Going "No Contact"

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @KliffKapus
    @KliffKapus Месяц назад +60

    "Before enlightenment Democrats were Democrats and Republicans were Republicans.
    After enlightenment, if you don't vote for who I want you to, you're dead to me."
    -Precepted Facilitator Zenji

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +3

      Ha!

    • @squirlmy
      @squirlmy 17 дней назад

      idk though, I get the humor, but even though voting seems to be a poor reason to shut out relatives... I think most Trumpers would shut out a "male" relative wearing makeup and women's clothing before the former would even occur, probably with the "Christian" versions of the same excuses. I get that he's not an authentic Zen teacher, but you can tell there's a whole lot of subtext here, even if it's certainly not zen. I'd even say a whole heck of a lot of things going on with that vlogger!!! I'm not sure why he is being brought up at all, Hardcore Zen is basically dignifying his vid by critiquing him.

  • @megiste9284
    @megiste9284 Месяц назад +16

    Having recently gotten my nose into the Shobogenzo, it's a pleasure to see that Dogen's attitude of calling stupid people "stupid people" wasn't lost to time.
    Great video as always, respects from France.

  • @Patrick33456
    @Patrick33456 Месяц назад +33

    Ram Das would always say... " Oh if you think you're so enlightened, go spend a few hours with your family".
    The problem is most people's solution to that problem is to avoid it but only through some friction and pain does growth actually occur. He did not mean the solution was to avoid his family, it was just a reminder that he had so long to go.
    Most people today think the answer to all their problems is to just avoid them. Good luck with that. Definitely don't ever ponder that you may be the wrong one, that could clearly never be fruitful!

  • @chrisb9832
    @chrisb9832 Месяц назад +65

    Brad, I've enjoyed your videos for many years now. However, as a long time Zen practitioner (and soon priest), I think this is the first time I've actually been proud of you for taking such a strong stand on this. Thank you so much for being courageous enough to say what should be said despite the potential of harsh criticism. 🙏

    • @Patrick33456
      @Patrick33456 Месяц назад +7

      @@chrisb9832 it's sad that this is considered courageous. I'm not putting you down, it's just sad this is where we are.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +17

      Thanks. I don't feel particularly brave. To me, this is just stating the obvious.

    • @taigenetsudo4273
      @taigenetsudo4273 Месяц назад +1

      The institution to go 'no contact ' from is the Zen Center 😅

    • @1337-t8l
      @1337-t8l Месяц назад

      @@Patrick33456 He's not afraid to shatter delusions and tell it like it is. Most people would be pandering in order to increase views or inflate their digital takuhatsu bowl. There's basically no one else out there in the zen world who does what he does. So, yeah, I can see how you could call this "courageous".

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад +2

      @@1337-t8lthat’s because nobody claiming to be both punk and zen would latch onto this shitty alt Right pipeline rhetoric and trans hate.

  • @Jigokucake-lg1xj
    @Jigokucake-lg1xj Месяц назад +6

    Filial piety is really big in Japanese Buddhism in general. Kukai famously made a place at Koyasan for his mother to live in so he could visit her regularly. Nichiren was also crazy about filial piety, with his parents being among his very first converts. He called the Lotus Sutra Buddhism's "classic of filial piety."
    On the Zen side of things, Suzuki Shosan heavily emphasized respect for one's parents, and actually extended this parental respect to one's feudal lord (he was a samurai, so that stuff came with the territory lol).
    Anyone advocating for going no-contact with their family over such petty reasons would have been seen as totally crazy by all of these people.

  • @zigeunerart
    @zigeunerart Месяц назад +23

    I miss the America when you could just vote, and then do about your day like nothing happened. The only people who you should go “no contact ever again” are those you know for sure to be sociopaths or psychopaths, or those in your family who have committed serious offences, or committed harm to you.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +1

      Yeah...

    • @squirlmy
      @squirlmy 17 дней назад

      but... did you not see the makeup and female cloths? How many of his trans friends are Trumpers? Probably none. Also how are you supposed to know someone is a psychopath or sociopath if you were raised up by one(or two!)? Their behavior is likely to seem normal until you are away in a very different environment. If this was a monk from Asia, I'd say that's very bad Zen teaching. But, I think there are a lot of adult children out there for whom the Trump vote is the last straw, perhaps the moment of recognition "this person doesn't show compassion in any arena, not just politics but through my whole childhood, s/he's never showed compassion". There's no sure diagnosis of Psychopath, many psychiatrists have proposed it doesn't exist. So how is anyone supposed to know it "for sure"?

  • @elvisel6872
    @elvisel6872 Месяц назад +5

    Thanks! I really appreciated this video and your advice. I'm currently in the middle of trying to decide whether to follow through with going "no contact" with some toxic family members (not because of Trump). I also especially needed a good laugh today. 😂
    Keep doing what your doing man! The world definitely needs more reasonable voices, especially with all the chaos and idiots that are out there.

  • @tomdebevoise
    @tomdebevoise Месяц назад +22

    I am a certified dragon trainer and flight handler, it took me many lifetimes to get this certificate. However it will expire soon so I have established a good fund me page so I can pay the fees and feed the two dragons in my garage.

    • @garad123456
      @garad123456 Месяц назад +4

      i'm a precipitated lawn

  • @WorldCrafterPrime
    @WorldCrafterPrime Месяц назад +6

    I'm sorry to hear that you only saw your dad a few times after you made up. I attempted to cut away from my family when I was younger, and even though I don't always agree with my small town conservative devoutly Christian family, you gotta love them.
    Screw the haters, if you're the only one saying something that you know to be true, it's all the more important to say it! Truth is a very worthwhile aim I think...

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +3

      Yeah... I couldn't deal with my dad for a while there. He pretty much pushed me away. But I made some effort and did get to see him a few times.

