you are not a self improvement project
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- obsession with self help & spiritual growth can be damaging
while i'm always one for wanting to be the best version of myself possible, i'm starting to notice that the obsession with self improvement has taken over a lot of our lives. whether it be on social media or from a new book, there are thousands of different tips on how to level up, glow up, grow, etc. even our spiritual journeys feel like a constant call for us to be better so we can attract more abundance. this video is a reminder that a lot of this pressure to constantly improve is rooted in capitalism, and that you are inherently worthy of love, joy, and success - just as you are at this given moment.
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Just a little chit chat vid to serve as a reminder that you are enough as you are ❤
The fact that she is posting videos like this is gold cause it is what I am going through rn...
No cap but your "value" is how you are percieved by men in the sexual/dating market place, and to give the advice that you are "enough" is misleading and pandering.
Ofc ur not XD
thanks
needed this. thank you
I was extremely guilty of this. I'll be a better man when I lose weight , save money, buy a house, etc. Then I realized.....I'm already a good man. My life is already good. When I stopped chasing the "white rabbit," a heavy weight was lifted from me. Don't miss the journey trying to reach the destination.
I'll be a better woman when I lose weight, get a high paid career, buy a car, and buy my own condo. I don't want to date and find a serious partner until I achieve those things. I'm hoping I will by age 30. I only got 5 years left
Amen🙏❤️
Oh you got me tearing up😢
@@se2664 As someone who is 25, it’s good to have goals but your life isn’t over if you don’t achieve all those things by 30. That mentality needs to end.
Whew this was worded perfectly. So good, thank you!
My friend calls it “destination addiction”. We always think once we reach a certain point in life, that will be the end all be all & life will finally be perfect but that’s never the case. The whole time we were supposed to be enjoying the journey & process not waiting until we get to the destination.
I feel like that what life should be, obviously with a balance. Its like a business, you have a mission statement that is the whole purpose of the business that has no limits and objectives that can be measured that helps you accomplish that bigger mission. Your lifetime should have a purpose and you should have goals that should help you fulfill that purpose. Yes you should enjoy the journey and you enjoy it by seeing you get steps closer to fulfilling your purpose. But sometimes you have to stop and reflect on how far you’ve gone to express gratitude but you still have to chase your destination to feel accomplished. That how I see it
Interesting term. I thought of it as a hedonic treadmill, but destination addiction is a good way to describe the process!
I’m trying to learn how to enjoy the process
destination addiction can be really dangerous, because it can get to the point where constantly thinking about reaching certain destination makes you lose time that you could use to actually work on your goals. I’ve been there
Led me to think
I just finished a book called 'Women's Magic Truths' that explores these themes in depth. It's on Borlest and it was a life-changer for me.
THIS! We are not incomplete without improvements. We operate from such a sense of lack that we forget abundance is already here and we just need to slow down to recognize and enjoy it
Yesss
In other words just stop and be grateful for what you have instead of always looking at what your friends are buying,stop looking for the best new thing and don't BE afraid to miss ou
BUY into this mindset: You are inherently worthy of the best and valuable without doing anything else than being who you already are everything that you want will come to you with a lot more ease knowing you are already more than enough as you are at your Core beloveds
Yesss we are these divine beings who have been taught otherwise so we just have to remember this!
Well that all depends on “who” you are otherwise this might be terrible advice 😂
@@sanban6766 im not sure what this comment means exactly but ill take it you mean shitty people, i know my take on this is quite relative and you may read this w a grain of salt (since this entire topic is very widely philosophically debated anyways) but just to open perspective, i honestly think many people who do shitty things/are shitty people dont necessarily come from a place of worthiness or value, and even if they act like it externally, its just a front. imo no one with an inherent sense of worth or value would take the time to take down anothers bc its kinda like filling a void for your own, and why make up the losses for something you already possess? i understand that not everyone's core beliefs are healthy, but making someone's worth a dichotomy of good and evil does not change them one bit, this isnt any sort of justification whatsoever and ofc people need to be held accountable for their shit but that doesnt mean taking down their inherent worth as a human being, realizing you are more than enough doesn't mean you accept the shit youve done but is rather than a self-reminder that you are more than just your actions which are projections of how you are internally/mentally anyways, internal empathy (in conjunction with accountability) is a step towards healing and growth.
