8 SIGNS THAT A WOMAN IS SETTLING FOR A RELATIONSHIP by RC Blakes

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    In this video, RC Blakes discusses signs that indicate you are settling in a relationship. He emphasizes that these signs are applicable to both men and women, but he mostly sees women settling for men who are not on their level. He highlights two primary reasons why women settle: a lack of commitment to personal vision and fear.
    RC Blakes goes on to discuss eight signs that you are settling, including a lack of emotional connection, diminished personal growth, the absence of masculine energy, lack of respect and admiration, limited communication, compromising your values, unfulfilled potential, and living with resentment for unmet needs. He encourages individuals to guard their hearts, trust in God, and not compromise on their aspirations and beliefs. RC concludes by urging people to prioritize their self-worth and avoid settling for relationships that do not fulfill them.
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Комментарии • 495

  • @TheAmazinBlazian
    @TheAmazinBlazian 11 месяцев назад +258

    1. Lack of emotional connection
    2. Diminished personal growth
    3. The man lacks masculine energy
    4. You don’t respect or admire him
    5. There is limited communication and expression
    6. Compromise values and core beliefs
    7. When you see unfulfilled potential in yourself/lack of support
    8. When you live with resentment for unmet needs

    • @lwarfield52
      @lwarfield52 4 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for the list. 🙏🏾

  • @C.M.-ps9sp
    @C.M.-ps9sp 11 месяцев назад +327

    "Women settling for men who shouldn't have gotten a conversation" We're not doing this anymore ladies. So good ❤

    • @debgilliam5513
      @debgilliam5513 11 месяцев назад +3

      Perfectly said! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 10 месяцев назад

      I wish i never opened the door when he knocked on it...i don't even know how he knew where i lived when we was in college in apartments off campus...i didn't even really think about how creepy that was...but i see the creepy stalker behavior now when im trying to get him out of my life ☹️

    • @stacey-annrobinson9557
      @stacey-annrobinson9557 10 месяцев назад

      Amen

    • @MSSHARIII
      @MSSHARIII 9 месяцев назад

      @@lala5061 Praying for your safety as you break free. 💛

  • @kirstenfebres9378
    @kirstenfebres9378 11 месяцев назад +191

    I am a 54 year old widow. Happily married for 23 years. I stumbled into the dating scene TOTALLY unprepared for these dating shenanigans. Came across one of your videos one day this past summer and have been listening and subscribing to you ever since. As old as I am this advice is STILL relevant even for someone my age. One of your dating videos even made me cancel a date with a man I was having second thoughts about. I'm glad I did because I ended up finding out he had a long time girlfriend. You are sooo right that women need to follow their intuition. It can save us a lot of heartache. I would love to be married again someday to " my person" but as they say "I'll wait" on God🙏🏽😊

    • @ValentineObinna-zw4tm
      @ValentineObinna-zw4tm 10 месяцев назад +11

      I pray that God brings you a man to love you unconditionally, throughout the good and the bad times, you’re a wonderful woman and you deserve the most beautiful things the love and relationship has to offer

    • @ValentineObinna-zw4tm
      @ValentineObinna-zw4tm 10 месяцев назад +2

      I’m would really love to have a conversation with you ma’am, your comments has led my spirit on. And I feel deeply instructed to try and reach out to you

    • @redeemed5906
      @redeemed5906 10 месяцев назад +8

      You are NOT old at all. You are at the peak of your best life my friend. If you don't believe me, ask an 80-year-old woman! Age is only a categorization of time spent on earth. As the years mature, you will reflect on this period of your life later on and realize that you were indeed at the pinnacle of your life. May God recharge your intuition so that you will make only decisions that will serve His purpose in your life!

    • @ms.ednapost
      @ms.ednapost 10 месяцев назад +8

      I was 55 when I became single after over 25 years. I wasn’t prepared either! It’s taken me 6 years to figure the shenanigans out and basically who I am as a contemporary woman at this age. I had met a male right after my divorce and God made it clear…him being nice, have a modest retirement, and wanted me is not enough for me. Friends were telling me basically I was too old to be this picky. Some of these older guys are man boys. I wish Pastor Blake was around back then, but grateful for his teaching now.

    • @charmj737
      @charmj737 10 месяцев назад

      @@redeemed5906 Are you 80 years young?