  • @jonschmitt232
    @jonschmitt232 Месяц назад +9

    That person is a grifter and is just no good.

  • @EvanBerry.
    @EvanBerry. Месяц назад +5

    Seeing Ziggy at the end of the video makes everything great again.

  • @rosannashe6313
    @rosannashe6313 Месяц назад +5

    thanks for this . what ever happened to just being a person, with friends, family and colleagues - just living, sharing, engaging etc and not going no contact because you knew you are not the be all and end all? Some members ( too many ) of society are so self absorbed in their own self righteousness and entrenched ways of being they commit the very heinous acts they accuse others of. for the last 2 years or so I have intentionally looked at publications, opinion pieces and "scholarly" works from camps that I normally could not agree with . I have never looked back. I must look at and examine life from multiple views if I am truly to have compassion for myself and others. I am on a quest to have less and less judgment and more pragmatic compassion. it's challenging for me but absolutely necessary for my own development. I feel like I am alone in this so often. Ironically , your vid condemning this dude's practice of icing those who do not agree with him made me feel understood and also hypocritical.. LOL - I need more sitting time...

    • @gunterappoldt3037
      @gunterappoldt3037 Месяц назад

      Phenomenologists like Edmund Husserl proposed the maxim: “From doxa to epistem!“ I still hold, it's good methodological advice for us, living in a “Three Cornered World“ (essay by Natsume Soseki; audio by the one and only Glenn Gould on RUclips, if I remember right).

  • @Jack-il3qv
    @Jack-il3qv 7 дней назад

    In the Karaniya Metta Sutta sermon the Buddha tells us to regard all beings in the same way that a mother regards her child and to cultivate limitless goodwill for the entire cosmos. People not at peace with themselves will struggle to offer peace to others.

  • @michigandersea3485
    @michigandersea3485 Месяц назад +1

    Thanks for giving us a solid Mahayana perspective on this. That’s the kind of thing we need in this crazy world of 2024.

  • @WunjoDojo
    @WunjoDojo Месяц назад +12

    Holy Jesus, Batman! Didn't expect to tap on Mr. Brad's Daily Zen and be face to face with some chap I'd never let baby sit my kids...or walk my dog. As I began typing out this comment, I thought, " I feel as if a Zen Master just slapped me upside the head...for no good reason at all. Is the grass green? Is the sky not blue? What is this? 😵‍💫

  • @gc1200
    @gc1200 Месяц назад +2

    "Ziggy you would never go no contact with me would you??" 😂😂😂

  • @barence321
    @barence321 Месяц назад +35

    Zen is for all people, not just the ones who agree with you.

    • @RC-qf3mp
      @RC-qf3mp Месяц назад +8

      Zen is for no one. No one is for zen.

    • @michigandersea3485
      @michigandersea3485 Месяц назад +3

      Is Zen really supposed to be for all people? Because it sure seems like few people are for Zen. Other forms of Mahayana Buddhism even seem more readily appealing and accessible than Zen, at least in their home countries

    • @kevindole1284
      @kevindole1284 Месяц назад +4

      ​@@michigandersea3485 "The nice thing about zen is that you get to practice it whether you like it or not"

    • @gunterappoldt3037
      @gunterappoldt3037 Месяц назад

      “Going up a mountain track, I fell to thinking...“ (Natsume Soseki, “Kusa-makura/The Three-Cornered World“)

  • @user-uy3lu8fg7j
    @user-uy3lu8fg7j 29 дней назад

    „A white cloud has nowhere to go. It moves, it moves everywhere. All dimensions belong to it, all directions belong to it. Nothing is rejected. Everything is, exists, in a total acceptability. Hence I call my way The Way of the White Clouds.“ OSHO

  • @ukulelalienation
    @ukulelalienation 26 дней назад

    Love this. Peace. xxx

  • @jerryalder2878
    @jerryalder2878 Месяц назад

    Keeping politics out of the temple or zendo is a worthy endeavour. Having a sangha that is a mixture of all types of people should mean all types of people feel welcome as it would be apparent that 'all are welcome'. In recent times I did have to tell a friend that I no longer wanted any contact. However this was nothing to do with politics but rather the need to set a boundary for my own well being following very upsetting situations and being vulnerable due to bereavement and illness.

  • @GaryNac
    @GaryNac Месяц назад +1

    The thing with going no contact is that even if the individuals you're dealing with might be incredibly toxic and you may not be entirely in the wrong for wanting to do that including with your family members however alot of people including people like the infamous Reverend Jim Jones used the whole thing of "You don't have to deal with these toxic crappy bad scumbags just come with me and my group and everything will be fine after that."As a means to manipulate and to be toxic towards people and even if you are gravitating towards a person who says just cut contact and come with me because the people you're currently with might be very toxic and this type of thing might seem like the right thing to do you could potentially be falling out of the frying pan and into the fire or potentially even into another frying pan.

  • @colonelbrando
    @colonelbrando Месяц назад +1

    Zen reaction videos, a new genre.

  • @10DeeB
    @10DeeB Месяц назад +17

    Thank you, thank you, this creep is a menace who regularly tells his young audience to go 'no contact' and he'll be their family, idiot is too kind a word for him. I hope theres nothing even more harmful going on with him. And yes iknow he goes by they/them but in the case of cult leader type behaviour or any more potentially nefarious motivations, his sex is absolutely relevant whatever words he uses about himself to hide behind. Honestly mostly i give most people the benefit of the doubt but this person is trying to lead mostly young people astray, pied piper be warned. Thank you.

