Gay Student Stands Up To Homophobic Counselor.
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
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Nephi was depressed and physically ill from being in the closet. After coming out to his counselor, he was told he needs therapy to combat his gay urges, Nephi found the courage to stand up for himself and ultimately come out to his family and friends.
(Gay | Coming Out | Counseling | Therapy) [TV-PG]
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My music teacher refused to let me and my boyfriend work in pairs during the lesson. We asked him why and he said I will tell u afterwards. So after the lesson he said that he felt uncomfortable because we’re gay. I told him that we’re not out to anyone yet so don’t mention it to the class and the next week he said in front of the entire class “Ben and Conner you two can not work together. I told you last week!” Then everyone looked at us and he said “does anyone feel comfortable swapping partners. Preferably a girl so I know nothing is going to happen between them”. I was so mad that I stormed out the class and when he came to talk to me he said “It’s not my fault your gay. I’m just trying to protect the other students”. He’s the worst teacher ever. I think all homophobic people just need a little sense in there lives! I’m 14, what did he expect me to do!?
You're not "lucky" just because someone else has had it worse. This isn't a competition. that really does suck.
Hydrochloric Acid That's not how luck works, babe. Tell your own story, don't discredit someone else's. This attitude of "someone else has it worse, so I should suck it up and stick it out" is how bigotry grows and spreads. I rebuke that toxic shit.
ruealgie Well, yes you are. I went through some hard stuff in my life, and a big part of my healing when I was in therapy were the thoughts that I wasn’t the only person to have gone through it and that other people had it worse than I did. I found it very helpful to look at what was good in my life, how good I actually did have compared to some other people, in spite of what I was going through. It didn’t make me feel superior, but it made me count my blessings.
@@hydrochloricacid6731 no. It's unlucky, and unluckier. Lucky is positive. Like if I was given a doughnut and then someone else was given 100$. I was lucky, they were luckier. I am not unlucky that I didn't get 100$
Get him fired
A counselor is supposed to be open, caring, helpful, and loving to everyone.
You do understand that the preamble is not law, right? Go read the Treaty of Tripoli. Go read the 1st amendment ( you know, the one that is actual law).
Susan Stanko the bible isn't the law lmao you can't get put in jail for being gay but you can for discriminating against sexuality
Treaty of Tripoli was written to try and appease Muslim pirates on a jihad against the West. First Amendment was written by a devout Christian who argued the Bible should ALWAYS remain the PRIMARY textbook in all centers of learning. Founding Fathers were over 90% Christians.
Akihito007 -- What planet are you from? Seriously.
Akihito007 god doesn't exist
How could a homophobe even get approved to be a counsellor? That's beyond me.
I assume they lied.
In many parts of the US, being a bigoted homophobe is a necessary requirement to get hired as a school counselor.
TechBearSeattle that's crazy how does that work?
Because you are an immoral vagrant.
Only because the bible says so, that doesn't mean that LGBT+ is actually wrong.
Open your eyes, stop looking at that book with such a hateful mind and take your time to look around you.
Look at the world we live in and you'll see that there is no harm in being LGBT+.
That "therapist" ought to have his license revoked!
Charles Hixon-Smith and his throat slit
@mark anderson "Look at prisons and the sodomy.....looks like a lot of gays in prison......Mental Illness? "
Look at how many of the prisoners ( in the US prisons) are Christians. In 2011 the figure was 65.1%.
@mark anderson psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/facts_mental_health.html
Educate yourself moron. It HAS been proven EMPIRICALLY that the "studies" that state homosexuality is a mental illness are false and cannot be replicated. Let me guess, you are also the type of moron who thinks that the one debunked study on vaccines causing autism is correct too? Do the world a favor and shut your idiotic mouth and do research that doesnt involve facebook links.
@mark anderson
Fuck off
@InaudibleBoom surprised pikachu face
there are shitty counselors here in canada too. a therapist i saw after my first suicide attempt asked me why i only took a dozen of my pills instead of the whole bottle. another i saw for abuse at home tried to excuse it as 'boys will be boys'. there are people in this profession who should not have this job and do more harm than good. i'm glad that despite a homophobic counselor, you found your own inner strength. you're amazing. keep on keeping on.
my immediate response to that is WTF! The first guy is an absolute ASS! THe second one is just a IDIOTIC NINCOMPOOP! (sorry, I get very passionet about lgbt stuff.
