Hope I'm not intruding on this space, as a Nigerian Man i know a lot of it is also for them papers.... personally Id prefer a Nigerian woman was raised outside of Nigeria simply cause itd be an easier cultural/values match. I was rasied Najia but out of the country so i have many other influences. But i want black kids and aint limiting possibilities....For context, I live in the US
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Interesting you mentioned preferring a woman raised outside of Nigeria. Many used to prefer the opposite but it seems its changing due to the bad light shed on some Nigerian born women who come abroad and change.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi for me, it's about having similar experiences, yet having the same origin. Nigerian is home cause that's where my roots, and my "extended" family are. It's where my grandparents are laid, and most likely where my parents will. But with all the traveling I did in my youth, I'm in my 30s now, all the foreign cultural experiences I've had, I've found it's hard to relate to a Nigerian woman who only knows home. I don't want a "dutiful Wife," I like loads of things my culture has to offer but also don't like a lot. This is my long winded way of saying, Someone who's grounded in Naija, Yoruba culture but also was exposed to other cultures young usually matches my views and energy best. Im open to people with all kinds of experiences but a woman with that mix would be my "No 1 draft pick" lol....hope your day is treating you wonderfully
@@bluefun22As you should. Your perspective is healthy and positive. It says great things about your positive self esteem of who you are to prefer your own with a shared experience. Wish you the best.
interesting conversation but can't be had with out the African American women you speak about. The dating pool is shallow people want who want them but there is layers to it. African American men aren't on the same level as the women. African men (many times) are... if you want a black partner and black children who at the minimum are financially taken care of... the options are few. But let's be real African men come with other problems. The grass isn't always greener but I think it's important to explore your options and not set too detailed of expectations of the future (when it comes to other people).
The speaker narrating her experience is African American. Its a given that African men are more marriage minded for sure. But it doesnt mean they are without fault as you mentioned. Thanks for watching!
@@elijahjudah8195 I wrote out this long message with statistics and facts but decided against posting it because it could be hurtful and its never my intention to hurt anyone and publicly embarrass them. This isn't to say that AA black men are bad at all but it is to say that finding one thats on your level is like mining for a diamond in Antartica. Hard work to find one thats on AABW level and not married. As I said, "if you want a black partner and black children who at the minimum are financially taken care of, the options are few" African men widen the horizons. but they can also come with irredeemable qualities. Out of the men I date I much prefer African Americans based of emotional care and general respect and treatment of me.
Not on the same level? Please explain yourself. Are you talking about financially? If so then you're wrong. Black men have more & out earn Black women & this is according to Black demographics. This is not a competition, I am just simply pointing out what you're saying is invalid.
Thank you for creating space for me on your platform ladies! I hope people decide to watch the whole video along with the original live. I truly made an effort not to speak in absolutes and hope that I added some useful insight on the subject! 🙏🏿
A lot of problem w black community is we have a grass is greener why us mentality when I’m reality everybody (race) to different extremes of course go through the same exact thing
I’m born & raise in Canada ie I have travelled to USA a million times. Growing up I preferred Africa or Nigeria woman & that also my black friends too but now,almost all African men prefer black Americans period.Black American will light up your world with joy ie if she see you reliable
Listen, if you as men are not being appreciated by your woman and she doesn't view you as her King as you the man view her as your Queen, I think something is very wrong. From a male standpoint GRATITUDE is one of the GREATEST CURRENCY women can offer. Being UNGRATEFUL is one of the most FOUL TRAITS a woman can posses. Great appreciation for each other should be abundant or there's no point for the RELATIONSHIP, additionally, it with CERTAINTY I say that RELATIONSHIP without GENUINE GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION will not last...
@@kingmacio If you had carefully read through my statement you would have been aware that I said, if a woman doesn't view you the man as her King as you the man view her as your Queen. So it goes without saying it goes both ways yes appreciation goes both ways. In context, I was responding to something the ladies said in the video... Bless up!!!
@@CJJohnson-tt6xsI agree, yes this can be true for both genders, however I'm was just stating in the context of the conversation... I don't like playing the game tof it for tat when the argument is specific. As a solution oriented man, I find that nothing gets done in that way, I rather listen to the conversation, make an effort to charge that reality for the better then move on to the next issue to fix. Anything outside of that brings a lot of back and forth, chaos and drama. The manifestations of a childish mind, I'm not into that and for one I don't want it around me in a relationshipsetting... Respect 🙏🏾
Cj I was once married to a Nigerian & it did not work we had so many differences due to our cultures.We had a daughter who passed away in 2015 at the age of 35 years old right here in the U.S.
