Manipulative men don’t just go for women with low self esteem, they get a kick out of seeing a happy confident young woman change into a former shell of herself
So he was truly a manipulator: he gave me the Silent treatment; he ghosted me, but guess what I ghosted him back and not even checking on his social media, and moving on, feels so good! Thanks next!
If he ghosted you it wasn't a treatment he just finished dealing with you. But what's sad is this ghosting culture nonsense, this won't make you a great human being at all @PartyForever21.
Do not listen to this people. In psychology is known that ghosting and silent treatments are forms of manipulation. A healthy person will put into words if they don't want you in their lives.
Omg this is spot on!!! Narcissistic men always try to flip situations around on you. But we as women always know the truth in our hearts. Btw the quality on this camera is amazing 🙌🏾
I’m in public watching this, trying not to tear up. My boyfriend is definitely manipulative. He gives me the silent treatment, he makes it seem like I’m crazy or overreacting when I get upset when I know that I’m not. Whenever I’m on the phone or texting someone and he asks who I’m talking to, I always let him know so that he doesn’t think that I’m talking to another guy. I was at his house yesterday, he went in the other room to talk on the phone and seemed a little secretive to me. When he got off the phone I asked who he was speaking to and he only said “my peoples” but wouldn’t tell me WHO. I got up and left because I’m just so fed up from other things. Now he’s acting like I’m wrong for feeling suspicious about it. Tired of him acting like my feelings are wrong 😤
exactly what am going through, sis let's run out of these situations early enough ... they try to make sure ur obsessed with them and fully under their control..and most of the guys that do this are those you've compromised ur life for ...he ain't worth it , let's move on even with tears in our eyes .. we'll be fine
she's here seeking knowledge You’re so right sis! It’s getting tiring. They only want to shape up when they see us ready to walk away and end it smh Because they know the ones they take for granted are the ones they need the most. Yes sis, we will definitely be fine.
Your videos turned me from a door mat😂 to a quality queen with class These guys are begging for second chances Keep being that amazing soul and thank you for the wonderful content 😍❤
Houda Bouraya I did that and it drove him crazy. He even said that he finally found someone whose demons were as big as his (another manipulative move on his part but I got his attention: I see you nigga)
Mirroring always gets the point across fastest....don't complain, mirror & if they react the same you have a door to dialogue. The good ones see their errors, manipulators get angry.
“Having to check in about the date HE set for YOU. Manipulation”. Whew. This hits hard. It just happened to me. A man I was seeing had all these ideas and expressions about wanting to go on specific dates and seemed so genuine but guess who had to check in and initiate it into happening? Not him! And guess who ended up serving some bullshit excuse to bail last minute? Not me! And literally my intuition was telling me this would happen all along. I need to stop thinking my intuition is just me being anxious and paranoid. It’s always right.
Ok this is your best look yet! Hair lit, makeup lit, background lit, quality lit 😍😍😍😍😍 Also, the NUMBER 1 way to be manipulated is to have weak boundaries. Think of yourself as a gated community that certain people have access to. And they only have access because you granted them permission/allowed them to enter. Protect yourselves. Be stingy.
Gaslighting can take on so much more forms than words. If you live with someone, some people will switch around your items to make you believe that you didn't place things where you once did and take things from you just so they will make you seem that you're unorganized and careless. It's a small, but powerful tactic to make people lose their sense of self. It is so important to look up narcissistic, manipulative tactics (especially from the dark triad) and gaslighting when dating to protect yourself from these people. Great Video, Asha!
@@Lishamisha22 I'm so sorry to hear about that. It's among the worst things when the ultimate manipulation comes from your closest family members. Just know that what they did had absolutely nothing to do with you, some people just do cruel things. I hope that your path to healing is successful and bright.
You are on 100!!!!!! Ladies if you feel like your voice or emotions are suppressed....even on your own accord. Manipulation is most likely at play. Get counseling on how to express yourself. This is how you become a high-value woman. A man never betrays his own heart. This is how they are so brazen. Women need to learn this level of self-confidence and love as well without trying to manipulate a person. Stay true to yourself, always ladies. Because a man will always put himself first...no matter what.
