Be Shameless: 10 Things Every Woman Should STOP Feeling Shame About

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  • Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024

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  • @ayanime_edem
    @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +54

    11: No woman should ever feel shame for being ambitious!
    Thank you for watching and drop yours in the comments 🤍🎉

    • @winniesusvent2338
      @winniesusvent2338 7 дней назад

      Can you please do a video on how simple exercises or actions we can to practice poster
      Mostly for people who slouch
      @ayanime_edem

    • @winniesusvent2338
      @winniesusvent2338 7 дней назад

      Also please can you do a video of elegant body movement and actions
      Like when they say her body speaks it
      Like video on elegant body language

    • @winniesusvent2338
      @winniesusvent2338 7 дней назад

      Thanks you @ayanime_eden

  • @Liz-ic6jb
    @Liz-ic6jb 18 дней назад +84

    It's the broke guys that say money is not important. Wealthy people understand the value and purpose of money.

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +10

      Funny enough it’s the opposite in my experience… the smart broke guys talk about the importance of money. While the rich ones keep talking about how it’s not important in a subtle way to manipulate you into accepting peanuts

    • @Bluesmoke4200
      @Bluesmoke4200 18 дней назад +4

      @@Liz-ic6jb in my experience it's people who have never had to worry about money!

  • @Girliefinancee
    @Girliefinancee 18 дней назад +57

    No one should feel shame for marriage
    I need a provider,a protector,someone who leads me and leads a home
    I want that masculine aura🌸

    • @vickyvick8294
      @vickyvick8294 18 дней назад +3

      Speak baby.

    • @sarahmakutu6214
      @sarahmakutu6214 17 дней назад +4

      Yes girl! Amen!

    • @dorcas_in_splendor
      @dorcas_in_splendor 14 дней назад +1

      You captured my thoughts exactly

    • @Girliefinancee
      @Girliefinancee 14 дней назад

      @@dorcas_in_splendor yes babe🌸

    • @letrice2892
      @letrice2892 10 дней назад +1

      I agree I think when ppl hear a woman specifically say that some how they think shes desperate and that's where the shame enters. But it's not desperation at all its a goal,a desire and idk how wanting marriage became a shameful thing yet those who don't desire marriage can say that with out any back lash given smh

  • @ijeomaonyemaobi2725
    @ijeomaonyemaobi2725 17 дней назад +20

    I'm 32 and unmarried but I noticed that when you are behind time you shame yourself, others shame you too. That's where positive self talk about you and your family is amazing.

    • @MsDreamgirl1991
      @MsDreamgirl1991 6 дней назад +2

      It's not your fault. It's the toxic african mentality

  • @ijay_achinike
    @ijay_achinike 18 дней назад +36

    Honestly Ayanime, you're soo deep..."Never allow anybody age-shame you because it shows they're a hateful, bitter person who is projecting their insecurities about getting old on you".. Wow!!!

  • @NokuthaeThabaeNdex
    @NokuthaeThabaeNdex 18 дней назад +36

    Was always insecure about my body type but one day I was like ,who cares God created me this way. If you dont like how I look that's your business....Thanks Aya...

  • @Dammiescorner
    @Dammiescorner 18 дней назад +30

    Home maker is my ultimate goal. I presently work a 7-6pm and I do not feel fufilled. But weekeneds when am taking care of the home, my family and myself I feel so happy. Am so joyful. I can't wait to be a full time home maker. Thank you for this video

    • @estyonyi8153
      @estyonyi8153 18 дней назад +2

      ❤❤❤❤❤
      The truth is most people don't understand the fulfillment that comes with doing this.

    • @Dammiescorner
      @Dammiescorner 18 дней назад

      @@estyonyi8153 my gosh I can't even explain it

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +1

      My pleasure 🤍

  • @olawunmiogunyemi1541
    @olawunmiogunyemi1541 16 дней назад +7

    “You are allowed to reinvent yourself over and over and over till you find yourself”
    Thank you Ayanime❤❤

  • @HighTeaElegance
    @HighTeaElegance 18 дней назад +19

    There's absolutely nothing wrong with one wanting to be a homemaker 📌
    This video is enriching and what we all have to remember is that we all have different strengths, purposes and Destines.

