All of my ❤️❤️❤️ to you. Fight sister fight! I eat more e than double what my husband eats. He weighs 120lbs more than I do. Full disclosure he is a foot taller. Rational brain to the rescue! RB says he hasn't been fighting to survive malnutrition for decades. RB says, ”you need massive repairs and an addition!” This takes massive amounts of energy to accomplish. Next I need RB to shield me from the messages from diet culture that smaller is better and that weight gain is a failure. I hope that this crazy response makes sense. I am trying to communicate that you speak my language. So beautiful lady I hope that your brain finds peace and your body gets a vacation with a never ending buffet, that serves gourmet coffee. BTW I think that our bodies need more calories to maintain hormones. Guys don't build humans. Ironic I know.
That's an interesting theory regarding hormone production, one which I had never thought of! And your reference to inclusion of gourmet coffee at the buffet of recovery/freedom made me giggle. I very much appreciate your Rational Brain and tbh actually screenshot this comment for when I need a good zap of reality. Sounds like RB speaks my language fluently lol, so thank you. 🙏🧡
again so completely with you with this!!!! i constantly look at my husband and think "your a man you naturally need more"! i also have currently been feeling not great and think that actually my body is screaming "for heavensake enough woman please give me food not diet stuff we need proper food down here" but yet my mind says really your a woman you should eat less!! but logically i know i should eat soooo much more!! xx
I feel like it's a double whammy, contending with both (at least I feel like I've observed) this societal message message that the smaller/shorter/less active/more female 😂😂😂 you are the less energy you "should" need. PLUS the added variable of our own minds being influenced by the ED too!
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 absolutely stero type is women dont eat as much this and our minds equals as you say internal stress external torment. New mantra should be If we breathe we can eat! xx
Happy Thanksgiving, great to have two videos from you in the last few days. I compare my food to my husbands food all the time and sometimes my sons, and wish that I had their food freedom. I want that, and have to do opposite of what my brain tells me! Your videos are so helpful for us mature ones with eating disorders!
Thanks Terry!! You bring up such a good point... Funny how I find myself envying Ryder's foot freedom AND comparing in terms of quantity eaten/perceived needs as well!! The craziness of eating disorders, right? 😹😹 Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for the kind comment.
I also think you can compare it to someone needing more sleep than the average 6 to 8 hours after they had an accident. You wouldn't fault them for having too much sleep just like you shouldn't fault your body for needing more nutrition
That's an excellent comparison! My sister has always needed so much sleep and I've certainly never thought less of her for it. If anything I'm impressed by her abilities lol 😹😽
No need to apologise!! Do you mean in terms of knowing how to be there and provide support? Or more so with having to watch you struggle, frustration, etc?
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 it’s more to see me struggle and not progress. I’ve had an ED for the best part of 50 years and he’s been with me for the last 36. It’s the predictability and cyclical nature of it but that cycle hasn’t been broken but we both have
@@katespalding2134 Awwwww I'm so sorry to hear that but can absolutely relate. It's hard to reach a point of mutually not trusting that the cycle will stop, feeling like your promises that "This time will be different" have no meaning because they've amounted to nothing for years. I actually am uploading a video RIGHT NOW lol with my husband to hopefully start addressing the topic. 💛💛
All of my ❤️❤️❤️ to you. Fight sister fight! I eat more e than double what my husband eats. He weighs 120lbs more than I do. Full disclosure he is a foot taller. Rational brain to the rescue! RB says he hasn't been fighting to survive malnutrition for decades. RB says, ”you need massive repairs and an addition!” This takes massive amounts of energy to accomplish. Next I need RB to shield me from the messages from diet culture that smaller is better and that weight gain is a failure. I hope that this crazy response makes sense. I am trying to communicate that you speak my language. So beautiful lady I hope that your brain finds peace and your body gets a vacation with a never ending buffet, that serves gourmet coffee. BTW I think that our bodies need more calories to maintain hormones. Guys don't build humans. Ironic I know.
That's an interesting theory regarding hormone production, one which I had never thought of! And your reference to inclusion of gourmet coffee at the buffet of recovery/freedom made me giggle. I very much appreciate your Rational Brain and tbh actually screenshot this comment for when I need a good zap of reality. Sounds like RB speaks my language fluently lol, so thank you. 🙏🧡
again so completely with you with this!!!! i constantly look at my husband and think "your a man you naturally need more"! i also have currently been feeling not great and think that actually my body is screaming "for heavensake enough woman please give me food not diet stuff we need proper food down here" but yet my mind says really your a woman you should eat less!! but logically i know i should eat soooo much more!! xx
I feel like it's a double whammy, contending with both (at least I feel like I've observed) this societal message message that the smaller/shorter/less active/more female 😂😂😂 you are the less energy you "should" need. PLUS the added variable of our own minds being influenced by the ED too!
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 absolutely stero type is women dont eat as much this and our minds equals as you say internal stress external torment. New mantra should be If we breathe we can eat! xx
Things that breathe eat... Simple and snappy. I like it!!
Thank you for the reassurance. You make the difficult days easier. Many blessings!
Awwwww thank you!! I'm so glad my silly videos help in some way 😉💛
Happy Thanksgiving, great to have two videos from you in the last few days. I compare my food to my husbands food all the time and sometimes my sons, and wish that I had their food freedom. I want that, and have to do opposite of what my brain tells me! Your videos are so helpful for us mature ones with eating disorders!
Thanks Terry!! You bring up such a good point... Funny how I find myself envying Ryder's foot freedom AND comparing in terms of quantity eaten/perceived needs as well!! The craziness of eating disorders, right? 😹😹 Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for the kind comment.
I hope you get the help you need.
Thank you very much. 🧡
I also think you can compare it to someone needing more sleep than the average 6 to 8 hours after they had an accident. You wouldn't fault them for having too much sleep just like you shouldn't fault your body for needing more nutrition
That's an excellent comparison! My sister has always needed so much sleep and I've certainly never thought less of her for it. If anything I'm impressed by her abilities lol 😹😽
How does your husband cope with your ED. My husband really really struggles. I’m sorry this is a very very personal question
No need to apologise!! Do you mean in terms of knowing how to be there and provide support? Or more so with having to watch you struggle, frustration, etc?
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 it’s more to see me struggle and not progress. I’ve had an ED for the best part of 50 years and he’s been with me for the last 36. It’s the predictability and cyclical nature of it but that cycle hasn’t been broken but we both have
@@katespalding2134 Awwwww I'm so sorry to hear that but can absolutely relate. It's hard to reach a point of mutually not trusting that the cycle will stop, feeling like your promises that "This time will be different" have no meaning because they've amounted to nothing for years. I actually am uploading a video RIGHT NOW lol with my husband to hopefully start addressing the topic. 💛💛
Niceeee , how are you btw?