@@sanban6766 Exactly. I absolutely agree. And it sounds like an excuse for “I really don’t believe I’ll achieve my desires. We all need to be mindful of what we’re actually co-signing and coming into agreement with. Worth should never be aligned with improvement. That has absolutely nothing to do with improvement and shows a huge lack of comprehension.
@@cannedcondensedmilk wow this was so beautifully put. you are so articulate & amazing. i cannot believe how much i love this
"You are the universe experiencing itself."
That is amazing and definitely something that's going to stick with me for a long time.
"and the universe said I love you
and the universe said you have played the game well
and the universe said everything you need is within you
and the universe said you are stronger than you know
and the universe said you are the daylight
and the universe said you are the night
and the universe said the darkness you fight is within you
and the universe said the light you seek is within you
and the universe said you are not alone
and the universe said you are not separate from every other thing
and the universe said you are the universe tasting itself, talking to itself, reading its own code
and the universe said I love you because you are love."
A real quote from the end credits of Minecraft that I think you'd enjoy! I actually have the first 4 lines as a tattoo because of the meaning and sentimental value.
you should read alan watts - the book on the taboo against knowing who you are. it explains this thought beautifully
I've been feeling this sense of contentment lately and life is flowing so much easier fro me. My prayers are simpler. My intentions are simpler. It feels good.
Well said, Jasmine! It's all about getting closer to your internal self; that's where peace of mind and contentment comes from. I work myself too hard for other people because I was afraid they would judge me if I ever stopped self improving. Getting closer to my true self has made me realize I can take breaks for myself - and that's okay.
I love this comment
Pls share more!!
@@sivialove475 thanks!
Glad that's happening for you! I'm going through similar feelings right now so that's cool
“life is learning again and again how to love ourselves more deeply”
i have not loved a sentence more spoken
I've never commented before but it's so interesting how we seem to be evolving in the same way. A few weeks ago something just "clicked" internally where I felt satisfied, content and proud of me. My growth is now more about expanding and enjoying that process of expansion instead of trying to compensate for things I'm "lacking". I'm starting to accept and like me for who I am in this moment and not just who I can be. I'm no longer loving me for my potential. I've started to just *be*... if that makes sense.
Same! It is such an eye opener.
Society likes to sell many things as the solution for our problems even when they aren't,you Will run,fight and get it but in the end you won't feel/get what you were expecting and then you notice that you made a mistake,what is really important is your Health both physical and mental if you have This then everything else became unnecessary or just a bonus thing.
Same here, I just recently had the revelation that after a year or so of getting comfortable accepting my awakening, I'm starting to feel rooted and secure enough to branch out from my perception of "the spiritual self". I don't know if you have experienced this, but when I was first spiritually awakened it was so terrifying, but it eventually became my safe space; one of self love and acceptance. Then any time I deviated from my "spiritual identity," I felt lost and scared that I would lose that safety. I finally just now am starting to feel safe enough to branch out into other aspects of my personality I had abandoned post-awakening.
In my journal yesterday, I literally wrote “why is life a project?” because I was so tired of feeling like I constantly had to be working on myself. Then today this video came up in my recommended - such perfect timing. I really needed to hear everything that you’re saying, thank you so much 🙏🏾 I’ve subscribed!
I love this. All 2022 I was telling friends how tiring the past 2 years have been and I just want to do nothing this year. I don’t want to grow, I don’t want to work towards anything. I just want to sit back and enjoy what I have manifested so far. Which in turn can be growth itself. I also realize that in itself can be a privilege because just as much as I have achieved so much everything is also getting more and more unattainable. Food, house prices and rent. This makes it hard for some of us to enjoy the now.
The power of the present is truly a beautiful thing. I remember I used to be so fixated on the future; to the point where I was missing out on who I was in the moment. It wasn’t until I let go of that fixation, that my life would begin to change for the better. I say this to say: Let go of the attachment to your desires, while still taking the action. If you feel like you’ll never be complete without fulfilling your dreams, then you’ll broadcast that energy. That energy will only replicate, and reflect. Show up for yourself today and always remember that who you are today, is deserving of the life you wish to live.
@Trinity M I respect your point of view, however, let me respectfully go more in depth for you.
I’m not sure who “we” is, but I’m not using the term “energy” to label every single thing. However, energy is in everything and that’s something that can be proven. Honestly if a person wishes to use that term, tell me why they can’t?
