@@AshaChristinaFoster I have to say how I love how you engage with your viewers. SUBSCRIBED. Nothing classier than a boss babe who's not too "important" to talk to their supporters!
The easiest way to emotionally detach yourself from a man is LOOK at the REALITY of your situation. What’s in front of you stop giving them the benefit of the doubt.
You're so right. Men will control us with words and empty promises that always have a good excuse and leave us giving them the benefit of the doubt. We need to look at the actions.. A real man will put his woman first and make sure she is taken care of and make the effort. No one wants to hear about how much they are loved we want to be shown.
Thank God I knew these things at 18. It has helped me bypass a lot of unnecessary foolishness. Rules for not playing yourself: (1) Love yourself and realize you deserve the best (2) Don't ever choose a guy based upon potential unless he is actively working towards that goal (3) Do not have sex. Sex clouds your judgement! (4) Ask the hard questions up front (on date 1 and 2) (5) Listen to his words closely and observe his actions even closer (6) If things are not adding up, cut ties immediately, do not invest your time and youth in confusion (7) Have a life outside of a man, pursue your career, travel, and have fun being a single woman (8) Pray and ask God to reveal peoples motives and remove those who are not for you out of your life (9) Realize that your youth and body as a woman is sought after by men. Protect it like a valuable jewel (10) Always know that you are the prize...no matter how good a man looks or how much money he has
Thank you. I would like to know if I can choose a man just because he showed a lot interest and is really into me but I actually don't like him like that. I know it is more secure but I am so confused...
I'll have an oatmeal cookie. Those are 4 basic requirements that SENSIBLE women want to get serious. The equivalent for a women is, NOT being a single mom, being submissive, having good credit & attractive looks (NOT FAT or TATTOOED).
When I was in my 20s, I always dated older men thinking they would be more mature & serious also honest & faithful but I was wrong smh Men can play games & manipulate to get what they want at any age. 🤷🏻♀️
@@AshaChristinaFoster Thank you for this video. You are amazing! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I wish I could have seen a video like this in my 20s then. I would have taken precautions.
Over emotional and clingy woman or the nice girl never win they get walked on like a door mat smdh these pick me chicks and the bob the builders need to wake up
So true, being "too busy" is nothing but an excuse. Sending a text takes a few seconds, I'm sure if a guy is interested in you, he can at least do that much.
Ladies if a man doesn’t go all the way the whole nine yards just to show you that he loves you, he genuinely cares for you and your well being, health, education and wealth he’s not with you for a reason but more for a season. When a man is fully into you he will help you get through everything.
Preach sis 👏🏽, happened to me last year too with a guy I wanted and then I woke up and realized that guy doesn’t want me. So I told him what I want and if he doesn’t want that he should just leave. My momma didn’t born me to waste time with a man that don’t want me, I’m to old for that stuff. Now I am wiser.
I was reading “power of the pu😸y” last night by Kara King... the book you suggested and the first rule is “the power of controlling your emotions.” I hope these ladies are taking your advice/recommendations, and actually doing the WORK, instead of bombarding you with their emotional labor. 🤦🏾♀️
I can not post the pdf ma'am.. You didn't leave your email so you didn't receive the pdf. I gave you an alternative to go add the leveling up facebook group that has it in their files and you didn do that either smh
@@randomtroll- Sorry, I did not see that. My mail is zubicivana@gmail.com. I would appreciate if you send me that pdf book. What is exact name of fb group? Thank you.
Because we now live in a society where content, wisdom, and information is constantly being spread around and is easily accessible to everyone because of the internet. Back in the day before technology, your access to information and wisdom was very limited so you couldn't actually come to the conclusions that you're coming to now.
joannemkz exactly!!! If you didn’t have a mother or friends who thought like this you were doomed, there was no one to help you through these things. You just went based on your toxic upbringing. Thank god for technology, saving ppls lives. Young women are so blessed to have these resources a lot of ppl didn’t have...I hope most of them utilize that.
Girlllllll!!! This is such a great video. OMG please teach the queens on the game!!! Ladies, you have to disconnect yourself from your feelings. These guys care nothing about what they do to us clearly. The first ambition a guy has with you is to get you in bed...why...because he knows he can emotionally control you after that point, period. Stop being emotionally attached, we become blinded by the obvious when you let emotions take over. If he’s out doing his own thing - disconnect your feelings and start doing YOU. If you see something in his phone, that’s your cue to bust a move and meet other dudes then and the minute he sees you acting different because you’re out doing you when he questions why are you playing games, tell him since he can do whatever he likes, your assumption was that it meant it was cool for YOU to do the same....ladies stop playing into being the fool that they program us to be. Play them at their own game. You have to be smart with these guys, they know the psychology of the game, thank God Asha is bringing this to light. I was taught when you serve these guys the same 💩 they serve you, they hate it and that’s when they want to act right when they see you’re unbothered and playing them at their own game. If he ghosts you, you ghost him and when he decides to call after ghosting you act like you are unbothered that he ghosted you, then it looks like you ghosted him 👻 😊 At least hustle the situation and get a purse or money or something from the situation so that when either of you walk away, you won’t feel like you got nothing from the situation, but your feelings crushed...because trust, if you don’t get something out of him while your with him, then you are just giving these guys free sex which ends in you getting played with nothing gained from that situation in the outcome. Asha’s spot on in this video, stop caring and do you ladies💋
Ok hold up WHAT WHAT you can stay she's leaving. Like come get her coochie remnants! GTFOH!!!! Oh baby girls open your eyes ears and minds please do the emotional work from childhood. Your adult drama is the effect of your childhood trauma. Make the connection ladies. You are ENOUGH!!!!