  • @sjfierce
    @sjfierce 11 месяцев назад +75

    "Never be bullied into silence." That one hit strong!! Thank you Pastor. 👑

  • @CharlotteRoussell-es3jo
    @CharlotteRoussell-es3jo 11 месяцев назад +179

    (1)
    (2) Deminished personal growth ( Jeremiah 29:11)
    (3) The man lacks masculinity (1 Peter 3:7)
    (4) You don’t respect or admire him
    (5) Limited communication or expressions.
    (Amos 3:3) (Isiah 1:18)
    (6) When you compromise your core values and beliefs. (2Corinthians 6:14)
    (7) Lack of support (
    (8) When you’re living with resentment or unmet needs. (Ephesians 4:31-32)

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 11 месяцев назад +18

      1. You lack a commitment to personal vision. (Proverbs 29:18)

    • @faithfamilyfitness2290
      @faithfamilyfitness2290 11 месяцев назад +6

      Starts at 19:20 1. Lack of emotional connection (no emotional availability or emotionally distant) (Proverbs 4:23)

    • @arlenetaylor7088
      @arlenetaylor7088 11 месяцев назад +6

      Love that you included the scripture references

    • @yemedemure414
      @yemedemure414 11 месяцев назад +4

      We thank you!! ❤❤

  • @ghutchin33
    @ghutchin33 10 месяцев назад +24

    9.When you feel yourself holding back ( you don't give your all to him) . 10. When you feel a sense of relief when you are apart ( a break up, travel etc. )

    • @TheDaniMilan
      @TheDaniMilan 4 месяца назад

      That sense of relief 🥲 woooh felt that

    • @ghutchin33
      @ghutchin33 4 месяца назад

      @@TheDaniMilan Yes girl. Those who know...know.

  • @salliesue
    @salliesue 11 месяцев назад +274

    I am still recovering from last week's message about That Man Doesn't Love You. Real talk there. I'm looking forward to tonight's message.

    • @user-nn3ut5pc1x
      @user-nn3ut5pc1x 11 месяцев назад +3

      I'm ordering me mines an mine tomorrow

    • @user-nn3ut5pc1x
      @user-nn3ut5pc1x 11 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you

    • @Twister_numba24
      @Twister_numba24 11 месяцев назад +3

      Me too😅

    • @Alexistxsj
      @Alexistxsj 11 месяцев назад +7

      Girl me too!!!!!!! So powerful. Thank you God, for this man. lol

    • @mitz1919
      @mitz1919 11 месяцев назад +4

      yes , same here

  • @CherylBates-Ray
    @CherylBates-Ray 11 месяцев назад +35

    When the man starts checking out emotionally they usually have become interested in someone else

    • @cw8365
      @cw8365 Месяц назад +1

      Or either they have deep rooted emotional issues. Many men are depressed and want a woman to avoid being lonely. Not all men are cheating, some just aren’t happy and they self sabotage as they are emotionally unavailable to themselves and can’t give to others. I’ve seen it happen. You can’t give what you don’t have for yourself.

  • @cpproduction325
    @cpproduction325 11 месяцев назад +59

    On a Sunday morning, I attended a church where the 73 yr old Pastor said his mother told his sisters, “A piece of a man is better than no man.” He went on to talk about having a pair of britches at the table was better than not having a man at all.
    This was part of his sermon to a congregation predominantly single women; many of whom were single mothers. I was horrified.
    After service, I challenged him on that disruptive, ill, sabotaging advice. I pointed out how harmful such a message was especially considering the makeup of the congregation. I communicated many of the women struggled with low self awareness and value. The implications of such a message was physically dangerous to the vulnerable population entrusted to him.
    He stood on his advice.
    I was grieved when I thought of the life his mother and his own wife must have endured. I remember thinking God was merciful by not allowing them to conceive because he potentially ruined generations of other people’s children.
    I never trusted him again, lost complete respect for the other ministers and elders who did not have the courage to speak up.
    I recall feeling dreadful and physically ill Sunday mornings.
    I left and never returned to church.

    • @suzismith9681
      @suzismith9681 10 месяцев назад +11

      I congratulate you for having the courage to stand up for the truth. And leaving. Dr Michael Brown ( Pensacola Revival) said be very careful whos teaching you sit under. The time is coming, is here, when satan will come in and twist the truth. Many will believe, be duped into believing false doctrine because they do not know or read the Word for themselves. Well done to you. Xx

    • @dama_shares
      @dama_shares 10 месяцев назад +2

      You are amazing, brilliant, and I can relate. Too often some pastors are insensitive, and bizarre. It’s safer for us to be out of toxic churches and to connect with Jesus and our spirituality by finding balanced teachings and doing self-care.

    • @Optimisticnature123
      @Optimisticnature123 9 месяцев назад +4

      I have literally gotten up and walked out of a church before because the pastor was preaching a similar sermon based on belittling women and how men are at an ADVANTAGE of women because men exist with power to control women. I upped and LEFT. NEVER went back ‼️

  • @darae
    @darae 11 месяцев назад +16

    Accurate, I left a relationship with a man that hit all 8 points but now I've met a man that does the opposite of all 8 points....! Do not settle please please!

