Being Abused (Part 2) | Nouman Ali Khan

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Комментарии • 126

  • @islamicroad4531
    @islamicroad4531  2 года назад +10

    Part 1 - ruclips.net/user/shorts05gAxz_qFEw?feature=share

    • @henrytuedor2650
      @henrytuedor2650 Год назад +6

      i was abused by narcisstic sister i love allah but pain is too much pray for me

    • @bemindfulmuslimah
      @bemindfulmuslimah 8 месяцев назад

      Is there a full version of this video?

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  8 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@bemindfulmuslimah
      Full video link - ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html
      Or search : S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

    • @lenaxshin
      @lenaxshin День назад

      Omg, this is me rn, for years and I can't help it anymore. I have tried being nice but I am so done, I can only pray Allah gives her the same torture she gave me mentally and physically. I tried not to make bad dua but I couldn't hold back anymore, not when she never acknowledges her mistakes and does everything on purpose knowing that hurts me. She calls my crying crocodile tears and my being vulnerable and upset a weakness. May Allah show her in this life, forgiving is better but I won't. I can't let her get away unscathed, unbothered and happy in this life.​@henrytuedor2650

  • @sadiasstyle2773
    @sadiasstyle2773 11 месяцев назад +131

    Just seeing them can give u panic attack😢😢😢so true

    • @SitiAisyah-ul7sv
      @SitiAisyah-ul7sv 7 месяцев назад +1

      My husband give me panic attack someday sometimes i have 1 son that why I can divorce him I really care for my. Son

    • @positivevibes9964
      @positivevibes9964 5 месяцев назад

      I feel it 😭

    • @nazneensheikh377
      @nazneensheikh377 5 месяцев назад

      Can you add full vedeo link here

    • @monikadwivedi1993
      @monikadwivedi1993 3 месяца назад

      My mother in law gives me panic attacks

    • @aimantahir12
      @aimantahir12 2 месяца назад

      So truee. I experienced today :')

  • @fehmidamahmood8883
    @fehmidamahmood8883 10 месяцев назад +77

    They dont even acknowledge let alone say sorry. So how do you heal without acknowledgement. They know very well what they did. But their ego and pride doesnt allow them to acknowledge 😢

    • @vawor4471
      @vawor4471 6 месяцев назад +4

      You don't need acknowledgement to heal. Give it to yourself.. and then start your healing journey.

    • @Bookworm-tk5qr
      @Bookworm-tk5qr 5 месяцев назад +3

      They do not realize that they're doing wrong. They've got serious problem with their cognitive distortions. Needs cognitive behavioral therapy.
      Some parents, if they really want to change themselves, they have to realize that they have cognitive distortions if they think they’re not wrong. They have to have cognitive behavioral therapy and have to think deeply about their past and how they’ve been treating people and how was their relationship with their parents, their children, and they have to write each and every event of their life, how they behaved, how they felt, what hurted them, how they reduced their stress and so on. Toxic parents have to question their each and every way of thinking and values and have to do reassessment of it trying not to be biased. That’s the only way they can realize that they were actually wrong and that’s why their children hate them. If someone really wanna change them, they should go to counseling to professional psychiatrist and fix their problem.
      I need more people talking about what can those parents do, who are told that they’re toxic and abusive by their children and they wanna change themselves.
      ---------------
      Having emotional intelligence and communication skills is so crucial in parenting and toxic parents lack both.