I thought he was my soul mate. We were the same person....He always hid his phone and always spoke to his ex. I went back to that trash 3 times!!! I feel so much happier in myself! ❤️
I instantly clicked as soon as I seen the title. We are not taught to think logically as women. Once you allow your feelings to take over, you can make an irrational decision. Thank you for helping bringing this to light❤️
I always find it helpful to use a 3rd person perspective when faced with relationship issues and this helps me stay objective/logical with my decisions
I’m learning this after a heartbreak I put my all into someone who couldn’t give me the same energy back . He’s the one who asked for the relationship FYI!!
Some men love the thrill of chasing the woman they really want but sometimes they lose the thrill after losing their patience when they can never get what they want. They always move on to the next woman they want ..they are selfish natured creatures smh lol Some men don't want an easy woman, they usually do want women who are hard to get but then there are some that will get with any woman who wants them. A real serious & mature man will be patient & won't want just any woman.
@@lakeyshabrown8727 Yes so true they are like that. I know men like the back of my hand. I have observed & analyzed the psychology of men just from my own experience. I've learned my lessons & I don't wanna see any other women suffer like I did in the past. 💞
ANGELS ROAD TO 10K has officially started !!!!! thats the next goal !!!! WE CAN DO IT !!!!!!! also, make sure that you are following me on IG @asha.cee I have been so much more active on there! thank you angels for your patience! I promise a better uploading schedule soon!!! 😘👸🏽
You said something about that history. I wish people I knew would realize that. History doesn't mean shit, and if the relationship is trash. I saw in another video where a lady said. Why buy cow when milk is free?
I’ve seen men come back and beg and get their act together but it’s NEVER going to happen if YOU don’t change from within, leave, detach from him, and let him come to you in the future if he so chooses. And if he doesn’t, you won’t care because you value yourself enough at that point.
I just finished reading power of the 🐱 was so good , reading that has really helped me better understand the logic over emotions, because before that I was moreso into my emotions now I’m thinking more logically
I love your energy and realness. You don’t sugar coat ANYTHING and I am always excited to watch your videos. Love how you’re growing at a rapid pace and excited to see all the amazing things that will happen in your future. Continue being a genuine, beautiful, and honest person. Much love 💖💖💖
Such an amazing video, Asha! I think society has trained women to lose our sense of self when dealing with men and relationships. I believe part of some of the reasons why women do such crazy, emotional things is because we may be afraid to be alone. From childhood, girls are conditioned to believe we need to be married, we need to have someone. We are told by others “Why don’t you just make the first move?” I truly believe that if we just keep our standards high and not continuously LOOK for a man, try to BUILD a man, or make all of these extreme efforts when the real him is in front of us! Ladies, stop settling for these scumbags who have no respect for you and you KNOW they have no respect for you. A man who really loves and wants to be with you will always respect you whether with you or not. I also believe men these days have gotten so spoiled and babied but that’s a different topic. 🌚 Lastly, you inspire me so much to restart and get back on RUclips. I have so much to discuss and want to share with gals how to do better and be better. Thank you for such amazing content for women of all ages. 🌟
“He is not sorry, he is sorry he got caught” That is a priceless quote. I’m 40 and have friends that still don’t get it smh. Sorry not sorry! Actions speak volumes over words. I always advise to sit back and watch, ask tough questions, and quit telling them too much upfront because they will use that to manipulate you. Let them think on their own. Great video! I sent to my teenaged daughter (18) because she seems to think I don’t know what I’m talking about. Maybe hearing from a peer will help.
Your advice in this video is great and makes a lot of sense. We always have a choice to respond to situations logically or emotionally. Take your emotions out of the equation. Don’t react with emotion, kill it with a logical reaction instead. 💯
You hit the nail on it's head hun.. Ladies let's stop allowing our emotions control us rather let's control them ...PERIOD . thanks for the detailed facts 👏👏👏.
I wish i had seen this like a week before,Things could have been different, But it was a lesson well learnt and advice well taken. EMOTIONS ARE DANGEROUS.
OMG this was me 12 years ago but i was married for 8 years and gave birth to 2 girls, when i caught him cheating (from the beginning & i never saw it). Until one day i pick up his phone and he had kept 5 years worth or messages and pictures he was saving and keep me away from his phone etc. I have so much more info now.... thank you. It'll never happen again... & yes, I left him 5 years ago and single enjoying life....
