100% - if I were in those unfortunate shoes, as someone HIV+, my conscience would dictate that I let any (potential) sexual partner know. If even I were super confident that it was undetectable and virtually impossible to pass on - all that is irrelevant. I'm sorry. I just cannot agree with this guy on that point and it isn't because I am ignorant or 'homophobic' - I am bisexual myself ffs. You ARE under moral obligation to let people know. More than happy to die on this hill. Pretty much everything else the person said I can get on board with.
@@-Dazai- I think you should be ashamed for having such a dumb and witless perspective. But hey, you are entitled to your stupidity. Unless you're just trolling, in which case you still get an F, because it's not even funny.
I definitely still feel like you need to tell anyone that you're having sex with that you have HIV. Just like I'd expect anyone to tell me if they've contracted a sexually transmitted disease. I would be furious if I had sex with someone and then found out after the fact that they kept something like that from me.
This makes me want to cry! I’m 48 and a child of the 80’s. HIV used to be a death sentence. When someone I knew announced he had HIV, I wept. But to know that there is medication that makes it undetectable and untranslatable blows my mind! I’m so happy that we have advanced so far in medicine! And I still weep for those whose lives were lost with such little dignity.
I'm sorry but an undetectable viral load needs to be maintained by taking medication as prescribed, without regularly missing doses. So staying undetectable is not 100% guaranteed and someone is only guaranteed to be undetectable at their last test. Partners don't know if the undetectable person has been perfect at taking their meds.
"Not morally or legally obliged" to state to a prospective partner that you have a serious disease, regardless of the level within your body you still have a serious transmittable disease in your system The world has gone mad! Absolutely shameful if you didn't tell any partner beforehand..... Shameful!
I’m so thankful for the medications that make it possible for HIV + persons to live normal lives. I lost so many good friends in the 90’s. It was such a tragedy, especially knowing that if they could have lived another 10-15 years they could have been okay.
So sad this guy is so young and has already contracted HIV. He is not morally or legally obliged to tell his partner, just sickening. And he only has one night stands, he says. That tells you so much about him.
@@marshalmallow7192 He's put at risk himself by contracting any other sexual transmitted diseases besides AIDS which can put also others at risk again and again. Why do we think it's a one way street in this case ? Would this guy be happy to find out he also got herpes, hepatitis B or HPV because his other partners have been to casual about their own state of health ?
@@mon_ange333mony4 my comment was in regards to disclosing an HIV diagnosis when someone is taking their medications as prescribed and are undetectable because they cannot transmit HIV to another person. You cannot transmit AIDS to another person. My post did not discuss other STIs. I always recommend safe sex.
@@marshalmallow7192that’s assuming everything keeps at the same pace. But he can get sick with something like Covid or the flu and drag down his immune system and cause him to have some viral load. It’s not full proof.
I work Security in a Hospital and after an "exposure" from a violent patient, I was told I was HIV positive. The fact that I did not have to disclose it to my colleagues was insane to me. I can bleed on them if we get violent patients and I thought they had a right to know about the risk. Thankfully, I found out that the test was a false positive after five days. I accepted it pretty quickly as the medication can do wonders.
He's right. When we were pre- teens in the mid 80's 1 of my friend's older brother learned he had it. He 1st had some these same symptoms arise in the 70's a year after he was raped by their priest at age 13. They told him he just had the flu & thyroid issues. Fast forward to 1991 & he had moved to Baltimore so he could participate in studies at Johns Hopkins. What killed him wasn't AIDS, it was an infected tooth. Because he was HIV positive his tooth needed to be removed in the hospital. Unfortunately, his dentist didn't prescribe an antibiotic thinking the surgeon would & the surgeon assumed the dentist had. When they pulled his tooth the infection spread rapidly through his bloodstream & caused sepsis. That killed Bud, not AIDS.
And a sidenote as an eyeglass wearer myself, I know the struggle of keeping my glasses in place. Especially since the Pandemic, as a nurse I can't be touching my face & glasses all day. My nurse cousin gave me a tube of Nerd Wax & OMG. I swear it was a life changer. Especially when having to bend over to administer care. No more losing my glasses on the floor or patients bevause I can't jump to catch them. (My boss doesn't allow the eyeglass lanyards I never even knew they made something like this. They make others, that's the only 1 I have tried & it doesn't mess up my make-up which is a huge plus.