Dated a guy for 7 years+, broke up about 6 months ago, and this really stirred up emotions. I was being manipulated hard. Ouch. Thank you for the advice you provide. This should help me help me heal and help me for my future relationships.
you literaly saved me from going through the same toxic cycle all over again with my manipulative, narcissistic ex. i have been watching all of ur vids and taking notes, and i just wanna say a huge thank you!!!
You are 100% totally spot on! Literally, just today.....I stopped dealing with a dude I recently met that began to exhibit this behavior (and he is 48yo). Men do this at all ages and it never gets better. Ladies listen to Asha (and me), know your worth, and cut these dudes off immediately. This type of abusive behavior will take a heavy toll on your mental, emotional, and spiritual health...if you let it continue.
what you say is low key making me feel angry cause everything is right and i had to deal with every single scenario with my ex.. i din know then .now i know. i wish i had the knowledge then , things would have been different.. for instance he would have lost one fingernail, may be few hair ..lol just kidding..instead i lost few of my brain cells ..never again
Girl he didn’t deserve you! And you’re better off with him out of the picture take care of yourself and be good to yourself.😊 If you see something you really like and it doesn’t put you debt or break the bank buy it for yourself and smile. 😊 you deserve to be happy! Have a great day!❤️
I love how you approach the typical topics (that are pretty much introduced in the same way) in a logical and different way. This is what distinguishes you and makes you stand out 💖💖💗💗💕💕💋💋💞💞💓💓😍😍😘😘🎉🎉🎊🎊💜💜♥️♥️💖💖💖
Watching this after being a victim,😎 you be like😎 the next guy is in trouble cos am not settling for less in the name of being the cool girl or so call protecting the relationship👑👸🏽 team quality queens😉
Omg, so much truth in this video! I’ve always been so strong and independent. He tells me that I don’t need to be so independent that I act like I don’t need a man. That if I want a man I need to be more submissive. He actually uses spirituality to paint the picture of how a woman should be and that I need to be in my higher state of being to please him.
I’ve been talking to a therapist, and I always thought I was the only one being manipulative in the relationship, but when I explained my ex’s behavior, she said he was also emotionally abusive and gaslighting. I’m not gonna pretend I was a great person in the relationship. I gotta work on myself.
I needed you 3 years ago, just ended that relationship last week. Wow, knew he was always manipulative and a narcissist Edit just to say that you’re my favorite RUclipsr thank you! 😭💕
Welp too late for me, almost 3kids later. I'm definitely guilty of some of those titles in the beginning (pick me patty, no boundaries betty, ect.) Living and learning thanks sis.
Good thing is you have 3 and not 5 like my mother at 29. She kept dating shit men because she had 5 kids and thought no one would value her. She's in her 40s now still dating shit men and all her kids are grown and out of the house. Try to focus on the positive. I hope this helps.
Woooow!! What you said about how we subconsciously feel like we OWE something to someone that makes us feel seen and makes us feel like we ARE loveable for who we really are without the mask so somehow we have to insure that this person stays.... That really spoke to me. I love how analytical you are and how you're always spitting the cold hard facts! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Ps: could you do a video only about boundaries, what they should be and how to set them? I think it would benefit a lot of girls. Ly queen ❤️❤️❤️
Sam 92 It hurts me too I found him broken and fixed him.. but he broke me for the next person too.. am scared I won't open up to anyone else in life but I think every new person needs to feel a pure fresh me coz it wasn't their fault my ex was toxic
After binge watching your videos, I have decided to start a “chapter” of Quality Queens in the Washington DC/ DMV area. It’s almost scary how we have the same views as far as spirituality and dating. I know I was divinely guided to your channel. I plan to alert members to your content as I assist in guiding them! Thank you for your work and inspiring me to start this movement 😘
You’re so dope!!! Thank you for this video! My ex totally manipulated me. All of these things occurred in my relationship. I always knew that something was off but I really cared about him so I put up with it. Never again!!!!
Love your vids but this one has lit a flame in me. thanks sis for sharing this content.. you're helping many people... you're gaining your blessings from God through helping us who are losing it in life..