I have never met such intelligence a huge victim of my emotions all my life but today at 55 I shall follow ur advice not just with men relationships but all the rest of my relations I am an emotional creature but your wisdom was more than enough change starts today for me never to young or old to learn I appreciate u already you are my confidant now God steared me to ur channel at 4 am just browsing I've always been a queen good to meet another one thank u blessing and love
Ladies leaving them will lessen the agony of pain. You are doing your own sake. You have to let them go because they are causing destruction to you mentally and emotionally. They don’t know what you are going through every night and day. Asha C. I’m so glad I came across your channel, God bless you! 😘
I found out about your channel through love thy natural and uggghhhh I’m in love with your content !! It speaks to my soul when you say certain things because for a second I started thinking I was crazy for being the way I am and that maybe I had things wrong but nope . You just remind me every time that I’m on the right track and add more to my journey . Keep bringing this amazing content please I love ittt ❤️❤️❤️
Sharenziie Young hiii babe !!!! And nope You are not crazy !!!! That’s what they want us to think !!! You’re feelings were and are valid! Listen to your intuition ! Always !!! And thank you so much ☺️🧡👸🏽
Idk if anyone else has felt this way but often times I’m able to process what’s going on when it comes to guys and I come to these very logical conclusions but then my emotional side tends to take over. It’s like my brain and my heart are constantly battling each other and it’s exhausting. I’m only 20 so I know I have a lot to learn but these videos always keep me in check❤️
The part where you mentioned that you promised to never break and inflict pain on your heart really resonates. It also goes with one of my fave Bible verses which goes "Above all else, guard your heart for everything that you do flows from it." Love this, you just gained a new subscriber babe. 😊
I am actually with the guy who put me in the not my girlfriend box. He treated me like his girlfriend: came to family gatherings, was affectionate and wanted to hold hands and bought me gifts but when I would ask him if we were together he would become frustrated, "I've told you that we aren't together! Why do you keep asking?" It drove me nuts! Eventually I put my foot down, said I was going to walk away and you bet your bottom dollar that I meant it. He looked into my soul and knew I was out. At first he pressed my boundaries but I held firm and in a couple weeks he cut off the other girl he was seeing and made an appointment for couple's counseling as well as got individual counseling (I did too). Now he tells everyone that I'm his girlfriend instead of, "This is my friend..." And we are moving in together next week. Wish us luck!
A lot of this is all TAUGHT! Like let’s be real women are taught to be emotional , whereas men are taught to be tough. It’s not always nature, if we taught everyone to be logical and emotional 😭 we probably wouldn’t have so many issues. Also a lot of us come from extremely toxic and abusive environments which can cause major problems in a persons life.
Wow! Am I relieved I found your page. I am currently 6 months pregnant and going through a break up, but your words are giving me hope within myself!! We were together for 2 years, and I honestly believe it was just his words that kept me around his actions were just not matching up, I would ignore the red flags of him having "girl friends" he would make posts on facebook that just don't make him seem he's in love with me like he said, go out during the weekends and not answer his phone then come back Sunday like every thing is fine, boy was I blind!! We broke up before and he added his ex back on facebook and did not delete her when we got back together.. I think continuing to watch your videos will help me move on and leave him alone! Although we'll have to be in-touch for the baby I'm standing my ground and moving on, loving myself again xoxo - thank you for your videos
I recently discovered you and I am bowled over by your classiness,beauty and wisdom! You are living proof that sometimes age has nothing to do with wisdom! So many women generations before yours...got dogged out...including me.Even though I am pushing 44...I am not too proud to admit that you got me taking notes...!👏👏👏😉
There needs to be a class like this video taught in high schools. It would save so many young women.Then again, sometimes you need to learn the hard way in order to fully process and understand this kind of information. God knows I’ve learned my lesson now. What an eye-opening experience.
You are SO wise! I swear I feel like we can actually learn so much from men about themselves... a man will always do what is best for himself and we as women tend to try and consider others' feelings. Men don't do that- it's them and their feelings and concerns. If you know the signs to look for (exactly like you teach :)) then it's actually pretty easy to spot a dusty from a mile away. I am LOVING this channel!
I wish I learned this when I was 14-16, I sucked at the games guys play so they'll use me to where this one incident that made me more cautious about dating & I had to take a good 3 year break of just having a good relationship w myself.
You've helped me so much. It's like I knew everything you were saying but emotions cloud us. but sometimes you need someone to lay it out straight, no sugar coating. Thank you!
Gotta listen again girl as I'm in UK lockdown 2020.. A universal shift in my relationships is appearing and you've helped loads. Love how much I value myself at 36 years now and help encourage so many women now. Keep doing your thing hun xx
RUclips is growing exponentially😤 Thank God🙏🏾❤️. In faith my YT shall likewise be successful when I start. Amen. ❤️❤️. God shall continue to bless you nonstop. Amen.
at least 2, so that you can compare them to each other and you also let them know, that you are seeing people until you get convinced, they will bend backward in that competitive paradigm, and MAY THE BEST WINS
Walking away cost you nothing. Staying will cost you everything. Including the lost of yourself. Come on ladies.
Yes babe !!!!!
Level up 2019 ladies.
@@AshaChristinaFoster I have to say how I love how you engage with your viewers. SUBSCRIBED. Nothing classier than a boss babe who's not too "important" to talk to their supporters!
The Lazy Snob awww thank you so much babe !!! ☺️😇
Preach!!!!