He's put at risk himself by contracting any other sexual transmitted diseases besides AIDS which can put also others at risk again and again through those casual encounters. Why are we let to think it's a one way street in this case ? Would this guy be happy to find out he also got herpes, hepatitis B or HPV because his other partners have been to casual about their own state of health ?
I can’t believe we still are asking these questions but I am very happy there are people who are brave enough to out themselves and talk openly about HIV and AIDS. I used to give these type of talks in areas where ignorance was rampant and still would if needed. There was a question on what is his life expectancy is. I can answer that question. I was originally diagnosed in October 1984. 39 years now. When I was originally diagnosed I was told my best case scenario was 12-18 months. Thank god they were wrong. I am healthy and doing well and will hopefully life to be a really old perv!!
Oh please. I have CPTSD, cold sores/ herpes, among other permanent ailments. How about instead of coddling us, _we_ rise to the occasion and stop closing ourselves off because normies are asking normal getting to know you questions? It hurts, sure, especially every time I see a loving dad with a daughter and fear they'll turn out like mine. But hurt is no reason to stop, if anything take the anime route and grow stronger from your pain rather than demanding the rest of us tiptoe around you. You will experience pain and fear and being triggered... big whoop, that's part of being human, and our responsibility as "divergents" or "oddballs" or whatever is to learn how to manage ourselves, not kneecap and straight jacket everyone else.
Cos he's taking a pill a day!!! People forget to take pills. Just wear a condom for fuck sake and save the issue. Is the feeling of shit filled arsehole and shit covered cock really worth a person's life of years on meds cos his morality said so. Fuckin DISGRACE
Maybe they shouldn't be so promiscuous and expect everything to get fixed by a pill. About the lifespan, I don't think those drugs are very healthy, especially taken for extended periods of time. Also, there can always apear a drug-resistant version of the virus.
Modern medicine is continuously finding alternatives. No one is saying that it is a good thing to contract HIV. But once someone has they should be treated the same as someone who is negative. These medications may have side effects and issues related to long term use but they are better than the alternative
@@marshalmallow7192 Yes, modern medicine is creating new alternatives, but it has it's limits. On the other hand, modern medicine has also created very efective and cheap prevention methods that are in some cases intentionally ignored. After all, why would anyone have unprotected sex with someone that hasn't been tested ?
Imagine getting angry at somebody for asking about a disease you got through having gross, unprotected sex with somebody who you probably knew was infected. What a joke
Thanks to Kyle for taking part! You can follow him on instagram @positively.kyle.
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Regardless of if the person is at a undetectable level. It’s a betrayal of trust to know you have HIV and not disclose.
Completely agree
Also very illegal and comes with a long prison sentence
100% - if I were in those unfortunate shoes, as someone HIV+, my conscience would dictate that I let any (potential) sexual partner know. If even I were super confident that it was undetectable and virtually impossible to pass on - all that is irrelevant. I'm sorry. I just cannot agree with this guy on that point and it isn't because I am ignorant or 'homophobic' - I am bisexual myself ffs. You ARE under moral obligation to let people know. More than happy to die on this hill. Pretty much everything else the person said I can get on board with.
@@Xander_the_Fearless agree with you. As a heterosexual women. It’s not about sexual preference, it’s about respect for yourself and your partner.
@@libbyfforbes Yes, mutual respect and common sense. It isn't some grand philosophical idea, literally common decency!
I don’t think anyone should feel ashamed of getting hiv, but you should tell the person you’re about to sleep with.
I think people should feel ashamed for having it
@@fsociety.dat101 I wouldn’t let that happen to me
@@-Dazai- I think you should be ashamed for having such a dumb and witless perspective. But hey, you are entitled to your stupidity. Unless you're just trolling, in which case you still get an F, because it's not even funny.
@@-Dazai-but that’s the point, you wouldn’t know it was happening to you
@@Drama-Llamaa like I said I wouldn’t let it happen to me
I definitely still feel like you need to tell anyone that you're having sex with that you have HIV. Just like I'd expect anyone to tell me if they've contracted a sexually transmitted disease. I would be furious if I had sex with someone and then found out after the fact that they kept something like that from me.
It's just common sense man
Can you explain why?
"Not morally or legally obliged" mad ting brav
This makes me want to cry! I’m 48 and a child of the 80’s. HIV used to be a death sentence. When someone I knew announced he had HIV, I wept. But to know that there is medication that makes it undetectable and untranslatable blows my mind! I’m so happy that we have advanced so far in medicine! And I still weep for those whose lives were lost with such little dignity.