Is there a rule? What spaces are you referring to? It would make sense if I was completely mislabeling, but that’s not what’s being done here. I was more directly discussing positives and negatives outcomes to which a situation can bring. “Energy”, can take a positive or negative form, depending on what you do. Let’s use anxiety as you stated in your reply. What type of impact does anxiety have? Well, that depends on the situation; as anxiety can be a good and bad thing. Let’s just say one’s anxiety causes them to stop progressing in life. What do you think will come if this person decides to not deal with it? It would continue to bring more negativity in to one’s life. Therefore that’s negative “energy”. Now let’s take a look at the grounding stones you discussed. Obviously this is not something negative you gave energy to, so what do you think that is? It’s positive “energy”. I stated the word “energy” since it can be seen, so I thought, that I’m implying positives and negatives. I agree, that we should learn ourselves as humans. However in the rate at which we “get stuff” isn’t something that’s necessarily supposed to be fast all the time. There are lessons that are completely avoidable and things that we may need to work through a bit more. That’s like saying you can quickly master or avoid depression by having mental health hygiene, when that’s not how it works. Don’t trick yourself into thinking you can figure everything out faster by just doing that; that can be detrimental. These are my thoughts though, and we can chat more if you wish, I love stuff like this.
Yes, everything you do in life is spiritual. Whether you are meditating or twerking, eating vegan or eating a buttery ass steak… the point of life is to live!
I had the realization that “this is it” on one of my shroom trips 💗
I highly suggest the book Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn if you haven’t read it already. I think you or anyone watching your channel would love it!
Yessss! And thank you for the book suggestion, I'm adding this to my list!
Thanks Lynette ❤
Great observation! I totally agree. Spirituality is the greatest self improvement because it makes you centered and grounded more than external achievements
thx! gonna watch some twerking videos now :D
@@davidvillacrez lol
The key to life really seems to be having self-love and the urge for self-improvement coexist.
I truly believe both is super important, and that's also what you said, between the lines.
Being too obsessed with improving can hinder oneself I definitly agree, but self-love alone,
believing I am enough in the present moment, without doing absolutely anything, will only bring you so far, in my opinion.
Nice Video!
I think what she meant is even improving yoursef will come naturaly i mean you will feel the ease to be more disciplned without beating yourself UP, doing it with love
@@cyrineabid3446 I see your point, or the clarification of her view point respectively. To me it seems like our opinions on this topic are very close, it is just that we phrase it differently and slight differences in the approach.
agree!
this is so real!! for a long time i thought i’d be more deserving of romantic and platonic love once i improved. while it’s important to be the best you can be in a friendship/relationship, it’s also possible to be loved at the place that you’re at. i developed a lot of anxiety because i was so worried about not being good/perfect enough for friends or a boyfriend. thank you for speaking about this!!
ouch
I felt same
i love u so much thank u for this
im stuck in that stage right now, i feel like im not worthy of any romantic experiences. it sucks
“We are the universe experiencing itself” keeps me grounded and gives me more peace than anything else. Thank you, thank you, thank you. ❤
7:29 another thing that helps - at least for me - is to change the word “worthy” or “deserving” to “capable”. once you start believing that you’re actually capable of doing something, you’re gonna be so much more motivated to make that thing come to life
I realized I had destination addiction when I finished my doctorate and realized there was nothing past that. When you’ve maxed out potential, the only thing leftover is the life you still have to live.
I always say to myself that seeking self improvement and become obsessed with it could be another face of self hate, accepting our self in good or bad is key of life.
Can’t wait to see next week video love u💖
Absolutely
Man, I was just having an internal panic about not achieving certain goals and calculating the time it would take to recover lost efforts and seeing this video RIGHT in front of my face after refreshing the home page is just what I needed. I am wonderful just the way I am in this given moment
“Happiness is not something that you have to achieve. You can still feel happy during the process of achieving something” - Kim Namjoon.
I heard this quote in 2016 and I never really got it as a teenager. Not until I'm working towards university graduation in 2022 that I realize what it's actually mean. I keep reminding myself that I will be happy and not miserable anymore when I reach a certain goal, whether it's to get an internship, finish my internship report and my graduation thesis, finish my internship and actually graduated. But when I reached those goals, there's new problems coming up. I graduated and I now I need a job, or my life is over!!! I keep on feeling depressed, waiting for the next time I reach my goals to feel that tiny bit of happiness before going back to the darkness again.