Irrespective of cultural differences, the language of relationship is universal. Which are love, respect, support, loyalty and cooperation. Nigerian men are easily put off by contentious or uncooperative women because they tend to be very possessive. So if you can adjust to them, you can hardly have a successful relationship with them. Nigerian men believe in gender roles irrespective of what part of the world they're in and this is where many western and aa women would have issues with Nigerian men So sorry for you loss. Though I think your relationship with the Nigerian husband failed because you want to act independent while with him and a Nigerian man would hardly allow that - mostly if you're his wife
@@jadyclem Cj I am independent to a certain extent.It just was I could take the jealous and possessive for a while but then to me it got boring. I was not use to anyone not wanting me to have friends or speak to others or not trusting me,especially when I was devoted to him.
@@wisdomandlove1661 😂😂🤭 no it’s not. Anyone struggling is probably looking for the wrong woman. A lot of men want a certain “look” not realizing they look doesn’t come with the personality or morals you desire just the sex appeal. Men are visual so they’re automatically going for the one who catches their eyes not for the ones that good for the soul and heart
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi exactly but a lot of men marry the homely girl and cheat on her with her IG baddie. The IG baddies are who lost of the go after and get mad when she doesn’t fit his standards
It’s weird to have this conversation with no AA women in it🌚🌚 All y’all did was sit here and bash AA women. y’all know nothing about our culture like you think you do 🌚
I dont agree. She speaks on the perception some Nigerian men have of American women which is different than reality. The full live is linked in the description box and provides more context.
They definitely don’t want them as they are not good looking most of em lol but women in general will get with anybody that’ll let them live a comfortable life as you get older and they black so it’s not like they selling out my guess as a aa man
This is exactly why my successful educated wealthy cultured sons are single. I’m of course a black woman and this is sad. You take care of yourself. My sons were not raised to pay your bills or for anything else you want. Young girls get real and realize no man is supposed to pay your way
I'm sure they are all these things, and that is why they are single 😂😂. I'm sure they also had no father figure, and that is why you think that men only require things from women in relationships, and not vice versa.
@@murielwright7363 Cj I have always worked and have been very independent even though I was raised to be very privileged when it came to having thing however I was still taught to be independent also and I was and still is. I am also educated and now successfully retired.If a man never wanted to buy or give me anything I knew how to get out and get it myself. But I just was not going for the cheapest thing there is when I do not have too.
@@murielwright7363 Cj I was independent also.I always paid my own bills and things.I still can still do. I was only our culture differences that tore us apart. Whether I was ego tripping or not I still knew how to take care of myself financially with or without anyone.
Cj He had me believing I was His Queen & He was my King.But I was so used & brought up with costly things,but he was not used to that.He thought I was too expensive.He wanted me to have things but from shops that was resale.Plus he was very possessive & jealous.
Look, if a Nigerian is in love with you, he would act very possessive of you because Nigerian don't allow anyone to come close to the woman they love. Being possessive is a Nigerian man's way of showing that you're theirs and they wouldn't want to lose you - even when such men may be misbehaving. If a Nigerian man doesn't show any possessiveness of his woman that's a sign that's he's not that into you and he would easily move on from you when there's any slight issue. A Nigerian man would create boundaries for you if he's really into you
I should have been a part of this discussion. My man is Nigerian and he is adamant about not dating Nigerian women. It’s sad because I’m sure there are some wonderful Nigerian women. I hate when men group a whole race like that. It’s silly to me. I plan to talk to him about it eventually. It’s like black American men who do that to black American women.
I will like to leave my opinion and experience as im currently married to a Nigerian guy as a born African American...it takes alot of courage and strength to date a Nigerian let alone marry because of the culture differences and upbringing on both parts..ive been with my husband 7 years, and 2 years married and sometimes i get so tired and exhausted i be wanting my peace..but i pray and try keep my marriage..my husband is not a bad guy but sometimes he's very stubborn..and i agree with a few other comments, but i have been in Nigeria much and each time im in nigeria i stay 3 months i hear from many Nigerian women dey are tired of Nigerian men as well .. Nigerian men complain nigerian women want wealthy nigerian men so things are changing ..but lastly i really think Ghanaian men are more disciplined and not as headstrong as nigerian men
Married to a Nigerian almost 4 years and I'm exhausted. I want my peace back. He's been here less than a year and for all the headaches and drama, being alone wasn't so bad. I wasn;t lonely. I strongly believe its all game to get papers. I've talked to several women.
Nigerian men sell their women short that's why. Not all of them are like that, the same way not all Ghanaian women are the opposite of strong and stubborn
I love the African because they’re so respectful to a woman this time I want to marry one the next time around will marry one but I’m going to really observe him more than one way🍃🙏🏽💘
You’re wrong Their father and I were married until he passed. He was an excellent father and husband. They’re single by choice. Both tall, handsome, well educated, respectful, refined and Christian gentleman. Well traveled with stellar careers. Just not interested in whatever it is you’re attempting to discuss. Be Blessed and try to do better!