Excellent. NEVER let these guys get the best of you with their mind games. You don't have to be unladylike at all because it hurts more when you're gracious and serve direct blows with your actions that show him you are not the one to play with. 💌🖤
omg i was in a relationship with a lawyer. / law student and winning arguments would be a struggle. i really didnt realize how much damage was being done until i broke up with him, but i second guessed my decisions, and that + low self worth + somehow i got a lawyer at a low point in life? it was a roller coaster for sure. you not only hit topics but you get extremly specific in a way thats truly amazing. i love u so much. you and ms bailey have raised me and helped me be a stronger woman. sending you endless love!!! thank you for all you do. sipping on some japense wine getting all this TEA!!!!!!
i just got out the situationship with him and i found myself being okay with shit i wasnt okay with to delay letting him go, and yeah not worth it but worth the wisdom. but lawyers aint the best liars to me, since im a woman and idk something about intuition and those dreams trumps their earthy “knowledge” LMAOOO 😭😭😭
Asha! You are way too smart I swear. Everything u say got me feeling like yes girl I relate, I just broke up w my ex because he is a veeeery manipulative person. I love and miss him but I need to move on.
I struggle with this with guys of interest, peers, and family, especially parents smh.. and I believe the inability to stand up for yourself and be confident in how you feel stems from your relationship with your parents or parent- figures. So if you struggle with that with them, then you’re likely to struggle with it with anyone else in your life... but how do you overcome and not let how you’ve been raised be a hindrance for you? That’s the big question that needs an answer, too.. but I guess it’s the same as what Asha said: get comfortable with saying what you’re not comfortable with; with saying no.... stand up and believe in your intuition and how you feel . Thanks Asha 🤗
What you said about sticking around because the person let’s you be you really HIT me. I put up with a lot of BS because a guy accepted some really hard truths about me. I thought no one would ever accept these things about me so pandered after him. I didn’t know it was being used as leverage. Our situationship consisted of me having to prove my love for him while he did minimal. Doing what he asked just made him devalue me more and more even though I was trying to make him happy. It was hard to let him go but I had too. His low self- esteem and constant mind games were draining.
You’re awesome!! I said goodbye to my ex because he was so manipulative! I decided months ago to take control of my life and set boundaries with those toxic people!! My ex thought it was okay to like half naked woman and comment on Instagram. He told me I was insecure! Ugh…no…it’s called RESPECT!
I’m literally in tears watching this because my ex of three years that I broke up with in March did literally everything you said in this video, he checked all the boxes... I could never communicate with him because he would shut me out, ignore me, until I apologized to him for what he did to me. That hurt the most.
I'm sorry you had to learn the lesson the hard way. You now its not you never was. You never have to repeate it. Live your life in knowledge giving strength and courage to other young women. You will become stronger & loving. YOU NOW KNOW 😊 Grandma
When my ex did all of these things, but always had a nice facade and pretended that he was extra mature and I was the crazy one. I‘m glad I dumped him because I listened to my intuition and asked friends for an objective opinion even without watching this video. But now I feel fully validated.
new subscriber💖 wow!! this happened to me 10hrs ago ... he's so mapulative made me feel like the crazy chick.. well he dropped myself esteem am so broken, I've decided to stop contacting him coz he still hasn't acknowledged that he hurt me he just called me petty .. let's not settle for these they rarely change💕
I love your videos you’ve saved me from lots of toxic people thank you! Also I couldn’t stop staring at your hair,lips, and teeth 😂you’re slaying sis!😍
Manipulative men don’t just go for women with low self esteem, they get a kick out of seeing a happy confident young woman change into a former shell of herself
Yes............
Wow. Yes. I was a shadow of my former self within months
This.
tea!!!
@@lizaneva3065 Eliza babe!!!! You hit it on the head!!!!!
Things that have kept my life on track since my break up:
1. Asha’s videos
2. Wine
3. Focusing on Myself
4. Asha’s videos
Facts facts facts
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Girl all facts lol
Omgee Kiki I also watch your youtube videos! I love both of you girls😍💖💖
Hi I’m just seeing this THANK YOU BABEEEE ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You can't change a narcissist, just run. They are emotional abusers and toxic.