Both are examples of highly unprofessional behaviour. The primary skills of a counsellor are Accurate Empathy, Unconditional Positive Regard (akin to loving kindness) and Congruence (akin to self awareness). The first counsellor would appear to be lacking in all three skills but having an abundance of petty hatred.
I had one who all they ever said was "when I was in the army"
@ameroffsky *ALL therapists need a therapist, imo. The bad ones need a therapist and their license revoked.
The therapist was in danger of being charged with counselling you to commit suicide.
The "counsellor" needs therapy to treat his own homophobia!
*THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS HOMOPHOBIA?! LOOK AT YOUR COMMENTS! THEY'RE ANTI-GAY EVEN AS WE SPEAK. DON'T TRY TO SUGARCOAT IT.*
*Yeah, LEAVE US ALONE. OR, A LA KOBE BRYANT, YOUR ANTI-GAY VIEWS CAN GET YOU FINED $100,000. WHICH IS IT?*
*HOW WOULD YOU KNOW?! YOU DON'T!*
*AND YOUR ATTITUDE SHOWS YOU ONLY HAVE ONE YT SUB. AND ONLY TWO G+ FOLLOWERS. NOBODY LIKES YOU! IN THE MEANTIME, BLOCKED.*
mark anderson Buzz off and leave those who are part of the LGBTQ Community alone! We are not mentally ill at all since we are clearly not in any type of asylum and have to given equal rights as human beings. The only one who’s anywhere close to “mentally ill” is you for not sitting down, talking with someone in the LGBTQ Community, and getting to know them before you judge them. In the Bible I believe it says something like “Let those who have not sinned be the ones to cast the first stone.” I am a young openly gay man and I know this because I also attend church. Please don’t assume that you know everything about life for everyone, because you clearly don’t.
Should have gotten that idiot fired. Not everyone is as strong as you... that 'counselor' could do some serious damage.
+MrMountain123 It is likely that the most the could do in most states is to ask that he voluntarily agree to refer all children struggling with their sexuality to another counselor, and he would likely have the right to tell them ''No'' ... that shouldn't be allowed of course.
What damage?
If he made him not gay that would be damage but nothing changed. How bad could something have been if you did it for 16 years?
I've never been bullied for being gay, I have no idea what it's like. It's upsetting watching these as I know how fortunate I am
@Controversial Happiness I felt that I have been encouraged all my life for who I am and to see my community suffer so much hurts me and I hope when I’m older I can donate money and do everything I can to help them.
It’s very upsetting when it comes from family
Controversial Happiness is the right name for you! 😂 I’m very glad to hear it’s still like that somewhere. I grew up never once seeing gayness as a liability, but sadly I wandered into a whole different setting and found out about it first hand. It’s not a valuable experience, believe me.
Just go to a public school (don't go so much phobics there)
All the counseling, therapeutic, psychological, and psychiatric associations agree that sexual orientation is not changeable. This is part of their ethical code. Therefore, any counselor that tells you what this one did should be reported to their professional association and the association will take away their credentials. Imagine how much damage this "counselor" has done through the years.
InaudibleBoom
If you're going to be an ass and click on a video with gay in the title just to leave hate comments, you really need to rethink your life choices.
@mark anderson ok boomer
@mark anderson so a supposed "straight" man is spending all his free time, clicking on coming out stories and gay videos to leave comments about all the "research" he's done on gay people. Sounds like it's time to come out of the closet sis
I hope that incompetent counselor is no longer there!
Fun fact: did you know that homosexuality exists in 43 different species?
that was random, but OK
Clemente R.D. It's not random
It's actually closer to 5,000 species.