The very first thing that was said is that African men are being objectified by African American women. And then y'all go on to describe how African women objectify African men 😂😂😂. Most women objectify men regardless of race. Having the goal of wanting to be a wife means you are objectifying men, your end goal has no face or soul. You just want the wedding celebrations and the titles that your culture hold in high regards, which is fine. Also there are black people in the UK and South America that are far removed from their African roots like us Americans. I'm sure dating any one of them would be completely different than dating a man from any African country with centuries of historical/familial culture. The thing is we all have different cultures. We speak of Africa as if it's one city and not a continent of different people. Would a South African white woman have similar experiences to a dark skinned woman from Cameroon? Would a Chinese Jamaican man in England find the black women there comparable to the women back on the island? Not at all. It's all culture based, I've noticed that Latina women are more loyal to their men than most women of other races. Latina women in general seem to be more loyal regardless of a man's financial situations, so i would say they objectify the least. The proof is in the hundreds of thousands of women who walked thousands of miles with their baby daddy's, boy friends and husbands. Just to make it to another country be homeless and pan handle. That's real love right there. If it was actually about being a great wife and mother. You would say i want to find a suitable husband and a father, not I want to be a wife.
As an afro latina with AA roots on my moms side, I can assure you that Latinas being better than any other group is a figment of your imagination. We have our issues but a lot of this idealized image of us comes from having men who work hard AND have family values. African American men don't seem to have this. We see how you all bash your mothers, sisters, aunts and cousins. It's not cool. Us Latinas are the first to leave if you cause problems. Loyalty comes at a price. The price is respect at the bare minimum and second is being a provider. The provider mentality isn't just making a lot of money, it's using your money wisely, little romantic things here and there and supporting our goals as well. I promise you if you did those things your partner would stick around.
Why is the narrative that black women should stick around with men doing the bare minimum? Dont enough black women do this? Where has it gotten them? Im sorry but this is a defeated mindset and wont advance the black race. It also takes away the incentive for men, black men especially, to do better. We also specifically speak to Nigerian men in this video and reference it several times. We are aware Africa is a continent but many values are similar in African culture. We speak to Africa to be more inclusive.
The first thing I said was that there's a subset or a much smaller group within a larger group of AA women that may view some Nigerian men (not African) but Nigerian men solely as a potential financial opportunity. That wasn't said to support the idea that women should disregard finances when considering a partner to build a family with. Among many other things, a great mother and wife wants to ensure that her family has sustained housing, equitable educational opportunities, etc. That requires money and qualitative resourcefulness from the head of the household at a minimum. A woman who considers these things is not objectifying the man or being self-serving. Also, why use certain women's circumstances as a way to police other women? If you don't genuinely care about International economic inequality and how that may impact women of other nationalities and inform their relationship dynamics, It's disrespectful to use their situation as a means to build a case for whatever agenda you have.
THE REASON WHY YOU THINK THAT AFRICAN AMERICAN DON'T SEEM TO HAVE THAT IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN PROGRAM BY SOCIAL MEDIA AND YOUR ENVRONMENT OR MAYBE YOUR FAMILY MEMBER BASH THEIR MOTHERS, SISTERS, AUNTS AND COUSINS!!! AS AN AFRICAN AMERICAN THAT GREW UP IN THE 1970'S I NEVER SEE ANY OF MY FRIENDS, FAMILY MEMBERS, NEIGBORS, BLACK AMERICANMEN CARRY ON LIKE YOU JUST DESCRIBE!! ALSO AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN WORK JUST AS HARD AS ANY LATINO/ HISPANIC MEN!!! WE JUST REFUSE TO SLAVE FOR LOW WAGES!!! AND IF LATINO MEN ARE SO MUCH HARD WORKER'S THEN WHY IS LATIN AMERICA STILL LOOKS AND LIVE LIKE A 3RD WORLD COUNTRY!!! AND WHY ARE THEY FLEEING TO AMERICA!! AFRICAN AMERICANS BUILT THE UNITEDSTATES OF AMERICA!! BUILT IT FROM GROUND UP!!! WE BUILT IT'S INFRASTRUCTURE, INVENTED AT LEAST 90% OF NORTH AMERICA'S INVENTIONS, GREW THE FOOD AND COTTON TO MAKE TEXTILES FOR CLOTHING!! FOR AMERICA TO FEED AND CLOTHE THEMSELVES WORKED SUN UP TO SUN DOWN SIX DAYS A WEEK!!! FOR 250 YRS NON STOP!!! NOW THAT'S HARD WORK!!!! AND HAD IT NOT HAD BEEN FOR AFRICAN AMERICANS THERE WOULD BE NO USA TO FLEE TO!!! AND IF MY ANCESTORS DURING THE CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT!!! HAD NOT FIGHT THE US GOVERNMENT TO CHANGE THE LAWS!! THERE WOULD'NT BE A LATINO/ HISPANIC IN THE UNTEDSTATES OF AMERICA!!! BECAUSE WHITEPEOPLE AND THE US GOVERNMENT HAD LAWS IN PLACE TO KEEP YOUPEOPLE FROM ENTERING THE USA!!!@@k.b2457
@@k.b2457you are just a BAW 😂 talking about we are bashing bw. They starting this war and lost and can't handle it. He was referring to foreign latinas coming to America not ones born here or who identify with BAW. 😂
Wrong once again! I never implied men need anything from women. Example: Our Aunt’s 80th birthday was celebrated last month. To alleviate extra travel, to save time and just being overall considerate, my sons booked a 5 bedroom Georgian area house for family. So no, they know exactly what to do and how to do it and would never need or desire the likes of you. And please believe I am struggling to remain polite as it’s obvious you’re lacking in all areas.