  • @arlenetaylor7088
    @arlenetaylor7088 11 месяцев назад +29

    1. Lack of emotional connection;
    2. Diminished personal growth;
    3. He lacks masculine energy;
    4. You don't respect or admire him;
    5. You are limited in your communication and expression;
    6. You are compromising your values and your core beliefs;
    7. When you look at yourself and see unfulfilled potential;
    8. You are living with resentment for unmet needs

    • @tab_b
      @tab_b 11 месяцев назад +1

      This is every relationship I’ve ever been in. Most of these even apply to my previous marriage. I don’t know what to do other than just to remain single because this is all I’m encountering.

  • @PoeticJustic3
    @PoeticJustic3 11 месяцев назад +25

    26 years old and settling. I just had our baby weeks ago and he already puts all of this sexual pressure on me. When i say im tired or just not up to it im "making excuses" . Im tired of being with a man that always wants me to prove something to him a man that is all about getting his needs met thru me no mattter how im feeling. Im tired of being with a man that makes me doubt my own ability to think and reason.
    I don't admite anything about him, I pursued him with I was lonely and desperate, now that I got him I want out.
    I smoke daily to numb myself from the reality that although its hard to let go We were never meant to be together.
    All he talks about is sex. My needs are unmet
    When you idolize a man so much you feel like you're so lucky to have him so much so you lose sight of your own worthiness. You lose sight of the fact that he wasn't even on your level or deserved a chance with you but he broke you down with intentional games to make you feel less than so you would accept his crumbs.

    • @quitasomething
      @quitasomething 11 месяцев назад +5

      ❤❤❤sending much love your way. You deserve better and you deserve someone who sees your worth. I have been there before so I know how it feels❤

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 11 месяцев назад +1

      Using substances? You lost my sympathy.

    • @aishawf
      @aishawf 10 месяцев назад +2

      ❤️

    • @lionesslamb7049
      @lionesslamb7049 10 месяцев назад +8

      Kindly find something positive that will replace smoking. Something rejuvenating, healthy n not toxic like smoking.❤

    • @kadzo6614
      @kadzo6614 10 месяцев назад

      *You smoking and still breastfeeding your child? Girl bye*

  • @bridgettetraveler658
    @bridgettetraveler658 11 месяцев назад +21

    Before we marry our spouse we must marry GOD. I tell my husband constantly I'm married to GOD, so he knows I'm gonna try to do the right thing at all times. We will make some mistakes, but it shouldn't be severe. My rings didn't just come from my earthly husband, but from my Heavenly Father who truly holds my heart 💖💖💖

  • @shannonthetherapist
    @shannonthetherapist 11 месяцев назад +17

    A lot of women fear being alone due to abandoned issues…it’s deeper than chasing a man. She is trying to fill a VOID 😢

  • @ukchill8
    @ukchill8 11 месяцев назад +43

    Dear Lord how many relationships I have had where I was settling. 😳 They can say all the nice things though…I think if us women look deep inside..better alone single, we will achieve more in life. 🙏🏽💪🏼
    Thank you Bishop, as always. ❤

  • @turner2952
    @turner2952 11 месяцев назад +12

    We settle because of fear of being alone the rest of our lives, not getting the help we need when we need it. Fear is the opposite of Faith. God is always with us and He understands everything about us.
    Women should be more concerned with taking care of their own needs, saving and investing for their futures, getting debt free. Saving and investing should be a priority for those in their 20s so that they will have financial security when they are old and sick.
    Trust in God, not man. People will come and go, but God will never leave us nor forsake us.
    Thank you so much for your awesome wisdom, Pastor Blakes. You are helping so many of us. God bless you, your family, your ministry.

  • @Auntie_Rei
    @Auntie_Rei 11 месяцев назад +35

    I thank God for allowing me to accept what I couldn’t change in a relationship , many of these points were what led me to call-off my wedding. I knew I’d be settling if I followed through and the Holy Spirit wouldn’t let up that it wasn’t meant for me through hearing Him say, “No, not right now”

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 11 месяцев назад +12

    A woman needs to feel safe to feel emotionally connected to a man.

  • @carterthegamernoob6128
    @carterthegamernoob6128 11 месяцев назад +28

    I’m single and I’m learning why I had so many unsupportive relationships. It’s an eye opener for me. To reveal the truth that’s within you or others. God bless you Bishop R.C.Blake’s

  • @tashafoster9737
    @tashafoster9737 11 месяцев назад +21

    Ouch 😣…last week I realized he didn’t love me….this week I found out I was settling. But deep down I knew that. Thank you Unc for the lessons, and for pouring into us. I shall get this right and build on a beautiful godly foundation. Much love and respect ❤

  • @josannebritto6898
    @josannebritto6898 11 месяцев назад +7

    Yessssssssss most times we do get a head of our personal growth with God and go pair up with people we're not ready for and end up in a hotttttttt messss.