    • @Gehjekeosns
      @Gehjekeosns 3 месяца назад +3

      The fact that when you try to tell them they get on you and blame u and tell u that youre gonna go to hell

  • @nadyaabdullah8387
    @nadyaabdullah8387 5 месяцев назад +9

    So true ya sheikh. I was emotionally abused by parents and physically and verbally by my father. I still cant forget the abuse and cant stand seeing my father. But I am a mother now, I dont treat my child as such. My father till this day never acknoledges it and still arrogant

  • @umiix
    @umiix 8 месяцев назад +38

    The most unfortunate situation is when ur abusers are ur own parents. At least if it’s spouse or friends u can cut that relationship and you have a way out. But (being a girl especially) having abusive parents as a child you are utterly helpless and even dependent upon them. You cannot do anything. I don’t wish such pain upon anyone ever

    • @MsSecretbitch
      @MsSecretbitch 8 месяцев назад +2

      True

    • @rifahsanjida6387
      @rifahsanjida6387 2 месяца назад +2

      So true. I hope everyone heals from the trauma they don’t talk about.

    • @SinhaShambhawi
      @SinhaShambhawi 22 дня назад +3

      Same. Hope We Will able to heal in future❤.

  • @aicha9pinkpretty
    @aicha9pinkpretty Год назад +98

    My mom has changed me and my life because of her I am numb to everything and especially love.

    • @lynndais3783
      @lynndais3783 11 месяцев назад +11

      Been there, still am. I hope your life turns out to the best, just never lose hope nor faith.

    • @eliteandroidgamer732
      @eliteandroidgamer732 11 месяцев назад +9

      I deeply resonate with what you've shared. My father's yelling, belittling, beatings, and name-calling left indelible marks on my soul. It crushed my confidence and stole the warmth of love from me. In many ways, I feel like I'll forever be numb, a void that's hard to fill. Yet every day, I force myself to feel, to let a glimmer of emotion peek through the cracks. It's the innocent laughter and gentle touch of my children that bring color to my otherwise gray world. They make me feel everything, even when I thought I'd lost the capacity to. If ever you need someone to lean on, someone who understands, I'm here.

    • @aicha9pinkpretty
      @aicha9pinkpretty 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@eliteandroidgamer732 thank you so much this message was heart melting and I hope you get through this INSHALLAH

    • @aicha9pinkpretty
      @aicha9pinkpretty 11 месяцев назад +5

      @@lynndais3783 me too I even wanted to move out but I can’t. You know how the Muslim families are.

    • @eliteandroidgamer732
      @eliteandroidgamer732 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@aicha9pinkpretty Reading about your struggles genuinely tugs at my heartstrings. The day I left home remains etched in my memory as the most heart-wrenching. Witnessing my mother's tears, feeling the weight of her sorrow, and hearing her cries was almost unbearable. But I had to make that incredibly difficult decision to protect my own well-being and future. Today, I often find solace in the love and warmth of my wife and kids. They have brought emotions to the surface that I had either forgotten or never imagined I could feel. Their presence has illuminated the darkest corners of my heart, and for that, I'm eternally grateful.
      One day, you will find peace, love, and happiness. There will undoubtedly be hard days ahead; it won’t always be easy, but remember that you have already survived so much. Inshallah, I will pray for you, asking Allah to grant you happiness and strength during the darker days.

  • @SophiaTME
    @SophiaTME 8 месяцев назад +12

    This is so true. And they are a narcissist so they acknowledge nothing.

  • @grigotts
    @grigotts Год назад +99

    I asked her and she said " No , I did nothing" I shattered..... shattered that day.

    • @n.d.2429
      @n.d.2429 Год назад +17

      Because the truth destroys a person so they deny it instead of accepting it, apologize, making tauba and start from zero. Shaitans plan messed this people up while this people followed shaitans advice instead of Allahs advice.

    • @TutorialsandDIYs
      @TutorialsandDIYs Год назад

      I didn't understand ur comment

    • @TutorialsandDIYs
      @TutorialsandDIYs Год назад +1

      ​@@n.d.2429 what is that person speaking about

    • @reny583
      @reny583 Год назад +4

      ​@@TutorialsandDIYs They were saying that instead of apologising for what they've done, making tawba and seeking the forgiveness of the person they hurt as well as Allah Almighty, they instead choose to follow Shaytaan and be ignorant or deny what they've done
      Sometimes it's genuine arrogance and other times it's because they don't want to accept the consequences of what they've done
      Hope that made sense :)

    • @areebarasheedd
      @areebarasheedd Год назад +1

      My said the same😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @verucasalt6519
    @verucasalt6519 Год назад +24

    Facts. We need to talk about THIS way more in our community.