So he was truly a manipulator: he gave me the Silent treatment; he ghosted me, but guess what I ghosted him back and not even checking on his social media, and moving on, feels so good! Thanks next!
If he ghosted you it wasn't a treatment he just finished dealing with you. But what's sad is this ghosting culture nonsense, this won't make you a great human being at all @PartyForever21.
PartyForever this is not a manipulator this is just a not interested guy, gurl.
Yaaas queen 😘❤❤
Do not listen to this people. In psychology is known that ghosting and silent treatments are forms of manipulation. A healthy person will put into words if they don't want you in their lives.
There is a troll in here 😂
Omg this is spot on!!! Narcissistic men always try to flip situations around on you. But we as women always know the truth in our hearts. Btw the quality on this camera is amazing 🙌🏾
Wine and Wisdom this is true!!! They will use what you do, say and what THEY do and say against you!
Very true. My ex's last words to me were "you did this to yourself."
Sis being all professional and prettier than ever. Do we stan? We stan. Periodt. Point. Blank.
We have no choice, sis. 🙌
Lol
Awww thank you ☺️
@@trudy_triad q
My ex would dismiss all my concerns or feelings and chalked it up to the stereotype that women are insecure, jealous and over analyze things
Ugh! So annoying & dismissive
Def can relate to this
I’m in public watching this, trying not to tear up. My boyfriend is definitely manipulative. He gives me the silent treatment, he makes it seem like I’m crazy or overreacting when I get upset when I know that I’m not.
Whenever I’m on the phone or texting someone and he asks who I’m talking to, I always let him know so that he doesn’t think that I’m talking to another guy. I was at his house yesterday, he went in the other room to talk on the phone and seemed a little secretive to me. When he got off the phone I asked who he was speaking to and he only said “my peoples” but wouldn’t tell me WHO. I got up and left because I’m just so fed up from other things. Now he’s acting like I’m wrong for feeling suspicious about it. Tired of him acting like my feelings are wrong 😤
Amber Brooklyn leave the dusties behind he’s never going to change
Amber Brooklyn Run, sis. Please run!
javamama7 You’re so right girl 🤦🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
exactly what am going through, sis let's run out of these situations early enough ... they try to make sure ur obsessed with them and fully under their control..and most of the guys that do this are those you've compromised ur life for ...he ain't worth it , let's move on even with tears in our eyes .. we'll be fine
she's here seeking knowledge You’re so right sis! It’s getting tiring. They only want to shape up when they see us ready to walk away and end it smh Because they know the ones they take for granted are the ones they need the most. Yes sis, we will definitely be fine.
Your videos turned me from a door mat😂 to a quality queen with class
These guys are begging for second chances
Keep being that amazing soul and thank you for the wonderful content 😍❤
😂😂😂💯
Beautiful!!!!
They ALWAYS come back the more feminine and ladylike you are about getting rid of them. Make em pay.
True story 😂❤ but I'm grateful
Love your story!!!😍 yasss 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
men respond to action mirroring him is the best answer I love it it's my favorite law from the 48 laws of power
Houda Bouraya I did that and it drove him crazy. He even said that he finally found someone whose demons were as big as his (another manipulative move on his part but I got his attention: I see you nigga)
I did that and he called me a demon, and said he hated me. I guess that proves he hates himself 😂
Houda Bouraya I just got that book to learn for business glad to know it’s helps with personal relationships too!
Mirroring always gets the point across fastest....don't complain, mirror & if they react the same you have a door to dialogue. The good ones see their errors, manipulators get angry.
“Having to check in about the date HE set for YOU. Manipulation”. Whew. This hits hard. It just happened to me. A man I was seeing had all these ideas and expressions about wanting to go on specific dates and seemed so genuine but guess who had to check in and initiate it into happening? Not him! And guess who ended up serving some bullshit excuse to bail last minute? Not me! And literally my intuition was telling me this would happen all along. I need to stop thinking my intuition is just me being anxious and paranoid. It’s always right.
This!!!!! I hear u!!!