Rule, dont fall in love with a potential
Riham Elhassan 💯 🙌🏾
PERIOD POINT BLANK
LEARNED MY LESSON TOO LATE. BUT NEVER AGAIN
Wow that's deep
Oops
I learned this the hard way, don’t trust any men words, trust their actions and act upon it.
kym kiswe period !!!!!🧡
kym kiswe YES
Same, we have all been there once. It's a learning lesson.
Me too sis.
same
The easiest way to emotionally detach yourself from a man is LOOK at the REALITY of your situation. What’s in front of you stop giving them the benefit of the doubt.
Tell em babe !!!! 🧡
Had to do this recently and it’s a great feeling to be in This state of mind..
Yessss !!!!! That's the truth
You're so right. Men will control us with words and empty promises that always have a good excuse and leave us giving them the benefit of the doubt. We need to look at the actions.. A real man will put his woman first and make sure she is taken care of and make the effort.
No one wants to hear about how much they are loved we want to be shown.
@@AnnieBanannii Amen to that! You said it right! 💯
Thank God I knew these things at 18. It has helped me bypass a lot of unnecessary foolishness. Rules for not playing yourself:
(1) Love yourself and realize you deserve the best
(2) Don't ever choose a guy based upon potential unless he is actively working towards that goal
(3) Do not have sex. Sex clouds your judgement!
(4) Ask the hard questions up front (on date 1 and 2)
(5) Listen to his words closely and observe his actions even closer
(6) If things are not adding up, cut ties immediately, do not invest your time and youth in confusion
(7) Have a life outside of a man, pursue your career, travel, and have fun being a single woman
(8) Pray and ask God to reveal peoples motives and remove those who are not for you out of your life
(9) Realize that your youth and body as a woman is sought after by men. Protect it like a valuable jewel
(10) Always know that you are the prize...no matter how good a man looks or how much money he has
WOW THE A team NEEDS TO SCREEN SHOT THIS !!! Babe!!!! You know the game !!!!! Proud of you !!!!! I wish I knew this at 18 :( 👸🏽🧡
Thank you. I would like to know if I can choose a man just because he showed a lot interest and is really into me but I actually don't like him like that. I know it is more secure but I am so confused...
Thank you for sharing .💕 I even wrote these rules down in my journal.
Things I wished I knew before 😭😭 but it’s better late than never ❤️
what makes you a prize? just curious
STOP GIVING GUYS CREDIT FOR SIMPLE THINGS
Derm me!!!!! What have I done to maself?? How do I send this?? Jesus!!!
Onjelie Linn I felt this 😭😭.
Liken cooking for you or giving u a small gift
Like building houses.
That’s a big mistake. Married with children - this is the key to success. Credit the small things with big responses, but not too frequently.
Sit back look pretty and observe actions
Kash Goddess oh yes babe 😉👸🏽
A man can break a woman down so much that she doesn't know who she is I like the fact that you exude strength and facts.
@Levi Anthony never said it wasn't
But that can be said about women too😕
@@malcom1111 you are right
Don’t give him credit for having the basics: house, car, job Or my favorite I never been in jail. You want a cookie???
Tawana 689 lets not forget, doing his job as a father. And him comparing his father hood to the father hood of men that aren’t doing anything.
I'll have an oatmeal cookie.
Those are 4 basic requirements that SENSIBLE women want to get serious. The equivalent for a women is, NOT being a single mom, being submissive, having good credit & attractive looks (NOT FAT
or TATTOOED).
Or my favourite I don’t have any kids. 😂 Is that an accomplishment sir?
@@akstylez_ak5037 that's why all you weirdo's gonna die alone 😂 you want everything but can not even give a compliment
@@strang1124 facts. It’s gotta be equal energy for the same requirements. Women want a man with a good future men want women with a good past.
When I was in my 20s, I always dated older men thinking they would be more mature & serious also honest & faithful but I was wrong smh Men can play games & manipulate to get what they want at any age. 🤷🏻♀️
BABE THIS WAS MY LESSON TO LEARN TOO !!!!! Ha 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@AshaChristinaFoster Thank you for this video. You are amazing! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I wish I could have seen a video like this in my 20s then. I would have taken precautions.
Crystal Glory been there like right now
If anything they know the game better, while seeming like more of a gentleman. Charasmatic, manipulators.
No lmao, youre so emotionally invested that your brain is undoing what you are actually seeing ..... LMAO the phrase love is blind... is so real
It’s so real !!!! Love can be very blind ! 🧡
"He doesn't care, why should you???!!!" 👍🔥 "Men like women who can control their emotions"
Over emotional and clingy woman or the nice girl never win they get walked on like a door mat smdh these pick me chicks and the bob the builders need to wake up
La Reyna212 La Reyna212 lol Sheraaaa
shera said best lol yasss
Yes @Sheraseven
I immediately thought of shera lol
Lmao we should have an army of us LMAO
There is 24 hours in the day he has time to talk to anyone 😂😂
Exactly babe !!!!🧡
So true, being "too busy" is nothing but an excuse. Sending a text takes a few seconds, I'm sure if a guy is interested in you, he can at least do that much.
AGREED.
Lmao right!