  • @cpproduction325
    @cpproduction325 11 месяцев назад +6

    I dated a man who did something I did not like. When I brought it up a few days later, not in the moment, he replied, " You know, a man should not even know you're that observant."
    I kid you not...I was so stunned that he was so blatantly bold and ignorant.
    Clearly, he was not only trying to bully me into silence but trying to cheapen me.
    I let that go.

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 11 месяцев назад

      Congratulations on loving you more than the idea of the two of you

  • @aniabrandt7
    @aniabrandt7 11 месяцев назад +11

    Don't settle girls, is better to be alone, happy& fulfilled then with men,unhappy&stuck.
    Wait on God and the men he has for you!

  • @BritTellstheTruth
    @BritTellstheTruth 11 месяцев назад +17

    It’s true that if you don’t admire the man then He isn’t it!! 🎉

  • @jan854
    @jan854 11 месяцев назад +16

    I'm so guilty of these in so many ways it's embarrassing. Even when deep down in my soul, I knew it was not working, I stayed. I caused myself so much pain, which is hard to accept. God, please heal me from my past mistakes and poor decisions ❤🙏

    • @joannenaggayi8727
      @joannenaggayi8727 11 месяцев назад +1

      Been on that road for 12 years I just literally woke up

    • @jan854
      @jan854 11 месяцев назад

      @@joannenaggayi8727 Prayers that you find healing. Sending love ❤️

  • @Kashmir-lt4cx
    @Kashmir-lt4cx 7 месяцев назад +3

    "When a woman doesn't feel emotional connection with her man, her heart 💔!"

  • @AllThingsLove.
    @AllThingsLove. 11 месяцев назад +21

    A burden was lifted...mixed emotions and I know God was speaking through you. 🙏🏽

  • @darlindahairston199
    @darlindahairston199 11 месяцев назад +7

    I was born in Sierra Leone, and I thank our Heavenly Father that my parents were in Christ Jesus before I was born. I have known better all my life. I pray that at 65 a widow, NEVER go wrong with my Lord.

  • @be-you-tea-is-full9207
    @be-you-tea-is-full9207 11 месяцев назад +5

    "You have stopped growing since you been with this man" omg that was so me . I'm definitely back on track. He definitely put a pause on my life . But I have definitely pressed play again !

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 11 месяцев назад +31

    Wow! This message really spoke to me. I can relate every one of the points from past relationships. I’m so glad I finally learned and accepted the truth, so I could move on. Ladies: until you accept the truth about your situation and the relationship you’ll continue to stay stuck. Praying for everyone.

  • @SweetTreatsBy_Marie
    @SweetTreatsBy_Marie 11 месяцев назад +27

    Excellent message sir . I’d rather be by myself than to settle for a relationship that’s not fulfilling and healthy. Thank you 🙏🏾.

  • @AprilBTV
    @AprilBTV 11 месяцев назад +7

    The reason why we get up tight when a man or dude says hello… Is because it’s never just hello 👋🏾 They be wanting to get our number and they have a bad agenda. We’re tired of the bs. It always starts as a hello how you doing today but it doesn’t end well afterwards 😅😢 Ladies take your time and stop wasting your youthful self,energy, and time. You deserve so much better ❤

  • @808758
    @808758 11 месяцев назад +12

    My My My this was me 5 years ago. All Glory to God for setting me free and blessings to R.C Blakes for the wisdom and knowledge.

  • @shoneewilliams7131
    @shoneewilliams7131 11 месяцев назад +12

    So true. I've experienced "settling for wedlock." It was so unhealthy.

    • @kathyglass2922
      @kathyglass2922 11 месяцев назад

      Bringing back bad memories. It was past time, and that why marriage happens sometimes. Biological, and societical clock was ticking SO lou😢d.

    • @louiseseaman-4903
      @louiseseaman-4903 11 месяцев назад +1

      bless you. I did the same. I want my experience to be a lesson to others not to do the same.

  • @Kashmir-lt4cx
    @Kashmir-lt4cx 7 месяцев назад +2

    "The best thing is for a man who can be emotionally available, aka make love to your spirit, and mind 1st Not body!"

  • @nikkyk2016
    @nikkyk2016 11 месяцев назад +54

    Please like and share this video. Thank you in advance. Let's show our spiritual father our genuine appreciation for the wisdom and life lectures he effortlessly imparts to us every week. These lessons help us apply valuable attributes to our lives.We love you and Mrs. Blakes God bless you!