  • @HealedandWinning
    @HealedandWinning 18 дней назад +15

    My past: verbally abused and constantly body shamed by my mom, suffered SA, my parents got divorced when I was 10, had zero self-esteem, and suffered constant lack and poverty in the family.
    I have always lived in shame and lack of self-esteem and have never dated or being a relationship out of fear. Now, at age 27, I recently got out of a religious cult that contributed to messing up my mind from age 20.
    I felt, its too late, and im too old to attract anyone, I've even resigned myself to forever singlehood but I think I need to shake off all the internalised shame

    • @PoSHEmediaglobal
      @PoSHEmediaglobal 16 дней назад +4

      Shake it off
      I had a traumatic childhood through to my teen to my young adult years.
      I spent most of my 20s healing from it
      Am 32 now and I feel my best
      I attract the best men
      And I know my desire for marriage and family is just around the corner

    • @blessingibeojo207
      @blessingibeojo207 9 дней назад +1

      ​@@PoSHEmediaglobal I totally agree with you. Your steps are ordered by God. I pray that God heals you of every trauma and show you the beauty of the life that He has given you. And that you experience the Love of God in a whole new dimension. You're winners already ladies 🎉

  • @1SavageQueen89
    @1SavageQueen89 18 дней назад +18

    Thank you for posting this today! I turn 35 today and this is along the lines of some of my thoughts to journal today. I’m blessed to enjoy another day and working hard not to feel shame in this next year! 😊

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +6

      Oh wow! Happy birthday beautiful! Wishing you a wonderful, wonderful year! 🤍 🎉

    • @itodoblessing3766
      @itodoblessing3766 18 дней назад +1

      Happy birthday 🎉🎉 dear

    • @bridgetajari297
      @bridgetajari297 18 дней назад +1

      Happy Birthday to you🎉

    • @1SavageQueen89
      @1SavageQueen89 17 дней назад

      Aww, thank you everyone for the birthday wishes ❤

    • @user-qs3cv8vn2n
      @user-qs3cv8vn2n 17 дней назад

      Sweet! Happy birthday 🎉 Wishing you More beautiful years

  • @ZedZee-vg5xy
    @ZedZee-vg5xy 16 дней назад +5

    Phew! I once gave up on Etiquette coaches because they (most of them) came across as rigid, inauthentic, wannabes. Listening to and watching you however has given me a paradigm shift: you're refined, feminine, intelligent, and yet so relatable; you walk the talk 💯. Thanks for being and sharing your light. God bless you

  • @Bluesmoke4200
    @Bluesmoke4200 18 дней назад +13

    Just want to say I love your videos so much! I am naturally feminine and was raised by a super bougie mother from Atlanta Georgia (basically a black Scarlett O'Hara lol) but even I don't know some of these. Your channel is awesome!

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +1

      Your words just made my day! Thank you beautiful 🤍

  • @Wonderer888
    @Wonderer888 18 дней назад +6

    You have such a beautiful energy and aura. It’s inviting & comforting to be in your presence (even if virtually). I don’t know the totality of you but based on how I’m receiving you from watching your videos… I hope to have someone of your qualities as a friend in my future. This is the kind of sisterhood I crave. ❤❤❤

  • @ninawestlake14
    @ninawestlake14 18 дней назад +6

    I love this and agree wholeheartedly. There is not one single soul in this world that can shame me for wanting the sweet things of life.Those who want to stay alone forever, kudos to them and those who want to do it all by themselves, i salute you. But that is not for me. Never😂

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +2

      I join you and salute them too 😂

  • @ThatSoto
    @ThatSoto 18 дней назад +6

    I'm quite surprised that God is leading me in the directiong he has lately with the channels being shown to me and being on point with everything I've believed deep down but have shamed myself from my broken childhood. I'm at 30 now, growing with my husband everyday on all these topics. Take care, It's a pleasure watching your vids.