  • @mohammadibrahim5253
    @mohammadibrahim5253 11 месяцев назад +16

    But sometimes they don't care. We can't even talk like that

  • @Sarosh943
    @Sarosh943 2 месяца назад +3

    Suffered and abused by narcissistic father alot , ruined the childhood. But no other option , just tolerate tolerate bcz after all ,he is father.But sometimes it became very difficult to stand his very very shallow mentality, specially about female .And he couldn't digest that his daughter take stand against the husband like him, so now a new form of torture. Seriously Saleh parents are biggest blessing if someone have 🥺. May Allah protect us from being sinful 🤲🏻

  • @ruksarhaider1567
    @ruksarhaider1567 5 месяцев назад +2

    Very true.. just seeing the person or hear that person who hurt you deeply it gives panic attack and bring all the things they have said to you in your mind..and again you go throug same situations.. in short whenever you see that person you feel same thing same anxity same trauma again and again...😢😢😢😢

  • @maheennoor7408
    @maheennoor7408 9 месяцев назад +5

    I don't know about the panic attack but honestly when I see that human looming around me 24/7 I feel disgusted

  • @animalsofyoutube6240
    @animalsofyoutube6240 Год назад +31

    Tryna get rid of my parents anyone want them?

    • @henrytuedor2650
      @henrytuedor2650 Год назад

      no one wants a narcisst they even hit animals

    • @hafsakhan9567
      @hafsakhan9567 11 месяцев назад +1

      You want mine?

    • @omartrachen6794
      @omartrachen6794 3 месяца назад

      My mom is for sale, i would give you money to take her

  • @zakiyahussein8586
    @zakiyahussein8586 10 дней назад

    And they don’t stop, it just keeps repeating and gets worse.

  • @hafsakhan9567
    @hafsakhan9567 11 месяцев назад +6

    What to do if your mother gives you trauma?

  • @alifanjum1769
    @alifanjum1769 9 месяцев назад +3

    what if someone intentionally hurts you? intentionally tortures you ? what if someone find victory in tormenting you , what if someones keep lurking for a chance to pull you down and attack you in evry and worst possible ways ?

  • @LearnoPhysicswithsara7446
    @LearnoPhysicswithsara7446 Год назад +8

    What should a person think if he or she has gone through trauma because of people around them many times in life.

  • @ayshakhatun8337
    @ayshakhatun8337 Год назад +9

    May Allah have mercy on them and forgive them give them hidayah to understand peopls feelings!

    • @habibahdawodu5067
      @habibahdawodu5067 Год назад

      Aameen, yaa Rabb ❤

    • @henrytuedor2650
      @henrytuedor2650 Год назад

      ​@@loveletters24i am a narcisst victim ebery abuser can be forgiven but not narcisst

  • @zackhunter8364
    @zackhunter8364 7 месяцев назад +2

    Bruh , i am abused as a child and adult , i got beat as a child and when i was an adult i got so many fitnah from my parents , i went to imams and they so dismissive about this , i was affraid what would my parents do to my kid

    • @ColbyMacken36
      @ColbyMacken36 7 месяцев назад

      Allah make it easy for you brother

  • @BalluHabibi
    @BalluHabibi 6 дней назад

  • @Hubb_al_Quran
    @Hubb_al_Quran 2 месяца назад

    The problem is that they never even apologize for the hurt they caused...... Let alone apologize they never acknowledge it.....