If anyone out there is planning for their 2023, quarterly, monthly or weekly goals, don't put happiness as a compensation/ reward for you finishing those goals. It will never truly make you happy. You can be happy without having accomplished something in your life. You are worthy of happiness. Your own existence right now is worthy of respect and admiration.
I needed to hear this, I’ve personally been watching too much hyper masculine testosterone filled self improvement content, constantly feeling like I have to grind every single second, wake up money is on my mind 24/7! and it’s been burning tf me out so much especially mentally
So to hear this from a woman’s perspective and essence. Thank you
I never comment but yours hit home I’m trying to get away from that I was so obsessed
I’m wishing you the best in that journey! You are inherently valuable!
rest is soooo so important and we don't get enough permission to do so. thank you for reminding us that rest is okay and should be honored. xx
@3:26 That part I rewinded like 20x, because the part where you say most of us have worked REALLY hard, that narrative for POC is even more true because often times we don't feel like we've worked hard enough, and that's seen in our childhood upward. Resting and relaxing is the goal, comfortability is the goal, and contentment, not the rat race. So, thank you that part resonated with me, so I just wanted to leave my think piece. 🌺🌷🌺🌼🌺
I am so happy to see you talking about this. The constant self improvement mindset also subconsciously promotes the idea we are “broken” / “need to be fixed” / “not good enough” / “damaged”. I just had this realization now.
Whenever I feel like watching another self improvement video out of “fixing” energy - I step back and try to give myself self-love instead ❤
the title alone was something i needed to hear
Self improvement is the only thing keeping me from going sepukku mode tbh . That's where my true value lies tbh .
Man this made my eyes water a bit. In this moment, I am enough. And I deserve everything right, not 3 years from now. Not once I reach a certain goal... thank you for this!
yesss🥺
this video couldn’t have come at a better time for me. thank you so much lynette for touching on something that i myself have been struggling with. lately i’ve felt as though i’ve just been overloading myself with new "productive habits" so that i attract the things that i already have where as sometimes just existing and knowing that you’re in the right place at the right time is all you need on your journey. the rest will follow just as the universe intends. sending lots of love and light to everyone in this comment section 🙏🏾
This is a feminine mindset that will only work for women or weak men. Your value isn’t innate as a man, it’s built through discipline, ambitious goals and daily improvement.
Agree
I disagree more of us own property assets etc nowadays
Women can through improvement and hard work achieve I know my friends and me work too hard need unwinding between buying assets selling maintaining assets
I get your point but it is REALLY important to not confuse this with justifying laziness and lack of ambition, because yes you need to be constantly improving and evolving, not for others but for you, in order to grow you need to fail so you need to be trying constantly and get out of your comfort zone. Don’t forget that
this, life is a balance. I feel this is a good mindset when the improvement is hindering you
ive been having a really hard time lately with coming of age (23) and growing up. I spent the latter part of my teen years and first parts of my twenties in the pandemic, and i feel like it negatively affected me so much. i became addicted to nicotine, weed, food, social media, and i drank more than i should. ive been on this craze of quitting all of it in the span of the past month and i just quit nic today and im absolutely losing it. i was scrolling through my recommended when this video showed up, and holy shit did i need to see this. ive been so focused on "getting better and being the best version of myself and having it all figured out and a game plan" that ive been ignoring everything else in life, the good and the bad. ive just been existing and striving towards the future instead of living in the now.... thank you so much for this
This is so interesting. I was just talking about this . I said to myself “I’m tired of self improvement “… all I have been doing is working on self improvement. Self improvement is not a bad thing but I was obsessed with I guess
Thank you for this video. I think we all are guilty of falling into the trap. This whole Self improvement movement is exhausting. I don’t need to change how I am because I’ve already grown and I’m going to keep growing. It’s part of life!!!
I DEFINITELY needed to see this
I needed this ❤ thanks for the reminder that we are enough in the present moment that we are in. You’re such an inspiration!