    • @marycrank8175
      @marycrank8175 11 месяцев назад

      Thanks, I appreciate you & your, thanking God for sharing you’ll gifts and love ❤️ to humanity.
      From Concord, NC 4:50

    • @UndeniableKeziah
      @UndeniableKeziah 10 месяцев назад

      Will share 🌸💕

  • @lizblacmman8094
    @lizblacmman8094 11 месяцев назад +21

    Hello Queens, Chicago in the house, so glad to be here tonight, may God give us all discernment in these difficult times. May God continue to bless and keep you all safe as we strive to achieve our goals in life.🙏❤️☺️

  • @Ny-ff5em
    @Ny-ff5em 11 месяцев назад +10

    If the man doesn't believe he's great when he looks in the mirror its a lost cause.

  • @ruthwells3990
    @ruthwells3990 11 месяцев назад +6

    Bishop said “grease his hair”, 😂🤣😅, I fell out, cause they are out here!!!! Many thanks for EDUCATING US, God Bless!!!

  • @redjewel83
    @redjewel83 10 месяцев назад +10

    Bishop!! I needed this today. Took the steps to end a Marriage that I was not fulfilled in. I wish my Father had this talk with me growing up. I knew no better.

  • @J_Elle30
    @J_Elle30 11 месяцев назад +9

    This is great reminder for women to understand their power. If a man is feminine in the relationship, the women is allowing it by bringing her masculine. We have to block our own limited beliefs about what’s available to us or what we can have in a relationship: marriage.

  • @sharonoloya
    @sharonoloya 11 месяцев назад +20

    This one hit me hard. Thank you so much RC Blake’s, I’m eternally grateful for your wise words of wisdom. 2 and a half years on I’m free from unhappiness and resentment, no longer settling. God has open so many doors ever since.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @beachgyal
    @beachgyal 10 месяцев назад +4

    I know I settled. Married 13 years. Praying after I am open with him about my needs, he will hear it. If not, I will have to leave and work through the fear of being alone.

    • @mnicolebrooks
      @mnicolebrooks 7 месяцев назад

      Praying! Put Him first and He will make a way for your marriage and be renewed!

  • @flashyone
    @flashyone 11 месяцев назад +6

    Facts# Did this 37 years ago and you are 100% spot on. No emotional connection, he was always and still is emotionally connected to habitual tv watching. Day, night on the phone, it’s constant. From 1-8 sadly described my marriage of almost 38 years. If there is no emotional connection, move on. Sad to say, I’m not a cheater, but got involved with someone who was emotionally connected with me and PAID Attention a few years ago, never cheated before. From New Orleans with deep core values, attended catholic school and went to the Baptist Church every Sunday as a child and still went even into adulthood. Rev. Blakes, what a message🙏🏽 got married in my 20s when I should have waited for my King, someone who could be connected in every way, but “settled” so to say, I wanted children one day and not out of wedlock. He’s not a masculine man, etc. Amazing how this message explained every aspect of my wedlock situation. Unhappy and resentful😢

    • @user-pe8ls3sc2b
      @user-pe8ls3sc2b 11 месяцев назад

      I'm in the process of divorcing this situationship. RC you're spot on. For 20 years I've settled on every point until this July when I finally woke up and God has been good. I will keep praising Him. Hallelujah

  • @zadabeasley
    @zadabeasley 4 месяца назад +1

    This message is helping someone.. God has NOT given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. Not every woman is afraid of being alone. God is a keeper. I trust God.
    Not afraid of this sick society’s judgement. I fear no one. Isolation is preparation.
    Praise the Lord!
    ✨🙏🏽✨

  • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
    @DanaeLaurenTolbert 11 месяцев назад +3

    Lol, man, this was spot on. My last relationship or whatever you want to call it was back in 2008-10ish. I had no respect for him. He was my son, and the only thing he led me to was the bedroom. Lord knows I had no business doing that.

  • @clove8763
    @clove8763 11 месяцев назад +9

    I only settled once, it was nearly 20 years ago, but after that taxing experience, I promised myself that I would never do that again; however, here's what really sealed the deal to my commitment: During the time, I was in the midst of my settling, me and dozens of others witnessed someone yell out right in front of us AND the man she was talking about: "I DON'T WANT HIM!" Right then and there, I knew I would never 'EVA' settle for a Man. Plus, I come from a family of serial-settlers so witnessing that play over again and again, you may even want to consider to become a Nun (LOL). Speaking of play overs, THE LORD has shown me time and time again that what HE has for me is for me and therefore based on HIS splendid record, I already know that I don't have to settle for a Man because my HEAVENLY FATHER only dishes out the Best!

  • @donnajeffreys8252
    @donnajeffreys8252 10 месяцев назад +2

    Always be polite and nice when a man is being polite and nice. I was in Wawa a few days ago when a man said, " excuse me, you have beautiful skin , I'll bet you hear that all the time ?" I smiled and said thank you, you have a beautiful complexion. Then his woman walked over and I kept it moving lol when you settle for the wrong man he makes you feel more lonely than when you are single. I've been single for a long time and it's the most content and peaceful 💙 I've ever been in my adulthood

  • @turner2952
    @turner2952 11 месяцев назад +5

    When women put a man and his needs above God, that is IDOLATRY.
    I'm just speaking from experience, and that is something that I had to REPENT for!