    • @10DeeB
      @10DeeB Месяц назад

      ps Ziggy is adorable ❤

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад +2

      @@10DeeB yo the person you speak of is definitely wrong about Zen Buddhism but are you seriously stooping to a level of “I know their pronouns but they are so terrible I refuse to respect that?” Seriously weird

    • @10DeeB
      @10DeeB Месяц назад

      ​@@minoritiesunitelovewinsit's not that his behaviour is terrible, it's that his behaviour is very male, it's salient information in the context of working out what is going on and whether to give the benefit of the doubt about what he's at. Fewer women pull this shit, and fewer women are predatory (if that's what he is, I honestly don't know). For that matter I don't use 'his/her royal highness' to refer to people who describe themselves as royal either, or 'your excellency' if I happened to run into a christian bishop so I'm agnostic on naming protocols while generally calling people what they want to be called.

  • @TYPHON2713
    @TYPHON2713 Месяц назад +2

    I feel I learn a lot from people I don't necessarily agree with.

  • @Karmatattooerie
    @Karmatattooerie Месяц назад

    I believe I just lost my sister of over 45 years to this no contact thing. She forced a conversation on to me which I wasn't comfortable having knowing her views. I just truly believe the way to heal this country will not be through cutting people off and isolating us further. While I do think that Donald Trump is in existential threat to our democracy I still do not think destroying relationships is the way to healing our country. What we need is compassion empathy and tolerance. And most of all the ability to listen to each other when we disagree. To find agreement in our disagreement where we can start to heal the damage within our relationships.

  • @snowflakemelter1172
    @snowflakemelter1172 Месяц назад

    I found that we don't need to worry about others Zen practice, judging others practice is of course a path to reinforcing ones self just as judging ones own practice as good or bad, right or wrong is the epitome of what Dogen said " when the opposites arise the Buddha mind is gone " ultimately those just using Zen as an achievement are deluded and don't affect our own training at all. We should point out the foolishness of people pretending to have achieved something in Zen, who usually expose themselves anyway when you see it's all about them. " I am a great Zen teacher" is a sure sign someone isn't.

  • @bobdrew4181
    @bobdrew4181 Месяц назад

    Good stuff thank you

    • @bobdrew4181
      @bobdrew4181 Месяц назад

      I’ve really struggled with communication with my family because they have strong beliefs like denying climate change, they speak in racist angry terms and generally challenge me to be loving and tolerant
      My tendency is to cancel them for a while until I feel ready to communicate again
      But it’s not easy
      Many times I want to cancel them forever but this helps
      Thanks

  • @skrrskrr99
    @skrrskrr99 Месяц назад +3

    A lot of people missed the no self {Anatta) thing

    • @Teller3448
      @Teller3448 Месяц назад +2

      What is it that misses the anatta thing?

  • @dennislovinfosse6293
    @dennislovinfosse6293 Месяц назад

    Wow. Just wow. He's a study in all kinds of--well, let's call them "paradoxes". 😁

  • @subotai358
    @subotai358 Месяц назад +3

    Looking on Jeff’s website, it seems that Jeff had a very troubled time of it. Suicide is mentioned in the about page. I can only guess, he’s received a lot of rejection for identifying as nonbinary and views Trump/MAGA supporters as an existential threat. But I can’t help thinking that Jeff’s public energies might be better spent as an LGBTetc. activist, and keeping Buddhism as a practice rather than teaching.

  • @fancee_shmancee
    @fancee_shmancee Месяц назад

    Totally agree. The author has their own story about what it means to be republican that's heavily driven by their own party's caricature of republicans. Not all republicans are devoid of compassion. They see the issues and threats differently. Some I agree with, most I don't (I'm a dem, my father's a republican) but I'm aware of how my views of the issues aren't shared by my father. Each party has simplified and committed to a narrative that seems so obvious to them and compels heinous conclusions about their opponents. But those conclusions only work if the opponents see the issues the same way: they don't. So the conclusion that they all lack compassion is faulty.
    But on top of that we have to ask whether lacking compassion would even be a good reason to cut off contact. Maybe if you're directly being abused, but as Buddhists, Mahayana especially, it's our job to help people. Compassion doesn't end because the other person isn't compassionate. The author's whole rationale is nonsensical and contradictory.
    Beyond that, the author sounds dangerous. Cutting contact with family is destructive and punitive and obviously driven by the author's political identity which is just a lot of thinking, confusing, and maybe the author's attempt at farming likes and adoration. It's also reminiscent of cult tactics. 👎

  • @lizmichaels
    @lizmichaels Месяц назад +4

    What happened to the opening song. I miss it.

    • @Souljahna
      @Souljahna Месяц назад +2

      yeah. he should a done a line or to of 'Creep'

    • @zfid
      @zfid Месяц назад

      ​@@SouljahnaDing!

    • @lizmichaels
      @lizmichaels Месяц назад

      @@Souljahna Yeah.

  • @AnthonyMetivierMMM
    @AnthonyMetivierMMM Месяц назад

    Probably not what you're thinking, but if memory serves, the "tap" in "tapas" as a kind of meditation refers to motherly love in a few different ways.
    Theoretically, one who feels bothered by familiar relations would at least be quickly unbothered by the fact that they were bothered if they had anything like the cruising attitude tapas and other routines can and do bring.

  • @brandon637
    @brandon637 Месяц назад +1

    I’m not voting for Trump and I agree with you Brad.

  • @WoodsyLadyM
    @WoodsyLadyM Месяц назад +3

    I'm skeptical this guy is a Zen Buddhist of any kind. Saying he's a precepted facilitator in the Soto Zen tradition sounds rather vague. What's his lineage, sangha, center, whatever?

  • @gunterappoldt3037
    @gunterappoldt3037 Месяц назад

    It seems that modern genetics, starting with pioneers like G. Mendel, can explain many phenomena related to “hereditary transmission“ much better than most “old schools“. Some more “updating“ (because “temporae mutantur...“ it happens anyway) may be a good idea - if only to advance further on the way from “doxa“ to “episteme“, as Edmund Husserl (and other phenomenologists) put it.