❤❤❤
Agreed! I needed to hear this message today. I have been working myself to the brink trying to prove myself and others wrong. I'm so exhausted
i literally posted a video on this topic last week, i always find that things u talk about are so relatable to my current thoughts. it’s insane how much we can be in alignment with people we don’t even know. it feels like the collective consciousness just continues to reveal itself
this is the exact video for me right now-- feeling into rest has been my main area of healing recently-- it literally feels like im putting down heavy suitcases♥︎♥︎ thank you
lol " i think what alot of us really want is just to rest" LITERALLY!!
i was listening to this while doing my stretches and you woke me up from my daily trance of always trying to improve. I had already forgotten how much i had improved in the past months! thank you for the wake up call 💓
cried the whole time i was watching this. thank you Lynette
This hit so hard. And by me expecting myself to constantly "grow" and "be better" bleeds into my expectations for my partner. Jeez.
Good point
growing up in church really drilled this mindset into me. i spent the last few years figuring out which parts of myself were truly mine-my thoughts, beliefs, mantras, life path. and while I still have to remind myself that I don't need to be in constant movement and that rest is ok, i've truly begun to sit with myself and enjoy the journey without feeling pressure to self-improve. thank you for your words!
Lately I've started to enjoy various moments of my life, when I hang out with friends, when I drive through this one spot on my way home and blast my music, when I rewatch my favorite shows, when I make a drawing I feel proud of, etc. I'm a very goal oriented person but I've adapted my mindset to recognize that I can be actively completing "goals" and enjoying what I already have, therefore succeeding in the present. I like what you said about being capable in the present, I believe that I can accomplish my future goals because I am capable of having a happy worthwhile life now, regardless of what I want for the future.
I feel this as a Christian woman. It’s easy to forget that God loves you how you are right now, not in some impossible future of reaching perfection.
This video randomly popped up on my recommended. I’ve had a absolute gross 2022. Striving to be what others wanted me to be and be what they society likes in people. But this video- is changing my way of thinking. I don’t need to live for others only myself,
Thank you. I definitely need to appreciate my self as I am more. If I’m constantly chasing a “better me” I don’t allow myself the space to accept myself as I am now. Thank you
you are correct about the self-improvement and motivation is strong also on my IG. I guess the algorithm is being directed to show more of those reels and suggestions.
This video really struck a chord with me. It's a powerful reminder that our worth isn't tied to some distant future achievement, but rather it's inherent within us. We're constantly bombarded with messages that we need to improve, to chase after something to be worthy, but the truth is, we're already enough as we are. Embracing self-love and accepting ourselves unconditionally is key. Thank you for sharing these profound insights
I really needed this. I'm always very goal driven but this can be a double edged sword if you don't balance it. It's important to try to improve but not to the point that it's unhealthy. We can't lose sight of the little things in life and most of all the happiness that comes with it. Thank you so much for being a light to others! ❤️
I don’t think you should be obsessed to the point we’re it’s completely taking over your life BUT I know people who are so comfortable with where they are that they stay there for years I could never stay in the same place doing the same thing. It’s not like it’s a project but I know I see more for myself yes manifesting is great but u do have to put some action into what you want as well. It’s a balance I’m happy where I am in the moment and I’m happy about how far I’ve come but I know when I need to move forward.
this was very eye opening. Maybe the reason I'm not happy with myself is because I am never satisfied with who I am and what I have accomplished. It's never enough. When we got somewhere we want more and more and more. self improvement is not bad but the obsession with it is not healthy.
"it is not about the destination but about the journey"
Do not focus on the peak, take your time and enjoy the hike, it's beautiful
This was perfectly said! I didn't know how much I did this before I listened to this video. And to think the answer is simple. Just live in the moment, JUST LIVE! ❤
you have impeccable timing with your videos, i always find you comments so uplifting and insightful ✨
I needed this today and always i had this mindset on healing everything about myself and improving to be the best version of myself and trying to be perfect i overwhelmed myself it was too much work in my brain that i stopped doing that, now thankyou i appreciate you for coming up with this and just remember that I'm enough and worthy no matter what❤
I know the point of this amazing video is how self-improvement takes time and does not need to be fixed right now. but at the moment I'm in the stage of getting back to myself before a rough relationship. I'm the happiest I've ever been and I'm seeking high-energy people in my space my life is amazing at the moment, but I'm working on my attachment style and how I can shift my mood if I shift my perspective, and it works. You should still try, if you know you can do something you should believe in your ability to do it and be your authentic self. you're not an HGTV broken house that needs fixing. you're just a crystal that still forming. Everything she says in the video is true and I really like it Lynette so thank you.