    • @ShavonzailCamp
      @ShavonzailCamp 2 дня назад

      Me too I had to repent because I never thought it was that deep but when I looked back I said Yea Lord I'm sorry

  • @jaboriawalker6804
    @jaboriawalker6804 11 месяцев назад +26

    I’m so excited to finally catch a LIVE video! Good evening Pastor! I’m the lady that Dr. Felix recorded at the gym in MS! I’m still watching your videos getting thru workouts! God bless you and your awesome wife and family! Keep helping us! ❤

  • @afeatheredlife
    @afeatheredlife 11 месяцев назад +3

    19 months I spent in the only relationship I’ve been in with an emotionally unavailable man. Throughout I kept saying “I don’t feel like we’re growing…” and a year with healing a growth under my belt, I know now it was due to the emotional gulf I was experiencing and his inability to fulfil me even in the basic things. Thanking God he got me out of that and I look forward to what he truly has for me.

  • @MsChantae
    @MsChantae 10 месяцев назад +1

    That "diminished personal growth" - I felt that.... stagnation

  • @bobbijokramm1976
    @bobbijokramm1976 11 месяцев назад +6

    I pray I can one day bless RC and Lisa Blake's the way they blessed my life💯 this is a priceless platform 💗

  • @tashad2201
    @tashad2201 9 месяцев назад +2

    wow i have had moments of crying all day realizing how i have stopped growing since i have been with him. Got married and it got worse. he pretended to change for a while before we got married. fooled me for sure. idk, he tries but i'm so disconnected because of all the crap through the years. even though he is trying now i don't want it and it's probably just to get what he wants. Ladies please don't settle you will be miserable the entire time.

  • @teecharee6069
    @teecharee6069 11 месяцев назад +24

    Dad, I'm so thankful you're covering your messages for both men and women..we all need spiritual guidance!! We love you ❤ for your obedience to the Word.

  • @ilissawalker7051
    @ilissawalker7051 11 месяцев назад +62

    You are right on time with this message!!! Pastor, thank you so much!❤!

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  11 месяцев назад +4

      RECOVERING?😂😂😂♥️

    • @lucykasiga6928
      @lucykasiga6928 11 месяцев назад

      Speaking to me Pastor...Oh Lord

    • @ilissawalker7051
      @ilissawalker7051 11 месяцев назад +1

      That message left a ringing in my ear because it was so real!!

  • @aniabrandt7
    @aniabrandt7 11 месяцев назад +2

    It's not easy to wait but is so worth it, to get it exactly what u've been waiting for, your whole life! Please belive me& trust in God, always! He knows u& knows what's best for each and everyone of us

  • @SoulBeauty1111
    @SoulBeauty1111 10 месяцев назад +5

    Very true about when a woman doesn’t feel emotionally connected to a man. I had a man who I loved and we were aligned for marriage, but i became emotionally exhausted. I communicated my concerns often…not much changed. I suggested we meet w/ my Pastor- it didn’t work out. I suggested we do couples therapy- he wasn’t fully on board. I read books, watched vids, got back into therapy. I was exhausted and his efforts were minimal. Of course he was completely happy with me, but I wasn’t fulfilled. One day I thought: he checks so many of my boxes except for the emotional connection. For a moment, I imagined this may be the reason good women/married women end up having emotional affairs. It scared me to think about it. I did not want to put myself in that situation or him, so I ended it. I miss him, but I just can’t compromise on emotional connection. I place too high a premium on that. ❤

    • @J-aiJ-ai
      @J-aiJ-ai 10 месяцев назад +1

      You did well!!

    • @SoulBeauty1111
      @SoulBeauty1111 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@J-aiJ-ai Thank you for that Queen. ❤ I still think of him especially when I have exciting news, but I’ve chosen to trust myself and prioritize what’s important to me.