  • @DavidDistracto
    @DavidDistracto Месяц назад +2

    The bardo? That's what the Tibetans call it.

  • @zensukai
    @zensukai Месяц назад +10

    Brad, the Zen finger of truth -- love it. =]

  • @1213141516171897
    @1213141516171897 Месяц назад +9

    I agree with what you're saying, but I have to ask: Why call them "he" if they explicitly ask to be called "they"? It seems like basic respect to do so. I understand it gets absurd when people insist on using dozens of different pronouns but using a single, third alternative like "they" makes sense (especially when criticizing someone).

    • @3ggshe11s
      @3ggshe11s Месяц назад +5

      Because he is not a "they."

    • @iansmith8783
      @iansmith8783 Месяц назад +3

      Because narcissistic people play games to try and control your behavior and you would do well to avoid letting them do that.

  • @Being_Joe
    @Being_Joe Месяц назад +13

    So if I vote Trump I will never have contact with that individual? Well my vote is my private business but...

    • @michigandersea3485
      @michigandersea3485 Месяц назад

      I know, right?

    • @Being_Joe
      @Being_Joe Месяц назад +3

      @@michigandersea3485 never voted for Trump, but I was not surprised in 2016. Attitudes like the Zen Boy over there towards the general population but they forgot what happens in a booth is private. As a college educated individual I saw how conservatives were treated at the University and how educated folk looked down on conservatives and non university educated population. I was not surprised. Whatever, I got my own problems that I don't need to be distracted from.

  • @garyrutland1119
    @garyrutland1119 Месяц назад

    Just when you thought the world couldn't get any weirder/ more ridiculous/ scarier.....

  • @Thatguyfromonline
    @Thatguyfromonline Месяц назад +4

    I don't do tiktok either, there are much more productive ways to waste time

    • @garad123456
      @garad123456 Месяц назад +1

      There are a lot of great compilations of animals beeing doofuses (doofi?), cute, smart, kind and funny. Watching those is not productive but I still do it.

    • @Thatguyfromonline
      @Thatguyfromonline Месяц назад

      @@garad123456 I have RUclips for that. That's enough social media for this old fogey.

  • @babamcrielly8804
    @babamcrielly8804 Месяц назад +5

    Cults try to separate you from your family and other support groups. There have been groomers on RUclips who have posted videos telling their victims to cut off contact from their family and rely on them for validation.

  • @tomseja1678
    @tomseja1678 Месяц назад +1

    I don't get it, by giving some jerk a middle finger, aren't you committing evil?

  • @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402
    @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402 Месяц назад +1

    Wikipedia says that Marsh is a social mefia presenter. He has a long history in entertainment and gender activism. At the end of the Wikipedia article it mentions he is a Buddhist since the 90’s. This person has no credibility as a spiritual teacher.

  • @mattrkelly
    @mattrkelly Месяц назад +1

    this is like the embodiment of everything wrong with zen... its what some of my family think zen is, I try to say otherwise...

  • @joeg3950
    @joeg3950 Месяц назад +1

    He can have an opinion or be an activist, but exclusion is not meant to be practiced in this way. Plus, he should not be teaching. From my perception, his videos are opinions. He's not a teacher. Plus, he needs to work on his practice. I talk with everyone - EVERYONE. Viva Ziggy!

  • @chapstickit
    @chapstickit Месяц назад +6

    Is it in some way inconsistent with your beliefs and practices to refer to a person by their preferred pronouns? I recall a video you'd made discussing how making accommodations for people in retreat settings can be problematic, and i appreciated that. I agree that our overuse of labels divides us into factions and can potentially move us further apart from another. We develop attachments to our personal 'brand' of ego. Whether that be nationality, religion, gender, ethnicity, or political persuasion. But I dont think its asking too much to refer to a person, even one you vociferously disagree with, by the pronouns they identify with. Or, if doing so would be inconsistent with your beliefs, why not refer to all people with they/them, and get beyond the gender label altogether?

    • @3ggshe11s
      @3ggshe11s Месяц назад +3

      I won't participate in a lie. Can't speak for anyone else.

    • @iansmith8783
      @iansmith8783 Месяц назад

      There are only two sexes, and you can't change sex. Why should i be required to pretend like something is so when it is not?

  • @Mocking_Bird_85
    @Mocking_Bird_85 Месяц назад +1

    Without one exception… until someone disagrees.
    One day we’ll all hike and drink beer together. 🍻
    Dare I say, this person included. One day that is, but now is definitely not the time 🤦‍♂️

  • @tylerdurden9879
    @tylerdurden9879 24 дня назад

    Wow, cheese.
    Actually seeing this weird guy (?) in a Brad Warner yt-clip reflexively makes me want to found something like the „Zen Buddhists for Trump“.

  • @helxis
    @helxis Месяц назад +7

    This is just another example of political obsession and extremism in America. People make politics their entire identity and draw lines in the sand over anything and everything as a result. It's real sad and seems like it's going to get worse before it gets better.

    • @edgepixel8467
      @edgepixel8467 Месяц назад

      The fight to influence public opinion has been pushed to the extreme. It's become cultural control. It's your duty as a citizen to hate people guilty of wrong-think. Who would have thought, Land of the Free, and Blah-blah.

  • @Teller3448
    @Teller3448 Месяц назад +7

    Being no-contact is an integral part of Buddhism.
    In Pali this is called 'viveka'....detachment.
    Check out the Rhinoceros discourse in the Dhammapada.
    One whose mind
    is enmeshed in sympathy
    for friends and companions,
    neglects the true goal.
    Seeing this danger in intimacy,
    wander alone
    like a rhinoceros.
    Like spreading bamboo,
    entwined,
    is concern for offspring and spouses.
    Like a bamboo sprout,
    un-entangling,
    wander alone
    like a rhinoceros.
    As a deer in the wilds,
    unfettered,
    goes for forage wherever it wants:
    the wise person, valuing freedom,
    wanders alone
    like a rhinoceros.