Omg yes yes yes 👏🏾! I texted him the other day and he responds “I miss you” he hasn’t responded in 3 days, I’m officially cutting off trash💁🏾♀️
You're SO harsh, it's hard pills to swallow but it's definitely needed!!
Reality is harsh
Neeeed the emotional detachment video!! no more emotional attachments to these dudes 2019
Oh yes babe ! It’s coming ! 🧡
Ladies if a man doesn’t go all the way the whole nine yards just to show you that he loves you, he genuinely cares for you and your well being, health, education and wealth he’s not with you for a reason but more for a season. When a man is fully into you he will help you get through everything.
You are totally right boys know how to manipulate and play with your emotions.
Oh 100 percent babe !
Preach sis 👏🏽, happened to me last year too with a guy I wanted and then I woke up and realized that guy doesn’t want me. So I told him what I want and if he doesn’t want that he should just leave. My momma didn’t born me to waste time with a man that don’t want me, I’m to old for that stuff. Now I am wiser.
Proud of you babe !!! ☺️🧡
💯
He is only sorry because he got caught👌🏻 very true #A team❤
"Don't ever be afraid to walk away"-that's what I needed to hear
I was reading “power of the pu😸y” last night by Kara King... the book you suggested and the first rule is “the power of controlling your emotions.” I hope these ladies are taking your advice/recommendations, and actually doing the WORK, instead of bombarding you with their emotional labor. 🤦🏾♀️
Please, do you have pdf of that book? I am interested because that i ask. Thank you.
@@ivanazubic580 did she share the pdf?! if you have please forward
miyanda caters no, I still do not have pdf. 😞
I can not post the pdf ma'am.. You didn't leave your email so you didn't receive the pdf. I gave you an alternative to go add the leveling up facebook group that has it in their files and you didn do that either smh
@@randomtroll- Sorry, I did not see that. My mail is zubicivana@gmail.com. I would appreciate if you send me that pdf book. What is exact name of fb group? Thank you.
How are you so smart at 24 when I'm 49 and a mess???? I honestly see you with your own TV show!
I was thinking the same thing and I'm 38...like damn..this girl is smart!
Yes!! Would watch every single episode**
Because we now live in a society where content, wisdom, and information is constantly being spread around and is easily accessible to everyone because of the internet. Back in the day before technology, your access to information and wisdom was very limited so you couldn't actually come to the conclusions that you're coming to now.
joannemkz exactly!!! If you didn’t have a mother or friends who thought like this you were doomed, there was no one to help you through these things. You just went based on your toxic upbringing. Thank god for technology, saving ppls lives. Young women are so blessed to have these resources a lot of ppl didn’t have...I hope most of them utilize that.
@@AFFTFOMSICHTS So do men.
You are like the big sister I never had. I had to hear this today 😔
I am so happy to hear this my little sis ☺️🧡👸🏽
I swear
thats what i said lol !!!
Girlllllll!!! This is such a great video. OMG please teach the queens on the game!!! Ladies, you have to disconnect yourself from your feelings. These guys care nothing about what they do to us clearly. The first ambition a guy has with you is to get you in bed...why...because he knows he can emotionally control you after that point, period. Stop being emotionally attached, we become blinded by the obvious when you let emotions take over. If he’s out doing his own thing - disconnect your feelings and start doing YOU. If you see something in his phone, that’s your cue to bust a move and meet other dudes then and the minute he sees you acting different because you’re out doing you when he questions why are you playing games, tell him since he can do whatever he likes, your assumption was that it meant it was cool for YOU to do the same....ladies stop playing into being the fool that they program us to be. Play them at their own game. You have to be smart with these guys, they know the psychology of the game, thank God Asha is bringing this to light. I was taught when you serve these guys the same 💩 they serve you, they hate it and that’s when they want to act right when they see you’re unbothered and playing them at their own game. If he ghosts you, you ghost him and when he decides to call after ghosting you act like you are unbothered that he ghosted you, then it looks like you ghosted him 👻 😊 At least hustle the situation and get a purse or money or something from the situation so that when either of you walk away, you won’t feel like you got nothing from the situation, but your feelings crushed...because trust, if you don’t get something out of him while your with him, then you are just giving these guys free sex which ends in you getting played with nothing gained from that situation in the outcome. Asha’s spot on in this video, stop caring and do you ladies💋
👏 great points babe !!!!!!
Yes yes yes!
Everything you said is facts upon facts. Now i keep that same energy they keep i ain't gat time
vivrant thing thanks love. These guys better come correct for us in 2019!!!!
uzo ugwu thanks love. We’re leveling up on these clowns in 2019!!!
She's done it again 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 So well put and not sugar coated. 👌🏾👌🏾
JustStephtv thank you babe !!!! It’s the only way I know !!!! I can’t sugar coat ! 🤗🧡
Ok hold up WHAT WHAT you can stay she's leaving. Like come get her coochie remnants! GTFOH!!!! Oh baby girls open your eyes ears and minds please do the emotional work from childhood. Your adult drama is the effect of your childhood trauma. Make the connection ladies. You are ENOUGH!!!!
"Lets stop giving guys credit for simple things." THANK you.