  • @terrigoestiny2
    @terrigoestiny2 11 месяцев назад +18

    I’m so glad I found your channel! You have validated ALL of what I’d been feeling in my now former relationship!! Now time for healing and your videos are helping with that too. Thank you for these topics. Until I found your channel, I thought that these things were something I had made up in my head. Now I know that I should just follow my intuition because it comes from the Holy Spirit. Again, thank you thank you thank you! I thank God for you, Lisa and your ministry! ❤❤❤

  • @hairandtalent08
    @hairandtalent08 11 месяцев назад +6

    A woman that WORKS HARDER THAN her husband SMH SMH SMH ,Thank you for THIS

  • @dorothymatthews6690
    @dorothymatthews6690 11 месяцев назад +2

    Whoo! Good word Pastor R.C. I'm not settling! Been there, done that! Not again. Just left me disappointed. Im waiting on God now to manifest my husband. I told God, you know where I'm at, the places i go, my morals, values and desires, so let us meet together at the same place. You are my matchmaker and you know the desires of my heart. I trust you completely, Lord, because you are all i have, right now! I dont care how much money he makes because I've met them and we had no emotionally or spiritual connection. Pastor, has the Lord spoke to you and Lisa about launching a Christ centered matchmaking company? I think you would be world-renowned! Ypu and Lisa are the true model for a God ordained marriage! I just love you two! Keep the wisdom coming Pastor. God is using you two mighty!

  • @valwalker9606
    @valwalker9606 10 месяцев назад +1

    Always listen to you yourself. You can sometimes give yourself good answers. We just sometimes ignore it especially when it comes to men.

  • @mercedesmumbela.4185
    @mercedesmumbela.4185 11 месяцев назад +3

    Yes RC my big brother. Am a firstborn, what do you expect? Last week I saw all the signs he never loved me. Now I can't wait to see how I settled on a scale of 8. I feel bad and am sorry I stayed with a man who didn't love me. Am a woman with everything to love about her. Am glad he left me wish I left sooner

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston 10 месяцев назад +2

    I love how RC addressed the awkward interactions of men and women in some church cultures👏🏾.

  • @cintc
    @cintc 11 месяцев назад +15

    Bishop, you give me more and more strength each day.. I love every bit of it. Can't wait for Queenolgy. That'll be my birthday present to myself in my favorite city.

    • @queenlique1
      @queenlique1 11 месяцев назад +1

      Have a great time Queen!👑🙂

    • @cintc
      @cintc 11 месяцев назад

      Thank you

  • @TA-mu4he
    @TA-mu4he 11 месяцев назад +6

    Heeey 1st Lady❤️ Hellooo Bishop❤! I had the unique pleasure of meeting these 2 beautiful souls in person Sunday and when I tell you that they are genuine and love them some Jesus and people!!! I haven't stopped smiling 😁 and or talking about them. Thanks for welcoming me into your hearts and your home. Tekina A❤

  • @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024
    @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024 11 месяцев назад +3

    I BEEN THROUGH ALL THESE POINTS IN THE SITUATIONSHIP 😢. BUT I'VE FINALLY BACKED UP ALOT AND SET BOUNDARIES 😊. IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME, IT WILL BE COMPLETED ❤. THANKS YOU ARE ALWAYS ON TIME AT WORK CRYING 😭😭 SMH... FROM NORFOLK, VA

  • @DominiqueFrancon
    @DominiqueFrancon 11 месяцев назад +3

    I don’t have to imagine what it would be like to spend years with a man that I’m not emotionally connected to. I’ve been married to that person for 23 years. I ache in my bones of loneliness. I believe that this dysfunctional marriage is what caused breast cancer for me a few years ago. I’m living hell on earth.

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 11 месяцев назад +1

      It is finished. Now claim it

    • @J-aiJ-ai
      @J-aiJ-ai 10 месяцев назад +1

      This is heart breaking. I'm so sorry!! I pray that God heals you completely.

  • @kenyonajohnson3339
    @kenyonajohnson3339 11 месяцев назад +2

    Deminished personal life..🙋🏾‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️guilty. Stip growing in all aspects. Ive been removed from that relationship, 2 years ago. Thank you God Almighty for that, but never make that miatake again.

  • @ikanyengmasole8504
    @ikanyengmasole8504 11 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you Bishop. You have truly delivered me. You were sent to deliver us women for a time such as this. May God richly bless and increase you.

  • @piggy3745
    @piggy3745 11 месяцев назад +5

    I can’t believe I’m catching a live! I already hit the like button and took a seat 😂

  • @bishelia7003
    @bishelia7003 11 месяцев назад +3

    If I wore a wig, it’d be snatched off 😂! Thank you for TRUTH, sir.

  • @elizabethparrish8185
    @elizabethparrish8185 4 месяца назад

    Thank God for you! Any time I start to get off track I open up my Bible, pray, then watch one of your videos ! 🙏🔥🔥

  • @Pacifica74
    @Pacifica74 11 месяцев назад +2

    To be adored is feminine. To adore is masculine. I’m no longer confused if I can choose one or the other - this is the way it ought to be. Thanks again R.C. You are a hand stretched out, and I'm on the train tracks.

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 11 месяцев назад

      What an analogy!!!!