    • @Awperan
      @Awperan Месяц назад +11

      Practicing renounciation is not the same as acting upon ego drivin politics

    • @simonherrera9373
      @simonherrera9373 Месяц назад +4

      Yes I don’t think the intent of this discourse is to encourage tribalism and push away people that are different from you.

    • @Teller3448
      @Teller3448 Месяц назад +2

      @@simonherrera9373 "push away people that are different from you"
      You dont have to push...the intent is to not become entangled with people who run downstream from the ideals of Buddhism.

    • @Teller3448
      @Teller3448 Месяц назад +1

      @@Awperan "Practicing renunciation is not the same as acting upon ego drivin politics"
      All politics should be principle-based...not personality-based.
      I dont vote for persons I vote for principles.
      This is what they do in Switzerland with their national referendums.

    • @oliraethe1498
      @oliraethe1498 Месяц назад +2

      equating no-contact to detachment is a reach, just cause u have contact with someone doesnt mean you have to be attached to them and vice versa

  • @jefffedorkiw1619
    @jefffedorkiw1619 Месяц назад +3

    gee, why don’t you tell us how you REALLY feel?

  • @tedbonnot8910
    @tedbonnot8910 Месяц назад +5

    yeah, idk man, this aint it. the attitude youre bringing here and fostering in the comment section is honestly pretty hateful. i'm not really feeling the compassion here.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад

      @@tedbonnot8910 You’re here.

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @@HardcoreZenthey are here for the same reason as me. You used to be pretty well rounded but many have pointed out how you slid alllllll the way down the alt right pipeline during Covid. Lots of people are calling you out on your bullshit comments about this enby person and you just stick to your right wing values now. Instead of engaging with anyone pointing out your hypocrisy (hey everyone check out some of brads other trans related videos where he claims he has no problems respecting people’s pronouns yet here we see him purposely disrespecting someone’s because he disagrees with them on something entirely unrelated). This is an ad hominem attack BRAD and not very punk or zen and literally the shittiest way around to debate people.

  • @dustinfrost2603
    @dustinfrost2603 Месяц назад

    How is he going to feel when he finds out that there is no ultimately real separation from anything in existence, much less his family? Oh wait, I know the answer to that one from personal experience. It's not fun. Seeing yourself as just another genetic iteration of the same old dysfunction includes a lot more feelings of stuff like self-blame than you'd think, and if you're really honest about the scope of it, it takes a lot more than just going no contact to really fix. I know I suck at it, so good luck to him. Honestly.

    • @dustinfrost2603
      @dustinfrost2603 Месяц назад

      Oh, but I forget. Everything that is wrong now would be ok if there were no Trump. He's not emblematic of our society's problem. Despite all appearances to the contrary, he's some kind of Machiavellian mastermind. Or a puppet. Or a savior. Anything but just a product of his time and place like the rest of us

  • @Schnabelhund
    @Schnabelhund Месяц назад

    Not really gonna get into the "precepted facilitator" or the advice to go no-contact on anyone, just some thought on how we can take the Buddha's teachings into account on the issue of voting. He didn't engage in politics directly, but he did talk to kings and rulers about ethical governance (e.g. Dasa Raja Dharma, the Ten Duties of a King). I think it can be argued that these teachings can be applied to voters of today as wielders of power, however great or minute it may be or seem.

  • @benhorner8430
    @benhorner8430 Месяц назад

    Haha, I want to go find some more bad buddhist clips, that was feisty!

  • @stevekerrfuffle
    @stevekerrfuffle 23 дня назад

    This guy's always getting called out on x for grooming and being inappropriate with kids

  • @limbiclove9487
    @limbiclove9487 25 дней назад

    Interesting. Maybe he talks more about his Zen training/practice in his book which I am not going to read. Personally I think performance art, theater and need to be seen as a media personality is their main purpose. I don't feel it is Zen practice in all seriousness. There are Trans Zen practitioners who I know and they are not on to Tik Tok etc. There is this thing of being a professional Zen Buddhist to put on a bio or resume. I've see that. But it is usually with the reference to their teacher, or their Sangha. I don't think it is Jeffrey Marsh's gender fluidity that turns people off. Rather the fact that he is promoting himself as a savior of others who are gender fluid. I believe he mixes up that saviorism from Christianity (his mother was a preacher). It's not his non binary choices that are upsetting, it's his cultishness that is. Attaching Zen Buddhism to it is a lie and maybe he should do some Fusatsu. I have never heard of a precepts facilitator in all my years of practice nor have I heard any of the teachers I know mention it that way. It is a gimmick and that is not genuine. It breaks all the precepts because you can't have one broken without the other.

  • @praveenb9048
    @praveenb9048 Месяц назад +3

    Womb Amazon Warehouse Dispatch Center?

  • @RC-qf3mp
    @RC-qf3mp Месяц назад +9

    1:11 creepiest creeping creep on the internet.

  • @ceeemm1901
    @ceeemm1901 Месяц назад

    That's Dr Eric Berg! The keto scientologist!

  • @haroldcampos9661
    @haroldcampos9661 Месяц назад

    girl gang!

  • @zep7802
    @zep7802 Месяц назад +10

    Hi Brad, I've been watching your videos for a while now and this one was so disappointing to watch :(
    I've read posts on your website and you had previously said "There is no need to conform to gender stereotypes", yet you berate this person for the choices they have made (While not using their correct pronouns) and heart comments that are critical of their appearance because they are non binary.
    Your voice carries influence, why are you using it to spread animosity?

  • @GhostWalkerNation
    @GhostWalkerNation Месяц назад

    Marsh is a not to be trusted, he encourages young people to trust him and he will be their friend and help them with their sexuality 😳 Serious creepy vibes.