  • @wanyanamariam1659
    @wanyanamariam1659 8 дней назад +1

    Your voice and calmness is great 👍

  • @caramelish
    @caramelish 17 дней назад +3

    I love the way you speak. I love listening to you speak... Whew! You're soothing.

  • @ThePeachyPathfinder
    @ThePeachyPathfinder 15 дней назад +5

    I am a 55YO divorcee who has been single for 30 years and I want to marry again. Thanks for making me good about that!

    • @Tomisinshalewa
      @Tomisinshalewa 13 дней назад +1

      I know someone else close to me in your age range who wants to do that too. I'm wishing you luck!😊

    • @DeannaLANG3446
      @DeannaLANG3446 13 дней назад

      Thanks ​@@Tomisinshalewa

  • @Bambi-udeme
    @Bambi-udeme 17 дней назад +4

    I really envy stay at home wives ..and trust me if i could choose i will but i want to be developed financially cuz knowing where i come from, i wouldn't want to go back to where ive come from ...❤❤ Nice video.. love it❤

  • @icon12legacy17
    @icon12legacy17 18 дней назад +3

    Today's message was intense, Truthful to the core and absolutely insightful... As always, Thank you sweet Ayanime

  • @jimangfavour2394
    @jimangfavour2394 18 дней назад +3

    Thank you Ayanime... I really needed to hear this. Yesterday was my birthday and a friend called me and we had a long conversation about me getting married. I told him I wasn't ready because I am not where I want to be financially. I am currently on a journey to better my self because of the kind of men I have been attracting. I believe I deserve better so I also want to be better for the person I will end up with. I am tired of the pressure of get married and it has to be now.

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +2

      Don’t let ANYBODY pressure you, trust me, you’ll know when it’s the right time and person 🤍

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад

      Oh and happy belated birthday beautiful 🎂 🎉

  • @stacyonuoha8399
    @stacyonuoha8399 9 дней назад

    Thank you for this wonderful teaching 👏👏👏👏 I love you ❤

  • @vivianatieno9854
    @vivianatieno9854 18 дней назад +2

    Thankful to have come across your channel 😉, each and every vlog has a special message ❤❤❤.

  • @titilayoadegoke3156
    @titilayoadegoke3156 9 дней назад

    Thank you Ayanime❤. Love you!

  • @Goldie-B
    @Goldie-B 16 дней назад +1

    I love this

  • @joynonyelum2695
    @joynonyelum2695 18 дней назад +2

    This video is an eye opener for me. I have a daughter, pretty daughter but I m always insecure about her body type, being on the big size and with large boobs. I totally forgot she inherited that from my husband's family. Thanks so much for this.

  • @qwinsuccey.
    @qwinsuccey. 10 дней назад

    Thank you Ayamine! Your contents are soo insightful and mind changing

  • @ekutoziamisibor395
    @ekutoziamisibor395 12 дней назад

    Beautiful one, thanks alot

  • @favourumoh2054
    @favourumoh2054 7 дней назад

    This is really educative ❤

  • @CarolineAdeyemi-r3m
    @CarolineAdeyemi-r3m 18 дней назад +2

    Thanks for sharing Ayanime,
    Very Insightful!!!