Thats nice of them. But you still didnt answer the original question. So what are your sons raised to do in relationships/marriage since money/bills is off the table?
Cj Other African men told me if you go back to our country with him you will not live not no Jackie O or Diana Ross. I loved that EGO TRIPPING,darling in the beginning.My taste was very very expensive in taste.
I've been to Nigeria, he is correct. I was taking shoes off my feet to give away. Its a poverty we don't see here in America. I understand why they want to leave the country. Its the deception of well meaning women that doesn't sit well. Thankfully karma has no end date.
Who said that lol ? African men prefer African women first, and then right after that non black women. Nothing wrong with American women but typically we do not seek marriage with ANY man outside of our ethnicity. Me as an American who has dated and almost married a Nigerian, the only reason we got that far was because he was whitewashed, Americanized, (red flag), he paid for all the events that both my family, and his family attended, we were looking at rings and our families spent the holidays together. I met some his family who came In to visit from Nigeria, he threw me a surprise party and both of our families came and they brought me gifts. He was a u.s citizen, He had a mapout from beginning to the end he was very intentional. His family that I met was kind and loving, but I felt in the bottom of soul he was just trying to use me to quickly check off a box. I never believed I was his original type. He kept telling me when we get married blah blah blah. I said if we get married. I was scared he would marry me knock me up and run off to who he truly wanted to be with. No thank you. He started acting possessive and I had to leave and threaten to get a restraining order. Also I think witchcraft was in the mix.
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I think most Nigerian men know how they are viewed and play accordingly. If you want to play lets play, in the most cases its a loss for the woman.
Interesting! How are you all viewed? Lol
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi like a come up
@@ChiTheAesthete For some, yes. But for others, controlling, domineering, aggressive, and bigoted against other Black folks.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi Ofcourse we know.
Chop I chop...God no go vex
Hope I'm not intruding on this space, as a Nigerian Man i know a lot of it is also for them papers.... personally Id prefer a Nigerian woman was raised outside of Nigeria simply cause itd be an easier cultural/values match. I was rasied Najia but out of the country so i have many other influences. But i want black kids and aint limiting possibilities....For context, I live in the US
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Interesting you mentioned preferring a woman raised outside of Nigeria. Many used to prefer the opposite but it seems its changing due to the bad light shed on some Nigerian born women who come abroad and change.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi for me, it's about having similar experiences, yet having the same origin. Nigerian is home cause that's where my roots, and my "extended" family are. It's where my grandparents are laid, and most likely where my parents will. But with all the traveling I did in my youth, I'm in my 30s now, all the foreign cultural experiences I've had, I've found it's hard to relate to a Nigerian woman who only knows home. I don't want a "dutiful Wife," I like loads of things my culture has to offer but also don't like a lot. This is my long winded way of saying, Someone who's grounded in Naija, Yoruba culture but also was exposed to other cultures young usually matches my views and energy best. Im open to people with all kinds of experiences but a woman with that mix would be my "No 1 draft pick" lol....hope your day is treating you wonderfully
Basically best of both worlds 🙏🏾
@@bluefun22African born woman but lived a significant chunk of my life in a western society. Are you still drafting lol?
@@bluefun22As you should. Your perspective is healthy and positive. It says great things about your positive self esteem of who you are to prefer your own with a shared experience. Wish you the best.
interesting conversation but can't be had with out the African American women you speak about. The dating pool is shallow people want who want them but there is layers to it. African American men aren't on the same level as the women. African men (many times) are... if you want a black partner and black children who at the minimum are financially taken care of... the options are few. But let's be real African men come with other problems. The grass isn't always greener but I think it's important to explore your options and not set too detailed of expectations of the future (when it comes to other people).
The speaker narrating her experience is African American. Its a given that African men are more marriage minded for sure. But it doesnt mean they are without fault as you mentioned. Thanks for watching!
EXPLAIN WHY BLACK AMERICAN MEN!!! ARE NOT ON THE SAME LEVEL!!! AS BLACKAMERICAN WOMEN!!!
@@elijahjudah8195 I wrote out this long message with statistics and facts but decided against posting it because it could be hurtful and its never my intention to hurt anyone and publicly embarrass them. This isn't to say that AA black men are bad at all but it is to say that finding one thats on your level is like mining for a diamond in Antartica. Hard work to find one thats on AABW level and not married. As I said, "if you want a black partner and black children who at the minimum are financially taken care of, the options are few" African men widen the horizons. but they can also come with irredeemable qualities. Out of the men I date I much prefer African Americans based of emotional care and general respect and treatment of me.
