What Does 4w3 or 4w5 mean? 0:23 4w3 Description: 1:07 4w5 Description: 2:40 Differences Between 4w3 and 4w5: 3:48 How To Find Your Enneagram Wing: 4:56
This was helpful! I'm a 4 who strongly relates with both of the wings. Also I feel like depending on who I'm interacting with, I can lean more toward one or the other of the wings.
I am an an INFP -T plus 4w3. My whole personality is finding identity and uniqueness and being introverted but that little wing 3 makes me outgoing and a people pleaser to an extent. For example, - I am literally sitting in a corner in a class full of students ~ My heart is pounding like I am going to die and meanwhile my wing 3 is urging me to go and TALK to the lonely girl who is sitting in the last bench and drag her so that we could sit together. My head was in a mess, I was sweating but my wing won and I was sprinting to the girl at the back and dragging her to go sit together the next moment. Glad, I did this because we are good friends even after 4 years of passing school. My wing also does make me feel guilty for not talking to people or not being outgoing with them. So, I just become extroverted with my heart pounding in my chest.
Right now, I am definitely more 4w3. I have had periods however, when I have been more 5-wing dominant and wanted to be left alone. The spotlight depends--if it is spotlighting something about me that I value (such as my writing) then great. I don't always want that known among certain groups, though. So it is group-dependent. (I am so/sp.) Evan, what number are you?
I thought I was an enneagram 9 (9w1) but now I can see I'm an enneagram 4, relating to both wings but leaning into 4w3. Lol how can I think I'm a moody self absorbed 9, 9's are externally focused.
Oh dear. I thought I was a 5 wing, but now I’m actually more confused! Both describe me perfectly! I really don’t mind the spotlight, and I often seek it out, and I’m extremely ambitious and pretty dependent on others’ validation; however, I also value quality and integrity above production, so I stall in perfectionism forever and spend most of my time hiding from people to study and focus on my work. Maybe I’m just more balanced than others?
I understand what you are going through. I was confused too but then I broke down my behavioural patterns. I am an an INFP -T plus 4w3. My whole personality is finding identity and uniqueness and being introverted but that little wing 3 makes me outgoing and a people pleaser to an extent. For example, - I am literally sitting in a corner in a class full of students ~ My heart is pounding like I am going to die and meanwhile my wing 3 is urging me to go and TALK to the lonely girl who is sitting in the last bench and drag her so that we could sit together. My head was in a mess, I was sweating but my wing won and I was sprinting to the girl at the back and dragging her to go sit together the next moment. Glad, I did this because we are good friends even after 4 years of passing school. My wing also does make me feel guilty for not talking to people or not being outgoing with them. So, I just become extroverted with my heart pounding in my chest.
What Does 4w3 or 4w5 mean? 0:23
4w3 Description: 1:07
4w5 Description: 2:40
Differences Between 4w3 and 4w5: 3:48
How To Find Your Enneagram Wing: 4:56
This was helpful! I'm a 4 who strongly relates with both of the wings. Also I feel like depending on who I'm interacting with, I can lean more toward one or the other of the wings.
Hi Beth! I'm so happy to hear this was helpful to you!
Thank you. I mostly relate to 4w5 but I have some 4w3 moments too.
I am both. I balance it well. I love knowledge a lot. And ı socıalize. Sometimes I sisolate myself as well. Depending o the groups of people.
I’m a 4w3… for sure lol (478 tritype)
Yeah I notice both wings in my life.. sometimes I think it depends on how I’m doing and what I’m doing…
Wing 3s want to be socially accepted 😛
Focusing on social image will lead to insecurity
Wing 3 - Emotional, Social acceptance, fears unimportance, style, sophistication for validation, ID crisis
Wing 5 - Independent, don’t be dismissive, struggles with direction, repressed emotions, 4s don’t want attention
Wing 3 - Center attention
5 - Eccentric and non-conforming, less likely to be noticed
I am an an INFP -T plus 4w3. My whole personality is finding identity and uniqueness and being introverted but that little wing 3 makes me outgoing and a people pleaser to an extent. For example, - I am literally sitting in a corner in a class full of students ~ My heart is pounding like I am going to die and meanwhile my wing 3 is urging me to go and TALK to the lonely girl who is sitting in the last bench and drag her so that we could sit together. My head was in a mess, I was sweating but my wing won and I was sprinting to the girl at the back and dragging her to go sit together the next moment. Glad, I did this because we are good friends even after 4 years of passing school.
My wing also does make me feel guilty for not talking to people or not being outgoing with them. So, I just become extroverted with my heart pounding in my chest.
Right now, I am definitely more 4w3. I have had periods however, when I have been more 5-wing dominant and wanted to be left alone. The spotlight depends--if it is spotlighting something about me that I value (such as my writing) then great. I don't always want that known among certain groups, though. So it is group-dependent. (I am so/sp.) Evan, what number are you?
Hi Jessica. Thank you for sharing. I'm a 5 and can relate to the 4 and 6 wing fairly equally.
I thought I was an enneagram 9 (9w1) but now I can see I'm an enneagram 4, relating to both wings but leaning into 4w3. Lol how can I think I'm a moody self absorbed 9, 9's are externally focused.
9w1 is veey similar to fours. In fact, in 16 personality test, according to an ennigram expert, 9w1 and 4w3 are classified as both together
Thank you, this helped me a lot!
Oh dear. I thought I was a 5 wing, but now I’m actually more confused! Both describe me perfectly! I really don’t mind the spotlight, and I often seek it out, and I’m extremely ambitious and pretty dependent on others’ validation; however, I also value quality and integrity above production, so I stall in perfectionism forever and spend most of my time hiding from people to study and focus on my work. Maybe I’m just more balanced than others?
I understand what you are going through. I was confused too but then I broke down my behavioural patterns. I am an an INFP -T plus 4w3. My whole personality is finding identity and uniqueness and being introverted but that little wing 3 makes me outgoing and a people pleaser to an extent. For example, - I am literally sitting in a corner in a class full of students ~ My heart is pounding like I am going to die and meanwhile my wing 3 is urging me to go and TALK to the lonely girl who is sitting in the last bench and drag her so that we could sit together. My head was in a mess, I was sweating but my wing won and I was sprinting to the girl at the back and dragging her to go sit together the next moment. Glad, I did this because we are good friends even after 4 years of passing school.
My wing also does make me feel guilty for not talking to people or not being outgoing with them. So, I just become extroverted with my heart pounding in my chest.
I want everything the 3 wants but my temperament is more the 5. Basically? i want to be Picasso, hahaha.