No more struggle love #Selflove
Oh yes babe this is the YEAR !!!!! 🧡👸🏽
I thought he was my soul mate. We were the same person....He always hid his phone and always spoke to his ex. I went back to that trash 3 times!!! I feel so much happier in myself! ❤️
Yes babe be strong move on !!!! We are quality queeens !!!!
I instantly clicked as soon as I seen the title. We are not taught to think logically as women. Once you allow your feelings to take over, you can make an irrational decision. Thank you for helping bringing this to light❤️
Yes babe !!!! Exactly ! ☺️🧡
And you’re so welcome ☺️
I always find it helpful to use a 3rd person perspective when faced with relationship issues and this helps me stay objective/logical with my decisions
Young lady ,just looking at the title tells me how much wisdom you have.
Thank you ☺️
Omg 6k you’re going to kill the RUclips game , this is truly fast growth.
thank you babe!!!
I’m learning this after a heartbreak I put my all into someone who couldn’t give me the same energy back . He’s the one who asked for the relationship FYI!!
Same
I bet you're almost over him now lol
Nomsa Manduli completely lol
What did you study in college? Your logic is so on point 💓You are one of smartest youtubers honestly
Awwww thank you babe ! Media and communications ! 🧡
Some men love the thrill of chasing the woman they really want but sometimes they lose the thrill after losing their patience when they can never get what they want. They always move on to the next woman they want
..they are selfish natured creatures smh lol Some men don't want an easy woman, they usually do want women who are hard to get but then there are some that will get with any woman who wants them. A real serious & mature man will be patient & won't want just any woman.
your comment needs a million thumbs up!!! some men want attention from ANY thing that breathes!!! Men have low self esteem too!!!
@@lakeyshabrown8727 Yes so true they are like that. I know men like the back of my hand. I have observed & analyzed the psychology of men just from my own experience. I've learned my lessons & I don't wanna see any other women suffer like I did in the past. 💞
ANGELS ROAD TO 10K has officially started !!!!! thats the next goal !!!! WE CAN DO IT !!!!!!! also, make sure that you are following me on IG @asha.cee I have been so much more active on there! thank you angels for your patience! I promise a better uploading schedule soon!!! 😘👸🏽
just subscribed...newbie
Asha C. Please i am waiting for the “ emotional detachment video “💜💜
Asha c please I need your email to message you
Asha C. thanks so much ur a blessing to amazon I love you
20:15 is ICONIC. He doesn’t want to pick you (pluck fingers) because your a pick me chick 😂❤️❤️❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Likeeee can I say this thing ?
I need that as my background, ringtone, wallpaper, screensaver, carpet, wallpaper, pillow case, sheets, ICONIC
She gets it!!!!
Oh yes babe ☺️
"Stop listening to whats being said to you, and look at actions." I needed to hear that girl..
Why don’t you have a podcast ? You gained a new subscriber btw ❤️
Awww hmmm I should consider that for sure !!!! And welcome to the A team beautiful !!!!🧡
Omg ATTACKED yessss hit me with the truth! 😭 it’s 2019 we don’t have time for this !!!!
You said something about that history. I wish people I knew would realize that. History doesn't mean shit, and if the relationship is trash. I saw in another video where a lady said. Why buy cow when milk is free?
tabby314 very true !!!!!! And history means nothing when you’re being played over and over !!! 🧡
@@AshaChristinaFoster exaclty
I’ve seen men come back and beg and get their act together but it’s NEVER going to happen if YOU don’t change from within, leave, detach from him, and let him come to you in the future if he so chooses. And if he doesn’t, you won’t care because you value yourself enough at that point.
Im late but thankyouu i needed to hear this x
I just finished reading power of the 🐱 was so good , reading that has really helped me better understand the logic over emotions, because before that I was moreso into my emotions now I’m thinking more logically
Daniellelenae Please, do you have that book on pdf to send me? Sorry for my English. Thank you.
I love your energy and realness. You don’t sugar coat ANYTHING and I am always excited to watch your videos. Love how you’re growing at a rapid pace and excited to see all the amazing things that will happen in your future. Continue being a genuine, beautiful, and honest person. Much love 💖💖💖
Awww Omgosh :””) thank you so much !!!!! Wow this was so nice of you !!! I appreciate it so much 😊😇🤗
Such an amazing video, Asha! I think society has trained women to lose our sense of self when dealing with men and relationships. I believe part of some of the reasons why women do such crazy, emotional things is because we may be afraid to be alone. From childhood, girls are conditioned to believe we need to be married, we need to have someone. We are told by others “Why don’t you just make the first move?”
I truly believe that if we just keep our standards high and not continuously LOOK for a man, try to BUILD a man, or make all of these extreme efforts when the real him is in front of us! Ladies, stop settling for these scumbags who have no respect for you and you KNOW they have no respect for you. A man who really loves and wants to be with you will always respect you whether with you or not.
I also believe men these days have gotten so spoiled and babied but that’s a different topic. 🌚
Lastly, you inspire me so much to restart and get back on RUclips. I have so much to discuss and want to share with gals how to do better and be better. Thank you for such amazing content for women of all ages. 🌟
I use to live by this and I fell short!!! Thanks for reminding me !!!! Very smart woman !