@elijahjudah8195 Because evidently, all of us African-American men are homeless with no jobs.
Not on the same level? Please explain yourself. Are you talking about financially? If so then you're wrong. Black men have more & out earn Black women & this is according to Black demographics. This is not a competition, I am just simply pointing out what you're saying is invalid.
They look at all men as a wallet. Not just Nigerian men.
Lol
African American women contribute more to a household than most other nationalities of women so, this is false.
Facts!!! That's a special level of being dumb...
THATS A LIE!!! DO YOU LOOK AT ALL MEN AS A WALLET!!!!
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi I just used African American women for money just like my last ex gf oh well I'm a 🍑 hole.
Thank you for creating space for me on your platform ladies! I hope people decide to watch the whole video along with the original live. I truly made an effort not to speak in absolutes and hope that I added some useful insight on the subject! 🙏🏿
Your welcome! The full video is linked in the description. We believe you were very balanced tbh.
A lot of problem w black community is we have a grass is greener why us mentality when I’m reality everybody (race) to different extremes of course go through the same exact thing
So agree
Crappy people in every race or ethnicity
I think generalizing is a way to pacify oneself for their own bad choices or flaws
Not on those hot girl jamaican trips yall pay for dick!!! Hypocrites smh
I’m half Nigerian and half AA. I appreciate these convos!
Thanks for watching!
I’m born & raise in Canada ie I have travelled to USA a million times. Growing up I preferred Africa or Nigeria woman & that also my black friends too but now,almost all African men prefer black Americans period.Black American will light up your world with joy ie if she see you reliable
Aww sounds lovely!
Listen, if you as men are not being appreciated by your woman and she doesn't view you as her King as you the man view her as your Queen, I think something is very wrong. From a male standpoint GRATITUDE is one of the GREATEST CURRENCY women can offer. Being UNGRATEFUL is one of the most FOUL TRAITS a woman can posses. Great appreciation for each other should be abundant or there's no point for the RELATIONSHIP, additionally, it with CERTAINTY I say that RELATIONSHIP without GENUINE GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION will not last...
It goes the same way for women. Anyone not being appreciated is not a good feeling.
@@kingmacio If you had carefully read through my statement you would have been aware that I said, if a woman doesn't view you the man as her King as you the man view her as your Queen. So it goes without saying it goes both ways yes appreciation goes both ways. In context, I was responding to something the ladies said in the video... Bless up!!!
@@123kjaah Cj True and sometimes it can be the other way around. It all depends on the individuals.
@@CJJohnson-tt6xsI agree, yes this can be true for both genders, however I'm was just stating in the context of the conversation... I don't like playing the game tof it for tat when the argument is specific. As a solution oriented man, I find that nothing gets done in that way, I rather listen to the conversation, make an effort to charge that reality for the better then move on to the next issue to fix. Anything outside of that brings a lot of back and forth, chaos and drama. The manifestations of a childish mind, I'm not into that and for one I don't want it around me in a relationshipsetting... Respect 🙏🏾
@@123kjaah Cj I was stating my opinion.Good you stated yours. Respect. 👍👍
Cj I was once married to a Nigerian & it did not work we had so many differences due to our cultures.We had a daughter who passed away in 2015 at the age of 35 years old right here in the U.S.
Wow I’m so sorry about your loss. Cultural differences are real and sometimes we overlook that part due to love.
Cj True.
Cj 👍👍
Irrespective of cultural differences, the language of relationship is universal.
Which are love, respect, support, loyalty and cooperation.
Nigerian men are easily put off by contentious or uncooperative women because they tend to be very possessive. So if you can adjust to them, you can hardly have a successful relationship with them.
Nigerian men believe in gender roles irrespective of what part of the world they're in and this is where many western and aa women would have issues with Nigerian men
So sorry for you loss. Though I think your relationship with the Nigerian husband failed because you want to act independent while with him and a Nigerian man would hardly allow that - mostly if you're his wife
@@jadyclem Cj I am independent to a certain extent.It just was I could take the jealous and possessive for a while but then to me it got boring. I was not use to anyone not wanting me to have friends or speak to others or not trusting me,especially when I was devoted to him.
Good Job Ngozi! African women are raised to be wives simple as that!
A lot of Americans women are as well. We are not a monolith
@@daniella8400 to be honest some black women are trying but it is very difficult to find a good wife in the American culture
@@wisdomandlove1661 😂😂🤭 no it’s not. Anyone struggling is probably looking for the wrong woman. A lot of men want a certain “look” not realizing they look doesn’t come with the personality or morals you desire just the sex appeal. Men are visual so they’re automatically going for the one who catches their eyes not for the ones that good for the soul and heart
Some men want IG baddie wives 🤣. But to be fair you can get both cause many women are well put together and very homely.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi exactly but a lot of men marry the homely girl and cheat on her with her IG baddie. The IG baddies are who lost of the go after and get mad when she doesn’t fit his standards
It’s weird to have this conversation with no AA women in it🌚🌚
All y’all did was sit here and bash AA women. y’all know nothing about our culture like you think you do 🌚
The lady talking is African American
@@EJIMANnenaNgozishe was a terrible representative. All she did was pander ☹️😒
I dont agree. She speaks on the perception some Nigerian men have of American women which is different than reality. The full live is linked in the description box and provides more context.