  • @GeorginaEsiTakyiAnnan
    @GeorginaEsiTakyiAnnan 4 дня назад

    Nice 🥰

  • @Empressviq
    @Empressviq 18 дней назад +1

    I love your kind of videos

  • @finessefine
    @finessefine 8 дней назад

    👏🏾Pure gems‼️ Subbed…

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 дней назад +1

      Awesome! 🎉 I’m glad to have you here 🤍

  • @baisinbu98
    @baisinbu98 18 дней назад +1

    Always top AY!! Thank you! 🤎

  • @nancykargbo869
    @nancykargbo869 18 дней назад +1

    Thank you ma❤

  • @ginikaoffiah5946
    @ginikaoffiah5946 16 дней назад

    I'm so happy I came across this........... Thanks so much for all these teachings, I'm inspired

  • @melisshalindsey
    @melisshalindsey 10 дней назад

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Where have you been in my social network life? I am glad to have discovered your channel.
    I said that I'm going to love everything about me that makes me my God-given authentic self.

  • @ovohejennifer1267
    @ovohejennifer1267 15 дней назад

    I just came across your channel amd I am so in loveeeeeee with every of your videos.💃💃💃

  • @indulgebodyskincare
    @indulgebodyskincare 14 дней назад

    I couldn't love you more with this video.
    Thanks for sharing many awesome tips.

  • @tr7339
    @tr7339 18 дней назад +1

    Thanks

  • @Elegancefashionfairy
    @Elegancefashionfairy 18 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @jenniferagundu8379
    @jenniferagundu8379 11 дней назад

    I am so loving your videos,from the calm way you present your speeches to your simplicity, I feel very comfortable listening to you.
    May God give your more knowledge to educate us more.

  • @BeulahSylvester
    @BeulahSylvester 14 дней назад

    Thank you aunty Ayannime ❤

  • @Onyinyechi35
    @Onyinyechi35 18 дней назад +1

    It depends on what your love language is... for receiving love...

  • @nancy_dominic01
    @nancy_dominic01 16 дней назад

    Thank you so much ma'am omg I can't believe I felt sorry for myself while watching this video

  • @chisomesther9322
    @chisomesther9322 14 дней назад

    I love you mama❤❤❤
    Be my role model

  • @StarGyrl
    @StarGyrl 15 дней назад

    LOVE this video and a lot of these points resonates with my own life.

  • @Belema142
    @Belema142 7 дней назад

    God is really intentional about me, it’s been a burden in my heart to be better in general and to grow especially in my femininity.. and He brought your page to me.. I’m binge watching your videos and it’s been helpful. Thank you. You’re helped by God❤

  • @Love_Lacie
    @Love_Lacie 18 дней назад +1

    Great video! 💫

  • @AdeizaVictoria
    @AdeizaVictoria 13 дней назад

    Thanks for this, you've taught me a lot today.

  • @beatricemaleficent3822
    @beatricemaleficent3822 17 дней назад

    you are so wise and lovely..thanks for the amazing video

  • @TheBudgetingCNA
    @TheBudgetingCNA 14 дней назад

    Yes ma’am! 🫶🏾🩵✨

  • @Officiallynomzy
    @Officiallynomzy 16 дней назад

    Ayanime, God bless you for the work that you do. I have been following you for a while now and I can say a lot has changed about me. So much to learn from you really ❤

  • @brenittacheatum6542
    @brenittacheatum6542 18 дней назад

    Your such a classey and wise woman for your age. BLESSINGS!!!

  • @royaladvisorypublishing
    @royaladvisorypublishing 16 дней назад

    You said all the words I didn't know how to say. This is INCREDIBLE! The Holy Spirit is with you on your tangents. Thank you Jesus for your insight and outpouring. God bless you

  • @joeviemaycalatrava6735
    @joeviemaycalatrava6735 18 дней назад

    Thank you for this beautiful content, we need more of this in every platform ❤

  • @annicks7385
    @annicks7385 17 дней назад

    Wonderful Video. Well said .🌹

  • @ELamy802
    @ELamy802 18 дней назад

    Thank you for this video. It was much needed.

  • @naongakalumbi8670
    @naongakalumbi8670 16 дней назад

    Thank you.

  • @Roseslittlecorner
    @Roseslittlecorner 15 дней назад

    Amazing content! Thank you. I needed to hear this.