I’m just here to help ☺️ you’re so welcome babe 🤗😘
God is so gracious! Get what you deserve! It’s okay we all have our short comings! But thank God we get second chances! I’m rooting for you!!
“He is not sorry, he is sorry he got caught” That is a priceless quote. I’m 40 and have friends that still don’t get it smh. Sorry not sorry! Actions speak volumes over words. I always advise to sit back and watch, ask tough questions, and quit telling them too much upfront because they will use that to manipulate you. Let them think on their own. Great video! I sent to my teenaged daughter (18) because she seems to think I don’t know what I’m talking about. Maybe hearing from a peer will help.
Your an amazing mother for sharing this to your daughter x i feel blessed to learn while young too
FYI!! men don't really grow up untill around 45 so watch out!!. Had to learn the hard way.
And even at that age some of them still play games🤦🏾♀️. I just experienced it myself smh
T Kendall those are grown fools lbvs 😂
so i should just be single is all i’m gathering from this 😂
Not even then, it all depends on the maturity of the man in question. Age means nothing.
They don’t grow up then, trust me
All women on earth need this video! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Share it everywhere you can Babe !!!! ☺️👸🏽
Give it up you’re done. Access denied 🙅. Somebody make that into a gif lmao
Omgosh can someone please !? 😂
I like how I’m binge watching her videos and taking notes when I’m only 16 like damn I ain’t ever gonna get played by some guy now for LIFE !!
Yessss angel start young 😇
Your advice in this video is great and makes a lot of sense. We always have a choice to respond to situations logically or emotionally. Take your emotions out of the equation. Don’t react with emotion, kill it with a logical reaction instead. 💯
You hit the nail on it's head hun.. Ladies let's stop allowing our emotions control us rather let's control them ...PERIOD . thanks for the detailed facts 👏👏👏.
I pay close attention to actions, and energy...neither lie..accept it for what it is.
its a fact!!!!
Yes
“Keep it tight, keep it under control” 🔑
Amour Kae always 😉🥰
She’s really the big sister I never knew I needed.
I wish i had seen this like a week before,Things could have been different, But it was a lesson well learnt and advice well taken.
EMOTIONS ARE DANGEROUS.
OMG this was me 12 years ago but i was married for 8 years and gave birth to 2 girls, when i caught him cheating (from the beginning & i never saw it). Until one day i pick up his phone and he had kept 5 years worth or messages and pictures he was saving and keep me away from his phone etc. I have so much more info now.... thank you. It'll never happen again... & yes, I left him 5 years ago and single enjoying life....
I agree with “women getting caught up in their emotions regardless of how silly it makes you all look”
This made me laugh it’s true lol
Never settle 👑 you’re the CEO of your life, Fire and hire as you please.
yesssssss
Thank you! You uploaded this at the right time! Thanks so much I needed it!
ahhh hiii im so happy to hear this !!!!
Asha is a MOOD!!! I love your honesty and bluntness. Honestly, if a situation does not serve you, walk ladies!
Toxic and narcissistic personalities and behaviors! Thank you 🙏🏽 you’re hitting all the points.
This is hurting my feelings but I need it lmao
Me too 😭
This helped me, I am 38 years old and reentering the dating scene. thanks for this. You are helping people
You make me feel like you're my sister. You're a REAL ONE and i love it!
I have never met such intelligence a huge victim of my emotions all my life but today at 55 I shall follow ur advice not just with men relationships but all the rest of my relations I am an emotional creature but your wisdom was more than enough change starts today for me never to young or old to learn I appreciate u already you are my confidant now God steared me to ur channel at 4 am just browsing I've always been a queen good to meet another one thank u blessing and love
Awwwww :”) this made my day !!!!!! 🥰💋
Ladies leaving them will lessen the agony of pain. You are doing your own sake. You have to let them go because they are causing destruction to you mentally and emotionally. They don’t know what you are going through every night and day. Asha C. I’m so glad I came across your channel, God bless you! 😘
I found out about your channel through love thy natural and uggghhhh I’m in love with your content !! It speaks to my soul when you say certain things because for a second I started thinking I was crazy for being the way I am and that maybe I had things wrong but nope . You just remind me every time that I’m on the right track and add more to my journey . Keep bringing this amazing content please I love ittt ❤️❤️❤️
Sharenziie Young hiii babe !!!! And nope You are not crazy !!!! That’s what they want us to think !!! You’re feelings were and are valid! Listen to your intuition ! Always !!! And thank you so much ☺️🧡👸🏽
Idk if anyone else has felt this way but often times I’m able to process what’s going on when it comes to guys and I come to these very logical conclusions but then my emotional side tends to take over. It’s like my brain and my heart are constantly battling each other and it’s exhausting. I’m only 20 so I know I have a lot to learn but these videos always keep me in check❤️
Girl, you are such a QUEEN 👑😭 thank you for stating what so many of us needed to hear 😚
Thank you babe !!!! You’re so welcome !!!!♥️
Her eye contact is just.. wow, It made the video so much more personal!!!!
The part where you mentioned that you promised to never break and inflict pain on your heart really resonates.
It also goes with one of my fave Bible verses which goes "Above all else, guard your heart for everything that you do flows from it."