And it's not a "random" fact but perhaps more of a concrete fact to highlight to homophobic persons that it's not a choice.
coldstatic exactly
Elizabeth Lingurar and homophobia exists in one
I am so happy that you knew that there is NOTHING wrong with being gay. Imagen some kid actually believing the counselor.. D:
vnesaa Im so sorry, but *Imagine. I know I'm a terrible person.
Lelouch Vi Britannia Haha don't be sorry, I actually like it when people help me. English is not my first language, so thanks! :)
Lelouch Vi Britannia And I correct people in my own language (Dutch) all the time! haha
vnesaa YEAH, now I don't as douchy. Also good luck learning English. No, literally good luck this language is a conglomerate of a bunch of other languages....
vnesaa Yaay, medenederlander :D
And I agree; there is absolutely nothing wrong with homosexuality, thank you :D
Powerful story, but it's easy to see you're a strong person.
Glad to hear you're happily open.
Also, you're sinfully gorgeous.
...he's pretty cute. Just saying lol
Austin Hudgens agreed
Mike Race agreed
indeed
I am in school to be a counselor. This makes me so upset. Those are people who should not be counselors, doctors, nurses, and caregivers. I am so glad this man stood up to the counselor and tried to get it to not happen again. Proud of you.
CatholicStAugustineofHippo It has nothing to do with agenda it has to do with science. Learn a little about x y chromosomes and maybe meet a few people outside your usual group. It could do you some good.
***** x and y chromosomes? science? you must be referring to the non existent science and mythical studies which somehow prove people are born homosexual..
CatholicStAugustineofHippo I am assuming from your name that you are disputing science because of your non existent god that tells you that his book has all the answers. But I don't know about your life. Either way, it is clear we disagree.
*****
Disputing science? As I stated the science and research that somehow proves that people are born homosexual is non existent and mythical. If you dispute this, it should be easy for you to provide the stated science and research which proves a person is born homosexual. And because that science and research is non existent and mythical, I won't be holding my breath waiting for you.
+agentlolipop001 agree 100%. said way better then I ever could.
"The idea that somebody told me that there was something wrong with me or sick about me was more than her Italian temper could take..."
Them Italians are feisty! My friend's mom is from Sicily and I can't imagine what would happen if my friend told her this...
My 76 yr old dad thinks homophobes are perverts overly concerned about what happens in other people’s bedrooms. Imagine if we just all minded our business and let live?
@@Galworld761 Your dad is a very wise man.
@@Galworld761 Agree. VERY WISE MAN.
Sadly, we see another example where those caught up in the sin of homophobia are abusers. While these strident, open homophobes demand tolerance from decent people, is it really appropriate to allow them in positions where they can harm vulnerable patients and maybe even push them to suicide? Shouldn't we be trying to cure the homophobe before he/she harms others?
More power to you. You are a gutsy guy!
@InaudibleBoom wow, aren't you a messed up person
@InaudibleBoom no for being so hateful that you need to invent insults so illogical that Socrates is turning in his grave
InaudibleBoom .how do you flip someone off through text?
@InaudibleBoom jeesh! how many dicks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie roll.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being homosexual
The 'counsellor' needs to be fired and advised to back for more 'proper' schooling!
I had the same problem with my stomach hurting all the time. Its from holding in all of the shame and guilt that people put on us. Only defending our dignity gets rid of it.
The lgbtq 🏳️🌈 community is probably one of the nicest community there is
Unless you are straight or bi
This is the cutest guy ever. He has a very mysterious sex appeal big time. Such an innocent easy going demeanor. And he has a very smart mama!
who else came here cause the guy was cute?
Ruhith Pathirana me
I'm sure that there's studies that prove that a majority of gay people come from abusive households, but to me that doesn't prove that they turned gay because of the abuse. Maybe, they were abused BECAUSE they're gay.. But that conclusion can only be made if you don't have a homophobic bias.
Story aside, this guy looks great in that t-shirt.
Please just remember that not all counselors are that unskillful! Good for you for taking care of yourself in such a vulnerable situation!
Did you guys know on the "God's not dead" movie in the "real life stories" it actually features this in there and it defends the therapist🙄 no Joke
This is sick
Makes me sad.