Ok this is your best look yet! Hair lit, makeup lit, background lit, quality lit 😍😍😍😍😍
Also, the NUMBER 1 way to be manipulated is to have weak boundaries. Think of yourself as a gated community that certain people have access to. And they only have access because you granted them permission/allowed them to enter. Protect yourselves. Be stingy.
Love the gated community analogy.
Yes I'm loving the gated community analogy as well. Protect your psyche at all costs ladies.
Yea be stingy
I love this analogy. Thank you!!!!!!
Gaslighting can take on so much more forms than words. If you live with someone, some people will switch around your items to make you believe that you didn't place things where you once did and take things from you just so they will make you seem that you're unorganized and careless. It's a small, but powerful tactic to make people lose their sense of self.
It is so important to look up narcissistic, manipulative tactics (especially from the dark triad) and gaslighting when dating to protect yourself from these people. Great Video, Asha!
Pls can i know some of these tactics. Thnks
Had this happen to me while I lived with family. My backpack, scarf, faux pearls , bus card etc.
@@Lishamisha22 I'm so sorry to hear about that. It's among the worst things when the ultimate manipulation comes from your closest family members. Just know that what they did had absolutely nothing to do with you, some people just do cruel things. I hope that your path to healing is successful and bright.
@@Lishamisha22 It is hard to believe that someone would go that far and stoop so low! That is crazy
Come through camera quality 😍
NanaLightBright 🤣😂😂
My ex-husband was so manipulative and a narcissist haha 😂 I’m so glad I got out of that terrible situation. These are red flags queens. Leave them.
You are on 100!!!!!! Ladies if you feel like your voice or emotions are suppressed....even on your own accord. Manipulation is most likely at play. Get counseling on how to express yourself. This is how you become a high-value woman. A man never betrays his own heart. This is how they are so brazen. Women need to learn this level of self-confidence and love as well without trying to manipulate a person. Stay true to yourself, always ladies. Because a man will always put himself first...no matter what.
Because they have no love and lost. So they try to take it from someone else
you made me come to my senses hun im about to just be single...less stress..done dealing with these type of men
Dated a guy for 7 years+, broke up about 6 months ago, and this really stirred up emotions. I was being manipulated hard. Ouch. Thank you for the advice you provide. This should help me help me heal and help me for my future relationships.
you literaly saved me from going through the same toxic cycle all over again with my manipulative, narcissistic ex. i have been watching all of ur vids and taking notes, and i just wanna say a huge thank you!!!
N XOX my ex too he made me feel like I don't deserve the love and respect. psssh!!
Same! 👏🏽I’ll never go back to him being a guys back up plan thank you, Next
Damn, my ex was literally ALL of these things. No wonder I snapped and left him lol
Before we beat one to death we be in jail and he in hell.
Lol you are right girl :)
You are 100% totally spot on! Literally, just today.....I stopped dealing with a dude I recently met that began to exhibit this behavior (and he is 48yo). Men do this at all ages and it never gets better. Ladies listen to Asha (and me), know your worth, and cut these dudes off immediately. This type of abusive behavior will take a heavy toll on your mental, emotional, and spiritual health...if you let it continue.
Who’s here before 1k views ? We loyal 🤪
cuttygang4 Life loyal loyal
your the bestttt
Asha C. Omg Thank you but ur honestly the best ur a whole queen and u have helped me a lot so thank you xx❤️
Girl we the best❤️❤️
“Are you well?” My new catchphrase
Guys always think I’m going to break their heart then they start acting manipulative towards me because they’re assuming I’m doing wrong
They just want to make you seem like the suspect while they play the victim so you can be lenient with them and that's when they start manipulating.
smh I see
what you say is low key making me feel angry cause everything is right and i had to deal with every single scenario with my ex.. i din know then .now i know. i wish i had the knowledge then , things would have been different.. for instance he would have lost one fingernail, may be few hair ..lol just kidding..instead i lost few of my brain cells ..never again
Girl he didn’t deserve you! And you’re better off with him out of the picture take care of yourself and be good to yourself.😊 If you see something you really like and it doesn’t put you debt or break the bank buy it for yourself and smile. 😊 you deserve to be happy! Have a great day!❤️
How I feel whenever I watch her videos!!!!! Wish I knew this information in the past Smdh. I know how to move now so that’s what’s most important
This literally gave me confirmation about a guy I ghosted. Thank you so much.