RIGHT ON SISTA'!!! THE AFRICANS DON'T LIVE AROUND US NEITHER DO THEY SOCIALIZE WITH US!!! YOU ARE RIGHT THEY DON'T KNOW US LIKE THEY THINK THEY DO!!!!
It wouldn't be bashing if they alluded to your delusional mindset. Haha how about you take responsibility for your actions and stop gaslighting. 😂😂
They definitely don’t want them as they are not good looking most of em lol but women in general will get with anybody that’ll let them live a comfortable life as you get older and they black so it’s not like they selling out my guess as a aa man
lol your funny!
Ummmmm..I am 50 and met a gorgeous Nigerian man..I guess I hit the jackpot? 😂😂
@@assatatriplett4801 well you are 50 you didn’t have much of a choice
Are you referring to Nigerian men. I can send you pictures that will shut you up.
Who doesn't want who?
This is exactly why my successful educated wealthy cultured sons are single.
I’m of course a black woman and this is sad.
You take care of yourself.
My sons were not raised to pay your bills or for anything else you want.
Young girls get real and realize no man is supposed to pay your way
So what are your sons raised to do in relationships/marriage?
I'm sure they are all these things, and that is why they are single 😂😂.
I'm sure they also had no father figure, and that is why you think that men only require things from women in relationships, and not vice versa.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi
Are you aware the Europeans pay the men to marry their daughter?
@@murielwright7363 Cj I have always worked and have been very independent even though I was raised to be very privileged when it came to having thing however I was still taught to be independent also and I was and still is. I am also educated and now successfully retired.If a man never wanted to buy or give me anything I knew how to get out and get it myself. But I just was not going for the cheapest thing there is when I do not have too.
@@murielwright7363 Cj I was independent also.I always paid my own bills and things.I still can still do. I was only our culture differences that tore us apart. Whether I was ego tripping or not I still knew how to take care of myself financially with or without anyone.
As a Nigerian, that woman didn't miss a bit in her explanation at all. And some AA don't know how to pretend, so we see through it.
First time here.
Cj He had me believing I was His Queen & He was my King.But I was so used & brought up with costly things,but he was not used to that.He thought I was too expensive.He wanted me to have things but from shops that was resale.Plus he was very possessive & jealous.
Sorry to hear that.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi Cj Not bragging but; I was also a Beauty Pageant Queen like Porsha Williams. Our Kimberly Nkechi was a Pageant Queen also.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi Cj 👑🏆💐🌷🌹💄💅👠👄💋
Look, if a Nigerian is in love with you, he would act very possessive of you because Nigerian don't allow anyone to come close to the woman they love.
Being possessive is a Nigerian man's way of showing that you're theirs and they wouldn't want to lose you - even when such men may be misbehaving.
If a Nigerian man doesn't show any possessiveness of his woman that's a sign that's he's not that into you and he would easily move on from you when there's any slight issue.
A Nigerian man would create boundaries for you if he's really into you
@@jadyclem Cj During our relationship I found that to be very true
5 minutes about how men are more than a wallet, then 20 minutes about how to ask for money 😂😂
lolll
I should have been a part of this discussion. My man is Nigerian and he is adamant about not dating Nigerian women. It’s sad because I’m sure there are some wonderful Nigerian women. I hate when men group a whole race like that. It’s silly to me. I plan to talk to him about it eventually. It’s like black American men who do that to black American women.
He may have had bad experiences with Nigerian women so thats fair. Its easy to group people but its not fair to the good ones. Thanks for watching!
Black Americans stay on you africans minds. #rentfree
Thanks for watching!
Cj Our daughter was named Kimberly Nkechi Ogbonnia,but I called her our Little Igbo. I loved his beautiful accent.
I will like to leave my opinion and experience as im currently married to a Nigerian guy as a born African American...it takes alot of courage and strength to date a Nigerian let alone marry because of the culture differences and upbringing on both parts..ive been with my husband 7 years, and 2 years married and sometimes i get so tired and exhausted i be wanting my peace..but i pray and try keep my marriage..my husband is not a bad guy but sometimes he's very stubborn..and i agree with a few other comments, but i have been in Nigeria much and each time im in nigeria i stay 3 months i hear from many Nigerian women dey are tired of Nigerian men as well .. Nigerian men complain nigerian women want wealthy nigerian men so things are changing ..but lastly i really think Ghanaian men are more disciplined and not as headstrong as nigerian men
Yes I agree! Ghanaian men are so calm and chill it’s refreshing 🤣
Married to a Nigerian almost 4 years and I'm exhausted. I want my peace back. He's been here less than a year and for all the headaches and drama, being alone wasn't so bad. I wasn;t lonely. I strongly believe its all game to get papers. I've talked to several women.