Doesn't surprise me. Bet they blamed the gay on Lucifer too. I swear, some of these bible thumpers blame Satan for getting a common cold
I'm gay. I've seen a therapist and the only thing they're ever interested in asking me is if/when I was raped or molested. I've never been raped or molested but that's what they expect to hear. It's sad and why I don't go to any type of counseling. People cannot keep their personal opinions to themselves even on a professional level.
As a therapist, I have to say that I am sorry that you have seen the bad side of us. I promise that we aren't all like this and none of my coworkers are like this. I hope that you have people that you can talk to if you are having struggles and I hope that if that's not enough some day that you can find a counselor who truly help you and will not make you feel worse.
Well done. A lot of people don't have your inner strength and clarity. Thanks for posting, every message we can send to people who are struggling in doubt helps.
I'm so pleased you rose above the bad counselling advice. Good for you! Bad counselling advice is sadly a very common problem. I have worked in a small provincial university, and sometimes I think that no counselling at all is better than poor counselling. Good luck, and keep well.
I'm gay and I'm proud! Shout it out and shout it loud!
Bravo ! I am so glad you shared this. There are so many ignorant people out there.. and uneducated counselors.
Professional counsellors (and I am one of them) must set aside their own values when counselling others. It is never about what the counsellor approves of or not. It is always about the clients and from their own perspective. It is unprofessional to impose directly or indirectly one's views on the often vulnerable people who come to us to seek help.
I would have asked Nephi what it feels like to be himself. I would have been interested to know about the strengths and challenges in his life. The main focus initially would have been "who is Nephi?" and from his own perspective, untainted by the pressures of others. The counselling room is supposed to be a safe space....
Bravo well said. I'm in the middle of my CPCAB at the moment. That's the British Qualification.
They came from violent backgrounds the most bulshit I've ever heard
Maybe they come from such a background because they're gay, instead of them being gay because of the background?
InaudibleBoom As a gay person I disagree. Just stop spreading bS.
The Liberal Nihilist I was raised by loving and caring heterosexual parents and I grew up to be openly gay. The body language this young man is displaying clearly shows that he is being absolutely honest about it all.
As a parent ally (I guess that's what I am), this absolutely breaks my heart.
Good for you for standing up for yourself, and good for you for coming out, and good for your mother for standing by you! I appreciate the courage it takes for somebody to come out.
Your perfect just the way you are !
That counselor needs to have their license taken away. What a POS. Kudos to this gentleman for being civil. I wouldnt.
i'm not gay....and no homophope...but for the life of me I cant even think why anyone who knows that they are gay would even consider going to therapy....what on earth can Therapy do...it cant 'cure' them of their feelings.... nor should it even be considered
The guy from the video was getting therapy because he was trying to wrestle with the feelings he was having because he had to hide his truth about being gay. Basically he was just needed someone to help him gain the confidence to talk openly about it, not try to make himself straight. I hope my reply does not sound snarky I do not mean to attack or critize, just inform. Thank you and have a great day/night.
My music teacher in high school (straight) knew from day one that I was gay; from the beginning he made me a section leader.
NEVER EVER hide who you are!!!! Congratulations on having the courage to come out 100%!!!!
What if his counsel was trying to provoke him to be angry instead of being scared in order for him to better accept himself? I'm just saying.
REPORT THAT COUNSELOR!!!!! That is 100% an ethical violation !!! He should lose his license !!!!!!!!!!!
Being gay is not a sickness perhaps it's a choice or something in the blood line. Personally i ang happy for who I am and I'm gay
Glad you used the incident with the counselor to engage in dialogue instead of looking for blood ... gay men are not china dolls ...
The moment I heard Tennessee....
His biggest challenge was not coming out per se, but coming out in Tennessee.
Awww he sounded like he was going to cry 😢 I would so date you if I was a guy 👍
Any counselor with this outlook and/or reaction has no business counseling anyone and especially there is no place for this mentality in the educational system of theUSA in the 21st century. I would report the person by name to the state department of Education of Tennessee and to the American Board of psychiatric medecine.
