pounds to live on for a week … Slavic and tired of all this garbage
Your rational voice is appreciated!
I am so glad I found your site. It was refreshing to hear a rational discussion about accountability and race. I am Mexican-American, raised in poverty in a barrio in SW New Mexico. Because I was born very light skin, and have an ear for languages, I do not have an accent. I was bullied and rejected by my own community. Also, I had a very strict moral upbring. So, it happens in every group. My experiences fortified my to get my education and find ways to help my family. Hard work, wise choices, focus and faith got me through....I now have my doctorate in counseling and volunteer as a Life Coach in my church helping others to make better life decisions. Thank you for your caring and wisdom. PS I am old now...75.
I’m not black, but I still needed to hear her talking about the way you spend money. I have issues with like retail therapy and I know I need to stop.
I’m trying to remind myself that if I can’t afford it a second time, I can’t afford it at all.
Retail therapy! Love it. I have the same affliction 😂
Same. My great weakness is books and yarn. I don’t need to have a personal library and yarn shop (even though my impulsive self feels differently). Especially since I have needed to go on Disability, it has been really hard to learn to live within my means. What she’s preaching on this can really be applicable for so many of us.
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YARN? If you have over 15 pairs of shoes... you and my lady could learn together! She loves crocheting though, I never say anything about being buried in skeins.
I had a suggestion before seeing that you're a yarn hoarder and bibliophile. It was about impulse buying, I heard someone say to keep a small notepad and write down the thing you see that you want, how much it costs, etc... look back at those things in a couple weeks and cross out anything you changed your mind about.
Now, I don't need this therapy, I haven't opened my wallet in so long the money has probably disintegrated! Not exactly true, I let myself have a Xmas present this year.
@@Mike_H76 I’ve eased up on the shoes about 10 years ago; I was working 12 hour nights in the hospital, so I didn’t have a ton of energy to go to places where I could wear cute shoes. 😂 Smart survival technique not to complain about being buried in skeins; knitting needles and crochet hooks are weapons. 😂
That’s a great tip to try and curb impulse buying. It definitely would help with yarn and most books. I’m a bargain hunter for niche history books, so I usually have to act fast if I want to catch a good price for a high quality book… especially if it’s older or if it is particularly scholarly and otherwise quite expensive. I try to budget for my book needs and to use library apps when I can.
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Ugh, I feel that foot pain. I was a house framer 6 days a week, up and down the ladder, working on steep inclines, etc. Then a roofer for a few years. I gave up the work boots for the LUXURY shoe, Rockport World Classic, nubuck "color". And infinitely safer on a site, imo.
She's PRETTY good with shoes, often thrift stores and after 27 years, she doesn't feel much like she has to dress cute for me 😔.
And yes, I may have far more weapons, but she's way more likely to attack... knowing I wouldn't even defend myself (curl up in a ball and cover vitals, just like a bear attacking!).
I really enjoy listening to this to this beautiful intelligent black Queen. Thank you for sharing the truth about our black community.
It’s good to hear from a well articulated and intelligent well thought out individual and female at that. Good points and topics.
🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎 Thank you!