31 Years Sober: My Experience
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- Опубликовано: 9 сен 2024
- I don't drink and I've never been drunk. I've been asked why I don't drink probably hundreds of times at this point, and I want to share why I don't think it should matter. I'm sharing my personal experience and my personal opinion. Please know that I don't judge you if you drink, just like I hope you don't judge me for not. 💜
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I have never drank or been high, "buzzed", tipsy, or whatever else they call it. I was part of a very diverse group of friends in college and there were parties and club hopping every single weekend (when we didn't have a show---I was part of two professionals dance companies so performing and then partying afterwards was quite routine). I was the only one in the group who never drank. But I had a great bunch of friends and associates. I was blessed to be around crazy people who never pressured me. They'd ask once or twice, even hand me a glass that I'd either pour out or just put down somewhere but it was all in good fun. They knew I wasn't going to drink it and never made a fuss. If they caught someone else not in our group trying to encourage me to drink they'd come "rescue" me and order them to "leave her alone, she doesn't drink".
If I was dragged out to a club they had a "weed car" and a "clean car". I was always told I couldn't ride in a particular car bc they'd be smoking. I felt very respected by my friends and their groupies.
It makes me so happy to hear you've had such a positive experience. 💜💜💜 Your friends and associates sound like wonderful people!
I'm 26 and I've never been drunk. Alcoholism runs in my family, so I've decided if I never start drinking, I can't become an alcoholic. I don't advertise that I don't drink and I don't have an issue with other people drinking. I've been pretty lucky that most people I've encountered have been cool with it, however, several of my classmates in college branded me as "lame" because I didn't drink and didn't party much.
Same here, on another note have you noticed a lot of places were alcohol isn’t a big deal or drugs and tobacco, these people age pretty well?
I’m 35 and have never drank. I dealt with a lot of the same stuff and sadly I did get aggressive back a few times with people about it when they wouldn’t drop it. I didn’t like being the center of attention for an entire dinner out as coworkers attempted to invalidate my reasons and get me to drink. Most of my friends in college would ask and then let it go and we had a good time, but the professional world really didn’t like my decision to not drink lol
You’re not the only person. I don’t drink as well. I completely can relate to the peer pressure. I usually get a response like… “if you don’t drink then I can’t trust you”… thanks for sharing
My fellow non-drinker! Sorry to hear you've experienced similar things. 💜 Really appreciate you listening and understanding!
That's why you look so young and healthy!! Not drinking alcohol is the best!! In the UK people always question why I don't drink lol.
That’s tough because it seems the UK is such a bigger drinking culture than USA.
@@windermere2330 Yes you are correct! In fact in office work places and even amongst government bodies and medical health care drinking alcohol socially is preferred. My friend that didn't drink had to start drinking in order to move up in his work place. It's a disgusting practice. I always used to go to clubs and not drink lol.
I'm 35, I don't drink and never been drunk in my entire life either. And I approve this video 😊
Sorry to hear about your experiences! I've had some people ask why I don't drink, but they never made a big fuss about it nor would they try and get me to drink. (I mean, seriously?! That's just stupid.) Thanks for sharing your message. :)
Thank you for sharing and for being vulnerable about this subject. I respect your decision and I love you and I'm so proud to be in your life.
I didn’t drink in high school, my sister gave me the tip of pouring out the beer and refilling with water so people wouldn’t bother me.
I try to stop drinking every week and peer pressure gets me every other week props to you!
Wow I really related to this as a non-drinker. My own family constantly pressures me and honestly it makes our relationships suffer. I often make excuses, because I don’t have a big earth shattering reason, so as you have experienced…they try to persuade me to change my mind. I think it’s more about their comfort level, and feeling validated for drinking. Anyway, great video
Thank you so much and I'm sorry to hear that you've had similar experiences. 💜
I think you're right about their comfort level and desire for validation. Doesn't mean it's not tiring for you to deal with though. 😔
Been sober 18 mo. Proud of you for your choices.
Also, your shoulders are BADA$$. You've earned dem babies!