I'm sorry but an undetectable viral load needs to be maintained by taking medication as prescribed, without regularly missing doses. So staying undetectable is not 100% guaranteed and someone is only guaranteed to be undetectable at their last test. Partners don't know if the undetectable person has been perfect at taking their meds.
"Not morally or legally obliged" to state to a prospective partner that you have a serious disease, regardless of the level within your body you still have a serious transmittable disease in your system
The world has gone mad!
Absolutely shameful if you didn't tell any partner beforehand..... Shameful!
Actually with proper medication it is impossible to transmit the virus sexually
educate yourself about it!
I think he probably keeps a tab on his levels considering reckless transmission carries up to 5 years, that shit gets monitored carefully
It’s not transmittable tho lol that’s the entire point
As a HIV+ person, thank you... 18 years ago I tht my life had ended... It hadn't
So he doesnt tell his sexual partners?
Sorry am i missing something here.
U = U. If your viral load is undetectable then you cannot transmit the virus.
@@caspianschonfeld937Means nothing. People have a right to know
@@dripfieldno they do not
I’m so thankful for the medications that make it possible for HIV + persons to live normal lives. I lost so many good friends in the 90’s. It was such a tragedy, especially knowing that if they could have lived another 10-15 years they could have been okay.
So sad this guy is so young and has already contracted HIV.
He is not morally or legally obliged to tell his partner, just sickening. And he only has one night stands, he says. That tells you so much about him.
He’s healthy and not putting his partners at risk at sll
@@marshalmallow7192 He's put at risk himself by contracting any other sexual transmitted diseases besides AIDS which can put also others at risk again and again. Why do we think it's a one way street in this case ? Would this guy be happy to find out he also got herpes, hepatitis B or HPV because his other partners have been to casual about their own state of health ?
@@mon_ange333mony4 my comment was in regards to disclosing an HIV diagnosis when someone is taking their medications as prescribed and are undetectable because they cannot transmit HIV to another person. You cannot transmit AIDS to another person. My post did not discuss other STIs. I always recommend safe sex.
@@marshalmallow7192that’s assuming everything keeps at the same pace. But he can get sick with something like Covid or the flu and drag down his immune system and cause him to have some viral load.
It’s not full proof.
I work Security in a Hospital and after an "exposure" from a violent patient, I was told I was HIV positive. The fact that I did not have to disclose it to my colleagues was insane to me. I can bleed on them if we get violent patients and I thought they had a right to know about the risk. Thankfully, I found out that the test was a false positive after five days. I accepted it pretty quickly as the medication can do wonders.
If your aim is to normalise talking about these things you should bring a normal professional on your show, not some activist.
I think he spoke very well, and it’s from the perspective of a normal person whom happens to have HIV.
@@HannahClarkVideo this dude is not a normal person
@@amegam4705 LOL
What exactly is normal???? I am so confused. Let’s “normalize” PEOPLE…. How about that?
He's right. When we were pre- teens in the mid 80's 1 of my friend's older brother learned he had it. He 1st had some these same symptoms arise in the 70's a year after he was raped by their priest at age 13. They told him he just had the flu & thyroid issues.
Fast forward to 1991 & he had moved to Baltimore so he could participate in studies at Johns Hopkins. What killed him wasn't AIDS, it was an infected tooth. Because he was HIV positive his tooth needed to be removed in the hospital. Unfortunately, his dentist didn't prescribe an antibiotic thinking the surgeon would & the surgeon assumed the dentist had. When they pulled his tooth the infection spread rapidly through his bloodstream & caused sepsis. That killed Bud, not AIDS.
And a sidenote as an eyeglass wearer myself, I know the struggle of keeping my glasses in place. Especially since the Pandemic, as a nurse I can't be touching my face & glasses all day.
My nurse cousin gave me a tube of Nerd Wax & OMG. I swear it was a life changer. Especially when having to bend over to administer care. No more losing my glasses on the floor or patients bevause I can't jump to catch them. (My boss doesn't allow the eyeglass lanyards
I never even knew they made something like this. They make others, that's the only 1 I have tried & it doesn't mess up my make-up which is a huge plus.