You’re pretty
I love how you approach the typical topics (that are pretty much introduced in the same way) in a logical and different way. This is what distinguishes you and makes you stand out 💖💖💗💗💕💕💋💋💞💞💓💓😍😍😘😘🎉🎉🎊🎊💜💜♥️♥️💖💖💖
Watching this after being a victim,😎 you be like😎 the next guy is in trouble cos am not settling for less in the name of being the cool girl or so call protecting the relationship👑👸🏽 team quality queens😉
I channeled your tips on feminine energy to get a job!!!! Aye! Thanks, girl! 💅🏾🙋🏾♀️
Nice but how did you do that ? It would be interesting to share your experience if you don't mind.
Wow... 27 people thumbed down. This is pretty sound advice. She couldn't have been more accurate. Must be the MANipulators. Lol
It had to be men's with the thumbs down.
I’m confused as to why they even on this video and in the comments
@@kandycoated6408 because they are sharpening their sword i would imagine....
I would tell this man no & he would get mad & ignore me.
But I learned a lot from you Asha.
This
same here😭 they make u look crazy
same hshs.
@@wendychanda8847 don't listen to them..
this woman is what I call a WOMAN.
Exactly!!
Omg, so much truth in this video! I’ve always been so strong and independent. He tells me that I don’t need to be so independent that I act like I don’t need a man. That if I want a man I need to be more submissive. He actually uses spirituality to paint the picture of how a woman should be and that I need to be in my higher state of being to please him.
I hope you left him
I’ve been talking to a therapist, and I always thought I was the only one being manipulative in the relationship, but when I explained my ex’s behavior, she said he was also emotionally abusive and gaslighting. I’m not gonna pretend I was a great person in the relationship. I gotta work on myself.
Exactly! And even when you acknowledge your part, they pretend you never said that!
Gonna start saying no when I'm uncomfortable 👌
*more
I needed you 3 years ago, just ended that relationship last week. Wow, knew he was always manipulative and a narcissist
Edit just to say that you’re my favorite RUclipsr thank you! 😭💕
Can we talk about what a good man is like? Do they exist?? Lol
Lol you throw them under the bus everyday and don't even realize !
You know when you find them. They allow you to shine and take great care of you.
Jade Bland the law of attraction may make that a problem
Jade Bland no
Yes there are plenty always will be, they will find you.
U R SUCH A QUEEN PERIODT! You say everything i needed to hear when i was in a a toxic relationship in order to let it go
I really experienced the “liking a girls insta photo” scenario it went exactly like that🤧
Hair is perfect! Lighting is perfect! Makeup on point 👌🏾.
Welp too late for me, almost 3kids later. I'm definitely guilty of some of those titles in the beginning (pick me patty, no boundaries betty, ect.) Living and learning thanks sis.
Good thing is you have 3 and not 5 like my mother at 29. She kept dating shit men because she had 5 kids and thought no one would value her. She's in her 40s now still dating shit men and all her kids are grown and out of the house. Try to focus on the positive. I hope this helps.
Woooow!! What you said about how we subconsciously feel like we OWE something to someone that makes us feel seen and makes us feel like we ARE loveable for who we really are without the mask so somehow we have to insure that this person stays.... That really spoke to me. I love how analytical you are and how you're always spitting the cold hard facts! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Ps: could you do a video only about boundaries, what they should be and how to set them? I think it would benefit a lot of girls. Ly queen ❤️❤️❤️
Wow. Just broke up w my ex due to this. Narcissistic tendencies, manipulated me very well 😭💔 broke me for the next person. I'm sad
Sam 92 It hurts me too I found him broken and fixed him.. but he broke me for the next person too..
am scared I won't open up to anyone else in life but I think every new person needs to feel a pure fresh me coz it wasn't their fault my ex was toxic
Thank you Asha I'm breaking up with my boyfriend, and getting baptized😊
Awww congrats on your baptism babe 💕
❤️🙌🏽
Been there and done that. I ended up shutting him down. He showed his ass in 2 weeks. Pssshhh I kept it moving.