I feel like I'm always trying to improve instead of trying to enjoy my progress right now. It goes hand and hand with me wishing away time. In elementary school I said "I can't wait for highschool", in high school "I can't wait for college", I got to college "I can't wait to transfer", I got to my second college "I can't wait to graduate". I keep worrying about my future and when I get there I always ask myself what's next instead of celebrating how far I have gotten. I needed this especially going into 2023.
Thankyou so much for this wonderful reminder. I’ve just recently had to move back home with my family and I’ve been struggling with my perception of myself about my life and how it could turn out. And it wasn’t even a full month of me being here and I got this brand new iPad Air for free after my old one being basically totaled. Saying all this to say, once I got the new iPad, I had to remind myself I deserve this, otherwise I wouldn’t have it.
Now I just have to believe that about every single thing I want in my life without any doubt. Everyone deserves to be happy and have a fulfilling life. It’s why we incarnated and came back to Earth at THIS specific time. The work is just doing the shadow work and dissolving the ego of the things that don’t serve us anyone.
Y’all stay safe and stay up💫
This is a crazy important point of view that you executed perfectly. Thank you.
"What I really need is to get clear about what I must do, not what I must know, except insofar as knowledge must precede every act”
Realizing this, it helps to let go of a lot of pressure I had been holding for a few years
Thank you for the reminder Lynette. I was recently laid off from a job that I didn't enjoy. And I currently have no desire right now to apply for jobs, for a brief moment I felt guilty about that. I realized that I'm not lazy and it's not that I don't want to "work" I just want something for myself that a traditional job can't do for me in this season of my life. So I'm walking in my purpose these days. I so needed to hear this message. xoxo
Lynette, your perspective on the self-improvement obsession is so refreshing and much needed. It's a great reminder that we are worthy just as we are. As someone who hosts a podcast about business and life advice, I'd love to discuss these ideas further and explore the possibility of featuring you or some of your viewers on our show. Thank you for sharing such an important message!
I like the idea that I'm a self-improvement project because I feel there's nothing more meaningful in life without constantly improving yourself, but this reminds me to appreciate where I am now today. I'll still focus and work on keeping up with my habits to achieve my goals like I usually do.
I don't ever think it's ungrateful to want something more. Like yea, I am grateful for what I have today, but that doesn't mean it's ungrateful or bad to start wanting more and achieve exactly what I want in life. Life's too short so might as well live without regrets. I don't want to be old and regret that I should've worked harder and that I could've done so much.
I think this video is mainly for people out there that have ultimately achieved what they want in life, and now they feel empty. So, this video is basically saying that it's okay, "you are not a self-improvement project".
It was emotionally draining me the fact that I'm not good enough till i do something or achieve something and maybe the idea we have of self improvement will make us feel not enough at first
But few days ago i knew this and i said it to myself "my current self is worthy and i don't need to achieve anything or do anything to be worthy" i really think realizeing saved me from feeling not enough it and i wanted ti share this with everyone just to find this video
The idea we need to fix/heal ourself is a spiritual trap. We are inherently worthy and whole without doing anything
Listen, this is a GENUINE message to anyone who is struggling with these conflicting messages in the self-improvement and spiritual community. It is a lot easier to just take the steps to improve yourself than it is have this mindset that you are a perfect being of love and just trying to accept where you are. The path of enlightenment is VERY difficult, if you are someone who is just trying to find meaning in their life and deal with your problems, get a goal and stick to it. However, if you are a person that wants to go deeper than that to find the TRUTH of life instead of distracting yourself, only then are you ready for the path of enlightenment, which is not just a quick mindset change but is a process of going deep into yourself and finding the part of you that is empty and yet complexly fulfilled.
You are so timely. Just talked about this with my family literally yesterday. Receive this heavy
For a long time I have always had the feeling that I had to reach some things to be happy (in my case, money, losing weight, traveling, etc) , but I realized this is only a mentality, is not like a specific point of your life where you are gonna be "perfect" or have everything you want, having those things are not gonna change totally my life but being grateful for even having food or a bed to sleep in should be enough for being happy :D, tysm for the video
Alot of my self improvement is internal. Accepting myself and then learning how live in a more healthy way. Things like understanding my anxiety and learning how to take care of myself when it gets rough and how to communicate what I need with those I care about.
Omg, this has been such a big thing that Ive been coming to terms with. Letting go of the idea that I have to be someone, I have to stop this or start that in order to be “fixed” or ok or worthy of praise, has been so freeing. The notion that I deserve to be happy, that I am a complete human being, right where I am today, has been such a big comfort.