  • @AnonymousSpirit
    @AnonymousSpirit 14 дней назад

    This is lovely ❤

  • @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique
    @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique 17 дней назад

    I love this Amazing content!

  • @AnonymousSpirit
    @AnonymousSpirit 14 дней назад

    7:27 THANK YOU

  • @debbieola1694
    @debbieola1694 18 дней назад

    Thank you for always, Ayamine 🤗❤️🙏🏽

  • @peaceedeoghon4034
    @peaceedeoghon4034 18 дней назад

    I greatly admire you.
    Thanks for this video.

  • @GraceChimera-tn6jl
    @GraceChimera-tn6jl 18 дней назад

    Oh wow Ayanime😊

  • @rachidamaiga9027
    @rachidamaiga9027 18 дней назад

    Thank you for this good content

  • @Khadibillion23
    @Khadibillion23 16 дней назад

    Thank you mama, I’m glad I found your channel 🫂

  • @bridgetajari297
    @bridgetajari297 18 дней назад

    You are amazing..i absolutely love you❤

  • @bridgetajari297
    @bridgetajari297 18 дней назад

    And thank you so much for this content, these tips are so inspiring

  • @eminaemi7854
    @eminaemi7854 18 дней назад

    I LOVE your content! ❤❤ i agree with everything. Cant wait for the other Videos 🎉

  • @anenasusan3781
    @anenasusan3781 18 дней назад

    Have been missing your content and finally boom ❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад

      I’ve been right here o😩😩

  • @user-ye1eq5hp7x
    @user-ye1eq5hp7x 16 дней назад

    Money create ease in a relationship 😊

  • @heavenlyharmony1246
    @heavenlyharmony1246 11 дней назад

    Hi there! Just came across your channel and subscribed. Love your content and outfits. Would you happen to offer service for wardrobe assistance?

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  11 дней назад

      That’s wonderful! 🎉 I’m glad to have you here…
      As for wardrobe assistance, no I do not offer that service. However, I do have a one-year program on upgrading your style, wardrobe and appearance.
      Here’s the link to read all about it and possibly enrol:
      ayanimeedem.selar.co/page/StylingYourEssence

  • @gabriellecalhoun5744
    @gabriellecalhoun5744 16 дней назад

    Can we get a video about how to elegantly dress at the gym please?! Thank you! Love your videos!

  • @maryannspicher
    @maryannspicher 17 дней назад +2

    I had a conversation with a male coworker the other day and I had said if I ever get involved with another man he will have to have something in life. Of course he went to the gold digger comment. Wanted to get me a T-shirt. 🤦‍♀️ No, I’m just tired of being financially drained taking care of these losers!

  • @only_nene1
    @only_nene1 7 дней назад

    Great content. Gained a subbie. I don't get why women go through shame for a cheating husband 🤷‍♀️ unfortunately these shame come from women.

  • @onuhuduakobong6676
    @onuhuduakobong6676 18 дней назад

    I'm so much in love with your videos, Ayanime, you're amazing. I missed one of my childhood friends bearing that name, I hope it isn't you 😅

  • @originalthoughts22
    @originalthoughts22 15 дней назад

    I love that your teachings are from the Bible pov, We need this today in our misguided world

  • @maryomachoko8732
    @maryomachoko8732 9 дней назад

    Hello could you please tag me on the video you said is linked in the description? I can’t find it thank you.

  • @esterpena487
    @esterpena487 18 дней назад

    Esse vídeo chegou em um momento tão propício, planos de Deus como eu Amo Jesus❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад

      Fico feliz que tenha sido útil 🤍

  • @user-ye1eq5hp7x
    @user-ye1eq5hp7x 16 дней назад

    Rebuke them❤thank you.

  • @krysteljohnson6643
    @krysteljohnson6643 2 дня назад

    Desiring to have a bunch of children should also be on this list too.