She sound like shes been in most of these scenarios she’s explaining
Almost every woman has been in at least one. Cause these behaviors are endemic in men
I love the new quality and background! Yes queen, or should I say “yes quality queen!” ? 😹
This was me, makes me cry I even found a girl he claimed was a friend, the girl was half naked
He never owned up to anything everything was my fault even the physical abuse was my fault. I didn't see it then and no one understands
@@akani398 i hope you got out of that situation ok.
YES YOU HAVE DELIVERED ONCE AGAIN! I have been patiently waiting for this, and you are killing the game sis
Literally what I was literally waiting for. WHAT ABOUT THATTT!! Am just saying.
First boyfriend and he's already doing that.
Hello, you may be my first boyfriend but I love myself and will not let you play me 😊
After binge watching your videos, I have decided to start a “chapter” of Quality Queens in the Washington DC/ DMV area. It’s almost scary how we have the same views as far as spirituality and dating. I know I was divinely guided to your channel. I plan to alert members to your content as I assist in guiding them! Thank you for your work and inspiring me to start this movement 😘
You’re so dope!!! Thank you for this video! My ex totally manipulated me. All of these things occurred in my relationship. I always knew that something was off but I really cared about him so I put up with it. Never again!!!!
Love your vids but this one has lit a flame in me. thanks sis for sharing this content.. you're helping many people... you're gaining your blessings from God through helping us who are losing it in life..
Asha your impressions of the guys are SO ACCURATE. Bahahaahha girl I love you and awesome upgrade on the camera and background I love it!
girl you have helped me through so much❤️
Excellent. NEVER let these guys get the best of you with their mind games. You don't have to be unladylike at all because it hurts more when you're gracious and serve direct blows with your actions that show him you are not the one to play with. 💌🖤
Absolutely obsessed with your videos! You inspire me so much ❤️
Thorough. Smart. Assertive. That tough and sincere love we needed to hear. Bravo mama!!🙏🏽💛👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So on point. Hair is uber amazing with perfect placement (ever so slightly behind or at the hairline 🔑 ).
Literally, 🔥
Any videos on gaslighting specfically?
New hair new backdrop, yes this is cute!
omg i was in a relationship with a lawyer. / law student and winning arguments would be a struggle. i really didnt realize how much damage was being done until i broke up with him, but i second guessed my decisions, and that + low self worth + somehow i got a lawyer at a low point in life? it was a roller coaster for sure. you not only hit topics but you get extremly specific in a way thats truly amazing. i love u so much. you and ms bailey have raised me and helped me be a stronger woman. sending you endless love!!! thank you for all you do. sipping on some japense wine getting all this TEA!!!!!!
i just got out the situationship with him and i found myself being okay with shit i wasnt okay with to delay letting him go, and yeah not worth it but worth the wisdom. but lawyers aint the best liars to me, since im a woman and idk something about intuition and those dreams trumps their earthy “knowledge” LMAOOO 😭😭😭
Asha! You are way too smart I swear. Everything u say got me feeling like yes girl I relate, I just broke up w my ex because he is a veeeery manipulative person. I love and miss him but I need to move on.
This whole video describes the virgo man😭😩. Tell me I'm lying🥴
S M. What u know about Virgo men? 😂😭U right tho. facts!
Gemini??
U ain't lyin
OMG ❗❗
S M. Leo too
Feeling like you owe them something for them letting you be you...girl!! You hit the nail on the head with that one
My ex did EVERYTHING on this list. Wow.
I struggle with this with guys of interest, peers, and family, especially parents smh.. and I believe the inability to stand up for yourself and be confident in how you feel stems from your relationship with your parents or parent- figures. So if you struggle with that with them, then you’re likely to struggle with it with anyone else in your life... but how do you overcome and not let how you’ve been raised be a hindrance for you? That’s the big question that needs an answer, too.. but I guess it’s the same as what Asha said: get comfortable with saying what you’re not comfortable with; with saying no.... stand up and believe in your intuition and how you feel . Thanks Asha 🤗
What you said about sticking around because the person let’s you be you really HIT me. I put up with a lot of BS because a guy accepted some really hard truths about me. I thought no one would ever accept these things about me so pandered after him. I didn’t know it was being used as leverage.