Kevin Jewell We all need to do this. Whether it be a therapist, school councilor, doctor, manager at work, or even your dentist for that matter need to be reported on being unethical by displaying how they don’t like the LGBTQ Community.
That "counselor" is a disgrace to his profession and should be fired!
Some of the replies to the 100% positive comments literally made me cry. I'm not trying to get attention. I just want to scream "F*CK YOU" at all these homophobes on a CLEARLY PRO LGBTQ video.
That counselor needed to be reported. He has no business counseling anyone.
I’m so glad that younger gays have such better opportunities today, and have such a higher chance for acceptance.
It’s not “easy” for anyone. But it just makes me think of my own youth. I’m 43 now I’m 2020. Growing up where there’s was not a single gay character on TV. And only a couple of gay-themed movies. Which were either straight actors playing gay, or they were low budget B-movies. And that was it. And nobody was free to be open and honest with others unless they were in a bigger city, or just had unusually accepting families and friends.
I’ve had a lot of difficulty trying to mediate between Christians and gays. Being a Christian gay person, I feel hated by BOTH sides because of the other. Anyone professing to be a Christian should truly be someone whom gays could RUN to for love, safety, and support. But sadly, that is the opposite of what we have. Christians today are NOT doing what God told them to do, which was LOVE unconditionally, and offer comfort and help to ANYONE in need. In need of anything. Period. It has made me feel “not good enough” for the Christians, and not good enough for the LGBTQ+ community. But, I digress.lol. Just wanted to add my thoughts and love to this video, and I hope everyone is eventually able to openly live their truth. 😘🙏🏼
The counselor should have immediately been investigated and terminated by the university and also been reported to the appropriate state professional practice board for investigation and possible sanctioning. Some state legislators and governors especially in “trifecta states” (where both legislative bodies and the executive branch are controlled by the same party - and it’s not the one that begins with a d) have been quietly backtracking on holding up and fully enforcing professional standards and have threatened implicitly, and sometimes explicitly, other state offices and agencies that would normally do so in recent years. The professional standards boards must be held accountable and kept public and transparent and the GLBT community must be vigilant on this in all 50 states along with all of our allies. The same dynamic is also happening with women’s healthcare, contraception services, HIV care and state of the art STI/HIV prevention practice and health and mental health services for low income people. Even medical.schools have dropped basic clinical skill training in human sexuality and assessment of clinical interviewing skills related to best practices and standards of care in patient care delivery.
go you! I'm straight myself but I COMPLETELY supporting gay or lesbian people! im even shipping two guys! Markiplier x Jacksepticeye!!! whos with meh!?
Orange JuiceGaming QUEEN SEPTIPLIER IS THE BEST
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Moronic counselor. Should have been fired for incompetence.
no offense but.....
*YOUR AN AMAZING SON A BITCH*
Homophobia is the epitome of ignorance. Ignorance begets fear. Fear begets hate. It’s a vicious cycle for those who have no interest in compassion
Was it a religious non qualified counselor false Dr ? Or a medical state certified PhD ?
00:52 There are as many gay hating women as their are
gay hating men. Also, if you're planning on going to a therapist for
sexuality and/or coming out related concerns, ask up front if he (or she) is a
"person of faith." Some christian universities are focusing on PhD
programs in psychology. They want to counsel from a "christian
perspective." That's double-talk for wanting to push christian dogma in
what is supposed to be a field of science.
wrong question- ask them if they have experience in sexuality. then ask SPECIFIC questions about their approach. asking about religious affiliations creates another assumption that doesnt need to exist.
Thanks for your honest testimony; may I add that it has never necessarily due to a bad or violent family background iin my experience. At nearly 80, I can look back and objectively day that my family life and background were both normal for the '40's and '50's, yet I and my best friend (similar background) were gay. Looking back, no familial cause. Genetic? No history of homosexuality in either background. So little likelihood of familial causess in my case or my friend's. Please make that distinction: my parents ( unless genetically, over which they had no control) had no "blame"" in my homosexuality a
A lovely, sensitive man. I'd be proud to be his mother
Living in a repressive society is depressing.
I came here to destroy my homophobia.