Love this, you just gained a new subscriber babe. 😊
I am actually with the guy who put me in the not my girlfriend box. He treated me like his girlfriend: came to family gatherings, was affectionate and wanted to hold hands and bought me gifts but when I would ask him if we were together he would become frustrated, "I've told you that we aren't together! Why do you keep asking?" It drove me nuts!
Eventually I put my foot down, said I was going to walk away and you bet your bottom dollar that I meant it. He looked into my soul and knew I was out. At first he pressed my boundaries but I held firm and in a couple weeks he cut off the other girl he was seeing and made an appointment for couple's counseling as well as got individual counseling (I did too). Now he tells everyone that I'm his girlfriend instead of, "This is my friend..." And we are moving in together next week. Wish us luck!
That ends today. That ends right now..... Love this talk. 💞
Honeybeequeen Oh yes babe!!!! And thank you !!!!☺️🧡
A lot of this is all TAUGHT! Like let’s be real women are taught to be emotional , whereas men are taught to be tough. It’s not always nature, if we taught everyone to be logical and emotional 😭 we probably wouldn’t have so many issues. Also a lot of us come from extremely toxic and abusive environments which can cause major problems in a persons life.
“ okay well im just ganna stop talking to you then “ LOVEEE IT! Lets know our worth ladiesss💃🏽✨
Wow! Am I relieved I found your page. I am currently 6 months pregnant and going through a break up, but your words are giving me hope within myself!! We were together for 2 years, and I honestly believe it was just his words that kept me around his actions were just not matching up, I would ignore the red flags of him having "girl friends" he would make posts on facebook that just don't make him seem he's in love with me like he said, go out during the weekends and not answer his phone then come back Sunday like every thing is fine, boy was I blind!! We broke up before and he added his ex back on facebook and did not delete her when we got back together.. I think continuing to watch your videos will help me move on and leave him alone! Although we'll have to be in-touch for the baby I'm standing my ground and moving on, loving myself again xoxo - thank you for your videos
I freaking love her. She’s going to get us married Chile!!!!
I recently discovered you and I am bowled over by your classiness,beauty and wisdom! You are living proof that sometimes age has nothing to do with wisdom! So many women generations before yours...got dogged out...including me.Even though I am pushing 44...I am not too proud to admit that you got me taking notes...!👏👏👏😉
Ohhh girl you’re pretty I just discovered your channel now I’m about to go through every video
Hi Angel !!! Thank you so much !!!!! I hope you enjoy and learn and laugh along the way ☺️👸🏽🤗
♥️♥️♥️ tuning in now don’t be surprised if I comment on old videos 😂
This girl tell people what they NEED to hear not what they WANT to hear. I love it 😊😊💯
Not gonna lie babe this was hard to watch but it’s so needed. I love you so much for this. Thank you babe!👑✨
It’s tough love but love none the less ! ♥️🤗👸🏽
There needs to be a class like this video taught in high schools. It would save so many young women.Then again, sometimes you need to learn the hard way in order to fully process and understand this kind of information. God knows I’ve learned my lesson now. What an eye-opening experience.
giiiirl i had to watch this 3 times but u spoke wisdom into my life
Thank you Angel 😇
You are SO wise! I swear I feel like we can actually learn so much from men about themselves... a man will always do what is best for himself and we as women tend to try and consider others' feelings. Men don't do that- it's them and their feelings and concerns. If you know the signs to look for (exactly like you teach :)) then it's actually pretty easy to spot a dusty from a mile away. I am LOVING this channel!
Awwww thank you so much ☺️
I wish I learned this when I was 14-16, I sucked at the games guys play so they'll use me to where this one incident that made me more cautious about dating & I had to take a good 3 year break of just having a good relationship w myself.
I’m glad you took time to heal babe, now that you know better I have no doubt you will do better ♥️
I love how real she is, her attitude and demeanor is something I aspire to be
Male here.. Part of the A team now.. Love your videos . they work for guys too ;)
Welcome to the A teammmmm Angel 😇
Came through at the perfect time. Love you girl ☺️
I love you too!!!!
You've helped me so much. It's like I knew everything you were saying but emotions cloud us. but sometimes you need someone to lay it out straight, no sugar coating. Thank you!
Gotta listen again girl as I'm in UK lockdown 2020.. A universal shift in my relationships is appearing and you've helped loads. Love how much I value myself at 36 years now and help encourage so many women now. Keep doing your thing hun xx
Awww thank you so much ☺️
@@AshaChristinaFoster 💜💜
Reciprocate the SAME behavior. Great advice!
RUclips is growing exponentially😤 Thank God🙏🏾❤️. In faith my YT shall likewise be successful when I start. Amen. ❤️❤️. God shall continue to bless you nonstop. Amen.
Thank you babe 🧡
"Allegedly claims that he loves her" lol I felt that
I should get like 5 boyfriends. 😂
at least 2, so that you can compare them to each other and you also let them know, that you are seeing people until you get convinced, they will bend backward in that competitive paradigm, and MAY THE BEST WINS
Quality queen 👑 right here ✋🏽thankyou for this video It really helped me walk away from something I never wanted and realize I deserve the love I want
You’re welcome babe 👑