  • @rashedahmedrahat4834
    @rashedahmedrahat4834 Год назад +11

    My wife abuses me, my parents, and my family members. It's not like always there is a valid major reason, in fact on a silly matter even without reason she abuses me, talks very bad things about me and my family members. It really hurts specially when it comes to parents. Day in day out i'm going through it. I don't want separation but can't live like this. It's been 4yr of our marriage. My pain can't be described in few words how much im going through. What should i do? How can i overcome from this?

    • @SanPot123
      @SanPot123 Год назад

      My wife and her parents harrassed my father and mother. Now my father is diagnosed with ALS which is worst form of disease probably caused due to emotional trauma of all these quarells.. i have 2 kids and separated from my parents ..donno what to do😢

    • @eliteandroidgamer732
      @eliteandroidgamer732 Год назад +1

      Leave them wallahi I felt so much better after I divorced my abusive wife I know it's so hard to separate and I know this because I was just like you the idea of separation was so hard for me and it wasn't an easy decision but it was the best decision that I ever made alhamdulillah today I'm in a healthy relationship with women who loves, adores and respects me so much and she is so kind to my mother
      I promise you will find someone better
      Never let someone abuse you I regret not leaving sooner it took me 5 years of abuse to finally realize that I deserve better and alhamdulillah I never looked back the only relationship that me and her have is our kids that is it

    • @kanzanaveed
      @kanzanaveed 11 месяцев назад

      Maybe seek help from a renowned therapist, who can actually help, some of them themselves need help and also be a man, you literally are a man. Stand for yourself and your parents, listen more to this man. He will help you learn how Quran guides us to stand for ourselves while staying respectful and wise.

    • @Millielai12
      @Millielai12 16 дней назад

      Make taubah and seek forgiveness from ALLAH. Ask ALLAH true guidance what to do in this situation and surrender totally to Him alone and wait.Keep prayers on time,improve your solah,Qur'an and go get Islamic studies and pray tahajjud. Feed the poor,sponsor orphans,hafiz/hafizah,widows,lost travellers and make lots of zikr on your lips and tongue and send selawat. In sha Allah ypur life will change for the better. ALLAH knows what is going on with your life. Make the 40 Rabbana doas as often as possible for pious wife and coolness to the eyes and ypu become keader to the pious ones. Only ALLAH'S promises are true. Trust in Him to guide you. May ALLAH forgive you and her and both of your parents. Aamin.

  • @ZeeKay1430
    @ZeeKay1430 10 месяцев назад +6

    As-Salaam Wah-Lekum Wah-Rahmat-Allahi Wah-Barra-khaatu,
    To all my brothers and sisters, i urge you all to learn and teach your parents and children the quran and the way and life of our Prophet Muhammad S.A.W, as in this dunya there is no cure other than Allah, his quran and the Sunnah.
    I beg you my brothers and sisters, i understand there are parents who have taken discipline to a different level weather it was because they were uneducated, ego, pride, arrogance, no religion in their life, cultural reasons or they themselves were victims of the same or similar abuse, or something else, I beg you for the sake of Allah that in your heart of hearts "Forgive Them" not because they deserve it, but because YOU do.
    I'm in no way making excuses for any actions that a parent has done, but I think we both know that nothing they say or do will fix the trauma, that's something Allah can only fix,
    The fact you are all here shows that imaan is strong in your heart, especially when you feel like if you speak to them about it, you may be punished for it, Or it just feels wrong islamically to bring it up or you worry that after so long it may hurt them or embarrass them, or whatever holds you back, THIS IS IMAAN!
    Forgiveness starts the process to recovery.
    I hope this helps in some way, and if it didn't, my apologies.
    I pray may Allah ease the pain in your hearts and grant you peace and ease, Amin!
    As-Salaam Wah-Lekum Wah-Rahmat-Allahi Wah-Barra-khaatu

  • @abdualrefaee109
    @abdualrefaee109 Год назад +8

    MashaAllah

  • @buttermepancake3613
    @buttermepancake3613 2 месяца назад

    Im a trans guy and my mother has emotionally abused me since i was a kid. I finally broke free and cut ties. I had to do it for my mental health and mental healing.