He's put at risk himself by contracting any other sexual transmitted diseases besides AIDS which can put also others at risk again and again through those casual encounters. Why are we let to think it's a one way street in this case ? Would this guy be happy to find out he also got herpes, hepatitis B or HPV because his other partners have been to casual about their own state of health ?
3:35 Yes you are absolutely morally obliged to disclose your HIV status with a prospective sexual partner. What is wrong with you?
I can’t believe we still are asking these questions but I am very happy there are people who are brave enough to out themselves and talk openly about HIV and AIDS. I used to give these type of talks in areas where ignorance was rampant and still would if needed. There was a question on what is his life expectancy is. I can answer that question. I was originally diagnosed in October 1984. 39 years now. When I was originally diagnosed I was told my best case scenario was 12-18 months. Thank god they were wrong. I am healthy and doing well and will hopefully life to be a really old perv!!
How many people have you infected, give or take a dozen?
Moral of the story: dont have one night stand
😂 naa just means pop a rubber on it
I know someone that went outside ones. They died. Moral of the story. Never go outside ever.
@@bradley-xc7jl dogshit comparison but go off 😂
@@bradley-xc7jl You win the internet today
Tested positive a few weeks ago, changed my life forever
Damn ..take care out there
sorry my dude
I've lost two very close friends to AIDS.
Late 90's/Early 2000's, we didn't have the medicine's you have now.
Must be mind blowing to get the diagnosis. Sending you a big hug. Look after yourself. xxx
You'll be okay. It's not a death sentence anymore and your new status doesn't define your worth or your life. You're valuable and deserving of love.
Thank you for this educational video.
So don't tell anyone
But they would be realying on u taking Ur meds. So maybe u should just be open about it of Ur so proud and onto the next Shag!!!
I really wanted to watch this, but "haytch"IV was nails on a chalkboard.
Classism moment
"Don't live in ignorance."
What a eloquent speaker! Thank you. Great honest information!
Oh please. I have CPTSD, cold sores/ herpes, among other permanent ailments. How about instead of coddling us, _we_ rise to the occasion and stop closing ourselves off because normies are asking normal getting to know you questions? It hurts, sure, especially every time I see a loving dad with a daughter and fear they'll turn out like mine. But hurt is no reason to stop, if anything take the anime route and grow stronger from your pain rather than demanding the rest of us tiptoe around you. You will experience pain and fear and being triggered... big whoop, that's part of being human, and our responsibility as "divergents" or "oddballs" or whatever is to learn how to manage ourselves, not kneecap and straight jacket everyone else.
YES !!! THANK YOU !!!
Prevention is the best cure....
Smashed it Kyle! Very informative and well articulated x
Cos he's taking a pill a day!!! People forget to take pills. Just wear a condom for fuck sake and save the issue. Is the feeling of shit filled arsehole and shit covered cock really worth a person's life of years on meds cos his morality said so. Fuckin DISGRACE
Great Video 🫶
The dislike ratio on this video must be out of this world.
No bro.. wtf
These comments are vile.
Does it do this? 😂
Maybe they shouldn't be so promiscuous and expect everything to get fixed by a pill. About the lifespan, I don't think those drugs are very healthy, especially taken for extended periods of time. Also, there can always apear a drug-resistant version of the virus.
I take it you're a doctor then with a background in epidemiology?
The drugs are chemotherapy compounds.so they destroy ur insides.
Modern medicine is continuously finding alternatives. No one is saying that it is a good thing to contract HIV. But once someone has they should be treated the same as someone who is negative. These medications may have side effects and issues related to long term use but they are better than the alternative
@@marshalmallow7192 Yes, modern medicine is creating new alternatives, but it has it's limits. On the other hand, modern medicine has also created very efective and cheap prevention methods that are in some cases intentionally ignored. After all, why would anyone have unprotected sex with someone that hasn't been tested ?
Sue pollard
I reckon Kyle would be an absolute BLAST to hang out with, he'd be fab fun on the booze I reckon ❤
The drug cause heart attacks and strokes.
Thank you for your time to educate us. I learnt a huge amount...tfs :) Zelda
everything sounded fine until the part about unprotected intercourse with strangers ... eww
This should be flagged and removed.
Ewwww Bro
Anyone got a vomit bag?
Imagine getting angry at somebody for asking about a disease you got through having gross, unprotected sex with somebody who you probably knew was infected. What a joke
A lot of unfounded assumptions here…