  • @kevin43joseph
    @kevin43joseph Месяц назад +6

    So much hate for Trump, it is sad.
    Hate for Kamala from the other side too, equally sad.

    • @MrStrocube
      @MrStrocube Месяц назад +2

      I hate them both equally. Though, at least Trump is good for a laugh.

    • @michigandersea3485
      @michigandersea3485 Месяц назад +4

      I can understand hating Trump, and cringing at Harris. But as we know, hate or cringing is only going to make it harder to do what’s right. We shouldn’t be cultivating hate or fear of political leaders. We may have it but shouldn’t be cultivating it.

    • @MrStrocube
      @MrStrocube Месяц назад +2

      @@michigandersea3485
      Your point is well taken. I agree, we shouldn’t be cultivating hate.

  • @georgwilliamfriedrichhegel5744
    @georgwilliamfriedrichhegel5744 Месяц назад +1

    But Brad if you don't put a bunch of made up titles in your bio we won't know how cool and enlightened you are!
    Personally, the whole "no contact" thing seems really dramatic to me. Like, just don't talk to them if you don't want to? Or only talk about certain issues with them? No need to make a whole "thing" of it.
    Also I'm imagining Dogen getting a Tick Tock and every video is just him quietly sitting zazen.

  • @4kassis
    @4kassis Месяц назад +4

    This is Jeffrey Marsh. If you google him you don't find any specifics about his zen training except "studied several years at a Zen Monastery in California" it might all be fiction, So you might be off the hook with any affiliation ;)

  • @mcxi
    @mcxi Месяц назад

    dear lord

  • @n0b0d1-rc6dz
    @n0b0d1-rc6dz Месяц назад +4

    My family members will be future Buddhas way, way off. For me it’s easier to understand them as arhats of closer future Buddhas who are teaching (skilful catalysing) through them.

  • @baruchdespinoza6318
    @baruchdespinoza6318 Месяц назад +3

    I get why you're angry, but I still like to think that Jeffrey sincerely thinks they are doing the right thing. I doubt that Jeffrey did a lot of zazen, otherwise they wouldn't be so clear on something so obviously stupid. But hey, stupidity is also just an expression of life. Someone should talk to Jeffrey. Maybe there's hope.

    • @baruchdespinoza6318
      @baruchdespinoza6318 Месяц назад +1

      Okay, I should have done some research before writing.
      Jeffrey is a professional internet content whatever, an describes their parents as "My biggest fans".
      I imagined some bedroom tictocer, with a troubled family life and an outcast biography. Seems I was wrong...
      Well whatever, I start to lose interest in this matter.
      Have a nice day, Brad!

  • @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402
    @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402 Месяц назад

    Talk about hate!!!!

  • @squirlmy
    @squirlmy 17 дней назад

    OTOH, maybe it's not good advice for everyone, but for trans/non-binary people like him? I think it's good advice, just not for the reasons he describes. I'm not sure who is audience is, or even if he knows who his audience is, but overall, if you are a man wearing makeup and women's clothing, yeah, staying away from Trumpers is not a bad idea. Of all the vloggers out there you could have critiqued...,

  • @eskilandersen479
    @eskilandersen479 Месяц назад

    I have to wonder in what sense you can practice Zen Buddhism for twenty years and be so unbalanced?
    Cutting people off is a very cruel thing to do. I don’t think anyone should do it so lightly.

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      Brad is doing the very same though right here in these comments and the video itself. He’s being very open he gives zero fucks about trans/enby folx and goes out of his way to proclaim he’s above respecting them. (He’s also an author that seems unaware of they/them pronouns existing in writing for ages. Myself and other trans/enby folx and allies have asked him to explain some of his positions and instead of you know being a Buddhist teacher he kicks “the kids” asking questions in class out instead of acting like an adult. Claiming trans folks have nothing to fear from Trump is about the most asinine statement I’ve heard about what Trump/MAGA/Project 2025 have already shown the world and saying it’s “fantasy”. Just 100% oblivious to people suffering in the world because he’s blaming the victims and spreading hate.

  • @pertinaciousD
    @pertinaciousD Месяц назад +3

    I had one close friend ghost me because I didn't accept her Qanon theories about Trump. It's a pity really as she was otherwise a good friend until she drank the koolaid.

    • @MrStrocube
      @MrStrocube Месяц назад +2

      I had a similar experience with a friend as well. It was because I did not share her TDS and enthusiasm for Hillary Clinton. I have no use for either Trump, Clinton or whoever his “opponent” might be.

    • @pertinaciousD
      @pertinaciousD Месяц назад

      Funny how people will choose a hill to die on so easily. I’m glad we don’t have the level of political insanity that you seem to have in the US but I lost friends over the whole Brexit thing for the same reason, it was pretty clear to
      me at the time that the whole thing was being orchestrated by someone with malign intentions but people jumped on that bandwagon like it was the last train out of town and had nothing but vitriol for anybody who didn’t joint them.

  • @kevindole1284
    @kevindole1284 Месяц назад

    Going no contact over a single vote is probably a mistake. Most of our parents have no more political power than we do. Is it really worth sacrificing a lifelong relationship over a simple "wrong" opinion?
    I would assume that for most people going through with such terrible advice it's not just about the vote but rather the totality of the relationship. The straw that broke the proverbial camel's back, etc.

  • @schonlingg.wunderbar2985
    @schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Месяц назад +3

    I mean ... Brad likes Godzilla, so I understand what he may appreciate about Trump, but I certainly am not here for political gossip.