Thank you so much! And congrats on 18 months 💜💜💜
@@BalancingLaura I say "my soul is allergic to alcohol." It tends to make folks really have to THINK on their own...wtf that means. 😂
58 years old and never been drunk. I’m even an Army Infantry Combat Veteran and I don’t drink. I can totally relate to the annoyance of being asked why I don’t drink. My basic response has been the same since I was in high school: Because I don’t want to. Works for me every time. Keep up the great videos!
I'm also 31, but my experience has been completely different. I started drinking at 15 and never stopped. I think I reached the peak was when I was 19 to 20. So, I consider myself a "light" alcoholic or maybe I have "social alcoholism" being that I always drink on social ocations, but almost never alone. I have it controlled now, because of sports. More than alcohol, my biggest pation and way of coping with the world has been through sports and I think that saved me from "the dark pit". I say all that, because looking backwards, I can't help but think that my life, would've been different for the better if I didn't drank so much in my twenties.
I have to say I have the biggest respect to people like you and I wish I had a little bit of your strenght and that's why I clicked into your video. Thank you!
Why is it so challenging for people to not control others
Why do drinkers want to convince you to drink, but smokers are not trying to convince to begin smoking.
I drink occasionally and have never tried convincing a non drinking to drink because that's their right and choice and the smarter choice to be honest LoL
Super Video Laura! It's funny because now it is almost a trend not to drink with all the mocktails recipes and parties. Congrats for not drinking, you're the real winner 🏆
Walking the dog long distances and hiking does not give me a hang over. One beer gives me a head ache. I realize that most things that make me feel good like heavy exercise where endorphins are released attracts me. A chemical addiction to a substance would be something that I could fall prey to very easily. Practicing avoidance of situations where I could fall into an addiction means my survival. So now at 69 I avoid gatherings where any addictive substances might be used. There , so even at 69 peer pressure is still a problem. Recovering addicts are my favorite people to be around because they truly understand. They don’t need extended explanation for not participating in any type of intoxicant. Sugar ,starches ,and gluten will eventually kill me .
The fact that you even need to film this is saddening.
Yes that's exactly how I feel. I drink occasionally and have never cared whether a person wants to drink or not drink. I actually understand why a person wouldn't want to because it's the smarter choice to just not drink
I'm getting 42 this weekend (2022) and I never was drunk. I don't miss it. I saw several times what happened after drinking to much. I never want to be like this.
Hey! I don't drink and never have. I was a sailor for several years (Coast Guard) in addition to College, so I know the peer pressure you speak of. 😂😂😂 I have had people tell me that I was their mission. Although, I enjoyed disappointing people, so the attempts at peer pressure were welcome. 😂
I was 28 before I a single drink. Since, got tipsy once in a safe place and have since bought perhaps 2 dozen coolers per year. Now 44 years old. Through high school it was the same, lots of peer pressure to conform.
I gave up drinking when I found out I was expecting 9 years ago and didnt go back 💗 people used to stress me out with the questions and I've thought about drinking since ... but then I realised the only reason I was thinking about drinking was to make other people happy, it had nothing to do with me ... so I didn't. I'm vegan ish too and it feels the same ... I'm not that vegan, like u I want to fly under the radar but people are very observant and question. I dispatch food and drink questions now with a joke ... or offer up a flaw people love that ... that combo works for me ... oh and I just laugh off their comments ... they get bored then as they can't get a rise out of you. It doesn't bother me any more but why people care so much baffles me. Excluding my son i really couldnt care less what people eat and drink. Oops rant over 🙊🙈🌼🌸🌼
Great video!!
I drink regularly, but if I ever get drunk, I feel like I've really screwed up. I drink because I like the taste of beer, red wine, scotch, etc. I drink for the taste, and maybe a bit for the relaxation assistance. I absolutely hate the loss of control or character that comes with getting drunk though, and it kinda baffles me that some people drink for the express purpose of getting drunk. For that reason, I stay far away from anything designed to mask the taste of the alcohol, as it seems the only purpose of those sorts of drinks is to get you drunk.