  • @K-G-S_66
    @K-G-S_66 10 месяцев назад +3

    Do you
    Know sir
    The person I'd like to tell this truth
    To he won't even stand still even a minute
    Just so I can let them know
    But I'll wait may Allah grant all of us ease

  • @Sarasara-mr7zn
    @Sarasara-mr7zn 5 месяцев назад

    To every abuser who has used his power on women and children I have one phrase. Every pharaoh has his Moses. For every injustice done there is someone out there that will bring back justice. And I find it’s now the women who are are doing that for not only themselves but also for their children. May Allah keep us away from shayatin l’ins.

  • @Lex-rc1gr
    @Lex-rc1gr 3 месяца назад

    My parents have abused me my whole life and when I cry or get mad back at them, they blame me for escalating the problem, but my reaction is basically just from my PTSD now. it comes over me talking never worked always had to fight for myself. they call me the problem for yelling at them in whatever but that’s only reaction to whatever they do to me. It’s almost natural now.I’ve developed anger issues now because my body just responding. That why I can’t even control it anymore at the slightest sign of disrespect. I immediately go into flight or fight mode my PTSD is so severe from them. are used to never be like this. I used to be such a happy child. it breaks me how much I have changed and how it’s only watched myself become a monster just like them. with they are to blame for the way I am now they’re the ones who needed therapy

    • @Millielai12
      @Millielai12 16 дней назад

      Bro,when heart starts to beat faster say 'Audzu Billahi Minash Shaytan Nir Rajeem' and seek refuge in ALLAH from being amongst lying and wicked ones. O ALLAH, I know nothing about controlling this emotions help me for I do not know how to process this. O ALLAH I want to be obedient to You so help me to keep my qalb(heart) free from ill feelings-I surrender all worries to you and only You can remove all my distress. If you still dont stay calm,recite ayat Kursi and focus on it and not what they are saying. Usually shaytan and its army will leave. May ALLAH forgive us and help us mend our ways. Aamin.

  • @hudajamil3890
    @hudajamil3890 6 месяцев назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @fizaakashif4720
    @fizaakashif4720 9 месяцев назад

    My husband married a woman at his work place. She was divorced by her Husband suspecting their affair. And now I m hurt😢 I can't stand him anymore for this betrayal n I was in dark fir so many years. And he denied love on grounds of stress at work

  • @terrymeat
    @terrymeat 8 месяцев назад

    More Muslims should acknowledge what you are saying

  • @sarim5237
    @sarim5237 2 года назад +1

    Niceeee

  • @faridaharon8856
    @faridaharon8856 23 дня назад

    Somebody i know...her husband verbal abuse her...but he s a loving father to our children..what can she do please advice...she wants to keep her marriage for she still loves him

  • @Angie1991Khaled
    @Angie1991Khaled 4 месяца назад

    I have 100 panic attacks a day

  • @asmanawaz1128
    @asmanawaz1128 4 месяца назад

    Sometimes I doubt whether I was abused or not because of their confidence.. but was I abused? Tell me.. someone.. 1. My mom made faces when she said I should reduce some weight.. she always gave examples of other girls looking prettier.. still does after my depression.. she used to always favour my other sister after a fight even without listening to what I had to say..I did every household chore for her.. but she never acknowledged.. even after I, A small child used to get tired and used to sit study she qould keep distracting with this is not done that is not done.. maybe I was abused. Writing this I guess I was :/ wish I followed my dreams and didn't go on pleasing my mother because I didn't understand Islam.. and thought. Helping her woukd take me to paradise :( while I never focused on studies and kept falling behind. Sed life.

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  4 месяца назад +1

      May Allah(SWT) grand you jannatul ferdous for all the hardships and pain you had to go through....