  • @SrijoniSarkar-zj1uh
    @SrijoniSarkar-zj1uh 18 дней назад

    Love from India 😊

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад

      Oh wow! I’m glad to have you here 🎉🤍

  • @Tomisinshalewa
    @Tomisinshalewa 13 дней назад

    The way i covered my mouth in 2:10💀☠️
    Ayanime you're baddd!😂😂😂
    On the other hand, your channel is growing really well!🥹 Congratulations!

  • @user-kd6zb7ot1r
    @user-kd6zb7ot1r 11 дней назад +1

    Can you please make a video on how to respond to men who stop you on the street to collect your number

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  11 дней назад +1

      “I’m not comfortable giving you my number”
      Simple and you walk away.

  • @faithshimoomba7261
    @faithshimoomba7261 18 дней назад +2

    I actually sometimes forget how old iam too😂

  • @leamontoweh715
    @leamontoweh715 18 дней назад +1

    I don't disagree with 1. But I think with the current trend- ppl are getting married later in life - so it should be more pressure to get married by a particular age that's the issue.

  • @miscellaneousme
    @miscellaneousme 7 дней назад

    My husband WORKS hard in the heat, humidity, and snow as a mobile mechanic. He’s Mexican and in their culture, they are taught that you are useless as a man if you don’t work.
    I know someone whose baby daddy is a lazy slob and just sits on the couch while she is out digging fences and doing farm work for others so they can afford to eat.
    I respect my husband for busting his bum for me and our 6 kids (and he does it with the pride of a man who can provide), and I look at the woman I know with the couch potato boyfriend with such pity. A man who has no drive and won’t provide is, in my opinion, useless indeed.

  • @charliecharles8517
    @charliecharles8517 15 дней назад

    Ayanimeeeeeeeeeeeee 🎶🎵🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰☺❤❤🙏🏾

  • @melindaferreira9879
    @melindaferreira9879 18 дней назад +3

    I also am told . You have it made.. what are you complaining about.. yadda yadda.. because at the moment I am a stay at home mom.. the opposition and judgment and disrespect or disregard is real. People have this idea that I am eating bonbons all day.. watching soap operas! Haha.. 😂 people have no idea how difficult managing a home is.

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад +3

      They truly do not! The weight of the responsibility of caring for another human being(s) not in a “meet this deadline” way but in a way you know will deeply affect their overall well-being is heavy. I salute you beautiful! 🤍

  • @Empressviq
    @Empressviq 18 дней назад

    I also wanna do what you're doing someday

  • @GlobalLeaderPearl
    @GlobalLeaderPearl 6 дней назад

    Hello Intentional woman.im mew to the family

  • @sakuraesther6309
    @sakuraesther6309 18 дней назад

    Should women be ashame for not wanting marriage because some women are shamed and berated for not wanting marriage.
    They are shamed for that as well
    Id like to hear your take on this

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  18 дней назад

      This was number 10 in the video

  • @JanetUdoh-k6x
    @JanetUdoh-k6x 17 дней назад

    Should we also be ashamed when men tell us to stop wearing moderate makeup.... I mean I was in church on Sunday and a guy was like hmmm why do women wear light makeup , so please what do you think of this particular statement

  • @Iam_omolara
    @Iam_omolara 17 дней назад

  • @cryptoqueenacademy
    @cryptoqueenacademy 17 дней назад

    I have been following you. I must commend your good work. But then being in relationship doesn't imply the man is responsible for you financial obligation. Depending on a man in relationship to provide for me is no no for me. I am not saying he shouldn't care but my point is, it shouldn't be a responsibility like you make it sound. Let it be that he just wants to do what he want to do as long as he has not paid your bride price

  • @ashaade4176
    @ashaade4176 18 дней назад

    I like how have fixed your gap teeth, please I need a good recommendation in Abuja to fix my teeth.

  • @corettejones
    @corettejones 18 дней назад

    ✔️✔️✔️👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🥰🇺🇸💙