  • @davidzoot
    @davidzoot Месяц назад +3

    Hey Brad, Jeffrey Marsh is nonbinary and goes by They/Them. Just read the very bio you post. It's all there. I don't personally resonate with J's advice, but, Brad, if you didn't so disdainfully refer to them as "this guy" I wouldn't be wondering if you have another agenda going on (and judging from some of your other videos, safe money says you do).
    Also, Brad, there's something you need to know: If Trump is elected, you'll be fine. You can drive across America and make 20 minute videos of every brain fart you have in the US state of your choice and not worry about a thing. If Trump is elected, Jeffrey Marsh has lots of reason to fear and will be even less safe than they already are in much of the US. And, Brad, I'm not sure if you've picked up on this, but the right wing is not teaching parents to be terrified of Brad "Senior Citizen White Guy from Ohio" Warner. Brad Warner is not being demonized as a threat to all that's most Christian about the USofA. Not so the case with tens of thousands of nonbinary/trans people--or, as you call them, "those guys".
    So, Brad, when Jeffry Marsh confronts Trump supporting relatives, those are folks who support policies that will oppress and threaten Jeffry. When Brad "I'm speaking truth to woke power!" Warner confronts Trump supporting relatives, you just chuckle and walk away and spend the next 8 hours recording a Monkees cover. Then, of course, you'll make a 20 minute video on Rupert Spira based on 5 minute video of his.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +2

      Jeffery Marsh has nothing at all to fear from Trump. That's just an absurd fantasy created by marketing people and grifters intent on spreading fear. And I don't have any interest in his pronouns. No one gets to choose what other people will call him. I also don't care about your "safe money" suppositions, which are entirely wrong, by the way. You don't have to watch my videos.

    • @davidzoot
      @davidzoot Месяц назад +1

      @@HardcoreZen >>And I don't have any interest in his pronouns. No one gets to choose what other people will call him.

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @@HardcoreZen”nothing to fear from Trump? Bahahahaha you obviously pay zero attention to how trans folx are treated in the world Brad. Heard of project 2025? You know the white xtian nationalists/trumps 900 page plan that literally speaks of throwing trans folx in prison because we are “pornography” and “sexualizing children” simply by existing. I realize you are not paying attention but Jewish Historians are. They literally are saying the rhetoric surrounding trans people RN is the same as it was for the Jewish people right before the holocaust. Do better dude

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @@davidzootyo wanna bet $5 that Brad will call his newly married female friends by their new last name no issue. Brad just hates on trans folx because he doesn’t care to learn about what’s happening to one of the largest minorities that the entire world is hating on RN. That’s why he says we have nothing to worry about from Trump 😂
      “Every punk I know would oust you as a bigot based on your “obviously male” quote alone. Your next book should be called conservative zen: a guide to being a fake punk zen master”

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffrey_Marsh
      Brad would never read this but if he did he might realize he’s being really. Hateful to someone recognized as one of the largest internet antibullly’s and an activist. He’s successful but Brad Hates Jeffry referring to himself being Buddhist so just adds a bunch of ad hominem attacks so we all really know how Brad feels. Congrats on bullying someone that’s celebrated for taking on assholes like yourself for a living. Jeffry might not have zen down in the way you want Brad but they definitely are doing a lot more good in the world right now than you are. Isn’t the goal of Buddhism to reduce suffering? Pretty sure you’re blatant transphobia, mocking someone’s preferred pronouns, and watching people say shit like “don’t know if they are a predator but let’s assume the creep is” comments that you heart or ignore is literally adding suffering to the world you’re just too wrapped up in not giving a shit about anyone but yourself.

  • @michaelmcclure3383
    @michaelmcclure3383 Месяц назад +2

    I am one who actually remembers that place before birth and drawing towards the mother. Knew it since childhood before hearing anything about the idea in Buddhism or Hinduism. And definitely that was one of my questions.. who chooses.. and so on.. based on this remembrance. When i met Ramesh one of the first things he said was you didnt choose your parents and so on.. Well, thats true.. as the Self i do nothing.. but as a jiva one apparently acts and chooses, but its not like i could of had different parents.. so its not choice in that sense.. the jiva got what it deserved and what served best.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +1

      @@michaelmcclure3383 Interesting. I have no such memories. Do you mean Ramesh Balsekar?

    • @michaelmcclure3383
      @michaelmcclure3383 Месяц назад

      @@HardcoreZen yes, Ramesh Balsekar. I know it's odd, but it's interesting that it's there in the scripters as you mentioned.

  • @EricJohnson-c4z
    @EricJohnson-c4z Месяц назад +1

    Absolutely.
    Going "no contact" for anything but the most serious of reasons is definitely bad advice.
    Severe regret is bound to occur sooner or later.

  • @joelcoston600
    @joelcoston600 Месяц назад

    Damn Brad, all I can really say is thanks for being you!!! And thanks for sharing!! Much respect to you sir!!

  • @deean.art0
    @deean.art0 Месяц назад +2

    I can't believe I'm actually seeing this guy again -- I didn't think I would and even hoped I would never see him again. He actually went kind of viral on twitter some time ago because he made some video directed at younger viewers on how to/why they should hide certain things from their parents in regards to gender identity. Considering that, I'm not surprised to hear him telling people to go no-contact if they have family that support Trump -- all of his predatory/isolating behavior does have the stench of a wannabe cult leader, Have to say I am also surprised to see that it seems he's more than just a little involved in Buddhism

  • @craigtechno
    @craigtechno Месяц назад +1

    “I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” - Voltaire
    I don’t think Voltaire was cancelling his family now do you ? Cheers Brad good points well made sir

  • @sugarfree1894
    @sugarfree1894 Месяц назад

    The Alaya?

  • @3ggshe11s
    @3ggshe11s Месяц назад +2

    If I shunned people over differences of opinion, I'd be all alone in the world. This guy is sadly typical of the cultish behavior of a political strain that trumpets kindness and tolerance but shuns you if you fail their ideological purity test. How anyone would think this is how Buddhist compassion should work is beyond me.