You and many BAW are not submissive and aren't compatible woth traditional men but want the trappings of a traditional relationship. Be single 😂
I might need a Ghanaian woman. I’m hearing Nigerian women are strong and stubborn. Any truth to that?
Every truth. To counteract their men.
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Yap !!
No. It is pay to play.
Nigerian men sell their women short that's why. Not all of them are like that, the same way not all Ghanaian women are the opposite of strong and stubborn
Awful, I make my own money ! I still friendly with my Yoruba sweetheart. After 40 years !
Awww
I love the African because they’re so respectful to a woman this time I want to marry one the next time around will marry one but I’m going to really observe him more than one way🍃🙏🏽💘
You’re wrong
Their father and I were married until he passed. He was an excellent father and husband. They’re single by choice. Both tall, handsome, well educated, respectful, refined and Christian gentleman. Well traveled with stellar careers.
Just not interested in whatever it is you’re attempting to discuss.
Be Blessed and try to do better!
Hopefully they stay single
If a Nigerian men was all that why the Nigerian women didn’t want him? You do not know anything about ATL.
lol
Very insightful!
Thank you!
The very first thing that was said is that African men are being objectified by African American women. And then y'all go on to describe how African women objectify African men 😂😂😂. Most women objectify men regardless of race. Having the goal of wanting to be a wife means you are objectifying men, your end goal has no face or soul. You just want the wedding celebrations and the titles that your culture hold in high regards, which is fine.
Also there are black people in the UK and South America that are far removed from their African roots like us Americans. I'm sure dating any one of them would be completely different than dating a man from any African country with centuries of historical/familial culture. The thing is we all have different cultures. We speak of Africa as if it's one city and not a continent of different people. Would a South African white woman have similar experiences to a dark skinned woman from Cameroon? Would a Chinese Jamaican man in England find the black women there comparable to the women back on the island? Not at all.
It's all culture based, I've noticed that Latina women are more loyal to their men than most women of other races. Latina women in general seem to be more loyal regardless of a man's financial situations, so i would say they objectify the least. The proof is in the hundreds of thousands of women who walked thousands of miles with their baby daddy's, boy friends and husbands. Just to make it to another country be homeless and pan handle. That's real love right there.
If it was actually about being a great wife and mother. You would say i want to find a suitable husband and a father, not I want to be a wife.
As an afro latina with AA roots on my moms side, I can assure you that Latinas being better than any other group is a figment of your imagination. We have our issues but a lot of this idealized image of us comes from having men who work hard AND have family values. African American men don't seem to have this. We see how you all bash your mothers, sisters, aunts and cousins. It's not cool. Us Latinas are the first to leave if you cause problems. Loyalty comes at a price. The price is respect at the bare minimum and second is being a provider. The provider mentality isn't just making a lot of money, it's using your money wisely, little romantic things here and there and supporting our goals as well. I promise you if you did those things your partner would stick around.
Why is the narrative that black women should stick around with men doing the bare minimum? Dont enough black women do this? Where has it gotten them? Im sorry but this is a defeated mindset and wont advance the black race. It also takes away the incentive for men, black men especially, to do better. We also specifically speak to Nigerian men in this video and reference it several times. We are aware Africa is a continent but many values are similar in African culture. We speak to Africa to be more inclusive.
The first thing I said was that there's a subset or a much smaller group within a larger group of AA women that may view some Nigerian men (not African) but Nigerian men solely as a potential financial opportunity. That wasn't said to support the idea that women should disregard finances when considering a partner to build a family with. Among many other things, a great mother and wife wants to ensure that her family has sustained housing, equitable educational opportunities, etc.
That requires money and qualitative resourcefulness from the head of the household at a minimum. A woman who considers these things is not objectifying the man or being self-serving.
Also, why use certain women's circumstances as a way to police other women? If you don't genuinely care about International economic inequality and how that may impact women of other nationalities and inform their relationship dynamics, It's disrespectful to use their situation as a means to build a case for whatever agenda you have.