  • @kinggaming-dp6jh
    @kinggaming-dp6jh 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is where i am,i stopped growing, for me to accommodate him in my life,but now im wiser after this video

  • @Kaypoo3947
    @Kaypoo3947 11 месяцев назад +13

    Thank you so much, Pastor RC Blakes, for bringing these subjects about relationships to the Light 🙏🏽 🙌🏽!!

  • @yemedemure414
    @yemedemure414 11 месяцев назад +3

    This Man never misses with his messages!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @pspr1149
    @pspr1149 11 месяцев назад +5

    This is a very necessary message.

  • @Moniquejohnson80
    @Moniquejohnson80 11 месяцев назад +9

    Looking forward to tonight’s word Bishop Blakes. God Bless You🙏🏽

  • @dawndixon880
    @dawndixon880 11 месяцев назад +6

    A little man that works overtime to keep you stuck.

    • @Ny-ff5em
      @Ny-ff5em 11 месяцев назад

      Facts

  • @Unebellecreole
    @Unebellecreole 11 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you so much, Pastor. Every single word resignated. Please pray for me that God will show me the way out of my toxic marriage. I settled for a marriage that has done nothing but destroy me.

    • @zabrinamack8443
      @zabrinamack8443 11 месяцев назад

      Praying for you sis!

    • @Unebellecreole
      @Unebellecreole 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@zabrinamack8443Thank you so much! I have no doubt that I will find my way out by the grace of God.

  • @topazgraham2643
    @topazgraham2643 11 месяцев назад +2

    This intro is everything!!!!!!🙏🏿

  • @JMuv760
    @JMuv760 11 месяцев назад +2

    RC Blakes you have completely changed my life , you’re amazing . I admire you and your wife and appreciate the knowledge and love ❤️

  • @ALICEPOOLE-es1xq
    @ALICEPOOLE-es1xq 11 месяцев назад +11

    Miracle Monday , Good Evening To My
    Pastor RC Blakes , Pastor Lady Lisa Blakes and To Everyone Assembled
    In Room Tonight ♥️♥️😘

  • @Milehig5280
    @Milehig5280 11 месяцев назад +2

    Boy, Boy, settling where time wasted that I can't get back

  • @69purposecoarse
    @69purposecoarse 11 месяцев назад +4

    NEVER truer words spoken. Thank you.

  • @Nozie709
    @Nozie709 10 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for the teaching Pastor, in January this year I told myself i want to be the best version of myself and focus on building myself spiritual, physical .

  • @ambermedlock9004
    @ambermedlock9004 11 месяцев назад +3

    This is real talk, I've experienced this and thank God i had discernment to get out that relationship. Ladies hes on point with every word. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes just another reminder i made the right decision.

  • @olexkaymartin2364
    @olexkaymartin2364 11 месяцев назад +2

    My third go round and shared many times. This one is some fire🔥

  • @lanettelawrence6308
    @lanettelawrence6308 11 месяцев назад +1

    Did not settle because there were changes for happiness to abide so I got out and am very happy.

  • @alisoncanty1894
    @alisoncanty1894 11 месяцев назад +7

    Oh my! You just answered a thousand questions for me concerning my current situation. Thanks a million! 🙌💯

  • @Thrivinginthespotlight
    @Thrivinginthespotlight 10 месяцев назад +1

    I think a lot of women not just have the fear of being alone but going deeper into that it is the fear of having no one for emotional support when that's all we've known our whole lives is having no one for emotional support and feeling really desperate in that will be overwhelmed by life and feeling uprooted and empty

  • @shoneewilliams7131
    @shoneewilliams7131 11 месяцев назад +8

    As always, such great wisdom shared. Thank you, Pastor!

  • @CharlotteRoussell-es3jo
    @CharlotteRoussell-es3jo 11 месяцев назад +5

    Good Evening Pastor, Lady Lisa and everyone! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @CBtalks8554
    @CBtalks8554 7 месяцев назад

    Bishop Blakes you are Hitting the Nail on the HEAD & BATTING A HUNDRED ❤. Keep Teaching.

  • @nancyamaral5620
    @nancyamaral5620 11 месяцев назад +3

    Love is like death it finds you

  • @janicecurry47
    @janicecurry47 11 месяцев назад +2

    You started out SPOT ON!
    May God continue to bless you and your family. I’m so glad that I’m letting God lead me finally..

  • @angelacoled
    @angelacoled 11 месяцев назад +1

    Every single sign you've stated is absolutely true to the t, I've lived it and ultimately had to let go of the person. Wish I had this wisdom and understanding then as I have now and heeded the red flags.

  • @heretomakehimknown2183
    @heretomakehimknown2183 11 месяцев назад +3

    God bless you and your ministry this was very informative and much needed content. God bless you and yours!!!

  • @mandengdiane8915
    @mandengdiane8915 11 месяцев назад +2

    Bishop your teachings always hit hard!