Our situationship consisted of me having to prove my love for him while he did minimal. Doing what he asked just made him devalue me more and more even though I was trying to make him happy.
It was hard to let him go but I had too. His low self- esteem and constant mind games were draining.
Watched a video and thought "ive been with all types of manipulative men."
So the next thing i thought was "what is a healthy man like..." 😂😂
Wow i'm realizing so much. I watch your video not for avoiding being played but to unlearn toxic behavior.
Asha literally changed me for better woman like. Cant imagine my life without knowing important things
Asha is really my girl you are hilarious and serious and you get it,you understand so well how men work.
Hair is bomb 😍😍😍😍😍
Omg YAS!
100k is right around the corner woop woop🥳🥳❤️
Gurrrll! I was having a Hallelujah moment! All sooo true!
When you mentioned the other girl in his house, I was like that’s when you do the whole Monica act: kick down your doors act🤣
Tnks sis u hit the nail right on it head,I can relate to this
Love the new look, set up, camera quality, etc… Keep up the good work!! 👍🏾
Makeup, hair, outfit, background and info all on point!!! Yesssss 🙌🏽
You’re awesome!!
I said goodbye to my ex because he was so manipulative! I decided months ago to take control of my life and set boundaries with those toxic people!! My ex thought it was okay to like half naked woman and comment on Instagram. He told me I was insecure! Ugh…no…it’s called RESPECT!
Okay first of the all, the hair is poppin. 🙌🏼💁🏽♀️ Also, could you please do a topic on how to be content while being single
Thank you Gina !!!! ♥️♥️♥️ ahh I think this is a good topic to address !
WOWWWWW THE QUALITY. I am GAGGING! 💞
I felt this in a deeper level cuz been there seen that
Thank you for your advice. If you are bothered and something feels wrong, than it is wrong, no matter what he says
The quality of your content PLUS video quality 👌you’re the best !
I just love you! You're teaching is helping a lot of women to know their worth😍
Wow she left me speechless that’s practically people I have dated
This is one of my favorite videos of yours, Asha!!!!! Thank you! 🌺
I’m literally in tears watching this because my ex of three years that I broke up with in March did literally everything you said in this video, he checked all the boxes... I could never communicate with him because he would shut me out, ignore me, until I apologized to him for what he did to me. That hurt the most.
I'm sorry you had to learn the lesson the hard way. You now its not you never was.
You never have to repeate it. Live your life in knowledge giving strength and courage to other young women. You will become stronger & loving.
YOU NOW KNOW 😊
Grandma
When my ex did all of these things, but always had a nice facade and pretended that he was extra mature and I was the crazy one. I‘m glad I dumped him because I listened to my intuition and asked friends for an objective opinion even without watching this video. But now I feel fully validated.
The remarks vs sense of humor 🔥🔥🔥🔥take NOTES oh u fake fake that's how u really feel about me ohhhhhwwwoo okayyy
Love the background and the hair definitely looks alot better. 👍🏻
Yes. Most likely an undeveloped, karmic man that has some growing up to do and has to work on himself 1st.
I didn't realize how manipulative my ex was until I watched this video. He did every single one of those things. This is helpful! Love your content💕
new subscriber💖
wow!! this happened to me 10hrs ago ... he's so mapulative made me feel like the crazy chick.. well he dropped myself esteem am so broken, I've decided to stop contacting him coz he still hasn't acknowledged that he hurt me he just called me petty .. let's not settle for these they rarely change💕
You are doing great job teaching women self worth ! ❤️❤️
I love your videos you’ve saved me from lots of toxic people thank you! Also I couldn’t stop staring at your hair,lips, and teeth 😂you’re slaying sis!😍
I remember when u only had 3k 😭 now ur almost at 100k!!!!!!! Congrats Asha ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖💖
You really did a fabulous job dissecting this topic and these bums! It helps to have the confirmation-THANKS! 💁🏻♀️
Your hair looks fantastic omg