Funnily enough it came to me through a song, from which I essentially took away “you’ve done enough”.
Thank you so much for this video i feel everything you say. We need to stop doubting ourself for who we truly are at the moment and trying to be a perfect version of ourself and think when we reach that eveything is perfect. But that version of oureself is already inside of us. We just need to recognize it and be happy with who we are as human beings. For everyone who is doubting they self you are amazing as you are today and everything you truly deserve will fall in line just dont give up!! Need more content like you on in this world i appreciate it!! Keep doing youre thing❤️💯
I needed this message/reminder. There were times in my journey I felt like i wasn’t healing enough because i wasn’t able to lose as much weight as I wanted. I constantly felt like i was holding on to something that kept the weight on me. Like i wasn’t done “releasing” suppressed emotions or something SMH 😣
Your plants in the background and for peace and good energy!
I've been hearing for a long time now exactly what you are talking about in the video, that its just not good to always work on ourselves.. only now im realizing that me just simply existing and breathing is making me so worthy of love and good things. I am already doing so much by just existing and that is worthy. It brings me ease to think like this. I sometimes have a need to improve myself all the time, but I try to slow down and just accept what is. I've noticed this pattern that if I keep resisting what is and how im feeling I have an urge to keep improve myself and thinking that right now im not worthy cause im not healed or something, but leaning into how im feeling and where I am at and just accepting it, it gradually makes life more peaceful cause im not constantly fighting it, im accepting what is and taking it moment by moment
Sis! I am so happy I found you and your channel! I have these conversations with myself all the time usually because my circles don't get where I'm coming from and I'm left feeling weird and awkward after talking to them. I feel grounded and on my right path after listening to your videos.
I LOVE YOU!!!! OH M Y GODNESS KEEP SPREADING LOVE BABY!!!! i needed to hear this, even if it was as one random viewer out of thousands. Thank you so much! I WILL LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL NOT LET OTHERS EFFECT ME ANYMORE
I really needed this. I need to sit with myself sometimes and do nothing and be happy with that. Not be so toxic to myself and feel like I have to work work work work or I’m not good enough. I am good enough, and wanting to be better is still being better.
"You are the universe experiencing itself" that's the coolest thing I've heard in a long time.
this video literally changed my life.
I had this realization a few weeks ago so the timing of this video is impeccable! I was chasing perfection and assumed my worth would be realized at sometime in the future but accepting that I am good enough as is right now is freeing
“Everything that you’ve done up until this point is perfect. Everything that you are in this moment is perfect. Let go of your past. Let go of who you were. Let go of all your mistakes. Let go of the things you feel you’ve done that may have blocked where you want to be today. It doesn’t matter. All you are is who you are in this moment. All that exists is the present. Focus on the journey.” Wow ❤️ This is my 2nd time watching a video from your channel and I love it. Subbed
I'm so glad i've stumbled across your video. lately i've just been tired like seriously tired of this cycle of life.I've been feeling like i've reached my max capacity constantly running like a little hamster all for what?! I've even gotten to the point i can't appreciate the stage in my life that i've reached and it makes me sad cause i know i've worked so hard to be here but it still feel like it's not enough and even worse i feel like i'm meant to be doing something else but i don't have the strength anymore for anything. I shared all that to say thank you for making this video cause at lease i know i'm not crazy for feeling this way!
Thank youuuuu. Coming out of the other side of my spiritual awakening, I now realize how much of a project I was making myself. And I'm over here like why aren't my big manifestations coming through, but the truth is even with all the healing I've done I didn't feel like I was healed enough to deserve good things in my life.
my right ear starting ringing at 6.06 because yeeeah i’ve been really feeling that too. glad to be here, thanks lyn 🙏🏽🧚♂️
I truly appreciate your videos because I resonate alot with your content. More & more I realize how much unlearning there is to do. When you choose to let go of man made beliefs, titles, rules...and just wake up each day living in complete alignment to your values, what you want for yourself there's just a different level of peace you find within. I've recently worked on no longer label any moment as "bad", because they have truly contributed to my greatest "Aha" moments.