I suppose it's partly what I grew up with. My mother never drank, and if my dad ever did, it would be a single beer with dinner. I've seen the culture changing though. My favorite bar has just as many non-alcoholic options as alcoholic options. Kombuchas, NA beers, soda, house-made ginger beer (free for pregnant women) and hop water. Rebel even makes non-alcoholic liquor now! The wide availability of non-alcoholic options seems to be normalizing drinkers hanging out with non-drinkers. Maybe availability is the key to normalizing things?
I grew up a vegetarian and never ate meat until I was 26. People CONSTANTLY gave me crap for not eating meat and it was very difficult growing up in the 80's and 90's when everyone would go to a restaurant that didn't serve vegetarian options. I ate some of the saddest salads you can imagine and was constantly served meat accidentally. It was exhausting. These days, the availability of good, tasty meatless options is almost ubiquitous, though I still see people being ostracized for being vegetarian or vegan, sadly.
I wish I was as strong as you when I was younger. I never liked drinking that much in college, but there was a party every night and everybody went drinking. After college every job I had people went out drinking after work. It was just so ingrained in my social circle. I’m 53 now & since I quit smoking at age 40 I hardly ever drink. Every once in a while, I’ll enjoy a glass of wine or an adult coffee drink. But that’s it. It feels great! I just wish I had all that money back that I wasted when I was smoking & partying a lot!
I don't understand WHY some people get offended due to choosing NOT to drink or any other lifestyle choice people make that are different from the norm! As long as your choices affect you, and not others, and are not harmful to others and yourself, live the way you want to live, do whatever it is you want to do. And, please, do not try to get others to try your lifestyle choices are trick them into doing something you know they don't want to do!
Couldn't have said it better - THANK YOU! 💜
Wow I can't believe a person not drinking is problem with some people! I drink occasionally but totally understand why a person doesn't drink and I have never cared either way whether they did or didn't want too.
For me, there are days I decide to drink and many more days where I am in a social setting and don't. I don't value drinking so its not worth the cost for me. It messes with my sleep, it is counterproductive to my fitness goals, and I don't always enjoy it.
I've found people have gotten used to me not drinking, and I have gotten used to telling them I'm not drinking. And usually they don't care, they're just happy I'm hanging out with them. And me too. I don't care to go out with them and me being the only person not drinking.
I’ve never been drunk either!
2:00 I really didn't understand the whole drinking culture thing until I picked a friend up from a bar. HOLY SHIT! It's all about drugging women. PERIOD. I'm a grown man, and the things I was hearing around me made me want to throw up. Women please don't drink socially.
I did drink but quit for years, now I sometimes let myself do it… it’s just, I’m to much in my head when i go out. When i drink i feel connected and don’t care if people judge me. It’s like i can really be me without shame🤷♂️ yesterday i had a really great party. It’s just much more fun if i feel a bit drunk. I know it’s not healthy and I don’t want this to be a habit because i know that it can become problematic…
Hello Laura thanks for al Videos , i Like you ver much . Love your Person ,big kiss Dennis.
Don’t worry you’re not the only one in the world that doesn’t drink. I know what its like I never drink never wven had a sip of wine beer or any big liquors. And my body reacts to alcohol wipes badly with a rash and hives. So when I go to the doctor to get blood work done I have to wash the area with soap and water or use iodine to disinfect the area before the needle goes in my skin. I’m one of the 20,000 people othe world that is allergic to any kind of alcohol even hand sanitizer. So I am in fear since 3 years old that alcohol would kill me like a allergic reaction for someone who can’t eat peanuts. So when my friends ask me why I’m not drinking I tell them its like a peanut allergy but for alcohol beverages and it will kill me within minutes the second I touch or drink it.
I haven't been drunk for 31 hours...
Bravo!
Thank you! 💜
I've never drunk ( drank?) either. I didn't ever want to because I was raised in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and we believe it's harmful to the spirit, basically the soul. I feel left out of drinking references and social settings where drinking prevails. I don't judge people for drinking, though, unless they're reckless.
I don't drink allergic to it I'm 42
Do you drink coffee ☕? Because I'd love to buy you a cup of the best hot bean water this planet has to offer.
Sooo, you're just afraid, huh? Afraid of becoming addicted? Well, you're either lying about "never" or you're very boring person in a real life. No offence.