THE REASON WHY YOU THINK THAT AFRICAN AMERICAN DON'T SEEM TO HAVE THAT IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN PROGRAM BY SOCIAL MEDIA AND YOUR ENVRONMENT OR MAYBE YOUR FAMILY MEMBER BASH THEIR MOTHERS, SISTERS, AUNTS AND COUSINS!!! AS AN AFRICAN AMERICAN THAT GREW UP IN THE 1970'S I NEVER SEE ANY OF MY FRIENDS, FAMILY MEMBERS, NEIGBORS, BLACK AMERICANMEN CARRY ON LIKE YOU JUST DESCRIBE!! ALSO AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN WORK JUST AS HARD AS ANY LATINO/ HISPANIC MEN!!! WE JUST REFUSE TO SLAVE FOR LOW WAGES!!! AND IF LATINO MEN ARE SO MUCH HARD WORKER'S THEN WHY IS LATIN AMERICA STILL LOOKS AND LIVE LIKE A 3RD WORLD COUNTRY!!! AND WHY ARE THEY FLEEING TO AMERICA!! AFRICAN AMERICANS BUILT THE UNITEDSTATES OF AMERICA!! BUILT IT FROM GROUND UP!!! WE BUILT IT'S INFRASTRUCTURE, INVENTED AT LEAST 90% OF NORTH AMERICA'S INVENTIONS, GREW THE FOOD AND COTTON TO MAKE TEXTILES FOR CLOTHING!! FOR AMERICA TO FEED AND CLOTHE THEMSELVES WORKED SUN UP TO SUN DOWN SIX DAYS A WEEK!!! FOR 250 YRS NON STOP!!! NOW THAT'S HARD WORK!!!! AND HAD IT NOT HAD BEEN FOR AFRICAN AMERICANS THERE WOULD BE NO USA TO FLEE TO!!! AND IF MY ANCESTORS DURING THE CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT!!! HAD NOT FIGHT THE US GOVERNMENT TO CHANGE THE LAWS!! THERE WOULD'NT BE A LATINO/ HISPANIC IN THE UNTEDSTATES OF AMERICA!!! BECAUSE WHITEPEOPLE AND THE US GOVERNMENT HAD LAWS IN PLACE TO KEEP YOUPEOPLE FROM ENTERING THE USA!!!@@k.b2457
@@k.b2457you are just a BAW 😂 talking about we are bashing bw. They starting this war and lost and can't handle it. He was referring to foreign latinas coming to America not ones born here or who identify with BAW. 😂
lol no we don’t prefer them as a wife it just hit and go that all
Maybe for you but not all.
I've seen many Nigerian men with American wives in the African market and clubs. Many of the wives can cook Nigerian food and enjoy the culture.
Go to the gym and get rid of that double chin
@@starrjohnson1327sure you do and you magically know they can cook their food and are bigerian and AA off first glance. 😂
Sistas be the same way with BRAD and Conrad.
the Wyte Boys they want money from.
What same way? Lol
They don't get high earning brads. They get bottom shelf brad that W women don't want and they pay for everything.
Money and bills are not off the table.
First time here
Welcome!
I’ve never ask any man for money too 😢 not even my dad…
Not you quoting the Bible pmaoooo
Nice conversation.
Thank you!
Wrong once again!
I never implied men need anything from women.
Example:
Our Aunt’s 80th birthday was celebrated last month. To alleviate extra travel, to save time and just being overall considerate, my sons booked a 5 bedroom Georgian area house for family. So no, they know exactly what to do and how to do it and would never need or desire the likes of you. And please believe I am struggling to remain polite as it’s obvious you’re lacking in all areas.
Thats nice of them. But you still didnt answer the original question. So what are your sons raised to do in relationships/marriage since money/bills is off the table?
the lady on glasses, I can hear the juju in her voice
(Is she Nigerian? )
Cj Other African men told me if you go back to our country with him you will not live not no Jackie O or Diana Ross. I loved that EGO TRIPPING,darling in the beginning.My taste was very very expensive in taste.
I've been to Nigeria, he is correct. I was taking shoes off my feet to give away. Its a poverty we don't see here in America. I understand why they want to leave the country. Its the deception of well meaning women that doesn't sit well. Thankfully karma has no end date.
@@naywills5345 True. That is what was explained to me by other Nigerians.
@@naywills5345 Cj The trouble with me I let my Ego tripping empower me.
Dating two Nigeria men is limited experience, Lol Ashawoooooooooooooo, hahahahahaha Oh my God.
loll
@12:32 😎😂
Some women are BOLD!!
Who said that lol ? African men prefer African women first, and then right after that non black women. Nothing wrong with American women but typically we do not seek marriage with ANY man outside of our ethnicity. Me as an American who has dated and almost married a Nigerian, the only reason we got that far was because he was whitewashed, Americanized, (red flag), he paid for all the events that both my family, and his family attended, we were looking at rings and our families spent the holidays together. I met some his family who came In to visit from Nigeria, he threw me a surprise party and both of our families came and they brought me gifts. He was a u.s citizen, He had a mapout from beginning to the end he was very intentional. His family that I met was kind and loving, but I felt in the bottom of soul he was just trying to use me to quickly check off a box. I never believed I was his original type. He kept telling me when we get married blah blah blah. I said if we get married. I was scared he would marry me knock me up and run off to who he truly wanted to be with. No thank you. He started acting possessive and I had to leave and threaten to get a restraining order. Also I think witchcraft was in the mix.
Oh wow thanks for sharing part of your story. What made you come to the conclusion that an African woman was a preference?
What I call cool up BS lol
An African woman particularly same Tribe will always be preference but that doesn't mean Nigerian men are not open to marrying from other places
@emmypearlzoffice6504 right! Makes sense. You can have a preference but not limit yourself. Women need to learn 😭
This makes no sense at all