I needed this so much rn. I've worked on myself enough. I deserve to rest. I am good enough as i am. I have come so far already, there's no need to limit myself of things i want. I am good enough to have healthy relationships, career options, possibilities. I have learned enough. There's no need to hold myself back, it has been limiting me. I am ready as i am, i don't need to improve all the time. Thank you sm for helping me realize this
3:40!!! Literally what if I just sit here and enjoy this. My friends really put pressure on to have a plan for what’s next and sometimes I do too but as you said I’ve done enough, like I’m enough, even if I don’t have all the “things”
I constantly feel like I'm chasing this perfect , highest, grandest version of myself in order for me to be happy with and love myself. It just feels exhausting at times chasing it down. I am actually tired of working on myself at this point. Funny thing though is that in the past, when i have grown or change in some way it happened by itself, without force or effort. I was more relaxed and confident in my ability to be resilient and looked at every challenge as an opportunity to grow whilst enjoying the present. Now, things just aren't the same and I am forcing growth and struggling to find peace in the present because I am not who I think I ought to be
this video has definetly meant a lot to me, i could not thank u enough for sharing this thought
Great video! I completely agree that constantly obsessing over self-improvement can sometimes be counterproductive. It's important to remember that we are already enough, and that personal growth should come from a place of self-acceptance and love. I appreciate you sharing this message and reminding us to embrace ourselves just as we are. Keep up the amazing work!
this was such a wonderful reminder that i’m worthy of my desires in this moment. it’s so natural to me to feel the need to do more to have more, but i do think that’s not “natural” at the same time. i loved what you said about what if you just enjoy where you’re at right now. i hope youre basking in your success and your prosperity, you deserve it
The problem isnt about growth or self improvement. It's about not valuing where you are, appreciating the efforts you've put in to be where you are,rewarding yourself for those efforts, understanding yourself and limitations, accepting who you are, knowing what you want, knowing how it truly feels to accomplish your desires. Your desires are your goals or dreams which intuitively changes you for the better or worse. You define what you want and it can be growth and improvement or regression and stagnation. Improvement and growth is needed. You just ignored the essential part which was to take a break and reflect where you are. So don't confuse those 2 aspects. Growing is good. Valuing is equally important. If you can strike a balance with conception and perception than you're going to be fine. And you do need to improve yourself to get what you want. Your goal reflects what effort is needed which is a choice. It's your choice. So I don't get why you say you don't need to work and you deserve what you want without working for it and it's a goal you chose? Thats not the same as chasing the next best thing. Again it's your personal choice of what you want. You need to know the consequences of your actions. So you can't dismiss what is needed. You need to analyse to find how to do the things the right way. Most often we let society dictate what individual desires should be. Society keeps evolving and it may be for better or worse. But we are sophisticated and need to know what works for us while integrating within the society. A harmonious balance is needed. It's time to explore yourself more and understand the world around us and how we can live a healthy relationship with ourselves and the world. That's what I believe it should be about.
Hi Lynette, as a young man who feels spiritually and intellectually inclined, I find you to be such a humble and inspirational person. I really want to join an online community and join in on the conversations we all seem to be having across the world, but I seem to feel trapped where I’m at geographically (I live in Las Vegas) because I don’t know anyone outside of Vegas. I know I have a gift for networking but lately I haven’t felt inherently valuable as a man because I feel I have nothing of value to give to people despite my closest one’s telling me otherwise. It does seem to be a learned mental state that I’m desperately trying to break hold of
every single person I love and has known me has told me the complete opposite of what you said. It has made me feel so.. "unlovable, but you can be if you try harder!" they don't know how hard I try everyday just to be the me now. So for someone to say that the me now is enough, makes me feel a little less alone. Thank you Lynette.
I need all the reminders I can get to return to the now. 😂 Tysm
ugh this video rings true for my throughout my whole life... needed this. thanks for making me realize i should be content with where i am ❤
Yes! I agree. A lot of people are trying to improve themselves all the time, but at the same time they don’t understand why and which desires are their
Thank you I really needed to hear this! In many ways I have become obsessed with self improvement as I think it’s given me this sense of control over my life. I’m learning a lot at the moment about feminine and masculine energy and it’s a very masculine energy to be in. Constantly thriving for “better” and trying to achieve never ending goals. I remember this horrible feeling of achieving the work promotion I wanted and then there was this feeling of okay ticked that off the list “now what”. I don’t want to feel like that anymore, constantly climbing the mountain only to get to the top and then climb another mountain.
It’s so good to be able to let go and go with the flow of life and to give yourself time to rest and to enjoy the moment. ❤❤❤