  • @Valosken
    @Valosken Месяц назад

    One of the things we all need to come to understand is that there's an canyon of difference between the moral disagreements that actually affect how we treat each other, and the ones that concern big matters that we have barely any control or effect on.

  • @fhoniemcphonsen8987
    @fhoniemcphonsen8987 Месяц назад

    Why so mad? Not sure if it's ironic, but it seems that you're pissed because a self serving grifter is spouting harmful nonsense about something you believe in and care deeply about.

  • @minoritiesunitelovewins
    @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад +6

    Congrats Brad. I’ve realized your little channel is not really a trans/non binary safe place that’s full of forced disrespect of an enby person because yall don’t like their obviously shitty Zen beliefs. It’s okay to dislike them for that but to actively disrespect other aspects of of their person unrelated to the zen stuff is very weird. As a self proclaimed punk I’d assume you would understand a bit about trans/enby folx but this entire mess has simply proven you’re oblivious or misgendering a person purposely. Do better man.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад +3

      I won't call a single (and obviously male) person by a plural pronoun. I make no effort at all to provide any type of "safe space" here. The entire concept of "safe spaces" is ridiculous and harmful. The real world is not a "safe space."
      ruclips.net/video/3P4dHJkde8s/видео.htmlsi=2vwd3_p0fFwUYEIv

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @@HardcoreZen obviously male yet their bio describes they are non binary and use they/them? You’re showing a blatant disregard for trans/non binary people and that’s enough for me to remove you from my life. I’ve read your books and always came to your channel as an amazing place to learn and grow but your bigoted uneducated opinions of trans/enby people are massively problematic. If you have some reference where Buddha is as shitty to other humans as you are being please do educate us all.

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад +3

      @@HardcoreZen also you are resorting to ad hominem attacks on the person you speak of in the r video. You have a legit reason to despise them (their fake zen claims) but you choose to also hate on an irrelevant human trait of theirs completely unrelated to why you’re upset. Thats ridiculous and literally harmful. Siding with all your new pals that jumped on your bandwagon because you’re hateful towards something you don’t understand is not very Buddha like at all.

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад +2

      Every punk I know would oust you as a bigot based on your “obviously male” quote alone. Your next book should be called conservative zen: a guide to being a fake punk zen master

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @@HardcoreZen have you checked out their junk to confirm your “obviously” male statement? I have an uncle that’s intersex so I think your gender assessment blows buddy.

  • @troyalanmusic6292
    @troyalanmusic6292 Месяц назад

    Isn’t your whole thing not giving people psychological counsel? Not “saving” people? Why then should your viewer base have any interest whatsoever in your opinion on the topic above?

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  Месяц назад

      @@troyalanmusic6292 You’d have to ask them.

  • @danielwetzel7777
    @danielwetzel7777 Месяц назад +1

    I like to think my spiritual practice leads away from drama like this

  • @SilA108ks
    @SilA108ks Месяц назад

    “What Paul says about Peter tells us more about Paul than about Peter”- Spinoza. The video poster hereby criticized likely suffers because of family issues due to their sexuality/ identity etc. I hope they practice harder and learn to digest their karma instead of spreading it. There may be a possibility however that they were victims of intolerable hate from within their family. You are correct in what you say about minor differences such as politics being easily put up with especially in Confucian influenced cultures like Japan.

  • @blorkpovud1576
    @blorkpovud1576 Месяц назад +1

    I don't know. This Zen dude is pretty annoying. But I'd say the worst one I've seen so far is that psycho Israeli one that received Dharma transmission from Gudo Wafu Nishijima.

  • @delgodzilla1977
    @delgodzilla1977 Месяц назад

    Think this issue is very linked to the 'anywheres' v 'somehweres' and the ris eof the internet so people can actually escape the physical situation they're in by finding their 'tribe' online etc, living in the bubble of their own making and not having to deal with people as they really are. Why help your next door neighbour when you can be protesting about palestine?
    Related to Jack Haubner's video on practicing alone, your family, or the people you xcome across day to day are your practice but very much appreciate your idea here that family are your karma.

  • @zigeunerart
    @zigeunerart Месяц назад +6

    The rise of woke Buddhism in America… is it due to the disproportionate influence of women over the movement?? 😂 gotta ask the the serious questions

    • @Teller3448
      @Teller3448 Месяц назад +1

      Yes...and also the chemical contamination of the human endocrine system.

  • @torritaite2880
    @torritaite2880 Месяц назад

    The whole shaming and gaslighting tactics for not supporting either party is ridiculous and it gets worse evey time there is a Presidential election.

  • @fcchapotot
    @fcchapotot Месяц назад

    When the monk is showing the finger... 😊

  • @seth-of-life
    @seth-of-life Месяц назад

    Brad, I’m glad to have found a teacher with similar views as you on woke culture having no place in Buddhism. He spins it as if you think the other side is truly delusional then you should want them at the sangha. Sanghas are for seeing the delusion for what it is. How else are you going to have compassion for suffering.

  • @HiDesert004
    @HiDesert004 Месяц назад +2

    Yeesh what is that thing?

  • @johnwilkinson5917
    @johnwilkinson5917 Месяц назад

    Does it surprise you that assholes come in all shapes and sizes?

  • @pearlyung
    @pearlyung Месяц назад +1

    He should shave..

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      You mean they should shave?

    • @minoritiesunitelovewins
      @minoritiesunitelovewins Месяц назад

      @hardcorezen why did you even heart this? You have more facial hair than this non binary person. It’s funny yall didn’t hate on them for the make up. Despite their shit zen views and beliefs they are still a human being that deserves basic respect. I hope you enjoy the influx of people that want trans folx dead on your RUclips patting your back for hating on a non binary/trans person. I don’t think you did this intentionally but it’s odd.