It's always good to try and grow as a person.
It was in 1990 when I finally accepted the fact that I am also Gay. I even had way too many problems from the so called loving family I was from. I wanted to die. Fortunately after way too many years of fighting for my rights, some of the negative thinking types passed on and now I can be myself. I do hope that my Mr. Right will pop in the picture soon so I can get married and settle down.
straight to gay conversion therapy
Why is everyone scared of homes???
I was being bullied for having gay friends and being homosexual. that day me and my favoURITE teacher talked and found out she is gay also. whoop
If your conselor tells you crap like that, ditch him and get a new one.
That college "counselor" should have lost his job
that was great...he did a very courageous thing.wish i twas 20yrs younger I would date him in a heart beat. he is very handsome.
I am transgenic but earthlings don’t know what that is. So I beamed Scottie to come get me home.
We know what transgenic means tho
VERY PROUD OF YOU!!
MUCH LOVE*
Yooo, thats crazy Im from Murfreesboro too😱
I don't think the counselor was "homophobic" I think people are confusing that with prejudice. Prejudice mean a preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience. The counselor had a lack of reasoning or understanding of a situation, falling onto the "Gay people come from violent homes" argument (a preconceived notion), which I highly doubt makes a person gay. There is nothing wrong or "broken" about a homosexual. From my perspective and honest opinion is that homosexuality is uncommon, and I use that word LITERALLY, the homosexual nature is just that....uncommon, but not something that is new *cough* Roman Empire *cough*. A man or womans sexual attraction to the same sex does not really interfere in any major way how they function in life. If you put 10 men in a line and asked to pick out which man is gay from the 10, chances are you would guess wrong. Sexual attraction is something that develops over time, there has been no clear consensus on it being genetic. I depends on how one is raised, whom they interact with, and if they spend more or less time with the same sex. I would have to say you are more likely to have homosexual drives if you spend more time with the same sex, bonding, talking or engaging then with the opposite sex (I need more evidence of this though).
The video should have been aptly named "Gay Student Stands up to Prejudice Counselor" not because the Counselor has some "deep hatred of gays" but more of a preconceived idea on whatever spoon feed bullshit he was given. Also shouting out hateful things at a Counselor whom may/may not have know that was he believed is a lie. It's also our duty & obligation to make sure misinformation isn't spread, it ends up demonizing those that have been lied to, making them trust people less (which is what you DON'T want) but it may potentially have consequences then someone believing a lie that may extend to the person being violent (which is what you also don't want either).
I put forth my opinion on the situation. I just think a lot of anger is misplaced & a lot of issues need to be resolved, and the word "homophobia" needs to stop being thrown around. It doesn't help either.
I'm proud of you! (And proud of your momma too!)
I live not far from Murfreesboro. This area is really difficult for anyone who isn't a straight white Christian. I really hope whoever the "counselor" was (that's in quotation marks because clearly this person didn't know how to provide counseling) had it made clear to them exactly how wrong and inappropriate their comments were. To the guy in the video; you're not alone. There are a lot of other folks who don't fit the mold in our area. I hope things started looking up for you after you came out. 💜
Perhaps this counselor was discribing his own childhood background. These kind of advisors are the real poisson in this world. How got this couselor assigned in the first place. He needs counseling not you. You're goodlooking BTW!
In your description, I did not hear homophobia as much as I heard ignorance. ANYBODY in a position of offering therapeutic advice and counsel should be about finding better help for their clients, if they find the order is too tall for them to handle alone.
Of course, the hope is that if he/she is to answer to their superiors to explain such an action, that those people will be equivalently humble, allowing for a greater probability of help for all involved, in this and a whole boatload of other issues we have, as a species on this planet.
the counselor was not being consistent with the APA. I would suggest filing a complaint with them as they may be able to address this.