    • @asmanawaz1128
      @asmanawaz1128 4 месяца назад

      Jazak Allah means a lot.. Allah is the ultimate helper.​@@islamicroad4531

  • @faith7291
    @faith7291 4 месяца назад

    I wish I could tell him what his put me through, but his turned his back on me

  • @noorulwarakhan8065
    @noorulwarakhan8065 2 месяца назад

    But what about a narcissist..they will never accept their mistakes even after 20 years you tell them they will manipulate....

  • @noorulwarakhan8065
    @noorulwarakhan8065 2 месяца назад

    Can you share the full vedio

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  2 месяца назад

      video link - ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html
      search: S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

  • @aribakhan9214
    @aribakhan9214 Год назад +2

    Will you please give me the qhutba name it will be really helpful for me

  • @Wormzzzzz
    @Wormzzzzz 4 месяца назад

    What surah is the brother referencing in this talk?

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  4 месяца назад

      search: S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me
      Link : ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html

  • @aimenwarsi8461
    @aimenwarsi8461 Год назад

    How do i send this to my mother?

  • @nazneensheikh377
    @nazneensheikh377 5 месяцев назад

    Can someone add full vedeo link here

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  5 месяцев назад

      Full video link - ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html
      search: S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

  • @strivingmuslimah-ds3gr
    @strivingmuslimah-ds3gr 5 месяцев назад

    What if the trauma is from husband

  • @ahlamouladali6216
    @ahlamouladali6216 Год назад

    Can someone please subtitle this to arabic?

  • @marziaahmadzai4565
    @marziaahmadzai4565 6 месяцев назад

    he insulted me again today cuz I want a wedding

  • @nayeemularefinnayeem9023
    @nayeemularefinnayeem9023 3 месяца назад

    Can anyone give me the link of full video of it?

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  3 месяца назад

      Full video link - ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html
      search: S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

  • @hannahadhi940
    @hannahadhi940 2 года назад +2

    Full lecture ??

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  2 года назад +2

      ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html

  • @camouflagebyshafaq5184
    @camouflagebyshafaq5184 9 месяцев назад

    I need the full video where can i I find it

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  9 месяцев назад

      Search "S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me"
      In RUclips...

  • @acesmith7995
    @acesmith7995 Год назад

    😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😖😖😖

  • @candy6744
    @candy6744 Год назад +1

    which lecture is this?

  • @rilotrill9345
    @rilotrill9345 Месяц назад

    Is it haram to expose them?

  • @areebahayat1308
    @areebahayat1308 Год назад

    where can i find this podcast

  • @Muslimah63379
    @Muslimah63379 5 месяцев назад

    Please anyone reply
    Can i talk about my childhood abuse to my future husband or what should i do?

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  5 месяцев назад

      It would be best to consult a female phycologist
      If she is a Muslim it would be more better...
      She could give you the solution you are looking for
      In sha Allah
      Jazakallah khair

  • @umarmushtaq559
    @umarmushtaq559 9 месяцев назад

    Link to full video?

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  9 месяцев назад

      RUclips kinda disabled link feature due to scammers
      Search : S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

  • @shaylariya6962
    @shaylariya6962 11 месяцев назад

    I got domistic violence from my mom every day 😢

  • @mehakashraf8406
    @mehakashraf8406 6 месяцев назад

    My mom abuses me since childhood I just want to die

    • @exarquazowexa7247
      @exarquazowexa7247 6 месяцев назад

      Know their boundaries and exploit them.

    • @mehakashraf8406
      @mehakashraf8406 6 месяцев назад

      She broke my neck Yesterday and beat me so much

  • @Sam-mv2vf
    @Sam-mv2vf 9 месяцев назад

    Where’s the full lecture

    • @islamicroad4531
      @islamicroad4531  9 месяцев назад

      Link : ruclips.net/video/Ee3lJspov4M/видео.html
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      Search : S. Yusuf, 58-61: I Know You But You Don't Know Me

    • @Sam-mv2vf
      @Sam-mv2vf 9 месяцев назад

      @@islamicroad4531 thanx