Nephi, you are both brave and beautiful. CELEBRATE YOU!!!
therapist: why do you like men?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,gay patient: would you like to find out?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Nephi I hope that you realise that there are a lot of people that are afraid of US! I think that a lot of male counselors are HOMOPHOBIC, AND ARE CONVINCED THAT THE DEVIL IS IN US! Well I will tell you that as an older Gay man I know that God made us this way because he loves diversity and that he knows we are a great role model for living the life the Lord have has placed before us. Jesus wants us to Love God and to Love each other as we love God. The old testament and its crazy laws were replaced by Christ and his 2 new ones. Period. Love you so much.. San Antonio, TX
Doctor: i'm afraid, that you're gay, Would you like therapy?
Me: what are you implying, i'm fine
Doctor: well, this is..a dise-
Me: You know what, you can fix my wounds, make me feel better, but suggesting that i should get therapy for being gay. You're not doing you're job. In fact you're just hurting me more and more.
Doctor: but you ha-
Me: Here's something you cannot do, control my will...don't tell me what to love and not love
*leaves and slams door
aahh, lad, I am proud of you for standing up to the councillor, You clearly are a man who wasn't raised with violence, or would be a violent personality, You are amazing
Nephi! I wish you were up in Canada. We have gay marriage throughout the country. If you want rest from it all, come up to Toronto, especially during Pride Week. Our premier (of the province of Ontario) is a lesbian - and quite a dynamo. The misconceptions re: the gay still shock me. I can't believe it is 2015. We are all very different - but all equal. Take care of yourself. If you need to move to a larger city, this is understandable. But moving would be a pity - people in every state need to hear your message. You are remarkable. (And P.S. you rock that beard and moustache!!)
Wait.... I'm supposed to be violent?!!? Damn. This has really fucked up my plans to be a twenty year old who still has teddy bears, and hugs everyone they meet. Shit.
I once met a young psychiatric student who was top of his class, working with me over the Summer as an Intern. He was overtly homophobic and yet he was due to become a psychiatrist. Can you imagine how he would have counselled a patient who was also homosexual? I was shocked by his attitude. This also happened in liberal minded Canada folks!
I came out to my parents when I was 16. As it happened, right at the same time I had suddenly lost a lot of weight on an already slim frame, so my father called a psychiatrist and basically said while you're at it. So the conversation between me and the psychiatrist was this: Psychiatrist: So I understand that you are gay. Me: Yes. Psychiatrist: Do you have any problem with that? Me: No. Psychiatrist: OK, let's talk about your weight. This was in 1976, when such a reaction was by no means guaranteed or even very likely. I was fortunate.
Some people don’t have the luxury of having a mean counselor they just get shit on ... count your blessings Mr. hotnik ...
A counsellor with a social phobia? And a socially dangerous phobia? Doesn't he need some counselling?
You are lovely and fierce sweetheart. I'm so proud of you being proud. Live your lovely life baby!!
Very courageous young man. Well done and well said. In the USA the American Psychology Association has said the being gay is not a disorder or deviant behavior. This has scared the hell out of many homophobes.
Homophobic counselor? Fucking pathetic excuse for a counselor these agencies need to up their standards for who works for them this is not appropriate behavior for a counselor.
Plot twist - The counselor did it intentionally to force him to stand up for how being Gay is normal and should be acceptable.
Probably not though, F*** that counselor... But I do think that having an opportunity to stand up for his sexuality as his way of realizing that sharing that part of himself shouldn't be so scary is kinda cool.
P.S. Just found this channel and I love you guys. Personally I'm straight but these messages and stories are inspiring and beautiful.
Counselors are literally meant to put their personal opinions and ideas aside and work with their patients at a professional level to provide HELP to people for whatever the reason is that they are going to counselling. I am beyond shocked and disgusted that a medical practitioner would behave this way.
In terms of my own opinions, I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community and I already think that homophobia is terrible. 🌈
I'm glad you were strong enough not to take that shit from him specially during such vulnerable times. Amazing!
We are a bit puzzled why its so traumatic to be candid about who you are - tell (often its just confirming) the few close people to you and let the rest just work it out - if you start with a few people that your pretty sure will be OK you will have a base to ride out any nonsense
Absolutely appalling. Just think how many people who aren't as able to stand up for themselves this "counselor" will have told the same thing to, and believed it. It's disgusting.